I forgot there was this whole other thing I was going to include that I forgot, my Roseanne conspiracy.
I don't know if maybe solving puzzle conspiracies is like the next step in human brain evolution or if i'm just a loser with too much free time. I only have like 3 faint memories of kindergarten, 1 of them is a very short conversation my teacher having with my mom about how i liked puzzles.
Anyways, when Roseanne Barr got cancelled for tweeting that shit about Valerie Jarrett, something just didn't seem right. Celebrities were already getting cancelled left and right, but this one seemed like way overboard. Absolutely nobody was talking about it, I didn't see a single thing where any regular person was talking about it or gave a shit, but the media was trying so hard to shove it down everyone's throats saying that EVERYONE was talking about it and making a HUGE deal about it. At first it just seemed like typical thirsty ass social media brands trying to be e-relevant.
But looking at it years later I noticed a few things. In the rebooted 10th season of Roseanne, her character developed a drug addiction problem throughout the season, and then it ended on a cliff hanger where she could possibly die. Then when they brought the series back under the new name The Conners, they try to play it off like they only killed her character off because of the scandal, not because the seeds were already planted. And then I realized her tweet that got her in trouble was actually posted literally just days after the final episode of Roseanne season 10 aired. The timing was so obvious, this was all just a huge publicity stunt to bring attention and hype to the new spinoff series where they continue on without her.
That's basically all there is to that one. I have a few others I want to eventually delve into more, such as Tupac is alive and most likely living in South America, cause after he faked his death its unlikely he would have gotten on a plane, and since he was in Vegas when he supposedly died, its only about a 7 hour drive to Mexico from there. Another conspiracy I have is that Michael Jackson was totally in on the scandals against him, the whole thing was fabricated just to sell magazines, everyone involved made insane amounts of money off that bullshit. Also the 2 or 3 people who down vote all my posts aren't as cool as they think they are, they always down vote within 15 minutes of me posting anything, its like get a life fool, you ain't foolin nobody, we know this is what you do on friday nights, go play outside.

Our shipping guy where I work is constantly in pain and cant afford to buy real good shoes. He makes these noises while he’s working that make it apparent he is struggling. He is also Ex-Navy, so pain isn’t something he shows easily. He’s tried other low cost options but it hasn’t helped. He is like 6’5” and his feet are huge. His Birthday is this Friday and I plan to ask people from work to donate money for shoes. What Brand and Type of shoe would be best for someone like him and can I buy something locally? Thank you for any advice!
Edit: Mispelling

