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I had an RNY on Monday and have been working to parcel out the 20, 5mg Vicodin given to me for pain (plus colace and Prilosec) since early Tuesday afternoon. I’m recording all my food and adhering strictly to the post-op diet, but my pain level is still between a 7-8.5 during the day and when I lie down.
I have muscle relaxers that I’ve taken for my scoliosis for years. Would it be detrimental to take any this morning? The pain level is still so high, and I’ve had BM/have been walking a lot. I’ve sent a message to my Dr as well. ❤️‍🩹❤️

I have debated whether to post or not, so am going to risk it. thought I would share my families story because to me the bad and good luck in it (to me) is almost staggering. In the space of 8 years, myself and my two siblings - (my twin brother and sister) have between us had testicular cancer (treated with operation, chemo and radio - now all clear), melanoma (after two major recurrences and multiple ops including lymph node removal and skin grafts, my twin is only alive thanks to an incredible new drugs trial run in Australia - now all clear) and bowel cancer (operation, chemo and drugs - now all clear). This has been the first window of time in 7 years that myself and siblings are all cancer free and all clear. What luck we have had and what brilliant healthcare (UK and Aus).
My mum has now just been diagnosed with cervical cancer and we find out a week on Friday how bad it is. This will be the 4th type of cancer in this short time period. Will our luck hold, who knows.
I guess I want to share this story to celebrate how much good fortune and medical brilliance we have had to overcome what we have faced, the absolute fatigue at the idea of now facing it again and to share that the dark times can pass despite the harsh reality of what our family has been through. It shows how far treatment has come that we are all still here, but how far we have to go, because it is still continually cursing our family.
Wish us luck for next Friday. My thoughts are with anyone who is facing this disease for the first time or the 4th.
TLDR: Plagued by cancer, we are facing it again for the 4th time in 8 years.

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Wyrm's Rock > Lower City
I have been playing co-op split screen, and I saw a post in this sub that mentioned:
-Starting with 1 player -Sending your second "crown" player to camp -Going back to your first "crown" player and try to "use" that area past Wyrm's Rock to travel to the Lower City
And that worked! ...Once... Does anyone know how to fix this?

My lovely friend/roomie is taking amazing care of me (6 days post op) and absolutely nothing compares to having them scritch under the ace wraps. And when they're at work I feel like a bear after winter just scratching my back on every wall/door corner lmao. I also got a shower scrubby with a long handle for showering and that's been a life saver too, it can reach almost everywhere. I'm so glad these drains come out tomorrow or I might actually go insane lol

I had lipo-only surgery last month. I asked my doctor if he also cut the glands, and he said, "It was not necessary. The device we use crushes both fat and glands." I didn't know that these medical devices were capable of that?
Fast forward, 1 month post-op, the results look like my nipple area is a bit bumpy and puffy. I asked my doctor about it, and he said, "There is nothing left; I don't see anything." I don't know if I am being too obsessive or if this will look better over time since it has only been 4 weeks. My next post-op check will be in 2 months. Let's see the results then and comment. What do you think? Is it gonna look OK?

