Bachelor's degree in Sociology (minor in psych) about 12 years ago.
I''ll try to give a thorough but concise description of my situation.
Mid 30s, have been in retail/restaurant manager roles for about 12 years.
Burned out from customer service side and the non-regular hours. I have godkids, nieces, and I'm tired of missing birthday parties on weekends, etc... Current position actually have 6 paid holidays and OT is discouraged, so work life balance is much better than it's been in other roles. It's a more specialized retail store, so it's not as awful as one would imagine.
Aspects I've been successful with (for leveraging into a new position?) -Training (new hires, developing talent into management). This includes training manager candidates for other locations, writing trainings, being champion of test policies -Office managerial duties. Ordering, maintenance, scheduling and dealing with vendors or repairmen, scheduling, etc -HR work. Orientation, interviewing, assistance with benefits, payroll, tracking feedback -Quality assurance/ensuring standards are followed
Main goals would be M-F work, and non-customer facing. I'm open to getting some certifications or something along those lines. Can take a paycut, but not a massive one (last year gross $67,000)
Any ideas for avenues to pursue would be appreciated 😄

i’ve been with my partner for almost 4 years; and realised today that i cannot recall the last time he made a concentrated effort to plan something nice for me without me basically directing where, when, what, and how.
my birthday party is in a few days and he only broke the news today that he hadn’t ordered the cake when he took ownership of dealing with it; he told me months before he was baking it and only told me today he couldn’t do it and would order one instead and asked what flavor i wanted. there are many issues that i took with this. he knew that i wanted my birthday cake to look a specific way as i showed him photos of what i wanted weeks ago and asked if he could do it; he told me he couldn’t decorate the cake that way and i said that it was ok because he was already baking me a cake from scratch which i immensely appreciated. he could have told me at any point he couldn’t do it and that he was going to order it instead. but instead he waited to tell me until the very last minute and also to sort it out at the very last moment possible.
he also did the same in regards to my birthday dinner plans for the two of us; he told me he wanted to book dinner for us and i had already told him what cuisine i wanted. he has access to my google calendar so knew when i was free. i told him i just wanted a dinner somewhere nice with him. instead of that being the end of it, he kept coming back to me with “what about this restaurant? this one? availability XYZ”; it became a back and forth to the point i had to pull out the tiktok folder i saved with recommendations for restaurants in our city, most of which i’ve sent him previously to tell him i would do these restaurants and even went on their websites to check what dates were available until i put my foot down and told him idk why i was doing the labour of booking my own birthday dinner when he said he would do it. and guess what he was able to find a restaurant and just book it. this annoyed me but i thought it was an isolated incident but apparently not.
i got incredibly upset after he told me he basically hadn’t done shit about the cake and i left home and didn’t go back and stayed with my mom for the night because i just could not believe my partner of 4 years could be so unreliable for something as simple as a birthday cake. if my friends were capable of doing it in previous years why couldn’t he? my mom asked me when he has previously taken the initiative to do something nice for me without my input and i genuinely cannot remember a time where he did something that he planned himself and executed without somehow making me responsible for it in some way. when it comes to gifts, i basically buy them for myself and he reimburses me the cost of them. dinners, i choose a restaurant and the date and time and book it for us. trips/vacations, i suggest it and have to take the initiative of choosing a day to sit down and plan and book it. if i don’t put my foot down it doesn’t get done. and i realise he is either incompetent or lazy when it comes to the relationship and i don’t know how to navigate this issue and move past it.
he has apologised about the cake issue but the time apart has made me realise this is a deeper issue and i don’t know what he can do to make it up to me. i don’t see what he can do to show me he can fix things.
can i please get suggestions on how to approach this with him and to move forward? i have previously brought this up to him in the relationship that i feel as though i take on a lot of the emotional labour in regards to household management (meals, when we need to clean bc the mess reaches a boiling point, or buying things we need for the flat) and romance in the relationship (love languages, that i needed more in terms of emotional fulfilment) and he will be apologetic and do it for a while but i think he is just complacent in the relationship.
how do you make your partner non-complacent/not lazy/bring him out of feeling “too comfortable”? don’t get me wrong, we get along great, we are like best friends and love to hang out and just chill and spend time together but i want more than a best friend i want a partner i can rely on to step up to make special occasions actually special for me. it feels as though he loves me so much and to him these things don’t matter but it does to me and it’s important to me but i think he is a bit selfish in that he subconsciously isn’t as considerate or thoughtful. i love him a lot but i need my emotional needs fulfilled too. what can i suggest/what steps can he take to actually show he cares????

My fiancée (31 F) and I (26 F) have been together for 6 years. Lots of ups and downs back and forth… the usual. My fiancée is super family oriented no matter how cruddy they are to her. I enjoy some to most of her family members but they can be and want a lot and she is a people pleaser. We both lost our mothers young and we are the ones that the siblings depend on/look up to the most. Sometime last year towards the end of the year (2023) there came a time when I was looking through her iPad to look for gift ideas for Christmas. While I was looking a text had popped up from her cousin that had my name in it. Curious I opened it and the message read “(my name) did what? Ohh naahh 😂🤣” I read through more and she was talking about getting her passport and some other things but it seemed messages were missing. When she had arrived home I had asked her to see her phone, she handed it to me and asked for what. I opened the messages and the missing messages were voice recordings that didn’t transpire to her iPad that she had sent to her cousin. I started to play the first one (more than a minute long) and she immediately snatched her phone from me. I asked her if she was talking shit to her cousin about me, she got mad, denied it, changed her passwords, all of that! Fast forward to a few days ago, she finally owned up to gossiping with her cousin about me but kept saying she didn’t feel it was talking shit because it was the truth. About a year or two into our relationship we would all chill out, hang out, have girls night and it was great! Somewhere along the way her cousins energy shifted. It didn’t generally bother me, just due to the fact that it was her family, but I thought it weird. One of the boundaries we established in the beginning of our relationship was not discussing any of our issues with families just due to turmoil you tend to unintentionally create. Lately I have been feeling like she’s been doing it with one of her sisters. There are things that I do that she doesn’t like or agree with or feels she can’t talk to me about so she goes to her sister. I feel like that initial situation with her cousin has caused me to feel insecure and now anytime she talks to her family around the time we have a disagreement I feel like she’s doing it again. What is IT… I don’t know. I don’t feel like the things she is saying isn’t true but I definitely feel the way that she vents it to her family members would never be how she would verbalize it to me. I feel she would disrespect me behind my back but not to my face. Not to say that I would want the upfront disrespect, but I know that she wouldn’t yet I feel she has no problem doing it behind my back. Am I tripping?

My(33f) Bf(40m) grew up "not celebrating holidays" for religious reasons. His extended family and him still do Christmas with some gifts and a big dinner and gathering. The other holidays are celebrated with big meals/gathering and a cookout. But holidays like Valentine's day, he's extremely anti-holiday. He yelled at me and made me cry this year because I was on Pinterest looking for ideas to share with my clients (I do caregiving for elderly) because it's a "commercial fake holiday". I explained to him that elderly people really enjoy holidays because they don't have much else going on. Nothing I said mattered to him. The year before, he surprised me with flowers and then a week later tore me down verbally and called me materialistic for him getting me flowers. I told him I didn't ask for them and he accused me of expecting them so he didn't have a choice. He's usually ok with getting a cake for his birthday/doesn't want to do much. My birthday is coming up and I asked him about his feelings on it. He said he's considering "playing nice" for the day. Last year he started yelling at me the night before. It wasn't about anything to do with me but his anger was directed at me, and I ended up crying for hours and being numb all day. I usually just celebrate the day with my parents, as I do with other holidays. I just don't know how to convince him to let me celebrate holidays and birthdays in peace. We don't live together and we don't share finances. He makes 3x more than I do, so I know it's not a hidden financial reason that he acts like this. I know I'm an adult now and birthdays aren't that big of a deal, but I've had a few life threatening medical issues and I like to celebrate that I'm still alive. Am I wrong for wanting to?

