Live Music

• Jim Lamb, Mill Top Tavern, 12:00 pm – 4:00 pm
• Smokin' Joe Schauer, Tradewinds Lounge, 1:00 pm – 4:00 pm
• Jim Johnston, Pierre's Pub, 1:00 pm – 5:00 pm
• Reggie Starrett, Mill Top Tavern, 4:30 pm – 8:30 pm
• Burn Unit, The Tides Oyster Co. & Grill, 5:00 pm – 8:00 pm
• Evan D, Guy Harvey Resort, 5:00 pm – 8:00 pm
• Gary Douglas Campbell, O.C. White's Seafood, 5:30 pm – 8:30 pm
• Adam Latiff, Pierre's Pub, 6:00 pm – 10:00 pm
• Rob Peck, Fuzion 904 Eatery, 6:00 pm – 9:00 pm
• Alex Richman, Fuzion 904 Eatery, 6:00 pm – 9:00 pm
• Sam Pacetti, Old Coast Ales, 6:00 pm – 9:00 pm
• Those Guys, Music and Art by the Sea 2024, 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm

Wednesday Pier Farmers Market

• The Wednesday Pier Farmers Market at the St. Johns County Pier offers fresh fruit, vegetables, bread, and local arts and crafts every week**.** With a number of different vendors, visitors can find a variety of unique, quality goods. Each item is handcrafted by these dedicated artists, and the food is locally grown and handpicked.
• This beachside farmers market makes for a great outing on Wednesday mornings. Visitors can browse the huge selection of locally grown goods and then afterward take a stroll along scenic St. Augustine Beach. Farmers markets boost the local economy by giving local merchants an outlet to sell their wares. They also benefit the community by offering fresh, local, seasonal foods.
• Admission: FREE
• When: 8:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. every Wednesday
• Where: St. Johns County Pier Park is located at the St. Johns County Ocean Pier at 350 A1A Beach Blvd in St. Augustine Beach, Florida 32080

Music and Art by the Sea 2024

• Season 22 of Music and Art by the Sea begins May 22, 2024, and continues each Wednesday through June 25, 2024, from 3:00 to 9:00 p.m. After taking a break during the summer's hottest weeks, the event starts again and runs for seven weeks from August 14 through September 25, 2024.
• Music and Art by the Sea begins each Wednesday at 3:00 p.m. and features a weekly art show, live music, and the option to purchase dinner from a local food truck — all on beautiful St. Augustine Beach. DJ Dan from VIP Entertainment will start playing tunes each week at 5:30 p.m.
• From 7:00 to 9:00 p.m., attendees can enjoy live music performed by a local musician or group. A different musical act performs each week so that many genres are represented throughout the summer — from jazz and R&B to disco, Americana, folk, classic rock, and pop, among others.
• Guests are welcome to bring coolers and picnic baskets. Chairs and bug spray are encouraged. Chairs can be placed in the pavilion as early as 4:00 p.m. Each week, from 5:00 to 8:00 p.m. (or when the food runs out) at least one food truck from the Village Garden Food Truck Park will offer menu items for snacks or dinner.
• The bands and food trucks are subject to change. For updated information check the Music by the Sea website or the event's Facebook Page.
• Admission: Free
• When: 3:00 to 9:00 p.m. on select Wednesdays from May 22 through September 24, 2024. Chairs cannot be placed in the pavilion before 4:00 p.m. Music by the Sea will take a break after the June 25 show, and start up again on August 14. A local art show opens each week at 3:00 p.m. The food trucks start serving at 5:00 p.m. DJ Dan plays tunes beginning at 5:30 p.m., and the live music concert starts at 7:00 and goes until 9:00 p.m.
• Where: St. Augustine Beach Pier is located at 350 A1A Beach Blvd. St. Augustine Beach, FL 32080.

Improv Night at Colonial Oak Music Park

• Trained comedy professionals dive headfirst into any challenge the audience throws at them in this unscripted, interactive comedy experience held each Wednesday at Colonial Oak Music Park in Historic Downtown.
• Suitable for the whole family, the show is always clean and never mean. Staged by First Coast Comedy, Improv Night features comedians trained by actor and comedian, Alex Grindeland, and veteran improv comedian, David Bogan.
• Admission: There is no set price, and ticket donations of $10.00 to $25.00 are appreciated. Tickets can be purchased in advance, or on the day of the show, for this general admission seating event.
• When: 7:30 to 9:00 p.m. Wednesdays through 2024
• Where: The Colonial Oak Music Park is located at 21 St. George St. in Historic Downtown.

