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For a while I've entertained this idea of keeping a big garbage can in the clinic labeled "Very Important Stuff", and when a patient hands me the usual MRI CD-ROMs, stacks of irrelevant medical info, past HEPs, and binders of conspiracy theories I'll say "Thank you so much! Let me file this away!" as I toss it in the garbage in front of them.

I went to pick up my meds today in Arnprior, Ont. at the local shoppers drugmart. At the checkout she hands me a medcheck enrollment form and says "we're getting these filled out" and she put an X where I was to sign. She had a stack of em already signed at the cash. I quickly read it over and realized it was one of these medcheck enrollment forms. I said NO THANKS. She then says "umm you don't want to sign it ?" I said NO. Seriously... what utter bullcrap. My Dr. knows exactly what drugs I am on and why I am on them and their possible interactions etc. He best knows my personal history and physiology with regards to my specific tailored medication. These clowns who don't know me or my history are looking to make a buck by double checking my Dr's work. Thanks but F--- Y--- kindly.

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hello everybody! i am a graduating student from feu high school and am about to pursue a degree in medical technology. the thing is, i don't know where !!! i've been considering staying here in feu (already passed the feucat) however with last year's issue, i don't think the constant double-guessing whether or not you're staying in the MT dept is worth it considering how the program itself is already difficult. uerm on the other hand, feels more secure (havent heard any unjustified removals if ever there are any unlike feu who deliberately removed students despite having lapses within the system itself e.g missing profs) HOWEVER their credentials dont seem as 'mabango' as FEU's since, for starters, they arent accreditted by PACUCOA unlike other colleges within the uni itself like nursing and pt.
so it all boils down to this: where do you guys think i should study MT that won't add-up to the difficulty that the program is already known for? (and what could also help me get a job easier outside the country if ever i choose not to consider with med) could u guys give any pros and cons and whatnot TT i really need it !! thank you !! love yew all my medteks 🫰 (pls be nice, i know nothing about the MT world as a shs babie)

