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2024.05.14 02:43 NerdyOutdoors Exeter City Season 7: 3 Pressing Questions as Exeter Prepare for Season 2 in the Premier Leauge
 | After Exeter City secured safety in their first-ever Premier League season, with four matches remaining, the fans' hearts, and the backroom staff's minds, all turned toward the upcoming season. Exeter's season was marked by thrilling highs (a 6-1 thrashing of West Ham, a convincing victory over Tottenham) and shocking lows (a 1-6 loss to LUTON TOWN of all teams, a pasting 1-5 by an ascendant Arsenal), but manager Andy Maher remained steady at the controls. submitted by NerdyOutdoors to seriousfifacareers [link] [comments] With the summer 2029 transfer window slammed shut and the new-look teams having played a few matches, we run the rule over the teams in the 2029-2030 Premier League. Up today, the south coast side Exeter City, the only fan-owned team in the Premier League. With the Supporter's Trust helping contribute to financial operations and the canny Julian Tagg still directing the football side of things, Exeter look to consolidate their precarious position and craft a long-term place in the top flight. Exeter finished their season in a commendable 13th place, with an impressive attacking line that was able, sometimes, to overcome the worst defense outside of the relegation zone. Known usually for a solid backline, Exeter's players were generally exposed by the pace and attacking verve of the Premier League. Only Sonny Cox and the rest of the attack, who posted the league's 8th best scoring record, kept Exeter afloat. https://preview.redd.it/1u8kinxnfa0d1.png?width=616&format=png&auto=webp&s=ae29e48269936f51392d1e89c08201b630a33d35 Cox, in partnership with assists co-leader Idrissa Camara, led the Premier League with a stunning 27 goal tally in 38 appearances, topping Chelsea's Nkunku by 3 goals. As Exeter turn to the new season, we ask three pressing questions of the team and examine the answers to find out if Exeter can repeat the trick, or if their security in the top flight is merely an illusion. Question 1: Will the defense improve? Whether down to tactics or formation, or players themselves, Exeter's defense in the 2028-29 season was lacklustre at best. Many point to the relatively thrifty spend in 2028-29, with only Jordan Storey and Etienne Kinkoue coming through the door to bolster the ranks last season. This season looks already off to a different start. While Exeter continue to parsimoniously clutch the purse strings, they sold some excess players and finally made a significant, record-smashing, splash in the transfer pool, this time bolstering the backline. Exeter splashed £22.5m to sign Czech Republic international star Martin Vitik away from Salernita, who escaped relegation by just a few points in Serie A. Able to offer improved wages and a competitive environment, Exeter had clearly committed to improving the defense here. https://preview.redd.it/h7kuk06rfa0d1.png?width=624&format=png&auto=webp&s=6404ef1fdc28f0f63a70fec072fd675b08da639b "We saw a number of transfers out early in this window, where players had not quite fit in, or even where we decided, as much as we wanted to keep the man, we needed to fund improvements across the squad," said Tagg. "Last year we saw a net spend for the first time ever, and while we are very far from the spending limits imposed by the EFL, we need to make sure we balance the books. So this was a very involved, drawn out, patient process that we were only able to conclude in late August." In keeping with Exeter's thrifty ways, they added another option to the midfield as well. "We really felt that if we could possess the ball better, maybe use David's skill set to break up plays more, and add another player there, we might see improvements across the whole defense," said Maher in an interview. "So we managed to convince Mateusz that we were the best option for him." https://preview.redd.it/42qm1upufa0d1.png?width=621&format=png&auto=webp&s=aa1023b98c02609d700604365462115fed2e8a45 With Kowalczyk now roving the middle of the pitch, Exeter truly have competition at the central midfield position, and have the flexibility to move some of their talented pieces around the board. "Mateusz really freed up and gave us some interesting lineup choices, and you saw that in some of these early matches where we came out and surprised people," said Maher. The new look for Exeter's base 4-2-3-1 looks like this, with Kowalczyk pushing forward into a CAM role, while Camara plays just slightly forward of Watson, who remains in a true defensive midfielder role. Hlynsson moves wide to the left, while Clark has the right touchline to himself. The new partnership of Storey and Vitik protects the center, while young starlet Maguire has impressed at right back, and former Exeter Academy man Ben Chrisene slots into the left wingback position. Time will tell, but early results are promising. A rocky 3-2 win over Brighton was followed with a much more competent series of performances. Pundits are optimistic that Exeter can improve last season's defensive performance, and fans can only hope that the starting line avoids serious injury. Question 2: Can Exeter keep their stars? A smashing season from Cox, the silky smooth midfielder Camara, wide man Bobby Clark, the revelation of young fullback Rory Maguire-- these are the main men around whom Exeter has built its team. With Cox and Camara both having played with the squad since their League One days, there's an intuitive chemistry and connection built over hundred and thousands of hours on the training ground. Meanwhile. Clark has impressed on the wing, as the former central midfielder enjoys the space to threaten opposing fullbacks with his craft. "We had one major bid for Sonny [Cox]," revealed Tagg recently, "but it was miles still from our valuation, and this is about more than just money anyway; Sonny has told us he will stay with us as long as he can, as long as our trajectory for success matches his. We go where Sonny takes us." The bid, which remains undisclosed, was regarded by some as an attempt to pry away a future world-class leader, at a cut-rate price. One indignant fan noted, "Just because we're Exeter and a small club doesn't mean they can offer rubbish fees." With goal scoring on par with elite teams like Chelsea, some were surprised by the rumors of the fee offer. Still, a handful of commentators, looking at Exeter's profit margins and football operations, noted that Exeter take a risk in declining a major fee--even a low offer. "£40, 50, 60 million? That would be huge for Exeter to take in, and then to reinvest across multiple positions of the squad," one said. "What good is that reinvestment if you can't score in the Prem," replied Gibbons in her analysis of Exeter's roster. "Cox proved last season he could score here, that's invaluable to the team. We've seen too many failed major purchases-- even Exeter signed a player who was a bust at this level." Exeter did lose a handful of significant players in the transfer window. Published estimates from football bloggers show that Exeter currently enjoy a small profit on sales, although this is subject to official confirmation. Much of Exeter's reputed profit came from three sales. Moving on from failed striker Erik Botheim, Exeter unload the player and his contract to Bristol City for £9.9m. Kinkoue, who never really broke through into the first team with any consistency, accepted terms with Middlesbrough. But the shock move was relegated Crystal Palace, desperate to shore up its bid for immediate promotion, buying Ngoma for £17.1m. The promising American winger showed great potential last season and was 2nd in assists for Exeter. His touch and crossing acumen helped Exeter through a challenging spring season and some thing that his departure is a significant dent in Exeter's futures. https://preview.redd.it/u3dtrri3ga0d1.png?width=1256&format=png&auto=webp&s=5ade1c2f9d7f11b2f808252150e630f9fb2791dd Ultimately, Exeter made few moves to bring in players, counting on a smaller number of hopefully shrewd choices to lead the way. As Gibbons notes, "There was some roster bloat last season; even with many players out on loan, Exeter carried more players than they could really find time for. This was a smart offseason to make a profit on academy graduates, while still identifying the core players who will help the team. The season looks promising, with star man Cox already notching 4 goals in 6 appearances, while Camara and Clark both have tallied 2 goals and 1 assist each. Gyokeres hasn't lost much of step, with 2 assists and a goal to his name. Meanwhile, young star in the making Rory Maguire continues his run of excellent form. The young fullback had a bad day at the Carabao Cup, but has put in stellar shifts in the Premier League, and is quickly becoming one of Exeter's top choices in the back line. With his work, Exeter already have two clean sheets in the league. https://preview.redd.it/h3drn3b6ga0d1.png?width=625&format=png&auto=webp&s=bef145182381d710da2ac09c87b4f4f16df2084d A new star is rising in the defense also, with another academy product impressing in duty. Sebastian Benson, another 20-year-old defender, has been earning minutes in the starting XI and as one of the first off the bench. The centre-back is explosive in short areas and a dominating aerial talent to win headers away from even the fiercest attackers. https://preview.redd.it/xgmf1mrdga0d1.png?width=830&format=png&auto=webp&s=6516c3628a14539f245f6611c130e5bc3aed8936 Question 3: What tactics will Exeter adopt to maximize their players? With Gyokeres and Cox both on the field, Exeter found themselves in a surprising bind: The two forwards would either force Exeter into something like a 4-4-2, and thus push either defensive midfielder Medon Berisha or attacking midfielder Kristian Hlynsson to the substitute's bench, OR, Exeter could drop into a 5-man back line, and sacrifice the talented winger Bobby Clark to the exigencies of the formation. Exeter usually chose the 4-4-2, and the gamble SOMETIMES worked in Exeter's favor. Analyst Beth Gibbons explains: "When Gyokeres is on the pitch with Cox, this is a dangerous and pacey attack. Gyokeres has proven adept at both holdup play where he links Cox to the midfield, and at running onto balls from the wings or from Camara, who's incredibly talented as a passer. But if Camara and [midfielder David] Watson get forward, there's nothing in front of that back four to protect against the counter, and Exeter were exposed frequently there. But if Watson stays back to shield that line, or if Maguire doesn't track forward, Exeter were too one-dimensional, and really strong defenses absolutely stymied the attack. Exeter have adopted a more flexible approach this year, including a surprise 5-4-1 that absolutely gobsmacked Manchester City in the early running this season. Gibbons on the new look: "This was a real surprise, as it put Camara deeper than usual. But it was incredibly effective as it provided two defenders to cover Haaland, and freed the wing backs to come inside to help against the centre-mids, or to cover those wide wingers. Maguire's work against Foden was absolutely stellar, as he stymied the England international all match." The lineup for the shock win over Man City Exeter put on a defensive clinic against the champions, winning 2-0 in style, with a Cox brace to lead the team. Camara was incisive as usual, but the real hero was Watson in the middle to cut off the Manchester transition, and Maguire wide, who posted 6 successful tackles against Foden and won almost every battle on that side. Exeter shifted onto the attack for its match against Brighton and revealed a swashbuckling 4-3-3 with a fascinating double-pivot in the midfield. "The one defensive midfielder was often over-run," said Maher in a podcast interview after the match. "So we took the usual midfield triangle and inverted it, giving us two men to break up attacks. Idrissa's so good at launching after an interception or a tackle, so we let him sit deep and orchestrate, but he has free roam of that side of the pitch, to work into space more or push forward. So he and Matty [Kowalczyk] act almost like 2 attacking mids when we had the ball, but then he comes back to defense really quickly." Wide, Gyokeres and Clark pushed up field and menaced the fullbacks. Brighton struggled with this positioning and gave up goals to both of the wide men, while Cox facilitated with an assist and a number of key passes. The positional flexibility has been impressive from the Grecians, and Exeter now sit 5th in the table after six matches. The most impressive stretch has come in September, with matches against Manchester City, Tottenham, and Arsenal. Most fans would have been ecstatic to come away with one draw in those 3 matches, and maybe add one point to the total from those three. Instead, Exeter took points in every one of the matches, including the clean sheets against Manchester City and Arsenal. Recent Results "If you told us, draws against two teams there, any fan would have taken it, right?" said Maher in the post-game press conference after the Arsenal match. "A clean sheet against Arsenal? Absolutely, you take that. But the fans have been excellent in their support, and the lads stepped up and executed against Manchester, and all of a sudden, they have this confidence to go out like they did. We fell behind against Tottenham but got the 82nd-minute equalizer because they never quit, they feel like they can go against any team." With the 5-game unbeaten streak, Exeter have laid down a marker that they wager they'll improve on last season's finish, and they're a danger to take points from any of the usual Big Six. "We're not scared," said Idrissa Camara. "We're hungry. Everyone else should be scared." The Verdict: Exeter look to have improved the defense and kept the most important cogs in the attack, although there are rumors that some elite Champions League sides are eying up winger Clark. The lineups will be a man-management challenge for the coaching staff, as there are simply a few too many great midfielders to balance out--someone has to drop to the substitute's bench. If Maher and the staff can manage playing time and player expectations, this will be an exciting team to watch this season. Our prediction: 10th place. Player notes: PC, mods include gameplay mods (Anth James), Career Realism Mod (PaulV) and homemade loan/transfecontract mods to improve free agency. Full ruleset can be found here. Sheet 1 details general rules and principles; subsequent sheets track transfers and finances. Finances are paramount for a small club. The first season in the Prem, we operated with a net spend in the transfer window, to bring in important players that bolster the squad. Last season was the first season (out of 6) to see this spending. Maybe I'll do a finances post soon because I find that stuff fascinating. Randomizer for transfers; transfer targets are limited to +1 over position average, with 1 player per year allowed to be significantly beyond that. This season, we targeted a CB to improve the defense and lucked into the signing of Vitik. He was actually our 3rd choice-- there was a top-notch free agent but we lost him to Chelsea and thus we had to wait for some player sales before we could afford a move. For transferring players at or below the team average, I use a very simple weighted randomizer that's built into my google sheets. For the players that are +2 or more beyond the team average, I use https://5ungc6-joseph-boyd.shinyapps.io/FifaDiceRoll/ crafted by another excellent member of this subreddit. It changes the probability of signings depending on how far above the average your intended signing is. If you read this far, you're fabulous, good-looking, and intellectually gifted. Happy gaming! |
2024.05.14 02:40 Brilliantmind1997 26 [F4M] Georgia,USA -Seeking a long term monogamous relationship (serious inquiries only)
This is my last attempt for awhile. *Do Not message or add me just to unfriend me or ghost me. * Greetings future partner ❤️ I'm still searching for you. I have to be honest and say that I am losing hope trying to find you.Please be somewhere. I want my search for a partner to be over. I'm seeking adventure in my life with someone I can call a forever partner. I'm tired of the loneliness and the sheltered lifestyle that I've lived. It would mean a lot of you could read through this post so that I could make sure we are compatible. Even if we start off as friends that would be fine.
Here's to new beginnings and new connections. PLEASE make sure you READ through the WHOLE POST also please be respectful when messaging me * *If you're the type to be impatient, block, or ghost easily, then save both of us the trouble and DO NOT message me! I'm not trying to come off as mean but I'd much rather you not message me if you're the type of person to do that. If something isn't working just let me know. We're all adults.
