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Been harbouring this family problem: dad a serial emotional cheater and mom seems apathetic
2024.05.14 12:45 melodylake Been harbouring this family problem: dad a serial emotional cheater and mom seems apathetic
My father emotionally cheated on my mother a couple of times with the same woman from their company. He has denied it multiple times but was forgiven repeatedly. Not much confrontation happened between them except to talk in a normal tone and her asking why he did it?
Recently, he was caught peeking at someone while they were bathing and that was the final straw. He said what he did was not too grave and he should be forgiven. He left our house for 2 weeks but then returned back as if nothing happened.
As my siblings and I are so sickened by what we did, we confronted him again. He denied everything and seems unremorseful. He said he was hurt that we drove him away, Then went on to saying that he's the father and he should be given respect because he raised us. We told him that there's no respect nor trust anymore on the part of his children and he smacked me on the face and put his hands around my neck. I threatened to call the police. While this was going my mother was begging for the both of us to stop the confrontation. She just cried.
It caused so much heartache to everyone, especially my mother, but she still seemingly has a tad bit of room for forgiveness. I accidentally saw her text message with my sibling who was not in the country. It read that she was not happy about what my other siblings and I did.
I'm just very much overwhelmed by the recent events and do not have someone to tell to. I'm very mad.
TL;DR: my father is a cheater and a pervert, my mother seems to want reconciliation still.
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Recently, he was caught peeking at someone while they were bathing and that was the final straw. He said what he did was not too grave and he should be forgiven. He left our house for 2 weeks but then returned back as if nothing happened.
As my siblings and I are so sickened by what we did, we confronted him again. He denied everything and seems unremorseful. He said he was hurt that we drove him away, Then went on to saying that he's the father and he should be given respect because he raised us. We told him that there's no respect nor trust anymore on the part of his children and he smacked me on the face and put his hands around my neck. I threatened to call the police. While this was going my mother was begging for the both of us to stop the confrontation. She just cried.
It caused so much heartache to everyone, especially my mother, but she still seemingly has a tad bit of room for forgiveness. I accidentally saw her text message with my sibling who was not in the country. It read that she was not happy about what my other siblings and I did.
I'm just very much overwhelmed by the recent events and do not have someone to tell to. I'm very mad.
TL;DR: my father is a cheater and a pervert, my mother seems to want reconciliation still.
2024.05.14 11:45 ThProsecutor I have a colleague who has been alternating between calling me by my correct name and a completely different name for 6 months and I'm genuinely lost as to what to do now.
As per the title, someone from another department who I regularly interact with on projects after 6 months still can't seem to settle on whether to call me by actual name or by a completely different name.
For anonymity, lets just say my name is Darren and this person will more often than not call me Derrick.
It started in the first Teams meeting I was apart of with her, where she was presenting and was about to refer to me. She panicked when trying to remember my name and couldn't find it on the screen and ultimately landed on calling me Derrick twice.
Fair enough, mistakes happen and I didn't say anything as I figured she would've realised after and felt embarrassed enough as it is.
Unfortunately, this has continued where she has kept alternating in what she calls me, only once has she caught herself realising she was about to say the wrong name, had a nervous giggle and called me by the right name. At that point I thought she had finally realised but again, it was another false dawn.
Now, 6 months later and this happening in meetings. This afternoon she has now sent me an email and addressed me correctly as Darren in the original email, only to then 10 minutes after my reply refer to me once again as Derrick and I think this is my breaking point.
She's clearly messaging me on Teams/sending me emails/refering to me correctly at times on emails and documents, I just can't fathom how she keeps getting it wrong.
I would normally think to mention it jokingly but at this point its gone on so long I don't know how I can do it in a non-awkward way. Coupled with the fact that I'm pretty sure she is on the spectrum or there's something else happening with her that I don't want to potentially embarrass her if there's something contributing to this beyond her control.
I have no interactions with her boss so that's not really an option and there's no one else that's been on the end of this except me.
Do I just pull the bandaid off and talk to her about this or is there a better way to handle (including saying nothing)?
I feel like I'm living the plot of a Seinfeld episode.
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For anonymity, lets just say my name is Darren and this person will more often than not call me Derrick.
It started in the first Teams meeting I was apart of with her, where she was presenting and was about to refer to me. She panicked when trying to remember my name and couldn't find it on the screen and ultimately landed on calling me Derrick twice.
Fair enough, mistakes happen and I didn't say anything as I figured she would've realised after and felt embarrassed enough as it is.
Unfortunately, this has continued where she has kept alternating in what she calls me, only once has she caught herself realising she was about to say the wrong name, had a nervous giggle and called me by the right name. At that point I thought she had finally realised but again, it was another false dawn.
Now, 6 months later and this happening in meetings. This afternoon she has now sent me an email and addressed me correctly as Darren in the original email, only to then 10 minutes after my reply refer to me once again as Derrick and I think this is my breaking point.
She's clearly messaging me on Teams/sending me emails/refering to me correctly at times on emails and documents, I just can't fathom how she keeps getting it wrong.
I would normally think to mention it jokingly but at this point its gone on so long I don't know how I can do it in a non-awkward way. Coupled with the fact that I'm pretty sure she is on the spectrum or there's something else happening with her that I don't want to potentially embarrass her if there's something contributing to this beyond her control.
I have no interactions with her boss so that's not really an option and there's no one else that's been on the end of this except me.
Do I just pull the bandaid off and talk to her about this or is there a better way to handle (including saying nothing)?
I feel like I'm living the plot of a Seinfeld episode.
2024.05.14 01:45 small-cute-clown I want to admit to my parents that I'm not a Christian. How?
im going to cut to the chase: im a satanist and i have been for a couple of years. i was raised in the church, as my dad is an ordained bishop. when i was 14, i got caught dating another girl, and was punished severely with a beating and every item in my room taken away, including my door, and i was pulled out of school for a few days to listen to my dad preach to me about why homosexuality is a sin. fast forward now, im nearing 22, and i just got married to the love of my life. he lives in england, (im from the us) so ill be moving out in a few months to be with him soon. my parents are noticeably trying to mend their relationship with me, but i feel awkward and disconnected. i haven't told them i dont believe in christianity, and i definitely haven't told them im a satanist. i want my relationship with my parents to be good finally after years of it being rocky and many MANY fights popping up, but i have a feeling that if i tell them who i really am, they'll cut contact or worse, fly out to me and preach to me through my door. i dont want an estranged relationship with them anymore, i deserve a set of loving parents who truly love ME and not an image they've made in their heads on what i should be. what would you do in my situation?
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2024.05.14 00:03 Ur_Anemone The Sleazy Rise and Humiliating Fall of Ashley Madison
 | The 2015 hacking of adulterous dating website Ashley Madison was a crime, and yet precious few felt sorry for those who were impacted by this offense, be they the company’s CEO and his employees or the 37 million users who were outed as cheaters. Ashley Madison: Sex, Lies & Scandal, a three-part Netflix docuseries from directors Zoe Hutton and Gagan Rehill, focuses on a couple of sob stories—including a popular Christian vlogging couple caught in the cheating crossfire—which detail the fallout from this headline-making incident, all in an effort to put a human face on a tawdry scandal. No matter the tears and critiques dispensed by those individuals, however, there’s little here to lose sleep over—unless, of course, your profile was in one of the two infamous data dumps… submitted by Ur_Anemone to afterAWDTSG [link] [comments] Orchestrated by a collective that called itself The Impact Team, the hackers announced that if Ashley Madison didn’t shut down within 30 days, they’d release the personal information of all 37 million account holders. Thrust into turmoil, Biderman and his panicked companions hired Swedish cybersecurity experts Joel Eriksson and André Catry to track down who was behind this breach. Alas, they came up with nothing, and on August 18, the floodgates opened. While Catry initially suspected that Biderman might have had something to do with the hack (because the site believed that all publicity is good publicity), a second hack that contained all of Biderman’s personal and professional emails put that idea to rest. More than just revealing him to be an adulterer, this information exposed the wide-scale fraud being perpetrated by Ashley Madison, whose pledges of cybersecurity excellence (look at all those award badges on the homepage!) were a lie, and whose female users were largely fake accounts either manned by company employees or by bots. In other words, most men were paying through the nose and risking their marriages, reputations, and careers to chat with non-existent women. All in all, it was about as big a losing proposition as one could imagine. Much of this has been reported ad nauseam during the past decade, so Ashley Madison: Sex, Lies & Scandal adds a human element by portraying individuals who were affected by the hack. The lion’s share of that attention goes to Sam and Nia Rader, a Texas couple whose seemingly perfect life as Christian vloggers was upended by the revelation that Sam had spent time on Ashley Madison. Sam and Nia’s story is told through lots of confessional interviews and their online videos, with Sam contending that he was motivated by a lack of self-esteem (and a longing for first-love excitement) rather than sex. Yet like so much of what’s said in this docuseries, his comments must be taken with a giant grain of salt, especially since he implies that, even aside from Ashley Madison, he strayed from the marital path for years and continually lied about it to his spouse. Despite Sam’s anguished recitation of his missteps, Ashley Madison: Sex, Lies & Scandal fails to make him sympathetic. Similarly, its attempts to paint the media and public’s gleeful fascination with the hack—and the cheaters who were being shamed—as unseemly and cruel are largely unsuccessful. Even when it concentrates on Christi, whose seminary-teacher husband committed suicide because of the data dump, the docuseries doesn’t get far in making viewers feel bad for taking “self-righteous” delight in seeing louts grapple with the consequences of their risky actions. In the end, the blame for these ruined lives and fortunes falls squarely on those who willingly chose to do what they did, knowing full well the obvious potential costs. As a result, Hutton and Rehill’s non-fiction investigation is most notable for simply shining a light on the lengths people will go to indulge their selfish desires—a notion borne out by the fact that Sam and Nia are still together, as well as by Ashley Madison’s continued operation. |
2024.05.13 19:46 queenoftears9 My husband (M/33) thinks I'm (F/31) bored with our sex life so made dummy account on reddit and started commenting on other girl's nude photo. How do I move past this?
My husband (M/33) and I (F/31) have been married for 5 years now.
We've known each other for 8 years and had a long-distance relationship for almost 5 years. In short, we've been apart for 3 years during our marriage. Although we're not physically together, our relationship stays strong cause we talked every day. Literally. Every single day, as soon as we wake up, in the middle of the day between breaks and before going to bed.
We're both introverts. He's a gamer, and so he mostly stays at home during his days off, and I'm a booknerd, so I also don't have a social life. My entire life revolves around him, and I am so in love with him.
When I finally moved in with him, it was great. It's better than what I ever imagined. He's not super romantic in terms of buying flowers and other stuff that I always read in romance books. He's the practical type that will buy me clothes, or food, and books. And I love that.
Our sex life is awesome, too. It was better than sexting and naughty video calls we did when we were apart. He was my first with everything. He was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first experience in love-making, and I know he'll be the only one for me.
I'm also his first with everything. He was a big man, 6 foot tall, but he always had insecurity about the size of his penis. He was upfront with me about his size the first time we both showed interest with each other romantically. He always says his size is small for his race (black American), and so he never tried to hook up with anyone because of it. He said he has porn-addiction, cause that's the only place he can find release since he's scared about getting rejected. He has depression and anxiety because he always thinks he's gonna be alone and has suicidal thoughts until he meets me.
I'm 4'11" Asian and so I told him honestly that whatever he considered small is a giant inside me. And it was true because I love the way he makes me feel when we're being intimate. He was perfect, and our sex life was perfect!
Or so I thought!
Last month, we went out of the country to visit family, and since we're staying with his mom, he told me beforehand that we won't be able to make love during those 2 weeks. And I'm okay with that cause I respect my mother in law. She was very nice to me from the very start and treated me like a real daughter.
Some nights, during our stay there, he kept hinting he wanted to do it, but I was not in the mood. We're touring all day, every day, walking around, and I'm exhausted and drained and just wanna go to bed.
When we went back home after two weeks, our sex life was back to how it used to be. Nothing changed about how he treats me or how he acts. He was still the guy I know and married, but for some reason, my gut is telling me something is not right.
I know it's not appropriate to check your husband's phone. I respect his privacy, but I want my peace of mind as well. So, 2 nights ago, I checked his phone while he was sleeping. He enrolled my fingerprints in his phone, so I don't have to do any crazy thing to unlock his phone.
