Example birthday speech for brother

You see, folks, I personally like to educate others whenever the opportunity comes. And what we got here, is a clear example of what happens when someone doesn't think before she talks.
Spotting a mistyped INTJ : intj (reddit.com)
Apparently, nobody is asking this particular user for opinions. But this user known as naokoyaa had to butt in. Got zero substance other than trying to accuse me of being basement troll when the discussion was about xNTP obsessing with mistype, like the OG commenter was talking about. I was just like "low Fi and low Se = basement soy boys. Ne instead of Ni means they have problem getting to bottom of things. That's why they're taking the whole mistyping deal that serious". It was probably about the usual argument of "he's being too mean and judgy". I be like...bitch please, give me a fucking break. I actually work as a kitchen manager at a restaurant, and based on that attitude of hers, she'd be the first one to get canned if I were her supervisor. Then apparently, she took a peek at my page and discovered my fetishism in tickling and decided to use it to have a come back at me and talked about the "matter of intellect". Then I decided to get real. I've also checked her profile and combined all the talking points she dished at me.......if one can even consider those as "talking points". I exposed her for who she is. She doesn't like others to check her profile? Can't deal with what she dished out? Cope! I don't give a fuck if she's "young". 17 ain't that old but ain't that young neither. I could do better at that age lol.
Well, I'd love to see her showing her teenage suburbia tantrum...I'd say she may grow into a fully grown Karen. But this is Reddit, and downvoting is one of the dumbest features of this platform. One of the reasons why I tend to use Quora more than Reddit. But I still use it, and I don't want my karma to go all the way down that I may have problem posting and commenting on certain subs. So, I had her blocked.
So what's the lesson here?

1. Think before you talk. It's pretty damn obvious.
   
2. It's kind of a common sense, but everyone has their own fetishism. Use that as a form of come back, especially with the way how she went about it, has exposed her mental age.
   
3. For her physical age being of 17...uh folks, this is why I only talk about what I want others to know on Reddit. I made it no secret that I love tickling a beautiful woman, that's why I talk about it here.
   
4. The good ol' term of "anything you said can be used against you" applies everywhere, when you really look at it. I originally came from a country with dictatorship, and I'll say this: freedom of speech or not, you better have a good substance if you disagree.
   

This seems to be a particular problem for ENFPs. ESFPs seem to be better in this regard due to Se, which increases the situational awareness more or less. Well, I know this sub is filled with ENFPs, it's time for you to learn. Because guess what? Not every INTJs have to pander to you. We're not your maid. Actually, unless you're rich and can actually afford one, nobody is really your maid. I'm saying this because that attitude can easily get someone into some really dangerous situation. I just expose her for who she is, but if the situation is different, then that attitude can get her into some more serious shit.

my (19f) mother gave birth to my half sibling a month after my 19th birthday. I’ve been living away from home for the past year due to university however i do visit home at least once a month.
to add a bit of context my parents split when i was young so i grew up to be an only child all my life.
When i do visit home my mother tries for me and my brother to have 1 on 1 time, but i’m finding it difficult. He is cute as heck, but i’m having trouble seeing him having any familiar connection with me, i’m struggling to see him as a brother.
It makes me feel terrible knowing how much my mother wants us to have a sibling relationship, i’m finding it so so difficult. i feel like a bad person and i can’t bring myself to tell anyone in the family about it with fear of being called selfish. Has anyone also been in a situation where their sibling was much younger than them?

I’ve posted here before, and since i gave very little information, i got attacked and i was told im the problem.
Well here’s the whole story.
My mother in law is a very dominant person in nature, she always wanted everything under her control, keep in mind i’m from india while reading this.
(APRIL 2023)engagement saree: in my culture, the husband’s family buy the engagement saree, since we’re not in 540 BC most of the families nowadays let the bride choose her favourite, but my mother in law chose the saree, since she had a gold and pink themed engagement in her mind, i actually liked the saree and i said yes. She didn’t let me choose the makeup artist, she booked one already for me, and even paid her in advance. somehow everything went well and i liked the outcome. i never had any rift with her, i really liked her.
after the engagement my husband and i went on a lunch date, she saw me and pat on my belly and said i should lose fat, bitch? i’m nowhere near fat, it was something like periods belly
My wedding was in august 2023. between april and august, this is where i see her true colours. Meantime she became close with her son’s best friend ( who is actually his gf but he brought her home saying she’s just a friend and the girl(let’s call her kat) was trying so hard to win her)

1. around may, i was asked to come to her city because my mil and kat booked a dance workshop, my mil thought i wouldn’t dance well, im a dancer since school days and i never told anyone, at the workshop i danced so well but my mil never complimented me, she was only complimenting kat. 😭
2. around june, mil randomly calls me and tells me that she bought a outfit for my pre wedding ceremonies ( haldi and cocktail) i was like ??? um without ny presence, she kept saying that it’s so pretty and i’ll love it. since my engagement saree pretty and she chose it, i thought maybe she wouldn’t do something bad
3. when i saw the haldi outfit, it was literally a disaster, the neck was deep, the shoulders were falling off, it was ugly overall. my cocktail outfit she chose looked like something grandmas would wear on funeral.
4. somehow i made last minute changes and changed my cocktail outfit, still wasn’t the best.
5. what made me upset was, my mil and kats outfit were the best in the ceremony, idk why she chose the ugliest one for me and chose the best one for me, it really gave me a bad feeling about this woman.
6. i told my husband but he didn’t pay much attention to this, he said it’s after all a dress, also since he was in a different country, he wasn’t able to do anything much.
7. on the day of my morning wedding ceremony , she insisted that she’ll keep my accessories safely and somehow lost them.
8. for the evening ceremony, she crinkled my dress and said no one would notice.

