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WELCOME TO THE_PACK
2016.04.13 22:39 no_turn_unstoned WELCOME TO THE_PACK
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2014.12.17 18:46 government_shill Top. Minds.
"I think the problem Digg had is that it was a company that was built to be a company, and you could feel it in the product. The way you could criticize Reddit is that we weren't a company – we were all heart and no head for a long time. So I think it'd be really hard for me and for the team to kill Reddit in that way." --Steve Huffman, CEO of Reddit, April 2023
2014.12.28 05:26 Kiloueka Birbs being birbs
Go do a good thing today. Pick up some trash. Clean your room. Hug a loved one. Watch Dominion. Draw a pretty picture for a friend. Buy an indie game. Support a queer artist for pride month We're back, but at what cost? We got The Threat.
2024.05.15 09:30 sicksick-Gold5528 Insane torment/stalking/harassment from ex boyfriends new girlfriend.
It’s insane and brutish. I fucking quit and can’t stand this insane piece of crap.
Am I not allowed to have a life!?
I just took a few months to myself to focus on studying and she takes advantage and makes up a ton of lies, stories, and uses every last way to torment me.
Other people can exist in peace but not me.
Not a soul sides with her but she posts badly edited pics of me places, tried to spread a shit ton of lies and fake stuff about me, tries to sabotage anything I can get or any relation with every last person in my life.
My family to any new relationship used to have attempts from her to get severed by this absolute lunatic creep. The police and people had to be called for her to stop.
I’m going to try getting into a relationship soon but I’m honestly worried.
I did catch and report her but I can only do so much. I’m beyond scared. Can anyone recommend anything!???!
Am I just paranoid?!
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Am I not allowed to have a life!?
I just took a few months to myself to focus on studying and she takes advantage and makes up a ton of lies, stories, and uses every last way to torment me.
Other people can exist in peace but not me.
Not a soul sides with her but she posts badly edited pics of me places, tried to spread a shit ton of lies and fake stuff about me, tries to sabotage anything I can get or any relation with every last person in my life.
My family to any new relationship used to have attempts from her to get severed by this absolute lunatic creep. The police and people had to be called for her to stop.
I’m going to try getting into a relationship soon but I’m honestly worried.
I did catch and report her but I can only do so much. I’m beyond scared. Can anyone recommend anything!???!
Am I just paranoid?!
2024.05.15 09:29 Various_Diamond5933 I (23F) worked in an unsanitary dental office for 3 years and had no idea how bad it truly was, advice on what to do..
I 23(F) worked for an 80(M) Dentist for about 3 years, and what I observed and endured as an employee during that time traumatized me and made me quit dental assisting in general, not because I didn't like it but because I loved it just not the dentist and I'm going to just break it down the best I can.
Starting off this specific dentist is really well known in my city, he has been practicing for 50 years now. However not much has changed in that 50 years. His office is so old that patients will come in from 1989 and say how not a single thing has been updated or changed. The floor is carpeted with rotting wood underneath and he just doesn't care. He has like creepy dolls all around the office and creepy clowns. I almost feel like he won't change anything because he wants to still feel like he's in his prime like it's the 80's/90's still.
He denies the fact that he's getting older, he says he is 44 years old when physically and literally he is not. So maybe this is some type of symptoms of a disorder. This is just some background so you can understand the full picture.
So he only hires women of lighter complexions, also certain body size, small not to skinny but curvy but not too big. You have to have long blown out hair that's always fixed, his old rule used to be that you could not wear your hair up bc it's not appealing to him. Also you can't wear glasses for the same reason. If you were trying to get a girl to work there he would have to see a picture of her first and she couldn't have tattoos or "bad teeth" even though he would put braces on staff members for free and I witnessed that, if it was "too much" the person would be a no for him. Even having a simple nose ring was against his rules.
I started working for him when I was 19 turning 20. So I was pretty young and didn't really realize until later that all of this was just so toxic and it gets worse.And so when I found out my pregnancy was healthy I announced it and they decided to not train me on patients for pretty much my entire pregnancy because they thought i would just have my baby and leave
After being post partum and working while also being a first time mom to a baby, I begin to lose a lot of weight because I guess I was stressed. I went from being my normal weight 135 to 116 pounds.
The doctor would comment on my body and say things about my weight loss in front of patients. It made me very insecure and uncomfortable two things I have never felt in my life at a job. I started to have body dysmorphia from working for this man. When he looked at me it felt as if he was staring through me and picking me apart. And no one should I have to feel like that in the work place.
I fell into a deep depression because feeling like I can't go find a new job because as terrible as it sounds, I was attached to the toxic abuse cycle there. He would love bomb and compliment you so heavily that you almost felt bad for thinking of leaving cuz he was so old. He would say things like how much he loved your personality, you were the best employee, best with patients. It was definitely creepy. Also I felt as if I were to try to leave he would be upset or it felt like I was breaking a trusted bond. So I continued working and things...got worse
Enough about my personal experience but now for the patients.The doctor treated each patient nothing more than a dollar sign. Unless they were a known person in the community, a family friend, he would give them treatment but if they had questions or concerns about their teeth he would be very dismissive, and if they argued back he would pretty much belittle them and make them feel like they were stupid for asking a question. Saying what they wanted was "impossible" because that's "the way their teeth were". I watched him take braces off of patients and their teeth were still not aligned properly, I watched him accidentally set a patient on fire, I watched him give a girl bone loss, she lost her tooth because of something he did incorrectly.
Not to mention his entire staff has not been to any type of dental school, every single person hired basically with no experience. I was told because he couldn't "afford it", yet the man has multiple million dollar homes and luxury cars....
To even scam us further he sent us to take a super lax unsupervised "test" that he said would make us certified assistants. Came to find out that was nothing more than a piece of paper.
Not to mention probably more things he has done, like practicing half blind, also urinating on himself daily and it being reported and nothing done about it.The sterilization was absolutely horrifying. Their method is not to use an autoclave but to throw all dirty instruments in a basket and throw them in an old machine that had sterilization and water and put them through an oven baking them.
Also cold sterile which was not monitored properly, and did not soak for 24 hours. Sometimes 5-10 minutes. I just got so tired of not only him being misogynistic, but not caring for health and safety of patients, or even staff members.
And the rest of the current staff members, my heart does hurt for them for them to be in this kind of abusive cycle for so long and not want to remove themselves and realize they deserve better. This kind of environment should not be normalized. And I've watch him say god awful things about every single one of them behind their back and it's honestly sad. Why would you stand by this especially for the incredibly low amounts of pay.
Making yourself look weak to him while he sits back and laughs. It's really sad and I pray for them. And I'm telling the truth and stand by it on everything I say. No I did not get fired, I quit the job. Because I couldn't take the negativity any longer. But the more I think about it the more it angers me for people that give their money to this man.
Im currently enrolled in the Dental Hygiene program at a college. I'm really excited to become a an RDH but the thing is I'm scared working for him and just cold quitting will ruin my career. Also My question is should I report him to OSHA?
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Starting off this specific dentist is really well known in my city, he has been practicing for 50 years now. However not much has changed in that 50 years. His office is so old that patients will come in from 1989 and say how not a single thing has been updated or changed. The floor is carpeted with rotting wood underneath and he just doesn't care. He has like creepy dolls all around the office and creepy clowns. I almost feel like he won't change anything because he wants to still feel like he's in his prime like it's the 80's/90's still.
He denies the fact that he's getting older, he says he is 44 years old when physically and literally he is not. So maybe this is some type of symptoms of a disorder. This is just some background so you can understand the full picture.
So he only hires women of lighter complexions, also certain body size, small not to skinny but curvy but not too big. You have to have long blown out hair that's always fixed, his old rule used to be that you could not wear your hair up bc it's not appealing to him. Also you can't wear glasses for the same reason. If you were trying to get a girl to work there he would have to see a picture of her first and she couldn't have tattoos or "bad teeth" even though he would put braces on staff members for free and I witnessed that, if it was "too much" the person would be a no for him. Even having a simple nose ring was against his rules.
I started working for him when I was 19 turning 20. So I was pretty young and didn't really realize until later that all of this was just so toxic and it gets worse.And so when I found out my pregnancy was healthy I announced it and they decided to not train me on patients for pretty much my entire pregnancy because they thought i would just have my baby and leave
After being post partum and working while also being a first time mom to a baby, I begin to lose a lot of weight because I guess I was stressed. I went from being my normal weight 135 to 116 pounds.
The doctor would comment on my body and say things about my weight loss in front of patients. It made me very insecure and uncomfortable two things I have never felt in my life at a job. I started to have body dysmorphia from working for this man. When he looked at me it felt as if he was staring through me and picking me apart. And no one should I have to feel like that in the work place.
I fell into a deep depression because feeling like I can't go find a new job because as terrible as it sounds, I was attached to the toxic abuse cycle there. He would love bomb and compliment you so heavily that you almost felt bad for thinking of leaving cuz he was so old. He would say things like how much he loved your personality, you were the best employee, best with patients. It was definitely creepy. Also I felt as if I were to try to leave he would be upset or it felt like I was breaking a trusted bond. So I continued working and things...got worse
Enough about my personal experience but now for the patients.The doctor treated each patient nothing more than a dollar sign. Unless they were a known person in the community, a family friend, he would give them treatment but if they had questions or concerns about their teeth he would be very dismissive, and if they argued back he would pretty much belittle them and make them feel like they were stupid for asking a question. Saying what they wanted was "impossible" because that's "the way their teeth were". I watched him take braces off of patients and their teeth were still not aligned properly, I watched him accidentally set a patient on fire, I watched him give a girl bone loss, she lost her tooth because of something he did incorrectly.
Not to mention his entire staff has not been to any type of dental school, every single person hired basically with no experience. I was told because he couldn't "afford it", yet the man has multiple million dollar homes and luxury cars....
To even scam us further he sent us to take a super lax unsupervised "test" that he said would make us certified assistants. Came to find out that was nothing more than a piece of paper.
Not to mention probably more things he has done, like practicing half blind, also urinating on himself daily and it being reported and nothing done about it.The sterilization was absolutely horrifying. Their method is not to use an autoclave but to throw all dirty instruments in a basket and throw them in an old machine that had sterilization and water and put them through an oven baking them.
Also cold sterile which was not monitored properly, and did not soak for 24 hours. Sometimes 5-10 minutes. I just got so tired of not only him being misogynistic, but not caring for health and safety of patients, or even staff members.
And the rest of the current staff members, my heart does hurt for them for them to be in this kind of abusive cycle for so long and not want to remove themselves and realize they deserve better. This kind of environment should not be normalized. And I've watch him say god awful things about every single one of them behind their back and it's honestly sad. Why would you stand by this especially for the incredibly low amounts of pay.
Making yourself look weak to him while he sits back and laughs. It's really sad and I pray for them. And I'm telling the truth and stand by it on everything I say. No I did not get fired, I quit the job. Because I couldn't take the negativity any longer. But the more I think about it the more it angers me for people that give their money to this man.
Im currently enrolled in the Dental Hygiene program at a college. I'm really excited to become a an RDH but the thing is I'm scared working for him and just cold quitting will ruin my career. Also My question is should I report him to OSHA?
2024.05.15 09:29 ThrowRAmiddleboy Friend (21F) I am interested in just got out of a relationship but is very flirty with me (22M) , when is the right time to ask her out?
Hello Reddit, apologies if my post is long but here goes the story.
I met a girl through a mutual friend in November last year, however we didn't start talking and hanging out since we found out we're in the same class this semester. She wanted my help in class so we began meeting frequently in March and I would help her with HW and we would do it together. At first everything was normal, but the more weeks went on by the more I've realized she got very touchy and grabby with me as well as complimenting me.