I am new to this mbti and enneagram stuff, but I did look into cognitive functions a bit but I still am not sure which fit me, it might be because I am still pretty new. This is mostly a hobby for when I am bored and want to think, because I like to play with outside systems like this.
• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I am 16 years old, male , just your average quiet teenager that sucks at introspecting and wants to look cool to others yet does nothing to impress others (other than looks)
that sounded oddly specific.,.....
whatever
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
not really, not that I know of..
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
I grew up in a poor family (duh), then just like your average adult couple they divorce, usually I'd stay a lot with my mother and she would teach me about morals which I now see some as stupid but either way I kind of "took" her morals and my dad's too. Kind of had to grew up early and take care of my smaller brother by substituting being a dad , and I have a lot of influence over my brother , and we would switch places a lot but the only comfort I had was in games, interacting with others on the games ,making fun of others and overall having a good time being accepted
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
At the moment I have no job, I do karate and I could teach others but I don't have the stuff necessary like: a place to train others, I am not at the highest level yet, customers and this is mostly the main things.
But I would really like to continue on this path of gym and karate since I already have an edge and kind of be under someone's wing to help me
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
Mostly depends, on my mood sometimes I despise being alone and feel miserable being alone with my thoughts(and is mostly why I spend a lot of time on my computer despite not wanting to do so) or if the people in my circle kind of make me have a bad time then I would want to withdraw and get my energy back , usually I am very loud after I get comfortable with the other person and know what they are capable of
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
Like I said above I do Karate , I recently reached the brown belt ( YIPPPIE me) and me and the outdoors have a bad history but as of now I prefer to have a balance of both but mostly I would like to focus on real life things, especially when it comes to careers
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
I am not too curious of stuff that is deep , it makes me feel miserable, but usually I get random questions sometimes and it makes me search , but not too deep into it just enough to have the idea cause I see no point in diving deeper. Usually when I even get these questions is from either talking out loud or just looking around me so it's mostly environmental (I think not too sure of this)
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
The only time I like leading is when I have knowledge and know I am the best to do it, if someone else is better then I'll let them do their thing but usually I wouldn't fully obey them I would kind of give some counter-arguments if there is room for some.
Even when I lead, others do listen to me and usually I am confident in doing it, kind of like that one quote of Sun Tzu:" Go to war only if you know you will win" , which my friend told me recently.
As for the style not too sure what it would really reference, but I would say I think of people as cogs in the machine
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
Not too sure what to say on the "coordination" part but I for sure love working with my hands, especially when I cook for myself or others, and like I already mentioned I do karate so of course I like practicing with my hands improving my technique
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
no I am not artistic at all , I don't really look into it at all since I don't consider it worthwhile but as a kid I did like drawing cause I was good at it and I got recognition for my drawings from other classmates and that would fuel me to make me like drawing cause the teacher liked it, others too and yeah.. Untill it kind of stopped receving the feedback and such
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
I don't like to think of the past too much , especially when I think of myself, it's mostly negative things but I try to see the bright side of what I've achieved and such, because I wasn't healthy (even now I feel like I am not healthy but it's clearly better), I used to be chubby kind of fat , and before getting into karate I did handball where we trained physical condition and other things , and we had to do sit ups but due to me being fat I couldn't and others looked at me and started joking even the trainer and because of that I quit..
The present could be good but I am indifferent towards it I don't really work towards anything specific I like to remain a little reactive and eventually get help from others into shaping my future life.
And like I said I try to remain reactive of the present, I don't like planning too far ahead because it could be too early to plan and there might be more to do
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
I don't get asked for help frequently but it's either I help the person because I see they are struggling or they asked me and it goes two ways: 1. I agree and do the job or 2. I tell them "no" and go back to what I was doing (eventually feeling guilty I didn't help but I don't like being used for other's advantage)
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Yeah , it's pretty important people shouldn't only run on feelings but kind of fit some systems into some kind of framework, not really think about it 24/7, but make sense of it that is how I like to do it.
Even with this system of cognitive functions I try to understand it but sometimes it's a bit too abstract, I prefer more practical examples to fully understand the idea behind it
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
Not too much but not too less, usually I prefer it to not be feeling sad that I am "closed off somewhere" and not doing something, isolated from the world , especially with no computer atleast to go on the internet and joke around and chill with others(but of on a common task or else I will mind my business).
But I strive to be efficient in what I do over time , even if it's for a game that is pointless
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
Simply no, I never was able to do this exactly , well maybe after I get to know the person a bit and see what they could do.... but I am not.
Also just read what controlling others mean , and I could see myself taking charge and just doing everything myself....
But I still feel like I don't, but I can see how I could, but I won't because I don't have the skill and it wouldn't be good
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
Well probably just ,out of boredoom, playing games but not a wide variety which gets boring quick but familiarity bias is a thing.. and doing karate which energizes me almost everytime and anytime even if I don't feel like it and force myself. I just like when it goes well with others it and being liked by others, energizes me
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
To be honest I didn't really pay attention to how I learn I just learn to get good grades in school and make it, yeah not too much here but I struggle with things that don't really add up to me or I don't see the logic behind
Usually I don't need explanations from the teacher I kind of tend to see the logic behind everything mostly without asking much information since some subjects have systems that are easily to juggle with(like math but I sometimes struggle with calculating in my head)
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
I try to simplify strategizing, yes having a plan in depth is good but people for sure won't like if you are gonna stick to one rigid plan , which is why you have to make it kind of like a team thing even if I do make a rigid plan I try to make it sound simple and to the point based of data that others and I know, even making decision off the data my group knows
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
Probably to feel happy I achieved something and doing something in the outside world, eventually influencing others
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
Mostly personal stuff , and emotional situations, my emotional inteligence is bad and I am bad at emotions too, atleast handling the emotions of others, but sometimes I try to let them vent to me and help them a bit and try to be empathetic even tho I don't show it too much, mostly I show it through acting tho
• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
Positive outlook on life, relationships are well but I don't worry about them too much unless there is an obvious problem and really liking to hang around others, and especially having something going on for myself
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
the first thing that comes to my mind is: withrdawn, melancholy and just starting to critique everyone in my head but not really telling them, yeah sometimes I may start bluntly joking about other's and stuff and even situtations, I try to poke fun and when it kind of fails I feel like withdrawing from others since it doesn't work Melancholy litteraly makes me feel miserable about everything, mostly makes me feel depressed. I do tend to feel it often but I try to supress it trough doing things, like playing on the computer , youtube and such (everyone does this to some extent)
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
I find myself daydreaming when bored and not really anything is going on but I do tend to be mindful of what others do in case they try to harm me...
But even if I daydream it's mostly about what everything could have been, kind of like what I could have done or what I could do and how it would end up/ ended up, but it does happen quite a lot
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
Not too sure if I would ever get there but thinking out loud here so , probably about some random stuff in my head unrelated to my situations untill one thought hits close to home and I go into some deeper stuff , and usually when I get deeper into things I tend to feel miserable, my friend (who is INTJ btw) said that my negative depressing thoughts that I hate match the thinking of the philosophy of "Nihilism" which is kind of true....
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
I try and not stay too long on it but sometimes I might run back and forth if I am not too sure, but I try to stay decisive , because being indecisive a lot is bad..
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
I kind of look down on emotions , yes I feel them but I just tend to ignore and repress them sometimes, but I vent to closer friends from time to time, but this is mostly because my parents would misinterpret my emotions...
My mom would just over moralify everything and bring it to a stupid extreme which is unrelated..
and My dad would just make fun of them , but sometimes he would give me spot on answers which are exactly what I need
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
Not really , even if I do it's in a way to shut off the conversation, because I don't like having conversation with no point
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
I don't really mind rules , but I don't pay attention to them too much(because no need to worry if you don't go out of your way to try something that could count as "breaking the rules") mostly to the general ones which could punish you very harshly but overtime they could be exploited and I do that when I am confident I won't be caught or it won't punish me
I also took the mbti test from Michael Caloz site (I saw people doing this one a lot so I figured I might give it a try for this post :D)
statistics of functions
the top result (followed by ESTP and then ESTJ, in that order)
I saw other posts also mentioning this, and I figured I would too
I took this test a bit rushed cause I needed to do something..

Dealing with post covid gastroparesis ever since November 2020 . After much difficulty and much expense, I was able to obtain Motegrity six months ago.
It has been amazing. I’ve only vomited about 3 times since starting the medication !! (I was up to daily prior to the medication. I do keep Zofran on hand because I do get nausea sometimes but it’s totally manageable.
I’d say I’m 95% better. No more anxiety around eating. At 110 dollars a month so it’s hard on the pocketbook but it is worth it!

