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2024.05.14 07:11 OEThrowaway989898 Progesterone cream causing heavy bleeding
I think I might have messed up. I am diagnosed PCOS but was not being treated with anything.
I was experiencing spotting for over 3 weeks after missing my period for 3 months and I was sick of it. Some days heavy spotting, some days almost nonexistent. Progesterone cream had worked to regulate my cycle before temporarily, so I decided to try it again. 2 days after starting the cream, the spotting turned into full-on bleeding.
I've been taking the cream for the past 5 days since I'm afraid that stopping it will make this even worse than it already is. However, for the last maybe 3 days or so the bleeding has been so intense that I am soaking through 4-5 overnight pads a day and I'm starting to feel anemic.
I have an appointment in 7 days, and was hoping I could just hang in there until that happens, but I am concerned that I might lose too much blood before then. Progesterone is supposed to stop bleeding, not increase it, so I'm not sure what is going on here. I think I can either stop the cream or increase the dose from one pump a day to two in an attempt to stop it?
Does anyone have advice while I wait for this doctor's appointment to happen?
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I was experiencing spotting for over 3 weeks after missing my period for 3 months and I was sick of it. Some days heavy spotting, some days almost nonexistent. Progesterone cream had worked to regulate my cycle before temporarily, so I decided to try it again. 2 days after starting the cream, the spotting turned into full-on bleeding.
I've been taking the cream for the past 5 days since I'm afraid that stopping it will make this even worse than it already is. However, for the last maybe 3 days or so the bleeding has been so intense that I am soaking through 4-5 overnight pads a day and I'm starting to feel anemic.
I have an appointment in 7 days, and was hoping I could just hang in there until that happens, but I am concerned that I might lose too much blood before then. Progesterone is supposed to stop bleeding, not increase it, so I'm not sure what is going on here. I think I can either stop the cream or increase the dose from one pump a day to two in an attempt to stop it?
Does anyone have advice while I wait for this doctor's appointment to happen?
2024.05.14 06:41 comingtogetyoubabs Hey, dad, mom's tumour is back
I know we weren't on speaking terms when you passed, but I've missed you sorely since. Albeit conflictedly. In a way, I'm almost glad you weren't here to see most of the family join you, though I think you would've made it easier on the rest of us. I miss your bear hugs. I quote you all the time.
So. The cat you fought mom for me to keep recently got diagnosed with cancer. I think she's mostly been nice to him out of a sense of duty and knowing that's what you'd want and what you'd gotten him used to. I think he's kept her company , which is why I was happy to just visit. I know he's old, but it's hitting hard. I worry about her when she's all alone in that big drafty house.
And on that note, the neurologist appointments she's had to do since 2001? Well, they recently forwarded her to a neurosurgeon. But this time she doesn't have you. She's so scared and we're terrified right there with her.
I broke down to big bro, the other day. He said he thought I was dealing with it well cause I'd somehow managed to keep it reined in around mom, but the truth is I haven't slept since, and now we're changing all my meds again (btw, dad, I've ADHD , amongst the stuff you already knew about - the new meds have helped). He was driving me to the bus station as I sobbed and he couldn't hug me.
I told him we've lost so many people and he said that's just growing old. I said I was scared. He is too. And then he said: "if dad was here there'd be no waffling, he'd already have booked tickets and theyd be at a world specialist in a week." And that's true, isn't it? That's how it went before. I wish you were here to make her feel safe and to push her in ways we just cannot. I wish I had a hug.
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So. The cat you fought mom for me to keep recently got diagnosed with cancer. I think she's mostly been nice to him out of a sense of duty and knowing that's what you'd want and what you'd gotten him used to. I think he's kept her company , which is why I was happy to just visit. I know he's old, but it's hitting hard. I worry about her when she's all alone in that big drafty house.
And on that note, the neurologist appointments she's had to do since 2001? Well, they recently forwarded her to a neurosurgeon. But this time she doesn't have you. She's so scared and we're terrified right there with her.
I broke down to big bro, the other day. He said he thought I was dealing with it well cause I'd somehow managed to keep it reined in around mom, but the truth is I haven't slept since, and now we're changing all my meds again (btw, dad, I've ADHD , amongst the stuff you already knew about - the new meds have helped). He was driving me to the bus station as I sobbed and he couldn't hug me.
I told him we've lost so many people and he said that's just growing old. I said I was scared. He is too. And then he said: "if dad was here there'd be no waffling, he'd already have booked tickets and theyd be at a world specialist in a week." And that's true, isn't it? That's how it went before. I wish you were here to make her feel safe and to push her in ways we just cannot. I wish I had a hug.
2024.05.14 06:33 17slimshady Does bits accept NIOS on demand examination marksheet?
So cbse results are out and I missed the pcm criteria by 8 marks. If I give NIOS exam for all the subjects will they accept it in counselling (this year) or should I give cbse improvement exams only next year?
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2024.05.14 06:03 Short_Concentrate365 Not feeling like a real parent [bc]
The Beginning of the story:
https://www.reddit.com/AITAH/comments/1cmwdrb/aitah_for_not_hosting_mothers_day_brunch/
https://www.reddit.com/BabyBumpsCanada/comments/1cihbmt/sil_judgmental_about_csection_bc/
After everything that has gone on with my SIL in the past couple months I don't feel like a parent. I feel like I'm just faking being a mom and I know cognitively that I am but I'm having trouble feeling like a mom. I've been called an imposter so many times and have received so many nasty texts, messages and emails in the last few days that I don't know if I need a break or should just give up. I have all of these nasty thoughts running through my head and am worried I have failed my son. We are in the process of determining why he's missing gross motor milestones including a possible cerebral palsy diagnosis. We're in physio once a week and have a referral to BC Children's and Sunny Hill for further evaluation. What ever diagnosis we get my SIL will blame on me and make it all my fault because I had a c-section and have an autoimmune disease .
With everything that's going on I don't feel like a real mom. I just feel hollow and like I'm going through the motions. I've called my counselor and psychiatrist to get the next available appointment with both. Part of me wants to take my son and leave my husband because of the abuse from his sister that never ends. I know she's not capable of change or recognizing her actions but I can't live like this and I won't raise my son to think he's less than his cousins. I could move back in with my parents temporarily if things don't improve with my in-laws.
I just feel like I've failed and haven't been able to do what's best for my son from day one. I feel like it's an uphill battle every day. I don't know if I can do this with all of the negative comments and put downs. I don't feel like a parent or worthy of being a parent. I'm so stressed I'm not sleeping, I can't eat. I can't keep feeling like a second class citizen for making the choice to have my son and I both live. I can't be punished because he needs some extra help meeting milestones.
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https://www.reddit.com/AITAH/comments/1cmwdrb/aitah_for_not_hosting_mothers_day_brunch/
https://www.reddit.com/BabyBumpsCanada/comments/1cihbmt/sil_judgmental_about_csection_bc/
After everything that has gone on with my SIL in the past couple months I don't feel like a parent. I feel like I'm just faking being a mom and I know cognitively that I am but I'm having trouble feeling like a mom. I've been called an imposter so many times and have received so many nasty texts, messages and emails in the last few days that I don't know if I need a break or should just give up. I have all of these nasty thoughts running through my head and am worried I have failed my son. We are in the process of determining why he's missing gross motor milestones including a possible cerebral palsy diagnosis. We're in physio once a week and have a referral to BC Children's and Sunny Hill for further evaluation. What ever diagnosis we get my SIL will blame on me and make it all my fault because I had a c-section and have an autoimmune disease .
With everything that's going on I don't feel like a real mom. I just feel hollow and like I'm going through the motions. I've called my counselor and psychiatrist to get the next available appointment with both. Part of me wants to take my son and leave my husband because of the abuse from his sister that never ends. I know she's not capable of change or recognizing her actions but I can't live like this and I won't raise my son to think he's less than his cousins. I could move back in with my parents temporarily if things don't improve with my in-laws.
I just feel like I've failed and haven't been able to do what's best for my son from day one. I feel like it's an uphill battle every day. I don't know if I can do this with all of the negative comments and put downs. I don't feel like a parent or worthy of being a parent. I'm so stressed I'm not sleeping, I can't eat. I can't keep feeling like a second class citizen for making the choice to have my son and I both live. I can't be punished because he needs some extra help meeting milestones.
2024.05.14 06:01 Choice_Evidence1983 AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/AdhesivenessMurky204
Originally posted to AITAH
AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Editor’s Note: added paragraph breaks for readability
Trigger Warnings: PTSD, mentions of abortion, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, sexual assault, rape
Original Post: April 28, 2024
My husband (28M, who I will call Jack) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years, we have 2 young children and I am pregnant again. I have been pregnant for what feels like most of our relationship. I got pregnant 4 months into our relationship. We got married a month before our daughter’s 1st birthday and ended up with a honeymoon baby. After our son was born, I talked to my OB and she put me on birth control and I have been taking it militantly.
My daughter is now 3 and my son is 2. A little over a month ago I discovered I am pregnant again, despite taking my birth control religiously. Abortion is banned in my state, and the pregnancy was discovered too far along to attempt to obtain one out of state. While Jack and I were nervous, we also love being parents and decided that 3 young kids would be a challenge, but 3 was a good number for us. Then we went in for the first ultrasound and got some unexpected news - it’s twins.
Things have been tough financially, and while we were stressed but excited for a third child, we were not expecting a third and fourth child. Beyond the finances, I am the primary caretaker and I know that twins is going to be a lot, three children under 5 is already a lot, but 4 children under 5 is going to be really really difficult for me. Physically, I am tired of being pregnant. I’ve been pregnant or breastfeeding the majority of our relationship. It’s exhausting, it feels awful, and I don’t recognize my body anymore.
