My other three scarlets are likely buried, but the one that has been super active on the surface for the past week or so suddenly stopped moving in the front corner of the enclosure.
I decided after two days of them being in the same place to poke at them a little and they did move their legs, but now they're still not moving 😞
How do I know if they're okay?

I've recently got into pc gaming so forgive me if I'm being an idiot but when I try to play the game it shows an error saying I need visual c ++. I've tried downloading this from windows website but the only one i can download is the 2008 version. When I download the file for the 2012-22 version and click the app download to install it does nothing at all. Any help would be massively appreciated.

TRIGGER WARNING: MENTION OF ABUSE, CHILD S*XUAL ABUSE, S*ICIDE
tl;dr: I'm trying to figure out if my husband could be a narcissist, or emotionally immature, or some mashup of both. Could someone explain this to me like I'm five?
(If this isn’t the right group, please point me in the right direction)
I tried my best to condense, but it’s a really long one. I’m sorry.
A breakdown of the pertinent info:

Me: F, mid-fifties, just returned to PT work outside of home Husband: M, mid-fifties, always worked a regular job, main wage earner Married: 30+ years w/adult kids (no longer at home)

For a while, I've thought my husband has definitely shown signs of narcissistic behavior. I won't list everything, but a few things are that he is definitely argumentative (over seemingly insignificant issues), jealous, needy for my attention and flies off the handle if he feels ignored, his only "love language" seems to be sex (and any lack of it means I don't love him), he loves the silent treatment which is always followed by a huge blowup and then love-bombing, he always one-ups me (he works harder, he feels worse, he is more tired, etc). There's more, but I'm trying to keep this short. I will say that he has never physically hurt me, but he has spent a lot of energy being emotionally abusive.
I would say that is his main thing; constantly saying how much I don't love him and how much I don't care about him if he feels the least little bit ignored or has to spend any time alone. My going back to work at a PT job has just turned that fire into an inferno because I've gone from a SAHM/SAHW to working PT, and sometimes just by necessity he is by himself (I want to say that, in the thirty years he has worked his job, I have been by myself more times than I can count because he has worked scheduled/unscheduled/spur-of-the-moment overtime, and I just rolled with it because, really, what other choice was there? Unemployment for the main breadwinner?). He absolutely cannot handle being alone, while I find being alone refreshing and rejuvenating. In fact, I'm the opposite; I'm like, "Do you love me? Then go away and leave me alone for a while!"
But here's where I have been doing some thinking. I know that many of you are going to say that there is no way, but I do believe he loves me. I've seen the man behind all that. And I do love him, despite all of the problems and issues, and I believe as much as he understands it, he loves me too. I am determined to work on this marriage. It occurred to me the other day, when he was mad and throwing a fit about something; I thought; "He's acting like a toddler who needs a snack and a nap." And so my mind started wandering along those lines for a bit.
You see, my husband has had a hard life. Both of us grew up in dysfunctional families with abusive parents. His father was definitely a narcissist, and physically abusive to his wife and at least to my husband (the GC sibling seems to have escaped most of it) and I've heard was sexually abusive to family members as well. He put his wife in the hospital more than once because of severe beatings. He threatened to drive off a bridge with the whole family in the car. He threatened all of them with a gun and a family friend had to come over and save them. He regularly beat my husband for the crime of not eating his vegetables at dinner. When my husband was 22, and I was pregnant, his father tried to hit him over the head with a huge wrench. (My husband is a strong man; that was a dumb idea.) There’s apparently a lot more my husband won’t talk about and/or doesn't remember.
But his mother wasn't an angel, either (let's be clear, SHE DID NOT DESERVE SPOUSAL ABUSE OF ANY KIND. NO PERSON DESERVES ABUSE. However, you can not deserve abuse and, at the same time, not be a nice person). She believed the world revolved around her, she was never wrong and the smartest person in the room, and my husband was expected to be at her beck and call whenever she wanted him for whatever reason. She abused him in her own way. Hurting people hurt people. When I came along, he was nineteen, and I treated him like an adult; that went over like a lead balloon because she treated him like a child.
Shortly after we got married and had our first child, she purposefully ceased to live, which threw my husband into a deep, deep depression for a few years. It was rough. I tried to get him to go to therapy, but he flat refused. We worked through it and eventually had another child, and he can finally talk about it now, thirty-some years later. But he rarely visits her grave, and I’ve never forced him to go if he doesn’t want to.
At very significant points in his emotional development, my husband had some major life crises happen:

