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Name Nerds Circlejerk

2018.09.14 00:56 Lyd_Euh Name Nerds Circlejerk

Poke fun at awful names and naming culture. No name is safe.
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2012.01.17 21:19 Gaybros

Gaybros is a network built for gay men who aren't confined to a media stereotype. We come together around shared interests like sports, technology, and media. Our subscribers have hosted social meet-ups all around the world.
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2019.07.20 13:41 FemmeDecanter Ureaplasma

Designed to be a resource for people to share information, studies, and resources for treating ureaplasma. Not a resource for grief/anxiety posting. Many struggle with this sexually transmitted infection and are not: taken seriously/finding an easy solution. We provide all the information needed to get proper screening and treatment as well as steps after to achieve symptom resolution.
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2024.06.09 23:50 krisi288 Partners with mismatched ambition

Hi everyone! So I’ve been with a wonderful woman -1.5 years. We moved in together in December. This adjustment has been a learning experience but to be expected. Prior to us moving in together she was wrongfully terminated from her affluent position. At the same time, after a period of unemployment and trying to get my businesses of the ground, I entered into a great business partnership and my consulting business took off. So we’ve both faced that feeling of joblessness,
She has been unemployed for a year now- longer than me. It’s taken a toll on her mentally and financially. We’ve worked through that. I was able to give her a small part time job at my business and I can comfortably cover expenses. She is an amazing talent! Her position was very successful largely because of her. She also has amazing connections as a result of her years of work and is finally contracting and consulting.
This entire time, she’s had ideas of her own, even when we met. She involves others, sort of starts on them when she’s feeling really good and then nothing else. I almost think I wouldn’t have such high expectations if she didn’t have so much clear potential and skill. It’s what attracted me to her in the beginning. Now, she is mostly understanding of me working so much as I’ve really been blessed with new business and income , but she doesn’t fully get it: There’s a lot of complaining, missed connections, and for me it causing me to pull away.
I don’t know if I’m expecting to much. Is that just what life looks like or am with the wrong person. I’ve been with someone extremely ambitious - we ran businesses together and worked so well together. It was tiring but exhilarating snd made us feel powerful. Many other things were wrong but that part was so right! I miss that and I need it in a partner I feel or I’d much rather be single . Am I wrong here?
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2024.06.09 23:48 K1a4a1a Day 1,590

Day 1,590
🇺🇸⌛️ As of June 9, 2024, our family (3 Americans and 1 Iranian) has been waiting abroad for Paria’s US permanent immigrant visa for 1,500 days. That’s well over 4 years.
This lengthy US visa process has been incredibly challenging for us, but we continue to persevere and grow, like a weed pushing through cracks.
🇺🇸 WHAT’S THE STORY?
Our kids, who are US citizens by birth, have never set foot in America. Paria, married to an American, is legally entitled to join her husband Zane in the US.
The State Department has taken over four years to process our case, subjecting our family to prolonged instability and uncertainty with no clear end in sight.
These aren’t complaints, just facts. We hope the State Department [@statedept] or the US Embassy in Turkey [@abdbuyukelciligi] will see this and expedite Paria’s visa.
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2024.06.09 23:46 gloewyfloewy 33f Late bloomer here, demoralized and wondering why I can't seem to figure this out

I've never been in a committed romantic relationship, ever - been on dates, had some sex, but largely nothing noteworthy. There are a lot of reasons for this - difficulty connecting with people, understanding social cues, trust issues, cluelessness, and so on; basically I have trouble understanding relationships and navigating them even though I want them, and I had a lot of other shit going on in my life over the years that kept me distracted and unable to focus on them too much until recently. I'll spare you any further navel-gazing and just say I've always had trouble with relationships, romantic and friendships and otherwise, and in the last couple of years I've done a lot to try to work on that (lots of individual therapy, group therapy, neurofeedback, improving my overall physical and mental health tremendously, etc. etc., whatever I can think of I've pushed myself to try it and work at it) and things have gotten better but I still feel so lost and frustrated and like none of this shit is ever going to work out for me.
It's my birthday, I'm turning 33 today, and as with every previous birthday I'm spending it alone and barely anyone even knows it's my birthday. I'm used to it at this point, but this year it just feels so much worse because last month I was dating someone and it was the closest I'd ever gotten to a relationship, the most interested I'd ever been in someone, the first time I ever actually felt like I could see it going somewhere... and then it all blew up in my face literally three weeks in, and I just feel so stupid and demoralized and humiliated that I can't even keep something going for longer than three fucking weeks, and so stupid for feeling so upset over something that, again, lasted three fucking weeks. It doesn't even count as a breakup at this point, certainly not compared to some of the stories people have posted here, but I'm so pathetically sad about it and I don't know where else to mope so I'm posting here. And on top of that I have to keep seeing him because we're involved in the same community - I'm taking a break for a month or two so I can work through shit before I have to see him again but the community has been such a good experience for me that I know I'm not going to leave it and neither is he, so basically I'll have to see him indefinitely, although it'll be easy to avoid talking to him at least.
I was feeling okay about it for the last few days but today I'm just feeling so depressed. He acted so thoughtful and sweet and interested in me, and he was talking about us taking a trip to a place nearby I've been wanting to go for my birthday and saying he'd get me a gift, and I actually started to think maybe this year my birthday would be different, maybe things were changing for me, maybe I was finally starting to figure out relationships and also to get my life together. And now I'm in the same position I've always fucking been in, but feeling even worse because I got my first real glimpse of "how good it could be" in a relationship whereas before at least ignorance was bliss.
As far as this guy specifically, in retrospect I'm recognizing a lot of major mistakes. It was only three weeks but we saw each other 11 times in that timeframe and spoke on the phone 3 more times, both of us were initiating that frequency but now it's obvious to me I should have slowed way the hell down and not taken any of the shit he said seriously, but I'm so stupidly inexperienced that all I could think at the time was how great it was to get to see him so much and how sweet he was, and now I just feel humiliated for being so, well, stupidly inexperienced. The second to last time I saw him it just felt so close and emotionally intimate and then a week later the last time I saw him he looked miserable and said he still wasn't over his ex who he dated a year ago and needed space to deal with that. He spent the week in between claiming he was anxious and when I'd ask why he'd just avoid answering and let me think he was stressed about work, so considering he spent that week being dishonest I'm not sure I even believe it's about his ex, I think he might have just freaked out about how quickly things escalated.
Who the fuck knows, but I definitely should have been paying more attention when he talked about his exes - the most recent one dumped him three times, and the previous two sounded unhealthy/angsty/dramatic as well. His friend group (I knew him through his friend group for a while before we started dating) is also immature and unstable, and some of the women in it who I thought I was becoming friends with started acting really nasty to me after I started dating him since apparently they were interested in him, and I'm shocked at their behavior and at myself for not questioning his own maturity after seeing who he's populated his life with. I see all of that now, and after reading break-up stories people have posted I'm relieved that this blew up after three weeks and not after I'd had more time to get more involved and make more mistakes in judgment with this person. But I hate that he left the door open by saying he just needed space to figure out things with his ex so instead of being able to just fully move on I feel like I'm in this limbo state of waiting to see if he figures shit out while trying to decide if I should just shut the door and spare myself any more headache, and I hate that part of me is waiting to see if he'll text me for my birthday and still thinks I'd try to make it work if he wanted to try again, because the good felt soo good and after all no one's perfect. I'm hardly perfect myself, I know I have my own red flags - at least he's had relationships where I've had none, at least he has a friend group where I have a handful of acquaintances who barely know me, despite my best efforts to make things otherwise.
But I'm trying and I just don't know why I just never seem to be able to figure out relationships of any sort, no matter what I do. I'm scared that I'm doomed to a lonely life and I've spent years trying to resign myself to that but this experience made me admit to myself that I really, really, really don't want that. And now I'm basically totally alone on my birthday, again, and usually I manage to take that in stride but this year I just feel so fucking distraught. And I'm definitely wondering what the fuck is wrong with me, what I'm doing so horribly such that things have turned out like this for me, why I can't seem to figure this all out.
Anyways... I apologize for the rant, I just had to vent and feel sorry for myself for a bit, and as I've said I basically don't have friends (at least, not any I'd feel comfortable sharing all of this with) and sometimes ChatGPT just doesn't cut it, so internet strangers it is.
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2024.06.09 23:46 Strong_Chicken_ AITA for calling animal control and getting my roommate’s cats taken away?

I (33) live with my roommate (30) in a two bed, two bath apartment. We’ve lived together for three years now. For context, they have two cats, one of which they acquired while living together. I do not own any animals but petsit as a side hustle.
At the beginning, with one cat, there weren’t any issues. I am allergic to cats but began taking antihistamines every day and got regular allergy shots to manage my allergies. With the first cat (about 3 years old), the litter and food were kept in my roommates room. Then, my roommate adopted a second cat, about 9 months old, and consequently bought a second litter box. They kept it in the living area, and this is when our problems began. The area would frequently smell strongly of litter. I’d go over to the litter box and see piles of urine and feces, and would smell that same smell emanating from their room. For many months, I’d clean the litter box in the common area, both for my comfort and for the comfort of the animals (i know how uncomfortable that level of feces in a litter box is for a cat). Sometimes I’d sneak into my roommates room to clean the litter box there if it smelled particularly strongly.
Anyways, this went on for awhile until I realized this was not my job. They were not my cats and I was not being paid to take care of them. So I sat down with my roommate and described the exact issues I was seeing: litter going uncleaned for several days, if not a week; unbathed cats; constant meowing at my door for attention (I work from home). My roommate said they’d come up with a schedule to fix the problem.
A month of tranquility passed, and then the problems surfaced again: strong litter smell, constant calls for attention from the cats, excess shedding from lack of bathing. This broke my heart for the animals and I sat my roommate down again, and explained the importance of keeping a clean litter box and giving cats regular baths, especially during spring to keep shedding down. They said they weren’t following the initial plan because they’d “forget” but would try a different method to keep track.
Another month or so of tranquility follows. We get a re-lease offer from our apartment. I bring it up to my roommate and they agree on another year of a lease. In our lease agreement, it requires us to give our landlord yearly documentation of rabies vaccines for any animals kept on the property. My roommate informed me the cats are several months past their needed rabies shots and explained they “didn’t have the money to take them to the vet” (even though they’d just purchased new motorcycle). I pointed out you could get vaccines at petco for $30 or less.
Another month has gone by, and our landlord reminded us of the release offer. The landlord needed the vaccine paperwork, so I asked my roommate for it. They said they didn’t do it yet “but would get to it.” I then had to leave for a week to petsit/housesit for a client, and when I returned, the apartment was despicable. The smell of dirty cat litter reeked throughout the apartment and the cats came to me screaming for attention. They were shedding so badly and obviously very uncomfortable. My roommate wasn’t home. I called them and asked them where the f*ck they were and what happened to cleaning the litter. They said they forgot. I asked them about the updated vaccinations. They said they hadn’t gotten to it yet.Heres where I may be the ahole. Our release agreement was due the very next day. Since my roommate wasn’t home, and was obviously not getting vaccines for the animals, I called animal control and had them taken away for animal neglect. I signed the release papers and submitted them to my landlord, writing in the email that the animals had been given to animal control and no paperwork was needed.
My roommate returned home a week or so later. They asked me where the cats were and I told them the truth. They broke down in hysterics and screamed at me, telling me those were their babies and how in the world could I take them away like that. They are now not speaking to me. AITA for what I did?
TL;DR my roommate wouldn’t get cats vaccinated before release agreement despite needing to and I called animal control to report animal neglect, leading to the cats being taken away. AITA?
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2024.06.09 23:45 Trvpfviry What should I do ?

Alright I( F26 ) don’t know I really need some opinions I feel like im over exaggerating here and I get bothered by things but I can’t help what bothers me! I just stay quiet. But it eats at me. Anyways the issue here is I ’m deciding whether or not to say something to my boyfriend( M30 ) about something “small” which it is but it feels big to me
He has this friend he was causally seeing never became anything serious a few (1-2) years back but they were fairly close as she helped him through hard times in his life. Which is amazing! That’s a great friend and I wouldn’t be bothered if they had been JUST friends but they weren’t. Knowing she knows that deep part of him and he defends it makes me feel like he doesn’t count on me to be there for him but he probably still depends on her on the low.
She’s taller than me. Closer to his height. And closer in age by months. He and her have much more in common. She can play the guitar, she collects vinyls, they like the same music, and she can draw etc.. they have a lot in common.
I’ve told him before him reaching out to her first bothers me. He’s always looking at her social media posts and I don’t think he knows that social media will show you the profiles you interact with most out of others and hers is usually the first one… even before me lol. Now he’s snapped at me saying he’s not doing anything that he’s doing everything with me not with her or anyone else to the point where he gets mad and says I can think whatever I want. So I’ve stood quiet seeing how mad he gets. I can’t help but feel like if I wasn’t in the picture they would be linking together and I only feel this way because they had reconnected when we had first started going out she looked him up and messaged him saying she was just thinking about him and was hoping he was doing well. I shouldn’t think people have ulterior motives but being a female myself I’ve been in one to many situations where I’ve witnessed how much of a fu** they do not give when a man is taken or not.
Well anyways the issue at hand.. I noticed he liked her recent picture (oh wow that’s it?) yes. and it makes me feel icky every time I see the post he liked. I wouldn’t be bugged but he doesn’t even like my selfies or pics unless he’s in them. And I’m his girlfriend lol. He knows how I feel about her so it bothers me even more that he would do that! I have no idea if I should tell him it bothered me that he did that because I’m scared of him not understanding where I’m coming from once again and trying to flip it on me making me feel bad for feeling the way I do. Or if I should just let it go. It’s just a like after all
On a side note I hate social media and the negative impact it has on me emotionally/mentally but the irony is that I want to work in social media HA
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2024.06.09 23:44 Ancient_Swan6865 I'm scared that I'm ruining a good relationship, despite so much emotional pain

This is long, I'm sorry. There is just so much going on in my head right now.
I don't even know if this is the right place to post, because I keep telling myself that I'm the problem and that I'm just a terrible girlfriend... Even if logically I know that can't be true.
I've (28F) been with my boyfriend (35m) for about 5 years and we live together. It started out as a mess, him cheating on a long term partner with me and leading me on for over a year before they broke up. He refused to tell me he loved me or call me his girlfriend, but was always being sweet and loving in private, calling me his, telling me how I was too good to him and how amazing I was. He would also snap at me if I did anything affectionate in public, asked about "us" or otherwise made it clear that I wanted him to actually claim me publicly. He kept snapping at me, "sorry if I just wanted time to myself to live as a bachelor"... He'd also told me he didn't think he could handle my depression long term.
Finally after almost 4 years together in total, I had a mental breakdown and and left, told him I couldn't handle being disrespected anymore. I took everything of mine that I could and left. He proceeded to tell me about how he knew I was too good to be true, should have stayed with his ex, how he should have taken advantage of every selfless offer I'd ever made to him, threatened to smash my computer he'd built for me if I took it with me because I didn't deserve it.
I was a wreck and incredibly hurt by everything, kept telling him to leave me alone. He eventually "realized I was the one who made him happy" and told me how much he missed me, how he even missed all the little habits I had that bothered him, how he should have been treating me like gold and how I was always so good to him. He was telling me how he messed up and wanted to marry me, all the soppy stuff. I came back to get more of my things and he's sobbing his heart out, giving me thoughtful gifts, (build a bear that says he loves me, as an example) pleading with me to give him another chance.
As I'm sure you can guess, I eventually did. For the next year he was amazing. Sweet, kind, very affectionate, considerate and talking about the future with me. After that, he slowly started acting like he was sick of me. I was dealing with major depression and anxiety and he would get awkward and distant if I asked for any kind of support or if I tried to talk to him about how I was feeling. I had been trying to get professional help, adjust my medications and get proper therapy but was having a lot of trouble getting it. My libido started dying because I was struggling with my own thoughts and was worried he would push me away because of it all.
He said some seriously screwed up things to me regarding my mental health. I told him about my suicidal ideation and how bad things were, and his response was to completely push me away, act cold and distant before eventually telling me he was pissed off that we didn't have enough sex and that "If you're going to be dead in a year anyways, why should I bother trying?" telling me how he was just waiting to come home and find me dead.
I told him that was a f*cked up thing to say and he agreed, but never apologized. Started acting all sweet and loving as if it never happened, because he wanted sex. He will be sweet and loving for a few days after, and then start acting rude, snappy, cold and distant until I'd give in again. It made me feel like it was all he wanted me for, and it was no longer anything enjoyable for me and I'd dread him touching me.
Now, he's been passive aggressively body shaming me, which only makes me want sex even less. I've been being very distant to him and rejecting his advances because I am so anxious and stressed out, and I don't want to have sex with him anymore. There's no love in it, I feel no passion or spark anymore when we touch and I just feel numb or sad. I just want it to be over and try to get it over with. I keep blaming myself for how he's acting, thinking if I just have sex with him like he wants he wouldn't be acting out, which is screwed up to think about.
He blew up at me yesterday about our sexless relationship and how I'm acting, and we haven't talked about it but I'm so scared to actually tell him I don't think we should be together because I think he will turn super mean, spiteful, deliberately cruel and awful again. He has a mean side and it hurts so much to think about him directing that at me.
I keep thinking about how hard he cried when I left, how he begged me to come back, how he said he wanted to marry me. Am I really that annoying? Is the sex with him really bad enough to reject him? I think about how dealing with me being depressed must feel for him, but then start thinking about the lack of empathy, lack of comfort and bitterness he's been showing me.
I'm sorry this is so long, I don't expect many people to read it all. I just keep thinking about the good times with him, thinking of how he makes me smile and laugh, how sweet he can be, but then remembering all the horrible things he has said to me. I can't forget them and I think it's ruined us. I hate myself for not being a better partner even though I've given him everything I could.
My family is more than willing to take me in, but we also technically work together which makes things scarier for me. I have been off work for a few months due to the depression but if I go back, I will have to see him every day. I'm having nightmares about going back to work even without thinking of him being there. I love my job but at this point I want to just bail and run crying back to my family and deal with being unemployed, but then I feel like I'm overreacting and sabotaging myself...
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2024.06.09 23:43 realkostas Who is asshole? Was I fairly accused of flirting at a birthday party or gaslighted.

