Rejected dating
Where Are All The Good Men?
2017.04.01 12:10 kevin32 Where Are All The Good Men?
In response to niceguys, this sub is dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man", to show what happens when women reject decent men for jerks and promiscuity, along with showing the unreasonable standards many women have while offering little to no value themselves.
2018.06.03 00:53 zelda-go-go Republicancer
Conservatism is a perfectly fine political theory dating back to the 19th Century. It's a shame Republicans rejected it in favor of completely delusional insanity.
2010.09.27 21:54 kissmeniko Dating Advice
this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to relationship_advice or if you are married post to marriage
2024.05.14 09:31 thereal_lone_wolf_ Can anyone help me
I'm (20 M). During the time period of 12 I had a female best friend,we were really good friends.But for me the friendship slowly turned into a emotional attachment.So after the 12th classes i proposed her. As my luck was at the extreme I got rejected.As my hopes were so much high,I couldn't handle that rejection.That lead to me seious traumatic condition.With the help of my I slowly recovered even though it took nearly one year.Now it's been 2 years after all that.At my current situation I am not able to find anyone or I am not able to date.So is there any way so that I can overcome this phase.
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2024.05.14 09:01 Legal_Storm721 My relationship is a LIE
I (W21) and my boyfriend (M22) have been dating for 3 years now, and everything has been fine until now. We have known each other since high school, and we were friends for 3 years before dating each other. Not that long ago, I was asking my boyfriend about his previous relationships, I was curious because he is my first boyfriend, but he had been in multiple relationships before dating me. When we first became friends, he quickly developed feelings for me, but I rejected him because I knew that nothing would have worked out back then, so he ended up dating different people while we were friends. I was there for most of his relationships as a friend (I haven't developed any feelings, and everything between us was platonic). Every once in a while, he would confess his feelings to me, and I would turn him down. I have seen what he was like during every breakup. After a year or two of us just being friends (he would still confess to me that he liked me), he started dating this girl. When he first started dating her (and when we first started dating), he would compare things about us, such as our hobbies, characteristics, personalities, work ethic, the sport that we played, and many other things like that. He would tell me how much she and I had in common, but at that time, I didn't think much about anything, solely because it wasn't any of my business. When they broke up, I had never seen him so heartbroken. One of the biggest reasons I thought maybe I should give him a chance was because of how long he has liked me. So recently, I brought her up because I was curious to see what type of relationship they had, and I slowly started to understand that I was being lied to. I started to realize that I was her replacement. I confronted him about the situation. I asked him who he liked first, her or me. In my mind, I always thought that he had always liked me first. The answer he gave me was her. So I asked him when he started liking me. He told me that it was a couple of months before we started dating. So that means that for three years, him telling me that he liked me was a lie. He told me that he didn't like me the times he told me he did, he claimed that he had a "thing" for me the whole time when we were friends but didn't truly develop feelings until we actually started dating, he has told me multiple times that I'm not her replacement, but the whole timeline and information just doesn't seem right. So now I just feel like his ex's rebound. What do I do? Do you guys believe him? Am I a replacement???
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2024.05.14 07:48 smile_watch Still engaged after 1 year with no plans for a wedding.
My fiance and I have been together since highschool and recently got engaged after 10 years. He proposed to me in Europe on a trip that he paid for, but I planned the itinerary for each day because he hates planning things.
When he proposed it was near the end of our trip and he didn't get on one knee or say anything special. He just said something like it's been a long time coming and presented me with the ring. I said yes and back in the hotel I playfully asked him if he could propose again but on one knee because that's how I've always imagined it and after asking twice he said yes and got on one knee.
A few months later I find out that I got into medical school so I end up moving to a different state. He ends up moving with me after half a year even though he previously said that he won't move to that state because he hates that state. His boss and a few people all told him that it's a bad idea for him to not move with me and he ended up deciding to move after half a year of being apart. He was originally going to move to live with me after 1 year, but stated that he missed me a lot and couldn't be apart with me any longer.
I was the one that decided to hold off on planning a wedding because of medical school and now that it's been a year since he proposed, I don't feel excited about having a wedding or even planning one. I would be the one to plan everything. He did say said that he would help some but that made me even less motivated. I haven't even wanted to try on dresses.
Besides this our intimate life isn't that great. We both are busy with work and school so we have only been having sex like every other week. The only time we have fought in the many years we spent dating each other was because he wanted more sex and I didn't. I have given him many outs in the past because I know that intimacy issues are not good in the long run and I don't want him resenting me, but he said no each time and we stayed together.
There was one point in our relationship where I thought I was asexual and another point when I thought I was bi. My body rejected him at one point and I would just internally cry when we had sex. Thankfully I don't have that feeling anymore when we have sex. Sexually, I know that we are not compatible. We tried many things in the bedroom but it still hasn't improved on the frequency. I get more turned on by reading a spicy romance book than I do with my fiance. I would even hide masturbating until he would fall asleep. I haven't told him that I'm not sexually attracted to him because I know it would break his heart.
