Last week I cried and was depressed every day. Yesterday I actually had my first good day in a very long time. Today I was faced with many small challenges before 9am in having to deal with my family and now I’m just angry. If im by myself, doing my own thing with no one bothering me, I’m fine. But the minute someone asks me to do something or throws off my routine in any way, I get pissy and snap at people and start acting like a f*cking teenager. Last week I was more like a toddler with the crying and breakdowns. This week it’s all ‘teenage petulance’. I can’t control the looks I give people or the way I respond, and my gut is telling me I don’t have to give a shit either. Is this another phase of getting used to the Wellbutrin? Or am I just really this much of a bitch and the Zoloft (which I’m 2 wks off now) was hiding it all that time? Please, someone tell me you know what it’s like or why this is.

Brother me and my girlfriend started dating in 2015 both 15 , we moved in together at 21- as of now basically almost 24* (im 23 shes 24 , a couple months older) , she had her own dark world and toxic household and so did i. Difference is i had a complete “family” , she was raised by her mother who treated her indifferent because she is her dads twin. She gave the most purest and sweetest love . It even gives me chills to write about it. She surprised me countless times , validated my feelings , took care of me more than own mother did bro. She put her ass on the line for me whenever and vice versa. We traveled to her country mu country and countless other places at a young age all alone . Im gonna be honest i cheated by grabbing another girls ass in 2018 and a year later in 2019 the girl from hs called her to tell her and she waited for me in my house but i was such a coward i kept denying and denying even though she knew exactly what had went on. Fast forward in 2021 shit got so rough my family always hated her for no reason (jealousy is a real thing bro) and so much happened. And imma be honest in 2022 i was taking care of her since we moved in together but 2022 i told her quit her job around early January February i told her i got us cause i found a job paying great so why not? That was my baby you know? So that year i went to a whorehouse with this dumbass loser i was working with and i fell for the temptation. Mind you this was a bad year for her she gained weight up to 260 and her family (mom and sister) they always treated her like shit and always was jealous of even me getting her stuff and just loving her and supporting her. Im not gonna lie yes i cheated and she found out about it the same day cause i fell asleep and went through my phone. My dumbass recorded a voice note that those whores can’t even give oral correctly they use all teeth , so when she found out that was a dealbreaker. Bro i destroyed her with that and i know i fucked up so bad this chick had a hot meal from scratch ready for me every single day after work. Anyways fast forward to 2023, she told me when i get a job i got you and everything you ever did. She got the gastric sleeve surgery in September 2022 so 2023 in February she had started losing weight drastically and then eventually got a job the same month. Brother she was destroyed and still gave me food everyday still helped me still gave me sex just still was trying not giving up. I unfortunately didn’t see it this way due to my own internal problems and trauma and my selfish and stupid ways. Anyways even for my bday she took me to miami wasted $3k on the trip and it was amazing. Eventually it got toxic i got fired around October and i wasn’t really fully employed after that for a while so she had to pick up alot and my egocentric ass said hey i did it for you whats the problem a couple months you hold me down? (She should of been left me) but it got toxic and the stress from work her family me and me not working she was crashing out she would spazz on everyone and i dont blame her looking back she was just going though alot. We started cursing eachother out really bad and even got physical. Not fists punch or slaps just grabbing eachother , breaking stuff, throwing stuff out, breaking property. Anyways for her birthday we went to paris (February 2024) and it was great till we argued (i really shouldn’t have gone cause i got a job in February the whole month and first month on the job i requested a week off already and i lied saying it was something else but it was really this trip i had) anyways after this trip she someway somehow forced me to quit my job because i was out from 6am-7pm everyday monday through Friday. March came and dont get me wrong guys my family i am blessed enough that they were sending me little amounts of money here and there to get me through they know i needed to pay rent food etc. march came and someway somehow when she said something to me she slammed the door and walked out so i immediately reacted and then slammed the door open to chase her . I come back the whole door is ripped off the frame . All the hinges ripped off. I ran away like a coward because she kept screaming at me and cursing me out saying you gotta replace it now but i didnt have 1$ to my name and im asking my mom and she is being a bitch on purpose. Long story short that was march 23rd i get arrested 4 days later because of property of destruction and then get out on limited order of protection. We ran into eachother a couple days later and we spoke she invited me over and i lived with her again the whole month of April. Anyways in april im still just relying on my parents at this point because all these jobs im applying for are not in my favor to respond to me (no one hit me back up) . So towards the end of the month literally the Sunday before the 1st of May we get into another heated argument she said you dont do shit around here you a grown ass man this that and that and tbh bro i can show you my cashapp my mother send me like $1500 that month and every time she would send me $100 here or $300 there for food or something she would tell me waste it on weed. (We kinda of had a weed addiction we were wasting $40 a day 7days a week on weed, you do the math) so anyways most of the money my mom is sending me is being spent very inconsiderately and bad . I didnt think much of it cause i thought hey fuck it man im here whatever she wants to make her happy. Anyways fast forward after the argument sunday before may 1st the weekend before may 1st i leave again because it got so crazy i wasn’t trying to spazz out so i walked out and left. Monday she tells me come back ik your mom isnt cooking im not heartless i still wanna be friends with benefits or friends . Whatever she said and also she said i built this bond with you no one knows me like you do. (We lost our virginity to eachother , we literally told eachother our deepest darkest secrets , met eachothers families, did all this together was very intimate) so i went back and as she said we ate we cuddled etc. the next day after work we go out the whole day because her and mom and sister arent on good terms i forgot to mention we lived in a basement and her mother on the 1st floor. The whole month of april they were on bad terms (just walking by eachother not even talking or acknowledging eachother) so we go out the next day after that Tuesday before May 1st. After work we do all that and come back home at 6/7 ish . I havent checked her phone in ages cause i fucked up alot and honestly i kind of had a feeling if i did i was gonna see exactly what i was looking for. Anyways i still did it cause im a stubborn hardheaded motherfucker, and ofc i saw her texting sexual with some guy she told me she was talking as friends on and off for since November. The convo went like him: im dying to find out i just wanna carry you on top of me , her: omg i forget you’re so tall i love it , him: omg i forget you’re so short i love it, her: Stoppppp omg with the emojis, him: plus if you aren’t gonna wear that dress when we go out atleast where it when you invite me over :p , her: lol i guess im small ( she posted a picture in a shirt blouse showing her curves and body and curly hair) , bro i saw this and went back inside from checking her phone in the middle of the road and said is this what you’re doing to me ? Are you serious? She laughed in my face and said well you’re reading it aren’t you? I lost it and spit in her face and called her a nasty you know what just like her sister. How shes just like her sister (her sister fucks any guy to fill her void and to get money/gifts in exchange. (Going back as to why they weren’t on good terms in april her and her sister got into a physical fight because her sister wore her deadstock jordans i got her from 2018 that are now worth $700 and fried them . What blew my mind during the fight was her sister looked and me straight in the eyes that day and said i know alot about you as if she got something on me. That made me wonder alot. Also she called my ex gf a slut which made me think what the fuck) anyways fast forward after i catch her cheating on me she chases me in her underwear for 12 blocks and im toying running around cars with her at that point and i threw her phone on the ground and she ran right past it. Long story short i got arrested and now im facing a felony cause of that and its no contact as of rn till July when this court date happens. I miss the fuck out of her and regardless of anything i wish her the best and miss her dearly . Side note my brother showed me she was what appeared on a date Yesterday