Joanna Connor At Cafe Eleven

• Cafe Eleven presents Joanna Connor in their listening room on Monday, May 22, 2024, at 8:00 p.m.
• Demonstrated by successful albums like Fight, Living on the Road, and Rock and Roll Gypsy, Joanna Connor, a singer, songwriter, and guitarist, proves she is more than just a blues vocalist.
• During her early years, she collaborated with renowned musicians like Samy Lawhorn, Otis Rush, and Magic Slim, among others. Her reputation grew, leading to shared stages with icons such as Etta James, Jay Hawkins, and other sensational bands.
• Joanna Connor remains a dynamic performer, captivating audiences with her impassioned voice, lyrically charged compositions, and raw emotional delivery.
• Admission: Tickets cost $25.00 if purchased in advance and $30.00 on the day of the show. Reserved table seating costs $35.00. Purchase tickets in advance online or purchase them at Café Eleven on the day of the show.
• When: Monday, May 22, 2024, at 8:00 p.m.
• Where: Cafe Eleven, located at 501 A1A Beach Boulevard, St. Augustine, Florida, 32080.

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i just turned 15 years old, my birthday was just basic nothing cool. but besides the point, the last month~ i’ve had 0 motivation and excitement for anything. yesterday i was hanging out with some of my friends and i was completely drained after less than an hour. i just couldn’t be bothered to do anything, i went home shortly after and i felt empty. i couldn’t bring myself to do anything not even school today, i was so unmotivated to do anything i told my mom i was sick to get out. in school too i can’t be motivated to do anything more than the bare minimum, idk if this is because it’s almost the end of the year or something else. but my grades are still fine, with mostly low B’s. after school, i jusy get home, lay in bed, and just lie there until i have to do it again. everyday jusy a single race to the fucking weekend. also, idk if i should’ve said this earlier, but in my “friend group” i’m kinda the odd one out almost always, if a hangout isn’t at my house, i probably wasn’t invited. i don’t know why, because i’m not rude to them, or treat them differently as each other. it’s just like im never there, i often feel ignored such as during lunch i’m talking and someone just fully talks over me not caring at all and i’m jusy there sitting. i don’t have any “true loyal” friends, and sometimes it does bother me, i wish i could have some people i can call real friends that i trust. but i just don’t. my parents always are pushing me to do things that i don’t want to do at all. like going to the gym and having friends over. i don’t like having friends over at all, the only time it ever happens is when i’m sort of forced to and then i still feel like the one lefy out. besides the friend part, i’ve felt really just hollow inside of that makes sense. nothing really seems to bother me much, nor do i care enough to do somethijg about it. it’s like i’m just there, no big role or anything important but jusy there. it’s caused me to lash out sometimes, yesterday my mom was just asking me what i wanted for dinner, (i love her she’s the nicest) and i just didn’t care at all to answer and kept on my way up the stairs. i didnt realize what just happened until a few hours later. but back to my hangout with my freidns yesterday, i was fine and just chilling until around 45 mibures we were watching a baseball game and i just kept putting my head down, partially because i was tired, but i was just drained inside to do the minimum. it was like i was on a timer for socializing and the. it just ended within an instant, i’ve kinda have felt like an otwice for the last 2 years ish ever since i stopped getting invited to things, i don’t know why, in the last peobably 9 months i’ve been out to a friends house 4 times, and 3 of those times was because i lied and said i couldn’t host. when i definitely could my parents LwYs have been pushing me to have people over especially for the last 2 months ish, i’m not currently in a sport and she thinks i’m jusy rotting my life away. that’s really it. apologies for grammar and spelling errors. i just had to tell this to someone, i don’t have anyone i trust enough to admit this too. i just need this out of my system

Basically the title. I am 10w3d today. My first tests were ran by a fertility clinic (we were referred after 10 months TTC unsuccessfully and I was diagnosed with PCOS. Naturally got pregnant after referral!). Despite not having treatment with them, the fertility clinic watched our pregnancy up to 9 weeks and everything has been great so far.
Today was my first appointment at my OBs office. They scheduled me with a NP I didn’t particularly like, but I figured I can establish care and request a different doc in the future. The NP walks in, and without even saying hello states “you are bleeding?” I said no….. and she said “I’m sorry you are having a miscarriage”.
WHAT.
Now I knew she was wrong because I just had a healthy ultrasound at 9w4d. AND SHE DIDNT DO ANY TESTS! This was my first time seeing her my entire pregnancy!
I basically told her she’s wrong and she’s silent for a while and then says “oh I opened the wrong chart.”
I. Was. Furious.
She ran to get us an ultrasound, idk if it’s to make me feel better but everything was fine. Our baby is okay and measuring great. We were able to see it move for the first time and hear the heartbeat for the first time (our fertility specialist never did the Doppler). These magical moments were overshadowed by anxiety and rage, it was almost impossible to enjoy it.
We asked to speak with a manager to complain while we were in with the ultrasound tech.
We were sent back to the exam room and the NP comes back and acts like nothing happened. “Oh, you are measuring 10 weeks congratulations. Here’s some info you need”. Never once apologized.
And the cherry on top, as she’s giving by me a vaginal swab for a culture she asks “I heard your husband wants to speak with a manager?” WHILE SHE IS BETWEEN MY LEGS SWABBING ME. I have never had a more inappropriate doctors appointment in my life.
We did speak to an assistant manager who was apologetic, and they put a flag on our chart to never schedule us with her again.
I’m glad everything is okay, I truly feel bad for her patients who actually have devastating news. She has no bedside manner. She is the last person in the world who should deliver it.
TLDR: doctor told me I was having a miscarriage without even examining me. Turns out she opened the wrong chart.