She had a boyfriend at the time and it really weirded me out because she would touch my collar bone and make a comment saying she wish her boyfriend felt the way i felt strong wise... eventually she broke up with her boyfriend. She just broke up with him 3 weeks ago, and when she told me i was a bit shocked but not surprised. She told me it was the 2nd time they broke up, she also told me they had different views/beliefs within life.
Fast forward now, I'm actually interested in her because it feels like we get along great, but idk if I'm jsut a rebound from her eyes which is why I'm asking I'm not sure if I should wait longer to see where things go or just as now or sooner. We've been hanging out more now, we go eat and she asks me questions about life, she says how much a great guy I am and how different I am with the way I think, she's even called me "pookie" once when texting me.
I'm scared I'm freindzoned but at the same time I'm sure she's interested in me. I'm interested in her, idk how long I should wait or wait to see what else she does. We don't text a lot, and I don't want to bombard her with texts, we only talk in person.
How long do I give until asking her out and how should I slowly tred my way to her without coming off as obsessive.
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I met a girl through a mutual friend in November last year, however we didn't start talking and hanging out since we found out we're in the same class this semester. She wanted my help in class so we began meeting frequently in March and I would help her with HW and we would do it together. At first everything was normal, but the more weeks went on by the more I've realized she got very touchy and grabby with me as well as complimenting me.
She had a boyfriend at the time and it really weirded me out because she would touch my collar bone and make a comment saying she wish her boyfriend felt the way i felt strong wise... eventually she broke up with her boyfriend. She just broke up with him 3 weeks ago, and when she told me i was a bit shocked but not surprised. She told me it was the 2nd time they broke up, she also told me they had different views/beliefs within life.
Fast forward now, I'm actually interested in her because it feels like we get along great, but idk if I'm jsut a rebound from her eyes which is why I'm asking I'm not sure if I should wait longer to see where things go or just as now or sooner. We've been hanging out more now, we go eat and she asks me questions about life, she says how much a great guy I am and how different I am with the way I think, she's even called me "pookie" once when texting me.
I'm scared I'm freindzoned but at the same time I'm sure she's interested in me. I'm interested in her, idk how long I should wait or wait to see what else she does. We don't text a lot, and I don't want to bombard her with texts, we only talk in person.
How long do I give until asking her out and how should I slowly tred my way to her without coming off as obsessive.
2024.05.15 09:29 Natsuboi420 I know it's not really a hot take but God damn do I gotta get it off my chest
So ima just come out and say it Sanji is in fact a rapist like its not really an opinion or not and I'm not just talking about the way he acts around girls and by the way you don't actually have to rape someone in order to be a rapist otherwise setting up a pedophile with a fake account wouldn't mean anything, but like everyone talks about him peeping and stuff like that but no one talks about the fact that during Punk Hazard Sanji got put into Namis body, for one he makes a bunch of comments about what he wants to do to do the body and absolutely nothing about respecting her privacy (but for the sake of you dumbass out there we'll just say it's perversion and nothing more)
The real icing on the cake is when she gets her body back... she openly states that she has no bra or underwear on any more and that she "feels warmer then she should withiut under garments on" her words not mine... in other words at the very least Sanji took of her under wear and bra just to loon which mind you taking of some ones clothes withiut permission is still sequel assault so he is in fa t a rapist again this isnt really a debate just clearing my chest because everyone else seems to be a sheep, but in the worst case scenario (yes best case is he's still a rapist again I do not like him at all) he touched himself in her body and thats why she's warm...
Also side note his misogyny is on a whole ass another level... like he'll grope a woman's body thats he's in without permission and clearly she wasn't ok with it... but you know say his goal of finding the all blue is going to be stopped, or luffy become the pirate king is threatened, he still won't hit a woman... he'd rather cry and say sorry to Nami who he claims to be a knight in shining armor for and made Nami and Robin fight battles for him... also really he wanted absoloms fruit so he could do to woman what everyone hates absolom for doing... and cool its "played as a joke" buts that's kind of the point on why it's so messed up... we are literally over 1000 episodes and chapters in... and he's still the same... no characters development on that front at all... one of the main characters who were supposed to root for.. is a rapist... can't fight to protect his crew if it means hurting a woman even though he contradicts himself by letting the woman on his crew get hurt, fails to stand up for luffys dream like the rest of the crew if the villain is a female, fails to stand up for his own dream, oh and it's not to me tion after going through the whole "one person of the crew leaves because big bad fron past says they'll kill the rest of the crew if they dont" with robin... but here we are in whole cake island and sanjis dumb ass is doing the same thing the difference is Robin never directly harmed any of her crew mates because that was the actual point... where as if luffy wasn't able to talk him down and was weaker then sanji, sanji would have killed his captain for pussy he didn't fucking want... like bro fails at being a pirate and being apart of the future pirate kings army so fucking hard... oh but because he had 1 cool arc and he kinds kicks cool... we forgive him..? Fuckkkkk noooo honestly I'd genuinely prefer if the new remake just casually doesn't have sanji in it at all... or hey just make is sanji is a literal rapist when he's supposed to be a role model... like I love oda and no I'm not blaming sanji Oda fumbled fuxking hard but at the end of the day we can't ignore the fact that oda literally gave one of the hero whole personality be "I wanna fuck anything that I think has a vagina" like look at mineral and how fucking hated he is, the only reason you don't hate sanji as much is because he kicks cool and you know what's sad about that is sanji isn't under aged and has been attracted to under age people and has groped people without permission, but mineta gets more flak... it don't make any damn sense
Thank you for coming to my Ted talk, ok but seriously if you actaulky read all that I'm sorry I know it probably didn't make sense but thank you for actually reading it and not being ignorant and just reading the first couple lines or something
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The real icing on the cake is when she gets her body back... she openly states that she has no bra or underwear on any more and that she "feels warmer then she should withiut under garments on" her words not mine... in other words at the very least Sanji took of her under wear and bra just to loon which mind you taking of some ones clothes withiut permission is still sequel assault so he is in fa t a rapist again this isnt really a debate just clearing my chest because everyone else seems to be a sheep, but in the worst case scenario (yes best case is he's still a rapist again I do not like him at all) he touched himself in her body and thats why she's warm...
Also side note his misogyny is on a whole ass another level... like he'll grope a woman's body thats he's in without permission and clearly she wasn't ok with it... but you know say his goal of finding the all blue is going to be stopped, or luffy become the pirate king is threatened, he still won't hit a woman... he'd rather cry and say sorry to Nami who he claims to be a knight in shining armor for and made Nami and Robin fight battles for him... also really he wanted absoloms fruit so he could do to woman what everyone hates absolom for doing... and cool its "played as a joke" buts that's kind of the point on why it's so messed up... we are literally over 1000 episodes and chapters in... and he's still the same... no characters development on that front at all... one of the main characters who were supposed to root for.. is a rapist... can't fight to protect his crew if it means hurting a woman even though he contradicts himself by letting the woman on his crew get hurt, fails to stand up for luffys dream like the rest of the crew if the villain is a female, fails to stand up for his own dream, oh and it's not to me tion after going through the whole "one person of the crew leaves because big bad fron past says they'll kill the rest of the crew if they dont" with robin... but here we are in whole cake island and sanjis dumb ass is doing the same thing the difference is Robin never directly harmed any of her crew mates because that was the actual point... where as if luffy wasn't able to talk him down and was weaker then sanji, sanji would have killed his captain for pussy he didn't fucking want... like bro fails at being a pirate and being apart of the future pirate kings army so fucking hard... oh but because he had 1 cool arc and he kinds kicks cool... we forgive him..? Fuckkkkk noooo honestly I'd genuinely prefer if the new remake just casually doesn't have sanji in it at all... or hey just make is sanji is a literal rapist when he's supposed to be a role model... like I love oda and no I'm not blaming sanji Oda fumbled fuxking hard but at the end of the day we can't ignore the fact that oda literally gave one of the hero whole personality be "I wanna fuck anything that I think has a vagina" like look at mineral and how fucking hated he is, the only reason you don't hate sanji as much is because he kicks cool and you know what's sad about that is sanji isn't under aged and has been attracted to under age people and has groped people without permission, but mineta gets more flak... it don't make any damn sense
Thank you for coming to my Ted talk, ok but seriously if you actaulky read all that I'm sorry I know it probably didn't make sense but thank you for actually reading it and not being ignorant and just reading the first couple lines or something
2024.05.15 09:29 monachopsis-2000 desperate… RELENTLESS 12 month old
My son was your typical newborn as far as sleep goes. We transitioned him to his crib around 4 months because he was outgrowing his bassinet. Making the switch to the crib was like magic, he slept ALL NIGHT. Not a peep. This continued other than a few rough nights following days where he got off routine due to travel or being sick, totally understandable. We never intentionally sleep trained him, we would try to put him to sleep but more often than not he would fight it, so we would just put him in his crib with his light/sound machine (baby Einstein sea soother thing) and he would wiggle and babble his own way to sleep.
Fast forward to 10 months old.. He had his first sleepover at grandmas for two nights in a row and he has been an entirely different baby since then. We were very clear with her, get him drowsy and put him down, he can handle it from there. Apparently she rocked him to sleep and picked him up any time he made a noise throughout the night. (He randomly cries out or fusses until he gets readjusted). So bedtime has been hell since his return.
Not only is he incredibly hard to settle for bedtime, he doesn’t stay asleep for more than 2-3 hours. Ive tried settling him and returning to bed, I’ve fed him as a last resort, but more often than not we end up on the couch together. We spent a week trying to “sleep train” I guess. It did not go well and he became increasingly angry. He will not CIO, he screams bloody murder only getting louder until he can’t catch his breath, he will throw himself down pounding on the mattress, he stands and bangs on the rails of his crib.
Someone tell me how to put this kid in check so I can get some real sleep.
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Fast forward to 10 months old.. He had his first sleepover at grandmas for two nights in a row and he has been an entirely different baby since then. We were very clear with her, get him drowsy and put him down, he can handle it from there. Apparently she rocked him to sleep and picked him up any time he made a noise throughout the night. (He randomly cries out or fusses until he gets readjusted). So bedtime has been hell since his return.
Not only is he incredibly hard to settle for bedtime, he doesn’t stay asleep for more than 2-3 hours. Ive tried settling him and returning to bed, I’ve fed him as a last resort, but more often than not we end up on the couch together. We spent a week trying to “sleep train” I guess. It did not go well and he became increasingly angry. He will not CIO, he screams bloody murder only getting louder until he can’t catch his breath, he will throw himself down pounding on the mattress, he stands and bangs on the rails of his crib.
Someone tell me how to put this kid in check so I can get some real sleep.
2024.05.15 09:28 ThrowRA6597 I (18F) found out my sister (34F) is actually my biological mother, and my parents are my grandparents. How do I figure out what I'm supposed to do next?
Recently I got surgery on my knee from a football injury. They took my blood before it, and because I do biology at school, I looked at the results when I was bored afterwards. One of the things it said was that my blood type is AB positive, which I thought was quite cool, since it isn’t very common. I already knew my father’s blood type is A negative because he donates blood, and I had gone with him a couple of times. My mother had come to visit me, and I had asked her if her blood type was AB positive or B positive. I wanted to know because I find genetics really interesting, and I’d always liked doing punnett squares and knowing how things work. She asked me what I was talking about, and I asked her which one of those her blood type is. She said it was O positive, and asked me why I wanted to know. I said that was impossible, and she must be confused. She said I was the one on pain medication, so I was confused. And that it was just blood, I’m healthy and fine, so that’s all that matters.