Hi! I (20F) studied abroad this past semester and collected a postcard from each place I visited for my boyfriend (22M). Our 2-year anniversary is coming soon and I was wondering how I could decorate the back of the cards and gift them to him? Some ideas I had:

• Writing letters on each one, just sentimental things and thoughts I had. I also dried a bunch of flowers he sent me while I was abroad so I could decorate them with these too? Then I could make a little booklet
• Putting all of them in a huge frame and connecting them, then drawing something on the back? (however, I am a terrible artist, so maybe more of a collage type of thing with a bunch of pictures of us and images?)

I’m not really sure but any ideas would be helpful ! Thank you :))

I'm starting to realize the past week that there's something that gotten a bit out of control. I don't really wanna say what it is yet, cause it's nothing bad, in fact if anything for many people it is only beneficial to their health. So I'm a bit hesitant to compare it to an addiction, as that feels a bit insulting to people who are addicted to stuff that destroys them.
But yeah for the past month I've started doing this thing a bit much. I barely do any of the other things I used to enjoy doing anymore, cause I'd rather just do this instead. I've fallen so behind on a bunch of things, like birthday gifts to family or tasks that I do really need to get done some time. I did my taxes a while ago, started doing them about 30 minutes before I absolutely had to send them in so I may have fucked up a few numbers. But most importantly, I've been sleeping about 3-4 hours every night for a month or so, too busy enjoying myself.
It's currently 3:30am for example, I gotta get up at 7:30am. But I'm having so much fun right now and feeling so happy, and I'm not tired at all yet. I'm just thinking I've only slept 4 hours for many days now and I feel fine, so I can do it again tonight. The thought of having to quit and go to sleep feels so sad to me. My girlfriend has long gone to sleep, she's always asleep by the time I go to bed and I am so scared of waking her up cause I don't want her to check the time.
Last week I went to sleep at 4am actually cause I did not have to wake up early the next day anyway. Then I woke up at 7am from having to pee, and the idea that I'd have hours of free time before work if I didn't go back to sleep just felt too good.
And I really don't want to be posting this cause I know what the responses will be, they'll tell me to stop it and get enough sleep. I really don't wanna hear that, and I don't know if I'll actually manage to follow any advice. I'm just feeling better than ever, it's so strange that that would be a bad thing. And I'm not really hurting anyone, and I don't seem to be hurting myself as far as I can tell, I'm mostly functioning. I'm doing my job perfectly fine and everything that's absolutely necessary, just everything that is somewhat optional is suffering.
Anyway I'll just mention what I'm actually doing all this time, it's really just listening to music. It's as simple as that, something I've really enjoyed all my life, but something has changed. I was on meds that greatly affect dopamine for about 6 years. I quit taken them, with approval and over time, about 3 months ago. And so many things felt better within weeks, not just music but being social, feeling emotions, playing with my cats, going outside. Nothing out of the ordinary really, I was behaving pretty normal and just finally enjoying life. But over time I slowly got more and more into music. It used to be just on fridays and saturdays that I'd stay up late, but it was so much fun that I quickly started doing that on workdays as well. Then I'd come up with excuses, can't go to sleep yet cause I still really gotta do dishes, at 3am...might as well have some music on while I do that. These days there are no more excuses, I just do it until I feel too ashamed at how late it is. And then I still feel terrible sad when I take off my headphones.
Well, I'm gonna get my 4 hours of sleep now. Too scared of replies confirming that I need to stop this right now anyway.

My parents have gifted my wife & I about $20,000 since we had our first child 2 years ago.
We have different cultural backgrounds and in the event that we decide to raise our kids in any type of way that upsets either set of parents (which we're completely ok with) we don't want the financial help that they've provided us to hang over our heads.
With that said, my husband & I have verbally agreed to stick any gifted funds in our offset account where we benefit from the interest savings, but we aren't allowed to use the funds so if our families ever used the gift to guilt us we could simply give it back (sure we got the accumulated interest, but happy to disregard that and let them sook about it).
With tax rates going down, our marginal tax rate is dropping (from 34.5% inc ML to 32% inc ML) - neither of us are overly ambitious so it's unlikely we'll ever hit the 39% inc ML bracket.
With the carry-forward contributions a hot topic this FY, an idea we've had is to stick the 20k into super, claim a deduction and pay 3k super tax, receive 6.9k of tax back upon our returns (of which we'd set 3k aside as 'do not touch' money) so we'd effectively get 3.9k of guilt free spending money.
The downside, 17k of the gifted money is now locked away until we're 60 (at least) which is roughly 20 years away...
On paper, this is a no brainer for us. Ethically & morally, i can't bring myself to do it (i like having the F*** YOU money available). Please convince me i'm a lunatic and i should do it.

Hey Reddit, this is a burner account because I just wanted to steer clear of people I know finding this.
I am a young adult who was in a long term relationship for 4 years since I was 16. That relationship ended about a year ago. She was horrible to me at the end (cheating and what not) but the first couple years were a blast. After getting out of that relationship I kinda hopped right into another one. She’s 2 years older and I met her at some random party at university, let’s call her Molly. She’s gorgeous, the exact girl that I would be into on paper. I was instantly attracted to her and we had an amazing night together which ended in a hookup. In the morning, I asked for her snap and she happily grabbed my phone and added herself. About a week later we went on a date. BEST DATE EVER! We could not stop talking and the sparks were flying. I could tell we both felt it because we were both smiling, laughing and poking fun at each other the whole time. Afterwards we had an amazing night together at her place. About a month went on with this kinda routine and it was thrilling. We were both all over each other going on fun dates and getting to know one another. Until she became really distant. At first I shrugged it off but then I started to get worried. She consistently apologized and it seemed genuine every time but I knew something else was up. It was around Christmas time at this point and I went back home to see my family. After the holidays I landed back in my university town and saw a text from Molly. She said she was sick, and that she had been falling behind in school and could hardly get out of bed. She had been going to the hospital consistently and had not been able to find time to see me, let alone explain her situation. I felt so bad for her. I made sure to tell her that I was there for her but she insisted that she couldn’t be able to hold up a relationship while trying to recover. She said “It’s what’s best for you, I can’t be there for you like I want to. Like I should”. I took it with chest and wished her the best, and said “if anything ever changes, I’d love to give us another shot”. At this point I knew I wanted to be in a relationship, I knew I was at the point in my life where I want to share it with someone. Although I wasn’t over Molly I went out dating again. About a month later I met the sweetest girl ever, Let’s call her Eva. She wasn’t someone I’d usually be attracted to but her personality was so kind and infatuating. We moved fast together. Going out for Valentine’s Day, surprising each other with gifts and writing notes. It was so wholesome and genuine. We actually made it official and she was my girlfriend, something I only wish I did with Molly. After two months of being together I decided I’d go home for the summer to be with my family (we were dealing with the loss of a loved one and I thought I’d be there for my siblings). The idea of being back home for 4 months got me thinking. I knew I didn’t want to do long distance with Eva but I did really love her, just not enough. I hadn’t been single since I was 16 and I knew I needed some time to understand myself. So, I decided I’d break up with her. Literally just as I came to that conclusion, Molly texted me. She said that she was out of ICU and things were looking up for her, she was also heading home (a different city then me) for the summer and wanted to catchup before I left. I was shocked by this text and dropped my phone and it cracked. I had no idea what to do. All the amazing memories with Molly came flooding back. I had already decided that I would break up with Eva, so is it really that bad if I say yes? I felt awful. I told Molly that I’d need a minute to think about that but I appreciated her reaching out. I then took a week to make sure I wanted to break things off with Eva and, a week later, I did it. She was heartbroken. I felt awful. She was amazing to me and I kinda blindsided her. But I knew it was the right thing for me. That night I got plastered with a bunch of buddies and went out to a club. I then texted Molly back and said something stupid like “God I missed you, we should go on a date”. She for some reason said yes. I woke up hungover out of my mind the next morning but happy as ever. We went out on that date a week later, which was 2 days before she’d head home for the summer. It was once again, BEST DATE EVER! We picked off right where we left off and the sparks flew so far we almost burnt the restaurant down. We went back to her place and, once again, had a great night. She said something during that date that haunts me. It was “I wish I never pushed you away, I’ve missed you”. Anyway, it’s a month into summer and Molly and I have been texting every day. It’s non-stop conversations and flirting. We’re texting as if we’re together. I’ve fallen in love with her again and I’m so far away from her. I don’t know what to do. I want to actually start a relationship with her but not over messages. I want to see her, I want to be with her again. I’m in love and I don’t know what to do next. Should I text her how I feel? Or wait 3 more months till I’m back in town and she is too then give it a shot? I’m lost and confused and madly in love. I can’t stop thinking about her. I know she cares about me and possibly is in love with me too but I’m definitely more head over heels.
TLDR: I got back with who’s girl I was kinda “with” and now we’re texting every day and I’m head over heels for her. We’re not dating or anything. Idk if I should tell her or what, I’m going crazy about it.
Thanks for reading, I’d love any advice. Cheers