He had to retake first grade because his mother was put in the hospital by his father's abuse; he shut down to the point he wouldn't do his homework and had to be held back (which is hard enough); he would have been around 7 years old He spent his childhood dealing with an abusive father and wondering if he was going to literally not be alive His parents finally divorced when he was around 14 years old After that, he and his mother and sibling were constantly financially insecure His mother purposefully ceased to live when he was twenty-three, after we had just had our first child He has told me that he doesn’t remember large chunks of his childhood (which I understand is a trauma response)

As he was being 'constructed', there was built a severely flawed frame structure around these emotionally damaged areas; the ability in his ‘frame’ to withstand a structural state of stress is severely defective. He never really learned how to regulate his emotions, how to work through them or deal with them in a healthy way. His mother never got him therapy for the abuse he had endured since birth; if anything, she compounded it (that’s a whole post in itself because, wait for it, she was a counselor). The only relationship he had modeled on a consistent basis was a dysfunctional, abusive, unhealthy one. (He did have maternal grandparents who were loving and kind, but they couldn't be there 24/7.) His aunts and uncles were all also in dysfunctional marriages/divorces, so no help or escape there. As a result, he has nothing to draw from when he feels stress, irritation, anger, sadness, irritation, loneliness; he struggles to even identify the differences between all of those emotions. He is extremely simplistic in his thought processes when it comes to emotions: He feels good/bad, energetic/tired, loved/unloved, happy/sad, full/starving; sometimes he’s capable of mildly annoyed if he's in a really good mood, but mostly his emotions are one extreme or the other (they do not change wildly; he picks one and usually sticks with it for a while).
If he feels stressed in one area of his life, then EVERY area of his life, in his mind, sucks. Very black/white. No grey at all. I’m not sure he knows grey exists. He thinks life should ALWAYS be a happy feeling, and if there is any bad/sad/stress/negative emotion, then that ruins it all and he can only concentrate on that, like a pebble in his shoe.
It’s like if someone gave each of us an oatmeal raisin cookie (mine has my allergens/intolerances removed):
Neither of us are big fans of raisins, but we both like oatmeal cookies. I will just eat around the raisins, or I will pick them out. If that is impossible, I’ll just eat the raisins, even though they aren’t my favorites, because I like oatmeal cookies and I try to look at the positive. “A minute ago I didn’t have a cookie, but now I do have a cookie, even though it has raisins that I don’t like, so life is pretty okay at this moment.” (I try to find something positive, even if it’s just a little thing, and focus on that.)
He will spend his time bitching that his cookie has raisins. He doesn’t like raisins. Don’t they know he doesn’t like raisins? How is he supposed to eat this cookie with raisins? And if I point out that he can make the best of it and just try to pick out the raisins, then he gets all upset. “But I should have got a cookie with no raisins. I shouldn’t have to pick out the raisins. Even if I pick them out, I can still taste them. Life sucks all the time.” (He finds something negative in everything, even if it’s a little thing, and builds it up to overshadow all the good things.)
So, I’m thinking that he has probably inherited some narcissistic tendencies from his father (and some not-so-pleasant stuff from his mother as well), and then he’s added emotional trauma to this, which makes me think emotional immaturity has been stirred into this particular pie (or cookie, if you will). Could this be so?
Here’s a very recent case in point. He works nights. I mostly work days, but my job is such that I sometimes need to be ‘on-call’, and so occasionally I need to go in at weird hours/times. It’s a great job and I love it, and it’s a perfect fit for me and my skill-set, but he’s having a hard time adjusting to me not always being around like I have been for most of our marriage. (Remember, to him not being around=not loving him.) He feels like he’s not the center of attention any more, even though I’ve tried to make up for it.
