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I’ve experienced earth shattering, flaming romantic love 1 real time and I honestly thought we’d be together. With the intense passion came some unforgivable moments and I’ve since moved on. This was 4 years ago.
While I want to acknowledge love in many forms surrounds us - the Greeks believed in 8!- my romantic relationships since include shortlived romances, platonic depth without the sizzle, and plenty of situationships. I can’t help but wonder how rare is true “I could marry you” love. Once experienced, I just can’t seem to settle for less.
Carrie Bradshaw said we get 2 loves, and science shows most people at 50 have only felt it 2 times.
So asking all wanderers, worshippers, and lovers of leaving.. do we get more than a shot at true love? Am I scorn to wait and keep believing, or should we settle for less?

I really need to get this off my chest. I (25) was in an LDR relationship with a guy (28) and the first time we met, i already told him i'll be leaving to study in another country to which he said he'll wait for me. Before I left, we became official. We were physically together for 2 months.
We lasted for 10 months. We always try to call each other in the morning and evening, even during class and my travels. During weekends, we talked for longer hours. We can't really do anything except calls and other online activities like watching movies, asking random questions to get to know each other more etc. We were happy. We had a lot of plans for our future together.
Came the first week of April, we had a fight and suddenly told me he's sick of our relationship. I was so shocked because I thought we were okay, everything was normal, he acted normal. A few hours later he called back wanting to fix it. He said he's been feeling that way since December. He told me our calls were not enough anymore. He asked me what we should do and I told him I'm willing to book a flight home even tho its expensive just to fix our problem but when I asked what he's willing to do, he didn't say anything. The only thing he said is he loves me and wants to make it work. He doesnt want our relationship to go to waste.
One week after, we were 'back to normal' but i've been overthinking things. I asked for space because I was not okay because of our isssue and need to think and he immediately said yes not even asking me what's happening. He said he also needed the space. After 2 days of not talking to each other, he ended our relationship. He said he fell out of love. I didn't make a fuzz, I just accepted it even tho I'm still processing everything.
A few days after breakup, I heard he's already courting someone from work. And 3 weeks after, they're already official. How can he move on so fast? i never demanded for his time, i was supportive with whatever he wants to do, i was never strict, i was honest the whole time. And now I'm lost, depressed in another country and going to therapy. I haven't been okay since April and I just want to heal from from this.
TLDR, my ldr ex pretended to love me for 3 months, suddenly broke up with me and 3 weeks later, he's already with someone, acting as if we were never together

7 days ago I couldn’t sleep. My insomnia started at 17. I would be up till 4-5 in the morning, sleep till 7, then get up and go to school.
It’s gets better and then worse and has just cycled my whole life.
But 7 days ago I didn’t sleep at all, for 5 nights I was awake. I slept some last night finally, but I’m a damn wreck.
I have been awake that long before, but I was on drugs. I’m not on anything and I’m trying so had to be good and have been.
But I’m so tired my body is shivering. The micro sleep episodes and constant but I jerk awake. When I lay down my legs feel so restless I want to kick them.
I let my doctor know this morning what has happened. She has not gotten back to me. And she said she doesn’t like to make med changes in between appointments. Our next appointment is more than a week away.
I’m gonna collapse at some point, but no one cares or gets that I mean I was awake for 5 days. My mind is out of order and darkness has come. Dying has been coming up in my thoughts.
I don’t want to hurt myself or anything is just shows the cliff dive my mental health has taken from not sleeping. Idk what to do. The hospital can’t help. Idk if my doctor will help?
I’m going mad and nothing seems real. Everything I touch seems like it’s soft but i touch it and it’s solid. I’m having auditory hallucinations of footsteps and voice I can’t make out the words of. Idk how to help myself if my doctor doesn’t get back to me or do something?
How bad is this? I can’t really tell, I feel so remote. Like a third party.

As an ugly black man I’m not seen as a person, I’m seen as a joke, a big ogre. a monster. Being ugly is the worst. Worse than death. I am the ugliest man in the world, with undoubtedly the most hated on race so I literally am going through it everyday. No,
I’m not saying all women either because a couple of days ago there was this hot white girl at the donut shop we had a convo and she bought me a free donut. Also my friend “E” is so nice I was thirsty and she let me drink some of her sprite. And she lets me smoke weed with her. Since I don’t got my own rn 😭.
Anyways at work I mind my own business I usually only mess with the dudes at work since I know a woman would feel uncomfortable and just tell HR if I even just stand near her. So I keep my respectable distance and I don’t say a word to them unless they talk to me. But somehow someway. My friends (I’m literally bestfriends with every guy at the jobk) they told me that a girl “doesn’t like me”
What the fuck? What did I do this time? A girl who I’ve never even said a word to doesn’t like me lmao. They tried to say “she’s jealous ppl like you way more than they like her” but I wanna really dissect why she feels the need to talk shit about a person she hasn’t ever crossed paths with? As stupid as that sounds that’s the reality of ugly men, people have a problem with you for just existing. Not the first time this will happen def not the last.
my manager hates me too. My friend fucked her and she admitted to him she gives the ugly guys the hardest jobs and the handsome dudes the easiest ones…. Guess who gets assigned to the hardest job everyday…. Me.
Today They told me to teach a new hire girl how to do something and she looked so scared of me like she wanted to cry. I knew for a fact if I accidentally looked her in the eyes or maybe accidentally get more close than 8 feet I’m probably going to get a complaint and fired. So I asked my woman homie to handle it. Apparently she told me the girl thought I was staring at her boobs even tho I took a glance at her for less than 1 millisecond. I was looking at her dirty ass brown stained shirt but I’m a creep right?
Also one last thing. There’s 2 other girls that I’m friends with who I lowkey have a crush on. They know I have a crush on them and they think it’s so funny to tease me. Telling literally everyone. So embarrassing. Think it’s time for a new job.
I just can’t get over the fact that women online say “all we want is for ugly/ creepy men to stay away from us” and that’s what I’m doing but I’m so ugly and creepy that even if I literally just do my own thing there’s someone hating on me because I’m not attractive. I do want a gf one day but I really want to be left alone and I want to rest, from this endless torment.

