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2020 and K-12 Education

2019.07.21 17:12 Andinio 2020 and K-12 Education

This is a community to discuss the K-12 educational policies of all prospective candidates, whether Democrat or Republican. This can include published statements by the candidate and or hehis supporters as well as hypothetical imaginings of what K-12 education would look like under hehis Administration.
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2024.05.14 21:40 HRJafael Rowe voters back park addition, two-town fire district

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Residents voted in favor of a non-binding resolution to create a shared fire district with Charlemont, to use a portion of town land on Pond Road for park and recreational purposes, and to change the town clerk position from elected to appointed during Monday’s Annual Town Meeting.
Roughly 25 residents gathered at Rowe Elementary School for a roughly one-hour-long Annual Town Meeting that followed a three-article Special Town Meeting.
Residents approved most of the 27 warrant articles, including the town’s roughly $5.29 million fiscal year 2025 budget (Article 7), unanimously without discussion. Residents also approved a residential property tax increase from $5.01 per $1,000 valuation to $5.29 per $1,000 valuation while the town completes the second year of a $1.85 million road resurfacing project.
Article 21, which asked voters to designate an approximately 2-acre wooded parcel of town-owned on Pond Road for park purposes, inspired discussion, with some residents suggesting the land be left as it is, or approved for park purposes under the condition that the town add language protecting residents’ right to hunt on the land.
Resident Fred Williams said since the parcel was set up to be designated parkland in accordance with the “Percy Brown covenant,” or the use restrictions established for the Pelham Lake Park land donated to the town by Percy Brown, hunting would likely not be permitted there.
“There’s one in the language either in the deed or the language of the vote in the Town Meeting has ‘parcels acquired for park purposes,’” Williams explained. “If the sentiment is strong enough [we can] change the wording to allow hunting on this little 2-acre parcel.”
Residents voted to strike references to the covenant from Article 21 before passing it unanimously.
Voters later passed Article 24 unanimously, allowing the town to pursue a shared fire district with the town of Charlemont and to establish a district-wide Prudential Committee to expend the funds approved by district meetings.
According to a statement provided by the Rowe Fire Department, the district would help the two towns combine firefighting equipment and staffing resources to provide better mutual aid services. Rowe Fire also noted that the district’s creation would take about four years after the article’s passage.
“These changes are going to require a huge increase in administration time, record keeping, modifications to current stations, medical physicals for responders, certification for firefighters and officers along with what we are currently burdened with,” the Fire Department stated.
After discussion, residents also passed Articles 22 and 23 to amend the town’s general bylaws, making the town clerk position a Selectboard-appointed position, rather than its current status as an elected position. According to Selectboard Chair Chuck Sokol, the change is intended to allow the town to promptly fill the position in the event of a sudden resignation or if the town clerk is not satisfactorily performing required duties.
“We have been very fortunate in that the last several town clerks we’ve had are effective at their role,” Sokol said. “That’s not necessarily always the case and when there is an elected position that is derelict in their duties, which are very important duties, the mechanism to remove or replace that official is through a recall election.”
In response to resident Bill Reardon’s concern that the power of elections should be left to residents, and not local government bodies, Finance Committee Chair Dan Pallotta noted that an elected official could, in theory, be absent for three years and remain on the town’s payroll.
“It’s a modern world now and we need checks and balances, unfortunately,” Pallotta said. Monday’s meeting concluded with the announcement that after roughly seven years serving on the Selectboard, Sokol will not seek reelection in Saturday’s town election. In an interview, Sokol said he will soon be moving to Braintree. Bill Baker, who formerly owned Baker Office Supply in Greenfield, will run for Sokol’s position through a write-in campaign.
“The town of Rowe is a delightful town and is well supported by its community,” Sokol said. “It’s been a pleasure to serve on the Selectboard. I felt very supported in that role, but life takes different turns and it was time for a change.”
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2024.05.14 21:38 Chaos_and_Karma Moving the Kyron Horman Investigation from MCSO to State Police

As we near the 14th anniversary of Kyron Horman disappearing from Skyline Elementary School in Portland, we are asking Governor Tina Kotak to move his investigation from the Multnomah County Sheriff's Office to the Oregon State Police. It is time for a fresh set of eyes to take over this case in hopes of resolving it.
www.change.org/BringKyronHome
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2024.05.14 21:36 DRelEdentudent Math and programming tutoring - Elementary to high school

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2024.05.14 21:35 DRelEdentudent Math and programming tutoring - elementary to high school

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2024.05.14 21:33 VioletSnake9 Question about absences

I tried asking under legaladvise and they recommended asking here
In North Carolina can a public elementary school refuse doctors notes and mark all absences as unexused? My sisters school has a policy that if a student exceeds 16 days of unexused absences then they must either repeat their grade level or attened summer school. My sister currently has 15 days of absences but 11 out of those 15 have doctors notes due to illness. The school sent home a letter recently stating that my sister is in jeopardy of repeating her grade and to sign to acknowledge summer school as an option. Her teacher said that she is currently above grade level and not to worry but when my mom called the attendance office they told her they will not waive the days she has doctors notes for and that if she misses 2 more days she will have to do summer school.
TL;DR: Can an elementary school force my sister to attend summer school even if she has excused absences with doctors notes and her teacher said she is preforming well.
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2024.05.14 21:31 DRelEdentudent Math and computer programming tutor from elementary to high school

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2024.05.14 21:30 Practical_Step_3930 Even if things do get better I'll never get to experience what I missed out on

I'm in highschool and at the start of it I was always annoyed with the "it gets better after highschool" but, in my case I think it actually will. (in relation to me having bad social anxiety and being friendless to be clear)
I got a job and actually talk to my one co-worker and am able to talk to customers despite having really bad social anxiety. Before I thought I'd never be able to work because I didn't think I could phyiscally interact with others.
This is all great but, it doesn't change the fact that I still at this current momment outside of work am all alone. I've never had friends, elementary and middle school I was picked on and just spent every momment alone in my room outside of school. In school I was of course silent though.
I don't have the best family either and I think theres a good chance I won't be in contact with them when I'm older.
It just really sucks. Things can get better I supposse but, I'll never have any childhood friends. I'll never have any childhood memmories really because I just spent them all alone in my room. No one to share with.
Currently in HS like I said and it really doesn't suck for most people. I have a school of 1200 people and I've seen no more than 10 people eating alone at lunch or being silent like me. Most people actually enjoy themselves.
I wont go to prom. Never went to any dances for that matter (even if they're overrated I just think the experience of going with friends atleast would've been nice). Never celebrated a birthday, probably won't when I'm older either since bday celebrations don't really happen.
Haven't gone to any "last day of schools" either because whats the point? Just a "class party" where everyone talks and eats together while I'd just sit in a corner.
Things really suck for me right in this momment yes but, I'm atleast a bit optimistic college will be far better for me, me just having independence as an adult will be better in generel yet, I don't think I'll ever not be a bit bitter I wasn't able to enjoy anything or do anything in my childhood/teen years.
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2024.05.14 21:27 Aurora_yyy Classmate sauna nga maestro na karon