A few weeks ago, someone posted a link to one of Don’s rants and I went through and commented on each of the points. I can't find that post, but I had copied it over here: https://www.reddit.com/perpetualeducation/comments/1c7k9re/donthedeveloper_on_a_rant_about_how_aspiring/
We had a chat about it. Here’s the video/podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHmqZkC3LqU&lc
Don titled it: There's a MASSIVE Skill Gap Among New Developers
I'll attempt to write a bit about that - (even though we went over many other topics - and I'm having a hard time grouping them)
It’s easy to simplify this into “the market” or “the boot camp” or “the tech stack” or "what's fair" or "the resume" - but I think people are missing the various multidimensional aspects at play. Is it:
Is it all of those things - and more? (Yes). And it's "the student" too." We're all different (cue reading rainbow moment). But it's true. Some of us are slower. Some of us are faster but miss the details. Some of us have a background that alignes neatly with tech. Some of us already know what job we want and why - and other people just want to make a good bet on a stable career. No matter what zone you're in, we still have to face the music - and deal with (trigger alert) - the truth.
The market is real. Companies aren't aggressively hireing random barely capable developers right now (like they have in the past). They're scared and holding on to their money. They also kinda realized they were spending more money on middle management and probably developers too - and are going to need some time to figure out how to make profitable businesses (or how to keep getting more VC funding to burn through).
But if there's a huge gap between your skills/experience and what it takes to do the job you're applying for, none of the other factors matter.
Many people choose a coding boot camp based on superficial factors like the price, the timeline, the website design, and the sales pitch. They often don't consider other important aspects because they simply don't know better. This isn’t unlike any other product or service or school.
Some people pick out a boot camp and learn a bunch of awesome stuff and they go out there and start a new career and for some reason, they don’t come back to Reddit to tell us about it. There are some legit colleges and boot camps and other alternative learning paths out there - that are really great. It's just a fact.
If you read the bootcamp marketing, paid your tuition, went through the steps they lined out, and came out the other end unable to get that job they promised you, well - that’s awkward. Maybe for you, it’s that simple. If you feel like you got a raw deal, I’m sorry. There are some businesses that should be ashamed of themselves - but they won't be. All you can do is warn other people. That’s over now. We can only work with the present.
For people who really want to work in this industry - they'll keep moving forward: at the end of the day, this is the playing field. So, if you want to get off the bench, we’re going to have to design a path to that – and you might need to rethink some of your assumptions.
It could certainly be said that new developers are now expected to know about–and have experience with–a lot more things.
Are the expectations that someone brand new to development is going to be able to get a job unreasonable? Well, does it matter what someone’s opinion about that is? You either want the job - or you don’t. And you need to know how to do the job, or no one will hire you. Do you need to know everything on this huge list to get an entry level position https://roadmap.sh/javascript ? (no) (in fact - close that - and don’t ever look at it again)
When I started (at the age of ~30) (in ~2011), you needed to know HTML, CSS, (Probably some PhotoShop to get your assets), maybe a little PHP (and likely HTTP and more about URLs and request types and forms), FTP and DNS to get your site hosted, and maybe some JavaScript. You might have used jQuery to help out or Knockout.js. And you had to know how to hook up a database and MySQL and probably a CMS or some sort. And maybe your code was a mess or maybe it adhered to some common patterns. But that was life. Not everyone needed to know all those things. Some people would focus more on getting the mockup into the HTML and CSS. Other people might focus on the server and the PHP or Perl or Java. There were all sorts of jobs and some of them were done by people with a formal education in Computer Science studies and other people just figured it out as needed. There was a lot of work to be done. Lots of custom stuff to build and maintain. And it was just normal to learn more incrementally as the years went by. You could totally get a job knowing just HTML and CSS (and you still can BTW). There was still an infinite amount of things you could know. But it seemed to ramp up naturally because we were closer to the grain of The Web.
So, what do people learn now? (Generally) They rush through some HTML and CSS really quick (which actually teaches them more bad habits than good). They rarely learn about DNS or FTP because a tutorial showed them how to type a few random things into a terminal to have their site on a free service and they don’t buy a domain name because there’s a free subdomain. Apparently paying for anything is for suckers and companies that don't give you things for free are evil capitalistic pigs who should be shut down. New devs don’t know much about servers because their text editor is actually running an advanced web application behind the scenes that starts a virtual server and runs all sorts of other things they don’t understand outside of that context - like connecting to version control, opening a terminal pane, SSH, code completion and typeahead, autoimport completion, AI suggestions and other additional layers like typescript and many other linters to tell them where all their errors are. If they couldn't use VSCode - they might be dead in the water. It can feel like you’re just a bag of meat being yelled at by VSCode as you try and solve the errors and remove all the red lines. And we do all of these - to put the training wheels in place.
And I’m not saying that a LAMP stack doesn’t have it’s own level of black-box and mysteries with how Apache handles your HTTP requests and MySQL starts up it’s own server - but we have to be comfortable with some level of abstraction or we’d be writing all ones and zeros at the machine code level.
So, the new developer is manning this huge stack of tools unknowingly, but they do get a lot of benefits. We can spin up a pretty complex web application with a front-end to make requests, a server to talk to a database and other third-party systems and respond back to the client/front-end, and an auth layer to make sure people are properly signing in and only seeing what they need to see. There are abstractions for HTML and CSS and JS that put that template logic and controller logic into a neat little component file (which is great) and that component file is properly registered based on file name conventions and everything gets set up in this larger system of conventions that all happen behind the scenes in the framework architecture. So, as a new developer - you can really ride the framework and know hardly anything about how it works - as long as you know the language to speak to this layer of the abstraction (the API).
These aren't just arbitrary add-ons that people made to complicate things. They solve real-world problems. The new dev won't really understand what they are - but I'm not saying we should just get rid of them. They allow us to move faster and to build interfaces and business logic without having to write tons of behind the scenes repeated structural code by hand. And with those training wheels, we have more time on our hands. We can also add in the chance to further define our programs with safety measures and plan automated testing routines, and built-in documentation of our code base. We can keep adding layers and layers or pull in more and more third-party tools. It’s pretty amazing. But what people end up learning is how to maintain that configuration - and there’s only so much time - and so, they end up learning 10% of all the things you used to need/want to know. And some jobs have a path for that. But there's likely going to be a long-term cost for you.
Arguably - it doesn’t matter how much “code” you know - and making things is what matters. And that’s true. That’s what matters to the business that pays you. And to the school that wants you to feel good about your progress. But I think you should protect your learning journey. It’s for you. It’s going to be what you carry on throughout the years and it’s a seed.
Getting proficient with a popular tech stack - when the market is booming proved to be a great decision for boot camps and their students. And I'd bet that the majority of people mean well.
But when it's not booming, students are in it for the wrong reasons, schools have tightened up and moved online, the market has plenty of devs who already have 5+ years working with that framework/stack -- then all of the sudden - the surface-level fake-it-till-you-make-it path (as much as I respect that) doesn't work as well. You're going to have to put in some more energy.
When it's obvious that you can't build an HTML page with semantic markup, that's accessible, and has a universally pleasurable experience, and you can't write CSS without a UI framework or do anything custom, it's obvious. You should be aware of that gap. When you've never owned a domain name or setup a deployment pipeline, you should be aware of that gap. When your personal website looks like your boot camp gave it to you, you should be aware of how that looks. When you can't take a server-side scripting language like Python or Go or PHP and build out a little personal website framework - you should be aware of that gap. When you can't plan a project and don't have experience with diagrams and explaining things, you need to be aware of that gap. When you've never written about your process or created any case-studies to explain your projects, you should be aware of that gap. When you're only proof of work is the class assignments, you should be aware of that gap. When your github history goes dead after the last day of class, you should be aware that we'll see that. When you claim to no nothing about visual design and that's for someone else on the team - you should be aware of that gap. If you refuse to turn on your camera and just want to be left alone, you should be aware of that huge gap. If you can't build a little prototype app without React, they you probably don't JavaScript, and you should be aware of that gap. And there will ALWAYS be a gap. There's always more to learn. So - it's an important skill to know what to learn and why - and when. You can't learn everything. And if you're having a hard time finding work right now, then get clear on your goal. Stop applying for general "Software engineer" jobs you aren't ready for. Narrow your scope. Figure out a job that you think you can do confidently. Get clear on how big your gap is and what you need to learn to get centered and confident with your toolset. Ideally, it's fun. Try and ignore all the doom and gloom and focus on your own personal goal.
It's not just the market. Too many people are applying for jobs they aren't anywhere near qualified to do. And it probably doesn't feel good. But luckily - you can learn the things and get back on track.