I usually take the jump, but that's starting to add up. I've got ~5.5 years at my first job, 5 months at the next (contract), 10 months at the next (layoffs), and 1 year and 2 months at my current gig. Cost adjusted for the average cost of living in the US, I currently make 90k with a ~5k bonus. Benefits are nothing special, and I'm on my spouse's insurance since mine sucks now. On site 4 days a week.
I'm on the edge about a fully remote offer, and pays about $54.50/hour with no benefits, no PTO, nothin. My guess is a 30-40% chance of conversion after around a year, and that'd bring kickass benefits and idk what salary would do as I've never converted a contract before. I'd hope the base salary would match my hourly rate times 2080, but you never know. Maybe someone can speak on that?
My questions are basically:
is 5 months, then 10 months, then 1.2 years too many short stints? I'm worried about what would happen if this contract doesn't convert to FTE
Does anyone have any insight on what going from hourly to salary looks like? Does pay translate 1:1 or do you usually take a cut in exchange for benefits?
Finally, what would you do in my situation?

i'm 27f and was hospitalized for 4 days about two weeks ago after a ct scan showed two PEs in my left lung. they are small and i'm on blood thinners now, but i'm honestly miserable.
i had the worst flare of my life during the summer of 23 and started prednisone for several months. once the inflammation came down, i started entyvio. i had literally 0 issues until i started the infusions and now suddenly i have blood clots.
we still don't know the direct cause of the PEs but my GI said that unmanaged UC can cause them. I haven't had a flare in months and didn't have anything like this during my flare.
i'm honestly worried the entyvio caused this. i haven't gotten or scheduled another infusion and i don't know if i will. i'm incredibly scared and might, MIGHT try to manage this with my diet and see what happens. i have so much going on and the idea of an infusion kind of scares me now. even worse than it did before.

