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2024.05.29 04:52 Parking-Straight Parent dislike my natural hair.
Hello everyone, I am a lurker of Naturalhair and I really need some advice. :( Scroll down for the TDLR, also sorry for the bad formatting and grammar, English is not my first language and I’m also typing this on phone.
I’ve been transitioning to natural since March 2020 (quarantine). Before, I’ve been using relaxers on my hair. I stopped using relaxers because I hated how much it burned my scalp and during January-February 2020, I felt a curl in the root my scalp and I liked the feeling of it 😭.
So, boom, March 2020 comes, before everything shut down, I told my mother that I wanted to do natural and I asked her if I can buy shampoo and conditioner. She agrees and I brought Shea Moisturizer Coconut and Hibiscus line. I washed my hair and I noticed my hair was half straight and half curly (transition stage). I was so eager to see the curls forming, and thought this was going to be a new chapter for my hair journey.
I started to wash my hair every Sunday because why not? One day, when I was getting ready to wash my hair, my mother stopped me and said “You don’t need to wash your hair every single week or every two weeks, you know?” I was kinda confused and said “I don’t?” Mind you, I was new at this and I was also watching youtube videos on how to do and style natural hair. She said “When you do natural, you braid hair to make it longer.” She offered to braid my hair since it was during the pandemic and everything was closed down.
So she braided my hair and I left the braids for about 2 months. (March-May). Then I left my natural hair out, let it breathe for a week, washed and blow dry, got braids again. (late May-early August). I got my first sew in during late August for back-to-school and kept it in for October. Okay so you get the gist. I’ve been putting weaves/braids/wigs in my hair and have not been able to fully let my natural hair out to breathe, just letting it sit for one week and put a protective style. This fucking pattern went on from March 2020 up to late 2023.
So it’s late 2023, I had enough of this. I wanted to know how to fully take care of my natural hair. I won’t lie, protective styles did help my hair a bit, but I wanted to fully take care of my hair. At this time, I shampoo and conditioned my hair every two weeks.
One day, as I was finish washing my hair my mother look at me and said, “Your hair looks like a mess. All your hair will fall out!” I brushed it off because I’m used to her saying stuff like this ever since I started my natural hair journey. Every time when she comb my hair, she would roughly comb out my hair and say “See, look! Your hair is falling out.” I’m also very tender-headed so when she say stuff like this it hurts my feelings and my scalp. Literally when my hair is in the transitioning stage she said she hasn’t seen anything progress and wanted me to do a relaxer.
In March or April 2024, I was flat ironing my hair, my aunt came in, saw me, and said “Why don’t you put a wig!?!? You’re a grow up woman now! You don’t need to do natural hair!” She then roughly grabbed the back of my hair. I wasn’t sure if she trying to pull it or anything. Then my mother jumped in and said “I keep telling her that and she don’t listen!” So not only my mother disliked my natural hair, but my aunt did too. My heart shattered hearing those comments but I eventually got over it.
Last week, I did mini braids on myself, and I went to go see my mother, and she looked at my hair “Don’t you see that you look ugly without no hair?” I just walked away from her. Few days ago, I went out with my auntie and she asked me what was I going to do with my hair now. I told her that I’m just going to take care of it and she said I shouldn’t leave my hair like that. I just changed the subject.
Now a few hours ago, I went downstairs and my mother yelled at me about my hair once again, but this time she said “Just cut all your hair off if you can’t do natural hair. Can you even afford to do natural hair?? Do something with your hair or cut them!” I ran up to my room and literally cried. I am crying while typing this post. I know I shouldn’t but I’m very sensitive T-T
TDLR: I’ve been trying to take care of my natural hair for years now, my mother and auntie criticizes my natural hair and rather me put protective styles such as wigs and braids to not show my natural hair I guess.
Things I wanted to add to the story since the post is pretty long.
• I was fully natural by early-mid 2021.
• When I washed my hair during my back to back protective style stage, I did have a lot of breakage while washing my hair :(
• I’m NOT hating on protective styles by the way, I LOVE putting on braids/wigs/weave. I just didn’t want to put it on the time, you know.
• On October 2022, I blow dry + flat iron my natural hair for my cousin sweet 16. I played a role in her birthday party court. There was seven girls including myself, and 4 of them were wigs and 3 of them plus myself included were natural. My mother told my cousin that she didn’t like the way my hair looked and wanted me to purchase a wig but obviously it was too late.
• Lately, I’ve noticed my mother has been giving me weird looks when I have my hair out. When I wear wigs she always see my face first, but when my hair out she look at my hair, then becomes angry.
• Outside of my home, a lot of people in my workplace like when I have my natural hair. When I did a high puff, one of my professor said I had “nice hair” I do two puffs in my hair for work and people usually find them cute. Someone said I look like Minnie Mouse hehe :) I hope that’s a compliment. Also someone that worked in a different department of my workplace looked at me and said “I love your hair, please keep doing natural” I was kinda surprised to hear that too.
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I’ve been transitioning to natural since March 2020 (quarantine). Before, I’ve been using relaxers on my hair. I stopped using relaxers because I hated how much it burned my scalp and during January-February 2020, I felt a curl in the root my scalp and I liked the feeling of it 😭.
So, boom, March 2020 comes, before everything shut down, I told my mother that I wanted to do natural and I asked her if I can buy shampoo and conditioner. She agrees and I brought Shea Moisturizer Coconut and Hibiscus line. I washed my hair and I noticed my hair was half straight and half curly (transition stage). I was so eager to see the curls forming, and thought this was going to be a new chapter for my hair journey.
I started to wash my hair every Sunday because why not? One day, when I was getting ready to wash my hair, my mother stopped me and said “You don’t need to wash your hair every single week or every two weeks, you know?” I was kinda confused and said “I don’t?” Mind you, I was new at this and I was also watching youtube videos on how to do and style natural hair. She said “When you do natural, you braid hair to make it longer.” She offered to braid my hair since it was during the pandemic and everything was closed down.
So she braided my hair and I left the braids for about 2 months. (March-May). Then I left my natural hair out, let it breathe for a week, washed and blow dry, got braids again. (late May-early August). I got my first sew in during late August for back-to-school and kept it in for October. Okay so you get the gist. I’ve been putting weaves/braids/wigs in my hair and have not been able to fully let my natural hair out to breathe, just letting it sit for one week and put a protective style. This fucking pattern went on from March 2020 up to late 2023.
So it’s late 2023, I had enough of this. I wanted to know how to fully take care of my natural hair. I won’t lie, protective styles did help my hair a bit, but I wanted to fully take care of my hair. At this time, I shampoo and conditioned my hair every two weeks.
One day, as I was finish washing my hair my mother look at me and said, “Your hair looks like a mess. All your hair will fall out!” I brushed it off because I’m used to her saying stuff like this ever since I started my natural hair journey. Every time when she comb my hair, she would roughly comb out my hair and say “See, look! Your hair is falling out.” I’m also very tender-headed so when she say stuff like this it hurts my feelings and my scalp. Literally when my hair is in the transitioning stage she said she hasn’t seen anything progress and wanted me to do a relaxer.
In March or April 2024, I was flat ironing my hair, my aunt came in, saw me, and said “Why don’t you put a wig!?!? You’re a grow up woman now! You don’t need to do natural hair!” She then roughly grabbed the back of my hair. I wasn’t sure if she trying to pull it or anything. Then my mother jumped in and said “I keep telling her that and she don’t listen!” So not only my mother disliked my natural hair, but my aunt did too. My heart shattered hearing those comments but I eventually got over it.
Last week, I did mini braids on myself, and I went to go see my mother, and she looked at my hair “Don’t you see that you look ugly without no hair?” I just walked away from her. Few days ago, I went out with my auntie and she asked me what was I going to do with my hair now. I told her that I’m just going to take care of it and she said I shouldn’t leave my hair like that. I just changed the subject.
Now a few hours ago, I went downstairs and my mother yelled at me about my hair once again, but this time she said “Just cut all your hair off if you can’t do natural hair. Can you even afford to do natural hair?? Do something with your hair or cut them!” I ran up to my room and literally cried. I am crying while typing this post. I know I shouldn’t but I’m very sensitive T-T
TDLR: I’ve been trying to take care of my natural hair for years now, my mother and auntie criticizes my natural hair and rather me put protective styles such as wigs and braids to not show my natural hair I guess.
Things I wanted to add to the story since the post is pretty long.
• I was fully natural by early-mid 2021.
• When I washed my hair during my back to back protective style stage, I did have a lot of breakage while washing my hair :(
• I’m NOT hating on protective styles by the way, I LOVE putting on braids/wigs/weave. I just didn’t want to put it on the time, you know.
• On October 2022, I blow dry + flat iron my natural hair for my cousin sweet 16. I played a role in her birthday party court. There was seven girls including myself, and 4 of them were wigs and 3 of them plus myself included were natural. My mother told my cousin that she didn’t like the way my hair looked and wanted me to purchase a wig but obviously it was too late.
• Lately, I’ve noticed my mother has been giving me weird looks when I have my hair out. When I wear wigs she always see my face first, but when my hair out she look at my hair, then becomes angry.
• Outside of my home, a lot of people in my workplace like when I have my natural hair. When I did a high puff, one of my professor said I had “nice hair” I do two puffs in my hair for work and people usually find them cute. Someone said I look like Minnie Mouse hehe :) I hope that’s a compliment. Also someone that worked in a different department of my workplace looked at me and said “I love your hair, please keep doing natural” I was kinda surprised to hear that too.
2024.05.29 04:34 DominicB2003 Looking to make some new Friends
20 year old living in Seattle with my fiancé looking to make some new friends to talk to about mostly anything. Some of my interests are tv shows like the walking dead, supernatural, how I met your mother, the office, Brooklyn 99, cobra Kai, I love all kinds of movies. My favorite are 80s movies. I love hiking and outdoor sports, and fitness. Super into video games like baulders gate 3, ghost recon breakpoint, Minecraft, I like Talking about Fashion, vintage fashion and makeup, and classic rock. DMs are open to talk 😁
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2024.05.29 04:23 Important_Sleep5672 Where do I start?
 | I’m a 31(F) 5’0 about 130 lbs & a mother of 5. My youngest is 8 months old. You can only imagine how busy I am. All I really do is wear shape-wear. No diet as of now. So I guess my question is, where do I start? Would you recommend a treadmill? Bike? Is there videos you recommend (such as insanity workout ) My goal would be to tone up and lose the belly & back fat. TIA! submitted by Important_Sleep5672 to GymMotivation [link] [comments] |
2024.05.29 04:03 StoreHumble8669 what to do
i am 21 and i currently live at home with my mother and her bf and i don't have a job rn i got fired recently but i have decent amount of money saved up around 10 k and i'm lost atm my car is broken down i live in the country so no walking to the store for me. i have no idea what to do rn i can look for jobs but i'd have to wait for my car to get fixed idk what to do all day i just sit on my ass and play video games mostly and i don't wanna work a stupid 9-5 my whole life so what should i do with this sum of money i've made to make my life easier down the road?
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2024.05.29 04:01 Left-Water2599 Is it okay that I don't work?
My (23F) boyfriend (23M) supports us financially while I stay home and do housework such as taking care of pets and all that stuff. The reason I haven't been working is that after I started transitioning, there were a whole lot of things about my childhood that started to surface in my head once I had made it past the barrier of societal acceptance. My mother was very emotionally neglectful of me especially once I got older. She had a fragile ego and relied on men to get things done while simultaneously infantilizing me. I wasn't taught much in the social ways and I stayed on my room most of the time. She would make me food and make me feels bad when I didn't want it. Weird stuff. It wasn't until recently that I became open to the idea of being neurodivergent and that's a whole can of worms in itself. Anyway, she became so financially dependent on me and guilt tripped me into keeping the house afloat, being a better brother (and by that she meant father because she went though so many partners all the while blaming men for being shitty), and whatever else. Speaking of my father, he passed when I was just a freshman in Highschool. Found out one morning from my mother and she sent me to school that same morning, fun. He was good to me. I like to think he still would have been proud of me even though he liked to call me his "number one son" despite being his only then son. Anywho, when he was getting to be sick, I was all alone in his apartment for months before my mother decided he was too far gone for me to be living alone like that. A little too late I say. I got the classic, "you're so mature for your age" crap all through that. You know what that means for someone later on. This all lead to a suppressed ideation of being infantilized due to all the pressure. I want that feeling of being saved and coddled and protected without any expectation. This left me ruined once I had left my job due to constant panic attacks. I had saved up so much money from having that expectation to provide so I decided to live on that for a while. My boyfriend and I were already talking about moving in together, but when we moved in, I just couldn't do it. I can't rationalize working. I'm already depressed as hell. I lost everyone when I transitioned. I cut off my family and my "friends" were all bigots the whole time because that's the crowd I had to be with because I was repressing my true feelings. I cope day in and day out by playing video games and doing age regression activities and even then I don't even let myself have the latter (please don't judge, it really helps, except for when it just feels like an outlet for that previously described trauma, but whatever). I have given up my financial responsibility so that I can at least not have to interact with other people besides the one person I love more than anything. I know I'm putting so much stress on him and we've talked up and down about all of this. We are mega transparent and understanding of each other. He tells me he's okay with it and I 100% believe him. I just have these nagging thoughts (especially because he's gone rn for a couple of weeks for work stuff) where I'm not good enough and I'm asking too much. I want him to help my heal my inner child, but he's so busy and he works so hard, but I hate myself too much to do it myself. Playing video games is my safe go to for dopamine. It takes no effort to load up the system and get to it. Ugh, sorry for the rant this is just so frustrating.
TLDR: High expectations and simultaneous infantilization from childhood has ruined my chances of being a functioning adult
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TLDR: High expectations and simultaneous infantilization from childhood has ruined my chances of being a functioning adult
2024.05.29 03:59 StoreHumble8669 what to do
i am 21 and i currently live at home with my mother and her bf and i don't have a job rn i got fired recently but i have decent amount of money saved up around 10 k and i'm lost atm my car is broken down i live in the country so no walking to the store for me. i have no idea what to do rn i can look for jobs but i'd have to wait for my car to get fixed idk what to do all day i just sit on my ass and play video games mostly and i don't wanna work a stupid 9-5 my whole life so what should i do with this sum of money i've made to make my life easier down the road?
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2024.05.29 03:41 One_Bank9524 disappointed in a ktuber I used to look up to
(Yes I am using a throwaway acct bc I don't want people to harass me on my main lmao.)
So basically, there's this one ktuber I used to look up to a lot: vixxo. I loved her videos, and would follow her on twt, always stay tuned for her lives, etc. but recently (well for the past year) she's done a lot of things that hadn't sit right with me and I'm really disappointed bc I used to look up to her so much. I don't really know how to deal w all this. I already unfollowed her and blocked her on all platforms but since I used to be so obsessed w her content it's rlly hard not to check back in sometimes, and what I noticed is everyone constantly kisses her ass and acts like "the only reason people hate you is because they can't handle critical opinions about their faves" and it feels very invalidating.