I (26) was put in an uncomfortable situation and I didn't know the response to give.
My ex-boyfriend cheated on me with another woman, I was pregnant when he had his affair. When my daughter was 3 months I found out the woman he got pregnant with was already 9 months, we broke up but decided to co-parent. I will say I'm the only one who takes co-parenting more seriously than my ex because sometimes he doesn't make it to our daughter's important events, he had a son who is a year younger than my daughter.
I pushed aside my bad blood with my ex and let my daughter hang out with her brother because they deserve to have a relationship. My daughter and her brother have an okay relationship but my daughter said she doesn't really want to be around him because he's rough, he has other brothers so I understand why so I talked to my ex about that.
Yesterday my ex came over with his son so the kids could play like they usually do, after it was time for my ex to leave his son and ask me the question. It was honestly the most awkward situation I've been in, he asked me to be his mom but not in a nice way. "Be my mom" that's how he said it, I was stuck. I told him I couldn't but in the nicest way possible, he told me I was mean.
My ex is mad at me because he said all I could've done was say yes and I ruined his son, I don't think I did but his words pissed me off even more because he's blaming me when he should be blaming the mother that left him. My ex is used to sleeping with multiple women, he has 6 kids already. His son expects me to do the mother role.
His son wants me at his school parties and sometimes he gets jealous and possessive when I'm with my daughter. There was one time when he said a disgusting word when I gifted my daughter on her birthday, he's lucky I even let him come over. I told him if he ever said that again he would not come back and he hasn't said it again but his behaviors are starting to show again and his dad is not doing anything about it because he's getting it from his dad.

a little information about me: I (18m) have autism, bipolar depression and anxiety. I'm extremely forgetful all the time because there's so much happening in my brain 24/7, my brain never shuts off, im constantly worrying and making me stressed out from the worrying. My now ex best friend sophias (f17) birthday was yesterday, she told me last year her birthday was on mother's day, so I assumed its the same this year (I honestly had no idea mothers day was a different date every year, I struggle paying attention specifically to dates, and months, I barely know what month it is currently all the time. Which is why i need constant reminders of events that are going on) On this year's mother's day I said happy birthday to her, she told me it wasn't her birthday and I said I was sorry and I didn't realize. She didn't tell me the date of her birthday even after that.
I texted her to see what she was doing today and that's when she told me I missed her birthday, I felt horrible, I apologized and offered to buy her anything she wanted to make up for missing it when I had the money and I apologized at least 10 times. I told her that I have a lot going on and that I need constant reminders about things, she proceeds to call me selfish for not remembering and told me she's going through stuff too but she still remembers my birthday. I told her that we do not have the same brain function, just because she can do something doesn't mean I can. I told her that I barely remember my families birthdays and even my boyfriends birthday. She doesn't listen to anything I say, tells me that the way I remember should be different with her because we're best friends basically, I tried explaining the best I could but it ended up in me blocking her because i just thought she was being childish, I texted our other friend olly (17f) and told her I didn't want any drama, I just want peace, because I KNOW what they are like when they get mad. Then proceed to call me disrespectful and to never text her again.
I'm honestly scared they are going to start talking shit about me, I'm worried I'm in the wrong but how can I control how I function? I don't understand why or how this went on like this. I lost 2 of my "closest" friends because of something I feel like I can't control

I, f 25 have been with my boyfriend, m 28, for a few years now. Things have been great and we've been through quite a bit together already but there's always push back when it comes to his family. He can freely say how much he doesn't like my sister or other family members though they have went out of there way to do nice things for him. (My sister has no filter so she is a little rude at times but still makes him homemade desserts or gets him/makes him stuff for Christmas and birthdays) his family on the other hand can do no wrong. I am also very close with my sister as she is the only person I really have left. Her and I don't really have friends or much family left and what we do have is down right horrible.
But anyway, his family disregards what I say or ignore me all together. They've given me multiple back handed compliments or just been rude to my face or they've went out of there way to invite him to family things but not me, whereas they specifically invite his siblings SO's. I know people say they assume he'll just invite me to go with him but it'd be one thing if they did that with everyone not just me.
I practically begged to make Christmas cookies with his mom just to be blown off and when Christmas came around she proudly dispalyed they cookies they made as a family without him or me. But when I brought it up that she could've called or texted to as me to help she just started talking to someone else. He's left me alone with his other siblings and they've whispered together instead of talking to me or they've texted eachother while I'm just sitting there though I have tried to talk to them they ignore me or roll their eyes. I've made homemade dessert for family gatherings just for people to not even touch it bc someone else made something. I've given them a car without any sort of payment bc they needed it at the time.
They don't treat him great either. Most of the time, when it's not a holiday, if they call him it's bc they need something done or fixed like a computer or they need help putting in a fence while the other siblings watch or stay in the house. The parents boast their other kids/kids SOs accomplishment but not his. He sees nothing wrong with this though, like even if it is the normal for him he's a grown man and should be able to see that it's not right.
He gets annoyed when I say anything so I've just been holding it all in but should i finally say something about it? He keeps telling me I'm overreacting but I'm just sick of being quite about it now. I've stopped seeing them all together bc I can't deal with it anymore and I've asked him to say something at least on my behalf but he says there's nothing to say as they haven't done anything wrong. I just dont know what to do or how to handle this situation. Any ideas?

I played this game around 2006-2009, I’m not exactly sure when it was released.
It was a colourful and bubbly cartoon style, based on a kid (a girl, I think) that was maybe planning a birthday party in one part of the game? I can remember wrapping gifts and placing clear tape on the wrapping paper etc etc.
There was another part of the game where it showed a wall phone, and there was sticky notes(?) of phone numbers hung up. You could call random numbers, and if I remember correctly, you could also listen to previous messages left on an answering machine(?) something like the dentist
and then the last thing I remember was a part where you would go to the zoo and feed the animals either cabbage or meat, and you would just throw it at them.
There was more to the game, I just cant remember any of it but my sister and I have been talking about it recently, trying to remember the name.
If this sounds familiar to any of you, please let me know😭 I’m seriously so irritated by the fact that I cant find anything on the internet about it!!

Disclaimer: I'm only 14 and just need some tips and rate ideas
I (14f) am interested in joining the Navy when I'm 17. I am currently a freshman.
I plan to enlist in the Navy when I turn 17, which is the summer between my junior and Senior year. I hope to graduate after the first or second trimester and hopefully ship out right after.
Questions I have:
(1) When is the best time to start talking to a recruiter? I'm currently 14, freshman year, I will enlist the summer between my junior and senior year when I turn 17. (My birthday is June 20)
(2) Do I have any choice as to when I will ship out? Or when will it likely be? I plan to graduate atleast 1 trimester early.
(3) Are there any rates I could go for? - I've already taken geometry, and hope to atleast finish pre-calc and possibly Calculus when I'm a senior. -I plan on taking Biology my sophomore year, along with psychology and sociology. -I am required and English class every year. -I am taking strength and conditioning classes. -I am likely going to take a few medical classes

 -I'm horrible at machinery and Computers 

I’m new to this community. Since I started accepting my diagnosis and unmasking, I’ve had a hard time with my birthdays.
I no longer feel comfortable hosting large gatherings, and it’s not always possible to incorporate my special interest because it’s pretty expensive. But my birthday is coming up, and I want ideas for how to make the day feel special.
How do y’all like to celebrate your birthdays?