I (M35) was invited to a birthday party at a bar by my workmate (F32), whom we'll call P. She seemed active, assertive, and easy-going, and we share many common interests. I am happily married, and she knows my wife.
When I arrived, I gave a thoughtfully selected gift and sat at a table where I saw another workmate (F) and a young married lady, T, whose friendly personality I enjoy, our families met before. Another lady joined, so I was at a table with three women.
T is very easy to talk to, and I also tried to break the ice with others. We were all chatting actively and enjoying each other’s company. It’s worth noting that we are all from different countries, living in the Nordic region. In my Southeastern European culture, sharing food and drinks is important, so I shared some with everyone at the table, including P, the birthday girl.
T, the extroverted lady near me, showed non-verbal signals that she enjoyed our interaction, such as eye contact and pats on the shoulder. I felt a friendly connection with her, nothing more, since we know each other’s partners and also discussed family life.
Later, I sat at a different table to meet more people. Suddenly, P asked me, "Are you hitting on women?" I was shocked and laughed, but she repeated, "Be careful, dude, be careful."
People at the table were confused, so I tried to lighten the mood with a joke, “Are you warning me about STDs?” P seriously repeated, "Be careful, dude," and walked away.
The atmosphere became tense. P was actively giving attention to one handsome guy who didn’t seem very interested. After P went outside again, I followed to ask what she meant. She complimented me, saying she liked me a lot, and I am warm and charismatic but too flirty. I replied impulsively , “Can’t you say the same about yourself?” She looked confused and moody. I asked, “Maybe my culture is warmer and can be seen as flirting? Or are you talking about our idea to go jogging together?” She said, “Maybe. And you’re too flirty with T.”
I was taken aback. T is charming, but acting on any feelings would be so unethical and destructive to everyone so big NO-NO even thinking about her as woman . I hadn’t touched her, looked at her inappropriately, or made any appearance-based compliments. I denied, “No, that’s not true.”
Then P asked, “So we are friends, okay?” I agreed, and we hugged. To ease the drama, I joked, “Consider me your gay friend from Sex and the City,” and she quickly went off to other people. I continued chatting with others and exchanged warm goodbyes and contacts with T when she left.
Later, I found P sitting alone and smoking. I wanted to fix the miscommunication and asked, “P., you’re fabulous and I like your personality as a friend. If you find any of my manners uncomfortable, how would you suggest I improve them?” P looked sad dramatic and dreamy and said, “Don’t stare at girls so much...” As the bar was closing, P repeated the phrase in front of everyone.
I felt the conversation was unfixable, so I politely said goodbye and went to another bar to dance the stress out before telling the story to my wife.
Can it be considered flirting if I only made eye contact, gestures, and listened actively? Having lived in Spain, I may have adopted some of their manners. I believe I was one of the least flirtatious people there. Could it be also cultural differences?
Am I wrong for not noticing P’s discomfort and should I have left earlier? Perhaps P was frustrated by her unsuccessful flirtations and projected her feelings onto me.
Personally, I think subtle flirty attention is normal as long as it’s ethical and mutual. Isn’t it not P’s business if two consenting adults have flirtatious manners as a sign of kindness and appreciation?
In summary, I felt P was not empathetic to me and showed a toxic side, needing psychological help. Or am I just being an asshole?
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2024.06.09 23:42 Jay2578 Parent diagnosed with Stage III Colon Cancer - I live out of state. How can I support?

Any advice would be appreciated here. My dad was diagnosed with Stage III Colon Cancer. They only found a single piece of cancer in one of his lymph nodes so they're placing him on a lower grade of chemotherapy that involves infusions every 4 weeks with pills being taken in-between. I don't know if I got the terminology correct, I'm still trying to figure this all out and he's unfortunately not the sharing/asking for help type but he only has me for support.
The issue is I live a few states away and I can't be there during the entire process. As I said before, he's not the type to ask for help but I know this isn't going to be an easy process and I told him I was going to fly in for his first infusion and he was grateful but this is what I mean where I have to take the initiative and force the help rather than wait for him to ask for it.
Any advice from people in similar situations or who have fought/fighting this battle would be appreciated. My current plan is to fly in for the first infusion and stay 10 days to help out in every way which includes getting the house together, cooking the meals, whatever he needs. I'm worried about what's going to happen when I leave and what preparations I need to make/if I should try to fly in for every infusion.
I don't have any family that can help out on this and he also doesn't want people to know so I also haven't been able to talk to anyone about this that could possibly help out.
Please and thank you.
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2024.06.09 23:38 Ok-Solution8999 Considering divorce after wife's recovery but love step kid

I am considering divorce, but I love my step son (14). I'm afraid he won't be taken care of or become a successful adult without my influence.
His Dad (50/50 schedule) is high conflict. Involved, but likely has a cluster B personality disorder like borderline or narcissism. He has a history of underemployment and acting erratic. Recently when looking to change churches, the pastor at the new church asked him if he has mental issues right in front of the kid because he was being confrontational. That's the norm.
Mom unfortunately suffered from substance abuse disorder for 3 years, including the first 2.5 years of our marriage. She's been sober 6 months and is doing great. Prescription stimulants addiction, then some alcohol to smooth it out. She didn't work and slowly became a minimally functional adult. She got help when I threatened to leave. We repeatedly fought over her working or being in school, and getting help, but as I learned, people don't get help until they hit their bottom. I didn't understand how I was also enabling her.
I felt like the only parent for my SS. He has said the same, that I've been the only reliable and responsible actual parent he had for that period.
It's been 6 months, and I still get tense when my wife hugs or touches me. That's due to lack of trust. I've done some al anon, therapy and discernment therapy: I still feel stuck.
Its terrible feeling full of anger and resentment day after day. On a day to day basis things are fine. I can have fun and moments of affection and connection. But the negative feelings remain. Its awful.
I feel guilty for thinking of leaving as my wife has excelled in her recovery programs. She got a part time then full time job. I wish it paid more, but she hasn't faltered. She's a success story and I feel pride for her. I feel guilty because my step son tells me how much he loves and appreciates me. I know it's codependency to think they can't make it without me, but it's also how I feel.
But now that I don't have to hold everything together, I can breathe and see how frayed and stretched out I was. I can see how our marriage became more like a parent child dynamic than partner partner.
I don't know if we can establish the latter. It hasn't emerged after 6 months. I am tired of the negative feelings persisting on a daily basis. I don't know how to feel unstuck. If I act to dissolve, I'll feel guilt and fear. If I act to maintain the status quo, I have to accept the negative consequences of that including continuing to feel anger and resentment until I don't, which could be never. I love having my stepson around and being a parent. Its awesome. But I hate feeling the way I do.
I told myself I'd follow al anon recommendations and make no major decisions for 6 months. It's been 6 months. I do love my wife. I hate these negatives emotions.
Anyone been here?
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2024.06.09 23:38 History_Geek123 Virginia Awakes Peacock-Shah Alternate Elections

Virginia Awakes Peacock-Shah Alternate Elections
The coal towns of Appalachia, usually silent on the early morning hours of Christmas Day, were buzzing with activity. The roar of car and bus engines, the shrill whistles of trains, the shouts of men as they ran, and the sounds of guns being loaded all came together to as the deadliest group of carolers came together with one purpose, to make haste to DC to stop the Blackshirts. After years of victories for the enemies of the working man, years of them being one step ahead of the free unions, they would now be the ones to ready for action first. Armed with pickaxes, hunting rifles, shotguns, and even some machine guns and other military grade equipment from secret stashes throughout the mountains, the union minutemen would spend their Christmas mornings, not sleeping at home with their families, but on road and rail, rushing to beat the Blackshirts to the Capital. Leading one of the vanguard militias would be a stern, 25-year-old gas station owner from the little town of Monongah, “Big Nick” Saban, a Navy veteran who had taken his no-nonsense attitude and coaching abilities to put together one of the best militias in Western Virginia. It would be no coincidence that his group would be passing through towns as their own militias were still trying to get on the move. Indeed, this crack group of men were prepared to live, and if necessary, die, by one of their leader’s favorite sayings: “Do what you're supposed to do, the way you're supposed to do it, when you're supposed to do it, the way it's supposed to get done.”
Miner Convoy Departing for DC

Meanwhile in Richmond, a very different type of resistance would also be mobilizing. Instead of roughnecked men armed with a hodgepodge of weapons, uniformly clothed and armed National Guardsmen and State Police would be getting roused from their beds by order of Governor Mills Goodwin, himself woken up after news of the President’s condition began to spread. He knew that there would not be much time, so he would order State Police to begin shutting down the highways heading north to DC, to prevent Blackshirt reinforcements from reaching the Capitol. He would also send National Guardsmen stationed closer to the Capital to go there and aid any “legitimate authorities” in quelling any attempted “insurrection,” while other Guardsmen that were deemed to be too far away to make it to DC in a reasonable amount of time would be ordered to help the State Police. Gov. Goodwin would also call Senator Benjamin Muse, a veteran of two wars, warning him about possible Blackshirt violence and telling him to, if possible, gather up as many other pro-Constitution Congressmen & other people who have weapons on hand and make haste to the Capitol Building & barricade the doors there, with promises of Virginia National Guard to come and reinforce them. When asked by the Adjutant General of the Guard on what to do about the rush of Appalachian militiamen towards DC, the Governor would reply, “Just keep an eye on them, they are on our side.”
Virginia Police Forming a Roadblock on a Backroad Near the Outskirts of DC

On the west side of the Potomac River, some lonely veterans in bars, late night partiers, and churchgoers on their way home from evening services would hear former President Charles Lindbergh’s midnight radio address, and they would answer the call. Carolers would go from heralding the birth of Jesus to singing patriotic hymns as both men and women would begin to join growing throngs of people as they walked through the streets of Alexandria, marching hand in hand to rally for peace and democracy, hoping that their numbers would continue to swell and that through sheer numbers alone they would be able to obstruct the efforts of those who would seek to end the American Dream. As both the sounds of prayer and The Battle Hymn of the Republic would wake more people up, as the clock would show that it was still an early morning, time was running out on American democracy, and only God knew how Christmas 1952 would end.
As the sun begins to rise over DC, who will win the battle for America's soul?
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2024.06.09 23:35 Key-Ad4447 Oldish movie, think it's a drama?

Hi everyone. So I've been thinking of a movie for a few years that I just can't remember the name of, or much about it tbh. I've tried to Google it and ask people but I can't find it.
The only thing I remember is that it's about a family who have a teenage daughter and she and her boyfriend take some intimate photos together. Around the same time, the family had also taken photos (just generally family ones I believe) and sent them to be printed but under the same name as the daughter and boyfriend had. So the mum goes to collect her prints but is accidentally given the daughter's explicit photos instead of the family ones. I think it's earlier than 2010, maybe 90s? I don't know though. It's barely anything to go off, apologies.
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2024.06.09 23:33 Piyawan23 I (27f) have been having daily arguments (36m) similar to this... Any advice or thoughts on it? (8 year relationship)

We have a 2 year old as well ((asleep and away from the situation)
So my partner has been making really mean sarcastic comments and Ive been trying but with my MH I'm not able to focus well. I've been trying to get us into couples therapy but he keeps replying with "you're the problem" "if we go to couples counseling they'll say that you need the work, you need to start listening, you need to respect him".
Basically I said to him before going to bed "You know, at least I'm not doing things to make you feel like shit on purpose, I'm just forgetful, make silly mistakes or this morning and yesterday really unwell, where you make snide comments in front of Light and family and youre passive aggressive or just mean to me, being obviously sarcastic but not trying to be funny etc" and then he said that he's got work and if I wanna chat then to come downstairs, I didn't want to as I am ill etc. so I replied with "Okay, goodnight" then went to sleep. I thought it'd be nice to change the subject to something lighter so I spoke about something on his work collueges, he asked me if I wanted a tea and thought oh okay, fine get some chill time or w/e.
Came downstairs and I said "I'm tired, ive been ill, I just wanna chill" then he kept saying "do you wanna know why I'm pissed off?" Like he weren't really asking but looking for a reaction, so I said "go on", he immedietely started with "you don't respect me and I know this, you know how I know? Because you don't listen to what I say, you're always butting in on how we need to raise our child_".(I'm an early years educator) I replied with "I came down to chill not just have an argument with you, I've been ill do I've been out of it but I've taken in stuff you say like asking to be more on top of making sure our child doesn't eat too much of a mouth full and I do apologize when I don't realize I've just shut down your ideas you have of our child." Him: "This is why we are having arguments because You're just going mad when I'm trying to talk to you" Me: "no, I'm going mad because I've come downstairs to chill and you've started attacking me. You can't just come through with "you don't respect me and this is why" and expect me not to get defensive" Him: "well youre literally attacking me right now" The argument was already heated by this time and I just couldn't take it so I just went upstairs to bed I said "I can't do this. I'm going upstairs to chill and sleep" (We have been sleeping in separate beds) I went to go upstairs with me tea to chill out while he followed me shouting at me about "we aren't going to couples therapy just for someone to tell you that you need to listen." Then followed me upstairs, I was getting overwhelmed and cryinng. He's still blabbing on about me not listening and how I weren't listening now because I just wanted to stop the argument. By this time I'm in the bedroom and trying to have some peace, he's in the doorway banging on at me about how I'm not listening, how I dont respect him etc. I was getting so overwhelmed and telling him to "just get out. Please just get out. I need space." And he was laughing at me in the doorway. I went to close the door but he put his feet in the way. I was panicking so hard and trying to hard to keep composure, I went to push the door and didn't care anymore that he put his toe to block the door and started saying that I was using physical violence against him and I needed therapy and that we don't need couples counseling because look at how I'm reacting basically...
I just don't know what to do. I wanna work on the relationship. We have a house together, a child, we have been together for so long, if I leave him I won't be able to keep the house going, I have all my belongings here. I just don't know what to do.
Any advice on how to handle the situation?
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2024.06.09 23:30 Brave_Length6363 Still job hunting after 4 months, 3yoe - feelin discouraged

ON
Throwaway account, getting some thoughts out and wanted to hear some actual feedback.
So, I got laid off in February (worked as a devops engineer at a sports betting company, sucked shit and didn't have any oversight or mentorship or anything, shit pay - can name and shame if needed) and I've been struggling to find a new position. I've worked in DevOps and IT on and off for about 3 years now - I started with FDM group in 2021, got two placements from them that each lasted about a year before getting cut - and I've done a lot of odd devops tasks that mostly came down to glorified sysadmin work - maintaining accounts, helping users out with odd tech issues, diagnosing some platforms etc. Mundane but felt nice when it came together. Less actual dev work than I'd prefer but a foothold is a foothold
I feel like I haven't really had the kind of proper experience to call myself an associate or proper software dev, but obviously i'm going to talk up everything I've done and blow myself up as much as I can.
Anyway, each time I've been looking for a new position it's always taken just a month or two and someone reached out to me with an offer. I'm coming up on almost 4 months now, trying to send out ~25-50 applications a week, and barely anything, barely any replies other than spam accounts on linkedin trying to peddle certs and the occasional message from a recruiter that ghosts me immediately. It's pretty demoralizing.
I guess I'm looking for what's the most natural thing to do to get myself in there? I'm looking round Toronto for mid/entry level dev/devops/sysadmin type roles, but I'll take anything really. I've got one AWS cert, should I go for more, grab Network+ or some azure certs?
Should I go back to school and do a quick program? I didn't study compsci, I did CCIT and English at UTM and really didn't get too much out of it. What's good around Toronto for that sorta thing?
Everyone says do projects and leetcode but I'm struggling with motivation there - I always like working best on doing the kind of small maintenance tasks on established things, making something from a blank page has always been daunting and overwhelming.
Iunno, we get a lot of posts like these I know, but I felt like commiserating a bit and wondering where obviously I can refocus my efforts because something I'm doing isn't working.
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2024.06.09 23:29 Inevitable-Hope4793 New Horizon - lovecraftian

This is taken completely out of context but I'm just curious about first impressions.