I love spending time with him, but we honestly feel like roommates and I feel like both of us are just together for convenience. I asked him a few months ago when he knew that he wanted to marry me and he couldn't come up with an answer. I asked again like a month later and he said something about an experience we had like a year before he proposed. It just made me feel like crap since we had been together since highschool and we are both almost 30 now. We fought a little about how he proposed and it ended in him saying that I can't bring it up ever again and to not talk about it with my friends or family because it makes him look bad.
I know what all the comments are going to say, but I just wanted to write how I'm feeling and potentially see if anyone else has experienced this. Thank you in advance for any advice you give or any roasts. I know deep down that we shouldn't go through with the wedding, but I feel like we might. We both don't want kids. We have two pets that we love dearly. Also I have asked him in the past if we would still talk as friends if we ever broke up and he said that he would never speak to me again.
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When he proposed it was near the end of our trip and he didn't get on one knee or say anything special. He just said something like it's been a long time coming and presented me with the ring. I said yes and back in the hotel I playfully asked him if he could propose again but on one knee because that's how I've always imagined it and after asking twice he said yes and got on one knee.
A few months later I find out that I got into medical school so I end up moving to a different state. He ends up moving with me after half a year even though he previously said that he won't move to that state because he hates that state. His boss and a few people all told him that it's a bad idea for him to not move with me and he ended up deciding to move after half a year of being apart. He was originally going to move to live with me after 1 year, but stated that he missed me a lot and couldn't be apart with me any longer.
I was the one that decided to hold off on planning a wedding because of medical school and now that it's been a year since he proposed, I don't feel excited about having a wedding or even planning one. I would be the one to plan everything. He did say said that he would help some but that made me even less motivated. I haven't even wanted to try on dresses.
Besides this our intimate life isn't that great. We both are busy with work and school so we have only been having sex like every other week. The only time we have fought in the many years we spent dating each other was because he wanted more sex and I didn't. I have given him many outs in the past because I know that intimacy issues are not good in the long run and I don't want him resenting me, but he said no each time and we stayed together.
There was one point in our relationship where I thought I was asexual and another point when I thought I was bi. My body rejected him at one point and I would just internally cry when we had sex. Thankfully I don't have that feeling anymore when we have sex. Sexually, I know that we are not compatible. We tried many things in the bedroom but it still hasn't improved on the frequency. I get more turned on by reading a spicy romance book than I do with my fiance. I would even hide masturbating until he would fall asleep. I haven't told him that I'm not sexually attracted to him because I know it would break his heart.
I love spending time with him, but we honestly feel like roommates and I feel like both of us are just together for convenience. I asked him a few months ago when he knew that he wanted to marry me and he couldn't come up with an answer. I asked again like a month later and he said something about an experience we had like a year before he proposed. It just made me feel like crap since we had been together since highschool and we are both almost 30 now. We fought a little about how he proposed and it ended in him saying that I can't bring it up ever again and to not talk about it with my friends or family because it makes him look bad.
I know what all the comments are going to say, but I just wanted to write how I'm feeling and potentially see if anyone else has experienced this. Thank you in advance for any advice you give or any roasts. I know deep down that we shouldn't go through with the wedding, but I feel like we might. We both don't want kids. We have two pets that we love dearly. Also I have asked him in the past if we would still talk as friends if we ever broke up and he said that he would never speak to me again.
2024.05.14 07:41 SwoleasaurusWrecks My first ever guy friend blocked me because I wouldn't sleep with him.
I met this guy via a Meetup group. We hit it off immediately and became friends. Eventually we grew to like each other romantically but I wanted kids and he didn't so we just weren't compatible. But even after discussing that, we enjoyed each other's company and decided to remain friends. I hosted him in my home, which as a single girl was a huge deal and made me very nervous at first. We went out together to do various activities, always as friends and always splitting the bill 50/50.
A year into our friendship, we went on a trip together. Pretty much from the plane he was different, extraordinarily touchy and grabby and it was pretty obvious he was trying to initiate something physical between us. I felt too awkward to straight up pick up his hand off my leg and move it on the plane, but in more open surroundings I would just make space between us or say "Let's go here or there" to de-escalate things. (I don't want to by physical with someone I'm not in a committed relationship with.)
A couple days after the trip, he sent me a text saying he doesn't want to see me anymore. Not only that, he ghosted me and refused to respond to any of my subsequent messages or questions. And later I saw that he had kicked me out of our Meetup group too. I've treated first dates with more courtesy when disengaging with them, but he just threw me away like I was nothing.
It's not even the rejection that hurts, but the way he's ignoring me and refusing to consider my feelings or needs at all. After a year, I think I deserve a single conversation so I can get some closure and end things on a positive note. I oscillate between being sad and being so angry I just want to curse him out. I guess I should just be happy I DIDN'T sleep with him if this callousness was lurking under the nice guy exterior. :/
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A year into our friendship, we went on a trip together. Pretty much from the plane he was different, extraordinarily touchy and grabby and it was pretty obvious he was trying to initiate something physical between us. I felt too awkward to straight up pick up his hand off my leg and move it on the plane, but in more open surroundings I would just make space between us or say "Let's go here or there" to de-escalate things. (I don't want to by physical with someone I'm not in a committed relationship with.)
