Quotes on moving forward and letting go

Hey everyone! Firstly, I'm SO happy I ran into a group like this! I'm (26M) from the US, and so it's nearly impossible to find LGBTQ+ South Asians, let alone Pakistani people, in my area (for reference, I'm from a southern and VERY conservative state).
I've always been interested in understanding how the queer diaspora like myself can relate and even advocate on behalf of the people "back home." I put quotes around "back home" because most of us have rarely visited the country and may think we're experts on our culture just because we occasionally wear a shalwar kameez or sherwani for Eid/weddings and speak broken Urdu while being utterly oblivious about social issues and disparities.
I want to be more informed and feel as though I'm contributing to my culture, my people, and my motherland, especially around post-colonialism and queer issues. How can I get involved and connect with others who share similar interests and experiences?

I’ve read a lot of posts from the search on setting a FIRE number. I’m not new to FIRE (5 years probably following around the internet). But I’m struggling with what my expenses would be when the kids leave home.
Also, dumb question. I see the numbers $70 or 100k thrown around a lot for annual expenses. Is that one person or two. I assume 2. Somehow this never occurred to me to ask.
Is there a multiplier or factor people use to scale down their current annual expenses for when their kids move out?
Yes I know I could look at current expenses and subtract out obvious kids expenses. But I suspect there are hidden expenses (like a grocery bill with teen boys).
Here’s my situation: (for me, my spouse has his own investments that should sustain him and half of our basic living expenses).
45yo. Want to be FI in 3-4 years. Meaning I work what I want to work. Not my current executive career.
$900k currently. Investing another $4k per month.
College tuition for 2 kids saved. Want to cash flow room and board/rent and basic living expenses for them. They can take out loans if needed. Work for their fun money. You get the idea.
So in 3 years I have about $1.2M. Go part time or just some other work until 55. Adding $1000 per month to be conservative. My spouse is older than me so flexibility would be nice.
That gets me to roughly $1.6M or $64k per year.
I dont trust myself on this! 10 years ago, I had $100k max saved.

I am a small town country and from Shelby NC, well 10 mins out from Shelby, I go to the gym, let me tell u the YMCA is the best and working out helps u mentally I am a witness to that, either me working out at the gym or hanging around the house I listen to my 90's country music or my Randy Travis, or if u hang around awhile u may see a show like 911, law and order, or a good ol classic emergency. But I also have learned working on yourself first it makes room for u to grow and expand because your throwing away the negativity and the past away with new memories and people that are there for u and to make those memories And to finish this off u will always see a smile of my face because u never know who needs a simple smile or even a have a good day wave

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(If you’re going to comment that you can’t outrun the police radio, or how stupid this is and any other nonsense like that just keep scrolling) Ok let’s say Hypothetically I have a murdered out 6.1 challenger with a hellcat supercharger on it and I’m pushing about 600 wheel horsepower how well would it be able to get away from the police compared to a scat pack or hellcat with it being older and having the 5 speed with a good driver ? I already feel as if it’s capable of doing that by the way I’ve just never seen anybody try it before you only see the newer models doing it.