Here's a list of things she's done I dislike. Honestly I know some of these things aren't that bad but I just wanted to talk about everything that made me stop liking her. - she just has a very self centered attitude in general. she’s very smug and seems to think she can never be wrong. whenever someone has a positive opinion on a song she dislikes, she implies that they’re forcing themselves to like it. - one example of this: once some guy named berts bayou said that get up (nwjns) was the only kpop ep he liked. then there was a hit tweet quoting him saying “the reason why it’s the only ep you can listen through is bc it’s 12 minutes and your attention span is too low for anything else” or something like that. vixxo replied to that qrt calling it “fucking hilarious” and i just find it so ironic bc she constantly whines about how people don’t respect her opinions, but she can’t respect others. - her account is just a constant cesspool of negativity and it gets rlly tiring after a while. she’s always complaining about how music has gone downhill, there’s no real vocalists in kpop anymore, etc. and yeah ig she can post what she wants but it’s just tiring like girl nobody is forcing you to consume newer kpop. (again it’s ironic bc whenever someone rightfully complains about a hate train their fav group is going thru she’s like “idc i have no sympathy ur responsible for what u consume” ok then that means it’s ur choice to consume newer kpop and u don’t need to shit on it every 2 seconds. also again she has complained about hate trains HER faves went through so it just feels hypocritical) - she has some kinda weird views? like she said it’s “definitely not” okay for a 17 yo and an 18 yo to date each other even if they’re both in high school. like girl be so fr 😭😭 - she talked shit about a bunch of other ktubers when she was 19 and the other ktubers were like 13. like im sorry that’s pathetic behavior 😭 how you an adult and bullying people who just became teenagers like. she was also extremely xenophobic towards them, mocking the way they phrased things and how their voices sounded when english wasn’t even their first language. tbf she did apologize, but she also deflects and victimizes herself every time it’s brought up instead of just admitting she did wrong and people have a right to not want to support her after what she did, especially if they’ve had to deal w xenophobia in their personal lives. she also stays friends with someone who also participated in talking shit about those ktubers and even blocked the victims, AND i saw her initial responses to the victims and they were gaslighty af. “let’s just all do the mature thing and move on” girl what do you mean “let’s” when you were the one who started it and who do you think you are telling literal children they’re being immature for rightfully feeling betrayed. - she cannot ever admit she is/was wrong. one example is the garam situation. basically she wasn’t on garams side (which i think is understandable at first bc it did seem like the evidence was against her) but she also acted like she was a terrible, irredeemable person (ironic asf bc like i said it’s not like vixxo has never bullied anyone before) and referred to her supporters as “followers who cannot construct an original thought”. then when it came out that garam was the victim and was just defending her friend from sexual harassment, vixxo never apologized even though she said she would if garam was proved innocent. when someone brought it up she was like “im not gonna apologize for supporting the victim lol check yourself?” like no you need to apologize for hating on an innocent minor eventually causing her to lose her career, and defending a sexual predator. - she also constantly complained about how garam stans brought her up to praise her after she left lsf, but meanwhile she brought her up even after she left the group to HATE ON HER. she stated that she had “sinister energy” (very weird to say about a minor ESPECIALLY when you’re an adult) and made a tweet about “i cant believe hybe made garam the center when chaewon was in the group”. this was all after garam left the group btw, it’s giving obsessed. if you’re going to drag an innocent girl even after she stopped being an idol, don’t get mad when people support her after she left lesserafim. - when moonbin and sua performed my ear candy together, she commented about how it was “weird” and “creepy” for siblings to perform that song together. then after 4/19/23, she rted a tweet talking about how the performance was so cute. like girl maybe apologize and hold yourself accountable instead of being fake? - she claims to be a “girls girl” but has done many things proving the opposite. for example when illits final lineup was announced, she liked and rted a tweet calling them “r u rigged” and “I’ll-flop”. she also once said something like “no 16 year old except boa and britney has ever slayed hard enough to be called mother” like why are you putting down 16 year old girls if you’re a girls girl? also it’s just pathetic bc she was like 21 when she said that - she supported addison rae (a tiktok influencesinger with a long history of antiblack racism) even after KNOWING about her actions. and i don’t just mean listening to her music, i mean actively supporting, calling her mothecunty, responding “teehee <333” to a comment that said “laurve you being a low key addison rae stan”, and rting her new years eve post. she eventually unstanned her (for a very good reason, idk if im allowed to say why tho) but it just hurts that she didn’t think antiblackness was a big enough dealbreaker. (she’s white btw lmao) - she went along w the nwjns eta conspiracy theory despite the fact that it’s literally based on right wing propaganda?? also it’s just really stupid in general so idk how vixxo sees herself as some great critical thinker when she goes along w whatever people say just to hate on a group. even though this narrative literally feeds into the oppression of basque people, she doesn’t care - once some guy posted about margot robbie in i, tonya and said something like “i always find it so amazing how actors basically have to become just as good as the profession they’re playing” and vixxo responded very rudely like “open up the schools… you don’t know what a stunt double is?” like no girl, not everyone is as smart and educated on film as you are 😱😱 you could’ve just explained instead of being unnecessarily rude. someone pointed out in her retrospring that it wasn’t that serious for her to be rude and she, again, responded rudely, saying something like “he’s literally spreading misinformation” acting like he had some malicious intent. and idk i could be overthinking but the whole incident felt very racially motivated imo (the guy who made the original post was black, vixxo like i said is white). idk it just feels like a white person who doesn’t see black people as worthy of respect so when a black guy gets something wrong, her immediate response is to be hostile and act like he has bad intentions / is purposefully trying to spread misinformation rather than correcting him in a respectful way. like i said i could be overthinking but the way she treated him definitely felt at least slightly racist. she probably didn’t intend to but that’s how it came off - she made a video about problems in ktube where she talked about nonblack people using aave. during it, she provided a list of commonly used aave terms and said something like “ive used these terms before im sorry and ill never use them again” which would be fine… except for the fact that she used some of those terms again (ex. slay) AFTER making that video. tbh im so used to nonblacks using (or misusing) aave so im not even mad at her for that, im more mad at the fact that she KNEW it was wrong and did it anyway. just feels v performative - she constantly encourages her viewers to have a parasocial relationship with her (which is weird bc she’s not a celebrity) by referring to them unironically as vixxonators, responding stuff like “teehee i love this <33” whenever someone admits to having a parasocial relationship with her, etc. but whenever someone criticizes her she pulls the “some of you guys expect too much from me im not media trained nor do i wish to become a celebrity” card. like you can’t encourage people to have a parasocial relationship with you but then complain about it ad soon as you’re criticized for your actions. also you don’t have to have a parasocial relationship with someone to criticize them - I think there’s a few more things but ive already written a lot so that’s all for now
So yeah. Like I said idrk how to deal w these feelings. It almost feels like she betrayed me, and I know this is a dumb/delusional view to have, but it just sucks bc I used to look up to her sm. Feel free to comment advice, tell me what you think of her actions , validate me, invalidate me, etc.
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So basically, there's this one ktuber I used to look up to a lot: vixxo. I loved her videos, and would follow her on twt, always stay tuned for her lives, etc. but recently (well for the past year) she's done a lot of things that hadn't sit right with me and I'm really disappointed bc I used to look up to her so much. I don't really know how to deal w all this. I already unfollowed her and blocked her on all platforms but since I used to be so obsessed w her content it's rlly hard not to check back in sometimes, and what I noticed is everyone constantly kisses her ass and acts like "the only reason people hate you is because they can't handle critical opinions about their faves" and it feels very invalidating.
Here's a list of things she's done I dislike. Honestly I know some of these things aren't that bad but I just wanted to talk about everything that made me stop liking her. - she just has a very self centered attitude in general. she’s very smug and seems to think she can never be wrong. whenever someone has a positive opinion on a song she dislikes, she implies that they’re forcing themselves to like it. - one example of this: once some guy named berts bayou said that get up (nwjns) was the only kpop ep he liked. then there was a hit tweet quoting him saying “the reason why it’s the only ep you can listen through is bc it’s 12 minutes and your attention span is too low for anything else” or something like that. vixxo replied to that qrt calling it “fucking hilarious” and i just find it so ironic bc she constantly whines about how people don’t respect her opinions, but she can’t respect others. - her account is just a constant cesspool of negativity and it gets rlly tiring after a while. she’s always complaining about how music has gone downhill, there’s no real vocalists in kpop anymore, etc. and yeah ig she can post what she wants but it’s just tiring like girl nobody is forcing you to consume newer kpop. (again it’s ironic bc whenever someone rightfully complains about a hate train their fav group is going thru she’s like “idc i have no sympathy ur responsible for what u consume” ok then that means it’s ur choice to consume newer kpop and u don’t need to shit on it every 2 seconds. also again she has complained about hate trains HER faves went through so it just feels hypocritical) - she has some kinda weird views? like she said it’s “definitely not” okay for a 17 yo and an 18 yo to date each other even if they’re both in high school. like girl be so fr 😭😭 - she talked shit about a bunch of other ktubers when she was 19 and the other ktubers were like 13. like im sorry that’s pathetic behavior 😭 how you an adult and bullying people who just became teenagers like. she was also extremely xenophobic towards them, mocking the way they phrased things and how their voices sounded when english wasn’t even their first language. tbf she did apologize, but she also deflects and victimizes herself every time it’s brought up instead of just admitting she did wrong and people have a right to not want to support her after what she did, especially if they’ve had to deal w xenophobia in their personal lives. she also stays friends with someone who also participated in talking shit about those ktubers and even blocked the victims, AND i saw her initial responses to the victims and they were gaslighty af. “let’s just all do the mature thing and move on” girl what do you mean “let’s” when you were the one who started it and who do you think you are telling literal children they’re being immature for rightfully feeling betrayed. - she cannot ever admit she is/was wrong. one example is the garam situation. basically she wasn’t on garams side (which i think is understandable at first bc it did seem like the evidence was against her) but she also acted like she was a terrible, irredeemable person (ironic asf bc like i said it’s not like vixxo has never bullied anyone before) and referred to her supporters as “followers who cannot construct an original thought”. then when it came out that garam was the victim and was just defending her friend from sexual harassment, vixxo never apologized even though she said she would if garam was proved innocent. when someone brought it up she was like “im not gonna apologize for supporting the victim lol check yourself?” like no you need to apologize for hating on an innocent minor eventually causing her to lose her career, and defending a sexual predator. - she also constantly complained about how garam stans brought her up to praise her after she left lsf, but meanwhile she brought her up even after she left the group to HATE ON HER. she stated that she had “sinister energy” (very weird to say about a minor ESPECIALLY when you’re an adult) and made a tweet about “i cant believe hybe made garam the center when chaewon was in the group”. this was all after garam left the group btw, it’s giving obsessed. if you’re going to drag an innocent girl even after she stopped being an idol, don’t get mad when people support her after she left lesserafim. - when moonbin and sua performed my ear candy together, she commented about how it was “weird” and “creepy” for siblings to perform that song together. then after 4/19/23, she rted a tweet talking about how the performance was so cute. like girl maybe apologize and hold yourself accountable instead of being fake? - she claims to be a “girls girl” but has done many things proving the opposite. for example when illits final lineup was announced, she liked and rted a tweet calling them “r u rigged” and “I’ll-flop”. she also once said something like “no 16 year old except boa and britney has ever slayed hard enough to be called mother” like why are you putting down 16 year old girls if you’re a girls girl? also it’s just pathetic bc she was like 21 when she said that - she supported addison rae (a tiktok influencesinger with a long history of antiblack racism) even after KNOWING about her actions. and i don’t just mean listening to her music, i mean actively supporting, calling her mothecunty, responding “teehee <333” to a comment that said “laurve you being a low key addison rae stan”, and rting her new years eve post. she eventually unstanned her (for a very good reason, idk if im allowed to say why tho) but it just hurts that she didn’t think antiblackness was a big enough dealbreaker. (she’s white btw lmao) - she went along w the nwjns eta conspiracy theory despite the fact that it’s literally based on right wing propaganda?? also it’s just really stupid in general so idk how vixxo sees herself as some great critical thinker when she goes along w whatever people say just to hate on a group. even though this narrative literally feeds into the oppression of basque people, she doesn’t care - once some guy posted about margot robbie in i, tonya and said something like “i always find it so amazing how actors basically have to become just as good as the profession they’re playing” and vixxo responded very rudely like “open up the schools… you don’t know what a stunt double is?” like no girl, not everyone is as smart and educated on film as you are 😱😱 you could’ve just explained instead of being unnecessarily rude. someone pointed out in her retrospring that it wasn’t that serious for her to be rude and she, again, responded rudely, saying something like “he’s literally spreading misinformation” acting like he had some malicious intent. and idk i could be overthinking but the whole incident felt very racially motivated imo (the guy who made the original post was black, vixxo like i said is white). idk it just feels like a white person who doesn’t see black people as worthy of respect so when a black guy gets something wrong, her immediate response is to be hostile and act like he has bad intentions / is purposefully trying to spread misinformation rather than correcting him in a respectful way. like i said i could be overthinking but the way she treated him definitely felt at least slightly racist. she probably didn’t intend to but that’s how it came off - she made a video about problems in ktube where she talked about nonblack people using aave. during it, she provided a list of commonly used aave terms and said something like “ive used these terms before im sorry and ill never use them again” which would be fine… except for the fact that she used some of those terms again (ex. slay) AFTER making that video. tbh im so used to nonblacks using (or misusing) aave so im not even mad at her for that, im more mad at the fact that she KNEW it was wrong and did it anyway. just feels v performative - she constantly encourages her viewers to have a parasocial relationship with her (which is weird bc she’s not a celebrity) by referring to them unironically as vixxonators, responding stuff like “teehee i love this <33” whenever someone admits to having a parasocial relationship with her, etc. but whenever someone criticizes her she pulls the “some of you guys expect too much from me im not media trained nor do i wish to become a celebrity” card. like you can’t encourage people to have a parasocial relationship with you but then complain about it ad soon as you’re criticized for your actions. also you don’t have to have a parasocial relationship with someone to criticize them - I think there’s a few more things but ive already written a lot so that’s all for now
So yeah. Like I said idrk how to deal w these feelings. It almost feels like she betrayed me, and I know this is a dumb/delusional view to have, but it just sucks bc I used to look up to her sm. Feel free to comment advice, tell me what you think of her actions , validate me, invalidate me, etc.
2024.05.29 03:34 Any-Willingness8436 What should I do now?