A couple days after the trip, he sent me a text saying he doesn't want to see me anymore. Not only that, he ghosted me and refused to respond to any of my subsequent messages or questions. And later I saw that he had kicked me out of our Meetup group too. I've treated first dates with more courtesy when disengaging with them, but he just threw me away like I was nothing.
It's not even the rejection that hurts, but the way he's ignoring me and refusing to consider my feelings or needs at all. After a year, I think I deserve a single conversation so I can get some closure and end things on a positive note. I oscillate between being sad and being so angry I just want to curse him out. I guess I should just be happy I DIDN'T sleep with him if this callousness was lurking under the nice guy exterior. :/
2024.05.14 07:40 Legit_Thrills Recruiter U-turn and then reposting job!
Hi All,
I applied for a job and got a call a week later from the recruitment agency (not the end client). They seemed happy and wanted to schedule an interview. When I suggested a time/date to follow up, they went cold.
I tried to follow up a week later and got to the original poster’s colleague who informed me the position wasn’t available anymore. One month later they reposted the position. When I applied this time they rejected me.
What really is going on?? Can someone please help!
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I applied for a job and got a call a week later from the recruitment agency (not the end client). They seemed happy and wanted to schedule an interview. When I suggested a time/date to follow up, they went cold.
I tried to follow up a week later and got to the original poster’s colleague who informed me the position wasn’t available anymore. One month later they reposted the position. When I applied this time they rejected me.
What really is going on?? Can someone please help!
2024.05.14 07:39 WavyStarfish Got used, and they never cared nor even think of me, and all I do is cry, why am I not good enough…
I met this person two years ago, but a year ago, they came back into my life after a bad breakup, and I welcomed them with open arms, and treated them kindly, and friendly. They always hated me and I never understood why, then one day it all shifted after I initiated contact, and a few months in, they started heavily pursuing me because they “liked” me. I don’t have dating experience and I was vulnerable after losing my dad (but not looking for love), but fell into love bombing.
This person was so persistent with me, indicating they wanted me, up until they left me suddenly for someone else, then came running back to me shortly after because they got served karma (dropped, and used) exactly what they did to me.
I let them back in, despite their disrespect towards me (shit talking me after I cut them off, laughed in my face about my dad’s death, called me a wh*re* for no reason, etc).
All I did was forgive, understand them, etc.
Then not even a month or two ago, they tried to get into my pants; I avoided them. Suddenly they have a GF, despite telling me, “they needed to heal, and not ready for a relationship” but actively stringing me along, and I mended their wounded ego after they got dropped by a girl (which they did the same to me).
Now they brag to me about their GF, and their great life. They watch my stories, but I unadded them on everything, and doubtful I will ever hear from them again.
I feel like a clown, a loser, and a pile of shit. Considering I meant nothing to this person, and that they don’t think of me, or ever cared about me. Just actively kept hurting me for their enjoyment and entertainment.
My eyes are just so swollen from crying, because my whole life has been like this, never being good enough, always rejected and used, and I can’t stop hating myself because it just gets worst the older I get and I can’t figure out why I am so unwanted.
I hate myself, and it hurts knowing this new girl gets treated divinely, while I’m the butt of the joke who never mattered.
Help…
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This person was so persistent with me, indicating they wanted me, up until they left me suddenly for someone else, then came running back to me shortly after because they got served karma (dropped, and used) exactly what they did to me.
I let them back in, despite their disrespect towards me (shit talking me after I cut them off, laughed in my face about my dad’s death, called me a wh*re* for no reason, etc).
All I did was forgive, understand them, etc.
Then not even a month or two ago, they tried to get into my pants; I avoided them. Suddenly they have a GF, despite telling me, “they needed to heal, and not ready for a relationship” but actively stringing me along, and I mended their wounded ego after they got dropped by a girl (which they did the same to me).
Now they brag to me about their GF, and their great life. They watch my stories, but I unadded them on everything, and doubtful I will ever hear from them again.
I feel like a clown, a loser, and a pile of shit. Considering I meant nothing to this person, and that they don’t think of me, or ever cared about me. Just actively kept hurting me for their enjoyment and entertainment.
My eyes are just so swollen from crying, because my whole life has been like this, never being good enough, always rejected and used, and I can’t stop hating myself because it just gets worst the older I get and I can’t figure out why I am so unwanted.
I hate myself, and it hurts knowing this new girl gets treated divinely, while I’m the butt of the joke who never mattered.
Help…
2024.05.14 07:39 Tyler_Pham I am not used to dating culture in the US and just dating in general. When I am into someone, do I say I like her, or should I just ask her on a date?
As the title says. Which is the better option and why? Recently I said "I like you" to my friend of 6 months, but she kindly rejected me. Would the result be the same if I asked her on a date instead?
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2024.05.14 07:33 Tyler_Pham I am not used to dating culture in the US and just dating in general. When I am into someone, do I say I like her, or should I just ask her on a date?