I thought I must be confused, so I looked it up online, and like I thought, it was literally impossible that I could have that blood type. My mother had to have either AB positive or B positive blood, because otherwise I would have A type blood or O type blood. I figured that maybe she had just forgotten, since both my test and my father’s ones had to be right. But it just seemed a bit weird, so when I got home I looked at one of the papers my mother had kept in the drawer from when she had some medical tests done. And it said that she had O positive blood. I was just confused. I knew there had to be a mistake, somehow. Maybe the hospital had done my blood wrong, or they had written my mother’s blood down wrong. I didn’t even consider my parents weren’t my parents, it just didn’t seem possible. There were photos of me as a newborn, my mother holding me, I look like all of my siblings.
I could have just let it go, but it just didn’t seem right. While my mother was at work, I went through more of the papers. Every single time, it was O positive. I just thought rationally, and decided that they must have taken my blood wrong. I had gotten a couple of blood tests in the past as a child, and I managed to find them at the bottom of the drawer. They all said AB positive. There had to be some kind of explanation, so when my mother came home, I went and talked to her and I told her that with our blood types, I couldn’t be their child. And I wanted to know why, and if she knew why, and if I got mixed up in the hospital or had a blood transfusion or something. She said to wait until my father came home. I was just so confused, I didn’t get how this was possible.
Then when my father got home, they ended up telling me what had happened. My sister, or my actual mother, became pregnant at fifteen. My parents wouldn’t tell me anything about my father, I don’t know much they do know, but they said that instead of having my sister be ashamed and tied down with a child because she was sixteen when she gave birth, as soon as I was born, I became their child. My parents lied to everyone and said it was a cryptic pregnancy. Because my sister didn’t show much, and they didn’t tell anyone, no one knew. They adopted me when I was very young. The rest of my parents’ children were all quite young when I was born, the eldest was eleven. She knew, but the rest of them didn’t and thought I was my mother’s baby, because that was what my parents told me. Everyone thought I was, because I look a lot like the rest of my family. I always thought I looked a little bit different, but I figured it was genetics, I’m never going to look the same as everyone else. My parents said they didn’t want me to know about it, I didn’t need to know, but there was no way they could explain this and I was old enough to understand it now.
Now it feels like everything I thought my life was isn’t real at all. I thought I had six siblings. Four sisters, and two brothers. I thought I was the youngest, I only very recently turned eighteen. My sister, or my mother, lives in a city about three hours away. I don’t know a lot about her because she moved away from home when I was three. I would see her occasionally, and sometimes at holidays, but not often. Maybe about four or five times a year. She doesn’t seem like she is my mother, I always thought she didn't really care much about me. While quite a few of my siblings would fuss over me and play with me when I was little and go to my important games, she mostly ignored me. I only have a couple of significant memories with her and she definitely wouldn't be proud of me or anything, there's nothing special about me.
I used to ask my mother about her but she never told me much about her. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next. I have a good life, I know I do and I'm lucky. But now I don’t even know who my father is, it’s like part of me is missing. I don’t know why I look like I do, literally all I know is what his blood type is. I'm really confused. Now I know, I don't know if I'm supposed to talk to her about any of this, or if she just wants to leave her alone, which I would understand. I really don't know what I'm supposed to do now, I think my parents are a bit disappointed I know now, and in some ways I am too because now I know everything I thought was real isn't. I want to know about my father, I want to know about part of who I really am. But my parents won’t tell me, and I don’t know if she will either. She probably just wants me out of her life, and probably never wanted me and wishes I wasn’t there at all. I don’t want to disrupt her life either. When I asked my mother, she said I should just leave it, and she won't want to talk to me, but I don't think my mother has talked to her for a while either. I don't know if I'm supposed to do anything, or just leave it, but I feel like it's quite an important part of my life and although I love my parents, or my grandparents, I still want to know about my biological mother as well.
English isn't my first language, so I'm sorry if any of this is incorrect. I did read over it, but if something doesn't make sense I can clarify it :)
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I thought I must be confused, so I looked it up online, and like I thought, it was literally impossible that I could have that blood type. My mother had to have either AB positive or B positive blood, because otherwise I would have A type blood or O type blood. I figured that maybe she had just forgotten, since both my test and my father’s ones had to be right. But it just seemed a bit weird, so when I got home I looked at one of the papers my mother had kept in the drawer from when she had some medical tests done. And it said that she had O positive blood. I was just confused. I knew there had to be a mistake, somehow. Maybe the hospital had done my blood wrong, or they had written my mother’s blood down wrong. I didn’t even consider my parents weren’t my parents, it just didn’t seem possible. There were photos of me as a newborn, my mother holding me, I look like all of my siblings.
I could have just let it go, but it just didn’t seem right. While my mother was at work, I went through more of the papers. Every single time, it was O positive. I just thought rationally, and decided that they must have taken my blood wrong. I had gotten a couple of blood tests in the past as a child, and I managed to find them at the bottom of the drawer. They all said AB positive. There had to be some kind of explanation, so when my mother came home, I went and talked to her and I told her that with our blood types, I couldn’t be their child. And I wanted to know why, and if she knew why, and if I got mixed up in the hospital or had a blood transfusion or something. She said to wait until my father came home. I was just so confused, I didn’t get how this was possible.
Then when my father got home, they ended up telling me what had happened. My sister, or my actual mother, became pregnant at fifteen. My parents wouldn’t tell me anything about my father, I don’t know much they do know, but they said that instead of having my sister be ashamed and tied down with a child because she was sixteen when she gave birth, as soon as I was born, I became their child. My parents lied to everyone and said it was a cryptic pregnancy. Because my sister didn’t show much, and they didn’t tell anyone, no one knew. They adopted me when I was very young. The rest of my parents’ children were all quite young when I was born, the eldest was eleven. She knew, but the rest of them didn’t and thought I was my mother’s baby, because that was what my parents told me. Everyone thought I was, because I look a lot like the rest of my family. I always thought I looked a little bit different, but I figured it was genetics, I’m never going to look the same as everyone else. My parents said they didn’t want me to know about it, I didn’t need to know, but there was no way they could explain this and I was old enough to understand it now.
Now it feels like everything I thought my life was isn’t real at all. I thought I had six siblings. Four sisters, and two brothers. I thought I was the youngest, I only very recently turned eighteen. My sister, or my mother, lives in a city about three hours away. I don’t know a lot about her because she moved away from home when I was three. I would see her occasionally, and sometimes at holidays, but not often. Maybe about four or five times a year. She doesn’t seem like she is my mother, I always thought she didn't really care much about me. While quite a few of my siblings would fuss over me and play with me when I was little and go to my important games, she mostly ignored me. I only have a couple of significant memories with her and she definitely wouldn't be proud of me or anything, there's nothing special about me.
I used to ask my mother about her but she never told me much about her. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next. I have a good life, I know I do and I'm lucky. But now I don’t even know who my father is, it’s like part of me is missing. I don’t know why I look like I do, literally all I know is what his blood type is. I'm really confused. Now I know, I don't know if I'm supposed to talk to her about any of this, or if she just wants to leave her alone, which I would understand. I really don't know what I'm supposed to do now, I think my parents are a bit disappointed I know now, and in some ways I am too because now I know everything I thought was real isn't. I want to know about my father, I want to know about part of who I really am. But my parents won’t tell me, and I don’t know if she will either. She probably just wants me out of her life, and probably never wanted me and wishes I wasn’t there at all. I don’t want to disrupt her life either. When I asked my mother, she said I should just leave it, and she won't want to talk to me, but I don't think my mother has talked to her for a while either. I don't know if I'm supposed to do anything, or just leave it, but I feel like it's quite an important part of my life and although I love my parents, or my grandparents, I still want to know about my biological mother as well.
English isn't my first language, so I'm sorry if any of this is incorrect. I did read over it, but if something doesn't make sense I can clarify it :)
2024.05.15 09:27 Apprehensive-Try2661 I'm obsessed with my stepdaughter (21f)
I am obsessed with my stepdaughter
I am 31m. My stepdaughter, 20f, is perfection in every sense. Since the moment I met her when she was 18 I have been deeply in love with her. I genuinely love her, and she loves me dearly. I have a great amount of guilt attached to my feelings. I can't help it, as I did not know her when she was growing up, and was already stunning and more beautiful than a cherry blossom by the time I met her. I would never tell her any of this, as I could not stand to break her heart and trust in such a callous way. But, here's how I feel:
The day we met she came to the apartment of my wife and I (her mother, 41f), and reunited with her. I remember every detail of the moment. I remember she wore a pink (her favorite color) sweater, and a dark pleated skirt. The curve of her wide, infectious smile framed by her soft pillowy lips still sends electric ripples through my soul.. And my crotch. She smelled like strawberries covered in the morning dew. When she sat down, she did not cross her legs right away, and not purposely, I glanced a peek at her crotch, bound in frustrating white cotton panties. From that moment on she was my secret passion. Her thighs are thick and voluptuous, and over the years she has revealed through tight yoga pants, a soft and perfectly puffy camels toe that by all rights is exactly like her mothers. The shape of her nipples have revealed themselves behind thin t shirts and tank tops, and over the years her immaculate breasts have grown in to perfect ripe fruits that I would kill to worship. Her hips are wide, but not disproportionate to her body, and times when she has innocently bent over has revealed a large, beautiful ass, which is both full and heart shaped. Her skin is a light tan, which plays against the darker tan of her lips. Her eyes reflect the small amount of Japanese in her heritage and are a perfect large chocolate brown. She could kill my soul a thousand times with just a gesture of her affections, and I would gladly die each time just to watch the flowing art form of her scintillating hips as they rock side to side when she walks. It kills me to have these feelings knowing the genuine love for her in my heart outweighs the fire of lust in my loins. There is no god in heaven, because God walks the earth as this woman.
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I am 31m. My stepdaughter, 20f, is perfection in every sense. Since the moment I met her when she was 18 I have been deeply in love with her. I genuinely love her, and she loves me dearly. I have a great amount of guilt attached to my feelings. I can't help it, as I did not know her when she was growing up, and was already stunning and more beautiful than a cherry blossom by the time I met her. I would never tell her any of this, as I could not stand to break her heart and trust in such a callous way. But, here's how I feel:
The day we met she came to the apartment of my wife and I (her mother, 41f), and reunited with her. I remember every detail of the moment. I remember she wore a pink (her favorite color) sweater, and a dark pleated skirt. The curve of her wide, infectious smile framed by her soft pillowy lips still sends electric ripples through my soul.. And my crotch. She smelled like strawberries covered in the morning dew. When she sat down, she did not cross her legs right away, and not purposely, I glanced a peek at her crotch, bound in frustrating white cotton panties. From that moment on she was my secret passion. Her thighs are thick and voluptuous, and over the years she has revealed through tight yoga pants, a soft and perfectly puffy camels toe that by all rights is exactly like her mothers. The shape of her nipples have revealed themselves behind thin t shirts and tank tops, and over the years her immaculate breasts have grown in to perfect ripe fruits that I would kill to worship. Her hips are wide, but not disproportionate to her body, and times when she has innocently bent over has revealed a large, beautiful ass, which is both full and heart shaped. Her skin is a light tan, which plays against the darker tan of her lips. Her eyes reflect the small amount of Japanese in her heritage and are a perfect large chocolate brown. She could kill my soul a thousand times with just a gesture of her affections, and I would gladly die each time just to watch the flowing art form of her scintillating hips as they rock side to side when she walks. It kills me to have these feelings knowing the genuine love for her in my heart outweighs the fire of lust in my loins. There is no god in heaven, because God walks the earth as this woman.
2024.05.15 09:27 MeesterChair I reported a guy at our apartment complex for attempting to steal a dog, and I'm starting to second guess myself about the decision
This might be a bit long, so TL;DR: while on a walk my roommates and I witnessed a man in our apartment complex try to hide away a puppy deliberately while the owner asked for her puppy back. Afterwards, I reported the guy to building management and I'm starting to second guess my decision.