Greetings, I am seeking a long term relationship monogamous with the end goal being matrimony. I am not one for playing around and being used casually as it doesn’t suit me personally. Ideally I'd prefer a man that has his life already in place so that I can be able to share life with him and for him to take care of me. I would expect my future man to have a fiscally stable job and be able to support me and our future family. I wouldn’t be opposed to being a housewife. There are few reasons why I would like to work or work part time: 1) Being abandoned with nothing, 2) I want to feel fulfilled and not bored. Happy to discuss possible dynamics, I'm flexible. I would love a synergistic partnership where we are both able to mold our minds and fill our hearts with warm affection. I will be there to support you throughout your journey and celebrate every moment with you. I want you to be proud of you just as you are with me. I want to show you that you are truly cared for and appreciated by gestures of love such as massages and other forms of entertainment. I would expect the same from you as well. Even if we are both working adults we can still make our relationship work in the best way possible. I have seen this come out well for people who are dedicated and willing to make their relationships work. For a strong relationship to occur I would expect effective (transparent) communication from you. If you are going to be busy just be honest and let me know you won’t be able to talk to me.Also, if you need your space both mentally and physically let me know. I understand that we all have our lives to attend to but it is incredibly important for people in a relationship to be transparent when circumstances arise in a timely manner in order to avoid future conflict. If this relationship isn’t going to work I would expect you to tell me and not ghost or block me before giving me a reason why. We are all adults so I would expect nothing but maturity. Starting out I don’t want the pressure of sex to be pushed onto me. I’d rather let time tell in all of its glory.
Now onto my true introduction
My name is Angie and I'm from Georgia in the United States. I've been lonely for quite some time and find it hard to find a soulmate in IRL. What I'm looking for is someone who I can connect with and have wholesome conversations with. I want to be able to treat my future soulmate well just as much as they do me. The biggest part of a long lasting relationship is the ability to communicate openly without worry. I'd love it if my significant other has a dark sense of humor and continues to crack me up non-stop. As cheesy as it may sound I long for those late night calls and cute texts. I want for us to drive out the very best in each other; become our support system. A little bit about me is that I grew up in Florida and not too long ago moved to Georgia. I'm currently in college to become an RN but I'm also passionate about cosmetic chemistry and nutrition so I may seek to build my own business in the future. I'm passionate about science and theoretical applications especially within the medical field. I'd appreciate it if my partner is open minded about varying topics and welcomes healthy conversations. Appearance wise I'm open to seeing if we have a connection and feel as long as you are well groomed and practice basic hygiene you are good. Although, I must say that attraction is key in a relationship so I will have to go off on that as well. To add on, I enjoy playing video games, exercising (I've been slacking off lately), cooking and baking (vegan), playing board games, reading, exploring nature, playing sports (basketball and soccer) for fun, and trying new experiences. I hope to save up and travel someday. It would be nice for my partner to be able to set up our travel itinerary.
My Physical Description:
I am a black woman who’s twenty five years old (almost 26 in December) with Afro-Carribean, Japanese and Swedish ancestry. I’d still consider myself black presenting since that’s more along the lines of what I appear as phenotypically. I have dark brown curly hair (Mainly 3c type curls) and brown eyes. I am 5 '4 on the thicker spectrum (not at all obese but thick boned and have thunder thighs). I am trying to exercise more to become fit. I used to weight lift when I was younger but since then have lost lean muscle mass. Having a partner that is willing to work out together sometimes is rather rewarding. A man who has drive and appeal is incredibly sexy. I would also like to point out that I am curvy and noticeable in certain aspects (I’ll leave it up to you to decide).
*You have to be MINIMUM 21 to date me *
If distance will be a problem and you aren't willing to make it work then DON'T MESSAGE ME!!
If you will be too busy to pursue a relationship then DO NOT contact me!! * *Again, No ghosters or blockers!! Seeking a person who seeks a relationship with God and/or is open to one Must be free from venerial diseases and must be willing to get tested(will discuss) Bonus points if you're vegan Ideally I would like someone that is taller than me (I’m 5’4) I prefer a man that is fit or trying to be. I'd prefer someone who is fiscally stable and able to support the both of us* A big red flag for me is smokers. It isn't good for your health nor is it sexy to me.* It's important for me to point out that I want children in the future and need someone who may want that as well. If you're interested in how I look and want to know more about me, message me. Although I don’t make it a huge deal, I do prefer White and East Asian men. But I do love all types of men and welcome them. As stated before I emphasize communication and would prefer you to be honest and say if something is wrong instead of ghosting or blocking without stating the reason. Fair warning if I can be socially awkward sometimes and don't know what to talk about so please be patient with me as I'm learning to be better conversation wise
submitted by Brilliantmind1997 to ForeverAloneDating [link] [comments]
Here's to new beginnings and new connections. PLEASE make sure you READ through the WHOLE POST also please be respectful when messaging me * *If you're the type to be impatient, block, or ghost easily, then save both of us the trouble and DO NOT message me! I'm not trying to come off as mean but I'd much rather you not message me if you're the type of person to do that. If something isn't working just let me know. We're all adults.
Greetings, I am seeking a long term relationship monogamous with the end goal being matrimony. I am not one for playing around and being used casually as it doesn’t suit me personally. Ideally I'd prefer a man that has his life already in place so that I can be able to share life with him and for him to take care of me. I would expect my future man to have a fiscally stable job and be able to support me and our future family. I wouldn’t be opposed to being a housewife. There are few reasons why I would like to work or work part time: 1) Being abandoned with nothing, 2) I want to feel fulfilled and not bored. Happy to discuss possible dynamics, I'm flexible. I would love a synergistic partnership where we are both able to mold our minds and fill our hearts with warm affection. I will be there to support you throughout your journey and celebrate every moment with you. I want you to be proud of you just as you are with me. I want to show you that you are truly cared for and appreciated by gestures of love such as massages and other forms of entertainment. I would expect the same from you as well. Even if we are both working adults we can still make our relationship work in the best way possible. I have seen this come out well for people who are dedicated and willing to make their relationships work. For a strong relationship to occur I would expect effective (transparent) communication from you. If you are going to be busy just be honest and let me know you won’t be able to talk to me.Also, if you need your space both mentally and physically let me know. I understand that we all have our lives to attend to but it is incredibly important for people in a relationship to be transparent when circumstances arise in a timely manner in order to avoid future conflict. If this relationship isn’t going to work I would expect you to tell me and not ghost or block me before giving me a reason why. We are all adults so I would expect nothing but maturity. Starting out I don’t want the pressure of sex to be pushed onto me. I’d rather let time tell in all of its glory.
Now onto my true introduction
My name is Angie and I'm from Georgia in the United States. I've been lonely for quite some time and find it hard to find a soulmate in IRL. What I'm looking for is someone who I can connect with and have wholesome conversations with. I want to be able to treat my future soulmate well just as much as they do me. The biggest part of a long lasting relationship is the ability to communicate openly without worry. I'd love it if my significant other has a dark sense of humor and continues to crack me up non-stop. As cheesy as it may sound I long for those late night calls and cute texts. I want for us to drive out the very best in each other; become our support system. A little bit about me is that I grew up in Florida and not too long ago moved to Georgia. I'm currently in college to become an RN but I'm also passionate about cosmetic chemistry and nutrition so I may seek to build my own business in the future. I'm passionate about science and theoretical applications especially within the medical field. I'd appreciate it if my partner is open minded about varying topics and welcomes healthy conversations. Appearance wise I'm open to seeing if we have a connection and feel as long as you are well groomed and practice basic hygiene you are good. Although, I must say that attraction is key in a relationship so I will have to go off on that as well. To add on, I enjoy playing video games, exercising (I've been slacking off lately), cooking and baking (vegan), playing board games, reading, exploring nature, playing sports (basketball and soccer) for fun, and trying new experiences. I hope to save up and travel someday. It would be nice for my partner to be able to set up our travel itinerary.
My Physical Description:
I am a black woman who’s twenty five years old (almost 26 in December) with Afro-Carribean, Japanese and Swedish ancestry. I’d still consider myself black presenting since that’s more along the lines of what I appear as phenotypically. I have dark brown curly hair (Mainly 3c type curls) and brown eyes. I am 5 '4 on the thicker spectrum (not at all obese but thick boned and have thunder thighs). I am trying to exercise more to become fit. I used to weight lift when I was younger but since then have lost lean muscle mass. Having a partner that is willing to work out together sometimes is rather rewarding. A man who has drive and appeal is incredibly sexy. I would also like to point out that I am curvy and noticeable in certain aspects (I’ll leave it up to you to decide).
*You have to be MINIMUM 21 to date me *
If distance will be a problem and you aren't willing to make it work then DON'T MESSAGE ME!!
If you will be too busy to pursue a relationship then DO NOT contact me!! * *Again, No ghosters or blockers!! Seeking a person who seeks a relationship with God and/or is open to one Must be free from venerial diseases and must be willing to get tested(will discuss) Bonus points if you're vegan Ideally I would like someone that is taller than me (I’m 5’4) I prefer a man that is fit or trying to be. I'd prefer someone who is fiscally stable and able to support the both of us* A big red flag for me is smokers. It isn't good for your health nor is it sexy to me.* It's important for me to point out that I want children in the future and need someone who may want that as well. If you're interested in how I look and want to know more about me, message me. Although I don’t make it a huge deal, I do prefer White and East Asian men. But I do love all types of men and welcome them. As stated before I emphasize communication and would prefer you to be honest and say if something is wrong instead of ghosting or blocking without stating the reason. Fair warning if I can be socially awkward sometimes and don't know what to talk about so please be patient with me as I'm learning to be better conversation wise
2024.05.14 02:38 Brilliantmind1997 26[F4M] #Atlanta, Georgia - Seeking a long term monogamous relationship (serious inquiries only)
This will mostl likely be my last attempt in trying to find someone for awhile. * Do Not message me just to ghost or block me! Think it through before you message me!! I don't want to get emotionally hurt again.*
Greetings future partner ❤️ I'm still searching for you. I have to be honest and say that I am losing hope trying to find you.Please be somewhere. I want my search for a partner to be over. I'm seeking adventure in my life with someone I can call a forever partner. I'm tired of the loneliness and the sheltered lifestyle that I've lived. It would mean a lot of you could read through this post so that I could make sure we are compatible. Even if we start off as friends that would be fine.
Here's to new beginnings and new connections. PLEASE make sure you READ through the WHOLE POST also please be respectful when messaging me * *If you're the type to be impatient, block, or ghost easily, then save both of us the trouble and DO NOT message me! I'm not trying to come off as mean but I'd much rather you not message me if you're the type of person to do that. If something isn't working just let me know. We're all adults.
Greetings, I am seeking a long term relationship monogamous with the end goal being matrimony. I am not one for playing around and being used casually as it doesn’t suit me personally. Ideally I'd prefer a man that has his life already in place so that I can be able to share life with him and for him to take care of me. I would expect my future man to have a fiscally stable job and be able to support me and our future family. I wouldn’t be opposed to being a housewife. There are few reasons why I would like to work or work part time: 1) Being abandoned with nothing, 2) I want to feel fulfilled and not bored. Happy to discuss possible dynamics, I'm flexible. I would love a synergistic partnership where we are both able to mold our minds and fill our hearts with warm affection. I will be there to support you throughout your journey and celebrate every moment with you. I want you to be proud of you just as you are with me. I want to show you that you are truly cared for and appreciated by gestures of love such as massages and other forms of entertainment. I would expect the same from you as well. Even if we are both working adults we can still make our relationship work in the best way possible. I have seen this come out well for people who are dedicated and willing to make their relationships work. For a strong relationship to occur I would expect effective (transparent) communication from you. If you are going to be busy just be honest and let me know you won’t be able to talk to me.Also, if you need your space both mentally and physically let me know. I understand that we all have our lives to attend to but it is incredibly important for people in a relationship to be transparent when circumstances arise in a timely manner in order to avoid future conflict. If this relationship isn’t going to work I would expect you to tell me and not ghost or block me before giving me a reason why. We are all adults so I would expect nothing but maturity. Starting out I don’t want the pressure of sex to be pushed onto me. I’d rather let time tell in all of its glory.
Now onto my true introduction
My name is Angie and I'm from Georgia in the United States. I've been lonely for quite some time and find it hard to find a soulmate in IRL. What I'm looking for is someone who I can connect with and have wholesome conversations with. I want to be able to treat my future soulmate well just as much as they do me. The biggest part of a long lasting relationship is the ability to communicate openly without worry. I'd love it if my significant other has a dark sense of humor and continues to crack me up non-stop. As cheesy as it may sound I long for those late night calls and cute texts. I want for us to drive out the very best in each other; become our support system. A little bit about me is that I grew up in Florida and not too long ago moved to Georgia. I'm currently in college to become an RN but I'm also passionate about cosmetic chemistry and nutrition so I may seek to build my own business in the future. I'm passionate about science and theoretical applications especially within the medical field. I'd appreciate it if my partner is open minded about varying topics and welcomes healthy conversations. Appearance wise I'm open to seeing if we have a connection and feel as long as you are well groomed and practice basic hygiene you are good. Although, I must say that attraction is key in a relationship so I will have to go off on that as well. To add on, I enjoy playing video games, exercising (I've been slacking off lately), cooking and baking (vegan), playing board games, reading, exploring nature, playing sports (basketball and soccer) for fun, and trying new experiences. I hope to save up and travel someday. It would be nice for my partner to be able to set up our travel itinerary.
My Physical Description:
I am a black woman who’s twenty five years old (almost 26 in December) with Afro-Carribean, Japanese and Swedish ancestry. I’d still consider myself black presenting since that’s more along the lines of what I appear as phenotypically. I have dark brown curly hair (Mainly 3c type curls) and brown eyes. I am 5 '4 on the thicker spectrum (not at all obese but thick boned and have thunder thighs). I am trying to exercise more to become fit. I used to weight lift when I was younger but since then have lost lean muscle mass. Having a partner that is willing to work out together sometimes is rather rewarding. A man who has drive and appeal is incredibly sexy. I would also like to point out that I am curvy and noticeable in certain aspects (I’ll leave it up to you to decide).
*You have to be MINIMUM 21 to date me *
If distance is an issue and you aren't willing to commit then DON'T MESSAGE ME!!