As the title says. Which is the better option and why? Recently I said "I like you" to my friend of 6 months, but she kindly rejected me. Would the result be the same if I asked her on a date instead?
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2024.05.14 07:25 owlsbdkfb Does anybody know the name of this manga?
I am pretty sure that I found this manga from this subreddit a few months ago, but after searching, I have not been able to find it, so I would greatly appreciate any help. It takes place in a school that has both humans and monster people coexisting, and there is a succubus girl that wants to date the MC because he didn't fall for her charms, however, there is a dog girl that also wants to date him, and the succubus sees the dog girl ask the MC out, but the MC rejects her, but neither the succubus nor the dog girl give up, and both of them still try to interact with the MC. Also, the MC uses some sort of magic to kill some small magic beasts that attack them in one of the chapters. I think they were bats. There were not very many chapters and I think all of this happened within the first 5 chapters but I could be wrong. Thank you for your help.
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2024.05.14 07:25 Parking-Wolverine-90 Is it necessary to build self esteem before you start dating?
I met a really nice guy on a dating app and he asked me out. To be frank, I thought he was way too good looking and put together to go out with me. He was also more sexually experienced and that kind of intimidated me. It's not like he judged me for being inexperienced, but my low self esteem made me think if he meets me IRL he would lose interest.
I know this isn't a healthy line of thinking. I know that I have bad self esteem. I have talked to therapists to be have better self worth, although I'm still not quite there. Did I sabotage myself by rejecting him? Or should I actually work on my self esteem before dating people?
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I know this isn't a healthy line of thinking. I know that I have bad self esteem. I have talked to therapists to be have better self worth, although I'm still not quite there. Did I sabotage myself by rejecting him? Or should I actually work on my self esteem before dating people?
2024.05.14 07:24 Virtual_Try_9119 Internship
If I continue to face rejections from companies and fail to secure an internship, could it impact my graduation date? And what will happen if I'm unable to fulfill this requirement for my academic program? Will there be alternative pathways to meet the necessary criteria for graduation, or will it potentially prolong my time in school?
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2024.05.14 07:11 NinSamurai64 Accepted the fact I(30M) will die alone.
Hi everyone. Today I got my first job after completing masters after numerous rejections, cold calls and mass applications. The whole process took me 8-9 months (I was doing part time job for first few months to pay for rent and food but later resigned to focus on interviews). I know I should be happy, right? But after all this time, all I have become is an empty shell of a human being.
I suffer from depression and ADHD(diagnosed a year back) and they had made my life miserable. The meds used to work but have stopped working since Jan 2024. I never made them an excuse to stop me from working even though towards end of the job hunt period, they heavily impacted my productivity and health. I have no support system, no friends. Family lives in another country and they have their own set of problems so I try not to bother them. As people are graduating, I see lot of folks at this time of year celebrating their graduation with friends, partners and family. I didn't go to mine because I didn't feel like going. I saw the photos of my peers who graduated alongside me. Even though most of them don't have a job but they all seem happy (and I am happy for them as well) and I..I just feel nothing for myself. I needed a job because of some financial issues my family and I are facing. But as a result, I have gained weight, the meds have led to terrible mood swings and affected my skin. I feel very awkward when I try to socialize as I haven't been to many social event during the job hunt phase. The job hunt has caused a serious burnout that I don't like looking my email account anymore. I got some good interviews at the end but I was so burned like toast and couldn't prepare at all that I failed most of them, repeating the cycle. Luckily,I got one offer after so much rejections.
Now it just dawned me as I was seeing others graduation pictures, I just cried and wished I could smile and be happy like them. I don't remember the last time I laughed or had a good time. Whenever I wake up, I hate looking myself in the mirror because I look so fucking ugly because of all the weight gain and side effects from my meds. I have endured enough pain from the start of my masters, mother having cancer (luckily treatable as of now) ,my partner of 3 years cheating on me and all this happened while I was moving to another country to start my masters. But I rebuilt myself after all this, worked out for 1.5 years straight, lost weight and gained muscle, improved my grades and heck, even dated for a while. On top of that, I even scored a job but unfortunately last October, my team was laid off so I had to begin looking for new options.
Now I am back to square one. Even I have job, I have nothing left inside of me. I feel like a dead person waking up just to complete my chores. I have made no friends or partners over the course of my education. Maybe I will get back on my feet in sometime but all this have started to make me believe that I am just a statistic in this world and it doesn't matter what I want or care about. There are loads like me, who come and go. I have tried enough to make friends or partners but haven't worked. I won't stop but over the time, it just have strengthened my belief that its okay that I will probably die alone. I don't care about anything anymore, have lost so much to let it all go. Probably I will start working on myself again and involve myself in hobbies and therapy but it won't eradicate the feeling of loneliness I have felt over the past years and bring some peace within me that's it alright to die alone. Maybe I will start something in future to help underprivileged children to get somewhere in life so they don't feel like me(not alone or left out). Anyways, I will try my best to stay positive and survive.