Everything was normal. There are no other accounts. No unusual app. Nothing. I was ready to accept that I was just being paranoid, but I remember he's always on reddit, so I opened that. Nothing was unusual until I saw that he had another account. So I opened that, and my whole world came crumbling down.
I was shaking and feeling cold. He was commenting on other girl's picture of their private parts and saying how he wanted to eat and shoved his dick inside them.
I was broken-hearted. I don't know what to do. So I woke him up and confronted him. I was a mess, I was crying the whole time. He was crying too and kept saying sorry. I told him he was only sorry cause I caught him.
After I gathered myself, I gave him a chance to explain, and he said he made the account during our vacation cause he felt like I was bored of him. He was still insecure of his size and was thinking I was not satisfied all this time. He was scared that someday I would get sick and tired and find someone else. He told me that he was spiraling on his porn-addiction but didn't want to watch one again, and so the next best thing is to do what he did.
He made me check his phone again and saw that all interactions he did were just for 3 days in the middle of our vacation and nothing more after we got home.
These past 2 days since I saw that, I felt betrayed even after he explained it to me. He assured me that it was only that time. He never physically cheated on me and never will.
I'm still heartbroken. I'm feeling so alone and insecure and feel that I'm not enough for him. I felt like he was the one bored of me. Cause why would he make an account to comment on other girl's nude photos, just because we didn't make love during those 2 weeks. I started doubting the years we spent apart.
I don't know if I can trust him again. I love this man so much, I'm still sobbing while typing this. I told him that it would take a while for me to forgive him, that I probably won't forget about it, and that I will keep bringing it up every time. He said he's okay with that as long as I don't leave him.
I told him that this was his last chance. I would walk away from him if this happened again.
But I'm still scared. I am still heartbroken. I don't know how to move past this even after talking with him.
He told me to talk to someone about what happened, but I don't want to tell my family or friends because I don't want them to look at him differently. Cause once I ruined his image to them, even if we ended up moving past this, my family and friends won't, and they'll always see him as a cheater. I don't want that to happen cause he is a good husband. He told me to reach out to his mom (she's a marriage counselor) and tell her about what he did. But I don't know if I want to do that as well.
I don't know what to do. How could I rebuild this trust? How can I move on? Will I ever forget about it?
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We've known each other for 8 years and had a long-distance relationship for almost 5 years. In short, we've been apart for 3 years during our marriage. Although we're not physically together, our relationship stays strong cause we talked every day. Literally. Every single day, as soon as we wake up, in the middle of the day between breaks and before going to bed.
We're both introverts. He's a gamer, and so he mostly stays at home during his days off, and I'm a booknerd, so I also don't have a social life. My entire life revolves around him, and I am so in love with him.
When I finally moved in with him, it was great. It's better than what I ever imagined. He's not super romantic in terms of buying flowers and other stuff that I always read in romance books. He's the practical type that will buy me clothes, or food, and books. And I love that.
Our sex life is awesome, too. It was better than sexting and naughty video calls we did when we were apart. He was my first with everything. He was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first experience in love-making, and I know he'll be the only one for me.
I'm also his first with everything. He was a big man, 6 foot tall, but he always had insecurity about the size of his penis. He was upfront with me about his size the first time we both showed interest with each other romantically. He always says his size is small for his race (black American), and so he never tried to hook up with anyone because of it. He said he has porn-addiction, cause that's the only place he can find release since he's scared about getting rejected. He has depression and anxiety because he always thinks he's gonna be alone and has suicidal thoughts until he meets me.
I'm 4'11" Asian and so I told him honestly that whatever he considered small is a giant inside me. And it was true because I love the way he makes me feel when we're being intimate. He was perfect, and our sex life was perfect!
Or so I thought!
Last month, we went out of the country to visit family, and since we're staying with his mom, he told me beforehand that we won't be able to make love during those 2 weeks. And I'm okay with that cause I respect my mother in law. She was very nice to me from the very start and treated me like a real daughter.
Some nights, during our stay there, he kept hinting he wanted to do it, but I was not in the mood. We're touring all day, every day, walking around, and I'm exhausted and drained and just wanna go to bed.
When we went back home after two weeks, our sex life was back to how it used to be. Nothing changed about how he treats me or how he acts. He was still the guy I know and married, but for some reason, my gut is telling me something is not right.
I know it's not appropriate to check your husband's phone. I respect his privacy, but I want my peace of mind as well. So, 2 nights ago, I checked his phone while he was sleeping. He enrolled my fingerprints in his phone, so I don't have to do any crazy thing to unlock his phone.
Everything was normal. There are no other accounts. No unusual app. Nothing. I was ready to accept that I was just being paranoid, but I remember he's always on reddit, so I opened that. Nothing was unusual until I saw that he had another account. So I opened that, and my whole world came crumbling down.
I was shaking and feeling cold. He was commenting on other girl's picture of their private parts and saying how he wanted to eat and shoved his dick inside them.
I was broken-hearted. I don't know what to do. So I woke him up and confronted him. I was a mess, I was crying the whole time. He was crying too and kept saying sorry. I told him he was only sorry cause I caught him.
After I gathered myself, I gave him a chance to explain, and he said he made the account during our vacation cause he felt like I was bored of him. He was still insecure of his size and was thinking I was not satisfied all this time. He was scared that someday I would get sick and tired and find someone else. He told me that he was spiraling on his porn-addiction but didn't want to watch one again, and so the next best thing is to do what he did.
He made me check his phone again and saw that all interactions he did were just for 3 days in the middle of our vacation and nothing more after we got home.
These past 2 days since I saw that, I felt betrayed even after he explained it to me. He assured me that it was only that time. He never physically cheated on me and never will.
I'm still heartbroken. I'm feeling so alone and insecure and feel that I'm not enough for him. I felt like he was the one bored of me. Cause why would he make an account to comment on other girl's nude photos, just because we didn't make love during those 2 weeks. I started doubting the years we spent apart.
I don't know if I can trust him again. I love this man so much, I'm still sobbing while typing this. I told him that it would take a while for me to forgive him, that I probably won't forget about it, and that I will keep bringing it up every time. He said he's okay with that as long as I don't leave him.
I told him that this was his last chance. I would walk away from him if this happened again.
But I'm still scared. I am still heartbroken. I don't know how to move past this even after talking with him.
He told me to talk to someone about what happened, but I don't want to tell my family or friends because I don't want them to look at him differently. Cause once I ruined his image to them, even if we ended up moving past this, my family and friends won't, and they'll always see him as a cheater. I don't want that to happen cause he is a good husband. He told me to reach out to his mom (she's a marriage counselor) and tell her about what he did. But I don't know if I want to do that as well.
I don't know what to do. How could I rebuild this trust? How can I move on? Will I ever forget about it?
2024.05.13 08:04 gou18 I think I am being an a h but I don't care anymore
This is a long one apologize for format English is my second language etc. Background::When I was 17 met a guy I felt madly in love with him, 2 years later I got pregnant with his baby, parents weren't super happy, but we're supportive, but my baby passed away a few minutes after being born due to medical neglect, we separated and I was so heart broken that spent 1 year locked up in my room after 1 year I started to leave the house.
He looked for me and asked me to go to the US with him. His job was erratic I think he would spend 1 week away 1 week home and I was dumb enough to trust him about his job was like that. 10 years passed. We are now 30. He started to insist we have a baby, at 6 months pregnant a woman call me to let me know she has 3 kids with him and to leave him alone. Then he confess the whole having a baby is just a way to keep me from leaving him as he knew she was going to contact me.
I was heartbroken and moved out, for 7 years stayed alone in a country where I had no one, I filed for child support, at first I didn't blame her, for my mishaps but then I was told she openly knowing, he had someone, she told the she didn't care he was cheating because she now gets to be "the wife" also told his brothers that she would starve the kids if he didn't stay with her, to me he staying with me was not even an option. I wanted out and away from that amount of crazy.
He never stop asking me to take him back and my answer has always been NO.
Fast forward 7 years have passed I moved back to my country where I have lived a very good and happy life, when I first moved I told my ex I was never going back to him, and if he wanted a relationship with his kid he was going to have to call and text and do the work, he didn't do that stop contact and stop paying child support.
1 year ago called me asking if he could be allowed to speak with his child, I let my kid decide and they started to talk. He also started sending money to her, turned out the sudden change of heart was because his oldest son died in an accident.
I have tried to be compassionate as I well know what is like to bury your own child, so I gave him the chance to speak with his child. I did asked if he was going to have issues because I assumed he was still with her, he told me she took off and abandoned the other kids. I stop him about telling me more as I said that was none of my business. He also confessed still being in love with me. But I felt that my relationship with him has downgraded to be like an old acquaintance. And told him as much. After that my child seemed to be happy to talk to him and having him in back in her life. At first thought he was lying about not being with her, but he would call at any time of day something that I remember he would not do, not even while we were together. He had an "strict policy" of phone turned off from 6 pm till next morning, I guess that's one of the things he did to avoid getting caught.
Two weeks ago I get a text message : I am (ex- name) wife... I replied: Congrats?! No response so I just blocked the number and texted my ex what was that about, "if you have a new gf or the same one let me know if she is crazy I'm out of this b*** I don't need the stress" He says has no idea he face time to show me where he lives with his 2 kids even the kids sees what is he saying and say is true mom does not live here, that was not the point to me but to know if I should expect more of this 💩
1 week ago got a call I was a bit busy so I didn't notice the number and I answered, I recognize her voice and said; ok what do you want now? She replies: oh so you think that now you can make a family with him huh? I will beat you up b****. It was so ridiculous that I just started to laugh and hung up.
Yesterday she added me to a group chat I didn't knew you could get added into a group chat from a blocked number, but I guess I had to block her number in WhatsApp too
She sent me this text (translated from my language: seems you are still very eager to eat from my leftovers b***
So I finally replied I typed it on a notepad so I could copy - paste it and block her for good.
The only one who ate leftovers were you, I know him since we were 17 and we're each other first for a lot of things, there is a reason why his mom, brothers and respective wives, still consider me his first love and you are still the mistress, yes he cheated on me with you and you "won" as I didn't wanted him anymore, taking the cheater is not a flex, lastly have some dignity and self respect, you are acting like a high school girl fighting for a boyfriend, the dude who cheated on me and then on you with your friends, yes I know about that. And not only that but he begged me to take him back, he never respected you or me. And you have been living in my shadow and if you keep this up will be in the shadows of any other woman he meets. Bye and have a nice life.
I blocked her after that, but then she called my daughter, how TF got the number?I have no idea, my guess is she still talks to her other kids, they could have easily look into his dad phone. The worst part is that she told my child she was going to have me killed and she will be an orphan. That made me very angry, so I went petty called her back and ripped her a new one saying that if she dared to contact my kid again. I would be contacting hers, even if I had to use a Ouija board because I doubt someone that stupid could keep her kids alive. All I heard was a scream like someone was starting to cry. I Hung up and blocked her now from my child's phone.
Yes, I know, that was a low blow and I am an AH but at this point I am not willing to let anyone get away with harassing my child. I called my ex and told him this is your fault and I want no part in this you deal with her and do not call ME until you fix it, Your choice just letting you know I am not going to let her or anyone bother my child.
So TLDR ex tried to coparent until his own ex acted like a high school kid and harassed my child. I put her on her place going the AH route of reminding her, about the death of her own child and kind of saying it was her fault.
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He looked for me and asked me to go to the US with him. His job was erratic I think he would spend 1 week away 1 week home and I was dumb enough to trust him about his job was like that. 10 years passed. We are now 30. He started to insist we have a baby, at 6 months pregnant a woman call me to let me know she has 3 kids with him and to leave him alone. Then he confess the whole having a baby is just a way to keep me from leaving him as he knew she was going to contact me.
I was heartbroken and moved out, for 7 years stayed alone in a country where I had no one, I filed for child support, at first I didn't blame her, for my mishaps but then I was told she openly knowing, he had someone, she told the she didn't care he was cheating because she now gets to be "the wife" also told his brothers that she would starve the kids if he didn't stay with her, to me he staying with me was not even an option. I wanted out and away from that amount of crazy.
He never stop asking me to take him back and my answer has always been NO.