Earlier today during my evening walk together w my roommates and our dogs, we ran into a woman who was frantic and showed us a Ring doorbell screenshot of a man holding/walking away with her dog, saying that the man in the photo took her right from their front door. She explained that her son left the door open on accident for too long, and their puppy took the opportunity to escape their building. It turns out that the puppy did run around a bit outside, but eventually returned to their door, which was when the man came by and picked up the puppy to take her away.
Normally I'd interpret the situation as the guy being a good Samaritan that found a lost puppy and decided to look for the owners, maybe not knowing that the puppy already knew where the owners were, but as we parted ways we all saw the same man in the photo turn round the corner right at the sidewalk we were at. The owner spots him first, waves at him, and goes "That's my puppy! You have my dog!"
This is the part that still confuses me. Instead of returning the dog as one expects one to, the man freezes instead, turns around, and seemingly briskly walks away from us, all while holding this poor lady's puppy. Needless to say we all found this extremely weird, and all of us (me, roommates, and dog's owner) gave chase after this guy. Roommates took a detour around the building the guy was going to just in case he tried to lose us by taking an alternate route.
When I caught up to him, I found the guy forcibly shutting his apartment door, seemingly tossing and shutting the puppy inside. Puppy's owner catches up, and asks why the guy shut the dog inside his apartment. Guy doesn't relent, and finally opens his apartment door to let the dog back out when the owner holds up her phone and tells him that she caught him on camera. She thanks us profusely for backing her up, and I feel stupid for this but I completely forget to get her info and name, but I did mention that she should report this incident to management at the time.
The puppy is returned home and safe, but it makes me uneasy that someone like that lives in a community that has so many dogs. My roommate pointed out that the puppy he stole seemed to be an English bulldog, and those particular breeds could be sold for A LOT of money. This is just assumption, and we don't want to jump to too many conclusions on the situation. I did report this incident to our apartment complex's management, but I'm unsure if anything else can be done. I mentioned that if the dog's owner also reports this, they can contact us at any time to use us as witnesses.
All in all, that's about it. A part of me is second guessing myself that this is all a big misunderstanding, and I just reported some guy for looking out for a dog that he assumed was lost. Did I do the right thing? Should I have waited a few days before reporting? Will anything even be done about it? (Unlikely) But way too many things just seem way too suspicious in the moment. The important thing is that the puppy is safe with her family, and I'm glad I could help in that small way at least.
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Earlier today during my evening walk together w my roommates and our dogs, we ran into a woman who was frantic and showed us a Ring doorbell screenshot of a man holding/walking away with her dog, saying that the man in the photo took her right from their front door. She explained that her son left the door open on accident for too long, and their puppy took the opportunity to escape their building. It turns out that the puppy did run around a bit outside, but eventually returned to their door, which was when the man came by and picked up the puppy to take her away.
Normally I'd interpret the situation as the guy being a good Samaritan that found a lost puppy and decided to look for the owners, maybe not knowing that the puppy already knew where the owners were, but as we parted ways we all saw the same man in the photo turn round the corner right at the sidewalk we were at. The owner spots him first, waves at him, and goes "That's my puppy! You have my dog!"
This is the part that still confuses me. Instead of returning the dog as one expects one to, the man freezes instead, turns around, and seemingly briskly walks away from us, all while holding this poor lady's puppy. Needless to say we all found this extremely weird, and all of us (me, roommates, and dog's owner) gave chase after this guy. Roommates took a detour around the building the guy was going to just in case he tried to lose us by taking an alternate route.
When I caught up to him, I found the guy forcibly shutting his apartment door, seemingly tossing and shutting the puppy inside. Puppy's owner catches up, and asks why the guy shut the dog inside his apartment. Guy doesn't relent, and finally opens his apartment door to let the dog back out when the owner holds up her phone and tells him that she caught him on camera. She thanks us profusely for backing her up, and I feel stupid for this but I completely forget to get her info and name, but I did mention that she should report this incident to management at the time.
The puppy is returned home and safe, but it makes me uneasy that someone like that lives in a community that has so many dogs. My roommate pointed out that the puppy he stole seemed to be an English bulldog, and those particular breeds could be sold for A LOT of money. This is just assumption, and we don't want to jump to too many conclusions on the situation. I did report this incident to our apartment complex's management, but I'm unsure if anything else can be done. I mentioned that if the dog's owner also reports this, they can contact us at any time to use us as witnesses.
All in all, that's about it. A part of me is second guessing myself that this is all a big misunderstanding, and I just reported some guy for looking out for a dog that he assumed was lost. Did I do the right thing? Should I have waited a few days before reporting? Will anything even be done about it? (Unlikely) But way too many things just seem way too suspicious in the moment. The important thing is that the puppy is safe with her family, and I'm glad I could help in that small way at least.
2024.05.15 09:26 umadbro69x420 I lost what I think is my soulmate, how do you move on from that?
I am going to apologize ahead of time this is going to be a long post because there is a lot to unpack.
So I (25m) got dumped by my ex (24f) a year ago now. Our relationship had its ups and downs over the 6 years we were together, but that didn’t change how much we loved each other.
Our relationship slowly started to go downhill after my mother passed away in 2018. I lost myself completely, I was a shell of person that I once was. The years following my mothers passing I had lost my job and became completely withdrawn. Since I didn’t have a job I also couldn’t pay my half of the rent and I refused to get a job because I barely wanted to be on this earth. I didn’t reach out to my friends or family. My ex was pretty much the only person I would talk to. But around Covid time I got really bad. I spiraled into the worst depression I’ve experienced in my 25 years on this earth. I would stay up until 9 or 10 am and sleep until around midnight. I stopped talking to my ex almost completely and we stopped hanging out. About 4 or 5 months before my ex dumped me I was severely suicidal. I would leave the house and walk around town in the middle of the night. Mind you I wouldn’t tell my ex where or what I was doing but I think she knew. I would find myself at the bridge we lived near almost every night contemplating jumping but I never did. Side note I was smoking A LOT of weed at this point that she was paying for most of the time. But then the day came.
I was sitting at home while she was at work and I got a text. It said “we need to talk”. She wanted to talk when she got home but I pushed her to just tell me. Then she said she couldn’t do this anymore. My entire world came crashing down. I never thought she would say those words. Later when she got home I did the typical begging. The only thing I really remember from that was her telling me she didn’t love me anymore. I started packing my things the next few days and moved into my friends house.
In the months that followed I had gotten a job and started to really work on my mental health. Somehow my ex and I started talking again and hanging out again. It was looking pretty good for us. I was spending some nights with her and she was looking at me how she used to again. Then out of the blue she cut it off again. Saying something along the lines of “I don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone right now” adding that we could still be friends.
From then until now I have been paying her back the 20 grand that I owed her and we had been off and on friends for awhile. Mainly because I would tell her I couldn’t be friends with her (because I still loved her) and to not text me unless it was about money or if she wanted to try again. She would then text me a week or month later asking me how I’m doing. My dumbass would think she wanted to get back together because she texted me. It always ended up her just wanting to be friends. Until a couple weeks ago when I laid it all out and set the boundaries firm. She got upset with me and a little rude tbh. Still don’t understand that.
Throughout the break up though she said she still loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. She would say she still cared about me which her actions showed she did. I asked her the one day if there was any hope we could get back together which she responded with “in the future maybe we can but not right now”. From the times we hung out after the break up I could tell she was still attracted to me. Our conversations were pretty damn good and it seemed like the spark may still have been there.
So I have a couple of questions. Do you think there is any chance we can be together again? If so what can I do that may help in doing so? If not how can I recover from absolutely fucking up our relationship and losing my soulmate (this girl was truly the one for me)? Was I right to not want to be friends with her or was that her way of rekindling our relationship? Is this even salvageable after the damage I have done? It has been a year and I’m still not over her and I just want the pain to go away.
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So I (25m) got dumped by my ex (24f) a year ago now. Our relationship had its ups and downs over the 6 years we were together, but that didn’t change how much we loved each other.
Our relationship slowly started to go downhill after my mother passed away in 2018. I lost myself completely, I was a shell of person that I once was. The years following my mothers passing I had lost my job and became completely withdrawn. Since I didn’t have a job I also couldn’t pay my half of the rent and I refused to get a job because I barely wanted to be on this earth. I didn’t reach out to my friends or family. My ex was pretty much the only person I would talk to. But around Covid time I got really bad. I spiraled into the worst depression I’ve experienced in my 25 years on this earth. I would stay up until 9 or 10 am and sleep until around midnight. I stopped talking to my ex almost completely and we stopped hanging out. About 4 or 5 months before my ex dumped me I was severely suicidal. I would leave the house and walk around town in the middle of the night. Mind you I wouldn’t tell my ex where or what I was doing but I think she knew. I would find myself at the bridge we lived near almost every night contemplating jumping but I never did. Side note I was smoking A LOT of weed at this point that she was paying for most of the time. But then the day came.
I was sitting at home while she was at work and I got a text. It said “we need to talk”. She wanted to talk when she got home but I pushed her to just tell me. Then she said she couldn’t do this anymore. My entire world came crashing down. I never thought she would say those words. Later when she got home I did the typical begging. The only thing I really remember from that was her telling me she didn’t love me anymore. I started packing my things the next few days and moved into my friends house.
In the months that followed I had gotten a job and started to really work on my mental health. Somehow my ex and I started talking again and hanging out again. It was looking pretty good for us. I was spending some nights with her and she was looking at me how she used to again. Then out of the blue she cut it off again. Saying something along the lines of “I don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone right now” adding that we could still be friends.
From then until now I have been paying her back the 20 grand that I owed her and we had been off and on friends for awhile. Mainly because I would tell her I couldn’t be friends with her (because I still loved her) and to not text me unless it was about money or if she wanted to try again. She would then text me a week or month later asking me how I’m doing. My dumbass would think she wanted to get back together because she texted me. It always ended up her just wanting to be friends. Until a couple weeks ago when I laid it all out and set the boundaries firm. She got upset with me and a little rude tbh. Still don’t understand that.
Throughout the break up though she said she still loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. She would say she still cared about me which her actions showed she did. I asked her the one day if there was any hope we could get back together which she responded with “in the future maybe we can but not right now”. From the times we hung out after the break up I could tell she was still attracted to me. Our conversations were pretty damn good and it seemed like the spark may still have been there.
So I have a couple of questions. Do you think there is any chance we can be together again? If so what can I do that may help in doing so? If not how can I recover from absolutely fucking up our relationship and losing my soulmate (this girl was truly the one for me)? Was I right to not want to be friends with her or was that her way of rekindling our relationship? Is this even salvageable after the damage I have done? It has been a year and I’m still not over her and I just want the pain to go away.
2024.05.15 09:26 slinkipher Advice for managing a cat with IBD? Was told my 2 yr old kitty either has IBD or cancer and I'm terrified
My 2yr old kitty is in the hospital currently. She started vomiting profusely Monday evening and then vomited blood early Tuesday morning. They did a bunch of diagnostic testing including an abdominal ultrasound and determined that she either has IBD or cancer. The only way to tell which is through an expensive and invasive biopsy. We will be treating as if it's IBD for now and see how she fares.
She was never a chronic vomiter. She did throw up once in a great while but I don't think it was an abnormal amount? Like maybe 1-2 times a month? This is my first cat so I do not really have a good reference as to what is considered normal. I don't think she had diahrrea that often either. There were definitely times where she had normal looking poop. If she did have it occasionally it certainly was not like the diarrhea she was having when this all started two weeks ago. The only symptom I can definitively pin point is that she always fluctuated between having a large appetite and not being very interested in food. Like sometimes she would eat all the food that was given to her and sometimes she would only take nibbles and leave most of the food in her bowl.