Naa koy classmate before sa highschool ba na usa ka 'mahuyang'. Ilado siya sa school na kiat og hilig anang mga gwapo. Kusog sad siya manabi nga naa lage daw siyay mga na uyab ug naka "oral" nga mga mas bata sa iyaha sa among school ra pud ex. grade six ug mga first year HS.
Now, I found out na ni graduate diay siya isip teacher and nag work karon sa usa ka elementary school. Dili ko ganahan mo judge sa iyaha ba pero medyo nakaila nagyud pud ko niya og na worry ko for his students.
I just pray nausab na siya.
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2024.05.14 21:27 stee3l How do I tolerate it anymore

I really need advice on this because I dont even know what to do anymore. Im in highschool and im running for president. Iv been writing a speech for it and I was excited to run. There are two lunches in my school Lunch A and Lunch B. Im in B and most of my "friends" are in A. Today I was told that they were shitting on the idea of me being president. Just making fun of me. Not only of trying to run, but the race that I am (im Indian). They were just talking about how I love curry and they would not vote for a scammer to run our class. Just making fun of me the whole time. This has happened before and I just thought it was jokes cause thats how we do joke. But this has happened for a long time and its slowly getting to my head. I cant take this anymore. At first I thought It was just funny calling me indian but now I cant tell if they are joking anymore. They act cool if we are talking 1 on 1 or there are 3 of us but when it becomes a group then they would just make fun of me and I cant take it anymore. Just making fun of my culture and making fun of my family. They have made me self conscious of my race. I am ashamed of being indian. I dont want to tell them either that what they say upsets me because they either will think im a pussy or dont care and do it more. Am I being soft? this has been happening for 2 years now. Things like "foot stew" was funny at first but its now like "your all scammers," "your country is dirty," "you live at a call center." "would you rather be white or Indian?" "your lying why would you want to be Indian?" "if I was Indian I would kill myself." What should I do?
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2024.05.14 21:20 theashlynbrooke Almost Done with BOTW - Hogwarts Legacy or ToTK next?

Hi yall! So I've logged 140+ hours on BOTW and I'm nearing 100% completion (I know 140 hours is a lot for a single play-through, but this is my very first time playing any video game that isn't the Sims or Animal Crossing, so it took me a while to get the hang of). Anyways, I'm on the hunt for my next game, and I want something that is similar in style, format, and lore.
I've been wanting to play Hogwarts Legacy since it was announced, and I've been hearing mixed reviews about it. I was a massive HP fan from elementary school to high school, but because of the awful person JKR is, I've stuck to only fan-made content and non-JKR centric lore. I believe she did receive royalties for HL, but it was a set amount paid out to her regardless of game sales, so I don't think purchasing the game would put money in her pockets.
My other option is ToTK; I know that ToTK is the newest Zelda game, but I've heard complaints that it's too similar to BOTW- I've heard it gets rid of the best features of BOTW and replaces them with absolutely awful features. I'm worried that if ToTK would be my next play-through directly after BOTW, I'd get burnt out / bored; if it's too similar, knowing myself, I'd need kind of a palate cleanser, considering the map is literally the same, the visuals are the same, weapons are the same, etc.
Can anyone offer any helpful insight?
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2024.05.14 21:19 Jazzlike_Elk_6535 I'm an irredeemable monster who deserves nothing but suffering and a slow painful death.