need opinions on situation
hi there! my ex and I were together for almost 5 years. everything was always great and amazing, we never fought and we got a long extremely well. we had an unbeatable connection and he truly understood me and I understood him. we both have goals and wanted a future together, we always had so much fun and did everything together and talked all the time when apart.
we broke up just over 3 weeks ago. we were doing long distance at this point as he was in school, but i did see him just a few weeks prior. it was a week and a half before summer where he was coming home. the reasons he gave me is that “we aren’t on the same wavelength” “we don’t click” “i don’t see a future with you” “i just don’t love you like that anymore”. Long story short, he did this on the phone while away. the first week i waited for him to come home so we could talk in person, i couldn’t accept what had happened and felt he would feel different when he actually saw me as these seemed like thoughts that maybe arose due to the distance.
However, when we talked, he was cold and distant. he gave me absolutely nothing and told me he had to be mean so that I get the point. However, I didn’t wanna stop trying. I gave him his space for a week and then contacted again. we talked on the phone for an hour and had a good conversation where he claimed he missed me, we planned to hangout a week later so that i could hopefully feel better. when we hung out we had a good time and at the end he finally gave me the genuine conversation I deserved and acted like himself. told me things like “your more than enough and i can’t even understand it but my mind can’t grasp that your more than enough for me” “your perfect everything about you and you have always been so good to me and what we had was amazing”. he told me how he loves and cares about me deeply and i know that i could feel it. he was in straight tears and when we said goodbye i could feel his pain, myself also was a wreck as i cried to him for 2 hours.
now, it’s been 1 day of me going into no contact. i want him to come back so bad and realize that he’s still in love with me. however, he seems extremely sure of his decision. I just can’t process how you can be so emotional and care about someone so much as he does and not think it’s right. we didn’t end on bad terms, there was never any issues and i have so much love for him, i can’t picture myself going on without him. how can i get him back or to realize what he’s loosing? i don’t want any BS.

Welp... I don't know if it's me and my pickiness or what but here I am resorting to good ole reddit. I have been single for almost 3 years now after a long term relationship. I took that time to work on myself and all the areas where I lacked and learned from my mistakes. Started to try and date again recently but I have learned that the dating apps are crappy, meeting girls at the bar or by going out end up to nothing, I can't seem to build a genuine connection with anyone.
A little bit about myself, I am an immigrant from Mexico and grew up here since I was 5 years old. I grew up with my basic needs being met and my parents gave me everything that they could and I am so grateful for that. That taught me to work for what I want and that is how I live my life. Anything you want you can achieve and or get based off of how bad you want it (super cliche, I know, but it is true). I did not finish college but I got into sales and I do very well for myself proving my parents and family wrong that you do not need a college degree to break the 6 figure mark. I am lucky to have a job that I love and treats me very well. I live a comfortable life along with my 4 year old Cane Corso. She is my best friend and has been there with me through the toughest times. She can be bit of a butthole when you first meet but she warms up pretty quick. I was raised to treat woman with respect, you treat your lady however you would want your daughter to be treated. I am a person that will show you respect from the get go, my trust has been broken many times but yet I give the benefit of the doubt. Seems like woman now a days prefer someone with no morals or respect to the other person and I find that sad. I deleted all my social media accounts like FB, SC, Insta... I found myself comparing my life to those online and there is a saying "Comparison is the thief of joy" so I decided to delete them all. I guess that is much more than a bit lol
All I want is to find someone that has the same values that I do. Family is a huge part of life. Hard work pays off. Honesty and respect is a must. I am emotionally mature and talk about how I feel, crazy how communication makes some people uncomfortable. I don't like to play games with people, I'm too old for that now. I have dreams and accomplishments I would like to share with someone. Single is nice and fun but having someone to talk to and have a real connection with sounds much better. If you made it this far, I thank you for taking minutes out of your day to read through it. Is there anyone out there that wants something somewhat similar to what I do?

being a ' victim ' of sexual abuse is crazy . im disabled for life because some relatives took pleasure in causing me pain . i cant talk about my experiences without making other people uncomfortable . but at the end of the day , the experiences were so mild in comparison to other types of trauma . i didnt watch my entire family get slaughtered in a genocide . i was never maimed . i spent a couple years getting touched and used by an uncle , and i was treated as my mentally disabled cousins stim - toy / cum - rag . oh no , poor elodie is incontinent and has trust issues and inappropriate sexual thoughts about being mistreated again . blah blah . thousands of people live everyday in worse conditions than me and yet still contribute more to society . if i had the means to , id finish the job i attempted . thats another funny thing though . my parents had no time for me all those years , pawning me off to be babysat by him while they ' HAD to ' work . letting him homeschool me and making me ' supervise ' my older cousin for years . yet when my adult self has finally had enough , and when i tried to take matters into my own hands , they suddenly have all the time in the world ? theyll jam their fingers down my throat to stop an overdose only to cover their ears when i tell them why im doing it ? la la la existence is lonely and exhausting and purposeless . feel free to tell me how pathetic this self - pity void is . or better yet , dont give me acknowledgement at all .