It was like being on earth but not earth. She had never set foot on earth, but something told her this was incorrect. This was a cheap band-aid version of earth, something a bit richer than the turf based gardens on rooftop parks, but still mostly a reenactment. It was an earthscape like elder Ramsdale used to arrange, but not exactly crafted with his deep love and affection, and the smells didn't sit quite right; a shifty feel of the ground was not 100% concealed.
This bothered her because it meant she could not easily work out her surroundings. What was it then? Even replicas are made of something. When the mask is finally removed, the features that lay within have their own story, their own source; they are a material in their own right. They may have done a poor job shaping themselves into what the mind had been expecting, but that doesn't necessarily make them lesser than. Sometimes on their own they can be more; more real, more alive, more ancient.
Mara wondered what the place could really be, and she grew concerned that under the mask of this impersonation, something nonfamiliar tensed and held its breath; something waited. She felt the exact same way about the streets of her city, the way they seethed; the way they could be felt blurring together when traveling at high speeds even when there were no windows through which to see them. She wanted to reach for her thoroughbred earthen headwap now to cover her eyes, that childhood keepsane that brought a sense of safety, but she didn't have it on her. Even so, the tuggings of her youth still came back, the wide-eyed hauntedness, the urge to retreat from the oppression of too much, of not understanding enough about her environment to claim it as her kingdom the way adults did. On this alien ground she felt like a kid again. A certain something here needed to be mastered, needed to be broken down into systems and measures, needed language, needed a tougher civilization to mature upon its back before her ilk came along, and she needed it quickly too, because something was rising in her stomach, bubbling up and making her…
She threw up off to the side, purged herself. It did not fix her bewilderment but it helped her head stop spinning.
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2024.06.09 23:23 SabineRitter [ROUNDUP] UFOs, ultraterrestrials, IAA2025, space lab Gifted program, Hanford Atom Factory. Countries:🇲🇽🇺🇸🇨🇦🇬🇧🇦🇺🇳🇿🇻🇪🇮🇹🇨🇿🇦🇷🇰🇿🇧🇬🇷🇸🇯🇵 Colors seen this week:🟢,🔴🔵

Last week's post https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d6ng7c/roundup_ufos_kepler_aerospace_and/
Archive https://wayback-api.archive.org/web/20240602211034/https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d6ng7c/roundup_ufos_kepler_aerospace_and/
Moon phase waning crescent 🌘 , four days before new
Mars Right Ascension 1h 36m 28s
.1 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d6nqv1/there_were_3_of_these/ photos, daytime sky, threelights observed, photo shows twolights, moving fast, low over treeline, jefferson city Missouri, submission statement issues, , removed by mods
.2 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d6nr9p/1979_ufo_close_encounter_a_version_was_posted_in/ sighting description, single object multiple lights, approach, directly in front, Laval Québec Canada 🇨🇦 , audio description beeping sound, scanning, oval-shaped, very dark, small colored lights racing along its middle ridge., the sonar beeps had reached me, hitting the ground around me in a rapid circular motion. , emotion of fear, witness left the area, vanishing, missing time 2 hours, subsequent entities
.3 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d6nyqn/balls_of_fire_in_mexico/ photo, daytime sky, fleet, on ridgeline, repeat visitors, Mexico 🇲🇽, “brujas bolas de fuego en Mexico”, following the witness, vanishing and reappearing, [GOODPOST]
.4 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d62ml5/what_is_this/ video, daytime sky, twolights observed, single object blackwhite possible metallic sphere, contemporaneous report, two witnesses, moving straight, at home, backyard, stationary overhead, trajectory change, right angle turn, departure, Utah
.5 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d53cim/uap_florida_53024/ video, daytime sky, contemporaneous report, single light object stationary, Satellite Beach Florida, near water Atlantic Ocean, above Patrick Space Force Base., USSF , similar sighting in comments
.6 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d6mkfc/possible_ufoarv_over_fort_collinsco_appx_1230_pm/ video, daytime cloudy sky, contemporaneous report, fort Collins Colorado, single light object, elongated, tictac, horizontal orientation, horizontal trajectory, disappeared into clouds, [GOODPOST], similar sightings in comments, two witnesses, appeared directly in front, possible reaction to being observed, right angle turn, departure, wtf_is_that, silent
.7 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d77rnx/the_cryptoterrestrial_hypothesis_a_case_fo new paper, ultraterrestrial
.8 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d6ur3sighting_in_joshua_tree_june_1_after_contact_in/ photos, nighttime sky, Joshua Tree National Park California, single light object, human initiated contact, moving and stationary and moving, going left, right, stopping, going left abruptly, zig-zagging or moving in circle., zigzag movements, loop
.9 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7c7pn/all_the_relevant_uap_updates_from_may_27june_2/ information, state of disclosure USA https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d76s3u/disclosure_process_series_year_1/ different OP, overview of events
.10 ➡️ https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7bs3t/with_all_the_ufo_stuff_in_the_news_i_need_to_get/ sighting description, urban area, Sydney Australia 🇦🇺, nighttime, single light object, orange 🟠, overhead, it looked to be the size of a room or helicopter. , emotion of fear, I felt this rush of anxiety, or panic., silent , moving toward water, pacific ocean, it seemed to have metallic / silver fins portruding from the top and the bottom, barely visible from its glowing orange center. , electronic effects phone battery died, similar sightings in comments, [GOODPOST]
.11 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7cra5/orb_flashes_hello_and_goodbye_may_19th_2024/ video, at home, backyard, nighttime sky, single light object moving, flashing erratically, two witnesses, duration 3 minutes, Southern California, between San Diego and Los Angeles, multicolored, brightness change, flareup and dimming, blue 🔵 glow, vanishing and reappearing, powerlines , flew over the witness home , repeat visitor
.12 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d763bx/diamond_shaped_craft_with_blue_propulsion_et_o sighting description, at home, backyard, south Carolina, two witnesses, evening sky, single object multiple lights, blue 🔵 glow, diamond 💠 shaped, flew overhead, low over treeline, descending and ascending, speed change, The craft just swooped down from behind us to about tree top high then went back up as it went away from us. As it went forward and back up it increased speed., disappeared into clouds, cloaking, has anyone seen?, similar sighting in comments
.13 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1d7226c/ive_had_telepathic_communication_with_galactic/ experience description and photos, orb, fleet, single object blackwhite, emotion of love, telepathy, dream description, entities, physical effects goosebumps,
.14 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1d79z3z/berwick_upon_tweed/ photos, nighttime sky, single light object, angular, color change, berwick on tweed England the UK 🇬🇧, near water north sea, contemporaneous report, moving erratically observed, duration 3 hours
.15 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d6txk6/lightning_flashes_a_new_brother_cries_live/ video, nighttime sky, storm, lightning, single light object, low below treeline
.16 ➡️ https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7kxuz/in_light_of_jason_sands_scott_andrews_and_now/ childhood experience description, [GOODPOST], nighttime, at home, urban area, Annapolis Maryland, men in black response, event amnesia, facility off of Defense Highway that I ran away from as a kid., Northrup Grumman, I think I might have been used in some compartmentalized government program as a kid and all I can remember is running away from one of the facilities., similar experience in comments https://wayback-api.archive.org/web/20240604170928/https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7kxuz/in_light_of_jason_sands_scott_andrews_and_now/ Archive
.17 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7otwj/weird_story/ sighting description, at home, nighttime, single light object, reaction to being observed, sudden departure upward, I felt like it immediately saw me and shot straight up at a speed I can’t estimate because it was gone within a blink. , subsequent odor, I walk back outside again and there is a very strange clean smell, almost like an ozone type smell I used to get from an air purifier ., eastern Tennessee, similar sightings in comments, low over treeline, near oak ridge national laboratory, contemporaneous report
.18 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d842p9/going_through_my_old_sketchbooks/ drawing, single object multiple lights, red and yellow 🔴🟡, diamond 💎 shaped, threelights, triangle formation, disappeared behind ridgeline, duration 15-20 seconds , has anyone seen?, Central Kootenays British Columbia Canada 🇨🇦, similar sightings in comments
.19 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7v2x2/what_is_the_orb_in_the_skynyc/ video, nighttime sky, single light object stationary, multicolored, low below rooftop, urban area, Manhattan NYC New York state, OP comments downvoted, big debunker energy
.20 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7w0gd/new_zealand_sub_readers_did_you_see_that_pyramid/ sighting description, has anyone seen?, Wanganui new zealand 🇳🇿 , single dark object, pyramid shape, multicolored, all the edges lit up like a prism., over water Tasman Sea,
.21 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d841nq/sacramento_june_4_2024/ video, daytime sky, contemporaneous report, at work, duration 3-4 minutes, threelights, triangle formation, blackwhite, flashing, formation change, speed change, vanishing, similar sighting in comments, low over treeline, Sacramento California , observed rotating, looked shiny and spinning,
.22 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d7mshs/strange_lights_over_naperville_illinois_june_1st/ video, nighttime sky, single object multiple lights or fleet, flickering, threelights, formation change, low over treeline, anomalous to witness, Naperville Illinois, [GOODPOST], multicolored, flareup and dimming, lighting configuration change, stationary and moving, two witnesses
.23 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d7yjci/weird_lights_in_the_sky_over_my_house/ photo, nighttime cloudy sky, fleet, stationary duration hours, all night, the UK 🇬🇧, similar sighting in comments, https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d80bzg/weird_lights_in_the_sky_over_my_house_video/ video, lighting configuration change, flashing in pattern and steady, [GOODPOST]
.24 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1d788yv/every_few_months_i_keep_having_a_dream_seeing/ dream description, repeat visitor, contemporaneous report, at home, single dark object, splitting, ship then broke into pieces and did a spiral motion and then disappeared., I then wake up what looks to be a shape or at least the wall to ceiling was curved and extremely clean and silver white., similar experiences in comments
.25 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d86k5f/vectors_vs_pixels/ sighting and discussion of movement, it was there and then wasn’t. My brain/memory tried filling it in with it disappearing but not sure.
.26 https://old.reddit.com/Thetruthishere/comments/1d7jj3a/ghost_girl_in_my_house/ childhood sighting description, entity, humanoid, inside home , Venezuela 🇻🇪 , i saw her with a white dress passing by , mimicking sister, emotion of fear, witness left the area
.27 https://old.reddit.com/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/comments/1d7kkmu/house_disappears_in_time_slip/ experience description, building anomaly, disappeared, One day I passed it going to Landrum south Carolina,the other town, and then when I come back it wasn't there no more. , witness stopped the car and got out
.28 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d7yb8m/weird_message_in_the_head/ experience description, meditation, communication, AS5, AS5, AS5 and AS are my initials and number 5 in astrology stands for curiosity, knowledge and adventure., storm, lightning, contemporaneous report, the UK 🇬🇧
.29 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d7nzml/vivid_memory_of_alienlike_glitch_of_tv/ audio description, loud sound, appeared out of nowhere, at home, two witnesses, nighttime, strange noise came from the tv. It was a foreign noise, so not something a tv or channel would make. , similar to the slenderman jumpscare sound except less extreme and more alien like., analysis requested
.30 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d7bpbd/please_help_me_understand/ experience description, at home, repeat visitor, footsteps, circling, nighttime, anomalous animal activity, loud bird, bird squawking all night long, seemingly as if it’s right outside the windows, all around the house. , I would hear what sounded like rocks clicking together, the sound would circle around my trailer and I would hear rustling noises like something was moving all around my trailer. , similar experience in comments, Galisteo new Mexico
.31 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1d7gtk4/possible_ufo_encounter_when_i_was_a_teen/ sighting description, Northwest Arkansas, nighttime, from car, two witnesses, single light object, flashing, blinking and spinning., rotating, low over treeline, brief duration 3-5 seconds, vanishing, witness stopped the car, previous sighting shadow figure, inside home , doorway
.32 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1d88kepeople_who_have_seen_entities_inside_were_they/ discussion of sightings, entities, inside building, [GOODPOST] if I do say so myself.
.33 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d8apn8/zero_doubt/ art 🎨, painting, "Zero Doubt"
.34 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d8b9bmajestic_giant_blue_orb_floats_across_the_sky_and/ video, nighttime sky, single light object, blue 🔵, Oceanside California, duration 2 minutes, flew overhead, trajectory change observed, right angle turn, similar sightings in comments, ISS? , repeat visitor https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d95ui2/4_orbs_one_flashes_when_i_asked_it_to_3_times_may/ more video, big debunker energy, two witnesses https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d9xb1j/stop_and_go_dancing_orb_may_21st_2024/ more video, single light object moving, multicolored
.35 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d8dykx/tampa_florida_9pm_est/ video and photos, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, single light object moving fast, additional objects moving straight, urban area, Tampa Florida, similar sighting in comments
.36 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d8hdd6/congressgov_s4443_intelligence_authorization_act/ document, IAA2025 uap amendment advances out of committee
.37 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d8lmki/strange_lights_over_gosport_uk_5624/ video, nighttime cloudy sky, spotlights type, diffuse, downvoted to zero, OP comments downvoted, Gosport the UK 🇬🇧, contemporaneous report, low over rooftop,
.38 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d8vxzd/any_ideas_what_this_could_be/ photo, nighttime sky, near water Atlantic Ocean, Tybee Island Georgia, triangle 🔺️ observed, ascending, moving and stationary and moving, hovered over the houses about 2 minutes before silently leaving. , had three large lights on each edge of the shape with smaller lights in between. , threelights,
.39 https://old.reddit.com/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/comments/1d8pbg6/camo_military_bomber_disappears/ sighting description, airplane anomaly, vanishing, two witnesses, appeared to be a b52 completely come out of nowhere and had to have disappeared. It was headed straight for the dam at a very low altitude and no way having enough time to pull up before either hitting dam or a mountain. Made no noise, silent, near water
.40 https://old.reddit.com/StrangeEarth/comments/1d8jd1v/what_is_this_and_howwhy_did_it_get_into_a_picture/ photo, daytime cloudy sky, possible entity, camping, Looks like a wooden robot heating up lava?
.41 https://old.reddit.com/InterdimensionalNHI/comments/1d8bul6/i_wish_i_could_some_how_let_you_all_see_what_i/ experience description, repeat visitor, ongoing, Pupcake3000, physical effects vision change, static, whenever a UAP is going to appear I can see a distortion that has a shape against the background of what it mimics or appears out of. I can track it until a flash occurs and then in place of the distortion, a physical UAP craft will appear.
.42 https://old.reddit.com/UFOB/comments/1d87eyo/uap_while_walking_outside/ video, daytime sky, powerlines, single light object, low over treeline, plane for comparison, possible interaction with airplane, possibly circling plane, possible jumpy movement or vanishing and reappearing, flickering erratically, repeat visitor, Clear cloudless days are better, sunglasses help a lot., [GOODPOST]