Four children is enough. I don’t want more. I told Jack that I was done with pregnancy, I’ve been pregnant enough, I’ve been experimenting with different types of birth control for over a decade and I still can’t stop getting pregnant, abortion isn’t a valid option where we live, we need something more permanent. He agreed, and suggested an IUD, I told him no - if it did fail then it could cause an ectopic pregnancy which could kill me, especially where we live. I’ve had both control fail me multiple times already and I’m not taking the chance, so I suggested a vasectomy. He was not open to the idea, and was even upset that I suggested it and told me I should get my tubes tied. I told him a tubal ligation is a much bigger surgery and I could be recovering for weeks during which time I wouldn’t be able to work or take care of our 4 young children, but he could ice his balls for a day or two and be done with it. He told me that not getting pregnant was ultimately my responsibility, and topped it off by saying “that’s what your body your choice means, YOUR body, so YOU choose.” That’s when it went from a discussion to a full blown fight.
See, when I was 19 I had another birth control failure with my boyfriend at the time (who I will call Tom). I wanted an abortion, Tom did not because he was opposed. I told him I was getting the abortion since it was my body and my choice, and Tom said some horrible things to me, including threatening me. I broke up with him and got the abortion. In response, Tom ended up following me one night and attacking me. I don’t want to go into detail but it was horrible, and he ended up going to prison for a number of charges related to the attack. Not only do I have a number of scars and some long lasting physical effects, but I have PTSD as well.
Jack knows about my history and diagnosis, and has known from the beginning. I have a pretty prominent facial scar so I was upfront about it early on in our dating. Jack always presented himself as very pro-choice, so I was shocked that he would say that. I got really emotional and started crying and shouting, and it turned into a full-blown fight.
Eventually I said that birth control is a two-way street and so far I’ve been the only one managing it and he said “and now we have 2 kids and 2 more coming, great job.” I told him he sounded like Tom and he got super pissed, basically said how dare you compare me to him, and maybe he might want kids one day with someone who doesn’t compare him to her felon ex-boyfriend. I was stunned and horrified. I said “well then let’s not waste any fucking time,”then packed up myself and the kids and drove to my parents place.
It’s been about a week since the fight. I’ve spoken with Jack a few times and he has since apologized and said he was out of line and was speaking from a place of anxiety after finding out about the twins, but also that I said things that were out of line and it was wrong of me to insist he undergo a medical procedure. He said that can move on from the things I said and that he wants to see his children and be a family again. I told him no, that I didn’t want to “move on” from the things he said to me. I can’t just get over that and I think we need space apart. Jack was upset by this and while we talked I brought up getting a separation agreement to manage custody and finances while we figure things out. He did not like this suggestion, said we didn’t need to pull the courts into this.
I haven’t told a lot of people about what’s happening but my family and a couple close friends. My sister and best friend both think I should throw the whole man away, but my brother (who is the only other one married with kids) thinks that I’m being extreme for what sums up to a fight between two scared people who both said nasty things. My mom is trying to be supportive but is occasionally reminding me that I “don’t want to be a single mother of 4” and telling me not to let my PTSD drive my decisions, while my dad is being completely unhelpful (he thinks jokes are helpful - like calling me Doorknob because I “can’t stop getting knocked up”, telling me to let the oven cool down, real knee-slappers). I don’t know what to do. My kids are happy to be at grandma and grandpas house but they miss their daddy, I’m 4 months pregnant and already uncomfortable as hell, I wish I could go back to being a happy little family but I’m so hung up on the things he said in that fight. Am I destroying my family over one bad night? Am I being unreasonable for asking my husband to get a vasectomy?
Edit: I've noticed a lot of people recommending condoms. I have gotten pregnant with condoms twice. Our second child and my first pregnancy were both conceived using condoms properly (correct fit, put on correctly, single use, not expired, no breaks, etc). I do not trust condoms enough to not fail a third time. I know the failure rate is supposedly small, but it's not personally small enough for me. Edit to the edit: I'm sorry, I didn't expect so many comments so fast and I can't keep up with them. By the first pregnancy I mean the pregnancy with Tom. With Jack I was on the patch when I got pregnant with our daughter, condoms with our son, and the pill with the twins. So far I haven't ever suspected that Jack has tampered with our birth control and always presumed that I'm a fertile Myrtle.
I recognize the comments and just want people to know I'm seeing the suggestion. I'm not dismissing it, but the thought of it is deeply upsetting and has provoked a lot of anxiety. I just wanted to make it clear that if the suggestion is only based on the condoms, that the condom pregnancies were with two different partners. While I know I always used condoms properly with Tom, I do believe that Tom could have been fully capable of sabotaging the condoms.
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deepsleepsheepmeep: NTA. Your husband is though. Your body has already been through A LOT. A tubal ligation is a serious surgery and you are right about being out of commission for a while when recovering. If he is more concerned with an imaginary future wife than he is for you, I don’t think there is much hope for this marriage.
We have 4 close friends who all got vasectomies. None of them bitched about it like your wimp of a husband. We actually had fun vasectomy themed parties for them.
On the off chance he does end up getting a vasectomy, make sure to do the follow up appointments. One of the vasectomy fab 4 did not follow through and ended up with a post-vasectomy baby.
Update: AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?: May 3, 2024
I didn’t expect so many comments and literally couldn’t go through them all. It seemed like the majority of people said I was NTA but I did get a lot of YTAs telling me I was trying to force him to get a medical procedure and telling me to get one instead. Besides already addressing my reasonings why I made my request in the original post (which I want you to read with real "per my last email" energy), I in no way am *forcing* him to have a medical procedure, but I am saying that I do not want to be with a partner who is not willing to be snipped. This is an issue of compatibility. The number of children you want, the methods of birth control you’re willing to use, those are issues of compatibility and a reason relationships end all the time. If he doesn’t want to be sterilized that’s fine, but then that means that we’re not compatible anymore, since it means he wants more children and I don’t. Beyond that there were some YTA comments and some DMs that were just nasty, calling me a murderer and saying my body is a cemetery. Sadly enough, I expected those types of comments, because I know there are a lot of Toms out in the world.
First I wanted to address a couple things that kept coming up, because last post turned into thousands of comments that all said about 5 different things, so to avoid my inbox becoming another echo chamber:
I also am not going to mince words: tubal ligations are *less* effective than vasectomies with a *much higher* likelihood of an ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy can *kill me*. In fact I got a PM from a woman who is a fellow fertile Myrtle who had an ectopic after a tubal. I am rejecting birth control options that, if they fail, would lead to my likely death. I don’t want to be pregnant again but I also don’t want to die and leave my children motherless, and in no way should anyone assume that traveling to another state to obtain an emergency abortion will continue to be an option in the future - we live in scary times, and Gilead is a real possibility. The comments seemed to have the vibe that people think that ligations are magically more effective than vasectomies and vasectomies are more of a whisper of sterility than an actual sterilization method so for those in the back VASECTOMIES ARE MORE EFFECTIVE THAN TUBAL LIGATIONS, FULL STOP. So I really need y’all to shut up about it.
So to get down to the nitty gritty of the real update: since the last time I posted, Jack and I have sat down together and had a real come to Jesus talk. I’m not going to go through the whole breakdown, but it basically boiled down to this: it’s the vasectomy, but it’s more than the vasectomy. It was wrong of me to compare him to Tom but it was wronger of him to weaponize my trauma against me in a very malicious way. The way he intentionally used the same language my abuser used in an effort to hurt me was not acceptable and damaged the trust between us. He agreed it was not acceptable and said that in the aftermath he was horrified and ashamed his own words, and that he (as an explanation and not an excuse) kind of snapped under the stress. Oh and what he said about his “next wife” was not an indication of him not being committed to me but was because he felt hurt and wanted to hurt me back. He has apologized numerous times and seems to feel genuinely bad about it.
As for the separation, I am still going forward with it. I need space and time and I need to take that before the babies come. I am still staying with my parents who, for the record, are not sick of me or the kids. We’re a tight knit family, I only moved out when I moved in with Jack, and my sister moved out about a year ago so they have been empty nesting, and my mom doesn’t like that we live “too far” (an hour) away. What I have realized with space and time is how deeply triggering it was, in a way that I cannot explain to those without PTSD from DV, those who know will know. It’s deeply unsettled me and I’m having a hard time “getting over it” so to speak. There is now a lot of fear of my husband that was never there before and it’s going to take a lot to repair that trust and sense of safety. I cannot make a decision while I’m in this space, and I am addressing this with my personal therapist. Overall, I told him that if he wanted to stay married to me I needed two things from him: marriage counseling and a vasectomy, and even then I still cannot guarantee him anything. He understands, but I do not know what will happen with the vasectomy right now, we focused more on talking about the fight, but he is very aware that it's now a dealbreaker. And we have a marriage counseling appointment set up for next week. I'm hoping that counseling will bring some clarity to the situation, and in the mean time for the next couple months I'm focusing on giving my kids lots of cuddles and preparing myself for two new babies to come into my world, with or without Jack.
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Originally posted to AITAH
AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Editor’s Note: added paragraph breaks for readability
Trigger Warnings: PTSD, mentions of abortion, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, sexual assault, rape
My husband (28M, who I will call Jack) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years, we have 2 young children and I am pregnant again. I have been pregnant for what feels like most of our relationship. I got pregnant 4 months into our relationship. We got married a month before our daughter’s 1st birthday and ended up with a honeymoon baby. After our son was born, I talked to my OB and she put me on birth control and I have been taking it militantly.
My daughter is now 3 and my son is 2. A little over a month ago I discovered I am pregnant again, despite taking my birth control religiously. Abortion is banned in my state, and the pregnancy was discovered too far along to attempt to obtain one out of state. While Jack and I were nervous, we also love being parents and decided that 3 young kids would be a challenge, but 3 was a good number for us. Then we went in for the first ultrasound and got some unexpected news - it’s twins.