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I truly don't know what to do anymore, I'm completely lost.
I'm a 20 year old male with autism and possible OCD.
There are many things I want to talk about so this is going to be really long and unorganised.
From age 18 up until last year, I viewed and masturbated to CSAM, and the way I went about getting hold of it is equally bad, if not worse. I cannot express in words the shame and remorse I feel for this.
I know most of you hate me now and I don't blame you, and I guarantee you I hate myself more for it.
The most confusing part about it is I don't find children attractive, there's no groinal response, urges, desires, arousal, nothing. I don't even take a second glance or stare, the only thing I have is intrusive thoughts. Recently I was sat in the corner of a crowded bus, and since there was nowhere else to sit, three boys, none of which could have been older than 13 sat by me, one next to me, and the other two across from me, to which I felt nothing of that nature whatsoever.
My instincts when I've been around children in recent times is purely parental and protective.
I'd never hurt a child, especially in that way, I'd slit my wrists or set myself on fire before I did that, I might just slit my wrists anyway.
I'd run into a burning building, I'd run out onto a busy road, I'd give my life to save a child's life.
I don't go out of my way to be around children, I find them for the most part irritating, I don't hate them though. Throughout my entire life I preferred the company of adults. I even live across from a playground ffs.
I'm scarred for life by some of the things I saw in those images and videos, how the hell could someone do something like that?! I want to climb through the screen and protect those kids, give them a hug and let them know nothing can hurt them anymore.
I stumbled across an image hosting site when I was 16 whilst trying to find material involving my peers again, and the site hosted lots of cropped images of teens on webcams and older kids on webcams (it was obvious what they were doing), and on the page for the accounts, it usually displayed an email where stuff could be traded, but I didn't pursue that until 2 years later.
I went about acquiring it through sending old images and videos of myself, and in a lot worse way as well.
Starting from 14 up until last year, I very occasionally placed my phone in the bathroom and filmed my friends urinating, this happened definitely less than ten times, and most of them I deleted from everywhere, but I kept one and a screenshot of a few others, I started posting these images, as well as my own nudes, on an old reddit account which was deleted not long after, I made sure to hide their identities while doing this, I enjoyed the attention and compliments I would get, and I loved bigging up my friends and seeing them get compliments.
Then I used this content to acquire the bad stuff years later, including the stuff of me.
I had an Idea that this was considered wrong but I didn't understand how it could have been harmful.
This happened to less than 5 friends, all the content I had I have long since deleted and wiped any access to, and I have no intention to do this again, but the main issue is the fact that copies could have been made of it, and I accidentally sent the uncropped video once. There's the possibility none of this stuff is out there, but it's still vile and repulsive.
One of them was my closest friend, who I had known basically all my life, I broke down to him and told him what I had done and what I believe does me to this awful, reprehensible place, and you know what he did? He told me he forgave me and that some video possibly being out there doesn't phase him and his life isn't ruined at all and it will go on either way.
But he understandably said we can't see each other anymore, that he still loves me, believes I'm a good person and wants me to live a good life and make the world a better place, which was a dream of ours.
It's extra difficult because we were so close, we had experienced so much together, held all the same interests and beliefs, and I loved him only like family could, so the fact I committed this vile act of betrayal rids me with so much shame, and deservedly so. In a way I find it harder to get through because I didn't understand the true consequences of my actions and how this could have affected him and others, it would be less confusing and easier to accept I'm just the lowest form of humanity that way.
I displayed other problematic behaviours from a young age, all to do with boundary issues, I sometimes used to touch my friends when I was 12 but never their actual genitals, and I used to jokingly show my erection to people as well.
The only constant that I knew for certain is wrong is genuine rape and molestation, which is a line I know for certain I could never cross, and never will.
From a very young age (around 3 or 4) my mother would do very inappropriate party tricks around me with her friends late at night when they were drinking, her friends would call me sexy, and as I got older and hit puberty, she started making comments about my bulge and other things despite the fact I hated it and told her so.
When I was 7 I was groomed and molested by an 8 year old boy, I wanted him to help me pass a level on my DS game and he said he'll do it if I have sex with him, me being 7 I didn't understand what that was and with him being older I complied. We were naked during this, he fondled my genitals and got me to do the same to him, he inserted his fingers into my anus as well.
When I was 10, two of my close friends groomed me, they simulated blowjobs on each other and got me to do the same to them.
When I was 11, my 12 year old friend groomed and molested me despite me protesting, he got me to get in my bed with him and he rubbed up against me. Earlier that day he also got me to sit in his lap whilst cuddling me from behind, we were wearing underwear.
When I was 13, that same friend when he was nearly 14 and another friend who was already 14 groomed and molested me in my pool again, I had an erection in the pool and jokingly showed one of them it, and it escalated from there. They both got naked and got me to do so, I protested but eventually gave in to the pressure, they also showed each other their genitals and got me to do the same, later that boy got me to sit in his lap again whilst the older boy rubbed up against me.
There was also just the normal experimenting stuff, one of my friends used to show me his erections and I would do the same.
All of my friends were going through puberty and their bodies were changing and so was mine, which I found incredibly fascinating and arousing, and I had seen most of my friends genitals and some other students genitals throughout growing up, so me being young and autistic, I became very curious.
Kids before finishing Elementary/Primary School were swearing and talking about sex, then as I got older (11) kids were drinking, smoking, doing drugs, talking about masturbation habits and apparently having genuine sex. Then by the time I was 13, there was a lot of students taking nudes, nudes being spread around school and nudes being leaked (including mine, which distressed me for a few days, but only because people knew they were mine, if they were spread around but they didn't know it was me, I wouldn't have cared), kids with condoms and other stuff etc.
I started watching non-pornographic sexual content online (sex scenes from movies, TV shows, games etc) at age 9 which I would genuinely get an erection from watching.
At age 10 I hit puberty (testicles largened) and I started masturbating to non pornographic stuff. Including videos of animals mating. I also tried to find stuff involving my peers and found a fake video of stuff suggestive of that.
At 11 I started to grow pubic hair and had my first ejaculations, as well as discover porn, and I had my first crush which was on a 12 year old boy who was another friend, who I would masturbate to. This crush lasted a number of years, but he was straight so it couldn't go anywhere. This was also the age I started taking nudes and videos of me masturbating.
At 12 I started to grow underarm har and facial hair began to appear on my upper lip, I was watching porn very heavily at this point.
At 13 my voice had broken and I was nearly my full adult height, this was also the age I first masturbated to a non-sexual nude image of a child. As well as videos of stuff like naturism and videos of circumcision (I don't have a pain or gore fetish, I would just blank it out and focus on the genitals.)
By 14 I was my full adult height, I had adult sized ejacualtions and my penis had fully grown. And that is when I started posting my nudes online. To which I would have sexual conversations with adults, not knowing I was setting myself up to be groomed and have something normalised in my head which shouldn't be.
By 15 I was growing facial hair, as well as chest and abdominal hair. And I found a shotacon involving a boy my age having sex with an adult woman, and I would pretend to be him.
At 17, a 19 year old flirted with me and got me into sending nudes to him, and he did the same, which I didn't see as bad and despite it being technically illegal, I still don't.
I also did the same when I was 19 with a 17 year old stranger online, but they were very willing and I didn't pressure them, no personal info was shared between us.
I also messaged a 15 and 14 year old at some point but stopped myself from letting it go any further. And cut them off before anything could be shared.
And when I started watching the CSAM, it was mostly teens 9n webcams that I watched, I was lured into thinking that this content isn't kids being assaulted or anything (which it is) and due to my experiences twisting my view, I thought kids were enjoying it (which they weren't) since I would have had enjoyed it at that age (which I wouldn't have) it wasn't until I saw unmistakable suffering which is when I stopped and vowed to never go there again. It was mostly stuff involving boys, the stuff involving girls I just found too revolting. I wanted to relive those experiences, go back to a time I was happier. It felt safe and comforting.
All of these experiencs warped my views and understanding of things, desensitised me and made me believe things were ok that weren't and that kids aren't as innocent as they are seen to be (which they are). I have never commited rape or an act of molestation and never will, these are acts I've always seen as vile and disgusting.
I've suffered with mental health issues for a long time as well.
I've struggled with feelings of self-hatred and worthlessness since around 9 or 10.
I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety at 13, I've been self harming and suicidal since 15, I've also been attempting suicide since 15.
I've always felt like the odd one out, I always felt like I was the worst at everything, I was the one who was left out of games at school, the one who was always picked last in sports.
I was bullied a lot growing up, by students and occasionally teachers alike.
My mother is narcissistic and has been emotionally and occasionally physically abusive to me since I was 14 (telling me she hates me and that everyone else hates me, tells me how horrible I am, tells me that I should kill myself and do everyone a favour, threatened to stab me in my sleep, hit me on the occasion, bit me, threw things at me, including heavy things and glass, strangled me).
I truly don't know what to do anymore, I'm completely lost.
I'm a 20 year old male with autism and possible OCD.
There are many things I want to talk about so this is going to be really long and unorganised.
From age 18 up until last year, I viewed and masturbated to CSAM, and the way I went about getting hold of it is equally bad, if not worse. I cannot express in words the shame and remorse I feel for this.
I know most of you hate me now and I don't blame you, and I guarantee you I hate myself more for it.
The most confusing part about it is I don't find children attractive, there's no groinal response, urges, desires, arousal, nothing. I don't even take a second glance or stare, the only thing I have is intrusive thoughts. Recently I was sat in the corner of a crowded bus, and since there was nowhere else to sit, three boys, none of which could have been older than 13 sat by me, one next to me, and the other two across from me, to which I felt nothing of that nature whatsoever.
I'm sexually attracted to males 20 and over, and I'm romantically and sexually attracted to females 20 and over, I wouldn't even date an 18 or 19 year old.
My instincts when I've been around children in recent times is purely parental and protective.
I'd never hurt a child, especially in that way, I'd slit my wrists or set myself on fire before I did that, I might just slit my wrists anyway.
I'd run into a burning building, I'd run out onto a busy road, I'd give my life to save a child's life.
I don't go out of my way to be around children, I find them for the most part irritating, I don't hate them though. Throughout my entire life I preferred the company of adults. I even live across from a playground ffs.
I'm scarred for life by some of the things I saw in those images and videos, how the hell could someone do something like that?! I want to climb through the screen and protect those kids, give them a hug and let them know nothing can hurt them anymore.
I stumbled across an image hosting site when I was 16 whilst trying to find material involving my peers again, and the site hosted lots of cropped images of teens on webcams and older kids on webcams (it was obvious what they were doing), and on the page for the accounts, it usually displayed an email where stuff could be traded, but I didn't pursue that until 2 years later.
I went about acquiring it through sending old images and videos of myself, and in a lot worse way as well.
Starting from 14 up until last year, I very occasionally placed my phone in the bathroom and filmed my friends urinating, this happened definitely less than ten times, and most of them I deleted from everywhere, but I kept one and a screenshot of a few others, I started posting these images, as well as my own nudes, on an old reddit account which was deleted not long after, I made sure to hide their identities while doing this, I enjoyed the attention and compliments I would get, and I loved bigging up my friends and seeing them get compliments.
Then I used this content to acquire the bad stuff years later, including the stuff of me.