.43 https://old.reddit.com/Thetruthishere/comments/1d7ulw4/i_met_the_devil_in_florence/ sighting description, entity, urban area, Florence Italy 🇮🇹, emotion of fear, As if he had been a predator forever, a danger since the beginning of time. His face is giving me goosebumps all over my back and behind my ears even now as I describe it almost ten years later.
.44 https://old.reddit.com/Thetruthishere/comments/1d91a7b/my_friend_and_i_saw_a_ufo/ sighting description, nighttime, two witnesses, Central Arkansas, single light object, low over treeline, stationary and moving, physical effects paralysis, silent, horizontal trajectory, wtf_is_that, possible military response jets
.45 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d9mygw/lights_in_phoenix/ video, nighttime sky, near fairgrounds, possible single object multiple lights, urban area, Phoenix Arizona, OP is not the witness , removed by mods
.46 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d9nkwt/las_vegas_060524/ photo, nighttime sky, single light object, elongated, horizontal orientation, tictac, urban area, Las Vegas Nevada, contemporaneous report, submission statement issues, , removed by mods
.47 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d8ym3d/strange_object_in_the_sky_recorded_on_night_vision/ video, nighttime cloudy sky, through night vision camera, single light object, elongated, angled from the horizon, moving, disappeared into clouds, contemporaneous report, fishing, near water, creek, not seen by eye, possible cloaked craft, a blurry section of sky moving through the clouds., Montana
.48 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d9o965/someone_answe video, nighttime cloudy sky, hard to see, cylindrical shape observed, moving fast, submission statement issues , removed by mods
.49 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d97vta/im_reposting_with_an_edit_since_i_cant_edit_posts/ video, daytime cloudy sky, single light object moving fast, blackwhite, possible interaction with clouds, elongated, possible disk shape, downvoted to zero, OP comments downvoted, big debunker energy , Connecticut, video analysis requested , possible ARV
.50 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d92ktp/saw_last_night_in_the_sky/ drawing and reference image, single object multiple lights, multicolored, contemporaneous report, nighttime, central Missouri, stationary, from car, possible reaction to being observed, witness looked away and looked back, vanished,
.51 https://old.reddit.com/RBI/comments/1d961ax/who_showed_up_to_my_home/ experience description, men in black response, at home, One day my uncle went out on a hike in the woods, when he came back he claimed to have seen a UFO flying above a river, A few days later I heard a knock at the door., I answered the door and saw 2 men wearing black suits, they asked me if uncle was there, they referred to him by his full name., 2 men showed up to his work and offered him money to retract his statements on the radio
.52 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d9oitw/object_moves_right_to_left_large_cloud/ video, daytime cloudy sky, single light object moving fast, contemporaneous report, urban area, Chicago Illinois, lighting configuration change, dark to light, flashing erratically, duration 10-15 seconds , downvoted to zero , polarized sunglasses., blackwhite, horizontal trajectory, silent , deleted
.53 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d9t4uy/sighting_in_sacramento_ca_65_930pm/ video, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, Sacramento California, urban area, powerlines, low over rooftop, two witnesses, single light object, twolights or plane for comparison, interaction with airplane, pacing plane,.moving and stationary and moving, speed change, while flying off it was making erratic movements, almost like it was swirling while flying, and was slowing its speed down periodically. , duration 5-10 minutes,
.54 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1d9vnrassistance_in_narrowing_down_what_i_saw_i_the_sky/ sighting description, nighttime, contemporaneous report, twolights, single light object flareup and vanishing, moving in opposite directions, overhead, silent, duration 1 minute, near the Missouri-Arkansas border
.55 ➡️ https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1dabdoy/sketches_from_my_experience/ experience description and drawings, [GOODPOST], at home, nighttime, fleet, line formation, moving, outside bedroom window, electronic effects lights wouldn't turn on, physical effects vibration, Then everything started vibrating and everything began glowing a bright golden light., location anomaly, found myself immediately back on my bed., audio description humming sound, approach, started to get louder and louder., communication, “Be Warned”, my guess is the warning was to brace myself, sudden departure, missing time 8 hours, northwest USA, https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1dbgoxq/sketches_of_my_experience_pt_2/ more drawings
.56 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1daa5mmy_experience_at_11yo/ childhood experience description, no craft, at home, inside bedroom, daytime, felt observed, physical effects paralysis, I got the sense of aliens in the room watching me, and I got frozen there., similar experience in comments, Patagonia Argentina 🇦🇷
.57 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1dah6e9/i_uploaded_video_on_some_red_orangish_orbs_if/ video, nighttime sky, greeley Colorado, https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbbz46/ufo_sighting_here_in_greeley_colorado_last_yea reposted
.58 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dalmhq/objects_objects_like_moving_stars_that_disappea sighting description, moving stars, repeat visitors, nighttime, near water, pool, zigzag movements
.59 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dan7ed/do_you_see_it_what_is_it_see_body_text_location/ video, nighttime sky, urban area, Czech Republic 🇨🇿 , single light object stationary and moving, possible reaction to being flashed with light, vanishing, After it disappears the lights do something like a quick search , contemporaneous report , deleted
.60 https://old.reddit.com/observingtheanomaly/comments/1dafi3v/possible_ufo/ sighting, two witnesses, electronic effects camera jammed, Michigan not far from lake Michigan. , near water
.61 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dansg2/took_this_tonight_i_have_a_video/ photo, contemporaneous report, single light object, elongated, tictac, horizontal orientation, wishaw Scotland the UK 🇬🇧 , removed by mods https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dao5hl/video_of_object_over_central_scotland/ video, powerlines, low over rooftop, disappeared behind rooftops , removed by mods
.62 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1dalyhm/after_seeing_that_one_guys_sketches_i_thought_i/ drawing, experience, traveled to a burning golden world. Walking around the place was like standing on the surface of the sun without being harmed.
.63 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1daswk0/i_was_in_a_strange_gifted_program_in_the_early/ childhood experience description, no craft, Gifted program, space lab, rural south Georgia, early 1980s, similar experiences in comments, event amnesia, telepathy
.64 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1dav8fq/so_what_am_i_seeing_here/ video, nighttime sky, plane and star or twolights, multicolored, flashing, possible jumpy movement
.65 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1daqpxd/saw_this_weird_white_thing_in_pacoima_ca_today/ photo, daytime sky, single object multiple lights, worm 🪱, contemporaneous report, pacoima California, at work, stationary, duration 3 minutes, stationary and moving, descending below rooftop,
.66 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1db018u/%D0%BA%D1%82%D0%BE_%D0%BF%D0%BE%D0%B4%D1%81%D0%BA%D0%B0%D0%B6%D0%B5%D1%82_%D1%87%D1%82%D0%BE_%D1%8D%D1%82%D0%BE/ photos, daytime cloudy sky, single dim object, elongated, angled from the horizon , low over treeline
.67 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1db54c7/interesting_sighting/ sighting description, daytime sky, contemporaneous report, at home, backyard, plane for comparison observed, single light object stationary, overhead, duration 1 minute, vanishing , removed by mods
.68 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1db23kd/what_was_that/ photos and video, single light object, observed stationary and moving, at home, very bright, low below rooftop, Almaty Kazakhstan 🇰🇿
.69 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1dayon4/this_was_about_200_feet_in_front_of_me_and_about/ photo, nighttime sky, single light object, elongated, observed moving slowly, vanishing, Yerington Nevada,
.70 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1db9n78/ufo_just_filmed_this_in_my_garden/ video, daytime sky, contemporaneous report, single dark object moving erratically, wobbling, shape change observed, the actual shape of it was quite inconsistent too, moving almost like it was not a solid object. , Derbyshire the UK 🇬🇧, at home , removed by mods
.71 https://old.reddit.com/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/comments/1d7aexj/i_saw_a_house_in_the_woods_once_and_then_neve experience description, possible landed craft, mimicking house, entities, scientists, Midwest USA, [GOODPOST]
.72 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbdwah/5pm_672024_over_bradenton_fl/ video, daytime sky, contemporaneous report, Bradenton Florida, two witnesses, over water, single light object, blackwhite, elongated, barbell, twolights close formation, zigzag movement observed, It was extremely shiny with no wings and it moved back and forth several times in an odd fashion.
.73 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1dbawxz/my_nhi_visitation_experience/ childhood experience description, at home, nighttime, witness woke up, entities, light shining in bedroom, angel, It was massive and seemed like it was coming from another dimension because it would not have fit in the space in front of my bed., emotion of calm, communication, telepathy, physical effects vibration, the vibrations were so loud and strong when it first spoke that I said ouch and kind of put my hands on my head in response to the intensity. It lowered the vibrations and asked me “is this better.” I responded yes., event amnesia, I can't remember that important thing it said to me where I told it I understood.
.74 https://old.reddit.com/StrangeEarth/comments/1dbfizd/ufo_sighting_darwin/ video, nighttime sky, single light object, orange 🟠, horizontal trajectory, low below treeline, Darwin northern territory Australia 🇦🇺 , near water, Timor sea
.75 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbey4c/flashing_object_over_seattle/ video, daytime sky, urban area, Seattle Washington state, over water, Puget Sound, single light object, flickering, flashing erratically, low over rooftop,
.76 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbfmrh/video_taken_back_in_the_middle_of_march_of_this/ video, nighttime sky, single light object, Bradenton Florida, two witnesses, twolights observed, moving and stationary, approach, directly in front, repeat visitor
.77 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbfs08/the_hanford_atom_factory_ghost_planes_and/ document, history, Hanford Atom Factory Washington state, multiple objects, repeat visitors, ghost planes, military response
.78 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbah9h/ok_second_try_to_post_thiszoomed_video_of_my/ video, daytime sky, contemporaneous report, two witnesses, plane for comparison, downvoted to zero, Sofia Bulgaria 🇧🇬 , duration 1 minute, appearing and vanishing, single light object
.79 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dban4e/ufo_serbia/ photo, nighttime sky, contemporaneous report, single light object, green 🟢, moving erratically, speed change, trajectory change, all different directions, low over rooftop, Serbia 🇷🇸, single light object, worm 🪱 or M-shaped, duration 10 minutes , downvoted to zero
.80 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbtwu5/did_anyone_else_go_to_the_connecticut_cryptid_and/ photos of public event, Trumbull Connecticut, ufo convention
.81 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1db4yjm/some_sort_of_craft_flying_around_our_house_fo sighting description, contemporaneous report, at home, nighttime, single object multiple lights, outside bedroom window, 5 bright red lights on top and 5 blue lights on bottom 🔴🔵, horizontal trajectory, trajectory change, it started spinning, and things got weird., rectangular shape or cylinder, silent, moving erratically, diving, spinning, zig-zagging, hovering, and moved more like a bird having fun or eating bugs than anything else. , angled from the horizon, zigzag movements, stationary and moving, five witnesses, duration 35 minutes, near airport, Bailey Colorado, interaction with airplane, approach, at one point it looked like it was going to intersect with a plane heading to Centennial. They were very, very close, and the object darted higher into the sky quickly just before the plane passed., similar sighting in comments , [GOODPOST], downvoted to zero
.82 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1dbr1gx/farwell_to_hends/ drawing, art 🎨, entities, 2 species in cenos proxima centauri b.
.83 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1dbo5e8/sighting/ sighting description, has anyone seen?, from airplane, single light object, ascending and descending, vanishing and reappearing, over water pacific ocean, California
.84 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1dbud2w/invisible_silent_and_hyper_fast/ photo, possible cloaked craft, contrail, horizontal trajectory, moving fast, emitting orbs,
.85 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1db409e/how_do_you_think_it_works/ art 🎨, drawing, machinery
.86 https://old.reddit.com/aliens/comments/1dbwomneed_help_identifying_a_conversation_i_listened/ dream description, repeat visitor, urban area, being in a city that's "suspended" in the sky. These cities are connected to each other and you travel to them on vessels that are also suspended., emotion of fear, I remember the traveling parts of the dream the strongest because my fear was really strong and it allowed me to experience the dream more clearly. entity, has anyone seen?
.87 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dbfy3z/garry_nolan_aaro_has_discredited_itself_beyond/l7sht44/ sighting description, historical event, Trumbull county Ohio, 1994 Trumbull County UFO Incident dozens of civilian witnesses and 3 different police agencies had around 6 or more police officers see it close up less then a few hundred feet above him and it shut down his patrol car and radio and lit up the area he was standing like it was 12pm not 12 am during the incident as reported., the entire craft is coated in some kind of thick rock/asteroid material that provides protection from radiation when traveling through out the solar system it also is extremely heat resistant. They also have 3 smaller craft that form a triangle around the craft using electromagnetic fields and a propulsion system and charged particles that defy gravity
.88 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dby11b/friendly_reminder_destroying_or_falsifying/ information, This is a friendly reminder that the act of destroying or falsifying records in advance of a GAO audit, even if legislation mandating the audit has not yet been fully ratified by Congress, is considered obstruction and will result in severe legal penalties., AARO, IAA2025
.89 https://www.reddit.com/UFOB/comments/1dbsf7v/spotted_in_the_air_over_southern_coast_of_japan/ video, nighttime sky, single light object moving, multicolored, south of Japan 🇯🇵, to the west of Hiroshima, right on the coast., near water, in the centre, there looked to be a black triangle 🔺️, dimming, vanishing, repeat visitor, similar sighting in comments
.90 https://old.reddit.com/Thetruthishere/comments/1dbq8yw/gilman_springs_is_an_extremely_creepy_and_haunted/ sighting description, entity, inside car, Gilman Springs California
.91 https://old.reddit.com/astrophotography/comments/1dblfhb/what_are_the_green_dots/ photo, nighttime sky, twolights, not seen by eye, 10 minute long exposure, overhead
.92 https://old.reddit.com/HighStrangeness/comments/1dbjool/ufo_sees_me_using_my_camera_and_disappears/ video, nighttime sky, at home, two witnesses, single light object stationary and moving, duration 3-4 minutes, reaction to being filmed, disappeared behind treeline
.93 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dc15zp/shadow_on_cloud_o video, daytime cloudy sky, cloud anomaly, stationary
.94 https://old.reddit.com/UFOs/comments/1dc34h3/ufo_spotted_during_drag_race_bakersfield_ca/ video, daytime cloudy sky, single object blackwhite, possible disk shape with dome, horizontal orientation, moving fast, from car, racecar, Bakersfield California
.95 https://www.reddit.com/StrangeEarth/comments/1dc3ebp/what_is_this_in_middle_of_video_several_lights/ video, nighttime cloudy sky, low over ridgeline, single light object, elongated, diffuse, vertical orientation, appeared out of nowhere, flashing, vanishing, repeat visitor
.96 https://old.reddit.com/ufo/comments/1dc0l6a/saw_something_on_a_recent_flight_what_was_it/ sighting description, from airplane, urban area, NYC New York state, metallic cylinder with acorn 🌰 shaped head, moving fast
.97 https://old.reddit.com/AnomalousEvidence/comments/1dbzpbq/anyone_seen_this_entity/ childhood sighting description and drawing, entity, has anyone seen?, at home, nighttime, inside bedroom doorway, physical effects paralysis, approach, pain, event amnesia.
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2024.06.09 23:18 MightyAwl Got married yesterday (and have some afterthoughts)