Fast forward 7 years have passed I moved back to my country where I have lived a very good and happy life, when I first moved I told my ex I was never going back to him, and if he wanted a relationship with his kid he was going to have to call and text and do the work, he didn't do that stop contact and stop paying child support.
1 year ago called me asking if he could be allowed to speak with his child, I let my kid decide and they started to talk. He also started sending money to her, turned out the sudden change of heart was because his oldest son died in an accident.
I have tried to be compassionate as I well know what is like to bury your own child, so I gave him the chance to speak with his child. I did asked if he was going to have issues because I assumed he was still with her, he told me she took off and abandoned the other kids. I stop him about telling me more as I said that was none of my business. He also confessed still being in love with me. But I felt that my relationship with him has downgraded to be like an old acquaintance. And told him as much. After that my child seemed to be happy to talk to him and having him in back in her life. At first thought he was lying about not being with her, but he would call at any time of day something that I remember he would not do, not even while we were together. He had an "strict policy" of phone turned off from 6 pm till next morning, I guess that's one of the things he did to avoid getting caught.
Two weeks ago I get a text message : I am (ex- name) wife... I replied: Congrats?! No response so I just blocked the number and texted my ex what was that about, "if you have a new gf or the same one let me know if she is crazy I'm out of this b*** I don't need the stress" He says has no idea he face time to show me where he lives with his 2 kids even the kids sees what is he saying and say is true mom does not live here, that was not the point to me but to know if I should expect more of this 💩
1 week ago got a call I was a bit busy so I didn't notice the number and I answered, I recognize her voice and said; ok what do you want now? She replies: oh so you think that now you can make a family with him huh? I will beat you up b****. It was so ridiculous that I just started to laugh and hung up.
Yesterday she added me to a group chat I didn't knew you could get added into a group chat from a blocked number, but I guess I had to block her number in WhatsApp too
She sent me this text (translated from my language: seems you are still very eager to eat from my leftovers b***
So I finally replied I typed it on a notepad so I could copy - paste it and block her for good.
The only one who ate leftovers were you, I know him since we were 17 and we're each other first for a lot of things, there is a reason why his mom, brothers and respective wives, still consider me his first love and you are still the mistress, yes he cheated on me with you and you "won" as I didn't wanted him anymore, taking the cheater is not a flex, lastly have some dignity and self respect, you are acting like a high school girl fighting for a boyfriend, the dude who cheated on me and then on you with your friends, yes I know about that. And not only that but he begged me to take him back, he never respected you or me. And you have been living in my shadow and if you keep this up will be in the shadows of any other woman he meets. Bye and have a nice life.
I blocked her after that, but then she called my daughter, how TF got the number?I have no idea, my guess is she still talks to her other kids, they could have easily look into his dad phone. The worst part is that she told my child she was going to have me killed and she will be an orphan. That made me very angry, so I went petty called her back and ripped her a new one saying that if she dared to contact my kid again. I would be contacting hers, even if I had to use a Ouija board because I doubt someone that stupid could keep her kids alive. All I heard was a scream like someone was starting to cry. I Hung up and blocked her now from my child's phone.
Yes, I know, that was a low blow and I am an AH but at this point I am not willing to let anyone get away with harassing my child. I called my ex and told him this is your fault and I want no part in this you deal with her and do not call ME until you fix it, Your choice just letting you know I am not going to let her or anyone bother my child.
So TLDR ex tried to coparent until his own ex acted like a high school kid and harassed my child. I put her on her place going the AH route of reminding her, about the death of her own child and kind of saying it was her fault.
2024.05.13 08:01 SharkEva [Final Update] - Caught My wife sending pics to BIL is our marriage is salvageable at this point?
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/ThrowRAWifePics2 posting in relationship_advice
Ongoing as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 1st May 2024
Update - 3rd May 2024
1 New Update
Final Update - 11th May 2024
Caught My(35m) wife(34) sending pics to BIL(40m) is our marriage is salvageable at this point?
My wife Jessica (34) and I (35m) have been married for 3 years, and we dated for 2 years before that and we have two year old daughter. Jessica has two sisters, the eldest one (38f) is married to Jake (40m).
A week ago, I came home from work early and wanted to scare Jessica. I tried to be sneaky, but somehow I slipped and accidentally hurt my back. Jessica came to my rescue. I went to the bedroom, and she went to the kitchen to get an ice pack. Her phone was by the bed, and a WhatsApp notification came from Jake saying, "You've got the best pair I've ever seen."
I immediately knew what was happening. I unlocked the phone and saw that she had just sent some pics and video of her t*ts to Jake, and there were no previous chats before that. When Jessica came back to the room, I showed her the chat and asked, "How long?"
I have known this woman for 10 years, and I have never seen her so mortified. Her eyes got teary, and she said, "Babe, I am sorry, but I can explain" so I said go on.
According to her, at the end of 2019, she was struggling with money, and Jake suggested he would help her out. He hinted that he would like to see her pics. So she did sent him pics and it continue over the years, She swears there was nothing emotional or physical involved—it was purely transactional. I didn't believe any of it, but she showed me on Venmo, that MF paid her $300 yesterday.
I then told her, "It's been 5 years. Try to remember if anything physical happened". For me, if even half of what she is saying is true, how could something like that not become physical? She started crying and told me she could prove it tomorrow because Jake would get suspicious if she tried to talk to him now.
I took her phone, went to a bar, got wasted for the night, and when I came back, she was still there crying. I just slept on the couch. Next day morning I gave her the phone she called Jake, conversation goes something like this
I felt like I was going to puke, I told her that we are done and left for office. I am not a very wealthy dude, but I would consider myself a stable guy who could take care of his family. Now I just feel like I have failed as a man, who's wife had to sell her body to meet her expected lifestyle.
When I got home that night, she looked like shit, I asked Jessica why she kept taking money from him after we got married and why she didn't ask me while we were dating. She said she didn't know how to stop and that it was easy money. I left my home that night and told her she can keep the home and the car but I want 50/50 custody of my child.
So here I am now, haven't told anyone about this. It's been a week since, staying in a hotel. I go home in the evening to play with my daughter. I'm speaking with divorce lawyers, and Jessica is constantly talking about marriage counseling.
Comments
thesocialmediadetox
Her sister deserves to know.
Elegant-Channel351
Gather the evidence. Contact an attorney. Follow the attorneys advice AND tell your SIL and all of the family (not the kids). Your marriage is over.
Update - 2 days later
Before getting to the update, some people were asking me to get a paternity test. I don't need one, I know she is my daughter because I am Indian and Jessica(my wife) is white, and my daughter looks like me.
Now for the update
After I made that post, I shared my situation with my cousin sister(30f), she is the only family member I have living in the States. I visited her place the next day, and she knocked some sense into me. I realized part of me still didn't want a divorce because I basically married Jessica against my parents' will, they wanted me to have an arranged marriage. So, my failed marriage would hurt my ego.
She also arranged a meeting with a divorce lawyer and no I am not giving up my house, I was just emotional at that time. From what I understand, in our state, adultery has pretty much zero impact on the assets, so it will likely be a 50/50 split. However, there is a high chance I can get better custody of my daughter because I have a job, and Jessica doesn't. She is also involved in "sex work" at this point, which could work in my favor.
My father-in-law called me last evening, and he was crying. He told me he didn't know what to say to me and that if he were in my place, he would have left her. Apparently, Jessica got scared and told her family everything after I didn't visit home for 2 days and had blocked her everywhere. I guess I should have done that a little while ago and jake is out of his house also.
So, I think I will go for a divorce because there is no point of reconciliation at this point when the whole relationship seems fake to me.
Comments
HelloJunebug
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like you have a good path forward and I wish you the best with custody and all that. Can I ask what happened with Jake and his wife? Sounds like she kicked him out?
UnusualPotato1515
Any update on your SIL’s relationship with Jessica?
l3ex_G
What happened with the sisters marriage ?
l3ex_G
What was the excuse BIL gave? The fact he took money from their home and gave it to your ex is crazy. I hope she can heal from that and does divorce him.
**New Update*\*
Update 2: Caught My(35M) wife(34F) sending pics to BIL(40M) is our marriage is salvageable at this point? - 8 days later
I think it will be my last update:
In-short: I caught my wife exchanging nudes with her brother in law for money and I was going for a divorce.
TL;DR: we are not getting a divorce anymore bye.
Before getting to the update some people were cursing me in my DMs saying I might not earn enough and accusing me of financially abusing my wife and taking advantage of her. I dont think this is the case for me, my salary is close to mid six figures, and we have a joint account where I put half of my in-hand salary and we don't even spend that much.
For those who were confused about the relationships in my post, my wife was exchanging pics with her brother in law(her sister's husband) not mine.
Now to the update:
After the day Jessica told everyone about the situation, my mother-in-law called and wanted to talk. She was with Jessica after the whole thing happened. I returned to my home later that evening, and her parents and her sister Josy(38F jake's wife) was there. After I got there, Jessica wanted to talk alone.
According to her, Jake was trying to pursue her since she was about 16-17. (For context, Jake and Josy have been together for 20 years now) This continued for almost 2 years. He used to make suggestive comments about her body, and she told Josy about it. But, Josy didn't believe Jessica at that time and told her she was doing this for attention. Jessica didn't tell her parents either because, according to her Josy was their parents' favorite, so nobody would have believed her.
Jake didn't do anything between those years besides casual flirting until 2019 when Jessica was having problems with rent and the whole transactional thing happened. I asked why she didn't ask me about it, and she said we were only one month into dating and it could have looked bad. She swears nothing happened after that until last year when Jake and Josy started having problems in their marriage, and he started messaging Jessica again.
She didn't entertain him at first, but she had gained some weight from pregnancy and thought I was ignoring her because of it, which I was not. At that time, I was working close to 13-14 hours a day to change my niche to another tech stack, massive layoffs were also going on, so it was a pretty bad time. Now she admitted that she liked the attention and validation this time(she called herself an attention 'whore'), but she didn't had any feelings towards him. They started exchanging pics and money and this happened three times. Then she admitted it was cheating although there were no emotional or physical actions from her side, but She said that she shouldn't have done it.
I asked her why she didn't tell me about Jake harassing her when we first met or started dating. She said she thought I wouldn't have believed her and that it was in the past. Then I asked why she didn't tell me the first time I found out about this. Her answer was the same: she believed I wouldn't have believed her because nobody else knew about this. I was just sad about the fact she doesn't trust me enough to tell me such a horrific incident.
Now, I did something I am not very proud of. I asked her about a paternity test. I know it was stupid, but emotionally I was in a weird place at that moment. She was totally emotionless throughout the whole conversation, but after hearing about the test, she broke down crying and started hyperventilating, I started crying too. After about ten minutes or so, we stopped crying, and she said okay, then asked me if we are getting a divorce. I said I don't know. josy conformed about the story jessica told me.
She then said we should get a postnup before I do something like that. That line felt like a tight slap to my face, I was like "you're not even gonna convince me not to go through with it?". Then she left with her parents. The next day, she called crying, asking not to get a divorce, and to start marriage counseling. Obviously I said ok.
So here we are now after some weird couple of days, still getting the postnup, Her IC starting next week, Our MC starting next month. Hopefully, trust will return someday.
Also Jake is denying all that according to him Jessica "seduced" him for money and my SIL is getting a divorce.
I know some people are gonna call me a doormat, but I don't care.
EDIT: I'm not surprised by the comments.
Maybe my decision doesn't seem obvious to anyone because I haven't talked about my emotions the whole time, and I'm not good at discussing them. I'm getting a paternity test and doing the postnup to protect my assets. Divorce isn't off the table, one misstep and it's going to happen. Maybe you guys expected the ending where I hook up with her sister for revenge—yeah, if you believe those stories, you have a long way to go in life. Anyway, I'm logging off. Don't forget to touch some grass fellas.
Comments
ampliny
narrator: it was not obvious at all
Kuranes_ov_Celephais
Marriage counselling is to help couples that can't communicate effectively talk to each other with a neutral arbiter. It won't actually make her care about you or value you. It's not going to make her into a person with different values. She lied and betrayed you for cheap validation and a small amount of cash. That's what she did and who she is. The tears are because of consequences. The mismatch in values isn't going to change.
BakerLovePie
Not going to slag you for being a doormat. Doormats are good things. It prevents the men who will be coming over to be with your wife from tracking mud on the floor.