(I made this a while ago on a old account and just remembered about it so I decided to post it here hopefully y'all enjoy)
I don't have long. I go on walks in the woods before bed nothing too creepy happens. Well one time I head a wolf so I had to run didn't go back in the woods for a few week. But then I started my nightly walks it was the middle of winter and unlike most stories there was no snow. So I was walking around just exploring I had a bottle of water and a pack of peanuts and some chips. I usually walk for a hour or two so I was at the 45 minute mark of my walk when I heard what sounded like a stick being stepped on.
I stopped form a moment and waited to see if I head any thing else sounded like somebody walking. Not here's something u should know I don't ever see anybody else out here unless if it somebody who needs me and came looking for me. So hearing this was creepy I started walking a little faster but trying to stay quiet so who or what ever was out there didn't find me. I wouldn't go back cus it sounded to my right and a little behind me I turned around and kept looking over my shoulder but I didn't see anything.
It did stop for a bit and after 15 minutes I thought I would head back plus it was starting to get dark so I kept a kinda fast pace just in case. It took about 25 minutes before I head it again but this time it sounded close and was back the way I came and now to what's now my right what what would of been my left earlier. So I when into a speed of someone skipping and after about what felt like 3 minutes I head a small quiet moan. It sounded like a old man that had fallen and was in pain. I stopped hoping no body was hurt I listened and head it again it's wasn't louder or quieter it sound the same direction away.
The voice called and said simiss who ever there please help me I fell and I thing I twisted my ankle. It took me a moment to think and called out. Are you ok do u need me to get help I don't have my phone but I'll run and get help it mite take me a moment.
It took the man a moment before I head.
No please don't leave me out here I don't want to be eaten by a bear or wolf's please I was out looking for my dog I haven't seen her in a few days and I came looking I head u and I was trying to ask if you seen her.
I was about to answer him but then I remembered something a few nights ago I was out for my usual walks a butt earlier in the day than usual. I was bored that day and had nothing to do anyway I was walking around when I smelled something It Small like death I thought a wolf or bear had killed something so I went towards the smell carefully not to be head by any animals just In case one was eating. What I saw scared me it was a dog it was black with white areas on it not sopts but just ares of white. What I say made me pulk the fruit snacks I was eating while walking don't worry I was putting the trash in my pocket.
Anyway what u saw was the dogs guts and all our own the ground blood everywhere and bugs on and Inside the thing it was disgusting I was starting to tear up I didn't know what to do but the thing that scared me was that it looked like it was ripped open and bite marks was on its neck and on its back it was missing it left front leg and back right leg.
I took a picture of it before leaving that was 5 days ago now back to the old man. I asked him what color his dog was and he said.
It was black and patches of white fur.
And before I said anything else I realized something was worng about his story he said his dog went missing 3 days ago but the corpse of the dog I found was 5 days ago. Meaning eather there was two different dogs that where black and white or this guy was lying. Eather way I had my guard up just in case. I know I didn't mention this before but I always bring a pocket knife with me just in case. I asked the man if he was alone he said.
Yes but my wife will be worried if I'm not back soon.
It was almost completely night if I didn't figure this out soon then it would be harder to get help with it being dark and the animals that will come out. I ask the guy if he lived hear by and if I could get his wife and this is what he said.
NO! i-i-i m-mean I live a bit away about 37 minutes u mite not "come back in time". And I don't want to "be" by my self for to long do please ( now crying ) PLEASE COME HERE.
I started to become scared he sounded louder and a bit closer and mader. And before I respond some caught me off guard his voice when he said.
Come back in time. And be.
His voice sounded lowers and not of a old man. I took 2 steps back and yelled to him. ILL BE Bring HELP IF I RUN IT SHOULDN'T TAKE ME LONG. ... ... ... I didn't go hear anything for a what felt like 27 seconds I heard a loud deep scream. It only took my a second before I booked it I hard running behind me I only looked back once and that all I need to run faster. What u saw was a haft rotten corpse of a old man running after me his limbs was moving at odd angle as the Thing ran it looked like it was losing ski. It had a missing eye and a few teeth missing. I ran and ran I heard it getting closer and closer. After what felt like forever of running I remember I had a knife
I took the knife in my hand I didn't have good ame so if I wanted to slow it down I had to get close. ... Way to close. So after a little bit more of running I turned around with my knife in hand and blade open. When I turned around I saw nothing I knew I heard it running but I had ran for a good bit so it mite of stopped with out me knowing. But I didn't stick around cus I thought I heard leafs breaking so I started running again after a bit I got back to my house and took no time unlocking the door and going inside and locking the door but I still didn't feel safe so I went around my small home and looked I. All the rooms after that I made sure all the doors were locked and locked all the windows and closed the blinds and certains.
I heated me up some left over pizza I had and went to my room and watched some YouTube. I didn't sleep that night the for the next few safe to say the I haven't went out at the for the next few days after a week I started to be able to sleep I work form home so I didn't leave unless I had to which wasn't often just to get food/drink's/mail now for the main reason I'm telling this story I watch the news form time to time and on this night I was watching it while scroll through TikTok when I heard on the new they found a missing guy dead on the road.
Now I turned up the volume just u don't hear this alot atlest I don't want scared me the most that it was the guy that was chasing me when I say the my jaw dropped then I found out it was the road about 5 miles away from my house. Let's just say that I got me some food and water my knife block full of all of it's knives and locked me in my bedroom and the other door leading to my baft room the thing that terrified me the most is the big window in my bedroom room this is not a tiw storie house so if anything could happen.
Now the reason I'm waiting all this I heard tapping on my window and knocking on my front door ik it's that thing and I now know what it is I saw it's shadow on my window certain it had a human like body with what looked like a deer skull I'm being hunted by a wendigo and ik I will died if this is my last time hear I just want y'all to know if u ever hear walking in the woods RUN cus I don't have long to live.

I’m looking for some advice from partners that chose to separate right after their first or second Dday- either living in two different homes or within the house. Did it help? Were you able to support his recovery while living with him or did you need to physically live separately?
My (34m) husband of five years has evidently been struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors, mostly porn for over 10 years and I just found out the fullextent of it and how bad it’s been about 2 1/2 weeks ago. I immediately asked for us to separate and he’s been staying elsewhere and also looking for an apartment. He’s told me that after he finds a place he’ll be getting scheduled with a CSAT and he has referrals to reach out to from a couples counselor we were seeing just a month ago. He’s letting me check his phone and devices if I feel the need to and we installed accountability software. but that’s really all he’s said so far about what he’s going to do to recover and work on himself. I’ve read the betrayal bind and your brain on porn by Gary Wilson and I do feel like I understand how this addiction started. He was physically and emotionally abused as a child and has had ADHD for most of his life. Evidently this makes him very susceptible to this addiction. I understand but I’m so heartbroken and it feels hopeless.
Most of the times we’ve tried to talk the last 2 weeks It’s turned into a huge argument and I’m left sobbing on my own. We have one toddler and are having to co-parent and he’s been very helpful but it’s all been so hard and stressful. But last night we set boundaries and took a break from it all and had a great evening together and it’s making me doubt whether we need to live separately. It’s honestly making me doubt all of my decisions. living separately is going to be a huge extra expense financially because I’ve been a stay at home mom and the cost-of-living is so high where we live. I don’t know what to do. I just constantly need space and then I want him around and I flip flop between anger and loneliness…I feel crazy some days. This was/is a huge shock for me. I can’t believe I didn’t catch him sooner.
How long does it take to feel stable again? Any advice? I have my own therapist and I’m also starting to see a CSAT at the end of the month. My close friends and my siblings know and I’m getting support. I just don’t feel capable of working right now but I’m also not sure if I’m capable of living with him right now.