PS: Congratulations to all of you who graduated this spring and who also got a job. Those who are still doing job hunting, don't burnout and make sure you listen to your body. It's hard time but you don't have to make it hard for yourself and be with some friends who are in similar position like you as they will understand and help. Best of luck.
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I suffer from depression and ADHD(diagnosed a year back) and they had made my life miserable. The meds used to work but have stopped working since Jan 2024. I never made them an excuse to stop me from working even though towards end of the job hunt period, they heavily impacted my productivity and health. I have no support system, no friends. Family lives in another country and they have their own set of problems so I try not to bother them. As people are graduating, I see lot of folks at this time of year celebrating their graduation with friends, partners and family. I didn't go to mine because I didn't feel like going. I saw the photos of my peers who graduated alongside me. Even though most of them don't have a job but they all seem happy (and I am happy for them as well) and I..I just feel nothing for myself. I needed a job because of some financial issues my family and I are facing. But as a result, I have gained weight, the meds have led to terrible mood swings and affected my skin. I feel very awkward when I try to socialize as I haven't been to many social event during the job hunt phase. The job hunt has caused a serious burnout that I don't like looking my email account anymore. I got some good interviews at the end but I was so burned like toast and couldn't prepare at all that I failed most of them, repeating the cycle. Luckily,I got one offer after so much rejections.
Now it just dawned me as I was seeing others graduation pictures, I just cried and wished I could smile and be happy like them. I don't remember the last time I laughed or had a good time. Whenever I wake up, I hate looking myself in the mirror because I look so fucking ugly because of all the weight gain and side effects from my meds. I have endured enough pain from the start of my masters, mother having cancer (luckily treatable as of now) ,my partner of 3 years cheating on me and all this happened while I was moving to another country to start my masters. But I rebuilt myself after all this, worked out for 1.5 years straight, lost weight and gained muscle, improved my grades and heck, even dated for a while. On top of that, I even scored a job but unfortunately last October, my team was laid off so I had to begin looking for new options.
Now I am back to square one. Even I have job, I have nothing left inside of me. I feel like a dead person waking up just to complete my chores. I have made no friends or partners over the course of my education. Maybe I will get back on my feet in sometime but all this have started to make me believe that I am just a statistic in this world and it doesn't matter what I want or care about. There are loads like me, who come and go. I have tried enough to make friends or partners but haven't worked. I won't stop but over the time, it just have strengthened my belief that its okay that I will probably die alone. I don't care about anything anymore, have lost so much to let it all go. Probably I will start working on myself again and involve myself in hobbies and therapy but it won't eradicate the feeling of loneliness I have felt over the past years and bring some peace within me that's it alright to die alone. Maybe I will start something in future to help underprivileged children to get somewhere in life so they don't feel like me(not alone or left out). Anyways, I will try my best to stay positive and survive.
PS: Congratulations to all of you who graduated this spring and who also got a job. Those who are still doing job hunting, don't burnout and make sure you listen to your body. It's hard time but you don't have to make it hard for yourself and be with some friends who are in similar position like you as they will understand and help. Best of luck.
2024.05.14 07:06 Recklessbubble Media, culture shift and Dating
I know this might offend some. But My personal observation from a few years ago, like 6-7 years ago to be precise, when I was tuned into feminism for the first time, the media and culture was quite better or maybe the one I was exposed to because I had friends that time who were feminists. Right now what I’m observing is a massive shift in the media, especially in the treatment of women, romanticizing unavailable men, glorifying unsafe behavior as romantic gesture. I don’t know about you, but I’m largely inspired by media, movies, shows, songs, books, articles, instagram etc. and so is majority of generation. Because of this, there have been two categories of women in terms of dating majorly, one is where women are in love with an unavailable, toxic man and not able to get over that, this is so sad and common. This is majority of my outer circle, observation and instagram feed with so many girls finding that relatable, being in the space of being hurt, rejected, abused,unable to get out, gaslighted, longing for something. And I really blame this on media for being so misogynist in such a disguise, neither men who are behaving like that see it, neither these stuck women see it. Don’t get me wrong, I do believe there are people aware and benefiting from this as well. But it is indeed very tricky because generation to generation there’s a new norm always and we loose hindsight of the progress in terms of treatment of women. Some examples of this media is trad wife glorification, “no seal no deal”, pick me girls, I’m south Asian so I can name atleast a few movies that came out recently glorifying physical abuse, disrespect all in name of love. I saw a video on instagram, where a boy says that a girl he’s been talking to has blocked him online so that surely means she wants to see him inperson and now he’s on the flight. As an abuse survivor, my abuser has come knocking to my door in middle of the night after I blocked them. This is not romantic. It’s scary. The women in comments says where they could find a guy like that nowadays 😅 I m seriously worried for this generation
The second space of women are the ones who have been in first categories shoes or observed it, understood it, and now are choosing not to settle. Even if it’s traditionally considered late for them. Because they understand how much there’s to loose if you let a wrong person in your life. I’m becoming this second one slowly.
Nevertheless, to say in all this, dating has become tougher now. But it’s okay, it’s not worth to settle regardless.
