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2017.08.04 02:57 tabletopgames The Village Townsquare for Werewolf, the game
Werewolf is an interactive game of deduction for two teams, Villagers and Werewolves. Villagers don't know who the Werewolves are, and the Werewolves are trying to remain undiscovered while they slowly kill off the Villagers one at a time. The game is over when all the Villagers are dead or all Werewolves are dead. This game is for members of Random_Acts_of_Amazon
2024.04.29 01:33 sleepless_in_alberta Ghost called my name
About 7 years ago my mum came to Canada to visit my family for Christmas. My mum and I have a troubled relationship so I was already anxious about the visit. It seemed like the minute she landed we were headed for another bumpy time together but I was determined to make it work so I pushed down my anxiety. Well the universe had other plans. Literally everything seemed to go to shit. Agruments started between my mum and mother in law. We got pulled over on the way home. When we finally made it home we were all grumpy and tired. We ordered in dinner and I bathed and put the kids to bed. They were sharing a room so my mum could have her own room. They went to sleep easily that night so we visited and got caught up on family stuff I had missed out on after moving from the US to Canada 7 years before. This always was a sore subject and something that still makes my mum furious about since I'm not nearby like my younger siblings. After some grumpy comments from her I get sick of it and say we are going to bed. She goes to her room and my husband and myself go to ours. My mother shut her door to have more privacy but since my children were still small we always keep our master room open. My home at the time was small so there wasn't so far distance between rooms. My husband and I were chatting in bed like usual but the house was dark and silent. Almost eerily quiet. We had just quiet speak when we heard what sounded like a knock on our door frame quickly followed by my name being said loud enough for us to hear it. We both shot up in our bed. My husband asked if I heard that too and I said yes. A womans voice had called my name loudly. I got of the bed and went to see if my mum was up while my husband checked our children. I knocked on my mums door who was still awake and asked if she called for me and she opened the door quickly and said no but she had heard it too. We all went searching the house, checking doors, opening closets and looking for whoever called my name. But found nothing. We ended up sitting around the kitchen table and sharing a bottle of wine trying to calm our nerves. The more we drank my mum started to bring up that she remembered hearing that voice before. I was too freaked out to ask any questions and finally made my husband go to bed with me. When we all got up the next morning my mum acted like nothing happened. When I tried to bring it up she literally would walk away saying she needed to smoke knowing I wouldn't follow her since I hate smoking and the cold. She never did talk to me about it again. My husband thinks she brought something into the house. Our bad luck struck again when 2 days before my mum was supposed to fly back to US she slipped on ice outside our house and broke her ankle in 3 places requiring surgery and was with us for a month longer than planned. We have always had activity but things really amped up after that visit. I have gotten my grandmother to talk about our family having some connection with the otherside. This instance scared me pretty bad and we have other times where my name and even my childrens name have been called. I believe whoever is calling my name isn't friendly and when things happened the house gets a heavy feeling. We do have a few other visitors who seem less negative. We have since moved out of that house but our visitors still stay with us. Luckily its been a while since anyones name has been called and hopefully it stays that way.
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2024.04.29 01:31 Ok-Commercial9006 sjsu vs cal
[I'm sorry if this is dramatic and long but I'm really struggling with this]
I'm a cc student transferring in the fall, I genuinely don't know which school to choose and I have to give SJSU an answer by May 15th. I'm planning on going to SJSU for MIS or Berkeley for econ with a possible minor in ds (which is a whole other problem because I don't know if I want to stick with econ, I actually don't like the subject but there's nothing else for me lol).
I know its easy to say go to Berkeley but I honestly don't know if I can do it. My dream school was UCLA (waitlisted) but the reason why I liked it so much was because of the work-life balance but still really good academics, and living in an area where there is a lot to do during free time. (Basically in my head, ucla = sunshine + fun + good academics). Meanwhile, Berkeley seems so isolating, cold, grey and honestly, sad. Even if there is fun things to do, I feel like I won't have time to do any of it. At least at SJSU I'll be at home with family/friends/bf who I can talk to and spend time with at the end of a hard day. (Berkeley is only an hour away but will I even find time to go home on the weekends)
I know many people get imposter syndrome but I seriously don't know if I'll belong at Berkeley considering I practically chegg-ed and chatgpt-ed my way through community college (It's so bad, I know). I understand that I'll be working hard and have to adjust to any uni I go to but going from CC to Berkeley feels like I'm going from 0-200. I burn out pretty easily and even at cc I need at least weekends off to recharge but what if I'm just studying through weekends at Berkeley and end up burning out within the first semester.
I've been waking up everyday since my acceptance to Cal last week with my heart pounding, feeling dread and full on crying just thinking about miserably trying to get through these next two years at Berkeley. My friends are telling me thats a bad sign/that is not normal but what if I'm just overthinking it? With all that said, you're probably thinking "This girl is crazy, just go to SJSU if you dislike Berkeley that bad"
I don't want going to SJSU to be the reason I'm not employed in the future. I know that the school you go to can help your job search to a certain extent so that's why I'm still even considering Berkeley. I know SJSU is still a really good school especially in Silicon Valley but turning down Berkeley sounds crazy. I want to live/stay in the bay in the future so I'm going to need to make a pretty good living but with the path I'm on right now, I only see myself in the non-technical side of business/tech (the end goal is PM but I'm fine with starting out with marketing, hr, sales, ect. which I'm scared about having a hard time breaking into fresh out of SJSU)
I know Berkeley means good connections which everyone says is the most important part, but are the opportunities going to be that drastically different from SJSU? Is risking my happiness/mental health going to be worth all of those connections/opportunities that the Berkeley name may offer?
Since this is the SJSU subreddit I wanted to ask you guys some questions after my rant:
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I'm a cc student transferring in the fall, I genuinely don't know which school to choose and I have to give SJSU an answer by May 15th. I'm planning on going to SJSU for MIS or Berkeley for econ with a possible minor in ds (which is a whole other problem because I don't know if I want to stick with econ, I actually don't like the subject but there's nothing else for me lol).
I know its easy to say go to Berkeley but I honestly don't know if I can do it. My dream school was UCLA (waitlisted) but the reason why I liked it so much was because of the work-life balance but still really good academics, and living in an area where there is a lot to do during free time. (Basically in my head, ucla = sunshine + fun + good academics). Meanwhile, Berkeley seems so isolating, cold, grey and honestly, sad. Even if there is fun things to do, I feel like I won't have time to do any of it. At least at SJSU I'll be at home with family/friends/bf who I can talk to and spend time with at the end of a hard day. (Berkeley is only an hour away but will I even find time to go home on the weekends)
I know many people get imposter syndrome but I seriously don't know if I'll belong at Berkeley considering I practically chegg-ed and chatgpt-ed my way through community college (It's so bad, I know). I understand that I'll be working hard and have to adjust to any uni I go to but going from CC to Berkeley feels like I'm going from 0-200. I burn out pretty easily and even at cc I need at least weekends off to recharge but what if I'm just studying through weekends at Berkeley and end up burning out within the first semester.
I've been waking up everyday since my acceptance to Cal last week with my heart pounding, feeling dread and full on crying just thinking about miserably trying to get through these next two years at Berkeley. My friends are telling me thats a bad sign/that is not normal but what if I'm just overthinking it? With all that said, you're probably thinking "This girl is crazy, just go to SJSU if you dislike Berkeley that bad"
I don't want going to SJSU to be the reason I'm not employed in the future. I know that the school you go to can help your job search to a certain extent so that's why I'm still even considering Berkeley. I know SJSU is still a really good school especially in Silicon Valley but turning down Berkeley sounds crazy. I want to live/stay in the bay in the future so I'm going to need to make a pretty good living but with the path I'm on right now, I only see myself in the non-technical side of business/tech (the end goal is PM but I'm fine with starting out with marketing, hr, sales, ect. which I'm scared about having a hard time breaking into fresh out of SJSU)
I know Berkeley means good connections which everyone says is the most important part, but are the opportunities going to be that drastically different from SJSU? Is risking my happiness/mental health going to be worth all of those connections/opportunities that the Berkeley name may offer?
Since this is the SJSU subreddit I wanted to ask you guys some questions after my rant:
- Is the difference in job opportunities postgrad going to be that different? Cal and SJSU are both in good parts of the bay so will finding internships be significantly easier for Berkeley students?
- It is only 2 more years so is the chance of being miserable through Cal worth my future career or will going to SJSU be able to give me the same job opportunities?
2024.04.29 00:55 throwawaycats1669 should you change someone’s given name when speaking about them in a different language?
i made a throwaway account to post this question anonymously. TL;DR in bold at the end. i’d appreciate some outside opinions to settle a relatively low stakes disagreement i am currently having.
i am an american. and i have a friend who is in argentina where she was born and raised. let’s call her esperanza. we do most of our communication in english because she is brilliant at english and my spanish isn’t great (i haven’t spoken it much since i was in school like 15 years ago). she says talking to me in english has been great for her language skills and so for the past few months i’ve been practicing my spanish to try to get better. that’s some background, this is the disagreement: esperanza has a cat and until today i thought the cat was named “tuna”. but while we were talking it hit me that esperanza, a native spanish speaker, who uses spanish nearly 100% of the time in her day to day life, has given her cat an english word for a name! so i asked if she actually calls her cat “tuna” or “atún” (the spanish word for tuna) and she said atún! my stance is that her cat is “atún” and it’s wrong to change it to the english version for me. not wrong as in immoral, just essentially that she told me the wrong name. like i said, this is low stakes, our disagreement is playful not a real argument. and i know people give their pets all sorts of funny nicknames and that often they aren’t at all related to the pets given name, but it got me thinking. i grew up in a house where more than one language was spoken and i’ve always been interested in the different words for things and cultural naming conventions around the world. and the more i think about it the more i stand by my original stance. my point is that people all over the world have names that originate from different languages. and that your name is your name. it doesn’t change if you change the language. the pronunciation or accent may differ but the actual name remains the same. her cat isn’t named as an abstract representation of the fish in the “scombridae” family. her cat is named “atún”. “esperanza” in english translates to “hope”, but i wouldn’t call esparanza hope. those are two different words and two different names. and i wouldn’t call a “carlos” “charles” even though they’re different language versions of the same name. her point is that it’s like when there was a taiwanese exchange student at her school and he picked the name pablo, you can have different names in different languages. or, for example, how in the spanish speaking world mariah carey is pronounce “maria kah-ray” like in this video of carlos sainz and lando norris https://youtube.com/shorts/KeDvBjPBym4?si=KMiB0Euz92pfCZ9m i have rebuttals to both those points but i wont include them here to avoid biasing people since esparanza isn’t here to further argue her side. but one argument esparanza has that i don’t think wins her the argument but i AM sympathetic to is that when she’s speaking english it would be disruptive to include a spanish word and vice verse because it’s difficult to switch languages because she’s in different mindsets with each language. TL;DR my spanish speaking friend calls her cat “atún” IRL and only refers to her as “tuna" when speaking to me, because i’m pretty much the only one she talks to in english. has she changed the cat’s name? does her cat have two names? is it incorrect to change a given name to a different version when you switch languages? does your answer change if it’s a person instead of a cat?
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i am an american. and i have a friend who is in argentina where she was born and raised. let’s call her esperanza. we do most of our communication in english because she is brilliant at english and my spanish isn’t great (i haven’t spoken it much since i was in school like 15 years ago). she says talking to me in english has been great for her language skills and so for the past few months i’ve been practicing my spanish to try to get better. that’s some background, this is the disagreement: esperanza has a cat and until today i thought the cat was named “tuna”. but while we were talking it hit me that esperanza, a native spanish speaker, who uses spanish nearly 100% of the time in her day to day life, has given her cat an english word for a name! so i asked if she actually calls her cat “tuna” or “atún” (the spanish word for tuna) and she said atún! my stance is that her cat is “atún” and it’s wrong to change it to the english version for me. not wrong as in immoral, just essentially that she told me the wrong name. like i said, this is low stakes, our disagreement is playful not a real argument. and i know people give their pets all sorts of funny nicknames and that often they aren’t at all related to the pets given name, but it got me thinking. i grew up in a house where more than one language was spoken and i’ve always been interested in the different words for things and cultural naming conventions around the world. and the more i think about it the more i stand by my original stance. my point is that people all over the world have names that originate from different languages. and that your name is your name. it doesn’t change if you change the language. the pronunciation or accent may differ but the actual name remains the same. her cat isn’t named as an abstract representation of the fish in the “scombridae” family. her cat is named “atún”. “esperanza” in english translates to “hope”, but i wouldn’t call esparanza hope. those are two different words and two different names. and i wouldn’t call a “carlos” “charles” even though they’re different language versions of the same name. her point is that it’s like when there was a taiwanese exchange student at her school and he picked the name pablo, you can have different names in different languages. or, for example, how in the spanish speaking world mariah carey is pronounce “maria kah-ray” like in this video of carlos sainz and lando norris https://youtube.com/shorts/KeDvBjPBym4?si=KMiB0Euz92pfCZ9m i have rebuttals to both those points but i wont include them here to avoid biasing people since esparanza isn’t here to further argue her side. but one argument esparanza has that i don’t think wins her the argument but i AM sympathetic to is that when she’s speaking english it would be disruptive to include a spanish word and vice verse because it’s difficult to switch languages because she’s in different mindsets with each language. TL;DR my spanish speaking friend calls her cat “atún” IRL and only refers to her as “tuna" when speaking to me, because i’m pretty much the only one she talks to in english. has she changed the cat’s name? does her cat have two names? is it incorrect to change a given name to a different version when you switch languages? does your answer change if it’s a person instead of a cat?
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2024.04.29 00:30 HillbillyOutWest The dog I adopted didn't belong to me [Part 7]
Those questions and more, I still do not have answers for. Even now, after the dust has finally settled, I feel as though ABC is a bad business/ organization. The fact that they seem to have forever ownership of animals that come from their headquarters is honestly a blatant cash grab to me, since they charge such high prices for rehoming animals - in comparison, most dogs up for adoption in the humane society have a rehoming fee of just $100 - $175, which includes all of the services ABC says their fee includes - even if there is nothing for ABC to do along the lines of preventative care for the animal. This is a terrible business practice to me, plain and simple. What would ABC have done if Sarah and her family moved far out east, and then were unable to keep Finn? ABC is a local shelter, and their fosters are local here to the So-Cal area. There was no clause stating that the family would have to relinquish their animal if they moved out of area. Would they have required Sarah to ship Finn back here - even though they have stated that they do not have holding areas for animals other than new intakes? At that point, Sarah would have been forced to breach the contract that was Finn's adoption paperwork. I doubt if they would have moved and rehomed Finn, that ABC would have known. But if they somehow did find out, Sarah would have been subject to a $500 penalty for breach of contract, as is stated in the adoption form.
To go along with this $500 breach of contract fee, I've said before how this place just seems like a cash grab, and how you never truly own your pet, even if you've paid the adoption fee; what makes that worse, is that, per the wording of the adoption form, it seems that the only way you could truly own a pet from ABC would be to pay $500 as a refusal to return your pet to ABC at any time. This is on top of what you would already have paid for the rehoming fee. Through Finn's adoption paperwork, I saw that Sarah had originally paid $500 as Finn's rehoming fee . . . to truly own him at the end of the day, Sarah would have had to pay ABC $1000. Some purebred puppies go for $1000, sometimes more . . . Finn is a mutt from Mexico that, sorry, anyone would have to be desperate to pay $1000 for.