A San Francisco police officer who for years ran his nonprofit on department time also founded a Security firm without notifying the department, essentially holding three different roles: working as a cop, heading a nonprofit, and owning a small private security business.
Jason Johnson, who founded a nonprofit called Operation Genesis, which takes disadvantaged kids to Ghana every year, incorporated a private Security firm in 2022 called Mirador Security Inc. and failed to notify the department about the business. It is unclear whether the company has ever had any customers.
Department orders require that any officer seeking outside employment first ask for permission from their supervisors.
Every year, the department publishes a list of all the officers who have been given such permission and the businesses they work for.
Johnson’s name was not on its latest list, which detailed such activities in 2023. He was also not on the department’s 2022 list.
After this article was published, a spokesperson for the department replied to an inquiry from The Standard, saying, “we don't have any evidence to suggest Officer Johnson has done any work with his license.”
The SFPD said Johnson isn't required to notify the department unless he earns income from the business. The city's Department of Human Resources, however, has published guidelines that state city employees must receive approval before engaging in additional employment activities, which include, “business ownership, consulting, and working as an independent contractor.” A spokesperson for Human Resources confirmed under its intepretation, Johnson should have reported forming a business.
“Given the recent SF Safe scandal, I don’t believe the public has any faith in SFPD’s ability to investigate the propriety of its dealings with nonprofit organizations.”
Police Commissioner Max Carter-Oberstone
According to the state’s Bureau of Security and Investigative Services, Johnson has been licensed as a private Security Guard and owner-manager of his business since 2022, which was initially called Security Firm 7 Inc.
When The Standard called a number associated with Johnson and asked about Mirador Security, the man on the line said the firm is not active.
It is unclear how much time Johnson spends on the firm or what specific tasks he is responsible for.
The newest revelation about Johnson’s activities outside of his role in the police department is one more reason why an outside investigation needs to be conducted, said Police Commissioner Max Carter-Oberstone.
“All I can say is that there needs to be an independent investigation into what occurred here,” Carter-Oberstone said. “Given the recent SF Safe scandal, I don’t believe the public has any faith in SFPD’s ability to investigate the propriety of its dealings with nonprofit organizations.”
Johnson, who was investigated by the department for running his nonprofit when also getting paid by the department as a cop, did not respond to a request for comment about the security firm.
The Standard previously reported that Johnson’s roughly 40-hour work week for Operation Genesis was sanctioned for years by the department, which paid him his salary during that time.
The department said there was no conflict because Johnson was not paid by the nonprofit.
Much of Operation Genesis’ funding came from the City of San Francisco. When the nonprofit was initially created, it listed its headquarters address at the same location as the police department’s headquarters.
An Internal Affairs investigation into Johnson and the nonprofit launched last year alleged that he failed to investigate misconduct, had an unreported relationship and had no formal agreement with the department.
The investigation only concluded that the entity had no memorandum of understanding, a document that would serve to codify the arrangement between SFPD and the nonprofit. The department said it was in the process of writing an MOU.
The 2022 tax filings for Operation Genesis, the latest available, listed Johnson as a board member and president. But he is no longer included as a board member of the nonprofit, according to its website.
The investigation, which came on the heels of the scandal involving another SFPD-linked nonprofit called SF SAFE, prompted a police commissioner and city supervisors to raise questions about what they saw as a conflict of interest.
Former officers said that while officers have often been assigned to work alongside nonprofits from time to time, they are never allowed to do so when the nonprofit is one they run.
The Department of Human Resources Additional Employment Request guidelines state, “Any employee violating the additional employment requirements is subject to disciplinary action, up to and including termination of employment.”

I'm not calling it "the Prank" because that's not a term used in the books, IIRC; it's a fanon term. However, that's not my question. An anti-Snape post came across my Tumblr dash today, basically saying Snape should have known better than to spy on a werewolf during the full moon, and that Sirius wouldn't be so stupid as to try to get another student killed, and the whole thing was much less dangerous and scary than everybody assumes.
Yes, we're in headcanon territory here, and the battle lines are pretty clearly drawn. Still not my question, though. When Snape fans started rebutting these theories, the claim was made that Dumbledore swore Snape to silence about his brush with death, which is why Snape never told anyone. Pretty sure I've made this claim myself.
But … where in the books does it say that? Does anyone remember? I'd love to have the source for the (very plausible) idea that Dumbledore made Snape promise to keep Lupin's condition a secret. That he basically pressured him to keep quiet.
But is it true? Or is it fanon that's been repeated so many times we Snape fans just quote it as gospel? Is it possibly something JKR explained later in an interview?
If there's no actual evidence for it in the text, then I need to know so I can stop repeating it. 🫤

Did a DECT (dual energy CT) scan and it revealed I have a cortical erosion on the metatarsal toe bone. No uric crystals were detected. Can a bad/fractured sesamoid cause this?
Seems like my fractured sesamoid has calcification does that mean it’s healing? I’ve been in a boot for months.
Rheumatologist told me I likely have gout. But all the pain always started from the sesamoid area before swelling in joint near the sesamoid occurred.
Drs won’t entertain that the swelling could be sesamoid related. Has anyone had gout like flares but was later revealed it was sesamoid related? Strangely I had no flares ever since I’ve been in a boot. (Knock on wood)
Need to see if it worth getting another opinion.