I woke up with that feeling and I remembered reading on here that it’s from a dream …. I stayed in bed… and I mould on it and the whole dream came back to me….
I was travelling for two weeks - I was so excited. I saw a lot of past friends and acquaintances - a lot of people I have cut off in my life, but in my dream - we were all….kind of friends? It wasn’t like the “cut off” never happened - but we weee all just….i was happy to see them.
Each person - was doing something very “up their alley” (in real life), and I was happy to going them: I saw Manuel at a dance party - we danced and talked. I was so excited - I told him I was going away for two weeks, and could he watch my cat. (In real life I was a foster for four years - and the cat just went home to her dad….i am actually travelling right now and it was the first time I didn’t have to stress about a sitter - because in real life I don’t really have friends - or a lot of money and it’s expensive for strangers!).
Anyway - Manuel was like “yes sure no problem”…. But then there were all these disclaimers that he was giving, and I realized he wasn’t gonna take care of her.
But it was ok - because I had soooo many friends in this dream. I slowly joined all of them for fun/recinciliation - they were realizing how much they missed me….. but each time I asked for help with the cat it was the same - they said “sure thing”, but in reality - once they started giving disclaimers (I have a busy life/I can check on her but not often)….i realized they didn’t care at all…… I had fooled myself again, and now worse - I put the cat in jeopardy!.
When I woke up, I was so sad - some of the people in my dream are current “friends”, but I realize I cannot ask them to watch the cat.
I know this is long - and it doesn’t sound traumatizing, but the history with all these people (in my real life) and intimacy (maybe on my part only in real life)……I’m less anxious but I’m kind of shook and re-evaluating my life.
I did just take a break from smoking weed as well - so I expected intense dream.
Thank you group - I wish you all an easy day.

I’m starting my orientation for a maintenance tech 2 position. Didn’t even know I was flying anywhere until last week and that causes a bit of a problem as I was under the impression I’d be doing it at the place near me. Do they do per diem or anything for the days you’re out of town or am I kinda on my own?
Edit: I’ll be blue badge if that matters

I keep hitting road blocks when it comes to my daughter's back pay.
She started receiving payments Oct 2023. I get them on my PayPal, I don't have any traditional bank account. No problems there and convenient for me.
She is due around $9,000 in back pay. Because of some miscommunication about paperwork, I finally was able to open up the separate Representative Payee account with a bank in February 2024. When I called to give them the account info they said I had to go to an office because they couldn't take that info over the phone. Ok, did that. The SSA rep said that the processing time might take a few weeks to a few months. Again, not an issue. There are some things I would like to use it for (I do know the rules and it's therapy and home accomodations related to her disability) but nothing is time critical.
So today, 3 months later, i figure I'll check in. I contacted the bank first on the vague hole I wouldn't need to call SSA, maybe the back pay was deposited and I just didn't get a confirmation letter. The bank informs me that the account has been permanently closed because there was no balance. They didn't tell me when I opened it that I had to make a $50 deposit within 30 days. Makes sense and I should have asked but I still don't know how it would have helped besides not wasting 2 months.
So, if I cant just deposit $50 of my own money because I'm not supposed to co-mingle funds and SSA's processing time is over 30 days to release the first installment, I'm not sure what to do. I need an account before they will begin processing the payment and the account gets closed because the payment isn't processed quickly enough.
I am waiting on a call back from SSA to see what the rules are, if it's an option, or how I need to document using my own money to keep the account open and then withdrawing it after the payment is made. But I'm not going to lie it's frustrating that the whole wait time starts over, not to mention spending another day waiting to see a rep in the office just to hand him an account number.
I know that bureaucracy but has anyone been through a similar loop? Is it possible to keep the regular monthly deposits going to my PayPal but have the back pay deposited to a Direct Express card? I really don't want to go through the hassle of using Direct Express but since back pay is just 3 installments and I can't use it for everyday expenses, it might not be as terrible an option as long as I could keep the monthly deposits going to PayPal.