Talk about sore oh my. Not as bad as I was expecting. The first night was horrible I even told anesthesia when I wake up from it I get all over Muscle spasms that are hard to stop. I was in so much pain I could not lay still. The nurses were being snobby with me claiming they’ve already given me everything they and that they aren’t above the law ??? I was like I just had a fusion !! So I have every right to adequate pain management to be comfortable. I said bring me your supervisor and sure enough my surgeon had a plan b if the plans for pain management didn’t work which it didn’t I had better pain management in the er for this a month ago. The finally gave me a morphine drip that wasn’t a lot at all but atleast got me to where I could sit still and somewhat rest. Got sent home with oxycodone and muscle relaxers pain meds is every four hours but after the two hour car ride home I took it a little sooner last night and this morning bc it was intense. I already walked around this morning and haven’t felt and nerve pain yet but I know it’s possible to have some ! I definitely believe physical therapy getting my core ready and working with me is helping big time ! I had had three c sections and never got any pt for those or my hysterectomy! Which is funny bc right after my hysterectomy is when this started and I used to work in construction! Ok anyways I’m done rambling ! Gonna go back to resting I know this first week I need it ! I’m so glad it’s over now it’s time to heal and get back to the trails !!! I hope those of you healing are doing well and taking care of your entire body and mind ! Those of you who are still waiting for relief and fighting to get your life back don’t give up ! You have rights ! I was making phone calls to insurance and even my governor bc they denied me twice ! The accepted it real quickly then after Me fighting for 6 months to get the procedure that will allow me to eventually get back to work! No more construction and I’ve never had a sit down job so hopefully I can find something either remote or do a certified while I’m healing ❤️‍🩹 gentle hugs to you all ! 🥹❤️‍🩹👍🤞🥰❤️‍🩹

After years of letting weather dictate if I go outside or not, dressing to cover, hoodies on hot days, immense anxiety and low self esteem after 35 kg of weight loss I finally took the plundge and got my Gynecomastia removed along with breast reduction and lipo! 500 grams each breast 1kg total removed absolutely life changing! https://imgur.com/a/4ufHGdR

About a month ago, he landed in the emergency room for pain in his stomach after eating. Turns out, there was a tumour blocking his colon. He had a hemicolectomy surgery done to remove it. They also took surrounding lymph nodes for testing.
Yesterday was his 3 week post-op appointment with his surgeon. The surgeon said they were still undergoing biopsies but it was revealed that he has Lymphoma. We do not know the exact type or stage yet. He did say that the growth in his colon was from the Lymphoma, not colon cancer.
This comes as a complete shock to us because he really displays no symptoms of Lymphoma. If it weren’t for his bowel obstruction, he would have been carrying on with life completely symptom-free right now. All of his bloodwork at the hospital was also completely fine (to the point where they almost turned him away at the ER for his stomach complaints, but that’s another story).
We are expecting a call in 1-2 weeks with more information. This is a brand new reality for us. Even just looking at the flair options on this sub, it looks like we have a lot to learn and get used to. Any advice is welcome.

I've developed insomnia out the blue due to taking a methyl b vitamin supplement. I have also met 3 other people who have long standing insomnia after taking just one dose of a methylated vitamin b complex.
There are some proponents on here that suggest insomnia is purely anxiety (a particular sleep coach commented on my post yesterday and then deleted it)
Anyway have a look below. A perfect example of more than one person claiming probiotics (pushed as healthy) caused their insomnia and for some it was very long standing:
https://www.reddit.com/insomnia/s/pKyCtOe4MD
I've also seen someone say they had insomnia for a year and they realised it was their beta blocker causing it (though in some cases a beta blocker has helped people sleep better).
I believe there are too many physiological causes for insomnia to even list. Usually it's a bad reaction to something ingested, other times it's hormonal/adrenaline/withdrawal to meds.
For me it was a seemingly harmless vitamin.
I don't know if I'll ever get better, but 4 weeks ago I was confident and outgoing and sleeping like a baby. I took one vitamin dose (methyl b complex) and that changed everything. I've got anxiety that just literally developed overnight along with severe insomnia that's lasted 3 weeks with bad adrenaline surges while trying to sleep.

Because for fucks sake I came here hoping there would be actual, legitimate AITAH questions being raised by real people compared to /AmItheAsshole but this place is even worse.
Absolutely every single post is so one sided in the OP's favour that what is even the point of all of this anymore? Either the story has been so distorted to one side that it'd be impossible to not say NTA or is so outrageous that there's not a snowball's chance it was ever real to begin with. I've combed through dozens of posts now looking for anything that actually warrants an AITAH question being asked and have not found a single one that is at all debatable.
So am I the AH for thinking every poster on this sub is a stinking liar and is probably the actual AH if their story is true?