I need advice 9-1-1 I (f45) and my partner (m43) met 19 yrs ago through a mutual friend. It was love at first sight and we started talking and we both fell head over hills and decided to move in together since we couldn’t be apart for more than a week. We finally made the move and moved in together. He had a descent job and I was on the hunt for any kind of job. Since I had 2 daughters 9 and 5 at the time. He had 3 children m7 f5 and m of literally months. At the beginning it was bumpy but any new relationship is. It took about 10 yrs for our family to finally cope in between his family his ex and me with my daughters. A month into me moving with him 3 hrs away from my family he was laid off his job I had been looking for a job since day one so finally one day I found a job as a waitress working graveyard at a restaurant at a not safe area. I struggled since the biological father of my daughters cut ties after I moved he came to visit once or twice and then he vanished. We struggled financially for a long time. I was new on the online job search thing but I suggested he posted on Craigslist his painting since he’s a magnificent painter. It was a hit it. It went too good I left my job to help with the driving since it was mostly out of town. I got too bored that I asked to help him so it wouldn’t take too long. Our days were 10 hr days we did the murals for about 8 or 9 yrs. We argued constantly over simple things. So I told him I love him but I couldn’t do it any more. I started working from home doing clothing alterations it didn’t pay a lot but it helped. He then open a business selling and repairing video games and consoles it did good for a few yrs and he started an apprenticeship at a tattoo shop. He is very creating smart and extremely talented. I then started helping a friends mom doing alterations at her bridal shop that was next to an embroidery place that actually shared a room and the stomps of the machines hypnotized. As soon as there was a chance I got the opportunity to work there as well. I’ve been jumping from job to job to help with the expenses of the house and the shop my partner still owned. At his apprenticeship he had a slip and was fooling around with this other female it ended. He finally decided to close ip his shop bc it just wasn’t working. When he finished his apprenticeship he went on and decided to open his own shop. He got his keys December 2019. Most expenses fell on me since he had no income at the time. He was working very hard to get the place standing it was a mess he demolished painted installed plumbing electric the whole 9 yards. He opened his doors June 2020. We couldn’t be any happier. He is also a musician so he would get gigs all the time. I have to mention I was doing the house work the kids rides the cooking and when he needed me I was there all while I had 2 jobs I would take the kids to and from school and drop off my step kids too (I hate the word step kids) they’re my children too. Any how September 2020 he got this new gig job and by October same yr he didn’t want me to go see him play when he was blocks from home. He started acting weird like dressing differently and caring about his looks I had my suspicions but he would always tell me it was just in my head. I could see his call logs and I found out who he was talking to it was the lead singer of this new band. I confronted him and he said I was crazy. Ok. I kept seeing weird behaviors and talked to him about it since we are not legally married I offered to open a relationship since it would be months at a time w/o intimacy he said no cause nothing was happening. There were times he would take my car on a Sunday nights and act mad so he won’t come home. He ever told me once he couldn’t remember where he parked my car so he left it 2 hrs out of town which caused me to call off work many times. I was loosing my mind I knew something was wrong and I did everything to fix the situation. I decided to place a tracker in my car so he won’t have to strand it again. Next weened he took my car again and left it by the airport all night. I confronted him with pics of my car where he had left it and he admitted he carpooled with this other female that is married should I add. FF to may 17 2022 I got a hold of all his ig user names and passwords, he was talking to at least 6 females but I didn’t confronted him this time that day I had a terrible migraine and was feeling aweful I needed to rest my head and be calm so I went home he rejected me as if I was a piece of trash I sat up and told him it felt like he didn’t want to be with me so I asked him to leave he got up and he left. Right away he started dating this scumbag not the singer but this other person. He had a dinner date may 18th with a 26 yo and on and on. All in a span of 2 months after he left my home. We started talking again and we were fine I told him everything I felt and how much he had hurt me he told me I didn’t deserved that and no I don’t. When he moved out and finished fooling around he got this god and I loved her she was the sweetest dog. After my second job I would go to his place and puppy sat for him he would help me financially when I needed and things were working out it was like we were dating. September 2023 we got into a huge argument and things were bad I went zero contact for a month and it was bad. Until. He had one of his panic attacks and called me to take him to the er so did I saw the dog again and things were calm for over a month. By December same yr he gave me a check I couldn’t cash, on the 23rd I went to his place to return the check and give him his Xmas gift it was a large print of his dog on a makeup trip we did in march it wasn’t much but it was with so much love. He didn’t let me in to see the dog he said I was not welcomed he opened his door about an inch and the dog came out running to me. He called the cops on me I explained the situation and they talked ti us individually. I left and had Xmas eve with my children. I forgot to mention that my youngest f22 and his daughter f21 are currently living with me. Xmas day I was home alone and he calls me I pick up and it was him he was stressed he said that his dog was acting weird since Saturday she couldn’t bark she tried but was just wizzing we rushed her to a hospital 2 hrs away we came back without her she didn’t make it on our way back he told me that the day he called the cops on me she ran to his room sat in a corner and just looked down. He spend the rest of the week in my place I didn’t know what to do but be by him and help him. He decided to get another dog he just turned a yr I love that dog too. I’ve spent the night at his house every other night to help with the puppy while he works. I still had 2 jobs and his place is about 20 mins from mine. About 3 months ago he asked me to lend him some cash so he can get a car to play with so I did. 2 weeks ago my sister invited me to celebrate my nieces graduation and I asked him if our youngest had a date for his and he said no so I told my sister I was attending. Last Wednesday my kid told me he had a ceremony ticket for him and another one for me I arranged as crazy as it sounds to ask for Thursday off to drop off my daughter to my sisters which is 3 hrs away saw my mother for 20 or 25 mins and started my drive back because on Thursdays we take his dog to the street fair so by 1 pm I was back in town I took a quick nap and started getting ready for the fair. He calls me at 7 pm to ask if everything was ready I said yes I’m just getting his cooler ready we take ahi’s bowl a portion of kibble ice packs snacks and a spray bottle. I couldn’t find the spray bottle. I went to my car to check if it was there and I saw him pulling up in his truck I asked if he could come over and kept looking I check again and he walks right inside so I closed up and went in with him I told him I can’t find the spray bottle and he lost it he was cussing out the spray bottle and I was in shock I mean dollar tree has them we can replace it but he was mad at the bottle. He had been doing this same thing for 3 weeks he looses it and he goes into his bedroom extremely upset last time he was like that I let him know I can’t do these kinds of arguments they’re ridiculous. I told him I needed to go home with my dogs and I left. We have a mutual friend that has a dog like ours and that night he posted a pic of both dogs and the lost spray bottle was hanging from the side pocket of the wagon. I texted him Sunday so I could go see the dog and he said ok I spent an hr with I walked him and ate snacks then I left I called him yesterday and he said he had 2 walk ins so I visited the dog for 2 hrs walked him played with him and ate snacks. We both as an agreement we talked about me quitting my second job and puppy sit and he’d pay me what my second job did and so he can get hands on on his shop it’d be a win win it’s been very slow like scary slow and he needs to build his portfolio so we all happy. I talked to him about a bill I owe is 1200 and he said we’ll figure it out well it’s due today since things aren’t smooth I texted him and asked him to please call me he said about what I said about the dog and other things he asked is something wrong with the dog I said not really but we need to talk and he said there’s nothing to talk about I send him a pic of the bill and it’s due date which is today and he said not my problem ask for a loan or something. He owes me 2k I was trying to figure out how we can still help each other and he told me I was harassing him and that I can’t come see the dog and he will get a restraining order. I know his financial situation isn’t good but neither is mine he blocked me again. I know he’s a narcissist and very self centered. His actions don’t have an affect on me but the dog does I’m afraid something would happen to the dog like it did to the other one. I can’t say I don’t care about the money but I barely make ends meet for myself nor can I say I hate him I want him to be ok and succeed like I should too. I know it’s toxic that is why I left. I sent that payment today on time but now I will be behind on all my bills including my rent and car payment. I don’t want to go to his house I don’t know what I did wrong. All I’ve done is is be by his side when no one is he has literally no true friends and he’s not close to his children on his son graduation I was there there was his grandma his stepdad his biological mom me sitting next to her my stepdaughter her boyfriend and then him who got there 30 min late and on the phone for most of the ceremony.
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2024.05.29 03:18 Old_Marsupial_7080 AITHA for being mad at my mom for not kicking my brother out so he wont take my nephew with him?
My brother is almost 30 and he still lives with us with no job and doesn't help around the house. All he does is eat our food, play video games and get drunk. When he gets drunk he will start fights with us over the stupidest things. We try telling him he's an alcoholic but he says he isn't and will lie when he says he's not drunk. Yesterday I actually punched him. My mother knows he needs to leave, but because his son lives with us too she won't kick him out cause he would take his son with him. He's her first grandchild and I get she doesn't want to be somewhere with people she doesn't know, but my brother has shown no signs that he's going to quit and the rest of us have to put up with him bullying us hoping one day he might leave.
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2024.05.29 03:07 HisSunshine3-9 Citrine and Sea
Hello my love. Yet again I come to an end of a very long, exhausting, emotional day. Today is the day they did AC burial for the girl. That was my roommate. They had a celebration of life at a really nice restaurant near the water and then we took a charter boat out to the middle of the Gulf and they spread her ashes and her wreath and some sunflowers for her. It was very sad but it was also very beautiful to watch. You can tell she was loved by so many and past that. Love on to her husband and her daughters and her stepdaughters and pretty much anyone else that she met. It was comforting and eye-opening to listen to their stories of someone that I barely knew. I only got to spend time with her for that brief. We were in the rehab and then I talked to her a lot on Facebook. But I never saw her again. I still have that picture of us that we took together in there and she made me swear. I would never post it. I never did but I kept the picture. I held it together. Pretty good. I guess that's easy to do when you don't really know the person. But I broke down when they let her ashes go in the water. It was very emotional All together. I took a video for them because everyone else was crying and sad so I thought that they might appreciate it in the future. It's weird how you can feel a connection to someone that you barely even know. But everyone crosses our paths or for a reason and every place we are, especially in moments like that are for a reason. I believe I was brought there to represent friendship for her. Most of her friends are in Colorado or California and couldn't make it. The people that were here today were mostly her family. And then I talked to her husband's brother who lives in St. Louis and he's a cop. I may have opened his eyes a little bit for medical marijuana use for his mother and his wife. He is always saying how bad it is and I just, you know me being me, chimed in with all of my advocation for it and saying how well it's worked for me and many others. Maybe I was meant to cross his path and he can take that information out and change their minds. Minds. Who knows?
Before I headed to the celebration of life, I drove all the way down to Gulfport which is past the St. Pete beaches. Because I found a piece of citrine that was absolutely beautiful and the price was right. It even came with a stand. I can't wait to find the perfect place to display it. It's a very deep bold yellow with a hint of orange. It reminds me of pretty sunflowers, but more importantly, it's a giant tribute to your birthstone and I can put it up in the house. It already has tons of energy because I saw a bunch of other pieces online but that is the one that I had to have. It was calling my name and I drove 45 minutes completely out of the way to go grab it. The person I bought it from seems like they have good energy as well. I am still going to cleanse it myself to ward off anything bad that might be attached to it, but the overall feeling makes me super happy and that tells me that it was meant to be.
I had a couple glasses of wine at the celebration of life. They tasted good at the time, but now I am starting to feel a headache coming on. It happens almost every time I drink anything anymore. I just want to get some coffee or smoke something or take some ibuprofen or eat. I'm not really sure which is going to help. Maybe I need a combination of everything combined. I am so tired. I am not used to pulling all of these really long days without getting a nap or without getting a break in between. I just have to make it through one more day. But tomorrow isn't necessarily a long day. It's just going to be a late day because I go in from 2:00 to close. Part of me just wants to say fuck it and not go but I got to get the money while the money is there and I'm losing a day because of Rs graduation on Thursday so that would defeat the purpose of switching days.
Where have you been my love? I hope you are not angry with me for anything. Of course that is me always thinking the worst. I miss you. I hope to hear from you soon. I have A long drive ahead of me before I make it home. You know I will be writing to you again tomorrow. I hope you had a good day and I hope you have sweet dreams. Can't wait to see you in mine again. Always and forever, I love you more.
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Before I headed to the celebration of life, I drove all the way down to Gulfport which is past the St. Pete beaches. Because I found a piece of citrine that was absolutely beautiful and the price was right. It even came with a stand. I can't wait to find the perfect place to display it. It's a very deep bold yellow with a hint of orange. It reminds me of pretty sunflowers, but more importantly, it's a giant tribute to your birthstone and I can put it up in the house. It already has tons of energy because I saw a bunch of other pieces online but that is the one that I had to have. It was calling my name and I drove 45 minutes completely out of the way to go grab it. The person I bought it from seems like they have good energy as well. I am still going to cleanse it myself to ward off anything bad that might be attached to it, but the overall feeling makes me super happy and that tells me that it was meant to be.
I had a couple glasses of wine at the celebration of life. They tasted good at the time, but now I am starting to feel a headache coming on. It happens almost every time I drink anything anymore. I just want to get some coffee or smoke something or take some ibuprofen or eat. I'm not really sure which is going to help. Maybe I need a combination of everything combined. I am so tired. I am not used to pulling all of these really long days without getting a nap or without getting a break in between. I just have to make it through one more day. But tomorrow isn't necessarily a long day. It's just going to be a late day because I go in from 2:00 to close. Part of me just wants to say fuck it and not go but I got to get the money while the money is there and I'm losing a day because of Rs graduation on Thursday so that would defeat the purpose of switching days.
Where have you been my love? I hope you are not angry with me for anything. Of course that is me always thinking the worst. I miss you. I hope to hear from you soon. I have A long drive ahead of me before I make it home. You know I will be writing to you again tomorrow. I hope you had a good day and I hope you have sweet dreams. Can't wait to see you in mine again. Always and forever, I love you more.
2024.05.29 02:54 ScreamingLightspeed DAE greatly fear anesthesia?
Or sedatives, tranquilizers, whatever. No matter how bad the pain is, I hate feelings of numbness or drowsiness even more. I wouldn't smoke weed if didn't usually have a stimulant effect on me and the very few strains that do make me sleepy give me a panic attack because of it that thankfully negates whatever "relaxing" effect. When I accidentally got some of my mother-in-law's lidocaine cream in my mouth, I spent several minutes trying to rinse out not the lidocaine cream but the feeling of numbness itself. So called "laughing gas" only made me cry and scream and violently lash out because I hated feeling like I couldn't move. When people watch those funny anesthesia videos, I have to leave the room because nothing about it is funny to me. Regular ol' sleeping is already bad enough because when I'm asleep I'm not awake.
When I look up "phobia of sedatives" or whatever new wording I try that day, it's "sedatives for phobia" instead. Ads for "sedation dentistry" like sedation could ever do anything but make a trip to the dentist even worse. Or "fear of needles" or "fear of vomiting" or "fear of holes" but never fear of the drug itself. Nope, you'll be high! You'll be happy and high! You only think you fear this Xanax but here take this Xanax and you'll be fine! When I found a post on Reddit by someone who seems to get it, the comments sure as hell didn't. It's like falling asleep but faster! You won't remember a thing!
Yeah that's exactly what I hate about it. I want to feel, I want to know, I want to remember. I genuinely cannot comprehend why it isn't a more common fear and it makes me even more afraid to see sedatives recommended for anxiety when Googling my absolute terror toward such drugs. Anyone feel even remotely similar? Like nevermind the needle, it's whatever anesthetic it might inject? Is it more common than I realize but I'm just wording it wrong?
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When I look up "phobia of sedatives" or whatever new wording I try that day, it's "sedatives for phobia" instead. Ads for "sedation dentistry" like sedation could ever do anything but make a trip to the dentist even worse. Or "fear of needles" or "fear of vomiting" or "fear of holes" but never fear of the drug itself. Nope, you'll be high! You'll be happy and high! You only think you fear this Xanax but here take this Xanax and you'll be fine! When I found a post on Reddit by someone who seems to get it, the comments sure as hell didn't. It's like falling asleep but faster! You won't remember a thing!
Yeah that's exactly what I hate about it. I want to feel, I want to know, I want to remember. I genuinely cannot comprehend why it isn't a more common fear and it makes me even more afraid to see sedatives recommended for anxiety when Googling my absolute terror toward such drugs. Anyone feel even remotely similar? Like nevermind the needle, it's whatever anesthetic it might inject? Is it more common than I realize but I'm just wording it wrong?
