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I don't care where you're from. I don't mind if you come with kids. I just want the love to be there. I want good communication. 🥹 I just wanna find my person. It's OK if my person lives all the way in Sweden.
Facts about moi:

• I work with smol humans for a living.
  • You don't have to WANT kids of your own. But, if you don't like kids...you're not for me.
• I’m *somewhere* on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. I just don’t know exactly where? I like what I like, ya know?
• One of my favorite past-time activities is trying to put together legos high.
  • Listening to music high is also an experience (I do Delta since that’s what’s legal. If you’re anti-weed, then we aren’t a match. I don’t do it allll the time. I’m too broke for that life).
    • Seriously, doesn't music sound different when you're high?
• Green Day was one of my favorite bands. I’ve been listening to them since I was 10!
  • The obsession was real. My ten-year-old self had a binder about the members with all the facts and pictures of Billie (Yes, I was a weird child)
  • Now my obsession is more towards bands like AVOID, Dayseeker, The Used, etc. I'll listen to the same songs over and over until I can't stand it.
  • I love going to concerts. So, it'd be cool if you liked them too
• I love love love traveling.
  • Please don’t be a giant grouch on vacations. Coworkers complain about their spouse being a shit on trips.
  • I also like staying in, of course! But I’m not a homebody. I struggled during the COVID shutdown. Being cooped up SUCKED. I do not want to beg you to get out of the house.
• I have a spicy brain
  • I’m super duper ADHD. Fun times! I’m also like an anxious puppy. Woop woop.
  • The most organized thing in my life is this list
• The Office and Parks and Rec are two of my favorite shows. I also like Bob’s Burgers and Avatar The Last Airbender.
  • I don't watch a whole lot of TV, honestly.
• I talk to myself out loud in public.
  • I promise I'm only a little crazy.

Why you should date me:

• We can listen to emo bands together whenever you want
  • Emo music can mean many things and I’m OK with that.
• You won’t get food poisoning from my cooking
  • I can make more than Hamburger Helper and frozen pizzas. Though, the ranch burger hamburger helper is my fave.
  • The velveeta skillets are better, though.
• I’m suuuper short. So, if you’re insecure about your height, I gotchu. I’ll make you feel tall..or taller!
  • I don’t care about height and it makes me sad that people feel insecure about something they can’t change.
  • I’m a great small spoon…but I guess if you REALLY insist, I can be a jetpack. Burtttt,

So recently a few weeks ago, I had gotten to a total collision. There was an uncontrolled four-way intersection with only two stop signs. hoping you can follow along with picture. ☹️. I am yellow ⚠️and the person who hit me Is light orange 🔸and the Good Samaritan is in green❎. Telling this in MY LANE POV. At this intersection, I have a stop sign and I am turning left so of course I have to yield to oncoming traffic, which is no problem. I’ve been through this intersection many times and it’s frightening because of how many accidents happen especially during busy hours which are traffic hours. It was a Friday and I was helping my friend move and have a housewarming party. We were on the way back to her old home from unloading her furniture to her new home just get the remaining things left for her housewarming party. Nothing major all the cars were emptied. I’m approaching this intersection and it’s so busy. The line where I was which was the yellow lane had barely moved and for good reason because the oncoming traffic (with no stop signs) would not let anybody(people who had the stop signs) in I was in that line since around 4-4:20pm. (For reference of time I got hit around 5:30-5:45pm) and it honestly took good Samaritans to actually let ppl in to move which is why it was moving so slow. I had no problem with this since I had AC and had nothing of urgency to do. It was my turn to be at the stop sign. I had waited there about five minutes at THE absolute least minimum. I kept looking both ways to see when it would be safe for me to cross. When left oncoming traffic going straight would let me in right outgoing traffic would not stop and then when right outgoing straight traffic would stop for me to let me in left oncoming traffic would not stop and this went on for what seemed like eternity. FINALLY Good Samaritan in left oncoming traffic stopped and was actually waiting for outgoing traffic lane to clear for me. On right outgoing traffic there finally were four cars(instead of a constant stream of vehicles) that were coming, 2 sped through and went straight and the other two were turning left. I kept looking to make sure that nobody was behind those two cars that were turning left, especially since since they could bc of the good Samaritan waiting . left oncoming was being patient to let me in to make sure I was safe to be able to make that turn since they had seen me sitting there for a long time. as a precaution I was looking both ways my last few head swipes to make sure I could start my turn and finally go, however it seems that the vehicle that hit me was coming up on the hilland was speeding by the time I was in the pretty much in the middle of the intersection about to make my FULL turn she collided and T-bone me head on. For reference she had nowhere to go because since she was going straight if she was moving to her left, she would’ve hit oncoming traffic”Good Samaritan”. If she moved to her right, she would hit the railings and the cars waiting at the stop sign. She had no choice, but to break or keep going straight. So she chooses to keep going andT-bones me in the middle to back of my vehicle spinning me and completing my turn for me. I had mutiple eye witness say she sped and came out of nowhere that it was clear when I was making my turn. In the police report it SEEMS I’m at fault the officer stated I ran the stop sign. Speed limit was 55 I was going “40”. It’s uncontrolled and many people speed through there all the time bc it’s a dirt backroad/highway. I’ve never had a speeding ticket or anything of this nature only ticket I’ve ever gotten was turning on my blinker late. Who is at fault or can someone explain what I should’ve done since oncoming traffic literally NEVER lets the people at the stop signs in, you just get lucky if one side stops to let you in and waits for the other side of oncoming traffic with no yield to clear for you. This is how it ALWAYS works especially during busy hours