I broke up with my gf in January and we did a friend thing with fwb and I know she’s the most toxic person ever and I just can’t get rid of her, I’ve left her so many times and went back, she has bpd, blames me for everything, has shown randoms her tits when partying, and is now addicted to coke with a new friend group where none of them work or do anything with their lives, my ex works and by Friday her whole paycheck is gone on alcohol weed and cocaine, I know I’m better off and need to leave and I can tell she’s even over it now as she’s not viewing my shit anymore, I wanted her to get better even as a friend and she’s just an addict now with no aspirations or goals, I knew after a year she wasn’t the one for me, she drank and smoked daily, etc, we tried to get her in AA but it didn’t last long, she has lived paycheck to paycheck for the last 7 years even while living at home, there’s no future with her, I feel it’s because before her nobody dated me in 5 years so I feel I’ll never find someone else that’s normal since I’m not the best looking

I'm sure that title sounds a little melodramatic but I'll try to make a fairly succinct point to go with the sentiment.
I have spent so much time on earth waiting for something to happen to me. I think we all subconsciously think in our heads, one day, maybe with a little effort and good intentions, our life will come out alright. Nice and clean. Our life will finally be ready to be lived like a story, with a linear progression, everything falling into its place, eventually.
Of course anyone reading this that has been through any heartache in life knows that there is no beginning, middle and end. There are babies born every minute with decisions already made for them. There are good people dying every day who were perfectly decent if not understandably flawed, who had their life taken for no reason, suddenly. If they were lucky, they never saw it coming. Just like my brother, who died a month ago from an accidental overdose in a bathtub. He went to take a bath, made a wrong choice and.. that was that.
I don't know why I'm writing this. There's a lot of things happening in my life right now, but I know there's someone out there with this mindset I'm getting ready to address and I believe it may help some of you, who are as stubborn and set in their ways as I am, to come loose off the idea you hold so tight to and try to learn, alone with me, how to take each minute as it passes.
Every word you've read this far is in the past. You can go back and reread it, but it's already there casting shadows in your subconscious. Every day you live, you're expecting something new to happen, if you're not expecting novelty, you may be expecting the same comforts or sorrows you face all the time. I want to say to you now: There is nothing you know or see, or will know or have seen, that will set itself in stone before the heavy hand of time erodes your expectations back down to the bedrock.
There's a human right now, lying in a soggy sleeping bag under a bridge, thinking about a women he loved years ago and to be antithetical, there's a human lying in a king sized bed in one of his many bedrooms, thinking of nothing or plagued by symptoms of the same thing the man under the bridge is plagued with.. Life, in all its thievery and abundance, is being placed in front of you one block at a time, measured in moments. What does it take for a person to be happy?
"There are some mistakes too monstrous for remorse to tamper or to dally with" - Edward Arlington Robinson
If you have ever made a mistake or a choice in your life that you regret and all that regret does is cause more pain to bubble up and faster inside you to come out as more poor choices, do away with your regret and start making new, better choices.
Imagine being in a blank room. A prison cell. A place with only your memories and nothing new but tye indents in the concrete walls to show you any more newness, until eventually even the walls are mapped in your mind, every contrasting bubble or imperfections. Pardeolia creating warped faces at you, mocking you from inside your evolved simian brain. At one time in your evolutionary journey, you needed those instincts, to see threats in the darkness, but now we have shines a light on all things, and hidden the things we deem uncomfortable. Now, we sit in a prison of choices, but not choices for life. Choices for moments. What kind of food do you want, what color shirt will you wear, what movie will you watch?
We were not meant to live lives like this, but we have no choice anymore. Society is a runaway vehicle, with nothing to crash into, forever building tension and suspense. That's why some many of us are so nervous and uncomfortable here. There's danger, but it isn't coming from the darkness anymore. It's not predation or a scourge or a war, at least not for the Americans. Not just now.
I'm begging anyone who is having a hard time.. Anyone who has made true mistakes and regretsbtjose mistakes. Anyone who feels like it's hopeless, just keep doing anything. I don't care what it is. Try and make it something nice and useful. Be kind. THINK about what you're doing. You and your girlfriend are arguing? Find some way to make it okay andbif it can't be okay, be okay with the idea that it isn't okay and turn your mind to the next thing. Are you waiting on life changing news? A diagnosis? A prison sentence? Something awful? Something great? It will be there, when it gets there. For now, there are sights and sounds that you cannot predict, coming for you at all angles. Appreciate that. Embrace whatever this is and be at peace with it. I don't care what you believe, you cannot tell me you know anything for sure. I know that I will learn and cry and be surprised and not so surprised until the day I leave this world. I watch my son and my parents learn about life at the same pace. There is no learning curve, except for perspective.
I wrote all this and doubt it will be read by many and it doesn't mean anything really..
I wanted to take some of my precious time to tell you, whoever you are, that you are going to be okay. Whether you are well-off, happy, miserable, terminally I'll or just browsing your phone. One day, something bad will happen. One day something good will happen. One day, you will struggle to understand. One day, you will stand in the midst of all knowing.
I am not preaching so much as I am imploring you, admittedly rambling a bit, to take your life as it comes. When you feel you are at the worst points in life, just keep going. It will end eventually and you'll be okay then as well. Hug your family. Love each other. If you make a mistake, try to make it right, but if you can't, move on with better goals. Make this world better than it is, because we all have to live in it.
That's all I wanted to vomit out at the moment. I love you for being human. Know who you are and accept it. Don't run. There's absolutely nowhere to go. Just ride it out until there's a sudden and heavenly release of your tension. One day, you'll have to let go. Start practicing for that moment. Believe me, there's plenty of practice.
Be well. ❤️

