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2024.05.15 17:31 MKID1989 PC stuck in restart loop
Yesterday, I turned on my PC and the fans kicked on for a split second and then turned off. This repeated about 5 times before Windows finally loaded. I thought it was strange but didn't think much of it since I was able to get into Windows. I was able to get logged in and then the computer shut off on it's own before I even had a chance to do anything. When I tried to turn it on again, it is just stuck endlessly looping where the fans will turn on for a split second and then turn off for a second or two and then repeat.
Relevant information:
A couple other details that might be worth mentioning: I ran the CPU on a stock intel cooler for probably longer than I should have. This CPU gets hot with even normal use and I was regularly logging 90c+ temperatures but rarely for prolonged periods. From what I understand, this CPU should be able to handle those temperatures better than other CPUs so I was never in a big rush to correct the issue since I didn't normally do anything too CPU intensive. About 6 months ago, I finally replaced it with a decent cooler but I'm wondering if the damage was already done and it was only a matter of time. I do have another i7-4790k and motherboard I can test with, however, these items never worked together. I ordered them used for a really cheap price and it turned out to be too good to be true. I ended up getting a refund and they didn't ask for the items back. These items have been sitting loose in a box of random items ever since. I could theoretically swap the CPUs and, if that doesn't work, swap the motherboards but use the CPU I was using in that older motherboard. That just seems like A LOT of work for something that I don't even know works. I was already thinking about buying a new motherboard and CPU combo anyways since my current setup doesn't officially support Windows 11 and doesn't support the argb or usb-c port of my case.
Thank you for your time!
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Relevant information:
- Motherboard: ASRock Z97M Pro4
- CPU: Intel i7-4790k (not overclocked)
- PSU: Corsair RM 550x
- Case: MSI MPG Gungnir 300R Airflow
- Disconnected and reconnected everything one at a time and tested turning on the computer with each item disconnected. Items tested in this way:
- RAM
- All USB peripherals
- Ethernet cable
- SSD
- GPU
- All motherboard connectors
- Replaced the ram with 2 separate sets of ram sticks in different ports. I tested the same RAM in another machine and it worked fine.
- Replaced the PSU with a different one that was working the last time it was used.
- Replaced PSU power cable.
- Plugged PC directly into wall outlet, bypassing my surge protector.
- Left PC unplugged for at least an hour before testing again.
A couple other details that might be worth mentioning: I ran the CPU on a stock intel cooler for probably longer than I should have. This CPU gets hot with even normal use and I was regularly logging 90c+ temperatures but rarely for prolonged periods. From what I understand, this CPU should be able to handle those temperatures better than other CPUs so I was never in a big rush to correct the issue since I didn't normally do anything too CPU intensive. About 6 months ago, I finally replaced it with a decent cooler but I'm wondering if the damage was already done and it was only a matter of time. I do have another i7-4790k and motherboard I can test with, however, these items never worked together. I ordered them used for a really cheap price and it turned out to be too good to be true. I ended up getting a refund and they didn't ask for the items back. These items have been sitting loose in a box of random items ever since. I could theoretically swap the CPUs and, if that doesn't work, swap the motherboards but use the CPU I was using in that older motherboard. That just seems like A LOT of work for something that I don't even know works. I was already thinking about buying a new motherboard and CPU combo anyways since my current setup doesn't officially support Windows 11 and doesn't support the argb or usb-c port of my case.
Thank you for your time!
2024.05.15 17:29 Due-Werewolf1415 What if Marley had committed the Genocide instead of Eren? Would anyone from Marley have helped our scouts, like our scouts allied with Magath when Eren activated the rumbling?
Let's say Eren never started the rumbling; instead, he had left everything behind and ran away with Mikasa, just like we saw in the alternate reality. Now Paradis has lost two of their most significant assets.
Then, it is 100% sure that Marley would have started a war against Paradis to erase the existence of the Island. I am fully assured that they would have killed everyone on the Island, including civilians and children.
Has anyone from Marley or any other country stepped up to help Paradis? Like our Hange, Jean, Connie, Mikasa and Armin did when Eren started the rumbling.
There's a slim possibility that Reiner and some other warriors might have done something, but it's equally likely that they would have sided with Marley, launching an attack on Paradis. Remember, at the end of season 4, part 1, Reiner and the entire Marleyen military launched an all-out attack on Paradis. It's evident that Renier sympathises with Paradis, but he would've never supported Paradis over Marley. No matter how much guilt he has.
And that hypocrite Magath only allied with the scout when he realised he was on the losing side of the war now.
He was the kind of guy who hated Paradis Island and its people from his core.
I am 100% sure no one would have helped Paradise Island then
But our beloved scouts joined hands with the enemy and formed a hypocritical alliance.
And Eren and Mikasa running away means the attack on Liberio never happened, which means Willy Tybur successfully declared war on Paradis, Falco's perspective for the Island never changed, Gabi will still be a bitch, Porco and Warhammer is still alive, Zeke's plan means shit cause the founder is gone now so that means no volunteers.
Paradis will only be left with Levi's skills and Armin's colossal. And don't bring Azumabito here cause it is very obvious that Azumabito will not go against the entire world to support a scapegoat of an Island.
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Then, it is 100% sure that Marley would have started a war against Paradis to erase the existence of the Island. I am fully assured that they would have killed everyone on the Island, including civilians and children.
Has anyone from Marley or any other country stepped up to help Paradis? Like our Hange, Jean, Connie, Mikasa and Armin did when Eren started the rumbling.
There's a slim possibility that Reiner and some other warriors might have done something, but it's equally likely that they would have sided with Marley, launching an attack on Paradis. Remember, at the end of season 4, part 1, Reiner and the entire Marleyen military launched an all-out attack on Paradis. It's evident that Renier sympathises with Paradis, but he would've never supported Paradis over Marley. No matter how much guilt he has.
And that hypocrite Magath only allied with the scout when he realised he was on the losing side of the war now.
He was the kind of guy who hated Paradis Island and its people from his core.
I am 100% sure no one would have helped Paradise Island then
But our beloved scouts joined hands with the enemy and formed a hypocritical alliance.
And Eren and Mikasa running away means the attack on Liberio never happened, which means Willy Tybur successfully declared war on Paradis, Falco's perspective for the Island never changed, Gabi will still be a bitch, Porco and Warhammer is still alive, Zeke's plan means shit cause the founder is gone now so that means no volunteers.
Paradis will only be left with Levi's skills and Armin's colossal. And don't bring Azumabito here cause it is very obvious that Azumabito will not go against the entire world to support a scapegoat of an Island.
2024.05.15 17:27 SouthOrder3569 33rd Rathian "Seekers", Traitors of Rath
(Warning, because I haven't posted in a bit and am not sure how this would fall for some folks, but this one is a bit "Horror Movie" inspired, and a bit gory/violent)
Traitors of Rath
Post Lord Daug's Disappearance
Lord Daug had vanished, reports indicating he may have been lost in battle with enemy forces that he had been hunting through the wilds. Jeremy snorted at that, served the fat bastard right, the rathians may hold the noble in high regard, probably brainwashed by something in the water on that damned planet they loved so much, but Jeremy wasn't from Rath and by the emperors sitting ass he knew better than to trust in a noble. Which had made what he and the guys were planning a lot easier to stomach.
He nodded at Nel as the man spooned him some gruel into his bowl, a mix of ration packs and of some kinda local plant the rats had said was good to eat. That was another thing! What kind of self-respecting man trusted those THINGS? Every single rath born trooper treated them like they were little mini officers, it was DISGUSTING. There was no way the stories about the nobles asses butler were even halfway true, just stories to keep the men in line. Like they would be scared of a rat.
Jeremy resisted the urge to spit and signed at Nel, making sure the seargent couldn't see the signs. Nel signed back, and Jeremy smiled, their plan was ago, after tonight they would slip off and signal to the xenos that they wanted to surrender. Of course, the seargent, the only brainwashed bastard of Rath in their whole squad would protest, but they had a way to fix that, emperor issued too. Sure, the xenos were barely better than animals, but they at least had food, and weren't a thrice blighted noble or officer telling him what to do.
Jeremy took a spoonful of the rather decent gruel and hummed to himself as he ate. He would be first watch, and then when time came for shift change the seargent was supposed to relieve him. Then they'd be ready to have a talk with the seargent all seven of their remaining men.
...
Jeremy stirred slowly, since they weren't gonna be part of the guard after tonight who gave an imperial damnation if he slept on duty. But something was wrong, he couldn't figure out what the bad feeling was, but he struggled his way out of the blankets he had tucked around himself vaguely panicked. He hadn't been with the reigment long, but he had been a scout long enough to know this silence...was bad.
Carefully he moved back towards the little outpost they had occupied, some kinda poured stone stuff, like he knew what that shit was, with a heavy metal door. Whatever was coming, it would be safer with a few more lasguns around him. Having reached the edge of the clearing around the outposts entrance he looked around carefully and seeing no sign of danger dashed for cover in the doorway, the inset door offered plenty of cover for him to take while he knocked the passcode.
Or would have, had the door not been ajar...and the scent of blood wafted from within. Jeremy froze. That was a bad sign...a very bad sign. That was a LOT of blood he was smelling...but if someone had attacked, why hadn't he heard it? Slowly carefully, he pushed the door open further with the barrel of his lasgun. Even if he would have preferred to retreat, doing so alone was probably certain death, especially considering all his kit was inside.
The door swung open stiffly, as if stuck on something...and then something fell from the top of it into Jeremy's arms, he fumbled for a second, catching it between his hand and lasgun. Then he screamed and chucked away Nel's head, his lasgun was back up and at the ready aiming at the door. While he panted in fear. Then he heard something crunch the snow behind him, he spun around and opened fire blindly into the small stand of trees that surrounded this outpost.
His shots blew chunks from the trees and caused steam to rise from new craters in the snow, but no figure emerged from the moonlit shadows to face him. And that only made the terror worse. Jeremy spun and body slammed the door, forcing it forward and entering the outpost. Quickly he spun and slammed the door back shut again...only to find his hands in a massive smear of blood. Trembling he looked down and saw Nel's body below, the object that had blocked the door. Slowly his eyes went upwards to the top of the door, staring at the gore.
Trembling he threw his entire body weight against the door as he felt something slam into it with incredible force, only him holding it and Nel's body being in the way kept the door shut, and he fumbled with the latch. It was a secure door, once he locked it, the door would hold, it HAD to hold! Jeremy struggled, every slam against the door forcing him to throw himself back against it, cursing desperately as it failed to lock again and again. Finally, with a heavy clank, the door closed, and its lock fell into place.
Jeremy exhausted, slide downwards in the pool of blood at the door, happy that the 33rds footwear had not slipped in the mess. Jeremy cursed to himself again and stood up trembling as the banging on the door seemed to end. Whatever was on the other side...he didn't see it, but it was no man. No human was that strong, no human could...use the top of a door as a upside down guilotine. With a shudder Jeremy turned from the door and surveyed the room, grimacing as he caught sight of... Jenny, he thinks that who it was, their head apparently inside the now upended stew pot, still.
On the left, Ramsos and Hinkle were both dead, crushed against a wall by the table they'd been seated at, Ramsos slumped forward, Hinkle pinned to the wall by one of the standard issue sporks through his throat. On the right, it looked like Vanessa had been torn limb from limb by something. Massive tears across her body and limbs missing. Looking around Jeremy realized there were two people missing, Lowozky and Seargent Tion. Hope erupted in his chest, maybe they survived? The seargent may be able to deal with whatever was attacking them, he was a veteran he had to know some way to stay alive!
Jeremy looked around frantically trying to think of where they could have gone. "Lowozky! Seargent!?" he called out and then his eyes fell on the only door deeper into the place, he rushed over to it, and pulled it open. Maybe Lowozky had hid in the latrine?
He had.
But he had not survived.
Jeremy wretched at the stench and stepped back. Lowozky had voided himself in death, unfortunately he had been shoved head and shoulders first down the latrine and not the other way around.