My dungeon master is having their first child at some point this year.
I've had and idea on making a gift for the future dungeon and dragons player.
My ideas is a clear plastic rattle with a dice set in it.
So what I want to find is a clear plastic rattle that I can put a dice set inside.
I am aware that such an item might not exist, but hope springs eternal.

As always HUGE Thank you to those who have helped out. I am soooooo close!! (At .05 on each farmland)
Also thanks to those that log in everyday! Every point matters!!
My birthday is May 24th.... unfortunately these will be my only presents but thats ok! Happy for any help!
I REALLY need NEW OR NEW TO ME Farmland accounts for either of mine below!
I respond quickly, give a lot, and log on daily. I love swapping with good peeps!
Happy birthday to me and thank you very kindly!
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(I am SO sorry for the needed lengthy) Back Story & Context Leading To My Decision:
I (33F) have 1 sibling, “Sam” (36F). Although we share the same parents, our childhood & the way we were treated was incredibly different. Mainly because Sam had always been favored & treated far better than me. A fact that Sam refuses to acknowledge to this day.
Before & after my parents got married, it was agreed upon that they would not have children, until one day my mother “Susan” (66F) came up with the bright idea that if she gave her parents (“Norma & Gene”) a grand-baby they would finally love her. She went off the pill without telling my father, got pregnant, then had Sam. To no one’s surprise, Susan hated being a mom. So she would ship Sam across the country to Norma & Gene’s constantly, so much so, they saw her as THEIR child. And they showered her with love that Susan never even got a taste of. This led to Susan being aggressively jealous & resentful of her child.
Years later, my dad was tricked again into having me to “save their marriage.” They divorced when I was 3. All Sam ever knew from Susan was neglect, emotional & mental abuse from Susan, which only became worse when she could use “favoring” me as another way to hurt Sam. This was NOT a secret in my family, resulting in maltreatment towards me (either subconsciously or intentionally).
Abuse toward Sam turned physical. My father was given full custody of her when I was 8, and I was left with Susan for the next 2 years until she decided she wanted to move to San Francisco because she “deserved” a more glamorous life. I do not remember the years living with Susan, but recently one of my closest friends (of 25 years) said to me I practically lived at her house & she barely interacted with Susan throughout the entirety of our friendship.
To make up for Susan being an awful parent, Norma & Gene would dote on Sam & shell out a lot of $$$ to give her a very nice life (let me know if you want me to give a list of examples in an update), compare this to me when I barley received a kind word. They offered me money ONCE in my early 20’s to pay off my credit card debt I accrued in college as I had to pay all my own bills while working full time (I have been working since I was 15) and going to school full time. I am the only one in the family who worked in college, yet I am still the only one to graduate with honors. I accepted with the condition it would come out of my “inheritance.” I have never asked or been offered money since. I have paid for ALL my own bills since I left home @ 18 years old.
Despite the obvious disparities and constant hurt they put me through, I was an active member of the family who mainly kept her mouth shut. I attended family events unless I could not afford to go, I sent holiday gifts, called between 1-2x per month for an 1 hour+ phone call in which I most often bit my tongue unless it was to defend Sam as Norma did not agree with her parenting.
Something to note, in May 2021 my father had an accident that would lead to his passing in December 2021. The disagreements & Sam’s nastiness toward me after the accident and then his death further strained our relationship.
Fast forward to March 2023. An explosive incident at Susan’s home in front of me she screamed at my sister to the point of Sam sobbing in ear shot of her 3 young kids, husband, and my step father resulted in me cutting ties with Susan for good. To be fair, she screamed in my face “I don’t want a relationship with you” with Sam as a witness. I made the family aware of my decision, and everyone, including Norma agreed to respect my decision.
By August 2023, my physical health that had been on a rapid decline since 2019 including 18 out of 23 (78%) of my spinal discs deteriorating without a known cause had become unbearable to manage + time I had to take off because of migraines & doctor’s appointments, I had to quit my corporate desk job. I had enough money saved to tide me over for some time, but as any US adult in their 20’s & 30’s know, it’s been rough the past few years, add in physical disabilities & limited mobility + regular migraines, I was running low on money & needed help. So at the end of December, at the encouragement & insistence of my aunt Elizabeth (Susan’s sister) who I had become quite close with over the past few years, I went to Norma & Gene to ask for a LOAN. They had donated $25,000 to Sam’s place of worship on her behalf a few months prior, offered to buy Sam & her husband a house the year prior, paid for Elizabeth’s bills & expensive lifestyle for the last year when she was soul searching on what line of work she wanted to do next, this was after putting a down payment on Elizabeth’s new $470,000 condo + $70,000 of renovations it needed, not to mention the literal hundreds of thousands of dollars that they have given Susan over the years just to pay off her credit card debt (none of which is coming out of their inheritance might I add) she assured me they would absolutely loan their granddaughter with serious health issues money. Elizabeth would talk to them personally about it, just to seal the deal while Sam would help me find cheaper alternatives to my current necessities such as Medicaid.
I make the request, and to my surprise they are more than happy to help me with a loan. But one week later & their phone calls with Susan, they say by email they “love me but cannot continue to financially support my poor decisions.” I call Elizabeth who says, it was not in her best interest to talk to them about helping me as I am “worthless to this family and society while being disabled.” Then adds that she will not let her “mental health deteriorate just to emotionally support me.” I then immediately reach out to Sam who does not even have the guts to talk by phone only text, and says she called Susan to explain my circumstance but “wasn’t going to argue or pick a fight” to help me and that she is sorry that that she “can't show up for me the way I want her to because she needs to maintain her own mental health, relationships and boundaries.” She also threw in that I have “made up this narrative in my head” that they treat her & I different, that she is treated better.
That day I fully cut contact with Norma, Gene, and Elizabeth. I told them they will not be hearing from me again, and I will not be attending theirs or Susan’s funeral. And I stopped speaking with Sam for the time being. Ironically, what led us to speaking was last month (April 20224) I had begun working on an article about going No Contact with family members. I asked if I could discuss her childhood abuse in a few sentences as part of the article. She agreed and offered to give me quotes. I accepted then interviewed her. From there we began rebuilding our relationship.
Then last Wednesday, (May 8), Norma passes. I do not attend the funeral that happened on Friday, May 10. My two cousins who I have become very close with in the last 6 months understood why, and supported my decision. But even though I did not go, I continually checked in with them & Sam to ensure they were okay. Not once from Wednesday to yesterday (Tuesday) did Sam reply to a single message. As I am concerned about this, I reached out yesterday morning. She replied in the afternoon. I was incredibly hurt by her very lengthy message. Here are 2 excerpts that led me to full NC.

1. “Your perspective on the situation was clear, you werent coming to be with the family and you arent grieving [Norma’s] death at least in the conventional sense. I had to be the one to answer from most of the family why you werent there, it was incredibly awkward and uncomfortable for me.”
2. “Since late January/Early February things have already been really strained between us. I know that most that comes from my point of view and actions were really hurtful to you. I hate that I hurt you and Its been difficult for me to reconcile that I can't show up for you the way you want me to while also maintaining my own mental health, relationships and boundaries.”

She continually says that she cannot show up for me the way I need without affecting her mental health or crossing boundaries, and I am not someone that would ever want to hinder someone else’s life by my presence or cause inner turmoil by associating with me. I let her know this and said I will stop trying to cultivate a relationship and I will step away for good. I said it as kind as possible, taking an hour to craft a message that can only be seen as kind. I told her if she responds I will not be reading it.
I work very hard to stay positive as it’s just me to lean on. When there is something eating at me emotionally, it will drain my energy & have me spiral until it is resolved. I did not want to waste another week feeling hurt. But with that said, AITA for cutting ties at this time & not waiting?

My husband recently surprised me with an aquarium since I love learning/watching aquatic life. Problem is, neither of us have ever owned any fish before. Right now the tank is just sitting empty, and I'm overwhelmed. The tank is roughly 36"x15"x17", any tips or advice on what kind of fish/critters/environment would be best suited for the size would be great. Ideally I would like it to be as self sustaining as possible, but in the end I just want whatever we choose to be happy.
We live near Minneapolis,MN if anyone has some local shops they'd recommend close by. Thank you!