Things have been tough financially, and while we were stressed but excited for a third child, we were not expecting a third and fourth child. Beyond the finances, I am the primary caretaker and I know that twins is going to be a lot, three children under 5 is already a lot, but 4 children under 5 is going to be really really difficult for me. Physically, I am tired of being pregnant. I’ve been pregnant or breastfeeding the majority of our relationship. It’s exhausting, it feels awful, and I don’t recognize my body anymore.
Four children is enough. I don’t want more. I told Jack that I was done with pregnancy, I’ve been pregnant enough, I’ve been experimenting with different types of birth control for over a decade and I still can’t stop getting pregnant, abortion isn’t a valid option where we live, we need something more permanent. He agreed, and suggested an IUD, I told him no - if it did fail then it could cause an ectopic pregnancy which could kill me, especially where we live. I’ve had both control fail me multiple times already and I’m not taking the chance, so I suggested a vasectomy. He was not open to the idea, and was even upset that I suggested it and told me I should get my tubes tied. I told him a tubal ligation is a much bigger surgery and I could be recovering for weeks during which time I wouldn’t be able to work or take care of our 4 young children, but he could ice his balls for a day or two and be done with it. He told me that not getting pregnant was ultimately my responsibility, and topped it off by saying “that’s what your body your choice means, YOUR body, so YOU choose.” That’s when it went from a discussion to a full blown fight.
See, when I was 19 I had another birth control failure with my boyfriend at the time (who I will call Tom). I wanted an abortion, Tom did not because he was opposed. I told him I was getting the abortion since it was my body and my choice, and Tom said some horrible things to me, including threatening me. I broke up with him and got the abortion. In response, Tom ended up following me one night and attacking me. I don’t want to go into detail but it was horrible, and he ended up going to prison for a number of charges related to the attack. Not only do I have a number of scars and some long lasting physical effects, but I have PTSD as well.
Jack knows about my history and diagnosis, and has known from the beginning. I have a pretty prominent facial scar so I was upfront about it early on in our dating. Jack always presented himself as very pro-choice, so I was shocked that he would say that. I got really emotional and started crying and shouting, and it turned into a full-blown fight.
Eventually I said that birth control is a two-way street and so far I’ve been the only one managing it and he said “and now we have 2 kids and 2 more coming, great job.” I told him he sounded like Tom and he got super pissed, basically said how dare you compare me to him, and maybe he might want kids one day with someone who doesn’t compare him to her felon ex-boyfriend. I was stunned and horrified. I said “well then let’s not waste any fucking time,”then packed up myself and the kids and drove to my parents place.
It’s been about a week since the fight. I’ve spoken with Jack a few times and he has since apologized and said he was out of line and was speaking from a place of anxiety after finding out about the twins, but also that I said things that were out of line and it was wrong of me to insist he undergo a medical procedure. He said that can move on from the things I said and that he wants to see his children and be a family again. I told him no, that I didn’t want to “move on” from the things he said to me. I can’t just get over that and I think we need space apart. Jack was upset by this and while we talked I brought up getting a separation agreement to manage custody and finances while we figure things out. He did not like this suggestion, said we didn’t need to pull the courts into this.
I haven’t told a lot of people about what’s happening but my family and a couple close friends. My sister and best friend both think I should throw the whole man away, but my brother (who is the only other one married with kids) thinks that I’m being extreme for what sums up to a fight between two scared people who both said nasty things. My mom is trying to be supportive but is occasionally reminding me that I “don’t want to be a single mother of 4” and telling me not to let my PTSD drive my decisions, while my dad is being completely unhelpful (he thinks jokes are helpful - like calling me Doorknob because I “can’t stop getting knocked up”, telling me to let the oven cool down, real knee-slappers). I don’t know what to do. My kids are happy to be at grandma and grandpas house but they miss their daddy, I’m 4 months pregnant and already uncomfortable as hell, I wish I could go back to being a happy little family but I’m so hung up on the things he said in that fight. Am I destroying my family over one bad night? Am I being unreasonable for asking my husband to get a vasectomy?
Edit: I've noticed a lot of people recommending condoms. I have gotten pregnant with condoms twice. Our second child and my first pregnancy were both conceived using condoms properly (correct fit, put on correctly, single use, not expired, no breaks, etc). I do not trust condoms enough to not fail a third time. I know the failure rate is supposedly small, but it's not personally small enough for me. Edit to the edit: I'm sorry, I didn't expect so many comments so fast and I can't keep up with them. By the first pregnancy I mean the pregnancy with Tom. With Jack I was on the patch when I got pregnant with our daughter, condoms with our son, and the pill with the twins. So far I haven't ever suspected that Jack has tampered with our birth control and always presumed that I'm a fertile Myrtle.
I recognize the comments and just want people to know I'm seeing the suggestion. I'm not dismissing it, but the thought of it is deeply upsetting and has provoked a lot of anxiety. I just wanted to make it clear that if the suggestion is only based on the condoms, that the condom pregnancies were with two different partners. While I know I always used condoms properly with Tom, I do believe that Tom could have been fully capable of sabotaging the condoms.
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deepsleepsheepmeep: NTA. Your husband is though. Your body has already been through A LOT. A tubal ligation is a serious surgery and you are right about being out of commission for a while when recovering. If he is more concerned with an imaginary future wife than he is for you, I don’t think there is much hope for this marriage.
We have 4 close friends who all got vasectomies. None of them bitched about it like your wimp of a husband. We actually had fun vasectomy themed parties for them.
On the off chance he does end up getting a vasectomy, make sure to do the follow up appointments. One of the vasectomy fab 4 did not follow through and ended up with a post-vasectomy baby.
OOP: Thank you, I feel like this is a lot of what has been so upsetting has been that he's thinking about some imaginary future wife when I'm right here, his actual wife, the mother of his children. It's like he's already imagining a future without me.
Update: AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?: May 3, 2024
I didn’t expect so many comments and literally couldn’t go through them all. It seemed like the majority of people said I was NTA but I did get a lot of YTAs telling me I was trying to force him to get a medical procedure and telling me to get one instead. Besides already addressing my reasonings why I made my request in the original post (which I want you to read with real "per my last email" energy), I in no way am *forcing* him to have a medical procedure, but I am saying that I do not want to be with a partner who is not willing to be snipped. This is an issue of compatibility. The number of children you want, the methods of birth control you’re willing to use, those are issues of compatibility and a reason relationships end all the time. If he doesn’t want to be sterilized that’s fine, but then that means that we’re not compatible anymore, since it means he wants more children and I don’t. Beyond that there were some YTA comments and some DMs that were just nasty, calling me a murderer and saying my body is a cemetery. Sadly enough, I expected those types of comments, because I know there are a lot of Toms out in the world.
First I wanted to address a couple things that kept coming up, because last post turned into thousands of comments that all said about 5 different things, so to avoid my inbox becoming another echo chamber:
You’re 100% going to have a C-section anyway so just get a tubal while giving birth.No, I’m not 100% going to have a C-section anyway. Twins are not an automatic C-section. With my birth history there is no reason to presume that a C-section is in my future. My OB agrees, and has discussed the possibility as doctors have to do but also said that based on my past two birth experiences, I'm a "perfect candidate" for vaginal delivery.
I also am not going to mince words: tubal ligations are *less* effective than vasectomies with a *much higher* likelihood of an ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy can *kill me*. In fact I got a PM from a woman who is a fellow fertile Myrtle who had an ectopic after a tubal. I am rejecting birth control options that, if they fail, would lead to my likely death. I don’t want to be pregnant again but I also don’t want to die and leave my children motherless, and in no way should anyone assume that traveling to another state to obtain an emergency abortion will continue to be an option in the future - we live in scary times, and Gilead is a real possibility. The comments seemed to have the vibe that people think that ligations are magically more effective than vasectomies and vasectomies are more of a whisper of sterility than an actual sterilization method so for those in the back VASECTOMIES ARE MORE EFFECTIVE THAN TUBAL LIGATIONS, FULL STOP. So I really need y’all to shut up about it.
Go to another state and obtain an abortion anyway.I appreciate the personal offers to help I received in DMs deeply, but no. I’m in my 2nd trimester, which I know is still legal in some places, however I am at a point in my pregnancy where I personally as an individual do not feel comfortable obtaining an abortion, considering I would be *even farther* along by the time I could travel (which is not only finances, but logistics as well). I am 16 weeks pregnant now, these babies aren’t just clusters of cells to me anymore, and I’m not going to expand on that since it’s not up for debate.
Why not adoption?With love and respect to everyone who has gone through adoption in all its aspects, adoption is absolutely not for me. This is a thought process I already went through 8 years ago, and now that I’m a mother and not a scared teenager I know it’s even less for me. I personally could not go through with it and come out the other side intact. Going through a full pregnancy, having my babies, and then being separated from them would break me.
Leave him and give him full custody of the twinsNo. Because going through a full pregnancy, having my babies, and then being separated from them would break me. Jesus, some of y’all.
Just have a sexless marriage.No. I love banging my husband, obviously lol. I don't want to be in a sexless marriage and anyone who has been to an abstinence-only high school knows that abstinence is not the way lol. There were a lot of comments assuming I would be perfectly fine withholding sex from my husband and having na dead bedroom, and I wouldn't. I have a sex drive. I'm going to want to bang my husband. Wanting to have sex with your spouse is *normal*.
What you would do about birth control if you divorced and dated in the future?I’m not thinking of dating anyone else right now, because I’m thinking more about saving my actual marriage instead of an imaginary relationship. And if theoretically I did, I would probably seek out a partner who was snipped or was ready to be to be honestly, or a woman. I’m bisexual so there’s a very good chance that my future partner wouldn’t have the right parts to knock me up anyway lol.
