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Happy Belated Mother's Day y'all,
I've never really thought about being a mother in my life, but now that I'm pretty sure im trans, cause I really want to be a girl, I'm now having to deal with thinking about these new roles I had always assumed I would never fulfill. Perhaps most important of which is being a mother. I always thought I was either gonna be a dad or just not have kids growing up, I never even imagined giving birth or getting pregnant, or breastfeeding a baby, nor have I ever had the desire to do these tasks (probably because my mom has well- ingrained it into my mind that they suck and hurt like hell). I know as a trans woman I won't be able to do any of these anyway, but the role of a mother is much more than just that, and I don't know if that is something that I would fit with due to my personality.
I'm just really confused right now about this and am wondering if it invalidates how I've been feeling about my gender as a whole, as how can I be a girl if I don't want to be a mother? (I don't mean this in a sexist way, obviously women don't have to have kids and become mothers, I would say it in the same way if I was trans masculine and didn't resonate with being a father. I just personally believe having a family is an important part of life and essential for a lot of people's emotional well-being.)
How did you feel about stuff like this when you were in the questioning phase?

I wanted to share what my first month in business has taught me about mobile food vending businesses. Especially wanted to throw this out there for all those who are looking into mobile food businesses or just starting.
Last month I started a food stand, I got permitted, licensed and bought all the equipment plus a hauling trailer. My business partner and I have spent about 18k to start and fund ourselves this first month (food, fees, supplies, equipment, etc.). We both knew that everything would be a loss at first. We also both have full time jobs so this is a side thing and not a primary source of income. We have worked every weekend at markets for the past month. We made about 5k. It's been tough. Here's some stuff we have learned so far.
Food stands are only a way to make money seasonally where we live. We live in WA and the past month showed us how little people go out in a freezing cold rain. Can't blame them tho. So, before thinking about opening one, be realistic about how long you can stay in business in the year.
No matter how good your food is, if you are not at the right location you will not make money!! The location is very important. If you are in a market that is oversaturated with the same food as you, people are less likely to give the new person a try.
You will not make money for sometime. You cannot rely on this for income at the beginning. This is a money pit in the beginning. Focus on building a following.
Get some socials up and logo designs, business cards, ways of connecting with people. Get in fb groups for food trucks and pop ups. You literally have to be a salesperson at first to get people to give you a try. BANNERS with pictures of your food! People eat with their eyes.
If your food is good enough after that one try they will hooked. This is what we have experienced. But we literally had to convince people to just try us. Giving samples etc. Once they tried our food, they came back everyday we were open, sometimes multiple times a day.
Your food matters. It's the representation of you and your business. Don't put mediocre shit out there, they will not come back. Give samples. People love that.
Keep the menu small, especially at first until you have mastered the initial menu.
Do not come into this thinking your gonna be making good money at first because you won't. You will give a lot of time and money for no return for a while.
Lastly, I am sure next month will bring forth more lessons/challenges to learn. I remind myself to stay optimistic because there are times where you question it all. It's gonna take time. More than I had initially anticipated. But that's how it is.

Hey folks -
I know I said I was done posting FV content, but as much as I was intending to step away, theorizing about stuff helps order my mind so I am back to posting. My retirement lasted all of a week 😂😂
I want to explore some of the concepts and inspirations of the Fractalverse from Marathon.
For those who don't know, Marathon is a video game series from Bungie (yes, that Bungie)... The series is often regarded as a spiritual predecessor of Bungie's Halo series.
Significantly for us, it is one of Chris' favorite games of all time, and a lot of the content from Marathon is used as inspiration in the Eragon/Fractalverse series.
https://twitter.com/paolini/status/1661742366028623874
Man, I hope the new #Marathon game is good. The original three were a huge, huge influence on me. Some of the best sci-fi writing out there.
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If it's a game that doesn't use a mouse, like the old Marathon games, then I use 8426 (with 7 &9 for strafing) for movement and left-hand keys like space, command, option, etc. for shooting, swapping weapons, activating, etc.

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Hey, big Marathon fan, which is how I found your work. Been listening to your Leela cover a lot while writing.

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Marathon series, Halo, Mass Effect, and the Myst series (although those might be counted as fantasy).

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Myst (and sequels), the Marathon trilogy, Escape Velocity, Mass Effect 1-3, Halo 1-4, Skyrim, Oblivion, Portal 1&2, and more.

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Since no one guessed it, the sketch I posted earlier was from the end-screen of Marathon Infinity, last game in an awesome trilogy.

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@TheDragonUniver Ha! I beat the Vidmaster challenges in the old Marathon games, in the Total Carnage setting no less!

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@ndemordaunt Awesome. Glad to hear it. I've been playing Halo since it was called Marathon. 🙂 Hope you enjoy my future books!

Alright, I think I've proven my point. Let's get started.
First things first, let's talk about the Jjaro:

The Jjaro were an extremely advanced species--or an extremely advanced individual--which vanished from the Milky Way galaxy... The Jjaro possessed high-quality cyborg technology, such as that used to create the S'pht, as well as a star-destroying weapon known as the trih xeem, the ability to move entire planets by warping space around them as was used by the S'pht'Kr, some sort of time manipulation technology, and various ways of dealing with the W'rkncacnter

Sound familiar? Let's take it line by line with a few tangents along the way.

The Jjaro were an extremely advanced species--or an extremely advanced individual--which vanished from the Milky Way galaxy...

Hmm. Extremely advanced species. Who mysteriously Vanished. Check.

The Jjaro possessed high-quality cyborg technology, such as that used to create the S'pht

We'll get into this a bit later, but there is evidence that the Old Ones created/manipulated the Wraunai. Specifically from the Terminology section:

WRANAUI: sentient, space-faring race originating from the planet Pelagius... Some evidence indicates they may have been genetically modified by the Old Ones at some point in their distant past (Appendix III, TSIASOS).