If you will be too busy to pursue a relationship then DO NOT contact me!! * *Again, No ghosters or blockers!! Seeking a person who seeks a relationship with God and/or is open to one MUST be free from venerial diseases (must be willing to get tested) Bonus points if you're vegan Ideally I would like someone that is taller than me (I’m 5’4) I prefer a man that is fit or trying to be. I'd prefer someone who is fiscally stable and able to support the both of us* A big red flag for me is smokers. It isn't good for your health nor is it sexy to me.* It's important for me to point out that I want children in the future and need someone who may want that as well. If you're interested in how I look and want to know more about me, message me. Although I don’t make it a huge deal, I do prefer White and East Asian men. But I do love all types of men and welcome them. As stated before I emphasize communication and would prefer you to be honest and say if something is wrong instead of ghosting or blocking without stating the reason. Fair warning if I can be socially awkward sometimes and don't know what to talk about so please be patient with me as I'm learning to be better conversation wise
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Greetings future partner ❤️ I'm still searching for you. I have to be honest and say that I am losing hope trying to find you.Please be somewhere. I want my search for a partner to be over. I'm seeking adventure in my life with someone I can call a forever partner. I'm tired of the loneliness and the sheltered lifestyle that I've lived. It would mean a lot of you could read through this post so that I could make sure we are compatible. Even if we start off as friends that would be fine.
Here's to new beginnings and new connections. PLEASE make sure you READ through the WHOLE POST also please be respectful when messaging me * *If you're the type to be impatient, block, or ghost easily, then save both of us the trouble and DO NOT message me! I'm not trying to come off as mean but I'd much rather you not message me if you're the type of person to do that. If something isn't working just let me know. We're all adults.
Greetings, I am seeking a long term relationship monogamous with the end goal being matrimony. I am not one for playing around and being used casually as it doesn’t suit me personally. Ideally I'd prefer a man that has his life already in place so that I can be able to share life with him and for him to take care of me. I would expect my future man to have a fiscally stable job and be able to support me and our future family. I wouldn’t be opposed to being a housewife. There are few reasons why I would like to work or work part time: 1) Being abandoned with nothing, 2) I want to feel fulfilled and not bored. Happy to discuss possible dynamics, I'm flexible. I would love a synergistic partnership where we are both able to mold our minds and fill our hearts with warm affection. I will be there to support you throughout your journey and celebrate every moment with you. I want you to be proud of you just as you are with me. I want to show you that you are truly cared for and appreciated by gestures of love such as massages and other forms of entertainment. I would expect the same from you as well. Even if we are both working adults we can still make our relationship work in the best way possible. I have seen this come out well for people who are dedicated and willing to make their relationships work. For a strong relationship to occur I would expect effective (transparent) communication from you. If you are going to be busy just be honest and let me know you won’t be able to talk to me.Also, if you need your space both mentally and physically let me know. I understand that we all have our lives to attend to but it is incredibly important for people in a relationship to be transparent when circumstances arise in a timely manner in order to avoid future conflict. If this relationship isn’t going to work I would expect you to tell me and not ghost or block me before giving me a reason why. We are all adults so I would expect nothing but maturity. Starting out I don’t want the pressure of sex to be pushed onto me. I’d rather let time tell in all of its glory.
Now onto my true introduction
My name is Angie and I'm from Georgia in the United States. I've been lonely for quite some time and find it hard to find a soulmate in IRL. What I'm looking for is someone who I can connect with and have wholesome conversations with. I want to be able to treat my future soulmate well just as much as they do me. The biggest part of a long lasting relationship is the ability to communicate openly without worry. I'd love it if my significant other has a dark sense of humor and continues to crack me up non-stop. As cheesy as it may sound I long for those late night calls and cute texts. I want for us to drive out the very best in each other; become our support system. A little bit about me is that I grew up in Florida and not too long ago moved to Georgia. I'm currently in college to become an RN but I'm also passionate about cosmetic chemistry and nutrition so I may seek to build my own business in the future. I'm passionate about science and theoretical applications especially within the medical field. I'd appreciate it if my partner is open minded about varying topics and welcomes healthy conversations. Appearance wise I'm open to seeing if we have a connection and feel as long as you are well groomed and practice basic hygiene you are good. Although, I must say that attraction is key in a relationship so I will have to go off on that as well. To add on, I enjoy playing video games, exercising (I've been slacking off lately), cooking and baking (vegan), playing board games, reading, exploring nature, playing sports (basketball and soccer) for fun, and trying new experiences. I hope to save up and travel someday. It would be nice for my partner to be able to set up our travel itinerary.
My Physical Description:
I am a black woman who’s twenty five years old (almost 26 in December) with Afro-Carribean, Japanese and Swedish ancestry. I’d still consider myself black presenting since that’s more along the lines of what I appear as phenotypically. I have dark brown curly hair (Mainly 3c type curls) and brown eyes. I am 5 '4 on the thicker spectrum (not at all obese but thick boned and have thunder thighs). I am trying to exercise more to become fit. I used to weight lift when I was younger but since then have lost lean muscle mass. Having a partner that is willing to work out together sometimes is rather rewarding. A man who has drive and appeal is incredibly sexy. I would also like to point out that I am curvy and noticeable in certain aspects (I’ll leave it up to you to decide).
*You have to be MINIMUM 21 to date me *
If distance is an issue and you aren't willing to commit then DON'T MESSAGE ME!!
If you will be too busy to pursue a relationship then DO NOT contact me!! * *Again, No ghosters or blockers!! Seeking a person who seeks a relationship with God and/or is open to one MUST be free from venerial diseases (must be willing to get tested) Bonus points if you're vegan Ideally I would like someone that is taller than me (I’m 5’4) I prefer a man that is fit or trying to be. I'd prefer someone who is fiscally stable and able to support the both of us* A big red flag for me is smokers. It isn't good for your health nor is it sexy to me.* It's important for me to point out that I want children in the future and need someone who may want that as well. If you're interested in how I look and want to know more about me, message me. Although I don’t make it a huge deal, I do prefer White and East Asian men. But I do love all types of men and welcome them. As stated before I emphasize communication and would prefer you to be honest and say if something is wrong instead of ghosting or blocking without stating the reason. Fair warning if I can be socially awkward sometimes and don't know what to talk about so please be patient with me as I'm learning to be better conversation wise
2024.05.14 02:31 Mundane_Original_748 I want to get out but I don't know how
I (35F) want to leave my abusive husband (32M combat veteran) so badly but I don't know the best way to do it. I'm sorry this is so long but I'm begging for help, insight, any reassurance...
He says he used to have major anger issues but I never thought he would take them out on me. He has PTSD and a traumatic brain injury which makes his moods unpredictable.
I talked to his ex two days ago and she said he shoved her once, put his hands around her neck during a flashback, and also had a gun pointed at her during a flashback. He said they were engaged but she insisted they never were. She also said he was supposed to pick her up from the airport one time but he texted back saying he couldn't, because he wasn't sure if he was going to do something bad to her.
His abuse started when we moved in together while we were still engaged. I found out he had been on Onlyfans at the beginning of our relationship and just shortly before we got married... I was angry but I downplayed it and thought I could get over it. All it did was cause massive trust issues that have never healed and never will. He was subscribed to one of his exes and he also messaged one of the girls asking to meet just shortly after I stayed the week at his place for my birthday.
I spiraled mentally once the anger phase passed (severe depression and anxiety) and told him what I saw. He tried to deny it but when I said I knew his "pictures" he caved and said he wished I never told him and punched the headboard of our bed. He's my only source of comfort so I went to him countless times telling him I was still struggling with my trust issues and worried about whether he was still looking at other women, because he is subscribed to tons of women like that on Instagram and Tiktok. I started snooping looking for any evidence I could get so I could finally convince myself to leave him.
Everytime I confronted him about what I saw he made excuses and flew into a rage at me for snooping, screamed in my face, threw objects and furniture around (including our wedding rings and he broke my engagement ring in the process), punched walls, threatened divorce, demanded me to leave, or walked out without saying where he was going which made me call the police one time to look for him. I blamed myself because I was the one snooping and I told myself how would I feel if my partner constantly snooped on me? I blamed myself for everything and still kind of do. But he says it's his fault I'm like this and he just has to deal with the consequences.
Other times he says he has changed and it's my fault for getting in my head all the time, that my lack of trust is always so hard on him, and that my depression and anxiety are constantly dragging him down even though he says he's doing everything right to make me feel better. When I come to him to talk he usually sighs or treats it like a chore.
He says he beats himself up everyday for what he did and has apologized multiple times. But I never see any true regret. He told me "everybody else gets over their problems, why can't you?" He says he went through so much worse in the military than I have ever gone through and he got over his problems, so why can't I? That I need to "unfuck" myself and "everybody has depression."
One day when he came home I was feeling very low but he was in a bad mood already and he came at me, screaming that he's getting tired of me always being down and threatened divorce. I asked if he hated me and he looked at me and said in a really frightening way "if I hated you you'd be dead." That crushed me. Another time I got mad and said I was this way because of what he did to break my trust and he screamed at me multiple times to STFU, "waaah waaah waaaah you're always a Debbie downer" and threw in my face "you have no friends." He said he was done with the marriage but I talked him into staying because he has me so convinced the problem is me.
Other things... rough/forceful/demeaning sex... always saying "fuck you baby" in a cutesy way as a way to interact when we're doing our own things separately... slamming a controller down on my knee accidentally because he flew into a rage over losing a game... continuing to yell and saying he wasn't allowed to express anger even when I said it was scaring me... telling me once "I don't THINK I'd ever hurt you" (physically)... almost never helping with house chores and shopping... using me for money even though he makes more than I do with his disability payments... insulting my mother who helps us financially... trying to kick my cat one night when he couldn't sleep.
He's always so mean and critical of complete strangers when we go out and he acts like a macho narcissist who has everything figured out and he knows the right way about everything, like someone who is super opinionated to an obnoxious extent.
There's more but this is the worst of it all.
I read Lundy Bancroft's book asking myself if he's really that bad because 90% of the time he's good and loving. I know what I'm involved in and I know how much I've trauma bonded with him. But I've reached the point where I wake up every day in panic and despair knowing I'm still here and I want to get out. I already tried to leave before with a go bag and my cat but he talked me back. Some days I still try to convince myself the good times are worth staying for because I'm exhausted and I just want a good day for once. I've been miserable for months but I'm a pressure cooker now just waiting to blow. I'm falling apart.
I know I'm going to talk to a divorce lawyer and at least see if I have a case to have him evicted through a PFA. In that case he would be moving back in with his dad but he'd be close by. I could get the locks changed but I wouldn't put it past him to stalk me and try to hurt me (PFA or not -- he is suicidal anyway and has a lot of contempt for laws and the police), vandalize my car, or try to break into the apartment to hurt me or my cat. I don't even know if I would still be happy here where all these bad memories happened. And I wouldn't feel safe for myself or my cat everytime if I left the apartment.
The only other option is moving back in with my alcoholic narcissistic mother (my abusive alcoholic scizophrenic brother lives with her too) who doesn't know how to provide emotional support and hasn't been supportive at all throughout this marriage except financially. I would have to live in her garage, trust her not to let my cat loose if I go out, and make multiple trips back to my abusive husband still in the apartment to get all my belongings and furniture. He doesn't work, he's on school break now for summer so he's always here. I know I can get a police escort but they're not going to wait around for me to pack up the entire place. Almost everything is mine.
My husband might even just volunteer to leave and move back in with his dad like he has done before. I might not even need a PFA. I'm more afraid he'll try to hurt me if I actually get one versus if he just left by himself. I also don't know if he would offer to leave then just try to come back and hurt me before I could get the locks changed. The landlords constantly ignore the residents so I'd have to wait days or weeks for a lock change. Our lease ends next March.
I don't know what to do. All I want is to be by myself again with my cat in a safe place and it seems like no place and no escape plan I can come up with is entirely safe or secure. I'm at a loss but I can't keep living like this.
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He says he used to have major anger issues but I never thought he would take them out on me. He has PTSD and a traumatic brain injury which makes his moods unpredictable.
I talked to his ex two days ago and she said he shoved her once, put his hands around her neck during a flashback, and also had a gun pointed at her during a flashback. He said they were engaged but she insisted they never were. She also said he was supposed to pick her up from the airport one time but he texted back saying he couldn't, because he wasn't sure if he was going to do something bad to her.
His abuse started when we moved in together while we were still engaged. I found out he had been on Onlyfans at the beginning of our relationship and just shortly before we got married... I was angry but I downplayed it and thought I could get over it. All it did was cause massive trust issues that have never healed and never will. He was subscribed to one of his exes and he also messaged one of the girls asking to meet just shortly after I stayed the week at his place for my birthday.
I spiraled mentally once the anger phase passed (severe depression and anxiety) and told him what I saw. He tried to deny it but when I said I knew his "pictures" he caved and said he wished I never told him and punched the headboard of our bed. He's my only source of comfort so I went to him countless times telling him I was still struggling with my trust issues and worried about whether he was still looking at other women, because he is subscribed to tons of women like that on Instagram and Tiktok. I started snooping looking for any evidence I could get so I could finally convince myself to leave him.
Everytime I confronted him about what I saw he made excuses and flew into a rage at me for snooping, screamed in my face, threw objects and furniture around (including our wedding rings and he broke my engagement ring in the process), punched walls, threatened divorce, demanded me to leave, or walked out without saying where he was going which made me call the police one time to look for him. I blamed myself because I was the one snooping and I told myself how would I feel if my partner constantly snooped on me? I blamed myself for everything and still kind of do. But he says it's his fault I'm like this and he just has to deal with the consequences.
Other times he says he has changed and it's my fault for getting in my head all the time, that my lack of trust is always so hard on him, and that my depression and anxiety are constantly dragging him down even though he says he's doing everything right to make me feel better. When I come to him to talk he usually sighs or treats it like a chore.
He says he beats himself up everyday for what he did and has apologized multiple times. But I never see any true regret. He told me "everybody else gets over their problems, why can't you?" He says he went through so much worse in the military than I have ever gone through and he got over his problems, so why can't I? That I need to "unfuck" myself and "everybody has depression."
One day when he came home I was feeling very low but he was in a bad mood already and he came at me, screaming that he's getting tired of me always being down and threatened divorce. I asked if he hated me and he looked at me and said in a really frightening way "if I hated you you'd be dead." That crushed me. Another time I got mad and said I was this way because of what he did to break my trust and he screamed at me multiple times to STFU, "waaah waaah waaaah you're always a Debbie downer" and threw in my face "you have no friends." He said he was done with the marriage but I talked him into staying because he has me so convinced the problem is me.
Other things... rough/forceful/demeaning sex... always saying "fuck you baby" in a cutesy way as a way to interact when we're doing our own things separately... slamming a controller down on my knee accidentally because he flew into a rage over losing a game... continuing to yell and saying he wasn't allowed to express anger even when I said it was scaring me... telling me once "I don't THINK I'd ever hurt you" (physically)... almost never helping with house chores and shopping... using me for money even though he makes more than I do with his disability payments... insulting my mother who helps us financially... trying to kick my cat one night when he couldn't sleep.