I'm not talking about skill level here; I'm just genuinely confused why German teams can steamroll your team, but when they're on your side, they totally suck. You could be having a great match, and then your German teammate messes it all up. Need help capping? Nope, they're too busy spawn killing or completely missing the fact that you're about to lose without their help. Pinned down with a Tiger II next to you? Sorry, he's just gonna stroll away while a Pershing tears up your M109. They're either the most oblivious players, terrifying enemies, or the worst teammates ever. I just don't get it. I've had better luck with Russian teammates, and they're almost as dumb as German mains most of the time.
Just had a game that was decent, nothing too bad or great. I bring out my M109 wanting to lob HE for fun. I hit a Super Pershing's gun elevator because I mess up the shot, and he hits my engine before dipping back down. No biggie, I'll just ask my Tiger P teammate for help... wait, bro, where are you going?! Another Pershing comes over, Tiger P looks right at him, and just keeps driving. I get wrecked, and the Tiger P ends up dead too. He could have killed both Pershings but either somehow didn't notice them or just ignored them.

Hi All
Greetings from Fremont. We did remodel our kitchen many years ago and the contractor ordered one extra cabinet. Instead of returning then, we chose to keep it for some garage storage. We decided to get rid of it and I tried to return it to home depot, but they said they cannot take because of the return date. Now I need to sell, and it is still unused and in original package. How can we sell it? I tried craigslist and facebook market place, but no takers..

I wasn’t really sure how to title this post. I guess I’m just here to vent. I don’t like to vent to my husband because I don’t want him to resent my family and pretty much the same with friends. But basically I feel like I am not a part of my dads life and I feel like it’s starting to impact the relationship between my sister and I. I’ll first mention that I am the oldest of 5. My dad had 3 daughters with my mother and 2 kids with my step mom, 1 boy and 1 girl. Growing up it was just my sister and I. My parents were “married” but never lived together, I lived with my moms family. My dad would visit but my parents would fight and then he would leave. I don’t have too many memories of my dad where he would take us to the park, movies, sit with us and watch a movie, sit with me and ask about my friends at school. I was SA at 8 1/2 and my both my parents partially blamed me. No one did anything about it, no one called the police.
My dad had me young at 21. Parents divorced when I was 8. Then when I was 11 came our 3rd sister. A year and a half later he had our other sister with my step mom and less than a year after that he had my brother. Very odd I know. But growing up my dad was more of a strict parent. We weren’t even allowed to go outside and the house needed to be clean 24/7. When he got with my stepmom, they didn’t even tell me that she was pregnant and I was never invited to her babyshower. Then we were to go to some party and they just showed up with my sister in the carseat, she was already born a week ago. When I mentioned this to him, he said he thought I would be smart enough to see that she is visibly pregnant. So 3 months later they told me that she is having my brother which probably only because I said something about my sister. I didn’t find out that they got married until 2 years after. Now that my sister is 16, things are coming up that make me realize that I don’t have the dad they her and my brother have. They see him everyday. They get the dad to take them to school. Be there at bedtime. My brother pointed at a shirt and said look let’s get this for dad, I said why and he said “because it has an eagle on it” i said yeah and? He said because dad likes eagles how do you not know that?! I had no idea. They know all about his likes and dislikes. I don’t really know much. My sister is learning how to drive and asked me how was dad with me when teaching me…but he didn’t teach me. So it’s things like that.
Sorry that this is all over the place. Just a lot to unpack. For the record, I don’t speak to both my parents. I don’t hate my half siblings. If anything, it’s all worth it if he was a crappy parent to me so he could be great for them.