I got married yesterday and it was AMAZING!!! There were some tiny tiny adjustments I would have made retrospectively that I'm going to share hoping it might help :)
Key facts: 100 people, Castle in Central Europe.
Other than these tiny tiny things that I'm never going to think about again after this post everything went perfectly.
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2024.06.09 23:16 throwaway_losttime Daughter and I both lost 11 minutes while driving together

TL:DR - My daughter and I were driving together on a well-known route, somehow traveled 2.5 miles in the blink of an eye, and lost 11 minutes.
I'm still wrapping my head around this, and I'm not even sure how to describe what happened to us, but I need to write this down in detail so that I can remind myself later that I didn't imagine it. Or maybe to remind myself that I'm not crazy and that it actually happened? I need to write this out because if I just keep going over and over it in my head, I'm going to wear myself out. This happened today, just about seven hours ago, and I'm still not sure how to process it. I hope that by writing this out I can stop torturing myself with questions.
I'm a woman in my mid-40s, I am mentally healthy, and while I believe that there are things humans can't explain, I don't experience things like this ever. (Like, if you tell me you saw a ghost, I'd believe that you are telling me your truth, but I don't experience a lot of weird shit myself, you know?) If I had been driving alone this morning and this happened, I honestly would have just been all, "Nope, that didn't happen," and I probably would just convince myself that nothing weird happened at all. All this to say that I don't normally have this kind of thing happen, and I have also been sober for over a decade. My daughter is 16 and is young and healthy. We weren't drunk, high, impaired, or otherwise experiencing non-reality.
This was around 6:30 a.m., and neither one of us was mentally altered, we were both a little bit tired from waking up early. My daughter has a job at a children's summer camp about an hour from our house, and she was home this weekend to do laundry and relax. She was supposed to be back at camp on Sunday (today) at 7 a.m. to get ready for campers arriving in the afternoon.
She told me she wanted to be there a little earlier than 7, so I set my alarm for 4:45 a.m., and in total I got about 4.5 hours of sleep. I woke her up at 5:00 a.m. and she took a shower and finished packing her bags. We left our house around 5:40, and when we were about 10 minutes away, we had to turn around because she had forgotten something important. No biggie, I turned around, she got her stuff, we headed to go get coffee. My coffee receipt says 5:58 a.m. The GPS estimated that we would get from the coffee shop to camp at 6:44, totally normal for this early in the morning. If it was afternoon and there was traffic it could possibly take an hour or an hour-ten.
The route to camp is very straightforward, and I have driven this route six times already just this summer (to drop her off or pick her up, and also because I work for the organization that runs the camp, so I have also had to go out there twice to do paperwork). Not to mention the dozens of times I've made this trip in previous years, either for work or to take my daughter to camp when she was little.
From our neighborhood, you can take two different routes for about the first 6 miles of the trip, but the next 26 miles are always the same. There is only one route to this camp, and I know my way there and back like the back of my hand. (I use the GPS because I like knowing how much time is left on my drive. Like if I need to stop and use the restroom or can I make it the final 15 minutes or whatever, you know?)
So basically, take route A or route B the first 6 miles, take a right turn onto State Highway and head west, drive another 19 miles, turn right onto Rural Road and head north (there's a huge convenience store and a stoplight at that intersection, you can't miss it), and then about 7 miles later you're at camp.
We started an album on Spotify by a band that we both enjoy, and while I was tired, I wasn't "fall asleep at the wheel and drive off the road tired" - I was sipping my coffee, we were both kind of just listening to the music and not talking much. It was dark when we left, but by the time we got to the 2/3 point of the drive, the sky was lightening up a bit.
The last song of the band's album came on, then when it ended another song by the same band started. I hadn't heard it before, I didn't like it very much, and I assumed that Spotify had just finished the album and then started up a different album by the same band. But when I looked at my car's dashboard screen, it showed that the song was part of the album I had chosen. I hadn't heard this song at the end of the album the other twenty times I've listened to it, so that's weird, but maybe it's an extended edition album or something on Spotify. No biggie. I asked my daughter to take my phone and go ahead and put on what she wanted to listen to next.
She chose a lady singer who had opened for the first band at their concert we saw earlier this year in January, and she queued up four songs she liked. She put my phone back on the dashboard phone mount, and the first song started to play. We were both still just kind of bobbing our heads and waking up, and we turned around a bend of the highway. The first song by the lady ends and the second song starts.
At this point we're just about 1.5 miles to the final turn, where we turn right from the State Highway onto Rural Road. We had just passed a restaurant/landmark that I always know means we're about to make that final turn, so I'm glad that my drive is almost over. I'm eager to stop at camp and pee, drop my daughter and her luggage off, chat with some folks I know from work, and then go home. I sipped my coffee, and there was about an inch of coffee left in the paper cup. The upcoming last leg of the drive, from turning onto Rural Road to the camp gates should take about 12 minutes.
We come around the final little curve of the highway before the intersection, and I'm keeping an eye out for the convenience store that marks the turn onto Rural Road. We're pretty much the only car on the four-lane State Highway going our direction. I'm in the left lane, and there's a dark-color little station wagon/mini-SUV in the right lane just about 4-5 car lengths ahead of me. That car puts on its breaks, not hard like there's an emergency, but a little bit sudden, and then pulls over onto the shoulder of the highway.
It doesn't look like they're in trouble, the little navy blue Subaru isn't smoking or busted a tire or anything, so I don't think much of it. As we pass it my daughter turns her head to look out her window at the car, and I proceed west toward the final little bend in the highway before we get to the stoplight to turn onto Rural Road.
Suddenly there are big orange construction barrels lining the highway. They've got the 4-lane highway down to just two lanes, one in each direction. I knew they had been doing construction, but the last time I drove to camp on Friday evening to pick up my daughter, the construction had been farther down the highway, on the west side of the intersection at Rural Road where the State Highway continues going West. Guess the construction is now extending up this far, okay, no problem.
The sky is even lighter, and then I see a big stone/brick sign on the right hand side of the road marking the entrance to a subdivision I've never seen before. That's weird.
I glance at the GPS to see it telling me to turn right onto a little road I've never seen before, and I remark to my daughter, "Is it taking me to a shortcut? I've literally never seen this road before." At this point, the convenience store should be in sight just ahead. I have no idea what this road is.
She shrugs, we turn right and drive north onto the little paved road where the GPS told us to turn, but we're both really confused. There isn't any "shortcut" to camp, it's only Rural Road. There's only one way in or out of camp. We frown and start saying, "This is weird."
There's not much on this little paved road, we've been driving for about a minute, maybe minute-and-a-half. On our right we pass a small brick sign marking an events hall, like the kind of place you could rent out for a wedding or something. Then I see a power substation ahead on the left, so I gesture to the grassy fields on both sides of the road, and I joke, "Oh look, the GPS is taking us on a shortcut with a very scenic view of the power station, check out these beautiful views." LOL, I'm a riot.
I slow down on the little 2-lane paved road, there's no cars behind us that would care, and I tap my phone screen and zoom the GPS map out, to get a bigger view of where I'm supposed to be going. About a mile ahead is a Y-intersection/fork in the road, and the GPS is telling me to make a U-turn at the fork, head back south, and then turn left to drive eastward on State Highway, then turn left/north onto Rural Road. WTF? This isn't right. It's very much... wrong. This is wrong.
So instead of going another half-mile to the fork in the road, I decide to just U-turn in the gravel driveway of the power substation. So I pull into the power substation, U-turn, and go back up the little road, frowning at the GPS and looking at my daughter all, "What the fuck? Where are we? What is going on?" I can't concentrate with the music playing (the third song she had queued up), so I turn the volume all the way down.
We drive another minute or so to get back to the top of the little paved road where it T-intersects with State Highway and wait for a green light so we can turn left, and the whole time we're freaking out. Where are we, why are we here? And my daughter is so nervous/upset that she's laughing, like uncontrollable nervous laughter. Suddenly she goes, "What the fuck?" and points to the GPS, and now our estimated time of arrival at camp is no longer 6:44, it's 6:55 a.m.... WTF WTF WTF. We "lost" 11 minutes? How?
She's still laughing, putting her hand on my shoulder, like, "Mom, what just happened? What the fuck? We lost time?"
I'm trying to figure out what the fuck just happened, we're now going east on State Highway back toward the intersection to Rural Road, and I'm just... I don't know what's happening.
We come back to the big sign for the subdivision (passing it on our left), and then we go over a bridge that we don't remember going over at all the first time. We never drove over this bridge while we were heading west. We were less than a mile from the turn onto Rural Road, and we blinked, and suddenly we were passing the construction barrels and the subdivision sign.
We approach the intersection to turn left onto Rural Road, and we realize that the construction barrels do NOT go past that intersection. There are zero orange barrels on the east side of the convenience store. There are zero construction barrels where we saw the other car pull over.
We turn onto Rural Road and start trying to piece this together. What the fuck just happened? We were both on the lookout for the convenience store that we know so well, that we've stopped at dozens of times on our way to camp, that we KNOW marks the north/east corner of the intersection to turn right onto Rural Road, but it's like we both blinked and suddenly we were on the west side of the intersection.
She's still laughing, unsettled as all hell, we still have another ten minutes to drive down Rural Road to the camp gates, we're both talking over each other, and piecing it together. And it's like, no. This is not possible, it's not right. Something happened. Because from where we last remember (being on the east side of that intersection and seeing that car put its brakes on and pull over) to where we saw the subdivision sign and where the GPS told us to turn onto the little paved road, is just 2.5 miles, it would only take 2 minutes to drive. Where did a full 9 more minutes go? How did this happen? What the fuck happened?
I'm all, "That was fucked up."
"No, Mom, that was more than fucked up."
"Well, I don't have a word for 'more than fucked up,' so give me a little credit here. I don't know what the fuck just happened."
She's like, "How do we explain this to anyone?"
"You don't. You can't talk to anyone about this, they'll think you're crazy. I'm tempted to say it didn't happen and we both imagined it and we should never talk about it again."
She goes, "You know, when the GPS told us to turn onto that little road it felt wrong."
"I know, like something was wrong? That's not the way to camp?"
"No, Mom. Like wrong wrong. I just felt wrong. Everything in my body was screaming that it was wrong."
"I know, I know... I felt weird, too. But I don't know what happened."
"Okay, but..." She starts talking, and I pick up my coffee cup to find it's empty. There had been a good sip or two left just before the convenience store, and now it's gone. That freaks me out. My daughter is still going back over what happened, talking about the last "normal" part of the drive while we were heading west and looking for the convenience store turnoff.
"We were driving toward the turnoff to camp, and the second song came on, and I remember seeing that gray Tesla brake hard and pull over, and I was like-"
"Wait, a gray Tesla? No, it was a blue Suburban. I remember thinking it was a Mom car."
She's like, "Noooo, it was a gray Tesla. I swear it was a gray Tesla."
"But it was kind of light outside by that time. How did we both see a different car?"
She's still laughing really nervously, "Okaaay, so... Did this just happen? We were driving to the intersection, the second song came on, we lost 11 minutes, we both saw a different car, we have never missed the turn to camp, we've never driven past that subdivision before... what the fuck?"
"Yeah, the second song ended, the third song came on, and what song is it on now?" (Because I'm thinking we can estimate how long the four songs should have taken.)
She picks up my phone, and it's playing the second song she queued up. I shivered, and she's like, "Nope nope nope. Not happening, this is not happening."
We just... we can't wrap our heads around this. We pulled up at camp, and I checked my Google Maps history but I don't have it turned on. I can't think of any other way to try to see what happened during those 11 minutes/2.5 miles. I'm stumped.
If you read this far, congratulations, you have earned my respect. I can barely understand it myself. If you know why or how or what the fuck is going on, I'd appreciate it.
Neither of us felt... damaged, you know? We didn't feel physically harmed, we didn't feel like we had crashed or been probed or anything. In fact, halfway through my drive home I realized my sore throat from seasonal allergies was completely gone, and my sinuses were clear instead of clogged. Did we get abducted by aliens and they healed my sore throat? Did we crash and quantum leap into a different universe? Did we drive through a wormhole that transported us 2.5 miles to the west for some reason? Was the gray Tesla/blue Suburban an alien vehicle and my daughter wasn't supposed to look directly at it?
I want to know what happened, but just reading through everything I've written makes my eyes water with fear. I kind of want to ignore it, chalk it up to us both being tired, and then never talk about it again.
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2024.06.09 23:07 BrownHairHazelEyes1 How do I get out of this relationship?

My boyfriend mocks me or laughs at me when I pray or read the Bible. He tells me I’m only going to church to be part of a cult and that I’m just a ‘liar worshipping amongst liars.’ He tells me that I’m just dragging myself into a big building to "worship God" to only feel good about myself. He tells me that I’m confused and don’t know anything about God or about life in general. I deal with so much verbal abuse on the daily. I’m currently living with him at his parents and they think we just need to ‘work on our communication.’ Am I wrong for thinking that couples counseling can’t fix abuse? We have a son together and I feel so terribly taking him away from his dad. He doesn’t allow me to go to church, obviously, so speaking to a pastor is not an option here. I’ve talked to him about abstaining in the past, but he always says that it’s not healthy and that we’re basically married so there’s no issue. He tells me I need to ‘stop acting like a little Christian girl because that’s not what I am.’ How do I get out of this 4 year long relationship? I have a small amount of savings left that he has not taken from me, but I know leaving would cause major collateral damage in the process to everyone involved.
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2024.06.09 22:50 TitanAura The Struggles of Adapting Peak Fiction Under Strict Production Constraints

The Struggles of Adapting Peak Fiction Under Strict Production Constraints
\"But why not do both?\"
This is a follow-up to my last post defending the anime's decision to cut content for the sake of pacing but let me give you the TL;DR so you don't feel the need to have read that one before this as this post covers the same bases (and then some): The anime is first-and foremost the story of Rudeus Greyrat and must therefore prioritize his perspective, even at the cost of other characters' moments, regardless of how beloved those individual scenes are to fans of the Light Novels (myself included).
So let me start by addressing the strongest counter argument made in response to that post: "But the first season, and even Cour 1 of season 2 was able to maintain excellent pacing while having relatively few cuts! Why does the pacing in cour 2 still *FEEL* so rushed in comparison despite cutting so much?" That is an astute observation! And, quite frankly, you are asking the right questions. And for anyone planning to skip straight to the end of this admittedly \daunting* essay, here's a TL;DR for you: Episodes 19 & 20's reduced quality and heightened pace were done deliberately to provide the last 4 episodes of the season the space they need to breathe.* Continue reading if you want to find out how and why this had to be done.
It would be a fool's errand to argue that Cour 2 is NOT cutting less content than prior cours (because it absolutely is, and by quite a lot too), nor will I be arguing that the cour does NOT suffer some level of pacing issues because it absolutely is (see first post), rather I will be arguing in defense of the purpose of limiting the scope of what gets adapted, and why such decisions are necessary in the first place. However, before I delve any further into the specifics of Cour 2's production struggles, first I should elaborate how its production schedule differs from S1.

PART 1: Production Scheduling (aka setting the pace)

In case you were unaware, Season 1 was originally slated to be released in 2020 but was delayed to January of 2021 so it could actually receive all of the extra care and polish it truly deserved. For S2, Studio Bind's production staff, by contrast, had to make due with the time they were initially given. More time (and consequently more budget) usually fixes most production issues, but very few (extraordinarily rare) series ever receive that benefit and doing so twice was likely never even considered a possibility.
Sadly we are not in the alternate timeline where S2 benefitted from the same advantages that gave us gorgeous custom world-building OPs for every episode that freed up even more additional screen time for dialogue and character development (in some cases literally depicting entire chapters such as Paul's POV being shown during Ep 17's STUNNINGLY well executed OP montage). Thanks in part to that decision, S1 had significantly more wiggle room to work with, especially pertaining to the secondary cast, allowing it to more evenly adapt the world building, character development, and main narrative plotline of Mushoku Tensei as a whole utilizing that extra runtime (90 seconds per episode adds up to a LOT over the course of an entire season, plus the 5 EDs, that were integrated as needed on a per-episode basis, for an additional 7 1/2 minutes which adds up to a WHOPPING 43 1/2 MINUTES over the course of that 24 episode run and I should point out that S2 Cour 1 ALSO benefitted from this for the first 5 episodes including the OVA, giving that cour an added 9 minutes to utilize with Cour 2 receiving a paltry 3 minutes as only the 1st episode integrates the OP/ED runtime).
It's simply the reality that polish and quality was prioritized for S1 while scheduling and budget were prioritized for S2. If you want to be especially harsh, one could say S1 was treated as art, while S2 was treated as a commercial product, which is why I've set my expectations accordingly and hope this post helps others do the same. This becomes more apparent when you take into consideration that Studio Bind were also working on Onimai at the same time as S2 given their air dates were only 6 months apart. So not only was S2 not being given the same scheduling priority, it was COMPETING for resources. Given the BD sales numbers for every project they've released, at a minimum we can be assured that Studio Bind has been financially successful at least but the double edged nature of that success also means that certain priorities may have shifted away from MT and towards the new cash-cow. There's a reason I phrased my previous post so specifically: These episodes are a fine adaptation of Rudy's story.... and not much else because it simply doesn't have the screen time or resources to focus on anything besides Rudy's share of the narrative and character development.
Which ties directly into the second reason as to why cour 2 FEELS so rushed, even in comparison to cour 1. The contents of Volumes 10, 11, and 12 are significantly more *LINEAR\* with more individual events being depicted compared to Volumes 1-9. This translates to more content vying for screen time. But how much content are we talking about here? Well, I don't want to go too deeply into raw numbers as that's not really the point but let's set a baseline with some quick-n-dirty math to illustrate:
S1c1 covers 1326 pg / 3 = 442 pg/vol (11 episodes) = 40.2 pg / ep S1c2 covers 1280 pg / 3 = 427 pg/vol (12 episodes + OVA) = 32.8 pg / ep S2c1 covers 1268 pg / 3 = 423 pg/vol (12 episodes + OVA) = 32.5 pg / ep S2c2 covers 1381 pg / 3 = 460 pg/vol (12 episodes) = 38.3 pg / ep
Obviously these are EXTREMELY rough numbers that don't take into account any of the cut content, non-chapter related pages, nor the difference in available runtime afforded to S1 that I previously mentioned, but just by raw page count, that's technically LESS content than what the first 11 episodes of Season 1 had to adapt! Surely they could just tweak a few things to make everything fit! Unfortunately, it's not that simple. You see, there's a distinct lack of a certain type of content that made the lives of the production staff significantly easier by providing plenty of opportunities to pick and choose what made it into the final cut of an episode's runtime to keep the mainline story of Rudeus chugging along at the leisurely clip we're accustomed to.