Not a perfect fit, but lines up well enough. This next bit is extremely curious though -

The Jjaro possessed high-quality cyborg technology, such as that used to create the S'pht, as well as a star-destroying weapon known as the trih xeem

A star-destroying weapon. We haven't seen anything like that before... Or have we?
I've speculated on this in one of my previous posts; I think the "star-destroying weapon" is the black ball in this picture, which was some early concept art for TSIASOS.
You see the Black Ball heading for the sun? Check this out -
Compare it to the picture of the Trih Xeem.
Black ball with a trailing cloud, heading right for the sun? It's a perfect match with the concept art.
This is also significant for the World of Eragon, because:
MURTAGH SPOILERS BELOW
The visions from Azlagur all have him "rise" from the ground to "eat the sun"
Which is SUPER significant, because of the implications of the Marathon Infinity backstory:

In Marathon Infinity, a W'rkncacnter is imprisoned in the sun of planet Lh'owon. It is theorized by some that the W'rkncacnter's powerfully chaotic nature may be responsible for the jumps between realities seen in the game. When the Pfhor use a trih xeem device to send the star into early nova, the creature is released, to the horror and destruction of the Pfhor.

We will touch back on the reality jumping in a bit, but for now I want to focus on the "sun imprisonment" theme.
A cosmic-level baddie imprisoned in the sun. THAT is the endgame for Azlagur. Either he is a planetary-level villain, who will "rise" due to the Trih Xeem and Eat the Sun, releasing the equivalent W'rkncacnter, or he IS the equivalent W'rkncacnter, and will rise when the Trih Xeem is released. It all fits in with the concept art above.
And from this, we can deduce the overarching concepts of Angela's storyline.

Q: Will we get Angela lore? I feel like she could have killed Galbatorix and just didn't feel like it.
A: For those who don't know Angela is based on my sister Angela, because she breaks the fourth wall to a degree she has. Not only does she have plot armor, she knows she's in a story and can break the story itself. So, yes, she could have killed Galbatorix, but that would have made for a very bad story. That said, I do have an entire book planned around Angela, and it's very high on my list of books to write because it takes place before some of these other big stories I want to write. And that's also the difficult thing. I have my big storylines, and then I have a couple of one off side books I want to write, and it's just a question of time, energy and effort.

Given her appearance in TSIASOS, we can interpret that Angela is a "cosmic"-level character, who can cross time and space.
So... what's actually going on behind the scenes? We know she's been in/around Nal Gorgoth, and Tronjheim. She's definitely affiliated with the Draumar, and Tenga in some fashion. So... what's the actual story going on?
Let's take a look at the story of Marathon infinity:

Marathon Infinity begins as the Pfhor destroy Lh'owon using a Jjaro-derived doomsday weapon known as the Trih Xeem or "early nova". Unfortunately, the weapon also releases a powerful chaotic being: The W’rkncacnter, which threatens to destroy the entire galaxy. Because of the W’rkncacnter's chaos or by means of some Jjaro tech of his own, the player is transported back and forward in time, finding himself jumping between timelines and fighting for various sides in a desperate attempt to prevent the chaotic being's release.

So the weapon releases a powerful cosmic-level entity, which threatens to destroy the galaxy. And as a result, the "player" jumps around in time, jumping between timelines and fighting for various sides to prevent the being's release.
Sound familiar?
Jumping around in time and between timelines - that's what she's doing with the portals, the non-standard torque gates.
There are a ton of parallels with Angela and time (such as the references to her being a time lord), so for lack of better information, the most informed guess we can make is that she is trying to prevent the rise of Azlagur himself, or the creature freed by the death of the sun from Az "eating" the sun.
For lack of a better answer, Angela IS the player character from Marathon Infinity.
Alrighty, I could make several posts about the above, but for the sake of space and time, let's get back to the original passage.

the ability to move entire planets by warping space around them

Move planets by warping the space around them eh? That sounds familiar:

Then she was soaring through a nebula, and for a moment, she beheld a patch of twisted space. She could see it was twisted by the way it warped the surrounding gas. And from the patch, she felt a warped sensation, a feeling of utter wrongness, and it terrified her, for she knew its meaning. Chaos. Evil. Hunger.

Warping space around a planet. And Chaos... Sure sounds like the W’rkncacnter.
The last piece here also parallels with what we know about the series:

some sort of time manipulation technology,

Time manipulation - We know, based on various clues left throughout the series, that the Old Ones had the ability to manipulate time. Chris indicates as much here:

Right now no matter what way you swing it, we have issues in terms of time.

Correct.

Moving along, let's keep pulling the Jjaro thread together. The paragraph on Technology reads:

Jjaro technology is incredibly advanced and they have made many discoveries about the secrets of the universe. One of their ships, the Manus Celer Dei, was able to survive the closure of the universe, they uplifted the S'pht, defeated the W'rkncacnter, had mastered time control, had a station capable of compressing the mass and energy of a supernova into a black hole millennia beyond reckoning after it was decommissioned and abandoned, and a few of their artefacts were able to create a cyborg who could also survive the closure of the universe and escape it all together.

A station capable of compressing the mass and energy of a supernova into a black hole. And then it was decommissioned and abandoned.
Sound familiar, anyone?
The Great Beacons. That's what they are. The energy of a supernova in the form of a black hole, which were then decommissioned and abandoned.
We know the Great Beacons are no longer functioning. And it sure sounds like the description of a black hole (both in spacetime format, as a "whirlpool", and also visually)

and a few of their artefacts were able to create a cyborg who could also survive the closure of the universe and escape it all together.

Seeker? I'm not sure, but it sure has a lot of durability.
Alright, we're getting up there in word-count so I want to cut this short.
The last piece I want to talk about here are the parallels betwen the Wranaui and S'pht. It's not a perfect match, but there are a lot of overlaps between the two races.
First, the Wranaui:

WRANAUI: sentient, space-faring race originating from the planet Pelagius. Highly complex life cycle, with an equally complicated, hierarchical social structure dominated by Arms and a ruling form. Wranaui are naturally an ocean-based species, but through extensive use of artificial bodies, have adapted themselves to nearly every possible environment. Aggressive and expansionist, they have little regard for individual rights or safety, given their reliance on replacement bodies. Their scent-based language is exceedingly difficult for humans to translate. Even without technological augmentation, Wranaui are biologically immortal; their genetic-base bodies are always able to revert to an immature form in order to renew their flesh and stave off senescence. Some evidence indicates they may have been genetically modified by the Old Ones at some point in their distant past.