I am a business owner of a company incorporated in the US. I have a marketing manager who is my contractor in Poland. My supplier (clothing factory in Vietnam) sent a fabric sample directly to my contractor in Poland. FedEx won't release the package claiming that they "cannot release a commercial sample to an individual." They claim that either this package should be released to the company or it should be reclassified as a purchase and the price adjusted, so she pays more customs tax on it.
My question is, what is the best/quickest way for the package to get released?
Option 1: I provide proof that the individual is affiliated with my company (she isn't an employee, but a contractor). She is communicating with them through her designated company email that has the authentic company domain, but apparently this isn't enough... What other proof I can/should provide that would be sufficient?
Option 2: Price adjustment. My supplier put $2 as a value for the sample. They claim it's too low to be considered a purchase. If I go with this option, what should I adjust it too since it doesn't really have any resale value? Also, is it even possible to adjust the value post-factum or would my supplier have to ship another package?
I really need to have this package released asap as my business operations depend on it. How to ensure it is not sent back and that they release it as quickly as possible?
Any feedback is greatly appreciated!

How do I stand up to her? I'm 20 years old and I live with her but her rule is if I live with her u have to talk to the family. It seems unfair and she never hears me out on why I cut everyone off. My ndad finally got his karma after abusing me, he's in the hospital hooked up to machines bc he had a stroke. I was extremely happy because something bad finally happened to him. He was in pain like I was when he abused me. My ndad never made himself a huge figure in my life, he often made excuses to not see my school performances to not go and didn't even want to see me graduate high school, he was a bully to me and very unmotivating as a father. He wasn’t a father who was there for me and supported me. He was very fucked up. I didn’t see a bother to give a crap about a person who didn’t bother to come to my events and support me nor care for me. He didn’t do the bare minimum of what a parent was supposed to do either. He’s a a lazy slob who didn’t wan to work a job and help out, he uses his diabetes as an excuse to be enabled and babied and get my money. He “cared” a lot more about my Nmom, he didn’t care about me at all.
My nparents didn’t have me for the reasons non-nparents would have. He defended my nmoms explosive abusive immature behavior a lot, he was never there for me because he chose my high maintenance Nmom. Even when my Nmom was in the wrong and challenging me like a child he just let her do it. My ndad also abused me too, he enabled my nmoms abuse to me. He made my choice into not wanting a relationship with him very easy but my Nmom doesn’t like that i’m in NC wirh him. I’m also not seeing him at the hospital too. I went once because my Nmom was loosing her shit but after that I didn’t. She keeps guilt tripping me into this bad daughter completely ignoring the fact he wasn’t a active father in my life. He’s a lazy slob who used everyone to his advantage to be housed. My ndad gives my Nmom supply how does me being in nc with my ndad affect her? It SHOULDNT. I’m guessing the family image is becoming public? I don’t care, I care about my mental health. Guys I need some advice. Why is she acting like this? Please give I need some advice. I’m 20 years old, i’m about to make it known that I’m paying for my own phone which means I can who I want and text who I want. She was just texting me today to text my enabler aunt a happy birthday which i’m in NC with as well as she’s a enableflying monkey to my Nmom too. As soon as I can get out i’m cutting my Nmom off so fast. She wants me to be in contact wirh everyone and acts like they didn’t do anything bad. I can’t move out yet but she can’t control who I talk to? This is insane she’s even trying to control who I speak to.

I'm in my late 20s. I've been having an issue regarding the smell of my vagina for quite a substantial amount of time. I have what I can only describe as a strong vaginal odour. I find that the only thing that keeps it somewhat controlled is having multiple showers per day. This isn't practical for me. I don't think having 4+ showers a day is practical for most people either. I can't stay home all day so I'm always close to a shower. Within a few hours of showering, I already have a very prominent smell. I can also smell myself right away whenever I go to the bathroom or get dressed. Any kind of physical activity or exertion makes the smell even stronger, along with sexual arousal or being on my period. It's prominent even if I am just sitting around and not doing much, though.
I actually went to the trouble of going to a gynaecologist privately, which was pretty expensive for me. I have had tests for BV, yeast and STIs. They were all negative. I actually haven't had sex for more than a year and I don't want to while my odour issue is ongoing. So the gynaecologist I saw basically said that if it wasn't any of the aforementioned issues (and it doesn't seem to be any of those things), then it's probably "just how I am", meaning it must just be my natural smell. I have tried sleeping with no underwear on, and I already have a really strong scent as soon as I wake up. Going without underwear during the day isn't something I am comfortable with. I wanted to ask for those women who have a somewhat normal odour, how would you describe your hygiene routine? I use Dove body soap on my outer labia and around my clitoris. I don't put anything in my vagina specifically as I know you aren't supposed to. I don't really know what else to try at this point.