Hi all,
Symptoms for last two years: + Dry nasal inflammation internally. No infection. + Incredibly stiff shoulders and neck.
29M, 180cm, 88kg, living in EU, IBS and reflux sufferer since 14, moved into a new apartment in July 2022 and a couple of months later I started to have nasal inflammation (no infection, no runny nose or no mucus just nose getting blocked like concrete) and breathing problems through nose gave me tens of other physical anxiety symptoms which last year ended up in 9 months of antidepressants and psychotherapy. Since I moved in, I have observed silverfish around the apartment from time to time and since they are an indication of dust and dust mites, my focus was always on fixing probable dust mite issue. Although if mites existed I believe they would've been already eliminated because of the stuff I tried.
Stuff I tried:

• Examinations by ENT and family doctor
• Stop consuming milk products or at least lactose most of the time.
• To reduce dust mite and silverfish population, lowering the humidity, lowering the heat, and getting rid of dust/papers/cereals in the apartment.
• Administrating Avamys spray for months (Fluticasone furoate)
• Administrating Nasonex spray for months (Mometasone furoate monohydrate)
• Administrating Flonase spray for months (Fluticasone propionate)
• 240mg Pseudoedepherine tablets (can't use them anymore due to triggering physical anxiety symptoms)
• Crebros antihistamine tablets (Levocetirizine dihydrochloride)
• Loratin antihistamine tablets (Loratadine)
• Neti Pot (Water + Salt + Xylitol)
• Saline sprays (Water + Salt)
• Nasal Inhilator (Ocalyptus + Menthol)
• Moistruzer nose spray (Natural oils)
• Allergodil antihistamine nose spray (azelastine)
• Air Dehumidifier
• Air Humidifier
• Air Purifier
• Keeping windows open for days
• Vacuuming floors and furnitures daily with HEPA filtered self-cleaning robot, 800W HEPA Filtered floor Vacuum, HEPA Filtered Cordless FlooHand Vacuum, and Mattress Cleaner emitting UV light.
• Xylometazoline spray (This becomes a last resort if I can't sleep at night, but I can live without using for months)
• Nasal strips (Using at nights, they somewhat saved me from dependency on Xylometazoline)
• Massage Gun in case if the nasal issues are the result of constant muscle tension instead of vice-versa.

Tests conducted:

• Blood allergy test for common allergens (which came out negative for everything)
• Nasal endoscopy by ENT (Some dryness was found, but no polyps, no deviation, no infection)
• At home Sleep Apnea Test by sleep clinic with and without CPAP (No apnea or blood oxygen issue was found, but intermediate hypopnea was found probably due to nasal inflammation)
• Nasal breathing test, which showed improvement in breathing through nose when Xylometazoline is administrated which indicated to my doctor the Xylometazoline dependency, but quitting the spray for months doesn't show any improvement. Go to QuitAfrin and you will see no one had issues after quitting the spray for at most two weeks.

Things I did not try yet but I will be looking into this year:

• VivAer or any surgical procedure
• CT Scan (Tomograhpy) on sinuses
• Seeing an allergist on July 2024.
• Mold test
• Test to see what chemicals are used for wall paints. (Happened to another Redditor)
• Lose weight (I was 65 kg in 2020, last year ended up almost 100kg due to antidepressant but I already started having health issues when I went over 80 kg in 2021.)
• Wheat-free diet, keto diet and other anti-inflammatory diets.
• Wet fasting, dry fasting, daily intermittent fasting.
• Acupunture, spa, sensory deprivation tank, massage, exercise/cardio/lifting at gym, yoga to reduce anxiety and also sauna (one Redditor fixed his issue permanently by going to sauna only two times)
• Kimchi powder

I'm open for all recommendations or possible diagnoses. American friends, please don't tell me to move out, here healthcare is free not moving out.
Thank you

For context I'm a little over weight, and I'm trying my best to loose weight, I also have ADHD and dyspraxia.
I sometimes wish my mother and father could see life through my eyes, I wish they could experience the world how I do, because sometimes they laugh at or get mad at some things I do to cope example, having headphones on when I can help with the school run because my brothers argue in the back of the car, (brothers are 11 and 8), I struggle on crossing or walking on roads that I know are busy because I almost got hit by a bus once in year 7, and mum was going to pick me up by a small round about, there was road works and 2 paths were blocked and she got mad that I was panicking trying to get her to go a different way so I didn't have to try walking on the busy roads to get to her, claiming the cars wouldn't run me over, but I couldn't physically do it, then later on at tea, my brother (11) finished all but one slice of pizza, I took a single bite and moved it out my way so I could clean, I then got into trouble for "eating it" and that sent my dad on a tangent about how I need to try to loose weight and only eat my portions, yet he didn't finish one slice and had a whole bowl of cereal on top.
I just wanted to put this here because my parents won't listen, they will find a way to turn this on to me, and I just wanted to get my thoughts down somewhere.