Hello everyone!
I am a 24 YO male who has had issues with sobriety for the last 5 to 6 years, and am looking for some advice.
This line is for my sister, who encouraged me to post somewhere. Hello Louise (your middle name), I am here.
I wasn't always a drinker. I was very "ew" towards it growing up. I wasn't a pothead or a smoker in my teens, I was actually very against that. I thought cigarettes were nasty smelling and probably tasted as gross as the smelled (they do) and I have seen alcohol was the worst thing in someone's life. My dad was a very violent and abusive alcoholic/addict and it was told to me and my siblings our whole life.
My personal first encounter with a drug (weed) was in high school. I was 18 at the time, and I had always heard it was great, it wasn't that bad, its a gateway drug, the usual. I don't remember the exact day, but i remember the whole experience. It was personally awesome (NOT PROMOTING THE ACT OF SMOKING WEED I NO LONGER DO IT), and I smoked till I was 21, almost daily.
After I was 21, I had a trip to Oregon to get some weed (Its illegal where I live) with my brother, who was under age to buy some. He drove us, and I got 10 grams of cartages for the both of us. As we were driving back, we got pulled over and, long story short, they took the 10 grams of weed and left us with a warning. After this experience, I have never smoked weed since, but I was so used to being under the influence and couldn't sleep without being high or whatever, and went to alcohol. This is where it got really bad,
I drank about 5 beers a day. "That's not a lot, that' some weak stuff!" I drank 4 12 oz 12% cans and a 24 oz 8% can a day. Sometimes even twice a day, and those 12% cans TASTED AWFUL! Sometimes I would do this 2-3 times a day when I didn't work, and then once a day after work too, leading to doing this about 11 times a week just to sleep. After 7 months of doing this, I couldn't take it anymore. I was getting ill, I was feeling like crap, and my kidneys WERE LITERALLY VIBRATING! I needed help. I asked my roommate at the time for some advice, and we came up with some outpatient treatment. I called and we set it up, and I was super confused on why they kept telling me about beds and a room, till I was told at the end of the call it was inpatient. I agreed because I figured it was better than outpatient. On June 9 2022, I was admitted to my inpatient program. I have a journal for that experience, but I loved it there. I had such a good time, I loved everyone I met, and I graduated 28 days later.
After inpatient, I really didn't want to go outpatient, but was encouraged to. I hated it. I was there for about 2 months before I left. I wanted to try drinking again now that I wasn't relying on it for sleep. It was then that I realized I was an addict and I needed help, but I was unsure where I could go. I hated going to AA, I felt like a disappointment to my family, and I was having a hard time at work (not because of drinking again). I was falling apart, and I have been since. My roommate has moved out, and now I live alone. I am doing this shitty lifestyle and I can barely afford it, yet sometimes I need it. My insurance covered most of the inpatient bills, and all of the outpatient bills, and although my work has been super supportive of me and my "recovery", I don't have the heart to tell them I am a fucking loser who messed up just to end up fired.
I have been having some super strange withdrawals since I started drinking again in late 2022. The most memorable are inability to sleep, and something I looked up and discovered called a "Brain Zaps". I first had these a little before I turned 24, and before I stopped messing with hard alcohol. I've never had a seizure, but this feeling is ABSOLUTLY TERRIFYING when trying to sleep (the only time I get it). All would say my birthday in 2022 was my relapse, but I would disagree (on a personal level, not logical). I used it to sleep, and I was able to stop at least 1-2 weeks since. This next part was my version of a relapse,
See, I started drinking when thought I needed it to sleep. I needed to be intoxicated to get rest, and now that I no longer needed it (and if I did it always took 1-3 days of restless nights to get over), I drank to not be bored, to have more fun playing games, because I was alone. I was about a week sober by December 23rd 2023, and I was asked at work if I am stalking someone. I was shocked and confused, and I took that to heart. That night lit the fire, that night started the engine, that night brought it back. I wont get too much into myself, but trust me when I say I would never do that. I was mentally destroyed. Why was I being asked this, What did I do to deserve this? What the actual fuck?
I drank for over a month straight. I do not fuck with hard liquor anymore, it was just my 5 8% tall boys. or more, a day. I fell into a massive depression. Again not getting into it, but it ended up resolving, but I wasn't okay. I was never going to be working with the same person I was accused of doing suck a DISGUSTING action against, I had to leave the store (and I have just this week [of 5-15-24])
I have talked to my mom, and my sister, and I am not sure what else to do. I know i NEED to get out of my comfort zone and just do what I dont want to, but I know FOR A FACT AA is NOT FOR ME. I cant do it, I cannot handle sitting there and grasp the idea that nothing other than god can save me. I am an athiest, I do not believe in that stuff. I have been told your Higher Power can be a door knob, but I cant grasp that idea. Its not me. the 12 steps are not for me, and I know this for a fact. Maybe there's a chance I could be wrong, but I don't think so regarding this.
I am asking for some help. I don't know what to do beside just let it take my life before I take my own. I am not my dad, I am a nice and functional alcoholic, but I don't want to drink so much. At this point, I have seriously been thinking about suicide, just to stop myself being a menace to myself. I have asked for money to help with bills, but never for a high. I would rather suffer though withdrawals than ask for money for beealcohol, I am a nice (I think) guy who has issues.
I should include a TLDR, but I really don't know how to with this.
thank you for reading

Once again, my next post concerning the localized script of Cold Steel III. With this, I'll tackle the first part of Chapter 3. The points shown here are based on my sensibilities as to what lines cause issues for the dialogue, from being outright wrong to being awkward. My previous posts are listed below:

• Prologue: https://www.reddit.com/Falcom/s/iU44PytvbN
  
• Chapter 1: https://www.reddit.com/Falcom/s/cTjkFwRsAM
  
• Chapter 2 (1/2): https://www.reddit.com/Falcom/s/973QP55DqX
  
• Chapter 2 (2/2): https://www.reddit.com/Falcom/s/XrHBTWb0hr
  

Chapter 3

• 1:「I take it this means House Hyarms will be the only one of the Four Great Houses in attendance?」 / 「“四大”から当主が出席するのはそちらの家だけになりそうだな？」

The localization has Jusis word this an absolute. "当主" should refer to the actual head of the house. Jusis could've said: [I take it this means House Hyarms will be the only one of the Four Great Houses in with it's head attendance?]

• 2:「Every bit as tasty as the pancakes Tilly and I had earlier.」 / 「この前アーちゃんと食べたパンケーキに負けてないかなぁ。」

The phrasing choice of "earlier" in the localization makes this reference to a moment in Chapter 1, pretty much two months ago, strange. It feels like way too much like a direct translation of "この前," without the context. Millium could've said: [Every bit as tasty as the pancakes Tilly and I had (anything that'd make more sense) before/in Leeves/a couple months ago.]

• 3:「I figured Nidhoggr would be good, but the other guys are no slouches themselves.」 / 「“竜”も“連中”も悪くない。」

Random moment in the localization where refering to the jaeger corp in question as just "the dragons"/"竜" is omitted. There were no issues in any other instance. Shirley could've said: [I figured the dragons would be good, but the other guys are no slouches themselves.]

• 4:「The dragon lost its head, and as for the other group, well...」 / 「“竜”は頭が変わり、“彼ら”の方といえば──」

The original has it as "changed"/"変わり," not outright lost. Gareth could've said: [The dragon changed its head, and as for the other group, well...]

• 5:「We've got two of the strongest jaeger corps--the dragons and these jaegers in purple--battling it out...」 / 「──最強の猟兵団２つに“竜”たち、そして紫の一団……」

The localization phrases this in a different way than it should. It's denoted that "the dragons and these jaegers in purple" are emphasized as the "two strongest jager corps"; however, the original is listing the four in the scene. Sara could've said: [We've got two of the strongest jaeger corps--Zephyr and the Red Constelation--the dragons and these jaegers in purple, battling it out.]

• 6:「What's this big conference thing about?」 / 「『領邦会議』って何なの？」

The localization changes the clear question about the actual term she read about, just to make it sillier. Besides the fact that it even chooses to swap "council" for "conference." Juna could've said: [What's this Provincial Council thing about?]