Jack is sabotaging your birth controlI clarified my methods in the original post (as per my last email), but I did want to address this because it came up a LOT. I don’t have reason to believe that Jack sabotaged my birth control. A number of other fertile Myrtles showed up and brought up they or their family members repeated pregnancies in the face of birth control, including tubals. Accusing my husband of reproductive coercion for no reason other than I keep getting pregnant is a big leap and a weighty accusation. I am not the only fertile Myrtle out there, there's a reason there's a whole term for it.
Your husband is a narcissist, abuser, psychopath, and he does no childcareMy husband and I historically have a really healthy and loving relationship outside of this fight. In fact, this fight is the first time we’ve really had a fight, we’ve only ever had little arguments that we’ve been able to talk through. He’s an active father, the reason that I do the majority of childcare is due to circumstance between maternity leaves, our job schedules and the fact that I breastfed my babies. Someone also presumed I’m the breadwinner, which isn’t quite true. Jack makes more than me, but we do not have deeply significant differences in our incomes. When he is home he does his fair share of cleaning and cooking (arguably more than me at times), and parenting. That being said, the things he said in the heat of the moment were deeply concerning, and we’re addressing that together.
So to get down to the nitty gritty of the real update: since the last time I posted, Jack and I have sat down together and had a real come to Jesus talk. I’m not going to go through the whole breakdown, but it basically boiled down to this: it’s the vasectomy, but it’s more than the vasectomy. It was wrong of me to compare him to Tom but it was wronger of him to weaponize my trauma against me in a very malicious way. The way he intentionally used the same language my abuser used in an effort to hurt me was not acceptable and damaged the trust between us. He agreed it was not acceptable and said that in the aftermath he was horrified and ashamed his own words, and that he (as an explanation and not an excuse) kind of snapped under the stress. Oh and what he said about his “next wife” was not an indication of him not being committed to me but was because he felt hurt and wanted to hurt me back. He has apologized numerous times and seems to feel genuinely bad about it.
As for the separation, I am still going forward with it. I need space and time and I need to take that before the babies come. I am still staying with my parents who, for the record, are not sick of me or the kids. We’re a tight knit family, I only moved out when I moved in with Jack, and my sister moved out about a year ago so they have been empty nesting, and my mom doesn’t like that we live “too far” (an hour) away. What I have realized with space and time is how deeply triggering it was, in a way that I cannot explain to those without PTSD from DV, those who know will know. It’s deeply unsettled me and I’m having a hard time “getting over it” so to speak. There is now a lot of fear of my husband that was never there before and it’s going to take a lot to repair that trust and sense of safety. I cannot make a decision while I’m in this space, and I am addressing this with my personal therapist. Overall, I told him that if he wanted to stay married to me I needed two things from him: marriage counseling and a vasectomy, and even then I still cannot guarantee him anything. He understands, but I do not know what will happen with the vasectomy right now, we focused more on talking about the fight, but he is very aware that it's now a dealbreaker. And we have a marriage counseling appointment set up for next week. I'm hoping that counseling will bring some clarity to the situation, and in the mean time for the next couple months I'm focusing on giving my kids lots of cuddles and preparing myself for two new babies to come into my world, with or without Jack.
Additional information from OOP on her relationships
OOP: I've been through a trial to convict my ex-boyfriend of trying to kill me because of an abortion in a deep red, deeply religious area. I've definitely heard worse things, and I typically have pretty thick skin. That being said, I am pregnant and pretty emotional, so it's not the best experience. That being said, I do appreciate the level-headed comments when I see them through the sea of comments kind of saying the same stuff over and over. I'm not reading a lot of them if what I can see in the comment notification starts off nasty, so a lot of it is just inbox white noise. My favorites are the ones that start off with "I'm not going to read that BUT..." and I just think lol same. Like you don't want to read my post but expect me to read your comment that was made without even reading the situation? lol nope. And there are a lot of people conflating "providing someone with a hard choice" with "forcing someone into a medical procedure" and it just makes wading through for the actually helpful comments more tiring. Thank you though, I very much appreciate the kindness. Sorry, I've gotten so much of the same nonsense I guess I needed a little vent lol.OOP on wanting her husband to make a decision and be on the same page
OOP: I want to be honest with him about where I am emotionally because I want him to make an informed decision. While the vasectomy is a deal breaker, it's really my secondary concern. My primary concern is the way he acted during the fight and his intention exploitation of my trauma because he was mad and scared. I think that telling him "get the snip to stay with me" and then deciding to leave anyway because there are deeper issues and/or I don't feel safe anymore would be cruel. He deserves to have the full picture before he makes a choice, doesn't he?
If he doesn't want the vasectomy, that's his choice. It's not what I want, but it is what it is. If he wants to call it quits at 4 kids, then it is what it is and if he secretly wants to be the next Nick Cannon then it is what it is he should be free to do that. That is part of why I don't know where he is on the vasectomy right now and we didn't really discuss it much when we talked, I'm focusing on discussing the bigger issue for me which is trust and safety within the relationship. The only way for him to make an informed decision about whether or not he get a vasectomy is for him to have all the information about the situation. If that makes him want a vasectomy less, then it is what it is. It's not about making him want to have a vasectomy. It's about being on the same page.
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2024.05.14 05:38 Such_Traffic_303 American Akita has severe anxiety in new places and has diarrhea in backseat of the car while driving
So I got an American Akita rescue roughly two weeks ago going on three. She’s roughly a year and half old, extremely intelligent and for the most part catches onto things very quickly.
Now for selfish reasons I will admit I wish I could get her to go on walks, which she absolutely 100% refuses to do. I did try to push her at first (I’m new to this clearly) but realized she’s petrified so I stopped that after a few days and instead I just sit on the stairs outside of my place so she can get use to the area at least. I can get her to go to the potty area, but she will not walk anywhere else outside at all and she wants to bolt back into my place every time she’s done going potty. Whenever I try to get her to venture just a little bit (I’m talking 10ft or less away from the potty area) I’ll squat down and she’ll jog over to me for comfort, I’ll stand up and she wants to bolt to our place again.
I tried recently getting her to go for a ride because we have a vet appointment soon, so I wanted to experiment for a short ride. She desecrated that backseat so viciously. Then she fell in it. It was a s**t show quite literally. Shout out to the heavy duty dog hammock from petsmart because it saved me from trading that car in. 😂
Mind you when she’s inside my place, she’s a completely different dog. She may be skidish here and there but she has a very vibrant personality. Once she’s confident in a new area she thrives.
Idk if I missed anymore behavior things, but clearly she has some extreme anxiety in certain settings. What can I do to help her? I just bought this 700sqft condo this year and I’m looking to buy a house next year hopefully. But she can’t be just stuck in the condo every day of her life till then.
If I sound ignorant to my lack of knowledge here, forgive me. I’m trying to learn, hence why I’m writing a book on Reddit right now.
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Now for selfish reasons I will admit I wish I could get her to go on walks, which she absolutely 100% refuses to do. I did try to push her at first (I’m new to this clearly) but realized she’s petrified so I stopped that after a few days and instead I just sit on the stairs outside of my place so she can get use to the area at least. I can get her to go to the potty area, but she will not walk anywhere else outside at all and she wants to bolt back into my place every time she’s done going potty. Whenever I try to get her to venture just a little bit (I’m talking 10ft or less away from the potty area) I’ll squat down and she’ll jog over to me for comfort, I’ll stand up and she wants to bolt to our place again.
I tried recently getting her to go for a ride because we have a vet appointment soon, so I wanted to experiment for a short ride. She desecrated that backseat so viciously. Then she fell in it. It was a s**t show quite literally. Shout out to the heavy duty dog hammock from petsmart because it saved me from trading that car in. 😂
Mind you when she’s inside my place, she’s a completely different dog. She may be skidish here and there but she has a very vibrant personality. Once she’s confident in a new area she thrives.
Idk if I missed anymore behavior things, but clearly she has some extreme anxiety in certain settings. What can I do to help her? I just bought this 700sqft condo this year and I’m looking to buy a house next year hopefully. But she can’t be just stuck in the condo every day of her life till then.
If I sound ignorant to my lack of knowledge here, forgive me. I’m trying to learn, hence why I’m writing a book on Reddit right now.
2024.05.14 05:24 TheLotStore Understanding the Process of Owner Financing for Houses
 | Understanding the Process of Owner Financing for Houses submitted by TheLotStore to u/TheLotStore [link] [comments] Understanding the Procedure of Landlord Funding for Residences Landlord funding is a method that allows proprietors to vend their properties directly to purchasers without engaging traditional lenders. This form of funding can be an appealing option for both marketers and purchasers, distinctly in scenarios where traditional funding is challenging to gain. In this piece, we will scrutinize the procedure of landlord funding for residences, encompassing its advantages and potential inconveniences for both factions implicated. What Is Landlord Funding? Landlord funding, also recognized as vendor funding or vendor carryback, is a real estate transaction in which the dealer of a property delivers funding for the purchaser. 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2024.05.14 05:10 vickyss123 Your experienced being Separated from BPD spouse? Mine is acting very different
Less than 3 weeks ago I finally had my husband removed and he is now living at a men’s group home that includes mandatory therapies and DBT five times per week. He got a job already (was unemployed with me for 8 months). It’s an entry level job but at least it’s a job.
Basically he has been doing everything he should have been doing here. He said he’s trying to be positive and rock bottom needed to happen in order for him to get his shit together.
He’s been acting like a totally different person. I guess more like he was in the beginning.
I don’t even recognize this person who has all this energy and smiling and confident and outgoing in public and doing everything on his own.