Okay so my boyfriend let's call him G, has been going through a really nasty divorce/custody case, let's call his ex M. They have one child together well call them A.
I've been with G for almost two years and we just had a baby unexpectedly. G is fully retired from the military and stays home with the baby while I work I have a great career that is the perfect work/life balance so it didn't make sense for me to stay home and he go to work(he also already had his career and there's no need for him to continue to work after being deployed and what not), he pays child support every week for A even before it was court ordered.
M has been nothing but combative and refuses to come to any agreement for a divorce. She keeps contesting and won't agree to any custody agreement other than us only see A on the weekends. We do now see A on the weekends but G is wanting more as he should be able to see his child more than twice a week. M has no job and lives with a family member. I make good money and Gs retirement is pretty decent. Now G doesn't have much left over money for extras once the bills and child support is paid, so I'm the one who buys A all of their clothes, shoes, school supplies and what else A may need. I have absolutely no problem doing so and have never complained, I make more than enough for all of us, but I will not pay for M to live. I do purchase mother days gift, birthday or Christmas gifts from A to M, also with no complaints as it's for the child and it makes them happy.
Now that the judge is really pushing to get their divorced finalized as it's been almost 3 years of a constant battle, M wants to motion for my financial statement. I have no problem providing my statement as long as my income can't be used for child support, I feel like I contribute more than enough without hesitation. Like I said I will not pay for M to live while she has no job.
Can my income be used? We are in Massachusetts if that matters

I am renting a house in a nice neighborhood with a large (1ac) yard. Last year I pushed mowed the entire thing, which took about 3 hours total every week.
This year I decided it was worth the expense to pay a mowing service. They come every other week.
Well, the weather has been perfect for the grass to grow fast and its now tall. Very tall. Too tall. The mowers probably wont come for another 3-4 days and I am basically sick with anxiety over getting a warning from my landlord or having one of the neighbors complain.
In my mind, they dont know someone is coming to mow, so I just look like a trashy renter who doesnt take care of the property.
So now I just stress and ruminate until the mowers come and then the whole process starts over again. I keep telling myself to just wait and that its fine. But another part of me (the control part) just wishes I was mowing myself and didnt have to wait for someone to come.
I know this is an utterly ridiculous thing to worry about but the anxiety is real.
Am I overreacting?

I expect the drop to $45 was in search of stop losses. Now we will Bouncy Bounce McBounceface back to $70-80.
Do they really think we still use stop losses after all this time? We have been here before, we have evolved. We do not fall for your simple tricks charlatans.
As for people ‘complaining’ computershare is down, need to realize moass will not be over in a day or two, it will be months in the making and take weeks to reconcile.
Zen the fuck out Apes. We only need to hold and watch.

I received a mod mail message from the mod code of conduct team nearly a month ago. I replied to that message that day asking various questions and I even sent a follow up message about 2 weeks ago with more questions and information in it and I have not received any responses. The fact that they have not responded makes me wonder if maybe they don't really deal with mod mail replies. I'd hate to think that they're ignoring my questions. I came across this post: "Introducing Reddit's Moderator Code of Conduct": https://www.reddit.com/modnews/comments/x97i6k/introducing_reddits_moderator_code_of_conduct/

We trust that most mods actively try to do the right thing and follow the rules. If we find that a community violates our Mod Code of Conduct, we firmly believe that, in the majority of cases, we can achieve resolution through discussion, not remediation. However, if this proves to be ineffective, we may consider enforcement actions on mods or subreddits.

It does mention that they do have discussions with mods to resolve issues. I'm just looking to have a discussion with them so I can better understand some matters. So what is the best way to get in contact with the mod code of conduct team?

It's been maybe 6 months since we broke up. She said she needed to grow and heal on her own, find out who she is alone because she's always been in a relationship. Said it wasn't any fault of my own. She told me she wanted to try again in the future and didn't have plans to be with anyone else, and told me to tell her if i decide i want to be with someone else.
But since then she put so much emotional distance between us even as friends. She even told me that we couldn't be friends like we once were because of everything that's happened, and that she needed some space to show up properly for me as a friend. So we've been no contact for the past two weeks and it's killing me.
We spoke every day for 3 years. No one should matter this much, should impact me this much. I dont know what to do. I'm confused. Does she still like me? Does she still want to try again? Why tell me we couldn't be that close again if so. If the intention is to one day be even closer than friends again. I told her I would continue to love her even if we were friends and she told me she still wants to be friends. Is that confirmation that she's okay with that? That she does want to eventually try again?

I’m in US, no exposure, just questions before visiting foster kittens. The foster family signed up to foster kittens, and received a couple from a woman who dropped off a bunch of cats at the humane society. No idea where the cats were from, obviously not vaccinated. Now, I’m assuming people who foster pets aren’t at risk of rabies, so can someone who may be familiar with the process tell me how to think about rabies risk in this situation? We know the family and may go over and my kids would likely interact with the kittens. Is that safe?
The one thing I keep thinking is that if they have the kittens for a couple weeks at least, I would know if they were ok if they’re still alive in 10-14 days. But I assume kittens in the wild don’t always survive, so if they didn’t, how would you think about rabies risk? This is part personal question cause it affects my family, but also I’m curious since plenty of people foster kittens and puppies, and I just wonder if there’s risk involved. Thank you!