So, to summarize:

• Grew up in water
  
• Advanced scientifically due to the discovery of Vanished technology
  
• Complex hierarchical social structures.
  
• Forms & Use of artificial bodies.
  
• Genetically modified by the Vanished/Old Ones.
  

Let's compare that with the S'phet:

The S'pht were brought to Lh'owon by the Jjarro and Pthia as servants. The S'pht terraformed the planet from a barren desert into "marsh and sea, rivers and forests." When the Jjaro left Lh'owon after the death of "Pthia," the S'pht were released from their servitude, split into eleven clans, and leadership of the race was given to the S'pht royals.[6]

Genetically modified. Check.

The Pfhor forced them out of their typical forms, (as seen used by the S'pht'Kr) and into the strange garb of the Compilers and the armor of the Cyborgs.

Usage of "Forms". Check

After Pthia's death, Yrro scattered the S'pht across Lh'owon, separated them into eleven clans

Hierarchical society with different clans (Arms). Check.
The main two differences here are the usage of smell as a language, and the grew up in water.
Other than that, there are a TON of parallels.
Well, we're getting up there in word count and I've just started to ponder and fully understand the connections between the two series.
A few other random connections I noticed (I will add as time goes on):
Nmarhl and Narhl)
L'phet and S'pht
Alright, we are getting up there in word count, so I think that's it from me now. There are a lot more Eragon-specific relationships I've left out of here; I'll cover these in another post over on that subreddit.
Curious to see if anyone else has found other connections - Let me know what you think in the comments!

Well hi there! How's the weekend been treating you?
Mine's been alright, but that's not what you're here for is it?
You saw the title on this post and now you're all curious right?
I bet you're wondering what boyfriend stuff includes? Let's start with:

• Getting texted back regularly with an option for phone calls!
  
• Going out on dates with possible holding hands or making out!
  
• I'll make you laugh with all sorts of jokes from the sophisticated cynicism, cutting sarcasm to childish fart jokes I can do it all!
  
• You can get home cooked dinners! And breakfast too if I'm working overnights!
  
• You'll get all sorts of attention and compliments!
  
• I'm emotionally available and completely over my ex's!
  
• Flowers!
  

....and so much more!
Sounds pretty great right?
But who am I?
I'm a nearly middle aged divorced ex stand up comic that's worked himself into full on burnout working in hotels for the last twenty years. It's made into someone that's very empathetic and caring while still being to be cold as fuck when needed.
In my free time I'm kind of a traditional nerdy white guy. Gaming, cartoons (not anime though), science fiction, detective stories, alternative history, sketch comedy, various sitcoms, hiking, cooking and mowing the lawn occupy my off hours. I also tried getting back into writing again, but it's been challenging.
Now it's your turn! PM me and we can start planning the first date!

That Firefly is one of the 5 star to be release with a complete team and can be used in ANY floor. Why do you all hyper focus on the Firefly need HMC ? YOU GET HIM FOR FREE ALREADY WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT ?
Comparing her with Boothill is pretty dumb imo since you don't even consider Firefly's strength over him but just keep pondering on the fact that he can trigger his own hyper break.
While he's strong, he's no where near Firefly in terms of bruteforcing contents since there's so much stuff to consider: He has to break/kill stuff to gain stacks to reach his full potential ( horrible to bruteforce with ) and his phys implant is locked behind ult ( which might take a while to get given how his kit work ). So after going through all that hoop, him having something like that is really understandable.
While Firefly having the most simple, braindead way to bruteforce : use skill while in ult. That's it. Not only that her game play is so straighfoward : just skill. If you want Firefly to have what Boothill has then you're actively wanting even more powercreep into the game. TLDR: Boothill has high highs and low lows while Firefly is mid regardless of weakness.

I’m going to try to start from the beginning and not leave a lot out and hopefully I get some feedback on what to do or how I can move forward with my situation.
So me and my girlfriend me(22m) her (24f) have been dating for almost 2 years and have a 3 month old daughter. Our relationship was perfect in the beginning couldn’t complain about anything she was perfect we were perfect. Well a couple months into our relationship I noticed her getting distant and not wanting to cuddle or touch me in general(this was before she was pregnant) so I brought it up to her and she said she just doesn’t like physical touch, but in the beginning it was like she couldn’t get her hands off me and I love physical touch or just being in the same vicinity as her so I was clueless as to why all of a sudden she didn’t want to touch or even hug me anymore. When we first started dating I moved in her apartment and she was almost 2 months behind in rent, she was a 1099 self employed cna, well her shifts kept getting denied and she didn’t have money to pay for rent or any bills, so I took some money out of my saving and helped heus out and got us back on our feet and in a good position atleast I had thought so, she finally found a job that was full time and it was a cna job but she quit after 2 days because she didn’t like it, meanwhile I was working a low paying job and couldn’t pay all our bills by myself and I asked her on more than one occasion to try and get a job that way she could help out and she finally got a job and she helped for maybe one month but she didn’t work, she cheated the system and would clock in then come home and then drive back to work before her shift was supposed to end and clock out and would forge a signature on paperwork to get paid, she did this for maybe 2 weeks before they took the gig down, she didn’t get into trouble but she was now out of a job. Well shortly afterwards we found out she was pregnant and this is when I would beg her to get a job. I ended up getting hurt at work and lost my job, so now we were both jobless and near eviction. We got evicted from our apartment and we lied and somehow got a bigger apartment than our old one and of course was more expensive. I asked her multiple times to get a job and she couldn’t/wouldn’t. She used the excuse “high risk pregnancy” which she wasn’t at all high risk, I went to every appointment with her and held her hand the whole way but I wasn’t being rude or mean to her because however she felt the baby felt aswell(least that’s what I thought). So I got job after job each job being a better paying job and tried to support the 2 of us with my daughter on the way. Well I eventually got a decent job and my girlfriend was still jobless and she decided on her own to sell her car to help pay rent/bills because we were behind 2 months again, she paid one month and used the rest of the money roughly $2,000 on our daughters nursery and small things for herself. She was 9months pregnant and we had to move back into my parents house, I had a very unreliable truck at the time and used it to move all our stuff in 19 trips with each trip being 2hr drives, me being the only one to lift things because she was pregnant, we finally got everything settled and my daughter was born shortly after that. I ended up getting a very good job where we used to live an hour away, and I needed a more reliable vehicle to get back and forth to work and my daughters appointments. Tried finding my girlfriend a vehicle but how the whole situation at the dealership went was not how I expected nor how I wanted but I ended up getting a truck. It’s more reliable than my other one, anyways she was upset I didn’t get her a vehicle and constantly blames me for her having to sell her car. We are always arguing about money/my truck/my job/still not getting any attention from her physically. I slept on our couch and the floor in our bedroom for 8months in total. She co slept with our daughter for the longest and didn’t want me on the bed because I am a heavy sleeper, understandable. Didn’t argue about it but now we sleep together same bed and we still don’t cuddle or touch each other in general. I love this girl I really do but she makes it so difficult because I crave this physical affection and I don’t receive it so I have an attitude a lot, I still do everything she asks but I do it with an attitude. Im finally to a point where I think about what life would be like without her and catch myself thinking about this a lot. I hate that I do because deep down I just want to love this girl with everything in me but she makes it so hard and I’m stuck wondering if things will get better if I stay or if I should leave. So my question is what should I do ?
P.s. she won’t let my mother hold our daughter because the stories I have told my girlfriend from when I was growing up but my mother has taken responsibility for her actions and has done better but my girlfriend doesn’t care. My mom has come to terms she will never know her granddaughter and they live in the same house…. There’s a lot more stuff that could be said but I’m leaving somethings out. but i don’t think this post will even get any attention if it does I’ll give the full story from start till now.