my biggest question is “will she be okay if it was her outfit or her accessories”. i hated my wedding pictures, i get anxious everytime i see them, everytime i tell my husband, he gets mad that im always complaining about his mom, but no one sees that i got hurt
after the wedding: mostly in indian cultures , the daughter in law has to live with the husbands family. i absolutely hated every minute of it, they criticised the shit outta me.
to my surprise, my mother in law and father in law live seperately in the same area, their houses are 8 mins away from each other.
in my mother in laws house, there’s this new guy ( whom my husband and BIL calls uncle) this uncle(43years old) is an un married, alcoholic guy who passes shit comments about random women. body shames woman while watching a tv show, or when we go out. i hated his behaviour.
you might think this guy is my mil’s own brother, or a cousin or somehow a relative. none of it. he’s just a random someone who’s living full time in this house.
i wouldn’t have given a fuck if no one bothered me. but this uncle mocks me everytime i dress up, do my makeup. when he sees me cooking and he criticises me. when he sees me doing anything in the world, he criticises me. mocks me , my mil , bil and this bastard laugh together.
i felt kinda off since she’s keeping this as a secret from her husband, my fil doesn’t know he’s staying with her full time, for my mils bday this uncle got her a diamond ring , which she hid from her husband, she showed the gifts from me, her sons and her mom but hid the gift from uncle.
he got her a dyson ( which is whole another story, i told my husband i wanted dyson for my birthday, i also mentioned the color blue since it’s available in india, i guess my husband has the habit of telling her everything, just before my bday she went and bought the blue dyson air wrap) and didn’t even tell my husband / her husband. l randomly spilled it to my husband since she wanted it to be a secret. i did it intentionally.
one random day i was checking pinterest i check the messages where i saw a old message i sent to her profile , like a hi or something.. i went to her profile, i saw a board where she saved all the quotes like “you stroke me in places where my hands cannot reach” all such sexy quotes, she also has another board where she saved good morning pics that she usually sends to me and my family. at this point im only speculating, i cannot let a random outsider mock me, also my fil is a very good person, keeping things from him and forcing me to act accordingly is also annoying to me
she’s always been all about appearances, my father in law is shorter than her, kinda fat. also looks old but he’s very rich. maybe that’s why they live separately since she doesn’t like to be seen together with my fil, i’m saying she all about appearances because she only talks to people who look pretty, in my wedding , people from my dads side kinda don’t dress well but they’re good people, she didn’t even wanna shake hands or smile at them when i introduced her to my family. one of my friends was kinda fat and dark, she didn’t even talk to her but she went and took pictures with my other two friends who looked slim and fair.
one time she introduced me to her zumba class friends as “sisters daughter” and without any shame asks me to call her mom since we met. i will never call her mom.
one time it got so much i couldn’t handle and i called my husband and cried about it, my mother in law said they were all just joking and i took everything seriously.
i cannot understand how a literal outsider was given so much power to hurt their daughter in law, and when confronted they support him. he once mocked me for my makeup and i didn’t even respond to him, he texted me saying “hope ur not upset, i did just for fun” this is not a apology
on top of it so many times my mil has come in between me and my husband, since me and my husband are doing a long distance relationship, he comes to india for 2 weeks breaks, ever since we got married in august, we’ve only spend 56 days together. so this time due to olympics he’s getting one month off and we planned a japan trip. my mil immediately said she would also join and said we can go to dubai.
i had to explain my husband how this is not okay since we only had 56 days together and having a family trip is not okay, he somehow explained her and changed the plan to bali. but she was still upset.
even while we’re planning the trip, she asks my husband to send the itinerary, wants to know every detail from the hotel we’re staying to places we’re gonna go
i went back to my parents house since everyday it’s a problem with her and the uncle. i wanted to go LC with her. she called my mom and complained that i don’t text her or call her and that she misses me. if she really misses me , she could text me instead of telling my husband, my mom, my dad , and her relatives. when i see her relatives they’re asking me why i don’t text or call her.
the list goes on, i’ll edit things when something pops up in my head, i got so exhausted from just typing out few things that happened in a span of 8 months
also my husband and i are waiting for the visa, im giving this marriage one last chance, im hoping things will be better if i live alone with him.

Bit of a rant here. I've always known my sister was dad's favorite and my brother mom's. Even some guests who came over once noticed this lol. But today I just realized how deep that goes.
My brother goes to a public uni using the credit hours system, that costs around 2000$ a year. My sister goes to a private uni, which is much more expensive. I asked my dad if I could enroll in the credit hours system when applying for uni, he said it's too expensive!
Another example? He was talking to me about cars and said he could buy me one but I'd have to pay the monthly installments. He just bought my sister a brand new car and didn't ask her for a penny. He did the same for my brother before her.
He told me to save up so I can pay for my army exemption. That's 5000$. He was more than happy to pay for my brother's, why not me?
Asked him to buy me some sunglasses because the sun gets in my eyes whenever we go out. He said I could have his old ones. No more than 2 months later, he bought my brother a 100$ perfume bottle just because he asked for it
My sister asked for some shoes, in comes 130$ for her new pair of shoes. I had to pay for mine myself, even though they were cheaper
My siblings get a monthly allowance of 75$ each. I get half of that.
Am I crazy or do I get less than my siblings? I don't even know how I'll manage to get into med school without applying to the credit hours system :(
Ooooh and a nice piece of advice I've received from my parents: When they found out I was having suicidal thoughts at EIGHT YEARS OLD via looking at my search history they told me to jump off the roof...

Title says it all.
Family time on mothers day with brothers in Canada. I've got two boomer parents and they raised 3 millennials (One being on the boarder of Genx-Millennial) with me being the youngest millennial. Two older brothers are hyper conservative Justin Trudeau Hating , pay too much taxes , hate the gays and immigrants gaming the system (Hypocrisy cause one brother is in the trades doing cash jobs half the time of course)
We were lower middle class but they raised us with love and gave us everything they could and sacrificed so much time working extra to pay for expensive things like hockey and family trips. Honestly they are amazing.
Brothers proceed to start ripping into all the usual conservative talking points for a few minutes and my boomer dad is just listening as he usually does because he doesn't like to discuss politics. I attempt to retort some completely incorrect points " Well Health Care is fucked because of the PM" (me) "Well no, the provinces are responsible for that portfolio" and its quickly turning into 2v1 where I just give up and walk away so they can continue the hate parade. Boomer dad who doesn't say much just gets up and walks into the middle of us, glares at my two brothers and opens his mouth to say something like this (Paraphrased) :
" Well boys, I thought I raised you better then this, you hit the fucking birth lottery living where we do. We raised to you be thankful for what you've got. You are both wildly more successful then me and your kids are far better off then you yet all you can do is sit here and spew hate and angry about the world. Your fridge is full of food, your drinking water isn't going to kill you, you live in one of the safest countries on the planet , You can love who you want to love and not be murdered, you don't have to worry about being bombed or invaded yet you ungrateful fucks are crying about gay people or immigrants wanting to seek a better life. You should both feel ashamed about the shit that you are spewing, you spoiled little twats"
Then just walked away. They didn't say shit and looked stunned for a solid 20 seconds before their lizard brain kicked in and said " what the fuck was that about" I just said " Dads right" and walked away too.
My dad is the most calm chill guy yet he just fucking unloaded on them, caught us all off guard and made the rest of mothers day dinner extremely awkward, especially when he basically gave another speech before dinner about how lucky they were to be together as a family and enjoy the meal while glaring at my two brothers when talking about how grateful he was.
It was fucking epic. I had a ton of respect for my dad prior to this , but he just sky rocketed to total fucking chad levels of awesome. (My mom is the same just would never say it out loud)
I called my dad the next day to thank him for 1) raising me with as much love as he did and 2) for verbally bitch slapping my brothers.
I am a very lucky person to be raised by them.
This is a shit on boomer sub but some boomers are awesome and we need to be reminded of that sometimes. Hence this post.
Sorry if it violates the rules of the sub :)