43F, 93lbs and dropping, BRCA2 mutation positive.
I’ve have gastrointestinal issues for most of my life and lately I’ve had stabbing pains in my upper right and upper left quadrant. They saw one 1.8cm gallstone and decided it was time to remove my gallbladder. Supposedly that would fix everything. So I had the surgery.
Fast forward to a week post-op…I’m still having pain on my left and right side. I’m still losing weight and really don’t have much of an appetite. Plus, as crazy as it sounds…both of my arms are numb and I suspect that I might be becoming diabetic, which I know can happen with pancreatic issues.
My blood sugar has been consistently high every time I went to the ER, and my liver levels slightly elevated (ALT 51) even though I don’t drink or take meds.
I’d like the physicians to consider checking my pancreas, but I’m m not getting taken seriously due to a clean CT scan during my last visit. Plus, my lipse levels were in the normal range.
Given my BRCA status, dropping weight (even though I don’t have much to drop), ongoing abdominal pain, high blood glucose levels, elevated liver enzymes, and overall pain…I need the doctors to listen to me. Feel like I’m being dismissed over my age as well.
Is there any screenings I can do on my own at this point? I’m not being heard by the medical community. Thanks.

TLDR Per me qualsiasi vantaggio ottenibile attraverso soldi reali è considerabile pay to win e non capisco perché la gente si faccia andare bene di tutto e di più solo perché non c'è lo shop palese con l'arma luccicante a 9,99$, quando poi però ci sono i vari boost, valute diverse eccetera, eccetera. Qual è la vostra visione di p2w/il vostro livello di tolleranza?
Vi capita mai di trovarvi davanti uno di quegli argomenti su cui proprio non riuscite a non dire la vostra opinione in merito? Ecco, per me uno di quelli è il fattore P2W nei videogiochi, un qualcosa che prima era relegato a titoli f2p ed ora diventato molto più presente anche in giochi a pagamento. Molto spesso, tra italiani e non, vedo questa concezione di P2W che, a mio avviso, è obsoleta. Le persone, per un motivo o per un altro, sono pronte a difendere l'indifendibile solo perché: "ah, ma se non vengono vendute armi o equipaggiamento OP nello shop allora non è p2w" Oppure: "Nooo, ma questo non è pay to win, è pay for convenience/pay to progress/pay to XYZ" Quando lo so io e lo sapete voi che cambiando l'ordine degli addendi il risultato non cambia.
Magari anni fa lo shop nei videogiochi era strutturato in modo molto più palese, arrivando a venderti armi, armature etc ottenibili solo e soltanto tirando fuori il quattrino (quindi avevamo una forma di vantaggio diretto: soldi=armi) Oggi l'unica cosa che, per come la vedo io, è cambiata è il solo fatto che anziché avere un vantaggio diretto si ha un vantaggio indiretto (soldi=crediti=armi/lootbox/altro, ad esempio) Eppure moltissimi videogiocatori sembrano cascarci in pieno ed arrivano a giustificare forme di pay to win (più o meno aggressive) solo perché non gli viene spiattellato in faccia lo shop con l'arma luccicante a 9,99$ ma gli viene, ad esempio, messa la lootbox da 2,99$ l'una con la chance dello 0,01% di vincere X personaggio uscito da poco e quindi privo di alcun bilanciamento, Y skin migliore rispetto a quella base oppure Z pacchetto contenente cose che ti aiuteranno a progredire e quindi superare l'ostacolo messo dai devs stessi. Quest'ultima è sì ottenibile anche gratuitamente, ma a prezzi a dir poco ridicoli (tipo sessioni di gioco da 10/20 ore anche solo per una singola cassa in modo tale da scoraggiarli ed, ancora una volta, invogliarli ad aprire il portafoglio.)
Un video visto tempo fa e con cui mi trovo tutt'ora ancora molto d'accordo esprimeva il concetto che, ormai, tutti i giochi hanno una loro dose di elementi pay to win e sta a noi ed alla nostra tolleranza stabilire qual è il limite. E, l'abbiamo visto in moltissimi altri settori, gente che fatica persino ad arrivare a fine mese che, però, non si fa problemi a comprare di tutto e di più nei videogiochi totalmente accecate dalla FOMO o da chissà cos'altro.
Insomma, sono stanco di vedere persone difendere l'indifendibile o non rendersi conto di certe cose, volontariamente (magari perché in piena honey moon phase) o meno. E credo che sia proprio a causa di queste persone se un domani vedremo microtransazioni sempre più aggressive... dopotutto il mercato lo fa chi compra.
Giungendo, quindi, al fulcro del discorso, per me termini quali "pay to progress" e simili sono dei semplici specchietti per le allodole e sono dell'opinione che qualsiasi forma di vantaggio ottenuta attraverso soldi reali possa essere definita pay to win (ed ora già immagino i commenti tipo: "ehhh ma se sei scarso perdi comunque"/"ehhh ma pay to win è quando vinci, X vantaggio ti fa vincere? No! E allora non è p2w!!!", commenti visti e rivisti fino alla nausea) Sono l'unico a pensarla così? Qual è la vostra visione su questo argomento? E, soprattutto, se la pensate in modo diverso potreste argomentare? Discutiamone!