I made some poor financial decisions when I was in my late teens/early 20’s. I am turning 25 this year and have been working on fixing my financial situation, but I am very stuck on what to do about a car.
I currently have a 2021 Hyundai Kona, I switched over from leasing to financing 6 months ago and am EXTREMELY regretting my decision. I did as much research as I could understand but was told by the dealer I had no other option but financing as I was over on my lease mileage and didn’t have thousands of dollars lying around.
I owe $15,900 on my car loan, my payments are $330/mo and it has 67,000 miles. I am, according to the dealers, $4k upside down in my car and I don’t know what to do about this. My credit score is at 605, and it is moving up as I am currently working on my credit.
I’m looking for guidance about the car. I know that the more miles I put on it the worse of a situation I’m going to be in. At the same time, I need to get into a full sized SUV, not a crossover. This is a non negotiable and needs to be done within the next year, so please do not tell me this is a dumb decision in my current situation. I don’t know if financing or leasing would be better, but I am open to getting an older vehicle with lower than 100k miles if it would save me from screwing myself over. I am able to afford about $400-450/mo but would obviously prefer it to be a little as possible in my situation.
I am more so interested in what to do about my current vehicle. When I look online, it states the value is close to or over what I owe on the loan, but the dealerships tell me it is worth way lower (around $10k). I don’t know how to do a private sale, I’ve never sold a car before, and with that I wouldn’t have a vehicle if I did a private sale because I don’t have a second car.
I also do not want to end up upside down in yet ANOTHER car, so would working on my score and leasing be a better option? Or should I finance and somehow not end up upside down in another car? I feel like with financing unless you have perfect credit, you’re always going to end up paying way more than the car is worth.
Any ideas & advice would be greatly appreciated! Pls & thank you.

I posted this over on lawschooladmissions but I feel like this sub might give better advice. I am looking for thoughts/opinions on both of these schools. I have already paid my seat deposit for NU back in April and only found out about my acceptance to UW-Madison about a week ago(and their seat deposit is due tomorrow so they've put me in an awkward position). I am largely interested in going into public service or government work, so NU does seem like a good fit for me. I went to NU's admitted students day and was impressed by the co op program, as I graduated undergrad in 2021 and have already been working for three years so experiential learning is important to me. I also really enjoyed talking with the students I met there. However, UW-Madison is ranked #36 compared to NU's #68. Based on my stats, I feel lucky to have been accepted at UW-Madison and want to give it full consideration before I decide to change course when I've been planning on going to NU for the last month. I've asked several people I know in the legal field and most of them have just tried to tell me that Madison is a cooler city than people give it credit for. That's nice, but it doesn't tell me much about the school itself, or what my employment options will look like after graduation. So I thought I'd ask on here and hope that any current students or alumni from either school might share their thoughts. I've added more details below:
My main requirements when applying to law school were that the school 1) is either in Washington DC or a capital city the state it's located 2) has public policy/government concentrations, clinics, or externships available and 3) has international programs. The last one was just a personal thing for me because my juniosenior year in undergrad were wrecked by Covid and I never got to study abroad. I also would like to explore the options that US attorneys have to work internationally(I know those options are few, you don't need to tell me that.)
Both schools meet all three requirements. NU has co ops in cities all over the world and some of them are perfectly aligned with my interest areas. UW-Madison has some excellent exchange programs but not as many as NU, and I definitely don't have any intention to work in WI/IL/MN or even Chicago. My ultimate goal is to work in DC and based on employment stats it seems that roughly the same number of grads from both schools end up doing so. But if I had to choose a city to work in after law school, I'd probably choose Boston over Madison.
I've been told that outside of t14 schools, location matters more than ranking. If that's true I think I should stick with NU. Then there's the issue of cost. Madison is a less expensive city but because I would need to bring my car and pay to park it it that would be an added cost. Also, if location of the school would lock me into living in Madison or the Midwest for 8 years instead of 3, I think I'd rather pay the extra money. But if I could graduate from UW-Madison, save some money, and get a job in DC in a year or less, then I think that would be okay.
A school's culture also matters to me, and while I visited NU I didn't have the time to visit Madison before having to make a decision. UW-Madison seems like a very relaxed school with a strong community, but the city seems boring and small(no offense to any that love it!). I liked NU when I visited, but I have seen some posts on this sub and others about people who did not like it there at all. I'm also having second thoughts about the "non-traditional" nature of the school. They don't have GPA or rankings, and I'm wondering if the co op schedule will interfere with my ability to participate in OCIs or have Summer Associate Jobs. Before my UW offer, this wasn't really a concern because I was deciding between NU with a scholly or another school with none. Now I'm trying to weigh the pros and cons of a non-traditional track or a traditional one.
Sorry for the long post. I'm just a first-gen college/law student who's feeling overwhelmed, especially since UW-Madison basically left me with no time to decide this. Anyway, I appreciate any thoughts from this group on the Location vs Ranking debate, or any perspectives from current students or alumni from either school. And best of luck to those who are still trying to make these tough decisions like me!