I had an Idea that this was considered wrong but I didn't understand how it could have been harmful.
This happened to less than 5 friends, all the content I had I have long since deleted and wiped any access to, and I have no intention to do this again, but the main issue is the fact that copies could have been made of it, and I accidentally sent the uncropped video once. There's the possibility none of this stuff is out there, but it's still vile and repulsive.
One of them was my closest friend, who I had known basically all my life, I broke down to him and told him what I had done and what I believe does me to this awful, reprehensible place, and you know what he did? He told me he forgave me and that some video possibly being out there doesn't phase him and his life isn't ruined at all and it will go on either way.
But he understandably said we can't see each other anymore, that he still loves me, believes I'm a good person and wants me to live a good life and make the world a better place, which was a dream of ours.
It's extra difficult because we were so close, we had experienced so much together, held all the same interests and beliefs, and I loved him only like family could, so the fact I committed this vile act of betrayal rids me with so much shame, and deservedly so. In a way I find it harder to get through because I didn't understand the true consequences of my actions and how this could have affected him and others, it would be less confusing and easier to accept I'm just the lowest form of humanity that way.
The other two friends I stopped communicating with, I wiped the account wiped the content from all areas they were stored on, deleted what they were stored, everything, and there is a possibility it's not out their at all.
I displayed other problematic behaviours from a young age, all to do with boundary issues, I sometimes used to touch my friends when I was 12 but never their actual genitals, and I used to jokingly show my erection to people as well.
The only constant that I knew for certain is wrong is genuine rape and molestation, which is a line I know for certain I could never cross, and never will.
From a very young age (around 3 or 4) my mother would do very inappropriate party tricks around me with her friends late at night when they were drinking, her friends would call me sexy, and as I got older and hit puberty, she started making comments about my bulge and other things despite the fact I hated it and told her so.
When I was 7 I was groomed and molested by an 8 year old boy, I wanted him to help me pass a level on my DS game and he said he'll do it if I have sex with him, me being 7 I didn't understand what that was and with him being older I complied. We were naked during this, he fondled my genitals and got me to do the same to him, he inserted his fingers into my anus as well.
When I was 10, two of my close friends groomed me, they simulated blowjobs on each other and got me to do the same to them.
When I was 11, my 12 year old friend groomed and molested me despite me protesting, he got me to get in my bed with him and he rubbed up against me. Earlier that day he also got me to sit in his lap whilst cuddling me from behind, we were wearing underwear.
When I was 13, that same friend when he was nearly 14 and another friend who was already 14 groomed and molested me in my pool again, I had an erection in the pool and jokingly showed one of them it, and it escalated from there. They both got naked and got me to do so, I protested but eventually gave in to the pressure, they also showed each other their genitals and got me to do the same, later that boy got me to sit in his lap again whilst the older boy rubbed up against me.
There was also just the normal experimenting stuff, one of my friends used to show me his erections and I would do the same.
All of my friends were going through puberty and their bodies were changing and so was mine, which I found incredibly fascinating and arousing, and I had seen most of my friends genitals and some other students genitals throughout growing up, so me being young and autistic, I became very curious.
Kids before finishing Elementary/Primary School were swearing and talking about sex, then as I got older (11) kids were drinking, smoking, doing drugs, talking about masturbation habits and apparently having genuine sex. Then by the time I was 13, there was a lot of students taking nudes, nudes being spread around school and nudes being leaked (including mine, which distressed me for a few days, but only because people knew they were mine, if they were spread around but they didn't know it was me, I wouldn't have cared), kids with condoms and other stuff etc.
I started watching non-pornographic sexual content online (sex scenes from movies, TV shows, games etc) at age 9 which I would genuinely get an erection from watching.
At age 10 I hit puberty (testicles largened) and I started masturbating to non pornographic stuff. Including videos of animals mating. I also tried to find stuff involving my peers and found a fake video of stuff suggestive of that.
At 11 I started to grow pubic hair and had my first ejaculations, as well as discover porn, there was also an image I masturbated to which depicted a boy of my age giving oral to a man, and I had my first crush which was on a 12 year old boy who was another friend, who I would masturbate to. This crush lasted a number of years, but he was straight so it couldn't go anywhere. This was also the age I started taking nudes and videos of me masturbating.
At 12 I started to grow underarm har and facial hair began to appear on my upper lip, I was watching porn very heavily at this point.
At 13 my voice had broken and I was nearly my full adult height, this was also the age I first masturbated to a non-sexual nude image of a child. As well as videos of stuff like naturism and videos of circumcision (I don't have a pain or gore fetish, I would just blank it out and focus on the genitals.)
By 14 I was my full adult height, I had adult sized ejacualtions and my penis had fully grown. And that is when I started posting my nudes online. To which I would have sexual conversations with adults, not knowing I was setting myself up to be groomed and have something normalised in my head which shouldn't be.
By 15 I was growing facial hair, as well as chest and abdominal hair. And I found a shotacon involving a boy my age having sex with an adult woman, and I would pretend to be him.
At 17, a 19 year old flirted with me and got me into sending nudes to him, and he did the same, which I didn't see as bad and despite it being technically illegal, I still don't.
I also did the same when I was 19 with a 17 year old stranger online, but they were very willing and I didn't pressure them, no personal info was shared between us.
I also messaged a 15 and 14 year old at some point but stopped myself from letting it go any further. And cut them off before anything could be shared, or any messages could be exchanged for that matter.
And when I started watching the CSAM, it was mostly teens 9n webcams that I watched, I was lured into thinking that this content isn't kids being assaulted or anything (which it is) and due to my experiences twisting my view, I thought kids were enjoying it (which they weren't) since I would have had enjoyed it at that age (which I wouldn't have), it wasn't until I saw unmistakable suffering which is when I stopped and vowed to never go there again. It was mostly stuff involving boys, the stuff involving girls I just found too revolting. I wanted to relive those experiences, go back to a time I was happier. It felt safe and comforting. It was relatable.
All of these experiencs warped my views and understanding of things, desensitised me and made me believe things were ok that weren't and that kids aren't as innocent as they are seen to be (which they are). I have never commited rape or an act of molestation and never will, these are acts I've always seen as vile and disgusting.
I've suffered with mental health issues for a long time as well.
I've struggled with feelings of self-hatred and worthlessness since around 9 or 10.
I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety at 13, I've been self harming and suicidal since 15, I've also been attempting suicide since 15.
I've always felt like the odd one out, I always felt like I was the worst at everything, I was the one who was left out of games at school, the one who was always picked last in sports.
I was bullied a lot growing up, by students and occasionally teachers alike, and even my boss at my first job.
My mother is a heavy drinker, narcissistic and has been emotionally and occasionally physically abusive to me since I was 14 (telling me she hates me and that everyone else hates me, tells me how horrible I am, tells me that I should kill myself and do everyone a favour, threatened to stab me in my sleep, hit me on the occasion, bit me, threw things at me, including heavy things and glass, strangled me). There was also manipulation tactics like gaslighting, she alienated me from others by telling her friends and family how awful I was. Pushed me into meltdowns and got me to lash out, to which she called the police and got me arrested and made me look like the bad one on multiple occasions.
My father was a drug addict who died when I was 14, I saw him less than ten times my whole life, he grew drugs in my room when I was an infant, my most distinct memory is him coming to my house very late one night when I was around 9 or 10 talking about demons and bad spirits.
Addiction runs in my family (my father's father is an equally heavy drinker, his mother is a drug addict who ran a brothel), so the addictive tendencies have been past down to me.
I probably was addicted to porn by 13, and had been feeding it for years without knowing it.
My adopted grandfather died when I was 4, and my adopted grandmother (which I lived with from birth) who was my guiding light, died less than a week before my dad did.
The only father figure I really had (who was an alcoholic but otherwise very good with me) was my mother's partner who she met when I was 6, and he died when I was 8.
I was also very close to my mother's best friend, who had been more of a mother to me than my actual one had been some time died when I was 17.
My mother had an abusive ex who stalked her and threatened to set fire to the house, who also left ranting letters and stood in the back garden at night, so we lived in fear of stuff like that for over a year from when I was 12 through 13.
She also had an abusive lodger who was an even heavier drinker than she is, so from when I was 14 through 16 I witnessed them physically fight, both get arrested and on a few occasions I had to defend her from him.
Many of my friends have betrayed me over the years (I know I'm one to talk) but when this started to happen I would have never dreamed of betraying anyone, personal stuff was shared about me which I trusted them with, there was a lot of bad talking about me without me knowing. My toe closest friend turned on me at age 12 and isolated me from my other friends, I blamed myself at the time which I why I moved schools at 13 since I thought I was just making everyone miserable.
I didn't get diagnosed with autism until I was q9 despite trying to get it since I was 12, it hurt knowing I had been paying my whole life for being different, feeling ashamed of who I am (and rightly so now really), wondering why what I said was offensive, why I didn't understandfulky why this was wrong, why I was so sensitive to jokes, why I took e everyhing literally, why I made impulsive and reckless decisions without understanding the consequences of them.
I was never considered attractive and was ridiculed for it (girls used to jokingly flirt with me to torment me at school). I'm 5'6, always have struggled with weight, hairline started receding at 16, eczema so my skin is always red, dry and flaky, really bad diastema and acid reflux which means it's really hard to make my breath smell nice and my teeth are very worn because of it. I have had sex with someone who was older than me and we were both consenting adults, and we were both very respectful of boundaries.
I was also desensitised to other things slide gore and violence, I played a lot of violent video games when I was a kid, my mother is really into controversial shock movies (she got me to watch Cannibal Holocaust with her when I was 11).
The worst part about all of this is the fact all my friends who I love would hate me if they knew about what I've done so, none of them would trust me anymore or respect me, which is what friendships are all about right? So in a way they feel strange, they feel fake.
I could never find a relationship or true love because nobody wants to date a serial sex offender.
I hate knowing the fact I'm a sex offender, it's eating me alive.
I'm not registered and there is no real proof of what I did, so I can't turn myself in or anything.
I want to do good in the world, I have so much love to give, but it feels wrong me helping people because it feels like there is a sinister undertone to everything I do.
I've always enjoyed being charitable, I love giving money to the homeless or putting change in a donations box.
I feel guilty whenever I feel hapoy since I don't deserve to be, the only things that I enjoy now are food and playing video games, it's the only job I get out of day to day life.
The only fate I deserve is being stabbed to death in prison or something.
All I want is to be loved and accepted despite my flaws and mistakes, but I never could be.
The only other person I've told is my mother, who has been supportive.
I've been on antidepressants since 18 and I'm trying to get therapy, but I'm not hoping or expecting anything good will happen from this. I've been in and out of therapy since I was 11.
I had dreams, I had aspirations, I wanted to change the world for the better, I wanted to have a son, not to hurt him, but so he doesn't end up like me, but I reliase that is not possible. I don't deserve to be around children.
I hate keeping secrets, but I have no choice but to keep this one.
I want to identify with good people, but I can't.
Every good thing I do is invalidated now.
I forgive everyone who has wronged me in anyway, since I'm worse than them.
I just pray I can go out doing good, doing the right thing.
I am no better than Jimmy Saville, Ian Watkins or any of them types of people.
If you want to motivate me to end it all, feel free.
If you have read through all of this, thank you.
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2024.05.14 21:13 como365 Four important numbers in Missouri's FY 2025 budget