I decided that I'd had more than enough. ABC adoption agency was clearly - in my mind, at least - not an organization/ business that I wanted any sort of dealing with. And though I wasn't mad at Sarah for what she had done - through their lack of effort and shady dealings, ABC had forced her hand - I was frustrated that she hadn't just come clean with everything when I sent the snapshot of the first email I had received. Why cover up or dodge the question with handwavy, he said she said answers?
Like I said, I'd had more than enough of this whole situation. My response read like this: "Hello: I read through the relinquishing and rehoming document and adoption paperwork Michelle originally signed. I will not be signing a relinquishing document, as you have shown that I have no stake in Finn, and Sarah had no right to give him to anyone else besides ABC. I originally tried to give Finn back to Sarah, but she was unable to take him back. So, I am available after 11 a.m. today and will bring Finn by to drop off to you. I am not a foster, I will not be a foster, I will not sign papers to become a foster; as such, Finn is yours to care for. Please let me know what time after 11 a.m. today I can drop by, so you will not be caught off-guard."
About ten minutes went by, and I received another email from ABC that read: "I have let Bethany, the Executive Director of Operations know you would like to drop Finn off after 11am today at ABC HQ.
Below is her number . . ."
Then, about two minutes after this email, I received a text message from an unknown number. They said their name was, lets call her sherry, and that she was a foster for ABC. She said that she'd be the one taking Finn, and wanted to know what time worked best for me. I told Sherry that 11 a.m. would be fine, but we ended up meeting at 3:30 p.m. due to schedule conflicts.
Now, riddle me this, Batman . . . How is it that an organization who's sole purpose is to find new homes and fosters for animals, cannot find one for a dog for over four and a half months, but the second someone threatens to drop the dog off on their doorstep, a foster magically appears and is able to take the animal in? Needless to say, I was beyond belief, as were several co-workers that had been following the story. They were actually the ones that urged me to post this here on Reddit. They told me that it was so weird and bizarre, that it didn't seem real, like they were listening to some text-to-speech Reddit post on Tik-Tok. Soon after Sherry's text message, I received an email that said that I was no longer registered as Finn's owner on his chip. I assume ABC did this reprograming, as I hadn't sent Sherry a link to do so as Sarah had for me. Just more proof that adopters would never truly own a pet adopted from ABC, unless they were willing to pay $500 more than the adoption fee.
Later that day, when I got home, I took Finn for one last bathroom walk. I loaded his four fluffy beds, crate, food, toys, and endless assortment of treats I had for him into my car. When the time came, we drove to the agreed upon location, Finn sitting next to me in the passenger seat, his head resting on the center console, his brown eyes staring at me the whole time. He didn't cry or whine once the whole car ride.
He was such a good boy.
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To go along with this $500 breach of contract fee, I've said before how this place just seems like a cash grab, and how you never truly own your pet, even if you've paid the adoption fee; what makes that worse, is that, per the wording of the adoption form, it seems that the only way you could truly own a pet from ABC would be to pay $500 as a refusal to return your pet to ABC at any time. This is on top of what you would already have paid for the rehoming fee. Through Finn's adoption paperwork, I saw that Sarah had originally paid $500 as Finn's rehoming fee . . . to truly own him at the end of the day, Sarah would have had to pay ABC $1000. Some purebred puppies go for $1000, sometimes more . . . Finn is a mutt from Mexico that, sorry, anyone would have to be desperate to pay $1000 for.
I decided that I'd had more than enough. ABC adoption agency was clearly - in my mind, at least - not an organization/ business that I wanted any sort of dealing with. And though I wasn't mad at Sarah for what she had done - through their lack of effort and shady dealings, ABC had forced her hand - I was frustrated that she hadn't just come clean with everything when I sent the snapshot of the first email I had received. Why cover up or dodge the question with handwavy, he said she said answers?
Like I said, I'd had more than enough of this whole situation. My response read like this: "Hello: I read through the relinquishing and rehoming document and adoption paperwork Michelle originally signed. I will not be signing a relinquishing document, as you have shown that I have no stake in Finn, and Sarah had no right to give him to anyone else besides ABC. I originally tried to give Finn back to Sarah, but she was unable to take him back. So, I am available after 11 a.m. today and will bring Finn by to drop off to you. I am not a foster, I will not be a foster, I will not sign papers to become a foster; as such, Finn is yours to care for. Please let me know what time after 11 a.m. today I can drop by, so you will not be caught off-guard."
About ten minutes went by, and I received another email from ABC that read: "I have let Bethany, the Executive Director of Operations know you would like to drop Finn off after 11am today at ABC HQ.
Below is her number . . ."
Then, about two minutes after this email, I received a text message from an unknown number. They said their name was, lets call her sherry, and that she was a foster for ABC. She said that she'd be the one taking Finn, and wanted to know what time worked best for me. I told Sherry that 11 a.m. would be fine, but we ended up meeting at 3:30 p.m. due to schedule conflicts.
Now, riddle me this, Batman . . . How is it that an organization who's sole purpose is to find new homes and fosters for animals, cannot find one for a dog for over four and a half months, but the second someone threatens to drop the dog off on their doorstep, a foster magically appears and is able to take the animal in? Needless to say, I was beyond belief, as were several co-workers that had been following the story. They were actually the ones that urged me to post this here on Reddit. They told me that it was so weird and bizarre, that it didn't seem real, like they were listening to some text-to-speech Reddit post on Tik-Tok. Soon after Sherry's text message, I received an email that said that I was no longer registered as Finn's owner on his chip. I assume ABC did this reprograming, as I hadn't sent Sherry a link to do so as Sarah had for me. Just more proof that adopters would never truly own a pet adopted from ABC, unless they were willing to pay $500 more than the adoption fee.
Later that day, when I got home, I took Finn for one last bathroom walk. I loaded his four fluffy beds, crate, food, toys, and endless assortment of treats I had for him into my car. When the time came, we drove to the agreed upon location, Finn sitting next to me in the passenger seat, his head resting on the center console, his brown eyes staring at me the whole time. He didn't cry or whine once the whole car ride.
He was such a good boy.
2024.04.29 00:30 Pristine_Rutabaga296 Subreddit to pull all the BS and non sense Coinbase support has been telling you on chat
Hello, I thought it would be nice to create a subreddit so that we can share all the BS and non sense and lies Coinbase support has been telling you on live chat or by other means.
I think there are good laughs and it s also good to expose how outrageous and ridiculous there support are. We can't attach screenshot but I would gladly provide those if allowed.
First experience trying to speed up a delayed transaction by verifying my ID, then after verification transaction still delayed and app still asking me for id verification:
Me: I want a clear answer now, is my ID verified or not?
Coinbase: yes your ID is verified. However you need to follow the steps now so that I can take the necessary steps from my end.
Me: the process you're telling me to follow is to verify my ID 3. Select "accelerate withdrawal" option to initiate the ID verification process.
Me: so you just told me my ID is verified but you're asking me to verify my ID. Are you brain dead?
Coinbase: I'm requesting you to follow the steps.
Second experience today, trying to have them tell me why I have no confirmation of my iD being verified:
Me: I want either 1) to receive the confirmation email as per stated on your website or 2) to know where to see my ID verification status on the app or website
Coinbase: please follow the steps below (then sending a non sense generic guidelines asking me to provide address verification)
Me: you just told me my ID is verified now you're telling me to follow those steps to verify my ID
Coinbase: the above was for address verification
Me: where did you see at any point a question about adresse vérification
Coinbase: please hold on few minutes so that I check your account (Then a continuation of similar non sense ending with no answer on my ID verification status)
Third experience today when support tells me there is a hold on my account and I can't send cryptos until the hold is removed:
Me: what hold and until when is it applying?
Coinbase: Your current hold for $975.00 will clear on 2024-04-01. You'll be able to cash out or send your funds at that time. In the meantime, you can buy, sell, and trade the funds on Coinbase. Thanks for your patience.
Coinbase : Your current hold for $975.00 will clear on 2024-04-06. You'll be able to cash out or send your funds at that time. In the meantime, you can buy, sell, and trade the funds on Coinbase. Thanks for your patience.
Me: we re April 28th please read again what you sent
Coinbase : Yes until the date you can't send , until the 6th
Me: we re April 28th this is 22 days in the past.
Coinbase: I am sorry I am sorry. This is may month, this is my mistake.
I m not sending the last experience today where I ve spend 1 hour asking them to show me where to check my ID verification status and they ve been unable to answer.
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I think there are good laughs and it s also good to expose how outrageous and ridiculous there support are. We can't attach screenshot but I would gladly provide those if allowed.
First experience trying to speed up a delayed transaction by verifying my ID, then after verification transaction still delayed and app still asking me for id verification:
Me: I want a clear answer now, is my ID verified or not?
Coinbase: yes your ID is verified. However you need to follow the steps now so that I can take the necessary steps from my end.
Me: the process you're telling me to follow is to verify my ID 3. Select "accelerate withdrawal" option to initiate the ID verification process.
Me: so you just told me my ID is verified but you're asking me to verify my ID. Are you brain dead?
Coinbase: I'm requesting you to follow the steps.
Second experience today, trying to have them tell me why I have no confirmation of my iD being verified:
Me: I want either 1) to receive the confirmation email as per stated on your website or 2) to know where to see my ID verification status on the app or website
Coinbase: please follow the steps below (then sending a non sense generic guidelines asking me to provide address verification)
Me: you just told me my ID is verified now you're telling me to follow those steps to verify my ID
Coinbase: the above was for address verification
Me: where did you see at any point a question about adresse vérification
Coinbase: please hold on few minutes so that I check your account (Then a continuation of similar non sense ending with no answer on my ID verification status)
Third experience today when support tells me there is a hold on my account and I can't send cryptos until the hold is removed:
Me: what hold and until when is it applying?
Coinbase: Your current hold for $975.00 will clear on 2024-04-01. You'll be able to cash out or send your funds at that time. In the meantime, you can buy, sell, and trade the funds on Coinbase. Thanks for your patience.
Coinbase : Your current hold for $975.00 will clear on 2024-04-06. You'll be able to cash out or send your funds at that time. In the meantime, you can buy, sell, and trade the funds on Coinbase. Thanks for your patience.
Me: we re April 28th please read again what you sent
Coinbase : Yes until the date you can't send , until the 6th
Me: we re April 28th this is 22 days in the past.
Coinbase: I am sorry I am sorry. This is may month, this is my mistake.
I m not sending the last experience today where I ve spend 1 hour asking them to show me where to check my ID verification status and they ve been unable to answer.
2024.04.29 00:22 nordez123 How to get into coding?
18M (soon 19), wanted to learn coding for a couple years now but never could so due to family forcing for medical + having a really old computer which rarely worked (wouldn't turn on).
Now that I have a good computer and my family has gave up forcing medical on me, I'm ready to learn coding but I have a few questions and a few things to say.
I live in a third world country, I can go to the best university here, get a degree in 4 years but still get paid 200$ a month at most, it would barely cover the cost of my laptop in 1 year. Everything's also expensive so I can't see a future in there unless I just wanna barely survive.
Thus some of my questions are:
1- What should I start learning first? I have zero experience. (JSS, HTML, CSS+ Python?,etc)
2- From where should I learn coding? Some YouTube channel or a guide made by someone or an app teaching coding to beginners?
3- After how many hours should I start making a portfolio on github, making a fiverr account, and accounts other freelancing sites?
4- What should be in my portfolio? Long projects or short projects?
5- Does a degree play a huge role in this field? If I work online from home, will it still matter? Or if I wanna go work abroad (since my country will literally make me a slave if I work here)
6- What should I do with my coding skills? Solely work on making projects for clients, or make some websites of my own which I can monetize and such other sorts, or develop an app, plugin which I can sell. What should be the focus?
7- After how many hours of coding should I expect to start getting some clients? I've heard it's harder before you get your first client, after it becomes easier.
8- What should be my starting price for clients projects? Is the money I receive based on hours I work right? Do note my country only pays 200$ a month, so I probably will not be able to price it like those of first world countries.
9- How to negotiate based on my skills if I land a contract of a couple months? Don't wanna be scammed or anything, would be sad.
10- Should I also start learning some Ai related coding?
That was all the questions I had. I'm not gonna lie and say I can work 12h everyday with no breaks, I think the total time I could give right now at the start would be 40~ hours. I'll basically have to be consistent and work harder than others if I want a good life ahead. Not looking for anything big, would just be happy with a decent salary so I won't worry about bills.
This post got a bit long so apologies, and thank you for taking your time 🙏
[TL;DR, I want to learn coding (zero experience rn), where should I learn and what should I learn? Freelancing is what I'm currently looking looking for. Thanks]
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Now that I have a good computer and my family has gave up forcing medical on me, I'm ready to learn coding but I have a few questions and a few things to say.
I live in a third world country, I can go to the best university here, get a degree in 4 years but still get paid 200$ a month at most, it would barely cover the cost of my laptop in 1 year. Everything's also expensive so I can't see a future in there unless I just wanna barely survive.
Thus some of my questions are:
1- What should I start learning first? I have zero experience. (JSS, HTML, CSS+ Python?,etc)
2- From where should I learn coding? Some YouTube channel or a guide made by someone or an app teaching coding to beginners?
3- After how many hours should I start making a portfolio on github, making a fiverr account, and accounts other freelancing sites?
4- What should be in my portfolio? Long projects or short projects?
5- Does a degree play a huge role in this field? If I work online from home, will it still matter? Or if I wanna go work abroad (since my country will literally make me a slave if I work here)
6- What should I do with my coding skills? Solely work on making projects for clients, or make some websites of my own which I can monetize and such other sorts, or develop an app, plugin which I can sell. What should be the focus?
7- After how many hours of coding should I expect to start getting some clients? I've heard it's harder before you get your first client, after it becomes easier.
8- What should be my starting price for clients projects? Is the money I receive based on hours I work right? Do note my country only pays 200$ a month, so I probably will not be able to price it like those of first world countries.
9- How to negotiate based on my skills if I land a contract of a couple months? Don't wanna be scammed or anything, would be sad.
10- Should I also start learning some Ai related coding?
That was all the questions I had. I'm not gonna lie and say I can work 12h everyday with no breaks, I think the total time I could give right now at the start would be 40~ hours. I'll basically have to be consistent and work harder than others if I want a good life ahead. Not looking for anything big, would just be happy with a decent salary so I won't worry about bills.
This post got a bit long so apologies, and thank you for taking your time 🙏
[TL;DR, I want to learn coding (zero experience rn), where should I learn and what should I learn? Freelancing is what I'm currently looking looking for. Thanks]
2024.04.29 00:02 true-freedom-net [True Freedom Teachings] What are the criteria for enlightenment?
Question:
What are the criteria for enlightenment?
Artem:
There are two criteria for enlightenment:
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What are the criteria for enlightenment?
Artem:
There are two criteria for enlightenment:
- The first criterion is fulfilled when it no longer occurs to you to ask this question, but you still like to answer it, because you fulfill some criteria that others do not.
- The second criterion is fulfilled when you are no longer capable to answer this question either, because you don’t fulfill any criteria that others do not, but on the opposite, they fulfill criteria that you do not.
2024.04.29 00:00 abbykins93 AITA For telling my baby daddy he is wrong for justifying his cheating?
Let me explain....