Hello fellow writers! I am once again on the hunt for a roleplay partner 🤗
I want to do a medieval, arranged marriage roleplay where are characters are from rival nations, and perhaps even from different fantasy races. Enemies to lovers is one of my all time favorite plots.
I'd like the story to incorporate the differences between our character's cultures, have them drop their hatred and prejudices for one another, learn from the other and grow closer as their romance develops within their forced marriage.
Let's play up politics, love triangles, espionage, drama, life, death, magic, anything we can think of.
A little about me, I'm 30 female from the States. I've been roleplaying on and off for about 13 plus years. I'm semi to advanced literate, depending on the plot, the scene and my partner. I write mostly in 3rd person, I'm comfortable with themes that are 🌠romantic🌶 in nature, and discord is my preferred platform for roleplaying. I prefer my partner to be 21 plus and also in the States, though I'm pretty flexible in that regard.
I do prefer stories that are long term, that can span over years of the character's lives with numerous plot points throughout. It always creates a more in depth story! I love chatting outside of the roleplay as well 💖
I'm a mom to a one year old. My day job is very easy, so I'm free on and off for most of my working hours, evenings and the occasional middle of the night feeding lol I'm in desperate need for some creativity in my life
Please send me a message detailing some of your ideas for the story so we can discuss more. I really look forward to hearing from you! Let's get creative!

Author's Blurb: "What matters most to the survivor isn't skills or knowledge. It's the will to live."

Preface

What a load of crap. Reverse City taught me a lot of things, and the first among them is that "the will to live" won't help you defy death anymore than "the will to fly" will let you defy gravity. Speaking of which, there's something you need to know about Reverse City: it's a misnomer. There's nothing "Reverse" about it. If you look at it from afar, it looks perfectly normal. Or, as normal as anything can be in a world that is a decaying amalgamation of three planes of existence. Up is up, and down is down.
You're just standing on the ceiling.

Chapter 1

First things first: shelter. You might think this would be easy, since you're in the middle of a city, but remember that gravity is upside down here. Under normal circumstances, you could choose any building you wanted to for a house, and the rest of the city to scavenge for food. But what makes a building isolated or not, is based on whether it has any balconies or bridges connecting to other places. That's a lot rarer than you'd think. Besides that, the surface is patrolled constantly by deadly T-Drones, both scouts and killers. Luckily, the city had one of the most extensive subway systems in the world before the "sinkhole incident" that swallowed it whole. Although there are scouts down there, they aren't searching for people. Just making sure nobody steps out of line. You should set up in the older, deeper tunnels, since the trains rarely run there. Even if you hear a train, don't worry about getting run over. Only organic things are affected by the inverted gravity, so all the trains will pass under your head. The bigger issue is running into T-Boy. He's the one who flipped everything, and the only person who can still walk around on the floor. That's why he likes to tell newbies that he's the "most normal person in this city", which is hard to believe considering he's got a cathode-ray TV for a helmet, but it's best you don't say that. If you do, he'll concede it doesn't really matter, but that no one will argue he's "the most dangerous person in this city", and use a prototype weapon to bring you down from the ceiling and crush you with a miniature black hole. Luckily, it IS a prototype, and will overheat before you die. He'll laugh the whole time, because there is such a thrill from wielding "uncontrollable power", and then speed off. The maniac...

Chapter 2

The tunnels have plenty of rats to eat, but not normal rats. "Erda rats". I don't know what "Erda" is exactly, but if you touch it, it'll fuse into you and make you glow blue for some reason, besides making you ridiculously strong. I don't like it. Makes you look like a humanoid blob of radioactive laundry detergent, if you ask me. Luckily, you only change by touching pure Erda, not anything already affected by it, so the rat meat is safe eat, even if the rats are stupidly dangerous to hunt. If you're packing anything short of a .308, you don't stand a chance, and that's if you hit them in the head or the heart. If you're short on firepower, you could ask those "Erda People" for help. They're about as strong as the rats, and much more friendly, but don't expect them to do anything for free. They're in the same boat as you, after all. Though, most of them were born in Reverse City. With food covered, you'll want to set up a camp. Pro-tip: anything that isn't nailed down (or up, rather), will fall to the floor. Your bed, your tent, everything. Make sure to secure everything you got with anything you can get. Tape, nails, etc. You'll need a fire, to cook the rat meat. And that means you'll need a hanging fire pit. Here's what you'll need: an oil drum, some metal brackets, 2 street sign posts, a handful of heavy duty nuts and bolts, a metal grate, some thin metal straps, about 4 concrete anchors, and a high-powered electric drill. The drum and grate will be your pit, and the rest of it will help secure it to the ceiling. The street sign posts should be fastened to either side of the barrel using the bolts, and reach about a 2 meters past the rim of the barrel. The metal straps should be wrapped around the barrel and pinned to it by the posts. Cut out the base of the drum, or at least drill plenty of holes in it, and place the metal grate halfway down the barrel. Ideally, it'll rest on the bolts used to attach the posts. If need be, you could substitute a mesh of rebar. Using the brackets, concrete anchors, and drill, affix the street posts to the ceiling. To use it, drop your fuel into the barrel, and light. Cooking on it can be done in two ways: the good old "hot dog on a stick", or by creating a heating plate of some sort on top of the barrel. Really, anyway to make sure the fire gets to the food and not your hand works. Oh, and I feel I add a bit of a disclaimer: the "Erda People" always helped me without question, so I have no idea what favors they might ask you in return. They called me a "saint" because my books taught them how to survive, even if my writing was boring...

Chapter 3