Hello everyone, I am about 5 weeks post ops (6 weeks non weight bearing) yesterday I took a few steps because I felt like I could. Now my knee has a weird little pop/click. Is this to be a worry?

I know this is an RPG centered sub but other subs like PSNFriends and gamerpals have let me down (I DON'T PLAY FORTNITE FOR CRYING OUT LOUD). If there is another sub I'm not aware of that accepts posts like mine, please refer me to it. Otherwise, if this post is not accepted here, feel free to delete.
Simply put, I'm looking for people that play RPGs to be friends with. My main platform is PS5 though I have an Xbox that I play some RPGs on as well. Games I'm currently playing are Baldur's Gate 3, Dragon's Dogma 2, Elden Ring, Granblue Fantasy Relink, Stranger of Paradise: Final Fantasy Origins, Final Fantasy XVI, etc.
I just want some people to chat with while playing these games as well as doing some co-op in games like BG3 and Elden Ring. I'm 28, live in the Midwest, and as you can probably tell, I love RPGs. But playing them alone can lose some of the excitement with no one to share it with.
So that's it. My PSN is Unconquerablex. Feel free to reach out if you are willing to hang with a fellow RPGer.

Hi everyone. I made a post regarding pre-lab anxiety and wanted to give an update.
I’m not really sure exactly what my doctor found (she spoke with me briefly I think as I was waking up in recovery?? But I might be making that up idk😂). The jist is that she found a lot of endometriosis deep in my pelvis and could not remove it. She sent biopsies to path but I’m seeing her in two weeks for post op.
The anesthesiologist did not give me anything for anxiety, or extra fluids for pots despite me asking (I waited 3 hours to get called back and was panicking the whole time).
I had a very hard time waking up from anesthesia, and kept nodding off. The time was approaching 7pm and it felt like the nurse was rushing me out and told me to “sleep it off”. I don’t remember much from this part since I was so out of it, and I couldn’t walk or turn my head from wooziness. My heart was also racing, then slowing, then racing whenever I shifted my body.
Today is the morning after, and the gas pains are HORRENDOUS. So bad it brings me to tears but then crying hurts too. I can’t move. I’m trying to walk but it is so incredibly painful. I’ve taken 4 Gas-x so far and going to try to keep walking.
Oh and the top of my right thigh is numb in one spot.
Despite all this, I can’t put into words how a diagnosis makes me feel. I’ve had 12 years of painful painful periods and I was told to exercise, eat leafy greens, manage my stress/anxiety, etc.
It feels good.
TLDR: didn’t have a great experience at hospital, and gas pains have me in tears, but I am so happy to have a diagnoses. Also did anyone experience numbness in their right upper thigh after their lap?