Hello. I have a question. I've been a seller on TikTok shop for over 7- months with my dropshipping products. In January, I joined the affiliate program and easily gained 5k followers. I started making money as an affiliate and am working with several brands. Yesterday TikTok removed me from the affiliate programs and I have no access to the TikTok marketplace and my funds are frozen. I read a post in a FB group that other creators that have seller accounts unliked their seller accounts and remained with their standalone account and access to the TikTok marketplace. Has anyone gone through the process of unlinking their seller account and remaining in the affiliate program?

Hello,
I have a little experience with reusable diapers. One comment that I heard a mom say was she tried several different brands before settling on one.
What brand have you guys find to be the best? Additionally, besides the actual diaper, is there something else you have to buy? I read something about inserts but the child I sat for didn't use any sort of insert.
How many diapers should I get for one child? We have a washing machine.
I'm hoping not to waste any additional resources (money and diapers we don't want) finding a brand that's quality and works well.

My partner’s birthday is coming up and I was thinking about getting them a Nintendo Switch Lite to play games together. We’ve been together officially for a little over two months now, but have been seeing each other since October. The problem is, I don’t quite have the money to purchase a brand new console for them, and was considering buying a used one in good condition. I have also already purchased a pot they really liked and will be getting a little cactus or something to spruce up their room, and am planning on gifting switch online alongside the Switch. We enjoy playing games like Minecraft, Amongus, and board games, and I would like to expand on some of the games we play together to something like Mario Kart and Fortnite. Do you think it’s an acceptable gift?
TLDR: I want to buy a used Nintendo switch lite for my partner’s birthday. Is that okay?