Just finished IB story couple days ago and hopped into GL after to just wail on monsters without a plan really...
Is there an approach that most take with the GL? I'm a little familiar with how regions work, different monsters and tempered only appear at certain levels, and leveling up a region is just killing monsters of that region.
If my max region level can be 5 (im MR58) then is there a point to leveling up each region if I'll be missing out on the level 7 monsters? I don't think I'll hit MR100 by the time I reach level 5 to a region lol and by then that region will go down in level since I can't have them all at 5. Basically, later on I'll have to relevel my regions to 7 while I get everything to my current max 5.
So couple things, should I just hold off on GL until I hit MR100? I'm fine with just grinding events and doing special assignments in the meantime, GL mats are for augmenting and iirc augmenting is the final thing you do to your build to squeeze a bit more deeps from it.
For when I do start GL which regions should I max first? I want to get all the parts for that region so I can just meld it later.
Sorry if that was confusing

I was close friends with Steve when I was about 13 until 15. I hung out with him and Max every Friday night at a comic store playing trading card games (I still am but I was such a nerd). Fast forward, at 15, Max and I stopped being friends because he wanted to be more than friends and I was not interested. Steve always thought Max and I were going to date so when I stopped going to Friday night gaming, he assumed Max and I were dating. Max stopped talking to both of us permentantly. Steve and I connected on Instagram but didn't DM. I was nice to Steve but I got busy quickly with high school and then college.
I met the love of my life senior year of high school. Steve goes to a school different than me so he would comment rarely on my posts like "Who took this picture?" Or "Are you and Max still dating?". He said about Max on a post I made about 5 years ago. I was angry because I didn't want him messing up anything between me and my hunk (I was worried BF would read it and be upset because I was trying to get a label on us past the talking phase). I replied harshly but not meanly. Basically shutting down his comment. I felt bad and I didn't hear from Steve until about two years ago. BF and I are quite happy and in love.
Two years ago, I knew Steve was doing photography full-time (didn't go to college) and so I was trying to collaborate possibly having him take college senior photos of BF and I. Plans never made it past the possibility stage and I hired a different photographer.
Today, I was at my local gym (now that I am living back at home until I can make enough money to move out) and I got a text from Steve. I was surprised. It said "Are you at the _____ gym?" I replied "Yep" Then he said "Cool, just wanted to say hi.
Idk if texting you was more or less strange than just saying hi" and then I said "Where r u? My glasses only work 10 feet away currently also idk if I would recognize you after all this time"
Steve moved back home because his work wasn't doing well. He works in my hometown now so he said he will be frequenting my gym.
He recognized me because of my weight lifting gloves apparently, cause he said I have posted them on my Instagram story and he thought it was weird to have gloves on in free weights. (I find this sus but my mom didn't). I used to be chubby when I was 13 and now I have lost 80 pounds and I got bangs with glasses so I'm surprised he recognized me (but then again Instagram so)
I've always treated Steve as a little kid even though he's a foot and half taller than me, also he has never been my type. Also, we've been mutuals on Instagram since 2015.
My boyfriend is green with jealousy that someone I knew when I was younger who's a guy talked to me today. He said he doesn't want me to have a guy gym friend. I would like to think that being a friend with a man is no different than being friends with a woman. However, Boyfriend and I have always felt neither of us should have friends of the opposite sex, mostly because neither of us has felt a desire to because it seems like whatever you could discuss with opposite sex you can confide in your partner instead. I recognize that I need to navigate this with thought towards my boyfriend.
I'm regretting telling him to say hi to me but mostly it was because I didn't like the thought of Steve noticing me without me knowing. He texted me after "Noted. If I see ya again there, I'll say something.
Lol, I'm glad, i hate walking up to people and saying " do you remember meeee?? I look and sound and am totally different but we met before " and then I said I tried to be friends with someone there and she ghosted me. He sent me "That's always the worst, man. I find it so hard to find a gym partner. I've gotten a few contacts at the gym before, but no gym partners.
Thats so sad that she never came back" and I thought PARTNERS? Hell no. I want to be mulling in self reflection when I work out. So, how do I be friendly, but not entertain the thought of working out together?
TLDR: Old friend wants to be chummy at the gym and I feel compelled to by my mom and social standard
Also hoping Steve isn't avid of reddit posts and therefore will not realize this post is about him and make it even more awkward next time I see him

there’s just always something I have to put off good things for.
even as a girl with my period cycle. usually the 11 days before my period I am so irritated and moody. so basically take away 1/3 of what’s left of my life to that.
especially the first day of my period aka today I am EXHAUSTED from bleeding. and people say see a doctor but I don’t wanna go on birth control. I genuinely believe I am just healthily experiencing the full range of human emotions bc I find it healthier to experience than pushing it down.
but it’s just a reality of life that at the most u are genuinely feeling happier than usual less than 50% of the time. cuz u can’t be relatively happy more than that or it loses meaning.
but yeah my period day 1 no memories are ever made. i’m literally just recharging. it’s 6pm and i’ve barely moved from my bed.
youth u can go crazy and have fun and get drunk a lot for a couple years without it hurting ur future or health too heavily. I had that. but at some point it starts feeling meaningless and empty, even tho it felt like everything for years.
now i’m past that stage and rather set up a good future than meaninglessly throw away my future to temporarily forget my pain.
I mean I will plan something fun sometime soon. i’m just also exhausted from my first week of my new job.
so much of life, if lived healthily on my terms, is recharging, or doing “boring” things that set myself up for a better future (working out, doing things to save money, making healthy food, etc).
idk. i’m 23 and life is scaring me bc I feel like my years of genuine carefree joy (basically the first 2 years of college) are over and the rest of my life is bleak adulthood with 3-10 events of genuine fun a year if that. idk.
I feel like i’ve already met every kind of person. I met hundreds of new ppl at my job already and they didn’t even feel like new people to me. they all remind me of someone from the past. I feel like nothing in life can really be that exciting anymore and that makes me feel meh.
I can’t even enjoy crushing on people. bc fun crushes are never long term healthy. and I don’t feel like investing energy into something that will eventually not work out and hurt to lose.
idk what life is anymore but I might make food and maybe that will make me feel better.
i’m not wearing makeup and don’t feel like interacting. sure I will feel better and more refreshed tomorrow, but it is just so much to maintain basic health and rest. idk how ppl do it. I feel a little more stable than I did at 21 y/o, but a lot less excited about life. i’ve felt this was basically since my breakup when I was 21.
idk. i’m just reflecting. please don’t tell me im depressed. I don’t think I have a disorder, everything I feel and the logic behind it is pretty valid. I do still find joy in life I just feel like the realness of life is hitting me more as I am a 23 year old and as I get older. idk. I wish I could have a fun healthy exciting love story that lasted happily till old age. but everyone says don’t look for happiness in love so I get overwhelmed with what that means and don’t even try at all.
I have sm more to say but I kinda want my food and am kinda tired. I hope I feel better tomorrow. my period is just really heavy and exhausting today.