So I have always hated forgetting or losing things, moreso than the average person. I buy books I like, write down the names of things, and will soon be converting my physical media (vhs/dvd/etc) to digital to have it in multiple places. I assume most here are of the same mindset as me, though maybe more dedicated. After being thoroughly confused by the wiki, and combing through old posts, I thought I should just ask a few questions.
I don't really need help with the actual copying part, there are plenty of guides out there (makeMKV seems to be the best suggestion for DVDs in this sub, according the wiki). I have also looked around for the actual storage device. I don't have enough data to be worth getting a server rack, and the more "manual" forms seem slow (like mdisc) since I plan to tap into these fairly often. What I will end up doing is probably having a couple USB drives, each with a copy of my "cache" of stuff, be it photos or movies or games or whatnot. Probably every 5 years I will just copy everything over to a new drive, to counteract any kind of physical deterioration with the drive (my research seems to point that they are finnicky when it comes to how long they can last). These caches will be large enough to not be worth combing through every time I copy stuff to check it works. At the time that I transfer the data, is there any kind of non-invasive software I can run the files through to make sure they are still readable? Because I don't want to go to look at a photo and see that 10 years ago it got corrupted and is gone.
TL;DR
I want to keep my stuff on USB drives to access often, but replace every 5 years. What can I do to ensure I don't lose whatever is on the drives? Or are there better options for this scenario than a flash drive?
(Thank you for your help, but please keep terminology and such on a low level, I am not my grandfather, but I am not super well versed with this kind of stuff)