He's always so mean and critical of complete strangers when we go out and he acts like a macho narcissist who has everything figured out and he knows the right way about everything, like someone who is super opinionated to an obnoxious extent.
There's more but this is the worst of it all.
I read Lundy Bancroft's book asking myself if he's really that bad because 90% of the time he's good and loving. I know what I'm involved in and I know how much I've trauma bonded with him. But I've reached the point where I wake up every day in panic and despair knowing I'm still here and I want to get out. I already tried to leave before with a go bag and my cat but he talked me back. Some days I still try to convince myself the good times are worth staying for because I'm exhausted and I just want a good day for once. I've been miserable for months but I'm a pressure cooker now just waiting to blow. I'm falling apart.
I know I'm going to talk to a divorce lawyer and at least see if I have a case to have him evicted through a PFA. In that case he would be moving back in with his dad but he'd be close by. I could get the locks changed but I wouldn't put it past him to stalk me and try to hurt me (PFA or not -- he is suicidal anyway and has a lot of contempt for laws and the police), vandalize my car, or try to break into the apartment to hurt me or my cat. I don't even know if I would still be happy here where all these bad memories happened. And I wouldn't feel safe for myself or my cat everytime if I left the apartment.
The only other option is moving back in with my alcoholic narcissistic mother (my abusive alcoholic scizophrenic brother lives with her too) who doesn't know how to provide emotional support and hasn't been supportive at all throughout this marriage except financially. I would have to live in her garage, trust her not to let my cat loose if I go out, and make multiple trips back to my abusive husband still in the apartment to get all my belongings and furniture. He doesn't work, he's on school break now for summer so he's always here. I know I can get a police escort but they're not going to wait around for me to pack up the entire place. Almost everything is mine.
My husband might even just volunteer to leave and move back in with his dad like he has done before. I might not even need a PFA. I'm more afraid he'll try to hurt me if I actually get one versus if he just left by himself. I also don't know if he would offer to leave then just try to come back and hurt me before I could get the locks changed. The landlords constantly ignore the residents so I'd have to wait days or weeks for a lock change. Our lease ends next March.
I don't know what to do. All I want is to be by myself again with my cat in a safe place and it seems like no place and no escape plan I can come up with is entirely safe or secure. I'm at a loss but I can't keep living like this.
2024.05.14 02:26 Happy-Indication7649 I can’t stand my son
I have one child. I had him when I was younger and I didn’t regret having him (though I truly expected to by what everyone in my life said). But lately over the past few years I’ve grown to not like who he is as a person. And regret has set in.
I will call him “M”, M is 12yrs old, going to be 13 this year. He is being raised in a two parent household, in a good town and school district. We live pretty comfortably as you can for this day and age. But M is never happy. M is never satisfied with anything. M consistently gets in trouble at school for repeating inappropriate things he watches on YouTube or hears while playing video games. He bullies kids younger than him and then never takes accountability for what he said or did, even when multiple adults tell him that what he did wasn’t okay. With COVID our state shut down school in person for 2 full calendar years, M is now pretty far behind in reading for his age. M refuses to do any sport, non-physical activity, or after-school activities that have been offered to him; usually always without a reason (it’s always just “I don’t want to”). M fights mainly with me because I am the parent who is home most often with him (other parent works out of home/12 hour shifts), so we always butt heads. M never allows any type of criticism and even when complimented he is smug and always says “I know”. He’s become a person I wouldn’t want to spend any time around, and frankly wouldn’t be friends with (if he was an adult and not my child). I don’t know what to do.
Things we’ve actively done to help M: -When we relocated, we set up an IEP and tutor to help assist him with his reading, writing and math skills. -We were finally able to talk him into trying (and successfully liking taekwondo) -Give him multiple style devices to support and promote his interest in video games and watching others play video games. -We gave him a list of small chores to do each day that never change and we do not ask more out of him (we always welcome help if he decides) -We start excessively complimenting the things he does and carving out time for him to explain his special interests (e.g his Lego creations) -We do not force him to actively join in on family dinners, activities or errands if he doesn’t want to go.
Both M’s other parent and myself came from very abusive households and we’re never treated like human beings that would become eventual adults. So we’ve really made it our focus to create a safe and understanding environment for M (we purposely never had more kids so that M would never feel like he had to compete with anyone else for love) but M continues to always push back, argue, cause problems at school and act like he hates us.
Because this has been an issue on and off for years, I am unsure what else I can do to help. Sometimes I cry at night because I regret keeping him and also yearning for the day he turns 18. (And I feel horrible for feeling that way)
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I will call him “M”, M is 12yrs old, going to be 13 this year. He is being raised in a two parent household, in a good town and school district. We live pretty comfortably as you can for this day and age. But M is never happy. M is never satisfied with anything. M consistently gets in trouble at school for repeating inappropriate things he watches on YouTube or hears while playing video games. He bullies kids younger than him and then never takes accountability for what he said or did, even when multiple adults tell him that what he did wasn’t okay. With COVID our state shut down school in person for 2 full calendar years, M is now pretty far behind in reading for his age. M refuses to do any sport, non-physical activity, or after-school activities that have been offered to him; usually always without a reason (it’s always just “I don’t want to”). M fights mainly with me because I am the parent who is home most often with him (other parent works out of home/12 hour shifts), so we always butt heads. M never allows any type of criticism and even when complimented he is smug and always says “I know”. He’s become a person I wouldn’t want to spend any time around, and frankly wouldn’t be friends with (if he was an adult and not my child). I don’t know what to do.
Things we’ve actively done to help M: -When we relocated, we set up an IEP and tutor to help assist him with his reading, writing and math skills. -We were finally able to talk him into trying (and successfully liking taekwondo) -Give him multiple style devices to support and promote his interest in video games and watching others play video games. -We gave him a list of small chores to do each day that never change and we do not ask more out of him (we always welcome help if he decides) -We start excessively complimenting the things he does and carving out time for him to explain his special interests (e.g his Lego creations) -We do not force him to actively join in on family dinners, activities or errands if he doesn’t want to go.
Both M’s other parent and myself came from very abusive households and we’re never treated like human beings that would become eventual adults. So we’ve really made it our focus to create a safe and understanding environment for M (we purposely never had more kids so that M would never feel like he had to compete with anyone else for love) but M continues to always push back, argue, cause problems at school and act like he hates us.
Because this has been an issue on and off for years, I am unsure what else I can do to help. Sometimes I cry at night because I regret keeping him and also yearning for the day he turns 18. (And I feel horrible for feeling that way)
2024.05.14 02:26 Mean_Emergency7955 Should I tell her?
Relationship help?
help!!!!! im so confused
i 14m like this girl in the samw year as me. but its so confusing so i’ll tell u the story first. (its a long one)
I’m from England and so is the girl i like. lets call her Julie. and we go to the same high school. one year an opportunity for an exchange was brought up. In October we’d spend 10 days at our exchange partner’s house in America and go to their school and go round the island learning about different things. Before this, i’d wanted to know who Julie was etc. and I’d kept her at the back of my mind. To my luck, Julie was also going to go on the exchange (There were 30 of us and there are 300 people in my year.) So after the snapchat group chat was made I very smoothly 🤣 slided into Julie’s DM’s. We just talked loads instantly and we were yet to talk in real life. (She is in the other half of the year so we didn’t have any classes.) Meeting after meeting about the trip and we still hadn’t talked. Eventually, the trip arrived and we were headed to heathrow from a local airprot and Heathrow to the airport in america. In the security bit we finally spoke. Julie made a joke as I scurried around trying to be as quick as possible. From there we just kept talking and we even talked on the plane (when she woke up). She was sat behind me and I was sat with a friend and us three talked.
I can’t remember all the details but basically, throughout the whole trip me and her talked the whole time and people always shipped us if you get what I mean. However, I do remember the airport back. We had a three hour wait time I think at the american airport. and we were going around in small groups of four or five and I just spontaneously chose to go around with Julie. Julie was with two of her other friends but we spent the whole three hours making tiktoks and laughing and joking about and we both really enjoyed it. Finally, we were back home and we proceeded to text until school came by again. This is where another recently solved problem comes around.
The last day of the trip there was a massive party and I met this girl lets call Bella. Me and Bella started texting from there and sort of started liking each other. By this point I really really liked Julie and never stopped thinking about her but never knew if she felt the same and was very cautious about it. However, me and Bella kind of died down after a week or so.
So it was back to me putting my full effort into liking Julie. At school we didn’t talk much be exchange the few words whenever I saw her. I was really nervous around her in real life and tried to do my best to make it discreet I liked her and directed my attention elsewhere while still having full attention on her. Yet we texted like crazy and full on as well. We would always joke around and call each other names jokingly and we were really really friendly. We didn’t talk as much in January and February but picked up again in March. I still really really really liked her again and in April we shared our ambitions and they pretty much matched up and we shared our ‘types’ and we described each other but were completely clueless we liked each other. It got a bit confusing because she liked me ( I later found out in June/July) but also mentioned this other guy so I got confused and then in June it got really really messy.
You remember Bella right? Well the American kids all came over to England this time and stayed with us. On the first few days me and Bella didn’t talk however we did one day and we kicked about a ball on a field where everyone on the exchange was hanging out after we had a football match. From there me and Bella hung out a lot together and did stuff together in class activities. We really liked each other and I no longer liked Julie. (It’s really important to keep in mind me and Bella didn’t know each other deeply etc.) However my feeling for Julie still remained a bit but slowly died out even when I still liked Bella the first few days. Anyways, me and Bella had held hands a few times etc. and when Bella went we hugged a lot. We weren’t into a relationship and a few days later we stated ‘talking’ (A state in which the relationship is similar to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but is not official.) and we called a lot. However a few problems arose when me and Bella discovered each other’s emotions and how we live and what we live by. It was present she was over reactive, over protective, quite mean (For example I’d talk about my day and she wouldn’t care and she’d talk about hers.), she also talked to a lot of other boys oddly (For example she blocked me sometimes and a few days later my friend was at the top of her best friend-list with a 😗 next to his name.) and she always had excuses. It just didn’t work for me and I wasn’t happy at all. Prior to me and Bella stopping talking me and Julie started to text again.
me and julie started to text again in about july 2023. (idk). julie had just got out of a relationship in august so i only started liking her again in september 2023. i tood my friends and obviously word spread but i always said i didnt infront of her so idk if she knew or not. anyway we still texted alot however another guy liked her who also texted her and there was a bit of competition. for a few months i didnt even know if i liked her, some days i would, some days i wouldnt and i was really conflicted. now, the ither guy and her dont really text much and so im not really bothered. we still both text each other loads and weve had eachother st the top of our best friends list for two weeks😂😂. anyways i have no idea if she likes me or not but i like her and were like best friends. feel free to ask any questions.
By the way the girl from american is completely out the picture. Julie doesnt know i like her.
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help!!!!! im so confused
i 14m like this girl in the samw year as me. but its so confusing so i’ll tell u the story first. (its a long one)
I’m from England and so is the girl i like. lets call her Julie. and we go to the same high school. one year an opportunity for an exchange was brought up. In October we’d spend 10 days at our exchange partner’s house in America and go to their school and go round the island learning about different things. Before this, i’d wanted to know who Julie was etc. and I’d kept her at the back of my mind. To my luck, Julie was also going to go on the exchange (There were 30 of us and there are 300 people in my year.) So after the snapchat group chat was made I very smoothly 🤣 slided into Julie’s DM’s. We just talked loads instantly and we were yet to talk in real life. (She is in the other half of the year so we didn’t have any classes.) Meeting after meeting about the trip and we still hadn’t talked. Eventually, the trip arrived and we were headed to heathrow from a local airprot and Heathrow to the airport in america. In the security bit we finally spoke. Julie made a joke as I scurried around trying to be as quick as possible. From there we just kept talking and we even talked on the plane (when she woke up). She was sat behind me and I was sat with a friend and us three talked.
I can’t remember all the details but basically, throughout the whole trip me and her talked the whole time and people always shipped us if you get what I mean. However, I do remember the airport back. We had a three hour wait time I think at the american airport. and we were going around in small groups of four or five and I just spontaneously chose to go around with Julie. Julie was with two of her other friends but we spent the whole three hours making tiktoks and laughing and joking about and we both really enjoyed it. Finally, we were back home and we proceeded to text until school came by again. This is where another recently solved problem comes around.
The last day of the trip there was a massive party and I met this girl lets call Bella. Me and Bella started texting from there and sort of started liking each other. By this point I really really liked Julie and never stopped thinking about her but never knew if she felt the same and was very cautious about it. However, me and Bella kind of died down after a week or so.
So it was back to me putting my full effort into liking Julie. At school we didn’t talk much be exchange the few words whenever I saw her. I was really nervous around her in real life and tried to do my best to make it discreet I liked her and directed my attention elsewhere while still having full attention on her. Yet we texted like crazy and full on as well. We would always joke around and call each other names jokingly and we were really really friendly. We didn’t talk as much in January and February but picked up again in March. I still really really really liked her again and in April we shared our ambitions and they pretty much matched up and we shared our ‘types’ and we described each other but were completely clueless we liked each other. It got a bit confusing because she liked me ( I later found out in June/July) but also mentioned this other guy so I got confused and then in June it got really really messy.
You remember Bella right? Well the American kids all came over to England this time and stayed with us. On the first few days me and Bella didn’t talk however we did one day and we kicked about a ball on a field where everyone on the exchange was hanging out after we had a football match. From there me and Bella hung out a lot together and did stuff together in class activities. We really liked each other and I no longer liked Julie. (It’s really important to keep in mind me and Bella didn’t know each other deeply etc.) However my feeling for Julie still remained a bit but slowly died out even when I still liked Bella the first few days. Anyways, me and Bella had held hands a few times etc. and when Bella went we hugged a lot. We weren’t into a relationship and a few days later we stated ‘talking’ (A state in which the relationship is similar to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but is not official.) and we called a lot. However a few problems arose when me and Bella discovered each other’s emotions and how we live and what we live by. It was present she was over reactive, over protective, quite mean (For example I’d talk about my day and she wouldn’t care and she’d talk about hers.), she also talked to a lot of other boys oddly (For example she blocked me sometimes and a few days later my friend was at the top of her best friend-list with a 😗 next to his name.) and she always had excuses. It just didn’t work for me and I wasn’t happy at all. Prior to me and Bella stopping talking me and Julie started to text again.
me and julie started to text again in about july 2023. (idk). julie had just got out of a relationship in august so i only started liking her again in september 2023. i tood my friends and obviously word spread but i always said i didnt infront of her so idk if she knew or not. anyway we still texted alot however another guy liked her who also texted her and there was a bit of competition. for a few months i didnt even know if i liked her, some days i would, some days i wouldnt and i was really conflicted. now, the ither guy and her dont really text much and so im not really bothered. we still both text each other loads and weve had eachother st the top of our best friends list for two weeks😂😂. anyways i have no idea if she likes me or not but i like her and were like best friends. feel free to ask any questions.