Hey guys
I'm 5 months pregnant and due in September. I'm a 23 YO girl who just got out of homelessness. I am in credit card debt, my score falls more and more each day, and I suffer from a range of mental illnesses (Depression, bipolar -doctors suspect, still need tests ran to confirm -ADHD, OCD, and anxiety)
I just got back into school, and I'm getting used to "being a student" again. Surprisingly, I'm doing very well - I actually graduated with the top of my class back in high school, so academics are something that have always come easy to me. As far as employment, I work an extremely part time job as of now and barely get any hours in. Before I went back to school, I was a notorious job hopper, mostly due to personal life reasons but a few reasons being job performance and anger out bursts + rage quitting at work.
before discovering how dysfunctional and incapable of fitting into society I was - it has always been a dream of mine to be a mom. I feel like I come from a very broken and estranged family, so being able to find/create a family of my own has always been the goal.
I have calmed down and started working on myself a few months before discovering I was pregnant. I plan on getting on medication as soon as my son arrives and I am actively looking for CBT therapists to hopefully help me become functional again. My patience has gotten better and my anger issues are also improving.
When I was a homeless dancer, I was on drugs (coke, alcohol, adderall, and made some wreckless and impulsive decisions, especially concerning my sexual safety). I slept with 4 guys, but all wore condoms except 2. I would have to request a paternity test from both of them to confirm who the father is, but the guy I really suspect is a long time FWB I had long before becoming homeless. I slept with him to get coke.
That should tell you enough about the mental aptitude of me and the father. He's actually in a good place financially and could help out with co-parenting but he's made it clear he doesn't want to be a father and even told me to go get an abortion even though I'm 5 months in.
I don't want to be associated with either of those two guys after my son is born.
I can't even afford my OBGYN visits - I have to figure out how to meet the deductible for my insurance company or I have to call an adoption agency and find a family who's willing to cover my labor and OBGYN appointments. I also heard horror stories of new borns being taken from their birth mother immediately after labor and I already know myself and know I wouldn't handle a situation like that. I would like to have AT LEAST 30 minutes of holding my baby or spending a few days in the hospital with him before he's taken from me.
I've convinced myself that if I were to put my son up for adoption, he would come back in my life but that is no guarantee. I'm convinced my financial situation will improve though, and I do think my mental health will be a lot better within the next 5 years but those are no guarantee either. With or without my child, I want to improve my life and I can feel myself never going back to what I was before. My plans are to get a job working assistant admin by next year since I'll have my associates, pay my credit card debt off, and by the time I graduate with my bachelor's, I hope I can land a better paying admin job.
I already know once my son is here, and if I have to give him up for adoption, I'll live everyday with a bitter and broken heart. I was already kind of detached and cold and felt so spiteful and bitter about the world before he came, when I have to give him up, I know I'll be hurt yet again by the world, but at the same time I would love with soooo much relief knowing he's in the hands of a loving two parent home with all the resources he needs. And if something happens with the adoption/foster care system, I pray I'll be in a better financial situation by then and let him come back home.

I'm a 24 year old male who's always suffered from depression and anxiety. Just last year, I found out it was caused by undiagnosed ADHD, and have ever since been in treatment (bupropion and Vyvanse).
I've had ups and downs, I smoke weed daily and drink 2 - 3 times a week. I've also had a period of experimentation with substances, mostly psychedelics, and that changed my outlook on life. However, throughout the last couple of years, I have felt things getting worse: more anger, sadness, feelings of being overwhelmed and well, all in all life's losing its sense. I put on a lot of weight, I have gone back to old insecurities and life in general feels like a lost battle, nothing makes me happy. Every plan I make is postponed until I just give up and feel like garbage.
Today I saw something on tv about meditation and thought: "I should try that, like, right now". At that moment, I was feeling as I do everyday. Overwhelmed, tired, sad, angry and numb, all at once. I closed my eyes and drifted away. It felt... Peaceful. I have no idea how long I was away for, but there were two specific moments in which it felt like I fell into a trance, or asleep, like that hypnagogic hallucination state, you know?
I'm not gonna act like it's a miracle and I feel awesome, but I feel weirdly proud of myself for doing that, and I wanna do it again. What would you recommend? Books, techniques, any word of help will be appreciated. I'm not gonna pretend this is gonna save my life, I know I'm the only one who can do that for myself, but I really felt some potential in there.
I'm going to try it again before going to bed later today, and intend on doing it again tomorrow. Any comments are welcome, what's your experience, did it help you with existential dread and with the whole living a sad and miserable life thing? I wanna take control of my life again, I did it once, but I'm failing at doing it again. I hope this can help guide me somewhere.

I am feeling used, and there are some previous posts about this.
So i have to say some users warned me, and i didn't listen.
The risks i took with my own heart, where very obvious.
But still i wanted to share this story.