I (25 NB) met my friend (26 NB) at work, we have the same position at work and usually end up paired with each other. We get along great and have a lot of similar interests. I’ve given them rides home from work a lot cause we live near each other, and I thought we’d developed a strong friendship. They’ve worked at the company a little longer than I have, I’ve been working there since August. We’ve only been friends really since Januaryish when I got promoted. Anyways they kept requesting we hang out together outside of work, I didn’t see this as odd because we’ve hung out together outside of work as a friend group, I have many friends at my job and we usually do group outings or parties, so it wasn’t odd to me that they wanted to hang out. The day they wanted to go out, none of my roommates were available to go with. 2 out of 3 of my roommates (25 M, 23 F and 25 M) work at the same business. So I went with them on my own, they seemed ecstatic that it was just the 2 of us. I picked them up and we initially just planned to go to the mall. We walked around, talked, bought stuff and eventually had lunch. They kept staring at me which I found awkward but figured because we’re both autistic that I was uncomfortable with the eye contact or they just happen to make a lot of eye contact. They also keep walking really close to me and “accidentally” bumping my hand. After the mall they still wanted to hang out so we went to the thrift store and had a lot of fun making fun of the silly knick knacks, we both love Fallout New Vegas so they were looking for a jacket that looked like Benny Geckos from the game. After that they still wanted to keep hanging out, at this point I was pretty tired but figured we were having fun. It’s hard for me to say no, and I use a cane for chronic pain so I usually need to take a frequent number of breaks which we hadn’t done yet but they hadn’t picked up that I was tired yet. I was having fun and at this point they did apologize about keeping me out for so long, I said it’s ok because I like long friendship hangout days, which is not a lie, my body just doesn’t enjoy it as much. Next we went to get boba and they bought me a drink, at this point they had paid for none of my stuff, we split the food earlier and I lightheartedly threatened them to not spend money on me. When we were in the boba shop, they once again kept staring and moving their hand towards mine. I deterred this because it made me uncomfortable by talking with my hands which I usually do anyways. They were nice and listened to me infodump to them about tmnt (tmnts my special interest) but still continued their staring. I kept getting in my head that they were just being nice and I was ruining things thinking that they had ulterior motives. I forgot to mention that they have a boyfriend (27 M), but they had offhandingly mentioned that they were poly. We then went to a gaming shop to look at dnd and pathfinder stuff, I had to pee incredibly badly at this point but they ignored my subtle pleas to leave, which understandably was my fault as I said I could hold it at the boba shop. At this point I’m exhausted and in a lot of pain so I suggested we end our hang out after finding a bathroom. They still insisted on hanging out longer so I suggested they come to my apartment cause at this point I’d run out of stuff for us to do. This is where things got a bit uncomfy. My roommates were all home at this point but all left briefly to go pick up food. My roommate who I share a room with requested I don’t bring my friend into our room while she was in there, but gave me the go ahead to show them our room once she and my other roommates left to get their food. I like showing my friends my collections whenever they come over so I saw no inappropriate reason to do the same. I have some Dnd, Fallout and Tmnt stuff I wanted to show them. I did my normal showing off my stuff thing. At some point I walked them over to my desk to show them my figurines, my desk is in a corner by my closet and bed so you can only go up to it from 1 side, I talked for a bit and noticed I was cornered. I have past trauma and hate being cornered, I kept making attempts to hint that I wanted to get out of the corner but they stayed firmly in place, even leaning with their hand on my desk to further block me in which I thought was strange. Eventually I manage to slip by them by saying I wanted to show them my shelf on the opposite side of the room. The shelf is lower and next to my bed so I sit down to point things out. They then ask if they can sit down as well. I say yes and they proceed to sit down directly next to me, our thighs are touching firmly and they lean in on my bed with their arm behind me. I’m once again cornered and panicked now. I have a thing with my thighs where I HATE anyone touching them, it causes a violent reaction, my brain screams at me to bite, punch or claw anyone who touches them, I feel sick and absolutely enraged whenever it happens. I’ve been SAed in the past but even before that I had that reaction, my therapist says it might be a trauma response from childhood that I don’t remember. I didn’t want to hurt them and luckily I have the violent outbursts completely under control so I just stiffened up and internalized the rage while trying to steady my breathing. They obviously know nothing about my trauma because we haven’t been friends for very long. So I continue talking about my 2003 rerelease tmnt figures and let them continue to touch me while trying not to cry. Luckily my roommates return, and I immediately get up and leave my room to greet them. At this point I’m incredibly uncomfortable and wanted them out. But I felt bad if I suddenly kicked them out and I also was their ride. We decided to watch a movie in the living room, I sat in the couch corner and they decided to lay down on the rest of the couch while leaning up near me. One of my roommates picked up on the vibe and decided to join us for the movie, the other two sat at the table where you can still see the tv to eat their food since there was no room on the couch. I decided to crochet during the movie to help ease my nerves. Every once in a while during the movie I could see them staring at me. Once the movie was over I offered to take them home. When I dropped them off they asked if they could hug me, I gave them a nervous sure, when they hugged me they put their nose into the crook of my neck which gave me the ick. I’m not sure if it’s just me but I hate whenever I want a friend or just want to hang out with a friend and they turn it into something more without asking me! I’ve been notoriously “manic pixie dream girled” my entire life and I’m sick of it. If you want to go out with me just make your intentions known and ask me on a date! I wouldn’t have said yes but I think they knew that and felt the need to trick me instead. I’m also incredibly turned off by the fact that their boyfriend just had surgery for appendicitis and is also about to have top surgery this week too and instead of caring for him they’re trying to get into my pants. The whole situation feels icky and I’m so sad cause I thought I found a cool friend. They’re trying to get me to hang out with them again (even though their boyfriend is having top surgery) and I told them I have therapy and college dumpster diving on my days off this week and they’re trying to get me to work around those. I just want some advice, am I in the wrong for feeling weird around them now or should I see how this plays out. I usually stick to dating women and other nonbinary people so they’re technically in the range of people I can potentially be attracted to but idk. I haven’t been interested in dating a lot lately cause I’ve been working through my trauma in therapy for the past year. My roommates also thought the whole situation was strange and uncomfortable. My roommate also asked if she had ever done anything like that to make me uncomfortable (she’s also amab like my friend), I reassured her she had never done that and that I feel very safe with her.

I was let go of the job today and now I'm stressing out. I'm not sure what to do. I'm tired of working in fast food places but that's only thing I could find since I don't drive. I have no professional job experience. I don't have any special certification and skills. I'm still in college but idk what to do there either so I stopped taking classes. Thought I do want to sign up for classes. Im so upset and mad at myself like why am I still living life in such a naive good person way. Like when am I gonna build up some arrogance ego and winning mindset. When I'm gonna chase for success and build that hunger. Why do I feel like I'm giving free chance to everyone just go ahead of me. Why am I being the nice guy. It's not getting me anywhere in life. Being nice honest and hard working feels as if it's not valued anymore. Nowdays people are great communicators and extremely smart in technology. They find ways to work smart not hard. They know how to build relationships with management or something. Now that I have to find a new job. I literally have zero clue where to apply. I definitely do not want to get a other restaurant job. I'm sick and tired of it.

Hello,
My partner and I recently had twin babies. We hadn’t been dating very long, but are both at the stage in our lives where we wanted to be parents.
Things seemed to be going well, but now there is a weird control factor.
Originally from all the information and advice I got as a new expecting parent, it was to lean into help. It takes a village to raise a kid and luckily enough we both have family in the area who have offered to help and are more than happy to help(some in retirement and others have some free time).
I start up work soon and will have to work 40 hours a week hybrid.
Currently we take care of them together. They are over a month old. I am expected me to take on a different sleep schedule slightly to make it into work on time certain days.
It is expected that I will be able to work full time, and take care of the kids when I get home. Since they will take care of the kids during the day while I’m gone then they would get a break when I get back.
I totally expect that we both need downtime, but they seem to forget that I won’t have any.
I’ve mentioned we should lean into the family and friends to help and their response is they don’t want to have them around all the time helping.(I have mentioned a couple hours at a time isn’t all the time, and it’s very helpful, but they shut me down each time saying I’m forcing my narrative, which I feel is a serious conversation that needs to be had.)
My next solution was to talk it out in couples therapy. No insurance seems to cover this, but I’ve mentioned the cost makes sense for me to put towards building a working and productive relationship for the sake of ourselves and the family. They say they don’t want to cough up their half of the costs for therapy and I’ve mentioned I’ll pay for it because I think it’s important.
I am then shot down after this saying oh they don’t have time to add another thing to their schedule.
Would the next best solution be to discuss custody?
Since they want to be independent, I’ll let them be. On my days, I’ll lean on family and friends to help while they are willing and can. On their days, they can take care of them their way.
If this isn’t the most logical next step, after trying multiple times to get into therapy, I don’t know what else to do. I plan to try a few more times to set up therapy with them for a productive conversation. I don’t know how many times I should try, but I haven’t given up hope. I’m just the type of person who wants to have to options laid out for pros and cons.
Maybe this is the wrong sub and if so I’m sorry. I just want to know peoples experiences with custody for newborns and how to approach that conversation if needed.
Thanks for any help.