I am posting on the behalf of one of my coworkers. So my coworker is being singled out at work because of some personal non work related issues she has with a team lead. This has been going on for a while. So this team lead has been singling my coworker out and trying to get her fired. The team lead has been going around to other coworkers trying to find ways to get my coworker in trouble with our supervisor. Because of this, my coworker has been written up over supposedly being late, not having proper safety equipment, and being "hostile" to some of our other coworkers. Another thing that happened is that this team lead had paid someone to slash my coworker's car tires. My coworker is still having that incident investigated by the police department. We know that the team lead had paid someone to do this because on of our other coworkers who was fired a while ago over being accused of breaking rules by the team lead in an unrelated situation, had contacted my coworker and told her about that team lead approaching them asking if they knew anyone who'd be willing to slash my coworker's truck tires. I really want to help my coworker out on this problem. Also, this team lead had a shady past with some criminal convictions. Again, I really want to help my coworker with this problem.

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Mars (Aggressive)	06:40 AM - 07:46 AM
Sun (Vigorous)	07:46 AM - 08:52 AM
Venus (Beneficial)	08:52 AM - 09:58 AM
Mercury (Quick)	09:58 AM - 11:04 AM
Moon (Gentle)	11:04 AM - 12:10 PM
Saturn (Sluggish)	12:10 PM - 01:15 PM
Jupiter (Fruitful)	01:15 PM - 02:21 PM
Mars (Aggressive)	02:21 PM - 03:27 PM
Sun (Vigorous)	03:27 PM - 04:33 PM
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What is Hora?

Hora Chakra can be used to find suitable timings. Hora, derived from the Sanskrit term अहोरात्र, represents the duration between two sunrises. The concept of Hora is also present in Spanish, where it means time. There are seven distinct Hora, which rotate in a fixed cycle, making up 24 Hora in a day and night. This system helps individuals choose a favorable Muhurta or a period.

The seven Hora are associated with specific activities and gemstones:

1. Sun Hora (Surya Hora): Ideal for political work, court dealings, and government jobs. Most effective on Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday. Good for wearing Manik (ruby) jewel.
2. Venus Hora (Shukra Hora): Recommended for love, romance, and artistic activities. Most effective on Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday. Good for wearing Opal or diamond.
3. Mercury Hora (Budha Hora): Suitable for education, learning, and travel. Most effective on Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday. Good for wearing Panna (emerald) jewel.
4. Moon Hora (Chandra Hora): Appropriate for most activities, especially gardening, food, and feminine work. Most effective on Monday and Thursday. Good for wearing Moti (pearl).
5. Saturn Hora (Shani Hora): Recommended for activities involving oil, lead, glass, and iron, but not for tasks requiring speed. Most effective on Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday. Good for wearing Neelam (sapphire) and Gomed (hessonite) jewels.
6. Jupiter Hora (Guru Hora): Suitable for most auspicious activities, financial tasks, and spiritual activities. Most effective on Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday. Good for wearing Pukharaj (yellow sapphire) jewel.
7. Mars Hora (Mangal Hora): Ideal for bravery, sports, and construction work. Most effective on Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday. Good for wearing Moonga (red coral) and Lahasuniya (cat's eye) jewels.

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I’ve been with my newest voice agent for about a year now and haven’t booked anything. I also have an agent in England who I get stuff from more often and have had much more success with. Is there a stark difference between the two markets (US and UK) and could anyone recommend any good voiceover coaches in NYC? It’s so confusing, I feel like I’m doing everything i can including finding listings myself but I’m just not booking American vo jobs.