How do I (24Nb) deal with having very different social needs than my girlfriend (26F)?
We've been together for around 2.5 years now. She's amazing. She's interesting, funny, loving, accepting, capable, and gorgeous. I still feel the giddy butterflies when we're together sometimes. But my issue is that we aren't together as much as I'd like. I feel like I'm going to be mean in this post, but I want to be the one to change my mindset or something. I feel like I'm losing her, or that we'll spend so little time together that we'll basically break up by default.
I've grown disillusioned with messaging her because I know she won't reply if it's not a direct question. (If it is, she will and we will have a short Convo about it until she stops replying.) We tend to hang out on our days off around once a month, though that number can be more or less. We work at the same place, so we used to hang out when we got off work. This would be about four days a week, for 1-3 hours, and it was a routine for us. In hindsight, I think most of our relationship was in these hours.
She recently got a promotion, so I changed positions in the store to allow it. (I can't date my direct supervisor.) And it feels like I'm getting more and more bothered by stuff. She wanted to stop the routine of us assuming that we'll hang out on days she gets off work at the same time as me. She says we still can, I can just ask. So I have a few times, and normally she says yes. So I'm being petty, but it feels shitty to always be the one asking to see her. She's not asking to see me. She seems content for us to go radio silent for a week at a time.
The other problem is when we run into each other at work, she acts very cooly professional. I've heard her with other coworkers, and she laughs with them, she jokes and uses a friendly voice. But her tone is clipped with me, she cuts off even work related conversations as fast as possible, and most of the time she ignores me entirely. We've snapped at each other at work, but we both apologize. I know saying hi won't end well, so I subtly wave and smile and get nothing. When I talk to her about this, she agrees with me and gets upset about how cold she is. Then she's gentler with me at work for about 1-2 weeks before returning to the same pattern. I'm tired.
Sometimes she goes through phases where she's warm and wants to see me. This happens a lot when she starts dating a new person (we are non-monogamous), as the rush of new romantic feelings also gets passed on to me. She'll message me and ask to hang out often. She smiles at me at work. But eventually it stops, to the point where I feel on edge when she IS affectionate these days because I know I'll lose it.
It's not just me who she acts like this with, I think it's just how she is. She needs her space. Almost everyone she's ever dated has gotten upset with her for not giving them enough attention. (Which, to be fair, some of them message multiple times a day and get mad at no response. I hope to God that I'm not that needy.) Her mom will spend money to stay in our town a few days just to see her, and my gf will usually only visit for about half her trip. She mourns so many friends who she's lost contact with, and I don't know she would KEEP contact with them if she doesn't speak to them for weeks or months at a time.
Please poke a hole in my framing and help me understand how to be okay with this. Alternatively, maybe advice on how to make spending time with me something she wants? I think something has to give though. I feel like I want to wake up next to her every morning and she'd be fine if we ignored each other for 95% of the year.

My Bf 22M and I 22F have been dating for about a year.
We both live in an expensive city. I live with a roommate in an average 2 bed 1 bath. I pay a decent amount in rent, utilities and groceries. He lives alone in a brand new 2 bed 1 bath and does not pay his own rent. I spend a majority of my time at his apartment because we love to sleep together. To the point that I only go home to do laundry and usually throw out the groceries in my fridge because I didn't eat them (which I can barely afford to begin with).
My landlord is raising my rent, so I need to move out. My roommate is looking for new places for us to move in to but instead I wanted to talk to my boyfriend about moving in together. I said I would pay him the amount I pay in rent now which would basically go into his pocket, but would save me the trip going back and forth all the time and on utilities. He keeps saying it's a great idea and then doesn't bring it up again. I can tell deep down he doesn't actually want to move in together but won't directly say it to not hurt my feelings.
The stress of my cost of living is driving me crazy and I can't help to feel I am throwing my money in the trash by not even being home to make it worth it. I'm not sure if will I just start telling him no to staying over with him which will make our relationship less close or if I will continue to do what makes me happy and suffer financially.
TL:DR My cost of living is high and I feel like I'm wasting money by not moving in with my boyfriend.

Has anyone found any deck starter clips for use with Deckorators Voyage? The groove on these boards are a bit higher up than other brands. Therefore, the clip is not open enough to go into the groove. I’ve tried Trex, Camo & FastenMaster brands.