David agreed to organise another search party in the following week, and another in the week after that. It comforted Lee to know he was at least doing something to look out for her, even if she wasn't here to realise it. If he couldn't have Clementine back, something he hated the very thought of, he needed to honour her. Her promises, her legacy, her meaning to him could not be forgotten — and neither could she.
They'd been out looking for hours. Since they set off at first light, the sun had circled in the sky and come back down once again, painting the already orange gates with a golden hue. It was tiresome and their feet ached with the aftermath of walking for miles on end, but it came with the satisfaction of knowing a bed was waiting for them back at the base. Though, he still felt a part of him missing. In a way it was almost like he'd earned the right to have found her, how after all this patience and all this time, shouldn't he be entitled to that payoff now? He walked along with his small group back into the gates, down-trodden. How was he to continue deceiving himself of hope when for all he knew, it was hopeless? That was something he berated himself for even thinking. She had to be out there somewhere, of course she was.
"Open the gates," he called to the person on watch. The large wall of rust and metal creaked, revealing their sanctuary. AJ would be in the nursery, probably colouring wildly on a paper, anticipating just as much as Lee was for when they could retire to their home of the living quarters for a good night's rest.
Ava rushed out of the gate towards Lee in a hurry, not slowing down for a second. "Lee!"
"Hey, Ava. What's-"
"She's back."
He opened his mouth, to exclaim with delight, to ask where she was, maybe to burst into tears — everything, every sound and colour, seemed to jump into existence all of a sudden. His legs weren't worn down with fatigue any longer, and they called for him to start running. Where to, he didn't know, but he needed to see where she was. That's when he heard her voice again, something he realised was a greater privilege than he ever remembered, and stopped in his tracks.
"Lee." Clementine appeared behind Ava, leaning out to look at him. She looked at him with her eyes wide, her mouth that opened in shock turning into a wide grin. She ran towards him and enveloped him in a hug.
"You're back! You're okay, sweetpea!" He said, the words sounding imaginary even to him. "I missed you, Clem. I was so worried about what happened while you were gone. You- you've grown a bit taller." He could hardly believe his eyes, but they didn't lie or show any falsities: just, for once, the light in his reality. Ava smiled at the two of them, crossing her arms comfortably.
Clementine laughed, pricks of teardrops forming in the corners of her eyes. "I tried to get back to you so many times. I- There was so much going on. I didn't know what to do, I-" She hugged him again, burying her head in his shirt to mask her tears. "They said AJ's okay. He's going to be okay, Lee. He'll live." Her voice was muffled and shaky but pitched with glee, with relief and with joy. It appeared she was in just as much disbelief as well.
"I know, Clem. He's better now. They helped him."
"About time," she said quietly, though she smiled.
"Let's go inside the gates, come on. How did you get here? Did you have any help?" he asked, a million thoughts swimming through his mind.
She nodded. “I found people who wanted to help. Lots of people. The ones I came here with were put into quarantine for bites — they only let me out here because they knew you were looking for me.” Then she stopped in her tracks, both taking the time to survey the surroundings and glance at Lee. “You never stopped?”
“Never.”
Clementine grinned up at him. "I knew you wouldn't." Her smile then faded, but the glimmer in her eyes remained: whatever she was troubled by, she seemed to hold onto some hope, or at least she did now that Lee was there. "Lee, I have to talk to you."
"What's going on? Is something wrong?" He watched for her reaction cautiously. When she didn't move, he asked again. "Are you in danger?"
She shook her head and began walking further away, slowly down the unfamiliar streets of New Richmond. "Not here. We need to go somewhere quiet."
Something in Lee felt disturbed again. It should all be over by now, with Clementine reunited with him and AJ better than ever. By all means, they shouldn't have any more problems to deal with. Sure it was unrealistic, but hadn't they earned the right? It was like danger was hanging over his shoulder, eyeing his every move and ready to step in.
"Let's go to the nursery, okay? No-one should be around to hear us around now, and besides, you should see him." He placed his hand on Clementine's shoulder, kneeling down to her level. "He’s really missed you, you know."
"He- he did?" She whispered. The smile on her face revealed she had no doubt he would feel otherwise, but just hearing this was like the first melodic tune after a lifetime of silence.
He nodded.
She rubbed hastily at her eyes again. "Take me to him, please."
...
She sniffled, masking the tears she was choking back as she looked down upon a sleeping AJ inside a crib. "I never would've thought...I mean, even you, I thought we might never get to see each-other again. But I was always so scared for AJ. I knew you could handle things, but he was- he's so little, Lee. I didn't know if he could take much more." The drops cascaded down her face, and she turned her head sharply towards the ceiling to stop them from falling. She breathed in deeply and looked back at the toddler one more time. "My little goofball."
"He was tough."
"That's for sure."
"Lingard helped us out."
Her head propped up again and she wore an intense expression. "He did?"
"Of course he did. He found more antibiotics, and he's going to be taking them for a few more weeks, and..." He stopped himself when he noticed her silence. It wasn't unlike her, but this was a different kind, the kind that silences even those outside of it. "I know you have your issues with what happened, Clem, and so do I — but he really did help. AJ is better now."
She shifted uncomfortably.
"Lingard is a good man," Lee continued.
"I'm not saying he wasn't. But Lee," she said, eyes darting to each side in turn. "We cannot trust them."
He looked confused. "What?" Just as he had begun to fully trust them, maybe more than he ever had in the time he had been with them, it came crashing down like it had before on that night of the plan. He wasn’t sure what to think anymore.
Clementine straightened herself up, preparing herself to explain. "I didn't leave for no reason, and it wasn't by choice. Joan forced me to leave."
"Joan forced you? Clem, are you sure-"
"I wouldn't lie to you, Lee!" she defended.
He held up his arms to ease her. "I know that. I'm just saying that if Joan wanted you gone then how come she's allowing you to walk free now?"
"I haven't seen Joan yet, and I don't think she knows I'm here, but I'm betting she's going to have something up her sleeve for when she finds out." Clementine rolled her eyes at the thought of the woman leading communications, being one of two council leaders she wasn't afraid to show her distaste for. "There's a lot that happened while I was gone. I didn't come here all by myself, for starters. I came with a group."
"Where are they?"
"They're getting quarantined somewhere, but I don't know where it is. I found them in a town called Prescott, and things got a little complicated along the way."
Lee had questions upon questions inside his head. "How so? I thought Prescott was a good town; they helped us out with supplies just a few days ago. Are you in trouble with them?"
She looked him directly in the eye, lowering her voice again. "No, Lee. They're in trouble with us. Prescott was raided by the New Frontier and burnt the place to the ground — one of the men I'm with, Javi, had his niece murdered, and we have a woman shot in the stomach. That's why I told them to come back here, to get her medical help."
At last, something at least seemed to ring a bell. "Javi and Kate?" He'd heard those names before. "They're-"
"David's brother and wife. We all met outside the gates." She nodded, a bitterness taking over her countenance. "I thought with his family in a state like this, he wouldn't turn us away. I still haven't forgotten about what he tried to do before I left. Besides, I came back because I knew that if you were still out there, you needed to know the truth about the others."
"Others?"
"I don't trust anyone in the New Frontier except you, Lee. The men who attacked Prescott are up to something, and we need to figure out what's going on."
"Slow down, Clem. I don't doubt you, I think something is going on, but not everyone might be involved. Ava and Paul have always looked out for us. Even David-"
"You think you can trust David? He's the last person I want to be around. I'm sure he's got something to do with all of this. We could've lost AJ forever because of him."
Lee rested his back against the wall in defeat. "Clem, this is a lot to take in."
She nodded, but still looked impatient. "I don't want to play it safe anymore, Lee. We have AJ safe and sound, we can leave right now."
"If you're right about people working against us in the New Frontier, then they'll spot us running off a mile away. I’m gonna take us to your group, okay? I need to talk with them."