I don’t know how to feel. I’ve been angry. Bitter. It’s still so fresh from the horrow show. Why couldn’t he be this way before? Why did I have to go through so much? Is how I feel. I’ve been mean at least once a day and I have been picking at him, about his job, about his personality being different, etc.
Hes currently mad at me because he feels he’s doing everything he can “for us” and what he’s supposed to be doing, and I’m still mean to him and so now he feels “suicidal and hopeless and violent again”.
Welp, he’s already starting problems at this group home. Bullied one guy. Trying to show dominance I guess. Flipped out on the owners, started drama out of thin air.
I went to a hair appointment for the first time in almost a year (very unlike me to go that long without getting my hair done) and as expected he started blowing up my phone at my appointment flipping out in a made-up crisis claiming he was lost and demanding I pick him up (I hung up on him).
He claims the group home is kicking him out in 2 weeks due to not having state funding. Then he said it was because his drug test for weed is still showing positive and they said when he arrived he has 30 days to get it out of his system. So I don’t know what’s the real story or if he’s getting kicked out because of his behavior.
He’s been giving me the silent treatment not answering calls and says it’s because *I* need to tell him what *i’m* going to do because *I* need help (because Ive been mean). LMAO. I need help?! Yeah, for what I’ve endured!!!
It reminds me of what I am not missing in my own home. It reminds me of why he is not here.
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Basically he has been doing everything he should have been doing here. He said he’s trying to be positive and rock bottom needed to happen in order for him to get his shit together.
He’s been acting like a totally different person. I guess more like he was in the beginning.
I don’t even recognize this person who has all this energy and smiling and confident and outgoing in public and doing everything on his own.
I don’t know how to feel. I’ve been angry. Bitter. It’s still so fresh from the horrow show. Why couldn’t he be this way before? Why did I have to go through so much? Is how I feel. I’ve been mean at least once a day and I have been picking at him, about his job, about his personality being different, etc.
Hes currently mad at me because he feels he’s doing everything he can “for us” and what he’s supposed to be doing, and I’m still mean to him and so now he feels “suicidal and hopeless and violent again”.
Welp, he’s already starting problems at this group home. Bullied one guy. Trying to show dominance I guess. Flipped out on the owners, started drama out of thin air.
I went to a hair appointment for the first time in almost a year (very unlike me to go that long without getting my hair done) and as expected he started blowing up my phone at my appointment flipping out in a made-up crisis claiming he was lost and demanding I pick him up (I hung up on him).
He claims the group home is kicking him out in 2 weeks due to not having state funding. Then he said it was because his drug test for weed is still showing positive and they said when he arrived he has 30 days to get it out of his system. So I don’t know what’s the real story or if he’s getting kicked out because of his behavior.
He’s been giving me the silent treatment not answering calls and says it’s because *I* need to tell him what *i’m* going to do because *I* need help (because Ive been mean). LMAO. I need help?! Yeah, for what I’ve endured!!!
It reminds me of what I am not missing in my own home. It reminds me of why he is not here.
2024.05.14 04:34 ZookeepergameFar6281 POTS, Dysautonomia? Please Help!
Hello, my name is Levi I’m a 28 year old male whom before July of last year was perfectly healthy! So July of last year I was at work and began to get really shaky and weak, this progressed over the next few minutes until I was white as a ghost, on the ground unable to move a muscle and being rushed to the hospital. They said I had heat exhaustion, gave me fluids and sent me home. 2-3 weeks later it happened again which cost me my job at the place I was working. Since then this has became a very serious problem. And ALOT OF OTHER THINGS ARE HAPPENING! My life has literally SHUT DOWN! I can not go anywhere anymore EVER without this being a problem. I’ve missed my sons first steps cause I am unable to go outside in the heat I’ve been on bed rest for almost a YEAR NOW! This doesn’t only happen in the heat but it seems heat is the biggest trigger. I’ve been to probably 30 doctors appointments in the last year to try to figure out WTH is going on with my body. And most of the time they are very dismissive and say I’m fine. I’m loosing weight now. Lots of other GI issues also. And the tremors! The tremors are eye catching to say the least. Let alone all the other symptoms including, vision loss lightheadedness, confusion, memory loss, ANXIETY, and loads of other craziness going on with my body. My daughter starts kindergarten in a couple months and considering her mother passed away a couple years ago I have no idea what I’m going to do about getting her to and from school. Or anything else that involves me leaving the house for that matter. I’m starting to cry a lot now and become VERY depressed thinking that my life is over as I know it! Cause that’s what it feels like. It happened big time today and I just got out of the hospital and am back home. It’s hard for me to even type all this cause I’m so weak and shaky and dizzy. PLEASE anyone out there PLEASE HELP ME with advice or give me advice on what I need to do. I’ve broken down and started doing as much research as possible and POTS and DYSAUTONOMIA stories have related to what’s going on with me the most.
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2024.05.14 04:32 pearlescentflows New job anxiety and self-doubt or gut feeling?
I’m not sure if I used the right flair and I have a feeling this gets mentioned a lot, but I really need someone to listen to me before my next therapy appointment.
I just started a new job today. I work in childcare and I left the familiarity of a frontline “floor position” for a director position. It’s a brand new centre, not open yet but will be open in a couple of months.
All I did today was read policies. I got a tour, but not much onboarding or direction today. I feel very overwhelmed by the role already just by reading the policies and I am already worrying about things that haven’t happened yet (like staffing, board meetings… etc.) the person who used to be director got promoted to a different role and the job was reposted in January. The company reached out to me and asked me to interview in April (I had applied and interviewed for a supervisor position during the winter). I feel like I must have missed a bunch of red flags if no one else wanted the job.
I know I can do most of the role. I used to be a supervisor of a much larger centre and I loved my job, but left due to management. I wasn’t in charge of board meetings and I wasn’t the one responsible for the entire centre though.
I am feeling really freaked out and I don’t know if I am just anxious or if my gut is telling me to bail. I can’t bail though, it’s a good paying job and I literally stressed myself out buying a car for the role (it’s used and paid for, but it’s an expense either way).
I just need advice. Is this normal? What if I made a big mistake?
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I just started a new job today. I work in childcare and I left the familiarity of a frontline “floor position” for a director position. It’s a brand new centre, not open yet but will be open in a couple of months.
All I did today was read policies. I got a tour, but not much onboarding or direction today. I feel very overwhelmed by the role already just by reading the policies and I am already worrying about things that haven’t happened yet (like staffing, board meetings… etc.) the person who used to be director got promoted to a different role and the job was reposted in January. The company reached out to me and asked me to interview in April (I had applied and interviewed for a supervisor position during the winter). I feel like I must have missed a bunch of red flags if no one else wanted the job.
I know I can do most of the role. I used to be a supervisor of a much larger centre and I loved my job, but left due to management. I wasn’t in charge of board meetings and I wasn’t the one responsible for the entire centre though.
I am feeling really freaked out and I don’t know if I am just anxious or if my gut is telling me to bail. I can’t bail though, it’s a good paying job and I literally stressed myself out buying a car for the role (it’s used and paid for, but it’s an expense either way).
I just need advice. Is this normal? What if I made a big mistake?
2024.05.14 04:31 shatteringreality2 My wife really wants children, I do not
To start, my wife (31f) and I (31m) have been together 5 years and married 2. We have an amazing relationship and I cannot imagine a life without her and our two dogs. We love to travel, spend time together and we are basically best friends. We work from home on our business and spend most of our time together (well at least in the house, I am usually on my computer and she does house stuff and watches TV).
We have been trying for a baby for a year now without success, I convinced myself that it would be nice to have a child who we can raise, mostly because she wants one so much. But I have finally confronted this feeling that deep down I still want to be free, travel more, have more fun and that I do not want a child, YET. I told her yesterday how I really feel, we had a fertility appointment that I just cancelled which we were supposed to go to today (she told me to cancel it, I was still ok with going to see if there was a problem). I have had this feeling deep down that I am not ready yet, and just came to realization that this was what has been bothering me. I have voiced this opinion many times before convincing myself that maybe I do want a child. I started to believe that maybe a child isn't so bad because we both have caring parents who could watch out kids if we go on a vacation/out but that honestly sounds a bit delusional on my part. We have all the freedom in the world right now and we have been taking advantage of it by going to Mexico for a month, Japan, Europe in the last year and I just don't want this to end.
She wants a baby because she is convinced that she is getting way too old to have a child and that her time is running out + she doesn't want to be old raising children, and I totally get that, but I am also feeling immense pressure to satisfy her needs without really questioning it since I love her so much. I just wish we could wait a little longer and settle more (buying a house, figuring out our finances, enjoy life).
I tried to talk to her about it just now but she shut down and won't talk to me. I offered that we should try marriage counseling but she doesn't seem to want to/mad at me at the moment and won't listen. Maybe we can get some good advice on how to proceed with this. Hopefully she will listen to me and we can see what a therapist would say and we can try this FIRST before we bring a child into our life. She just took the keys and went out.
I realize it's wrong for me to have gotten cold feet like this all of a sudden, but I honestly did not figure out what was this "looming shadow" I had deep in my head until I actually thought about it and finally it clicked.
Like I said, I believe I will get around to wanting to become a father, just not yet.. There is too much fun I still want to have, preferably with her, without shackling us down.
Thank you!
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We have been trying for a baby for a year now without success, I convinced myself that it would be nice to have a child who we can raise, mostly because she wants one so much. But I have finally confronted this feeling that deep down I still want to be free, travel more, have more fun and that I do not want a child, YET. I told her yesterday how I really feel, we had a fertility appointment that I just cancelled which we were supposed to go to today (she told me to cancel it, I was still ok with going to see if there was a problem). I have had this feeling deep down that I am not ready yet, and just came to realization that this was what has been bothering me. I have voiced this opinion many times before convincing myself that maybe I do want a child. I started to believe that maybe a child isn't so bad because we both have caring parents who could watch out kids if we go on a vacation/out but that honestly sounds a bit delusional on my part. We have all the freedom in the world right now and we have been taking advantage of it by going to Mexico for a month, Japan, Europe in the last year and I just don't want this to end.