The banging at the door resumed, this time harder.
And then Jeremy heard the roar of a chain sword revving.
...
Seargent Tion strode through the snow, covered in blood, he would have changed, but this had been his last decent uniform. He carried his kit on his back, chainsword holstered at his side. His las pistol had been lost in battle days ago alongside his combat knife.
It had made the night more unpleasant than he would have hoped. Then again, it would have been unpleasant either way. Tion shook his head and lamented the loss of seven soldiers of the imperium. It was unfortunate but he could not hold this post on his own, and due to his failure seven men were lost. If the Lord was here he would report to command immediately but...as it was...
He would have to find other imperial forces to report his deriliction of duty, losing seven men to poor morale when they were in his care was a serious failure. Though the Rathian did have to wonder.
How in the world did Jeremy sleep through the racket? Tion shook his head at the mans poor discipline, yet another failing of Tion's, he didn't instill a proper attitude and it showed.
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Traitors of Rath
Post Lord Daug's Disappearance
Lord Daug had vanished, reports indicating he may have been lost in battle with enemy forces that he had been hunting through the wilds. Jeremy snorted at that, served the fat bastard right, the rathians may hold the noble in high regard, probably brainwashed by something in the water on that damned planet they loved so much, but Jeremy wasn't from Rath and by the emperors sitting ass he knew better than to trust in a noble. Which had made what he and the guys were planning a lot easier to stomach.
He nodded at Nel as the man spooned him some gruel into his bowl, a mix of ration packs and of some kinda local plant the rats had said was good to eat. That was another thing! What kind of self-respecting man trusted those THINGS? Every single rath born trooper treated them like they were little mini officers, it was DISGUSTING. There was no way the stories about the nobles asses butler were even halfway true, just stories to keep the men in line. Like they would be scared of a rat.
Jeremy resisted the urge to spit and signed at Nel, making sure the seargent couldn't see the signs. Nel signed back, and Jeremy smiled, their plan was ago, after tonight they would slip off and signal to the xenos that they wanted to surrender. Of course, the seargent, the only brainwashed bastard of Rath in their whole squad would protest, but they had a way to fix that, emperor issued too. Sure, the xenos were barely better than animals, but they at least had food, and weren't a thrice blighted noble or officer telling him what to do.
Jeremy took a spoonful of the rather decent gruel and hummed to himself as he ate. He would be first watch, and then when time came for shift change the seargent was supposed to relieve him. Then they'd be ready to have a talk with the seargent all seven of their remaining men.
...
Jeremy stirred slowly, since they weren't gonna be part of the guard after tonight who gave an imperial damnation if he slept on duty. But something was wrong, he couldn't figure out what the bad feeling was, but he struggled his way out of the blankets he had tucked around himself vaguely panicked. He hadn't been with the reigment long, but he had been a scout long enough to know this silence...was bad.
Carefully he moved back towards the little outpost they had occupied, some kinda poured stone stuff, like he knew what that shit was, with a heavy metal door. Whatever was coming, it would be safer with a few more lasguns around him. Having reached the edge of the clearing around the outposts entrance he looked around carefully and seeing no sign of danger dashed for cover in the doorway, the inset door offered plenty of cover for him to take while he knocked the passcode.
Or would have, had the door not been ajar...and the scent of blood wafted from within. Jeremy froze. That was a bad sign...a very bad sign. That was a LOT of blood he was smelling...but if someone had attacked, why hadn't he heard it? Slowly carefully, he pushed the door open further with the barrel of his lasgun. Even if he would have preferred to retreat, doing so alone was probably certain death, especially considering all his kit was inside.
The door swung open stiffly, as if stuck on something...and then something fell from the top of it into Jeremy's arms, he fumbled for a second, catching it between his hand and lasgun. Then he screamed and chucked away Nel's head, his lasgun was back up and at the ready aiming at the door. While he panted in fear. Then he heard something crunch the snow behind him, he spun around and opened fire blindly into the small stand of trees that surrounded this outpost.
His shots blew chunks from the trees and caused steam to rise from new craters in the snow, but no figure emerged from the moonlit shadows to face him. And that only made the terror worse. Jeremy spun and body slammed the door, forcing it forward and entering the outpost. Quickly he spun and slammed the door back shut again...only to find his hands in a massive smear of blood. Trembling he looked down and saw Nel's body below, the object that had blocked the door. Slowly his eyes went upwards to the top of the door, staring at the gore.
Trembling he threw his entire body weight against the door as he felt something slam into it with incredible force, only him holding it and Nel's body being in the way kept the door shut, and he fumbled with the latch. It was a secure door, once he locked it, the door would hold, it HAD to hold! Jeremy struggled, every slam against the door forcing him to throw himself back against it, cursing desperately as it failed to lock again and again. Finally, with a heavy clank, the door closed, and its lock fell into place.
Jeremy exhausted, slide downwards in the pool of blood at the door, happy that the 33rds footwear had not slipped in the mess. Jeremy cursed to himself again and stood up trembling as the banging on the door seemed to end. Whatever was on the other side...he didn't see it, but it was no man. No human was that strong, no human could...use the top of a door as a upside down guilotine. With a shudder Jeremy turned from the door and surveyed the room, grimacing as he caught sight of... Jenny, he thinks that who it was, their head apparently inside the now upended stew pot, still.
On the left, Ramsos and Hinkle were both dead, crushed against a wall by the table they'd been seated at, Ramsos slumped forward, Hinkle pinned to the wall by one of the standard issue sporks through his throat. On the right, it looked like Vanessa had been torn limb from limb by something. Massive tears across her body and limbs missing. Looking around Jeremy realized there were two people missing, Lowozky and Seargent Tion. Hope erupted in his chest, maybe they survived? The seargent may be able to deal with whatever was attacking them, he was a veteran he had to know some way to stay alive!
Jeremy looked around frantically trying to think of where they could have gone. "Lowozky! Seargent!?" he called out and then his eyes fell on the only door deeper into the place, he rushed over to it, and pulled it open. Maybe Lowozky had hid in the latrine?
He had.
But he had not survived.
Jeremy wretched at the stench and stepped back. Lowozky had voided himself in death, unfortunately he had been shoved head and shoulders first down the latrine and not the other way around.
The banging at the door resumed, this time harder.
And then Jeremy heard the roar of a chain sword revving.
...
Seargent Tion strode through the snow, covered in blood, he would have changed, but this had been his last decent uniform. He carried his kit on his back, chainsword holstered at his side. His las pistol had been lost in battle days ago alongside his combat knife.
It had made the night more unpleasant than he would have hoped. Then again, it would have been unpleasant either way. Tion shook his head and lamented the loss of seven soldiers of the imperium. It was unfortunate but he could not hold this post on his own, and due to his failure seven men were lost. If the Lord was here he would report to command immediately but...as it was...
He would have to find other imperial forces to report his deriliction of duty, losing seven men to poor morale when they were in his care was a serious failure. Though the Rathian did have to wonder.
How in the world did Jeremy sleep through the racket? Tion shook his head at the mans poor discipline, yet another failing of Tion's, he didn't instill a proper attitude and it showed.
2024.05.15 17:27 iplantothrowthisaway WIBTA if I don’t take custody of my nephew?
This is my first time posting and I'm using a throwaway account just in case. Names have been changed.
My husband (29M) and I (30F) currently have emergency custody of our 11yo niece Sasha and our 8yo nephew Thomas. Their mother (my SIL) Jessica (31F) and father Ronald (43M) have drug abuse, mental health, and domestic issues. They have their entire relationship.
We received emergency custody about 8 months ago.
Here's where I need some input on if we don't take emergency custody of my SIL and Ronald's baby who is now 5 weeks old. His name is Collin. He was removed from their care at a week old. He is currently with other resource parents who aren't family. As there is not ANY other family within ours capable of taking these children.
My husband and I do not have any kids, we had a double income but since choosing to raise our niece and nephew I left my job to better take care of them and our home. (This was a mutual decision between my husband and I.)
We were literally in the process of trying for a baby when my husbands sister (Jessica) announced she was pregnant again, and then a few months later her older two kids were removed from her care.
Now that Collin is a month old, and Jessica and Ronald have made little to no progress: guardianship is on the table and I have concerns about the 3 kids not growing up together, or Collin currently creating bonds with strangers and issues that could cause down the line. My heart is breaking and I’m so conflicted.
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My husband (29M) and I (30F) currently have emergency custody of our 11yo niece Sasha and our 8yo nephew Thomas. Their mother (my SIL) Jessica (31F) and father Ronald (43M) have drug abuse, mental health, and domestic issues. They have their entire relationship.
We received emergency custody about 8 months ago.
Here's where I need some input on if we don't take emergency custody of my SIL and Ronald's baby who is now 5 weeks old. His name is Collin. He was removed from their care at a week old. He is currently with other resource parents who aren't family. As there is not ANY other family within ours capable of taking these children.
My husband and I do not have any kids, we had a double income but since choosing to raise our niece and nephew I left my job to better take care of them and our home. (This was a mutual decision between my husband and I.)
We were literally in the process of trying for a baby when my husbands sister (Jessica) announced she was pregnant again, and then a few months later her older two kids were removed from her care.
Now that Collin is a month old, and Jessica and Ronald have made little to no progress: guardianship is on the table and I have concerns about the 3 kids not growing up together, or Collin currently creating bonds with strangers and issues that could cause down the line. My heart is breaking and I’m so conflicted.
2024.05.15 17:27 ChristinaB777777777 3 Months Follow-Up With Vascular Doctor - Found an old clot I didn't know about!
I just had my 3 month follow-up with my vascular doctor. I had an EXTENSIVE clot in my left leg that went from my pelvis to my ankle three months ago and ended up in ER. They did a thrombectomy and it was a slow recovery. I had to use a cane for weeks and I am only now able to walk around the neighborhood like I used to before the DVT.
Anyhow, I had an ultrasound today and my clot is "nice and open". Thank goodness. 🥰
HOWEVER>>>>>>> the doctor saw on a previous scan something weird in my pelvis. So today's scan showed that I had a previous blood clot there and it's now chronic. She doesn't know how long it's been there but she says probably many months. So it was before my DVT. And before the surgery that I had that likely caused my DVT. I didn't know that I had it and don't remember any symptoms at all. Did anyone else find out they had a previous unknown clot?!!!
I have been tested for all blood disorders and it came back that I have no issues with any of those. Thankfully.
I am meeting with my hematologist on Monday to see if I need another 3 months of blood thinners.
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Anyhow, I had an ultrasound today and my clot is "nice and open". Thank goodness. 🥰
HOWEVER>>>>>>> the doctor saw on a previous scan something weird in my pelvis. So today's scan showed that I had a previous blood clot there and it's now chronic. She doesn't know how long it's been there but she says probably many months. So it was before my DVT. And before the surgery that I had that likely caused my DVT. I didn't know that I had it and don't remember any symptoms at all. Did anyone else find out they had a previous unknown clot?!!!
I have been tested for all blood disorders and it came back that I have no issues with any of those. Thankfully.
I am meeting with my hematologist on Monday to see if I need another 3 months of blood thinners.
2024.05.15 17:27 Prestigious_Ask_6116 Edema Buildup on Inside on hind leg
 | *before I begin I want to assure everyone that I am currently in consultation with my veterinarian and we are developing a plan of attack to deal with this issue. I am simply curious as to what some of your thoughts are on what this could be caused by. submitted by Prestigious_Ask_6116 to Equestrian [link] [comments] My 19 year old quarter horse Apollo was involved in a tussle out in his pasture about a month ago, resulting in minor cuts and swelling to his back left pastern. He was heavily doctored for 2 weeks with sweat wraps, ice, and topical medicine, as well as bute. The cuts completely healed but ever since we have been dealing with his back leg stocking up, especially on the inside of the pastern, where there has been a constant and strange build up of edema that makes his leg appear crooked. He has been xrayed and there were no findings. An ultrasound was also taken but due to the excessive amount of fluid my vet was not able to see much. His right back leg hasn’t swelled at all, just this leg, and now mostly to the inside. I’ve been exploring a variety of different treatments to reduce the swelling but I’m honestly so frustrated. He was doing great last week and the swelling really went down but it blew up again a few days ago. What in the world could be causing this? He has never been unsound the entire time we have been dealing with this and the occasional heat he has on the leg is minimal. No sign of any abscesses etheir. Just wanting to hear some of your thoughts. Right now he is being cold hosed and hand walked for 10 minutes every morning and night and he gets sweat wraps on (dmso/drawing salve sweat) for 12 hours on, 12 hours off. Vet is having me put Voltaren arthritis creme on the inside raised portion when he’s not in wraps. |
2024.05.15 17:25 mangogummy Husband has been bleeding for days, refuses to see the doctor, I need help.