PART 2: Narrative Fluff (aka work smarter, not longer)

Spoiler: It's the sheer density of secondary character POVs. The very ones we often grieved being cut as the episodes were coming out during S1. They add depth and complexity to the characters (and are, imho, singularly the most *profoundly insightful* pieces of writing Rifujin-sensei has ever produced) but 90% of the time are simply repeating the same events from a new perspective. HOWEVER, when adapted to an audio-visual medium, you can SHOW both perspectives simultaneously and let the audience infer what's going on in a secondary character's mind through the use of voice acting, animation, staging, lighting, OST, and sound design thereby allowing the anime-only audience to receive 90% of the same information that was conveyed during those same events in the novels.
The "missing" Eris POV is the primary example of this disconnect between how little LN readers think Anime-onlys are inferring and how much is being successfully communicated to them even if they themselves can't properly articulate what it was they took away from any particular scene. I highly recommend paying close attention to Eris' face in the 3 following episodes after the events of Turning Point 2 RATHER THAN READING THE SUBTITLES (dub watchers have an advantage here but BOTH performances do an incredible job) and you'll see (and hear) what I'm talking about. Sure we don't get every beat of her thought process spelled out for us in quite the same level of detail as in her POV chapter, but you can sense her inner conflict while watching Rudeus practice Disturb Magic as they ride into the outskirts of Fittoa and her heartache at seeing him standing forlornly in the ruins of his destroyed childhood home. The idea that she doesn't feel "worthy" of him is already being communicated by her facial expressions and her body language. Her letter stating how they aren't "well-balanced" in combination with that visual information is already providing context clues to the viewer as to what's going on in her head. In her final scene you can hear the sheer depth of her love give way to a deeply instilled sense of self-loathing, just by the tone of her voice, as she hoists Rudeus up onto that pedestal. Yet as she nears the end of her melancholic monologue more of that brash, passionate nature of hers seeps back into her delivery as pours her heart out.
To quote Harry Plinkett: "It's so subtle, you might not have even noticed... but your brain did."
The only emotion you could argue was nerfed by the adaptation is the depths of her self-loathing for having "taken advantage of him" after their night together but they still get a line in about their age and size difference, which when heard in her self-flagellating tone describing how "awful" she's been to him, you can easily make that inference. But you might also say "AHA even in those 3 episodes they left out how devastated she was when Rudy beat her using the demon eye after she finally gained some confidence in her strength" to which I say: Watch Ep 13: Missed Connections and, again, pay attention to Eris. Every part off the Buffalo was used.
They also never deliberately spell out her ardent belief that Rudeus is so strong and smart and amazing and brave and perfect that regardless of whatever she wrote as she struggled to find the words to leave in her letter, he would just clairvoyantly understand her intentions.... but you don't really NEED that spelled out for you when her final appearance is her shouting to the high heavens about how in love she is directly juxtaposed with Rudeus reverting to his former self-image shut away in his bedroom after very specifically misunderstanding the meaning of her words and actions! "I LOVE THIS MAN she screams as the man she loves thinks to himself "I can't believe she doesn't love me anymore." Seeing that, anyone could conclude "Were you expecting him to just KNOW what you meant??" Yes. Yes she was.
The Eris' POV wasn't "skipped content"... it was integrated. It's broken up and repurposed in bits and pieces over the course of 4, count 'em, FOUR separate episodes but 99% of it is there if you know what to look for (which for anime onlys is considered rewatch value).
By going through this in such agonizing detail I hope I'm properly communicating one of the greatest hang ups LN readers seem to have (or adaptational purists in general) relative to their expectations: You are putting entirely too much value into dialogue, monologue, and the text of a script relative to every other element the medium has to offer. The absence of TEXT does not diminish the SUBTEXT. An individual viewer might not know WHY they believe a character motivation exists as it does, but by and large most will pick up on those details whether it be deliberate (in the case of a certain psychologist youtuber who keeps nailing plot predictions over and over BECAUSE ALL OF THE INFORMATION YOU NEED IS RIGHT, THE F**K, THERE) or subconsciously (in the case of most passive audience members).

PART 1 (COUR 2): THE RESCHEDULENING (aka MATH)

Now, having detailed how a POV chapter can actually be efficiently absorbed into the runtime of the show without disrupting or sidetracking the main narrative, let's re-examine the topic of how (as well as why) this affects the production schedule. As I previously stated, overall Volume 1-9 have quite a number of POV chapters to work around as buffers to the rest of the content. Don't believe me? Let me break it down a bit more then:
Vol 1 contains ~ 2 1/2 POV chapters out of 10 = 25% Vol 2 contains ~ 2 3/4 POV chapters out of 11 = 25% Vol 3 contains ~ 1 POV chapters out of 15 = 6.5% (one of the longer action heavy volumes, yet only 3 eps) On average ~19% of content is POV. Vol 4 contains ~ 2 1/4 POV chapters out of 12 = 19% Vol 5 contains ~ 4 POV chapters out of 11 = 36% Vol 6 contains ~ 2 1/4 POV chapters out of 15 = 15% On average ~23% of content is POV. Vol 7 contains ~ 1 1/4 POV chapters out of 8 (technically 9, short prologue + epilogue combined) = 15.5% Vol 8 contains ~ 2 POV chapters out of 12 = 17% Vol 9 contains ~ 3.75 POV chapters out of 12.5 (several very short POVs, adjusted for fairness) = 30% On average ~21% of content is POV. Vol 10 contains ~ 2 POV chapters out of 14 = 14% Vol 11 contains ~ 2 POV chapters out of 16 = 12.5% Vol 12 contains ~ 1 1/2 POV chapters out of 16 = 9% On average ~12% of content is POV. \Note* Several chapters are not purely dedicated to secondary character POVs but rather "cut aways" between Rudy's own perspective and are occasionally EXTREMELY short (I assigned 1/4 amounts for especially short POVs to give them weight, but to prevent over-representing them. Additionally while chapters vary in length they generally represent individual events which I feel is a more apt form of measurement to relate to the anime adaptation in place of page counts (you're not gonna find the table of contents, copyrights, or the author's afterward being adapted after all). These are VERY rough estimations and should not be taken as "objective" measurements.))
Look at that proportional difference for Volume 10-12 relative to the other cours. While production had the advantage of consistently folding a little more than 1/5 of the content into the current runtime the current cour has almost 10% more content competing for the same amount of screen time as the cour before it. In fact, it's significantly LESS screen time as only the 1st episode bypassed the OP/ED compared to Cour 1's 4 episodes (and if you include the OVA, cour 1 already had a 24 minute head start in addition to the extra 3 per ep for a whopping total of 36 extra minutes of runtime over cour 2), Even if we're exceedingly generous and assume the next 4 episodes skip the OP/ED each, that would still leave it at a 24 minute disadvantage just in comparison to cour 1, not to mention the additional screen time afforded to S1 as I've already covered.

Part 3: Screen Time as a Resource (aka Content / Time = Stress)

In a novel characters can engage in chapter length diatribes or strategic planning in their own heads, engage in "talking is a free action" whilst in a fight to the death, and all sorts of ridiculous temporal bending contrivances that simply do not translate to the screen where time is the single most precious commodity (unless you're a shonen protagonist charging up your kamehameha). So let's view this from the scriptwriters' perspective to understand why they are forced to make some very difficult choices. As you are starting work on your assigned episode(s), the show's production committee makes the call that while previously you were afforded as much as ~300 minutes (5 hours) to convey ~1K pages of material, this time you only get ~255 minutes (4 1/4 hours) to convey ~1200 pages of the same density of material. Much more information to convey in much less time and you only JUST BARELY scrapped by to include as much as you could the last 3 times. That's means that at a MINIMUM, 200 of those pages are destined for the cutting room floor.
Though speaking of shounen protagonists, action set pieces are extraordinarily useful for either expanding OR condensing a scene's runtime by exactly as much as you need to fit within an episode's runtime. Need to add time? Go balls-to-the-wall, high-octane, budget-melting sakuga insanity that outshines even the source material (Turning Point 2/Eris vs Assassins) or you can condense high page counts into surprisingly short runtimes while still conveying the impact and information stored in those several pages worth of text. High impact, malleable screen time, same information conveyed. More time to dedicate to world building and secondary character development. As such, S1 (cour 2 especially) had a TREMENDOUS amount of leeway in how much they wished to expand OR condense action scenes at their discretion compared to the (comparatively) action-lite S2 (for Cour 1 at least).
So then you might ask with Cour 2 revving up the action again, why is it instead CUTTING tons of those action scenes rather than merely truncating them to make space for dialogue scenes like the prior cours? The short answer is there's already no time to spare. The longer, more complex answer is action scenes can't exist in a vacuum. In the same way you have to accelerate and decelerate in your car evenly to get from point A to point B safely, you can't simply hit 0-60 mph in under 2 seconds and you certainly can't go from 60 to 0 in a fraction of a second unless you want an episodes' pacing to liquify like your internal organs. Before, during, and sometimes after a fight scene is initiated, several questions need to be answered for the audience like "Who/what is fighting?" "Where are they positioned?" "What is the level of threat?" "What are the stakes?" "What are the win conditions?" with greater or fewer questions depending on the complexity of the scene or it's meaning to the character(s). Failing to provide the audience adequate answers to these questions can easily result in a nonsensical farce.... unless that's literally your intention. Thankfully, the requirement for winding down action is much simpler. After a beat of heightened tension, your protagonist simply lowers their guard/weapon and the message communicated to the audience is "the threat is over" and within seconds you can move to the next scene.
Most major encounters follow this rhythm throughout the series, with individual chapters dedicated solely to these fights, spanning page counts that are generally (but not always) on the higher end. In general, there are only 1-2 major battles per volume. Vol 11 and 12, by contrast, have several chapters that contain a half dozen individual skirmishes apiece that make adapting the material a total NIGHTMARE to pick and choose what makes the cut. So as an example, a weirdly high amount of time is seemingly spent establishing the succubus encounter in ep 19. Why you may ask? So they could ride those same rules of engagement straight into the following montage to inform the audience "these fights possess the same rules of engagement we just established" without having to spend the additional time winding up each one individually (another, more humorous example, is Ruijerd "dueling" the 3 North God students in a row). The montage also pulls double duty by conveying both the passage of time and distance. You'd think truncating roughly 1/5 of the entire volume into a scant 60 seconds would give them plenty of extra time to work with, but sadly, the ability to condense content is still only enough to break even with the established pace.
Another major element that placed Season 2 at a massive disadvantage is that Season 2 had to use it's precious 25th episode OVA to *catch up* on content that was deferred from Season 1 as Sylphy's POV chapters starting all the way back in Vol 4 did not make the cut. So rather than getting a jump start, the OVA was actually just catching up on deferred content that could not be included DESPITE all of the tremendous advantages I've previously discussed. And even then, it still needed to skip all but a few scant details from the intervening chapters that bridge the gap between Sylphy becoming Silent Fitz and Ariel's entire entourage fleeing to Ranoa's University of Magic resulting in all but 5 of them being slaughtered by assassins in hideously gruesome fashion. In a nutshell, Season 2 actually only has 24 episodes to dedicate to itself, and most of the benefits of scheduling seems to have heavily favored Cour 1 over Cour 2.
At this point, assuming like everyone else who joined up with Studio Bind, you are yourself a massive fan of the series and absolutely love these novels, you are effectively being asked to CHOOSE your favorite children chapters to sacrifice in the name of ending the season at a satisfying arc conclusion. Sure you could just adapt at the same rate of chapters-to-screen time as before and conclude the final 12th episode with THAT THING THAT HAPPENS but somehow I feel like doing so would result in death threats being strapped to a brick and hurled through your office windows. You've certainly maintained the integrity of the show's original pacing, but telling fans to sit tight until the next production cycle is ready in another 2-3 years feels like a recipe for disaster.
And frankly, Vol 12 has some INTENSELY heavy dialogue/monologue scenes filing out the back half of the volume that are going to need significantly more screen time to convey the necessary information relative to the first half as it is ENTIRELY Rudy-centric. So the only way to get there with enough time to allow the season to reach a natural and satisfying conclusion and still hit all of the vitally necessary plot threads is to put those proverbial chapter babies containing some of your favorite character interactions and world building on the alter as a ritual sacrifice for more time on the clock. And what did those sacrifices get you? 5 episodes. A range of 105-117 minutes (depending on OP/ED usage) of screen time to cover the single densest volume since vol 3 (see above). Barely one episode ahead of pace (but in terms of available screen time still barely ahead) of prior cours. And if you think it's unfortunate that ACTION was being cut, oh lordy I have some *bad news for you.\*

Part 4: Screenwriting as an Artform (aka how write story gud)

"But why are they STILL so stretched for time if they have access to and are utilizing all of these time-saving techniques?" Well I'm hoping the previous 3 parts of this gargantuan multi-tiered super essay have helped establish the constraints Studio Bind are working under compared to the prior cours. Cour 2 is working with significantly LESS screen time, with MORE events to manage and they're already so stretched for time that even multi-chapter spanning story events like the Merchant caravan are being cut entirely, rather than merely abridged, to make up that difference.
The requirement for "essential viewing" grows ever higher as mundane scenes like coming in and out of the teleporter still HAVE to be given priority over fan-beloved moments of character development because as uninteresting as those kinds of expository, utilitarian scenes are, they serve a far more vital purpose in a screenplay for communicating to the audience the "BUT, THEREFORE, BECAUSE" flow of script writing (watch the video it's extremely short and a great explainer, but essentially "But = Complication", "Therefore = Next logical action", "Because = Character motivation for performing said action"). You literally cannot skip these unremarkable, bog standard scenes because doing so would commit one of the deadliest sins of storytelling that I was alluding to when discussing how to establish action scenes: The Discontinuity of the dreaded "AND THEN" statement. If you're watching a movie and it's a series of "and then this happened and then that happened and then this person showed up" it ceases to be less a story so much as watching someone's attention span annihilating slideshow of vacation photographs.
As an example, scenes like the ones that establish how, where, and why Rudy and Elinalise use the teleporter to get from Ranoa to Begaritt are slow, mundane, and heavily time consuming and yet are so absolutely necessary as a scriptwriter to take the time to make sure the audience can follow along the logical thru-line for how these scenes connect to one another. If you skip such seemingly trifling, yet necessary information, the audience is not going to react by saying "oh THAT SCENE I LOVE is coming up" but rather "wait, why are we in a desert?"
As an example I'll use the last 2 episodes to demonstrate. The logical flow of episode 19 into 20 proceeds as follows (some parts are truncated for *relative* brevity):
"Rudy needs to leave for Rapan. THEREFORE he tells everyone goodbye, BUT Nanahoshi knows how to teleport there. THEREFORE he changes his route with Elinalise. THEREFORE they get prepared BECAUSE they want to save Zenith, BUT Cliff proposes to Elinalise BECAUSE he feels his lack of commitment was making her nervous. THEREFORE Elinalise is caught off guard BECAUSE she originally intended to leave without telling him to break off their relationship. THEREFORE she accepts his proposal. THEREFORE they travel to the teleporter, BUT teleporters are considered a source of danger to adventurers. THEREFORE they study it first as a safety precaution. THEREFORE they verify it's safe operation and use it. THEREFORE they arrive in Begaritt, BUT they are attacked by a Succubus. THEREFORE Rudy needs to detox himself BECAUSE they want to keep their promise to Cliff and Sylphy. THEREFORE they continue their sexless journey, BUT they are attacked several more times. THEREFORE they kill the monsters and proceed with caution. THEREFORE they arrive in Rapan in ~6 weeks. THEREFORE Geese is surprised to see them when they arrive, BECAUSE he only sent the letter so recently. THEREFORE he takes them to see Paul. THEREFORE they reunite with Paul, BUT Paul has fallen back into depression BECAUSE they lost Roxy while failing to find Zenith. THEREFORE Rudy tells Paul about his marriage and pregnancy with Sylphy. THEREFORE Paul recovers BECAUSE of the joy and pride he feels for his son BUT still feels worthless BECAUSE of his failures. THEREFORE Paul finally notices Elinalise. THEREFORE he apologizes BECAUSE ....uh y'know that thing that happened. THEREFORE Paul and Elinalise reconcile BUT Paul is confused that she didn't sleep with Rudy BECAUSE of her curse. THEREFORE she explains her husband Cliff's magic tool BUT Paul can't believe she has a husband. THEREFORE they get into another spat BUT the rest of the party returns during their argument THEREFORE Rudy learns that Roxy is lost in the labyrinth. THEREFORE Rudy starts to panic as the party begins to squabble. THEREFORE Elinalise takes Rudy's shoulder to draw his attention BECAUSE she realized he was panicking. THEREFORE Rudy asks to be caught up on the situation. THEREFORE Paul describes the difficulty of the Teleportation Labyrinth. THEREFORE Rudy gives Geese the book detailing it's depths which he borrowed BECAUSE he would be using a teleporter to get to Begaritt, BUT it will take Geese time to read it. THEREFORE Paul calls the meeting to a close to allow Geese to adjust their strategy using the book. THEREFORE Rudy, Paul, and Lilia start talking, BUT Paul is still a crude dude. THEREFORE the topic turns to sex BUT Lilia is in denial about being a total sex freak. THEREFORE Paul teases her BECAUSE he knowns how much she likes it rough. THEREFORE they retire for the night after some locker room talk. THEREFORE they depart for the labyrinth the following day. THEREFORE they reach the labyrinth and begin their descent, BUT Paul is breaking formation to show off in front of Rudeus. THEREFORE Elinalise scolds him, BECAUSE she wants to keep her family safe. THEREFORE Paul flippantly dismisses her claims of thinking of him like a son, BUT he is unaware of their connection through Sylphy. THEREFORE they continue further into the Labyrinth maintaining their formation, BUT they encounter new monsters. THEREFORE Rudy starts to cast a spell, BUT Talhand advises him not to use fire BECAUSE it fills a room with poison BECAUSE the concept of carbon monoxide poisoning exists but isn't fully understood in this universe BUT he also advices not attacking the ceiling BECAUSE it could cause a cave-in. THEREFORE Rudy uses ice magic to kill the remaining monsters. THEREFORE they advance to the second stratum in proper formation. THEREFORE they breeze through the second formation and take a break before entering the third. THEREFORE Geese uses the opportunity to inform Rudy that the next section is where Roxy went missing and may still be near that area BECAUSE teleporter traps only warp victims within the same stratum. THEREFORE as they approach where they lost Roxy, Geese asks Rudy where he'd look for Roxy based on his intuition. AND THEN Using his intuition, Rudy notices condensation on a wall and uses his Roxy Odor Snoof Sense to detect Roxy's location through a damn wall despite being a contrivance BUT it's the same contrivance used in the source material THEREFORE shut up. THEREFORE we cut to Roxy BUT she's being surrounded by monsters. THEREFORE she casts numerous spells to hold them at bay, BUT she runs out of mana. THEREFORE she believes she's about to die BUT Rudy saves her just in the nick of time. THEREFORE Roxy is shaken to her core at the sight of the man who saved her despite not recognizing Rudy, BUT then her POV didn't play out the way it did in the novels THEREFORE LN purists got upset BECAUSE they assumed her POV had been cut BUT they forgot that Roxy's POV has always been shown tremendous favoritism by Studio Bind THEREFORE they jumped to conclusions unaware it would happen the following episode.