My baby daddy (30M) and I (31F)met in 2015 at a Walmart (I know, romantic, right?!?!) that he was visiting when I moved to the state and hit it off then we were on and off for going on almost 10 years, eventually we had a kid together in 2019. We were on and off because of him leaving to mess with other women so he didn't look like a serial cheater anymore. We will call him Dick (you know it's a person's name and an insult haha lol). So the last time I had lived with him he had cheated (again) on a girl just barely legal, we will call her Karen (just barely 18F). We had gotten into a conversation the other night that got him into talking about Karen saying she had an abortion with his baby and then it was a conversation about how he cheated on her probably not even 3 months into their relationship with one of her good friends (obviously not so good after all) and he cheated with her with Karen IN THE OTHER ROOM! Dick blamed it on the 2 different kinds of dr**s and a bunch of alcohol. I told him that it doesn't matter if you were so called blacked out by whatever you were on, but if you can go ahead and get yourself that far under the influence then you are asking to cheat especially when you know when you get too far you do something stupid like that and you also, subconsciously, wanted to cheat.
I have experience first hand some men I knew truly in love with the woman they were with that they fought of other woman saying they were taken. They would be so far gone they barely had the strength to itch their nose. I was rejected once not knowing the guy had a girl already and I respected it and walked away. I have had a couple friends do the same and make advances towards too far gone men and they would tell my friends that they were in a committed relationship. These encounters were on separate occasions obviously, but, it's the point I was trying to make and Dick wasn't letting me.
He kept trying to interrupt me and blame me for interrupting him because he wants so bad to keep looking like the good guy, because God forbid he just owned up to it. No, he wanted to try to turn it around on me like his opinions and feelings aren't valid because I wasn't letting him speak when HE WASN'T LETTING ME SPEAK in reality. Trying to confuse me to take his side. I know I will say no to everyone if I am drinking. Whether I am taken or not because I have morals and won't just let any Tom, Dick, or Harry in bed with me. Speaking of Dick, he is a s*x fiend. I try and keep him drained but he still wants more apparently. I just won't do it if our kid is running around like he would. Heck, it's the same guy that had a dr**gy wh**e staying the night and not caring that our (at the time) 2 year old was on the other side of the door in the bath tub playing.
For context, this is a master bath and in the master bed, he is already naked starting unprotected intimacy with her then had the audacity to ask if I was joining when I only went in the room to grab my phone in the room and take my son out of the bathroom out the other door to the bathroom that loops into the other part of the house. So thank god there is 2 ways in and out of the master bath. But what deadbeat parent, or person for that matter, would do that with their 2 year old on the other side of door to hear the moans start? So AITA for telling my baby daddy he was wrong? Also, I have a lot of tea on him and can do other stories if you want to hear about the kind of person he really is. Typical gaslighting narcissist.
One more thing before there is judgement, I know, I should leave him to the streets, I know. It is complicated why I am with him and I am sure he will see this post so I will tell in an update on why I keep coming back.
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My baby daddy (30M) and I (31F)met in 2015 at a Walmart (I know, romantic, right?!?!) that he was visiting when I moved to the state and hit it off then we were on and off for going on almost 10 years, eventually we had a kid together in 2019. We were on and off because of him leaving to mess with other women so he didn't look like a serial cheater anymore. We will call him Dick (you know it's a person's name and an insult haha lol). So the last time I had lived with him he had cheated (again) on a girl just barely legal, we will call her Karen (just barely 18F). We had gotten into a conversation the other night that got him into talking about Karen saying she had an abortion with his baby and then it was a conversation about how he cheated on her probably not even 3 months into their relationship with one of her good friends (obviously not so good after all) and he cheated with her with Karen IN THE OTHER ROOM! Dick blamed it on the 2 different kinds of dr**s and a bunch of alcohol. I told him that it doesn't matter if you were so called blacked out by whatever you were on, but if you can go ahead and get yourself that far under the influence then you are asking to cheat especially when you know when you get too far you do something stupid like that and you also, subconsciously, wanted to cheat.
I have experience first hand some men I knew truly in love with the woman they were with that they fought of other woman saying they were taken. They would be so far gone they barely had the strength to itch their nose. I was rejected once not knowing the guy had a girl already and I respected it and walked away. I have had a couple friends do the same and make advances towards too far gone men and they would tell my friends that they were in a committed relationship. These encounters were on separate occasions obviously, but, it's the point I was trying to make and Dick wasn't letting me.
He kept trying to interrupt me and blame me for interrupting him because he wants so bad to keep looking like the good guy, because God forbid he just owned up to it. No, he wanted to try to turn it around on me like his opinions and feelings aren't valid because I wasn't letting him speak when HE WASN'T LETTING ME SPEAK in reality. Trying to confuse me to take his side. I know I will say no to everyone if I am drinking. Whether I am taken or not because I have morals and won't just let any Tom, Dick, or Harry in bed with me. Speaking of Dick, he is a s*x fiend. I try and keep him drained but he still wants more apparently. I just won't do it if our kid is running around like he would. Heck, it's the same guy that had a dr**gy wh**e staying the night and not caring that our (at the time) 2 year old was on the other side of the door in the bath tub playing.
For context, this is a master bath and in the master bed, he is already naked starting unprotected intimacy with her then had the audacity to ask if I was joining when I only went in the room to grab my phone in the room and take my son out of the bathroom out the other door to the bathroom that loops into the other part of the house. So thank god there is 2 ways in and out of the master bath. But what deadbeat parent, or person for that matter, would do that with their 2 year old on the other side of door to hear the moans start? So AITA for telling my baby daddy he was wrong? Also, I have a lot of tea on him and can do other stories if you want to hear about the kind of person he really is. Typical gaslighting narcissist.
One more thing before there is judgement, I know, I should leave him to the streets, I know. It is complicated why I am with him and I am sure he will see this post so I will tell in an update on why I keep coming back.
2024.04.28 23:43 pale_fish My mom is my biggest abuser but I’m so attached to her
I am a first born daughter (26f) and I’m finally ready to talk about my mom. I was scared my whole life because I didn’t want others to think my mom is a bad person or hate on her.
Ever since I can remember she was verbally abusing me. She is a very beautiful woman and everyone had always told her that. Me in contrast, I was raised insecure. I (funny enough) look just like her but I have a darker skin tone and ever since I was a kid she would call me “monkey” or a “black roach” or that my behaviour is not good and I should take a look in the mirror. So yeah, I was raised to believe I’m very ugly. To this day she refuses to acknowledge it and says “yeah okay u know what I’m the worst mother!!” She always blamed it on my behaviour but I mean…she used to call me names and physically abuse me even before my age was 2 digits. My younger brother however was always getting praised and that he’a so cute and he looks just like her!
This only got worse when we got to school. I got diagnosed with ADHD when I was young but the doctors decided that I don’t need anything and “it’s gonna go away” so I was horrible at school. I only aced in the subjects I was interested in, but my brother was always top student so I was constantly getting compared to him.
I went to an all girls school my whole life and I remember this one time that I went out with my 2 girlfriends when I was 14 ish and one of my friend’s brother decided to drive us around and when they dropped me off my mom was waiting for me in front of our building, came to the car and dragged me out of it by my hair and slapped me in front of my friends. Screamed at my friends and the brother and asked me if my genital is happy now (?) I almost ended my life that day and I lost my 2 friends after that and they told our other friends about the incident.
When I was 16 my parents sacrificed everything for us to move to north america and they left everything behind for a better future for me and my brother. My mom has a horrible relationship with my dad and naturally I was always her therapist and she’d come to me to bad mouth my father. My father is not an angel either, but my mom thinks she is. And this got worse when we moved, because now I was really the only one she had.
I started making friends and eventually going out when I turned 18. I remember I would come home from a night out with my friends and she’d be waiting in the living room, slapping me and say “we didn’t move here for you to become a whore.” Mind you I had nothing going on and stayed a virgin until my mid 20’s and even that only caused me to have an unhealthy relationship with intimacy.
I made a best friend, now my ex-best friend, who now that I see has a lot in common with my mom. Explosive, unapologetic and has no communication skills and is always the “victim”. My mom secretly texted her when I was 22, telling her that it’s her fault that I also want to move out and for her to stop influencing me. My friend didn’t tell me that at the time but I’m sure it affected the reason why we’re not friends anymore.
I met my first boyfriend at 22 and decided to finally try (I’m still with him). He was raised in a much healthier environment. It shocks me how polite and respectful his mom is to him. I packed my stuff and left home at 23 after a big fight with my mom. She was against me dating and I was not going to let her sabotage this one.
I’m 26 now and she still guilt trips me about “leaving her behind and moving out.”
She did some questionable stuff in my adulthood as well, I got signed to a modelling agency and she kept asking me to try to get her signed too? That she gave me the beauty I have. I have curly hair and she was always proud of her naturally straight hair but now she suddenly has curls and my same haircut?
I am trying to heal and this has been a very big part of my life.
Last week we got into a fight and she told me to go to my “husband”’s family (he’s my bf still) since they are so much nicer to me. Her words are really hurtful. I have tried to communicate this with her my whole life but she gets defensive and starts crying.
Cutting her off is not an option and while she’s done all of these things, she has done a lot of good too. I also can’t afford therapy at the moment but I feel like I need help to finally heal. Her sister passed away so sudden and tragic last year too and we both became a mess…so I can’t even bring up anything to her. She’s also not a believer in mental illness either, despite being a nurse. So I’m pretty much just stuck.
Thank you for reading and caring, Any advice?
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Ever since I can remember she was verbally abusing me. She is a very beautiful woman and everyone had always told her that. Me in contrast, I was raised insecure. I (funny enough) look just like her but I have a darker skin tone and ever since I was a kid she would call me “monkey” or a “black roach” or that my behaviour is not good and I should take a look in the mirror. So yeah, I was raised to believe I’m very ugly. To this day she refuses to acknowledge it and says “yeah okay u know what I’m the worst mother!!” She always blamed it on my behaviour but I mean…she used to call me names and physically abuse me even before my age was 2 digits. My younger brother however was always getting praised and that he’a so cute and he looks just like her!
This only got worse when we got to school. I got diagnosed with ADHD when I was young but the doctors decided that I don’t need anything and “it’s gonna go away” so I was horrible at school. I only aced in the subjects I was interested in, but my brother was always top student so I was constantly getting compared to him.
I went to an all girls school my whole life and I remember this one time that I went out with my 2 girlfriends when I was 14 ish and one of my friend’s brother decided to drive us around and when they dropped me off my mom was waiting for me in front of our building, came to the car and dragged me out of it by my hair and slapped me in front of my friends. Screamed at my friends and the brother and asked me if my genital is happy now (?) I almost ended my life that day and I lost my 2 friends after that and they told our other friends about the incident.
When I was 16 my parents sacrificed everything for us to move to north america and they left everything behind for a better future for me and my brother. My mom has a horrible relationship with my dad and naturally I was always her therapist and she’d come to me to bad mouth my father. My father is not an angel either, but my mom thinks she is. And this got worse when we moved, because now I was really the only one she had.
I started making friends and eventually going out when I turned 18. I remember I would come home from a night out with my friends and she’d be waiting in the living room, slapping me and say “we didn’t move here for you to become a whore.” Mind you I had nothing going on and stayed a virgin until my mid 20’s and even that only caused me to have an unhealthy relationship with intimacy.
I made a best friend, now my ex-best friend, who now that I see has a lot in common with my mom. Explosive, unapologetic and has no communication skills and is always the “victim”. My mom secretly texted her when I was 22, telling her that it’s her fault that I also want to move out and for her to stop influencing me. My friend didn’t tell me that at the time but I’m sure it affected the reason why we’re not friends anymore.
I met my first boyfriend at 22 and decided to finally try (I’m still with him). He was raised in a much healthier environment. It shocks me how polite and respectful his mom is to him. I packed my stuff and left home at 23 after a big fight with my mom. She was against me dating and I was not going to let her sabotage this one.
I’m 26 now and she still guilt trips me about “leaving her behind and moving out.”
She did some questionable stuff in my adulthood as well, I got signed to a modelling agency and she kept asking me to try to get her signed too? That she gave me the beauty I have. I have curly hair and she was always proud of her naturally straight hair but now she suddenly has curls and my same haircut?
I am trying to heal and this has been a very big part of my life.
Last week we got into a fight and she told me to go to my “husband”’s family (he’s my bf still) since they are so much nicer to me. Her words are really hurtful. I have tried to communicate this with her my whole life but she gets defensive and starts crying.
Cutting her off is not an option and while she’s done all of these things, she has done a lot of good too. I also can’t afford therapy at the moment but I feel like I need help to finally heal. Her sister passed away so sudden and tragic last year too and we both became a mess…so I can’t even bring up anything to her. She’s also not a believer in mental illness either, despite being a nurse. So I’m pretty much just stuck.
Thank you for reading and caring, Any advice?
2024.04.28 23:40 ajmen42 I had sex for the first time and I feel horrible.
Firstly, I don't know if I should post this here, but this is the only psychology reddut sub I follow, if you guys can reccomend another place to post it, feel free to let me know.
I (23,M) had sex for the first time yesterday with an escort. The description said she was 23 years old and the service wasn't costly (200€ for 1 hour). When I contacted her and she responded so fast I was feeling anxious all the time and that is normal I thought. After all staying all this time a virgin and having chances to try it with my past girlfirends, but I never did feel comfy with them, now I had gathered up money from work for some time and I really wanted to try it. I go to her place and I see a petite young lady. I was very hesitant to enter, I said that she was very young in english, but she didn't seem to understand and pulled her phone with google translation on it. And I hesitated to ask the same question, deep inside I still wanted to do it, despite she looking around 18 (or under that, I have never liked petite females or really young girls, I have always shown interest in girls older than me) and didn't want her to answer my question. We get in, she told me is this your first time, I answer yes. She laughed and told me to undress. My penis was not erect at all, just like the other times with my past girlfriends, she tried to erect it, but it only worked when I was fondling softly her breasts. My penis got around 2/3 of fully erect, it wasn't strong enough, she got on top of me to do the cowboy position, but my pp was still flappy and went out a couple of times and she said doggy? We try it and I was getting on it, it felt good, not extremely pleasing but good, I started gently touching her body again. Her rear and waist, felt nice touching her body, but still I was in my head thinking, what am I doing? Is this for real? Is she underage? I'm not fully into it, why? Then I started touching her breasts again, not her niples, just her boobas. I bended over so my skin could touch hers and so she could rest a little and stop thrusting into me. I was thinking that I didn't want to tire her or hurt her. But the contact of my body with her body, felt so nice, I wanted to kiss her waist, but didn't know if it was right to do so. Then I got tired and she told me lie down and try cowboy and this time I wasn't afraid of my pp breaking it was almost fully erect. She went slow at first, then moderately faster and faster. She was moaning all the time by the way, but not as much as before. I was again fonding her breasts that was again the only thing, I think, that I liked about it. Also I never cummed the entire time and when I was thinking about her vag, I didn't feel a satisfaction going in and out, or just any satisfaction about finally putting it in after so many years of jerking off every day and fantasizing about it (I had problems with porn addiction, but through the years got over it with sports and video games, but never truly got away from it.). Then after 45 minutes I saw that she was tired could feel her body was hardly standing up, so I said its okay and I hugged her so she could rest on top of my body. I started thrusting (thats a big word, more like slowly in and out) and she began moaning more and even started twiching and vibrating from time to time. I think she felt good, cuz I read online about it. Then it was over. We used condoms of course forgot to add that part. I paid for the service, went out the apartments, fully embarrased of what I did and said to myself never again. I also thought that maybe I was just asexual or maybe a demisexual. That's what my cousin, (23, F) that is studying for psychology and always loved discussing psychology and philosophy, said to me. She always says that I only like ppl whom I have a strong connection with and just by looks.
Now the questions are: was she really under 18? I'm still thinking about it. Maybe my perception of age is wrong, cuz her body was nicely developed but her face looked petite. On occasions I always think of 25 year old women as 20 or below that, so maybe my judgement is not so good.