2024.05.29 02:52 DissedFunction The William Gude Diatribe a/g ZE part 1
 | First off, this thread is NOT about Zachary Ellison. This thread is to layout and analyze a 20 minute rant by William Gude, aka Streets aka Film the Police, a/g ZE, which was apparently triggered by things said/done by ZE. The purpose is critically ask several questions, questions which surround the LA protestors, surround the protest structure, surround the purported vs the actual values of the LA protests a/g Scientology. I'm laying this out b/c the silence by the protestors (in LA and from SPTV) in response to this rant--has been deafening. As far as I know, only 1 protestor spoke out against this rant (DOA) and he quickly retracted his defense in one day. The rest the of the LA protestors have been either too afraid to criticize this rant or they, frankly agree with what was said. submitted by DissedFunction to protestingScientology [link] [comments] This is a transcription of the audio from the video "Freeing William" which was recorded by Jessica Palmadessa for her stream. It's here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fRbLZN1pQA&t=23492s Reading the rant is important for several reasons. 1) Look for certain words, phrases and talking points which originated from this rant and have ended up being repeated endlessly on various social media sites. 2) look to the multiple areas of potential slander (spoken defamation). 3) look at the instructions for followers to commit certain actions 4) look at the admissions of organization and control. 5) look to promises of certain actions. The transcript of the rant will be in several parts. There are timestamps. Warning: this is pretty triggering. Especially if you grew up and experienced bullies. 5:59:20 Jessica and William aka Streets get into Jessica’s car after she has picked him up after his release from jail.(The camera is pointed forward, facing out the window onto the street). 5:59:29 Jessica (talking to her chat) Oh God God, it’s time to give it up there buddy. William: What happened Jessica: Oh you’re going to love this William: Free Dave! (Also talking to Jessica’s chat). 5:59:51 Jessica: no it’s not that. Guys I’m muting for a second. (Sound is muted).(One can assume that while the sound is muted, Jessica is telling Streets what Zachary has said in her chat). 6:03:39 (sound is turned back on and the camera is now facing Jessica and William. William is bursting to speak and Jessica’s face is a mix of sheer delight and gloating ) Jessica: alright guys I’m back, sorry. William (speaking to Jessica’s chat about Zachary and to Zachary as well. ) 6:03:43 William: So I mean yeah, listen, I got released because I’m a journalist. I mean I guess I’m not a real journalist like Zach (said sarcastically) or whatever and his Substack. Talk shit Zach, keep on f*cking talking sh*t. You are not respected. No one respects you Zach. No one. You have been mocked, people mock you, people f*cking mock you. I was the only person who said you know what Zach, show him a little respect. Because I knew you were a f*cking nutcase. You’re a f*cking nutcase Zach. If I-- I wish I see you again you bitch. 6:04:12 William: —your real story..nobody reads your (Zach) Substack, no one reads that sh*t. No one. Not even your mother. No one. Who would read that. All they do is look at your tweets. This guy, you know what if you go onto Twitter anytime he posts something as a reply it automatically show up as a spam because all he does is spam. No one f*cking listens to his shit. He’s got a f*cking restraining order for USC because he’s a stalker there. You f*cking weirdo—Get your ass back out on Fig and get the first piece of p*ssy you’ve ever had in your life—you’re going to have to pay for it. —run you mouth against me. You’re not a journalist. No one gives a f*ck. Francois doesn’t give a f*ck about you, they just know you’re that weirdo who sits there stalking her car.” 6:05:01 William Gude: You’re mad at Eric why? Because Eric was talking to WeinLA and your punk ass got jealous. Jealous cuz you finally you thought you had the first woman in your life that paid you attention … ..and she (Ever) mocked you. She was mocking you. She (Ever) thought it was funny. We all thought it was funny. You’re a f*cking mark (that’s slang for object of scorn) and you’re a clown. I wish you would show your face around me again, talk sh*t about me. You going to talk shit about me? Who the f*ck are you? I noticed that you went, you know Zach, Zach outta nowhere started getting the RayBan sunglasses—the exact same ones as mine. (Jessica goes from happy smirking and bursts into laughter) —the same ones and all of a sudden Zach went from that f*cking disheveled hobo yellow jacket to wearing black hoodies and he’s riding around acting like he’s a tough guy—you’re a bitch! You’re too f*cking scared. You’re running around scared all the time, ‘oh the UCLA protests aren’t important’ (doing an impression of Zach) Motherf*cker nothing you do is important. This here is a national event. Yeah Figueroa is. 6:06:00 William Gude: You were stalking f*cking women on Figeroua. Stalking them you f*cking creep. You’re a weirdo.And it’s only a matter of time before your bitch ass gets pulled over (Jessica salutes because she’s agreeing) William: and you know what you’re going to say, “I’m an investigative journalist out here on Fig.” No one’s going to believe you. No one’s going to believe you, they’re going to look at that $50 you have in your pocket and you know what though?- you couldn’t even if you went out there with $1000 you probably still couldn’t get f*cked.-they’d be like nah you’re too f*cking weird for me.-nah you’re too f*cking ugly.Run your mouth Zach, you run your mouth against me? (Said incredulously). Against me??? Who the f*ck are you? I’m going to say this again, literally no one respects you. You have been the laughing stock. We joke about you. EVERYBODY. You don’t realize it. What it is when you come into a live and you see 200 people there like oh man 200 people finally want to listen to me for the first time in my life. No, they come there to f*cking LAUGH at you. —you f*cking clown. Bitch ass. 6:07 William Gude:“How you feel Zach? How do you feel? (Gude taunts him). Jessica: probably not good. William: “I’m an investigative journalist” (said like Zach).“Everyone laughs when you say that. No one, no one takes you seriously. No one. If you look at everybody that I know on Twitter and you know I know everybody on Twitter that’s involved in the activist space and the reporting space and you know what they do? They mute Zach because he sits in the comments just blowing it up hashtag hashtag just tweet after tweet—no one reads it. No one reads it Zach.—give it up. Go find something else. —run your mouth against me. 6:07:40 Jessica leans forward while driving to read one of the comments from her chat. “Who’s the real journalist now buddy?” (The chat is going crazy with glee with the verbal bashing, they’re joining in on the celebration with their own taunts). 6:07:41 William: What have you ever broken? (Referring to news stories) What have you ever broken Zach? Let’s I’ve talked to CNN this week, I was in the Washington Post yesterday talking about streaming, I was on CNN talking about the protest the other day, I was on ABC7 talking about the protest the other day, what the f*ck do you do? Two to three times a week I do an interview, what do you do? Like I said, Washington Post, you can look Taylor Lorenz she just wrote an article that I was in yesterday. What have you been in Zach? Nothing. —You write you got a Substack with one person that reads it—your Grandmother—maybe. And she’s probably saying, Grandson, that sh*t is boring, I don’t know what the f*ck you’re even talking about. Jessica: you ain’t calling in now (apparently talking to Zach via chat) William: Zach, you mark ass motherf*cker. You ain’t nobody. This guy out of nowhere started feeling himself. He’s like “oh yeah you know I’m the most important person with scientology”—nobody cares about you. People stop going to La Poubelle because you’re there. Jessica: No it’s dangerous (she smirks). William (shaking his head no):It has nothing to do with danger. They don’t go there because you’re there Zach. You annoy them when you come over to their face they walk away and then you act like “oh I’m somebody’s keeper. Oh I gotta go check on them” and what are you going to do? 6:09:00 William:I’ve seen, every time I’ve seen something jump off, your ass runs you bitch ass p*ssy. “Oh it’s too unsafe, it’s too unsafe. I’m an investigative journalist, it’s too unsafe.” (Said mimicking Zach)Shut up. Go ride around Fig. With your pennies. Jessica: Oh my God, I love you so much for that (said to William, laughing). William: run you mouth against me like that (said to Zach) Sh*t, I’ve been nothing but you know what it is like I said, I’ve always knew he’s a mark, like he’s slow, something’s slow about him right but you know what I always tried to be a nice guy, I always try to lift up everybody so like “oh yeah this is Zach, he’s a journalist and stuff” I said that reason why people call him a journalist is cuz I call him a journalist. No one else has ever called him a journalist. No one. Yeah, all of a sudden he ran with that. Should never have said a damn thing I should have just f*cking…he just showed up, he showed up over the Scientology protest why? ….cuz I was there.and he’s like “oh there’s something finally something for me to be a part of, finally.” Now what Zach? 6:10:01 William: Why don’t you go hang out with that guy with the knife guy who took his sh*t in the bushes, you guys go take a sh*t in the bushes together. Jessica: no it’s dangerous! (She mocks). William: Oh it’s dangerous, right, that’s dangerous Zach, Zach the p*ssy. No one else talks about things being dangerous but you. You always running your mouth “Oh it’s too dangerous, Oh it’s too dangerous” you b*tch ass —you wimp, stay inside then. Stop coming outside. “Oh it’s too dangerous, it’s too scary” run your mouth. All of a sudden now you notice the last 3 weeks like he’s walking around like he’s a thug or something, get the f*ck out of here. You goofball. You are so goofy. Zach needs to sign up for Scientology. He’d be perfect. He should be working with William and them at being a security guard for the Scientologists. Jessica: Zach all of a sudden Zach’s gone, he’s been talking for hours (said laughing). William: Run your mouth. And you’re talking about oh I need to learn something … Zach you are not sh*t. You are nobody. Now, you would have to block me..cuz I’m gong to come into your chats and clown you. I’ll come in with other names I’m going to troll you.I’m going to be the biggest Zach troll. 6:11:05 Jessica: That’s what he said he said he was just trolling…people are like I think you need to learn what trolling is… William:Yeah you better learn about trolling against me. Against you think you are. Leave LA Zach.Leave LA.Just leave LA. I know it might hurt your feelings a little bit. Go get a f*cking restraining order against me. Go try you big f*cking baby. You’re a bitch. I**’m going to haunt you for the rest of your life.** don’t you think you ever could talk about me. I don’t let anybody talk about me, let alone a mark like you. A goofball like you. A f*cking loser. You’re a loser. (end part 1) https://preview.redd.it/6dyss741k93d1.jpg?width=1798&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3787adb410b352517545005dfc83c6335f1c828c |
2024.05.29 02:47 Longjumping_Bag4666 Review: Bratty TEEN RUNS AWAY From Home, What Happens Next Is Shocking
Welcome back to my weekly Dhar Mann video review series. I was bored and decided to do this week's review earlier than usual. The video I will be tackling today is Bratty TEEN RUNS AWAY From Home, What Happens Next Is Shocking. This was last year's Mother's Day special and is one that I've thought would be an interesting review for a little while now. I even posted a clip from this video the other day. Anyways, let's get the review started.
The video begins with the titular bratty teen Chloe(Logan Roe) getting her makeup ready while the doorbell rings, and she yells at her mom to get it. Mom(Katherine Norland) answers the door and a girl(Sara Kamine) is there to give Chloe a spray tan. Mom is confused and goes into Brat's room while she is dying her hair. Mom tells Brat she is too young to be dying her hair, which is kind of silly if you ask me. This girl looks old enough to be making decisions about her hair color. Mom then confronts her about the spray tan she plans on getting while she is texting a rapper named Lil Pop who she is going on a date with. Apparently, Lil Pop also flunked out of high school. I'm pretty sure Lil Pop is supposed to be a parody of Lil Pump. Now I'm starting to think I should make a video titled "Gucci Gang but every Gucci Gang is replaced with a cringy Dhar Mann clip". Mom informs Brat that she is not allowed to go out with Lil Pop and even if she was, it's Mother's Day and they have the whole day planned. Brat and Mom argue a bit more and Brat calls Mom's rules dumb. Mom says they are not dumb but important. I'm not liking where this is going because last time Dhar preached "rules are important" was the video where Regina got Jay kidnapped. Mom then complains to her husband(Chris Ready), who suggests letting her go on the date. Husband suggests to let Brat go on the date and face her own consequences. He's the only reasonable one here so far. Brat comes down saying she is leaving. Okay, now I'm starting to side with the mom a bit, your mom doesn't let you go out one time and you're running away from her right before Mother's Day? I'm as against strict parents as the next guy, but that seems VERY rash. Mom listen's to Dad's suggestion and doesn't even try to stop her from leaving.
The next scene shows Brat at her friend's house complaining about her mom. Friend(Angelina Koerner) says "you don't want to be with your mom for Mother's Day?". Brat says she is done with her mom and asks Friend if she can get a spray tan and dye her hair, wo which Friend reluctantly agrees. We then cue a shitty music montage of Brat getting a spray tan and dying her hair in preparation for her date. Brat wakes up the next morning only to realize her makeover was a disaster and she looks like what she describes as "an old lady carrot". Her and Friend go to get more hair dye. Then we cut to Brat's parent's house, where Mom is all worried about her since she didn't come home. Then we cut back to Brat trying to re-makeover herself. Then Mom is at Dharla's Diner all by herself waiting for Brat hoping she'll arrive, but she doesn't. We cut to Brat and Friend again, and Brat's hair somehow looks even worse after her re-makeover. Her hair looks like Marge Simpson's and only a small amount of spray tan came off. Lil Pop texts brat saying he wants to meet 30 minutes earlier and she is panicking. I'm a dude, so I don't really have a say in this, but this is the point where I would just back out of my date personally. We then cut home, where Mom is still worried about Brat, but dad insists that they can't stop her from going on her date. I know I said the dad was reasonable earlier, but I feel like at this point, they should at least make sure she's okay.
Now we get to the so bad it's good part of the video. Brat is going on her date and we are finally introduced to Lil Pop(Tate Doppler) and he asks her why she's dressed so poorly. Brat shows her her bad hair and spotty spray tan and says it's horrible, and Lil Pop, who speaks in a stupidly funny, hard to understand voice, agrees that it's not good. A waitress comes over with two menus and because Lil Pop is in a rush, he orders his meal. He orders a steak, and wants it so rare he says "like, blood pouring out of it when you cut it". Brat is about to order, but Lil Pop orders the chicken for her and Brat says she is a vegetarian. Lil Pop laughs and says "for real like you only eat plants and stuff". This reminds me of the football video where the bully says "maybe if you ate meat instead of that banana, you wouldn't be so scrawny". Lil Pop orders for Brat what he describes as "that one salad named after that dude". Why am I finding this character hilarious? Waitress asks if he means the Caesar Salad, and he says that's the one. Lil Pop says he is in a rush because he has plans with his mom later. Wow, even this deadbeat rapper is making time for his mom on Mother's Day(or is he?). Chloe really is a brat. At home, Mom finally caves and says she is going to Friend's house to get Brat to come home. Back with Brat and Lil Pop, they get their dinner and Lil Pop tells waitress to bring the check. We then see Lil Pop cutting his blue rare steak saying it's just how he likes it, and they shows closeups of him chewing the steak. Which is pretty gross. Lil Pop says "you got to eat your food Becca". Brat is offended and says her name's not Becca. Now she is starting to regret going on this date. Brat sees a mom and her daughter at another table eating Fettuccine Alfredo, which Brat was supposed to make for her mom, and she is starting to regret running away from her mom. Then a random girl(Alexa Cate) walks in and calls Lil Pop babe and is confused when she sees Brat with him. She informs her that her name is Becca and she is Lil Pop's date. Apparently, Lil Pop didn't have plans with his mom after all. Brat is hurt because of what she had to go through for the date. Lil Pop insults her saying she looks like an Oompa Loompa and she should go back to Wonka's factory. Brat calls Lil Pop a trashy wannabe rapper, throws her "salad named after that dude" at her, and leaves.