She wants a baby because she is convinced that she is getting way too old to have a child and that her time is running out + she doesn't want to be old raising children, and I totally get that, but I am also feeling immense pressure to satisfy her needs without really questioning it since I love her so much. I just wish we could wait a little longer and settle more (buying a house, figuring out our finances, enjoy life).
I tried to talk to her about it just now but she shut down and won't talk to me. I offered that we should try marriage counseling but she doesn't seem to want to/mad at me at the moment and won't listen. Maybe we can get some good advice on how to proceed with this. Hopefully she will listen to me and we can see what a therapist would say and we can try this FIRST before we bring a child into our life. She just took the keys and went out.
I realize it's wrong for me to have gotten cold feet like this all of a sudden, but I honestly did not figure out what was this "looming shadow" I had deep in my head until I actually thought about it and finally it clicked.
Like I said, I believe I will get around to wanting to become a father, just not yet.. There is too much fun I still want to have, preferably with her, without shackling us down.
Thank you!
2024.05.14 04:05 rosalie-bellemore Do you think my baby misses me?
I am back home for two weeks visiting my elderly mother and taking her to medical appointments. My baby is with my husband and his family, so I know he's taken care of. I video call him every day, and at first, I was worried it would upset him. But he never pays attention to me.
He's busy crawling and playing (he's 9.5 months old). He doesn't even look at the camera much even when I'm talking to him. It makes me feel sad like maybe he doesn't even know I'm gone or even miss me.
His sleep has been quite disrupted since I've been away with many more wake-ups in the night. But he is also teething, so I've been attributing it to that. I know I should be glad that he doesn't seem upset, and I am in a way, but it also makes me feel like he doesn't need me. Has anyone else been through this?
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He's busy crawling and playing (he's 9.5 months old). He doesn't even look at the camera much even when I'm talking to him. It makes me feel sad like maybe he doesn't even know I'm gone or even miss me.
His sleep has been quite disrupted since I've been away with many more wake-ups in the night. But he is also teething, so I've been attributing it to that. I know I should be glad that he doesn't seem upset, and I am in a way, but it also makes me feel like he doesn't need me. Has anyone else been through this?
2024.05.14 03:47 Sintellect Several missing teeth and braces options.
I'm trying to be patient but I'm really insecure and tired of having a huge gap during my ortho treatment. I am missing 3 bottom front teeth whixh needed to be pulled due to damage from bruxism, so it's very noticeable. I've had my braces for a year and missing teeth for a year and a half. From what I recall we should we detailing at next appointment so everything is generally in the right place. I know implant process can be long so I'd like to get it started. Honestly im really frustrated that my dentists didnt provide any options and are allowing me to walk around toothless at my age. What can I do.
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2024.05.14 03:34 Temporary_Acadia_145 Would marriage therapy be worth it? Should I just give up?
I'm in dire need of some advice, or comment if you have had similar experiences. I find myself overwhelmed and confused. This will be long, but please bear with me.
I hit perimenopause a year and a half ago. It was bad: hot flashes, UTIs, osteoporosis, atrophy, depression, insomnia.. After taking the estrogen patch, progesterone and DHEA, most health concerns are under control. My husband was pretty supportive throughout. We have been together since 19 years ago, when we met in the UK doing our PhDs. We now live in another country and almost 50 years old. He is from Eastern Europe. No children by choice. I have a mobility impairment since my early twenties due to a very traumatic car accident.
In the last two years I have started training as a Mindfulness practitioner, and my whole outlook on life has changed. My academic career is really not so important anymore. I spend most of my free time training. I have found a lot of peace and happiness in helping people.
After the pandemic, the situation in the country where we live has deteriorated greatly in terms of security, and the University where we work is in crisis. My husband has been getting more and more needy and angry during the last three years. He always relied on me for emotional support, and for regulating his moods. In turn, I relied on him for physical help with things I could not do, and for travelling, etc. It was a happy union before things changed. Now, he gets extremely angry, even aggressive if I dont validate his opinions, or if my arguments or viewpoint is somehow better articulated than his. He has been raising his voice and sulking, even in front of other people when this happens. He has no friends (except mine) or any independent hobby. Politics seem to be his only interest, and he now consumes a lot of Twitter and other forums. He gets worked up there, and takes all his frustration on me. I have suggested he joins some activist group, or a political party to channel his frustration, he refuses. I have also voiced the need for greater tolerance overall, and with my views in particular, to no avail.
His father died in January, and left him a house in his home country. The paperwork on the house is not done, it belongs to both him and his brother, but it is not clear which part of the house belongs to whom. I have asked him to sell it or rent it, since I dont want to keep working until my 70s, I probably physically cant. Ideally, I would like to retire at 60, and in any case think the house should be our egg nest. He has avoided the conversation, or plainly refused. The house we live in is mine, he refused to sign the mortgage. He pays me rent ( a very high one). We have a legal partnership, and our financial assets are not joint.
I dont know if it is the lack of estrogen, but I dont give a fuck anymore. I am tired of taking care of his emotions, and providing social opportunities for his entertainment, plus all the mental load of planning our lives and strategizing. He does most of the housework, but I cook. Now, I have to censor what I say when we talk.. God forbid I have a better idea than him.. or disagree. Yesterday, I told him I want some space and we should have a trial separation, followed by marital counseling. He was shocked, but mainly angry. He said he agreed with the counselling, but he was almost 50, and he was not going to change. I have to say that shocked me, I thought he would be scared of losing our relationship. He also said he is "risk averse" and he was not going to sell his house or find hobbies or friends.
I thought I would grow old with this man. The chances of finding a new partner in the society I live in are zero (I have divorced friends and family members my age). If I am to be divorced, I would need to find some way of making sure I dont become a victim of the security situation, and help with the physical side of life. On the other hand, I can not see how to go on with him.
As usual, I am the one who is going to find the counsellor, make the appointment, etc. Would it be worth it going into it with the intention of making an effort to save the relationship? Should I just give up?
Any advice would be welcome.
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I hit perimenopause a year and a half ago. It was bad: hot flashes, UTIs, osteoporosis, atrophy, depression, insomnia.. After taking the estrogen patch, progesterone and DHEA, most health concerns are under control. My husband was pretty supportive throughout. We have been together since 19 years ago, when we met in the UK doing our PhDs. We now live in another country and almost 50 years old. He is from Eastern Europe. No children by choice. I have a mobility impairment since my early twenties due to a very traumatic car accident.
In the last two years I have started training as a Mindfulness practitioner, and my whole outlook on life has changed. My academic career is really not so important anymore. I spend most of my free time training. I have found a lot of peace and happiness in helping people.
After the pandemic, the situation in the country where we live has deteriorated greatly in terms of security, and the University where we work is in crisis. My husband has been getting more and more needy and angry during the last three years. He always relied on me for emotional support, and for regulating his moods. In turn, I relied on him for physical help with things I could not do, and for travelling, etc. It was a happy union before things changed. Now, he gets extremely angry, even aggressive if I dont validate his opinions, or if my arguments or viewpoint is somehow better articulated than his. He has been raising his voice and sulking, even in front of other people when this happens. He has no friends (except mine) or any independent hobby. Politics seem to be his only interest, and he now consumes a lot of Twitter and other forums. He gets worked up there, and takes all his frustration on me. I have suggested he joins some activist group, or a political party to channel his frustration, he refuses. I have also voiced the need for greater tolerance overall, and with my views in particular, to no avail.
His father died in January, and left him a house in his home country. The paperwork on the house is not done, it belongs to both him and his brother, but it is not clear which part of the house belongs to whom. I have asked him to sell it or rent it, since I dont want to keep working until my 70s, I probably physically cant. Ideally, I would like to retire at 60, and in any case think the house should be our egg nest. He has avoided the conversation, or plainly refused. The house we live in is mine, he refused to sign the mortgage. He pays me rent ( a very high one). We have a legal partnership, and our financial assets are not joint.
I dont know if it is the lack of estrogen, but I dont give a fuck anymore. I am tired of taking care of his emotions, and providing social opportunities for his entertainment, plus all the mental load of planning our lives and strategizing. He does most of the housework, but I cook. Now, I have to censor what I say when we talk.. God forbid I have a better idea than him.. or disagree. Yesterday, I told him I want some space and we should have a trial separation, followed by marital counseling. He was shocked, but mainly angry. He said he agreed with the counselling, but he was almost 50, and he was not going to change. I have to say that shocked me, I thought he would be scared of losing our relationship. He also said he is "risk averse" and he was not going to sell his house or find hobbies or friends.
I thought I would grow old with this man. The chances of finding a new partner in the society I live in are zero (I have divorced friends and family members my age). If I am to be divorced, I would need to find some way of making sure I dont become a victim of the security situation, and help with the physical side of life. On the other hand, I can not see how to go on with him.
As usual, I am the one who is going to find the counsellor, make the appointment, etc. Would it be worth it going into it with the intention of making an effort to save the relationship? Should I just give up?
Any advice would be welcome.
2024.05.14 03:08 dmchealthcare Breaking Boundaries: DMC Virtual Urgent Care's Revolutionary Healthcare Access
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2024.05.14 02:58 redditwastesmyday Wendy's NYC Penthouse sold at loss
I MISS WENDY!!! I Hope she is OK.
Wendy Williams' guardian sold her NYC penthouse for a loss (nypost.com)
The transaction, which closed on May 10, occurred only several years after Williams acquired the Financial District property. It’s also the latest chapter in Williams’ ongoing legal and personal challenges after being diagnosed in 2023 with primary progressive aphasia and frontotemporal dementia.