You stayed, you know she's a cheater so what happens from here on out is on you.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
submitted by SharkEva to BORUpdates [link] [comments]
Ongoing as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 1st May 2024
Update - 3rd May 2024
1 New Update
Final Update - 11th May 2024
Caught My(35m) wife(34) sending pics to BIL(40m) is our marriage is salvageable at this point?
My wife Jessica (34) and I (35m) have been married for 3 years, and we dated for 2 years before that and we have two year old daughter. Jessica has two sisters, the eldest one (38f) is married to Jake (40m).
A week ago, I came home from work early and wanted to scare Jessica. I tried to be sneaky, but somehow I slipped and accidentally hurt my back. Jessica came to my rescue. I went to the bedroom, and she went to the kitchen to get an ice pack. Her phone was by the bed, and a WhatsApp notification came from Jake saying, "You've got the best pair I've ever seen."
I immediately knew what was happening. I unlocked the phone and saw that she had just sent some pics and video of her t*ts to Jake, and there were no previous chats before that. When Jessica came back to the room, I showed her the chat and asked, "How long?"
I have known this woman for 10 years, and I have never seen her so mortified. Her eyes got teary, and she said, "Babe, I am sorry, but I can explain" so I said go on.
According to her, at the end of 2019, she was struggling with money, and Jake suggested he would help her out. He hinted that he would like to see her pics. So she did sent him pics and it continue over the years, She swears there was nothing emotional or physical involved—it was purely transactional. I didn't believe any of it, but she showed me on Venmo, that MF paid her $300 yesterday.
I then told her, "It's been 5 years. Try to remember if anything physical happened". For me, if even half of what she is saying is true, how could something like that not become physical? She started crying and told me she could prove it tomorrow because Jake would get suspicious if she tried to talk to him now.
I took her phone, went to a bar, got wasted for the night, and when I came back, she was still there crying. I just slept on the couch. Next day morning I gave her the phone she called Jake, conversation goes something like this
- Jessica: Hey, I was wondering if you want some more pics?
- Jake: I'm short on money, yesterday, I spent all of it.
- Jessica: We can do something more this time and meet in person. I've changed my mind on that.
- Jake: No way. How much are we talking about?
I felt like I was going to puke, I told her that we are done and left for office. I am not a very wealthy dude, but I would consider myself a stable guy who could take care of his family. Now I just feel like I have failed as a man, who's wife had to sell her body to meet her expected lifestyle.
When I got home that night, she looked like shit, I asked Jessica why she kept taking money from him after we got married and why she didn't ask me while we were dating. She said she didn't know how to stop and that it was easy money. I left my home that night and told her she can keep the home and the car but I want 50/50 custody of my child.
So here I am now, haven't told anyone about this. It's been a week since, staying in a hotel. I go home in the evening to play with my daughter. I'm speaking with divorce lawyers, and Jessica is constantly talking about marriage counseling.
Comments
thesocialmediadetox
Her sister deserves to know.
Elegant-Channel351
Gather the evidence. Contact an attorney. Follow the attorneys advice AND tell your SIL and all of the family (not the kids). Your marriage is over.
Update - 2 days later
Before getting to the update, some people were asking me to get a paternity test. I don't need one, I know she is my daughter because I am Indian and Jessica(my wife) is white, and my daughter looks like me.
Now for the update
After I made that post, I shared my situation with my cousin sister(30f), she is the only family member I have living in the States. I visited her place the next day, and she knocked some sense into me. I realized part of me still didn't want a divorce because I basically married Jessica against my parents' will, they wanted me to have an arranged marriage. So, my failed marriage would hurt my ego.
She also arranged a meeting with a divorce lawyer and no I am not giving up my house, I was just emotional at that time. From what I understand, in our state, adultery has pretty much zero impact on the assets, so it will likely be a 50/50 split. However, there is a high chance I can get better custody of my daughter because I have a job, and Jessica doesn't. She is also involved in "sex work" at this point, which could work in my favor.
My father-in-law called me last evening, and he was crying. He told me he didn't know what to say to me and that if he were in my place, he would have left her. Apparently, Jessica got scared and told her family everything after I didn't visit home for 2 days and had blocked her everywhere. I guess I should have done that a little while ago and jake is out of his house also.
So, I think I will go for a divorce because there is no point of reconciliation at this point when the whole relationship seems fake to me.
Comments
HelloJunebug
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like you have a good path forward and I wish you the best with custody and all that. Can I ask what happened with Jake and his wife? Sounds like she kicked him out?
OOP: Yeah she kicked him out yesterday I didn't ask about them that much but it sound like my SIL is sure she is getting divorce.
UnusualPotato1515
Any update on your SIL’s relationship with Jessica?
OOP: It sounds like everyone is trying to cut off contact with both Jessica and jake, but I think only my MIL is talking to Jessica, she was at my house last night.
l3ex_G
What happened with the sisters marriage ?
OOP: I think my SIL is fixated on divorce at this moment.
l3ex_G
What was the excuse BIL gave? The fact he took money from their home and gave it to your ex is crazy. I hope she can heal from that and does divorce him.
OOP: I didn't really ask, I was too overwhelmed by my father-in-law's response, he was crying nonstop.
**New Update*\*
Update 2: Caught My(35M) wife(34F) sending pics to BIL(40M) is our marriage is salvageable at this point? - 8 days later
I think it will be my last update:
In-short: I caught my wife exchanging nudes with her brother in law for money and I was going for a divorce.
TL;DR: we are not getting a divorce anymore bye.
Before getting to the update some people were cursing me in my DMs saying I might not earn enough and accusing me of financially abusing my wife and taking advantage of her. I dont think this is the case for me, my salary is close to mid six figures, and we have a joint account where I put half of my in-hand salary and we don't even spend that much.
For those who were confused about the relationships in my post, my wife was exchanging pics with her brother in law(her sister's husband) not mine.
Now to the update:
After the day Jessica told everyone about the situation, my mother-in-law called and wanted to talk. She was with Jessica after the whole thing happened. I returned to my home later that evening, and her parents and her sister Josy(38F jake's wife) was there. After I got there, Jessica wanted to talk alone.
According to her, Jake was trying to pursue her since she was about 16-17. (For context, Jake and Josy have been together for 20 years now) This continued for almost 2 years. He used to make suggestive comments about her body, and she told Josy about it. But, Josy didn't believe Jessica at that time and told her she was doing this for attention. Jessica didn't tell her parents either because, according to her Josy was their parents' favorite, so nobody would have believed her.
Jake didn't do anything between those years besides casual flirting until 2019 when Jessica was having problems with rent and the whole transactional thing happened. I asked why she didn't ask me about it, and she said we were only one month into dating and it could have looked bad. She swears nothing happened after that until last year when Jake and Josy started having problems in their marriage, and he started messaging Jessica again.
She didn't entertain him at first, but she had gained some weight from pregnancy and thought I was ignoring her because of it, which I was not. At that time, I was working close to 13-14 hours a day to change my niche to another tech stack, massive layoffs were also going on, so it was a pretty bad time. Now she admitted that she liked the attention and validation this time(she called herself an attention 'whore'), but she didn't had any feelings towards him. They started exchanging pics and money and this happened three times. Then she admitted it was cheating although there were no emotional or physical actions from her side, but She said that she shouldn't have done it.
I asked her why she didn't tell me about Jake harassing her when we first met or started dating. She said she thought I wouldn't have believed her and that it was in the past. Then I asked why she didn't tell me the first time I found out about this. Her answer was the same: she believed I wouldn't have believed her because nobody else knew about this. I was just sad about the fact she doesn't trust me enough to tell me such a horrific incident.
Now, I did something I am not very proud of. I asked her about a paternity test. I know it was stupid, but emotionally I was in a weird place at that moment. She was totally emotionless throughout the whole conversation, but after hearing about the test, she broke down crying and started hyperventilating, I started crying too. After about ten minutes or so, we stopped crying, and she said okay, then asked me if we are getting a divorce. I said I don't know. josy conformed about the story jessica told me.
She then said we should get a postnup before I do something like that. That line felt like a tight slap to my face, I was like "you're not even gonna convince me not to go through with it?". Then she left with her parents. The next day, she called crying, asking not to get a divorce, and to start marriage counseling. Obviously I said ok.
So here we are now after some weird couple of days, still getting the postnup, Her IC starting next week, Our MC starting next month. Hopefully, trust will return someday.
Also Jake is denying all that according to him Jessica "seduced" him for money and my SIL is getting a divorce.
I know some people are gonna call me a doormat, but I don't care.
EDIT: I'm not surprised by the comments.
Maybe my decision doesn't seem obvious to anyone because I haven't talked about my emotions the whole time, and I'm not good at discussing them. I'm getting a paternity test and doing the postnup to protect my assets. Divorce isn't off the table, one misstep and it's going to happen. Maybe you guys expected the ending where I hook up with her sister for revenge—yeah, if you believe those stories, you have a long way to go in life. Anyway, I'm logging off. Don't forget to touch some grass fellas.
Comments
ampliny
Obviously I said ok 😳.intotheocean5
narrator: it was not obvious at all
Kuranes_ov_Celephais
I know some people are gonna call me a doormatThat's because you are. She's lied to you from the start, and you will certainly discover other lies she's told to you. Hopefully you actually are going through with the paternity test.
Marriage counselling is to help couples that can't communicate effectively talk to each other with a neutral arbiter. It won't actually make her care about you or value you. It's not going to make her into a person with different values. She lied and betrayed you for cheap validation and a small amount of cash. That's what she did and who she is. The tears are because of consequences. The mismatch in values isn't going to change.
BakerLovePie
Not going to slag you for being a doormat. Doormats are good things. It prevents the men who will be coming over to be with your wife from tracking mud on the floor.
You stayed, you know she's a cheater so what happens from here on out is on you.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
2024.05.13 07:13 thinkingstranger May 12, 2024
I write a lot about how the Biden-Harris administration is working to restore the principles of the period between 1933 and 1981, when members of both political parties widely shared the belief that the government should regulate business, provide a basic social safety net, promote infrastructure, and protect civil rights. And I write about how that so-called liberal consensus broke down as extremists used the Reconstruction-era image of the American cowboy—who, according to myth, wanted nothing from the government but to be left alone—to stand against what they insisted was creeping socialism that stole tax dollars from hardworking white men in order to give handouts to lazy minorities and women.
But five major stories over the past several days made me realize that I’ve never written about how Trump and his loyalists have distorted the cowboy image until it has become a poisonous caricature of the values its recent defenders have claimed to champion.
The cowboy myth originated during the Reconstruction era as a response to the idea that a government that defended Black rights was “socialist” and that the tax dollars required to pay bureaucrats and army officers would break hardworking white men.
This weekend, on Saturday, May 11, Paul Kiel of ProPublica and Russ Buettner of the New York Times teamed up to deliver a deep investigation into what Trump was talking about when he insisted that he must break tradition and refuse to release his tax returns when he ran for office in 2016 and 2020, citing an audit.
The New York Times had already reported that one of the reasons the Internal Revenue Service was auditing Trump’s taxes was that, beginning in 2010, he began to claim a $72.9 million tax refund because of huge losses from his failing casinos.
Kiel and Buettner followed the convoluted web of Trump’s finances to find another issue with his tax history. They concluded that Trump’s Chicago skyscraper, his last major construction project, was “a vast money loser.” He claimed losses as high as $651 million on it in 2008. But then he appears to have moved ownership of the building in 2010 from one entity to a new one—the authors describe it as “like moving coins from one pocket to another”—and used that move to claim another $168 million in losses, thereby double-dipping.
The experts the authors consulted said that if he loses the audit battle, Trump could owe the IRS more than $100 million. University of Baltimore law professor Walter Schwidetzky, who is an expert on partnership taxation, told the authors: “I think he ripped off the tax system.”
The cowboy myth emphasized dominance over the Indigenous Americans and Mexicans allegedly attacking white settlers from the East. On Friday an impressive piece of reporting from Jude Joffe-Block at NPR untangled the origins of a story pushed by Republicans that Democrats were encouraging asylum seekers to vote illegally for President Joe Biden in 2024, revealing that the story was entirely made up.