You know how when you’re crouched behind a rally barricade and you zoom in on your sights it actually raises you up so you’re peaking over the short wall? It’s very nice! With the new(ish) stasis helm, you spawn free diamond lances right next to you when you get kills from behind the barricade. Also very nice! You know what’s not nice? When I pull LT to zoom in with my fresh lance in-hand, and my titan stays crouched with a barricade blocking his line of sight. I have to hit B to stand up and then throw the lance. It’s small, but please allow me to use the cover mechanic with my diamond lances plz!

I have $107k in debt....credit cards, home improvement, spouse's attempted business, living expenses during the time spouse was not bringing in money, etc.
I make good money, $190k per year plus about $30k in annual bonus. But my income isn't enough to cover all the minimum payments, regular bills and astronomical daycare expenses for two babies.
My credit is reasonable, somewhere around 680 but it's dropped 100 points in the last year. I'm losing sleep, trying to figure out how to get out from under this anchor.
Freedom Debt Relief has a reasonable settlement offer. A 36 month term gets us debt free for a monthly payment of $1000 less than we are paying on minimum payments alone. Sounds good, right? But am I going to completely wreck my credit?? Importantly, I will have a mortgage, two cars and a student loan that will not be included in the settlement so I will still have several accounts that remain in good standing.
Any advice before I make this big decision? Technically, I can get by with horrible credit for a year or two...I have no need to to finance anything for a while, and obviously I have to stop that nonsense anyway.

As we know they were originally planning a trilogy which never happened and probably never will. What story lines would you have liked to see play out ? What do you think they had planned out?
Honestly we have no idea what that would have looked like though here’s my version
Days Gone 2
Fast forward a few years. The map remains the same but expanded upon to the south west. I’d think deacon would remain the protagonist, seeing as the fans took quite liking to him.
Deacon has embraced his leadership skills and leads a host of bikers clearing out caves or something. Boozer among them. We see Deacon at his happiest here among a band of brothers & friends, as it was before the shit
With the Colonel dead in the west, warlords & the survivors that follow them emerge left & right in new parts of the map. Kouri among them. Some of these camps very well equipped, almost resembling current day technology & lifestyles. Many of them occupy large towns & cities, fortifying every inch and living lavishly. Their personalities range from readers to brutes, psychopaths and philosophers. Despite the fact they’re all proud men, a fragile peace holds. However with the zombies becoming less prevalent, they begin to look for new enemies. If the player attacks one of their patrols or encampments, they’ll become hostile like in Skyrim or something.
Anyways, we are going to see tucker die in a slave uprising at some point and replaced by a democracy. That guy with the cowboy hat is going to get tarred and feathered or something. Lisa too is going to come into play. I think she’s going to be a psychopath regardless Deacon will keep trying to help her, tho she’s too far gone and we see a parallel to Skizzo & Iron Mike.
At one point Deacon comes across Nero slaughtering a camp. They gotta eat brains to not spazz out or some shit. Price to pay for being a super zombie. Some plot twist ensues like the Colonel knew about the nero super mutants hence why he would attack em but he didn’t tell anyone so panic wouldn’t ensue.
One warlord raids another, he retaliates & before you know it all hell breaks loose and you a free for all breaks out. Deacons camp is caught in the middle of it.
Humanity fights amongst itself. Tragedy ensues. It is a bloody battle, humanity is brought to a low. Spiked heads, disembodies corpses & slaughter scenes become a common sight. For every low, a new low follows. Babes are torn from their mothers breast and spiked upon bayonets for fun. Savagery rules unchecked. Fields filled with flayed men on sticks can be found. Cruelty becomes the norm. Zombies become a means for torture and depravity. The lands are brazen with ash & the people weary. Deacons own motorbike host are ambushed and slaughtered within the chaos, their heads mounted outside lost lake , Boozer among them.
The fighting leaves Deacons settlement as a pile of rubble, but deacon is persistent in his revenge and for every man of his killed, he spikes 10 of theirs. His fury follow all those who have any association to the murder of his band of bikers. Even those who’s only crime is being related to the perpetrators are not spared. Deacon is a cold, bitter man.
Deacon then finds out that lost lake is Nero’s next target. Maybe obrian followed him. He plans to relocate
The game ends with Sarah dying, maybe to Lisa or a daughter, son, mother or brother of one of deacons victims.
Days Gone 3
Game starts off and Deacon is mad with grief. He brutally kills lisa or whoever killed Sarah. But their infant child needs him and eventually he somewhat pulls himself back together though he’s bitter, angry and violent
He remains a shell of his former self, cold and distant. The warlords are weakened from warring with one another and are helpless when their dominions are getting engulfed by swarms of Nero soldiers who plan to rid the world of man. Only the few will be spared, to be raised as farm animals for food.
The third game would be the finale so there would need to be a big war. The remaining warlords will band together to defeat Nero, Kouri among them, though at this point they are all a fraction of what they used to be. Their cities ash & rubble. Nero will arrive with the largest horde the game has ever seen. Thousands strong, wiping out every sign of life they come across. Thousands die as every position gets overrun.
Deacon and the other leaders manage organize a retreat with those strong enough to relocate and go to hot springs for their last stand. With tucker gone, it is thriving and remains the last untouched encampment.
When Nero reaches the walls of paradise springs, Fighting ensues. The siege of Hot Springs has begun. Cope dies with a smile on his face fighting government scum. Obrian feels bad and sacrifices himself for humanity by betraying Nero. Maybe deacon drops an atomic bomb on their headquarters, who knows. Or maybe everyone just relaxes a bit and coexists
In the end deacon learns to move on from Sarah, grieve healthily, and honor her memory through being a good father to their child. The game ends with flash forward scene and Hot springs is now a thriving town. The final scene shows Deacon and his kid riding motorcycles where him & boozer used to go. Or maybe it ends with an old Deacon telling his grandkids stories about the fallen legends of Iron mike, Sarah, Boozer, and how they saved the world
There’d definitely be a ton more plots, characters and locations & so on. Doubt this even encompasses a fraction of what it could have been.
Sucks we’ll never even have a clue