My cute dog (American Cocker Spaniel) will pass soon. He already had a bad start when he was still with his mom (inexperienced breeder). He spend the first few weeks in the hospital. Some of his brothers and sisters didn’t make it, but he did. When we had our first check up the vet told us that his lungs are not in a very good shape. The rest of his body was fine with the exception of his teeth which were close together and had some plague already.
During the years we encountered some problems. After weeks of searching what is happening we found he has an severe longterm allergy for beef. We eliminated everything which contains beef, they are everywhere even in Salmon Biscuits… after the elimination it went ok and we even got a second dog.
Everything was going well. He had some problems with teeth (bad shape, due to bad start and medicine there) and his temper like food protection or barking at cars / bikes, but it was fine and he got a good checkup every year including titer tests which were always ok. His health started to decline in the summer of 2023. He started limping on his front feed and was eating worse. We also noticed 2-3 weird spots on his skin which seems like hotspots. The vet told he was a bit heavy, he had a stiff neck and his intestines were a bit puzzled. A few sessions of acupuncture, good washing and balanced diet could help him, and it did help him for a few weeks.
In the winter his health suddenly declined and the weird spots on his skin increased and expanded over his entire body with crusts. He was losing a lot of hair. After a few vet visits, some medicine and some tests we discovered that he was highly allergy for almost everything you could imagine. This was a big message for me and my wife as it would mean we should change in the house a lot while we also have a other dog who lived the same life in perfect health. We switched to special hypoallergenic dog food of Hills so he does not react on that food and keep the other dog on his current food. We had to lock both pets apart and clean up where the other pet and also where we ate so he can’t get any other food in his stomach.
This worked for a few weeks. He remained happy when someone is home, we went to the forest or beach regularly and if I leave the house I always wants to be back as soon as possible to see my family again. I mainly work from home, so the two pets are always around and I have a deep emotional connection with them.
Unfortunately, the spots came back rapidly and he was shaking a lot. His teeth’s were also declining rapidly and his movement worsened that he could jump on the couch anymore and the stairs are done step for each step. We shifted from dexamethasone to Prednisone to see any difference, but recently we came to the conclusion that this and other treatments are not giving the results we and the vet wants. I was still looking for possible solutions, but my wife (had dogs in the past) and vet intervened that he is sick and everything we are doing could at the best only suppress symptoms, we were not making him better. EDIT: The vet said we were doing everything right on food, health etc. But basically his immune system is failing and not doing what it is supposed to do.
This week we decided to put him down. He will get his final rest next Saturday, on his fifth birthday. I’m devastated and keep crying that it is going to happen. Never had a pet during my youth and I’m just worried about the gap of the unconditional love he will leave. I’m also worried about my second dog who never has been alone and plays a lot with him and what this change will do with him.
While I’m writing this, my dog is sitting next to me and shaking. I find it very difficult he is passing at such a young age and weird thoughts are going through my mind if i could have prevented this, do things differently or anything to expand his time here with us. No matter what, I love him and keep carrying the awesome memories and the times he dragged me and my wife through really hard times in my heart. I saw this community and all the kind messages and advices, i thought i would give it a go also with my story and I’m open for advices on how to deal with the pain and some possible ideas to keep him close with me even if he is not there anymore.

Last weekend my wife and I had a discussion regarding our son, "L" and whether or not he should be held back a year before starting kindergarten. For context, L is turning 4 on June 7th. He currently spends 3 days a week at a daycare facility and 2 days with an in-home babysitter. We are looking into enrolling him into a montessori school in the fall. My wife is a teacher and will be home with him and his older brother for the summer.
L was slow to start talking, and our babysitter (who has a background in early childhood speech therapy) discussed the possibility that he had apraxia. Our firstborn was talking at an early age, so we felt kind of lost at where L was supposed to be at in terms of speech development and thought processing. After meeting with a couple specialists, we started working with a professional speech pathologist over the last year. She was not traditional in the sense that she wanted to diagnose L's condition outright however she pointed to indicators of neurodivergence and apraxia that she observed with him. Over the last 6-8 months, L's speech and pattern development has made significant progress, with many milestones being met. His pathologist has pointed all of this out, and noted that he is "nearing or at" developmental benchmarks of other kids his age.
A couple months ago we took a tour of the montessori school my wife wanted to transition L into this coming fall. Afterwards she explained that she had envisioned sending L there part time again, and then going full time the following year, holding him back from kindergarten until he was 6. I wasn't opposed to the idea, but thought it was a little early to decide that yet. Recently, the subject was brought up again and we seem to not be on the same page. My wife has pretty much made up her mind that this is the course of action she wants to pursue. I on the other hand would prefer to send L to montessori full time next year, and make a decision towards the end of the school year about whether or not he's ready for kindergarten.
Does anyone have some insight on this? I've read several articles about holding kids back, but they all seem to focus on the late-summer birthdays, where they're right on the cusp of the age cut-off. I've also read about a study that seemed to show that any advantage to holding them back a year was all but negated by the end of 1st grade.
Just to be clear, I'm not interested in any opinions about which one of us is "right." I just want to know if anyone has gone through a similar experience, how it went, and what you may have done differently. TIA

So, on Saturday my (f23) partner (m23) of 3.5 years and I were supposed to celebrate Mother’s Day since Sunday we had plans with my family for my son’s birthday/Mother’s Day/little brother was in town.
Even though it was not what I wanted to do, we spent most of the day doing laundry, grocery shopping, and cleaning. My son spent the night at my parents house. I said all I wanted was to get some Chinese food (mainly crab Rangoon) and watch a movie. I wanted to watch 28 days later but it doesn’t exist rn, so we put on 28 weeks later. He hasn’t seen either.
When we were bringing in the groceries, he brought in the 10lb log of ground beef and said something along the lines of “gonna give you my meat log tonight”. We laughed, it was fine. Then later we’re eating our food. We got 2 orders of crab Rangoon, 4 spring rolls, and 1 large shrimp lo main to share. As he’s eating a spring roll he holds it up, looks at me and says “what I said earlier? This is more like it” I laughed and said “nah I think you’re a nice healthy in between”. I realize now I probably should’ve said closer to the log, but in my mind I was saying above average. A good pleasing size. I could tell he didn’t really like my answer, I apologized and idk he just was quiet after that. He said he took it as being small. I said I meant it as being big but not 10lbs if ground beef big. He also didn’t eat, I didn’t want to dig in to the lo mein bc that’s more his thing and I specifically said I just wanted a few bites of it bc I usually don’t eat much of the entree, I’m a sides girlie lol.
We watched the movie, but the rest of the night was just quiet. At the start of the movie he didn’t even seem interested, it did catch his attention and he did enjoy the movie but idk. I just felt like the very short amount of time that was supposed to be about me and being a mother was really awkward and quiet. We just went to sleep after the movie.
Part of the reason I’m so upset is because last year was straight up a bad Mother’s Day. None of the plans I made worked out and my boyfriend was in a really bad mood the whole day. We were also in the process of moving.
He’s usually not like that especially on important days but I’m really upset that 2 years in a row Mother’s Day was kinda just eh at best, but awkward and not good is a better description imo. Like I’m not expecting a grand day of pampering. I just wanted to have a good day together. It’s been a few days but I’m still feeling kinda upset. We haven’t talked about it since, I did mention it yesterday in a text explaining why I was in a bad mood but he didn’t acknowledge that part, just the part that mentioned the issue we’ve been having about he bought a bike since we’re sharing a car with the intentions of riding it to work. The 3 times I’ve needed the car during the day since then, I’ve had to wake up and take him to work at 5:30 am. He originally wanted to buy a motorized bike but couldn’t find one in our price range so he dropped $140 on this bike the week before my son’s birthday and Mother’s Day, when we’re already tight on money. He said he’ll buy a motor for it soon when we have the money. My car has been needing the cv axels replaced for almost a year now. He said he doesn’t want to ride th e bike on this one stretch of road where the speed increases and the streetlights decrease. I understand that, I don’t really want him riding it there either. What I’m irritated about is the fact he sold his old broken down car and long ago he promised when he did that, he’d put the money towards my car. Because around Christmas time I agreed to let him get a newer used car instead of fixing my car because my car was more likely to just have more problems sooner than the new one would. Then he uses a good portion of the money on a bike he’s not gonna ride for an undetermined amount of time, which means we could’ve had more money for bday and Mother’s Day/more money towards getting my car running. Like, he didn’t get much for the car it was pretty much scrap.
Sorry, I ended up kinda ranting about the bike more than I intended to but yeah. Am I wrong for feeling the way I do?