Imagine picking a gun that is inaccurate as hell, is impossible to point fire, has insane recoil, and the only way to use it remotely properly is to use a mechanic that only works 30% of the time, all for the benefit of having a larger magazine. Thats exactly what Auto Riflemen and Machine gunners are.
Before ICO, if you got a decent position or the element of surprise, you could melt entire squads, take out logi trucks, destroy heli rotors, and slow down or outright stop an enemy assault lane, singlehandly. They could rush HABs and clear buildings like a Doom game. If there was reports of a machine gunner watching your position, nobody dared to peak because if they did, they would have a burst of dead accurate 7.62mm rounds fly into their head. At least until someone had the brilliant idea of repositioning to a different window and popping the machine gunner in his blind spot. Unfortunately for how powerful machine guns were in a perfect scenario, they were ultimately headshot magnets since they needed an exposed position to bipod from and their gun made the muzzle flash equivalent of a Chinese firecracker.
However, after the ICO made changes to LMGs and MMGs that reworked how they operate… they are still headshot magnets, but worse. Now machine guns have this silly gun dispersion that makes hitting anything past 50m accurately near impossible.
In this clip, the OC, while prone with a bipod, gets 7 infantry in his sights. However he is unable to kill a single one because the gun won’t shoot straight, in fact the enemy are still able to return accurate fire even with a MG3 blasting them. So, before ICO you couldn’t be effective without a bipod, after ICO you still can’t but now you can’t be effective even with a bipod. So what now, maybe you can role play as a FSA militant with a PKM and point fire to suppress?
Nope, they also completely butchered machine gun point firing; your soldier can’t even keep the gun in the middle of the screen, and instead sways it to the side like a toddler trying to hold a firetruck hose. So if you stumble upon a guy thats 5-10m away from you, you can’t just point shoot him like a regular gun, you have to fight your own soldier to keep the damn gun pointing forward.
So, you can’t shoot without bipod, you can’t shoot accurate even with a bipod, you can’t shoot point blank with point firing, so what can you do? Well you can now make your enemies’ screens blurry when you shoot and miss them, and even then if they have a scope it completely negates the effect.
So to recap, if you choose auto riflemen or machine gunner, you forfeit your ability to shoot normally for a gun that can’t be effective at any range, needs a bipod, and has a suppression effect that only works on some enemies. TBH marksman is more effective now than machine gunners.
Remember what they took from you