The story broke on X, formerly Twitter, on April 15, when the investigative arm of the right-wing Heritage Foundation, which promises to provide “aggressive oversight” of the Biden administration, posted photos of what it claimed were flyers from inside portable toilets at a migrant camp in Matamoros, Mexico, that said in broken Spanish: “Reminder to vote for President Biden when you are in the United States. We need another four years of his term to stay open.” The tweet thread got more than 9 million views and was boosted by Elon Musk, X’s owner.
But the story was fabricated. The flyer used the name of a small organization that helps asylum seekers, along with the name of the woman who runs the organization. She is a U.S. citizen and told Joffe-Block that her organization has “never encouraged people to vote for anyone.” Indeed, it has never come up because everyone knows noncitizens are not eligible to vote. The flyer had outdated phone numbers and addresses, and its Spanish was full of errors. Migrants who are staying at the encampment as they wait for their appointments to enter the U.S. say they have never seen such flyers, and no one has urged them to vote for Biden.
Digging showed that the flyer was “discovered” by the right-wing video site Muckraker, which specializes in “undercover” escapades. The founder of Muckraker, Anthony Rubin, and his brother, Joshua Rubin, had shown up at the organization’s headquarters in Matamoros asking to become volunteers for the organization; they and their conversation were captured on video, and signs point to the conclusion that they planted the flyers.
Nonetheless, Republicans ran with the story. Within 12 hours after the fake flyer appeared on X, Republican representatives Marjorie Taylor Greene (R-GA) and Dan Bishop (R-NC) brought posters of it to Congress, and Republicans made it a centerpiece of their insistence that Congress must pass a new law against noncitizen voting. Rather than being protected by modern-day cowboys, the woman who ran the organization that helps asylum seekers got death threats.
The cowboy image emphasized the masculinity of the independent men it championed, but the testimony of Stephanie Clifford, the adult film actress also known as Stormy Daniels, in Trump’s criminal trial for falsifying business records to cover up his payments to Clifford to keep her story of their sexual encounter secret before the 2016 election, turns Trump’s aggressive dominance into sad weakness. Covering Clifford’s testimony, Maureen Dowd of the New York Times yesterday wrote that “Trump came across as a loser in her account—a narcissist, cheater, sad Hugh Hefner wannabe, trading his satin pajamas for a dress shirt and trousers (and, later, boxers) as soon as Stormy mocked him.”
In the literature of the cowboy myth, the young champion of the underdog is eventually supposed to settle down and take care of his family, who adore him. But the news of the past week has caricatured that shift, too. On Wednesday, May 8, the Republican Party of Florida announced that it had picked Trump’s youngest son, 18-year-old Barron, as one of the state’s at-large delegates to the Republican National Convention, along with Trump’s other sons, Eric and Donald Jr.; Don Jr.’s fiancée, Kimberly Guilfoyle; and Trump’s second daughter, Tiffany, and her husband.
On Friday, May 10, Trump’s current wife and Barron’s mother, former first lady Melania Trump, issued a statement saying: “While Barron is honored to have been chosen as a delegate by the Florida Republican Party, he regretfully declines to participate due to prior commitments.” It is hard not to interpret this extraordinary snub from his own wife and son as a chilly response to the past month of testimony about his extramarital escapades while Barron was an infant.
Finally, there was the eye-popping story broken by Josh Dawsey and Maxine Joselow in the Washington Post on Thursday, revealing that last month, at a private meeting with about two dozen top oil executives at Mar-a-Lago, Trump offered to reverse President Joe Biden’s environmental rules designed to combat climate change and to stop any new ones from being enacted in exchange for a $1 billion donation.
Trump has promised his supporters that he would be an outsider, using his knowledge of business to defend ordinary Americans against those elites who don’t care about them. Now he has been revealed as being willing to sell us out—to sell humanity out—for the bargain basement price of $1 billion (with about 8 billion people in the world, this would make us each worth about 12 and a half cents).
Chief White House ethics lawyer in the George W. Bush administration Richard Painter wrote: “This is called bribery. It’s a felony.” He followed up with “Even a candidate who loses can be prosecuted for bribery. That includes the former guy asking for a billion dollars in campaign cash from oil companies in exchange for rolling back environmental laws.”
The cowboy myth was always a political image, designed to undermine the idea of a government that worked for ordinary Americans. It was powerful after the Civil War but faded into the past in the 1920s, 1930s, and 1940s as Americans realized that their lives depended on government regulation and a basic social safety net. The American cowboy burst back into prominence with the advent of the Marlboro Man in 1954, the year of the Supreme Court’s Brown v. Board of Education decision, and the idea of an individual white man who worked hard, wanted nothing from the government but to be left alone, was a sex symbol, and protected his women became a central myth in the rise of politicians determined to overturn the liberal consensus.
Now it seems the myth has come full circle, with the party led by a man whose wife rejects him and whose lovers ridicule him, who makes up stories about dangerous “others,” cheats on his taxes, solicits bribes, and tries to sell out his followers for cash—the very caricature the mythological cowboy was invented to fight.
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Notes:
https://www.propublica.org/article/trump-irs-audit-chicago-hotel-taxes
https://www.npr.org/2024/05/10
/1248599505/migrants-vote-biden-conspiracy-theory-social-media
https://www.npr.org/2024/05/10/1250585392/takeaways-migration-biden-flyer-matamoros
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/05/11/opinion/trump-stormy-daniels-trial.html
https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2024/05/09/trump-oil-industry-campaign-money/
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/donald-trump/barron-trump-florida-delegate-republican-national-convention-rcna151388
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/donald-trump/barron-trump-declines-invitation-delegate-republican-convention-rcna151761
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But five major stories over the past several days made me realize that I’ve never written about how Trump and his loyalists have distorted the cowboy image until it has become a poisonous caricature of the values its recent defenders have claimed to champion.
The cowboy myth originated during the Reconstruction era as a response to the idea that a government that defended Black rights was “socialist” and that the tax dollars required to pay bureaucrats and army officers would break hardworking white men.
This weekend, on Saturday, May 11, Paul Kiel of ProPublica and Russ Buettner of the New York Times teamed up to deliver a deep investigation into what Trump was talking about when he insisted that he must break tradition and refuse to release his tax returns when he ran for office in 2016 and 2020, citing an audit.
The New York Times had already reported that one of the reasons the Internal Revenue Service was auditing Trump’s taxes was that, beginning in 2010, he began to claim a $72.9 million tax refund because of huge losses from his failing casinos.
Kiel and Buettner followed the convoluted web of Trump’s finances to find another issue with his tax history. They concluded that Trump’s Chicago skyscraper, his last major construction project, was “a vast money loser.” He claimed losses as high as $651 million on it in 2008. But then he appears to have moved ownership of the building in 2010 from one entity to a new one—the authors describe it as “like moving coins from one pocket to another”—and used that move to claim another $168 million in losses, thereby double-dipping.
The experts the authors consulted said that if he loses the audit battle, Trump could owe the IRS more than $100 million. University of Baltimore law professor Walter Schwidetzky, who is an expert on partnership taxation, told the authors: “I think he ripped off the tax system.”
The cowboy myth emphasized dominance over the Indigenous Americans and Mexicans allegedly attacking white settlers from the East. On Friday an impressive piece of reporting from Jude Joffe-Block at NPR untangled the origins of a story pushed by Republicans that Democrats were encouraging asylum seekers to vote illegally for President Joe Biden in 2024, revealing that the story was entirely made up.
The story broke on X, formerly Twitter, on April 15, when the investigative arm of the right-wing Heritage Foundation, which promises to provide “aggressive oversight” of the Biden administration, posted photos of what it claimed were flyers from inside portable toilets at a migrant camp in Matamoros, Mexico, that said in broken Spanish: “Reminder to vote for President Biden when you are in the United States. We need another four years of his term to stay open.” The tweet thread got more than 9 million views and was boosted by Elon Musk, X’s owner.
But the story was fabricated. The flyer used the name of a small organization that helps asylum seekers, along with the name of the woman who runs the organization. She is a U.S. citizen and told Joffe-Block that her organization has “never encouraged people to vote for anyone.” Indeed, it has never come up because everyone knows noncitizens are not eligible to vote. The flyer had outdated phone numbers and addresses, and its Spanish was full of errors. Migrants who are staying at the encampment as they wait for their appointments to enter the U.S. say they have never seen such flyers, and no one has urged them to vote for Biden.
Digging showed that the flyer was “discovered” by the right-wing video site Muckraker, which specializes in “undercover” escapades. The founder of Muckraker, Anthony Rubin, and his brother, Joshua Rubin, had shown up at the organization’s headquarters in Matamoros asking to become volunteers for the organization; they and their conversation were captured on video, and signs point to the conclusion that they planted the flyers.
Nonetheless, Republicans ran with the story. Within 12 hours after the fake flyer appeared on X, Republican representatives Marjorie Taylor Greene (R-GA) and Dan Bishop (R-NC) brought posters of it to Congress, and Republicans made it a centerpiece of their insistence that Congress must pass a new law against noncitizen voting. Rather than being protected by modern-day cowboys, the woman who ran the organization that helps asylum seekers got death threats.
The cowboy image emphasized the masculinity of the independent men it championed, but the testimony of Stephanie Clifford, the adult film actress also known as Stormy Daniels, in Trump’s criminal trial for falsifying business records to cover up his payments to Clifford to keep her story of their sexual encounter secret before the 2016 election, turns Trump’s aggressive dominance into sad weakness. Covering Clifford’s testimony, Maureen Dowd of the New York Times yesterday wrote that “Trump came across as a loser in her account—a narcissist, cheater, sad Hugh Hefner wannabe, trading his satin pajamas for a dress shirt and trousers (and, later, boxers) as soon as Stormy mocked him.”
In the literature of the cowboy myth, the young champion of the underdog is eventually supposed to settle down and take care of his family, who adore him. But the news of the past week has caricatured that shift, too. On Wednesday, May 8, the Republican Party of Florida announced that it had picked Trump’s youngest son, 18-year-old Barron, as one of the state’s at-large delegates to the Republican National Convention, along with Trump’s other sons, Eric and Donald Jr.; Don Jr.’s fiancée, Kimberly Guilfoyle; and Trump’s second daughter, Tiffany, and her husband.
On Friday, May 10, Trump’s current wife and Barron’s mother, former first lady Melania Trump, issued a statement saying: “While Barron is honored to have been chosen as a delegate by the Florida Republican Party, he regretfully declines to participate due to prior commitments.” It is hard not to interpret this extraordinary snub from his own wife and son as a chilly response to the past month of testimony about his extramarital escapades while Barron was an infant.
Finally, there was the eye-popping story broken by Josh Dawsey and Maxine Joselow in the Washington Post on Thursday, revealing that last month, at a private meeting with about two dozen top oil executives at Mar-a-Lago, Trump offered to reverse President Joe Biden’s environmental rules designed to combat climate change and to stop any new ones from being enacted in exchange for a $1 billion donation.
Trump has promised his supporters that he would be an outsider, using his knowledge of business to defend ordinary Americans against those elites who don’t care about them. Now he has been revealed as being willing to sell us out—to sell humanity out—for the bargain basement price of $1 billion (with about 8 billion people in the world, this would make us each worth about 12 and a half cents).
Chief White House ethics lawyer in the George W. Bush administration Richard Painter wrote: “This is called bribery. It’s a felony.” He followed up with “Even a candidate who loses can be prosecuted for bribery. That includes the former guy asking for a billion dollars in campaign cash from oil companies in exchange for rolling back environmental laws.”
The cowboy myth was always a political image, designed to undermine the idea of a government that worked for ordinary Americans. It was powerful after the Civil War but faded into the past in the 1920s, 1930s, and 1940s as Americans realized that their lives depended on government regulation and a basic social safety net. The American cowboy burst back into prominence with the advent of the Marlboro Man in 1954, the year of the Supreme Court’s Brown v. Board of Education decision, and the idea of an individual white man who worked hard, wanted nothing from the government but to be left alone, was a sex symbol, and protected his women became a central myth in the rise of politicians determined to overturn the liberal consensus.
Now it seems the myth has come full circle, with the party led by a man whose wife rejects him and whose lovers ridicule him, who makes up stories about dangerous “others,” cheats on his taxes, solicits bribes, and tries to sell out his followers for cash—the very caricature the mythological cowboy was invented to fight.