I don't feel like jerking off or watching porn, or having sex anytime soon now. In my head I just want to avoid it now, I really want to avoid every sexual tendencies girls might have on me or vice versa. I feel horrible. Did I really enjoy the act of sex before? Or just admired the women physique? My cousin has always told me that I'm a very gentle like a fairy and have always had much more respect and affection toward girls more than boys. What do you guys and girls feel when having sex? Do your partner's sex tools feel nice to you or do you only enjoy the different body parts like me?
Maybe I just have mommy issues, that's why I enjoyed playing with her hair, breats and liked my body touching hers, I don't get it.
I was thinking these past few years that I was really developing as a human. Writing about chaos and order, about subconsciousness and the collective mind. Facing my deep desires and fears and my true inner self and accepting it. I still think and feel that I have developed. But socially and sexually I am really confused.
Thank you for hearing me out, if you got here until the end and tell me again if I should post somewhere else and I can delete this post no problem.
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I (23,M) had sex for the first time yesterday with an escort. The description said she was 23 years old and the service wasn't costly (200€ for 1 hour). When I contacted her and she responded so fast I was feeling anxious all the time and that is normal I thought. After all staying all this time a virgin and having chances to try it with my past girlfirends, but I never did feel comfy with them, now I had gathered up money from work for some time and I really wanted to try it. I go to her place and I see a petite young lady. I was very hesitant to enter, I said that she was very young in english, but she didn't seem to understand and pulled her phone with google translation on it. And I hesitated to ask the same question, deep inside I still wanted to do it, despite she looking around 18 (or under that, I have never liked petite females or really young girls, I have always shown interest in girls older than me) and didn't want her to answer my question. We get in, she told me is this your first time, I answer yes. She laughed and told me to undress. My penis was not erect at all, just like the other times with my past girlfriends, she tried to erect it, but it only worked when I was fondling softly her breasts. My penis got around 2/3 of fully erect, it wasn't strong enough, she got on top of me to do the cowboy position, but my pp was still flappy and went out a couple of times and she said doggy? We try it and I was getting on it, it felt good, not extremely pleasing but good, I started gently touching her body again. Her rear and waist, felt nice touching her body, but still I was in my head thinking, what am I doing? Is this for real? Is she underage? I'm not fully into it, why? Then I started touching her breasts again, not her niples, just her boobas. I bended over so my skin could touch hers and so she could rest a little and stop thrusting into me. I was thinking that I didn't want to tire her or hurt her. But the contact of my body with her body, felt so nice, I wanted to kiss her waist, but didn't know if it was right to do so. Then I got tired and she told me lie down and try cowboy and this time I wasn't afraid of my pp breaking it was almost fully erect. She went slow at first, then moderately faster and faster. She was moaning all the time by the way, but not as much as before. I was again fonding her breasts that was again the only thing, I think, that I liked about it. Also I never cummed the entire time and when I was thinking about her vag, I didn't feel a satisfaction going in and out, or just any satisfaction about finally putting it in after so many years of jerking off every day and fantasizing about it (I had problems with porn addiction, but through the years got over it with sports and video games, but never truly got away from it.). Then after 45 minutes I saw that she was tired could feel her body was hardly standing up, so I said its okay and I hugged her so she could rest on top of my body. I started thrusting (thats a big word, more like slowly in and out) and she began moaning more and even started twiching and vibrating from time to time. I think she felt good, cuz I read online about it. Then it was over. We used condoms of course forgot to add that part. I paid for the service, went out the apartments, fully embarrased of what I did and said to myself never again. I also thought that maybe I was just asexual or maybe a demisexual. That's what my cousin, (23, F) that is studying for psychology and always loved discussing psychology and philosophy, said to me. She always says that I only like ppl whom I have a strong connection with and just by looks.
Now the questions are: was she really under 18? I'm still thinking about it. Maybe my perception of age is wrong, cuz her body was nicely developed but her face looked petite. On occasions I always think of 25 year old women as 20 or below that, so maybe my judgement is not so good.
I don't feel like jerking off or watching porn, or having sex anytime soon now. In my head I just want to avoid it now, I really want to avoid every sexual tendencies girls might have on me or vice versa. I feel horrible. Did I really enjoy the act of sex before? Or just admired the women physique? My cousin has always told me that I'm a very gentle like a fairy and have always had much more respect and affection toward girls more than boys. What do you guys and girls feel when having sex? Do your partner's sex tools feel nice to you or do you only enjoy the different body parts like me?
Maybe I just have mommy issues, that's why I enjoyed playing with her hair, breats and liked my body touching hers, I don't get it.
I was thinking these past few years that I was really developing as a human. Writing about chaos and order, about subconsciousness and the collective mind. Facing my deep desires and fears and my true inner self and accepting it. I still think and feel that I have developed. But socially and sexually I am really confused.
Thank you for hearing me out, if you got here until the end and tell me again if I should post somewhere else and I can delete this post no problem.
2024.04.28 23:36 Hazmat_unit Does anyone else have a intuition for detecting ChatGPT generated content?
So for some background, I started messing around with ChatGPT 3 back in late January of 2022. I started by ChatGPT to write stories at first and than expanded into asking it to answer questions which are difficult to find answers for and so forth..etc.
In addition to this I'm a pretty good at writing stories and what not for classes. So I have a good basis for what is "normal".
Now, I've come to notice I have a intuition for detecting ChatGPT generated content. Typically, there's in the case of stories it's always focused on trying to wrap things up positively..etc, and In other cases it's the use of words, phrases or even how the writing is structured that seems to tip me off. Other times it seems to purely be a gut feeling. And I've found I've been correct most if not the majority of time.
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In addition to this I'm a pretty good at writing stories and what not for classes. So I have a good basis for what is "normal".
Now, I've come to notice I have a intuition for detecting ChatGPT generated content. Typically, there's in the case of stories it's always focused on trying to wrap things up positively..etc, and In other cases it's the use of words, phrases or even how the writing is structured that seems to tip me off. Other times it seems to purely be a gut feeling. And I've found I've been correct most if not the majority of time.
2024.04.28 23:03 The_Boomis Your class is not "Industry Focused" you're "class" is a mess
Currently taking an electronics testing course. It is supposed to be a mixed signal course however the only testing we do is all digital circuits. The only part of the class in which any learning is happening is the lab. The lectures are all guest lectures. The professors have not taught anything for this class, no test plans, no reading data sheets, and no decision-making processes for the testing at all. The final project for the class was a 40-page test plan which was completely different from anything we'd done all semester long and had little to no guidance. On top of one of the professors for the class (There are two one is a guest lecturer technically) giving us incorrect diagrams to model and failing to inform us the correct model was hidden somewhere in the Google folder for the entire class. Once this 40-page paper was completed, we were then assigned a presentation to do for this class which gave you a random time you had to present for. The teams that had to present for 30 minutes all had 6 people in the group except for one team which had four that team of course was mine. When bringing this up with the professor he said tough shit. Mind you this presentation was assigned to us 4 days before it was due, during a week many of us had 2 - 3 finals.
Now we have a final which is online yes, but it is also 31 questions most of which are free responses we have a week to do. Half of the questions I have come across so far have been related to testing analog devices. Not only have we never tested one before, but nowhere in any of the curriculum for the class has it been explained how we would even go about this. Not only this but the data sheet provided lacks the test information we would use to do these questions. The professor now has several times asked for advice from the students regarding how to fix the class but continues to make the excuse it is supposed to be a class that is analogous to industry which frankly is a bullshit excuse. This is not industry, this is a college class. We are paying to be here we expect the professor of the class to teach the goddamn course material and not force us to jump through 500000 hoops just to settle on an answer we have no idea whether or not is correct. This isn't a class that has a lot of information freely available either as it is a class unique to the university in how it presents its information and is organized. I'm so sick of this fucking class and it pisses me off that the department has done nothing to step in and correct this horseshit because this is beyond ridiculous. The expectation of having some information actually taught sets the bar practically in hell and they can't even do that right. Anyways thats the rant over good luck in everyones finals
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Now we have a final which is online yes, but it is also 31 questions most of which are free responses we have a week to do. Half of the questions I have come across so far have been related to testing analog devices. Not only have we never tested one before, but nowhere in any of the curriculum for the class has it been explained how we would even go about this. Not only this but the data sheet provided lacks the test information we would use to do these questions. The professor now has several times asked for advice from the students regarding how to fix the class but continues to make the excuse it is supposed to be a class that is analogous to industry which frankly is a bullshit excuse. This is not industry, this is a college class. We are paying to be here we expect the professor of the class to teach the goddamn course material and not force us to jump through 500000 hoops just to settle on an answer we have no idea whether or not is correct. This isn't a class that has a lot of information freely available either as it is a class unique to the university in how it presents its information and is organized. I'm so sick of this fucking class and it pisses me off that the department has done nothing to step in and correct this horseshit because this is beyond ridiculous. The expectation of having some information actually taught sets the bar practically in hell and they can't even do that right. Anyways thats the rant over good luck in everyones finals
2024.04.28 22:59 Elegant-Law549 Yawning during conversation
New here and I went over the rules already so it looks like we’re good.
So, quick backstory. I’m a blue collar worker, my crew ran out of work because our customer temporarily halts work 3 months out of the year every year. A few of us were sent to another crew to help them out and collect some hours while things are lining up for the next job on our own crew. Come to find out the crew we are temporarily helping out lost their customer due to pricing. No big deal happens all the time in this line of work.
I was talking to a supervisor on the crew I’m helping earlier and noticed some familiar body language when I began to ask questions related to where we’d be going after we rig down the equipment. His eyes began to shift away from me and he began to yawn while answering me which leads me to believe that there is either the unknown and he was just trying not to raise any alarm in his answer or he does know something and was avoiding spilling it out.
I know that when I try and make it seem like something isn’t a big deal I begin to yawn and look around and act as if it isn’t. Is this the same thing? Am I onto something? Am I being paranoid? Who shot JFK?
Let me know what you all think or if you all have experienced something like this before as well.
Thanks,
Ed from South Texas
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So, quick backstory. I’m a blue collar worker, my crew ran out of work because our customer temporarily halts work 3 months out of the year every year. A few of us were sent to another crew to help them out and collect some hours while things are lining up for the next job on our own crew. Come to find out the crew we are temporarily helping out lost their customer due to pricing. No big deal happens all the time in this line of work.
I was talking to a supervisor on the crew I’m helping earlier and noticed some familiar body language when I began to ask questions related to where we’d be going after we rig down the equipment. His eyes began to shift away from me and he began to yawn while answering me which leads me to believe that there is either the unknown and he was just trying not to raise any alarm in his answer or he does know something and was avoiding spilling it out.
I know that when I try and make it seem like something isn’t a big deal I begin to yawn and look around and act as if it isn’t. Is this the same thing? Am I onto something? Am I being paranoid? Who shot JFK?
Let me know what you all think or if you all have experienced something like this before as well.
Thanks,
Ed from South Texas
2024.04.28 22:40 Relative-Tone-4429 My autistic partner's communication habits are bothering me.
I have a sort of issue with the way my partner talks at me. I'm not entirely sure where to pinpoint the issue, but something's bothering me and I'm not sure what.
He talks whilst TV or films are on. But that's not on its own a bad thing. The odd comment is fine in my opinion. Sharing appreciation of a moment, joke, scenary is fine.
But he does it a lot. He thinks of things sometimes related to the film, sometimes not. In the middle of a film or show, he will comment on something that's happened that perhaps similar, or reminds him of something and he can't keep it in he has to say it. When I click pause, it's like he doesn't even notice, just carries on talking going from one topic to another.
He takes a while to voice his thoughts and usually likes to fully explain himself. So he starts talking at a quiet moment in said film or show, when a comment might be acceptable, and then continues to talk for quite a while through dialogue or important scenes.
He says it's because he's seen it before or isn't interested but when he watches something he hasn't seen before and has chosen himself (so could just turn it off if he didn't enjoy it) and he does the same.
Annoyingly, he often chooses something he's seen before when we we watch a film together, but doesn't tell me. We'll be watching and he will be talking about something and the way he says it suggests he knows what's about to happen and when I ask him if he's seen it before he says yes and then tries to convince me that he already told me that.
I don't really know why he does it. He says he sees watching things as a social activity but he doesn't watch films or TV with friends, he goes out to socialise. We go out to socialise too. Most we watch things during the week in the evenings. I work as a teacher and I have to talk a lot and I've explained to him that I wind down in the evenings and need peace, but he doesn't really stop talking at me.
When I'm working from home, he talks at me and then gets annoyed at me when I don't respond or tell him I'm busy. I don't think I'm busy a lot but I do work full time. He talks all the time when he's working from home, but also complains he has to work late but he doesn't appear to concentrate on it for very long, he plays games in between, scrolls websites and searches for music and talks on forums. I appreciate different people work differently but when I work, I concentrate hard for a few hours and then I 'empty my head' and relax when I'm done and he doesn't like that very much.
He tries to make out he's done things when he hasn't. He'll ask me what my plans are when I get in for example and if I talk about needing to do something, he will insist he's already done it even when I can see he hasn't. For example he asked me what I was doing one evening and I said I needed to put the washing on, it was in the machine, I just needed to put powder in and turn it on. He insisted he'd already done it and that it was clean it just needed to go in the dryer and he whipped it away and into the dryer before I'd even gotten to it. When I took it out the dryer it was off smelling and clearly not washed, just warm and dirty. We don't normally have those sort of passive aggressive discussions where one says something needs doing because they want the other person to do it, but that's my perspective, I don't know if he takes what I'm saying as that. When I bring it up he says in a jokey voice that hes good, he does domestic things. I'm not sure what to make of it.
He often talks about things he plans to do like he's thinking out loud. I started to tune this chat out a while back because I thought he was just thinking out loud. We live in a small space. But then he said I was ignoring him. But it's not like it's a conversation. He just talks at me saying things like 'im going to go to the gym at half 2' before explaining his thoughts about the gym and what the traffic will be like etc etc. He says I'm weird for not retaining any of the information he gives me but I say I just wouldn't remember that he wants to go to the gym at half 2, he says he would remember if I said it.
He talks over me when I'm talking about something that requires more than a sentence or two. He says his brain works quickly and he's already thought of lots to say but often I haven't even finished my point, and the point he makes is tenuously linked to what I was saying and entirely related to what he was saying before I spoke, like I may as well have not spoken at all.
I have tried to explain that I feel frustrated that he isn't really 'listening' to me speak and he says he hates all those pointless phrases people use like 'oh yeah' or 'thats interesting'. He says he thinks it's far more complimentary to show someone you're listening by talking about something back to them that they made you think of.
Except he doesn't do that. He doesn't respond to what I've said at all. When I've pointed it out on occasion more recently in the moment when it's happened, he signposts me to a word or phrase I said right at the begining of talking, which bares little resemblance to the point. For example, when I'm telling him why I like a book I'm reading, I could have used a particular word at the start before explaining what I liked and he will cut me off 15 seconds in with how he got annoyed at his boss yesterday and when i ask him what that has to do with my book he relays an anecdote about him and his boss some time in the past where the word was mentioned and it made him think of the fact he was annoyed at his boss. His point will take several minutes to deliver and if I try to interject he lets me speak briefly but then just continues.
I don't talk too much myself, I don't think. I like to explain myself if there's something worth explaining, but I don't 'chatter'. I find verbal communication much harder than written. Our initial relationship was largely email focused as we were long distance for over a year and we would have long emails where many points went back and forth at the same time. He knows I'm autistic and appears to be quite aware of autism and traits etc.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm expecting too much from verbal conversation, or if I'm just not very good at it myself. I don't know if it's even a problem, or I'm just dealing with someone who communicates differently to myself. But this part of me feels something's distinctly 'off' and these are the points I keep coming back to.