JEFFERSON CITY — The Missouri General Assembly met its constitutional mandate to pass a state budget Friday, sending to Gov. Mike Parson a $51.7 billion package that funds essential services like the state’s health care and public education system.
The final number is about $1 billion under what the governor proposed at the beginning of the year. He has the power to eliminate specific spending items.
Here are four key numbers you should know about the Fiscal Year 2025 state budget.
— $6,760 —
The state adequacy target is the baseline per pupil funding provided to school districts by the state. It was unchanged for four years until this year, when it was bumped to $6,760 from $6,375. The funding has failed to keep pace with inflation over the last 17 years. In 2007, the target established by the legislature was $9,575 per pupil after adjusting for inflation.
A major education bill raising minimum teacher pay to $40,000 a year and expanding charter schools to Boone County, among other provisions, passed this session. It comes with a hefty $468 million fiscal note once fully implemented and will cost around $200 million a year for the next few years.
House budget chair Rep. Cody Smith, R-Carthage, said that the steep increase in education spending required going forward wasn’t factored in while composing the FY 2025 budget. None of the mandates in the bill are connected to a funding source, meaning if the state can’t afford them, it would be on local governments to do so.
It’s unclear the likelihood of that possibility. At the beginning of the year the state projected a 0.5% decrease in general revenue over the rest of this fiscal year and the next one. Yet, up to date revenue receipts have shown a different picture. As of April, general revenue collections are up 2.7% year over year.
— 6 —
Six departments requested funds for programs or practices that involved diversity, equity and inclusion in some way. Republicans have targeted DEI in the appropriations process for years. Last year, the House defunded DEI in its version of the budget, but the Senate approved it, keeping it in the budget.
Sen. Denny Hoskins, R-Warrensburg, who introduced the DEI amendment last year, again proposed an amendment to ban state spending on DEI several times while the budget bills were on the Senate floor. It failed by bipartisan votes each time.
Blocking funding to DEI isn’t the first time Republicans have attempted to legislate through the budget bills. The 2022 budget included a provision preventing any Medicaid reimbursements going to Planned Parenthood because it has affiliates in other states that provide abortions. That provision was later struck down by the Missouri Supreme Court.
Even as DEI was protected in the budget, a provision was added by Sen. Tony Luetkemeyer, R-Parkville, to prevent any money from going to a city that has a sanctuary city policy that protects the identity of immigrants.
After failing to block state funds for Planned Parenthood and DEI in the budget process, Republicans have turned to changing statute. The governor already signed a bill passed this session to ban Planned Parenthood from receiving Medicaid reimbursements. A bill banning funds spent on DEI programs in state agencies got initial House approval last week.
Only six agencies have offices relating to diversity, equity and inclusion. Planned Parenthood is unable to provide abortions in Missouri because of the state ban on abortions. No city in the state has a sanctuary city policy.
— 0 —
No public comment was taken throughout the four-month budget process. In an effort to have the budget completed earlier, the process began sooner. Instead, the budget was completed three hours before the constitutional deadline, and the public wasn’t privy to the process’s inner workings.
Smith unveiled his budget plan mid-March, two months before the bills were constitutionally mandated to be passed. In a 30-minute hearing he laid out a $49 billion spending plan and gave committee members a few days to review the whole package and come up with amendments.
About a month later, the Senate held a hearing unveiling its own package without receiving public comment. Its version of the budget bills was unveiled less than two weeks before the budget due date.
A 41-hour filibuster by the Freedom Caucus on the federal reimbursement allowance, a bill that funds a large portion of the state’s healthcare system, further cramped the timeline.
With the clock ticking, Senate Appropriations Committee Chair Sen. Lincoln Hough, R-Springfield, and Smith decided to finalize the budget process themselves instead of in a public conference committee.
The new bills created by the budget chairs were brought before the Senate and House with no time for prior review by elected officials or the public.
Republicans and Democrats alike criticized the budget. Gov. Mike Parson said his office wasn’t privy to any of the budget discussions and called the process “problematic.” He also said that he didn’t want a large supplemental — when the legislature has to appropriate funds to departments to continue day-to-day operations.
Rep. Peter Meredith, D-St. Louis, who has served on the budget committee for eight years, said it was the least transparent process he’s ever seen.
— $558 million —
UM system got about $558 million in this year’s budget: $509 million of that is baseline funding for the system, with about $50 million appropriated for various university projects. The overall appropriation is a 3% increase from last year.
$10 million was put forward to complete a $25 million meat laboratory on MU’s campus. $6 million was appropriated for a workforce incentive grant at MU. Around $5 million was given to the State Historical Society. That’s about $2 million more than last year. Hough is proud of the budget despite the transparency concerns.
“It’s been an odd year, but it’s been a good year and I think the end product is something we can be proud of,” Hough said after the bills passed the Senate.
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2024.05.14 21:12 yourheartt What led you to here?