He is really good at video games and likes action-based games like these: Fortnite, Minecraft, World of Tanks, Call of Duty, Need for Speed, Red Dead Redemption 2, Uncharted series
I am terrible at anything requiring above a basic level of skill. I only like games with a good storyline, usually dark psychological games. Examples: Doki Doki Literature Club, Heavy Rain, Little Miss Fortune, Danganronpa, One Shot, Undertale
Maybe we could find a one-person game where we could switch off using the controller? We did that with The Last of Us, and it was pretty fun. I like basic game mechanics like exploring, collecting materials, crafting, and cooking. We're really struggling to find a game that matches both of our tastes.

Backstory: This woman starts coming at me funny after I shared a post about semaglutide (my own personal experience) after that Kelsey girls story started going viral. I shared because it may save a life, and even though the Kelsey girl did NOT follow the protocol, I certainly did. Got labs done beforehand, my dose was super low, only took once a week. And I began experiencing symptoms of premature organ failure. She kept pressing me about my symptoms as if she didn’t believe me and I told her PERIOD my labs verified what I said when she asked me directly. Then she makes a smart comment about how only a shady lawyer could ascertain the truth of my statement? Like what?
She proceeds to go to my page and disagree with another post I have (this one is a Biblical one, and I quickly refuted her argument). After I addressed the point she made and she couldn’t provide any more information to support hers, she again made that little shady lawyer comment. My comment is something that can literally be verified in the Bible itself… Sooo at that point I asked her if she is well.
I also said that before proceeding (with further conversation) I needed to know if she had any mental health problems or disorders. Because 1. Why do you feel entitled to my lab results? That’s weird… and 2. Seeking out disagreements on someone else’s page doesn’t speak of a healthy mind. Anyways, she said we will not be proceeding and blocked me. AITA? Or was she just upset she didn’t “win”?

I feel like by this point God himself for one of his angels could come down from the sky during a Republican rally or even a Democrat one. Proclaim that the person below them is good or evil, depending on the party.
Or heck even could pop up Fox News and say this new station is not for Christian and it’s of the devil
And the Christian cult of the world would still find an excuse. Still find a reason to support somebody that God proclaim as evil.
I can see the headlines now “God has become too woke for the Christians of America.”
This is both annoying and very sad. And it astonishes me that many of them still think they’re going to heaven.

I (45f) have been with my bf (44m) for 3 years, and live together for 1. things were great before we moved in together, and I would say he's my biggest support in my personal growth. we have been having a lot of problems after we moved in together, and it seems like he's pissed off at me on a weekly basis.
yesterday he left some food on the coffee table and then went upstairs, and I was downstairs with the dog. I wasn't watching him for a bit and then saw him eating the tri tip from the bowl. by the time I got to it he already swallowed it. I knew bf would be mad but I didn't think he would be so upset to the point that he said he doesn't care anymore and refuses to talk to me. he also threw some pork chop onto the floor saying that's how I treated the dog (I really don't understand what he's talking about and failed to see the correlation). He then picked up the pork chop and put into his bad, and I had to clean up right away just to make sure the dog wouldn't get to it. previously he would be upset when he finds the dog walking/standing on carpet, and it got better after I threatened to move out with the dog, as I couldn't meet his expectation of me watching the dog like a hawk and follow his rules.
just 2 weeks ago he didn't talk to me for 2 days because I didn't fully follow his instruction on how to prepare the fish for cooking. I may have some undiagnosed ADHD and only read 75% of his text, and he accused me of not reading his text and there's no point of texting me. I didn't think it's such a big deal and not talking to me for 2 days was too much. is this a form of emotional abuse? is this relationship salvageable? I think he may have undiagnosed OCPD
tl;dr: bf is so upset that the dog ate the food he left on the coffee table that he threw pork chop onto the floor and refuses to talk to me.