We then cut to Friend's house where Friend tells her mom(Maricella Ibarra) that she will do the dishes because it's Mother's Day. Brat's mom is knocking at the door looking for Brat, but Friend's Mom tells her she is on her date with Lil Pop. Friend's mom invites her inside, but she decides to go home. We then cut home where Brat has returned and has made Fettucine Alfredo for her and her mom. Brat tells her she was right about everything and she realizes rules are important. I'll give credit where credit is due, this video sent that message MUCH better than Jay's kidnapping video. Mom tells Brat she will take her to a salon tomorrow to get her Oompa Loompa makeover fixed, but Brat wants to go to school. Mom says that it's a very special case however and she will let her skip school. Dad walks by and is happy to see that Mom and Brat have made up and love each other again. And that's the end.
Conclusion
I didn't like this video when I first saw it and if you asked me even about a month ago, I would've called Lil Pop Tate's worst character. But after rewatching this, I realized Lil Pop is actually kind of hilarious(maybe not intentionally, but still). But Logan's character is bland as always, and she was acting like a real brat even if the mom was being a little strict at first. 5/10 but only because Lil Pop gives it some so bad it's good points. See you next review.
Tropes Used:
Restaurant named Dharla's, pasta dish, message of the video repeated multiple times, vegetarian stigmatized for not eating meat(not really talked about, but this is actually a fairly common trope), typecasting, shitty music montage.
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The video begins with the titular bratty teen Chloe(Logan Roe) getting her makeup ready while the doorbell rings, and she yells at her mom to get it. Mom(Katherine Norland) answers the door and a girl(Sara Kamine) is there to give Chloe a spray tan. Mom is confused and goes into Brat's room while she is dying her hair. Mom tells Brat she is too young to be dying her hair, which is kind of silly if you ask me. This girl looks old enough to be making decisions about her hair color. Mom then confronts her about the spray tan she plans on getting while she is texting a rapper named Lil Pop who she is going on a date with. Apparently, Lil Pop also flunked out of high school. I'm pretty sure Lil Pop is supposed to be a parody of Lil Pump. Now I'm starting to think I should make a video titled "Gucci Gang but every Gucci Gang is replaced with a cringy Dhar Mann clip". Mom informs Brat that she is not allowed to go out with Lil Pop and even if she was, it's Mother's Day and they have the whole day planned. Brat and Mom argue a bit more and Brat calls Mom's rules dumb. Mom says they are not dumb but important. I'm not liking where this is going because last time Dhar preached "rules are important" was the video where Regina got Jay kidnapped. Mom then complains to her husband(Chris Ready), who suggests letting her go on the date. Husband suggests to let Brat go on the date and face her own consequences. He's the only reasonable one here so far. Brat comes down saying she is leaving. Okay, now I'm starting to side with the mom a bit, your mom doesn't let you go out one time and you're running away from her right before Mother's Day? I'm as against strict parents as the next guy, but that seems VERY rash. Mom listen's to Dad's suggestion and doesn't even try to stop her from leaving.
The next scene shows Brat at her friend's house complaining about her mom. Friend(Angelina Koerner) says "you don't want to be with your mom for Mother's Day?". Brat says she is done with her mom and asks Friend if she can get a spray tan and dye her hair, wo which Friend reluctantly agrees. We then cue a shitty music montage of Brat getting a spray tan and dying her hair in preparation for her date. Brat wakes up the next morning only to realize her makeover was a disaster and she looks like what she describes as "an old lady carrot". Her and Friend go to get more hair dye. Then we cut to Brat's parent's house, where Mom is all worried about her since she didn't come home. Then we cut back to Brat trying to re-makeover herself. Then Mom is at Dharla's Diner all by herself waiting for Brat hoping she'll arrive, but she doesn't. We cut to Brat and Friend again, and Brat's hair somehow looks even worse after her re-makeover. Her hair looks like Marge Simpson's and only a small amount of spray tan came off. Lil Pop texts brat saying he wants to meet 30 minutes earlier and she is panicking. I'm a dude, so I don't really have a say in this, but this is the point where I would just back out of my date personally. We then cut home, where Mom is still worried about Brat, but dad insists that they can't stop her from going on her date. I know I said the dad was reasonable earlier, but I feel like at this point, they should at least make sure she's okay.
Now we get to the so bad it's good part of the video. Brat is going on her date and we are finally introduced to Lil Pop(Tate Doppler) and he asks her why she's dressed so poorly. Brat shows her her bad hair and spotty spray tan and says it's horrible, and Lil Pop, who speaks in a stupidly funny, hard to understand voice, agrees that it's not good. A waitress comes over with two menus and because Lil Pop is in a rush, he orders his meal. He orders a steak, and wants it so rare he says "like, blood pouring out of it when you cut it". Brat is about to order, but Lil Pop orders the chicken for her and Brat says she is a vegetarian. Lil Pop laughs and says "for real like you only eat plants and stuff". This reminds me of the football video where the bully says "maybe if you ate meat instead of that banana, you wouldn't be so scrawny". Lil Pop orders for Brat what he describes as "that one salad named after that dude". Why am I finding this character hilarious? Waitress asks if he means the Caesar Salad, and he says that's the one. Lil Pop says he is in a rush because he has plans with his mom later. Wow, even this deadbeat rapper is making time for his mom on Mother's Day(or is he?). Chloe really is a brat. At home, Mom finally caves and says she is going to Friend's house to get Brat to come home. Back with Brat and Lil Pop, they get their dinner and Lil Pop tells waitress to bring the check. We then see Lil Pop cutting his blue rare steak saying it's just how he likes it, and they shows closeups of him chewing the steak. Which is pretty gross. Lil Pop says "you got to eat your food Becca". Brat is offended and says her name's not Becca. Now she is starting to regret going on this date. Brat sees a mom and her daughter at another table eating Fettuccine Alfredo, which Brat was supposed to make for her mom, and she is starting to regret running away from her mom. Then a random girl(Alexa Cate) walks in and calls Lil Pop babe and is confused when she sees Brat with him. She informs her that her name is Becca and she is Lil Pop's date. Apparently, Lil Pop didn't have plans with his mom after all. Brat is hurt because of what she had to go through for the date. Lil Pop insults her saying she looks like an Oompa Loompa and she should go back to Wonka's factory. Brat calls Lil Pop a trashy wannabe rapper, throws her "salad named after that dude" at her, and leaves.
We then cut to Friend's house where Friend tells her mom(Maricella Ibarra) that she will do the dishes because it's Mother's Day. Brat's mom is knocking at the door looking for Brat, but Friend's Mom tells her she is on her date with Lil Pop. Friend's mom invites her inside, but she decides to go home. We then cut home where Brat has returned and has made Fettucine Alfredo for her and her mom. Brat tells her she was right about everything and she realizes rules are important. I'll give credit where credit is due, this video sent that message MUCH better than Jay's kidnapping video. Mom tells Brat she will take her to a salon tomorrow to get her Oompa Loompa makeover fixed, but Brat wants to go to school. Mom says that it's a very special case however and she will let her skip school. Dad walks by and is happy to see that Mom and Brat have made up and love each other again. And that's the end.
Conclusion
I didn't like this video when I first saw it and if you asked me even about a month ago, I would've called Lil Pop Tate's worst character. But after rewatching this, I realized Lil Pop is actually kind of hilarious(maybe not intentionally, but still). But Logan's character is bland as always, and she was acting like a real brat even if the mom was being a little strict at first. 5/10 but only because Lil Pop gives it some so bad it's good points. See you next review.
Tropes Used:
Restaurant named Dharla's, pasta dish, message of the video repeated multiple times, vegetarian stigmatized for not eating meat(not really talked about, but this is actually a fairly common trope), typecasting, shitty music montage.
2024.05.29 02:34 Useful_Database5138 Bf's daughter keeps getting into things. How can I properly "punish" and how do I explain?
Her discipline is very much different in the 3 households. With her mom, she's left to herself or is pushed to stay outside and play unsafely in a poverty stricken area, but gets screamed and whooped at things that are just uncalled for and unnecessary. She is also not fed or at least not fed well, and is still made to wear diapers and drink milk for babies.
At her dad's, it's whatever she wants, or yelling and not allowing her to make mistakes and then saying such things when she does.
At mine, I try my way and she's mostly close to me, but it's hard when I know everyone else just doesn't stay consistent with what's better. She does listen to me more than anyone, except her mother whom she's frightened of.
So bc of her situation in the other houses and people, she's always, ALWAYS getting into things ( i know kids do, but this sometimes seems too much) especially when they're not hers. I'm talking about gifts, things put away or left out, any chocolate food or sweet drinks and she'll either find a way to get it herself or lie to an adult around that she hasn't drank or ate it yet ever, or writing or leaving stains on bedsheets and pillowcases, walls, floors, cars, etc.If you scold her or tell her it's not hers, she'll get upset, cry and throw a tantrum and then claim to everyone you're fighting with her and that she hates you, doesn't love you and will announce it to the world that you're hurting her physically in an abusive way or something.
She knows she's not allowed to write on walls or furniture or other things, but will do these things and then hide it or will not ever say sorry, as we've never heard her say it. She only does when I tell her "Remember when I said if you do something bad/wrong or hurt someone, you have to say sorry?" Nods "So since you did x/y/z, what should you do?" Shrugs with a bored look on her face
I'm trying to find a punishment that fits the crime and a better way to explain to her. I did explain and show her that she has a place and what things she can write and draw on, how to put them away, etc. And she doesn't seem to show any reaction if you do punish her if she doesn't throw a tantrum. I'm trying to teach her to be a real child with a real childhood and experience that magic I used to love as a kid, while disciplining. So both worlds, she's not used to, although I've been trying to parent her since around August of last year. I've printed out workbooks to help her practice for school so she won't feel embarrassed about being behind, switching screen time with one on one play, experiences, changing up her food patterns, finding her a good dentist and pedia and financing those, buying her the appropriate milk and vitamins prescribed, talking with her and just all the while trying my best even if I feel like it's not enough.
I'd like to be a bit more firm, but again, it's hard when the other people around her baby her and will immediately coddle her and cuddle when she throws tantrums after she's done something wrong and you scold her, and will say "Poor child, just leave her alone" And give her sweets and all.
Forgot to mention, she's 4 years old going 5. I've been introducing her to art and crafts before as she's not really familiar with it at first (due to living with her mother mostly, and in poverty) and to get her prepped for school (hasn't been enrolled yet as the mother refused) as I know it'll be her first time being in a school environment.
Developmentally (in terms of knowing colors, etc.) she's a bit behind but when it comes to how she speaks, it's a bit mature for her age? Cause she copies how the adults around her speak and act and most of the times it's not pretty. You'll often hear her saying something along the lines of "You think you're funny? You know nothing! Do you want me to hit you?" or say things that adults or oldies would usually say with their friends that are inappropriate.
Honestly, her being coddled right away then given some toy or sweet or gadget after a tantrum is what I'm also struggling with fixing. I'll try at best to take her aside, make sure she's focused on my words and ask her if she's upset, and why, why was she scolded, and why she had to be scolded and the consequences, and about saying sorry and hugging afterwards. She'll do it, but mostly with a fazed look (kinda like when kids have just woken up and they've zoned out a bit) and I'm afraid she won't properly learn to be and say sorry, and the consequences. As much as possible, I want still be a positive influence and safe motherly figure in her life as much as I can before I leave abroad. Because I know no one will really reinforce these things anymore when I'm gone and video calls can only do so much.
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At her dad's, it's whatever she wants, or yelling and not allowing her to make mistakes and then saying such things when she does.
At mine, I try my way and she's mostly close to me, but it's hard when I know everyone else just doesn't stay consistent with what's better. She does listen to me more than anyone, except her mother whom she's frightened of.
So bc of her situation in the other houses and people, she's always, ALWAYS getting into things ( i know kids do, but this sometimes seems too much) especially when they're not hers. I'm talking about gifts, things put away or left out, any chocolate food or sweet drinks and she'll either find a way to get it herself or lie to an adult around that she hasn't drank or ate it yet ever, or writing or leaving stains on bedsheets and pillowcases, walls, floors, cars, etc.If you scold her or tell her it's not hers, she'll get upset, cry and throw a tantrum and then claim to everyone you're fighting with her and that she hates you, doesn't love you and will announce it to the world that you're hurting her physically in an abusive way or something.
She knows she's not allowed to write on walls or furniture or other things, but will do these things and then hide it or will not ever say sorry, as we've never heard her say it. She only does when I tell her "Remember when I said if you do something bad/wrong or hurt someone, you have to say sorry?" Nods "So since you did x/y/z, what should you do?" Shrugs with a bored look on her face
I'm trying to find a punishment that fits the crime and a better way to explain to her. I did explain and show her that she has a place and what things she can write and draw on, how to put them away, etc. And she doesn't seem to show any reaction if you do punish her if she doesn't throw a tantrum. I'm trying to teach her to be a real child with a real childhood and experience that magic I used to love as a kid, while disciplining. So both worlds, she's not used to, although I've been trying to parent her since around August of last year. I've printed out workbooks to help her practice for school so she won't feel embarrassed about being behind, switching screen time with one on one play, experiences, changing up her food patterns, finding her a good dentist and pedia and financing those, buying her the appropriate milk and vitamins prescribed, talking with her and just all the while trying my best even if I feel like it's not enough.
I'd like to be a bit more firm, but again, it's hard when the other people around her baby her and will immediately coddle her and cuddle when she throws tantrums after she's done something wrong and you scold her, and will say "Poor child, just leave her alone" And give her sweets and all.
Forgot to mention, she's 4 years old going 5. I've been introducing her to art and crafts before as she's not really familiar with it at first (due to living with her mother mostly, and in poverty) and to get her prepped for school (hasn't been enrolled yet as the mother refused) as I know it'll be her first time being in a school environment.
Developmentally (in terms of knowing colors, etc.) she's a bit behind but when it comes to how she speaks, it's a bit mature for her age? Cause she copies how the adults around her speak and act and most of the times it's not pretty. You'll often hear her saying something along the lines of "You think you're funny? You know nothing! Do you want me to hit you?" or say things that adults or oldies would usually say with their friends that are inappropriate.
Honestly, her being coddled right away then given some toy or sweet or gadget after a tantrum is what I'm also struggling with fixing. I'll try at best to take her aside, make sure she's focused on my words and ask her if she's upset, and why, why was she scolded, and why she had to be scolded and the consequences, and about saying sorry and hugging afterwards. She'll do it, but mostly with a fazed look (kinda like when kids have just woken up and they've zoned out a bit) and I'm afraid she won't properly learn to be and say sorry, and the consequences. As much as possible, I want still be a positive influence and safe motherly figure in her life as much as I can before I leave abroad. Because I know no one will really reinforce these things anymore when I'm gone and video calls can only do so much.
2024.05.29 02:29 OdysseyIkaros My dad says it’s my fault he’s feeling bad and is fighting with my mum.
First time posting here.