By the way the girl from american is completely out the picture. Julie doesnt know i like her.
2024.05.14 02:24 altered-cabron Are Pro-Israel Groups Collaborating To (Legally) Evade Lobbying Rules?
 | From the article (with some paraphrasing) submitted by altered-cabron to ndp [link] [comments] In May 2023 the Lobbyists’ Code of Conduct was updated, including with a rule preventing lobby groups from taking MPs they lobby or expect to lobby on sponsored travel.In conclusion, pro-Israel lobby groups are getting around our barely adequate lobbying rules with no consequences, and even if they violate the rules they don’t face consequences. No wonder our politicians are so willing to violate charter rights of pro-Palestinian protestors and conflate any criticism of Israel’s genocide with antisemitism - the game is rigged and they’re following CIJA talking points. I also feel personally vindicated by this article because at the time of this trip I had raised the possibility that they are getting around the rules in this very sub. |
2024.05.14 02:22 Bright-Talk5516 Original Break Up Post.
If you're here from my newest post on breakups thank you for caring first of all. and second, here's the post from a day or two after the breakup. also might be all over the place. sorry in advance lol.
01.24.24.
Hi, I never post on reddit, (in fact I just made this account for this post) but after thinking a lot and watching a lot of smosh's reading reddit stories, I think this might be the best place to get advice about this, given how specific it is lol.
Anyway, I'll just get started. I (18M) met my gf (17F) about 5 months ago online, a couple months after a rough breakup. Weirdly, she had just got over a break up too. After talking almost everyday for about a month, we decided to officially start dating.
I didn't wanna move on yet, but she completely changed my mind. She's the best. The absolute sweetest person in the world. I was so so in love with her. She was perfect. We called almost every night, texted all day while we were at school. I've always had mental health issues since I was 14. Most prominently, severe anxiety inherited from my father. Along with disorders like OCD and ADHD. But she completely cleared the fog in my mind. Everytime we texted, called, played a game together, or even just seeing her face on my wallpaper, it calmed me down. She was my safe place.
I can go on for hours and hours about this girl, you can ask more questions in the comments if you want but basically, she was perfect, and I believe she's my soulmate. Everything fell into place just for us to meet, which makes me think it was meant to be. Anyway, I'll just get to the point of this post.
It is Wednesday, January 24th. And on Saturday, January 20th, she texted me a long message saying she thinks we should break up. The whole idea was that she's never been quite sure about her sexuality. She always identified as Bisexual, but she thinks she might be a lesbian. As much as it hurt, especially with how sudden it was (we were telling one another how much we loved each other just the night before and she even posted a picture with a filter that said "I ❤️ my bf"). Everything felt like it was going amazingly, the best it's ever been. Then she dropped the bomb.
The first night and the whole next day, I was crushed. I don't cry often (not that I'm one to bottle up, it just never happens) but I cried hysterically. The most I've ever cried in my life, tied with when my childhood dog passed. My love, my happiness, my everything was gone.
Although, on Sunday, she said we should block each other as it would make it harder for both of us if we saw each other on our feeds. Which I agreed with, but I suggested we just unfollow instead of block. Due to her concerns that she might come to the conclusion that she's not gay after this journey she's taking. I love her, and told her I'll support her and her journey of self-searching. And if she never needs anything, I'll be here. She talked through everything with me to help me process it. It gave me clarity and made the following days easier. But I still miss her so much.
I love that she's so motivated to go out and find herself. I'm so proud of her. But I can't lie and say it doesn't hurt. Obviously, if she never told me, she would've been lying to herself and me. I know that. So I'm just accepting it right now. But this is where my head starts to get complicated.
I know it might sound naive because we're still so young. But I really think we're soulmates, and I don't think this is the end of us. It just doesn't feel right, and like it has to resolve in some way. I'm willing to do what it takes to get her back. I'm willing to wait months and months for her to maybe come back around. But is that wrong?
Everything I've heard is saying you shouldn't wait for them to come back. But she's going on a journey of self discovery, so I shouldn't push it right? I should wait for her to find out if she really is gay. And let her come to me when she finds out.
My biggest fear is that she'll wanna come back but she'll be too scared to reach out after she broke my heart. I know her and she's very considerate and sweet. This is something she would do, she's done similar things like this (obviously on a smaller scale).
But this raises even more questions. What if I wait too long and she ends up moving on? What if I wait for a year and she never even texts me? Idk what to do. I just want some guidance. Cause I'm kinda stuck.
If you read this heartbroken teenagers mind being spilled onto this random reddit post, thank you. Any advice is appreciated. And I'll answer any questions you have in the comments. <3
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01.24.24.
Hi, I never post on reddit, (in fact I just made this account for this post) but after thinking a lot and watching a lot of smosh's reading reddit stories, I think this might be the best place to get advice about this, given how specific it is lol.
Anyway, I'll just get started. I (18M) met my gf (17F) about 5 months ago online, a couple months after a rough breakup. Weirdly, she had just got over a break up too. After talking almost everyday for about a month, we decided to officially start dating.
I didn't wanna move on yet, but she completely changed my mind. She's the best. The absolute sweetest person in the world. I was so so in love with her. She was perfect. We called almost every night, texted all day while we were at school. I've always had mental health issues since I was 14. Most prominently, severe anxiety inherited from my father. Along with disorders like OCD and ADHD. But she completely cleared the fog in my mind. Everytime we texted, called, played a game together, or even just seeing her face on my wallpaper, it calmed me down. She was my safe place.
I can go on for hours and hours about this girl, you can ask more questions in the comments if you want but basically, she was perfect, and I believe she's my soulmate. Everything fell into place just for us to meet, which makes me think it was meant to be. Anyway, I'll just get to the point of this post.
It is Wednesday, January 24th. And on Saturday, January 20th, she texted me a long message saying she thinks we should break up. The whole idea was that she's never been quite sure about her sexuality. She always identified as Bisexual, but she thinks she might be a lesbian. As much as it hurt, especially with how sudden it was (we were telling one another how much we loved each other just the night before and she even posted a picture with a filter that said "I ❤️ my bf"). Everything felt like it was going amazingly, the best it's ever been. Then she dropped the bomb.
The first night and the whole next day, I was crushed. I don't cry often (not that I'm one to bottle up, it just never happens) but I cried hysterically. The most I've ever cried in my life, tied with when my childhood dog passed. My love, my happiness, my everything was gone.
Although, on Sunday, she said we should block each other as it would make it harder for both of us if we saw each other on our feeds. Which I agreed with, but I suggested we just unfollow instead of block. Due to her concerns that she might come to the conclusion that she's not gay after this journey she's taking. I love her, and told her I'll support her and her journey of self-searching. And if she never needs anything, I'll be here. She talked through everything with me to help me process it. It gave me clarity and made the following days easier. But I still miss her so much.
I love that she's so motivated to go out and find herself. I'm so proud of her. But I can't lie and say it doesn't hurt. Obviously, if she never told me, she would've been lying to herself and me. I know that. So I'm just accepting it right now. But this is where my head starts to get complicated.
I know it might sound naive because we're still so young. But I really think we're soulmates, and I don't think this is the end of us. It just doesn't feel right, and like it has to resolve in some way. I'm willing to do what it takes to get her back. I'm willing to wait months and months for her to maybe come back around. But is that wrong?
Everything I've heard is saying you shouldn't wait for them to come back. But she's going on a journey of self discovery, so I shouldn't push it right? I should wait for her to find out if she really is gay. And let her come to me when she finds out.
My biggest fear is that she'll wanna come back but she'll be too scared to reach out after she broke my heart. I know her and she's very considerate and sweet. This is something she would do, she's done similar things like this (obviously on a smaller scale).
But this raises even more questions. What if I wait too long and she ends up moving on? What if I wait for a year and she never even texts me? Idk what to do. I just want some guidance. Cause I'm kinda stuck.
If you read this heartbroken teenagers mind being spilled onto this random reddit post, thank you. Any advice is appreciated. And I'll answer any questions you have in the comments. <3
2024.05.14 02:20 thatsagooddaytater Needing advice. Did she emotionally / physically cheat?
This is a burner acct. This happened about a few months ago.
I'm not in a good head space so excuse me if I ramble. I will try to keep to contextual importance.
I have an android phone, wife an apple. This message and her response was discovered by me on an iPad. I'm not apple savvy.
I freaking cook great meals, keep the house and yard in tip top shape, I see and take care of the boys more than her because of her hours, fix and work on our cars, fix her family's cars when asked. She and the boys are on my insurance. She makes more than I career wise. Though combined im bringing in and contributing finacially more than her. She does a shit ton with boys school, pta, Dr visits, sign up for sports, laundry.
She did not give me any clues or actions that had me suspicious. This will be tedious but I am typing the screen shot of this only response. It is obvious that there were multiple other conversations that were deleted.
Him: I wanted to appologize. What I am about to say is coming from a real place. I am totally in tune with my relationship with God and my down falling. I realize although that I am totally attracted to everything about you and I would totally marry you if we were single. I also realize the lines that I crossed and the barriers I jumped over. By me not respecting yours and mine marriage with appropriate behavior. I am blocking yours and mine blessing to come. I am totally going to honor you by respecting you and if that time comes when a relationship with you is appropriate then we will cross that line when it gets here. In the mean time I will not say or message any inappropriate messages and I will completely honor our friendship. I will communicate with you as if your husband or my wife was sitting right beside. Vise versa. I am not perfect but I am trying babe. I hope you accept my appology.
My wife response: I miss you too.
Now I know it was easily emotional cheating.
Confrontation was "he is a friend, he dumped his emotional baggage on me, I told him not to talk to me about it..."
She immediately locked down her FB, and changed passcodes. We have been to couples counseling who I she picked (2 different ones). They tried to get me to move on and did not really address this. Since I have been totally withdrawn from her. A few words a day off and on. Then sometimes good days. Then back to thinking about this and back to not talking. I have 2 sons with her with around 10 years married. I am thinking ahead and I personally am financially stable with a liveable passive income on top of a great wage with my career.
Fuck!!! I could snap an oak tree right now.
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I'm not in a good head space so excuse me if I ramble. I will try to keep to contextual importance.
I have an android phone, wife an apple. This message and her response was discovered by me on an iPad. I'm not apple savvy.
I freaking cook great meals, keep the house and yard in tip top shape, I see and take care of the boys more than her because of her hours, fix and work on our cars, fix her family's cars when asked. She and the boys are on my insurance. She makes more than I career wise. Though combined im bringing in and contributing finacially more than her. She does a shit ton with boys school, pta, Dr visits, sign up for sports, laundry.
She did not give me any clues or actions that had me suspicious. This will be tedious but I am typing the screen shot of this only response. It is obvious that there were multiple other conversations that were deleted.
Him: I wanted to appologize. What I am about to say is coming from a real place. I am totally in tune with my relationship with God and my down falling. I realize although that I am totally attracted to everything about you and I would totally marry you if we were single. I also realize the lines that I crossed and the barriers I jumped over. By me not respecting yours and mine marriage with appropriate behavior. I am blocking yours and mine blessing to come. I am totally going to honor you by respecting you and if that time comes when a relationship with you is appropriate then we will cross that line when it gets here. In the mean time I will not say or message any inappropriate messages and I will completely honor our friendship. I will communicate with you as if your husband or my wife was sitting right beside. Vise versa. I am not perfect but I am trying babe. I hope you accept my appology.
My wife response: I miss you too.
Now I know it was easily emotional cheating.
Confrontation was "he is a friend, he dumped his emotional baggage on me, I told him not to talk to me about it..."
She immediately locked down her FB, and changed passcodes. We have been to couples counseling who I she picked (2 different ones). They tried to get me to move on and did not really address this. Since I have been totally withdrawn from her. A few words a day off and on. Then sometimes good days. Then back to thinking about this and back to not talking. I have 2 sons with her with around 10 years married. I am thinking ahead and I personally am financially stable with a liveable passive income on top of a great wage with my career.
Fuck!!! I could snap an oak tree right now.
2024.05.14 02:19 Old-Engineering6179 AITA for unplugging my son's computer?
My spouse and I have two boys, one age 12 and one aged 9.
My 12 year old son has had struggled with screen time since we first let him have access to a screen at age 2.
It's been ten years dealing with this so I could go on for ages about it, but here are a few highlights:
So what do you think...AITA for unplugging the computer?
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My 12 year old son has had struggled with screen time since we first let him have access to a screen at age 2.
It's been ten years dealing with this so I could go on for ages about it, but here are a few highlights:
- We always tried to follow recommendations for screentime limitations when our kids were younger.
- When the kids were very little, my spouse felt that screens had a lot to offer in terms of helping the kids learn to read, code, and build other skills, which is why we originally introduced them.
- We have struggled with our older son having extreme tantrums and the inability to stop screentime from the very beginning.
- We have tried every recommended technique- such as giving warnings. To be honest, there is not a lot of good advice out there about how to deal with this. I spoke to my son's pediatrician about it last week and she said to give 1 minute and 5 minute warnings. I found this advice laughable- I've known that and have been doing it for ten years, and it does not work with him.
- The extreme issues with screen addiction in addition to other things I have noticed about my son have caused me to suspect that he may have Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or some other issue. I have tried to get a formal diagnosis and have not been able to access care for that due to a lack of available mental health services. A secondary reason is that I do not believe my spouse supports me in seeking care for ASD. I have spoke to two friends who are experts in ASD who believe he may be on the spectrum. Also, my spouse has recently self-diagnosed with ASD which I think is relevant and will mention later.
- When my son was about 7 years old we took him to a few sessions with a mental health professional. It was not very helpful.
- Around this time my spouse got so frustrated with the tantrums when stopping screentime that they unplugged the television and removed it from our home. Shortly after that, we moved to a new house and neighborhood and did not take the tv with us. I would say that concerns about our son and his behavior were one of the primary reasons we moved.
- We moved with a 7 year old and a 5 year old and we did not allow any screen time at all for eight months.
- That is when the pandemic hit in 2020. The kids were sent home with iPads and told to do online school. My spouse and I both had to work at home with no childcare. They proceeded to need to use screens for school for the next 15 months. Over those 15 months and beyond, we gradually had screen back in our lives regularly. The tantrums came back. They included violent behavior, especially towards me and the little brother.