—
Notes:
https://www.propublica.org/article/trump-irs-audit-chicago-hotel-taxes
https://www.npr.org/2024/05/10
/1248599505/migrants-vote-biden-conspiracy-theory-social-media
https://www.npr.org/2024/05/10/1250585392/takeaways-migration-biden-flyer-matamoros
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/05/11/opinion/trump-stormy-daniels-trial.html
https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2024/05/09/trump-oil-industry-campaign-money/
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/donald-trump/barron-trump-florida-delegate-republican-national-convention-rcna151388
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/donald-trump/barron-trump-declines-invitation-delegate-republican-convention-rcna151761
Twitter (X):
rwpusa/status/1789632040054165516
https://heathercoxrichardson.substack.com/p/may-12-2024
2024.05.12 20:19 Schrodinger_Feynman LeBron James Has Been On PEDs Since His First Stint In Cleveland
LeBron's been on PEDs since his first stint in Cleveland (which is why he had a MASS removed from his jawline twice, a tell-tell sign of PED use). Type into Google: "Lebron has a mass removed from jaw" and the article will pop up. It's one of the signs of steroid/HGH use.
Chael Sonnen STATED ON THE RECORD on Andrew Shultz's Flagrant 2 Podcast on YouTube, that Lebron takes EPO - the most expensive and most powerful PED known to man. How come he's NEVER denied Chael Sonnen's EPO allegations? He responds to EVERYTHING on social media. Why is he so quiet when Sonnen ON YOUTUBE said, verbatim: "LeBron James takes EPO and I know his supplier, we get it from the same guy." A simple cease and desist letter from LeBron's lawyers threatening a defamation suit would shut this down. Why hasn't he done so? DISCOVERY. He knows it's true.
And then on Patrick David's Podcast (also on YouTube), Chael Sonnen DOUBLED DOWN AGAIN and stated "I am stating for a fact that Lebron James takes EPO. This isn't an allegation, I know his supplier."
And then Victor Conte, the guy who knows more about PEDs than ANYBODY on the planet, stated on Jason Whitlock's podcast on YouTube, that LeBron's Trainer got caught with PEDs and claimed it was for Savannah, LeBron's wife. Do YOU believe that? LMAOOO. Tristan Thompson, Lebron's best friend, got caught with HGH. LeBron lost 65 lbs the summer before HGH testing and went on a TWO WEEK Sabbatical TO Miami in the 2015 season to "recuperate" and came back bigger stronger and faster than he was before. I wonder why...
The FBI seized documents from the Biogenesis Clinic in 2011 ran by notorious steroid and PED peddler Tony Bosch - the same Bosch that was selling PEDs to Alex Rodriguez, Jameer Nelson, Ryan Braun etc. In the FBI documents RICH PAUL'S NAME APPEARS as a CLIENT of Biogenesis who, according to transcripts by secretaries working there, would pick up a package of PEDs for a somebody with the initials "LJ" every two weeks.
Barry Bonds never failed a test. Lance Armstrong never failed a test. Both were PED CHEATERS because of JOURNALISTS who broke the story. Victor Conte, on Jason Whitlock's podcast, claims that he has a friend who works for ESPN and has been covering the LeBron James PED story for SIX years. He was about to publish his findings in a HUGE expose this year but, according to the ESPN journalist, ESPN's higher-ups BLOCKED HIM from publishing the article and forced him to REDACT several portions of his reporting. You can watch the interview for yourself on YouTube.
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Chael Sonnen states CATEGORICALLY that LeBron takes the most powerful PED known to man, EPO:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ACy8IJeGFMA
Chael Sonnen DOUBLES DOWN on LeBron's PED use:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-sne_48qSHE
Patrick Bet-David on Lebron's PED use:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qOwEBnE9NQ
Kwame Brown on LeBron's PED use:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ch-ytgSMcV4
Victor Conte states that LeBron takes PEDs (but ESPN has to protect it's cash cow so is blocking any reporting on his PED use), the interview starts at minute 1:05:50:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0UgsXK6-r4
Jason Whitlock says the Lebron PED story should be the BIGGEST STORY IN SPORTS:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jz-sSoBc6nI
Kevin Garnett claims LeBron is steroids, "on that new Balco, that new juice":
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0V_kssNTv4
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Google "Deadspin Lebron James PEDs." The article should pop right up.
Google "Biogenesis LeBron James Rich Paul." The article should pop right up.
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From the Daily Mail: "The NBA [Lebron James] star's former trainer, David Alexander, and his long-time friend and manager, Randy Mims. The DEA claims to have found that Mims obtained testosterone for personal use from a dealer known as Carlos Acevedo. Mims was allegedly referred to Acevedo by Alexander. Mims was reportedly only a client of Acevedo's for a few months.
'[He's] apparently an overweight guy,' the DEA's Kevin Stanfill told ESPN. 'And he went to him [Acevedo] about possibly getting some testosterone treatment stuff that they were giving a bunch of overweight guys in Miami, and they dropped a lot of weight.'
James was unaware that he was ever investigated, the player's representative told ESPN.
Acevedo is a former business partner of Tony Bosch, who was the focus of the Biogenesis investigation, which led to the suspension of dozens of MLB players, including Alex Rodriguez, Ryan Braun and Nelson Cruz.
Daily Mail
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A representative for James told ESPN the current Los Angeles Laker had no knowledge he, his wife, or any associates were even referenced in the Biogenesis investigation until approached by the media organization last year. ESPN’s requests to interview James and Mims were declined after they provided James’ camp with applicable information to back up their questioning. It’s clear ESPN’s reporting on this subject took over a year’s worth of research. And while this is the first needle-moving action involving the Biogenesis case in several years, it’s surely not going to be the last.
DeadSpin
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The guy is a PED cheater. Without PEDs, he's NOTHING. This is why people now call him LeBalco.
Bronsexuals, please downvote me to death now. The Internet is undefeated and this will remain on here until Reddit ceases to exist. Peace.
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - A Wise Man
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Chael Sonnen STATED ON THE RECORD on Andrew Shultz's Flagrant 2 Podcast on YouTube, that Lebron takes EPO - the most expensive and most powerful PED known to man. How come he's NEVER denied Chael Sonnen's EPO allegations? He responds to EVERYTHING on social media. Why is he so quiet when Sonnen ON YOUTUBE said, verbatim: "LeBron James takes EPO and I know his supplier, we get it from the same guy." A simple cease and desist letter from LeBron's lawyers threatening a defamation suit would shut this down. Why hasn't he done so? DISCOVERY. He knows it's true.
And then on Patrick David's Podcast (also on YouTube), Chael Sonnen DOUBLED DOWN AGAIN and stated "I am stating for a fact that Lebron James takes EPO. This isn't an allegation, I know his supplier."
And then Victor Conte, the guy who knows more about PEDs than ANYBODY on the planet, stated on Jason Whitlock's podcast on YouTube, that LeBron's Trainer got caught with PEDs and claimed it was for Savannah, LeBron's wife. Do YOU believe that? LMAOOO. Tristan Thompson, Lebron's best friend, got caught with HGH. LeBron lost 65 lbs the summer before HGH testing and went on a TWO WEEK Sabbatical TO Miami in the 2015 season to "recuperate" and came back bigger stronger and faster than he was before. I wonder why...
The FBI seized documents from the Biogenesis Clinic in 2011 ran by notorious steroid and PED peddler Tony Bosch - the same Bosch that was selling PEDs to Alex Rodriguez, Jameer Nelson, Ryan Braun etc. In the FBI documents RICH PAUL'S NAME APPEARS as a CLIENT of Biogenesis who, according to transcripts by secretaries working there, would pick up a package of PEDs for a somebody with the initials "LJ" every two weeks.
Barry Bonds never failed a test. Lance Armstrong never failed a test. Both were PED CHEATERS because of JOURNALISTS who broke the story. Victor Conte, on Jason Whitlock's podcast, claims that he has a friend who works for ESPN and has been covering the LeBron James PED story for SIX years. He was about to publish his findings in a HUGE expose this year but, according to the ESPN journalist, ESPN's higher-ups BLOCKED HIM from publishing the article and forced him to REDACT several portions of his reporting. You can watch the interview for yourself on YouTube.
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Chael Sonnen states CATEGORICALLY that LeBron takes the most powerful PED known to man, EPO:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ACy8IJeGFMA
Chael Sonnen DOUBLES DOWN on LeBron's PED use:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-sne_48qSHE
Patrick Bet-David on Lebron's PED use:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qOwEBnE9NQ
Kwame Brown on LeBron's PED use:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ch-ytgSMcV4
Victor Conte states that LeBron takes PEDs (but ESPN has to protect it's cash cow so is blocking any reporting on his PED use), the interview starts at minute 1:05:50:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0UgsXK6-r4
Jason Whitlock says the Lebron PED story should be the BIGGEST STORY IN SPORTS:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jz-sSoBc6nI
Kevin Garnett claims LeBron is steroids, "on that new Balco, that new juice":
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0V_kssNTv4
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Google "Deadspin Lebron James PEDs." The article should pop right up.
Google "Biogenesis LeBron James Rich Paul." The article should pop right up.
_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
From the Daily Mail: "The NBA [Lebron James] star's former trainer, David Alexander, and his long-time friend and manager, Randy Mims. The DEA claims to have found that Mims obtained testosterone for personal use from a dealer known as Carlos Acevedo. Mims was allegedly referred to Acevedo by Alexander. Mims was reportedly only a client of Acevedo's for a few months.
'[He's] apparently an overweight guy,' the DEA's Kevin Stanfill told ESPN. 'And he went to him [Acevedo] about possibly getting some testosterone treatment stuff that they were giving a bunch of overweight guys in Miami, and they dropped a lot of weight.'
James was unaware that he was ever investigated, the player's representative told ESPN.
Acevedo is a former business partner of Tony Bosch, who was the focus of the Biogenesis investigation, which led to the suspension of dozens of MLB players, including Alex Rodriguez, Ryan Braun and Nelson Cruz.
Daily Mail
_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
A representative for James told ESPN the current Los Angeles Laker had no knowledge he, his wife, or any associates were even referenced in the Biogenesis investigation until approached by the media organization last year. ESPN’s requests to interview James and Mims were declined after they provided James’ camp with applicable information to back up their questioning. It’s clear ESPN’s reporting on this subject took over a year’s worth of research. And while this is the first needle-moving action involving the Biogenesis case in several years, it’s surely not going to be the last.
DeadSpin
_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
The guy is a PED cheater. Without PEDs, he's NOTHING. This is why people now call him LeBalco.
Bronsexuals, please downvote me to death now. The Internet is undefeated and this will remain on here until Reddit ceases to exist. Peace.
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - A Wise Man
2024.05.12 04:20 Yesugey Highlights and Key Facts About Investigations From Forensic Files - Season 5:
- S05E01 - Badge of Deceit:
- A rapist enters houses of women lives alone, assaults them, for 15 years of period.
- Women describes that he holds the flashlight like a police would do, asks them to take a shower after the attack, and tell them to close their windows to make them feel they are also to blame.
- When the rape houses put on the map, it reveals that all houses are close to one specific district, and a cop who lives there was responsible.
- S05E02 - Dew Process:
- A man beats his wife to death, and makes up a story about masked intruder.
- But the victim was cleaned and her nightgown changed, and his car was used at night.
- S05E03 - A Woman Scorned:
- A woman kidnaps another woman she argued at gunpoint. They went to a forest with victims car, and she shots her.
- But she picked the forest she knows, and since she is the victim's husband's ex girlfriend, this led police to her. And she left hair strands in the car and at the crime scene.
- S05E04 - A Voice from Beyond:
- A female remains found in a barrel of and old house. The woman was pregnant. Police contacts with the owner of the house 35 years ago, and the man kills himself after.
- The woman was his employee in a plastic tree factory, and after she got pregnant, she phoned the man's wife and told about their affair, and the man killed her in response.
- The man simply moved out from the house leaving the barrel because it was too heavy. and it waited there for 34 years to be found.
- S05E05 - Burning Ambition:
- A policeman burns his own house for insurance money, but he uses flare for a delay and he put all his valuables to the shed.
- When police gets suspicious of these facts, he kills a young boy and bury to the area he has access to, and creates a fake document states he was the arsonist.
- But blood stains in his car and using different pen to forge the boys signature gives him away.
- S05E06 - Memories:
- A man leaves home for 30 minutes and when he was back, his wife was beaten (even her brain was visible) and in a coma, and she lost her baby. When she wake up from coma, she says it was his husband. And the man went to prison for 16 years.