Hello everyone,
I have a recurring problem with German-speaking people on the phone and I'm hoping to get some advice on how to deal with it. The problem is that they often interrupt me when I'm speaking and it's really frustrating. They also finish my sentences for me with what they think I'm going to say, which is usually wrong.
I want to know how to be polite but firm in these situations. (But I'd also like to know how to express my anger without necessarily being polite.) How can I express that it's important for me to finish my sentences without coming across as rude myself? Could someone please give me some phrases or strategies to use when dealing with these interruptions?
For example, how would I say something like, "Why don't you let me finish my sentence? It's very rude of you to keep interrupting me when I'm speaking" in German?
Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
Edit: I speak German to them, although my speech is quite slow. It´s really difficult to find someone who tolerates my German and let's me finish my sentence.

5 years ago, I was told by a paediatrician that I fit the DSM-5 for ASD level 2, as well as having sensory processing difficulties.
I’m now a young adult and I’m seriously reevaluating this diagnosis, and starting to see how my “symptoms” align more closely with the ADHD diagnostic criteria.
As a kid, I was socially anxious, really obsessed with being perceived as the smartest kid around because of my above average memory for things like number plates, birthdays, pi digits and science facts. Now that I’ve matured, I’ve completely dropped caring about those trivial things and I don’t have any major obsessions, nor do I remember information particularly well nowadays.
The only ongoing symptoms I have related to autism are trouble with eye contact, speech intonation, picky eating habits and being very straightforward. But I’m suspicious about potentially being under the ADHD spectrum, my reasons being: I procrastinate A LOT, I need deadlines or I won’t do the work, I’m very spontaneous and hate planning, my space ends up cluttered and disorganised no matter how hard I try to keep it tidy, I stumble over my words, I’m a leg jiggler, can never be 100% still, and I do go through hyperfixations.
I’m no expert, I’m not trying to self diagnose or fish for attention to be on the neurodivergent spectrum. all the autism treatment I’ve received over the years has never fully helped at all. I think that autism treatment does not work because my areas of struggle are not autism-related — rather ADHD. I do not need help in areas of socialising, I have trouble holding back emotions and being lazy.
All it definitely feeling more like ADHD to me. Whatever it is, I’d like to find out so that I can receive the correct treatment and function better in life. What do you guys think?

I apologize this will be a long post:
Well everyone let me just say my Mother is a text book narcissist. Diagnosed. I held on to our relationship because of my younger brothers. I wanted my family to be happy. I lied to myself and held on to the good I saw; even though I know it’s all an act and manipulation for control and her own fucked up toxic validation. I made excuses because she herself had an incredibly fucked up childhood. She also has been diagnosed and takes medication.
The amount of physical pain, abuse and mental anguish my Mother has caused my family is unreal. The pathological lying is unremarkable. She will have a melt down the second you unveil her scheme or correct her. Her MO is she is always “dying” or “sick”. Constantly seeking attention and validation. She is a master at jamming wedges in between people as well as making everyone look like the “bad guy”.
She is a queen at manipulating. Recently she finally was flagged by the State as a drug seeker. She doctor shops to get pills and had many prescriptions for pain pills. The 30 years prior she was a raging alcoholic. Ever since they cut her pills she has began to spiral. Worse than I have ever seen. I knew something was coming.
My Father just died, on my birthday, a few weeks ago. Of course she was no where to be seen and completely unhelpful. The one day she came, when my Father was actively dying, and said in her best actress “oh poor me” voice. “Oh I also had some MRIs this week. Been going to my Doctor and said to him to do everything he can. I don’t want my daughter to have to lose both her parents”. She has Fibromyalgia. She kept talking about her sickness and doctors while my Dad lay there. Actually dying.
Lastly, my Brother and Father hadn’t talked in 6 years. He and I also are not on good terms so of course I tried to go through her. I kept begging her to bring my brother to see my Father. Begged her to have him call me so I could put the phone on speaker. I wanted so desperately for my Brother to talk to him. My Brother wanted to talk to the doctor before coming to visit. He did not believe my Mother that my Dad was actually dying. Understandable, she is a liar.
I gave the hospital his number and asked to have him added as someone the doctor can speak with. All of us were added to a healthcare proxy file. I gave the doctor his number and asked him to call my Brother. The doctor went and spoke with my Father and my Father said “No” when asked if the doctor could call. It was out of my hands and devastated me. It broke in to many pieces. I wanted my Brother there. My Mother refused to bring him (he is disabled and cannot drive).
The day before my Father passed I texted my Mother and she knew my brother was added and I gave the doctor his number. The morning my Father died I again asked her to bring my brother she replied “Your Dad said no, so”. The day after my Father died I received the most horrible texts from my brother. My Mother lied and said that I never told her he had permission to call or see my Dad. She never told my brother he could call or even tried to get him to go in person.
This was my snapping point. Of all the abuse and times she made everything about her. The fights at holidays or special events. The drama and the lies this is by far the absolute worst thing she could ever have done. My father is now dead and my brother will never have closure. She would rather this so she can play the hero to my brother and the victim because me her “horrible daughter” has treated her “badly”.
I know she is a raging narcissist. I know how she is and what she does everytime. Always makes things about her but when my Father was dying?! After he died?! I knew the time would come when I couldn’t take it any more but this. THIS?!
I finally told her off. I finally called her everything she is. I know it doesn’t matter because a narcissist is never wrong and she will lie to everyone until the day she dies. Unlike my Father I will not be there. May she die alone and miserable. May her karma bring her nothing but suffering.
I never thought she could break my heart enough to the point that I finally feel nothing. The years I spent crying so hard and all the trauma she has burned into my soul. I can’t take it any more. I am truly heartbroken.
I fucking hate her. Finally. I feel nothing any more. The small ounces of hope. The love for the woman I want her to be. I can no longer deny and make excuses. I am done and I am not going back.
Thank you for listening if you made it this far.
I’m just so unbelievably sad.

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Hello everybody. I have a serious speech for you. The fact, that we (Global players) won’t get the outfit voting, disappointed me. And I have been observing this kind of attitude towards us from developers for quite a long time. We are constantly deprived of everything possible. The developers only demand money from us and do not give anything in return. I think this shouldn't continue. I propose to organize a protest towards Warner Brothers, namely: give them a 1 star in the App Store or Play Market and write your complaints in the review; Write your complaints in feedback; Spread this call wherever you can. Maybe this way we will achieve justice. We don't have to put up with this!
I’m writing here an example for your review as I’ve written: The developers have absolutely no respect for their players. They just demand money from us and give nothing in return. There is no season content, there are no normal costumes, there is no choice of costumes that you might like, there is no honest matching. But the donation function to the game works perfectly. I'm disappointed, Warner Brothers.