Records accessed by The Post indicate that Williams, 59, was deemed “incapacitated,” thus necessitating the involvement of a guardian in the decision-making process regarding the sale of her residence.
The three-bedroom, three-bathroom penthouse traded hands for $3.75 million, marking a considerable decrease of $822,000 from its purchase price in July 2021.
An insider close to Williams lamented her circumstances, telling The Post, “Wendy’s dream has always been to live in Manhattan in a dream apartment but never got a chance to d
Prior to the sale, Williams divested herself of all personal belongings housed within the property, including her iconic purple chair, a fixture synonymous with her provocative “Hot Topics” segment that captivated audiences for years.
Meanwhile, at the same time that Williams was selling off her belongings, she was also dealing with a hefty tax problem.
She owed more than half a million dollars in unpaid taxes, which resulted in a federal tax lien. Legal documents revealed that her New York City condo, purchased for $4.5 million in 2021, was affected by this lien.o so. It is a very unfortunate situation.”
Speculation had arisen regarding Williams’ potential relocation to sunny Los Angeles.
But a separate source speaking to Page Six did not know if she would actually go through with it.
“She was asking how to sell her stuff with ‘The Real Real,’ but I don’t think she’s actually moving to Los Angeles. She seems so unwell.”
Spanning more than 2,400 square feet, Williams’ former FiDi residence boasts luxurious amenities characteristic of Manhattan’s elite living spaces.
The main level has a spacious living/dining room area, an open kitchen replete with custom stained walnut cabinetry, granite countertops, and top-of-the-line Miele and Sub-Zero appliances.
The upper level has the primary suite, adorned with an ensuite five-fixture bath boasting opulent marble accents and state-of-the-art fixtures.
In addition to its lavish interiors, the building has an array of amenities, including a fitness center and a Water Club featuring a 60-foot lap pool, a sauna, a steam room and a Jacuzzi.
Williams’ personal and professional struggles have been well-documented over the past year, culminating in her absence from public view following the conclusion of her talk show in 2022.
A series of health issues — also including Graves’ Disease and lymphedema — prompted the appointment of a financial guardian to oversee her affairs, with Williams also seeking treatment for “severe alcohol use” at a rehabilitation facility in Malibu.
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Wendy Williams' guardian sold her NYC penthouse for a loss (nypost.com)
The transaction, which closed on May 10, occurred only several years after Williams acquired the Financial District property. It’s also the latest chapter in Williams’ ongoing legal and personal challenges after being diagnosed in 2023 with primary progressive aphasia and frontotemporal dementia.
Records accessed by The Post indicate that Williams, 59, was deemed “incapacitated,” thus necessitating the involvement of a guardian in the decision-making process regarding the sale of her residence.
The three-bedroom, three-bathroom penthouse traded hands for $3.75 million, marking a considerable decrease of $822,000 from its purchase price in July 2021.
An insider close to Williams lamented her circumstances, telling The Post, “Wendy’s dream has always been to live in Manhattan in a dream apartment but never got a chance to d
Prior to the sale, Williams divested herself of all personal belongings housed within the property, including her iconic purple chair, a fixture synonymous with her provocative “Hot Topics” segment that captivated audiences for years.
Meanwhile, at the same time that Williams was selling off her belongings, she was also dealing with a hefty tax problem.
She owed more than half a million dollars in unpaid taxes, which resulted in a federal tax lien. Legal documents revealed that her New York City condo, purchased for $4.5 million in 2021, was affected by this lien.o so. It is a very unfortunate situation.”
Speculation had arisen regarding Williams’ potential relocation to sunny Los Angeles.
But a separate source speaking to Page Six did not know if she would actually go through with it.
“She was asking how to sell her stuff with ‘The Real Real,’ but I don’t think she’s actually moving to Los Angeles. She seems so unwell.”
Spanning more than 2,400 square feet, Williams’ former FiDi residence boasts luxurious amenities characteristic of Manhattan’s elite living spaces.
The main level has a spacious living/dining room area, an open kitchen replete with custom stained walnut cabinetry, granite countertops, and top-of-the-line Miele and Sub-Zero appliances.
The upper level has the primary suite, adorned with an ensuite five-fixture bath boasting opulent marble accents and state-of-the-art fixtures.
In addition to its lavish interiors, the building has an array of amenities, including a fitness center and a Water Club featuring a 60-foot lap pool, a sauna, a steam room and a Jacuzzi.
Williams’ personal and professional struggles have been well-documented over the past year, culminating in her absence from public view following the conclusion of her talk show in 2022.
A series of health issues — also including Graves’ Disease and lymphedema — prompted the appointment of a financial guardian to oversee her affairs, with Williams also seeking treatment for “severe alcohol use” at a rehabilitation facility in Malibu.
2024.05.14 02:49 itsyerboimartyn How do yall handle the waiting?
I'm currently a month out for my next GI appointment, and it feels years away. Things have gotten so incredibly bad I'm heavily considering going to the ER to see if anything, absolutely anything, can be done.
I'm only tolerating liquids, and sometimes pureed food the consistency of baby food, and that's only about 70% of the time. I have symptoms like nausea and stomach/upper abdominal pain anytime I consume anything. I'm definitely not getting enough nutrients/calories/etc in each day, and because of that I've developed symptoms like dizziness, weakness, and have had severe episodes of pre-syncope, especially when standing in place, showering/drying/getting dressed, or walking.
My Dr is amazing, truly, but the waitlist to see her is severely long and there is no automatic cancelation list. Additionally, parking in that part of the city is incredibly limited. So limited that I couldn't find parking within a mile of the office and had to miss my last appointment/get it rescheduled to next month. I've arranged for my mom to drop me off and then pick me up from the appointment, so thankfully I won't have to worry about parking when it comes time for that appointment.
But how do I handle waiting for that appointment, when I feel like I'm slowly starving? I feel myself wasting away every day and there's little I can do to stop it.
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I'm only tolerating liquids, and sometimes pureed food the consistency of baby food, and that's only about 70% of the time. I have symptoms like nausea and stomach/upper abdominal pain anytime I consume anything. I'm definitely not getting enough nutrients/calories/etc in each day, and because of that I've developed symptoms like dizziness, weakness, and have had severe episodes of pre-syncope, especially when standing in place, showering/drying/getting dressed, or walking.
My Dr is amazing, truly, but the waitlist to see her is severely long and there is no automatic cancelation list. Additionally, parking in that part of the city is incredibly limited. So limited that I couldn't find parking within a mile of the office and had to miss my last appointment/get it rescheduled to next month. I've arranged for my mom to drop me off and then pick me up from the appointment, so thankfully I won't have to worry about parking when it comes time for that appointment.
But how do I handle waiting for that appointment, when I feel like I'm slowly starving? I feel myself wasting away every day and there's little I can do to stop it.
2024.05.14 02:45 crochethookerlol How can I address the issue with my teacher about not having a doctor’s note for missing a presentation due to feeling unwell, especially when I previously lied about having an appointment?
i had a presentation and i wasn’t ready and i was also feeling like crap (i had covid a few days prior). i emailed my teacher (im a senior in hs rn) telling her i had a doctors appointment so i couldn’t make it. she said id have to bring a doctors note so she wouldn’t have to penalize it.
i went to the doctors office to see if i could get one and they said no since i would have had to have an appointment that day in order to get one.
so this made me realize i was screwed. a few days go by and today she asked me if i had a doc note and i said i turned it in to the front office 😭 she contacted them and they said they couldn’t find it which OBVIOUSLY bcuz it doesn’t exist.
this class im taking is a college course which i can get credit for but apparently if i don’t have a doc note i wont receive credit for the class.
im not even thinking abt forging cuz that’s wrong (ik my lie was wrong too) and also knowing my luck, im not risking it. i don’t want to tell the truth either because i just know it will backfire and im literally graduating next week. i don’t even care about not receiveing college credit for this course because apparently it’s not even required. so what’s something i can tell her bcuz i feel like dragging it on is sus cuz if i did have a doc app it would be easy for me to receive the note. so i need a really good reason. please help 😭
and don’t tell me things like why would u lie it won’t get u anywhere etc etc. trust i know. this is smthing ill remember. i’ve learned my lesson, okay👍🏽
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i went to the doctors office to see if i could get one and they said no since i would have had to have an appointment that day in order to get one.
so this made me realize i was screwed. a few days go by and today she asked me if i had a doc note and i said i turned it in to the front office 😭 she contacted them and they said they couldn’t find it which OBVIOUSLY bcuz it doesn’t exist.
this class im taking is a college course which i can get credit for but apparently if i don’t have a doc note i wont receive credit for the class.