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The second space of women are the ones who have been in first categories shoes or observed it, understood it, and now are choosing not to settle. Even if it’s traditionally considered late for them. Because they understand how much there’s to loose if you let a wrong person in your life. I’m becoming this second one slowly.
Nevertheless, to say in all this, dating has become tougher now. But it’s okay, it’s not worth to settle regardless.
2024.05.14 06:58 This-Effect8971 Would this qualify as stalking/harassment?
Hi, 31F in central west Florida. Have a situation that is distressing but not sure if I could qualify for a harassment/stalking injunction and whether that’d help in the end or make things worse.
Few dates. Few weeks. Things got weird, he sent me pics I didn’t want to see, I rejected him, he sort of accepted it but continued texting, I set a firmer boundary, he moved out of state. Great. Fast fwd to 2024, he moved back and moved into my back yard. My landlords have an RV back there, I’m obv upset but maybe he was desperate or homeless, idk. I just avoid him. He also started going to my church - but not talking to me there at all. Didn’t talk to me at my home for the first month or so. Then, he left hand-me-down men’s shorts on my porch with a note. I returned the note with the shorts (and the gifts he gave me last year during the few dates), and wrote on the note to please not give me any gifts and don’t come onto my porch. About 1 week later, he is on my porch with the landlords discussing re-building the porch. Don’t know whether they or he initiated that idea, but now he’s taking a very long time to rebuild it. He spends max 3 hrs on it per week and it’s been 3-4 weeks that it’s dragging on. But not only this - he also began creating drama. He reached out to a mutual friend of mine and expressed an assumption disguised as concern. He was ‘concerned’ that I have a boyfriend who I’m sleeping with - this is considered bad in our religious practice, thus his concern was for my spiritual state. This also means he’s taking note of the cars parking at my house, assuming, and talking about it. In that convo with friend he also shared some personal information that I had told him while we were dating briefly last year. This has created drama, hurt me and my reputation, and damaged my friendship with the mutual friend.
I feel like I have my hands tied and cannot do anything about this. My living situation depends on it. He’s best friends with my landlord and I already have to walk a fine line of appeasing them in order to stay here. If I tell them he’s bothering me, they’ll think I’m the problem and it could jeapoardize my housing. I can’t get him away from me. He lives in my backyard and he’s friends with my landlord, he’s got the ear of my mutual friend, he got into my church circle and he’s working on my porch for weeks… if I upset him, his responses will involve others in my circle. Because he knows a piece of private information, I can’t say anything for fear he might defend himself by blurting it out to others.
My question is, is this just a run of the mill case of drama, or is there anything in here that could qualify for a harassment/stalking injunction?
Edit: Not sure what his intentions are. Could be a clueless idiot, or could be strategically playing games to mess with me.
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Few dates. Few weeks. Things got weird, he sent me pics I didn’t want to see, I rejected him, he sort of accepted it but continued texting, I set a firmer boundary, he moved out of state. Great. Fast fwd to 2024, he moved back and moved into my back yard. My landlords have an RV back there, I’m obv upset but maybe he was desperate or homeless, idk. I just avoid him. He also started going to my church - but not talking to me there at all. Didn’t talk to me at my home for the first month or so. Then, he left hand-me-down men’s shorts on my porch with a note. I returned the note with the shorts (and the gifts he gave me last year during the few dates), and wrote on the note to please not give me any gifts and don’t come onto my porch. About 1 week later, he is on my porch with the landlords discussing re-building the porch. Don’t know whether they or he initiated that idea, but now he’s taking a very long time to rebuild it. He spends max 3 hrs on it per week and it’s been 3-4 weeks that it’s dragging on. But not only this - he also began creating drama. He reached out to a mutual friend of mine and expressed an assumption disguised as concern. He was ‘concerned’ that I have a boyfriend who I’m sleeping with - this is considered bad in our religious practice, thus his concern was for my spiritual state. This also means he’s taking note of the cars parking at my house, assuming, and talking about it. In that convo with friend he also shared some personal information that I had told him while we were dating briefly last year. This has created drama, hurt me and my reputation, and damaged my friendship with the mutual friend.
I feel like I have my hands tied and cannot do anything about this. My living situation depends on it. He’s best friends with my landlord and I already have to walk a fine line of appeasing them in order to stay here. If I tell them he’s bothering me, they’ll think I’m the problem and it could jeapoardize my housing. I can’t get him away from me. He lives in my backyard and he’s friends with my landlord, he’s got the ear of my mutual friend, he got into my church circle and he’s working on my porch for weeks… if I upset him, his responses will involve others in my circle. Because he knows a piece of private information, I can’t say anything for fear he might defend himself by blurting it out to others.
My question is, is this just a run of the mill case of drama, or is there anything in here that could qualify for a harassment/stalking injunction?
Edit: Not sure what his intentions are. Could be a clueless idiot, or could be strategically playing games to mess with me.
2024.05.14 06:57 total-icequeen Is there anyone else here who is a relationship anarchist and also poly or non-minogamous? What have been your experience in these communities?