Past few years, before I met my husband, he had a critical condition where he just pooped straight up blood. He did colonoscopies, surgeries, tests for cancer, and medications and doctors concluded that it was Crohns. According to my husband, the pharmaceutical medications actually made his condition worse, so he weaned off of it and just focused on his diet and exercise.
For the past months, it’s been slowly coming back and was able to combat it. We just got married and moved to a new state btw so not sure if that impacts it. But now for these past days, the blood has come back and made the toilet water red, cramping in the left side of his stomach, gassy, and back aches. His energy also seems to have deteriorated.
Has anyone or anyone’s partner gone through this? Is this expected for Crohns? I’m honestly freaking the f*ck out
TL;DR - husband has been diagnosed with crohns 3-4 years ago, bleeding colon has come back and I need help in how to support / what to do bc he refuses to get checked with the doctor as they couldn’t figure it out in the past and made it worse for him.
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For the past months, it’s been slowly coming back and was able to combat it. We just got married and moved to a new state btw so not sure if that impacts it. But now for these past days, the blood has come back and made the toilet water red, cramping in the left side of his stomach, gassy, and back aches. His energy also seems to have deteriorated.
Has anyone or anyone’s partner gone through this? Is this expected for Crohns? I’m honestly freaking the f*ck out
TL;DR - husband has been diagnosed with crohns 3-4 years ago, bleeding colon has come back and I need help in how to support / what to do bc he refuses to get checked with the doctor as they couldn’t figure it out in the past and made it worse for him.
2024.05.15 17:23 roothesaiyan Willoughbys Camera Emporium Nightmare
Don't EVER shop here. I KNEW the deal was too good to be true when I saw the R6 Mark II for 200 less there than it was everywhere else. I don't know WHAT I was thinking. I guess I was just so excited that I was going to be able to get my first full frame camera.
Here's what happened : I have been shooting R7 for a long time now, mainly wildlife. I am also an Astrophotographer and have 2 rigs for that, and 2 cooled astro cameras. I have ALWAYS wanted a Full Frame camera though, and next month (3 weeks actually) I am going on a Dark sky trip (its an annual trip me and a buddy do) so when I saw the R6 mark 2 for 1799 I was like "okay, that's a REALLY good deal"...I went on the site and saw that Synchrony was offering 12 months same as cash financing. So basically, for 130/month for 12 months this amazing camera could be mine!! I went ahead and applied for the credit after confirming that the camera was "IN STOCK AND READY TO SHIP!" and the deal only had "1 hour and 23 minutes" left, I should have NEVER done that.
I asked for 2000 credit limit in case of taxes. I was approved. This also REALLY sucks because I've been working so hard to get my credit up over the last few years, so getting approved for a store card is kind of a big deal for me. Anyway....
I went ahead and added it to my card, I used my new Synchrony card, checked out, free shipping, NO TAXES! (awesome!) and went to bed with a giant smile on my face, after watching 3 more reviews of the R6 and convincing myself that I had made a GREAT move and I was FINALLY going to be moving up to Full Frame.
Fast forward to the next morning around 10 am. This is the email I get from Willoughby's:
Thank you for your recent purchase with Willoughbys
Dear CHRISTOPHER
We are aware that you have a choice when making a purchase from a vendor and we would like to thank you for placing your order with Willoughbys, your order #******\*. We regret to inform you that the item you have recently ordered from us has been oversold.
We would also like you to know that we are in the process of purchasing more of this item from our vendors however this may take up to 4-6 weeks or longer to be fulfilled as many of our vendors are awaiting this product to come into their fulfillment centers.
At this time we can offer you the following options to choose from:
Option 1: Hold the order with us and await for it to be fulfilled from our vendors.
Option 2: You may have the order cancelled.
Please note, If you decide to wait for it to be fulfilled we will contact you before it ships. Please reply to this email within the next 24-48 hours so we can properly handle your order moving forward.
We apologize for any inconvenience this may have caused you. It's a pleasure to serve you and hope you visit us again soon.
Sincerely, Willoughbys Fulfillment Team
Needless to say, I was CRUSHED. I went back on their site, and low and behold, a NEW TIMER had started, saying there was "ONLY 12 HOURS AND 21 MINUTES" remaining on "THIS DEAL" and that the camera was "IN STOCK AND READY TO SHIP!!!". What an absolute load of crap!! So I emailed them back asking why on earth they would be advertising it as in stock and ready to ship if that isn't the case? And furthermore why would they STILL have it showing as in stock and ready to ship if they KNOW they have no stock??? I didn't get ANY answer. Had I known this was such an awful company, I would have gone to B and H photo (oh how I Love B an H) and spent the extra 200 to get it from a great company. Now I have a 2k store card for a store I'll NEVER shop at. I got dinged on my credit for a hard inquiry. I can't open another line of credit so soon because I don't want to damage my credit. So just no camera at all now basically. After emailing them 5 more times to cancel my order they FINALLY cancelled it. I'm going to wait until I get the Synchrony card in the mail in 7-10 days to see if I can use it at other places that accept synchrony as the lady on phone from Synchrony said that you can...but the email seemed to indicate it was for willoughbys ONLY.
Moral of the story? NEVER shop at this place. EVER. Buy your Camera Gear from B and H, or any of the other great camera shops out there. I'm old enough and I know better...but the allure of saving 200 on a camera I've wanted for so long was just too tempting. Of COURSE I got screwed.
Better luck next time -
Roo
submitted by roothesaiyan to Cameras [link] [comments]
Here's what happened : I have been shooting R7 for a long time now, mainly wildlife. I am also an Astrophotographer and have 2 rigs for that, and 2 cooled astro cameras. I have ALWAYS wanted a Full Frame camera though, and next month (3 weeks actually) I am going on a Dark sky trip (its an annual trip me and a buddy do) so when I saw the R6 mark 2 for 1799 I was like "okay, that's a REALLY good deal"...I went on the site and saw that Synchrony was offering 12 months same as cash financing. So basically, for 130/month for 12 months this amazing camera could be mine!! I went ahead and applied for the credit after confirming that the camera was "IN STOCK AND READY TO SHIP!" and the deal only had "1 hour and 23 minutes" left, I should have NEVER done that.
I asked for 2000 credit limit in case of taxes. I was approved. This also REALLY sucks because I've been working so hard to get my credit up over the last few years, so getting approved for a store card is kind of a big deal for me. Anyway....
I went ahead and added it to my card, I used my new Synchrony card, checked out, free shipping, NO TAXES! (awesome!) and went to bed with a giant smile on my face, after watching 3 more reviews of the R6 and convincing myself that I had made a GREAT move and I was FINALLY going to be moving up to Full Frame.
Fast forward to the next morning around 10 am. This is the email I get from Willoughby's:
Thank you for your recent purchase with Willoughbys
Dear CHRISTOPHER
We are aware that you have a choice when making a purchase from a vendor and we would like to thank you for placing your order with Willoughbys, your order #******\*. We regret to inform you that the item you have recently ordered from us has been oversold.
We would also like you to know that we are in the process of purchasing more of this item from our vendors however this may take up to 4-6 weeks or longer to be fulfilled as many of our vendors are awaiting this product to come into their fulfillment centers.
At this time we can offer you the following options to choose from:
Option 1: Hold the order with us and await for it to be fulfilled from our vendors.
Option 2: You may have the order cancelled.
Please note, If you decide to wait for it to be fulfilled we will contact you before it ships. Please reply to this email within the next 24-48 hours so we can properly handle your order moving forward.
We apologize for any inconvenience this may have caused you. It's a pleasure to serve you and hope you visit us again soon.
Sincerely, Willoughbys Fulfillment Team
Needless to say, I was CRUSHED. I went back on their site, and low and behold, a NEW TIMER had started, saying there was "ONLY 12 HOURS AND 21 MINUTES" remaining on "THIS DEAL" and that the camera was "IN STOCK AND READY TO SHIP!!!". What an absolute load of crap!! So I emailed them back asking why on earth they would be advertising it as in stock and ready to ship if that isn't the case? And furthermore why would they STILL have it showing as in stock and ready to ship if they KNOW they have no stock??? I didn't get ANY answer. Had I known this was such an awful company, I would have gone to B and H photo (oh how I Love B an H) and spent the extra 200 to get it from a great company. Now I have a 2k store card for a store I'll NEVER shop at. I got dinged on my credit for a hard inquiry. I can't open another line of credit so soon because I don't want to damage my credit. So just no camera at all now basically. After emailing them 5 more times to cancel my order they FINALLY cancelled it. I'm going to wait until I get the Synchrony card in the mail in 7-10 days to see if I can use it at other places that accept synchrony as the lady on phone from Synchrony said that you can...but the email seemed to indicate it was for willoughbys ONLY.
Moral of the story? NEVER shop at this place. EVER. Buy your Camera Gear from B and H, or any of the other great camera shops out there. I'm old enough and I know better...but the allure of saving 200 on a camera I've wanted for so long was just too tempting. Of COURSE I got screwed.
Better luck next time -
Roo
2024.05.15 17:23 Ok_Caregiver5818 Doubt regarding a question!!!
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2024.05.15 17:22 d00risdown Host falsely claiming damage. What happens if I don’t pay? [Canada]
Hi folks, so I recently stayed in an AirBnB in Quebec. It was an apartment building that was entirely short term rentals. The owneoperator didn’t live on site.
When I arrived I noticed a crack in a cabinet. I just assumed it had already been noted by the host and didn’t give it a second thought. (My mistake—next time I will definitely be taking photos and documenting it immediately). To be clear I did NOT cause the damage.
After I left the host contacted me and said a cleaner had found the cabinet damaged, and requested I pay. I explained it was like that on arrival. The host then contacted Airbnb who conducted an “investigation”. Airbnb sided with the host despite the damage being present when I arrived and are asking for $300.
I am an excellent guests, all very positive reviews, always leave anyplace I stay very tidy. The host of this particular Airbnb had left me a nasty review because I refused to pay but otherwise I have a spotless record.
So if I don’t comply with Airbnb’s request to pay what will happen? Will they charge my credit card? What happens if I tell my credit card company to deny the pay?
Most importantly, will they delete my account if I refuse to pay? I use Airbnb enough that it would be a hassle if I didn’t have access. Thanks in advance!
submitted by d00risdown to AirBnB [link] [comments]
When I arrived I noticed a crack in a cabinet. I just assumed it had already been noted by the host and didn’t give it a second thought. (My mistake—next time I will definitely be taking photos and documenting it immediately). To be clear I did NOT cause the damage.
After I left the host contacted me and said a cleaner had found the cabinet damaged, and requested I pay. I explained it was like that on arrival. The host then contacted Airbnb who conducted an “investigation”. Airbnb sided with the host despite the damage being present when I arrived and are asking for $300.
I am an excellent guests, all very positive reviews, always leave anyplace I stay very tidy. The host of this particular Airbnb had left me a nasty review because I refused to pay but otherwise I have a spotless record.
So if I don’t comply with Airbnb’s request to pay what will happen? Will they charge my credit card? What happens if I tell my credit card company to deny the pay?
Most importantly, will they delete my account if I refuse to pay? I use Airbnb enough that it would be a hassle if I didn’t have access. Thanks in advance!