I, 23f, have a brother 15m, who has almost completely stopped caring about/going to school. He is currently failing every class, and he’s gotten more defiant at home with my dad and his mom, who is not my mom. I don’t live with them, but I live nearby. I am of the opinion that most of this behavior is brought on by my dad and his wife’s bad parenting. I just graduated college and my dad, knowing that I was always a really good student, wants me to tutor him and try to get his grades up from failing for the last three weeks or so of school.
My problem is that the last time I talked to my little brother, he made it pretty clear that he doesn’t see the point in school and doesn’t know why he should waste time learning useless stuff there when he can learn everything he wants on his phone, even though he doesn’t, and that the job he wants won’t require anything but math class (paramedic) and he will learn most of what he needs in training.
I’ m not sure what to say to him or if there any videos, I can show him to convince him the value of school in today’s world full of technology. He has his drivers permit, but doesn’t have a drivers license and hasn’t even really worked on getting it. He knows I’ve gone to college, but thinks that college in general is useless, which I’m not saying it isn’t, but he thinks that since college is useless most times that high school is useless too. At this point, he won’t even get his diploma though, which is required for most jobs, some thing he is also already aware of. He’s told me that he doesn’t want his life to revolve around School like mine has, because I was always a straight-a student who often couldn’t go to events because I had so much homework, but I’m not telling him to do that either, I just simply don’t want him to fail.
He also feels that his job is more important because he’s actually making money that he can use to live off of, but it’s cutting into school time and he doesn’t even really do homework anymore because he’s at work for the maximum amount of hours. I’m actually tempted to report his work for exploding child labor because I’m pretty sure he’s exceeding the maximum number of hours allowed for a kid to work during the school week. At least tonight he worked from after school until 9. That’s 36 hours a week. I’m pretty sure the max is 25 for his age.
I just don’t know what to say or how to tutor him if he places no value in school. I think he wants to get his diploma, but he won’t be trying his best in our sessions unless I can convince him doing more than the bare minimum is worth it. Because if he tries to do the bare minimum, he will still fail.
Thanks for any help with this.

Basically been going back in forth trying to understand the meaning of this verse? 51:47? And the heaven we created with might and we are certainly its expander? I mean sure it can't be the expansion of the universe as some apologists like to claim but still, what is it really about? I've been making tonns of research on this particular one for days and they all don't make sense to me. Read many refutations as well but they didnt seem to be convincing enough to me for some reason.
Why is it written in such a weird confusing structure that no one seems to understand it and all the translations are different. If it's just about the sky why isn't it written like Allah stretched the sky and that's it?
And then I just caught myself think but what if theyre actually freaking right? I mean the universe expanding is still a valid version isn't it? There's still many different versions but they all seem to be off? And when I think of it as the Hubble law it just fits right in like a puzzle. i mean im not sure if i really believe it but i cant find a better explanation
I dont really believe in the "scientific miracles" bullshit in the quran but this particular one is kinda living in my brain rent free and I don't seem to find any explanation on how this verse might have been written without god's knowledge? When I try to think like "it's just the sky, not the universe" it feels like im just bullshitting just to disagree with it to be honest. When i think its "coincidence" its even worse
There's still many reasons that Islam is false but stuff like this is confusing af and I don't seem like knowing what's true anymore

I’m sorry if this is a basic question but everything I research tells me something different and I really can’t pick one but need to start my business. I want it to have some photos of work I’ve done(once I have some) and some contact info, maybe a page to submit and inquiry about how big the job is, what it entails. If you recommend I have more stuff on my website, I would appreciate any tips. I can’t decide between going with something that’s 3$ a month or 16$ a month. Please ask me the right questions I need to decide or something. I really need to get this done and cannot find a simple answer and can’t find the right questions. Any guidance is greatly appreciated, thank you in advance.

I have a big but also complex problem so I'm gonna try to explain this the best I can. Anyways, on my main save, I had two things I wanted to rename, a planet and a system, but I couldn't because someone already named the system and I had a typo on the planet and couldn't go back. So I saw another post saying that going into the save.hg file and searching for these names and renaming them would work(only on client side though), but I realized there were two save files, save.hg7 and save.hg8(I have multiple saves). These were both attributed to the same save as they both had similar info and most recent modifying dates.
The problem is I changed the stuff I wanted in both files, but I didn't name them identically, so the two files had slightly different info in them. Now when I launch my save, though it says I was last on a settlement that I was working on, it loads me into the "begin initialization" prompt, essentially deleting all my progess, and I don't know how to get my other stuff back.
I saw a post about the mf_save.hg files and using those to restore mistakes, but I'm not sure how to do that. Is there any way to restore this? I'm not sure if this would work, but would putting everything back how it was in those save files help?(though I don't fully remember the system name and it was something like Rugofuttal). I put a lot of work into that save and I'm pretty desperate to get it back as I whole-heartedly do not want to start over by any means.
For extra info, the mf_save.hg 7 and 8 files corresponding to that save have an earlier "last modified" date than the save.hg 7 and 8 files, so are those storing previous saves before I messed up? If so, how do I get those back? Thank you for any help given, and please try to be as detailed and direct as possible with any solutions.