Good day everyone!
I changed from 36mg to 54mg Concerta two weeks ago.
Now im constantly feel a bit of heart race and the other weird thing is one of my ears is constantly ringing and thats driving me crazy as hell.
Should i lower it back to 36mg in case that might solve the problem? Maybe i cant take 54 and 36 is better.

Not sure how much detail is needed so just giving the run down of the situation.
I’ve been without hot water in my apartment since last Wednesday. Wednesday evening, I contacted my gas company and they said that my gas bill was paid up-to-date and I should be having hot water and to contact my landlord because it must be an issue with the building. I called the emergency maintenance line on Thursday morning and I notified my property manager. Over the phone she said she would send maintenance by to fix it and then via text she said that she was going to stop by to ensure that it wasn’t a quick fix. She came by while I was gone and said that she fixed the water heater and it should be working. When I returned a few hours later, it was not working and I notified her right away. She said it was too late in the day at that point and the plumbers wouldn’t be able to come out until Friday morning.
The plumbers came out between 7 and 8 AM on Friday morning and they attempted to fix it. They said that my water meter tank thingy was broken and that I will need to get a replacement water meter. They said they would send someone out later that day to replace it and they did. It was replaced and the hot water was still not working. My property manager contacted me asking if I was sure I transferred the gas bill to my name as I just moved in on May 1. I notified her that I did transfer it to my name and I had contacted them on Wednesday night to confirm. She asked me to contact them again and that she was also on the phone with them. When I contacted them, they said that everything should be working, but they will send someone out between 3 and 7 PM that day to try to understand what the issue was.
Someone came out around 5 PM and spent quite a bit of time trying to understand what the issue was and they were able to determine that my water meter was not hooked up to the correct gas line. It was hooked up to another unit’s gas meter and they had not paid their bill so their gas had been turned off, which meant my hot water was turned off. The person also said that all of the plumbing and wiring was messed up, not even just for my unit and I’m unsure if someone is hooked up to my gas line potentially using gas which would require me to pay for gas that I’m not even using but that is not my main concern.
The property manager was notified of the situation by both me and the person from the gas company and she contacted the other tenant from the unit and asked him to pay the bill so that I could have hot water. He paid the bill that night and was told that they couldn’t get anyone out until Monday. Property manager called to confirm and she was able to confirm that they weren’t able to get anyone out until Monday, I asked her what time on Monday and she said they work in 8-hour windows and wasn’t able to provide me a timeframe. I was home for most of the day yesterday and let her know when I needed to leave. I received no response from her. I came back yesterday evening and the hot water was not on. I checked this morning and the hot water was still not on. I notified her this morning because now it has been a week without hot water and I haven’t been able to get the issue resolved. She said they came out yesterday to unlock the gas line so it should be working and she will contact the plumber, but will send the maintenance technician out in the meantime. Is there anything that I can do? This obviously is an ethical issue but is there a legal issue with this as well? Water bill is included in rent. We pay gas, electricity, and internet separately.
Location is Minneapolis Minnesota USA.

Another round of thank yous' to:
u/KK6321 : it was a pleasure to help your goal and I wish you luck with the potatoes and your new dog :) Than you so much! u/melhen16 : thank you so much for the yellow happy card. It was so lovely and pretty. Thank you so much :) u/ngocburin : thank you for such a cute calculator card! I also love taking the train to many parks around my city :) u/snerdboff : Thank you so much for the obama card lol. I had no idea he was left handed and the joke on the card made me giggle. Thank you so much again :) u/raspberrypoppyseed : Thank you so much for the Ray/ tiana card! He is such an underratted character and I love the card so much! :) u/grasshopper2231 : Thank you for the the vintage london catherdral postcard. I love the feel of the postcard and I can tell its has travelled far. I love it.Thank you so much again :) u/Sufficient_Letter883 : As always, thank you so much for the lovely Tiana card. It was so beautiful and I loved it (and so did my mom lol). Thank you so much again :) u/Reasonable_Ad1688 : I LOVED the sandollar card and the message along with it. It was very profound and now I'm on the hunt to find some! Thank you so much :) u/encadarling : thank you so much for the ponyo card! I grew up in Japan watching this show and it was nostalgic seeing this scene again. Thank you so much again :) u/ZombieSlayer13x : Thank you so much for the Alaska card! I'll definitely have to make it up there to see the views! :) u/bellschimesfeathers : Thank you so much for the ballet art, it was so lovely :) u/-random_ness- : Thank you so much for the green-themed Myrtle Beach card. I totally get why you'd think android is better than apple. There is beauty is in simplicity :) Thank you so much again! u/ravenzsnow : Thank you so much for the handmade washy postcards!! I absolutely love them and they are so beautifully made, I was in awe. Thank you so much again :) u/ZKHG : Thank you so much for the letter card! I wish you all the best in the public health field! (I can tell you from experience that it is super fun and I am so excited for you haha). Thank you so much again :)
Thank you guys so much as always, I can't thank you enough for making my finals week better! I hope you have the bestest day :)