Looking for advice/support/reassurance.
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He talks whilst TV or films are on. But that's not on its own a bad thing. The odd comment is fine in my opinion. Sharing appreciation of a moment, joke, scenary is fine.
But he does it a lot. He thinks of things sometimes related to the film, sometimes not. In the middle of a film or show, he will comment on something that's happened that perhaps similar, or reminds him of something and he can't keep it in he has to say it. When I click pause, it's like he doesn't even notice, just carries on talking going from one topic to another.
He takes a while to voice his thoughts and usually likes to fully explain himself. So he starts talking at a quiet moment in said film or show, when a comment might be acceptable, and then continues to talk for quite a while through dialogue or important scenes.
He says it's because he's seen it before or isn't interested but when he watches something he hasn't seen before and has chosen himself (so could just turn it off if he didn't enjoy it) and he does the same.
Annoyingly, he often chooses something he's seen before when we we watch a film together, but doesn't tell me. We'll be watching and he will be talking about something and the way he says it suggests he knows what's about to happen and when I ask him if he's seen it before he says yes and then tries to convince me that he already told me that.
I don't really know why he does it. He says he sees watching things as a social activity but he doesn't watch films or TV with friends, he goes out to socialise. We go out to socialise too. Most we watch things during the week in the evenings. I work as a teacher and I have to talk a lot and I've explained to him that I wind down in the evenings and need peace, but he doesn't really stop talking at me.
When I'm working from home, he talks at me and then gets annoyed at me when I don't respond or tell him I'm busy. I don't think I'm busy a lot but I do work full time. He talks all the time when he's working from home, but also complains he has to work late but he doesn't appear to concentrate on it for very long, he plays games in between, scrolls websites and searches for music and talks on forums. I appreciate different people work differently but when I work, I concentrate hard for a few hours and then I 'empty my head' and relax when I'm done and he doesn't like that very much.
He tries to make out he's done things when he hasn't. He'll ask me what my plans are when I get in for example and if I talk about needing to do something, he will insist he's already done it even when I can see he hasn't. For example he asked me what I was doing one evening and I said I needed to put the washing on, it was in the machine, I just needed to put powder in and turn it on. He insisted he'd already done it and that it was clean it just needed to go in the dryer and he whipped it away and into the dryer before I'd even gotten to it. When I took it out the dryer it was off smelling and clearly not washed, just warm and dirty. We don't normally have those sort of passive aggressive discussions where one says something needs doing because they want the other person to do it, but that's my perspective, I don't know if he takes what I'm saying as that. When I bring it up he says in a jokey voice that hes good, he does domestic things. I'm not sure what to make of it.
He often talks about things he plans to do like he's thinking out loud. I started to tune this chat out a while back because I thought he was just thinking out loud. We live in a small space. But then he said I was ignoring him. But it's not like it's a conversation. He just talks at me saying things like 'im going to go to the gym at half 2' before explaining his thoughts about the gym and what the traffic will be like etc etc. He says I'm weird for not retaining any of the information he gives me but I say I just wouldn't remember that he wants to go to the gym at half 2, he says he would remember if I said it.
He talks over me when I'm talking about something that requires more than a sentence or two. He says his brain works quickly and he's already thought of lots to say but often I haven't even finished my point, and the point he makes is tenuously linked to what I was saying and entirely related to what he was saying before I spoke, like I may as well have not spoken at all.
I have tried to explain that I feel frustrated that he isn't really 'listening' to me speak and he says he hates all those pointless phrases people use like 'oh yeah' or 'thats interesting'. He says he thinks it's far more complimentary to show someone you're listening by talking about something back to them that they made you think of.
Except he doesn't do that. He doesn't respond to what I've said at all. When I've pointed it out on occasion more recently in the moment when it's happened, he signposts me to a word or phrase I said right at the begining of talking, which bares little resemblance to the point. For example, when I'm telling him why I like a book I'm reading, I could have used a particular word at the start before explaining what I liked and he will cut me off 15 seconds in with how he got annoyed at his boss yesterday and when i ask him what that has to do with my book he relays an anecdote about him and his boss some time in the past where the word was mentioned and it made him think of the fact he was annoyed at his boss. His point will take several minutes to deliver and if I try to interject he lets me speak briefly but then just continues.
I don't talk too much myself, I don't think. I like to explain myself if there's something worth explaining, but I don't 'chatter'. I find verbal communication much harder than written. Our initial relationship was largely email focused as we were long distance for over a year and we would have long emails where many points went back and forth at the same time. He knows I'm autistic and appears to be quite aware of autism and traits etc.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm expecting too much from verbal conversation, or if I'm just not very good at it myself. I don't know if it's even a problem, or I'm just dealing with someone who communicates differently to myself. But this part of me feels something's distinctly 'off' and these are the points I keep coming back to.
Looking for advice/support/reassurance.
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2024.04.28 22:01 Wolven91 Drifting - Part 11
“I am not one for politics. They make my scales itch.” Bemoaned Zeet as he walked ahead of Qik and Casper. His mobile platform moved and wandered without input from him as he stood upon it, grimacing at the two larger creatures. They had just left the boardroom where Casper had potentially just signed his body away if this went wrong.
“I would have thought we would have got more usable data from you by informing you and letting you just *work* with us.” The blue geckin continued, musing out aloud. Casper couldn’t help but grin widely, pleased by the geckin’s seemingly honest distaste for the situation.
Zeet was an engineer. A nerd. A geek, through and through. He cared about the machines he designed and made. The plots and schemes of others mattered little to him as long as they didn’t cross his wants and desires to improve on his designs. The geckin made an odd croaking throat noise. Casper spoke up.
“Let them work themselves into an early shed then, me and you are going to make a mech that’ll go down in history.” The young man offered, hoping to caress the geckin’s ego.
Qik grinned as well as he did when he blatantly hit his mark perfectly.
“You think?! Oh! Oh ho ho ho! Just think! First ‘no drift’ pilot in one of *my* machines making headlines. But we need you to succeed. Fame goes both ways, ah?” Zeet pointed out, before adopting a focused look, crossing his arms and touching a finger to his mouth. The two far larger creatures shared a glance as both of them felt themselves disappear to the geckin’s perspective.
“You’ll need survivability…” Zeet mumbled to him. “Heavy is always best for survivability, but it means taking the hits. Your agility shouldn’t be slept on. Light is just as good, if you don’t get hit.” The geckin snapped his head around to Casper.
“You stopped getting hit all the time?” The tiny creature demanded.
“What do you mean ‘all the time’? She got me *once*!” Casper shot back, thrusting a thumb sideways at Qik who remained silent, although her strut became more pronounced as they discussed her ‘perfect’ kill shot.
Zeet merely grinned at Casper and he was reminded that a grin from a geckin was *not* the same as a human grinning. Zeet was admonishing the human, not sharing in a joke.
“Once was enough. If we capitalise on your speed, you will be light, but weak; you will not survive errant hits! Anything above superficial damage could disable your points or even your whole rig if it’s a bad hit!” The geckin hissed.
“I was showboating.” Admitted Casper. “I let my guard down. My fault. I won’t jeopardise your work again.” The human spoke seriously and with respect at the older engineer who squinted at him as the walking platform approached a door that slid aside without hesitation. The geckin waved a hand, dismissing the thought, seemingly satisfied with Casper’s devoted tone.
The group entered a room that was quite obviously Zeet’s workshop. Ignoring that it looked down on a hanger bay with a skeleton of a rig hanging in the centre, as Casper looked around the room, he learnt of Zeet’s personality. Messy, but devoted.
Mech and rig designs covered an entire wall which was dominated as a workboard. Pens, stylises and measuring tools were scattered everywhere. A large 3D printer squatted in one corner and was covered in tiny, intricate models of various shapes and sizes. Some were of arms and legs of disembodied mechs, and others were tiny replicas of the whole thing.
“Huh… I think you’d get along with some of us humans.” Casper mentioned, crouching to observe the intricate details of one particular model. It was beautifully designed all the way down to sleek lines showing where the various bolts would connect armour plates together.
“After yourself, I would very much like to meet more humans. I suspect if I could get my claws into one that had a history in mech design, fictional or not, we might share ideas…” Zeet offered before clapping his hands and holding them out in front of him, pointing his claws at Casper, drawing attention to himself.
“*But!* We need to design you a machine that will put us both in the history books and… *Not* leave you at the hands of the XixTech corpo-nation.” Declared Zeet, Casper nodding along until his brain caught up to the sentence.
“Wait… ‘Corpo-Nation’?” He asked, standing up again.
“Mm, they represent the eastern continental landmass on Bok. Our homeworld. They are their government representatives.” Explained Zeet matter-of-factly. Casper merely blinked, once again reminded this was not kansas.
“Jesus… Yeah, let's not get dropped into that mess.” The young man agreed, already feeling his head spin. Qik settled herself, leaning against a wall, arms crossed as was her usual stance. Casper sat against the window frame with his back to the hanger below.
“So!” Zeet began. “Torso, Head, Arms, Legs and a Spinal mount. These are your rig’s modifiable options.” Zeet explained, turning to open a large cabinet where he produced three glasses. One tiny, the other two perfectly sized for Casper and Qik. The human glanced at the bottle of dark liquid, then to Qik who touched a long finger against her lips. She didn’t want him to ruin this.
Zeet poured three healthy portions before taking a sip and giving a satisfied sigh, then continuing.
“I already know what I’m doing for your chest, you don’t get a vote there.” He explained, swiping his hand through the air. Qik cleared her throat as she leaned in to pick up a spare glass.
“What’s your idea?” She asked calmly, seemingly trusting his good sense.
“Maximum output. Heavier as an option, more so than an ultralight, but I think the way he modifies his output, it’ll be worth it.” Zeet explained, swirling the glass.
“I modify my output? What do you mean?” Casper asked, frowning somewhat. This apparently was an odd question.
“Wha- My boy… You… It’s not a conscious decision? To pulse your power generation?” Zeet asked, seemingly very confused. Casper pulled a face and shrugged before reaching over and picking up the third and final glass. Taking a sip, it was like paint stripper with a smokey burn afterwards.
“Your power generation is not efficient, or it shouldn’t be! Your reactors ‘pulse’ instead of giving out a steady or constant amount. We thought it was a fault at first until the second and third time it happened. Every rig you hop in, it pulses.” Zeet explained shrugging his arms in defeated confusion, nearly, but not quite spilling his drink.
“Is it dangerous?” Qik asked, narrowing her eyes, but sipping at her own glass, it looked comically small in her hands. Zeet shook his head, sipping at his drink, a tiny red tongue dabbing at the murky liquid.
“I don’t think so, although it was far, far faster when you took that hit.” The geckin conceded, pointing a finger over the rim of his glass.
“Was it like a heartbeat?” Asked Casper, following a hunch. Zeet shook his head again, the corners of his mouth pulling up as if Casper had asked the same question as him.
“No. We thought so too, but it was too slow.” The geckin dismissed, looking into his glass with a contemplative frown. Unconvinced, Casper waited a second, considering what it could have been before getting an idea. Without speaking, Casper knocked his knuckles against the wall he was leaning on. Thump thump. Pause. Thump thump. Pause. The reaction was immediate, the engineer's feet jumping up in unison and briefly leaving the walking platform he stood upon as he pointed and did briefly spill his drink this time. .
“Yes! That! That’s it! Two pulses and a pause. We racked our brains trying to figure that out!”
Casper merely smiled knowingly, closing his eyes and opening them again before speaking, pleased to have an answer for the older geckin.
“That’s *my* heartbeat Zeet.” Tapping his chest with his glass. ”Bigger heart, slower rhythm.” The young man explained. The tiny geckin stood there, motionless for a time. Before closing his eyes and placing his own drink down on the table.
“Your heartbeat. *Your*! Heartbeat. Argh! Rocks in my brain! Terminal rocks!” Zeet exclaimed, causing both Casper and Qik to grin as an apparent mystery was solved for him. The poor geek looked genuinely annoyed as he glared at the ceiling.
“So it’s not an issue?” Asked Qik.
“Huh! Hardly. It means he doesn’t run hot, but has access to power when he needs it. Works well with the rest of my plans.”
“Go on, you’ve ideas, I’m listening.” Casper said, grimacing as he slugged another mouthful of the drink down. It seemed to burn less with the third gulp.
“Chest we go for power. Your spine mount, I suggest an advanced booster. It does mean you’re more vulnerable. One hit to your back and you’ve lost your main defence; not being where they fired at.” The geckin suggested, shrugging with the admission.
“I mean if we’re engaging at range, I can move out of the way of the rounds, right?” Casper offered, looking to Qik for confirmation. She pulled a face and shook her head, her ears flopping with the movement.
“Two problems with that; unreliable reactions and no one uses slug rounds anymore.” She explained. Casper frowned, specifically remembering a fairly solid round tearing through his chest not less than 24 hours ago.
“What do you mean? The geckins do?” He pointed out, rudely pointing at Zeet who could care less as he tilted his head back, finishing off his own glass. He spoke next, pulling Casper’s attention.
“We’re an exception, not a rule. The ursidains also use solid projectiles, but only when they’re firing a heavy hitter. Energy weapons are the name of the game these days. Most see solid projectiles as ‘old’, in the sense of ‘museum piece’ old.” Zeet offered honestly.
Casper thought that was strange, solid projectiles were reliable, but this wasn’t his world. This was a galaxy in a vastly different period of their history than Earth was. He shook his head to clear his mind.
“Okay fine, keep mobile. What about arms and legs? What about weapons?” He pressed, almost looking forward to hearing what toys Zeet was offering.
“Legs wise, again, I’d go for speed. Extra vents for additional jet exhausts. Rather than running, you’ll end up ‘skating’ around the enemy. Good luck keeping up with you. You’ll need it too.” Zeet offered.
“Are the enemies quick?” Casper asked.
“Fairly. Spider-Technicals.” Qik responded.
“What are they?”
“Heavy armour, focused laser beam for their main cannon. Prolonged targeting will thermal shock the armour that gets hit, burrowing through whatever it's shooting at. The tanks are mobile, capable of keeping line of sight on their target and climbing up and around buildings to do so. The intention is to have a small army of them and they just overwhelm any target that approaches.” The lopel explained, polishing off her own glass and gesturing with her hands, as if she were spreading a model army out in front of her.
“So keep circling them?” Casper suggested.
“And they’ll have to track you. We keep you light and mobile, they focus on you…” Qik went on, trailing off to allow Casper to finish the thought.
“...And you take them out while their back is turned.” The young man concluded, nodding at the idea. He could be bait, he didn’t even have to fight. Just wave his arms in the air and keep their attention.
“He’s a fast learner.” Zeet pointed out, nodding to Casper but looking to Qik. She merely grinned and returned to her ‘arms crossed’ posture, smugness radiating off her.
“Thanks to his teacher.”
Zeet was less than sure.
“Mm. Sure.” He blinked slowly and turned his head back to the huma before opening them again. “Arms wise, we have options.“
“I did consider a plasma thrower, but it's heavy and drains a lot of power during charge up. Good against another mech, less so for tanks. We have similar options like sniper beams, but same thing. Line of sight and you’d need to be still.”
“So what would you suggest?”
“If we are going with this plan, we should actually keep you lightly armed. How do you feel about a solid sword?”
“Solid? But what about my lightsaber!”
“No, too draining. If we’re keeping you as fast as we intend, we need you using 100% of your reactor’s output. A solid sword, atomised edge, you’ll still be dangerous. Lightweight metal, no drain on your resources, there's no downsides besides no range. But that's not an issue this time.”