• 7:「One time, some bandits captured me and held me in a stone prison...」 / 「とある小国では、山賊に捕まり一週間も岩牢へぶち込まれた事があったのお……」

The localization omits the time held captive, "one week"/"一週間." Old Man Rod could've said: [One time, some bandits captured me and held me in a stone prison for a whole week...]

• 8:「Speaking of which, was the Azure Knight ever retrieved?」 / 「そういえば《蒼の騎神》は軍に回収されたのよね？」

「I heard that they sealed it up so that the Noble Alliance wouldn't get their hands on it.」 / 「貴族勢力に使われないよう厳重に封印したって聞いたけど……」
Very weird way to phrase this line by the localization. Especially considering that it is also said "they sealed it" in the next line. The original already mentions the "military"/"軍." Celine could've said: [Speaking of which, was/wasn't the Azure Knight ever retrieved by the military?]

• 9:「Mastering this form is more difficult than any other. I do not know if you are even capable of such a feat, yet...」 / 「その極みは他の型よりも遠く、おぬしが“理”に至れるかは分からぬが……」

The localization lumps the meaning of reaching the "pinnacle" or "heights"/"極み" and "enlightenment"/"理" to be the same thing as "mastering"/"奥伝" the 7th form. That's simply wrong. Yun Ka-Fai's letter could've said: [Reaching the pinnacle of this form is more difficult than any other. I do not know if you are even capable of attaining "enlightenment", yet...]

• 10:「Not to mention, I can't imagine you'd need a third. Not at this point in your relationship, anyway♡.」 / 「それにせっかくの２人きりの機会……水を差すのは野暮というものですし♡」

The localization adds what I assume is meant to be a "threesome" joke. Sharon could've said: [Not to mention, I can't imagine you'd like me to intrude on your private time♡]

• 11:「My school and the cathedral are in the same district, in case you were wondering.」 / 「何しろ、女学院と大聖堂は同じサンクト地区にありますしね。」

The localization saw fit to omit the specifications of the district. Elise could've said: [My school/St. Astraia/the Girl's School and the cathedral are both in the Sankt District, in case you were wondering.]

• 12:「(Yes, I have. When I was accompanying the inspection team in Crossbell, I did some studying there.)」 / 「（ええ、ですがクロスベルの視察団に同行するのにあたって一通り勉強しましたから。）」

Actually, it's completely wrong. When questioned, by Rean, that she's never been to Armorica Village before, she's not supposed to have "studied in the village." Elise should've said: [Yes, I haven't. However, when I was accompanying the inspection team in Crossbell, I did some studying/read all *about it.]

• 13:「We have the Goddess of the Sky, but they worship something else.」 / 「彼らは空の女神と同じくらい大切にしているものがあるんだ。」

「What is it that the Nord people worship?」 / 「ノルドの民が、空の女神と同じくらい大切にしているものは？」
There isn't supposed to be a comparison that reads as if the Nord people worship "something else" instead of Aidios. Rean could've said: [They also have the Goddess of the Sky, but they worship something else equally.]

• 14:「He knows a lot about cooking, and he tells me all about the academy. Teehee, he's so helpful.」 / 「お料理も詳しいし、学院の事情なんかも教えてくださるの。ふふ、助かっているわ。」

「With such an amazing faculty member, Thors must really be an excellent school.」 / 「あんなに優秀な職員さんが いるなんて、トールズってやっぱり名門校なのねぇ。」
「Hahaha...(That doesn't quite seem like Celestin, but...)」 / 「ははは……（セレスタンさんはちょっと特別な気もするが……）」
The localization got this one completely wrong. How is describing Celestin as "knowledgeable about cooking" and "helpful" not like him? That response makes no sense. First, the second line should read more generalizing the compliments to the whole staff; Cattleya could've said: [With such an amazing faculty member/members Thors must really be an excellent school.] Second, the meaning is that "Celestin is a unique case among the faculty" (in regards to being so amazing.) Rean could've said: [Hahaha... (That doesn't quite seem like anyone but Celestin...)]

• 15:「Huh...? (Wait, is someone outside...?)」 / 「ふむ……（そういえば部屋の外に……）」

The localization also got this one wrong. The Japanese don't come across as completely unaware. The assumption of this scene is that to Wayne is standing outside the training hall. Rean could've said: [Huh...? (Wait, the one outside would be...)]

• 16:「She also said she apprenticed under a female martial artist and traveled around Erebonia...」 / 「外国人の女性武術家に弟子入りして、半年も帝国を放浪していたなんて話も聞きましたが……」

The localization omits the time spent traveling, "半年." Rean could've said: [She also said she apprenticed under a female martial artist and traveled around Erebonia for six months...]

• 17:「Yeah, thanks to this pendant Emma made me.」 / 「ああ……エマの魔力が込められこのペンダントの力を借りてだが。」

The localization simplifies the explanation. Rean could've said: [Yeah, thanks to this pendant Emma imbued with her magic.)

• 18:「A monster? Wait, that's a cryptid!」 / 「魔獣──いや、魔物のたぐいか！？」

「What a nightmarish beast that cryptid was...」 / 「はぁ、まさかあんな恐ろしい魔物がいるなんて……」
The localization mistranslated "fiend"/"魔物" for "cryptid"/"幻獣." Kurt could've said: [A monster? Wait that's some kind of fiend!] Musse could've said: [What a nightmarish beast that fiend was...]

• 19:「After paying a visit to Professor Schmidt, Rean walked George to the station, where his train back to Roer was waiting.」 / 「シュミット博士に一言挨拶を済ませた後、北東のルーレに向かうジョルジュを駅まで見送ることにしたのだった。」

The localization removes the direction of the city. The narration could've said: [After paying a visit to Professor Schmidt, Rean walked George to the station, where his train back to Roer, in the northeast, was waiting.]

• 20:「I considered making a last stand there, but news of the Northern War reached me.」 / 「１年は抵抗してやろうと思ったがそこへ《北方戦役》の話が降ってきた。」

The localization removes the remark about the duration of the last stand. Aurelia could've said: [I considered making a last stand there for a year, but news of the Northern War reached me.]

• 21:「You'll be just fine, Towa. Now let's get this show on the road!」 / 「フフ、ハーシェル先輩ならきっと大丈夫ですよ。一緒に頑張りましょう！」

The localization changes, addressing Towa by her surname. Munk could've said: [You'll be just fine, Herschel. Now let's get this show on the road!]

• 22:「Not to mention, as the student council president, you were highly regarded by many of your fellow students.」 / 「もとより、士官学院の生徒会長として貴族・平民を問わず多くの学院生たちから高い信頼を受け──」

The localization omits taking social classes into account. Munk could've said: [Not to mention, as the student council president, you were highly regarded by many of your fellow students--nobles and commoners alike.]

• 23:「Heehee. No elegant young maiden can resist the call of beautiful lace.」 / 「ふふっ、淑女の嗜みと言えばやはりマリアージュ・クロスははずせないでしょうね。」

The localization omits the mention of the brand. Musse could've said: [Heehee. No elegant young maiden can resist the call of Mariage Cross beautiful lace/Mariage Cross' beautiful lace.]

• 24:「Nothing draws a man's eye like a bit of lace...in just the right spot.」 / 「姫様から色々とプレゼントされたと聞きましたけど？」

The localization completely changes, from specifically teasing Elise to just be more of a general tease. Musse could've said: [I've heard that the princess has gifted you many such lace.]

• 25:「Although, I was shocked when she tried to pay for it with gunpowder.」 / 「手持ちがないからって報酬を弾薬で払おうとした時は驚いたけどね。」

The localization chooses to translate the general term for "ammunition"/"弾薬" to be specifically gunpowder. Marcus could've said: [Although, I was shocked when she tried to pay for it with ammunition/ammo/(maybe) *bullets".]

• 26:「How about assorted Eastern sweets?」 / 「なら……『羊羹の詰め合わせ』はどうだ？」

The localization randomly chooses to translate "yokan"/"羊羹" as just generic "eastern sweets", after having no problem doing it correctly in all other instances. Rean could've said: [How about some assorted yokan?]