I (21 M) am an undergraduate student still living at home. Additionally, I have gone to work once or twice a week for over a year now, which takes up about 11 hours each time. I rarely miss a day of university, always do all of my weekly work, and ace all my exams. I might not have the biggest workload, but I am moving at the fastest realistic pace, and should still be on time. My problem are one or two long-term tasks, which I struggled with and still do. I never “found the time” to do them in everyday life, and in between I either had other big “projects” or I procrastinated because I was overwhelmed by the challenge. I realize that I could have done better, and could do better, however, in the past few weeks I have made significant progress (while everyday life was still going on). Also, for a week, I was home alone, and did all the housework by myself, and even had fun doing it. I even followed a constant sleep schedule of exactly 8h a night at a realistic time, and I played video games way less than before, and instead go out to pursue a hobby where I can socialize.
However, despite my improvements (or at least I perceive it as that), my father seems to be getting more and more angry with me. He has always been very involved in my school life, and I actually appreciate that (at least I always had). He thinks I am lying to him and myself about how much I could be doing. He also has an arbitrary notion of when you should go to bed and get up, which doesn’t align with my job. And he is sad because I don’t have any life goals. It is true that my life would be easier if I could just cut a life purpose from my ribs, but it doesn’t work like that. I have a short term goal, and I trust that the next steps and wishes will develop as I go along, as they have in the past. Whenever I think he is right about something, I say so, and whenever his barrage of accusations are completely misguided, I try to convey that as modestly as possible. However, when he actually blames me for him feeling very bad, not being able to sleep, and fighting with my mother, I’m at Wit’s End. It makes little sense to me, how he takes everything so personally, even as I try to understand his perspective. I think he could benefit from therapy, but he doesn’t believe in that, and I don’t think we could convince him. (There are other reasons why I say this as well, this isn’t meant to be polemic.)
It’s just really hard for me to do everything in life well, even if I just did it for me, but doing it for him as well doesn’t make it any easier. And the constant fighting about it doesn’t improve my happiness and my mental capacities either.
I hope this isn’t too long. If anyone made it to the end, thank you so much. Any thoughts are much appreciated.
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I (21 M) am an undergraduate student still living at home. Additionally, I have gone to work once or twice a week for over a year now, which takes up about 11 hours each time. I rarely miss a day of university, always do all of my weekly work, and ace all my exams. I might not have the biggest workload, but I am moving at the fastest realistic pace, and should still be on time. My problem are one or two long-term tasks, which I struggled with and still do. I never “found the time” to do them in everyday life, and in between I either had other big “projects” or I procrastinated because I was overwhelmed by the challenge. I realize that I could have done better, and could do better, however, in the past few weeks I have made significant progress (while everyday life was still going on). Also, for a week, I was home alone, and did all the housework by myself, and even had fun doing it. I even followed a constant sleep schedule of exactly 8h a night at a realistic time, and I played video games way less than before, and instead go out to pursue a hobby where I can socialize.
However, despite my improvements (or at least I perceive it as that), my father seems to be getting more and more angry with me. He has always been very involved in my school life, and I actually appreciate that (at least I always had). He thinks I am lying to him and myself about how much I could be doing. He also has an arbitrary notion of when you should go to bed and get up, which doesn’t align with my job. And he is sad because I don’t have any life goals. It is true that my life would be easier if I could just cut a life purpose from my ribs, but it doesn’t work like that. I have a short term goal, and I trust that the next steps and wishes will develop as I go along, as they have in the past. Whenever I think he is right about something, I say so, and whenever his barrage of accusations are completely misguided, I try to convey that as modestly as possible. However, when he actually blames me for him feeling very bad, not being able to sleep, and fighting with my mother, I’m at Wit’s End. It makes little sense to me, how he takes everything so personally, even as I try to understand his perspective. I think he could benefit from therapy, but he doesn’t believe in that, and I don’t think we could convince him. (There are other reasons why I say this as well, this isn’t meant to be polemic.)
It’s just really hard for me to do everything in life well, even if I just did it for me, but doing it for him as well doesn’t make it any easier. And the constant fighting about it doesn’t improve my happiness and my mental capacities either.
I hope this isn’t too long. If anyone made it to the end, thank you so much. Any thoughts are much appreciated.
2024.05.29 02:28 These-Pick-968 Revisiting "Robin"
 | I’m a huge fan of the song Robin, and have enjoyed reading all of the various interpretations of this song. The song feels like such a mix of emotions to me! At first listen it sounds like a sweet song, almost a lullaby. But then the layers of meaning and nuance start filtering in. Then one realizes that “bloodthirsty” feels a bit…off. Every time I listen to it I get a different mix of feelings: hopeful, wistful, nostalgic, happy, sad, resentment, innocence, ominous. Sometimes all in the same listen. submitted by These-Pick-968 to GaylorSwift [link] [comments] Some of the various interpretations of possible meaning I’ve explored thru this song (as have many others here and on social media): • Aaron Dessner’s son- a song about watching a child grow up and wanting to protect their innocence from the realities of the world • Robin Williams- his child-like wonder but also his struggles with mental illness/dementia • Robin Hood (I never really considered this angle) • The Secret Garden- the robin shows Mary the key and door to the secret garden • Robin Goodfellow/Puck- a fairy character who is known for being mischievous (also references back to Dead Poet's Society) • Emily Dickinson poem “The Child’s Faith is New”- about how children eventually learn to see people for who they are rather than infallible beings (this also leads to a Dear Brutus and The Fault in Our Stars interpretation, and lamenting the alternative outcomes for our lives) • The character Tiger Lilly in Peter Pan • Cats (of course) • Taylor talking to her younger self (calling herself a “tiger”) about the pitfalls of fame and hiding from her true (queer) self • Taylor talking to her fans about “putting on an act” for them to keep them entertained even though she’s been putting her true (queer) self on hold • Examining the dandelions in the lyrics video. Dandelions often represent childhood wonder, and sending “wishes off into to the world.” On the flip side they are also seen by many as weeds that are hard to control. One interpretation of Robin that I almost immediately dismissed was Christopher Robin from Winnie the Pooh. It just seemed too...obvious. And I couldn’t make any connections with the story (besides “Tigger = Tiger”). But… Perhaps it’s not the story of Winnie the Pooh itself that resonates with the song, but the real life story of Christopher Milne, the “real life Christopher Robin,” son of A.A. (Alan) Milne who authored the book. I don’t know if this story is one that Taylor would have heard of or seen, but I feel like there are some parallels to this story that might reflect aspects of Taylor’s life. Christopher Milne outlines his experience in two autobiographies: The Enchanted Places and The Path Through the Trees. His story was captured in a book by Ann Thwaite, Goodbye Christopher Robin: A.A. Milne and the Making of Winnie-the-Pooh. https://preview.redd.it/v8t43jotc93d1.jpg?width=281&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=513fa3178d99d701978a1a256c3b1593030790df “Goodbye Christopher Robin is a story of celebrity, a story of both the joys and pains of success and, ultimately, the story of how one man created a series of enchanting tales that brought hope and comfort to an England ravaged by the First World War.” It was also made into a movie in 2017. I know movies can embellish biographical truth. But the premise of the story explores how the father, Alan, experienced trauma (likely PTSD) after returning from World War I, and despair over the toll and meaning of the war. It shows marital struggles with his wife, pressures from his publisher to write a new book, and his desire to leave London for a more quiet life. The end result is him connecting with his son and writing the beloved Winnie-the-Pooh book, but the heart of the movie examines the toll at which this occurred from the perspective of both father and son. Movie adaptation, 2017 The story (spoilers below if you want to watch it yourself; trailer here): The birth of A.A. Milne’s son is announced as his “latest Milne production,” similar to Taylor’s birth announcement ad. His name is Christopher Robin Milne but his parents call him “Billy Moon” (Billy couldn't pronounce his last name "Milne"). A.A. Milne’s wife, Daphne, wanted a girl, and had picked out a girl’s name (Rosemary) and dresses. She later shares that this is because she is afraid of having a son who might get sent off to war (which does happen). Due to Alan’s war flashbacks and desire for a quieter life to focus on his writing, they move to a cottage in the country. They hire a nanny, Olive, to watch over Billy. The wife, Daphne, is disenchanted with the country and her husband’s lack of producing any new work and returns to London, bringing Billy and the nanny with her. They visit the zoo, and Billy sees a black bear. He compares the bear to his beloved stuffed teddy bear, Edward. He states how big and fierce the black bear seems and worries Edward will “grow up” to be the same. His mom says not to worry, that Edward will “stay little forever, like my boy.” Billy returns to the country with the nanny, while the wife stays in London. https://preview.redd.it/49uh0cmv893d1.jpg?width=3710&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a55ad01874d4f1e83cfd22111cfe9a055729e2d1 The nanny then has to leave to take care of her ailing mother, leaving Alan alone to take care of Billy. He struggles at first but finally bonds with his son after they start taking walks in the woods and playing make believe with Billy’s stuffed animals. Alan gets inspiration for his new book, using the stuffed animals and Billy (using his real name “Christopher Robin”) as characters in the book. https://preview.redd.it/vvctbxn2893d1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e5584136660d1b7e17d2a6500d53a1ba133bc29f The middle of the story unfolds highlighting the inspiration for writing the book (Alan collaborating with his friend E.H. Shepard for illustrations), based on dad’s playtime and experiences with Billy. It is realized that this story might be popular and “healing” for a public who is disenchanted with the aftermath of the war. A scene shows Billy on a makeshift “float” with balloons as his dad and Shepard attempt to get him up into a tree so Shepard can draw a picture of “Christopher Robin knocking on owl’s door.” There’s also a scene where Alan and E.H. Shepard look over at an innocent Christopher Robin carrying his teddy bear and realize the magic they’re about to capture in the book (but it’s also an ominous scene as Billy looks so innocent in this moment, unaware of what's about to be unleashed upon him). https://preview.redd.it/r1j6mz65893d1.jpg?width=3895&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=60c67195d876f01b6594f16b70618da1d60600af Dad tells Billy he’s writing a book about their adventures and his animals, and “I’m putting you in it too.” Billy says he isn’t sure what to think about that. “They’ll think I’m not real.” Dad and son debate about his name for the book. Dad says “We’ll call you Christopher Robin then because it’s your real name but it’s not who you really are” (since he goes by Billy Moon). The book is published and is an immediate success. However, it becomes clear that “Christopher Robin the boy” is the star of the book. Reporters and the public start to seek him out, overshadowing the author himself (dad, Alan). Reporters start showing up in the woods as the boy is playing, with the nanny providing a protective role. Billy starts getting inundated with piles of fan mail. The dad starts to show resentment while the mother seems thrilled with the “success.” Billy starts to show some confusion over his new found fame. In one scene, he yells out “But I’m not really Christopher Robin, I’m Billy Moon.” A flurry of media chaos unfolds as the book becomes popular: https://preview.redd.it/op9w1y6z893d1.jpg?width=3800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=82e8bf4014165ed99aeb0d114950fe708d6bebe5 “Everyone wants to be Christopher Robin.” “The happiest young man on earth." Movie screenshot of the \"happiest young man on earth\" One reporter, talking to dad, states, “I can’t believe I’m talking to the father of the real Christopher Robin.” After royal guards pay a visit to Billy for his birthday, later that evening he is on the phone with his dad, who is in London. Billy shares a conversation with his dad, who wishes him happy birthday. At the end of the call, it’s made apparent that his dad was in a studio and the call was played live on the radio. An ad plays- highlighting the commercialization of it all. Billy questions his Nanny about what just happened. The nanny takes Billy out in the night to play, and they look at the moon. She says “I think Little Billy Moon better get acquainted with Big Billy Moon himself.” They playfully drop sticks off a bridge into the water and she says “A person should do the things a person loves, with the people a person loves. Because you never know what happens next.” Billy and his parents go to a London toy store where Billy is to promote a prize to “win tea with the real Christopher Robin.” Billy resists participating in this, but his dad says “You’re the luckiest boy in the world, you know the real Winnie the Pooh.” Billy questions to his mom, “Are you my manager then?” His mom states, “What gave you such a notion, I’m your mother.” Billy shows signs of starting to question what is even real. He starts to show signs of protecting himself, telling fans that this isn’t his “real” life and that the names of himself and his animals are made up and that he’ll never tell fans their “real names.” At one point he tells his nanny “Are people going to look at us…like they look at Winnie the Bear in the zoo?” https://preview.redd.it/bhjdb6hn893d1.jpg?width=3696&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9e8a423ae2a936e951284403733c0afba7815434 He is later looking at a map and asks his nanny "Is there anywhere in the world they don't know about Winnie the Pooh? I want to go there." The nanny shares her concerns with his parents about Billy “being used as a show pony, he has to be allowed to grow up, to know that someone cares about him.” The nanny is shown putting Billy to bed. She tells him a bedtime story about a “nanny that loves him.” “Be happy, Billy Moon.” “Keep your memories and I’ll keep mine”, “And that way we’ll always be together.” The nanny quits/leaves and hands dad Billy’s schedule of busy appointments for the week. Billy wakes up distraught that his nanny is gone. Dad Alan starts to question Billy’s schedule to his wife. “He can’t do all this. He’s a little boy. How have we let this happen?” “He should be running around in the woods.” Wife insists that Billy can do it. “He can [do it]. He’s rather good at it apparently.” At a visit to the zoo for PR with the black bear, dad starts to push back at the role his son has been put in. He leaves the photoshoot, and he and Billy get ice cream, and are interrupted by fans as they’re eating. https://preview.redd.it/fx7fd0hb893d1.jpg?width=3868&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c1c9ee07e42365784f890eea72f7ad8d0de34be2 That night, dad tells Billy he’s decided he’s not going to write any more books about Billy’s stuffed animals or Christopher Robin. Billy asks “Does this mean Winnie the Pooh will just be ours again?” Dad states, “Winnie the Pooh is out in the world now and we can’t take him out of it.” But he tells Billy “you’ll never have to dress up again as Christopher Robin…and the day will come when everyone will forget about Winnie the Pooh.” Billy is older now and goes to boarding school, where he’s bullied for his name as Christopher Robin. He starts going by the name “Christopher Milne.” Later, his classmates are shown going off to war. Billy is shown walking with his father in the woods. Billy tells his dad he wants to go to war (but has failed the medical exam). “I want the chance to be private Milne. 607841 or whatever. Anonymous, a real person.” Dad resists, but Billy says his dad has the clout to help get him in, and asks for his help, telling his dad that “I helped you write that book, now help me.” The next scene show Billy in uniform ready to leave. As he goes to say goodbye to his mom, she walks away without saying goodbye. Dad sees Billy off at the train station. While they’re waiting for the train, Billy feels there is something he has to tell his dad: “That bear made my life misery.” “We played in the woods and then you wrote that book and it all stopped. As of it had all been a piece of research.” Billy and dad argue about the book. Dad says “You asked me to write a book for you.” The son says he asked for a “book for me, not about me.” Billy gets on the train and dad sees a flashback of him as a child. In the next scene a letter comes that Billy is “missing and presumed dead.” The wife blames Alan. He has flashbacks about the last conversation with his son at the train station: “About the money. The money we earned from ‘that bear.’ There’s mountains of it. It’s a fortune. You helped make it. It was just as much your doing as mine.” Billy declines the money, “I was just playing. With my father. If I take the money for it then I have to be Christopher Robin and I’m not Christopher Robin.” Tigger's empty cage is shown. https://preview.redd.it/q2iu014i893d1.jpg?width=3226&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=69de81770445d4cccbd2649f6a29fb9231699494 Later that night the dad sees his Billy come home and that he hasn’t died after all. He welcomes him home and calls him “Billy Moon.” In the final scene, Billy and his dad revisit the woods and look over the landscape and the 100 Acre woods. Billy says “There it all is as if nothing had ever happened, just as I left it.” Dad: “When I came back [from the war], everything seemed wrong.” Billy shares with his dad what the Winne-the-Pooh story means to people, as he saw when he was off to war. He mentions a piece of the Winnie the Pooh song that he heard a fellow solider sing. “Everyone on earth knows that song. But I knew it first. It was mine before it was anyone else’s.” Dad wistfully says “Then I gave it all away.” Billy shares how much the story brought happiness to people when they needed it most. Dad states, “I’m sorry you paid the price for it.” Billy: “You reminded people what happiness was…what childhood could be when everything else was broken.” https://preview.redd.it/4ooc2tqd893d1.jpg?width=3806&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=06d72e1147121f7c6dc81ab3c414e8e923377531 https://preview.redd.it/kg7cw9if893d1.jpg?width=3827&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=46c68ac8175e12e3a22a34ed3100db9c029e90e9 Dad: “But your own childhood…” Billy interrupts: “[my own childhood]…Was wonderful. It was growing up that was hard.” Dad: “Who would have guessed that bear would swallow us up?” Dad looks over and sees a flashback of his son as the young Christopher Robin. They walk home hand in hand. The end. This story really drives home the ideas of childhood innocence lost to fame, the dichotomy between the “real” and the “famous” self, and the dynamics within a family of navigating the caveats of celebrity. The part that really connected me to Taylor’s story was Billy asking his nanny if they’d be “viewed like the bear at the zoo.” Again, I don't know Taylor's life or relationship with her parents. I have no idea if there’s any inspiration here for the song *Robin.* But this story makes me appreciate Taylor’s story (that we know of from our limited public perspective) and some of the difficulties she must have faced as a young person having grown up in fame for most of her life. She clearly loves songwriting and appears(?) to thrive in and seek the spotlight. And her music has brought so much joy and happiness to fans. But at what cost? Maybe The Manuscript perhaps alludes to this: maybe she sacrificed her early years and “true” (queer) self for that success (the "agony" she references), but also realizes the “gift” that her music has bestowed upon the world. At the end of the movie, Billy seems grateful for the "gift" of happiness and joy that his father's book has given the world, despite the hardships that it meant for them both. I also appreciate when Billy's father says "Winnie the Pooh is out in the world now and we can't take him out of it" after he tells Billy he's not going to write any more stories. Much like Taylor's brand, like a dandelion, has been released into the wild. https://preview.redd.it/fb5ykdkp893d1.jpg?width=454&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0a83cec30ec8e682323b5e42065c80ab5e647b50 One of the things I love about Robin is the various interpretations it lends itself to. I’d love to someday learn from Taylor herself what her own meaning and inspiration for the song were. But in the meantime I’ll keep exploring it because I think it’s a gem- sweet and innocent at first listen, but so layered and meaningful as one listens to it from different perspectives. What interpretation do you have of it? Has that changed? |
2024.05.29 02:13 Academic-Ad6129 My family is at breaking point...