“Atomised edge?” Casper asked, just checking for clarification. Zeet nodded and hastened to explain before moving on.
“An edge a few atoms thick. Blunts faster, but realistically, this is a blitz, you’re not going to be out there long enough to need to worry about that.”
“What could I cut through?”
“Anything with enough force behind your swing. Do *not* touch the edge with any part of yourself.” The geckin demanded with a serious tone and an accusing finger. Casper held his hands up in mock surrender.
“Yes sir.”
Zeet merely nodded. Qik remained quietly thinking as she scratched her own chin.
“So, speed, speed, speed?” Casper summarised.
“Quite so. Qik, I trust you will just select your weapons as normal?” Zeet asked, turning to the lopel as he sat himself in a chair. The merc merely nodded and lay her palm up as if presenting her idea.
“I’m going for a swarm missile rig. If it’s just technicals, I don’t need anything else.” She explained with a carless shrug.
“Swarm missile?” Casper prodded.
“Line of sight lock on, you fire the swarm and they fire up into the air before raining down on the tanks. Doesn’t matter if they’re crawling on or around buildings. They’ll punch through their armour. The downside is I need to see them to lock on, which sucks when LOS works both ways.” Qik went on, but then leaned forward to emphasize her words. .
“Buuut…” She drawled.
“But if they’re looking at me, that doesn’t matter.” Casper replied, grinning back at the lopel. She held his gaze a moment longer than needed before straightening and giving him her approval.
“Attaboy.”
Casper considered his options, and turned back to Zeet.
“So a sword? Nothing else?” He asked.
Zeet, his hands on his head, turned the chair to face the larger human.
“Did you have something else in mind?”
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“I would have thought we would have got more usable data from you by informing you and letting you just *work* with us.” The blue geckin continued, musing out aloud. Casper couldn’t help but grin widely, pleased by the geckin’s seemingly honest distaste for the situation.
Zeet was an engineer. A nerd. A geek, through and through. He cared about the machines he designed and made. The plots and schemes of others mattered little to him as long as they didn’t cross his wants and desires to improve on his designs. The geckin made an odd croaking throat noise. Casper spoke up.
“Let them work themselves into an early shed then, me and you are going to make a mech that’ll go down in history.” The young man offered, hoping to caress the geckin’s ego.
Qik grinned as well as he did when he blatantly hit his mark perfectly.
“You think?! Oh! Oh ho ho ho! Just think! First ‘no drift’ pilot in one of *my* machines making headlines. But we need you to succeed. Fame goes both ways, ah?” Zeet pointed out, before adopting a focused look, crossing his arms and touching a finger to his mouth. The two far larger creatures shared a glance as both of them felt themselves disappear to the geckin’s perspective.
“You’ll need survivability…” Zeet mumbled to him. “Heavy is always best for survivability, but it means taking the hits. Your agility shouldn’t be slept on. Light is just as good, if you don’t get hit.” The geckin snapped his head around to Casper.
“You stopped getting hit all the time?” The tiny creature demanded.
“What do you mean ‘all the time’? She got me *once*!” Casper shot back, thrusting a thumb sideways at Qik who remained silent, although her strut became more pronounced as they discussed her ‘perfect’ kill shot.
Zeet merely grinned at Casper and he was reminded that a grin from a geckin was *not* the same as a human grinning. Zeet was admonishing the human, not sharing in a joke.
“Once was enough. If we capitalise on your speed, you will be light, but weak; you will not survive errant hits! Anything above superficial damage could disable your points or even your whole rig if it’s a bad hit!” The geckin hissed.
“I was showboating.” Admitted Casper. “I let my guard down. My fault. I won’t jeopardise your work again.” The human spoke seriously and with respect at the older engineer who squinted at him as the walking platform approached a door that slid aside without hesitation. The geckin waved a hand, dismissing the thought, seemingly satisfied with Casper’s devoted tone.
The group entered a room that was quite obviously Zeet’s workshop. Ignoring that it looked down on a hanger bay with a skeleton of a rig hanging in the centre, as Casper looked around the room, he learnt of Zeet’s personality. Messy, but devoted.
Mech and rig designs covered an entire wall which was dominated as a workboard. Pens, stylises and measuring tools were scattered everywhere. A large 3D printer squatted in one corner and was covered in tiny, intricate models of various shapes and sizes. Some were of arms and legs of disembodied mechs, and others were tiny replicas of the whole thing.
“Huh… I think you’d get along with some of us humans.” Casper mentioned, crouching to observe the intricate details of one particular model. It was beautifully designed all the way down to sleek lines showing where the various bolts would connect armour plates together.
“After yourself, I would very much like to meet more humans. I suspect if I could get my claws into one that had a history in mech design, fictional or not, we might share ideas…” Zeet offered before clapping his hands and holding them out in front of him, pointing his claws at Casper, drawing attention to himself.
“*But!* We need to design you a machine that will put us both in the history books and… *Not* leave you at the hands of the XixTech corpo-nation.” Declared Zeet, Casper nodding along until his brain caught up to the sentence.
“Wait… ‘Corpo-Nation’?” He asked, standing up again.
“Mm, they represent the eastern continental landmass on Bok. Our homeworld. They are their government representatives.” Explained Zeet matter-of-factly. Casper merely blinked, once again reminded this was not kansas.
“Jesus… Yeah, let's not get dropped into that mess.” The young man agreed, already feeling his head spin. Qik settled herself, leaning against a wall, arms crossed as was her usual stance. Casper sat against the window frame with his back to the hanger below.
“So!” Zeet began. “Torso, Head, Arms, Legs and a Spinal mount. These are your rig’s modifiable options.” Zeet explained, turning to open a large cabinet where he produced three glasses. One tiny, the other two perfectly sized for Casper and Qik. The human glanced at the bottle of dark liquid, then to Qik who touched a long finger against her lips. She didn’t want him to ruin this.
Zeet poured three healthy portions before taking a sip and giving a satisfied sigh, then continuing.
“I already know what I’m doing for your chest, you don’t get a vote there.” He explained, swiping his hand through the air. Qik cleared her throat as she leaned in to pick up a spare glass.
“What’s your idea?” She asked calmly, seemingly trusting his good sense.
“Maximum output. Heavier as an option, more so than an ultralight, but I think the way he modifies his output, it’ll be worth it.” Zeet explained, swirling the glass.
“I modify my output? What do you mean?” Casper asked, frowning somewhat. This apparently was an odd question.
“Wha- My boy… You… It’s not a conscious decision? To pulse your power generation?” Zeet asked, seemingly very confused. Casper pulled a face and shrugged before reaching over and picking up the third and final glass. Taking a sip, it was like paint stripper with a smokey burn afterwards.
“Your power generation is not efficient, or it shouldn’t be! Your reactors ‘pulse’ instead of giving out a steady or constant amount. We thought it was a fault at first until the second and third time it happened. Every rig you hop in, it pulses.” Zeet explained shrugging his arms in defeated confusion, nearly, but not quite spilling his drink.
“Is it dangerous?” Qik asked, narrowing her eyes, but sipping at her own glass, it looked comically small in her hands. Zeet shook his head, sipping at his drink, a tiny red tongue dabbing at the murky liquid.
“I don’t think so, although it was far, far faster when you took that hit.” The geckin conceded, pointing a finger over the rim of his glass.
“Was it like a heartbeat?” Asked Casper, following a hunch. Zeet shook his head again, the corners of his mouth pulling up as if Casper had asked the same question as him.
“No. We thought so too, but it was too slow.” The geckin dismissed, looking into his glass with a contemplative frown. Unconvinced, Casper waited a second, considering what it could have been before getting an idea. Without speaking, Casper knocked his knuckles against the wall he was leaning on. Thump thump. Pause. Thump thump. Pause. The reaction was immediate, the engineer's feet jumping up in unison and briefly leaving the walking platform he stood upon as he pointed and did briefly spill his drink this time. .
“Yes! That! That’s it! Two pulses and a pause. We racked our brains trying to figure that out!”
Casper merely smiled knowingly, closing his eyes and opening them again before speaking, pleased to have an answer for the older geckin.
“That’s *my* heartbeat Zeet.” Tapping his chest with his glass. ”Bigger heart, slower rhythm.” The young man explained. The tiny geckin stood there, motionless for a time. Before closing his eyes and placing his own drink down on the table.
“Your heartbeat. *Your*! Heartbeat. Argh! Rocks in my brain! Terminal rocks!” Zeet exclaimed, causing both Casper and Qik to grin as an apparent mystery was solved for him. The poor geek looked genuinely annoyed as he glared at the ceiling.
“So it’s not an issue?” Asked Qik.
“Huh! Hardly. It means he doesn’t run hot, but has access to power when he needs it. Works well with the rest of my plans.”
“Go on, you’ve ideas, I’m listening.” Casper said, grimacing as he slugged another mouthful of the drink down. It seemed to burn less with the third gulp.
“Chest we go for power. Your spine mount, I suggest an advanced booster. It does mean you’re more vulnerable. One hit to your back and you’ve lost your main defence; not being where they fired at.” The geckin suggested, shrugging with the admission.
“I mean if we’re engaging at range, I can move out of the way of the rounds, right?” Casper offered, looking to Qik for confirmation. She pulled a face and shook her head, her ears flopping with the movement.
“Two problems with that; unreliable reactions and no one uses slug rounds anymore.” She explained. Casper frowned, specifically remembering a fairly solid round tearing through his chest not less than 24 hours ago.
“What do you mean? The geckins do?” He pointed out, rudely pointing at Zeet who could care less as he tilted his head back, finishing off his own glass. He spoke next, pulling Casper’s attention.
“We’re an exception, not a rule. The ursidains also use solid projectiles, but only when they’re firing a heavy hitter. Energy weapons are the name of the game these days. Most see solid projectiles as ‘old’, in the sense of ‘museum piece’ old.” Zeet offered honestly.
Casper thought that was strange, solid projectiles were reliable, but this wasn’t his world. This was a galaxy in a vastly different period of their history than Earth was. He shook his head to clear his mind.
“Okay fine, keep mobile. What about arms and legs? What about weapons?” He pressed, almost looking forward to hearing what toys Zeet was offering.
“Legs wise, again, I’d go for speed. Extra vents for additional jet exhausts. Rather than running, you’ll end up ‘skating’ around the enemy. Good luck keeping up with you. You’ll need it too.” Zeet offered.
“Are the enemies quick?” Casper asked.
“Fairly. Spider-Technicals.” Qik responded.
“What are they?”
“Heavy armour, focused laser beam for their main cannon. Prolonged targeting will thermal shock the armour that gets hit, burrowing through whatever it's shooting at. The tanks are mobile, capable of keeping line of sight on their target and climbing up and around buildings to do so. The intention is to have a small army of them and they just overwhelm any target that approaches.” The lopel explained, polishing off her own glass and gesturing with her hands, as if she were spreading a model army out in front of her.
“So keep circling them?” Casper suggested.
“And they’ll have to track you. We keep you light and mobile, they focus on you…” Qik went on, trailing off to allow Casper to finish the thought.
“...And you take them out while their back is turned.” The young man concluded, nodding at the idea. He could be bait, he didn’t even have to fight. Just wave his arms in the air and keep their attention.
“He’s a fast learner.” Zeet pointed out, nodding to Casper but looking to Qik. She merely grinned and returned to her ‘arms crossed’ posture, smugness radiating off her.
“Thanks to his teacher.”
Zeet was less than sure.
“Mm. Sure.” He blinked slowly and turned his head back to the huma before opening them again. “Arms wise, we have options.“
“I did consider a plasma thrower, but it's heavy and drains a lot of power during charge up. Good against another mech, less so for tanks. We have similar options like sniper beams, but same thing. Line of sight and you’d need to be still.”
“So what would you suggest?”
“If we are going with this plan, we should actually keep you lightly armed. How do you feel about a solid sword?”
“Solid? But what about my lightsaber!”
“No, too draining. If we’re keeping you as fast as we intend, we need you using 100% of your reactor’s output. A solid sword, atomised edge, you’ll still be dangerous. Lightweight metal, no drain on your resources, there's no downsides besides no range. But that's not an issue this time.”
“Atomised edge?” Casper asked, just checking for clarification. Zeet nodded and hastened to explain before moving on.
“An edge a few atoms thick. Blunts faster, but realistically, this is a blitz, you’re not going to be out there long enough to need to worry about that.”
“What could I cut through?”
“Anything with enough force behind your swing. Do *not* touch the edge with any part of yourself.” The geckin demanded with a serious tone and an accusing finger. Casper held his hands up in mock surrender.
“Yes sir.”
Zeet merely nodded. Qik remained quietly thinking as she scratched her own chin.
“So, speed, speed, speed?” Casper summarised.
“Quite so. Qik, I trust you will just select your weapons as normal?” Zeet asked, turning to the lopel as he sat himself in a chair. The merc merely nodded and lay her palm up as if presenting her idea.
“I’m going for a swarm missile rig. If it’s just technicals, I don’t need anything else.” She explained with a carless shrug.
“Swarm missile?” Casper prodded.
“Line of sight lock on, you fire the swarm and they fire up into the air before raining down on the tanks. Doesn’t matter if they’re crawling on or around buildings. They’ll punch through their armour. The downside is I need to see them to lock on, which sucks when LOS works both ways.” Qik went on, but then leaned forward to emphasize her words. .
“Buuut…” She drawled.
“But if they’re looking at me, that doesn’t matter.” Casper replied, grinning back at the lopel. She held his gaze a moment longer than needed before straightening and giving him her approval.
“Attaboy.”
Casper considered his options, and turned back to Zeet.
“So a sword? Nothing else?” He asked.
Zeet, his hands on his head, turned the chair to face the larger human.
“Did you have something else in mind?”
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2024.04.28 21:46 VeryPoisonedBones [QCrit] DUNGEON INSPECTOR, Dark Fantasy, 96k (First Attempt)
Dear [Agent],
A fretful goblin, set to inspect dungeons in a world split between Good and Evil, finds himself tangled in a web of disdain and deceit after being sent on a mission far above his pay grade. I am seeking representation for DUNGEON INSPECTOR, a dark fantasy novel of 96,000 words.
Razle is twenty years old and, unlike his deceased brothers, has opted to take one of the less popular paths in goblin society: working for the Ministry of Evil. He visits dungeons in his region to ensure any adventurers who wish to explore them have a smooth experience. Apathetic toward his duties, Razle finds solace in the collection of books he has amassed throughout the years.
His unapologetically dull life is interrupted when he is sent to Monuveln Island, home to one of Evil’s most infamous dungeons, alongside a diverse array of other agents. They are expected to investigate and eliminate the cause of the dungeon’s tightly-managed monsters becoming unpredictable and violent toward their keepers. Razle almost dies on his way to the island, and things only get worse when he arrives to find the outdoor lodging on fire and a flock of giant, carnivorous birds on the horizon. It’s as if he has become trapped in a cycle of pain and misfortune—a phenomenon detailed in a mysterious book he discovered just days before.
The difficulties of adapting to this unfamiliar place are only compounded when Razle discovers a crucial piece of the puzzle: an enchanted crystal that paints him as a culprit. Stuck in a subterranean labyrinth with no one he can trust, the question of whether this cycle can be escaped or not will finally be addressed, as Razle navigates a conspiracy more meticulous than he could have imagined.
[Bio]. With a narrator similar to the guarded, morally gray protagonist of THE UNSPOKEN NAME placed in an isolated fantasy environment akin to the setting in China Miéville’s THE SCAR, DUNGEON INSPECTOR provides a gritty look into a world where injustice is a given and true power is rarely discernible at first glance. [Personalization].