I met S, when i was getting drugs from her, and i knew she had a active relationship with R.
But R, was a real bad person, and the third time i met S at her house, it was raining...
So, i asked her that i could wait inside, and we had some casual converations about life.
But there was also a friend called K, who asked some things about R, and if S was now done with him.
I asked why they were done, and she explained / showed me the things R did, and the nasty ways of cheating on her.
My heart did go to her, and maybe thats co-dependency issues on my side, i don't know.
Couple hours later we interchanged numbers, and talked alot with each other.
We got a real connection going, but i was just trying to make her feel better.
And she did feel better, and a couple of times, back and forth we were in bed.
And i know, it was way too fast, but what happened happened.
Thing is, in the whole relationship/dating, expierience, the only nice period was the first week.
She is a Pisces i am a Scorpio, so maybe some people can tell me if i was being used or not.
I think i really am, but i just want to know;

• Was it because of forgetting about her ex?
  
• Or was it a standard protocol to abuse guys, and split the money with the ex?
  
• Maybe it wasn't a setup, and the girl itself really ment it, but is just self centered.
  

See more posts:
https://www.reddit.com/Scorpio/comments/1b568s5/me_scorpio_26m_cant_get_this_pisces_25f_out_of_my/
https://www.reddit.com/Scorpio/comments/1b5qc0u/dont_know_how_to_behave_to_pisces_too_much_sexual/
Thanks people.

*Trigger warning: Mention of Self Harm*
Apologies if this post seems long, but I really need some outside perspective. I (25F) recently broke up with my ex (26M) after a decade together because I had committed self-harm. We have one child together (6moF), and since the incident happened, I have been in intensive therapy to receive help with my mental health.
While I was in the hospital, he served me with custody papers for our daughter. I was hurt and upset by it, but I understood where it was coming from, so I never made a big deal about it. But after some talking, we agreed to an informal agreement that allows me to see her on weekends at his place.
Here is where I need some advice. During Mother's Day weekend, his mother (who never liked me) came over to his apartment uninvited and let herself into his building with the access code given to her for emergencies. Then she banged on the door and once she was inside, she began yelling and cussing all bad words at me (though that doesn't hurt my feelings in the slightest) because I am used to her bitterness and hatred towards me. I find it hilarious because she has been a HORRIBLE mother to her son.
Once she saw me, she went to assault me (she tried yanking my hair, but only was able to rip the scarf off of my head) and yelling that I needed to get out. He is the only one underneath his lease and told her that wasn't going to happen, and she needed to go. He tried explaining our situation we have for our daughter, but it was falling on deaf ears. After she touched me, though I am taller than her by a lot, I stood up and cussed back at her. Mostly saying to not touch me and ripping her a new one about how poor of a mother she's been to him for years (which I know struck a chord because my ex mentioned it later in a different conversation, he had with her).
I was so mad and told him that while I could press charges on her for touching me, I chose not to BECAUSE that is his mother. I do not care nor want a relationship with that woman. All I care about is maintaining a good co-parenting relationship with my ex for the sake of our daughter. It already hurts because I went from seeing her every day to only on weekends, but I know my actions have consequences and these are mine.
However, another incident occurred that made me want to reach out to the world of Reddit. Today, my ex called to inform me that, my former boss and his new landlord, told him that she saw me out today. She threatened him to say that if he doesn't stop letting me come over, then she will go to court to have him evicted. (NOTE: My former boss is friends with his mother)
I told him that she is doing some illegal shit here and he needs to contact corporate about it because not only has she said this to him but she's been telling his mother about "noise complaints" that he's had since moving in. (NOTE: These accusations are baseless because the old woman above him has been doing it since he moved in.)
I expressed my grievances with him and told him that he needs to put his foot down and set boundaries with his mother and the landlord. I told him that he needs to be direct and firm, but also save to get a different place because his mother helped him get this apartment. I feel like she wants to make him so co-dependent on her because most of his bills are already underneath her name, too. I am not trying to make the situation more complicated. I just want to see my child and be on good terms with her father.
I need advice because I do not know how to help him, and I do not want him feeling more stressed out than what the people around him are already doing. Please offer me some advice so I can pass that along to him as well because we are both trying to move on and be good parents to our child, but his family and the landlord are making it more about themselves than the baby.

Me and my wife have had to help our baby to sleep for every nap and night time sleep since the day she was born. In the start that meant walking/bopping around with her for an hour while she was screaming in our ear.
Then we were more strict about excluding all light in the room and using white noise and swaddling. This helped, but she still needed to be rocked or breastfed to sleep, and I can count on my fingers the times she’s fallen asleep without at least 10 minutes of crying and fussing before.
Then, about a week ago she hit some sort of sleep regression and besides waking up after every sleep cycle, she only wanted the boob to fall asleep. This of course wasn’t sustainable for my wife so we’ve started working on not letting her fall asleep on the boob.
Long story short, she won’t fall asleep without being bounced and always cries like crazy. Whenever we try using less intervention she won’t fall asleep and just gets overtired and cries even harder, resulting in us having to do quite aggressive squats that “jolts” her out of the crying (we’re talking about a proper workout for us). This is totally unsustainable, especially now when she is going through this sleep regression.
I know that she is too young to sleep train and we don’t want to try (yet) but we do have to change the way she goes to sleep and her sleep associations. Ideally she would be able to fall asleep on her back with us just being nearby. But I’d take anything that doesn’t involve us having to jumping jacks for 20 minutes.
How can we change her sleep association? Do we cold turkey or do we wean her off somehow? If so how? And what do we do when she inevitably gets overtired and won’t settle until we give her the boob or start jumping up and down with her?

Hey everyone,
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.