Is paper white or basic is better for studying medical books and diagrams??

Not really sure how to explain this, but I'll do my best. I'm mtf, but haven't done anything yet other than socially transition. I live outside of my home country, but learned that I can get most of my nonsurgical transition goals done back home and it will be fully covered. So I'm moving back home to stay with my cousin and his wife. They live in a very liberal area.
They have both been very accepting. His wife is very sweet. She always says that my transition should be on my time and I shouldn't feel rushed, etc. My mom didn't take my transition the best, but wants to come see me. My cousin's wife told me if I wasn't okay with it, then I should say so and they wouldn't let them visit.
On the other hand, she seems to be sorta pushy in affirming me. I'm not in my home country yet, so sometimes she gets calls that are for me for various appointments I'm scheduling and she will use my new pronouns when I'm not fully out yet. This can confuse my medical providers and is honestly probably not very helpful.
She also told her parents that I'm coming back for gender affirming care. I've never met her parents. I know that at some point my transition will get away from me and people talk, but I was kinda hurt that she just took the liberty to tell her parents this. Her parents live in the same city and I will probably be meeting them.
I still have some hangups about my transition and am full boymoding. I'm grateful they are letting me stay with them, but I guess I feel sort of pushed along even tho they are trying to be super affirming and telling me to go at my own pace. I just felt like I had some autonomy stripped from me when she outed me without my prior consent or even knowledge. Now I can't just straight boymode to her parents, and who know who they will tell, etc.
I also feel bad, because I got very upset with my spouse for outing me to one of her friends in a similar manner, yet I've sorta given my cousin's wife a pass. I think I just feel a bit indebted since I'll be staying with them. How can I bring this up? Am I too sensitive about the issue?

Hi. When I was a kid, I had finger warts ALL over my hands, even one on my palm. We froze them all and haven't had a problem until recently there's a skin colored wart on my middle finger. When it first popped up two months ago, it went away on its own, but now it's back. It's embarrassing honestly. Freeze it off didn't work with the otc freeze away. What else can I do without medical treatment? I’m 22F, 5’3 and 140lbs. Nonsmoker and generally very healthy and active.

Prologue
Hello and welcome to my post. I will subdivide this into two large parts. One will cover my thoughts, feelings, my hopes and dreams...While the other will tell you the specifics of how I pass the time, what topics interest me, what passions do I posses. I believe that at the end of this leap into my inner world, you dear reader, will have all the necessary information to judge whether we are compatible or not.

Part I
I am writing this in the hopes of finding something that I lack. Lately I have had this feeling, this tinge of melancholy within the dephts of my being, this yearning to find a kindred spirit, another Soul, much like mine, to form a bond with. Perhaps Loneliness is the right word for what is bothering me, but to use it seems to carry with it a connotation of ungratefulness. Ungratefulness for the people that I do have in my life, although none of them, of course, have the connection to me that I seek here.

I have found it increasingly necessary to seek in this Life a sort of purity of thought. What I mean is, I have began to undestand what ideas and concepts are ultimately compatible with my inner most Self, ergo what guidelines I have to follow to feel the most whole. Naturally I have likewise realised what I cannot add to my Self and what I will henceforth reject with all the power that I posses.

With this new context in mind, I now follow on the path of self improvement. I will now begin to mold my Self into my perfected idea of how the Self should be. This is certainly a significant undertaking, one that will not be easy to follow through on but one that I ultimately have to do. To me such context is essential. It is akin to a Guiding Star shining in the night. I will follow this Star for without it I am lost in the vast Darkness.

Looking back at my life, it was suboptimal, especially if one compares the way it molded me to how I will now mold myself. I suppose I must look on with a hint of regret at all that time which one might consider to be lost. Still... I try to stave off such decisively negative interpretations, after all, I have ultimately came to these conclusions. That means that somewhere along the line I had to have picked up on enough of such ideas for them to become so cemented in my consciousness. Well, either that or I was always like this, but in that case I can at least thank my life up to this point for not being able to supress such manifestations of my inner most Self.