• 27:「Well, we've basically just been making whatever we want at the Cooking Club.」 / 「ま、具体的には料理研究会と女子の有志でメニュー追加ですね。」

The localization phrases the arrangement weirdly. Juna could've said: [Well, we've (Elise, Musse and Juna) basically just decided on the menu together with the Cooking Club.]

• 28:「The elder? Is she the one Emma and Vita call their grandmother?」 / 「“長”──エマが“お祖母ちゃん”、クロチルダさんが“婆様”と呼ぶ人だよな？」

「I'm also worried about the 'true story' that Vita mentioned.」 / 「クロチルダさんが言っていた“真なる物語”というのもあったな。」
Again, it's made to use "Vita" instead of "Clotilde." I've already explained in previous posts how these changes can affect the dynamics of characters negatively. Rean could've said: [I'm also worried about the 'true story' that Clotilde mentioned.]

• 29:「From that day, Emma began training and studying as hard as she could with one goal...」 / 「『あやつの事は忘れよ』という“長”の言葉にも納得せず、その日からひたすらに修行と勉学に励んでいったわ。」

The localization removes what Roselia told Emma. Celine could've said: [From the day the Elder said 'forget all about heVita', Emma began training and studying as hard as she could with one goal...)

• 30:「That's the golden Spiegel the principal mentioned!」 / 「分校長が使っていた黄金のシュピーゲル……！」

The localization swaps "used" or "piloted"/"使っていた" for "mentioned." Rean could've said: [That's the golden Spiegel the principal used!]

• 31:「And so, Aurelia finished training the members of Class VIII...」 / 「──こうしてオーレリアはⅧ組メンバーにも（優しく）稽古を付け……」

The localization omits the joke. The narration could've said: [And so, Aurelia finished (gently) training the members of Class VIII...]

• 32:「Do they really need to have the conference during the Summer Festival...?」 / 「……夏至祭の時期……領邦会議もあるんですよね……」

The localization chose to phrase this as there's supposed to be reservation against these events being held at the same time. That wasn't particularly present originally. Tatiana could've said: [The Summer Festival is going to be held at the same time as Pronvicial Council...]; or: [I hear that the Provincial Council will be held together with the Summer Festival...]

• 33:「From what I heard, Olivier liked to play his lute under it.」 / 「ちなみに、その大橋の下で オリビエさんがリュートの弾き語りを披露したことがあるらしいんです。」

The localization puts this as if it's a 'known regular hobby'. Tita could've said: [From what I heard, Olivier played his lute under it *once.]

• 34:「It reminds me of the fleet. I feel like I'm home.」 / 「まるで船団に戻って来た みたいというか……これだけで里心がついちまうよ。」

「I hope our boss is doing well.」 / 「それにしても──女将さん、元気だといいんだが。」
The localization creates an awkward confusion for these lines. What would be expected is that "boss" would be the fleet's boss, but it's actually talking about the owner of the sailor bar, Miranda, by using "owner" or "landlady"/"女将さん." Leonora could've said: [I hope Miranda/the owner is doing well.]

• 35「Well, thanks to my mom's job, I know all about the nightlife in Raquel. Lemme know if you need any recommendations.」 / 「ま、お袋の職場だったのもあるし、夜のラクウェルなら任せろや。」

「I think it'll be an eye-opening experience for everyone, yeah?」 / 「坊ちゃんやらジャジャ馬にだっていい社会勉強になるんじゃねえか？」
「Though I might consider doing something after we're done with the field exercises.」 / 「せめて演習が終わった最終日なら引率込みで考えなくもないが。」
「Huh...? Well, aren't you a stingy one?」 / 「ハァ……？チッ、ケチくせえ野郎だな。」
The point of the line doesn't really come across that well in the localization. It sounds like the punchline to responding to Ash's proposal to allow Class VII to go out in the nightlife of Raquel is that "I'll consider doing that by myself." That couldn't be more wrong. Rena could've said: [Though I might consider chaperoning you guys after we're done with the field exercises.]

• 36:「The former Duke Cayenne is still under arrest and no replacement has been named.」 / 「現カイエン公は逮捕されたままで地方統括者は不在ですよね。」

Literally mistranslates "current"/"現." Altina could've said: [The current Duke Cayenne is still under arrest and no replacement has been named.]

• 37:「Hmph, you talk a lot for a doll. Must have a really long string in the back.」 / 「ハッ、よく喋る人形だぜ。」

Ash's line originally ends at the first clause.

• 38:「I hear there are some snipers who chose the Hector... but I suppose it all comes down to feeling.」 / 「正規軍の中にはヘクトルを選ぶ狙撃手もいるそうですが……まあ、要は相性ですね。」

The localization omits tthe fact that the snipers are from the army. Maya could've said: [I hear there are some snipers in the Imperial Army who chose the Hector... but I suppose it all comes down to feeling.]

• 39:「We need to focus on getting to Ordis.」 / 「この先はラクウェル方面──まずはオルディスの依頼に集中しよう。」

The localization removes the previous remark. Rean could've said: [This way leads to Raquel--We need to focus on getting to Ordis.]

• 40:「Damn. So that monster used to cozy up in there with fifty-thousand soldiers.」 / 「クク、あんな場所にあの化物が５万の兵と立て籠もったワケだ。」

The choice of "used" makes the sentence read as a characteristic beyond the single event the Japanese refers to. Ash could've said: [Damn. So that monster locked herself/cozied up in there with fifty-thousand soldiers.]

• 41:「During the war, the Imperial Army was at a loss after multiple failed attempts to infiltrate.」 / 「当時、帝国正規軍も攻めあぐねて頭を抱えたそうです。」

「It's fully equipped with multiple Panzer Soldats, large-class airships, and enough supplies and anti-aircraft cannons to last three years.」/ 「多数の機甲兵に大型飛行艇、３年は継戦できるだけの物資、対空砲も完備していましたから。」
In the context of "the Noble Alliance forces, after the civil war ended, barricaded themselves in Juno Naval Fortress," the localization wrongly chooses to put it as "during the war." Much the same, the second line is supposed to be talking about that single past event. Altina could've said: [It was equiped with multiple Panzer Soldats, large-class airships, and enough supplies amd anti-aircraft cannons to last three years.]

• 42:「(And thus a deal was struck that shifted the Northern War.)」 / 「（そんな事態を打開するために北方戦役の話が持ち上がった……）」

The localization translated this line very wrongly. The situation being "shifted" isn't the Northern War. Rean could've said: [To resolve that situation (Aurelia's barricade in Juno), the deal to set out for the Northern War was struck.]

• 44:「I don't see any Goliath Soldats. Do you?」 / 「ああ、そういや主力戦車だの噂の巨人機(ゴライアス)だのは見当たらねぇな？」

The localization omits the mention of the Main Battle Tanks. Ash could've said: [I don't see any Main Battle Tanks/MBTs/Achtzenhs or Goliath Soldats. Do you?]

• 46:「But over the past six months, we've seen some suspicious activity from both jaeger corps.」 / 「だがここ半年、帝国各地で不可解な動きをしていた各猟兵団が半月くらい前から鳴りを潜めていてな。」

「Activity that's led us to believe they're planning something for the Imperial Provincial Council in Lamare.」 / 「ール州で開かれる領邦会議に合わ・せるように。」
「Over the past six months, there haven't been any confirmed reports of jaeger corps activity within the Empire.」 / 「──ここ半月、帝国各地で 活動していた複数の猟兵団の動きが確認できなくなっている模様。」
By virtue of omitting information, the localization causes this line to have the wrong information. In the first line. Wallace could've said: [But over the past half a month/two weeks, we've not seen activity from the multiple jaeger corps which, until then, had been moving suspiciously in the Empire starting six months ago.] Consequentially, it's the lack of movement so close to the Provincial Council that makes them wary. The third line straight up mistranslated "half a month"/"半月." Wallace could've said: [Over the past half a month/two weeks, there haven't been any confirmed reports of jaeger corps activity within the Empire.]

• 47:「Ordis has been holding the Imperial Provincial Council since yesterday. Immediately after that's done is the Summer Festival.」 / 「オルディスは明日より領邦会議、そして《夏至祭》という状況です。」

The localization outright mistranslates "tomorrow"/"明日." The Provincial Army Soldier could've said: [Ordis will hold the Imperial Provincial Council starting tomorrow. Immediately after that's done is the Summer Festival.]