I was going through all the VR challenges following optinoobs guides and others posts and seeing that rulers/bonds is the hardest and once you do that, to be a hero is just a "victory lap" because it's so easy. Alright then so why am i struggling so much on this shit? I one shot both rulers and bonds and I'm on attempt... Idk 15 at this point on to be a hero and it's genuinely just starting to suck the life out of me to finish the games platinum. I'm so fucking close and THIS is what is holding me up? The supposed easiest VR mission and I'm getting creamed time and time again while following the guide step by step to the letter and bad RNG is getting me nearly every damn time on quite a few of these different fights...
I've made it to Odin once and it unfortunately fell apart and in 10 or so tries I have yet to get back to Odin either dieing to the jabberwocky/Alex/Bahamut.
What the fuck dude. How is this the easy one lol? Zack felt far more useful than Sephiroth in Bonds and for some reason the timing of some bosses during "critical moments" in a fight tends to vary slightly to the point that if RNG can straight up kill your run...
Anyone got any advice aside from "taking a break" because I've already taken a break and just came back because I want it to be DONE. 280 hours in this game and I'm basically right at the finish line and this is what's stopping me...

The first time, he was on tinder only put pictures with his body showing (he is in great shape) he was on tinder for a year and a half and only met up with one person on the side of the road, at night, going on a run. It took a year for me to ever be intimate with him again. Just recently, these past three months I have finally felt content and I was hopeful for our marriage. I told him I forgive him fully and never loved him more. We have been through a lot of traumatic things together and asked to never hurt me again.
An old friend of mine messaged me a few days ago, with a tinder profile of my husband. This time 7 photos of him fighting and shirtless and in his underwear showing his face. She matched him and she asked about me, he unmatched her. I confronted him he said. That we do not have enough sex and he wanted more and he was only 30% sure he was going to follow through with it and was only on it 4 days before getting caught. He did not try to cheat on me when we had no sex for a year. Suddenly I start having sex with him again and he said it made him want more. I just had a major surgery 4 months ago for a rare compression. I also have more health issues and another medical procedure coming up.
We have a young child together who is very clingy. My husband works 46-50 hour weeks. But we have gotten a lot of financial help from my father’s money who died 3 weeks before my son was born. So he isn’t the only one that contributes to our household. He even had to take my car because he didn’t want to pay to fix his. But still I am grateful and praise him for his hard work. When he gets home, I have eveything taken care of, dinner made so he can just relax for an hour and then we have to get ready for bed. Our child is about to start kindergarten, I told him it will be easier to have some time together then. I also have taught our son to read, write, add, subtract, and he knows his multiplications already before even going to school. I put a lot of my energy into our child. I quit drinking and smoking when I found out I was pregnant and never touched it again. I understand what it’s like to have an itch. I just never acted on mine.
Unfortunately, our sex life is not the greatest. Mostly it consists of oral and hand jobs at most 5 times a week. They are short lived as my son will ask for me. I’m still scared of penetration since he gave me an sti last time that spread to my reproductive organs. But I have had it. I feel like he would cheat regardless, but I still feel at fault. We had a long talk where I got him to stop saying if we had more he would not of looked to cheat, that it was about variety that’s what it was about last time. He also thought if he scratched the itch and actually had a good experience sleeping with other people that he would be able to stop thinking about it. I told him it would do the opposite as when he cheated the last time he had issues getting hard with me.
I feel like an idiot typing this out. He’s a good father. I don’t think I can ever trust him again. Divorce is not an option for me. He now agrees with me and says he is happy he got caught now because he would have made things worse. I can’t help feeling that some of it is my fault though. That I am not giving enough. I asked how much he would need then to not cheat and he said “every day, I don’t know.” And he said it has to be vaginal sex. He can’t even give me straight answers. I don’t think he could have sex everyday with his work schedule and a girl on tinder, but who knows. I don’t know what I’m asking after. Just if anyone can decipher this mess and give me some sort of advice on how to come to terms with this situation.

So, here are my thoughts about how I intend to connect the two campaigns based on feedback here and my own thoughts.
The central idea here is that Kas has the same goals, of disrupting Vecna, but needs Vecna to be nearly done with the ritual before supplanting him. In order to do this, he actually needs the obelisk completed because I am working that Vecna is leveraging the secrets/power of the obelisks as a portion of his fuel for the ritual.
A large change in Phandelver and Below, is that Vecna is actually posing as Ilvaash to manipulate the Mind Flayer fanatics into completing the obelisk. The mind flayer fanatics will all be missing their left hands as a nod to Vecna, and any images of Ilvaash the party sees will showcase the godlet missing a left eye, with some other scarring to not make it too obvious (although it doesn't matter if it is).

1. Chapter 6: Introduction of Kas
   • Encounter at Talhundereth: The party encounters Kas, who is seemingly in a desperate situation with a mind flayer. The party intervenes and "rescues" him. Kas introduces himself as a knowledgeable figure with information on the mind flayer threat, claiming that gathering the remaining obelisk pieces is crucial to preventing a greater catastrophe (the establishment of a new Illithid empire). Essentially, they must complete it so they can "destroy" it, otherwise even in a partial state it is still useful.
   • Building Trust: Kas uses his charm and knowledge to earn the heroes' trust. He will play a role similar to Gwyn Orseong, providing critical information while holding back his full power. He already has the Crown of Lies, ensuring his deception is not obvious.
2. Chapter 7: Gathering the Obelisk Pieces
   • Guidance and Manipulation: Kas continues to guide the heroes, providing critical assistance in Illithinoch. He leads them through the stronghold, helping retrieve the obelisk pieces, all while subtly steering them towards actions that ensure the ritual progresses as needed.
3. Chapter 8: The Betrayal
   • Confrontation and Betrayal: As the party confronts the mind flayer fanatics to destroy the obelisk, Kas reveals his true allegiance. He actively betrays the party, ensuring the obelisk's completion by fighting alongside the fanatics. This amps up the difficulty of the fight, making it more rewarding when the party eventually destroys the obelisk and the fanatics. During the entire fight the obelisk will be "pulsing" with energy that seems to be doing something but is not apparent. Kas will get "thrown" into the obelisks and appear to disintegrate from the power, but in reality, he is just teleporting away.
4. Aftermath and Deception
   • False Victory: The party returns to Phandalin, seeing positive effects from destroying the obelisk. They believe they have thwarted the Illithid empire's plans, unaware that the real goal was to complete the obelisk so Vecna could siphon its power, getting Kas one step closer to defeating Vecna and ruling everything.
   • Setting Up the Next Campaign: This sets the stage for "Eve of Ruin," where the party will discover that Vecna, posing as Ilvaash, manipulated them all along. Additionally, when Kas is revealed to have manipulated things as a "secret" Mordenkainen, it will be a juicier reveal since they already know that Kas got one over on them already.