First 300
The skeleton’s soulless eye sockets stare down at me as I inspect it for deviation and discrepancy. Its skull is fractured in several places, but such damage is to be expected, as this particular creature—according to the tag on its right femur in connection to the index I was given at the start of the inspection—is Entity 041 with One Kill. I feel no pity for whomever was bested by this lowly brute.
This dungeon’s corridors are of coarse stone brick, cracked and mossy after decades of wear. The floor is uneven and the ceiling droops in several places. Most of the traps I’ve encountered are so obviously perceptible—and, in some cases, nonfunctional—that it is impossible for me to imagine what this place looked like when it was first built. I barely recognize it from the last time I visited. That was two years ago.
I get to my knees and try to find a comfortable position on the floor. The skeleton drags a finger across my bare head as I lift up its foot, but I ignore the gesture.
Ah! There it is. Its heel is riddled with holes. I take out my scroll and charcoal pencil and write 041—Bone Lice, Timeworn on my report scroll. Then I reach out with my free hand and grip the stone, preparing to stand.
The skeleton steps back and begins moving past me. I grab at its arm, but it pulls away with ease, nearly tipping me over. My spectacles slide to the end of my nose and I stop for a moment to reposition them, careful not to drop my things. As the creature disappears around a corner, I lift up my scroll and add Insubordination. Then I draw a triangle to signal for its destruction.
Questions
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A fretful goblin, set to inspect dungeons in a world split between Good and Evil, finds himself tangled in a web of disdain and deceit after being sent on a mission far above his pay grade. I am seeking representation for DUNGEON INSPECTOR, a dark fantasy novel of 96,000 words.
Razle is twenty years old and, unlike his deceased brothers, has opted to take one of the less popular paths in goblin society: working for the Ministry of Evil. He visits dungeons in his region to ensure any adventurers who wish to explore them have a smooth experience. Apathetic toward his duties, Razle finds solace in the collection of books he has amassed throughout the years.
His unapologetically dull life is interrupted when he is sent to Monuveln Island, home to one of Evil’s most infamous dungeons, alongside a diverse array of other agents. They are expected to investigate and eliminate the cause of the dungeon’s tightly-managed monsters becoming unpredictable and violent toward their keepers. Razle almost dies on his way to the island, and things only get worse when he arrives to find the outdoor lodging on fire and a flock of giant, carnivorous birds on the horizon. It’s as if he has become trapped in a cycle of pain and misfortune—a phenomenon detailed in a mysterious book he discovered just days before.
The difficulties of adapting to this unfamiliar place are only compounded when Razle discovers a crucial piece of the puzzle: an enchanted crystal that paints him as a culprit. Stuck in a subterranean labyrinth with no one he can trust, the question of whether this cycle can be escaped or not will finally be addressed, as Razle navigates a conspiracy more meticulous than he could have imagined.
[Bio]. With a narrator similar to the guarded, morally gray protagonist of THE UNSPOKEN NAME placed in an isolated fantasy environment akin to the setting in China Miéville’s THE SCAR, DUNGEON INSPECTOR provides a gritty look into a world where injustice is a given and true power is rarely discernible at first glance. [Personalization].
First 300
The skeleton’s soulless eye sockets stare down at me as I inspect it for deviation and discrepancy. Its skull is fractured in several places, but such damage is to be expected, as this particular creature—according to the tag on its right femur in connection to the index I was given at the start of the inspection—is Entity 041 with One Kill. I feel no pity for whomever was bested by this lowly brute.
This dungeon’s corridors are of coarse stone brick, cracked and mossy after decades of wear. The floor is uneven and the ceiling droops in several places. Most of the traps I’ve encountered are so obviously perceptible—and, in some cases, nonfunctional—that it is impossible for me to imagine what this place looked like when it was first built. I barely recognize it from the last time I visited. That was two years ago.
I get to my knees and try to find a comfortable position on the floor. The skeleton drags a finger across my bare head as I lift up its foot, but I ignore the gesture.
Ah! There it is. Its heel is riddled with holes. I take out my scroll and charcoal pencil and write 041—Bone Lice, Timeworn on my report scroll. Then I reach out with my free hand and grip the stone, preparing to stand.
The skeleton steps back and begins moving past me. I grab at its arm, but it pulls away with ease, nearly tipping me over. My spectacles slide to the end of my nose and I stop for a moment to reposition them, careful not to drop my things. As the creature disappears around a corner, I lift up my scroll and add Insubordination. Then I draw a triangle to signal for its destruction.
Questions
- Do I need to call it adult dark fantasy, or is there adult already implied by it being dark fantasy? (I assume that’s not exactly popular in YA markets)
- My current list of comps includes The Unspoken Name, The Scar (Miéville), Shaman’s Crossing, and Phoenix Extravagant. Do those sound solid? Are there any others that sound like a good fit?
2024.04.28 21:43 --clapped-- What makes Manor Lords special?
I don't mean this in a bad way at all, I just wanted to say that before my question gets misconstrued.
I ask because, well it's getting some pretty special treatment. Most wishlisted (I think?), sold 1 million copies already, 6 figure player count etc. and I mean this in the most genuine way possible, I cannot see why..
Granted, this isn't really my genre. I like a city builder, I like a strategy game, I can even like some management etc. but, it looks the same as every other city building/management game? Like why would I play this over say, Farthest Frontier? Like I said though, I'm no expert so I feel as though I might just be missing something. And well, that's why I'm here.
What am I missing? What do you guys think sets Manor Lords apart? Does it have/do anything in particular or is it just a really solid, good example of the genre?
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I ask because, well it's getting some pretty special treatment. Most wishlisted (I think?), sold 1 million copies already, 6 figure player count etc. and I mean this in the most genuine way possible, I cannot see why..
Granted, this isn't really my genre. I like a city builder, I like a strategy game, I can even like some management etc. but, it looks the same as every other city building/management game? Like why would I play this over say, Farthest Frontier? Like I said though, I'm no expert so I feel as though I might just be missing something. And well, that's why I'm here.
What am I missing? What do you guys think sets Manor Lords apart? Does it have/do anything in particular or is it just a really solid, good example of the genre?
2024.04.28 21:38 WoodxWisp New Fetch Land Idea?
Not sure how to label this post, as it's gonna be a mix of a few different thoughts of mine.
I'm the Gitrog dude, always loved the Gitrog Monster and Ravenous Ride is my all time, new favorite creature in the game now. I'm on the backend of a vacation and visited a card shop that was local to where I was staying, and decided to pick up an [[Ancient tomb]] to treat myself. While figuring out what to swap out for it in my deck, I realized after cutting my [[expedition map]] and [[Sylvan Scrying]] for other cards, that I had no real way to actually fetch my utility lands. So I put them back in, except will probably swap the scrying for [[tempt with discovery]] since I'm already running [[three visits]] and [[nature's lore]] for my 2 mana ramp spells.
I woke up today and this was picking at my brain right away, so I now have 2 questions: what are some other generic land fetches, and will anymore be printed? How will they balance them?
I opened my notepad and brainstormed some ideas, and I'm curious if these are too powerful, not powerful enough to be played outside of EDH, or just good enough that they could more than likely see play in EDH AND modern:
Evolution Vista
{Tap}, Sacrifice Evolution Vista: search your library for a Basic forest or basic island, put it on the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If you control 3 creatures with different powers, instead, search your library for target land and put it on the battlefield, then shuffle.
(Simic theme, but would probably see play in affinity for modern more than anything)
Aristocrat's Vista
{Tap}, sacrifice Aristocrat's Vista: search your library for a basic plains or basic Swamp, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If your starting life total this turn is less than your current life total, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto the battlefield, then shuffle.
(Instead of opting for draining AND lifegain, I just stuck with the lifegain aspect as that would be less restrictive and more in line with the others)
Rotting Vista
{Tap}, sacrifice Rotting Vista: search your library for a basic forest or basic Swamp, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If a creature you control died this turn, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto th me battlefield, then shuffle.
(Thought of just making this one morbid, but I felt that would make it too much better than the others as you could just run killspell.dek and activate it with little to no thematic elements)
Aggressive Vista
{Tap}, Sacrifice Aggressive Vista: search your library for a Basic plains or basic mountain, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If an opponent lost 3 or more life this turn, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto the battlefield, then shuffle
(Pretty straightforward, you can shock an opponent that fetched for a tap land, straight up bolt them, or attack them for 3 to activate it. Didn't want to just make any of these lands 'you must have attacked this turn', as that would restrict them to not only just your turn, but also to second main phase only)
Spellslinger's Vista
{Tap}, Sacrifice Spellslinger's Vista: search your library for a Basic island or basic mountain, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If 3 or more spells were cast this turn, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto the battlefield, then shuffle
(Figured this was pretty fitting, since Izzet is known for cantrips, counterspells and storm. Was originally only if you cast 3 or more, but felt too restrictive compared to the others and 3 spells is a lot of investment for this effect, comparably)
I'm curious on other people's thoughts on these, and I'm also interested in knowing what your utility fetch engines are in EDH that I haven't listed so far, any and all input is appreciated
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I'm the Gitrog dude, always loved the Gitrog Monster and Ravenous Ride is my all time, new favorite creature in the game now. I'm on the backend of a vacation and visited a card shop that was local to where I was staying, and decided to pick up an [[Ancient tomb]] to treat myself. While figuring out what to swap out for it in my deck, I realized after cutting my [[expedition map]] and [[Sylvan Scrying]] for other cards, that I had no real way to actually fetch my utility lands. So I put them back in, except will probably swap the scrying for [[tempt with discovery]] since I'm already running [[three visits]] and [[nature's lore]] for my 2 mana ramp spells.
I woke up today and this was picking at my brain right away, so I now have 2 questions: what are some other generic land fetches, and will anymore be printed? How will they balance them?
I opened my notepad and brainstormed some ideas, and I'm curious if these are too powerful, not powerful enough to be played outside of EDH, or just good enough that they could more than likely see play in EDH AND modern:
Evolution Vista
{Tap}, Sacrifice Evolution Vista: search your library for a Basic forest or basic island, put it on the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If you control 3 creatures with different powers, instead, search your library for target land and put it on the battlefield, then shuffle.
(Simic theme, but would probably see play in affinity for modern more than anything)
Aristocrat's Vista
{Tap}, sacrifice Aristocrat's Vista: search your library for a basic plains or basic Swamp, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If your starting life total this turn is less than your current life total, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto the battlefield, then shuffle.
(Instead of opting for draining AND lifegain, I just stuck with the lifegain aspect as that would be less restrictive and more in line with the others)
Rotting Vista
{Tap}, sacrifice Rotting Vista: search your library for a basic forest or basic Swamp, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If a creature you control died this turn, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto th me battlefield, then shuffle.
(Thought of just making this one morbid, but I felt that would make it too much better than the others as you could just run killspell.dek and activate it with little to no thematic elements)
Aggressive Vista
{Tap}, Sacrifice Aggressive Vista: search your library for a Basic plains or basic mountain, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If an opponent lost 3 or more life this turn, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto the battlefield, then shuffle
(Pretty straightforward, you can shock an opponent that fetched for a tap land, straight up bolt them, or attack them for 3 to activate it. Didn't want to just make any of these lands 'you must have attacked this turn', as that would restrict them to not only just your turn, but also to second main phase only)
Spellslinger's Vista
{Tap}, Sacrifice Spellslinger's Vista: search your library for a Basic island or basic mountain, put it onto the battlefield tapped, then shuffle. If 3 or more spells were cast this turn, instead, search your library for target land and put it onto the battlefield, then shuffle
(Figured this was pretty fitting, since Izzet is known for cantrips, counterspells and storm. Was originally only if you cast 3 or more, but felt too restrictive compared to the others and 3 spells is a lot of investment for this effect, comparably)
I'm curious on other people's thoughts on these, and I'm also interested in knowing what your utility fetch engines are in EDH that I haven't listed so far, any and all input is appreciated
2024.04.28 21:36 DBurner16733 I (24M) got used by my “girlfriend” (24F) who was secretly engaged with children. I’m feel empty, what do I do next?
Edit: sorry for poor grammar in title.
Hi, my name is D [24]. Let me provide some quick background on me. I work in marketing and social media in the recovery field. I was very successful in school (graduated 2nd in my class in high school and very successful in college). I’ve been pretty introverted my whole life, I am a high functioning autistic, but most (to be honest all) people can’t tell unless I say it. I tend to do better when surrounded by other people, I feed off them in a good way. I am a big video gamer, I can be really funny and extroverted once I am comfortable but I have a hard time doing that. I get lonely at night and have really bad anxiety at times. A lot of my friends I don’t live close to after college, so I spend most of my time working or gaming. This story is heavy, so if I miss anything or if anything’s confusing - please ask away. About 6 months prior to this, I broke up with my girlfriend of two and half years. One of the hardest things I have ever done. I wanted to break it off because I knew I wanted kids and she didn’t (on top of other long term goals). There was more to it, but that’s the most important. This choice had no short term benefit, but I did it for a better future for me. It was a really healthy relationship, she was great - but I wanted my forever person. I promised myself my next partner would be that (or hopefully would be that). We are still friends to this day.
My main game used to be World of Warcraft. I needed help with something and I asked around and met a girl named Samantha (Sam) Ingrid [24]. Total circumstance. She was incredible. I have done online dating/LDR before, I didn’t want it again, but this sort of just happened. I didn’t ask for it. She lives in Kentucky. I live in New England.
We talked nonstop, we had great healthy communication, we had a lot of similar interests and goals. It was very flirty from the start and we had a ton of chemistry. We could call, leave voice memos, and talk all day and night. It was very hyper focused and intense compared to the start of most relationships. We talked about dating and both wanted that soon, but decided it would be best to wait to meet up. A few weeks into talking, she let me know she had 3 daughters. She didn’t let me know at first because I guess we weren’t serious enough. I didn’t care after thinking about it and was willing to try it out and see how it goes. Things went great, we agreed we would begin dating before meeting up because we both were so into each other. Next few weeks go by and things are great. We were talking about meeting up soon (no set plans), but she’s starting a new job and it would be easier to meet. We would talk and play all day. She introduced me to an online friend named J. J and her used to flirt back in middle school days, but never dated, she said. He was just a friend. She didn’t want him to know about us dating so he wouldn’t feel like a third wheel. I was okay with this at first because I know how that feels. But I would always get into my head and get a little jealous, but she reassured me they were just friends. But, we all had a ton of fun together and had a small friend group. Also, Sam and I to clarify (to my knowledge) were fully boyfriend and girlfriend.
One day, it appears I’m randomly blocked out of nowhere.. When she blocked me, I reached out to our group chat while anxiously spiraling. He noticed I really wasn’t okay so he messaged me privately, asking if I was dating Sam. He told me the truth.
Her nickname “Sam” is true, but it was a different first name and last name. Sam actually has 4 kids (she didn’t mention she also had a son) and she’s engaged. The youngest 2 of the children are with her fiancé. Her son does not live with her and her fiance “C.” I went through her Facebook and it seems she was acting herself to me, but just keeping any secret involving him. They have been engaged for multiple years. He showed me her Facebook. He explained back when they were teenagers (14), she catfished him under the name “Anna” and they dated for almost a year. One day, she just vanished. Two years later, she came back on Facebook and apologized. They were acquaintances, but when she was on WoW, she reached out and they were friendly and started playing together. He forgave her because they were so young and figured she would never do it again. He said he’s on my side and was also mad because she told him that I was just a flirty friend and to ignore my flirting. So she lied to us both to keep us at bay, but at the same time wanted us all to be friends. Really manic behavior.