I (22m) am the youngest of my siblings. My oldest sister Casey (31f) is my hero. She has done so much for me and the rest of our siblings (23f, 25m and 26f) and they never acknowledge it and only talk about Casey being a bitch to our mom or saying she should be pulling her weight more when it comes to mom.
Background on our childhood is probably relevant here: Casey never really had a parent. Our parents were both shitty people and our father was in and out of prison. Our mother was super hard on Casey and treated her like shit. Casey is also the kid who looks most like our father. Our mother was never kind or caring toward Casey but she wanted her to be those things for us, so she pushed our mother to take care of us and would be there in the background trying to make it happen. But Casey was often left doing a lot too. She walked us all to school when we were little, she didn't hang out with friends because she was babysitting or taking care of us. Casey's birthday was forgotten for years and it was pretty much every year until I wrote it down and made sure I brought it up so she'd be celebrated. The rest of our birthdays were celebrated because Casey wrote it down for our mother. She knew it was pointless doing it for herself because our mother hated her.
Casey got a part time job when she was 14 and would help pay for stuff. She saved up to go to prom and spent all the money on us because our mother had none at the time. She didn't go to prom. Instead she worked that night for more money.
I always saw it. My siblings always saw our mother as their hero and would get mad at Casey for fighting with mother. They saw our mother as the greatest. And she treated us better generally than Casey but the only reason she was involved with us was because of Casey.
So for Mother's Day this year my siblings all wanted to do this big celebration of our mother because she was diagnosed with chronic liver disease and they fear she won't be around much longer. Casey wanted no part in it. My other siblings were pissed. I told them Casey owed our mother nothing and they fought with me. It was a huge deal and when Casey didn't show up on Mother's Day it set them off. I wasn't there either and I chose to go to Casey's and celebrate with her and my BIL and their kids. My other siblings were being so shitty to Casey in our group chat so I told them they should be more understanding after all Casey had done for us, and I listed examples, and given the fact our mother treated her like shit, and I listed examples. I told them Casey was more deserving of our Mother's Day celebrations and not mother.
They called me a bad son and a bad brother and said I was sick just like Casey.
AITA?

I'll try to keep this as short as possible. If you need more inforamtion, feel free to ask me. :)

1. A long time ago, I had a dream that I was in a huge pool looking for a friend in a huge crowd. I found out in high school that the pool was a wave pool at hurricane harbor and I was looking for my friend james. How do I know? Because I was looking around and my head stopped at exactly the right angle because my view suddenly looked identical to the one in my dream, down to the people and what they were floating on.

That was my first and last visual example. I've only ever gotten feelings about things since then, but they come with some oddly specific quirks that no intellectually honest person can ignore.

1. To the best of my knowledge, uncle Jimmy was the first time that it had happened with in a lot of years. I was standing right by my bed outside the bathroom when I had the weirdest feeling come over me. THe though "it would be kind of odd if Uncle Jim passed away suddenly. I stopped dead in my tracks but only for about half a second before I just laughed at how silly that was, then procided to completely forget about it for the next couple of months. Until uncle Jim died out of the blue.
   
2. The exact same thing happened with Granny about a month after uncle JIm had died.
   
3. It might have happened with mom.
   
4. It happened with Eric.
   
5. And finally... My really close friend named Dave . He tells me he's going on a road trip for the weekend and I told him to have fun. What happened next outright floored me.
   

I had that same "wouldn't it be funny/weird if twords Dave, but this one came with a direct warning. I had this really weird feeling that I needed to send Dave a message telling hmm he would be in a car wreck and to take measures to avoid travel by car for a while. THe reason I didin't say anything is because I was still badly doubting myself. His brother made the heart breaking post some days later. He had died in a car accident.
And that self doubt is why I didn't say anything about Eric.
Are there any good ways to test for this and/or master it?