CAST:( Me 40F MY HUSBAND 43M daughter 20F son 20M daughter 16F son 9M daughter 10F daughter 6F DAUGHTER 4F SON 4M SON 6 MONTH )(DAD 60M)( BROTHER 43M SIL 42F NEPHEW 16M NIECE 18F NEPHEW 10M NIECE 9F) (SISTER 30F NIECE 18F).
TO GIVE NAMES:( ME40F ASIA )(MY HUSBAND 43M DEREK)(MY BROTHER43M JACEK)(MY SISTER 30F AGA )(MY DAD 60M DAREK)(MY SIL 42F ALICIA)(MY DAUGHTER 20F MAYA )(MY SON 20M ADRIEN)(MY DAUGHTER 16F)(MY SON 9M PATRICK)(MY DAUGHTER 10F SIENNA)(MY DAUGHTER 6F MARIA)(MY DAUGHTER 4F MELODY)(MY SON 4M LIAM)(MY SON 6 MONTH OLDM MICHELE)(MY NEPHEW 16M SAUL)(MY NIECE FROM SIL 18F MIE)(MY NEPHEW 10M ROBERT)(MY NIECE 9F SARAH)(MY NIECE FROM MY SISTER 18F MAY) ALL REAL NAMES I HAVE A PERMIT.
TO STAR THINGS OF I RAISED BY A SINGLE FATHER WITH TWO MORE KIDS ONE OF WICH I LOVE AND ONE THAT I HATED MY DAD WAS A DRUNK WE WERE LOWER MIDDLE CLASS MY DAD WAS ABUSIVE TOWARDS ME AND MY SISTER BUT NOT TO JACEK AKA THE GOLDEN CHILD ME THE FORGOTTEN ONE AND AGA THE SCAPE GOAT.
WHEN I WAS 16 JACEK WAS 19 TREW A PARTY WHEN DAD WAS OUT OF TOWN ONE OF THE MEN IN HIS FRIEND GROUP LIKED ME BUT I KEPT REJECTING HIM AGA WAS AT A CLASSMATES HOUSE FOR A SCHOOL ASSIGNMENT THE FRIEND BROUGHT HANDCUFS AND A GAG TO THE PARTY HE SAID TO JACEK HE WAS GOING TO THE BATHROOM HE ACTUALLY WENT INTO MY ROOM WHERE I WAS SLEEPING HE GAGED ME AND HANCUFED ME TO MY BED HE WOKE ME UP AND R@PED ME JACEK CAME TO CHEK ON HIM HE SAW WHAT HE WAS DOING AND JUST WALKED AWAY.
A WEEK LATER MY DAD CAME BACK HOME AND WE WENT TO THE DOCTOR BUCAUSE JACEK TOLD MY DAD HE JUST WANTED TO KNOW SOME THING THEN WE FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT MY DAD WAS SUPER RELIGIOUS SO HE MARIED ME OF TO JACEK S FRIEND I HAD THE BABY I WAS IN A ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP FOR 3 YEARS THEN I MET MY NOW HUSBAND DEREK AND WE HAD $EX THEN I WAS PREGNANT WITH HIS KID I MARRIED DEREK AFTER I FINISHED MY DIVORCE WITH JACEK S FRIEND I GOT OUR KIDS.
AFTER WE INVESTED IN TO A SMALL BUSINESS TO CUT IT SHORT IN 2 YEARS WE WERE BILLIONAIRES WE BOUGHT A SMALL HOUSE NEAR THE LAKE AND KEPT INVESTING IN OUR BUSINESS 5 YEARS LATER WE WERE VERY NEAR A TRILLION EURO THEN WE HAD OUR 4TH CHILD SIENNA 1 YEAR LATER WE HAD ANOTHER CHILD PATRICK WE MOVED TO A BIGGER HOUSE AND HAD ANOTHER CHILD 4 YEARS LATER AFTER ANOTHER 2 YEARS WE HAD TWINS MELODY AND LIAM .
6 MONTHS AGO I HAD ANOTHER ONE MICHELE.
WE WERE VERY HAPPY WE BOUGHT A 4 STORY IN A NICE HIGHER CLASS AREA WERE BILLIONAIRES RECENTLY I WAS SLEEPING AND I GOT A MESSAGE FROM MY SISTER THAT SHE GOT EVICTED I SAID THAT SHE CAN STAY IN OUR HOME UNTIL SHE CAN FIND A NEW PLACE.
MY NIECES BIRTHDAY WAS COMING UP SO WE I GOT HER A CAR NOTHING TOO FANCY JUST A HONDA 360 SHE WAS SO EXITED MY 20 YEAR OLD TWINS DRIVE FERRARIS.
MY ENTITLED SIDE OF THE FAMILY SOME HOW FOUND OUR WE WERE RICH AND NOW ARE TREATHINING US TO GIVE THEM MONEY .
MY OLDEST DAUGHTER IS GETTING MARRIED AND WE HAD AN AGREEMENT THAT I WILL PAY AND PLAN HER WEDDING WITH HER.
SO WE DECIDED TO HAVE AN ALL EXCLUSIVE WEDDING IN THE BAHAMAS THE CEREMONY WILL BE AT THE BEACH THE MEAL WILL BE AT THE HOTEL BIG PARTY ROOM AND THE PARTY WILL BE THERE TO WE WILL PAY FOR EVERITHING FROM THE FLOGHT TO THE HOTEL UP TO YOUR EXPENCESS.
NOW MY FATHER AND BROTHERS SIDE OF THE FAMILY ARE DEMANDING THAT THEY BE INVITED AND FOR MY NEPHEW TO PROPOSE AT HER WEDDING.
WHAT SHOULD I DO.