I wish I was brave like you! I am completely content being alone . I’m ok with my own company, I have been alone for most of my life and I don’t know how to handle being with people sometimes. I get overwhelmed by the way I am and I don’t want anyone else to have to deal with my internal conflict and my mental health issues that have been a huge burden on me and my family. I swear sometimes I feel like I’m just too old and too damaged to ever try to get into anything with anyone ever again anyway. The last person wanted to marry me and we were engaged. They got down on one knee with a beautiful ring and proposed to me and I said yes. I was really happy but at the same time I was nervous and I knew deep down that they were not the right person for me and so I held back on telling anyone about it for a long time. He was really abusive and I never really knew when he was going to get angry about anything. I was not perfect but I didn’t deserve the way he hurt me. I never called the police, I never did anything but try to heal and help him with his anger and insecurity but eventually he ended up hurting me so bad that still to this day I have problems. I finally got to the point where I didn’t want to leave my daughter alone in the world because we did lose her father to a heart attack But I was starting to really fear for my safety in the end with this person so I gathered all of the courage I had and left. I’m still really lost though in all honesty. I have not felt like I am ever going to succeed in anything again. I smile and try but in my heart I really do feel that way. I’m almost 50 but no one believes that. They think I am still in my thirties. Good thing I don’t look like the way I feel most days. I get a lot of compliments and attention when I do put myself out there but that takes effort on my part that requires some kind of commitment to be able to give the other person the time and attention they need and deserve. I don’t know, but you know how it is if you do meet someone who you really like you will find the time and energy to make the friendship into something special. I think that I would like that, but I am just scared to be broken again. I just don’t want to get hurt or hurt someone else somehow , someway either, because that would suck too. I don’t know, I wish I was brave like you guys are and I could just go for it and get back out there.. Maybe someday, maybe someday soon.

Hi, my name is Dryerboy. You may recognize me if you're kind of a weirdo and search "Beardsley" on this subreddit. I have one of the top comments on one of the top results if you do just that. I just wanted to make this post to let you (and I do mean you, future weirdo who is searching a micro-celeb's name on reddit with the express purpose to hate on them) know that it's one thing to engage in conversation about art, media, and public figures. It is a DIFFERENT THING ENTIRELY to find my comment from a full, calendar year ago where I am providing the /barest/ defense of Ally's character and start a fight with me over it. Please stop, you absolute fucking cretins.
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All silly goof-em-ups aside, gang, I have had two (2) people in the last two weeks find that comment of mine and try to engage in """discourse""" about it. The first one was that person who had a full mental break about Beardsley a couple weeks ago, and saw everyone telling them to log off and seek help as "silencing" and "harassing" them. The second one was today where a person wanted to patronizingly lecture me about the difference between a doula and a midwife and how I should be careful about projecting my biases onto others. Then, once I responded, they replied, waited a few minutes, and deleted both comments, so I'm just left baffled about what their goal was in the first place.
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Anyway, how's everyone's week going? Tomorrow is National Barbecue Day, so I'm gonna be able to grill and chill tomorrow at work. Getting paid to eat hot dogs?!? Who does this guy think he is, Joey Pro-hot-dog-eater-guy?

after 1.5 years, I left my boyfriend. it wasn’t a decision I WANTED to make, but one I thought I had to.
On his end, I wasn’t as affectionate and didn’t put in the effort that I should’ve. I didn’t prioritize him, I began to grow increasingly impatient.
On my end, arguments felt impossible. I got all the blame, few apologies. I got put downs—nothing like my parents, dense when I didn’t understand things, pathetic, terrible person, terrible partner. I was accused of cheating and wasn’t really able to go out (party) without him, and I had to cut off a family friend who was male. He blamed me for his drug relapse after I “broke up” with him once a few months ago, blamed me for not finding him—I thought it might’ve happened but I didn’t know what to do, we were broken up. He went into my house and room without permission, read my journals, and still brought up what I wrote in them. After yelling at me until I went into a panic attack, he told me now i knew how he felt. The put downs were so hurtful, I built resentment over them. I avoided bringing up issues because they would get turned on me. He “threatened” to kill himself, on more than one occasion. He is depressive and frequently suicidal, but I don’t know why I had to get blamed for those thoughts. He called me ignorant for all my political beliefs. Even if I didn’t say something about his, I would have to get proven wrong. He made assumptions about my intentions—that I WANTED him to feel less intelligent than me, that I didn’t love him.
Was it normal to become less loving and patient? I began to mirror some of his behaviors, I became insecure, I became jealous. I feel so much guilt that I hardly acted like a girlfriend. Feeling the way I did, resentful and unhappy, I wasn’t the partner I could’ve been. I feel so much guilt for it. I don’t know if it was me or how I was treated. I feel guilt for mentally being checked out for so long and THINKING about leaving, but scared to leave because of what he might do to himself. I also stayed out of hope. Built I feel guilt for thinking of leaving long before.
On the other hand, he prioritized me, spoke well of me to his friends and loved ones, was committed to me, and cared for me. I had no doubt he was truly committed to me. He was loyal, and he never put down my looks, ever. That’s what I’m most insecure about, and he knew how to reassure me in that regard.
Our last argument, he needed me to put more effort and be a better partner. He said he never felt loved, only during sex did I make him feel loved. During sex was the FURTHEST I felt from love toward him. How could he not feel loved? I told him: I will not tolerate any more put downs. He said he gets that way because I provoke him, I told him he could get upset but no put downs. He never agreed, and I didn’t see a point in changing, because that was all I had mentally left for how I felt in the relationship.
I can only think of the good times. I never felt physically or sexually unsafe. Just emotionally, only when we argued.
I miss him so much it pains me. If it wasn’t for how he handled disagreements, I wouldn’t have left. I miss him and it’s the worst pain possible. I keep remembering his face with tears when I left. I think about him alone, with no friends, crying. I wouldn’t have done this if it didn’t become emotionally abusive, I couldn’t take the put downs when we argued.
I know he’s willing to change, I don’t know if it took me leaving. He hasn’t reached out, nor have I. I wish I didn’t have to leave him.