Hey reddit! This is my first post on AITAH, and I need some advice.
I (20F) have been friends with my bff (21F) since we were in first grade. Long story short our personalities clicked well and we stayed best friends from grades 1-12. We then decided to go to different colleges, but still see each other whenever one of us is in town.
This friend has been a chronic liar since the day I met her. She would lie about the stupidest things that have no reason to be lied about. As we got older (and I smarter) I would sometimes ask her questions just to catch her in her lies. I hate to say it, but it got kinda fun because she would stutter these elaborate answers, then her family (or even her) would say conflicting things that same day. Then she would get all embarrassed because she knew I caught her.
I have also upfront asked her a few times "why are you lying about this" and she just replies with "I'm not" and plays dumb.
Fast forward last year, we had this epic Asia backpacking trip planned. My friend had some mental health stuff going on and cancelled the week before our trip. Obviously I was bummed (and wish she has told me sooner), but I got past it quickly and had the best solo trip of my life! I never would've done such a thing if she hadn't cancelled so last minute (and I didn't want to lose all of my money).
Now we jump to last weekend where we went on a getaway trip with just us two. Unfortunately my friend had some health stuff going on during the trip so we spent most of the time in a hospital. Now not to toot my own horn, but I was the best goddamn friend in the whole world when she was sick. I got her food, meds, water, helped her to/from bed, helped her in the bathroom, bought her little things to lift her mood, went to 3 stores to find her favourite cookie brand, etc. I also have some hospital trauma from losing a loved one recently, so the fact that I was even there was a miracle in itself, but I had to be with my friend because I didn't want to leave her alone.
Once my friend is better and we head home, we discussed our summer plans in the car. I said that I was going to start working the week we get back, and she said she would too. She also told me that she was planning on going backpacking in Asia with another friend at the end of the month. It stung a little when she told me that she wanted to do OUR trip a year later with someone else, but I kinda shook it off. I was also doubtful that it would happen because she said that it was not planned yet (how can you plan an 8 week backpacking trip in 2 weeks?!?!), and she is now nervous to travel after what happened on our weekend trip.
We get back Monday (May 13) and life is totally fine. I'm feeling ready to start work and get back into a routine. Then Tuesday night (last night), I see her snapchat story or her on an airplane with that girl she wanted to go to Asia with. I go to bed, feeling confused because my friend didn't mention another trip and sure as hell not that soon.
I check her snapmaps this morning and see that she is in Asia with that friend. Her friend told me that this trip has been planned for MONTHS. Obviously I am not upset about the fact that she is on a trip so soon, but I am upset that she lied directly to my face about it when I was braiding her hair in the hospital.
I don't care that she is going on this trip, heck after the hell-ish weekend we had, I don't really want to travel with her again. I'm just upset that she so casually lied to my face about it. I was facing my trauma to be with her in the hospital, when in reality she was planning her dream trip while lying to my face saying it isn't going to happen.
Before everyone comes after me, these medical issues are so easily fixed with small lifestyle changes. I don't want to be seen as insensitive. My friend keeps saying she wants to get "healthier like me" yet does absolutely nothing to change her habits. I know my friend has some mental health struggles, but we have been so thick and thin together. I'm just upset that she would lie to me like this. Trust and loyalty are the biggest things I look for in any relationship (and she knows this after being there for me after a breakup with a liacheater) so the fact that she did this seems pretty low?
Am I being too harsh to cut her off or is this reasonable? It was just a lie, but I think all the lies built up made this the last straw.
So tell me reddit, Am I The Asshole for cutting off my friend after she lied?