THEREFORE Calm down and let Studio Bind cook

Effectively the point I hope I have demonstrated is that there IS a logical and consistent thru-line from scene to scene to scene that an audience can follow (and if you want to improve as a screenwriter, this is a GREAT exercise to figure out what makes your favorite shows tick. It's basically the screenwriter's equivalent to tracing someone else' art as practice). Even these unfairly maligned episodes have a viewing experience that provides a consistent sense of pacing. But if you want to know WHAT precisely feels different about them? Well if I had chosen to break down episodes from any of the prior 3 cours (or the best episodes of this cour), you'd be seeing the word BECAUSE significantly more to fill out every action, reaction, and complication along the way. If "THEREFORE" and "BUT" are the easel and canvas, which are necessary to even begin the process of creating art, then "BECAUSE" is the screenwriter's paintbrush that allows them to breathe life and detail into the characters on screen. The prior 3 cours were awash with "BECAUSE" statements detailing why characters are behaving the way they are in every individual scene so if there's one crime that can legitimately be pinned against several episodes in the latest cour, it's "JUST 'CUZ."

PART FINAL: The TL;DR (aka the... tl;dr)

So having laid all this out in such verbose, granular detail, what exactly does all of this mean?
To put it bluntly, Season 1 being such a near-perfect masterwork of adaptation spoiled the ever loving hell out of us. Having gorged ourselves on that expectation, we've ruined our appetites because now such perks are simply anticipated as standard with a vocal minority now irked by the use of a standard OP simply because it follows the conventions of the medium or (stay with me here) committing the sin of appealing to shonen fans. I know, truly a crime worthy of sudoku because of 14 seconds depicting one of the single most important events in the series. I truly don't understand (seriously, explain it to me please).
The current cour is merely receiving the same treatment most adaptations are given while still outperforming its peers if weekly rankings are anything to go by. Episodes range from pretty good to excellent (Norn and Nanahoshi's spotlight eps being the highlights thus far despite some grumbling) with even the extremely barebones Ep 19 squeezing in what sparse worldbuilding nuggets it can despite the plot literally necessitating that Rudy book it from one side of the planet to the other within a 21 minute period (a production level pacing decision you are still free to criticize). As I said earlier (but it bears repeating) these episodes are a good adaptation of Rudy's story rather than the whole that makes up MT because it simply doesn't have the screen time to focus on anything that falls outside the scope of his perspective given the sheer breadth of competing narrative essential content. As a show, these episodes are still delivering a cohesive and engaging thru-line by being glued to Rudy's perspective. So as long as Rudy remains interesting to watch the audience will be more than satisfied.
Expecting the same anomalous level of dedication AND leniency from the production committee to happen for every season was unfortunately nothing but a pipe dream. Cour 2 is now being forced to make due with what it has and while they are doing a commendable job given the heavy restrictions, it is completely unreasonable to expect them to fit so much into such tight confines. It is the adaptation equivalent of being asked to fit everything into one grocery bag, but not wanting the bag to be heavy.
Could this cour have been scheduled better? Absolutely. Was it possible certain changes to the script or episode direction could have provided more opportunities to explore the cut content? Of course. Is it still a total bummer that the realities of production that have compromised the artistic integrity of our beloved peak fiction? Without a doubt.
We are simply going to have to get used to the fact that S1 may never be topped with our only hope being the return of the waifu-wars for S3 rekindles the beefs between animators vying for shot assignments (which may hopefully still be in the cards god willing).
Of course, I'm not a future seer, so maybe, just maybe, Studio Bind bursts into flames and all of the footage is lost resulting in the quality of the last 3 episodes to be the worst drop off of a television show since the final season of Game of Thrones. If that is the case then I'll be eating more crow than I ever have in my life. But if Studio Bind sticks the landing and delivers on the emotional climax to one of the most beloved arcs among the fanbase that we've anticipated for years, then please calm it down with these exaggerated "cutting content is ruining the show" claims.
Thank you from coming to my Ted Talk and enjoy the rest of the season everyone.
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2024.06.09 22:46 TitanAura The Struggles of Adapting Peak Fiction Under Strict Production Constraints

The Struggles of Adapting Peak Fiction Under Strict Production Constraints
\"But why not do both?\"
This is a follow-up to my last post defending the anime's decision to cut content for the sake of pacing but let me give you the TL;DR so you don't feel the need to have read that one before this as this post covers the same bases (and then some): The anime is first-and foremost the story of Rudeus Greyrat and must therefore prioritize his perspective, even at the cost of other characters' moments, regardless of how beloved those individual scenes are to fans of the Light Novels (myself included).
So let me start by addressing the strongest counter argument made in response to that post: "But the first season, and even Cour 1 of season 2 was able to maintain excellent pacing while having relatively few cuts! Why does the pacing in cour 2 still *FEEL* so rushed in comparison despite cutting so much?" That is an astute observation! And, quite frankly, you are asking the right questions. And for anyone planning to skip straight to the end of this admittedly \daunting* essay, here's a TL;DR for you: Episodes 19 & 20's reduced quality and heightened pace were done deliberately to provide the last 4 episodes of the season the space they need to breathe.* Continue reading if you want to find out how and why this had to be done.
It would be a fool's errand to argue that Cour 2 is NOT cutting less content than prior cours (because it absolutely is, and by quite a lot too), nor will I be arguing that the cour does NOT suffer some level of pacing issues because it absolutely is (see first post), rather I will be arguing in defense of the purpose of limiting the scope of what gets adapted, and why such decisions are necessary in the first place. However, before I delve any further into the specifics of Cour 2's production struggles, first I should elaborate how its production schedule differs from S1.

PART 1: Production Scheduling (aka setting the pace)

In case you were unaware, Season 1 was originally slated to be released in 2020 but was delayed to January of 2021 so it could actually receive all of the extra care and polish it truly deserved. For S2, Studio Bind's production staff, by contrast, had to make due with the time they were initially given. More time (and consequently more budget) usually fixes most production issues, but very few (extraordinarily rare) series ever receive that benefit and doing so twice was likely never even considered a possibility.
Sadly we are not in the alternate timeline where S2 benefitted from the same advantages that gave us gorgeous custom world-building OPs for every episode that freed up even more additional screen time for dialogue and character development (in some cases literally depicting entire chapters such as Paul's POV being shown during Ep 17's STUNNINGLY well executed OP montage). Thanks in part to that decision, S1 had significantly more wiggle room to work with, especially pertaining to the secondary cast, allowing it to more evenly adapt the world building, character development, and main narrative plotline of Mushoku Tensei as a whole utilizing that extra runtime (90 seconds per episode adds up to a LOT over the course of an entire season, plus the 5 EDs, that were integrated as needed on a per-episode basis, for an additional 7 1/2 minutes which adds up to a WHOPPING 43 1/2 MINUTES over the course of that 24 episode run and I should point out that S2 Cour 1 ALSO benefitted from this for the first 5 episodes including the OVA, giving that cour an added 9 minutes to utilize with Cour 2 receiving a paltry 3 minutes as only the 1st episode integrates the OP/ED runtime).
It's simply the reality that polish and quality was prioritized for S1 while scheduling and budget were prioritized for S2. If you want to be especially harsh, one could say S1 was treated as art, while S2 was treated as a commercial product, which is why I've set my expectations accordingly and hope this post helps others do the same. This becomes more apparent when you take into consideration that Studio Bind were also working on Onimai at the same time as S2 given their air dates were only 6 months apart. So not only was S2 not being given the same scheduling priority, it was COMPETING for resources. Given the BD sales numbers for every project they've released, at a minimum we can be assured that Studio Bind has been financially successful at least but the double edged nature of that success also means that certain priorities may have shifted away from MT and towards the new cash-cow. There's a reason I phrased my previous post so specifically: These episodes are a fine adaptation of Rudy's story.... and not much else because it simply doesn't have the screen time or resources to focus on anything besides Rudy's share of the narrative and character development.
Which ties directly into the second reason as to why cour 2 FEELS so rushed, even in comparison to cour 1. The contents of Volumes 10, 11, and 12 are significantly more *LINEAR\* with more individual events being depicted compared to Volumes 1-9. This translates to more content vying for screen time. But how much content are we talking about here? Well, I don't want to go too deeply into raw numbers as that's not really the point but let's set a baseline with some quick-n-dirty math to illustrate:
S1c1 covers 1326 pg / 3 = 442 pg/vol (11 episodes) = 40.2 pg / ep S1c2 covers 1280 pg / 3 = 427 pg/vol (12 episodes + OVA) = 32.8 pg / ep S2c1 covers 1268 pg / 3 = 423 pg/vol (12 episodes + OVA) = 32.5 pg / ep S2c2 covers 1381 pg / 3 = 460 pg/vol (12 episodes) = 38.3 pg / ep
Obviously these are EXTREMELY rough numbers that don't take into account any of the cut content, non-chapter related pages, nor the difference in available runtime afforded to S1 that I previously mentioned, but just by raw page count, that's technically LESS content than what the first 11 episodes of Season 1 had to adapt! Surely they could just tweak a few things to make everything fit! Unfortunately, it's not that simple. You see, there's a distinct lack of a certain type of content that made the lives of the production staff significantly easier by providing plenty of opportunities to pick and choose what made it into the final cut of an episode's runtime to keep the mainline story of Rudeus chugging along at the leisurely clip we're accustomed to.

PART 2: Narrative Fluff (aka work smarter, not longer)

Spoiler: It's the sheer density of secondary character POVs. The very ones we often grieved being cut as the episodes were coming out during S1. They add depth and complexity to the characters (and are, imho, singularly the most *profoundly insightful* pieces of writing Rifujin-sensei has ever produced) but 90% of the time are simply repeating the same events from a new perspective. HOWEVER, when adapted to an audio-visual medium, you can SHOW both perspectives simultaneously and let the audience infer what's going on in a secondary character's mind through the use of voice acting, animation, staging, lighting, OST, and sound design thereby allowing the anime-only audience to receive 90% of the same information that was conveyed during those same events in the novels.
The "missing" Eris POV is the primary example of this disconnect between how little LN readers think Anime-onlys are inferring and how much is being successfully communicated to them even if they themselves can't properly articulate what it was they took away from any particular scene. I highly recommend paying close attention to Eris' face in the 3 following episodes after the events of Turning Point 2 RATHER THAN READING THE SUBTITLES (dub watchers have an advantage here but BOTH performances do an incredible job) and you'll see (and hear) what I'm talking about. Sure we don't get every beat of her thought process spelled out for us in quite the same level of detail as in her POV chapter, but you can sense her inner conflict while watching Rudeus practice Disturb Magic as they ride into the outskirts of Fittoa and her heartache at seeing him standing forlornly in the ruins of his destroyed childhood home. The idea that she doesn't feel "worthy" of him is already being communicated by her facial expressions and her body language. Her letter stating how they aren't "well-balanced" in combination with that visual information is already providing context clues to the viewer as to what's going on in her head. In her final scene you can hear the sheer depth of her love give way to a deeply instilled sense of self-loathing, just by the tone of her voice, as she hoists Rudeus up onto that pedestal. Yet as she nears the end of her melancholic monologue more of that brash, passionate nature of hers seeps back into her delivery as pours her heart out.
To quote Harry Plinkett: "It's so subtle, you might not have even noticed... but your brain did."
The only emotion you could argue was nerfed by the adaptation is the depths of her self-loathing for having "taken advantage of him" after their night together but they still get a line in about their age and size difference, which when heard in her self-flagellating tone describing how "awful" she's been to him, you can easily make that inference. But you might also say "AHA even in those 3 episodes they left out how devastated she was when Rudy beat her using the demon eye after she finally gained some confidence in her strength" to which I say: Watch Ep 13: Missed Connections and, again, pay attention to Eris. Every part off the Buffalo was used.
They also never deliberately spell out her ardent belief that Rudeus is so strong and smart and amazing and brave and perfect that regardless of whatever she wrote as she struggled to find the words to leave in her letter, he would just clairvoyantly understand her intentions.... but you don't really NEED that spelled out for you when her final appearance is her shouting to the high heavens about how in love she is directly juxtaposed with Rudeus reverting to his former self-image shut away in his bedroom after very specifically misunderstanding the meaning of her words and actions! "I LOVE THIS MAN she screams as the man she loves thinks to himself "I can't believe she doesn't love me anymore." Seeing that, anyone could conclude "Were you expecting him to just KNOW what you meant??" Yes. Yes she was.
The Eris' POV wasn't "skipped content"... it was integrated. It's broken up and repurposed in bits and pieces over the course of 4, count 'em, FOUR separate episodes but 99% of it is there if you know what to look for (which for anime onlys is considered rewatch value).
By going through this in such agonizing detail I hope I'm properly communicating one of the greatest hang ups LN readers seem to have (or adaptational purists in general) relative to their expectations: You are putting entirely too much value into dialogue, monologue, and the text of a script relative to every other element the medium has to offer. The absence of TEXT does not diminish the SUBTEXT. An individual viewer might not know WHY they believe a character motivation exists as it does, but by and large most will pick up on those details whether it be deliberate (in the case of a certain psychologist youtuber who keeps nailing plot predictions over and over BECAUSE ALL OF THE INFORMATION YOU NEED IS RIGHT, THE F**K, THERE) or subconsciously (in the case of most passive audience members).

PART 1 (COUR 2): THE RESCHEDULENING (aka MATH)

Now, having detailed how a POV chapter can actually be efficiently absorbed into the runtime of the show without disrupting or sidetracking the main narrative, let's re-examine the topic of how (as well as why) this affects the production schedule. As I previously stated, overall Volume 1-9 have quite a number of POV chapters to work around as buffers to the rest of the content. Don't believe me? Let me break it down a bit more then:
Vol 1 contains ~ 2 1/2 POV chapters out of 10 = 25% Vol 2 contains ~ 2 3/4 POV chapters out of 11 = 25% Vol 3 contains ~ 1 POV chapters out of 15 = 6.5% (one of the longer action heavy volumes, yet only 3 eps) On average ~19% of content is POV. Vol 4 contains ~ 2 1/4 POV chapters out of 12 = 19% Vol 5 contains ~ 4 POV chapters out of 11 = 36% Vol 6 contains ~ 2 1/4 POV chapters out of 15 = 15% On average ~23% of content is POV. Vol 7 contains ~ 1 1/4 POV chapters out of 8 (technically 9, short prologue + epilogue combined) = 15.5% Vol 8 contains ~ 2 POV chapters out of 12 = 17% Vol 9 contains ~ 3.75 POV chapters out of 12.5 (several very short POVs, adjusted for fairness) = 30% On average ~21% of content is POV. Vol 10 contains ~ 2 POV chapters out of 14 = 14% Vol 11 contains ~ 2 POV chapters out of 16 = 12.5% Vol 12 contains ~ 1 1/2 POV chapters out of 16 = 9% On average ~12% of content is POV. \Note* Several chapters are not purely dedicated to secondary character POVs but rather "cut aways" between Rudy's own perspective and are occasionally EXTREMELY short (I assigned 1/4 amounts for especially short POVs to give them weight, but to prevent over-representing them. Additionally while chapters vary in length they generally represent individual events which I feel is a more apt form of measurement to relate to the anime adaptation in place of page counts (you're not gonna find the table of contents, copyrights, or the author's afterward being adapted after all). These are VERY rough estimations and should not be taken as "objective" measurements.))
Look at that proportional difference for Volume 10-12 relative to the other cours. While production had the advantage of consistently folding a little more than 1/5 of the content into the current runtime the current cour has almost 10% more content competing for the same amount of screen time as the cour before it. In fact, it's significantly LESS screen time as only the 1st episode bypassed the OP/ED compared to Cour 1's 4 episodes (and if you include the OVA, cour 1 already had a 24 minute head start in addition to the extra 3 per ep for a whopping total of 36 extra minutes of runtime over cour 2), Even if we're exceedingly generous and assume the next 4 episodes skip the OP/ED each, that would still leave it at a 24 minute disadvantage just in comparison to cour 1, not to mention the additional screen time afforded to S1 as I've already covered.