I'm struggling finding my place here because I grew up/live in a PWA and it feels like I'm always being rejected in the dating world. I really resonate with these things as core values, but it feels like people aren't very open and it's hard to have positive experiences. It feels like I have to put so much effort into being presentable and not scaring people away and even then with the tiptoing people are still super dismissive of me as a person in regards to relationships. I'm 24 and I've had one longterm relationship, and I feel really hopeless about finding relationships and like-minded people. Does anyone have any hopeful or positive advice? I'm unsure if my bad luck in these spaces and relationships in general is because I have some overly negative beliefs, perceptions, and insecurities. Or if these spaces are just unwelcoming towards WOC.... Or if it's just that I am autistic? Idk man
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2024.05.14 06:53 ServiceKooky1323 Two rejections in one day
Went out with guy for first date the Saturday before last. He said he’d love to see me again but the texting died down and he didn’t ask for 2nd date, I stupidly texted him and we talked and made a plan for tomorrow, he texted me today very abruptly that he’s found a woman he is going to pursue and is canceling our plans. I asked why and he said it came down to chemistry and he wished me good luck. Feeling down I texted a guy I had 3 dates with and asked if he wanted to hang out tonight and he said ‘I’d love to see you but I’ve already made plans today 🙁” and he didn’t reply back after that - I’m not stupid enough to think he meant that - I think it was letting me down easy. I cried all day just feeling totally rejected like I’m never going to be enough or chosen - this rejection is really getting me down. A year and half of dates and rejections.
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2024.05.14 06:40 THROWRA1839471358193 I (18F) think I want to break up with my girlfriend (18F), but I'm afraid I'll regret it for the rest of my life. People who regret breaking up (or were close to), can you share some advice?
We've been dating for 8 months, but we've been good friends for about 6 years. I asked her out, got rejected, and pretty much moved on, but three weeks after, she said she actually did like me and we got together.
This is both our first relationships, and we both agreed we wanted to take it seriously. And now we know a lot more about each other, we've both changed as people, and I don't think we're compatible anymore.
She said she's working on it, but she is really bad at communicating. So when she's upset, she'll just snub me or make a face or something. I've warned her that I am not super good at picking up some social cues which she's said is fine, but after having talks about communication and having this happen, I don't really trust her to be truthful. But even with some communication problems, I still loved her.
But about a month ago, we were facetiming while I was trying some new hairstyles for prom, and I was curling my hair outward (kinda like 2003 Strawberry Shortcake?) and thought it was really cute so I showed her and she laughed in my face, like really hard. I grew up a lot of friends and family making fun of how I look, so I think I'm sensitive to these kinds of things. We had a talk about it and resolved things, but it's pretty obvious to me that I haven't really felt anything romantic for her since then.
I've been acting the same as usual, and it's clear she still loves me. She gets me gifts and calls me cute often, and has mentioned that I'm the only person that she's actually comfortable with. But while it used to make me happy, it makes me kind of uncomfortable now. It feels like kissing my friend (which is true I guess). I can do it, but it just is kind of weird.
I'm unfulfilled, bordering unhappy, but I felt really strongly about her before and am afraid I might never find someone that loves me as much again. Is this just a regular relationship phase, or should I break up with her?
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This is both our first relationships, and we both agreed we wanted to take it seriously. And now we know a lot more about each other, we've both changed as people, and I don't think we're compatible anymore.
She said she's working on it, but she is really bad at communicating. So when she's upset, she'll just snub me or make a face or something. I've warned her that I am not super good at picking up some social cues which she's said is fine, but after having talks about communication and having this happen, I don't really trust her to be truthful. But even with some communication problems, I still loved her.
But about a month ago, we were facetiming while I was trying some new hairstyles for prom, and I was curling my hair outward (kinda like 2003 Strawberry Shortcake?) and thought it was really cute so I showed her and she laughed in my face, like really hard. I grew up a lot of friends and family making fun of how I look, so I think I'm sensitive to these kinds of things. We had a talk about it and resolved things, but it's pretty obvious to me that I haven't really felt anything romantic for her since then.
I've been acting the same as usual, and it's clear she still loves me. She gets me gifts and calls me cute often, and has mentioned that I'm the only person that she's actually comfortable with. But while it used to make me happy, it makes me kind of uncomfortable now. It feels like kissing my friend (which is true I guess). I can do it, but it just is kind of weird.
I'm unfulfilled, bordering unhappy, but I felt really strongly about her before and am afraid I might never find someone that loves me as much again. Is this just a regular relationship phase, or should I break up with her?
2024.05.14 06:40 kalimerabull Confused
I’m 26M. Had really kicked it off with the friend of my ex. We’ve been in friendship for already 4 months and once shared a bed together. She rejected once my proposal to go on a date because of my ex. Although she says she really enjoys spending time with me and feels secure around me. It’s a bit frustrating for me to keep things alive when it doesn’t seem to go anywhere. Is there a second chance down the line or I should abandon the ship?