I have a problem - I am lazy! But I want to do something about it. To do so, I am looking for an accountability buddy/coach that makes sure that I stay on track and do my work properly.
Goals: Mostly "career", but also personal development. I am actually blessed by the fact that I am completely financially independent (early Bitcoin investment gave me the opportunity to retire at the age of 30). However, I am still doing unpaid, voluntary work as a programmer. I am maintaining multiple open source projects that are used all around the world, getting integrated into all sorts of infrastructure. As such I feel like my work is important and that I can always do "yet a bit more" to help society as a whole. But sometimes I am getting lazy. And don't get me wrong here, I am not talking about "taking a break" or having a free time at the end of the day - those things would be totally fine! I am talking about pretty much doing nothing for multiple weeks, sometimes months. These times are ... problematic. Not only for my work, but also for my mental health. So I am looking for someone that is basically a safe guard for when that happens, reminding me of getting back on track.
Level of accountability: I am aware that I'd be asking for much here, but luckily I do have the budget to finance it, so I'd be looking for daily check ins and motivational guidance. It is especially important that you can be there for me at some time between 9-5 in CET. How much you are there is up to you, could be 1 hour, could be all 8 hours. I do have further ideas that would become a bit invasive, as such they would need to be discussed well, when the time comes. I wouldn't start with those in the beginning either, but once I get used to be around you I might feel more and more comfortable to open up to you and give you more and more access to my life. Pretty much to survail me.
Requirements: I am very open to discuss pretty much every aspect of this job, almost nothing is set in stone yet. There are only two hard requirements from my side:

1. You are able to understand and express yourself in english. If you were able to understand this job application this far, without help, then you have already passed on this requirement.
2. Communication is through Discord. Nothing else. I am pretty much constantly on Discord because of my workflow anyway, having any other form of communication isn't possible.

Payment: Around $15/hr, also negotiable.
If you find this job interesting, then please do not hesitate to hit me up via DMs here on Reddit.

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Noriko Tobe (Noriko Ohara) - voice of Conchetta

An actress and voice actress best known for being the voice of Nobita Nobi in the Doraemon franchise and the lead female villains in the Time Bokan franchise —most notably Doronjo in Time Bokan Yatterman. Tobe was a child actress from a young age, having joined a children's theater company, and after graduating high school became a noted TV Drama actress in the early days of commercial broadcasting. Her first voice role was in 1965’s W3 and her first named role was in 1966’s Harris no Kaze. Tobe became a voice actress exclusively after marrying, as it allowed her a less demanding schedule for the purpose of raising children. Her son is noted Sunrise animator Atsuo Tobe. Some of her most notable roles include Conan in Future Boy Conan, Marine in Under The Sea Boy Marine, Oyuki in the Urusei Yatsura franchise, Hiyoshi Gou in Super Electromagnetic Machine Voltes V, Princess Mirenjo in Time Bokan Series: Yattodetaman, Wansa in Wansa-kun, Claudia La Salle in Super Dimension Fortress Macross and Do You Remember Love?, Peter in Heidi, Girl of The Alps, Serge in Kaze to Ki no Uta, Yanyan in Time Bokan Series: Itadakiman, Ryūzu in Galaxy Express 999, Dolphin Prince in Dolphin Prince, and Miime in Captain Harlock: Mystery of the Arcadia.

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In the original work, no reason is given as to why Marco’s mother needs to go to Argentina, and the rest of his family situation is not elaborated at all.

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• ‘I am a man.’

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1) What do you think of Peppino and his offer to Marco?
2) What do you make of Marco and Pietro’s argument?
Your job ruined our life.