Due to circumstances beyond our control, we are temporarily sharing a car. We're making the best of it, but it’s a hassle and we are both tired of it (using public transportation is not an option in our rural area and neither of us have coworkers who live close to us). His shifts can be 8-12 hours, depending. Well, on certain days of the month, he works mandatory 12-hour shifts. They are always on specific days. I made work plans based on that schedule, which never changes. But yep, you guessed it…this past Saturday, it changed. He told me that I didn’t need to take him to work that night since he was only working 8 hours, and I was all, “What? No, I really need the car because I already told my boss I would work tonight because I know you always work 12 hours on this day.”
Just how I was supposed to know the schedule changed, I’m not sure, but he completely lost the plot. He started yelling at me while we were still home and it didn’t stop until I dropped him off at work an hour later. I just shut down. He covered every subject; I didn’t love him, I didn’t care about his feelings, nobody EVER cares about his feelings, I always leave him alone, I never have sex with him so that PROVES I don’t love him (I have sat him down and told him, repeatedly, about some physical issues I am having at the moment that really don’t make sex much fun for me which I am under a doctor’s care for, and I have reassured him that I love him very much and I want to have sex with him but I need to get these physical things under control; to his credit, he has never forced me to have sex), I work too much, I shouldn’t have taken the stupid job anyway (he is the one who told me I should probably get a PT job), I don’t get paid enough (I make the going rate for what I do), I don’t clean the house enough, the dishes need washed, I don’t feed him properly, I’ll probably spend all day Sunday running errands for my mother (who is eighty, a manipulative narcissist herself, has health issues, I’m an only child, I have had to step up and help her) and not be home with him, and why am I so upset, what am I starting to cry about now???
Then Sunday, Mother’s Day, he must have felt guilty because he helped me carry in groceries and was nice to me all day. Not in a love-bombing way, not over-the-top or weird, just nice. He’s been nice to me today as well. He did mention in passing that on these scheduled 12-hour shifts that the crew on the other shift always leaves extra work for him to do, and then denies it, and he knows he’s going in to a mess and a ton of extra work (he has a hard, physically demanding job), so that puts him in a bad mood. I don’t know if that was his round-about way of apologizing or what. Yes, he probably was stressed out about going in to a mess at work, and my taking the car didn’t help, and he didn’t handle the stress/anger in a healthy way (to put it mildly). We both could have communicated better about work schedules, but I was just basing my decision to work on his never-changing schedule. It was frustrating, but it wasn’t the end of the world, and it all worked out. His reaction was totally out of proportion to the event.
So is that narcissistic behavior or immature behavior? It’s like he gets mad, he blows up, he comes to himself, he apologizes/acts sorry, loves on me, treats me good, sloooowly builds up anger again, gets silent silenter silentest…blows up again and the whole thing starts over. Why is this still happening? Shouldn’t we be past this by now? It’s hard to explain, and I know some of you won’t understand (and nor should you, based on what you have been through, which is truly horrific, and I am so sorry), but it’s like he comes to himself and realizes how he is acting, but later the hurt and anger take over again. And the cyclic pattern in his life continues.
Anyway, I have been thinking a lot about whether he might be more emotionally immature than narcissistic, or more narcissistic than emotionally immature, or some combo of both, and what I could do to help him and strategies to deal with it myself. NGL, it is really taking a toll on me emotionally. I feel like I have been run through the wringer every day. Some days I cry and cry (when I’m alone, never when he is here, he gets mad when I cry because he can’t handle negative emotions and he would never acknowledge he caused the negative emotion), some days I just shut down and sleep for 12 hours. I have a couple of mental health apps on my phone that I use.
We are at a time in our marriage when I feel like we should be enjoying ourselves (our adult children have moved out and we are a little more financially stable than we were the last time we had no kids at home), but it feels like everything is just falling apart. I feel like we shouldn’t be arguing about this same stuff after thirty-plus years, but here we are, still arguing about whether I love him or not.
Thank you for reading my long and boring post. Just typing it all out helped.