When she comes home she will be taking steroids and starting a hydrolyzed protein diet. The vet said they had some they could give me when I take her home tomorrow so I don't know what brand it is yet. I'm a little concerned she won't like it and won't eat it. She never seemed to be that picky about dry food but she is extremely picky about wet food to the point where we could almost never get her to eat it.
What has worked for your cats IBD? Any advice on getting your cat to eat or how to get them to take the medicine? Any advice at all?
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She was never a chronic vomiter. She did throw up once in a great while but I don't think it was an abnormal amount? Like maybe 1-2 times a month? This is my first cat so I do not really have a good reference as to what is considered normal. I don't think she had diahrrea that often either. There were definitely times where she had normal looking poop. If she did have it occasionally it certainly was not like the diarrhea she was having when this all started two weeks ago. The only symptom I can definitively pin point is that she always fluctuated between having a large appetite and not being very interested in food. Like sometimes she would eat all the food that was given to her and sometimes she would only take nibbles and leave most of the food in her bowl.
When she comes home she will be taking steroids and starting a hydrolyzed protein diet. The vet said they had some they could give me when I take her home tomorrow so I don't know what brand it is yet. I'm a little concerned she won't like it and won't eat it. She never seemed to be that picky about dry food but she is extremely picky about wet food to the point where we could almost never get her to eat it.
What has worked for your cats IBD? Any advice on getting your cat to eat or how to get them to take the medicine? Any advice at all?
2024.05.15 09:24 Sacrifice_a_lamb Ky Slime Review (good and bad) with Pics
 | I actually have been waiting to review a few shops, since I think it might be nice to live with the slime for a while instead of writing a review that's just based on what the slime was like when I first got it. But today I got an order from Ky and I've got things to say about it lol! submitted by Sacrifice_a_lamb to Slime [link] [comments] Rambling preamble (skip to review) First off, I had heard rumblings of discontent about this shop, but also had heard aspersions cast about Sonria and I found her slimes to be pretty good. So, I was open to Ky, especially since she clearly is a master at designing DIY slimes. Her IG is a go-to ASMR source for me and her posts make the slime look irresistible! Seriously, for all you stores out there--make your slimes look good on the internet. You'll have so many more buyers. While it's definitely obvious that the slimes that are played with on the IG are of larger quantities than what you will be getting when you order, her representation of the product otherwise looks pretty legit and she still has kind of a small, hand-made store vibe, which makes it easier to pay 16$ for a toy that may only last for a few months, right? She also has my dream slime--a neon space unicorns and rainbows sundae-themed slime tribute to Lisa Frank. This thing just looks so incredible. She really nailed the concept. So, I made a big order because, shipping. there was a 10% discount and the prices didn't seem terrible, even with shipping. I placed my order on the 4th and it arrived today, on the 14th, which ten days feels acceptable for a small business in Hawaii. They didn't go crazy on the packaging, which at first made me glad (I do not feel good about all the bubblewrap so many folks use!) but then I saw that one of the clay containers had gotten smashed and the clay pieces inside were totally flattened. Honestly, nothing else had any damage and the clay was always going to get smooshed, anyway, so I'm not bothered, BUT, I dunno. Use bunched up newspaper or something. It included a gift of two free "small" slimes. Really, they are like 3-4 ounces. Definitely a decent size for a sample and both slimes were pretty awesome, but I still have complaints... My rating system is pretty "strict"--I'm stingy about perfect scores, but anything with a score over 15/20 is something I'd consider buying again. Taro Milk Tea Cheesecake 10/20Someone else reviewed this recently and loved it. I do not. I had initially hesitated to buy this because I like taro, but sometimes find the smell of taro-flavored things like mass-produced ice-cream disgustingly sweet, and I worried that this slime might smell this way. It does not. To me, it smells like boiled white potatoes with an undertone of glue. Not great.The DIY kit came in a sealed bag and everything looked in good condition and matched the website photos perfectly. The boba balls slime, however, was so unactivated it was straight-up glue and I ended up having to SCRUB my hands in hot water to remove it. Even so, the assembly experience was fun and mixing was fun, as well. But the result is a mid slime. It is quite tough--so dense, but not terribly stretchy--and isn't much for bubble pops or other ASMR. The bobas are soft and squishy and that's cool. I'd like it better if it didn't smell weird, OR I'd be fine with smell if I liked the texture of the slime more. https://preview.redd.it/bfgiai0pjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9f7822d424279f48771d57aac399642c0aefcc8c Tangulu 14/20This came with giant, detailed charms and the giant fimos are beautiful and fun, but the clear slime was quite cloudy and yellow and for the price, that just seems like kind of a bummer. There's a fruity smell but the scent of the glue and maybe the add-ins overwhelms it. By itself, the smell isn't enough to deter me from playing with it. It is a stiff slime that tears easily, but it does stretch quite well if played with slowly. The slime is thick, so there isn't much noise from crunching, but it makes decent bubble pops.Mainly, I just think there are other folks out there making what is basically this same slime, but I suspect that their versions smell better and maybe the quality of the slime is a little better, too. https://preview.redd.it/rpcmvo5vij0d1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f0e5b01c3035436bfc92f52919cb9d181b3540b6 Slimereo Mug Cake 16/20Super fun concept that was realized as a wonderfully detailed DIY kit. The clay oreo was in perfect condition and so detailed! This was a lot of fun to set up and then mix. Initially the oreo smell was spot on, but since I've played with it a couple of times, the chocolate smell has weakened somewhat and, again, there's just a strong glue smell.The mixed slime is not bad. It is still pretty tough, but it doesn't rip when pulled fast and it gets pretty soft and fluffy with inflation. It's just still a little more dense than I prefer. It has a nice sizzle to it and even makes some pretty nice bubble pops with a bit of effort. It is moderately tacky, but not too bad and I certainly wouldn't add activator for fear of making it too tough. https://preview.redd.it/msdobiqgjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b3ac9a0430db226839bf4c4a233030fbacc9e631 Boba Creme Donut 15/20Another DIY kit that came in great shape. The clay donut was soft and everything assembled to make a beautiful, fun and interesting slime. Mixing was fun. The resulting slime is pretty close to that of slimereo Mug Cake, but instead of slakes of snow there are the tiniest mico-floam beads and some squishy bobas. I really like the way both feel and they seem to make this slime more pop-y than Slimereo. No sizzles, though. Bonus: this one doesn't smell bad! It smells like a caramel tea boba drink--lots of brown sugar and sweetened milk tea smells and then that sweet potato smell of boba.but it's still a tougher slime that doesn't make a ton of noise. https://preview.redd.it/le93bjv1jj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2ddd6d6a6a35417a95a1e53f00977aa38a94bf93 Slime-Brite (jury's still out for me on this one)This seemed like Ky's answer to Slime OG's steel wool-themed slime and Ky's having it honestly kind of tipped the scales for me buying from Ky instead of OG. Again, the presentation is fabulous--fun charms, great concept that is rendered in a fun, visually-striking way, cool label. The smell is definitely a convincing imitation of, like, Dawn dishsoap, which I like. I also realize that I just really like bingsu in slimes so I'm into this one, but it is still very sticky (I'm too afraid to add activator lest it become tough like other slimes in this order) and it is much tougher than the bingsu slimes I have from Seoul Gage. It's not tough by what I think are American standards, I'm just not used to it. It still makes great, bingsu crackles and I love how it looks and smells. If it gets a little less sticky without turning more tough, I might really love this one.https://preview.redd.it/b1g7r4wkjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f4189637c261eb2feeda90a6693f53070f66ec6d Which brings me to my next purchase: My diet starts tomorrow 8/20Again, super fun concept and so much detail! Everything was similar to the IG photos and in good condition except the clay pieces were a little hard, but it was fun to assemble and the slime components all seemed totally good to go. The smell is fine. The problem was mixing this produced a hard, rubbery slime--no stretch. I guess it was overactivated? I was ready to throw it out, but I had glycerine on hand so added maybe a tablespoon and that helped it, but it is still very tough. It does crinkle and crackle with the bingsu, but my hands hurt after just a couple of minutes of playing with it. Super not worth it, even with the amazing DIY element.https://preview.redd.it/1bu63j11kj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ffcc241bcb9766757516ba9ce82d8ff45e5d5a87 Sandy Beach 15/20This was the one that had the damaged clay pieces. Honestly, it didn't spoil the assembly experience. In fact, I pulled off the clear slime from the sand crust and first mixed the clay into that and what an awesome expeirence! I really love how it looks to mix colorful clay into a clear slime base. This has a moderate "beachy" smell that isn't bad. I think I just don't like sand in slime. I was expecting something like a pumice slime, but instead it just seems to kill any ASMR effect: no bubble pops, no clicks, no sizzles. The clay pieces were dried out in places so there's also some un-mixed goobers in the slime and the slime is also quite tough.https://preview.redd.it/hk9vgrztjj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7d69e33a498878caf0ca80522fdece037b8e64c6 Birthday Cake Pop 18/20This one kind of saved the order (and maybe slime-bright) and it was totally one I almost didn't get it. It smells like how it looks--like a super bright, artificial birthday cake smell, which is actually pretty great. I love how it looks--such a loud, happy pink and love the sprinkles and the look of the different-sized floam balls. I'm not sure this is it, but I believe the floam balls being different sizes gives this slime extra bubble pops. This is a shiny slime that I expected to be tough, and it is--but somehow now I like that quality? Maybe it's because there's such a huge ASMR pay-off. Like, I' even getting some whistles when I stretch it.I'd give this guy a higher score but, again, I have perfect and near perfect (to me) slimes in my collection and this doesn't feel quite at the level. But it's also unlike any other slime I have and I suspect it will end up being a favorite. I whole-heartedly recommend this one! https://preview.redd.it/xtnmqgw6jj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c7470eb86ee0c6076ba8cf8a8ccb505b23c192ce Free slimes were Lemon Loaf (with no clay piece, which maybe makes it better?) and Java Chip Frappe, also just the base. Again, these were large samples. I'm just grading them out of 10 because...I don't know? they were free and also they aren't, like, the version of the slimes you would be able to buy? Java Chip Frappe (Jury is still out)This is supposed to be a "jelly cream bingsu". It seems like a pretty thick, dense jelly with a tiny bit of bingsu. The bingsu are enough to produce some soft cracks and sizzles, so I really want to be abl to play with it, but it is way to sticky. It is already pretty thick, so I've only added a little activator so far, which hasn't helped much. Hoping this stops being so sticky without also turning into rubber. Smells is listed as chocolate chip cookie, but it smells more like khalua to me. At any rate, I like the smell.https://preview.redd.it/7rczrp66kj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2499c9709c64d6c9cc690909f554890f3431a6ff Lemon Loaf 10/10This is my favorite slime of the whole darn order. It is a highly resistant bingsu slime, but it really softens with inflation. Smells like a cake with a lot of artificial lemon flavor added to it, which sounds bad but it actually quite delicious. It looks great: a bright and cheery yellow that is broken up by specks of iridescence from the bingsu. Also, I love the lemon fimos! But, the cherry on top is the micro-floams! I love these tiny micro-floams that she uses. It may be psychosomatic, but I think they actually change the bingsu texture somehow? At any rate, this is a great, stretchy, inflating, crackling, squeezeable bingsu slime and I love it.https://preview.redd.it/9sk0uoi9kj0d1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0b3a9bb64388eb724a5b854882522c3c0bcab6ac Conclusion:I really don't know what to make of this store, guys. I mean, I have only 3 clear "would buy agains" (one of which I didn't even pay for) out of a total of ten slimes, so, objectively, I should not buy from them again, but... I don't know. I definitely would not have spent all this money at this store if I'd seen some of the reviews I've seen since making the order. The complaints seem to be the same as my own: hard clay, tought slime, not great smells.On the other hand, the Birthday Cake Pops and the Lemon Loaf are so good that I might be persuaded to try Ky again. I guess, part of me wonders if the slime is this way because she's cutting corners on ingredients or doesn't know how to make slimes well? But then the amount of work and care that goes into designing the slime just makes me think there's no way this person doesn't know what they are doing, so then I guess this is the way the slime is meant to be (not for the Diet one, though--that was straight up bad slime) and it just isn't for me, but who is it for? who likes tough slime that doesn't make much noise? Would be curious to hear others' thoughts. |
2024.05.15 09:24 inversefalloff Wedging distance between my friends and I
I have a friend who has grown closer and closer to me within the last few years, mainly text, socials or phone. We’ve seen each other in person once in a while, but rarely. Since our friendship really blossomed before all lockdown restrictions were lifted, we were just used to these types of communication and not in person.