This approach ties Kas’ goals with Vecna’s plan, making it believable that Kas needs the ritual to progress to a certain point before he can make his move. The players will experience a sense of victory, only to later discover that they inadvertently furthered Vecna’s plans, setting up a compelling continuation.
Eve of Ruin Changes:
I think how Kas got the Crown of Lies is largely irrelevant.
I do not plan to involve the "Dark Powers" at all. While in the greater canon of D&D this may matter to people, for this campaign it's irrelevant to me that he was in a Domain of Dread and then escaped. Not knowing "how" he escaped I think adds some mystery to his character and provides a great example of just how powerful he is.
The PCs will find out from the Wizards Three how Vecna was able to get so far, speaking about how he has been having his cult gather power and knowledge for him, in addition to siphoning power from the old Nethrese obelisks scattered across Faerun. The plot of Phandelver and Below will be something the Wizards Three understand during their research of Vecna's plot and machinations, so this will create some guilt on the PCs behalf as they realize what happened and what they contributed to.
The Wish: The Wish is for a method to prevent Vecna from completing his ritual, which is what causes the PCs to be involved. Why can't the Wizards Three simply be the ones to do this? First, they trust magic, which means they trust the solution of the characters even if they are a little confused at that outcome at first. Second, "Kasenkainen" doesn't want them to defeat Vecna. He needs a way to defeat Vecna, which the Rod of Seven Parts will do. Third, in my campaign a deity and its power cannot be affected directly by the Wish spell, so the original wish to erode the power of his secrets in the book is irrelevant and it also prevents anyone from messing with any deities with the Wish spell or using it directly in the final battle with Vecna.
The Rod and the Chime: I am getting rid of the Chime from the story and combining its ability with a super-powered version of the Banishment spell (only able to be cast when fully completed). This special version of a banishment spell will harness all of the artifact's power along with the power of whoever it is targeting, and if the creature is at 50 or fewer hitpoints it will be banished forever. The process of doing this actually strips the creature of its own power, which is what narratively reduces Vecna from a deity status to something less. Where Vecna ends up and in what condition will be open ended. Additionally doing this causes the Rod to shatter into seven pieces again and teleport to unknown locations. Therefore, doing this will create an impossible scenario. The players will know of this and see it as the obvious solution to their problem. I don't need to narratively explain where the Rod pieces go or where Vecna ends up, as I don't plan to "reuse" him in the future at all.
Defeating Kas: Anywhere the "chime" was intended to be used, will require them to simply defeat the being now. Again, don't care if he's gone as I don't plan to reuse him.
Sword of Kas: I do plan on this being in the campaign, actually found in Barovia. Instead of Death House I intend to have them venture into part of Castle Ravenloft, so the Strahd angle is more consistent and can use him more effectively. The Sword will be found there, a great treasure in addition to the rod piece.
Race for the Rod: During the search for the Rod pieces, given the relationship between the Rod and Miska, the spyder-fiends will constantly be harassing the party and trying to get the pieces as well. This is a false flag, Kas having the spyder-fiends harass the party to keep them on the hunt constantly. This harassment is an element from the original 2nd edition Rod of Seven Parts campaign I actually enjoyed when I ran it decades ago. It also creates chaos and amps up the lethalness.
Sigil: The party will actually need to travel to the appropriate parts of Sigil to get to the different planes. This will put them into the right general area once they find the right portal keys, but in each chapter, they will need to figure out precisely "where" they need to go. I'm doing this because frankly, Sigil is badass and needs to be featured more. Plus, if they survive, level 20 characters would likely be a little more present in Sigil as demi-god level adventures might start there or travel through there.
The Generals: I intend to require the party to defeat both generals, Camlash and Miska. While this seems like a lot, It will take the long-rest period between both fights for Miska to fully emerge, so that will prevent things from going stupid in that period of time.
I am still unhappy with the Tiamat portion, but I have to workshop that still.