2024.05.15 17:21 RavenBlade87 Spooky accidental change to MTG I encountered today
I was playing MTG on my wireless headphones and, when walking out of and back into range, the L/R channels de-synced ever-so-slightly.
It caused a slight delay (less than 100ms) to the left audio channel that made Kendrick's lyrics sound like he was popping over each shoulder echoing each line and accusation. Had the lyrics ringing in my head as he'd come in with another line just as the echo fades from the last diss.
If somebody has the capability to mess with audio channels and latency, I'd highly recommend as a listening experience!
submitted by RavenBlade87 to KendrickLamar [link] [comments]
It caused a slight delay (less than 100ms) to the left audio channel that made Kendrick's lyrics sound like he was popping over each shoulder echoing each line and accusation. Had the lyrics ringing in my head as he'd come in with another line just as the echo fades from the last diss.
If somebody has the capability to mess with audio channels and latency, I'd highly recommend as a listening experience!
2024.05.15 17:20 Due-Werewolf1415 What if Marley and the rest of the world had committed the Genocide instead of Eren? Would anyone from Marley have helped our scouts, like our scouts allied with Magath when Eren activated the rumbling?
Let's say Eren never started the rumbling; instead, he had left everything behind and ran away with Mikasa, just like we saw in the alternate reality. Now Paradis has lost two of their most significant assets.
Then, it is 100% sure that Marley would have started a war against Paradis to erase the existence of the Island. I am fully assured that they would have killed everyone on the Island, including civilians and children.
Has anyone from Marley or any other country stepped up to help Paradis? Like our Hange, Jean, Connie, Mikasa and Armin did when Eren started the rumbling.
There's a slim possibility that Reiner and some other warriors might have done something, but it's equally likely that they would have sided with Marley, launching an attack on Paradis. Remember, at the end of season 4, part 1, Reiner and the entire Marleyen military launched an all-out attack on Paradis. It's evident that Renier sympathises with Paradis, but he would've never supported Paradis over Marley. No matter how much guilt he has.
And that hypocrite Magath only allied with the scout when he realised he was on the losing side of the war now.
He was the kind of guy who hated Paradis Island and its people from his core.
I am 100% sure no one would have helped Paradise Island then
But our beloved scouts joined hands with the enemy and formed a hypocritical alliance.
And Eren and Mikasa running away means the attack on Liberio never happened, which means Willy Tybur successfully declared war on Paradis, Falco's perspective for the Island never changed, Gabi will still be a bitch, Porco and Warhammer is still alive, Zeke's plan means shit cause the founder is gone now so that means no volunteers, and the most important point, with Eren gone there will be no Yeagerists.
Paradis will only be left with Levi's skills and Armin's colossal. And don't bring Azumabito here cause it is very obvious that Azumabito will not go against the entire world to support a scapegoat of an Island.
submitted by Due-Werewolf1415 to ShingekiNoKyojin [link] [comments]
Then, it is 100% sure that Marley would have started a war against Paradis to erase the existence of the Island. I am fully assured that they would have killed everyone on the Island, including civilians and children.
Has anyone from Marley or any other country stepped up to help Paradis? Like our Hange, Jean, Connie, Mikasa and Armin did when Eren started the rumbling.
There's a slim possibility that Reiner and some other warriors might have done something, but it's equally likely that they would have sided with Marley, launching an attack on Paradis. Remember, at the end of season 4, part 1, Reiner and the entire Marleyen military launched an all-out attack on Paradis. It's evident that Renier sympathises with Paradis, but he would've never supported Paradis over Marley. No matter how much guilt he has.
And that hypocrite Magath only allied with the scout when he realised he was on the losing side of the war now.
He was the kind of guy who hated Paradis Island and its people from his core.
I am 100% sure no one would have helped Paradise Island then
But our beloved scouts joined hands with the enemy and formed a hypocritical alliance.
And Eren and Mikasa running away means the attack on Liberio never happened, which means Willy Tybur successfully declared war on Paradis, Falco's perspective for the Island never changed, Gabi will still be a bitch, Porco and Warhammer is still alive, Zeke's plan means shit cause the founder is gone now so that means no volunteers, and the most important point, with Eren gone there will be no Yeagerists.
Paradis will only be left with Levi's skills and Armin's colossal. And don't bring Azumabito here cause it is very obvious that Azumabito will not go against the entire world to support a scapegoat of an Island.
2024.05.15 17:18 csaszi01 Monero community charity idea
Hello guys!
My idea is that we could donate Monero to charity at least once a month or few times a year, depends on the budget ofc.
In practice, this would look like once a month I would transfer the Monero amount into my account, deposit the amount and use 100% of the after tax amount for donations (shelters, people in care, important expensive surgery, children's home, etc..). If there is a possibility to pay with Monero (dog food or send Monero directly to the orgs), of course we will priotize it, because we can give more value without FIAT money (because of tax).
Who decides where to transfer money? The community. Before each donation, we would do a week-long poll to see who we want to donate to. Everyone's vote will be worth the same regardless of the money sent in.
That's all well and good so far, but there is a big problem, trust.(At least for me it would be, with projects like this) Because of the privacy network, no one can see for themselves how much money has been raised and how much has actually gone to the cause for which they sent the money. I would be happy if there was a solution (maybe you know a solution), but if there is no solution, trust is the only thing left.
Once we have sent the money to the place where we voted or used the money collected to buy the donation we need. I would of course photograph and document the successful handover for you and anyone who wants can flex it on social media to show what a great community we are.
The project will not have a special name, everything will be donated under the name of Monero community, because the goal is to slow down the witch hunt against privacy networks and people who think that only criminals use Monero and other privacy networks or just crypto, should read positive news about us.
So in short:
Do you think there is a place for such a project?
Is there a way for the community to check its cash flow?
What kind of community spaces should we use to manage this together and also keep our privacy? (Signal?Telegram?X?Discord? All of them or something else?)
I posted this idea with fear because I don't want you to think I am a scammer and ban me.
Thank you for your clever ideas and opinions.
If this post feels dangerous, feel free to delete it.
submitted by csaszi01 to Monero [link] [comments]
My idea is that we could donate Monero to charity at least once a month or few times a year, depends on the budget ofc.
In practice, this would look like once a month I would transfer the Monero amount into my account, deposit the amount and use 100% of the after tax amount for donations (shelters, people in care, important expensive surgery, children's home, etc..
Who decides where to transfer money? The community. Before each donation, we would do a week-long poll to see who we want to donate to. Everyone's vote will be worth the same regardless of the money sent in.
That's all well and good so far, but there is a big problem, trust.(At least for me it would be, with projects like this) Because of the privacy network, no one can see for themselves how much money has been raised and how much has actually gone to the cause for which they sent the money. I would be happy if there was a solution (maybe you know a solution), but if there is no solution, trust is the only thing left.
Once we have sent the money to the place where we voted or used the money collected to buy the donation we need. I would of course photograph and document the successful handover for you and anyone who wants can flex it on social media to show what a great community we are.
The project will not have a special name, everything will be donated under the name of Monero community, because the goal is to slow down the witch hunt against privacy networks and people who think that only criminals use Monero and other privacy networks or just crypto, should read positive news about us.
So in short:
Do you think there is a place for such a project?
Is there a way for the community to check its cash flow?
What kind of community spaces should we use to manage this together and also keep our privacy? (Signal?Telegram?X?Discord? All of them or something else?)
I posted this idea with fear because I don't want you to think I am a scammer and ban me.
Thank you for your clever ideas and opinions.
If this post feels dangerous, feel free to delete it.
2024.05.15 17:18 violette_vendetta Don't let these bastards ruin your life
(Posting on mobile, sorry for formatting in advance) That's what I've been telling myself at least. I currently have an infestation going on in my apartment due to birds nesting in the vent. I had no idea this was even a thing until it happened! I wanted to put my story out in the ether and spread some hope, possibly. They are going away, but slowly.
It all started when I saw tiny bugs crawling out of my phone. It was so weird. After a deep dive on the internet, I started seeing more pop up in my bathroom. I realized that this started happening after some birds left their nest in the vent. They were going crazy one night and then left the next day. This is when all hell broke loose and I was living in one of my own worst nightmares.
The first day of discovery, my spouse and I picked up some food grade Diatamaceous Earth, spread that shit on the bedroom carpet and master bath, and slept in the living room for 2 nights. I've never been more grateful for laundry that I procrastinated on because that was our saving grace to have clothes.
What I've learned they hated: Essential oils (esp peppermint, lavender, and clove) Lack of humidity, DE, and dish soap.
When we vaccumed the bedroom and bathroom, we made sure to spray the perimeters with Ortho Home Defense. Of course, we also steamed the mattress, changed bedding, all that. We've been spraying our bedding with a mixture of cheap vodka, clove oil, peppermint, and some water just to keep them away.
Within the week, we started seeing successful results. In the meantime, I vacuumed and sprayed Ortho around the rest of the apartment, which afaik, was not affected. That doesn't mean the anxiety goes away and there some that occasionally pop up in the bathroom.
We forgot to treat one room in our apartment and that happened to be the closet where they wreaked absolute havoc and partied in there. We thought that would have been a safe place because there are no vents there. After 20 minutes of trying to investigate the madness, we threw some more DE in there, sprayed Ortho in the parameters we could and closed the door. Girl, bye.
We did contact our apartment complex upon first discovery. Maintenance did remove the nests, but didn't find bugs. Our apartment complex allegedly never heard of this issue in the last 15 years the complex had been around. The pest control they hired was clueless about how to help us, also never heard of this issue, and said he would "look into it" and have an answer in a week, because he only comes out on Mondays.
I called Orkin the same day and waiting on a call back for an inspection and estimate. This has been a week so far and it's driven me to the point of needing anxiety meds. I break down every damn day. We have come a long way though.
My spouse has been my absolute backbone and cannot thank her enough. She tells me to remind myself of what we've done so far and to look at the evidence. The evidence is that they are dying and are going away. I ask yourself to do the same thing if you find yourself in this situation as well. Be diligent and do what you can.
The takeaway from all this: It can and will get better. It's vital to treat the root causes first. These little fucks will multiply somehow, even without bird blood, which is so wild because it's contrary to what I've read. We haven't had any really bite us or our pets, thankfully.
Also, more life lessons: Declutter where you can, properly store your clothes in bins, and get rid of the damn cardboard boxes. I swear you don't need them. Also, dehumidify your space if you live somewhere hot and icky like I do. Good luck out there.
submitted by violette_vendetta to Birdmites [link] [comments]
It all started when I saw tiny bugs crawling out of my phone. It was so weird. After a deep dive on the internet, I started seeing more pop up in my bathroom. I realized that this started happening after some birds left their nest in the vent. They were going crazy one night and then left the next day. This is when all hell broke loose and I was living in one of my own worst nightmares.
The first day of discovery, my spouse and I picked up some food grade Diatamaceous Earth, spread that shit on the bedroom carpet and master bath, and slept in the living room for 2 nights. I've never been more grateful for laundry that I procrastinated on because that was our saving grace to have clothes.
What I've learned they hated: Essential oils (esp peppermint, lavender, and clove) Lack of humidity, DE, and dish soap.
When we vaccumed the bedroom and bathroom, we made sure to spray the perimeters with Ortho Home Defense. Of course, we also steamed the mattress, changed bedding, all that. We've been spraying our bedding with a mixture of cheap vodka, clove oil, peppermint, and some water just to keep them away.
Within the week, we started seeing successful results. In the meantime, I vacuumed and sprayed Ortho around the rest of the apartment, which afaik, was not affected. That doesn't mean the anxiety goes away and there some that occasionally pop up in the bathroom.
We forgot to treat one room in our apartment and that happened to be the closet where they wreaked absolute havoc and partied in there. We thought that would have been a safe place because there are no vents there. After 20 minutes of trying to investigate the madness, we threw some more DE in there, sprayed Ortho in the parameters we could and closed the door. Girl, bye.