Z's got a very tragic story whereas we barely know anything personal about Akainu except that he was from a war-torn country. Goda said that if he was to replace luffy with akainu as MC It wouldn't take him very long to find One Piece so what's stopping him from absolutely eradicating piracy and implementing his justice? Z actually did the work and took his radical ideals to the max while I think Akainu rn is just playing safe.

First, apologies for the lengthy post…
I'm a new design manager with a new team (5 designers). Three of the designers were previously under Marketing and already have a (waterfall) process, roughly:
Creative brief > Discovery kickoff > Design > Review/Approval > Handoff or Release (very waterfall)
Before I inherited this merged team, marketing designers handled some landing page designs but mostly email, social and various marketing collateral plus brand identity work. All work was in a spreadsheet. Engineering and PMs had no visibility. Heavily siloed
They could be "booked" 6 months out and adhoc requests were difficult to manage and process. Copywriting and translation was also part of the former marketing design team; at least the work was tracked through the same process and person.
The other two designers are UX designers.
UX Design team is new-ish and had no formal process of intake or kickoffs, reviews, etc. with engineering. It was all a bit "feel it out" and it caused a lot of issues, mainly opaqueness, double work, surprises at QA, etc.
Most of the marketing/brand work (social, email assets) don't need to follow UX or Engineering or user stories. But there are points where they intersect (e.g. GTM planning/execution). PMs have complained in the past about having to fill out a creative brief, get it reviewed and then wait for them to put the work on the calendar.
Also, the three designers from the former Marketing team can also fill in at times with the visual design once UX is complete.
UX team doesn't have an intake process. Prior to centralization of design, PMs make a request to individual designers. Each designer was attached to a product.
Product has an intake form across teams, org-wide that goes through a prioritization process. This is roadmap level. What it doesn't consider is the workflow underneath for actual execution.
A few factors I've been thinking about:

• One board for UX and one board for Visual/Brand design work. But will that be harder to track?
• A kickoff meeting or a design/product/engineering project level meeting - not sure what to call it.
• Keep the creative brief? This was used to estimate hours and time to delivery of artifacts.
• How to account for discovery work (research, ideation, framing, etc)
• How to account for future-facing work vs adhoc?
• I've read that ideally we work a sprint or two ahead of dev. It all feels like a hot mess right now, I'm unsure of how to get there.
• Eng/Dev is scrum but there is still a mini waterfall process. PM writing up requirements > goes to design > designer creates wireframes > wireframes to visual > handoff to engineers.
• How to factor in the review process and best cadence
• Design stand ups, grooming backlog, t-shirt sizing?

How to create a process and Jira board structure that works for a centralized design team with different cadences AND align better with engineering?
TY in advance,