Attacked in NYC.... Just read that actor Steve Buscemi was randomly attacked and punched in the face in NYC the other day! That lil guy has the worst luck pretty much where ever he goes! He got his ass tore up when he came here to film Domestic Disturbance in 2001. Him, John Travolta and Vince Vaughn were in town, so him, Vince and one of the screen-writers went to Fire Belly Lounge and got tore up from the ground up and a local girl started talking to Vince. Well that Pissed off two 21 y/o guys who were sleeping with her and they took it outside and the brawl broke out and two cops on foot patrol seen it happen pretty quick and because Vince was so big they maced his ass but noticed one of the local guys was hard and heavy on Buscemi and blood everywhere. They got him off and he had not only beat Steve's ass, but stabbed him three times! Right above his eye, in his throat(almost his jugular) and his arm! The local guy went away for attempted murder and Vince and the other two guys were arrested and posted bail later! Buscemi was released later that night!! Travolta attended a play that night a Thailand Hall.

So, as someone who loves industrial music, (amongst many others,) I wanted to brainstorm a new island that would be based on creation and industry. That idea is now the "Industrial Island," with a focus on making a new kind of currency. These Bubblerite Ingots that are created once you complete the monster set can be converted into any other currency other than diamonds. Here are some of my monster ideas:

• Mine-stroe (Miner), makes a metal "ting" sound and adds humming vocals.
• Orerion (Blast Furnace, lost cousin to Furnoss), adds a consistent low bass sound.
• Cromp (Metal Compressor), Adds a periodic metal clash and a crunch sound (probably made via hitting a metal chair with a hammer and crushing a soda can).
• Grommer (Metal Refiner), lasers create an electric guitar sound. Composed like a punk rock "chugging" rift.
• Coregol (Power Plant), adds a consistent gutteral bass vocal, maybe also a whistle.
• Ymirrist (Quencher), makes a drum line with the stomp of their feet and a steam vent within their chest. Adds additional mechanical ambiance.
• Sweltr (Blacksmith, one of the werdos), sings the main vocals and adds a metal slamming sound, like an angry version of a hammer hitting an anvil. "We forge on, born in fire. Keep on smelting 'till the final hour." "Heed our call, this is our power. Metal ringing to the fall of the Hammer."

After Venshun was added, I thought they could be a "special guest" of sorts and could be added like the normal monsters on gold island.
As always, thoughts and ideas for the monster's looks is always appreciated. 👍

I was using a Muslim marriage app and the guys would ask me, “when was your last relationship” or ”how long was your last relationship”, when I say I haven’t had one, they will dissapear. Some would also share they have had 1-2 year relationships that didn’t work out.
also, others would make a joke about exes, expecting that I can relate.
is it an expectation after a certain age (lets say mid 20s and up) for everyone to have had a relationship?
all of these men have said they are practicing Muslims on their profile fyi.

Clipartmax.com is one of my best fully free png sites. But others like pngtree, freepik and vecteezy has a download limits especially the pngtree requires sign up and has limit download per day. What other sites that has no download limits, no paywall and no sign up?

I really hate my job and too afraid to leave.
I (30M)'ve been working as a purchasing/procurement officer for this hospital for 5 years. I was the most ambitious during my second year in with overtime, helping colleagues, giving feedback and presenting ideas on how to improve our department's workflow, to resupply for our departments, etc. but my manager(F) rejected all of them. Ok, fine. When someone(let's call her Am, F) transferred to our department, our manager listens to her so well. Am asked me beforehand if there are any feedbacks and ideas, so I shared with her and she to our manager and she listens. I felt like I'm being treated very unfairly.
Other than that, my department consists of only 7 people; 1 manager(F) + 6 employees (4F, 2M - I'm one of the M). I'm just sitting here and hear this huge sexist bias conversation mostly on the other guy and "men are supposed to do this or that", or that I'm supposed to be loud, etc. I just want to do my work and begone. Plus, I got racial slur once a twice, and a few racist comments but I only just reported one of the slur. Manager had a talk with him and he said he was sorry but he never apologize to me. I'm guessing he was sorry he got reported.
After that I thought just focusing on CrossFit could help me cope with my work and I happen to spent a lot without any savings on accessories, equipments, shoes, clothing, etc. Obviously, it didn't help at all. I burnt out on my third year, feeling stuck and lost so I started saving my money starting december 2022 and stopped going for CrossFit classes, to save more. I managed to save 50% of my salary every month and most of the time I didn't even finish the other 50% that I was supposed to spend after I finish buying a pc.
The plan was to actually quit my current job in February 2024 and take a few online courses I've been eyeing on but here I am, still working. "Why didn't you do the online class after work?" The plan was to focus entirely on the course. Right now, I go home, I workout, I shower, eat, I'm already tired. I passed out while lazy gaming and watching movie sometimes.
I'm afraid to quit because I don't know how I'll end up. As far as I know, my current workplace pays me well and there's additional 2 bonuses every year. At the same time, I know if I stay any longer, I won't have any fulfillment and career growth.
I asked my cousin, he's sort of an entrepreneur and have a few successes. I told him about my situation and he told me I'm burnt out and better to find another job or quit if you saved enough. I said to him, I really want a fucking 6 months break, at least. He said "oh shit, that's quite bad burnt out".
I just feel so worthless and still lost. I calculated if I'm only getting groceries and fuel, it can last me at least 2 years and that's excluding car services, eating out, entertainments, short travel trips, etc.
Just trying rant this out hoping I could come to a conclusion.