I am currently a high school junior, and since I was younger, my parent has strongly suggested to become a doctor. After so long, I can’t think of any other career to pursue than becoming a doctor. So I want to become a doctor. Honestly, up until this point, I’ve done nothing to support that statement. I concluded that I would want to pursue psychiatry, because I find human behavior to be an intriguing thing to study. Especially research. However, what I said before still stands. I know that by doing nothing, I’m obviously doing everything wrong.
I don’t really have friends to ask this. So I’ll ask here. How have you all “prepared” for this path? If you decided on it early, elementary, middle, or high school. When did you decide? How did you know?
What did you do in high school? Outside of maintaining a high GPA (3.5+) and high SAT/ACT depending on your school choice.
I assume that in university extracurriculars are more important (outside of MCAT and GPA), and they must be various and of a multitude. Volunteering, internships, clubs. Because of the competitiveness of medical school admissions in general and for you as person to have experience before starting medical school.
Considering my current academic profile, I know that I would not get accepted into an BS/MD, and it’s probably for the better anyway. I don’t trust that I can even do everything properly.
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2024.05.14 21:09 yohagoloqmedlagana Should I apologize to a former classmate I bullied?

Should I apologize to a former classmate I bullied?
For background when I was in elementary school I was very aggressive and angry. I had been a victim of SA and had a very volatile childhood in general. My mother couldn’t afford to send me to a psychiatrist/therapist as we were very poor.
In third grade there was a boy in my school that I used to pick on for no reason. I was pretty mean to him that year and feel extremely bad. I had a hard time empathizing with other people until I became a teen. After I turned 13/14 I started looking back and regretting my actions and how I treated certain people.
When I was in high school I became an advocate for bullying and was pro active in standing up for others who got bullied.
Im 27 now and still thinking about it every now and then and wonder if I should apologize or if it’s too late at this point. This is not someone I’ve been in contact with but we do have some mutual friends on social media. I don’t know if this will be any help to them or if I’m better off keeping it to myself. Thoughts?
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2024.05.14 21:01 SignificanceAlive733 Not entirely toxic but still not what I need

How do you deal with a parent that isn’t supportive? I’ve always had trouble with telling my dad important things about me because he either ends up talking the entire time or tries to tell me something very unrelated to what I was trying to tell him.
For example, I sent him a video about adhd and how it functions because I think I have it but he ended up just talking about his childhood and how he grew up and all his opinions on it so when I tried to steer him back on topic he made it seem as though I didn’t have it because the elementary school I went to as a child was trying to get money out of me because I might of had a disorder and how he didn’t have the resources to put me in counseling because we were impoverished and so on but I really wasn’t looking for a pity story, I just wanted him to understand something about me and why I function the way I do
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2024.05.14 20:58 No_Egg8632 Broke up a friendship because I couldnt communicate my feelings