Need some encouraging words or help here. Please note I am the older sister here, not the mother.
My younger brother, 16, is diagnosed with autism and ADHD. He is a difficult kid, always has been.
When he was little he had severe anger issues, used to hit people, punch holes in walls, throw things, bite, the whole 9 yards. I cut all my hair off when I was 12 so he couldn't pull it anymore. He automatically got the front seat in the car so he couldn't yank anyone's scalps off, for no reason.
It took my mother years of begging in doctors offices to get a diagnosis and help. He was expelled from kindergarten and has been to three different primary schools, and one secondary school. He has quit secondary school this year, and is doing a course for job preparation, but he refuses to go.
He is addicted to video games, and a lot stronger than us. He is only 5'6 but he's still a 16 year old boy. If we take the games away, things have gotten physical in the past, I have had to go to work with a black eye before.
He says he doesn't get enough sleep, or he doesn't want to go. A myriad of excuses. Sometimes it's the same excuse he had for quitting high school - that the content is too easy, everyone else is stupid, and he doesn't want to be around stupid people. He has a difficult history with sleep, primarily staying awake to late hours gaming, but as a kid he used to wake the entire house up a few times a night by yelling and asking for food.
This course that he dropped out of high school to do, because high school is too boring and pointless, is costing my parents thousands of dollars, and he's now refusing to go to that as well. My mum is at her wits end. I can see her giving up.
She is a saint of a woman, raising 5 kids and dealing with domestic abuse, and escaping that and trying to give us a better life, but this never seems to end.
We've tried medication, but he hates it and will sometimes cheek it and spit it out. Medication costs money so we can't afford it if he isn't going to take it. He goes insane without his video games to the point that it's a huge disruption to everyone else's lives, and like I said, things can escalate. He is too high functioning to qualify for most government supports and programs like respite or care.
My mum has worked so hard, she still works full time teaching kids. My step dad is nearing 70 and still working a full time job at a hospital. I stay with my parents to help out, but I will have to move out sometime, and they deserve to be able to retire.
Please, has anyone had a similar thing happen? Can anyone tell me things will get better, or that they will change?
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My younger brother, 16, is diagnosed with autism and ADHD. He is a difficult kid, always has been.
When he was little he had severe anger issues, used to hit people, punch holes in walls, throw things, bite, the whole 9 yards. I cut all my hair off when I was 12 so he couldn't pull it anymore. He automatically got the front seat in the car so he couldn't yank anyone's scalps off, for no reason.
It took my mother years of begging in doctors offices to get a diagnosis and help. He was expelled from kindergarten and has been to three different primary schools, and one secondary school. He has quit secondary school this year, and is doing a course for job preparation, but he refuses to go.
He is addicted to video games, and a lot stronger than us. He is only 5'6 but he's still a 16 year old boy. If we take the games away, things have gotten physical in the past, I have had to go to work with a black eye before.
He says he doesn't get enough sleep, or he doesn't want to go. A myriad of excuses. Sometimes it's the same excuse he had for quitting high school - that the content is too easy, everyone else is stupid, and he doesn't want to be around stupid people. He has a difficult history with sleep, primarily staying awake to late hours gaming, but as a kid he used to wake the entire house up a few times a night by yelling and asking for food.
This course that he dropped out of high school to do, because high school is too boring and pointless, is costing my parents thousands of dollars, and he's now refusing to go to that as well. My mum is at her wits end. I can see her giving up.
She is a saint of a woman, raising 5 kids and dealing with domestic abuse, and escaping that and trying to give us a better life, but this never seems to end.
We've tried medication, but he hates it and will sometimes cheek it and spit it out. Medication costs money so we can't afford it if he isn't going to take it. He goes insane without his video games to the point that it's a huge disruption to everyone else's lives, and like I said, things can escalate. He is too high functioning to qualify for most government supports and programs like respite or care.
My mum has worked so hard, she still works full time teaching kids. My step dad is nearing 70 and still working a full time job at a hospital. I stay with my parents to help out, but I will have to move out sometime, and they deserve to be able to retire.
Please, has anyone had a similar thing happen? Can anyone tell me things will get better, or that they will change?
2024.05.29 02:04 Royal-Procedure6491 How is Babby formed? (A discussion about sex education in Taiwan)
Context: I teach 6th grade here in the public school system. I am originally from the US. In the US, basic sex education begins in either 5th or 6th grade, but by that time most parents have at least given their children the basic rundown of how babies are made.
Anyway, I was teaching via showing music videos and there was a video that showed a man and a woman kissing (a scene from the movie Titanic, very mild). Most of the students turned their heads away as if they were not allowed to see two people kissing. I joked that I'm sure their parents have never kissed before. One student (I allow them to speak/write Chinese when they can't express themselves in English) told me that it's inappropriate for someone his age to see kissing. In my casual way, I said "just imagine if you knew how babies were made. Do you think you delivered to your parents by a bird (stork)?"
They literally said yes. And they were not alone. And the local teacher gave me a freaked out look like I was gonna start showing them diagrams of naked bodies or something.
After work, I looked into it a bit and apparently people don't even receive basic sex education in Taiwan until 9th grade?! Is that right? If so... how do Taiwanese parents explain pregnant mothers to their children? "Oh, she's just getting fat so that the special bird can visit and take away her fat and magically turn it into a baby"?
I mean, part of the reason I left teaching in the US is because kids as young as 4th grade were watching literal porn and trying to re-enact it, but 6th graders here believing they were dropped off by a stork?! Kinda blows my mind.
So, locals- when did you first receive sex education? From your school or parents? If you are parents yourselves, when did you or when do you plan to speak about sex to your kids?
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Anyway, I was teaching via showing music videos and there was a video that showed a man and a woman kissing (a scene from the movie Titanic, very mild). Most of the students turned their heads away as if they were not allowed to see two people kissing. I joked that I'm sure their parents have never kissed before. One student (I allow them to speak/write Chinese when they can't express themselves in English) told me that it's inappropriate for someone his age to see kissing. In my casual way, I said "just imagine if you knew how babies were made. Do you think you delivered to your parents by a bird (stork)?"
They literally said yes. And they were not alone. And the local teacher gave me a freaked out look like I was gonna start showing them diagrams of naked bodies or something.
After work, I looked into it a bit and apparently people don't even receive basic sex education in Taiwan until 9th grade?! Is that right? If so... how do Taiwanese parents explain pregnant mothers to their children? "Oh, she's just getting fat so that the special bird can visit and take away her fat and magically turn it into a baby"?
I mean, part of the reason I left teaching in the US is because kids as young as 4th grade were watching literal porn and trying to re-enact it, but 6th graders here believing they were dropped off by a stork?! Kinda blows my mind.
So, locals- when did you first receive sex education? From your school or parents? If you are parents yourselves, when did you or when do you plan to speak about sex to your kids?
2024.05.29 02:04 Imperator_david [20/M] College student looking for friends, possibly more
Hey! I’m David. I’m 20M from the USA. I’m currently a college student studying communications. I’m not sure exactly what I want to do with my career, maybe something politically involved.
I don’t typically have a ton of free time during the week due to classes, studying, and the time I spend as part of my college’s tennis team.
However, I absolutely love romcoms and comedies! Best kind of movie. I also watch a lot of sitcoms, How I Met Your Mother is such a great show.
Outside of TV/Movies, I play video games too. Skyrim is a favorite of mine, but I play a good mix other than shooters.
I hope we get to know each other better!
Note: I am straight, I’m not interested in any sort of relationship with a guy
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I don’t typically have a ton of free time during the week due to classes, studying, and the time I spend as part of my college’s tennis team.
However, I absolutely love romcoms and comedies! Best kind of movie. I also watch a lot of sitcoms, How I Met Your Mother is such a great show.
Outside of TV/Movies, I play video games too. Skyrim is a favorite of mine, but I play a good mix other than shooters.
I hope we get to know each other better!
Note: I am straight, I’m not interested in any sort of relationship with a guy
2024.05.29 01:54 South-Hour8383 Don't worry she got money still
 | When just a few days ago she said I don't do only fans anymore I retired. 😐 But hey at least she has the doremi to hire attorney for the assault charge she got yesterday. Oh and she said that she still has that $1,200 in the bank too for that cease and assist she never got. And that's what she says she spent the money on right in the video. Then she said she used some of it for her divorce which is it Aaryn keep up with your lies though you do you boo boo. You'll be reading all this stuff on Reddit when you get off your hold in jail. Based off of where the location says on the arrest record it's looking like home and we're all hoping it wasn't your mother and your child didn't have to witness that. Over here saying she's against abuse and all this crap supporting Bobby but if it finds out it was her mom dude she had no right to be open in her mouth with this at all. I'm done with her bull crap lately.... Anyways submitted by South-Hour8383 to aarynmjsnarky [link] [comments] Welcome back to Queen of the pod. |
2024.05.29 01:11 Capricornbaddie001 AITA for calling out my mom on her actions even though she has had a “hard life”.
I 21 (F) would say my mother is a… well real character lol. Just for some context, she had me at 21 while she was still in college and had some freaky deaky time with my biological father and boom! I was created. So to say the least I was a “oops” as she would put it. And would tell me she wasn’t ready to be a mother. I was eventually born and everything went downhill from there. According to my step dad (who took me in and raised me as his own), she was very stand offish with me growing up. Never really bonded with me like a mother should. For context my step dad came into my life when my mom and him met when I was 5. I asked him how he felt that way and he would go into telling that she would be very mean and for example, she was changing my diaper (I wasn’t potty trained till 5 years old and step dad did it all) and she got so mad that I went in my diaper she threw me on the couch. Hearing this was hard to hear but I kind of pushed it to the back of my skull and pretended it wasn’t true. Just to cut this story short a lot of things happened for the span of my life regarding this woman. She blamed me for bad things that happened to me in my childhood, cheated on my step dad multiple times, hid bills around our family home causing MONSTEROUS amount of debt she left behind for my step dad to handle (He’s currently talking to the IRS to see what he can do about it all), faked colon cancer which was the cancer one of my childhood friends had passed away from and would take out her hair extensions and say “this was the chemo at work”, and many other things that I could go into detail with if you guys want but it is A LOT. She eventually told me, my two sister F(10) and F(7) at the time, and my step dad that she needed us out of the house for the night because she needed to think about what to do (my step dad had found out she had a sugar daddy and only found out because he looked at her phone while she was in surgery). My step dad didn’t even want to argue so he took me and my sisters to my grandma’s house for the night and we slept there. Eventually my mom came to us girls and told us she would be back in a few days. We said our tearful goodbyes but I knew what she had done to my stepdad (only because my grandparents who also raised me told me the truth of what happened) and she was out the door. She ended up staying at her sugar daddy’s house but he ended up breaking up with her and she became homeless. She eventually moved into an apartment 30 minutes away from us that she couldn’t afford because she was jumping from job to job. She would come visit us girls every so often, maybe a couple weekends a month but I started respecting her less and less. She eventually was forced to evict from that apartment and was living in her car according to her but we soon found out she actually asked the family who moved in after her, a family with 2 young children, if she could stay there and for some god d*mn reason they agreed. This was around the time where she stopped talking to me almost completely and I would text, try and make conversation and it would be brief and I would wait months for her to try and pick up conversation. Like a simple I love you would’ve been amazing but it never came.
Now this bit of info happened very recently, around Mother’s Day in fact.
At this point, I still love her but I have some issues that I’ve had to attend therapy to somewhat get over. She would pick up my sisters and bring them to these situations and I’ve told my step dad to file for full custody and put her on child support but he tells me he can’t bring himself to let his daughters grow up without a mother and he’s overworked as it is trying to provide as a single dad and doesn’t have time or money to seek out a lawyer. My birth giver would also be very mean to my step dad over text and say “you can’t control” my life” when he would just be trying to find out the address of where she lives since she’s always moving around. My step dad did confined in me recently that he found out my mom had a new sugar daddy because he uses life 360 to keep track of my sisters just in case something were to happen and they were at a random house about 40 minutes away the opposite direction than her place. This confuses and alarms my dad and he texts her. She reads the text but doesn’t answer. He ends up asking my oldest sister where she was this weekend with mom. She tells him they went to this house they’ve been going to for A FEW MONTHS! And said mom has a friend that kisses her sometimes. This infuriates my dad and texts her a long message about how upset he is and how he doesn’t care if she dates just let him know where his daughters would be, and she responds with “stop butting into my life this is none of your business”. I don’t mind that my step dad tells me these things because I want to be there for him but god if I could just slug this woman to mars!