She called us very drunk the next day and I had to pry the truth from her. She wouldn’t admit it on her own. C (the fiance) saw all of the messages and they got into a big fight. They ended up drinking and she just kept drinking because of the pain. Her best friend took her to the mental hospital. She also told J that C had choked her out (and provided a photo), but once sober and a few days later said that was C’s brother and not him. I still don’t know if this is fully true, but I do have a photo of the choke marks.
She called me in the hospital (I can confirm she was really there and a patient) and things seemed to be a little better. She gets diagnosed with Bipolar and Psychosis. At first she wanted to end it with C forever. I felt good about this because I loved her, and I could reestablish boundaries and if she wanted me back in her life. A day later, she told me after thinking about it more, she’s decided she doesn’t know what she wants. This hurt a ton because I had been so good to her. I never yelled even after she lied to me about a ton, I was so respectful, and I could tell how happy she was around me. She said it was so easy to talk with me. When she got out, she didn’t respond to my messages.I had J check Facebook (FB) to see if she was online and she was. She messages him that she’s out, but to keep it on the “down low” from me. This pisses him off and they get into a fight where he calls her out and they block each other on everything and I get blocked on a few things and she messages me I was working with him to get information from her and it’s “triggering” for her. This is not entirely true and we talk a little and she says she was planning on calling when C (fiance) wasn’t around. I asked why didn’t you just let me know that and she dodges that. Eventually, she says she will call when he’s not around, but never does.
It was really rough for me. I feel I lost all sense of agency and control. When I thought I would be able to set boundaries, she just vanished with no care for me. I cried on the phone to J every night worried sick about her. And she just cut me out like that. I broke down with an anxiety attack a few days later and almost had to go somewhere. Eventually, I found a therapist and I am still talking with him. A week passes and I saw she was on WoW and she was on for the first time since everything. I asked J and he said I should reach out because I wasn’t blocked and get some closure I never got. She responded and we talked for four hours in the game. Part of me wanted to reach out because on social media, it seemed she/her family blamed everything on her diagnoses. But, I knew if she never got caught she would keep going and going. And I was right. She confirmed she chose him, but we agreed to talk more if she reached out first. I made a burner discord and she would uninstall and reinstall discord if he wasn’t around.
They continued their unhealthy relationship (they fight a ton, their son doesn’t live with them, total mess as a reminder) as we talked. It was good for a few days she said between them, but eventually their toxic thing went back to toxic. A week or two passes of us talking and calling and now video calling (I can confirm she is really the person on FB and all images she has EVER sent, were really of her). She told me she’d like to be with me and end things with him. I said okay I’d be interested in exploring that but we would need to be friends after she dumps him for a bit so we can rebuild trust. I knew I really fucking loved this girl and would move mountains for her. We talk all the time (when he’s not around) and whenever he’s not around we call and talk as much as possible. She even makes up excuses to leave the house so we can talk. A few weeks pass and they still are fighting. She gets drunk one night and insists I add her on snapchat. I do and he finds it going through her phone later that night. He doesn’t know it’s me but it causes them to argue more. She confirms she still wants to be with me and is taking steps towards that. This past week her communication has been way worse, we talk way less, and she seems more focused on hiding me, then my feelings and wellbeing. She is very busy with the new job and that’s our primary time to talk. As the week progresses - for the first time ever, she is also leaving me to read or ghosting me. Either because he’s around and he can’t see or because she’s just not as interested anymore. I know she's not mentally well. But I love her and it’s hard to let go, especially not having many people in my life. A boundary I set is to please not post him on your story because I don’t want to see. On Friday, they went on a date and she posted to him like 6 times. It felt so rude and disrespectful to me. All of this, while ignoring me because he’s around. She told me she'd be back later that night two days in a row and she never showed up so I was worried. On Saturday, she leaves me delivered all day and then opens my message and blocks me. This hurt because I set three boundaries when we started talking again - don’t use me, don’t hurt, and don’t leave me for good if you choose that without telling me why. And she broke all 3 of those at that time. This morning she reached out on the last application I am not blocked on (Discord burner) and said this before blocking me. She said, “I wanted to talk to you about this. We went to dinner and had a long talk. I chose him. I think in the back of my mind, I was always going to choose him. I love him with everything in me. And I’ve not been very good for him. I should have kept it strict and gave you the closure you wanted and that’s it. You are a great person, D. You will find someone to give you their all, and that’s not me.” I was glad she let me know, but it hurts that she wasn’t even sorry to me for anything. I know it was honest and it really hurts, but is also really telling she didn’t apologize to me and just cares about his feelings. She has fully cut communication now and probably forever. I am so jealous of C, but I am not after seeing how she can lie. I doubt I would be able to fully trust her in a relationship anyways. My therapist says we all have a sense of ego and that’s why I have had a hard time letting go, also a lack of closure. This was a little closure, but not exactly. Does she love me? Did she just use me? What exactly changed? I will never get answers to these and this is why it’s so hard for me to process (even over that 2 and a half year relationship with my ex).
I feel stuck, I feel devoid of purpose, I’m not the person I used to be. Not anymore. She broke me. I’d be open to moving on, but all I do is work and I’m never out of the house. I don’t even want to fold laundry or eat. A lot of my friends live far away, or just have moved on since college. But idk if I’m ready for something new, I’m so jealous of him but at the same time not because she keeps cheating on him with me. It just hurts being her backup boyfriend or whatever. I feel so sad and so lonely all the time. I guess I am here for advice or just your perspectives.
Should I reach out and tell C we have been talking again (I doubt he knows)? Part of me wants to because I’d want to know, but I feel it would be more revenge on her then wanting the best for him. My therapist says I shouldn’t because for once I should just protect my heart and not worry about everyone else over myself. If I do that, I potentially rehash a lot of shit. How can I move on easier? Part of me wants to go on a small vacation from work to get away, but I have nobody to go with or nowhere to go. I just feel very stuck, empty, and I have no ambition or goals anymore. Thank you for reading this all (almost 2500 words). I wish I could write papers this fast. If you have any questions or need clarification, please let me know. I need advice and support right now so I appreciate you reading this.
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Hi, my name is D [24]. Let me provide some quick background on me. I work in marketing and social media in the recovery field. I was very successful in school (graduated 2nd in my class in high school and very successful in college). I’ve been pretty introverted my whole life, I am a high functioning autistic, but most (to be honest all) people can’t tell unless I say it. I tend to do better when surrounded by other people, I feed off them in a good way. I am a big video gamer, I can be really funny and extroverted once I am comfortable but I have a hard time doing that. I get lonely at night and have really bad anxiety at times. A lot of my friends I don’t live close to after college, so I spend most of my time working or gaming. This story is heavy, so if I miss anything or if anything’s confusing - please ask away. About 6 months prior to this, I broke up with my girlfriend of two and half years. One of the hardest things I have ever done. I wanted to break it off because I knew I wanted kids and she didn’t (on top of other long term goals). There was more to it, but that’s the most important. This choice had no short term benefit, but I did it for a better future for me. It was a really healthy relationship, she was great - but I wanted my forever person. I promised myself my next partner would be that (or hopefully would be that). We are still friends to this day.
My main game used to be World of Warcraft. I needed help with something and I asked around and met a girl named Samantha (Sam) Ingrid [24]. Total circumstance. She was incredible. I have done online dating/LDR before, I didn’t want it again, but this sort of just happened. I didn’t ask for it. She lives in Kentucky. I live in New England.
We talked nonstop, we had great healthy communication, we had a lot of similar interests and goals. It was very flirty from the start and we had a ton of chemistry. We could call, leave voice memos, and talk all day and night. It was very hyper focused and intense compared to the start of most relationships. We talked about dating and both wanted that soon, but decided it would be best to wait to meet up. A few weeks into talking, she let me know she had 3 daughters. She didn’t let me know at first because I guess we weren’t serious enough. I didn’t care after thinking about it and was willing to try it out and see how it goes. Things went great, we agreed we would begin dating before meeting up because we both were so into each other. Next few weeks go by and things are great. We were talking about meeting up soon (no set plans), but she’s starting a new job and it would be easier to meet. We would talk and play all day. She introduced me to an online friend named J. J and her used to flirt back in middle school days, but never dated, she said. He was just a friend. She didn’t want him to know about us dating so he wouldn’t feel like a third wheel. I was okay with this at first because I know how that feels. But I would always get into my head and get a little jealous, but she reassured me they were just friends. But, we all had a ton of fun together and had a small friend group. Also, Sam and I to clarify (to my knowledge) were fully boyfriend and girlfriend.
One day, it appears I’m randomly blocked out of nowhere.. When she blocked me, I reached out to our group chat while anxiously spiraling. He noticed I really wasn’t okay so he messaged me privately, asking if I was dating Sam. He told me the truth.
Her nickname “Sam” is true, but it was a different first name and last name. Sam actually has 4 kids (she didn’t mention she also had a son) and she’s engaged. The youngest 2 of the children are with her fiancé. Her son does not live with her and her fiance “C.” I went through her Facebook and it seems she was acting herself to me, but just keeping any secret involving him. They have been engaged for multiple years. He showed me her Facebook. He explained back when they were teenagers (14), she catfished him under the name “Anna” and they dated for almost a year. One day, she just vanished. Two years later, she came back on Facebook and apologized. They were acquaintances, but when she was on WoW, she reached out and they were friendly and started playing together. He forgave her because they were so young and figured she would never do it again. He said he’s on my side and was also mad because she told him that I was just a flirty friend and to ignore my flirting. So she lied to us both to keep us at bay, but at the same time wanted us all to be friends. Really manic behavior.
She called us very drunk the next day and I had to pry the truth from her. She wouldn’t admit it on her own. C (the fiance) saw all of the messages and they got into a big fight. They ended up drinking and she just kept drinking because of the pain. Her best friend took her to the mental hospital. She also told J that C had choked her out (and provided a photo), but once sober and a few days later said that was C’s brother and not him. I still don’t know if this is fully true, but I do have a photo of the choke marks.
She called me in the hospital (I can confirm she was really there and a patient) and things seemed to be a little better. She gets diagnosed with Bipolar and Psychosis. At first she wanted to end it with C forever. I felt good about this because I loved her, and I could reestablish boundaries and if she wanted me back in her life. A day later, she told me after thinking about it more, she’s decided she doesn’t know what she wants. This hurt a ton because I had been so good to her. I never yelled even after she lied to me about a ton, I was so respectful, and I could tell how happy she was around me. She said it was so easy to talk with me. When she got out, she didn’t respond to my messages.I had J check Facebook (FB) to see if she was online and she was. She messages him that she’s out, but to keep it on the “down low” from me. This pisses him off and they get into a fight where he calls her out and they block each other on everything and I get blocked on a few things and she messages me I was working with him to get information from her and it’s “triggering” for her. This is not entirely true and we talk a little and she says she was planning on calling when C (fiance) wasn’t around. I asked why didn’t you just let me know that and she dodges that. Eventually, she says she will call when he’s not around, but never does.
It was really rough for me. I feel I lost all sense of agency and control. When I thought I would be able to set boundaries, she just vanished with no care for me. I cried on the phone to J every night worried sick about her. And she just cut me out like that. I broke down with an anxiety attack a few days later and almost had to go somewhere. Eventually, I found a therapist and I am still talking with him. A week passes and I saw she was on WoW and she was on for the first time since everything. I asked J and he said I should reach out because I wasn’t blocked and get some closure I never got. She responded and we talked for four hours in the game. Part of me wanted to reach out because on social media, it seemed she/her family blamed everything on her diagnoses. But, I knew if she never got caught she would keep going and going. And I was right. She confirmed she chose him, but we agreed to talk more if she reached out first. I made a burner discord and she would uninstall and reinstall discord if he wasn’t around.
They continued their unhealthy relationship (they fight a ton, their son doesn’t live with them, total mess as a reminder) as we talked. It was good for a few days she said between them, but eventually their toxic thing went back to toxic. A week or two passes of us talking and calling and now video calling (I can confirm she is really the person on FB and all images she has EVER sent, were really of her). She told me she’d like to be with me and end things with him. I said okay I’d be interested in exploring that but we would need to be friends after she dumps him for a bit so we can rebuild trust. I knew I really fucking loved this girl and would move mountains for her. We talk all the time (when he’s not around) and whenever he’s not around we call and talk as much as possible. She even makes up excuses to leave the house so we can talk. A few weeks pass and they still are fighting. She gets drunk one night and insists I add her on snapchat. I do and he finds it going through her phone later that night. He doesn’t know it’s me but it causes them to argue more. She confirms she still wants to be with me and is taking steps towards that. This past week her communication has been way worse, we talk way less, and she seems more focused on hiding me, then my feelings and wellbeing. She is very busy with the new job and that’s our primary time to talk. As the week progresses - for the first time ever, she is also leaving me to read or ghosting me. Either because he’s around and he can’t see or because she’s just not as interested anymore. I know she's not mentally well. But I love her and it’s hard to let go, especially not having many people in my life. A boundary I set is to please not post him on your story because I don’t want to see. On Friday, they went on a date and she posted to him like 6 times. It felt so rude and disrespectful to me. All of this, while ignoring me because he’s around. She told me she'd be back later that night two days in a row and she never showed up so I was worried. On Saturday, she leaves me delivered all day and then opens my message and blocks me. This hurt because I set three boundaries when we started talking again - don’t use me, don’t hurt, and don’t leave me for good if you choose that without telling me why. And she broke all 3 of those at that time. This morning she reached out on the last application I am not blocked on (Discord burner) and said this before blocking me. She said, “I wanted to talk to you about this. We went to dinner and had a long talk. I chose him. I think in the back of my mind, I was always going to choose him. I love him with everything in me. And I’ve not been very good for him. I should have kept it strict and gave you the closure you wanted and that’s it. You are a great person, D. You will find someone to give you their all, and that’s not me.” I was glad she let me know, but it hurts that she wasn’t even sorry to me for anything. I know it was honest and it really hurts, but is also really telling she didn’t apologize to me and just cares about his feelings. She has fully cut communication now and probably forever. I am so jealous of C, but I am not after seeing how she can lie. I doubt I would be able to fully trust her in a relationship anyways. My therapist says we all have a sense of ego and that’s why I have had a hard time letting go, also a lack of closure. This was a little closure, but not exactly. Does she love me? Did she just use me? What exactly changed? I will never get answers to these and this is why it’s so hard for me to process (even over that 2 and a half year relationship with my ex).
I feel stuck, I feel devoid of purpose, I’m not the person I used to be. Not anymore. She broke me. I’d be open to moving on, but all I do is work and I’m never out of the house. I don’t even want to fold laundry or eat. A lot of my friends live far away, or just have moved on since college. But idk if I’m ready for something new, I’m so jealous of him but at the same time not because she keeps cheating on him with me. It just hurts being her backup boyfriend or whatever. I feel so sad and so lonely all the time. I guess I am here for advice or just your perspectives.
Should I reach out and tell C we have been talking again (I doubt he knows)? Part of me wants to because I’d want to know, but I feel it would be more revenge on her then wanting the best for him. My therapist says I shouldn’t because for once I should just protect my heart and not worry about everyone else over myself. If I do that, I potentially rehash a lot of shit. How can I move on easier? Part of me wants to go on a small vacation from work to get away, but I have nobody to go with or nowhere to go. I just feel very stuck, empty, and I have no ambition or goals anymore. Thank you for reading this all (almost 2500 words). I wish I could write papers this fast. If you have any questions or need clarification, please let me know. I need advice and support right now so I appreciate you reading this.