I had a friend I knew since we were 10, lets call her Raya. Me and her have been pretty close, or I thought. We would always hang out, do things together, etc. but we had a pretty bad fall out recently because I couldn’t tell her everything I wanted to say.
Starting from the beginning, Raya moved into a flat pretty close to mine because it was close to her college. I took that as a great opportunity to hang out with her more because we were already so close. So i start inviting her over to mine, inviting her to outings, and to parties i went to.
We were mostly fine, up until my birthday party. I was in a sad mood because a lot of my friends weren’t able to attend, and Raya wasn’t exactly helping me in any way either. She was just talking a lot and not letting us get a word in. She would constantly interrupt whatever I was gonna say and it was really discouraging for me. When things like that happen I tend to go nonverbal. While at the party me and another one of my friends were talking about how low our pay is and how we could barely afford rent and stuff. And Raya decided to butt in and brag about how much she made at her current job, and how she was able to pay her parents bills. It made me really upset because I started comparing myself to her. I was taking a break year and working full time so it made me feel like a failure because how was she able to do all that on top of juggling school. And months later I confronted her about it, she said she was trying to make me feel better by letting me know she had my back. But I still don’t understand how that even correlates to what she said. She also had to ask my boyfriend what to get me for my birthday, which I felt hurt by because she’s known me since elementary school.
Another incident was at a party I invited her to she kept flirting w my boyfriend’s friend. She had a pretty bad record with guys, and she tends to dump them at the drop of a hat. Neither me and my boyfriend wanted that for his friend so we told her to cut it out. But, a week later we go to another party and she does the same thing. And she did it at every party I invited her to, even when she started dating someone else. I wish I had her boyfriends social so I could have told him, but I didn’t.
I eventually confronted her about all those things, and her first response wasn’t an apology or acknowledgment that she did wrong. It was that she was autistic (i did know this beforehand), and had a hard time understanding social queues. I also told her that i felt our relationship was very much one sided, and how I felt like she knew nothing about me and how I always had to make plans with her and how she never texted me first. I felt like she didn’t care about me and was using me for the things I did for her. She said she had no idea i felt that way and would like to start over with me to get closer. I was hesitant but i eventually said yes.
The next month was fine, we hung out and she even initiated it a couple times. But as time went on I kinda realized if she really cared about me she would’ve already been doing those things. She got a new boyfriend and was gushing about how well she knew him and how she’s getting him a super personal gift and it planted that seed in my head. I don’t want to be treated like her boyfriend lets make that clear. But all the basic things she knew about him like his birthday and his job, it made me realize she didn’t even know those things about me.
I hosted another party later that month and I invited her one last time. It was already cemented in my head I wasn’t going to be friends with her anymore after that. So party starts and she does her Raya thing. Constantly talking over people, bragging about this that and the third, and whatever else. It was really annoying me and I was kinda drunk at that time. She told me, in a way i think she thought was funny, ‘haha im so drunk i got your boyfriend and his friend mixed up’ and I just thought ‘ugh i want her to leave’. And for context boyfriend and his friend are both black but thats where the similarities end. So i was like ‘They look nothing alike what are you racist or something?’ And it sobered both of us up. I knew she was upset and pretty soon after she left.
I apologized the next morning and she was like ‘I need time to think on it’. We didn’t speak for a month and then she texts me out of the blue ‘its fine, i forgive you. But dont do that again’. So I thought it would be another reset. I invited her for a girls night with my other friend, but my other friend couldn’t show up so I tell Raya ‘hey other friend cant come, but youre still free to come right?’ And she was like ‘Uh no i have an exam to study for’ even though she initially agreed to come when my other friend was gonna come.
I decided then and there I didn’t want her in my life anymore so I invited over Raya to my house one last time and told her I didn’t wanna be her friend anymore. And she gets so mad, she leaves and goes home and sends me paragraphs about how friendship isn’t about how much you know about a person but being there for them. And how I never acknowledged her autism and how I always treated her like shit and how I was the same girl i was in high school (i wasnt the nicest then i can admit).
But my issue was, i know autistic people need to be told things very directly but I told Raya countless times before I wasn’t raised in an environment where i could freely say what I feel, it was literally the reason I was in therapy (and she knew i was going too). And i also tended to get overwhelmed by my emotions and go nonverbal. But I guess she also decided to not remember that about me. I could have done it better, i could have been nicer, and i could have told her that we just weren’t compatible as friends anymore. I wish I hadn’t said what I said at the last party. And i hate how our friendship crashed and burned so quick. She was so important to me, but it’s better for the both of us to not be friends anymore I think. But I cant help but think I couldve done better.
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2024.05.14 20:56 Ok_Corner417 VOTER ASSISTANCE GUIDE/HACK FOR DEM ELECTION VOTERS IN MARYLAND, NORTH CAROLINA, NEBRASKA, & WEST VIRGINIA TUESDAY, MAY 14, 2024

DEM Voters Assistance: Go to your election board website and download your ballot in advance of going to the polls to see who is running and what questions are on your ballot. Annotate your voting plan on a cheat sheet or the ballot itself. You can bring in your “voting plan cheat sheet” or take a phone pic of it to the voting booth to refer to when you are completing your ballot.
For DEM primaries, pick your fav DEM candidate.
FOR ALL OTHER ELECTIONS: VOTE STRAIGHT PARTY DEM!!
For NON-PARTY/NON-PARTISON ELECTIONS, like School Boards), go to ballotpedia . org and search on the candidates names to figure out if they are (D) or (R). Vote for the DEM!
If you need more help on researching candidates, search: ourcampaigns . com.
If you have "Ballot Questions" to vote on (Build this or tax that, etc.), search your State or Local Chamber of Commerce or Local Builders websites and see if they are supporting a “Yes” or “No” vote on the ballot question.
In general, DEMS frequently vote the opposite of how the Chamber and local Builders vote because these groups are GOP aligned.
RULE: THE GOP LOVES SOCIAL WELFARE WHEN IT BENEFITS THEM.
For instance, if the Chamber & Local Bulders support voting “Yes” for a new tax (to build something) paid for by middle class taxpayers to increase profits for GOP builders and out of state businesses, DEMS frequently (not always) Vote “NO”.
LASTLY, if you have any questions on how other DEMS are voting, call your local DEMOCRATIC Party Office and ask them how they are going to vote.
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2024.05.14 20:54 Salt_Adeptness_5417 Past mental health related stuff and applying

How much time after a mental health related thing should you put between it and an application? Im asking because i am 22 now and when I was 11-14 I did a lot of stupid shit and when I was 11 years old, I was pretending to be suicidal and saying verbal threats to people in elementary school because I was an attention seeking, spoiled brat and really dumb kid with AWFUL behavior, even though I was not actually suicidal or mean any of that stuff, I did not realize back then the gravity of what I was doing.
I was NEVER hospitalized, arrested, held, or committed but the school principal declared me a danger to myself and others and told a shrink who I was seeing with my parents about behavioural issues at age 11-14 and made me see therapists and stuff at an outpatient clinic for youths. I saw it all in my doctor’s visit notes from my psych medical records, and I felt so awful reading that because its permanently retained and I was such an idiot back then. The shrink did not declare me though but he did prescribe me meds and stuff.
I had a lot of bad meltdowns, outbursts and tantrums those years and the principal even once had the police drive me home at age 11, and officers were called for my meltdowns a lot and spoke to me. And I even got expelled out of elementary school once and suspended a lot in high school age 13-14. I feel so awful for the shit I did and when I turned 15, I stopped all that crap INSTANTLY, not gradually, instantly, and never even got suspended or disciplined again (I was literally a new man and it was a miracle). Also I never touched any drug in my life (even weed), and I rarely if ever drink if that counts for something.
How much time should I put between this and applying, and how can I explain this to a shrink in the future? I feel very awful about my past and would honestly do anything to change it.
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2024.05.14 20:54 northseatea Bullying at school