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2024.05.14 06:35 Aggravating_Seat9382 I think I have a crush on a girl I rejected months ago
So around the end of 2022 I (f19) started to develop feelings for a girl (f19) in one of my classes. I was crushing super hard on her, and we started hanging out through mutual friends. Eventually, we hung out one on one (as friends) a handful of times, always per her request because I was way too cowardly to ask her out. Fast forward to fall of 2023. At that point we were pretty close as friends and I was getting over the crush. I think I had accepted that it wasn’t going to happen. Towards the end of classes, I find out from another friend that she has had a crush on me for months. I’m very confused emotionally because this is the first girl that has liked me that I liked as well, altogether I figured I was over it by that point. I avoid the subject though I know that same friend told her that I liked her too. A couple weeks later, we both go to a party and end up drunk and cuddling. I definitely lead her on because I was fairly certain that I wasn’t interested in dating her, but i clearly still had physical desires that came out when i got drunk. I apologized to her over text, communicated my feelings, and told her I wasn’t interested in dating, and she seemed okay with it. Things were awkward for a couple months but we’re pretty okay now, still friends, though mostly only because we share a friend group. Until I started having feelings again. I’m not sure if I’m just really depressed and lonely, or if I’m actually crushing on her. I’m not sure if she still likes me. I don’t know if I should do anything about it. I can’t stop thinking about kissing her. Has anyone ever had this situation happen to them? I need advice.
tldr: I used to have a crush on a girl, got over it, found out she liked me back and rejected her at a party. 5 months later and I’m crushing again.
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tldr: I used to have a crush on a girl, got over it, found out she liked me back and rejected her at a party. 5 months later and I’m crushing again.
2024.05.14 06:32 jaceyou7 Why does she act different with me alone vs in a group
When we're alone shes so friendly, even touchy, But it seems like whenever we're in a group, she barely looks me in the eyes and doesn't even smile if I join the group later. Only thing is that when we're in a group we're usually with another girl whos her friend who I ended up rejecting in the past. Idk if theres hard feelings from that person there that makes her uncomfortable being friendly with me?
I don't get it, I think she used to have interest in me about 2 months ago as she'd always initiate 1 on 1 contact and was super touchy but my inexperienced ass only noticed this in hidsight so I never made a move. Now I'm regretting this so hard as I've caught feelings.
I asked her to go out (not necessarily a date) to do something we did before and she said yes, but in a month lmao. I've always heard that you should take that as a no but idk. I've been thinking about just making my intentions clear and asking her on a date, but I'm conflicted cause every time I see her in person in a group I feel like she despises me.
Shes always giving mixed signals. She mentioned shes never had a bf and shes 22 years old. Shes pretty so I'm assuming she treats dudes in a way that makes them not want to ask her out maybe?
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I don't get it, I think she used to have interest in me about 2 months ago as she'd always initiate 1 on 1 contact and was super touchy but my inexperienced ass only noticed this in hidsight so I never made a move. Now I'm regretting this so hard as I've caught feelings.
I asked her to go out (not necessarily a date) to do something we did before and she said yes, but in a month lmao. I've always heard that you should take that as a no but idk. I've been thinking about just making my intentions clear and asking her on a date, but I'm conflicted cause every time I see her in person in a group I feel like she despises me.
Shes always giving mixed signals. She mentioned shes never had a bf and shes 22 years old. Shes pretty so I'm assuming she treats dudes in a way that makes them not want to ask her out maybe?
2024.05.14 06:24 ElectronicPromise520 Advice on Schengen Visa application as Chinese National w/ Green Card
I’m (25) a Chinese national with a Green Card residing in the US. I’m planning on attending the Eras tour on July 5th and looked up earliest appointment date is June 13th. First question.. does this give me enough time to get the Visa?
I have been employed for a year and have a steady job. I haven’t left the country internationally before. Would this affect my chances of getting the Visa?
Would it be best to purchase accommodation and flights before the appointment? I’m just worried if it gets rejected, the money can’t be refunded..
Have not bought the flight tickets yet but I’m looking at departing July 3rd and returning July 8th.. with an overnight layover on the returning flight in London. I am planning on leaving the airport, staying in a hotel overnight and exploring some of London before the flight back. I believe this will need a Visitor in Transit visa and would need to provide biometrics, is this something I can do at the same appointment, or would I need to also book another appointment?
Have a lot of questions since this would be my first time flying out of country and applying for a visa. Appreciate any advice, thank you!
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I have been employed for a year and have a steady job. I haven’t left the country internationally before. Would this affect my chances of getting the Visa?
Would it be best to purchase accommodation and flights before the appointment? I’m just worried if it gets rejected, the money can’t be refunded..
Have not bought the flight tickets yet but I’m looking at departing July 3rd and returning July 8th.. with an overnight layover on the returning flight in London. I am planning on leaving the airport, staying in a hotel overnight and exploring some of London before the flight back. I believe this will need a Visitor in Transit visa and would need to provide biometrics, is this something I can do at the same appointment, or would I need to also book another appointment?
Have a lot of questions since this would be my first time flying out of country and applying for a visa. Appreciate any advice, thank you!