I ‘25/F’ have been dating my boyfriend ‘27/M’ for a little over 3 years. We currently live together and I pay most of the expenses since I make more than him currently. (I make around 78,000 a yr while he makes a 15 an hour which would end up being a little over $26,000 a year). He has been working at a coffee shop which he enjoys most of the time since he lost his job 6 months ago. We split the rent 50/50 but I cover all other expenses groceries, trips, etc. he just got offered a job in a career that is he got his masters degree in. The problem is the job is across the country and they offered him a little less than what he was hoping for. This job offer $23 an hour with paid overtime and benefits. Currently at the coffee shop he makes $1100 (including tips and taxes taken out) every pay period and no benefits or pto. I work in a career field where I could most likely easily find a job wherever I go and am kind of excited to move as this place seems like a great city to live in. Not to mention a we would get a financial relief. We have talked about me staying where I am for the time being until he gets more settled in to the new place and is sure he likes the job and his employers like him before I move too.
I thought he would be really excited about the job offer but now he is thinking about not taking it. He is worried he won’t like the job and would be sad to move out of our luxury apartment to live on his own for a little bit. He also brought up being sad to leave the community he has at the coffee shop and really enjoys his flexible schedule here. He is also worried about the pay being to low from his recent job offer. He has been really depressed lately because he has been denied from several places he has applied to over the past 6 months. So I am really worried he will regret not taking this job if he doesn’t get another job offer soon. And was hopeful a new job would bring him better spirits and overall make him happier.
I have advised him to take the job offer and to continue to look for jobs and take interviews and if he finds something better to just decline the offer close to his start date or leave the job if he has already started. I think it’s a great opportunity to at least get his foot in the door and gain experience in the industry he got 2 degrees in. If he really doesn’t like it he can move back in with me and most likely get his job back at the coffee shop as they really like him there. However he is still saying he is really on the fence about it and isn’t sure if he will accept the offer as he isn’t sure he wants to go back to a desk job.
Is it ok for me to bring up our salary differences now? I feel like I spend a lot of my money on him and I am usually happy to do so as it ensures I get to live the lifestyle I want with the person I love! However with the thought of him making more I did get really excited thinking we would split things a little more evenly and I’d have some money to spend on myself to maybe update my wardrobe, finish paying off my car, and pay for a pottery class etc. I used to only spend about $80-$100 on groceries before I met him but now I pay around $350-$400 a week in groceries alone as he really eats a lot and only like organic, free range, high quality ingredients. I really wonder if I wasn’t paying so much if he would be more willing to take the job. I also don’t want to push him to take a job if he really doesn’t want it. I don’t think you should solely take a job just because you would make more money but I do think whether he takes or declines the job it will affect our relationship. Am I being to materialistic in waiting him to take this job?