Originally chronicled here.
I am not the OOP. OOP is u/Lost_Beginning_2824
This was originally posted in TrueOffMyChest
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Original post - February 6th, 2024
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
2nd Update - March 8th, 2024
Trigger warning: mention of domestic violence situation
I’m married to a woman who acts like a teenage girl – February 6th, 2024
My wife behaves like a teenage girl and I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
This is just a rant. Curious to know how many full grown adults behave the way my wife does. I’d say out of all of the adult women I know, like friends, relatives, wives of my friends, none of them behave this way unless they keep it a closely guarded secret.
Editing right here to add that my wife is in her 30s, for context.
My wife is always obsessed with somebody, a man or sometimes multiple men at one time. Usually there is one or two main focuses at a time. When I talk obsessed I mean obsessed like a teenage girl or maybe even preteen girl would be. I’ve seen pictures of her bedroom when she was that age and they were literally wallpapers in posters of her favorite guys. That’s totally normal for a 13 year old girl. She still behaves that way as a woman in her 30s. Granted, our bedroom walls aren’t wallpapered in posters but they probably would be if I allowed it.
Her obsessions have ranged from rock stars, actors, non-entertainment industry public figures. It’s like one day she hasn’t even heard of the guy in question and the next day she’s super fan #1 and knows just about everything there is to know about him. She will read and watch everything there is to watch about the man. She will bring him up in every conversation. She will adopt parts of him into her own personality. She will suggest things that make it clear to me that she wants me to adopt characteristics of these men as part of my appearance or personality. She will openly admit to me that she’s masturbated over the guy multiple times in one day.
When she finds a new man to obsess over, she puts the others in her little stable of men who she always has a place for in her heart and in her fantasies, so they never really go away. The new man just takes center stage and becomes the main focus of almost her entire life.
So the current obsession is so strange to me. Never saw this one coming, but leave it to her to always find somebody new to fall in love with. The intensity that she has during these periods - it’s honestly like she falls in love with these men.
I’m laughing so hard just typing this all. Her current obsession is Bret Hart, former pro wrestler. This woman had never watched wrestling before in her life. Always thought that stuff was below her. And now she’s obsessed with this former pro-wrestler. She watched one show about him, for reasons I’m not aware of, and I could tell almost instantly where it was headed. I thought “here we go…” So now the Bret Hart obsession is in full swing. Has she already dropped close to $1000 in vintage Bret Hart shirts on eBay? Of course. Bought all the stickers and magnets and all sorts of other stupid crap she can find? Yep. Does she send me Bret Hart YouTube clips all.day.long when she’s supposed to be working? Yes she does.
So, I better get to work brushing up on my Bret Hart knowledge and tag lines. This is the key to getting laid when it comes to her. I’m used to this by now. It’s just not something that I can easily explain to anyone I know.
I mean, there’s are things I’m a fan of, but she is next level. I can’t think of anyone I know who is her age and acts like this. She was voted most likely to grow up and become a groupie when she was in high school, so this is absolutely nothing new for her. Sigh.
Many are lighthearted in the comments
plastic_Schedule_891
I mean he's the best there is, was and ever will be so that one makes sense at least .
You don’t think I’m hearing that 10 times a day now?
I better start planning that trip to Calgary.
Limerence is mentioned
poopchutethemoon
Yeah my bouts of limerence have been with people I’ve dated but reading that made me realize that I was very much being obsessive and it was totally all consuming. Glad it’s over honestly. Those feelings are exhausting.
Very interesting to hear you say the feelings are exhausting. It’s like a full time job for my wife, so I could see that. She told me she’s at work with her door closed pretending to be working, but she’s really watching Bret Hart videos on YouTube. She can’t even focus on her job.
OOP reveals more of the life he’s signed up for in the comments
get-bread-not-head
You've pretended to act like other men for 20 years?!
Damn dude, I hope you're finding ways to accept it and cope. That sounds rough, having to be someone else to have sex... stay strong king
Nah, I just learn their catchphrases or gain some deep fan knowledge that’ll impress her or maybe perfect a vocal impersonation of them that I can drop at the opportune time. The vocal impersonations work the best as far as making her like me and being like “ok, wanna have sex now?”
another_canoe
But what do you guys actually share *together*? That's not related to the obsession of the season? (I'm not going to even bother asking if she's tried to learn about any of your hobbies/interests).
NGL, this is all pretty grim to me, my man....and I'm someone who loves having a partner who is passionate about things and nerds out.
I fear that you've spent so long with her infatuations steamrolling over your own interests and preferences that you have convinced yourself that getting attention-by-proxy as your main source of validation from your SPOUSE is a healthy way to live.
If I told you that I was big into anime and Japanese RPGs and the only way I get interested in doing it with my actual wife is if she adopts the catch phrases /personality characteristics of my latest "waifu", would you feel some concern for my wife's mental health?
I'm also wondering about this spending....
She’s pretty dismissive of my interests and hobbies. I’ve told her I’d like her to try to pretend to show a little more interest sometimes. I make an effort to show real interest in her stuff and she does not do the same. I’m very into music and I do geek out over guitars and gear and things like that and she couldn’t tell you anything about any of the guitars I own other than “he has a blue one, he has a red one. “ We do love some of the same bands. Of course she wants to fuck the band members and I just want to talk about the chord progression on my favorite guitar tracks, but it’s close enough. We like a lot of the same movies and that sort of thing. We have the same sense of humor and can keep each other laughing for ages. We have a lot of the same views on life and on the world in general.
I don’t know, we just get each other I guess.
I would be concerned about the waifu thing, but I guess in my case she always likes guys who I think are pretty cool anyway. She has good taste, at least. If she has to be obsessing over some other guy constantly at least she does it over guys I can respect on some level.