My adhd 10 year-old is being bullied at school, how do I help him to stand up for himself? School work is good, he's on track but he struggles with memory, processing speed and his speech can be a little slow (I think his brain has so much going on, but it doesn't come out at rhe same speed). His teacher has helped him get through the latest round and addressed it with the kid in class (awesome teacher). But how do I help him to learn how to stand up for himself? He's very emotional and easily the smallest kid in class. How do I help him to learn some resilience and survive these school years?
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2024.05.14 20:53 Ok_Faithlessness5210 I don’t know what to do. Please help.

I don’t even know where to start this. I’m at my wit’s end. My husband and I married in November 2017, and separated October 2020. We had a child together in 2016. I would be here all day telling the story (I’m happy to if prompted), but in a nutshell, there was a lot of narcissistic abuse involved and I eventually got to the point that I was so depressed I actively wanted to unalive myself every day and tried to, once (obviously unsuccessfully).
At the time which we separated, we were living two hours away from our hometown so that I could attend a college that I ultimately had to drop out of once we separated because I could not afford to stay there on my own. We could barely afford to live there together. That doesn’t mean much, we could barely afford to live at our hometown either because there was financial abuse involved within that narcissistic abuse that I mentioned before. Upon separation, we both moved back to our hometown, separately. We genuinely went our separate ways with only communication regarding our son, 95% of the time. We even quickly went about finding new partners. There was a lot of aggression on his end after separating and I have hundreds of screenshots of verbal abuse from him in the months following. Neither one of us could afford lawyers, so we were trying to navigate fair custody of our child ourselves to the best of our abilities. For the most part, we did well to split that evenly with some rough patches here and there, usually involving pick up and drop off. Again, because neither one of us could afford a lawyer, this also hindered us actually getting a divorce. Neither one of us really knew how to go about getting a divorce without lawyers involved (and I still don’t) and I think most of his lack of trying was from laziness, and expecting me to do everything in that regard (exactly as the rest of our marriage was).
Worth noting at this point, we were both living in the state of Georgia, not far from the Alabama state line. I eventually (October 2021) found a job in property management across the state line over in Alabama, and was given the opportunity to move to the property for which I worked, with my then partner and his child from a previous marriage. I took this opportunity, which put me about 45 minutes away from my hometown, but still managed to get our son to and from school for the remainder of the school year and we continued to split custody of him evenly throughout the school year and the following summer. At this time I attempted to find a lawyer to start up the divorce process but was told that I have to wait six months of living in the new state before I could do anything, as well as a price tag that was outrageously out of my means. That being said, I didn’t pursue that option.
When the new school year (2022-2023) started, and I enrolled our son into a school in my new state, his father agreed, and we were in a mutual understanding about custody at that point. The understanding being, that on any weekends and school breaks that he wished to spend time with our son, I would happily drive him to 45 minutes over to our hometown for them to spend time together and handle all of the transportation. Since I made the decision to move away, he just had to let me know when he wanted to arrange the visits. These arrangements never happened. The only instances in which he reached out were Father’s Day, Christmas, and Thanksgiving. And chose to only spend an hour to two hours with our son at a time on each of these days. In the past, I did not ask for financial assistance since we split time evenly, however now, since it wasn’t split evenly, he did agree that it would be fair for him to pay some amount of financial assistance in the way of child support. As you can imagine, that also never happened.
In November 2022, I decided that I was not happy with my job choice, and that I wanted to go back to the college that I was at prior to our separation. I waited for my son to finish out his school year, separated from my partner, and moved back to Georgia and found a job and a house that I could afford on my own. I have a new partner (medium distance, he lives in the hometown) now that treats me and my son very good, I make just enough to barely get by if I’m smart with my money and make sacrifices, and I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I’m a full-time college student in a very demanding major (natural resources management with a focus in wildlife management), and a full-time employee working as many hours as I possibly can at a local assisted-living facility. All while being a single mom to the sweetest elementary school aged boy you’ll ever meet. (I know I mentioned having a partner and then turned around and said single mom— my partner and I live two hours apart from each other and I do not ask him for any financial assistance with anything regarding my bills, and we split expenses when we do get to spend time with each other. “Single mom” doesn’t mean “single person”)
All of this to say, since the summer of 2022 ended, my son’s father has seen him a combined total of less than 24 hours. Holidays only. Not even for his birthday, he only got a phone call on the past two birthdays. I have paid for school breakfasts and lunches, summer care programs, afterschool care programs, all of the finances that come with being a parent completely alone since then. He has paid me all of $50, on two occasions for a total of $100, in that time. I haven’t tried the child support office because I am told by his family members that he is constantly getting a new job, and then getting fired from it, he barely pays his extremely low rent already (the house is owned by a family member of his), and there’s no point in waiting to see if it gets taken out of his taxes because he owes on his taxes every year. Truthfully it’s not even about the money, I’m doing just fine paying for our sons expenses, I’m just brokenhearted for him that he doesn’t understand why his father doesn’t want anything to do with him.
The reason I broke down today, is from finding out that he up and moved away from our hometown in the middle of the night to God knows where in Virginia. Apparently with—- HIS FIANCÉ. I just found out they were engaged. I don’t care, I’m happy for them. However, we are still married and around two years ago, we had a conversation over the phone that involved him crying and begging me not to tell her that we weren’t actually divorced yet because he had told her that we /were/ divorced. I have no idea if anything changed in that time, but I don’t even know anything except her first name to even be able to reach out to tell her otherwise? I’m hesitant to reach out anyway because his mother helps me out occasionally and we have a great relationship and I don’t want to put a strain on that. She is disappointed that her son abandoned his son, however, she still has love in her heart for her son.
Now that he has moved, and I have no idea where, just the state, how do I get a divorce? What do I do? Why are lawyers so expensive, I don’t know what to do???
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2024.05.14 20:53 VariationSeveral1446 Is Qatar, China/CCP, and the Saudis committing an act of (intellectual) war?

So it’s starting to come out our public universities, ivy leagues, and public schools are taking money from these CCP/islamic tied west hating billionaires.
Why has no one asked these “billionaires” why on earth aren’t they funding these same ideas: gender dysphoria normalization, over-sexualization/sterilization of our children, and LGBT indoctrination in their countries?
This is an act of war. Is it not? Why are our elected officials allowing this to proceed?
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