I posted my story of my ghoster (ex bf) who ghosted me 21 years ago. When he and I were just 20. We had a long distance relationship for 3.5 years where we traveled countries to see each other. He was truly my first love. I was madly in love with him. Even though he wasn't my first bf. He was the one that mattered and the one that got away. In the end he cheated on me emotionally and then ghosted me while I was back in my home country. It took me 2.5 years to get past that cause he didn't give me any answers. In a matter of weeks we went from planning for me to come and live with him abroad to no contact. I did not see that coming and I was completely in shock, numb, gutted, a dagger in the chest. My first love.. And me being his, he said... Doing that to me.. Nope. I figured out years later he was still with the woman he cheated on me with and she's been making his life a living hell apparantly. He divorced her in 2016 and got together with his new wife after that. And married her last year and has kids with both women. I cried for 2.5 years when he ghosted. Insane. Knowing what I know now.
You guys were very brutally honest. This man doesn't deserve anything from me, you said. I was called insane and stupid to have him in my life again. He's an Asshole, etc. I've been with my current partner for 20 years. And he had seen upclose what the ghosting did to me back in the day and to my trust and said I should confront him. I have the best partner in the world and wouldn't jeopardise that in any way. He is my best friend, my soul mate and we are on the same level emotionally. Both HSP. And we talk a lot and I tell him everything. So I have no romantic interest in my ex bf. He will never be able to get that close to me ever again. Especially not now, now I'm older and noticing it was never me, he certainly has issues that 21 years later he still hasn't addressed.
But then he found me on snapchat last Oct. I had nothing but fond memories of him rushing back in. Memories I had blocked for years. We didn't speak about what had happened and how hurt I was cause I simply did not have those intense memories and feelings when I started talking again. They all hit me later. I've had lovely conversation with him about his kids and his life. I was enjoying it. But I was cautious. Ppl on here told me to break it off with him, that it wasn't fair to my partner. Etc etc. But my partner did not mind. He said I should try and find some closure if that's still possible. My friends said he owes me an apology. And I agreed. I needed an sincere apology.
So i poured my heart out to him, screamed, cried, was upset in the whatsapp. (send him voice memos since he kept saying he couldn't find the time to call) And he apologised trough whatsapp. And over and over again. Saying he was immature. I didn't agree. Ghosting isn't about being immature. It's cruel. And damaging. So I demanded a phone call. He was really trying to tell me on WhatsApp that he'd do anything to help me feel better. So I said I needed a phone call cause I felt he was dodging it. He agreed to ring. But i then noticed he's socially very VERY awkward. Emotionally closed off and suffers trauma. I've worked and work with traumatised ppl and adults who have autism and it hit me there and then: he has both!! And all of a sudden
I started to see the bigger picture. That it was never me asking to much of him. It was him not even being able to have a normal conversation about feelings and emotions. His son is in the process of getting a autism diagnosis as well and he has no idea how to handle it. By experience I can tell he's autistic. He told me what his ex wife did to him and that he never can speak his mind and he never did. She physically and mentally abused him for years. And where our normal gut feeling would be to get the fuck out of a relationship like that. He stayed and thought it was all normal. Until she left him and it started to dawn on him what just happened.
I remember back in the day when I confronted him about his cheating and his sudden distance from me (he breadcrumbed me during the last holiday I was with him for 4 weeks, mind fucking me about him not being sure about us all of a sudden before he ghosted) . And he he had great issues expressing his feelings. I was super mad offcourse. It was life altering for me. The betrayal I felt.. The depression I slipped into. It was real. But I was his age and had no issues with expressing myself. We were 20 so I never thought anything of it.)
He likes to hide behind the computer. Has issues expressing himself can't deal with emotions well. He's been abused by his ex (in his own words: karma) and he still has to deal with her cause they have a son together. It is rather cruel and she is not well mentally so I do feel for him somewhat. But indeed: karma. It's no excuse at all and I'm not trying to downplay anything but I can finally look at it from a distance now and see where his issues lye.
And even though no one advice me to let him back into my life again. I'm glad I did.
On the phone I talked about what the ghosting has done to me in my formative years and what an impact it had. He listened carefully. And told me he could not have handled things worse than he did. He came clean on the emotionally cheating part (he had no choice cause he didn't know I talked to his friends back then and they told me he was lying) and he said he wished he made different choices. It was all very distant. The tone of voice, the way he spoke.. I just got it. We weren't seeing eye to eye. He had no intonation when he speaks, the way he handles things in life, he doesn't notice other ppls emotions and feelings. Even tho he is a kind person.
But I just came to the realisation that having a friendship with him is nearly impossible. Not because of the ghosting. Cause I am willing to forgive him now he's showed me some remorse. No one seems to understood that but a few. I can't hold grudges anymore, it costs energy. I can see he's actually not a bad person, even tho ghosting says everything about him. Even 21 years later it feels he's stuck in a teens way of emotional thinking. And that has helped me to realise that I can't have this friendship with. I was hoping to see him at some point. Me and my partner go to the UK a lot and It would've been possible for me to grab a coffee with him. But i don't think hell be able to handle small talk. It's just so weird that he has these issues and I never noticed back in the day.
Ghosting is never ok. Cause he was able to maintain relationship with his ex straight after he ghosted me. So he was able to have some sort of emotional interaction with ppl. But I don't gel with him now because of his issues and that's helped me to realise that having the ghoster back in your life isn't going to change anything.
I didn't get answers other than that he was immature, a few lame apologies.. But he listened. And I noticed something is up with him. And that has changed my entire perspective. It's no excuse. But I kinda feel sorry for him now. And notice how much I've grown after that. I sought guidance and counseling cause I was depressed. He never addressed any of his trauma. He hides away and freezes when emotions need to be dealt with. He is kind and caring. But it's a very superficial and robot like even.
He is emotionally too immature to have a proper friendship with, in my opinion. So idk if I'll ever see him. Which I hoped for but I now know it's not possible. It'll be an online contact from now on. So I don't feel satisfied at all. I don't have closure or answers. But I do see the bigger picture now. I've never been able to think about him in all these 21 years. It hurt me too much so I blocked things out. It traumatised me very much. The fact that we've shared some fond memories that he certainly hasn't forgotten over all these years was nice. And it has to be enough. I've forgiven him but have now told him I can't do this superficial friendship. And stick to a unpersonal whatsapp contact. Cause I feel that's all he feels comfortable with. With him being autistic and traumatised.
It feels very unsatisfactory, but it is what it is. He can't give me the same level of emotional maturity. Its helped me to move on tho. And we're being civil. How could I have fallen for this emotionally very unstable guy??
Just wanted to share my story.

The context is I am, what I thought was, a bisexual man. I have been married to my wife for over 5 years and I love her that is something that cannot be mistaken. The love has just changed over the years. I have become separate emotionally although I still love her its not romantic. I have always found the female body beautiful, but I do not find it "sexy" anymore. I used to want to have a baby with my significant other once I became an adult especially one that is of my own genes as it aligned with my held beliefs. Now I am older and things have changes. I find I cannot find women attractive anymore. I find I cannot stand being intimate with my wife. I find I have the most beautiful feelings about the male figure and I love it. I find that we do not agree on many fundamental things and we don't have any traditional issues a couple has if any issues. Over the years I have been trying to separate from her as I wasn't sure of me. I know I love her. I know I never want to see her hurt and I know I am not looking forward to being the person to hurt her. She is my everything, but I am not what I thought I was. I fantasize about being held by a man every night. Sometimes that's the only way I can get to sleep. I have panic attacks everyday because I feel like something is wrong. For more information I have been diagnosed with severe depression and generalized anxiety and I take pills for it all. The question I am asking here is. How can I come out and be me while separating and dividing my home evenly with my wife and showing her the utmost respect for her being and life. I cannot stand living everyday as if it's a lie. We do not have children, but not for my trying. We do own a house together. I need help please any advice.