In the last year I’ve run into her several times amongst common friends and whatnot and she’s often used to coming straight up to me and behaving what I believe is normal for people who are as acquainted as she and I are. It’s difficult to get time away from her and she tends to follow me around the room.
Even though I understand this behavior logically because there is a familiarity with me, I loathe it. It feels too close, too familiar, too much. When she’s had moments where she doesn’t know other people, she clings to me at social gatherings and I absolutely need my freedom to flutter around and leave immediately if I want to. I also feel like she’s using my closeness to others as a way to also insert herself and I resent it. I want to be able to have my conversations and interactions aside from her but it’s sometimes not possible.
I recognize I’m being unfair, and am usually the one to include others who I see are alone or awkwardly trying to fit in, but that’s when with people who don’t know me very well and with whom I have not been vulnerable. I think she makes me feel exposed and this is where these feelings stem from. I believe because of my own shame with the vulnerability I’ve shared with her via text, I do not want her near me in public.
Maybe it’s a permanent vulnerability hangover?
Regardless, I found myself behaving aloof and cold towards her and I know she sensed it. She gave me space. I feel guilty to think she may think it’s her when it’s actually me just feeling too open and unsafe. I would hate for her to think I keep her as a hidden friend or that I’m embarrassed to be friends with her, that’s not at all the case. I really like her. I just don’t like how exposed her presence makes me feel.
Has anyone else experienced this? Have you been close to someone in one context and when it becomes overwhelming in another, you push them away? Did you ever tell them why? Did you want to?
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In the last year I’ve run into her several times amongst common friends and whatnot and she’s often used to coming straight up to me and behaving what I believe is normal for people who are as acquainted as she and I are. It’s difficult to get time away from her and she tends to follow me around the room.
Even though I understand this behavior logically because there is a familiarity with me, I loathe it. It feels too close, too familiar, too much. When she’s had moments where she doesn’t know other people, she clings to me at social gatherings and I absolutely need my freedom to flutter around and leave immediately if I want to. I also feel like she’s using my closeness to others as a way to also insert herself and I resent it. I want to be able to have my conversations and interactions aside from her but it’s sometimes not possible.
I recognize I’m being unfair, and am usually the one to include others who I see are alone or awkwardly trying to fit in, but that’s when with people who don’t know me very well and with whom I have not been vulnerable. I think she makes me feel exposed and this is where these feelings stem from. I believe because of my own shame with the vulnerability I’ve shared with her via text, I do not want her near me in public.
Maybe it’s a permanent vulnerability hangover?
Regardless, I found myself behaving aloof and cold towards her and I know she sensed it. She gave me space. I feel guilty to think she may think it’s her when it’s actually me just feeling too open and unsafe. I would hate for her to think I keep her as a hidden friend or that I’m embarrassed to be friends with her, that’s not at all the case. I really like her. I just don’t like how exposed her presence makes me feel.
Has anyone else experienced this? Have you been close to someone in one context and when it becomes overwhelming in another, you push them away? Did you ever tell them why? Did you want to?
2024.05.15 09:23 throw-away28475 Got fired by my patient’s parent for the first time
This parent has fired other nurses before. I’ll try keep it short. I’m a new grad RN who has worked on pediatrics for the last 3-4 months. Early in my shift, she asked me if I “just sat and watched her baby cry again” when his CPAP was being applied (he doesn’t tolerate it well but does settle after being swaddled and a few minutes of cuddles). She was short with me all night or simply didn’t respond when I asked if she had questions or concerns. Babe was super irritable and when he was moving, it appeared as if he was desatting on the monitor. Parent was angry I “wasn’t doing anything.” I explained as best I could what a pleth was and how we monitor it, and that it wasn’t a true desat. She got upset I didn’t explain this to her before, and I apologized and told her that I’m here to answer any other questions she may have. I told her I can arrange a family discussion with the care team so she can get any questions she might have answered. She apologized for how she talked to me earlier and I left the room.
Here’s where things get bad lol. I can tell the kid is still irritable, so I go in to offer to turn the monitor in her room off and to help settle the kid because she’s clearly stressed. She says no because she “doesn’t trust us”. I offer to call RT for suctioning as an intervention. She says “why don’t you make the decision, you’re the nurse.” I tell her I think collaborating with her as a parent is important. She then questions my practice and says “I don’t even know what kind of nurse you are” and rips off her kid’s CPAP. I told her straight up that I wouldn’t tolerate the way she was talking to me and that’s when she requested a new nurse.
I know it’s scary for parents and I tried to be empathetic and I feel awful about the whole situation, but at the end of the day I’m not going tolerate that kind of treatment. I’m worried I was a bit harsh but maybe I’m just in my head
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Here’s where things get bad lol. I can tell the kid is still irritable, so I go in to offer to turn the monitor in her room off and to help settle the kid because she’s clearly stressed. She says no because she “doesn’t trust us”. I offer to call RT for suctioning as an intervention. She says “why don’t you make the decision, you’re the nurse.” I tell her I think collaborating with her as a parent is important. She then questions my practice and says “I don’t even know what kind of nurse you are” and rips off her kid’s CPAP. I told her straight up that I wouldn’t tolerate the way she was talking to me and that’s when she requested a new nurse.
I know it’s scary for parents and I tried to be empathetic and I feel awful about the whole situation, but at the end of the day I’m not going tolerate that kind of treatment. I’m worried I was a bit harsh but maybe I’m just in my head
2024.05.15 09:23 midnitedesperadoIV I Don’t think I can move for love
I know I should be talking with my partner about this but I like to lurk on the internet. So my current predicament needs some background. Roughly two years ago I was in a serious relationship for 7 years and my gf at the time (I’m a male) came out to me as gay and moved across the country not too soon after telling me ( we shared a house together and we weren’t married). I think we ended amicably at the end but it still hurt me. During that time I owned a home and hated my job. All of the above occurred in the summer of 2022. As soon as I quit my job and sold my house I started to an accelerated medical program also in 2022. This is where my issue starts. A girl I know we’ll say her name is “Tamara” asked me to be FWB.
Tamara knew me from the previous job but in process of her moving up in the company she moved to South Carolina. I currently live up north in the US. So she got in contact with me and wanted to come to the place I moved back to, to come and visit. I said sure because we were pretty good friends. (I want to add the medical program I’m in gives me the ability to work anywhere in the US so I can chose where I complete my clinical hours. This comes into play later).
The first visit nothing happened between us. In between visits she asks to be FWB I say yes but tells me it can be messy. I agree. This goes on for a year and a half. Mid way point last year because our relationship was just exclusively FWB we discussed at the beginning that we were free to seek other people out. So I went on few dates. Tamara was not happy with me so I ended up stopping the dates in between her visits. At the point when I stopped the dates I was about to start my clinical rotations and I had an interview for a site coming up. I was unable to get matched in an area near South Carolina which is what Tamara wanted so we could be close. I matched at a place up North an hour from me. So throughout my clinical rotation Tamara has been “gently” encouraging me to move in with her in South Carolina.
I have some concerns about moving because I know the area is saturated for the medical job I have and it’s damn near impossible for new grads to get work. So I press on through the program. 1/3 of the way through. I get a message saying we need to talk. I get a phone call from Tamara saying she has an STD and I should get checked. Needless to say I was not happy. A week later I got checked and had it also. I was beside myself. I knew I was being an idiot and I know people make mistakes but I definitely got checked after our encounters but I digress. After this things seemed to have cooled a little. With news of the STD I told her fuck it I’ll just move down after I graduate but I’m still struggling with the idea of fully committing to moving there because of the struggles I will face. Now currently I have a few weeks left of my program and I want to change my mind about moving down and I know it will break her heart but I was doing what was right for her and not for myself. So would I be the asshole for calling things off and staying put to get work experience?
TLDR: I ended a long term relationship. I got into medical school that allows me to work anywhere in the US. An old co-worker hits me up to hang but we live in different states. We become FWB. I get an STD from our interactions which soured my mood a little. I tell her I will move down to be closer to date but now I want to take it back because I know how hard it will be to get a job where she lives currently and I’m not sure I can commit to the things she wants.
Thanks for reading and sorry for any typos! I am writing this pretty late at night.
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Tamara knew me from the previous job but in process of her moving up in the company she moved to South Carolina. I currently live up north in the US. So she got in contact with me and wanted to come to the place I moved back to, to come and visit. I said sure because we were pretty good friends. (I want to add the medical program I’m in gives me the ability to work anywhere in the US so I can chose where I complete my clinical hours. This comes into play later).
The first visit nothing happened between us. In between visits she asks to be FWB I say yes but tells me it can be messy. I agree. This goes on for a year and a half. Mid way point last year because our relationship was just exclusively FWB we discussed at the beginning that we were free to seek other people out. So I went on few dates. Tamara was not happy with me so I ended up stopping the dates in between her visits. At the point when I stopped the dates I was about to start my clinical rotations and I had an interview for a site coming up. I was unable to get matched in an area near South Carolina which is what Tamara wanted so we could be close. I matched at a place up North an hour from me. So throughout my clinical rotation Tamara has been “gently” encouraging me to move in with her in South Carolina.
I have some concerns about moving because I know the area is saturated for the medical job I have and it’s damn near impossible for new grads to get work. So I press on through the program. 1/3 of the way through. I get a message saying we need to talk. I get a phone call from Tamara saying she has an STD and I should get checked. Needless to say I was not happy. A week later I got checked and had it also. I was beside myself. I knew I was being an idiot and I know people make mistakes but I definitely got checked after our encounters but I digress. After this things seemed to have cooled a little. With news of the STD I told her fuck it I’ll just move down after I graduate but I’m still struggling with the idea of fully committing to moving there because of the struggles I will face. Now currently I have a few weeks left of my program and I want to change my mind about moving down and I know it will break her heart but I was doing what was right for her and not for myself. So would I be the asshole for calling things off and staying put to get work experience?
TLDR: I ended a long term relationship. I got into medical school that allows me to work anywhere in the US. An old co-worker hits me up to hang but we live in different states. We become FWB. I get an STD from our interactions which soured my mood a little. I tell her I will move down to be closer to date but now I want to take it back because I know how hard it will be to get a job where she lives currently and I’m not sure I can commit to the things she wants.
Thanks for reading and sorry for any typos! I am writing this pretty late at night.
2024.05.15 09:22 Maximum-Maximum-1230 Catholic Problems
Sup,
So I was with a girl from 2019-2023 (until January 2024)
Long story short, we both cheated on each other. I split with her in January / February.
I met a new girl who is amazing, she really helped me heal and in turn I think I'm helping her heal too. (She is going through something way worse than me)
By far the girl I like most so far / I'd be keen to marry her if I was sorted in career / life etc.