I got sober for three months. Thought I was better. In those three months I made no friends or nothing cause I constantly thought I suck. One night of drinking I made countless friends, literally was talking to women, having a great time. Tried to buy cocaine my card failed. It was a whole thing, called my friends so they could venmo me $100 to buy cocaine. They said no bc they knew I had an issue. I got angry because I thought they were cheap. I’m now sobering up in a room debating suicide, I’m so pathetic I texted my fucking AA sponsee from like 4 months ago. I literally haven’t drank in months, I wanted to let loose as finals ended. I genuinely think I should die. What the fuck do I do I need to fix this

An old horror movie. It starts when three young priests are going through the country side when one of them sees a beautiful woman in black carriage. Soon they meet an old woman and ask her for food and shelter. Later one of them gets involved with the old woman who changes into a beautiful young woman magically. The film is colored. It is released before 1981. It is not an American or a British film. Italian or Spanish, It is not black and white either.

My(18m) little sister(13) was hanging out with three of her friends yesterday. She called me, asking if I could buy some ice cream for them. It's really hot in our country right now so I said 'Okay. Be there in half an hour.' Bought four ice cream bars, all Vanilla Caramel Almond.
The issue is that one of them, let's call her 'Amy'(13f), is allergic to almond. So she had to watch the others eat ice cream while she didn't get any. Amy's dad (it was Amy's house) said that I should have asked first if anyone was allergic to anything and now Amy has to watch her friends eat ice cream without having any to eat herself. He called me inconsiderate for not checking.

Now that we have all three (I assume) permanent events, is there any hope for a discounted bundle of the three IAPs?
Would honestly love to have them, but £15 for one is a bit rich for me for something I'll essentially only use for three days every few weeks, so I've never bought them. A bundle would almost definitely push me over the edge though, and it does kinda make sense right?

I (30M)'ve been working as a purchasing/procurement officer for this hospital for 5 years. I was the most ambitious during my second year in with overtime, helping colleagues, giving feedback and presenting ideas on how to improve our department's workflow, to resupply for our departments, etc. but my manager(F) rejected all of them. Ok, fine. When someone(let's call her Am, F) transferred to our department, our manager listens to her so well. Am asked me beforehand if there are any feedbacks and ideas, so I shared with her and she to our manager and she listens. I felt like I'm being treated very unfairly.
Other than that, my department consists of only 7 people; 1 manager(F) + 6 employees (4F, 2M - I'm one of the M). I'm just sitting here and hear this huge sexist bias conversation mostly on the other guy and "men are supposed to do this or that", or that I'm supposed to be loud, etc. I just want to do my work and begone. Plus, I got racial slur once a twice, and a few racist comments but I only just reported one of the slur. Manager had a talk with him and he said he was sorry but he never apologize to me. I'm guessing he was sorry he got reported.
After that I thought just focusing on CrossFit could help me cope with my work and I happen to spent a lot without any savings on accessories, equipments, shoes, clothing, etc. Obviously, it didn't help at all. I burnt out on my third year, feeling stuck and lost so I started saving my money starting december 2022 and stopped going for CrossFit classes, to save more. I managed to save 50% of my salary every month and most of the time I didn't even finish the other 50% that I was supposed to spend after I finish buying a pc.
The plan was to actually quit my current job in February 2024 and take a few online courses I've been eyeing on but here I am, still working. "Why didn't you do the online class after work?" The plan was to focus entirely on the course. Right now, I go home, I workout, I shower, eat, I'm already tired. I passed out while lazy gaming and watching movie sometimes.
I'm afraid to quit because I don't know how I'll end up. As far as I know, my current workplace pays me well and there's additional 2 bonuses every year. At the same time, I know if I stay any longer, I won't have any fulfillment and career growth.
I asked my cousin, he's sort of an entrepreneur and have a few successes. I told him about my situation and he told me I'm burnt out and better to find another job or quit if you saved enough. I said to him, I really want a fucking 6 months break, at least. He said "oh shit, that's quite bad burnt out".
I just feel so worthless and still lost. I calculated if I'm only getting groceries and fuel, it can last me at least 2 years and that's excluding car services, eating out, entertainments, short travel trips, etc.
Just trying rant this out hoping I could come to a conclusion.