Regarding the spending, I spend way more than she does. Only difference is it’s not usually fan merch I’m buying. But she tolerate my spending when it comes to stuff like guitar gear. She rolls her eyes and reprimands me but she tolerates it and just knows I won’t stop. I’m the same when it comes to her fan stuff. I get it, she wants the vintage 1993 Bret Hart shirt that costs hundreds…not a modern shirt that just anyone could go online and buy for $25 right now. She wants the cool, rare stuff. I’m the same with my guitars so I guess it’s like we understand each other in some way. I think it’s weird to become a fan of somebody and 2 days later drop thousands on them though. At least my money pit is consistent.
I think we both feel like we’re the only person who will semi understand and tolerate all of this stuff from each other
Not included here, but in several comments, OOP definitely brings up his wife’s looks as a positive in the relationship and he finds her antics at times amusing or even attractive.
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
I recently wrote about my wife suddenly discovering former pro-wrestler Bret “The Hitman” Hart one day after never even knowing of his existence, experienced love at first site, and is now even deeper than love with him then she was a month ago.
Tonight, I experienced a good hour of her sobbing, literal sobs, after watching the Bret Hart A&E biography. “I just love him so much. I love him with all my heart. I don’t want any more bad things to happen to him. Also, I’m very jealous he’s not my husband.”
She also went from not wanting any kids to suddenly wanting a baby so she can name it Bret (a girl or a boy, doesn’t matter…they will be named Bret). And she almost had me convinced, but I blame that on the heat of the moment.
She’s bought all sorts of clothes just like his. My wife now dresses like Bret Hart in and outside of the ring.
The past few days she’s been acting really annoyed with me. Finally I’m like “Wtf am I doing wrong?” I bought you Bret Hart stuff for your birthday! I call you Mrs. Bret Hart now, even though you’re my wife. I even sent you flowers at work from Bret. I mean that was supposed to get me points because she knew they were from me and I was playing into her obsession which she’s now apparently shared with everyone she works with. They’ve bought her a giant Bret Hart wall decal for her office.
Ok, so I did forget our anniversary which was very recently. Totally forgot it. Then again, so did she. She was too busy masturbating over Bret Hart to remember our wedding anniversary. I mean bad husband points for me obviously but all the birthday gifts had to have made up for it. I mean, I even ordered a Bret Hart birthday banner and got her a Bret Hart themed birthday cake as if she were a 7 year old boy in the year 1994.
So why is she acting so annoyed lately? Why does she act like she hates me and can’t stand to even be in the same room as me? She finally admits…I’m not Bret Hart. None of her obsession have ever been this bad. She’s seriously threatening me with divorce now because I’m not Bret Hart! She “just wants a guy like that.” She had to go walk the dog today and cry over it, how much she hates me and wishes she was married to Bret Hart. Oh fuck me you want a guy like your dad because that’s what Bret Hart is like…exactly like her dad, the same look, the same hair, the same damn age.
I told her I think she should get checked out for autism or some other sort of disorder. Her obsessions have never been this bad. She should make an appointment now because the waitlist is long. She just laughed. There’s nothing wrong with her. She just has different taste in men now, according to her.
Some comments
psychick
Therapist here - she needs to see a psychiatrist. This is mental illness to the extreme. Either she goes, or you leave. This is ultimatum territory. And, stop giving into her obsession. It makes it worse.
nualt42
Man, when she threatens divorce, take it. Jump at the chance.
Hell, sit, be a good boy and offer your fucking paw if that’s what it takes to get treated to an exit strategy. Don’t worry about dignity, sounds like you gave that up a long time ago.
She’s even looked up the divorce process for where we live and says we can be amicable about everything. She assures me she’s not looking to take any thing that is rightfully mine. She just wants a clean break.
Sophie3546
I’m surprised he even lasted this long. Calling her “Ms. Bret Hart” …..I can’t even fathom.
Excuse me, it’s MRS Bret Hart, not Ms.
NEW UPDATE - March 8th, 2024
Hi, you might remember me as the guy whose wife was obsessed with JFK (35th President of the United States), then experienced a world wind romance with former WWF pro-wrestler Bret Hart (the best there is, the best there was, and the best there ever will be), but now she’s met a new man. I thought the Bret Hart obsession was the worst one yet. Never has she threatened divorce or told me she hated me because I wasn’t the object of her desire. Luckily, that was a relatively quick love affair for her. 3-4 months is a short run for her and one of her men. But I should be careful what I wish for.
This new one is the first time I’ve felt that I should maybe, just possibly, feel legitimately scared. Her newly developing obsession is Patrick Bateman. Yep, the character from American Psycho. Specifically, the movie version played by Christian Bale.
It’s not like she’s just met the guy. She’s seen the movie before but it doesn’t appear that they hit it off initially. Now, she’s suddenly started making constant reference to him. Bret is gone and now it’s just Patrick Bateman and maniacal laughter and purchasing all of the items in his skin care routine. I’d like to see her do 1000 crunches though. That’ll be the day.
She has always admitted to living the 80s preppy/yuppie look. She loves assholes. Assholes are a weakness for her. Psychopaths? Hmm…that’s a new one, unless you count the time she was in love with the Menendez Brothers years ago. God, the pastel Ralph Lauren sweaters she used to try to make me wear. Pastels are just not my shades.
Now, there was a time many years ago where I did have to hide all the knives in our home. I was legitimately scared that she was going to murder me. I forget what she was upset about now. I am, after all, her type - an asshole. I did something that bothered her and she ran for the knives. I had to hide them and then lock myself in a bedroom because she was literally chasing me. That was before she decided that she’d be the female Patrick Bateman. Granted, she says “only mean in the looks and snob department-nothing else.”
She’s trying to determine what the female equivalent to a Patrick Bateman hairstyle would be right now. I’m just worried about the bank account with this obsession. The amount she’ll spend on business cards alone.
Comments
lemonade_sparkle
Your wife is severely mentally ill, and needs help quickly.
Is there no chance of persuading her to get help?
If not, what preparations have you made to leave her?
I’m a strange way, I think these obsessions are what keep her sane.
Her getting help is funny though. It’s not going to happen. Sure I’ve tried to persuade her to see a therapist but she just won’t.
ctIaTErA
I probably shouldn’t be laughing as hard as I am right now. This is truly bizarre. Does she narrate her morning routine in the mirror each day now?
But in all seriousness, she’s chased you with a knife? Thats far more concerning than any of the obsessions with these men, and yes I did read the post about the wrestler. I thought it was just very quirky behavior before, but she seems truly unhinged now.
It was years ago. Like 10+ years ago. I’m much stronger than her so it’s not hard to hold her down if need be.
I AM NOT OOP
NO BRIGADING, NO HARASSMENT