So:
I have a history of being with lots of girls and multiple women in a rotation, and it's my first rodeo in awhile being fully and honestly committed. (Yes I know, what a dickhead)
Me and the new girl are both catholic, and we both have decided to try to keep each pure and bring each other closer to God. (Which I think is beautiful)
She's a really sweet girl and to clarify, we have had sex. (We try not to but stuff up)
Here's the issue:
A, I have girls who I used to see sending me nudes, showing up to my street and more or less throwing themselves at me. (I've said no already to all / blocked)
B, I am getting a little sexually frustrated because I'm also not keen to tell her about all these orbiters trying to bang down my door to get the old pipe.
C, My number 1 priority is to act in this girl's best interests so my solution is to shut my mouth and try to love her and never let her know even if I am turning down others girls / sex.
What I'd like to know is:
A, Should I tell her and let her know I'm keen to bang her more and it would sorta also help me not crave sex because we're doing it
B, Do I learn to just not crave it by avoiding it / falling in love with her character
For clarity she'd be down to do it more but it's a sin, and we both believe in God. (Catholic)
And the reason I don't want to is because I want to honour God but have a past as a large man-whore and there's fucking plenty of hoes about waiting for me to trip.
I've been staying in my house every weekend and avoiding parties because I don't want to run into girls I used to sleep with etc.
I know it sounds ridiculous but if anyone has some advice on this or how I can like transition into a better / more loyal person successfully - I'm all ears.
For clarity I haven't and won't cheat on her. I have with other girls, but not her. She's dope and the last thing I'd do is hurt her.
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So I was with a girl from 2019-2023 (until January 2024)
Long story short, we both cheated on each other. I split with her in January / February.
I met a new girl who is amazing, she really helped me heal and in turn I think I'm helping her heal too. (She is going through something way worse than me)
By far the girl I like most so far / I'd be keen to marry her if I was sorted in career / life etc.
So:
I have a history of being with lots of girls and multiple women in a rotation, and it's my first rodeo in awhile being fully and honestly committed. (Yes I know, what a dickhead)
Me and the new girl are both catholic, and we both have decided to try to keep each pure and bring each other closer to God. (Which I think is beautiful)
She's a really sweet girl and to clarify, we have had sex. (We try not to but stuff up)
Here's the issue:
A, I have girls who I used to see sending me nudes, showing up to my street and more or less throwing themselves at me. (I've said no already to all / blocked)
B, I am getting a little sexually frustrated because I'm also not keen to tell her about all these orbiters trying to bang down my door to get the old pipe.
C, My number 1 priority is to act in this girl's best interests so my solution is to shut my mouth and try to love her and never let her know even if I am turning down others girls / sex.
What I'd like to know is:
A, Should I tell her and let her know I'm keen to bang her more and it would sorta also help me not crave sex because we're doing it
B, Do I learn to just not crave it by avoiding it / falling in love with her character
For clarity she'd be down to do it more but it's a sin, and we both believe in God. (Catholic)
And the reason I don't want to is because I want to honour God but have a past as a large man-whore and there's fucking plenty of hoes about waiting for me to trip.
I've been staying in my house every weekend and avoiding parties because I don't want to run into girls I used to sleep with etc.
I know it sounds ridiculous but if anyone has some advice on this or how I can like transition into a better / more loyal person successfully - I'm all ears.
For clarity I haven't and won't cheat on her. I have with other girls, but not her. She's dope and the last thing I'd do is hurt her.
2024.05.15 09:19 ThrowRA_9263 My sister (23F) slapped me (19M) for playing music too loudly?
My sister and I go to the same college and we live together in the same apartment. Last week she was studying for finals, and I knew that (since as was I). So I tried not to disturb her and tried to not make too much noise.
One day around 2PM or so, I was relaxing and listening to some music on my bluetooth speaker. I thought I had it at a reasonable level, but not long after my sister came into my room and said to turn it down, and then left right after.
We share a common wall between our rooms so I try to be courteous and I know things carry through super easy, so I turned it down like she asked. Apparently she didn't think I turned it down at all (even though I turned it down at least like 3 levels) so she came back into my room, and then she slapped me across the face and said "I told you to turn that sh*t down", then said how she's studying for finals "way harder than anything I could ever imagine" (she's getting a medical degree, so fair enough I guess).
She slapped me really hard. It actually hurt really badly. And she didn't believe me when I said I turned it down, and grabbed the speaker, turned it off, and left with it (she still hasn't given it back).
Should I have known better than to play music when I knew she could've been studying without asking her if it was okay first? It's her apartment (she lets me live here rent free while I get used to college) and so it's fair that it should be her rules, but I feel like she kinda went a little far slapping me and insulting me like she did.
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One day around 2PM or so, I was relaxing and listening to some music on my bluetooth speaker. I thought I had it at a reasonable level, but not long after my sister came into my room and said to turn it down, and then left right after.
We share a common wall between our rooms so I try to be courteous and I know things carry through super easy, so I turned it down like she asked. Apparently she didn't think I turned it down at all (even though I turned it down at least like 3 levels) so she came back into my room, and then she slapped me across the face and said "I told you to turn that sh*t down", then said how she's studying for finals "way harder than anything I could ever imagine" (she's getting a medical degree, so fair enough I guess).
She slapped me really hard. It actually hurt really badly. And she didn't believe me when I said I turned it down, and grabbed the speaker, turned it off, and left with it (she still hasn't given it back).
Should I have known better than to play music when I knew she could've been studying without asking her if it was okay first? It's her apartment (she lets me live here rent free while I get used to college) and so it's fair that it should be her rules, but I feel like she kinda went a little far slapping me and insulting me like she did.
2024.05.15 09:19 CamelInevitable8283 Elderly parent with no will/ advance arrangements -- financial arrangements after they pass away.
Asking for a friend. His mother is in a Sydney nursing home. She was diagnosed with dementia before documents for an enduring power of attorney could be completed.
My friend uses her bank card to withdraw money from the account to meet his mother's needs. It's not like some form of elder abuse, there's around $10,000 in her account at the moment and before the nursing home, this man looked after his mum in her own home for several years. Every now and then -- typically when he's made a larger withdrawal from her account -- the bank demands proof of identity, and as she does not have a driver's licence and as her passport expired three years ago, the only way is to get her out of her bed, and take her to the bank -- otherwise, the bank freezes the account and she can't can't get any money at all. The situation sucks: he's already had an operation for a hernia he developed lifting her so that may not be an option in future.
My question is what happens when she passes away? The family don't have money, and will probably need some for funeral arrangements and etc.
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My friend uses her bank card to withdraw money from the account to meet his mother's needs. It's not like some form of elder abuse, there's around $10,000 in her account at the moment and before the nursing home, this man looked after his mum in her own home for several years. Every now and then -- typically when he's made a larger withdrawal from her account -- the bank demands proof of identity, and as she does not have a driver's licence and as her passport expired three years ago, the only way is to get her out of her bed, and take her to the bank -- otherwise, the bank freezes the account and she can't can't get any money at all. The situation sucks: he's already had an operation for a hernia he developed lifting her so that may not be an option in future.
My question is what happens when she passes away? The family don't have money, and will probably need some for funeral arrangements and etc.
2024.05.15 09:17 makeabitchfoundation What is something controversial about your own sign?
The most vile person I know is a gemini and she is my aunt (uncles wife) She tries to come across as very down to earth and proper but it's front. TBH It's not that's she's charming or likable cause she's not.. and none of my family liked her before they got married cause they sensed she was artificial except my uncle (but hes a libra lol). She will just switches up on you she goes from this quiet well mannered woman to this nasty vile conniving and violent woman. I'm thankful my mother never let me stay with my uncle cause every summer he would invite me to stay there. She would definitely tried to abuse me. My mom is a gemini and you can see such a difference between my aunt and her. My mom is honestly kinda a weirdo but in a good way, she's charming af and she does not try to conform or try and appear generic or seemingly palatable like my aunt. Because it's the wild and messy ass geminis that are the realist cause we show you our flaws upfront and if you can hang then you will find a friend for life in us. Gemini is not for the weak either because you could get your feelings if you want to control us. For example the one gemini on here I would trust with my life is boopsieboo cause I know he is a big old sweetheart behind those ridiculous and divisive posts.
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“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
― Marilyn Monroe2024.05.15 09:16 Exact-Anybody1734 My brother has turned into a pretentious jerk
Hi Reddit, so I’ll try to keep this as concise as possible while still giving you all the facts. Let us start from the beginning, my at the time 21 y.o. step-brother, was going through his first big break up. Instead of confiding in others or taking time to understand his emotions he instead picked up a book about the stages of love. Let me also explain that my brother has never been the smartest guy and mainly gets by on his good looks and charm in his life. Anyway this book gave the usual “love requires fighting to work it shows that you care about the other” you know stuff everyone already knows. I’m guessing because it came from a book ,or because it was plainly saying what he was too naive to understand about what he was feeling, he became infatuated with every line. Anytime I would have relationship problems he would quote the self help books he had read since and recommend me ones to read. This went on for while but eventually I finished nursing school and moved out of my family’s house (which is my mother’s house, this is important for later) to start working.
Now fast forward to four years later. I’m living on my own with my the love of my life, working the night shift in the hospital like I’ve always wanted. On my way home on night I called my mom to catch up on my drive home. We started talking and eventually I asked about my step-brother. She explained that he was still living at home and had no plans on getting a job or moving out (for context my brother graduated with a master’s degree a year ago). I found that odd and asked what he is doing now. My mom explained that he just makes music and does podcasts with his friends. He apparently says he wants to be an entrepreneur. Which is fine everyone wants to make it big doing what they love doing however. My mother also explained that he constantly invites people she doesn’t know to her house to hangout and when she gets off of work she comes home to strangers that expect her to cook for them. My mother then started tearing up saying “I don’t feel like it’s my house anymore”. That’s when I got upset. I asked her why doesn’t she kick him out or at least start asking for rent so he has to get a job. She explained that she wanted to do that but my step father wouldn’t allow it. My mother and step father have a wonderful marriage and never fight, but because my stepbrother is his son he has attachment to him. My mom recently had to kick her daughter (my blood related sister) into the camper as well since my step sister (19 y.o.) lets her boyfriend stay on weekends in what used to be the girls room. My mother keeps explaining that all of these situations are putting stress on their marriage and by kicking out her daughter she feels like she betrayed her just so my stepfather’s kids can get their way in her house.
After this phone call I was livid so I called my step brother to confront him. After asking the normal “hi how are you” I asked if he has started looking for a job and he said “why would I?”. I responded “so you can work and move out”. Then he said “im in my 20s this is the time you are supposed to chase your dreams” he then pointed out that I always wanted to be a YouTuber or streamer and I should go for it. I then said you know I have a job now and I have to give that job a lot of my time in order to afford the life I live. He basically laughed and explained that there is always enough time. Not much important was said after that.
Now fast forward a few weeks later I see posts from his Instagram talking about how “social media is poison, take back your life, put down your phone, etc.” (Crazy to post that on social media btw). I have also come across his podcast which are just him and his friend who both have the combined IQ of a beheaded chicken explain that the universe is big and has like billions of stars and stuff. 0.0 his entire personality now is saying basic facts at the surface level and then acting like it’s deep as fuck. Furthermore the constant insistence on following your passion mixed with the complete ineptitude of being able to comprehend how smug and pretentious he is during any interaction has breed some real distain from anyone who can see through his act.
All of these posts about self help combined with the complete ignorance of how his actions putting a negative effect on our family has really put a barrier between us. I really don’t think I can take it anymore and I want to either try to explain that he has become a pretentious douche who only keeps around yes men who all think a fact for 5th graders they learn at the zoo makes them better than everyone else, but I honestly think he will just say I don’t understand or maybe I should read this book about stress. I’ve went over the situation with friends of mine and they all laugh when they see his posts and hear him talk now. For God sake he held his 25th birthday party recently and said for everyone to bring a book to exchange knowledge to one another and wear business casual.