So it's been weeks that i have been dealing with stutters (without FPS drops) and i finally found a possible fix.
Valorant doesn't like amd gpu, and to be more specific it doesn't like amd dx11 optimizations. So i found this way to disable the navi optimizations for dx and only use the normal ones.
Here is the first steps.
After that do these:

• Shader Cache (major) - Go to "HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\SYSTEM\CurrentControlSet\Control\Class{4d36e968-e325-11ce-bfc1-08002be10318}\0000\UMD" in Registry Editor.

Find an entry called Shader Cache. It's default value will be 31, which is "AMD Optimized." Change the value to 32, which is "Always On."

• Disable Multi-plane Overlay (MPO) - Got to "HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\SOFTWARE\Microsoft\Windows\Dwm"

and create a DWORD32 VALUE called "OverlayTestMode" and set the value to 5.

• So to resume, disable DXNavi, Enable Shader Cache and Disable MPO to reduce stutters, Shader-related stutters or other lags to an absolute minimum. At the end of the day, if the game is badly written, nothing can run it well. But these three things will get you the best possible performance, especially DX11 games and programs. Yes, there are programs that use dx11 as backend. For example, Chrome and other Chromium based browser use DX11 Angle Backend and with the above three things, you will have the best performance in the browser as well. For me, it fixed, lags, stutters and random freezes in Edge (chromium) browser.

Either all this or reducing your mouse polling rate from 1000 ms to 500 ms xd (because i did both in the same try)
btw first minutes you will have some stutters before shader caches.
For reference my system:

• cpu :5600x
  
• gpu :rx 6600
  
• ram:16 gb ram 3537 hz (2x8)
  
• Hdd:nvme
  

Posting this so people can hopefully fix their stutters. If the fix doesn't work for you just revert back to your defaults.

I think Pat McAfee is bringing down Michael Cole's quality. Cole at his best is a tremendous play-by-play commentator, and we still get to see the best of him during PPVs when he is paired with Corey Graves. However, while some goofiness is tolerated, overall I think Pat detracts from ring action with his quips. On Raw, which has in recent months become the 'wrestling show', having him in the broadcast team is a bad call. Constant reference to yeeting all over the place, antler stuff, undercutting Zoey Stark's entrance by doing the Bron Breakker dog sounds...he is the opposite of what a commentator should be: putting over the performers and not himself. Not to mention he never listens to producers telling him about ad break moments and often keeps talking and gets abruptly cut off when the ad break comes on.
It's affecting Cole now. Cole made three mistakes on Raw, calling a crossface an 'STF', a standing shooting star a 'standing 450' and the double Tyler driver a 'Birminghammer'. I know Cole makes mistakes sometimes, but three in one night is quite bad for his standards.

I (W21) and my boyfriend (M22) have been dating for 3 years now, and everything has been fine until now. We have known each other since high school, and we were friends for 3 years before dating each other. Not that long ago, I was asking my boyfriend about his previous relationships, I was curious because he is my first boyfriend, but he had been in multiple relationships before dating me. When we first became friends, he quickly developed feelings for me, but I rejected him because I knew that nothing would have worked out back then, so he ended up dating different people while we were friends. I was there for most of his relationships as a friend (I haven't developed any feelings, and everything between us was platonic). Every once in a while, he would confess his feelings to me, and I would turn him down. I have seen what he was like during every breakup. After a year or two of us just being friends (he would still confess to me that he liked me), he started dating this girl. When he first started dating her (and when we first started dating), he would compare things about us, such as our hobbies, characteristics, personalities, work ethic, the sport that we played, and many other things like that. He would tell me how much she and I had in common, but at that time, I didn't think much about anything, solely because it wasn't any of my business. When they broke up, I had never seen him so heartbroken. One of the biggest reasons I thought maybe I should give him a chance was because of how long he has liked me. So recently, I brought her up because I was curious to see what type of relationship they had, and I slowly started to understand that I was being lied to. I started to realize that I was her replacement. I confronted him about the situation. I asked him who he liked first, her or me. In my mind, I always thought that he had always liked me first. The answer he gave me was her. So I asked him when he started liking me. He told me that it was a couple of months before we started dating. So that means that for three years, him telling me that he liked me was a lie. He told me that he didn't like me the times he told me he did, he claimed that he had a "thing" for me the whole time when we were friends but didn't truly develop feelings until we actually started dating, he has told me multiple times that I'm not her replacement, but the whole timeline and information just doesn't seem right. So now I just feel like his ex's rebound. What do I do? Do you guys believe him? Am I a replacement???