We did contact our apartment complex upon first discovery. Maintenance did remove the nests, but didn't find bugs. Our apartment complex allegedly never heard of this issue in the last 15 years the complex had been around. The pest control they hired was clueless about how to help us, also never heard of this issue, and said he would "look into it" and have an answer in a week, because he only comes out on Mondays.
I called Orkin the same day and waiting on a call back for an inspection and estimate. This has been a week so far and it's driven me to the point of needing anxiety meds. I break down every damn day. We have come a long way though.
My spouse has been my absolute backbone and cannot thank her enough. She tells me to remind myself of what we've done so far and to look at the evidence. The evidence is that they are dying and are going away. I ask yourself to do the same thing if you find yourself in this situation as well. Be diligent and do what you can.
The takeaway from all this: It can and will get better. It's vital to treat the root causes first. These little fucks will multiply somehow, even without bird blood, which is so wild because it's contrary to what I've read. We haven't had any really bite us or our pets, thankfully.
Also, more life lessons: Declutter where you can, properly store your clothes in bins, and get rid of the damn cardboard boxes. I swear you don't need them. Also, dehumidify your space if you live somewhere hot and icky like I do. Good luck out there.
2024.05.15 17:17 dschmiesing45 I get chewed out and a 2 Star review for mowing our Airbnb Farm.
Hello everyone, my wife and I have been Airbnb Superhosts for about 5 years. Almost always very positive reviews and guests love our farm. Our listing is an entire house on a farm with livestock and close to the city. We live a couple miles away from our listing.
A guest recently left us a 2-star review for "violating their privacy" and "making her feel unsafe". The story is: After work one afternoon (5:30 pm) I went to our farm to mow. My friendly beagle accompanied me; as he always does at the farm. The guests were sitting in the backyard and I went over and introduced myself (we try to meet most guests if convenient). The girl (guest of tenant) immediately went inside without a word. However, the man was very friendly and even offered to help me mow. A few moments later; a woman (whom rented the Airbnb) came outside and proceeded to chew me out. Things like "What are you doing here", "Why would you come to the property without prior notification", "Who do you think you are". I was very nice and told her the yard needed mowing and I will be quick. Also, apologized for the inconvenience caused. No one went to the farm for the remainder of their 4 day stay (this incident happened on day 2). The guest 2-star reviews us and makes a privacy complaint to Airbnb on the last day of the reviewing window.
I was immediately contacted by Airbnb about the complaint and our listing was temporarily suspended. Airbnb lifted our suspension but attached a "letter of a violation" to our account.
Our listing discloses under description "One or both of us swing by our property for outside maintenance and to feed and water our cows on a regular basis". The guest could read this prior to booking. Airbnb said we needed to specifically disclose that we may be on our property for "yard work".
This guest stayed two more days despite feeling unsafe and waited weeks to review and report the incident to Airbnb. I attempted to appeal the decision of Airbnb about the review and letter on our account. They will not respond.
Are hosts expected to spell out every reason they may be on their property? Especially if the property is a working farm? What if we happened to drive by and wave; is this too a violation of privacy? Is gardening at a resort that has Airbnb units a violation of a guests privacy? Have any other hosts experienced anything similar to this? Was I wrong for going to our property to mow the lawn without notifying the guest prior?
Thanks for reading!
submitted by dschmiesing45 to airbnb_hosts [link] [comments]
A guest recently left us a 2-star review for "violating their privacy" and "making her feel unsafe". The story is: After work one afternoon (5:30 pm) I went to our farm to mow. My friendly beagle accompanied me; as he always does at the farm. The guests were sitting in the backyard and I went over and introduced myself (we try to meet most guests if convenient). The girl (guest of tenant) immediately went inside without a word. However, the man was very friendly and even offered to help me mow. A few moments later; a woman (whom rented the Airbnb) came outside and proceeded to chew me out. Things like "What are you doing here", "Why would you come to the property without prior notification", "Who do you think you are". I was very nice and told her the yard needed mowing and I will be quick. Also, apologized for the inconvenience caused. No one went to the farm for the remainder of their 4 day stay (this incident happened on day 2). The guest 2-star reviews us and makes a privacy complaint to Airbnb on the last day of the reviewing window.
I was immediately contacted by Airbnb about the complaint and our listing was temporarily suspended. Airbnb lifted our suspension but attached a "letter of a violation" to our account.
Our listing discloses under description "One or both of us swing by our property for outside maintenance and to feed and water our cows on a regular basis". The guest could read this prior to booking. Airbnb said we needed to specifically disclose that we may be on our property for "yard work".
This guest stayed two more days despite feeling unsafe and waited weeks to review and report the incident to Airbnb. I attempted to appeal the decision of Airbnb about the review and letter on our account. They will not respond.
Are hosts expected to spell out every reason they may be on their property? Especially if the property is a working farm? What if we happened to drive by and wave; is this too a violation of privacy? Is gardening at a resort that has Airbnb units a violation of a guests privacy? Have any other hosts experienced anything similar to this? Was I wrong for going to our property to mow the lawn without notifying the guest prior?
Thanks for reading!
2024.05.15 17:16 THROWRA-2222-2 AITA for not giving ticket to my partner for my graduation (26M) (26F)?
I graduate soon from my professional degree (masters and higher) and there are three ceremonies. The school I go to is a top school and I don’t think I’ll do another degree program again. Very big moment for my life (come from underserved background). My school gives limited tickets so I’m letting my immediate family go to the first two ceremonies. The last one is a ceremony where I can’t even walk and I don’t feel like going as I found out from alumna it isn’t worth it.
My partner (26M) and I have been dating for almost two years (LDR), I do love him but our relationship is hitting a rocky point. As of recent, we’ve been getting in fights about his lack of boundaries with his family. Essentially, we can have plans but the minute his mom snaps her fingers I’m pushed to the side. He’s incredibly indesxive to the point where it affects my day to day (anxiety). One time his aunt (he claims distant aunt but idk) said racist things about those of my background and he didn’t say sorry until after she left! He claims I’m a priority but disappoints me every 4 months. We are in a big fight right now because a work trip for my job was in his city and I asked weeks ago if he was free the reminder of the week (my job is super lax with extending flights ). He confirmed with me then 2 weeks before he says it’s mothers days and he has to leave. I tried to communicate if he can leave Sunday morning but he insisted on leaving Saturday morning (claimed he would consider but he didn’t). My job wouldn’t let me change my flight. I was left alone the whole weekend and felt sad. I could’ve been with my family. His sibling accompanied him so his mother wasn’t alone. This isn’t an isolated incident (recurring theme). He also didn’t invite me along at all. I told him how I felt afterwards and he said he gave me notice. To me, it wasn’t a kind thing since this is the 3rd or 4th time this theme happened.
He really wants to go to my ceremonies but understands that tickets are limited. He knows about the ceremony of the least significance and it’s taking it personally that I haven’t given much planning for him to come. I don’t feel like going to that one at all. 3 ceremonies is a bit much and I don’t walk in that one. I feel I’m bending my boundaries to make him happy. I’m moving away from all my friends from my program and if he comes I’ll be mainly with him and through the weekend (I move away the end of the weekend). I’ll miss out on my final goodbyes with friends and mentors. I also feel bitter about the recent events that happened. Getting into and graduating from this program is something I could never imagine. I love him but I don’t want MY moment to be about him especially after recent events. He has supported me through a lot but as our relationship is getting more serious I think his lack of boundaries with family causes me hesitance to be around Kodak moments of my life. AITA?
TLDR: AITA for not giving my partner a grad ticket as of right now? He feels that I don’t value him but he has shown me otherwise in past events.
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My partner (26M) and I have been dating for almost two years (LDR), I do love him but our relationship is hitting a rocky point. As of recent, we’ve been getting in fights about his lack of boundaries with his family. Essentially, we can have plans but the minute his mom snaps her fingers I’m pushed to the side. He’s incredibly indesxive to the point where it affects my day to day (anxiety). One time his aunt (he claims distant aunt but idk) said racist things about those of my background and he didn’t say sorry until after she left! He claims I’m a priority but disappoints me every 4 months. We are in a big fight right now because a work trip for my job was in his city and I asked weeks ago if he was free the reminder of the week (my job is super lax with extending flights ). He confirmed with me then 2 weeks before he says it’s mothers days and he has to leave. I tried to communicate if he can leave Sunday morning but he insisted on leaving Saturday morning (claimed he would consider but he didn’t). My job wouldn’t let me change my flight. I was left alone the whole weekend and felt sad. I could’ve been with my family. His sibling accompanied him so his mother wasn’t alone. This isn’t an isolated incident (recurring theme). He also didn’t invite me along at all. I told him how I felt afterwards and he said he gave me notice. To me, it wasn’t a kind thing since this is the 3rd or 4th time this theme happened.
He really wants to go to my ceremonies but understands that tickets are limited. He knows about the ceremony of the least significance and it’s taking it personally that I haven’t given much planning for him to come. I don’t feel like going to that one at all. 3 ceremonies is a bit much and I don’t walk in that one. I feel I’m bending my boundaries to make him happy. I’m moving away from all my friends from my program and if he comes I’ll be mainly with him and through the weekend (I move away the end of the weekend). I’ll miss out on my final goodbyes with friends and mentors. I also feel bitter about the recent events that happened. Getting into and graduating from this program is something I could never imagine. I love him but I don’t want MY moment to be about him especially after recent events. He has supported me through a lot but as our relationship is getting more serious I think his lack of boundaries with family causes me hesitance to be around Kodak moments of my life. AITA?
TLDR: AITA for not giving my partner a grad ticket as of right now? He feels that I don’t value him but he has shown me otherwise in past events.
2024.05.15 17:15 iplantothrowthisaway Advice needed on custody of niece and nephews
This is my first time posting and I'm using a throwaway account just in case. Names have been changed.
My husband (29M) and I (30F) currently have emergency custody of our 11yo niece Sasha and our 8yo nephew Thomas. Their mother (my SIL) Jessica (31F) and father Ronald (43M) have drug abuse, mental health, and domestic issues. They have their entire relationship.
We received emergency custody about 8 months ago.
Here's where I need some input on if we don't take emergency custody of my SIL and Ronald's baby who is now 5 weeks old. His name is Collin. He was removed from their care at a week old. He is currently with other resource parents who aren't family. As there is not ANY other family within ours capable of taking these children. My husband and I do not have any kids, we had a double income but since choosing to raise our niece and nephew I left my job to better take care of them and our home. (This was a mutual decision between my husband and I.)
We were literally in the process of trying for a baby when my husbands sister (Jessica) announced she was pregnant again, and then a few months later her older two kids were removed from her care.
Now that Collin is a month old, and Jessica and Ronald have made little to no progress: guardianship is on the table and I have concerns about the 3 kids not growing up together, or Collin currently creating bonds with strangers and issues that could cause down the line. My heart is breaking and I’m so conflicted.
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My husband (29M) and I (30F) currently have emergency custody of our 11yo niece Sasha and our 8yo nephew Thomas. Their mother (my SIL) Jessica (31F) and father Ronald (43M) have drug abuse, mental health, and domestic issues. They have their entire relationship.
We received emergency custody about 8 months ago.
Here's where I need some input on if we don't take emergency custody of my SIL and Ronald's baby who is now 5 weeks old. His name is Collin. He was removed from their care at a week old. He is currently with other resource parents who aren't family. As there is not ANY other family within ours capable of taking these children. My husband and I do not have any kids, we had a double income but since choosing to raise our niece and nephew I left my job to better take care of them and our home. (This was a mutual decision between my husband and I.)
We were literally in the process of trying for a baby when my husbands sister (Jessica) announced she was pregnant again, and then a few months later her older two kids were removed from her care.
Now that Collin is a month old, and Jessica and Ronald have made little to no progress: guardianship is on the table and I have concerns about the 3 kids not growing up together, or Collin currently creating bonds with strangers and issues that could cause down the line. My heart is breaking and I’m so conflicted.