Am I wrong for reporting this Dr to the Medical Board?
Basically what happened is I went to the ED for concerns of Serotonin Toxicity. Or Serotonin Syndrome (SS). I was taking an adhd stimulant and just started an ssri. And more recently just upped my ssri dose. Upon upping my dose, I began shaking, sweating, no appetite, didn’t sleep for 3 days, was having moments of disorientation and confusion. Spouse also said my pupils were dilated. As the days went on my shaking got worse. My muscles, specifically my legs hurt so badly. I wanted to sleep. But I couldn’t physically stop shaking to sleep. And by day 2, my eyes were shaking side to side as well. My prescribing doc had told me about SS. She said “you won’t have to guess if you’re experiencing SS cause it will truly be so awful, you won’t have to wonder. Before going to the ED I looked up SS on UpToDate (the medical version of Google that doctors actually use) to make sure I wasn’t being over dramatic, that it wasn’t something I could handle at home, and just make sure my symptoms even remotely matched up. And they did. They matched up perfectly. It was saying for a Serotonin Syndrome diagnosis you’d need to take at least one serotonin drug AND have one or more of the following symptoms, 1- muscle twitching or jerking without stimulation (had that), 2-Muscle Twitching when stimulated or stretched, and restlessness and excessive sweating (had all of those) 3- Rapid horizontal eye movements (yep) 4- Shaking movements a person cannot control plus exaggerated reflexes (yep) 5- a fever (did not have that)
And that SS is a clinical diagnosis. Meaning there is no bloodwork no testing to confirm you have it or that it’s ruled out. So if you get labwork and nothing is wrong like a heart attack for example, but you’re having allll the SS symptoms, and you’re taking 1 serotonin drug, then it’s SS.
So I was like well heck let me go rule it out at least cause I’m just getting worse as time goes on and the longer I take this new upped SSRI dose with my adhd stimulant. And it was symptoms from hades. It was not fun.
In the ED my bp was 160/105, heart rate was 160’s. I told them I had concerns for SS because of the meds I take and how I just upped my Prozac dose. My symptoms. Etc. keep in mind. I’m trembling and jerking uncontrollably for 3 days now, haven’t slept in 3 days either. It was horrible. Doctor comes in, I reiterate everything to him ( as quickly as I can bc my teeth are chattering from my shakes) They do labwork and a urine analysis.
While I’m waiting for my results. The staff is outside my door talking incredibly loud. They are talking about a pt a few rooms beside me. The pt name, birthday, what they received as care, the patients ailments, etc. literally everything about this pt. And how we happened to have the same doctor that night (there was multiple dr in the ED that night, we just happened to share one). I thought to myself “Gosh that’s sad. When the doctor comes in here, if he seems off or sad, I need to give him some grace because that must be really hard”
So the doctor comes in. And tell me looks like all my labwork is good, that I should just go home and get some rest and that I have 30 protein and 70 ketones in my urine so I should also drink water and eat something. I told him again, I would love to rest, but I have slept in 3 days and I can’t sleep bc of my symptoms. He then prescribes me a sleep aid and immediately walks out of the room. I was confused because he never once mentioned the SS concern? Like ever at all? Just said my labs looked good.
So the nurse comes in with my discharge paperwork. And I asked her if the doctor remembered which pt and concerns I was having. Bc I understood it was a busy night for them and mix ups can happen. But my concern for SS wasn’t mentioned. She said he definitely remembered me. That he just doesn’t know the reason for my shaking or my other symptoms and my labs look fine. I told her that’s good my labs are fine but there’s not SS labs so how are we sure we’ve ruled SS out? She rolls her eyes and huffs and leaves. She comes back with the dr and he rips open my ED room curtain and punches the light on. And he goes “Look Kid. You’re going home! You’re not in any emergency whatsoever!!” I said “that’s fine. I just want to make sure we’ve ruled SS out as..” and he cuts me off and says “Look. You’ve had a FULL work up. Your labs are fine. You being here right now isn’t going to get you the answers you want” I said “I understand my labs are fine, but there’s no such thing as Serotonin Syndrome labs, it’s an exclusion dx so how are we sure we’ve ruled it out?” And he goes “You know what. Let’s have psychiatry come take a look at you and do a psych eval for you. But. How about this? I’ll be nice about it. You can do it inpatient tonight, or outpatient since you’re leaving. Your choice” I was absolutely appalled by this tactic. But I could see it for what it was. He was probably emotional over the other pt. Or was on a power trip and hated me having questions. Or both. So I said “I’ll do it outpatient. Thanks” and I begin shakily taking my monitors off so I can waddle on out the ED best I can and go on home. As I’m taking my monitors off he goes “Nope. Stop. Something doesn’t seem right about you. Are you safe at home? You seem really emotional and off” just to give him something to get off my back I said “I’m good. Just about to get my period I guess” and he goes “Mm makes sense. Well sounds good kid!!” And leaves.
What I think is incredibly interesting is that according to the hospital they addressed my SS concerns during my ED visit. So this would now mean that SS can now be diagnosed via labwork and heart and lung sounds. And no longer being on one serotonin drug AND one Hunter Criteria. Never mind the fact I was on 2 serotonin drugs and had more than one hunter criteria. And the fact that UpToDate says “there are no labs to indicate serotonin syndrome” this is now a medical catalyst!!! A complete 180 has been found by this doctor and hospital. Truly a break through. But nonetheless, I felt the way he spoke to me was absolutely insane and aside from him not addressing my SS concern but quite literally threatening me with a psych eval because I had questions?

So I have been drinking around 8-10 beers daily for a while now, even last night I had 5 at least. Today I set as day 1 a while ago for my health and to stop drinking.
Doctor takes my BP and was alarmed. 160/110 300 lbs. I have really let myself go to be honest. I was diagnosed with everything. Wants to put me on meds and almost sent me to the Er. EKG was normal.
How realistic can I improve this through no drinking, diet and exercise? Has anyone had numbers like this and brought it down ?
Need all the help I can get.
Thanks

Okay so, i'm not really a study guy, i rarely really study but i'm 16 and where I live i have really important exams that determine whether i get a good college or school, besides that i've also got the remainder ending of the semester in which i'd like to get some good grades, and I actually don't mind studying, i feel like it could be relaxing if done right, but literally everytime i try to study i literally can feel inside of my lungs, body, that my brain doesn't want to study, doesn't want to pay attention, wants to go on insta every 5 minutes, on youtube, tiktok, and i've tried a lot of things, organizing myself, using study apps to block apps, in the end i feel like it's an issue with me, i genuinely don't know what to do, maybe I have ADHD which is something i've suspected but i'm not educated enough to make a guess on whether it relates to my current issue. I genuinely want to make an effort to get good at school but i literally always give up when studying, i cannot study for the life of me even when there's really important exams coming up for me. has anyone ever felt something like this? If yes, please let me know if you have any tips on this or how to get over it. Maybe in the post im reaching slightly, but honestly i don't really know how to describe the feeling, it's like my brain just has the shortest ever attention span especially when it comes to studying