im not even thinking abt forging cuz that’s wrong (ik my lie was wrong too) and also knowing my luck, im not risking it. i don’t want to tell the truth either because i just know it will backfire and im literally graduating next week. i don’t even care about not receiveing college credit for this course because apparently it’s not even required. so what’s something i can tell her bcuz i feel like dragging it on is sus cuz if i did have a doc app it would be easy for me to receive the note. so i need a really good reason. please help 😭
and don’t tell me things like why would u lie it won’t get u anywhere etc etc. trust i know. this is smthing ill remember. i’ve learned my lesson, okay👍🏽
2024.05.14 02:36 Accomplished_Bus_931 Picky doggy
 | Hi guys! submitted by Accomplished_Bus_931 to DogAdvice [link] [comments] I have a question about picky eaters. My dog will only eat the raw food I make myself. So a little backstory, she's 5.5 months old Cane corso/lab mix A few weeks back we made the decision to transition her to a raw diet (with the help of nutritionist and blood work by my vet) Soon as I started feeding her raw she started refusing the kibble. She had never been picky before this. The transition happened a bit quicker than I would have liked but I didn't want her to be hungry. I ran out of my food and bought pre made raw food from my local pet store. About 10 days into the raw diet. And she ate it for the first day both breakfast and dinner, THEN started flat out refusing it. I thought I'd just stay strong and eventually she would eat it. But she didn't eat ALL day. She ate a carrot and some treats ( but I didn't want to give her too many and cause her to be even pickier) This morning I decided that I'm going to take her to the vet if she doesn't eat again. And she didn't! In a fit of desperation (I didn't have all the ingredients for her regular recipe) I made a makeshift meal with some of the stewing beef I had in the freezer and about half the other ingredients from her recipe. And she gobbled it down happily! Seeing that I decided to try her regular recipe and went to the grocery store. And she just ate that, hella excited about it too. SO I'm pretty sure I just have a picky eater and I'm hoping that I can get some tips on how to make sure it doesn't get worse. Not eating real food all day really scared the shit out of me. But I've also never had a puppy so I can't tell if my concerns are valid or if dogs just do this sometimes. I'm watching the situation super closely. I have a vet appointment end of the month and I'll ask more questions then but right now I think I just have a picky eaters? How do I make sure she doesn't get more picky? And what should I be watching for as warning signs to a potential health issues? She's full of energy, drinking water fine, being her regular crazy 5 month old doggy self. Anything I'm missing?? -Anxious dog mom (Thank you in advance) |
2024.05.14 02:35 Nawlahhh Child care provider will not refund deposit after terminating care. Should I take her to small claims court ?
Unlicensed home daycare provider had excuse after excuse weekly to not watch our child even though we paid her 550$ bi weekly. In 2.5 months of paid care my son went in maybe 14 days in total. She was making up his illness symptoms even though he was 100% healthy, refusing care, closing for her personal appointments, then followed by complaints of my son not adjusting well and that his crying upset other children, followed by sudden "violent behavior" after 2 months in her care which after 5 full days of complaining resulted in his termination. She ,however, refused to give deposit back so we can pull our son out early and arrange alternative care as she claims deposit is non refundable. According to her parent hand bpok deposit is non refundable abd is there to secure a spot and nothing about keeping it upon termination. She said despite all the "risks" she will watch him for 3 more weeks, however, then again sent him home because he is apparanetly unwell and cannot come back until symptom free except he was 100% symptom free yet again. I missed so much work I can't even count, I had to give up and just find alternative care, and now I am thinking of taking her to court to get our deposit money back and money I had to pay for alternative care. I know it may not be enough details, but I figured I ll ask here in case someone has a good advice.
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2024.05.14 02:20 thatsagooddaytater Needing advice. Did she emotionally / physically cheat?
This is a burner acct. This happened about a few months ago.
I'm not in a good head space so excuse me if I ramble. I will try to keep to contextual importance.
I have an android phone, wife an apple. This message and her response was discovered by me on an iPad. I'm not apple savvy.
I freaking cook great meals, keep the house and yard in tip top shape, I see and take care of the boys more than her because of her hours, fix and work on our cars, fix her family's cars when asked. She and the boys are on my insurance. She makes more than I career wise. Though combined im bringing in and contributing finacially more than her. She does a shit ton with boys school, pta, Dr visits, sign up for sports, laundry.
She did not give me any clues or actions that had me suspicious. This will be tedious but I am typing the screen shot of this only response. It is obvious that there were multiple other conversations that were deleted.
Him: I wanted to appologize. What I am about to say is coming from a real place. I am totally in tune with my relationship with God and my down falling. I realize although that I am totally attracted to everything about you and I would totally marry you if we were single. I also realize the lines that I crossed and the barriers I jumped over. By me not respecting yours and mine marriage with appropriate behavior. I am blocking yours and mine blessing to come. I am totally going to honor you by respecting you and if that time comes when a relationship with you is appropriate then we will cross that line when it gets here. In the mean time I will not say or message any inappropriate messages and I will completely honor our friendship. I will communicate with you as if your husband or my wife was sitting right beside. Vise versa. I am not perfect but I am trying babe. I hope you accept my appology.
My wife response: I miss you too.
Now I know it was easily emotional cheating.
Confrontation was "he is a friend, he dumped his emotional baggage on me, I told him not to talk to me about it..."
She immediately locked down her FB, and changed passcodes. We have been to couples counseling who I she picked (2 different ones). They tried to get me to move on and did not really address this. Since I have been totally withdrawn from her. A few words a day off and on. Then sometimes good days. Then back to thinking about this and back to not talking. I have 2 sons with her with around 10 years married. I am thinking ahead and I personally am financially stable with a liveable passive income on top of a great wage with my career.
Fuck!!! I could snap an oak tree right now.
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I'm not in a good head space so excuse me if I ramble. I will try to keep to contextual importance.
I have an android phone, wife an apple. This message and her response was discovered by me on an iPad. I'm not apple savvy.
I freaking cook great meals, keep the house and yard in tip top shape, I see and take care of the boys more than her because of her hours, fix and work on our cars, fix her family's cars when asked. She and the boys are on my insurance. She makes more than I career wise. Though combined im bringing in and contributing finacially more than her. She does a shit ton with boys school, pta, Dr visits, sign up for sports, laundry.
She did not give me any clues or actions that had me suspicious. This will be tedious but I am typing the screen shot of this only response. It is obvious that there were multiple other conversations that were deleted.
Him: I wanted to appologize. What I am about to say is coming from a real place. I am totally in tune with my relationship with God and my down falling. I realize although that I am totally attracted to everything about you and I would totally marry you if we were single. I also realize the lines that I crossed and the barriers I jumped over. By me not respecting yours and mine marriage with appropriate behavior. I am blocking yours and mine blessing to come. I am totally going to honor you by respecting you and if that time comes when a relationship with you is appropriate then we will cross that line when it gets here. In the mean time I will not say or message any inappropriate messages and I will completely honor our friendship. I will communicate with you as if your husband or my wife was sitting right beside. Vise versa. I am not perfect but I am trying babe. I hope you accept my appology.
My wife response: I miss you too.
Now I know it was easily emotional cheating.
Confrontation was "he is a friend, he dumped his emotional baggage on me, I told him not to talk to me about it..."
She immediately locked down her FB, and changed passcodes. We have been to couples counseling who I she picked (2 different ones). They tried to get me to move on and did not really address this. Since I have been totally withdrawn from her. A few words a day off and on. Then sometimes good days. Then back to thinking about this and back to not talking. I have 2 sons with her with around 10 years married. I am thinking ahead and I personally am financially stable with a liveable passive income on top of a great wage with my career.
Fuck!!! I could snap an oak tree right now.
2024.05.14 02:07 Sweet_like_Salt Quitting adderall, marijuana and eventually hopefully alcohol as well.
Hello all, I just discovered this subreddit and am eager to post about my current progress. I am a new dad and have recently decided to try and get off any substance dependence I may have.
First of all was marijuana as it was the main substance of choice for me for many many years. With the accessibility only becoming more prevalent, I would be stoned basically 24/7 at this was for at least the last 4-5 years. I have been smoking heavily for closer to 10. Today marks 2 weeks off of marijuana entirely and it does feel good although it comes with some hurdles I am grateful and proud that I’ve come this far.
Second is adderall, something I was using at first just for work or when I “needed to get something done”. Long story short it quickly turned into daily use, it was essentially my routine to help me get energy and motivation for the day. 2 weeks off of adderall today as well and I’m thrilled. This does feel like it more of a challenge and I have been diagnosed adhd (via virtual appointment, idk how legit the diagnosis was). But I do miss the energy and motivation I associated with the drug, although I do feel my natural energy slowly returning.
Now I would never say I’ve had a problem with drinking, I am a daily drinker most of the time. 2-3 drinks a night usually. I’m hoping to get to a point where I can ween myself off of alcohol to the point of only on occasion having a drink or 2 or possibly even quitting entirely. I feel like giving up the other 2 has made me more aware of my drinking and I tend to be hard on myself for doing so. Although again I seldom drink enough to actually be drunk I do use it to unwind most nights. I look forward to having a healthy life balance where I no longer feel like I need any substance, including alcohol.
Anyways just wanted to share and see if maybe anyone else has any similar experience?
Best of luck to everyone who is choosing to be better! I know from this experience it can be quite tough but becoming a better version of yourself is awesome and you should be proud.
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First of all was marijuana as it was the main substance of choice for me for many many years. With the accessibility only becoming more prevalent, I would be stoned basically 24/7 at this was for at least the last 4-5 years. I have been smoking heavily for closer to 10. Today marks 2 weeks off of marijuana entirely and it does feel good although it comes with some hurdles I am grateful and proud that I’ve come this far.
Second is adderall, something I was using at first just for work or when I “needed to get something done”. Long story short it quickly turned into daily use, it was essentially my routine to help me get energy and motivation for the day. 2 weeks off of adderall today as well and I’m thrilled. This does feel like it more of a challenge and I have been diagnosed adhd (via virtual appointment, idk how legit the diagnosis was). But I do miss the energy and motivation I associated with the drug, although I do feel my natural energy slowly returning.
Now I would never say I’ve had a problem with drinking, I am a daily drinker most of the time. 2-3 drinks a night usually. I’m hoping to get to a point where I can ween myself off of alcohol to the point of only on occasion having a drink or 2 or possibly even quitting entirely. I feel like giving up the other 2 has made me more aware of my drinking and I tend to be hard on myself for doing so. Although again I seldom drink enough to actually be drunk I do use it to unwind most nights. I look forward to having a healthy life balance where I no longer feel like I need any substance, including alcohol.
Anyways just wanted to share and see if maybe anyone else has any similar experience?
Best of luck to everyone who is choosing to be better! I know from this experience it can be quite tough but becoming a better version of yourself is awesome and you should be proud.