On Mother’s Day, i was going out to breakfast with my boyfriends family when I get a call from my step dad. I excuse myself and pick up the phone. My step dad is sobbing and tells me he doesn’t know what to do. I asked him to take a deep breathe and what’s wrong. He tells me that he tried to ask if mom could start paying some money to support the girls because he needs help recently and she said she doesn’t have any money to provide but pulls up in a BRAND NEW MERCEDES when she picks the girls up. I was flabbergasted to say the least and I told him he should get into contact with a lawyer to put her on child support because this is ridiculous. I talk to him for a bit, we say our goodbyes and hang up. I’m steaming with rage and pick up my phone to text my mom and the message doesn’t go through, to find out later she got a new number and never told anybody.
Recently I get a call from a random number and I stupidly pick up the phone thinking it’s important. NOPE. Just that witch of a woman. She tells me how much she’s missed me and how she can’t wait to see me soon. I just tell her I don’t want to see her. She asks why and I reply by saying she hasn’t made ANY effort in our relationship since I graduated high school and why should I even surround myself with a cheater like her. She’s silent and states that I don’t make an effort either and that she’s had a tough life and I should understand that. I tell her to stop with the bs victim mentality and to call when she wants to own up to her sh*t. I hung up and left it at that
And for more context, my grandparents were amazing with her. They loved her dearly and helped her with anything she needed so if your wondering how she ended up this way, it’s not them. They stepped up and raised me when my mom couldn’t or wouldn’t and she refuses to talk to them and only come to them for money.
So that’s about it right now I’ll send any updates if you guys are interested but I mostly want to see how Charlotte reacts to this lol I love her videos!
Ta ta for now!
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Now this bit of info happened very recently, around Mother’s Day in fact.
At this point, I still love her but I have some issues that I’ve had to attend therapy to somewhat get over. She would pick up my sisters and bring them to these situations and I’ve told my step dad to file for full custody and put her on child support but he tells me he can’t bring himself to let his daughters grow up without a mother and he’s overworked as it is trying to provide as a single dad and doesn’t have time or money to seek out a lawyer. My birth giver would also be very mean to my step dad over text and say “you can’t control” my life” when he would just be trying to find out the address of where she lives since she’s always moving around. My step dad did confined in me recently that he found out my mom had a new sugar daddy because he uses life 360 to keep track of my sisters just in case something were to happen and they were at a random house about 40 minutes away the opposite direction than her place. This confuses and alarms my dad and he texts her. She reads the text but doesn’t answer. He ends up asking my oldest sister where she was this weekend with mom. She tells him they went to this house they’ve been going to for A FEW MONTHS! And said mom has a friend that kisses her sometimes. This infuriates my dad and texts her a long message about how upset he is and how he doesn’t care if she dates just let him know where his daughters would be, and she responds with “stop butting into my life this is none of your business”. I don’t mind that my step dad tells me these things because I want to be there for him but god if I could just slug this woman to mars!
On Mother’s Day, i was going out to breakfast with my boyfriends family when I get a call from my step dad. I excuse myself and pick up the phone. My step dad is sobbing and tells me he doesn’t know what to do. I asked him to take a deep breathe and what’s wrong. He tells me that he tried to ask if mom could start paying some money to support the girls because he needs help recently and she said she doesn’t have any money to provide but pulls up in a BRAND NEW MERCEDES when she picks the girls up. I was flabbergasted to say the least and I told him he should get into contact with a lawyer to put her on child support because this is ridiculous. I talk to him for a bit, we say our goodbyes and hang up. I’m steaming with rage and pick up my phone to text my mom and the message doesn’t go through, to find out later she got a new number and never told anybody.
Recently I get a call from a random number and I stupidly pick up the phone thinking it’s important. NOPE. Just that witch of a woman. She tells me how much she’s missed me and how she can’t wait to see me soon. I just tell her I don’t want to see her. She asks why and I reply by saying she hasn’t made ANY effort in our relationship since I graduated high school and why should I even surround myself with a cheater like her. She’s silent and states that I don’t make an effort either and that she’s had a tough life and I should understand that. I tell her to stop with the bs victim mentality and to call when she wants to own up to her sh*t. I hung up and left it at that
And for more context, my grandparents were amazing with her. They loved her dearly and helped her with anything she needed so if your wondering how she ended up this way, it’s not them. They stepped up and raised me when my mom couldn’t or wouldn’t and she refuses to talk to them and only come to them for money.
So that’s about it right now I’ll send any updates if you guys are interested but I mostly want to see how Charlotte reacts to this lol I love her videos!
Ta ta for now!
2024.05.29 00:59 Jazzlike-Magician-28 AITAH for not wanting an adult relationship with my father?
A bit of context, I’m a 21M and have an autistic twin brother (also 21M) and my parents had us in their early twenties. Our father only lived with us and our mother for the first year or so of our life before they split up (never married) and the three of us started living with our grandmother, who played a huge role in raising us as essentially our second parent. There’s a lot of family drama from both sides around that time and everyone has a different story, but from my understanding their relationship didn’t work out due in part that he probably wasn’t the nicest to her and I know he received multiple DUI’s and served jail time for it.
Throughout our life he lived in a neighboring state, hopping restaurant jobs (he only recently got a job working with trains), and we would continue to see him when visiting our grandparents who have a nice place in a small farmtown. As a kid it was always exciting to see him and I thought he was super cool, as he was this huge dude who played outside and PS3 games with us, but the older I get the more my opinion of him decreases and these days I don’t even enjoy being around him most of the time.
I noticed around high school he has a bad temper and isn’t very tolerable of other people, especially over little things, which was honestly intimidating since he’s 6’4 and like twice my size. I remember there was a time in junior year we went to see the newest Star Wars and he became furious with me when I sat on the end of our seating arrangement instead of the middle. His response was to storm out of the theater and none of us heard from him until hours later when we saw him miles down the side of road when we were driving back to my grandparents. In his mind it was smarter to walk home instead of screaming at me in the theater over seemingly nothing. Or another example was when a few summers ago (I just finished high school) he got really agitated with me for playing on the swing set when we stopped at a park during a family lake trip. The park was empty it wasn’t like I was taking the swing from a little kid, but in his mind it was completely unacceptable for me to be using the swings or something and demanded I get off. It’s always something little with him there’s countless examples and it’s especially jarring when he snaps at his parents, considering they’ve done so much for him well into his late forties.
He also likes to badmouth my mother, something I admittedly took solace in when I was 14 and her and I weren’t on the best of terms and he was someone I could vent to, but it’s since become annoying and a little pathetic as she was an amazing single mother raising twins and I have nothing but admiration for her. In general he gives off the vibe that he knows everything and he’s always boasting about how smart he is and badmouthing others, even tho he’s basically been a bum most his adult life. I’m honestly not sure where he gets his ego from. Last time we were at my grandparents I drove him back to his apartment on our way home (he didn’t ask me to btw he just told me I was going to) and during the short drive he’s making snide comments about my driving and how he’s a better driver then me. These were wild things to hear coming from a man who hasn’t legally been able to operate a vehicle in twenty years.
All of these issues become exacerbated when he drinks, which is something he’s become more and more comfortable with as we’ve gotten older. Over this last summer we shared our first beers together and he was playing music and YouTube videos on his TV. To him this is some kind of bonding experience except the twist is that we’re only going to watch and listen to what HE likes and that anything we like is stupid and thinks he’s enlightening us or something. It was honestly really upsetting hearing him dunk on my interests like that, making comments about how “his greatest failure as a father is that we have shitty music tastes and aren’t into sports like he is.” The bizzare thing about it is those are things he gloats about to other people. He loves that I’m in the military service and thrive in my college esports and have played in band for a decade, like he’s parading me as some trophy son to make him look better. But when I tried to share my nerdier interests and music he instantly turns it off and tells me his stuff is better.
We’ve since had similar hangouts at my grandparents but I don’t even bother recommending anything I just let him play whatever he wants, but it’s uncomfortable since he’s drinking and playing music that we have no interest in and I don’t feel the urge to drink much if I’m not enjoying myself. These nights usually end with him drinking himself to sleep or him starting a fight and I leave to my room. For instance the other month we were at my grandparents and he wanted to play a game on the billiards table. I was a little buzzed and I’m not great at the game but I agreed. Over the course of the game he was getting increasingly frustrated with me because I wasn’t “trying my hardest.” I was buzzing and it’s not a game I play often so I wasn’t taking it that seriously and told him it’s just a game and that I was just playing for fun. He proceeded to tell me that it was ruining the game for him because it’s not fun or competitive to play someone who isn’t giving it their all. After some bickering I just went to my room because I’m not going to deal with that childish behavior.
I’ve spoken with my mother about these things and it sounds like he hasn’t changed much since they were together. I’ve also talked with my grandpa about it and expressed that that I’m not sure I care to have a relationship with him once he and grandma have passed, and while he said that saddens him to hear he doesn’t blame me. My father always talks about how he wants my brother to move up to work and live with him now that we’re older and how he’s gonna move back to the cities to babysit my kids when I have a family, but quite frankly I don’t like the sound of any of that. I haven’t brought up any of this to him directly but he’s not an easy person to talk to and I doubt his arrogance would make him very receptive to this harsh of criticism. I know in his mind he’d think I’m being a pussy and he deserves to be involved in our life because he’s our father.
So for anyone wondering why I’m hesitating on cutting ties with him is because my brother and I are all he has. He’s drunkenly told us countless times we’re the only things he’s ever done right in his life (even though he had little to no role in our upbringing) and I do believe he truly loves us. I really wouldn’t be surprised if he takes his own life if we’re not in it, and thoughts like these make me wonder if I’m an asshole for even considering cutting him out of my life in the future. He genuinely has nothing else in his life besides his sons and I have that natural paternal attachment to him, but the older I get the more I realize how unpleasant he is to be around and I can’t imagine I’d want to subject myself to a relationship with someone like that.
Thank you to anyone who read this all and I’d appreciate any feedback below. AITAH here and what should be done about this situation?
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Throughout our life he lived in a neighboring state, hopping restaurant jobs (he only recently got a job working with trains), and we would continue to see him when visiting our grandparents who have a nice place in a small farmtown. As a kid it was always exciting to see him and I thought he was super cool, as he was this huge dude who played outside and PS3 games with us, but the older I get the more my opinion of him decreases and these days I don’t even enjoy being around him most of the time.
I noticed around high school he has a bad temper and isn’t very tolerable of other people, especially over little things, which was honestly intimidating since he’s 6’4 and like twice my size. I remember there was a time in junior year we went to see the newest Star Wars and he became furious with me when I sat on the end of our seating arrangement instead of the middle. His response was to storm out of the theater and none of us heard from him until hours later when we saw him miles down the side of road when we were driving back to my grandparents. In his mind it was smarter to walk home instead of screaming at me in the theater over seemingly nothing. Or another example was when a few summers ago (I just finished high school) he got really agitated with me for playing on the swing set when we stopped at a park during a family lake trip. The park was empty it wasn’t like I was taking the swing from a little kid, but in his mind it was completely unacceptable for me to be using the swings or something and demanded I get off. It’s always something little with him there’s countless examples and it’s especially jarring when he snaps at his parents, considering they’ve done so much for him well into his late forties.
He also likes to badmouth my mother, something I admittedly took solace in when I was 14 and her and I weren’t on the best of terms and he was someone I could vent to, but it’s since become annoying and a little pathetic as she was an amazing single mother raising twins and I have nothing but admiration for her. In general he gives off the vibe that he knows everything and he’s always boasting about how smart he is and badmouthing others, even tho he’s basically been a bum most his adult life. I’m honestly not sure where he gets his ego from. Last time we were at my grandparents I drove him back to his apartment on our way home (he didn’t ask me to btw he just told me I was going to) and during the short drive he’s making snide comments about my driving and how he’s a better driver then me. These were wild things to hear coming from a man who hasn’t legally been able to operate a vehicle in twenty years.
All of these issues become exacerbated when he drinks, which is something he’s become more and more comfortable with as we’ve gotten older. Over this last summer we shared our first beers together and he was playing music and YouTube videos on his TV. To him this is some kind of bonding experience except the twist is that we’re only going to watch and listen to what HE likes and that anything we like is stupid and thinks he’s enlightening us or something. It was honestly really upsetting hearing him dunk on my interests like that, making comments about how “his greatest failure as a father is that we have shitty music tastes and aren’t into sports like he is.” The bizzare thing about it is those are things he gloats about to other people. He loves that I’m in the military service and thrive in my college esports and have played in band for a decade, like he’s parading me as some trophy son to make him look better. But when I tried to share my nerdier interests and music he instantly turns it off and tells me his stuff is better.
We’ve since had similar hangouts at my grandparents but I don’t even bother recommending anything I just let him play whatever he wants, but it’s uncomfortable since he’s drinking and playing music that we have no interest in and I don’t feel the urge to drink much if I’m not enjoying myself. These nights usually end with him drinking himself to sleep or him starting a fight and I leave to my room. For instance the other month we were at my grandparents and he wanted to play a game on the billiards table. I was a little buzzed and I’m not great at the game but I agreed. Over the course of the game he was getting increasingly frustrated with me because I wasn’t “trying my hardest.” I was buzzing and it’s not a game I play often so I wasn’t taking it that seriously and told him it’s just a game and that I was just playing for fun. He proceeded to tell me that it was ruining the game for him because it’s not fun or competitive to play someone who isn’t giving it their all. After some bickering I just went to my room because I’m not going to deal with that childish behavior.
I’ve spoken with my mother about these things and it sounds like he hasn’t changed much since they were together. I’ve also talked with my grandpa about it and expressed that that I’m not sure I care to have a relationship with him once he and grandma have passed, and while he said that saddens him to hear he doesn’t blame me. My father always talks about how he wants my brother to move up to work and live with him now that we’re older and how he’s gonna move back to the cities to babysit my kids when I have a family, but quite frankly I don’t like the sound of any of that. I haven’t brought up any of this to him directly but he’s not an easy person to talk to and I doubt his arrogance would make him very receptive to this harsh of criticism. I know in his mind he’d think I’m being a pussy and he deserves to be involved in our life because he’s our father.
So for anyone wondering why I’m hesitating on cutting ties with him is because my brother and I are all he has. He’s drunkenly told us countless times we’re the only things he’s ever done right in his life (even though he had little to no role in our upbringing) and I do believe he truly loves us. I really wouldn’t be surprised if he takes his own life if we’re not in it, and thoughts like these make me wonder if I’m an asshole for even considering cutting him out of my life in the future. He genuinely has nothing else in his life besides his sons and I have that natural paternal attachment to him, but the older I get the more I realize how unpleasant he is to be around and I can’t imagine I’d want to subject myself to a relationship with someone like that.
Thank you to anyone who read this all and I’d appreciate any feedback below. AITAH here and what should be done about this situation?