About a year ago, I [29 M] was in a toxic relationship with J [29 M]. While there were no serious stakes in it (no kids or messy finances), the relationship and breakup ended up emotionally affecting me in a way I had never really thought possible. I feel guilty because after the relationship I tried to be friends with my ex still, which I now see as a mistake in the context of this relationship, and then after a few months, he blocked me because I didn't respect a boundary he had set about not sending him long messages. He said he didn't feel safe since I "completely ignored" the boundary.
I was devastated, but over the course of the next few months, came to understand a great deal of ways that I feel that I had been abused during the relationship. I felt angrier and angrier, and even though I was seeing a therapist, it eventually boiled over. My ex had blocked me on discord and probably on text, but I went onto an astrology app called Co-Star that he had had me download, and sent a message using it that said something like, "You were an abusive partner, but you can make it right with an apology."
Now, I have no idea if he actually saw the message. It was sent with a weird feature of the app called Chaos Mode that apparently chooses to send the message at some future time, so who knows if it actually ever sent. I don't know if he still has the app, if he unfriended me, or whatnot. But I feel guilty because I enacted exactly the caricature of me that he had created--I hadn't respected his boundaries, and I sent the message anyways.
At the same time, I am still feeling very victimized by the relationship. To give you a sense of the kinds of things that were going on in the relationship, here's a few examples that I currently find a little horrific [Note: this kind of turned into a summary of the relationship after I wrote it]. I'm aware that to heal I should probably not be ruminating about these things, especially if they lead me to boil over and message him, but here you go.
The first time I had sex with him, he slammed the door on me for not being able to finish and said "finish yourself." When I came to bed, I told him I felt shame. He said "good." The next time we had sex, he set a timer for me and said I had to finish within 5 minutes. These were the first times I ever had sex. He was manipulative in bed, telling me he didn't want to perform certain acts because I didn't give him enough praise for them, so that I started exaggerating my pleasure; he blamed me for why certain positions weren't working and was frustrated with how my body worked. On top of this, he admitted at the end of the relationship to having had sex with me around five times after he decided to break up with me (before he did), which just makes me feel a bit icky.
He would put me down in pretty transparently cruel ways. One example was when I exerted myself, he said I sounded like a muppet and that he "didn't want to be dating a muppet." When I offered him a blanket but apologized that it might not have been washed in a while, he called me a baby. He would insult my ability to give complements, asking me to tell him what color his eyes are but then rejecting everything that I gave him, telling me I was bad at complements repeatedly (and saying that it wasn't fair of him because his other exes were artists, so no wonder I was bad). Now, there were times that he was complementary to me--he told me I was hot, good at singing, good at writing, smart--but also times where he would put me down for things I was less good at, like cooking.
He constantly made me feel insecure about my gender. (For context, we are both men, but he was raised as a woman). So he would make pretty sweeping feminist critiques over fairly mundane things, like if I complained when I was sick he would go off about how men are always babies when they are sick and women don't get attention. When I confronted him about some of the things he was saying, telling him that while I wanted him to express these kinds of social problems so that I could be aware and adapt, I was feeling insecure in the relationship--he flipped it around and told me that if I didn't feel loved, he could say "I love you" less, and that I hadn't been grateful enough for when he came to visit me. (I had written him poetry, deep cleaned my apartment, taken time off work, sent my roommate off for the week, bought him a bus pass, planned his visit, met him in the airport despite not having a car, and just an insane amount of work to be turned into, "you weren't grateful enough").
Other than namecalling, he was just plain controlling. The reason that the boundary around me not sending long messages exists is that when I felt insecure--which I think makes sense given the ways he would talk to me--I would often send him a few paragraphs apologizing and explaining how I was growing. Even though long messages were the first thing he said he loved about me, and that he said our communication was like magic, he eventually set up what he called an "Essay embargo" and told me not to write them. The first time he set the "embargo", he had said it was only until we met in person because he didn't want me to write anything that would make him nervous. After we met in person, I assumed the embargo had lifted. Yet shortly after, he set it again, giving a few explanations--the main one just being that he wanted to appreciate our relationship without overthinking it. It seemed playful. He definitely did also say that long messages made him uncomfortable because he felt obligated to send a response. So, when I did send messages, I would add that he didn't have to respond (which I realize is not fully respecting the boundary). I did ask after sending messages whether they were ok and he never responded to those questions.
Despite this, there were times during the relationship that I continued to send long, often apologetic messages. I had felt like this boundary was set playfully and I also was feeling overwhelming guilt that I, for whatever reason, needed his affirmation for. I am conflicted because on the one hand, I was definitely ignoring his boundary--but on the other, I feel like the boundary was not very thoughtful of my own needs, either.