I just want my mom to feel like the home she worked tirelessly as a single mother all those years to afford for our family is hers. I have always been so close to my brother and I want him back as a friend. I want my sister to be able to live in the house she was raised in instead of in a camper.
Well that’s everything as of now left out a lot of stories about him being directly wrong about facts he tells us or times he got called out and embarrassed about shit but I think I’ll just leave it here. I plan on confronting him soon I just don’t know what to say. Thank you for your time.
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Now fast forward to four years later. I’m living on my own with my the love of my life, working the night shift in the hospital like I’ve always wanted. On my way home on night I called my mom to catch up on my drive home. We started talking and eventually I asked about my step-brother. She explained that he was still living at home and had no plans on getting a job or moving out (for context my brother graduated with a master’s degree a year ago). I found that odd and asked what he is doing now. My mom explained that he just makes music and does podcasts with his friends. He apparently says he wants to be an entrepreneur. Which is fine everyone wants to make it big doing what they love doing however. My mother also explained that he constantly invites people she doesn’t know to her house to hangout and when she gets off of work she comes home to strangers that expect her to cook for them. My mother then started tearing up saying “I don’t feel like it’s my house anymore”. That’s when I got upset. I asked her why doesn’t she kick him out or at least start asking for rent so he has to get a job. She explained that she wanted to do that but my step father wouldn’t allow it. My mother and step father have a wonderful marriage and never fight, but because my stepbrother is his son he has attachment to him. My mom recently had to kick her daughter (my blood related sister) into the camper as well since my step sister (19 y.o.) lets her boyfriend stay on weekends in what used to be the girls room. My mother keeps explaining that all of these situations are putting stress on their marriage and by kicking out her daughter she feels like she betrayed her just so my stepfather’s kids can get their way in her house.
After this phone call I was livid so I called my step brother to confront him. After asking the normal “hi how are you” I asked if he has started looking for a job and he said “why would I?”. I responded “so you can work and move out”. Then he said “im in my 20s this is the time you are supposed to chase your dreams” he then pointed out that I always wanted to be a YouTuber or streamer and I should go for it. I then said you know I have a job now and I have to give that job a lot of my time in order to afford the life I live. He basically laughed and explained that there is always enough time. Not much important was said after that.
Now fast forward a few weeks later I see posts from his Instagram talking about how “social media is poison, take back your life, put down your phone, etc.” (Crazy to post that on social media btw). I have also come across his podcast which are just him and his friend who both have the combined IQ of a beheaded chicken explain that the universe is big and has like billions of stars and stuff. 0.0 his entire personality now is saying basic facts at the surface level and then acting like it’s deep as fuck. Furthermore the constant insistence on following your passion mixed with the complete ineptitude of being able to comprehend how smug and pretentious he is during any interaction has breed some real distain from anyone who can see through his act.
All of these posts about self help combined with the complete ignorance of how his actions putting a negative effect on our family has really put a barrier between us. I really don’t think I can take it anymore and I want to either try to explain that he has become a pretentious douche who only keeps around yes men who all think a fact for 5th graders they learn at the zoo makes them better than everyone else, but I honestly think he will just say I don’t understand or maybe I should read this book about stress. I’ve went over the situation with friends of mine and they all laugh when they see his posts and hear him talk now. For God sake he held his 25th birthday party recently and said for everyone to bring a book to exchange knowledge to one another and wear business casual.
I just want my mom to feel like the home she worked tirelessly as a single mother all those years to afford for our family is hers. I have always been so close to my brother and I want him back as a friend. I want my sister to be able to live in the house she was raised in instead of in a camper.
Well that’s everything as of now left out a lot of stories about him being directly wrong about facts he tells us or times he got called out and embarrassed about shit but I think I’ll just leave it here. I plan on confronting him soon I just don’t know what to say. Thank you for your time.
2024.05.15 09:16 CoolGal3332 AITA for beating up my abusive younger brother.
So a little bit of context I (17f) have a younger brother, (16m) who has always been the golden child. He would physically and mentally abuse me and my family, excluding my parents. In my parents eyes he is the perfect younger sibling, and I am the troubled child. My brother had a girlfriend named Nancy, my brothers name is Nick (made up names). They have been dating since they were both 14, Nancy is a beautiful girl, she is also very bright. This incident happened on Nancys birthday, Nancy didn’t have any family so our family kind of adopted her in. We were at her house, preparing to throw her a suprise birthday party. We were all sat in our places, waiting for Nancy and Nick to come to her home, Nick didn’t know about the party as he was bad at keeping secrets. They walked in through the front door, Nancy was in tears and she had a black eye. I was the first one to rush to Nancys side. She explained that Nick had punched her because she refused to get intimate with him, because they were out at a nice restaurant for lunch. I felt my blood BOIL. Nick was walked through the door about an hour later, my mother and father kept making excuses for Nick, saying that a mand pleasure is the woman’s responsibility. He walked in and I yelled at him angrily, explaing to him that I knew. Nick began yelling back, talking about how he was planning to break up with Nancy. Thats when I lost it, I started punching and kicking my brother, years of pent up abuse powering me on. Nancy was screaming at me to get off him, and my father was already on his way to drag me off of him. My mother comforted Nancy, my dad pulled me off of him, I had broken his nose and a few of his teeth fell out. A bit of content I am a trained boxer, I like working out aswell. I grabbed my car keys and drove off stranding my family to deal with him. A few hours later I got a text from my mother saying. “You are no longer a child of mine, violence is not acceptable in this house, and we will be pressing charges.” I blocked her number and just sobbed uncontrollably for hours. I just want to know if I went too far?
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2024.05.15 09:16 lane_cruiser (New) Nova Pro Wireless batteries not charging (neither inside headset nor the station)
Hi! Just unboxed my new Nova Pro Wireless (PC+PS5) last night and I'm having some trouble.
When I plug in the headset via USBC (either to my PC or an outlet), the little white light flashes. If I turn the plugged in headset on, I get a constant 4-beep-descending-sound loop (the low battery sound?). I've left it "charging" using both of these methods ways for several hours each now, but each time I unplug it and try turning it on, nothing happens.
The charging station is also faulty. Either battery just says it's empty and not charging, according to the display.
Plugging the headset to my PC, the GG software says the battery is at exactly 37% and this number never changes.
I've performed the latest software update already. The battery problem was there before and after the update, the only thing that changed through the update was the charging station showing me an icon for an empty battery when I insert one (before the update the display didn't show the battery icon).
By the way, the plugged in headset does play my PC's sound and the microphone works too, over the low battery sound loop. But it does technically work!
The Steelseries service site tells me to change USB sockets, leave it charging for 2 hours, and ultimately wait 48 hours for the "battery to drain completely and do a factory reset" or contact an agent. I've done the first 2, should I do the factory reset or is there something obvious I'm missing?
Thanks!
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When I plug in the headset via USBC (either to my PC or an outlet), the little white light flashes. If I turn the plugged in headset on, I get a constant 4-beep-descending-sound loop (the low battery sound?). I've left it "charging" using both of these methods ways for several hours each now, but each time I unplug it and try turning it on, nothing happens.
The charging station is also faulty. Either battery just says it's empty and not charging, according to the display.
Plugging the headset to my PC, the GG software says the battery is at exactly 37% and this number never changes.
I've performed the latest software update already. The battery problem was there before and after the update, the only thing that changed through the update was the charging station showing me an icon for an empty battery when I insert one (before the update the display didn't show the battery icon).
By the way, the plugged in headset does play my PC's sound and the microphone works too, over the low battery sound loop. But it does technically work!
The Steelseries service site tells me to change USB sockets, leave it charging for 2 hours, and ultimately wait 48 hours for the "battery to drain completely and do a factory reset" or contact an agent. I've done the first 2, should I do the factory reset or is there something obvious I'm missing?
Thanks!
2024.05.15 09:15 Draculaurafangirl My dad’s anniversary is coming up and I’m starting to hate my family
The flair is because I will be talking about my dead dad. I’m sorry if this doesn’t make much sense I just got out of an argument. And please no Reddit shorts bots! I don’t want this to get out of Reddit
My dad died last year and his anniversary is in a few days. My siblings and I have a rocky relationship with our mother and she low key has narcissistic tendencies. All three of us also have religious trauma so it was hard being in the church for the services. Now that the one year is coming up my mother is trying to organize a mass and a get together. The anniversary is on a weekday so I don’t know why I thought that she meant that we were going to organize it for the actual date. My sister and cousin and I decided to go to ren faire on this upcoming Sunday since it will be the last day. Our mom didn’t tell us when the get together was going to take place. Today she wanted to know what time for the mass would be the best for us. This is when I learned that Sunday was the mass and get together. I asked my sister what time and she said she wouldn’t be going. I understand. I fucking hate that church too. To clarify I don’t hate the religion or those who practice it I specifically have beef with that church. Anyway, I don’t want to go but I figured it wouldn’t be too bad and we could still go to the faire afterwards since it would be in the morning. This is the solution that I made. To attend an earlier mass so that we could still go to ren faire. When we tried talking about it my sister said no to the idea and called to see if we could get a refund for the ren faire tickets.This was so frustrating because it wouldn’t even accomplish anything it was such a dramatic reaction to this I’m honestly pissed off. Not even at her but this whole fucking family. I also hate church and don’t want to go but I want to accompany my mother. There was still a way for us to go to church and ren faire but no one listened to me. I’ve been trying to hold it together during the semester so I wouldnt fucking kill myself and now that today was the last day of finals I feel like there’s nothing holding my emotions back. I know that this sounds silly but this just feels like the final tap to break the crack. Between navigating my first year of college, trying to find space to grieve, having to deal with selfish family members like my aunt who said “my kids are so sad about your dad it’s like their dad died” when this aunt still has both of her parents mind you and her kids still have their dad. I just feel like I’m overwhelmed. I hate everyone. I hate everything. I’m so fucking exhausted. I’m sorry I’m rambling I’m just seriously so tapped out.
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My dad died last year and his anniversary is in a few days. My siblings and I have a rocky relationship with our mother and she low key has narcissistic tendencies. All three of us also have religious trauma so it was hard being in the church for the services. Now that the one year is coming up my mother is trying to organize a mass and a get together. The anniversary is on a weekday so I don’t know why I thought that she meant that we were going to organize it for the actual date. My sister and cousin and I decided to go to ren faire on this upcoming Sunday since it will be the last day. Our mom didn’t tell us when the get together was going to take place. Today she wanted to know what time for the mass would be the best for us. This is when I learned that Sunday was the mass and get together. I asked my sister what time and she said she wouldn’t be going. I understand. I fucking hate that church too. To clarify I don’t hate the religion or those who practice it I specifically have beef with that church. Anyway, I don’t want to go but I figured it wouldn’t be too bad and we could still go to the faire afterwards since it would be in the morning. This is the solution that I made. To attend an earlier mass so that we could still go to ren faire. When we tried talking about it my sister said no to the idea and called to see if we could get a refund for the ren faire tickets.This was so frustrating because it wouldn’t even accomplish anything it was such a dramatic reaction to this I’m honestly pissed off. Not even at her but this whole fucking family. I also hate church and don’t want to go but I want to accompany my mother. There was still a way for us to go to church and ren faire but no one listened to me. I’ve been trying to hold it together during the semester so I wouldnt fucking kill myself and now that today was the last day of finals I feel like there’s nothing holding my emotions back. I know that this sounds silly but this just feels like the final tap to break the crack. Between navigating my first year of college, trying to find space to grieve, having to deal with selfish family members like my aunt who said “my kids are so sad about your dad it’s like their dad died” when this aunt still has both of her parents mind you and her kids still have their dad. I just feel like I’m overwhelmed. I hate everyone. I hate everything. I’m so fucking exhausted. I’m sorry I’m rambling I’m just seriously so tapped out.