This relationship started 7 yrs ago during our college yrs. 5 months into our new relationship, I moved in with my bf and his brother due to a disagreement I had with my family. Of all the things that were going wrong during that time, my relationship with my bf actually became better and stronger. We got to know each other more and it turns out we are a good match! Towards the end of 2020, his brother and mom had lost their jobs due to covid. So the brother (we’ll call him Petter), Mom/Dad, and my boyfriend ended up all moving together to a bigger house. On top of that, his other brother (we’ll call him Mat) was about to have his baby. Once the baby was born, they basically left the child with my boyfriend’s mom. So the baby now lives there too. I became uncomfortable due to the lack of privacy and loudness so I moved out. Like most couples, I sleep over at his place at least 2-3 times a week but this is now becoming a problem. I’ve gotten into multiple fights w/ the mom and most recently with the dad.
I cannot stand his family. I might sounds aggresive but here me out... He comes from a very abusive and dysfunctional family. The type of dynamic where the dad is your typical wife beater with a loser mentality who lives rent free and the mom who has stockholm syndrome and relies on her children to care for her every need and even makes them fight each other. The mom constantly bullies me to the point where we don't talk anymore. She believes I am not doing anything with my life just because I have not had a baby yet. Any occasion we would talk, she would bring up the conversation about having a child. We went to Disneyland not too long ago. When we got back, the mom told both of us that “if we can afford disneyland we can afford a baby”, which is incredibly ignorant to say. Out of anger, I told her she should focus on bothering Mat about his deadbeat parenting style instead of her bullying and harassing me for not having a child. To put it in simple words, his family (specifically his mom) is very good at punishing good-hardworking-positive behavior and rewarding horrible-sh*tty-loser mentality behavior.
Recently, his dad was hospitalized for heart issues and was discharged on “RMA-AMA”. He now expect everyone, including my boyfriend to baby him and wipe his a**. This is where my issues with his family got a whole lot worse. About 3 nights ago, I was awakened by the sound of stuff being thrown around and the dad yelling. I told my boyfriend to check it out but he was refusing so I went out to see what was going on. The dad was calling the mom a lot of profanity words and throwing things at her. This instantly triggered me and I told him to stop calling her those names and stop throwing things or I would get the police involved. I just wanted to defend the mom. He turns and stares at me with bad intentions. The dad called me a “b*tch”, “wh*ore”, and all the worst things you can think of. My boyfriend instead of defening me, told me to go back to the room and procedding to saying "lets just go to sleep" and acted like nothing happened. When things calmed down, I asked my boyfriend why he didn’t defend me from his dad. My boyfriend said “what was I supposed to do, fight my dad?”. I would never ask my boyfriend to get physical with anyone but dang can I at least have his support. To make things worse, the next day his mom with her stockholm syndrome said I was being disrespectful when all I was trying to do was DEFEND her. Now I know I should NEVER get involved in those types of situations, I was just triggered and scared by the whole situation because I am not used to that type of behavior.
This has put us in very complicated situations. It’s depressing, because almost every other day my bf and I are arguing about our living situation (we do not live together) and his family. It is so painful because I feel like this is not who we are. When we are away from his family, we are the happiest couple ever but when his family is in our presence we are basically miserable. I’m fed up and it makes me wonder if this relationship is worth it. I also feel like his family only brings out the worst in me. I am currently working in the medical field as a new grad so I had a lot of stress. I try my best to not be around toxic environments but it's hard because my boyfriend LIVES in a toxic environment. I’m desperately trying to move out and my boyfriend thinks its time to dip as well. However, he doesn’t want to move out until he is financially ready to pay for his rent and also help out his family with their rent. I might be an a**hole but I do not believe his family deserves his help. I also think this is such a slap in the face towards me. He knows his family treats me like sh*t, yet his guilt complex is making him think he needs to take care of his family. I asked how he could still want to be “in good terms” with them especially after his dad called me a “b*tch” and his mom called me “disrespectful”. His family has never done anything to help him achieve the goals he accomplished or even cared to see how he is doing. I honestly think him wanting to still help his family is a huge slap to my face and basically shows me that he will never have my back. For this reason, I'm considering leaving because I do not want to make him pick between his family or me. I cannot, will not, and do not want to change his way of thinking because I wouldn't like to be in that sitation myself. However, I would never let any of my family talk profanity or bully my boyfriend because I know it is not right. My boyfriend isn't a bad a partner, he is my bestfriend but I just feel betrayed and alone in this issue. I feel like he doesn't understand the what it feel like to be bullied by your partners parents. This is one of the hardest decisions I’m going to make, so I’m wondering if there us anyone with a similar experience who can commiserate.....

Well, hello! I'm just a silly little queer on a journey to self-discovery, learning how to live my best life, and looking for some company along the way. Here is what I'm looking like these days. I have officially hit that point in my life where time seems to be just completely slipping through my fingers, and so I am very focused on truly living each day to the fullest extent of my abilities, for the first time in a very long while (maybe ever). I'd love to meet some more folks who are in a similar place in their daily lives. For me, this means an emphasis on healing, hobbies, and healthy connections and approaching the choices, chances, and changes I make each day from a place of curiosity and wonder.
Healing is a priority of the highest order for me. I believe that as adults we all have wounds that, through healing, we can learn and grow from, in order to be the best versions of ourselves. We are all works in progress, and no matter how young or old, none of us are ever really "done" growing. I am learning how to hold space for my younger self, without judgement or shame coloring my perception of my past actions and choices. I'd love to hear about how you are practicing growth, what therapy modalities have worked best for you (IFS changed my life!), and/or your short and long term goals for this area of your life.
Hobbies have made a world of difference in how I balance my days. At the peak of my depression/mental illness, my entire life revolved around work and my children - I had no identity outside of ~Customer Service Cutie~ and ~Mom~. Last year I took the leap to join a local gay women's chorus and I am not kidding you, it was the best decision I made for myself in my adult life. This has opened up doors to other hobbies I didn't know I was interested in, like painting and kickball. Tell me about your hobbies, and what activities make you smile, and breathe life into your days!
Healthy connections are where you come in! Hooray - if you made it this far, you are a TROOPER and I appreciate you taking the time. I'm really not looking for anything in particular, but you should know that I am super duper non-monogamous, and have been for 12 years now - I'd love to tell you all about it! I would love to go out on cute dates (I have always been the planner, so it would be a really cool change if someone wanted to take me out) or connect over zoom or whatever digital platform works best for you. It's been an embarrassingly long time since I've sent or received a good morning text, or felt the flutters in my stomach when I see someone's name pop up throughout the day. I guess I'm just looking for chemistry, in whatever form that takes.
Please feel free to shoot me a message or chat on here. If you need an opener idea, I'd love to know - if you had 1 hour to get on a plane to anywhere in the world (hurry up, pack your bag and GO!) where are you going and why?
Cheers xo
Em

I have started to get interested in other genre of mine after using suno and i really like how it is able to trigger some really nice song hook with great music arrangement style. I am bless that i can do some music arrangement using DAW and i improvise the style from suno. So far liking it and great tools to explore genre outside my usual stuff. What suno lacking is really the sound quality.