Hi- first time posting here, please let me know if you need more info or details.
I am currently on my third major repair for the AC on my 2013 Subaru Impreza wagon in a year and am hoping someone can help me out. I'm not saying my mechanic is sketchy or trying to trick me but I feel completely out of my depth. I mainly would like to validate my paying so much money or advice if there is a more extreme action that might save me money down the road. I understand ACs are very expensive to repair and fully plan to pay the costs- AC is a luxury but with my commute, it's one I'm not willing to give up at this point. Are there other possible future issues I might run into with what little information I've provided?
May 2023 - I purchased the car in March of 2023, the car had been sitting for a while but was running and operating well. Took the car into get the AC repaired after it stopped working two months after purchase.
Note from mechanic (copied and pasted): Compressor high pressure side fitting leaks. remove fitting and found oring worn out . I replaced seal and performed vacuum system test (passed) I recharge with .450grams and check for more leaks but no others found. Verify fan operation and vents temp output, now is blowing 55-60 degrees.
Cost of the repair: $470
May 2024- The AC stopped working again after working well for a year-
Note from mechanic: Expansion valve is leaking. Replacement will be needed. A/c service required to replace expansion valve High pressure line o-ring is also leaking. Replacement needed. Advised replacing the low pressure o-ring as well since it's likely just as old. This is the initial repair - other leaks may come up, but we need to be able to seal this hole first.
Cost of the repair: $855
Worked for a day but then stopped, took it back and this is the current finding:
Note from mechanic: A/C service was completed last week, with replacement of the expansion valve. Recovered 0lbs from A/C system. Found multiple leaks from lower side of condenser. This is not surprising, as it is very common to have to replace one leak to be able to find any other leaks. We picked the lowest hanging fruit previously, now we are moving up to the next more visible items.
Cost to replace the condenser: $500
Background: I also own a 03 Camry- the AC went out on that car a couple of years ago. We replaced the compressor which failed within two years and was repaired by the mechanic last year under the part warranty. I don't think this is relevant but thought I would include it.

Hello - I’m a 25 year old male living in the New York City area, and this is my story. I went to a relatively good state school and majored in Heath Policy, but slowly realized by my senior year that I didn’t want to work in healthcare administration or government, so I found my way into healthcare related sales. Since graduating in 2021, I have had 4 sales jobs, and I am now going into my 5th. I have worked in tech sales as an SDR, medical device sales as a territory executive, and most recently in advertising sales. My next role will be with a top Fortune 10 retailer in an entry level advertising sales promotion - I was very lucky after my turbulent job history to land a role that pays well and is at a large stable company. Each job that I’ve left, I feel like I’ve had real reasons to move on, however, I can’t help but feeling like I am a failure since the common denominator in all of my jobs is me. Up until about April, I was fighting a vicious form of depression primarily focused on my shortcomings in my career and feelings of unworthiness. In April, I received a new job offer and ever since have been on the steady climb, but still not totally where I want to be happiness wise. I guess I’m looking for advice on a few things: 1) how do I ensure that this next job will go better for me, I really can’t afford to hop anymore 2) how do I rebuild my sense of confidence and not hate myself for my past

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So I (24,f) was in an LDR with my ex Sam (33,m) and upfront he was a nice guy, a really sweet guy. He made me always laugh and feel loved and I would always let him know that I would cherish every single minute that we were on a call.
My reason why I had to break up with Sam, was because of 3 events that happened during our relationship that went in weird way. Atleast my friends thought it that way.
So event 1:
I was out with my mom. Went to the hairsalon and got a new haircut and afterwards went with my mom to an asian vegetarian restaurant. We met up with my Mom´s knitting friends and waited for another friend to come. She was apparently the reason why they wanted to met in the first place. That friend.... She told mom and her knitting friends in the groupchat, that they had, that she would be late.... like 15 minutes...
She was everything but 15 minutes late. She was late for an whole hour...
We ordered some appetizers and drinks and started without her. Who would have known that hell was about to break loose. My Mom´s knitting friend eventually came..... but not alone......
Her Husband to whom my Mom´s knitting friend is 17 years married to, tagged along while the knitting circle upfront told her to not let him come with her.
A lot went from there on. When I stood up to change seats, sitting besides my mom, that husband grabbed my neck in a hold like a momma cat would hold her kitten. It was a very thight grip and I couldn´t release myself from him. Mom "kindly" had to ask him to let go of me. That husband lateron did stuff like asking about my phone, what games I play, what my sex-life was, how many men I did it with and asked how much earned.
I barely answered that husband any question and if anything he smelled bad.... really bad... beyond that I would almost say that a bag of plastic trash smelled better then him. (And I certainly do not mean it in a mean way. I just cannot imagine anything worse then that smell)
Now here is the thing. I went on discord and on the toilette calling Sam. He hung up on me and said he was out with friends. I told him that it was an emergency and that I needed his emotional support. The call lasted only 10 min. He told me he is sorry but he cannot listen to me rn and that I should call him in the evening. He was out with friends.
I understood that and said okay and would call him in the evening. I messaged to my male friend Alpii (26,m) who was instantly there for me as well as Elliana (24,f) and supported me emotionally as well as virtually, to not have to talk to this husband.
Later that same day, in the evening I called Sam again and explained what happened to me. In the most really dead pan voice Sam apologized to me and said he cannot see anything wrong with what happened to me and again hung up on me.
I told my best friend Suviana (29,f) about and she was pissed off, by how he reacted. It took me and Suviana 2 weeks to make him aware that what happened to me was something where I needed him and he wasn´t there for me.
Now 2 and 3 event were in one call that we had about 3 weeks before I broke up with him.
I had my days and am clinical diagnosed with pms. I told him that my cramps would really hurt and that I would go get a warm water bottle. Sam let a bomb loose.
Sam said that the pain of a kick in the groin is similar painful as having a period and it left me stunned. I tried explaining to him that period pain is for each woman each differently painful and instantly got dismissed by him. Sam then told me how he would see "US" in the future and said while I should work in home office, take care of "our" children and stand in the kitchen all day long, something inside me just ripped.
I instantly realized thats not how I would´ve like to live in a relationship, let alone in a marriage. 3 weeks after that call I told Sam that I would want to break up with him. He was of course shocked but I told him my reasons as of why. The whole week he bombarded me with messages and even went as far as wanting to come over. He never gave me a chance to really reply to his messages and it went as far as giving him an ultimatum that I usually wouldn´t pull.
I wanted to know if IWBTA for breaking up with him because of what happened