boyfriend treated his ex better than me
for context, me and my boyfriend has been official for almost a year, and he had exes and the last one was a situationship that went on for about 5 months lang.
at first sobrang okay we had no problems. but me being me i was a cool gf at first, medyo yung describe sa gone girl monologue pero may ounce of self respect pa rin naman kahit papano.
but i cant help but compare— i know my fault im sorry. ang dami kasing traces ng ex nya all over his soc meds na di nya p nadedelete and palagi kong nahhuli yon. he bought his ex situationship flowers and wrote long paragraphs everytime they had a problem to fix things between them. me i never really received gifts from him, his last bday gift was something he bought but chose not to use na. ako gift giver talaga ako and more on acts of service. as the rel progresses rin i find na ako yung pinaka nagffix ng problems even though ako yung naunang mabother about something. he would either go silent, turn things into an argument of how i always provoke him, or sleep. sometimes i have to go to him or call him whenever he escapes fixing problems rin. although i can understand since im a very expressive person and i always want to confront even the smallest things, not to turn into an argument naman pero para lang ma acknowledge whatever i feel.
seeing how he was able to send paragraphs, send flowers, and go out of his way to fix things with his ex-situationship made me somehow question my worth. i dont know if pulling back would make a difference, i know he loves me pero i feel like he is more complacent with me as compared to his past.

I didn't take my RO for various reasons such as team, location, TC (I'm not a snob it was really below market value for MCOL and other similar companies, and again if I liked the team or they let me work from their other corporate office near my parents house instead of having to rent a place near their HQ I would have taken it) in favor of taking a sort of "gap year". I also didn't really grind applications last fall because I got covid during the peak time of late august, and my assignments piled up so l could only get around to applying by late sept, by which time HC was pretty full at most big companies.
Basically my plan has been:
Q1. Travel.
Q2. LC/Personal Project (that has actual business value and I'm semi treating as a legitimate project), send resume through network, apply to non-cyclical entry roles.
Q3. Apply for cyclical new graduate roles and Interview.
Q4. Travel again after landing offer.
I started applying for those non cyclical roles in April after coming back from abroad and as of right now I have cleared a couple initial screens and am set to interview with the hiring managers for three different companies next week. My parents are also fine with my gap year plan and actually were supportive of me not taking my RO so no pressure from them.
However I am worried that given the nature of the market my graduation date will mess up the ATS or maybe HR will get a bad impression for upcoming new grad roles. I always thought that being cracked at LC would guarantee a job but it doesn't seem like that anymore. Of course the companies where I have connections should be fine but l am generally concerned that I made a mistake. Do I need to find a non-CS job or do a masters? I'd rather get a head start on whatever it is I need to do instead of being late.
Also for reference I went to a T50 overall T20 CS flagship state school and my internship was at a F100 bank.

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7. Genre: Historical Mystery Trope: Invisibility Mystery
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8. Genre: Science Fiction Mystery Trope: Quantum Paradox
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12. Genre: Urban Fantasy Trope: Doppelgänger
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15. Genre: Time Travel Romance Trope: Dream Within a Dream
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19. Genre: Cyberpunk Trope: Android Uprising
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I’m definitely biased as I’m a prequel lover but there’s just something special about watching the movies in chronological order. I’ve shown my girlfriend and all my friends star wars in chronological order and the plot twists for first time watchers are wonderful. Star Wars is so popular that even people who never consumed star wars media know things like Darth Vader, Yoda, the force etc. Most importantly, everyone knows the “I am your father”scene so imo it’s not a huge plot twist for first time viewers anymore.
However, watching the main character turn evil and finding out the main villain is the Chancellor who orchestrated all conflict is a phenomenal twist. Especially since non fans would know “the emperor” but wouldn’t know it was chancellor palpatine. People won’t know who “Anakin” is if they’re not a fan prior to watching the prequels which adds to the surprise at him turning evil as they won’t know he’ll grow up to be Darth Vader.
If you watch it in chronological order then seeing the republic fall and subsequently the empire rise will raise the stakes as you won’t know what happens next but unlike someone who saw the originals first, you’ll have seen how the world was prior to the empire.
Finally, seeing Vader turn back to the light to save Luke after 6 movies where you’ve personally seen Anakin’s life transition from light to dark is a tear jerker. Finishing episode 6 seeing Anakin’s force ghost watching over Luke is one of the best movie endings of all time