Hi fellow SLPs, I’m in a really tough place and wanted to seek advice. Pronouns have been changed to protect the privacy of the student. Sorry if this is long-winded, I have a lot to think about.
This is my first year working in public schools. I work with a population of students with complex, high support needs. Mostly AAC, ID, autism, ASL. So far, I’ve had really collaborative parents. They’ve been so open to round table discussion. Lately, I’ve been butting heads against parents who still want to keep their kids in the sub-separate classroom or in therapy services when it is not indicated anymore. I feel this is a denial of FAPE and LRE.
One particular student (ASL is their first language, Deaf+) I’ve had this year has met all their goals (they only had one). The story I got from their staff was that the parent wanted to keep them in speech so they can learn to “speak.” My student has expressed within my speech sessions early on in the year that they do not want to speak. Their language is ASL and they are part of Deaf culture. Their ASL interpreters have affirmed my confusion about why we were working on an “maintaining pragmatic skills via interpreting figurative language” goal when that type of language gets lost in translation. However, they have done spectacular carrying over skills given exposure to figurative language and background knowledge (e.g., Translation of English idioms to ASL, teaching of figures of speech via video examples in ASL) and teaching it back in their own words in ASL. Staff have mentioned their previous SLP expressed frustration about how S/L services have not been appropriate for a while. Previous triennial testing indicated that they could not finish certain tests (e.g. GFTA-3) because they expressed they had a hard time producing sounds.
In a recent meeting for this student’s new IEP, the parent rejected the IEP because I proposed moving to a consult model. Student has met all goals, there are no language or pragmatic concerns, but the parent said they need to stay in speech because “(student) expressed they love speech” and the parent has concerns about communication outside of school in the community. These communication breakdowns occur in unfamiliar places (e.g., not paying attention to surroundings, eloping, not using the restroom or eating in unfamiliar places)…but would this not be a behavioral/psych target if their increased anxiety results in these concerns?
I do not want to give up on this student and want to support them the best I can. I do not think they will continue to benefit from direct therapy (plus having a TOD/ABA on top of speech in the mainstream classroom would be A LOT for this kid who already has anxiety and is a budding teenager who is intelligent and aware of their differences). I have loved and thoroughly enjoyed working with them. Of course I don’t want to let them go - I would work with them forever if I could. I just do not want to overstep my expertise. The student has expressed that they enjoy speech a lot, but this is not a reason to keep them in speech and I feel it is unethical (violation of LRE). Yes, I can target utilization of alternative means to communicate with hearing peers and adults in the community (I already baselined some data and student has fantastic communication repair skills, communicated beautifully via writing and typing). Student already uses the phone to communicate via text with adults and friends.
My ultimate concern is why the team is stepping around this issue to appease the parent when this is no longer in my domain of expertise? Yes, I can work on this skill via a push-in model, but to stretch it a whole year (like the current goal) when they already demonstrate the foundational communication skills at baseline? In addition, student expressed that communication needs in the community setting (e.g., ordering at a restaurant) are done by their family (hearing individuals). In order for this goal to have any impact (again, I am only a school SLP) the student needs the room and opportunity to be independent communicating with hearing individuals outside of the school in order to carryover this skill…
Honestly, I feel like I would be wasting their Medicaid, keeping the student in a more restrictive environment, and we are stuck in the same cycle again.
I appreciate whatever input I get deeply. Thank you for reading.
Note: Using my non-personal account for privacy reasons.

Hello!
I meant to stop my NF subscription for a while because I'm getting bored (have been for a long time) with Netflix, but I forgot and missed it by one day so will wait another month and mull over my options during the meantime. However, I just noticed that Netflix has an option for cancellation only and there was no mention of having a total of ten months to pause service. Is this no feature longer available?
I started sub'ing Netflix back when it was mail-DVD only, I think it was 2003. I was late to streaming NF, which we began in 2008 via my kids' Wii. I can't remember how much we paid in the beginning, but I could swear it was $4.99/month at the time for 2 or 3 movies, or maybe that was the one movie option. If anyone remembers or knows what the price was back then would you please share that info with me just to satisfy curiosity? The earliest and lowest price I can find online right now is $9.99 a month, but I remember when it went up to $9.99 and had to think about whether or not it was worth keeping because it took a while to watch a movie, get it back in the mail, get another movie, watch it, get it back in the mail, and then get another one all within a month's time -- we're very rural in the middle of absofreakinglutley nowhere and the mail takes about 2 or 3 days longer each way for us. It was still great programming at the time, and the added streaming was a huge plus, so we kept it and have been with NF since...more than two decades.
However, my kids are older now, the platform has greatly changed, and there isn't much on Netflix that interests me anymore, or rather, possibly there is but it is too difficult for my feeble old brain to browse. There used to be a great site that had a database of most of what NF had, and it seemed to keep up with the monthly changes pretty well, but they haven't been doing that for a while now. Looking at pages of huge thumbnails of what is immediately current is a pia. If anyone knows of a site that keeps track of titles (such as a database), then would you please share that link? Something like that is much easier to use.
I enjoy many of the foreign shows, but more and more of them don't have English audio dub. Although I enjoyed subtitles in the past, neuro issues have now made it nigh impossible for me to read them while trying simultaneously to watch the show. This genre is the biggest reason I kept NF after the database website stopped keeping the database. So before beginning ponderations on whether or not NF is worth the $276/year, I'd like to better understand NF's steaming options. Although my laptop and mobile devices are 1080, my TVs and desktop are 4K or UHD. My ISP plan definitely has the ability to deliver the higher resolutions, but recently I saw a video on YouTube where this guy was talking about not getting 4K. I stupidly didn't write down the title, didn't save or bookmark it, and now I cannot remember the title or the channel or the person so can't go back and find out what this was all about. He did some digging and talked to NF and .... I absolutely cannot remember what he was saying, but it was along the lines of not only do we need to have the appropriate equipment capable of streaming and viewing 4K, but we have to also have the precise equipment that NF wants us to have. Please do not ask me for details because I have no clue. My memory has deteriorated considerably. Do any of you know about this 4K/UHD issue and needing equipment that Netflix wants us to use? I was thinking that if I cannot really get 4K (sometimes I know I do not but I thought perhaps it was just glitches with router), then perhaps it is not a big deal to jump down to the one device plan at 1080 since I'm the only person using NF in my family.
If this is the case, then I'd like to compare the viewing quality of a 4K show, UHD, and 1080. It is easy to find 4K, but when I search for UHD, I get the same 4K titles. I'm guessing that this is because the vert is the same but not the horizontal? Does anyone know? But if I search for 1080, well, that doesn't really matter. Do any of you know of a show on NF that is not the higher rez's so I can use it for comparison?
I'd really like to get this figured out before the next billing cycle, especially considering the fact that Netflix is expected to raise rates sometime this year.
Any help is greatly appreciated!