Hi. I don't know how i found this subreddit i just googled some stuff ended up here and read some posts. Just to clarify I dont have a diagnosed CPTSD? I'd just like to share how my life has been because I genuinely have my whole life been thinking either what the fuck is wrong with my life theres no way this is normal and then sometimes i just think that im overreacting and my life has been completely normal. I'd like to know if im just imagining it or not I guess. Also I'd like to add that im doing somewhat better and im not experiencing THOSE bad thoughts anymore so please don't like report my account for being a danger to myself (I think that's a feature on reddit?). Im still a bit messed up but like still MUCH better than I used to be.
Honestly I read this whole thing and im adding here that I rant a lot maybe im just ranting about all the bad things in my life... Just a warning I guess. Don't read this if that's not what you want to read, this ended up super long sorry. Also I dont know if this is even relevant anymore. Half of this rant is about my family and other half about other bad things that happened I think. I don't know if this sub is only about like family stuff im sorry if this is the wrong place. Also trigger warning I had some thoughts about ending it and some self harm.
The first 10 years of my life were semi normal from my memory. Its been a while since those times and I dont remember it that well. I remember my parent's fought semi often (which is normal?) and some of my earliest memories were them yelling, fighting at night, my mother going out at night and yelling that shes never coming back, and a few times my mother doing stuff like talking in a scary voice and i remember crying and saying it was scary I think but she just kept doing it (while it was night and I was probably trying to sleep/go to sleep). I was also the middlechild so my parents always treated my older and younger sibling better like them having better stuff to some amount but not like a ridiculous amount. I also remember being scolded a lot by everyone if I did anything slightly wrong even by accident and I remember my brothers not being scolded at all if they did anything similaworse. Anyways I still mostly remember being semi happy and my life being somewhat normal if not just completely normal and im just focusing too much on the bad stuff. I also remember having sleep paralysises and nightmares a lot around when i was like I'd assume up to 12 years old and a weird thing i realized some time ago is that a lot of time in those nightmares/sleep paralysises the monsteperson that was scaring me was either of my parents. Anyways maybe im just reading into things and its a normal dream. I genuinely don't know if im just being a weirdo and my life was normal and im reading too much into stuff I dont want to pretend like my life was bad if it wasn't im just wondering so please don't get angry at me if its not im just wondering. Oh also my family really never spent much time with me atleast I dont remember them being around and mostly working when I wanted to play. I also remember my mother avoiding me like when I asked to spend time with them they just said no and to do something else. I was really bored as a child but I had videogames atleast so I mostly spent my time around them. Oh also 1 person who I thought was my friend beat me up at school because I said something mild not even at them that their class was worse than ours? I also passed out at school and I dont remember why and I remember my big brother just walking by me without saying a word when I had awoken in the hallway (they saw me and just ignored me...)
Anyways. When I turned 11 or so we moved while I was still in middle of elementary school so I had to leave the few friends I had behind (but my brothers didnt as the other was just beginning elementary school and other was entering middle school). I didn't really make any friends within the school and the few I did dropped me out when they realized I wasn't exactly popular. The teacher and other kids made school hard and while I usually achieved perfect grades i started barely passing in school because of how much I hated it. I also started forgetting stuff too and the teacher scolded me a lot because of that. I started being bullied to some amount by the other kids and my teacher so I started stress eating a lot and got kinda fat. Then they started bullying me about me being fat. I also had really no friends or contacts. I remember being extremely stressed out and my big brother making fun of me because of that. Then I remember getting depressed. I started not really trying anything anymore. My family didn't help they made fun of me being fat. Also I remember not really being physically attacked much but im pretty sure I at some point complained about my big brother hitting me with a controller in my head. But I dont remember if that actually happened? Knowing them it might have. Anyways I remember crying every morning around this age until I didn't anymore. I cried almost every morning because I didnt want to wake up and go to school and my parents sent me there anyways. The kids there made fun of that too I remember one of them asking "why is (me) crying every day" and someone answered to them "that I must be so happy"? Anyways eventually I stopped crying. I just didn't feel anything anymore other than anxiety and sadness and anger rarely. Mind you, through this my family didn't give a fuck about how I went from a somewhat happy child to someone who stayed inside all the time, went from healthy to fat within like a year and didn't feel anything anymore. They just focused on their own things. I started getting suicidal thoughts. I remember when I was a child (even younger) and I learned what suicide ment. I remember wondering why the hell anyone would ever want to do that. And now I felt like I wanted to do that. That's how bad I felt. I remember thinking what my family would think/how they would react if I drowned myself in the river. I went outside often at random times and just thought about doing it. I walked by this like electricity thing and I thought if I touched it would it kill me. Mind you these were just thoughts. I never actually acted to the point that I tried to do anything and I dont think I was doing that bad. I didn't act on these thoughts. I remember once coming home from one of these walks hoping they would wonder where I had been since I was like 12 and my mother just smiled at me (almost like she knew I was trying to get attention from them and with like an evil smile rather than a good one?) and said I was just outside walking to the others. I remember even thought I was the one who played the most games in my family, we got a PS3 and the old PS2 went to my littlebrother along the old TV from my big brother. Even thought the other played only a little and the other didn't play at all ever. I don't know if I was just being a brat but it felt bad taken that videogames were the only thing that made me a bit happy in my home. I remember them doing other stuff too like my big brother often telling me to kill myself, doing stuff like pointing a toy gun at me and like pretending to shoot me and telling me to stop pretending like i was misunderstood (I was depressed and having suicidal thoughts... at 12). Other things I remember is a teacher calling me fat (made me feel a bit bad...) as a joke and my teacher sending me to a class for trouble children with bad grades (even thought I told her I got a bad grade on the exam because no one told me that we had an exam so I couldn't read for it. I was sick when they said we had one btw in school which is why I didnt know) and even thought I clearly didn't belong to that class since the other people seemed to actually not be able to get good grades, i started trying in school just a bit so they would see my grades are good and get me out of that class since I felt bad being there because the others made fun of me because of that too. The teacher there was an ass who constantly spoke to me and the others like we were braindead and i genuinely hated her. It was clear I didnt belong there but they just kept me there the rest of the year. I started sleeping like only 3 hours a night since I was 11 until highschool ended because I didn't want the next day to begin. I just stayed up all night playing games and doing other stuff. Pretty much always other than vacations and weekends I slept like 3-5 hours only. I think that made my grades even worse and I don't remember much from some years of my life where I slept the least im assuming because of the lack of sleep? Or depression idk.
Anyhow things stayed like this. I felt extremely bad and had no motivation but I just kept on living my life. Later on when I went to middleschool at 13 years old I found for the first time some friends. I felt somewhat better, like I belonged for the first time in my life. My depression went away somewhat. Other things stayed the same thought my family still acted the way they always did. Still with my friends I felt like I was okay. I forgot about how bad my life had been a few years. I still had a challenge getting that close to anyone and didnt have self confidence and didnt feel outright happy but I was somewhat okay. I remember at the middle of middle school I got depressed again. I didn't remember that it was a feeling I had always had the past few years because back then I was so out of it. I remember just feeling like there was a void in my heart like to the point it physically hurt every now and then. I guess I realized that more than half of the middle school was over and I knew my friends would leave me behind when it's over since I had a hard time getting too close to them. And that's what brought the depression. I remember some months after since I still felt depressed telling my mother I was depressed and she just kept on working and saying in a monotone voice that "oh really? that means you have to go to therapy". And it scared me I didnt know what that would be like so I just said never mind and walked back to my room. Anyways middle school ended none of my friends stayed in contact I got super depressed. Because of my lack of good grades other than the last half few months which is the only time period where I tried and got very good grades, my overall average in middle school almost prevented me from getting to high school. I remember my dad just saying that "sorry I guess you tried your best it wasn't enough" something along those lines. Like wtf I didnt try my best I was depressed and slept 3 hours and didnt study at all so I could spent all my time with videogames and my few friends so I could feel a little bit of happiness in my life. I didn't have the fucking motivation to study at all... Anyhow I got to highschool.
So highschool was the worst. But honestly im getting tired of writing. I had THOSE bad thoughts again, we have to go to army when we get out of highschool in my country so that scared the hell out of me, I didn't focus on school was bullied, family was just causing problems. No wait I do want to write a couple things here. When I was 17 i developed bad OCD. I didnt go out of my room anymore. I didnt want to touch anything that had been in my school and then anything that had touched those things I didnt want to touch either. Something called contamination OCD apparently? I spent at ages 17 to 18 probably 2-5 hours average daily on compulsions. I felt like a mindless puppet. I keep thinking how much better grades I'd have got if i spent that time on studying. Once my big brother really invaded my personal space and it upset me and made me so stressed because of OCD related stuff that I took a semi sharp object from my TV remote and slashed my leg a few times to a point that I still can see the scar. I also got angry and felt bad easily when I lost in a videogame or such and sometimes bit my hand in anger. My parents also wanted me to go to army instead of trying to not go there (theres a few alternatives). But at this point I stopped liking my family. So i knew I was not going to do that or what they want. I had dreamed since I was 15 of when I'd get to move away and never see these people...
Anyhow. Im 23 now. I worked through a lot of my issues. Not fat anymore. I go outside now. I sleep a normal amount. I exercise. My OCD i managed to best atleast to the point that im able to function mostly normally like I wouldn't even have it. Still depressed probably I don't remember what it felt like to feel to be honest so I don't know if I am depressed? Haven't had THOSE thoughts in many years. Haven't self harmed myself in years. Still have no friends because i have quite a bad social anxiety due to my life. Still thought for the first time in years... maybe since I was 11. I feel like my life is not going a steep downhill. I feel like it's getting better actually. And i've felt like that some time as of writing this as I began to fix my life and my issues.
The most annoying thing is... it's been so many years. My life has changed so much. The family I have im still in ties with to some amount even though I'd like to not be. They dont seem bad now? That bad? But I still want to get away from them completely and never see them. I just FEEL like I need to do that. But I dont know if they even were that bad. That's what I want to know here. Is my family normal. Is there something wrong with me and I imagine they are bad? I might end up deleting this post and my account. This is just a throwaway. I just want to know. I need outside input. I've been so alone that I never had that. I need to know if im imagining that I had a bad life or if it was not normal. I literally feel like I cant view my past objectively because I can't remember much. There were happy memories too in my childhood. A lot of them. Atleast some years of it. Im just picking the bad examples. I managed to enjoy some of my time back then. I just cant realize whether theres something wrong with other people especially my family and the bad people in school or if im the problem. If you actually read this, anyone, thank you. You probably know more about my life and existance than anyone else other than me since I've spent so much of my life alone.