2024.05.15 17:13 Kanashikage92 Trying to relax, as I've had this for a while. New Exercise induced ones
Hi everyone, I (31M) have had these since i was a teenager, multiple check ups all good. I think last year, they were less than 1% burden, and the only thing they found was a mild left atrium dilation. Dr said nothing to worry about at the time. That was last April.
I was playing pickle ball and i started getting them back to back with maybe a minute or so in between bigeminy episodes. I was nervous while playing, so maybe that played a part and I also ate before exercising. They continued for maybe a few hours after. I thought i would ignore it as most of us have been told to do, but it happened again when I played pickleball again. exact same scenario. They dont happen often while walking or any other times i push myself, but i also dont get much exercise because these things have caused me to be agoraphobic.
Does anyone else get these with exercise? Just looking for some info while I wait for my cardiologist to send a zio patch
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I was playing pickle ball and i started getting them back to back with maybe a minute or so in between bigeminy episodes. I was nervous while playing, so maybe that played a part and I also ate before exercising. They continued for maybe a few hours after. I thought i would ignore it as most of us have been told to do, but it happened again when I played pickleball again. exact same scenario. They dont happen often while walking or any other times i push myself, but i also dont get much exercise because these things have caused me to be agoraphobic.
Does anyone else get these with exercise? Just looking for some info while I wait for my cardiologist to send a zio patch
2024.05.15 17:12 env_adhd IUD insertion experience
Content warning: Trauma
I got my first IUD on Friday. I had never had a pap or examine (32 yr) and have always felt guilty about being behind on preventative health care. I have also exclusively used withdraw since I was 18. I have only been in long term relationships and when the birth control conversation inevitably came up in the beginning of each, I would bristle. It would follow the ceasing of condom use and come with the implication that we (I) should be more responsible about birth control. I resented the suggestion that I alone should be responsible for altering my body to accommodate a man's, even my partner's, pleasure because they would rather not wear condoms and don't want to pull out. The idea of bearing the full burden of responsibility by inserting a foreign object in my body, in my most intimate organ has always insensed me on a fundamental level. But in truth, I always felt guilty for depriving my partner. and when friends would rebuke my choices as reckless- I don't know how many times I've been told I must be infertile if I haven't become pregnant yet while not using birth control. So when I went for my first exam, I thought it might be wise to do the responsible thing that I've felt urged to do from all fronts.
I wasn't nervous. In fact I saw it as a challenge to overcome. I listened to the information given to me during the consultarion. I felt like I had enough of a grasp of what was going to happen. I was offered xanax and lidocaine, but it was implied that lidocaine could be just as painful. I don't feel I was discouraged necessarily, but I felt it was not being encouraged. I wish I would have taken both offers instead of just the ibuprofen.
I was told of the potential pain and range of variable experience, that some women have felt the pain of insertion worse than child birth. But everyone that knows me knows that I have a high pain tolerance. And so say many women I imagine. The doctor told me I might have a "whoosh" experience, which I understood to mean fainting. I still didn't feel much fear leading up to the procedure.
I was told how the procedure would go, the assessment, the speculum, the measuring and the insertion. I was surprised by the size of the model iuds, though I'm not sure what I was expecting. I thought I understood the sounding- I didn't. I had no idea about the tenaculum. Once the examine was rolling it seemed all previously mentioned anxiety and pain management were off the table unless I insisted they stop.
I was uncomfortable from the beginning and realized I was in for an unpleasant experience if I couldn't get myself to relax. The resident MD was being coached by the doctor. I heard them discussing the tilt of my uterus as she seemingly went rutting around for my cervix. Even the cotton swab was painful. They brought in a nurse to squeeze my hand and try to distract me with idle conversation. He was a literal angel and I wouldn't have been able even attempt to mask the agony without him there.
I knew it could be painful but I had no idea. I have only ever heard of the "pinch" and some menstrual like cramps. I had only ever heard from women that had had relatively uncomplicated insertions with moderate pain if any.
The insertion was the single most excruciating event of my life. It is still so surreal as my mind is already trying to protect me from the memory days later. I was close to screaming but tried hard to laugh through the agony out of embarrassment and not wanting to make the doctors feel bad. I wish I had blacked out but I was acutely aware of every sensation. At peak pain, I did something I would normally never do and said "This Really Hurts". I can't put into words how much but I know some reading this may understand.
It felt like it lasted ages but eventually it was over. I felt absolutely broken. I was able to sit up even though I was in severe pain and all I could feel was my wrecked cervical canal and the device inside of me. I was able to dress and have some juice that was brought to me. The angel nurse came and sat with me some more to make sure I was okay. I was not, there was no position I could sit or stand in for relief but I again tried to put on a brave face, for a moment.
I felt delirious trying to make conversation and I suddenly realized I was sweating profusely. I informed him I needed to get undressed again. He suggested I lay back down. Terrible, no. I put my head under the faucet. My pelvis was screaming. Standing was awful. I hobbled to the bathroom across the hall and immediately took my shirt off again, more water. I felt like I needed to shit and puke. The pain was getting worse and worse so I weakly crossed the hall again shirtless back to the bed. Now the staff were concerned and coming to assist me.
I spent the next HOUR in pain again, nearly as bad as the procedure. Charlie horse level cramps all over from the waste down, the worst of which concentrated in my cervix. Fever chills and aches like the worst food poisoning/stomach virus you've ever had. The muscles in my hips were screaming and moving was not an option. I had ice packs on my head and warm packs all around my waste. I wondered if my body was in full assault mode against a perceived foreign invader. I am pretty sure I was in shock. I was hypotensive the whole time while a new nurse monitored my vitals. I struggled to respond to any one verbally.
The doctor overseeing the insertion swung by, placed pressure on my lower stomach and asked if it hurt. Yes. You're not gushing blood though are you? No. I don't recall him saying much else before a left again. Later, when delivering my exit consultation he reminded me of the "whoosh" sensation he'd told me about and explained thats what I had just experienced for the last hour and that it was not uncommon.
I felt like I was nailed to that bed for hours pouring sweat and trying everything to avoid the pain in my entire body. Eventually I noticed my breaths were finally seeming to connect back to my heart rate. I started coming back to life and immediately asked the new nurse if she knew why male birth control options were not available in the US after decades. She flatly responded, the patriarchy. I told her I had used tracking and withdraw for the past 14 years and I wasn't sure what I had just done to my body was necessary. She agreed, tracking could be a viable planning option she said. I still hadn't shed a tear during this ordeal.
Tears were to come and to come repeatedly in the following days, every time I remember anything about what happened. I was depleted and deeply depressed. I feel hurt and violated and alone. I'm not mad at any one in particular. I mad on the whole that we are made to feel we have an obligation to bravely endure Why?
The pain largely subsided after the worst of it but I could, and still can, feel the IUD inside me. I hope that awareness goes away and I can eventually forget it's there and what I went through for it. I was starting to feel better today until I got my medical report in my email. Notes for post procedure: "patient tolerated procedure well."
I am so beyond hurt and angry. This has to be a mistake? I've left voice messages with the clinic. This is very important for me that this is corrected, for my record and the larger record. I found it so hard to find stories like mine outside of this forum. Are they going unreported? How common is this? What are these statistics that are published?
I'm mad and exhausted and I hurt for anyone who had also experienced this. I want to hear your stories of your experiences, even if they were more fortunate than mine.
I don't not recommend getting any IUD, but I won't recommend it, at least not without pain management. do yourself the favor. But I feel more opposed to the concept now than ever before. I won't accept that this is the best option available in this day and age. Really?
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I got my first IUD on Friday. I had never had a pap or examine (32 yr) and have always felt guilty about being behind on preventative health care. I have also exclusively used withdraw since I was 18. I have only been in long term relationships and when the birth control conversation inevitably came up in the beginning of each, I would bristle. It would follow the ceasing of condom use and come with the implication that we (I) should be more responsible about birth control. I resented the suggestion that I alone should be responsible for altering my body to accommodate a man's, even my partner's, pleasure because they would rather not wear condoms and don't want to pull out. The idea of bearing the full burden of responsibility by inserting a foreign object in my body, in my most intimate organ has always insensed me on a fundamental level. But in truth, I always felt guilty for depriving my partner. and when friends would rebuke my choices as reckless- I don't know how many times I've been told I must be infertile if I haven't become pregnant yet while not using birth control. So when I went for my first exam, I thought it might be wise to do the responsible thing that I've felt urged to do from all fronts.
I wasn't nervous. In fact I saw it as a challenge to overcome. I listened to the information given to me during the consultarion. I felt like I had enough of a grasp of what was going to happen. I was offered xanax and lidocaine, but it was implied that lidocaine could be just as painful. I don't feel I was discouraged necessarily, but I felt it was not being encouraged. I wish I would have taken both offers instead of just the ibuprofen.
I was told of the potential pain and range of variable experience, that some women have felt the pain of insertion worse than child birth. But everyone that knows me knows that I have a high pain tolerance. And so say many women I imagine. The doctor told me I might have a "whoosh" experience, which I understood to mean fainting. I still didn't feel much fear leading up to the procedure.
I was told how the procedure would go, the assessment, the speculum, the measuring and the insertion. I was surprised by the size of the model iuds, though I'm not sure what I was expecting. I thought I understood the sounding- I didn't. I had no idea about the tenaculum. Once the examine was rolling it seemed all previously mentioned anxiety and pain management were off the table unless I insisted they stop.
I was uncomfortable from the beginning and realized I was in for an unpleasant experience if I couldn't get myself to relax. The resident MD was being coached by the doctor. I heard them discussing the tilt of my uterus as she seemingly went rutting around for my cervix. Even the cotton swab was painful. They brought in a nurse to squeeze my hand and try to distract me with idle conversation. He was a literal angel and I wouldn't have been able even attempt to mask the agony without him there.
I knew it could be painful but I had no idea. I have only ever heard of the "pinch" and some menstrual like cramps. I had only ever heard from women that had had relatively uncomplicated insertions with moderate pain if any.
The insertion was the single most excruciating event of my life. It is still so surreal as my mind is already trying to protect me from the memory days later. I was close to screaming but tried hard to laugh through the agony out of embarrassment and not wanting to make the doctors feel bad. I wish I had blacked out but I was acutely aware of every sensation. At peak pain, I did something I would normally never do and said "This Really Hurts". I can't put into words how much but I know some reading this may understand.
It felt like it lasted ages but eventually it was over. I felt absolutely broken. I was able to sit up even though I was in severe pain and all I could feel was my wrecked cervical canal and the device inside of me. I was able to dress and have some juice that was brought to me. The angel nurse came and sat with me some more to make sure I was okay. I was not, there was no position I could sit or stand in for relief but I again tried to put on a brave face, for a moment.
I felt delirious trying to make conversation and I suddenly realized I was sweating profusely. I informed him I needed to get undressed again. He suggested I lay back down. Terrible, no. I put my head under the faucet. My pelvis was screaming. Standing was awful. I hobbled to the bathroom across the hall and immediately took my shirt off again, more water. I felt like I needed to shit and puke. The pain was getting worse and worse so I weakly crossed the hall again shirtless back to the bed. Now the staff were concerned and coming to assist me.
I spent the next HOUR in pain again, nearly as bad as the procedure. Charlie horse level cramps all over from the waste down, the worst of which concentrated in my cervix. Fever chills and aches like the worst food poisoning/stomach virus you've ever had. The muscles in my hips were screaming and moving was not an option. I had ice packs on my head and warm packs all around my waste. I wondered if my body was in full assault mode against a perceived foreign invader. I am pretty sure I was in shock. I was hypotensive the whole time while a new nurse monitored my vitals. I struggled to respond to any one verbally.
The doctor overseeing the insertion swung by, placed pressure on my lower stomach and asked if it hurt. Yes. You're not gushing blood though are you? No. I don't recall him saying much else before a left again. Later, when delivering my exit consultation he reminded me of the "whoosh" sensation he'd told me about and explained thats what I had just experienced for the last hour and that it was not uncommon.