- Finally DNA tests become available, and the semen from the woman's body matches with a convict responsible from 5 other rape & murders.
- S05E07 - Trail of Truth:
- A woman and 2 daughters found murdered with a knife in their house. There is no forced entry, so the killer is someone they know. Its not the husband because he is out of the state.
- Killer was the husband's nephew recently living with them - he left the washcloth he cleaned himself in the sink, and his roommate states he came back home with blood stains that day.
- S05E08 - Material Evidence:
- A little girl kidnapped from roadside by a man with minivan. Later her body was found, with a cardboard box used for leather car seats.
- Over a year later, a man kidnaps a women and tortures and rapes her, then handcuffs her and go to work. Woman manages to take out her hands and escapes, and gives the man's name.
- This man has a minivan and also bought leather car seats recently. Since he used that cardboard to carry the victim and cardboard has many paint pieces from his garage, he was sentenced to death.
- S05E09 - Killigraphy:
- A man finds his wife died during her sleep, but autopsy shows bruises on her neck and popped up veins in her eye, and decided its homicide with strangulation.
- Turns out she stopped taking her epilepsy medicine, and eye veins pops up during deadly seizures as well. And doctor took blood from the body's neck, caused the bruises. And the doctor was highly inexperienced and biased because its been told husband was keeping her at home for 30 years.
- S05E10 - Nursery Crimes:
- In a nursery, 7 children went to respiratory arrest in a month. All when the same nurse was with the children. She was injecting succinylcholine, non traceable muscle relaxer which stops breathing in large doses.
- A new test reveals succinylcholine in kids system and the nurse sentenced to 99 years for 2 kills. Its believed that the actual number of children she killed is over 60.
- S05E11 - Lasting Impression:
- 3 gang members kills a girl and leaves her body inside a building in a cemetery.
- When they found the body, the woman who saw them during the killing comes forward and give their names.
- One of the gang members dropped his chewing gum from his mouth near the body, and the dental print on the gum gave him away.
- S05E12 - Foundation of Lies:
- A doctor kills his wife, and buries her under the new house he bought.
- However, their son testified that he heard a loud thump that night and his father came to check if he sleeps. This gave reason of warrant to the detectives.
- As he also rented a jackhammer, they dig the house's basement and found the victim.
- The man appealed the decision - the body's gallbladder was removed and her appendix was intact, unlike his wife. But DNA test proves the body belongs to her, and its just horrible autopsy work.
- S05E13 - Unholy Wows:
- A Romanian refugee who settled to US after World War 2 becomes an Orthodox Bishop of Romanian Church.
- Since he is on public eye, especially with other Romanian refugees, they identify him, and call authorities.
- FBI collects a fingerprint from a postcard from 1941 to identify him and he was deported, and died in exile in Portugal.
- S05E14 - Broken Promises:
- A woman shots her husband while he sleeps, while trying to take the gun from under the pillow by accident. Fun fact, her previous husband was also shot by her by accident too, which is enough to raise suspicions.
- Detectives prove that the gun can't be shot from that angle, and a tape record found at the man's workplace, and he recorded that his wife was trying to kill him for weeks, by poison. As a motive, she was cheating her husband and credit card debts are the motive.
- S05E15 - Time Will Tell:
- A fisherman finds a body caught to his fishing nets. The man's rolex watch has a serial number and he identified thanks to this. When they went his home, they found another man acts like the deceased person.
- Turns out this man took the victim's identity, and when victim decided to back to UK again, he killed him.
- The fact that he forgot the rolex watch on the corpse, and the receipt of the anchor used to keep the body in the bottom at his home gave him away. Of course, police found victims blood in the man's small yacht, and proved that it was at the crime scene by GPS records.
- S05E16 - Second Shot at Love:
- A wealthy doctor finds out that his new wife is a violent money hunger with a gun, he files for divorce. Few months later he found dead at his house, apparently killed himself.
- But the gun was bought by his wife just 24 hours ago, and there is a test fire been shot to one of the pillows.
- S05E17 - Journey to Justice:
- A drunk driver hit 3 children and runs away. Other kids tell the police its a green van, but the paint pieces are blue, so the police looks for blue pick up truck.
- An anonymous phone call to the police reveals there is a truck parked 20 miles away, and although it doesn't have any damage and tired are different, the neighbor who changes the tire and repairs the damage comes forward to testify.
- S05E18 - Video Diary:
- A man robs a gas station and shoots the woman at the counter.
- Security camera identifies his face, and his ex girlfriend calls the police. And his nephew finds the murder weapon in the speaker he hid, so he can be convicted.
- S05E19 - Deadly Knowledge:
- A student girl disappears, and although his boyfriend was the suspect first, he finds out that she was working as an escort. This way they reach her main client.
- This man did not clean the blood stains in the trunk of his car, and his brother cooperates with the police and guesses to where to find the body.
2024.05.12 02:30 Far-Koala-5810 For CC (Yan Yan)
I look back on our time together very fondly, CC. Because we ended on such a bad note, I have been regretting telling you the truth every day.
I am trying to process exactly why I feel so torn about losing you. Part of it is obvious to me — in our 6 months together I did develop real feelings for you, which caught me off-guard; I didn’t realize until recently how much I missed you.
I miss many things, the sex, the attention, how you make me feel so masculine — most of all you made me feel really good about myself. I miss it so much that the thought of you losing all respect for me hurts me; I emotionally depended so much on the consistency of your affirmation that i now feel a sense of loss knowing that you see me in the opposite light. I maybe feel a bit less of a person knowing that you despise me…
(I know these things are what a partner is for, not an extramarital FWB. I never should have involved you and I never should have ignored underlying issues in my own relationship.)
I think if we had parted ways on good terms, I might have ended things with the impression that you’ll see me fondly as an object of desire forever. Now I can’t help but despair at the thought that you’d see me as even less of a man if you were to read this self-absorbed rumination of a cheater trying to justify his feelings. I feel sad at the thought that I’m no longer the sex partner you crave, and without any chance to prove myself again… You satisfied so many of my kinks (many of which center around stroking my ego)…so to be the object of your disdain is like a hit to my self esteem
I wish I didn’t care so much about your opinion but that’s something for myself to work on next
To be continued…
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I am trying to process exactly why I feel so torn about losing you. Part of it is obvious to me — in our 6 months together I did develop real feelings for you, which caught me off-guard; I didn’t realize until recently how much I missed you.
I miss many things, the sex, the attention, how you make me feel so masculine — most of all you made me feel really good about myself. I miss it so much that the thought of you losing all respect for me hurts me; I emotionally depended so much on the consistency of your affirmation that i now feel a sense of loss knowing that you see me in the opposite light. I maybe feel a bit less of a person knowing that you despise me…
(I know these things are what a partner is for, not an extramarital FWB. I never should have involved you and I never should have ignored underlying issues in my own relationship.)
I think if we had parted ways on good terms, I might have ended things with the impression that you’ll see me fondly as an object of desire forever. Now I can’t help but despair at the thought that you’d see me as even less of a man if you were to read this self-absorbed rumination of a cheater trying to justify his feelings. I feel sad at the thought that I’m no longer the sex partner you crave, and without any chance to prove myself again… You satisfied so many of my kinks (many of which center around stroking my ego)…so to be the object of your disdain is like a hit to my self esteem
I wish I didn’t care so much about your opinion but that’s something for myself to work on next
To be continued…
2024.05.12 01:27 TheresACityInMyMind The cheater got caught — IRS audit of Trump could cost ex-president more than $100 million — The tax agency concluded in its long-running investigation that Trump effectively claimed the same massive write-off twice on his failed Chicago tower
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2024.05.12 01:26 TheresACityInMyMind The cheater got caught — IRS audit of Trump could cost ex-president more than $100 million — The tax agency concluded in its long-running investigation that Trump effectively claimed the same massive write-off twice on his failed Chicago tower
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2024.05.12 00:31 MrPartyPancake Why would Valve impose a Global Cooldown for 24 Hours for being teamed up with a cheater?
To preface this, I wasn't the one cheating. It was a teammate I did not queue with, so total stranger, aka, SOLO QUEUE. I had no sus feelings about any of their gameplay. I was leading with 10 kills over the second frag, so if they were cheating, they were not very good or keeping it on the low. Eventually VAC sniffed something, and then cancelled the match. Fair enough.
But for some dumb reason, I get smacked with a 24 hour cooldown. Excuse me? Why the collective punishment when I was a stranger, not in queue and unaware of their cheats?
I think its great that VAC is taking cheaters. This was the first time, in my case, so it was special to see. But then slapping me with a cooldown for 24 hours, not allowing me to play AT ALL? Why would you do this?
Whats gonna happen when I play tomorrow and maybe another cheaters gets caught. Another 24 hour cooldown if Im unlucky enough to be on the team they decided to cheat on?
I get the cooldown, but please, make it like 2 or maybe 7 hours. Not 24 hours.
And instead of completely disabling my ability to play online whatsoever, allow casual gamemodes and/or community servers. I figured id just grind out the cooldown on a 5v5 server. Nope. Not even that.
Basically, 5 people get locked out of the game for 24 hours. Imagine this happening thousands of times a day. That could lock out thousands of players or even more, for an entire day only for them to get another cooldown right after, because they are so unlucky get teamed with a cheater, again. SEE THE ISSUE HERE VALVE????
Thanks for reading my rant. Copium has been consumed and im good now.
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But for some dumb reason, I get smacked with a 24 hour cooldown. Excuse me? Why the collective punishment when I was a stranger, not in queue and unaware of their cheats?
I think its great that VAC is taking cheaters. This was the first time, in my case, so it was special to see. But then slapping me with a cooldown for 24 hours, not allowing me to play AT ALL? Why would you do this?
Whats gonna happen when I play tomorrow and maybe another cheaters gets caught. Another 24 hour cooldown if Im unlucky enough to be on the team they decided to cheat on?
I get the cooldown, but please, make it like 2 or maybe 7 hours. Not 24 hours.
And instead of completely disabling my ability to play online whatsoever, allow casual gamemodes and/or community servers. I figured id just grind out the cooldown on a 5v5 server. Nope. Not even that.
Basically, 5 people get locked out of the game for 24 hours. Imagine this happening thousands of times a day. That could lock out thousands of players or even more, for an entire day only for them to get another cooldown right after, because they are so unlucky get teamed with a cheater, again. SEE THE ISSUE HERE VALVE????
Thanks for reading my rant. Copium has been consumed and im good now.
2024.05.11 23:36 david_k_robertson The cheater got caught — IRS audit of Trump could cost ex-president more than $100 million — The tax agency concluded in its long-running investigation that Trump effectively claimed the same massive write-off twice on his failed Chicago tower
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2024.05.11 20:59 Interesting-Item7554 Had an office fling and I think I'm in limerence now. Can I get him back?
I (28F), and married coworker (35M) have been friends(?) for over 6 years. We met at my first company and grew pretty close after I quit. In the interval between then and a year back (when we became coworkers again at a different company) he used to call almost every weekend, which is how we got close. We're very different people and I always thought the friendship wouldn't last, but he held it together. He was the one putting in all the effort while I just passively went along. We're now in different departments but under the same umbrella so we work together quite a bit. He's the director of his department while I'm two levels below him.
We grew even closer since we started working together again. We'd always had a platonic relationship and I looked up to him as a mentor. I knew he had a troubled marriage but didn't know too many details about it. One evening after work, he invited me over to his place for a few drinks. I didn't think much of it and agreed. After a few swigs, he opened up about his dead bedroom, and I about my almost non-existent sex life. He suggested that we have a purely physical affair. I come from a broken household and don't believe in love or relationships, so his suggestion didn't outrage me. We slept together that night.
The next day he texted me saying he didn't want to do it anymore as he was afraid of getting caught. I said okay. Things weren't as awkward as I expected at work and we went back to being friends.
Then, it happened again (mutual consent). This time, it was my turn to feel shitty. I wasn't comfortable with the way he treated me during sex. I later called him and said I wanted to end it (didn't say why). He said okay but also that he enjoys it way too much so it was going to be tough. We left it at that.
Slowly, his attitude towards me changed. He started distancing himself. I called him out on his change many times (when we used to get together he'd always say our friendship was very important to him and he'd let nothing get in its way). He denied anything being amiss each time while still being distant. I stopped asking him after a point but was seething inside. Our professional relationship was still intact.