So I just went to check on it in the ea app and it appears it's finally free to download after they said they'd be making it free for a limited time like almost a month ago and it let me download it into my game!
I'm not sure how long it'll be free for as this was supposed to happen earlier and I wasn't even sure if they were still doing it but make sure to go download it before it's not free anymore!

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First time posting but I'm often lurking/commenting the subred.
As my title states, there's a first for everything and today I had another first.
A regular client of mine called and left me two messages. Senior client with a mini doodle. I've been doing him since he was old enough to start being groomed. He was a bit of a challenge due to behavior, but with a consistent schedule and a lot of work on my end, hes become a good little dog to groom. He comes every 2 weeks and rotates between nail trims, bath&blow dries, and full hair cuts.
Circling back to the Owner calling me, her first message stated that the woman who she takes her dog to see at doggy daycare wanted to groom the dog. she said she didn't know what to do and she felt like she was caught in a rock and a hard place and that she would probably call and cancel the daycare appointment for tomorrow. and then she called me back and left another message to dating that she was probably going to cancel on me and keep the daycare appointment to see if she liked the other girls haircut and if she didn't she would come back to me.
Im not looking for any type of advice but more to rant. Never have I had this happen. Its obvious the dog has a regular groomer, so why ask to groom the? I am always one to say that if you like your current groomer and you enjoy the haircut they do that you should stay with them!! I have no interest in taking other clients from other groomers. And groomers in my area are great, we always stick together. I guess Im dumbfounded to have this happen to me! It's still up in the air on whether or not she's going to cancel her appointment because I tried to reach out to her today on both numbers with no response. But I must say that this has left me with a lot of questions about the specific doggie daycare and the person working who's asking to groom the dog. Ultimately to me this is bad business practice (tell me if Im wrong)
Also moving forward I don't really know how much I want to take this client back as I really do not feel like I am appreciated for the work that I do after all of this.
So now I leave this to you Reddit and if you've read this far thank you! I hope you all have a good dogs on your table today 😊🐾

So…my ex traumatised me and now I don’t even want anything to do with anyone except for my parents. I ‘F20’ met him ‘M20’ when I was drunk at a party, then we got each other’s socials and started speaking the day after. When I would visit him, he would spoil me with food and other things I wanted, eventually I got into smoking because of him. I never wanted to be in a relationship with him because I didn’t find him attractive and I wanted to just focus on university. (We did have a very good friendship tho)Then all of a sudden, he said I was his gf, which shook me but for the sake of staying in contact, I said yes (worst decision of my life). Long story short, I got tired of the relationship and wanted to leave, but every time I tried breaking up with him, he would chase after me on all socials and cry ( so me being the idiotic caring person I am), I stayed with him. I was at a point where I couldn’t be around him sober because I felt so trapped and depressed and I would lash out on him, which resulted into me becoming addicted to smoking ☘️. I dealt with this for nearly 2 years until it got the point when I said I wanted to stop and become a better person. At first he would support me going to my community groups, then all of a sudden he’s tell me “why don’t you just miss it?” “You don’t need to go or listen to them” I don’t agree with them and what they say”. Friends encouraged me to leave him but being in a very toxic relationship for nearly 2 years was something I was used to and unfortunately didn’t want to let go of by that time. I eventually reached the point where I blocked him on everything, deleted social media and we didn’t speak for 6 months. One day I decided to get one of my socials back to see my before pictures, and on that day I saw him add me right when I got it back (which was weird because I thought I blocked him on there). He told me he just wanted to know if I was okay, I told him I was great and quit smoking, then boom back in contact with him again. I’ve become so numb speaking to him to the point where everything he does irritates me and I couldn’t care less about his life, and now I’m addicted to smoking AGAIN. I can’t stand him at all but every time I block him, I find it hard and want to un block him. I can’t stand him being in my life but it hurts when he’s gone. I don’t know what to do anymore so here I am ranting to a bunch of strangers 😂 any advice would be greatly appreciated 🙏