- We spent so much time trying to limit the screen and trying to encourage our older child to be interested in sports or other activities. When screens are on the table, nothing else is ever interesting to him.
- Over time the rules have become more lax. In my opinion it's often been my spouse that has allowed things to become more relaxed, although I'm sure my spouse would blame it on me. I think we're both at fault, mostly because we are just exhausted.
- Which bring us to today. My son is 12 years old.
- He typically is allowed to play video games from 5pm to bedtime at 7:30 pm on weeknights. On weekends we try to hold him off for as long as possible but he sometimes starts as early as 2pm (sometimes even earlier) and then plays until 7:30 (bedtime).
- He is happiest when playing games. He connects with his friends on there, he feels confident, he learns things about his interests including physics and history. He loves it.
- I put the kids to bed at night. Every single night of our lives it remains a struggle to get him off the screens. Is it better than it has been in the past? Yes. But is it still a struggle? Yes.
- He does not easily turn off screens for either my spouse or I, but he does it more easily for my spouse. I mentioned above that my spouse once confiscated the TV for 8 months. I believe that was a semi-traumatic experience for my son and it is burned into his brain when the tv was ripped out of the wall and removed while he screamed. In general, my spouse is more likely to raise their voice, be strict, etc. with the kids. My spouse used to yell more often and they try not to now. But they are still sometimes short with the kids. I have asked my kids why they listen to my spouse more than me and they tell me they are scared of my spouse.
- I sometimes raise my voice with my kids. I try not to. If my spouse is in earshot when I raise my voice with the kids, they get very upset. My spouse had a violent household as a child and me raising my voice with the kids is a major trigger for them. It has definitely been a struggle for me for years to get my kids to listen to me. I blame the fact that I struggle with being consistent with them, paired with the fact that my spouse is triggered by me being strict with them. So I feel like I can't win.
- So every night when it's time for screens to go off I am in a situation in which:
- The 12 year old will do anything and everything to stay on that screen as long as they can.
- My spouse is listening carefully from the other room, ready to judge and blame me if they are not happy with my approach.
- My 9 year old is very sensitive to all of this anxiety coming from the rest of us, gets off their video game exactly on time, bounces around the room begging for attention from me.
- So every night I try different things. Some of the most effective techniques are bribery, guilt, trying to pretend everything is cool and spark his interest in something else.
- Sometimes I talk to my son for ages about it beforehand and he is mentally primed and then turns the game off on time. That takes a tremendous amount of prep for it to work.
- This week, we had the doctors visit in which I brought up this issue and some related issues as I mentioned above that have had me thinking for years that he might have ASD. She did not respond to my question about whether we should look into ASD, but clearly blamed me for giving him more than an hour of screentime a day which is the recommended amount I guess.
- So, feeling super guilty, and since my 12 year old was in the doctor's room and heard what she said, I have been trying to renew my efforts to get him to turn off the video game at 7:30, instead of allowing him to drag it out until 8.
- My son did pretty well with this for several days this week.
- When he did not do well, I unplugged his computer form the wall. I gave him plenty of warning that I would do this. (There was a time a few months ago when I unplugged the computer and removed the cord and my spouse lost their shit about that.) Lately, I just unplug the cord and then leave the room. My son then gets up and plugs the computer back in but does not resume the game. He gets upset but does not have a huge tantrum. So I thought it was a win!
- UNTIL- this morning, after the kids left for school, my spouse LOST IT on me. Saying I should absolutely never unplug his computer, that it was ABUSIVE behavior. My spouse DEMANDED that I see a mental health professional. They DEMANDED it multiple times. They just lectured me, implied that I was doing things the way others in my family have and that its totally inappropriate. They said I shouldn't tell myself its ok because other people do it. It's not and I must seek treatment immediately.
So what do you think...AITA for unplugging the computer?
2024.05.14 02:18 Particular-Flow1797 Beatles Survey (for school project)
Hi everyone! I'm a student in my last year of school in Australia and for my Data Analytics class I am collecting information and data about The Beatles!
It is a Google Form and shouldn't take longer than five minutes to complete! All your personal information is anonymous and is not collected in any way. It is a great way for me to collect data to research the reasons why and how the Beatles are still so famous to this day by the questions in my form.
This is the link to access the form on -> https://forms.gle/Ank83VVpwDLeK1qq9
Thank you so much in advance 🥰
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It is a Google Form and shouldn't take longer than five minutes to complete! All your personal information is anonymous and is not collected in any way. It is a great way for me to collect data to research the reasons why and how the Beatles are still so famous to this day by the questions in my form.
This is the link to access the form on -> https://forms.gle/Ank83VVpwDLeK1qq9
Thank you so much in advance 🥰
2024.05.14 02:14 TechGoalDiveAI Space sim without velocity limits...thought experiment
Fun thought experiment here, and I'm not suggesting we change how SC works, because I know the model I'm proposing wouldn't work for anything like what we consider combat, so please spare me why you think this wouldn't work....
The concept is this...what if there was...no speed limit in space (well except the speed of light technically).
What would a flight model look like based on basic neutonian physics without velocity upper limits...
A few things I think would change...
Instead of jousting, I think it would be a lot more running/chasing/weaving dodging, and shooting backwards.
Rate of acceleration would decide if u could get away or not.
There would be an upper limit your ship could handle that would cause destruction if you slammed into atmo too fast.
Reverse burning for deceleration would become essential (and probably need autopilot integration).
I think with processes like these, ships would realistically be a lot further from each other, and it would make sense for things like lasers and missiles to work at much greater distances.
Similarly scopes to see ships at hundreds or even millions of kilometers would be expected. Probably only able to identify ship type by engine plume at some distance (like The Expanse).
Hmm, what else...
Well anyways, any ideas are welcome. I don't know if they'll ever make a game like this, but I would really enjoy something that would sort of operate how we would if we had spaceships right now. Not stopping at like 300 m/s...just so we are forced to dog fight like old school planes...
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The concept is this...what if there was...no speed limit in space (well except the speed of light technically).
What would a flight model look like based on basic neutonian physics without velocity upper limits...
A few things I think would change...
Instead of jousting, I think it would be a lot more running/chasing/weaving dodging, and shooting backwards.
Rate of acceleration would decide if u could get away or not.
There would be an upper limit your ship could handle that would cause destruction if you slammed into atmo too fast.
Reverse burning for deceleration would become essential (and probably need autopilot integration).
I think with processes like these, ships would realistically be a lot further from each other, and it would make sense for things like lasers and missiles to work at much greater distances.
Similarly scopes to see ships at hundreds or even millions of kilometers would be expected. Probably only able to identify ship type by engine plume at some distance (like The Expanse).
Hmm, what else...
Well anyways, any ideas are welcome. I don't know if they'll ever make a game like this, but I would really enjoy something that would sort of operate how we would if we had spaceships right now. Not stopping at like 300 m/s...just so we are forced to dog fight like old school planes...
2024.05.14 02:11 Emergency_Jelly2313 25m looking for friends to talk to/play games with
Hello. I'm looking for people to connect with and maybe play games with too. I am looking for wholesome conversation. I'm not the best at talking to people and can be quirky, soo it would be great if you were similar haha. I have no energy for toxicity or people who judge others a lot. Please be progressive and lgbt+ because we probably won't get along if you aren't :). I'm looking for friends only. I play a lot of overwatch and dead by daylight in my free time these days. I'm from America, and am going to school right now so I would prefer if you were available in the afternoons. That's all please do reach out if you think we might get along!
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2024.05.14 02:11 Successful_Leek6813 How can I make a good YouTube channel for Pokemon Solo runs?
I've got a YouTube channel that's going on 4 years in the making this year, and I've got 217 subscribers, and almost 400 videos between shorts and long form videos. I've been gaining about 1 subscriber a day on average for the past month, and I continue to make shorts of the successful battles I have in Pokemon romhacks and Pokemon games. I started doing Pokemon Solo runs in long form videos of all gym battles and elite four and champion battles back in 2020, but they didn't get many views, maybe 50-100 or so views. I stopped doing that until this year, and I should've kept doing what I did in 2020, but now I do long form videos of each Gym Leader battle with failed attempts and the successful battle, but for right now only in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do plan on wrapping up my Solo Starmie run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo, and I plan on tackling Pokemon Crystal for some Solo runs to show successful runs instead of failed run after failed run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do make my own thumbmails, however I'm on a Nokia G50 android phone, and I can't seem to make the good thumbnails many of the other Pokemon Solo run tubers make, mainly because I can never tell if the Pokemon image will fit into the YouTube Studios thumbnail size until I upload it into the app, and usually you can't see the whole Pokemon.
I use the Meme Generator to add text to the thumbnail, telling of the Pokemon game I'm playing, the Pokemon I'm using with the word "Solo" so everyone knows it's a Solo run (I've had to say this in the #shorts videos because so many people keep saying I'm overleveled, now the comments are better), and the Gym Leader or Rival number I'm facing.
For example, I'll have a Long Form video titled "Pokemon Blue Kaizo: Solo Starmie (Part 1) - Brock" Simple, right? I also have that in the thumbnail with a picture of Starmie, so you know what to expect in the part. Then I make a #shorts video of the battle, and if the battle takes over a minute, I do 60 seconds of the end of the battle, then link the full video in the Related Video.
One of my shorts videos did pretty well, 225+ views and 110.9% average viewed, although those amount of views are pretty low, but much better than my long form videos, although they're now doing better after being linked as the Related Video.
I heard look at the metrics, so I think I'll start doing that, although many of my long form videos are getting more views than before, mainly because I stopped making 30+ minutes videos and just show the important battles in the Solo runs, and then I put the long form videos in the Related Video of the Shorts videos I make, so perhaps I'm going in the right direction?
Sorry for my very long message, I'm not really good at just making it short, sweet, and to the point. I know of quite a few people on YouTube that do Solo runs (Gym Leader Matt, JRose11, Mah Dry Bread, RBY Challenges, Squidgy, Scott's Thoughts, etc.) I want to one day do YouTube full time, although this might not be that good of a niche to do that, I'd at least love to make some extra income on my YouTube channel. I want to get monetized by 2025, so any helpful feedback would be highy appreciated!
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I do plan on wrapping up my Solo Starmie run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo, and I plan on tackling Pokemon Crystal for some Solo runs to show successful runs instead of failed run after failed run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do make my own thumbmails, however I'm on a Nokia G50 android phone, and I can't seem to make the good thumbnails many of the other Pokemon Solo run tubers make, mainly because I can never tell if the Pokemon image will fit into the YouTube Studios thumbnail size until I upload it into the app, and usually you can't see the whole Pokemon.
I use the Meme Generator to add text to the thumbnail, telling of the Pokemon game I'm playing, the Pokemon I'm using with the word "Solo" so everyone knows it's a Solo run (I've had to say this in the #shorts videos because so many people keep saying I'm overleveled, now the comments are better), and the Gym Leader or Rival number I'm facing.
For example, I'll have a Long Form video titled "Pokemon Blue Kaizo: Solo Starmie (Part 1) - Brock" Simple, right? I also have that in the thumbnail with a picture of Starmie, so you know what to expect in the part. Then I make a #shorts video of the battle, and if the battle takes over a minute, I do 60 seconds of the end of the battle, then link the full video in the Related Video.
One of my shorts videos did pretty well, 225+ views and 110.9% average viewed, although those amount of views are pretty low, but much better than my long form videos, although they're now doing better after being linked as the Related Video.
I heard look at the metrics, so I think I'll start doing that, although many of my long form videos are getting more views than before, mainly because I stopped making 30+ minutes videos and just show the important battles in the Solo runs, and then I put the long form videos in the Related Video of the Shorts videos I make, so perhaps I'm going in the right direction?
Sorry for my very long message, I'm not really good at just making it short, sweet, and to the point. I know of quite a few people on YouTube that do Solo runs (Gym Leader Matt, JRose11, Mah Dry Bread, RBY Challenges, Squidgy, Scott's Thoughts, etc.) I want to one day do YouTube full time, although this might not be that good of a niche to do that, I'd at least love to make some extra income on my YouTube channel. I want to get monetized by 2025, so any helpful feedback would be highy appreciated!
2024.05.14 02:10 Right_Championship44 "I may have ruined my life at only 24 👍 (an ATP story) " Update 1 Year Later
Approximately 1 year ago I posted my ATP experience on this subreddit. I just wanted to update everyone on where I am at in my flying career. I left ATP with 150hrs TT, a PPL, and about 80K in student loan debt. Had I completed the program, I would have been left with about 120k in student debt. Shortly after I left ATP I ended up moving with my mom about 2hours away from the training facility. My first priority was to find a job and eventually join the military. It took about 3 months for me to find a job, and I was forced to sell all of my pilot gear just to pay my bills. I ended getting a job in July as a basic sales associate making little to no money. Worried as my debt grace period will be coming to an end, I grew more serious about joining the military. To my luck, in February they ended up promoting me to a full time position paying about 30k/year. I have not flown since my last post, and much of my knowledge has faded. These past few months I've really thought about what I want out of life, and the only thing I can think of is flying again. My original plan was to save up 10k and start training again, hoping my student loans would go on deferment, but I haven't talked to my loan company to verify this. Another issue with saving up money is my student loan bill. Currently I am paying about 300/month in student debt (which is manageable with my other personal debts), but this will quickly change to 1500/month come next April. By then, if I am still making 30k/year, I can kiss any hope of paying for flight training again. I feel lost, and truly don't know what I can do to get back in the air. I am posting this update in hopes that anyone might have some advice as to what I can do. Any scholarships, or programs that might mitigate the cost of flight school? Any experience with student loan deferment and flight training? I just want to fly, and If I can get a commercial license and get paid to do what I love, then I could careless what I'd be doing (even if it means flying 500AGL looking at a pipe for 5 hours in a beat up 152).
I feel it is also important to note that I will not be taking more money out to complete flight training.
I'll post a link to my original post below. Thanks everyone
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I feel it is also important to note that I will not be taking more money out to complete flight training.
I'll post a link to my original post below. Thanks everyone
2024.05.14 02:09 midget-man007 I dont think Im deserving of love
Over the past few years ive found myself becoming more and more reclusive, to the point where other people interacting and taking an interest in my life is not only annoying but something i actually cannot understand. Ive been trying to think on why that is and it sent me down a rabbit hole which landed me at that title. Ive never really been a sad person, I dont have any glaring confidence issues, i like who i am as a person now more than ever, but still the idea someone would want to get to know me urks me to the point of irritation and it makes it really hard for me to actually form a connection anymore.