A few weeks later, he unkowingly did something that violated a cause very close to my heart (not going into the details here). I snapped when I found out. I sent him a slew of EXTREMELY nasty messages, calling him names (which included cheater) and essentially assassinating his character. They were so ugly that I was horrified when I re-read them. I deleted them a few minutes after sending but he'd read them by then. He proceeded to reply, countering my texts but staying civil. I was 100% sure the friendship was over then. I didn't try apologizing because nasty as they were, I'd still meant what I said.
When I went back to work (the above happened over a weekend), he pretended as if the whole incident never happened and behaved as usual. This suited me so I played along. Then, something work-related happened for which I needed his guidance. I approached him, fully expecting to be rebuffed, but he supported me throughout. The fact that he'd pushed aside his ego and helped me triggered something in me. In a few days, it was clear to me that he'd continue to be there for me, promptly picking my calls and answering my texts, while still staying emotionally aloof.
I, however, started craving our old friendship. I'd find excuses to call or text him, knowing full well I had no claim over his friendship after what I'd done. He always responded civilly. All this just fanned the flame more. Last week, I finally broke. I met with him on the pretext of work and told him how his change in attitude towards me after the affair affected me every day, and that I wanted things to go back to how they were before the affair. He replied saying he was still the same, and though he should've stopped talking to me altogether after my texts (I still couldn't bring myself to apologize for them), he chose not to think about them. He said he'd have let me know if he didn't want to stay friends, the only reason he wasn't being as communicative as before was because of work (it's true that he is overworked) and that he'd still be there for me whenever I needed him. He also said we'd talk about the affair once work settled down, since we hadn't had a chance to do that. He ended the convo by reassuring me multiple times he hadn't changed, even asking me what he could do to prove it.
I wasn't entirely convinced but knew I couldn't push him anymore, so I accepted his answer and left. For the past few days since the talk he's been highly attentive towards me, initiating conversations, joking around me and teasing me as of old. As a test I asked him to go out of the way to help with some non-work-related stuff, and he did. I should be happy but I feel gutted because now I know I was right all along- he had been deliberately avoiding me and is now being friendly only because I asked. I don't even know if it's real or just an act. I believe he thinks I love him (he mentioned love a few times in the convo - I don't love him and I told him so). Now I think he's trying to be friendly out of guilt or pity or both.
I believe the solution here is to change jobs and leave all this behind, and I'm actively applying. I think it's a case of out of sight, out of mind. But I don't know if I can cut him off completely...
TL;DR: Had a fling with a long-term friend, broke the friendship with some nasty texts, and now want him back as a close friend.
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We grew even closer since we started working together again. We'd always had a platonic relationship and I looked up to him as a mentor. I knew he had a troubled marriage but didn't know too many details about it. One evening after work, he invited me over to his place for a few drinks. I didn't think much of it and agreed. After a few swigs, he opened up about his dead bedroom, and I about my almost non-existent sex life. He suggested that we have a purely physical affair. I come from a broken household and don't believe in love or relationships, so his suggestion didn't outrage me. We slept together that night.
The next day he texted me saying he didn't want to do it anymore as he was afraid of getting caught. I said okay. Things weren't as awkward as I expected at work and we went back to being friends.
Then, it happened again (mutual consent). This time, it was my turn to feel shitty. I wasn't comfortable with the way he treated me during sex. I later called him and said I wanted to end it (didn't say why). He said okay but also that he enjoys it way too much so it was going to be tough. We left it at that.
Slowly, his attitude towards me changed. He started distancing himself. I called him out on his change many times (when we used to get together he'd always say our friendship was very important to him and he'd let nothing get in its way). He denied anything being amiss each time while still being distant. I stopped asking him after a point but was seething inside. Our professional relationship was still intact.
A few weeks later, he unkowingly did something that violated a cause very close to my heart (not going into the details here). I snapped when I found out. I sent him a slew of EXTREMELY nasty messages, calling him names (which included cheater) and essentially assassinating his character. They were so ugly that I was horrified when I re-read them. I deleted them a few minutes after sending but he'd read them by then. He proceeded to reply, countering my texts but staying civil. I was 100% sure the friendship was over then. I didn't try apologizing because nasty as they were, I'd still meant what I said.
When I went back to work (the above happened over a weekend), he pretended as if the whole incident never happened and behaved as usual. This suited me so I played along. Then, something work-related happened for which I needed his guidance. I approached him, fully expecting to be rebuffed, but he supported me throughout. The fact that he'd pushed aside his ego and helped me triggered something in me. In a few days, it was clear to me that he'd continue to be there for me, promptly picking my calls and answering my texts, while still staying emotionally aloof.
I, however, started craving our old friendship. I'd find excuses to call or text him, knowing full well I had no claim over his friendship after what I'd done. He always responded civilly. All this just fanned the flame more. Last week, I finally broke. I met with him on the pretext of work and told him how his change in attitude towards me after the affair affected me every day, and that I wanted things to go back to how they were before the affair. He replied saying he was still the same, and though he should've stopped talking to me altogether after my texts (I still couldn't bring myself to apologize for them), he chose not to think about them. He said he'd have let me know if he didn't want to stay friends, the only reason he wasn't being as communicative as before was because of work (it's true that he is overworked) and that he'd still be there for me whenever I needed him. He also said we'd talk about the affair once work settled down, since we hadn't had a chance to do that. He ended the convo by reassuring me multiple times he hadn't changed, even asking me what he could do to prove it.
I wasn't entirely convinced but knew I couldn't push him anymore, so I accepted his answer and left. For the past few days since the talk he's been highly attentive towards me, initiating conversations, joking around me and teasing me as of old. As a test I asked him to go out of the way to help with some non-work-related stuff, and he did. I should be happy but I feel gutted because now I know I was right all along- he had been deliberately avoiding me and is now being friendly only because I asked. I don't even know if it's real or just an act. I believe he thinks I love him (he mentioned love a few times in the convo - I don't love him and I told him so). Now I think he's trying to be friendly out of guilt or pity or both.
I believe the solution here is to change jobs and leave all this behind, and I'm actively applying. I think it's a case of out of sight, out of mind. But I don't know if I can cut him off completely...
TL;DR: Had a fling with a long-term friend, broke the friendship with some nasty texts, and now want him back as a close friend.
2024.05.11 16:44 Barch3 The cheater got caught — IRS audit of Trump could cost ex-president more than $100 million — The tax agency concluded in its long-running investigation that Trump effectively claimed the same massive write-off twice on his failed Chicago tower
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2024.05.11 16:24 wenchette The cheater got caught — IRS audit of Trump could cost ex-president more than $100 million — The tax agency concluded in its long-running investigation that Trump effectively claimed the same massive write-off twice on his failed Chicago tower
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2024.05.11 16:21 wenchette The cheater got caught — IRS audit of Trump could cost ex-president more than $100 million — The tax agency concluded in its long-running investigation that Trump effectively claimed the same massive write-off twice on his failed Chicago tower
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2024.05.11 12:49 ResidentAd3242 How can someone be so good at thier fake persona but then show thier true intentions and true self every other month?
Yes, I 32m fell in love with a woman 28f who thought was my soul mate. She was loving, caring and such a good step mom to my children. But after so many times of her randomly,to me, getting upset about something very trivial and what I'd think was insignificant. She acted like upset her so much that she just needed to leave the house, turn off her location and go sleep with her sisters boyfriend, her ex, her boss, and her old co worker. She's a very skilled manipulatetor and her lies use to work. But after a long year of the back n forth between her majorly different personalities and desires, I have just let her ruin the ideas of trust, love, loyalty, and respect that ppl would generally have in a loving relationship. Granted, I'm an asshole sometimes, I am lazy at times, I am selfish, I am inconsiderate and hard to love. I totally can see that is some negative things about me. BUT I was constantly working on it and I was physically loyal and exclusively hers. I texted my ex talking trash about her, and I even got my friends involved after being upset about her manic, dramatic, damaging and disgusting little few day vacations. Hotel rooms, caught her red handed and literally a million other little red flags that eventually led to me understanding that she is a serial cheater and addicted to sex. Complet opposite of the family soccer mom who is all about her family persona the she tries so hard to portray. Every time she'd take off and go sleep with these dudes and lie and do some absolutely dramatic crazy things that have caused damage in every way possible. Oh I got stories of her manic episodes. So I've l tired leaving her so many times but so much damage to my stuff, my house, my sanity and my focus to being a dad and provider, but she'd refuse to leave. I'd call the cops, I'd go to my mom's and she would just be absolutely relentless about working things out until days go by and we're just calm enough to move on. I would get more and more resentful each time. I tried so hard on accepting all of her urges and antics to make things easier since she literally, physically, and verbally would never let me leave her. So finally at almost a year together she took off again. I decided to play a game of her own. I invited a female friend over to hang out and insinuate a situation that looked like we were intimate. We planned to just hang out until she got home in the morning and I was hoping it would be enough for her to actually get hurt a fraction of the hurt I've been forced to endure. Oh no... she lost her shit, after coming back from having sex and find drugs with whomever it was, and demanded that I beg on my knees and ask for forgiveness!! And when I said no, you deserve this, she destroyed the house and everything I have. Clothes, models anything of mine. I tired to retaliate a little with her stuff but I can't be as mean as her. And she still refuses to leave my house and now has convinced herself that it's actually her house! She's not even on the lease and has paid rent a few times. But I have kids, and I've had my house for longer than I ever knew her. I called the cops because it was starting to get physically with the fighting and her demands of my to kiss her ass, that I called the cops. She was so stern on the idea that she will not leave for the night to keep the peace, that the police officer asked if me and my kids would find someplace to go!! Are you fucking kidding me?? She's hit me and attacked be so many times to where I've literally had to throw her down just to get away. So I can't let my kids see that. So we leave. I've lost literally all my clothing shoes and sweaters, tires and other broken stuff ave did to my truck. She refuses to get out of the house and refuses to go to the psychiatrist or hospital for help. At this point I've lost all the romance I felt for her. How can she get away with all this. I've lost 2 good jobs and lost 2 good running vehicles over her reactions to me trying to break up with her because she cheats constantly. The cops say do a formal eviction which takes 30 days and tell me to leave. It's MY fucking house! Idk what to do. The house has broken windows and doors from me locking her out because she wasn't taking me seriously about breaking up. Cops Said that I can't lock her out because I allowed her to live there. I am gonna file a complaint about the officer who made me and my kids leave our house so she could stay behind and destroy it. But other Then that, for a week, as soon as I get home I'm berraded with demands of apologizing to her and to kiss her ass, and hit and slapped when I say I don't love her and don't wanna be with her anymore. This is a stupid situation that the law has no interest in helping me with. If I had the money, I'd leave and go find a different place and disappear from her. She has made up crazy accusations and has involved my family and work ppl with crazy dramatic tantrums every time I try to leave her. It's insane and I can't focus on much of my other responsibilities because of it. Wtf do I do? Why can't she accept the fact that I am done and want her gone? She is mean, threatening and so erratic with lies and things she actually believes to try to destroy my life so I'll just stay so I don't have to answer to ppl about crazy things she's says and done. I never want to be in a relationship ever again. I will never trust a single soul and I will never believe ppl are who they portray they are... maybe not everyone has the mental issues she has so I shouldn't cast that on all ppl. She's had me convinced that I'm insane and that I need help because I kept asking about these red flags I would see her have, and that is probably the most unforgivable. To protect her secret life, she watched me stress, worry and question my own mental health to keep her lies and illusion. It feels like my only option is toget a decent check from work and bail on her completely. I don't have anything nice anymore to move with me. I am seriously considering doing something just to go to jail and get away from her. I've Locked her out, broken windows and doors, I call cops, thesay i can't lock her out. I want her to leave the house cuz she's Hitting me , screaming at me, and destroying my stuff, but the cops don't do anything and tell me to leave with my kids..... I have alot of restraint when it comes to women but I don't know for how much longer. If my kid's mother senses that I don't have a solid home environment for them, well be right back in court fighting over them. So if anyone has realistic practical and sensible ideas for me, or a way to actually help me get out of this situation id greatly appreciate it. These small town cops are no help and using formal court resolutions are no good as she will claim squatters rights??? Idk.
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