I felt like I was nailed to that bed for hours pouring sweat and trying everything to avoid the pain in my entire body. Eventually I noticed my breaths were finally seeming to connect back to my heart rate. I started coming back to life and immediately asked the new nurse if she knew why male birth control options were not available in the US after decades. She flatly responded, the patriarchy. I told her I had used tracking and withdraw for the past 14 years and I wasn't sure what I had just done to my body was necessary. She agreed, tracking could be a viable planning option she said. I still hadn't shed a tear during this ordeal.
Tears were to come and to come repeatedly in the following days, every time I remember anything about what happened. I was depleted and deeply depressed. I feel hurt and violated and alone. I'm not mad at any one in particular. I mad on the whole that we are made to feel we have an obligation to bravely endure Why?
The pain largely subsided after the worst of it but I could, and still can, feel the IUD inside me. I hope that awareness goes away and I can eventually forget it's there and what I went through for it. I was starting to feel better today until I got my medical report in my email. Notes for post procedure: "patient tolerated procedure well."
I am so beyond hurt and angry. This has to be a mistake? I've left voice messages with the clinic. This is very important for me that this is corrected, for my record and the larger record. I found it so hard to find stories like mine outside of this forum. Are they going unreported? How common is this? What are these statistics that are published?
I'm mad and exhausted and I hurt for anyone who had also experienced this. I want to hear your stories of your experiences, even if they were more fortunate than mine.
I don't not recommend getting any IUD, but I won't recommend it, at least not without pain management. do yourself the favor. But I feel more opposed to the concept now than ever before. I won't accept that this is the best option available in this day and age. Really?
2024.05.15 17:12 Pulsar-Darkstar I (26 F) don't get appreciated by my partner (32 M) and am not in his priorities. He also started blaming me for many things. What should I do?
I'm Lisa, 26 F, and have been in my relationship for 1,5 years with Max, (32 M). Me and Max met each other online. We both like gaming and one day started talking more with each other. We both confessed that we were not on the lookout for a partner, but soon realized that our chemistry was on point, and soon after we first met in a hotel. Things were going great, we realized we loved each other deeply, and after 3 moths, I asked him if he was ready for a new relationship. His last relationship ended just about a year ago because his ex gf suddenly left him. It was obvious that he was hurt, but never compared me to her or vice versa. Max is the guy that's very neutral, not bashing people or just talking gold of them, he sets things straight and clear, and has nothing to hide. He cares for his stuff, is working full-time in a 3 shirt system, and cares for the people he cares about. I on the other hand, am more of a realist/pessimist, but thanks to Max I started being way more optimistic. We both had a rough childhood. Max' mother left him and his family when he was 13, not caring about them after that. His dad always supported and cared for him, and teached him very useful lessons about how to handle things on a daily basis, and to overtime certain objects which become to be important in the future. My childhood was more chaotic. My dad never actually cared for me or my mother (his wife) and never stopped bashing my mom. She on the other hand handled everything herself. She cared for me nonstop as I had a serious heart condition and basically not working immune system, but thankfully this subsided over time when I grew older. My parents were always messy tho, they rarely took care of our home, and couldn't throw or give away stuff no one ever needed and used. I grew up in this horrible environment, not getting the support I needed in school when I was getting bullied and almost killed by some classmates, and had to deal with bashing at home after school. When I was 11, soon after the incident with my classmates, I soon became depressed and overwhelmed by all the hate and anger I encountered over the years. It's safe to say that some would've ended it after these events, but I didn't, but I thought about doing it. Yes, I started thinking about it, and it went on till my early 20s. Soon after when I was out of school, things took a turn for the worse, and my health was declining. At 16 my doctor diagnosed me with hydrocephalus, where the fluid in my brain caused pressure on my frontal lobe. He also found out that my right heart chamber was enlarged, and that I needed to take things slow and avoid stress at all costs. These issues persisted and are cause more and more smaller issues that affect my daily life. My hormones are out of control, with testosterone being in an extreme high, which makes me impulsive and I get angry fast. I was never like that, and I can't control it either. My senses started dwindling and I got in an even more depressed state as more issues appeared. I'm currently trying to get ahold of some professional doctors to further check me out, but getting appointments is very difficult and extremely time consuming. My boyfriend Max always supports me, and even offered me to take me to specialists, but never did it and stopped talking about it, even tho I asked from time to time. He knows about my past, and at the beginning he understood and respected me and the way I am because of all this. He never had any issues besides me being too pessimistic, but this greatly changed over a couple months after we came together. What concerns me is, as soon as I started improving, he started being the negative one. He started blaming me for being lazy, even tho he knows how bad my physical and mental health can be at days. I don't follow my parents standards when it comes to hygiene, and tbh I sometimes don't clean for 2 to 3 days, but this isn't the norm. I keep my home relatively clean, despite having 3 cats. He was very affectionate and curious at the beginning, but this all dwindled down with time. He knows what I like, like being cuddled, having my head or back scratched or getting gently caressed. It's something I do to him, and I know he loves it, but he stopped doing this to me. Max loves getting massages by me, as it helped with his back pain, and when I ask for a massage in return, he just postpones it day after day. He even stopped making out with me, even tho he always tells me how badly he wants it. The only thing that's been unaffected by this is the intimate part. It got better over time, and lacks nothing except sometimes, he tends to rush it. The overall affection and carefulness is on a hold tho, and when I try to talk to Max, he gets defensive and tries to blame me for everything. His understanding, respect and appreciation for what I actually do decimated as well. Even tho we share most lifegoals, Max still isn't sure about having a family one day and what we as a couple strive for. He also spends more and more time with his friends. He isn't cheating, I know most of his friends and been with him many times, and when I ask about some we-time, I always get "they are my friends, I was always like that. If I want to spend time with them I will" as an answer. He has no secrets, and would let me look into his phone and everything anytime, but I never looked into it as I respect his privacy.
What should I do? Should I ask him if I am one of his priorities at all? Or should I make clear what I want and expect? I just want mutual feelings and honesty, e.g. when I write him a letter about how I feel, how much I love him, what he means to me and that I'd like to built a healthy life with him, or when I do extra chores for him when he's sick, comforting and caring for him. Would that be too much to ask for?
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What should I do? Should I ask him if I am one of his priorities at all? Or should I make clear what I want and expect? I just want mutual feelings and honesty, e.g. when I write him a letter about how I feel, how much I love him, what he means to me and that I'd like to built a healthy life with him, or when I do extra chores for him when he's sick, comforting and caring for him. Would that be too much to ask for?
2024.05.15 17:11 ItIsWhatItIsmeh-_- Friend is cutting us off? I don’t understand.
So little back story, my friend F18, is has very strict parents, and unfortunately she was very good at school, not inherently stupid AT ALL, just not made for science which her parents forced her to do. We did our final exams, which she failed, retook and failed again. Understandably her parents were very mad.
She is very religious, so instead of living with her parents till she got enough marks to go to university she decided to do a Christian missionary mission in another country and pursue an online degree there. Before going she coincidentally met her bf (ex maybe?) a month before. Safe to say they did everything she’s never done and honestly good for her.
This is where it gets weird. She tells us that her grandpa is very sick and that they will have to go back to her country to be there with him, whole family leaves, and that she’ll go to her Christian mission from there. Which is fine. Weeks go by, I hear nothing from her so I decided to call her, she then proceeds to tell me that her parents found out about her bf and that’s why they went and her grandpa was never really sick. I find it weird but give her the benefit of the doubt but turns out her bf also didn’t know and he messaged me to find out (which is weird cause we never talk).
So she’s now doing her mission and when she first got there I asked her how it was going she was typing a response but left me on read so I thought maybe she got busy, a few days later a mutual friend tells us that she told him to delete her contacts and block her. Everyone agrees but she still updates regularly on Snapchat, so it doesn’t seem like her phone access is restricted.
Also I’m the only one in our friend group that still uses snap. I’m honestly very confused help 😕
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She is very religious, so instead of living with her parents till she got enough marks to go to university she decided to do a Christian missionary mission in another country and pursue an online degree there. Before going she coincidentally met her bf (ex maybe?) a month before. Safe to say they did everything she’s never done and honestly good for her.
This is where it gets weird. She tells us that her grandpa is very sick and that they will have to go back to her country to be there with him, whole family leaves, and that she’ll go to her Christian mission from there. Which is fine. Weeks go by, I hear nothing from her so I decided to call her, she then proceeds to tell me that her parents found out about her bf and that’s why they went and her grandpa was never really sick. I find it weird but give her the benefit of the doubt but turns out her bf also didn’t know and he messaged me to find out (which is weird cause we never talk).
So she’s now doing her mission and when she first got there I asked her how it was going she was typing a response but left me on read so I thought maybe she got busy, a few days later a mutual friend tells us that she told him to delete her contacts and block her. Everyone agrees but she still updates regularly on Snapchat, so it doesn’t seem like her phone access is restricted.