To add to the topic of my life, I must admit that not all the battles have yet been won, not all the Demons vanquished, not every Mountain climbed. I want you to keep such things in mind when deciding whether or not to approach me. Many will shy away, I undestand that much, but the pursuit of true Companionship is just another such battle. Having said all that I do believe that being able to overcome hurdles together carries with it a certain appeal. That is to say, what's the fun in joining once the Game is already over?

I don't shy away from such challenges, perhaps to a fault. Certain troubles that I faced in the past carry with them a long shadow over my current health and well being. Still, I intend to change little in this regard other than the proficiency with which I will clash the current of my Will against the cliffs of Life.
Part II
In this part of my post I will tell you about my interests and hobbies, I will try to be thorough, commonality in this regard is rather important to build a relationship
History. I have had an interest in history for almost a decade now, it started back in school and developed from there. Well, now that I think about it one could argue that it started even earlier in my life as I liked watching the odd historic documentary or film aired on television but it wasn't regular back then, I never actively sought it out. I am mostly interested in European history in the period between the 18th-20th century but I sometimes branch out to other time periods and other parts of the world. I watch various channels related to history and read articles and sometimes books. I have recently got a few books on the German revolution of 1848/1849 and a historical magazine on the Thirty Years' War. Besides that I try to visit museums sometimes.
Literature. Especially old novels. I like to immerse myself in the Worlds of these books, I tend to read them while listening to thematically fitting music and take my time with them. One time you are following a troubled Youth in his quest for spiritual understanding of the world, another you see the aged and decrepit Doctor gambling his very Soul on the promises of abtaining satisfaction in earthy pleasures, then again your olfaction notices the most pleasant scent known to man even as the one eminating it has the appearance of a revolting Frog. These and many other stories open up to you once you decide to set foot into the literary World.
Languages. I know three, with one being a bit rusty. I am currently working intently on strengthening it. I believe that if I continue to apply myself in this regard then I should be able to finally conquer it. What language am I working on? Well, if you were to stack all the major works in it they would be as tall as a house... It is fun to go through different works in multiple languages, the same goes for film, games and such.
Games. I recently played Cyberpunk 2077. Well as recently as I played any major story centric game. Now that the dust has settled and the bugs mostly removed...It's not that bad. The main questline at least. Besides that I tried Fallout 76 (Very average, I'm dissapointed with what they made the "RPG" system) and I might give Deus Ex Manking Divided another spin (since it's somewhat similar to Cyberpunk when it comes to its aesthetics). Dark Souls is one of my favorite series, I still haven't beaten Elden Ring though. When it came out I wasn't in the right mindset to invest a hundred hours into it, with all those bosses and difficult locations. I think I'll only consider playing it if I am streaming it to someone. I am generally interested in either streaming games or having the person I am talking to stream them to me. To be specific I mean streaming to a single person while being on call. Besides that I'm a big fan of Paradox strategy games, especially Europa Universalis IV and Heats of Iron IV, I tend to only play single player since I find multiplayer with many people to be rather stressful but on the other hand I have nothing against a co-op game. I'm not the best player though, despite the ammount of hours I have in them. Another great game I would mention would be Dragon's Dogma. A very underrated RPG. I recently beat it again and it was an atmospheric and interesting experience. It is one of those games that feel like they have an endless ammount of depth and constant new secrets to discover.
Anime and Manga. In recent times my interest in them has waned but I still watch the occasional series here and there. Like Cyberpunk Edgerunners (Which I found to be rather mediocre) and the very good first season from the new arc of Bleach. Some of my favourite series include: Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood, Death Note, Fate;Zero, Psycho Pass, Code Geass and Attack on Titan. I wouldn't mind if you were to introduce me to some new series, maybe based on the ones I mentioned. My favourite Manga is Berserk which I still follow, althought I am still not certain on the direction that the new author is taking. I suppose it really is a matter of contention whether a somewhat (or considerably warped) vision is better than an unfinished work. One could argue that a few novels remain unfinished and possess a macabre appeal to them as such.
Music. Classical music has a very special place in my heart. A few of my favourite pieces would be: Clair de Lune, Nocturne Op. 9 No.2, Devil's Trill Sonata, Danse Macabre, Valse Sentimentale, Symphony No. 7 in A Major, Op. 92: II. Alegreto (by Beethoven) and Suite from Swan Lake, Op. 20a: I. Scene. Moderato. There are more but these ones always invoke something in me when I listen to them. Besides Classical I also enjoy listening to Synthwave, old Western pop and J-pop, both modern and from the 20th century.
Esotericism. I am interested in things spiritual, mystical, magical and esoteric. I have read religios texts, magical grimoires, introductions to various schools of thought. It is interesting to me.
Epilogue
Hopefully I was able to cast the spotlight upon my inner World in a clear and unequivocal manner. I feel the need to add to the aforementioned that I am rather introverted, which means that I tend to dislike large social gatherings. I managed to condition myself to be able to endure the presense of large groups of people but it isn't something that I would seek out in most cases. Besides that I am neurodivergent and suffer from certain issues with mental health. I have to take medication to keep myself under control. They work well enough but certain days are harder than others. I respect the struggle that others have with mental health but in the context of a relationship I have my limits, no one with BDP for instance. I am also not looking for anything casual. I understand than one cannot demand depth and meaning from a conversation with an absolute stranger, that is akin to trying to build a sand castle right before the waves strike but I ask at least that you enter with a mindset that this might become something of significance. I also do want to say that I am completely Monogamous. My preference? The sickly, pale, intellectual who watches rain droplets slide down the window in Autumn. Lastly, if I enjoy the company of a person I tend to not want to let them go.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post and have a good day. I ask that you send a DM instead of a chat and that you give your thoughts on my title in the opening of your message.
Goodbye...Or perhaps untill we meet again