Part 3: Screen Time as a Resource (aka Content / Time = Stress)

In a novel characters can engage in chapter length diatribes or strategic planning in their own heads, engage in "talking is a free action" whilst in a fight to the death, and all sorts of ridiculous temporal bending contrivances that simply do not translate to the screen where time is the single most precious commodity (unless you're a shonen protagonist charging up your kamehameha). So let's view this from the scriptwriters' perspective to understand why they are forced to make some very difficult choices. As you are starting work on your assigned episode(s), the show's production committee makes the call that while previously you were afforded as much as ~300 minutes (5 hours) to convey ~1K pages of material, this time you only get ~255 minutes (4 1/4 hours) to convey ~1200 pages of the same density of material. Much more information to convey in much less time and you only JUST BARELY scrapped by to include as much as you could the last 3 times. That's means that at a MINIMUM, 200 of those pages are destined for the cutting room floor.
Though speaking of shounen protagonists, action set pieces are extraordinarily useful for either expanding OR condensing a scene's runtime by exactly as much as you need to fit within an episode's runtime. Need to add time? Go balls-to-the-wall, high-octane, budget-melting sakuga insanity that outshines even the source material (Turning Point 2/Eris vs Assassins) or you can condense high page counts into surprisingly short runtimes while still conveying the impact and information stored in those several pages worth of text. High impact, malleable screen time, same information conveyed. More time to dedicate to world building and secondary character development. As such, S1 (cour 2 especially) had a TREMENDOUS amount of leeway in how much they wished to expand OR condense action scenes at their discretion compared to the (comparatively) action-lite S2 (for Cour 1 at least).
So then you might ask with Cour 2 revving up the action again, why is it instead CUTTING tons of those action scenes rather than merely truncating them to make space for dialogue scenes like the prior cours? The short answer is there's already no time to spare. The longer, more complex answer is action scenes can't exist in a vacuum. In the same way you have to accelerate and decelerate in your car evenly to get from point A to point B safely, you can't simply hit 0-60 mph in under 2 seconds and you certainly can't go from 60 to 0 in a fraction of a second unless you want an episodes' pacing to liquify like your internal organs. Before, during, and sometimes after a fight scene is initiated, several questions need to be answered for the audience like "Who/what is fighting?" "Where are they positioned?" "What is the level of threat?" "What are the stakes?" "What are the win conditions?" with greater or fewer questions depending on the complexity of the scene or it's meaning to the character(s). Failing to provide the audience adequate answers to these questions can easily result in a nonsensical farce.... unless that's literally your intention. Thankfully, the requirement for winding down action is much simpler. After a beat of heightened tension, your protagonist simply lowers their guard/weapon and the message communicated to the audience is "the threat is over" and within seconds you can move to the next scene.
Most major encounters follow this rhythm throughout the series, with individual chapters dedicated solely to these fights, spanning page counts that are generally (but not always) on the higher end. In general, there are only 1-2 major battles per volume. Vol 11 and 12, by contrast, have several chapters that contain a half dozen individual skirmishes apiece that make adapting the material a total NIGHTMARE to pick and choose what makes the cut. So as an example, a weirdly high amount of time is seemingly spent establishing the succubus encounter in ep 19. Why you may ask? So they could ride those same rules of engagement straight into the following montage to inform the audience "these fights possess the same rules of engagement we just established" without having to spend the additional time winding up each one individually (another, more humorous example, is Ruijerd "dueling" the 3 North God students in a row). The montage also pulls double duty by conveying both the passage of time and distance. You'd think truncating roughly 1/5 of the entire volume into a scant 60 seconds would give them plenty of extra time to work with, but sadly, the ability to condense content is still only enough to break even with the established pace.
Another major element that placed Season 2 at a massive disadvantage is that Season 2 had to use it's precious 25th episode OVA to *catch up* on content that was deferred from Season 1 as Sylphy's POV chapters starting all the way back in Vol 4 did not make the cut. So rather than getting a jump start, the OVA was actually just catching up on deferred content that could not be included DESPITE all of the tremendous advantages I've previously discussed. And even then, it still needed to skip all but a few scant details from the intervening chapters that bridge the gap between Sylphy becoming Silent Fitz and Ariel's entire entourage fleeing to Ranoa's University of Magic resulting in all but 5 of them being slaughtered by assassins in hideously gruesome fashion. In a nutshell, Season 2 actually only has 24 episodes to dedicate to itself, and most of the benefits of scheduling seems to have heavily favored Cour 1 over Cour 2.
At this point, assuming like everyone else who joined up with Studio Bind, you are yourself a massive fan of the series and absolutely love these novels, you are effectively being asked to CHOOSE your favorite children chapters to sacrifice in the name of ending the season at a satisfying arc conclusion. Sure you could just adapt at the same rate of chapters-to-screen time as before and conclude the final 12th episode with THAT THING THAT HAPPENS but somehow I feel like doing so would result in death threats being strapped to a brick and hurled through your office windows. You've certainly maintained the integrity of the show's original pacing, but telling fans to sit tight until the next production cycle is ready in another 2-3 years feels like a recipe for disaster.
And frankly, Vol 12 has some INTENSELY heavy dialogue/monologue scenes filing out the back half of the volume that are going to need significantly more screen time to convey the necessary information relative to the first half as it is ENTIRELY Rudy-centric. So the only way to get there with enough time to allow the season to reach a natural and satisfying conclusion and still hit all of the vitally necessary plot threads is to put those proverbial chapter babies containing some of your favorite character interactions and world building on the alter as a ritual sacrifice for more time on the clock. And what did those sacrifices get you? 5 episodes. A range of 105-117 minutes (depending on OP/ED usage) of screen time to cover the single densest volume since vol 3 (see above). Barely one episode ahead of pace (but in terms of available screen time still barely ahead) of prior cours. And if you think it's unfortunate that ACTION was being cut, oh lordy I have some *bad news for you.\*

Part 4: Screenwriting as an Artform (aka how write story gud)

"But why are they STILL so stretched for time if they have access to and are utilizing all of these time-saving techniques?" Well I'm hoping the previous 3 parts of this gargantuan multi-tiered super essay have helped establish the constraints Studio Bind are working under compared to the prior cours. Cour 2 is working with significantly LESS screen time, with MORE events to manage and they're already so stretched for time that even multi-chapter spanning story events like the Merchant caravan are being cut entirely, rather than merely abridged, to make up that difference.
The requirement for "essential viewing" grows ever higher as mundane scenes like coming in and out of the teleporter still HAVE to be given priority over fan-beloved moments of character development because as uninteresting as those kinds of expository, utilitarian scenes are, they serve a far more vital purpose in a screenplay for communicating to the audience the "BUT, THEREFORE, BECAUSE" flow of script writing (watch the video it's extremely short and a great explainer, but essentially "But = Complication", "Therefore = Next logical action", "Because = Character motivation for performing said action"). You literally cannot skip these unremarkable, bog standard scenes because doing so would commit one of the deadliest sins of storytelling that I was alluding to when discussing how to establish action scenes: The Discontinuity of the dreaded "AND THEN" statement. If you're watching a movie and it's a series of "and then this happened and then that happened and then this person showed up" it ceases to be less a story so much as watching someone's attention span annihilating slideshow of vacation photographs.
As an example, scenes like the ones that establish how, where, and why Rudy and Elinalise use the teleporter to get from Ranoa to Begaritt are slow, mundane, and heavily time consuming and yet are so absolutely necessary as a scriptwriter to take the time to make sure the audience can follow along the logical thru-line for how these scenes connect to one another. If you skip such seemingly trifling, yet necessary information, the audience is not going to react by saying "oh THAT SCENE I LOVE is coming up" but rather "wait, why are we in a desert?"
As an example I'll use the last 2 episodes to demonstrate. The logical flow of episode 19 into 20 proceeds as follows (some parts are truncated for *relative* brevity):
"Rudy needs to leave for Rapan. THEREFORE he tells everyone goodbye, BUT Nanahoshi knows how to teleport there. THEREFORE he changes his route with Elinalise. THEREFORE they get prepared BECAUSE they want to save Zenith, BUT Cliff proposes to Elinalise BECAUSE he feels his lack of commitment was making her nervous. THEREFORE Elinalise is caught off guard BECAUSE she originally intended to leave without telling him to break off their relationship. THEREFORE she accepts his proposal. THEREFORE they travel to the teleporter, BUT teleporters are considered a source of danger to adventurers. THEREFORE they study it first as a safety precaution. THEREFORE they verify it's safe operation and use it. THEREFORE they arrive in Begaritt, BUT they are attacked by a Succubus. THEREFORE Rudy needs to detox himself BECAUSE they want to keep their promise to Cliff and Sylphy. THEREFORE they continue their sexless journey, BUT they are attacked several more times. THEREFORE they kill the monsters and proceed with caution. THEREFORE they arrive in Rapan in ~6 weeks. THEREFORE Geese is surprised to see them when they arrive, BECAUSE he only sent the letter so recently. THEREFORE he takes them to see Paul. THEREFORE they reunite with Paul, BUT Paul has fallen back into depression BECAUSE they lost Roxy while failing to find Zenith. THEREFORE Rudy tells Paul about his marriage and pregnancy with Sylphy. THEREFORE Paul recovers BECAUSE of the joy and pride he feels for his son BUT still feels worthless BECAUSE of his failures. THEREFORE Paul finally notices Elinalise. THEREFORE he apologizes BECAUSE ....uh y'know that thing that happened. THEREFORE Paul and Elinalise reconcile BUT Paul is confused that she didn't sleep with Rudy BECAUSE of her curse. THEREFORE she explains her husband Cliff's magic tool BUT Paul can't believe she has a husband. THEREFORE they get into another spat BUT the rest of the party returns during their argument THEREFORE Rudy learns that Roxy is lost in the labyrinth. THEREFORE Rudy starts to panic as the party begins to squabble. THEREFORE Elinalise takes Rudy's shoulder to draw his attention BECAUSE she realized he was panicking. THEREFORE Rudy asks to be caught up on the situation. THEREFORE Paul describes the difficulty of the Teleportation Labyrinth. THEREFORE Rudy gives Geese the book detailing it's depths which he borrowed BECAUSE he would be using a teleporter to get to Begaritt, BUT it will take Geese time to read it. THEREFORE Paul calls the meeting to a close to allow Geese to adjust their strategy using the book. THEREFORE Rudy, Paul, and Lilia start talking, BUT Paul is still a crude dude. THEREFORE the topic turns to sex BUT Lilia is in denial about being a total sex freak. THEREFORE Paul teases her BECAUSE he knowns how much she likes it rough. THEREFORE they retire for the night after some locker room talk. THEREFORE they depart for the labyrinth the following day. THEREFORE they reach the labyrinth and begin their descent, BUT Paul is breaking formation to show off in front of Rudeus. THEREFORE Elinalise scolds him, BECAUSE she wants to keep her family safe. THEREFORE Paul flippantly dismisses her claims of thinking of him like a son, BUT he is unaware of their connection through Sylphy. THEREFORE they continue further into the Labyrinth maintaining their formation, BUT they encounter new monsters. THEREFORE Rudy starts to cast a spell, BUT Talhand advises him not to use fire BECAUSE it fills a room with poison BECAUSE the concept of carbon monoxide poisoning exists but isn't fully understood in this universe BUT he also advices not attacking the ceiling BECAUSE it could cause a cave-in. THEREFORE Rudy uses ice magic to kill the remaining monsters. THEREFORE they advance to the second stratum in proper formation. THEREFORE they breeze through the second formation and take a break before entering the third. THEREFORE Geese uses the opportunity to inform Rudy that the next section is where Roxy went missing and may still be near that area BECAUSE teleporter traps only warp victims within the same stratum. THEREFORE as they approach where they lost Roxy, Geese asks Rudy where he'd look for Roxy based on his intuition. AND THEN Using his intuition, Rudy notices condensation on a wall and uses his Roxy Odor Snoof Sense to detect Roxy's location through a damn wall despite being a contrivance BUT it's the same contrivance used in the source material THEREFORE shut up. THEREFORE we cut to Roxy BUT she's being surrounded by monsters. THEREFORE she casts numerous spells to hold them at bay, BUT she runs out of mana. THEREFORE she believes she's about to die BUT Rudy saves her just in the nick of time. THEREFORE Roxy is shaken to her core at the sight of the man who saved her despite not recognizing Rudy, BUT then her POV didn't play out the way it did in the novels THEREFORE LN purists got upset BECAUSE they assumed her POV had been cut BUT they forgot that Roxy's POV has always been shown tremendous favoritism by Studio Bind THEREFORE they jumped to conclusions unaware it would happen the following episode.

THEREFORE Calm down and let Studio Bind cook

Effectively the point I hope I have demonstrated is that there IS a logical and consistent thru-line from scene to scene to scene that an audience can follow (and if you want to improve as a screenwriter, this is a GREAT exercise to figure out what makes your favorite shows tick. It's basically the screenwriter's equivalent to tracing someone else' art as practice). Even these unfairly maligned episodes have a viewing experience that provides a consistent sense of pacing. But if you want to know WHAT precisely feels different about them? Well if I had chosen to break down episodes from any of the prior 3 cours (or the best episodes of this cour), you'd be seeing the word BECAUSE significantly more to fill out every action, reaction, and complication along the way. If "THEREFORE" and "BUT" are the easel and canvas, which are necessary to even begin the process of creating art, then "BECAUSE" is the screenwriter's paintbrush that allows them to breathe life and detail into the characters on screen. The prior 3 cours were awash with "BECAUSE" statements detailing why characters are behaving the way they are in every individual scene so if there's one crime that can legitimately be pinned against several episodes in the latest cour, it's "JUST 'CUZ."

PART FINAL: The TL;DR (aka the... tl;dr)

So having laid all this out in such verbose, granular detail, what exactly does all of this mean?
To put it bluntly, Season 1 being such a near-perfect masterwork of adaptation spoiled the ever loving hell out of us. Having gorged ourselves on that expectation, we've ruined our appetites because now such perks are simply anticipated as standard with a vocal minority now irked by the use of a standard OP simply because it follows the conventions of the medium or (stay with me here) committing the sin of appealing to shonen fans. I know, truly a crime worthy of sudoku because of 14 seconds depicting one of the single most important events in the series. I truly don't understand (seriously, explain it to me please).
The current cour is merely receiving the same treatment most adaptations are given while still outperforming its peers if weekly rankings are anything to go by. Episodes range from pretty good to excellent (Norn and Nanahoshi's spotlight eps being the highlights thus far despite some grumbling) with even the extremely barebones Ep 19 squeezing in what sparse worldbuilding nuggets it can despite the plot literally necessitating that Rudy book it from one side of the planet to the other within a 21 minute period (a production level pacing decision you are still free to criticize). As I said earlier (but it bears repeating) these episodes are a good adaptation of Rudy's story rather than the whole that makes up MT because it simply doesn't have the screen time to focus on anything that falls outside the scope of his perspective given the sheer breadth of competing narrative essential content. As a show, these episodes are still delivering a cohesive and engaging thru-line by being glued to Rudy's perspective. So as long as Rudy remains interesting to watch the audience will be more than satisfied.
Expecting the same anomalous level of dedication AND leniency from the production committee to happen for every season was unfortunately nothing but a pipe dream. Cour 2 is now being forced to make due with what it has and while they are doing a commendable job given the heavy restrictions, it is completely unreasonable to expect them to fit so much into such tight confines. It is the adaptation equivalent of being asked to fit everything into one grocery bag, but not wanting the bag to be heavy.
Could this cour have been scheduled better? Absolutely. Was it possible certain changes to the script or episode direction could have provided more opportunities to explore the cut content? Of course. Is it still a total bummer that the realities of production that have compromised the artistic integrity of our beloved peak fiction? Without a doubt.
We are simply going to have to get used to the fact that S1 may never be topped with our only hope being the return of the waifu-wars for S3 rekindles the beefs between animators vying for shot assignments (which may hopefully still be in the cards god willing).
Of course, I'm not a future seer, so maybe, just maybe, Studio Bind bursts into flames and all of the footage is lost resulting in the quality of the last 3 episodes to be the worst drop off of a television show since the final season of Game of Thrones. If that is the case then I'll be eating more crow than I ever have in my life. But if Studio Bind sticks the landing and delivers on the emotional climax to one of the most beloved arcs among the fanbase that we've anticipated for years, then please calm it down with these exaggerated "cutting content is ruining the show" claims.
Thank you from coming to my Ted Talk and enjoy the rest of the season everyone.
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2024.06.09 22:46 Ok-Walk7881 Stoltz has nerve damage and facial fractures from that spinning elbow

Stoltz has nerve damage and facial fractures from that spinning elbow
Ouch.
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2024.06.09 22:45 Current_Two_7395 Non scale victory... i threw away stale donuts!

Happened this morning! Me and a group of our friends (10 people) got an airbnb together for a weekend away. Yesterday, my husband walked down to the local donut shop and bought 2 dozen for breakfast. There were about 5 donuts left in various pieces when we were all full. This morning we all packed up to leave and go back home, and the donuts were still on the counter in the box. A friend tried to have one and declared them as too stale to be worth eating, so nobody wanted to eat one or take one home.
So.... i threw the box away! Even just this time last year, i would NEVER have been able to do that. My binge eating disorder was so out of control that i absolutely would have taken all the stale, crusty pieces home and eaten them all. Hell, i probably would have snuck the remaining donuts during the day yesterday and there wouldn't be any left for us to even have the conversation today.
Thank god for these meds and the complete cut down of the food noise ❤️
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