I take beta blockers like Propanalol to calm me down of adrenaline
My head and hands no longer shake. But I noticed I speak too fast still.
I work in reception dealing front desk and calls.
When I play the calls back hearing my voice it's too trembly and fast.
I've been trying to focus and slow down my speech for weeks but not working.
Maybe a supplement can help?

I (44f) returned my birthday gift to my mother yesterday. My mother is narcissistic, toxic, dramatic, manipulative, and cruel. She has treated me like crap my whole life by always putting me last, and I have seen her celebrate other female family members like my cousins or her daughter in laws by spending time with them and being kind to them. She treats me opposite. She refuses to spend any time with me. It’s awful.
Last week, she wanted to take my son out who is 5 to buy his birthday gifts to make sure his clothes fit and his birthday is in June. I refused. I’ve asked her to take me out shopping for shoes, and she says to go to the store, pick them out, and then leave them with the cashier. Then, phone her and she will buy them. Okay. Or to send her what I want. She never does anything with me.
Also, I am plus size. No shame is this. I have lost 60 pounds. She’s aware of this because I told her. Every birthday or holiday, she buys me clothes from the same store for 20 years which she thinks I should wear and they are always too big for me. She buys me shoes and sandals I don’t wear. However, she always buys my husband, my sons, my sister in laws whatever they ask for. For me, it’s never what I ask for or want.
Also, the clothes bothers me because she’s put me on diets since I was 10. I weighed 150 pounds and I was 5’6. She took me to weight watchers and said I was fat. My whole teenage years she had me on diet after diet, going to the gym and having really low self esteem and thinking I was ugly and fat until I met my husband. Her buying me these too big clothes triggers me that she is trying to tell me what I wear isn‘t up to her expectations and makes me feel insecure all other again.
Last week, she asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I said I would like money even $20 because I am going on vacation this summer. She said no and she was buying me clothes from the same stores and would include receipts. I told her not to buy them because I wouldn’t wear them. It’s a waste of money. She didn’t listen to me again and bought them.
I gave her flowers on Friday for Mother’s Day with a nice card. This is what she asked for. So, she dropped my gift off yesterday when I wasn’t even home. She never thanked me for the flowers and ignored me on Mother’s Day. I opened the gift and it was clothes that don’t fit and shoes I don’t wear. So, I left the gift at her door with the receipts. No explanation.
I got a phone call last night at ten. She left me a voice mail calling me a disgusting b$tch and she was telling all her sisters I returned the gift. Then, she called me a horrible mother and she would go to cps because my kids don’t know how to talk to her. My preteens don’t want to talk to her. She embarrassed them and my one son sees how she treats me with his own eyes and doesn’t want to be around her. I’m not going to force him. She said I’m ruining her relationships with her daughter in laws. I don’t see them at all- her dils.
So, Aita for leaving the gift at her door with receipts? She said I wouldn’t be getting the $400 back she would get once she returned the gifts which I don’t want obviously.
Extra note: I went through ivf to have my youngest child. She wanted me to do gender selection and she is Catholic. She wanted me to have a girl. I refused. I ended up with my son and when she found out he was a boy she says it was the worst day of her life and she would never accept him. I also started bleeding with him 3 months into the pregnancy and almost lost him. She was shopping with my sil 10 minutes from the doctor. She refused to come and see if I was ok. This one example of how awful she is to me.

So I'm new to having an ADHD diognosis and I want to ask what is the difference between these two and from these 3 examples would you say I struggle with object permanence or forgetfulness? I'm just saying things I think may vaugely be related they might not even idk I'm not an expert
1. When my mum goes to bed I get very anxious because her room is closed off and I can't go in and see her. It feels like she's gone but I do know she is just behind the door but it fills me with a lot of anxiety. Bear in mind throughout the day I don't have eyes on her 24/7 and also yes I am allowed to open her bedroom door if I had to but she's sleeping.
2. I take milk in a bottle with me to figure skating practice. When I get home I put my bag down and don't think about the bottle until I open my bag to pack it for next week and I have explosive (due to the fermentation gasses built up in my bottle) rotten milk. It happens every time. I cannot for the life of me remember it it's just not a problem for me until it is.
3. Buying birthday gifts I hide the gifts and then forget they exist so I buy another and sometimes people will get a decent few gifts off me because I just keep buying them.

Hello, welcome to the Brazilian Classics Rate! This rate covers five albums released between the years 1968 and 1974, exploring the likes of Tropicália, MPB, Samba, and more. We are excited to enjoy this music with both long time fans, and also welcome newcomers to experience these all-time favorites for the first time.
Note: I am not Brazilian and am not a Portuguese writer / speaker. My apologies if anything is lost in translation through this process.
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About once a month, this subreddit holds games called “rates” where a host selects a collection of songs and people score each song on a scale of 1-10 (with a single 11 & a 0 available as well). Ballots of these scores are submitted, and then over “reveal” weekend, the host takes the averages of the songs and eliminates them from worst to best, giving one song out of all the albums the top spot, the crown, & bragging rights forever.
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Os Mutantes - Os Mutantes (1968)
Os Mutantes was made up of Rita Lee, and the brothers Arnaldo Baptista and Sérgio Dias. In 1968 Os Mutantes released their debut album, were featured on the Tropicália Ou Panis Et Circenses compilation, and performed as the backing band for Gilberto Gil's self-titled second album. The Tropicália movement embraced taking international ideas and re-interpreting them, combining them to create something Brazilian. Os Mutantes will likely be a favorite for those who love psychedelic rock.

1. Panis et Circenses
2. A Minha Menina
3. O Relógio
4. Adeus, Maria Fulô
5. Baby
6. Senhor F
7. Bat Macumba
8. Le premier bonheur du jour
9. Trem Fantasma
10. Tempo no Tempo
11. Ave Gengis Khan

Gal Costa - Gal Costa (1969)
Another featured artist from the Tropicália Ou Panis Et Circenses compilation, Gal Costa released her debut album in 1967, and her follow-up self titled album in 1969. Gal Costa was close friends with both Gilberto Gil and Caetano Veloso as well as their spouses, and Gal Costa's bossa nova debut Domingo was a close collaboration with Veloso. By the release of Gal Costa we hear more of the impact of Tropicália and psychedelia on her sound. This self titled album features more songs from writers besides Veloso, including songs written by Gilberto Gil, Rosil Cavalcanti, Tom Zé, Roberto Carlos, Erasmo Carlos, Jorge Ben, and Torquato Neto.