Since May 2020, I've been grappling with a myriad of symptoms that have disrupted my life – from burning hand pain to random tiredness, dryness everywhere on my body, and the unbearable burning sensation in my skin that emerged last fall. Yesterday, after years of uncertainty, I received a diagnosis: small fiber neuropathy and Sjogren’s syndrome. With this clarity, I'm embarking on a new chapter as I start medication to officially address this autoimmune disease that I spent 4 years trying to find an answer on. With hope, I look forward to the possibility of relief and the journey ahead. As my birthday approaches in just less than a week, I can't help but see this as the ultimate gift: a path towards healing. ❤️‍🩹

Hi guys, thinking about starting making Youtube content
(Mostly about self improvement but with diagram and facts and some humor if possible).
But I noticed that there been too much similar content and I know that to success is to be unique.
Please do help me vote which one is to your liking. If you think my idea is suck and have other opinion, Please do feel free to let me know! Thanks!
1) Whiteboard style teaching (with face)
2) Book drawing style (no face but with hand)
3) Art tablet style (hand and computer screen)
4) TV News anchor style (Im not so sure about this one)

Currently a 11C, likely looking at a medical reclass with how things are going.
Considering I have nerve issues with my right arm/hand not even sure what I should consider, honestly amazed it’s even retainable.
Also considering going active duty since my guard contract down to its last year and 6 months putting me a bit over 6 years. Close to 5 of those have been on active duty orders.

I am not the OOP. The OOP is probably the world's worst manager posting in AskAManager
Concluded as per OOP
Mood Spoiler - immensely satisfying
1 update - Medium
Original - 5th July 2016
Update - 10th February 2022
Editor's Note - As per Alison's wishes, I cannot include her responses.
You can view them on the site via the links.
Comments are also from AskAManager
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My best employee quit on the spot because I wouldn’t let her go to her college graduation
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I manage a team, and part of their jobs is to provide customer support over the phone. Due to a new product launch, we are expected to provide service outside of our normal hours for a time. This includes some of my team coming in on a day our office is normally closed (based on lowest seniority because no one volunteered).
One employee asked to come in two hours after the start time due to her college graduation ceremony being that same day (she was taking night classes part-time in order to earn her degree). I was unable to grant her request because she was the employee with the lowest seniority and we need coverage for that day. I said that if she could find someone to replace her for those two hours, she could start later. She asked her coworkers, but no one was willing to come in on their day off. After she asked around, some people who were not scheduled for the overtime did switch shifts with other people (but not her) and volunteered to take on overtime from others who were scheduled, but these people are friends outside of work, and as long as there is coverage I don’t interfere if people want to give or take overtime of their own accord. (Caveat: I did intervene and switch one person’s end time because they had concert tickets that they had already paid for, but this was a special circumstance because there was cost involved.)
I told this team member that she could not start two hours late and that she would have to skip the ceremony. An hour later, she handed me her work ID and a list of all the times she had worked late/come in early/worked overtime for each and every one of her coworkers. Then she quit on the spot.
I’m a bit upset because she was my best employee by far. Her work was excellent, she never missed a day of work in the six years she worked here, and she was my go-to person for weekends and holidays.
Even though she doesn’t work here any longer, I want to reach out and tell her that quitting without notice because she didn’t get her way isn’t exactly professional. I only want to do this because she was an otherwise great employee, and I don’t want her to derail her career by doing this again and thinking it is okay. She was raised in a few dozen different foster homes and has no living family. She was homeless for a bit after she turned 18 and besides us she doesn’t have anyone in her life that has ever had professional employment. This is the only job she has had. Since she’s never had anyone to teach her professional norms, I want to help her so she doesn’t make the same mistake again. What do you think is the best way for me to do this?
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Comments were not kind to the OOP
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Christopher Tracy
Yup. Her career will be fine. No reasonable hiring manager will hear this story and blame the employee for quitting without notice – what was done to her was really shitty.
Dan E
Conversely, if I was in a position to hire this manager and heard this story I would seriously reconsider. This manager made a very poor decision.
James Chism
Yes, the cost of a college degree is far more and more important than the cost of a concert ticket! Did this manager think that because she was such a good employee he could just railroad her into working and not attending her graduation?
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Update - 6 years later
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This is about me. I know for a fact it is because this exact thing happened to me in that time frame. And I know exactly who it was.
I’d like to tell this person that I have a general idea of the social norms but (redacted — medical conditions) make it impossible to stay on this side of reality very long. I did however get medicated and become a GM myself that would never be a jerk like he was.
And it wasn’t about the graduation. At freaking all. It was so much more than that. It was about having one day that was just mine.
Joke’s on him though. That diploma has gotten me further in life than I would have gotten without.
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Unkempt Flatware
I can die happy now. Alison, thank you thank you thank you! This was by far the best letter and answer I have ever read and the question that got me hooked on this blog. I still need to know about the boss’s progress through life all these years.
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I’m screaming inside too
Same here – it’s these bright spots that give me hope for our collective good! It’s especially heartening to know that the updating LW has made it her goal never to be a terrible manager like the fool who fired her. LW, I wish you all the best.
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I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments

Hello CPS!
I have never in my life ever dealt with something like this. My home received a visit yesterday from DHS (that’s what it’s called here in Arkansas). We weren’t home, but we did speak with the representative through our ring camera.
It wasn’t because of obvious abuse or neglect. It was because someone (explained down below) had made a report that my wife was misusing her prescription meds and neglecting our children. The rep was speaking to my wife in a sort of ill manner. When I chimed in, she rudely cut me off and said ”you stop talking, I need her to answer, not you”
Our children are happy and healthy. We have never raised a hand to them, nor have we ever verbally abused them. Our house is pretty clean aside from a little normal lived-in clutter. All safety devices are functional, and I have 3 fire extinguishers in the house. The cats litter is cleaned regularly too if that matters.
Basically, my in-laws, who live in another state over 100 miles away called in a report of neglect and endangerment citing explicitly that my wife abuses her meds prescribed by her psychiatrist. This was because we refused to let them have our kids come visit their house if they came to pick them up. We refused because they repeatedly violated one simple rule we had asked them to follow., which was to not allow a specific person around our children. The last words her (adoptive father, he married her mother) father texted after explaining why we said no were “I’ll see you in court you high strung out bitch, love your former father”
My question here is, what are our rights for this investigation? I know DHS has to take every report seriously. Does my wife have to show her meds and count them out? This lady was asking very specific questions regarding her meds and her MMJ card. Do HIPPA laws apply here?
Side note: Arkansas has a medical marijuana program, and my wife has a couple qualifying conditions. She uses it exactly as directed, which is to use at night to help her sleep. She had never used it recreationally before she got her card, and she does not have any criminal record nor any past DHS cases ever.

You ever see one of those pictures,
Where a person is wrapped around
themselves like boa constrictors?
Screaming silently to the world,
with their devestated scriptures?
Hands up,
around their face,
Eyes wide like they just got sprayed down with mace.
Twisted
And contorted,
The very space around them distorted.
Like their very mind
Has been extorted.
Broken nails, crazy hair and shit?
Naw, it couldn't be me with the broken jaw, losing myself in a fit.
The echoes catch up and they scream,
Heaven knows if things are really as they seem.
I couldn't.
I wouldn't.
I shouldn't.
Shush now,
don't tell me what I can't resent.
A life I can't afford,
Strife by your accord.
Full stop.
Pull cord, steep drop.
Do I call the medic
Or the cop?
Is it me
Or the mannequin
being used as the prop?
Shot gun,
Make rot run,
Common n' show me what you got,
Hun.
Inhale,
Exhale,
Don't let them see you fail.
Erase your trail.
Stay calm,
Ignore the banshee's wail,
She can't find you
In the sleet and the hail.
Hood to mask my face,
Hunted down,
But they insist this isn't a race.
Being followed into the alley,
Quick, hop the fence without dally.
I should have left you a note,
Just to tell you what this was all about.
The hollow man,
Who just wants heaven's call,
Oh, to live again.
Eyes twitching in the dusk,
How can I be weighed down and still be such a hollow husk?
The ferry man waits for no one,
And I'm running to him like I am fleeing from the gun.
Funny how it is all the same,
Sunny day, embrace the cold barrel,
And that is the end of this game.
Just a sad sap,
Driven mad by a nonexistant gap.
I can't help that I always resurrect,
Like some tattered, but unflappable, insect.
I can't count the amount of times I've been crushed under your boot,
The number of rhymes I've written covered in the soot.
Of a burnt out flame,
Turned out by another who needed me to take the blame.
Just write it down, they say,
What swill, believing the pen and the pad is the way.
They don't care about your emotional release,
Like hens, they are just going to cluck without cease.
Fuck a triple entendre,
Tried it before, and still got stuck with nadda,
Pried myself away from the god ah the underworld,
But, I gotta say, my blood curled, when I learned,
It's true what they say, the devil wears prada.
She took my will to write, like it wasn't a bodda.
But they still poke and prod a dead body,
theynod at each other, with lecherous eyes that are so gawdy.
Like,
Fuck it,
He's dead.
Find the last of his coin,
Pluck it,
And then fill his boots with lead.
Into the ocean of lost souls,
Built up our shoals, ignoring the costs and the tolls.
I'm sinkin',
I'm drownin',
These pricks don't got an inkling
About why I'm frownin'
I could switch hit a beat,
Without a hitch,
Have you on your feet.
And I'd still just be the guy who doesn't offer sunshine,
The scum fuck
Who wasn't smart enough not to cross the line.
Too gruff,
Too willing to call a bluff,
Life's tough,
And I've had enough.
You're killing me with this stuff,
Woke up in the dark waters,
My wrists in a cuff.
So,
Before you can fill my lungs with water and bile,
I'm fleeing this sinking city and I won't stop for a country mile.
Into a land,
Not so vile,
Where every conversation isn't a trial.
Where my blackened wings can shed,
All of these gruesome memories in my head.
It's true,
Some of us can handle the rain,
But, I won't be back again.
I found heaven in the drain,
I gave in,
And started caring about my own gain.
The human experience,
Should not be seen through an agonized wince.
Fuck you and your hounds,
And your porcelain, merry, bounds.
The walls you constructed,
The halls through which you obstructed.
Some day,
Your judgement will come,
Smooth as the sweetest rum,
To the sound of the eternal drum.
Until than,
I won't return to this city of men.