• 49:「Looking at this view, I can see why Ordis is so famous.」 / 「さすがは《紺碧の海都》と称えられるだけはある街だな。」

「The Port City, Ordis.」 / 「《紺碧の海都》オルディスへ。」
The localization refuses to establish a term for this other name that Rean and Musse call Ordis. Given some uses of the Japanese term, it could be "Saphirl Port City"; given the name of a food item in the city, perhaps "Aquamarine Port City"; even if not the same kanji, maybe "Azure Port City." As long as it's not entirely omitted from the game.

• 50:「Yeah, but once we're done sightseein', we've got a monster to kill.」 / 「そんで一通り回ったら南の浜辺で手配された魔獣をブチ倒すわけか。」

The localization omits mentioning the location of the monster. Ash could've said: [Yeah, but once we're done sightseein', we've got a monster to kill on the beach to the south/southern beach/beach south of the city.]

• 51:「I hope Luna isn't too bored.」 / 「はっはっは、ルナたちが退屈していなければいいのだが。」

The localization singles out Luna. Lord Quinn could've said: [I hope Luna and Eclair aren't too bored.]

• 52:「You're in luck. With the Summer Festival going on, the town is really buzzing with activity.」 / 「夏至祭も近いので商業区は賑わっているようです。」

The localization messes up the timeframe a little. The Provincial Army Soldier could've said: [You're in luck. With the Summer Festival happening soon, the town is really buzzing with activity.]

• 53:「My husband doesn't like things that come from the capital.」 / 「うちは旦那様が帝都資本嫌いなんです。」

Just like in Chapter 2, a maid is made to call her "master"/"lord" her husband by virtue of the fact that the Japanese term can be used for both. Pamela could've said: [My Master/Lord doesn't like things that come from the capital.]

• 54:「In addition to the taverns, there's an orbment store, and a glass workshop that is popular with the duke households.」 / 「宿酒場の他に、導力器なども扱う、公爵家御用達の硝子工房などもあります。」

It's not meant to be "households "in plural; the context here is that the glass workshop is used by the Cayenne estate. Musse could've said: [In addition to the taverns, there's an orbment store, and a glass workshop that is popular with the duke household/Cayenne/duke's estate*.]

• 55:「Guess what! My big brother is coming back tomorrow!」 /「あのね！ 今日兄ちゃんが帰ってくるんだ～っ！」

「My big brother is coming back tomorrow!」 / 「今日は兄ちゃんが帰ってくるんだよ！」
Straight up mistranslating "today"/"今日" in the localization. Luka could've said: [Guess what! My big brother is coming back today!]; And: [My big brother is coming back today!]

• 56:「Gramps is the ultimate craftsman. He even received the Golden Emblem.」 / 「じいちゃんは陛下から《黄綬勲章》を賜った最高の職人ですからね。」

The localization omits the line also havimg mention of the fact that the emperor is the award giver. Luther could've said: [Gramps is the ultimate craftsman. He even received the Golden Emblem from His Majesty himself.]

• 57:「Though, all I do nowadays is drink here!」 / 「ま、今はこの店くらいにしか卸しておらんがなぁ！」

「We get all our seafood from Rossel.」 / 「ちなみに魚介はそこのロッセルさんが卸してくれるんだ。」
The localization got this line wrong. It's not about drinking a lot, even the owner of the inn says the same, "卸して." Just as mentioned in the second line, by the tavern owner, Edmond. Old Man Rossel should've said: [Though, all I do nowadays is sell my catches here!]

• 57:「I need to make sure it doesn't compromise the beauty of this.」 / 「《輝き号》の魅力を損ねないよう、極力目立たないようにしたいけど……」

The localization chose to have the guy who's emamored with his new boat, and gave it it's own name, ultimately call it a "this." The Cheerful Man could've said: [I need to make sure it doesn't compromise Radiance's beauty.]

• 58:「I had to rid myself of some of the merchant ships my grandfather passed down to me! Aside from that little head start, I'm a self-made man!」 / 「祖父の代からの商船すらただ同然で手放すことになるなど……！」

The original isn't really about being or not being "self-made." Lord Beckford could've said: [I had to rid myself of some of the merchant ships my grandfather passed down to me as if they were worthless!]

• 59:「I mean, will all four of the Great Houses even participate? This truly is mindboggling.」 / 「そもそも四大の足並みすら揃うかどうか。……やれやれ、悩ませてくれる。」

The localization makes up the logic that the count would somehow still be in doubt of the participation of Great Houses with one day to go. Count Florald should've said: [I mean, will all four of the Great Houses' thoughts even be in alignment? This truly is mindboggling.]

• 60:「So this is a jade shell...It'd make for quite the accessory.」 / 「これがヒスイ貝か……確かに飾りに相応しいな。」

The whole point of the quest is to make "decorations"/"飾り" for the Summer Festival, and the localization decides it should be "accessory." Kurt should've said: [So this is a jade shell...It'd make for quite the decorarion.]

• 61:「We've lost enough men for one day.」 / 「ここで戦力を減らす意味など皆無だからな。」

The original doesn't make it sound like the Purple Jaegers already lost men against Rean and Class VII. The Purple Jaeger should've said: [There's no point in us losing our forces here today.]

• 62:「It's vital that we confirm if there are jaeger corps roaming the area.」 / 「この地で猟兵団が動いているのを実際に捉えたのは大きいだろう。」

The localization mistranslated this line and also makes it sound silly. None of the characters put any doubt that there are jaegers around or that the Purple Jaegers are jaegers; needing to confirm that just comes across as awkward. Patrick should've said: [It would have been great if we had actually captured those jaegers roaming the area.]

• 62:「This is a travesty! Does Marquis Ballad truly intend to reform the government like this?!」 / 「……信じられるか！？バラッド侯はまだ政府の改革案を受け入れるつもりらしいぞ。」

The original is about "accepting the government's reform plan"/"政府の改革案を受け入れる. Lord Beckford should've said: [This is a travesty! Does Marquis Ballad truly intend to accept the reforms of the government like this?!]

• 63:「We'll both be in town while the council is underway.」 / 「毎年領邦会議の時期は二人とも同じ街にいるんです。」

The original is about the lovers being in Ordis "every year"/"毎年" during the Provincial Council. Hearhcliff could've said: [We both come to town every year while the council is underway.]

• 64:「The next Duke Cayenne is about to be decided.」 / 「そろそろ現カイエン公にも判決が出される頃だよなぁ。」

The localizations not only mistranslate "current"/"現" but also "sentenced"/"判決が出される." Reins should've said: [The current Duke Cayenne is about to be sentenced.]

• 65:「Our hotel offers a taxi service.」 / 「当ホテルではラクウェルヘの送迎サービスも行っております。」

「You can enjoy the night life without worrying about the time.」 / 「鉄道のお時間を気にせず歓楽街を楽しむ事ができますよ。」
The first localized line gives the wrong idea. That would cause the second line to likely be interpreted as "Ordis' night life" when it's actually about in "Raquel"/"ラクウェル". Receptionis Harold should've said: [Our hotel offers a taxi service jto and from Raquel*.]

• 66:「Juna, see you later.」 / 「ユウナちゃんたち、お疲れ様ー。」

The localization singles out Juna, when it's her and Class VII. Louise could've said: [Juna and everyone/Everyone/Class VII, see you later.]

• 67:「Haha. Well, the three girls were so cute that I nearly--ahem, excuse me.」 / 「フフ、女の子たち３人が可愛すぎて思わず鼻血が──おっと、失敬。」

The localization leaves to the imagination, for better or for worse to some, that she got a "nosebleed"/"鼻血." Angelica could've said: [Haha. Well, the three girls were so cute that I got a nosebleed--ahem, excuse me.]

• 68:「There was a shooting near a school the other day...」 / 「この前なんて町のすぐ近くで撃ち合いがあって。」

The localization mistranslated "町" as "school," which doesn't have anything to do with it. Sister Olfa should've said: [There was a shooting near the city the other day...]