I started to explore why that is and began unravelling a web of past relationships that ended, either emotionally or physically, with me feeling abandoned. TL;DR for the next part if you dont feel like reading, lots of the people ive held most dear to me have checked out on me.
My parents checked out midway through my childhood after we fell on hard times, im the youngest of 4 siblings who all had other interests and so lost interest in me growing up, In school i always felt different from others and felt like theyd judge me for being myself, that is until i found my best friend who i felt i could be completely myself around. However later on as we were seperated (i went to Uni he didnt) the relationship became strained as he became jealous of my budding social life at university, we ended up falling out after he demanded i no longer mention my life at uni when we spoke. I made 2 very close friends at Uni who i would keep after graduation, one of whome i came to see as the closest thing to a sister id ever had (something i had always wanted growing up, we'll call her J), the other girl slowly lost interest in our friendship and it became toxic and forced over time, in the end i just stopped texting her first and we never spoke again.
J was the worst by far though, our freindship was at its peak and i genuinly felt like she would nothing to hurt me, i started to have night terrors and as such didnt like sharing beds with anyone out of fear i might hurt them, she was the one person i felt comfortable sharing with, she knew about the night terrors and didnt care, she once held me against her chest to soothe me (which was abit embarrassing lol). But then she got a boyfriend and slowly ghosted me for 6 months, i asked her if something was wrong, she told me no, ghosted me again for 3 months and then blocked me from everything so i couldnt contact her. No warning, no fight, no closure. Just gone.
Since then ive become more reclusive, i talk to less people, im far less open with those i do talk to. Whilest logically i tell myself that i shouldnt take these events as some intrinsic character fault on my part, emotionally I dont think i believe it. I think the reason other people trying to get to know me is becoming so irritating is because I dont think I deserve it, i keep asking why they would want to? Which dosnt make sense because I like myself, I think im a good person, i think im interesting, I think i have good qualities, but the idea that someone else might also see that dosnt compute. It feels like itll only be a matter of time before they lose interest as well.
Today when i asked myself if i felt i deserve love, or just positive relationships, i honestly could not answer in the affirmative, and I dont know what to do about that.
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I started to explore why that is and began unravelling a web of past relationships that ended, either emotionally or physically, with me feeling abandoned. TL;DR for the next part if you dont feel like reading, lots of the people ive held most dear to me have checked out on me.
My parents checked out midway through my childhood after we fell on hard times, im the youngest of 4 siblings who all had other interests and so lost interest in me growing up, In school i always felt different from others and felt like theyd judge me for being myself, that is until i found my best friend who i felt i could be completely myself around. However later on as we were seperated (i went to Uni he didnt) the relationship became strained as he became jealous of my budding social life at university, we ended up falling out after he demanded i no longer mention my life at uni when we spoke. I made 2 very close friends at Uni who i would keep after graduation, one of whome i came to see as the closest thing to a sister id ever had (something i had always wanted growing up, we'll call her J), the other girl slowly lost interest in our friendship and it became toxic and forced over time, in the end i just stopped texting her first and we never spoke again.
J was the worst by far though, our freindship was at its peak and i genuinly felt like she would nothing to hurt me, i started to have night terrors and as such didnt like sharing beds with anyone out of fear i might hurt them, she was the one person i felt comfortable sharing with, she knew about the night terrors and didnt care, she once held me against her chest to soothe me (which was abit embarrassing lol). But then she got a boyfriend and slowly ghosted me for 6 months, i asked her if something was wrong, she told me no, ghosted me again for 3 months and then blocked me from everything so i couldnt contact her. No warning, no fight, no closure. Just gone.
Since then ive become more reclusive, i talk to less people, im far less open with those i do talk to. Whilest logically i tell myself that i shouldnt take these events as some intrinsic character fault on my part, emotionally I dont think i believe it. I think the reason other people trying to get to know me is becoming so irritating is because I dont think I deserve it, i keep asking why they would want to? Which dosnt make sense because I like myself, I think im a good person, i think im interesting, I think i have good qualities, but the idea that someone else might also see that dosnt compute. It feels like itll only be a matter of time before they lose interest as well.
Today when i asked myself if i felt i deserve love, or just positive relationships, i honestly could not answer in the affirmative, and I dont know what to do about that.
2024.05.14 02:08 GardenNook Castle in the Sky?
So TOTK is my first Zelda game since Majora’s Mask not gonna lie, but I do love it! The Ghibli inspired graphics, the monster crew (honestly my favorite side quests), you name it! Though I’m not fond of everything always breaking. That said I can imagine Nintendo producing a “Castle in the Sky” game that’s very similar.
I guess I like the mystery more, I wish the Zonai had a little less robots fighting us and a little more nature guardian mystique about them. That said I can’t imagine where they’ll take it from here, I know they said they’re done with this version but I really like it and think it’s full of possibilities. Where would you take the Zelda franchise?
I know this would never happen but for me personally, I could almost imagine an Industrial Revolution version where Zonai tech has created a technological revolution with a Cult of Ganon that needs to be stopped, and the player starts as an orphan Link with the re-emergence of loftwings and a “lost city” (the castle ;)) there could be a couple big cities and the rest beautiful countryside and part of the game could be the Hyrulians NEED magic and the faeries, and that the Zonai technology is causing the rending of the earth. Could almost do a Ghibli / Zelda style crossover. There could be an airship protected by loftwings with a “dog fight” style steam punk battle over the skies of Hyrule or a Disney Atlantis style submarine delving to find the Zora’s.
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I guess I like the mystery more, I wish the Zonai had a little less robots fighting us and a little more nature guardian mystique about them. That said I can’t imagine where they’ll take it from here, I know they said they’re done with this version but I really like it and think it’s full of possibilities. Where would you take the Zelda franchise?
I know this would never happen but for me personally, I could almost imagine an Industrial Revolution version where Zonai tech has created a technological revolution with a Cult of Ganon that needs to be stopped, and the player starts as an orphan Link with the re-emergence of loftwings and a “lost city” (the castle ;)) there could be a couple big cities and the rest beautiful countryside and part of the game could be the Hyrulians NEED magic and the faeries, and that the Zonai technology is causing the rending of the earth. Could almost do a Ghibli / Zelda style crossover. There could be an airship protected by loftwings with a “dog fight” style steam punk battle over the skies of Hyrule or a Disney Atlantis style submarine delving to find the Zora’s.
2024.05.14 02:03 ThrowRAsewerslvt i (18MtF) am in love with my childhood best friend (18MtF). i don't think they like me back. what should i do?
using a burner just in case they know my main reddit account.
i (18, transfem) am in love with my childhood best friend (18, transfem). to keep things anonymous and simple we'll give her the name Ramona.
Ramona and i have known each other since we were about five years old. we met in primary school and hit it off from our shared interest in Mario games, and really developed alongside each other since then. we moved onto Pokemon together, Splatoon together, got into similar types of music, our parents have always considered ourselves two peas from the same pod and it's really stayed true as the years have gone on. we've known each other for around 13 years and i consider us basically as close as ever, despite her moving to the next town over around 2016 and covid. if anything it was the pandemic that brought us so close because we started texting even more often and never ever stopped bahaha. now that its all over we see each other decently regularly, usually whenever i have time off education and she has time off work.
over the last... probably year? two years??? i've realised that i value Ramona in a much higher regard than even i had thought before. i really liked her. like that. i want to kiss her, to go out with her, do very romantic things with someone who had been platonic for ten years plus change. i've kind of just been sitting on this for that time, and its not really healthy for me anymore. i'm overthinking a lot of our conversations and i'm scared i'm going to lose her just by process of psyching myself out. i both want her to get a hint, and am absolutely terrified of it, i retype a lot of my messages now just because i second guess myself, etc. etc... it's not great. i've always struggled with relationships and crushes, probably a combination of unsolved gender related issues from age 12-17 and my autism. i've actually never been in a romantic relationship before. which is a little embarrassing at 18 but eh, it happens sometimes.
i just don't really know what to do at this point. the obvious answer is just "tell her, you pussy!!!" and i've thought about that! especially because i'm going to university in september, its a chance for a fresh start and to get things off my chest about a number of things. that's been in the back of my mind for a good minute. but i highly doubt that she likes me back in that way, or would even consider giving the relationship a go, there's been virtually zero signs. she's a very good friend and a kind person beyond all of that, so i doubt i would immediately get the cold shoulder if the answer was a no. but i'm beyond terrified for what our friendship would become in the weeks, months after i confess. i'm not exactly co-dependant on her, but losing her like that would cripple me for a good while, i imagine anyone losing a friendship they've had for this amount of time would go through the same thing. so... what do i do at this point? if anyone's been in a similar situation or has any guidance to give, please help me out.
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i (18, transfem) am in love with my childhood best friend (18, transfem). to keep things anonymous and simple we'll give her the name Ramona.
Ramona and i have known each other since we were about five years old. we met in primary school and hit it off from our shared interest in Mario games, and really developed alongside each other since then. we moved onto Pokemon together, Splatoon together, got into similar types of music, our parents have always considered ourselves two peas from the same pod and it's really stayed true as the years have gone on. we've known each other for around 13 years and i consider us basically as close as ever, despite her moving to the next town over around 2016 and covid. if anything it was the pandemic that brought us so close because we started texting even more often and never ever stopped bahaha. now that its all over we see each other decently regularly, usually whenever i have time off education and she has time off work.
over the last... probably year? two years??? i've realised that i value Ramona in a much higher regard than even i had thought before. i really liked her. like that. i want to kiss her, to go out with her, do very romantic things with someone who had been platonic for ten years plus change. i've kind of just been sitting on this for that time, and its not really healthy for me anymore. i'm overthinking a lot of our conversations and i'm scared i'm going to lose her just by process of psyching myself out. i both want her to get a hint, and am absolutely terrified of it, i retype a lot of my messages now just because i second guess myself, etc. etc... it's not great. i've always struggled with relationships and crushes, probably a combination of unsolved gender related issues from age 12-17 and my autism. i've actually never been in a romantic relationship before. which is a little embarrassing at 18 but eh, it happens sometimes.
i just don't really know what to do at this point. the obvious answer is just "tell her, you pussy!!!" and i've thought about that! especially because i'm going to university in september, its a chance for a fresh start and to get things off my chest about a number of things. that's been in the back of my mind for a good minute. but i highly doubt that she likes me back in that way, or would even consider giving the relationship a go, there's been virtually zero signs. she's a very good friend and a kind person beyond all of that, so i doubt i would immediately get the cold shoulder if the answer was a no. but i'm beyond terrified for what our friendship would become in the weeks, months after i confess. i'm not exactly co-dependant on her, but losing her like that would cripple me for a good while, i imagine anyone losing a friendship they've had for this amount of time would go through the same thing. so... what do i do at this point? if anyone's been in a similar situation or has any guidance to give, please help me out.
2024.05.14 02:01 Aerial-Ace97 [Online] [Heavily Homebrewed 3.5] [Very LGBT+] The Oh Hellos
World: The Oh Hellos takes place on the homebrew moon of Loam as two worlds are thrust together. When the clone ship Argonaut crashes here, the chaos it leaves amongst the many empires is pushed to its brink as it delivers a whole host of new people and races that must exist beside them. Players will be split between survivors of this crash and people from Loam who have come to investigate the oceanic crash. As the players navigate these shattered worlds, they must try to find a place between themselves while also dealing with the loss of most of what they’ve come to know. They will travel from the newly upheaved oceanic towers of Uteloch where the sky has been torn open into sky death steeped lightning to the land of Job on the dark side of the moon where virulent coral grows out of the black desert bluffs. Along the way, they will visit mystical Shrukeng, the great and dormant super volcano overtaken by ultra rich vegetation and superheating it’s many rivers and lakes that are populated by yokai and fey alike, wild Dahwet where winter clutches a land where the very ground and trees breathe and growl and ancient ziggurats tell of mysteries beneath the ice, and ancient Qasidra, where deep furnaces fume mix with the far reaching sands to produce ash that can give glimpses of times long gone and Eddie’s are formed that connect points in history that appear as if mirages. There is much more to be discovered throughout the world of Loam. The story largely mixes themes of animal fantasy, hopepunk, and cultural conflict. With animal fantasy, both those races from Loam and the slave ship are largely animalistic humanoids and themes of the story draw from animal fantasy books. With hopepunk, all of the players will have lost someone if not multiple people close to them as a result of the crash and the story is as much finding a place in the world as it is finding a place without them, and this is further spun on by the Triquetra system which is described a bit more in our documents. The cultural conflict is somewhat explanatory. The campaign is largely inspired by the band the Oh Hellos, with each game being tied to one of their songs. System: Heavily homebrewed 3.5 Session Length: 5 to 6 Hours Schedule: Saturdays starting at 4 pm CST Requirements: Discord and Roll20 though we may try out Foundry Price: No price Slots Remaining: At least 4 of 7 Link for more information: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1turlsT6RteWlaqqJwnnAHyzY_Y_av66ibQBM2eoqyo0/edit Contact: You can PM me here or on Discord at TheFinalHolmes
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2024.05.14 02:01 Gosc101 Essence distribution in Loth and Barya isn't great. Currently, the issue is especially bad in Loth.
Before talking about essence, I think I need to talk about wielders. All factions have their wielders group into 3 classes with mostly standardised skill tree. While wielders can be viewed in detail in this link: https://soc.th.gl/wielders their classes names can not. The only place that I know of where you can find them is in your town, when you recruit wielders they have their class names under their own names.
Each class have one school of magic they can easily learn from the level 1, second magic school they can easily learn from level 5 and third school of magic they can easily learn from level 10. Some classes can learn their third school earlier than at level 10, but the path to it can be awfully convoluted. Importantly, each magic school is once first, once second and once third within the classes of each faction.
One class within Barya has primary magic school as destruction magic, followed by order magic. There is not much issue here, even if you want to use musketeers and pikeneers in early game, order magic is still fairly accessible to them.
Next class within Barya has primary magic school as order magic, followed by chaos magic. Order essence is more abundant than destruction essence in the early game, so that is fine, but chaos magic is obviously not very appealing. However, you do not have that much wasted destruction essence until later, so only getting destruction magic from level 10 onwards isn't that terrible.
Last class within Barya has primary magic school as chaos magic, followed by destruction magic. This is magic damage focused class, so it can get value from chaos magic later on, but in early game it is probably best to ignore and prioritise getting destruction magic from level 5.