And by that I mean that the BPD diagnosis might be the wrong one (or at least not the only one)
I (27f) was diagnosed with BPD 7 years ago. It felt like the most fitting diagnosis at first, but apart from my emotional regulation issues, impulsivity, indecisiveness and feeling empty (frequently, not necessarily 'chronically' though!) I've noticed I'm different from other people with BPD. I happen to know quite a few. Their impulsivity shows in different ways (I have impulsive speech, but I never really lash out at people unless I'm drunk), their self-destructive behaviour is wayyy more intense than mine, etc. I'm aware there's over 250 different combinations of having 5 or more out of 9 symptoms (which is the diagnostic criteria according to the ICD-10 and I'm in Europe), and I know there's quiet and less severe forms of BPD. However, I have A LOT of symptoms which are not associated with BPD but rather with ADHD. To list just a few, my short term memory is terrible, I'm the most disorganised and messy person I know apart from others with ADHD, my executive dysfunction is ruining my life, I'm both hyperactive and inattentive in many ways. This was already the case in my childhood, but my parents are dead so no one can give an account of that. Also, BPD treatment (therapy and skills training) has not helped with those kinda symptoms at all. The only thing that helps is taking amphetamines lol I've actually been self-medicating for a while with Vyvanse and it works so well. I've told my psychiatrist about it and he refuses to believe it may be ADHD because it's 'a trend diagnosis' and because my former self-harm is 'proof for BPD'. My therapist on the other hand has been very supportive and trying to help me get a diagnosis. I went to a screening, scored extremely high on the ADHD inventory, but a little too well on some of the cognitive tests, so I just got diagnosed with BPD again (even though I got lost on my way there, forgot to bring important documents and to wear a mask during COVID haha). My boyfriend and many of my friends suspect ADHD as well...
I'm frustrated. I feel like my doctor is mostly holding on to the BPD diagnosis because I'm female. And I'm convinced I'm on the wrong medication and that Vyvanse or a similar medication would help me function. But since I already 'failed' the screening, I'm scared of seeking out another doctor. I feel like now, I'll never be taken seriously.
Has anyone had a similar experience? Is there any chance at all I might still get diagnosed for ADHD? Should I try? Trying again would cost so much money, and it would shatter me if I don't get the diagnosis, as in my mind, ADHD medication is my only hope.
So I guess I'd be grateful for some advice whether to further pursue getting an ADHD diagnosis or not. Or just some support and reassurance that even if I don't get the diagnosis, there's hope for me.
TLDR: me, my therapist, my bf and some friends are pretty sure I have ADHD. My doctor says it must be BPD and refuses to try new medication. Already 'failed' a screening - try a different doctor anyway or not?

I M23 have had a hard time accepting the fact that going stealth is the only way for me, I'm pre-T but I pass around 70% of the time due to my clothes style and mannerisms, my downfall is my baby face and voice, the rest of the time people are confused as fuck.
I started Uni and corrected people when they used the wrong pronouns for me, or they asked themselves, otherwise I've not once told anyone that I'm transsex in a class that's 1/3 trans people (Art).
Besides the fact that I've had to wait years for our government to permit me the honor of transitioning medically, I feel at my peak being assumed as cis by my male friends and classmates. I also identify as straight and have always liked women which makes it easier.
The only time I even remotely question staying stealth is regarding my future in the game/animation industry. My goal is to create queer characters for the next generation so they don't feel like a freak like I did as a kid.
I never knew about anything queer as my upbringing was extremely unusual and I knew nothing of the outside world, I did however always know that I liked girls in a way that wasn't normal because of the body I was born in, even though it felt as natural as breathing. (Not to mention lifelong sex dysphoria)
My first exposure to the concept of anything queer was when I was 9 in a godamn Percy Jackson book.
I remember my face turning red as I reread the passage over and over again as my kid mind exploded, there were other freaks out there like me! (I only use this term because it's what my kid self used to use)
I want to be what Rick Riordan was for me and make the world feel a little less hostile for future queer kids, but I would be doing it as an apparently cishet man? I can't even use the queer label as I feel like that doesn't apply to my identity.
I fear that I will never be able to explain how my concepts relate to me personally for fear of being outed. It's like when a work of art moves you because of the text on the side talking about how the artist put their lived experiences into it, my work will automatically mean less than a visible queer persons.
On one hand that's exactly what I want, I want to be perceived as cis, that's why I'm transitioning, on the other hand It means I don't get to inject the pain of my life into my art without having to excuse it as "oh I had a lot of queer friends growing up" or "I'm a strong ally".
Life sucks lol.

this post is just going to be big rant. if you reply, please be kind and don't send me threats or anything please im just trying to get my thoughts out in a healthy way.
anyway, its quite late at night when im writing this post. im supposed to be editing a literature essay for an exam i have in two days but im so anxious about it. im typically a high achiever in literary subjects but moving up a grade this year has sent me for a tailspin. my average percentage has decreased an insane amount and i dont know how to fix it. in addition, im feeling so stressed out by every other subject. i have a diagnosis for anxiety and take medication to treat it but i feel that with all this amounting academic pressure (and other things that i may or may not feel like writing about) its just not enough and im freakinng out a lot.
on top of all of this, i have no friends. my mother and therapist will say that its because i've purposefully isolated myself but i think thats just my self defense from how poorly they treated me. idk. i am a very sensitive person and feel things quite strong so perhaps it is all my fault... but i feel physically sick and scared whenever i try to approach them ! even thinking about it raises my heartbeat. honestly, there's not much that they've done to harm me and the things they have would probably be shrugged off by any normal person but thats just not my way of coping. this factor is probably just self sabotage.
furthermore, i absolutely hate my physical appearance. ever since i was able to recognise the reflection in the mirror as my own, ive spent so much time analysing all thats wrong with me. i fear that im fat and over the past few years i've developed a restrictive eating disorder. fortunately, or unfortunately depending on the way you look at it, i have family that was able to recognise this and set me on the right track before things got too out of hand. i still wish to lose weight but i know i cant get away with much as im currently sitting on a bmi of exactly 18.5 (at my most i was 19.8). i just dont know what to do to fix this issue.
planning to move schools soon in the hopes that i'll be able to reinvent myself and explore a whole new corner of the world.
i have such high hopes and optimism for my future. i just wish that i knew i'll get to where i want to with a strong support system and friends that i love and who love me back.