Also I’m the only one in our friend group that still uses snap. I’m honestly very confused help 😕
2024.05.15 17:11 Sweet-Count2557 10 Stunning Maldives Resort Beach Villas You Must See
 | 10 Stunning Maldives Resort Beach Villas You Must See We stumbled upon a treasure trove of 10 stunning Maldives resort beach villas that are truly captivating. Each villa offers a unique blend of luxury and tranquility that promises an unforgettable escape.From the crystal-clear waters surrounding Kudadoo Maldives to the lavish amenities at The Nautilus, these beachfront sanctuaries redefine opulence in paradise.But what sets them apart from the rest? Well, let's just say that once you catch a glimpse of these breathtaking retreats, you'll find it hard to resist the allure of experiencing pure bliss in these exclusive havens.Key TakeawaysEco-friendly overwater villas with solar power and private pools.Unique designs featuring European craftsmanship and aquatic inspiration.Luxurious amenities like rooftop terraces and glass-bottomed floors.Exclusive private villas with personalized services and bespoke dining experiences.Kudadoo MaldivesNestled in the pristine waters of the Maldives, Kudadoo Maldives stands out as a beacon of sustainable luxury with its 15 overwater residences powered by solar panels. Designed by Japanese architect Yuji Yamazaki, these overwater villas are crafted with materials from sustainably managed forests, blending seamlessly into the natural beauty that surrounds them. What truly sets Kudadoo apart is the private plunge pool that adorns each residence, offering guests a luxurious experience where they can bask in the sun and the serenity of the ocean.As we step into the realm of Kudadoo Maldives, we're greeted by a sense of sustainable living harmoniously coexisting with high-end luxury. The eco-friendly appeal of the resort is evident in its circular design, featuring vertical wooden slats made from sustainable timber. This thoughtful architecture not only enhances the aesthetic charm of the villas but also underscores the commitment to responsible tourism.For those seeking an exclusive escape, Kudadoo Maldives promises a high-end stay like no other. With rates starting at $3,000++ per night, guests can indulge in a private sanctuary where every detail is meticulously curated to provide a lavish and unforgettable experience. Whether lounging in the private plunge pool or gazing at the endless expanse of the ocean, Kudadoo Maldives offers a truly unparalleled retreat for those who appreciate the combination of luxury and sustainability.Soneva JaniCrafted with sustainable whitewashed wood, Soneva Jani offers 51 Water Retreats that blend luxury with eco-conscious initiatives. Nestled on the pristine Maldives Island, Soneva Jani is a beacon of sustainable design in the realm of luxury resorts. Divided into Chapter 1 and Chapter 2, guests can revel in an all-inclusive experience in Chapter 2, where every need is catered to with meticulous detail.From the moment you step into one of the Water Villas at Soneva Jani, you're enveloped in a world where opulence meets environmental responsibility. The rates, starting at $2,340++ per night, reflect a commitment to providing a luxurious yet eco-conscious stay. The villas boast a unique circular design, with vertical wooden slats crafted from sustainable timber, offering a blend of modern elegance and natural beauty.At Soneva Jani, sustainability isn't just a buzzword but a way of life. Guests can immerse themselves in initiatives like upcycling and revel in the resort's carbon-neutral status. Every aspect of the stay is designed to minimize the environmental impact while maximizing the luxury experience. Soneva Jani isn't just a destination; it's a testament to the harmonious coexistence of indulgence and eco-consciousness.The Ritz-Carlton Maldives, Fari IslandsThe Ritz-Carlton Maldives, Fari Islands presents a sustainable luxury experience with its majority of overwater villas featuring a circular design and vertical wooden slats made from sustainable timber. These villas not only offer a breathtaking view of the crystal-clear waters but also showcase the resort's commitment to eco-friendly practices.Here are three reasons why The Ritz-Carlton Maldives stands out as a top choice for travelers seeking both luxury and environmental conservation:Sustainable Design: The overwater villas at The Ritz-Carlton Maldives aren't only aesthetically pleasing but also environmentally conscious, with their vertical wooden slats made from sustainable timber. Guests can relax in luxury knowing that the resort values eco-friendly practices in its architecture.Solar-Powered Villas: Most villas at this luxury resort come equipped with solar-paneled roofs, a testament to the commitment towards sustainability. This eco-conscious approach not only reduces the resort's carbon footprint but also provides guests with a unique experience of residing in an environmentally friendly accommodation.Environmental Education: The resort offers the Jean-Michel Cousteau's Ambassadors of The Environment program, focusing on educating guests about environmental conservation efforts. This initiative allows visitors to engage in activities that promote a deeper understanding of the natural world, fostering a sense of responsibility towards environmental preservation.With rates starting at $1,700++ per night, The Ritz-Carlton Maldives, Fari Islands offers a luxurious and sustainable stay for guests seeking a premium experience in harmony with nature.The St. Regis Maldives Vommuli ResortEmbracing a design ethos that blends modern elegance with natural elements, the St. Regis Maldives Vommuli Resort beckons travelers to a sanctuary of luxury overlooking the azure waters of the North Male Atoll. This exclusive resort boasts 44 sleek overwater villas, featuring bright Scandi-style timber bedrooms and luxurious marble bathrooms. Each villa is a masterpiece of minimalist design, offering guests a tranquil escape in the Maldives' pristine surroundings.The highlight of The St. Regis Maldives Vommuli Resort is undoubtedly its overwater villas, designed to impress with spacious layouts and stylish decor. Guests can choose from one to three-bedroom options, ensuring a comfortable and lavish stay. What sets these villas apart is the rooftop terrace, perfect for intimate gatherings or romantic evenings with private BBQ dinners under the stars. For those seeking entertainment, the rooftop terrace also doubles as a venue for movie screenings, adding a touch of cinematic flair to your vacation.Diving into the lap of luxury, guests at this resort can indulge in a range of luxurious amenities and services. From rejuvenating spa treatments to exquisite dining experiences, The St. Regis Maldives Vommuli Resort promises a truly unforgettable stay in paradise.InterContinental Maldives Maamunagau ResortNestled in the picturesque Maldives, the InterContinental Maldives Maamunagau Resort offers a luxurious escape with its 24 overwater villas featuring infinity plunge pools and a modern beachy design. As part of the IHG resort family, this haven provides guests with a truly opulent experience. Here are some key highlights of this stunning resort:What Makes InterContinental Maldives Maamunagau Resort Stand Out:Overwater Villas: The resort boasts 24 exquisite overwater villas that redefine luxury living in the Maldives. These villas offer unparalleled views of the crystal-clear waters and direct access to the ocean, promising an unforgettable stay.Plunge Pools: Each overwater villa at InterContinental Maldives Maamunagau comes equipped with its very own infinity plunge pool. Guests can unwind in privacy while soaking in the breathtaking surroundings, creating a perfect blend of relaxation and indulgence.Conservation Initiative: Partnering with Manta Trust researchers, the resort actively supports manta ray conservation efforts. Guests not only enjoy a lavish retreat but also contribute to the preservation of the Maldives' rich marine life, making their stay more meaningful and environmentally conscious.Immerse yourself in the beauty of the Maldives at the InterContinental Maldives Maamunagau Resort, where luxury meets sustainability for an unforgettable island getaway.Velaa Private IslandAs we step onto Velaa Private Island, we're greeted by a harmonious blend of European craftsmanship and aquatic-inspired design in its 47 custom-made villas and residences. The private island resort offers a unique experience with villas featuring fish scale accent walls and turtle motifs, seamlessly integrating marine life into its luxurious amenities. Velaa Private Island is committed to environmental conservation, running coral regeneration programs and a Green Awareness Program to preserve the local coral reef ecosystem.Each villa on Velaa Private Island is a masterpiece in itself, uniquely designed with minimalist yet elegant decor that reflects the secluded retreat's upscale ambiance. Craftsmen craftsmanship is evident in every detail, ensuring a high level of quality and attention to design. Nestled in the North Male Atoll, guests can enjoy the tranquility and exclusivity of this luxurious escape, away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life.Whether snorkeling among vibrant coral reefs, indulging in world-class dining, or simply relaxing on the pristine beaches, Velaa Private Island offers a truly unforgettable Maldivian experience. It's a perfect blend of natural beauty, opulent comfort, and impeccable service, making it a top choice for those seeking a lavish retreat in paradise.Gili LankanfushiGili Lankanfushi beckons visitors with its eco-friendly overwater villas and personalized butler service, promising a luxurious retreat in harmony with nature. As we explore this stunning resort, here are some key highlights that make Gili Lankanfushi a top choice for a Maldives getaway:Eco-Friendly Overwater Villas: The overwater villas at Gili Lankanfushi aren't only luxurious but also environmentally conscious. Built using sustainable materials and designed to blend seamlessly with the natural surroundings, these villas offer a unique and eco-friendly accommodation experience.Personalized Butler Service: At Gili Lankanfushi, every guest is treated to personalized butler service, ensuring that your every need is catered to with utmost care and attention. From arranging bespoke experiences to attending to your dining preferences, the dedicated butlers at Gili Lankanfushi go above and beyond to make your stay truly exceptional.Gourmet Dining and Activities: Indulge in gourmet dining experiences at Gili Lankanfushi, where fresh seafood and organic ingredients take center stage. Additionally, guests can partake in a variety of activities, including snorkeling, diving, and dolphin cruises, ensuring that there's never a dull moment during your stay at this paradise.With its private islands, commitment to sustainability, and array of activities, Gili Lankanfushi offers a holistic and memorable Maldivian experience.Waldorf Astoria Maldives IthaafushiTucked away in the pristine waters of the Maldives, Waldorf Astoria Maldives Ithaafushi presents 55 exquisite overwater villas and two exclusive Stella Maris villas for a truly opulent escape. The villas boast elegant interiors, glass-bottomed closet floors, infinity pools, and overwater hammocks, offering guests a luxurious and serene retreat.Here is a glimpse of what Waldorf Astoria Maldives Ithaafushi has to offer:Overwater VillasMarine BiologistLuxury YachtElegant interiorsCoral nursery activitiesLavish experienceGlass-bottomed closet floorsInteract with marine lifeExclusive accessInfinity poolsEducational experiencesBreathtaking viewsOverwater hammocksLearn about conservationComfort and styleSerene outdoor spacesEnvironmental initiativesOpulent transportGuests can engage in coral nursery activities alongside a marine biologist, gaining insights into marine conservation while contributing to the preservation of the underwater ecosystem. Accessible by luxury yacht, the resort provides a lavish and exclusive experience from the moment you set foot on the island. Situated in a stunning location, Waldorf Astoria Maldives Ithaafushi is a haven for those seeking luxurious amenities, breathtaking views, and unparalleled relaxation in their overwater villas.JOALI MaldivesNestled in the idyllic Maldives, JOALI Maldives beckons with 73 luxurious beach and overwater villas, each boasting a private infinity pool. Here, personalized experiences await, ensuring a stay filled with bespoke luxury and unparalleled relaxation.Artistic Marvels: JOALI Maldives is a haven for art enthusiasts, with each villa featuring handpicked artworks and unique design details. Guests can immerse themselves in the resort's artistic ambiance, appreciating the beauty that surrounds them at every turn.Underwater Wonderland: Dive into a world of wonder at JOALI Maldives' underwater art installation, a mesmerizing display of unique sculptures beneath the crystal-clear waters. This innovative feature adds an extra touch of magic to the already enchanting surroundings.Culinary Delights: Indulge your taste buds at JOALI Maldives' diverse dining options, including a treehouse restaurant that offers a memorable dining experience high above the ground. From fine dining to casual bites, there's something to satisfy every craving at this luxurious resort.Whether you seek tranquility by your private infinity pool or wish to explore the depths of the ocean through art, JOALI Maldives promises a stay filled with unforgettable moments and unparalleled beauty.The NautilusAt The Nautilus, luxury meets exclusivity with its private beach houses offering unparalleled personalized service and bespoke dining experiences for every guest. Situated on a private island in the Maldives, The Nautilus is a beacon of extravagance and refinement. Each beach house is a sanctuary of opulence, complete with a private pool and direct access to the pristine beaches, ensuring a perfect blend of comfort and nature.What sets The Nautilus apart is its dedication to personalized service. Every guest is assigned a dedicated House Master, a knowledgeable and attentive concierge who caters to their every need. From arranging exclusive excursions to ensuring that every preference is met, the House Master is there to make each guest's stay truly exceptional.Moreover, dining at The Nautilus is a bespoke experience in itself. Guests can indulge in culinary delights tailored to their tastes and dietary requirements. Whether it's a romantic beachfront dinner under the stars or a casual lunch by the pool, every meal is a masterpiece crafted to perfection.The resort's unique 'Freedom Concept' allows guests the liberty to design their own schedule and experiences, ensuring that every moment is tailored to their desires. At The Nautilus, every guest is treated to a world of luxury where their every whim is met with unparalleled service and attention to detail.Frequently Asked QuestionsWhich Is the Best Water Villa in Maldives?When choosing the best water villa in the Maldives, we prioritize luxury accommodations, overwater paradises, private retreats, exotic getaways, romantic escapes, and tropical hideaways.Each resort offers unique features, from exclusive amenities to stunning designs. Researching and comparing various properties can help us find the perfect match based on our preferences.It's essential to consider factors like location, amenities, and design to ensure a memorable and tailored experience.Which Part of Maldives Is Most Beautiful?When it comes to the Maldives, every corner is a tropical paradise waiting to be explored. From hidden gems with crystal-clear waters to pristine beaches on remote islands, each part of the Maldives offers a picture-perfect setting.It's hard to pinpoint the most beautiful area as each has its own unique charm. Whether you seek tranquility or adventure, the Maldives is a dream destination for anyone craving a slice of paradise.What Are the Top 10 Resorts in Maldives?We've uncovered the top 10 resorts in the Maldives, offering luxury escapes, hidden gems, romantic getaways, exclusive retreats, paradise found, and private islands.These resorts boast stunning ocean views, private amenities, conservation programs, gourmet dining, and water sports.With overwater villas, private plunge pools, and direct access to coral reefs, guests can indulge in inclusive packages covering meals, beverages, spa treatments, and unforgettable experiences like sunset cruises or whale shark snorkeling tours.What Is the Best Beach Like the Maldives?When thinking about the best beach resembling the Maldives, we can't help but imagine crystal clear waters, soft sand, and breathtaking sunset views.Beach activities like snorkeling and romantic getaways in this tropical paradise are truly unforgettable.Luxury accommodations with private beach villas offer the perfect blend of relaxation and indulgence.Experiencing the Maldives' beauty firsthand is a dream come true.ConclusionAs we sail away from the Maldives, the memories of our beach villa experiences linger like the gentle ocean breeze.From the sustainable luxury of Kudadoo Maldives to the all-inclusive Water Retreats at Soneva Jani, each resort offered a unique slice of paradise.Just like the crystal-clear waters that surround these villas, our time in the Maldives was a refreshing and rejuvenating escape from the ordinary.The beauty of these beach villas truly left a lasting imprint on our hearts. submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] |