1. Não Identificado
2. Sebastiana
3. Lost in the Paradise
4. Namorinho de Portão
5. Saudosismo
6. Se Você Pensa
7. Vou Recomeçar
8. Divino, Maravilhoso
9. Que Pena (Ele Já Não Gosta Mais de Mim)
10. Baby
11. A Coisa Mais Linda Que Existe
12. Deus é o Amor

Clube Da Esquina - Clube Da Esquina (1972)
The Clube Da Esquina name (Corner Club) refers to a corner of the street where Lô Borges used to live, and Borges and Milton Nascimento played for fun in the 1960s.
“I hope our young people don’t allow themselves to be swept up in this dictatorship business, because they don’t understand what it was like,” said [Milton Nascimento] who was stalked by agents from the notorious department of political and social order as his career took off in the 1960s. “Whenever we were going to release a song we had to send it to them for them to censor.” Eventually, Nascimento’s manager rented an isolated beach house where the musicians were free to compose the record of their lives. “It was wonderful … just us and the waves rolling up to our front door,” said Borges. “We weren’t thinking about selling millions of records or being the next big summer hit. We just wanted to make art.” Nascimento smiled as he recalled how that legendary album was conceived half a century ago, far from the prying eyes of the dictatorship. “It was a record made just by friends … We’d spend all day composing, from the moment we awoke with the fishermen bringing in their nets to the moment we went to bed.”
The cover of the album features a picture of two boys playing in rural Rio de Janeiro by the photographer Carlos da Silva Assunção Filho (also known as Cafi).

1. Tudo Que Você Podia Ser
2. Cais
3. O Trem Azul
4. Saídas e Bandeiras Nº 1
5. Nuvem Cigana
6. Cravo e Canela
7. Dos Cruces
8. Um Girassol Da Cor De Seu Cabelo
9. San Vicente
10. Estrelas
11. Clube da Esquina Nº 2
12. Paisagem Da Janela
13. Me Deixa Em Paz
14. Os Povos
15. Saídas e Bandeiras Nº 2
16. Um Gosto De Sol
17. Pelo Amor De Deus
18. Lilia
19. Trem De Doido
20. Nada Será Como Antes
21. Ao Que Vai Nascer

Novos Baianos - Acabou Chorare (1972)
By popular demand, Novos Baianos has been added to the rate mix! As suggested by their name, Novos Baianos were founded in the state of Bahia in 1969. During the making of Acabou Chorare, they were mentored by the "Father of Bossa Nova", João Gilberto. The album's title (translated as No More Crying) also came from a story about Gilberto's daughter.
Note: the album has two versions of Preta Pretinha, track 2 which is the full version and track 10 which seems to have been a radio edit. We are only rating the full version of the song.

1. Brasil Pandeiro
2. Preta Pretinha
3. Tinindo, Trincando
4. Swing de Campo Grande
5. Acabou Chorare
6. Mistério do Planeta
7. A Menina Dança
8. Besta É Tu
9. Um Bilhete Pra Didi

Jorge Ben Jor - A Tábua de Esmeralda (1974)
"I’m not in any movement, no. I think movements adopted me."
Jorge Ben Jor is the first recorded artist of the five here, but A Tábua De Esmeralda is chronologically our latest recorded album of the rate. This one is arguably a concept album; influenced by the Hermetic text "The Emerald Tablet" as well as Jorge's interest in alchemy, and features songs focused on Afro-Brazilian identity such as "Zumbi".

1. Os alquimistas estão chegando os alquimistas
2. O homem da gravata florida
3. Errare humanum est
4. Menina mulher da pele preta
5. Eu vou torcer
6. Magnólia
7. Minha teimosia, uma arma pra te conquistar
8. Zumbi
9. Brother
10. O namorado da viúva
11. Hermes Trismegisto e sua celeste tábua de esmeralda
12. Cinco minutos

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Listen to each song and assign each a score between 1 and 10. Decimals are fine, but please refrain from giving decimal scores with more than 1 spot. This is because I'm using a computer program to parse the votes and print everything out (more on that later).
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You can change your scores at any time! Feel free to PM me at any point after submission before the deadline and I'll be happy to revise them for you.
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Formatting
Songs - This is correct (single space after colon):
Brother: 7
You may also and are generally encouraged to leave comments with your scores!
This is correct (single space after score):
Brother: 7 I am having fun listening to this song!
These are incorrect:
Brother7 I am having fun listening to this song!
Brother: 7: I am having fun listening to this song!
Brother: (7) I am having fun listening to this song!
Brother: I am having fun listening to this song! 7
Brother - 7 I am having fun listening to this song!
Albums: You can also comment on the complete albums by adding a colon after the album name and then your comment, like so:
Album: Acabou Chorare I am having fun listening to this album!
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Hello. Im thinking about going on vacation, but im a bit worried about the travel part.. has anyone done any long, or short traveling while having ME/CFS? More specifically by plane/air travel? If so, how was it? Any tips? Any stories? i just want to hear other peoples insights.
I haven’t been outside my country since around 2018 or 2019. I just want, or need a vacation, a place I can enjoy, fully relax, and just experience something new, maybe..
I am 18, and I live in Norway. Right now, my cfs/me is “mild”, I think...?

My idea and/or thoughts.
I have thought about going to South Korea (maybe with my older brother), since I find their culture very interesting, ive also been learning their language for a little while, so I thought that would be fun. However, the travel from Norway to S. Korea would be at least 20 hours. (going from the capital, Oslo, then having a layover (I think that’s what its called) somewhere else, then from that place to S. Korea.) So, doing some research, with arriving at the airport a few hours before my flight, it would take me at minimum around 20 hours before I would be in S. Korea! This is quite a long time.. so I am a bit worried that it might “exhausted” me.
If I took this trip, it would be in June, a week before the summer break official starts. I thought this would be a perfect yeatime, because my exams start earlier than usually this year. Which means I would be able to leave/go a little bit earlier. As in before the summer actually starts. (so maybe there would be a tiny bit less people/other tourist?)
But besides the air travel, and getting very tried, I also have some other worries, for example about the heat? Doing some research, Korea can be quite warm and humid during the summer. So im wondering if the heat or new climate would be too much for me? In addition to my other CFS/ME symptoms..
My main symptoms are that im very tired.. I sleep a lot, and I need a lot of rest. I am also very thirsty, I drink a lot of water (I made a previous post about that), and I’ve noticed I sweat a lot more now..? even with barely doing “big” activities, its very annoying... Oh, and I also have sleep problems, I have had those for a little over two year now. I take melatonin every night before I go to sleep, but still. (so because of the sleep problems, perhaps its would also be hard going to a country with an 8 other difference?).
Also, I thought about just booking a shorter trip, with a shorter plane ride to just test out how I feel. For example from where I live, to maybe Belgium, or a bit further, like for example to Spain. But im not sure.. I have also thought about just dropping the S. Korea trip for now, and go somewhere else instead (in Europe), since the trip/travel/flights would be shorter.. but I kind of, really want to go to Korea, and if I don’t go this year, I might not be able to go for another 2 years, depend on my CFS/ME, and just school/exam(s) in general…
Edit: sorry about the long post, if I repeated myself, or for any spelling mistakes.

One thing I love about this show is the repetition of lines for example Greg’s good man speech at the beginning and end of the show, or when Sherlock shouts at John in HOTB “There is nothing wrong with me” and then in HLV when John shouts at Mary “There is nothing the matter with me….imagine I said that without shouting” There are loads more but I can’t think of any right now.