Now, tinkerers/artificers can get second chaos essence from their first research, meaning if you invest heavily in that unit you will have a fair amount of chaos essence (pipers also get one chaos essence with research). What is more important is that tinkerers have the ability to erect stakes, which enables the tactic of slowing the game down with stakes and dealing damage with your spells, since these units have a fair amount of destruction essence as well. This is a very non-interactive tactic, which is also why it is (unfortunately) very strong. Should the ability to erect stakes ever be nerfed/replaced, this wielders class would immediately plummet to the ground, because chaos magic school would just drag them down.
I think tinkerers/artificers should have one of their destruction essence swapped with one chaos essence. This way with research they would have 3 chaos essence, meaning this magic school could actually be put to some use. I will, however, mention that chaos magic school is a bit weak in general so it would benefit from having the Tempest spell replaced with something that actually can be put to any use (which I have mentioned in my posts before)
First class within Loth has primary magic school as destruction magic, followed by arcana magic. It does not suffer from the inclusion of order essence early in their skill tree.
Next, the second class within Loth has primary magic school as order magic, followed by destruction magic. That isn't very good. The units that produce order essence are oathbound/legionnaire, cultists/oathsingers and legions, each having only one order essence on them. This means you will get an ok amount of it in early game, if you get both cultists and oathbound, but is not really going to be what you want past very early game unless you go for spells damage build, and this class does not have access to channelling... so maybe don't.
Eventually legions will produce some amount of order essence, but still this won't be very useful school of magic, but at least you have access to destruction magic school from the level 5.
The last, third class within Loth has primary magic school as arcana magic, followed by order magic. Loth has a fair amount of arcana essence, even if it is not the case in early game. However, this is exactly when you get this magic school, and it is followed by order magic school. This is frustrating, because of how dominant destruction essence is within Loth troops. You are sure to have a sizeable amount of destruction essence that you can't put to effective use due to not having the magic school skill. Order magic school is also an unfunny joke at this point.
The natural answer might be to simply invest in more might related skill in the meanwhile, and yes it is the answer, but it won't take way the fact that you will be sitting on the destruction essence that you can get frustratingly little value of. Not to mention, the more invest in might related skill, the less likely it is for you to roll destruction magic later.
I will admit, you can technically get destruction magic school earlier than at level 10. Now, to have a chance to roll it earlier you have to have already put points into march, prepared and raider, yes, raider. This isn't worth to be talked about any further.
What can be done about it? Shuffling the schools around is not really an option, since some class would be without destruction magic until level 10 anyway. Honestly, I don't think there is a good solution here other than breaking the symmetry and allowing this class the easy access to destruction magic earlier.
I suppose, Oathbound/Legionnaire could have their one destruction essence for second order essence. This would be more of a help to the second class of Loth rather than the third, but at least investing in order magic as the third class could still have some merit.
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Each class have one school of magic they can easily learn from the level 1, second magic school they can easily learn from level 5 and third school of magic they can easily learn from level 10. Some classes can learn their third school earlier than at level 10, but the path to it can be awfully convoluted. Importantly, each magic school is once first, once second and once third within the classes of each faction.
Barya
Barya has access to 3 types of essence from their units: destruction, order and chaos. The amount of chaos essence you can get from the units without research is two. Only two, one from dreaths and one tinkerers/artificers. This is awfully small, and I think that since Barya wielders have chaos magic as an important part of their skill development, there should be at least a decent amount of it within the units.One class within Barya has primary magic school as destruction magic, followed by order magic. There is not much issue here, even if you want to use musketeers and pikeneers in early game, order magic is still fairly accessible to them.
Next class within Barya has primary magic school as order magic, followed by chaos magic. Order essence is more abundant than destruction essence in the early game, so that is fine, but chaos magic is obviously not very appealing. However, you do not have that much wasted destruction essence until later, so only getting destruction magic from level 10 onwards isn't that terrible.
Last class within Barya has primary magic school as chaos magic, followed by destruction magic. This is magic damage focused class, so it can get value from chaos magic later on, but in early game it is probably best to ignore and prioritise getting destruction magic from level 5.
Now, tinkerers/artificers can get second chaos essence from their first research, meaning if you invest heavily in that unit you will have a fair amount of chaos essence (pipers also get one chaos essence with research). What is more important is that tinkerers have the ability to erect stakes, which enables the tactic of slowing the game down with stakes and dealing damage with your spells, since these units have a fair amount of destruction essence as well. This is a very non-interactive tactic, which is also why it is (unfortunately) very strong. Should the ability to erect stakes ever be nerfed/replaced, this wielders class would immediately plummet to the ground, because chaos magic school would just drag them down.
I think tinkerers/artificers should have one of their destruction essence swapped with one chaos essence. This way with research they would have 3 chaos essence, meaning this magic school could actually be put to some use. I will, however, mention that chaos magic school is a bit weak in general so it would benefit from having the Tempest spell replaced with something that actually can be put to any use (which I have mentioned in my posts before)
Loth
Loth has access to 3 types of essence from their units: destruction, arcana and order. The amount of order essence within the units is three, unlike in Barya there is no more essence to be gained from research, meaning it has less total amount of order essence than Barya chaos essence with research included.First class within Loth has primary magic school as destruction magic, followed by arcana magic. It does not suffer from the inclusion of order essence early in their skill tree.
Next, the second class within Loth has primary magic school as order magic, followed by destruction magic. That isn't very good. The units that produce order essence are oathbound/legionnaire, cultists/oathsingers and legions, each having only one order essence on them. This means you will get an ok amount of it in early game, if you get both cultists and oathbound, but is not really going to be what you want past very early game unless you go for spells damage build, and this class does not have access to channelling... so maybe don't.
Eventually legions will produce some amount of order essence, but still this won't be very useful school of magic, but at least you have access to destruction magic school from the level 5.
The last, third class within Loth has primary magic school as arcana magic, followed by order magic. Loth has a fair amount of arcana essence, even if it is not the case in early game. However, this is exactly when you get this magic school, and it is followed by order magic school. This is frustrating, because of how dominant destruction essence is within Loth troops. You are sure to have a sizeable amount of destruction essence that you can't put to effective use due to not having the magic school skill. Order magic school is also an unfunny joke at this point.
The natural answer might be to simply invest in more might related skill in the meanwhile, and yes it is the answer, but it won't take way the fact that you will be sitting on the destruction essence that you can get frustratingly little value of. Not to mention, the more invest in might related skill, the less likely it is for you to roll destruction magic later.
I will admit, you can technically get destruction magic school earlier than at level 10. Now, to have a chance to roll it earlier you have to have already put points into march, prepared and raider, yes, raider. This isn't worth to be talked about any further.
What can be done about it? Shuffling the schools around is not really an option, since some class would be without destruction magic until level 10 anyway. Honestly, I don't think there is a good solution here other than breaking the symmetry and allowing this class the easy access to destruction magic earlier.
I suppose, Oathbound/Legionnaire could have their one destruction essence for second order essence. This would be more of a help to the second class of Loth rather than the third, but at least investing in order magic as the third class could still have some merit.
2024.05.14 02:01 Uh-Usernames "Ingeterra Museum of History"
 | [ Context : Saturday, 11:32Am ] submitted by Uh-Usernames to GachaClubPOV [link] [comments] It was your average Saturday morning. The sun was out and there was naught but a cloud or two in the sky. As for you, you were sitting on the couch of your house or apartment, playing on your phone or possibly watching TV for the past hour or so. You hadn't really done anything the night prior, as you didn't really have the energy to because of either work or school, so you just went to bed. As for today, you didn't really have any plans. You had all your work or assignments finished the day or few before; sure, you could play video games or read a book, things of that nature, but none of that really sounded interesting at the moment. In all honesty, you were just a wee bit bored. After a couple more seconds, you'd look up from the TV or phone, and would just sit there for a moment. You hadn't really explored around this town yet, as your day to day trips usually involve either school or work and then home, with the occasional stop by at a restaurant or grocery store. Maybe you should head out and about? Get away from the house and venture around? Granted though, that also sounded like a bit of a hassle, causing you to just sit there and have this debate with yourself. "Ehh.... Fuck it, might as well.." You said to yourself after a couple of minutes. You would get up and reach for the remote, turning your TV off. You would then put your phone in your pocket. You decided you might as well get up and explore around town. "It's good for the soul! Wink". After changing, you would exit your place and just begin to wander around for a bit, sort of like a lost puppy or something. Walk-in around the town you reside, you would come across a multitude of different buildings: Clothing stores, Car Stores, Fast-food joints, the works pretty much. Though, none of them really caught your eye. After all, who would want to walk around 'John and Marry's Wedding Shop' for fun? After a solid half an hour or so, you sort of beginning to regret your decision; it was hot, boring, and you were beginning to grow tired of the constant walking. In all honesty, you were really starting to crave your home again. However, against better interests, you would continue to march on, determined to accomplish something, anything, out here, even if it killed you for some reason. After a solid 5 or more minutes of walking, you begin to approach a rather large building in the distance. You couldn't exactly read much of what it said, but, off appearances alond, it look rather neet. You would begin to speed walk your way over there, determined to figure out what this building was. After a few minutes, the engraving on the front of the building would become clear. "Ingeterra Museum Of World History" Ah... That's... Probably a bit of a let down.. or maybe it wasn't, it all depends on what you are into. You would sort of stop and look at it for a couple of minutes. You were sort of hesitant to keep going, as part of you would much rather head home and do something else, while the other half wanted to do something out and about. However, after looking at it for a few more seconds, you'd notice a small sign in front of the museum. From the distance, you couldn't really make out much of what it said, so you would begin to walk over. It would take you a couple of minutes to get over; however, once you were able to get in front, you would be able to stop and read the sign. "Now.. tickets for a dollar; Weekend special... "OnLy fIvE BuCkS"" You muttered to yourself. You would glance around a bit, noticing the sight of pretty much no one. It seems most people weren't really all that interested; although, that also meant that, if you wanted, you could probably get in there quickly and Cheaply, and probably with no one to bother you. It sort of sealed the deal; you were going into this museum. [ PoV : 12:32PM ] You would walk up the stares of the Museum, reaching the top where the entrance was. It was sort of odd that no one was here as this place was rather clean and grand; granted, most people and been in this town longer than you have, so it sort of made sense. Upon opening the door, you would be greeted with a those metal entry booths that you typically see in a subway or airport. On them was a little screen and area that you could either put your card or money into. You would walk over and pay the 5 dollar toll, allowing the metal entry light to turn green and allow you to walk through it. Upon entering, you would see a couple of people on the inside. It was a giant open room, with multiple different things to look at and even interact with. There were also hallways diverging off into their own separate things. As for you, it was your choice; what do you want to explore first? --------------------------------------------------------------------------.- [ A ] : Early Human History Exhibit [ B ] : Maximus Imperium Exhibit [ C ] : Medieval Exhibit [ D ] : The Kat'herine Dynasty exhibit [ E ] : Imperialism Exhibit [ F ] : The Trotz Exhibit [ G ] : Clavahabena Exhibit [ H ] : Modern history Exhibit --------------------------------------------------------------------------.- . Large main room --------------------------------------------------------------------------.- [ I ] : The Dinosaur Exhibit [ II ] : Pre-Human Exhibit [ III ] : Conspiracy Exhibit [ IV ] : Automotive Exhibit [ V ] : Explore... --------------------------------------------------------------------------.- Rules --------------------------------------------------------------------------.-
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2024.05.14 02:00 Mahbows Daily Challenge for Non-Cheaters - May 14, 2024
Link to the Daily Challenge
This is a place for Reddit users to submit their scores for the official Daily Challenge (hopefully) without the results being tarnished by cheaters. This should be played as a [2] -- zooming/rotating, moving allowed but external assistance is prohibited. Feel free to leave any walkthroughs in your comments, concealed with a spoiler tag.
A bot will keep a leaderboard for the month. You'll notice two columns related to your scoring performance. The first of these columns is labeled Average and represents your average score among all games throughout the month. The second column is labeled Score and represents either: 1. The average of your top 15 performances, or 2. Your average score divided by 15 (if you have played less than 15 games). The leaderboard is sorted by Score. At the end of the month, the highest Score will be declared the winner, and the leaderboard will reset for the next month.
Why do we keep score this way? There were 3 potential options for scorekeeping:
HALL OF FAME
Summary of top 3 performances:
Top 10 Individual Personal Bests All-Time:
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This is a place for Reddit users to submit their scores for the official Daily Challenge (hopefully) without the results being tarnished by cheaters. This should be played as a [2] -- zooming/rotating, moving allowed but external assistance is prohibited. Feel free to leave any walkthroughs in your comments, concealed with a spoiler tag.
A bot will keep a leaderboard for the month. You'll notice two columns related to your scoring performance. The first of these columns is labeled Average and represents your average score among all games throughout the month. The second column is labeled Score and represents either: 1. The average of your top 15 performances, or 2. Your average score divided by 15 (if you have played less than 15 games). The leaderboard is sorted by Score. At the end of the month, the highest Score will be declared the winner, and the leaderboard will reset for the next month.
Why do we keep score this way? There were 3 potential options for scorekeeping:
- Straight Average -- flawed because a player who only plays once but scores 25000 would likely win for the month.
- Cumulative Total -- flawed because it unfairly favors those who are able to play every and is a severe disadvantage to those who miss even a single day.
- Score of top 15 -- the method currently in use, it allows for some leeway for those not able to play daily, but at the same time, it's beneficial to those who are able to play more than 15 times. After 15 plays, each new score will bump out the previous lowest score.
Summary of top 3 performances:
| 1st | 2nd | 3rd | |
|---|---|---|---|
| June 2021 | Ancient-Recover695 | Grymmwulf | jackES62 |
| July 2021 | Grymmwulf | Ancient-Recover695 | JLyons18 |
| August 2021 | LunacyEcho | 197gpmol | Ancient-Recover |
| September 2021 | LunacyEcho | Ancient-Recover | solarsensei |
| October 2021 | solarsensei | 197gpmol | LunacyEcho |
| April 2022 | JackES62 | LunacyEcho | solarsensei |
| User | Score | Month | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1st | Grymmwulf | 24945 | July 2021 |
| 2nd | Ancient-Recover695 | 24718 | June 2021 |
| 3rd | JackES62 | 24714 | April 2022 |
| 3rd | LunacyEcho | 24714 | April 2022 |
| 5th | solarsensei | 24674 | October 2021 |
| 6th | 197gpmol | 24572 | October 2021 |
| 7th | JLyons18 | 24552 | July 2021 |
| 8th | Werdok | 24438 | September 2021 |
| 8th | KeelsDB | 24438 | April 2022 |
| 10th | Kibachiyo | 24403 | April 2022 |