Prior to the breakup, it was hell. He was getting angry at me for everything--for pretty mundane things like using the bathroom before him and stinking it up. He told me he had to show me how to do everything, but I realize now that a lot of this was just him being particular (e.g, he told me I don't know how to drink tea because I left the bag in, when I just like it strong). Unfortunately, I had flown 5,000 miles to visit him and was sort of trapped in his proximity, and was drunk on love still since I was trying very hard, it was my first relationship, and he had sold me on notions of fairytale romance and told me we were cosmically meant to be together and other lovebomby sort of things. We flew to a convention and I met some of his friends, and at one point he introduced me to a girl he had almost dated before, saying I was a friend and not a partner. I pointed this out to him later and he just said "does that make you angry?". He flirted with a woman at a party, telling her she was pretty while demanding that i bring him snacks (I feel so, so weak for not confronting him about this). He got drunk and I stayed with him as he passed out, but he was angry at me in the morning. When one of his friends told me they thought I was nice, because i was opening doors for everyone, my ex said "Is he really?" Questioning them.
The breakup itself was cold and calculated. He started it by telling me that he thought about not giving me any reasons for the breakup because I always overanalyze things. He told me he wouldn't have broken up with me if I was a woman. He told me I didn't take care of him and he needs a partner that takes care of him, and that his partners always feel taken care of. He threw some things I had said at the beginning of the relationship back at me--misquoting and misunderstanding them.
After the relationship, I had no idea what to think. It was my first relationship. It had started with fairytale romance. I had been passing his tests, I had been an exception to his long string of abusive relationships. He presented himself as this incredibly moral person (vegan, environmentally conscious, telling me of all of the ways others had abused him that he would never do, even his closest friends). I had completely internalized criticisms that he had had of me throughout the relationship, many of which had led to serious self reflection and my writing messages about my growth. Within a week I told him I still loved him and that I always would. He reminded me of his boundary around long messages and said they made him anxious. I was desperate. We took a few weeks of no-contact. We messaged short-messages back and forth, with a few life-updates to eachother each. He told me he was rescuing a kitten that he found, and I remembered how he could be kind.
But as I processed, more and more, I felt angry. I wrote unsent angry letters in the notes app on my phone for a month. I wrote myself a 20,000 word summary of the relationship. This was not a healthy way to process. It elevated me. (Some of you will probably comment that maybe I shouldn't have written this post for the same reason, but oh well--I wanted to process and I want to hear if others have similar stories). Meanwhile, my ex kept pushing back the date for when we would verbally connect again. Eventually, I boiled over. I did not insult him. But I wrote a long message explaining that I wanted to take 3 months of no-contact. I had entered another relationship and told him that even though I was feeling angry at him, he shouldn't be worried because even though I had baggage from the relationship, I was communicating well with my new partner. I also told him that I felt like if I did talk with him, that I would end up tearing him a new one, and that I needed time to cool down. I'm not proud of the message in general, but I didn't call names, tell him he was awful, or anything like that. I was just insensitive and told him I was angry.
And like that, I was blocked. It was over. A period of about 9 months, five of which we were together, with two before escalating towards love bombing and two after escalating towards my boiling over.
And yet, I had never expressed to him that I thought he had been abusive. I felt frustrated that I had told him that I would always love him, when in many ways now I hated him.
Five months passed, during which I came to realize more and more how messed up the relationship was.
And then I sent the message on Co-star.
Fast forward another four months to now.
I just sent him a text, knowing he probably has blocked me there too. It said something like, "I want my last message to you just be: I'm sorry, and I forgive you." I wanted to free myself. I needed to not feel angry at him or ashamed of myself. I needed to not feel like I had a million things to say to him--I needed to just say, this is it: I'm not sending more messages. I'm sorry, and I forgive you. It was for myself. I was forgiving him selfishly, even though he didn't deserve it, so that I could move on.
I feel like I shouldn't have sent this, but I don't feel bad about it yet, either. I needed closure. It always felt like there was some "message I could send" to detail his abuse, and I needed to not have that standing over me--I needed to forgive. I am now oscillating between wondering about myself--whether I have a problem with boundaries, since I had boiled over at this point three times to message him. Feeling frustrated I didn't assert myself about his abuse, that I doubled down on loving him. Part of me is glad that I sent the message on Co-Star saying that he was abusive, because it was the only indication I ever gave him, really, that what he did wasn't ok to me--he had blocked me before I could articulate anything. But I also know that this message even if received would not mean anything to him.
Anyways, now I'm venting about it here on Reddit. Does anyone have similar experiences surrounding self control messaging exes and feeling a bit out of control?