One thing I've noticed across a decent majority of them? They're brand new! Damn near every single one has only a handful of karma. They're also incredibly rude, and like to gaslight everybody who points this out, I'm beginning to think it's the same person with a VPN. That's not to say everybody is a sock puppet account but I'd wager four out of five are. Just be warned!
Also if you need money go on borrow! Don't trust accounts without a history in lending! Good luck everyone!

My Bf 22M and I 22F have been dating for about a year.
We both live in an expensive city. I live with a roommate in an average 2 bed 1 bath. I pay a decent amount in rent, utilities and groceries. He lives alone in a brand new 2 bed 1 bath and does not pay his own rent. I spend a majority of my time at his apartment because we love to sleep together. To the point that I only go home to do laundry and usually throw out the groceries in my fridge because I didn't eat them (which I can barely afford to begin with).
My landlord is raising my rent, so I need to move out. My roommate is looking for new places for us to move in to but instead I wanted to talk to my boyfriend about moving in together. I said I would pay him the amount I pay in rent now which would basically go into his pocket, but would save me the trip going back and forth all the time and on utilities. He keeps saying it's a great idea and then doesn't bring it up again. I can tell deep down he doesn't actually want to move in together but won't directly say it to not hurt my feelings.
The stress of my cost of living is driving me crazy and I can't help to feel I am throwing my money in the trash by not even being home to make it worth it. I'm not sure if will I just start telling him no to staying over with him which will make our relationship less close or if I will continue to do what makes me happy and suffer financially.

I know she has brand deals now, but what was her prior job? How does she have so much money for this stuff?

Rant coming - Housing is out of F***ing control!!
When I moved to central Oregon almost 12 years ago, there were MANY houses for sale for 100k, which was a little more than double my starting salary of 45k. Many, many, I looked at SO many. They were all different versions of kinda crappy, but I settled on one 2-1 1000sf box for 95k in Redmond, and it needed 30k worth of remodeling and new roof, so let's call it 120k. Still well less than 3x my salary which is the recommended affordability threshold. The owner that bought if from me in 2017, just sold it in 2023 for 380k. More than the brand-new build house I bought in Madras last year.
Today my workplace starts at 58k, but housing has skyrocketed. There not a SINGLE unit available for 175k which would be 3x salary. As you might expect, we get near-zero or zero interest in our jobs from any decent candidates at 58k.
I'm divorced and been trying to date. Recently met a 36yo woman on dating app. Her job is hair stylist. After a number of dates, she's freaking out crying because she got notification her rental is selling out and gave her 90 days to vacate. She was freaking out about the cost of a new unit that will take her and her two dogs. She will probably have to leave and go live with family, the dating potential is probably over because she's going to either be homeless or leave. What's more insane is this is NOT the first or even the SECOND time I've lost a relationship because of housing in this godforsaken place! It's the 3rd time. She was so distressed she actually asked me if I could help her with housing or go in with her on something. No, I've only known her a couple months. This is insane.
No one who works a normal job can live now. Who will do all the services that all the rich people want!?!? They certainly complain about business hours being so constrained. But they ARE the problem!
I make almost 20% more than my teaching salary moonlighting as a freaking bartendeserver + uber driver in this hellhole, selling rich people $20 whiskey drams then afterwards driving drunk people to their AirBnBs. I don't even have to do that 30 hours a week to beat my teaching salary. Whatever they do makes a hell of a lot more money than me. But I have the luxury of availability because I bought that house 10 years ago, which is solely responsible for whatever wealth I have now. Not many service workers are lucky enough to have bought a house here back in the day or have a "real" job that comes with a pension and health insurance. I HAVE to have those things to be available for service jobs!!!
Actually thinking about, quitting, renting my house out and moving to PDX where it's CHEAPER and maybe I can find a date who won't get priced out in a few months after I meet her. I can get more housing bang for my buck in LAKE OSWEGO of all freaking places.

Morning Guys,
Haven't been driving long, only just getting into cars, Managed to pick up an older 2010 model 318i for a good price, non turbo n43 engine sadly, but car was a good price for the condition. It's pretty much in pristine condition, few months back it had a missfire, started stalling and a fuel injector had to be replaced which damb expensive (£850). Recently I notice that im getting a slight rough idle, small shake when the car is idle, noticing it at traffic stops and when im starting the car in the morning. Now im hoping its not another injector on the way out or one with a leak, but a few of my car buddies have said that i should be putting better fuel in the car.
Its not new, its done 120k miles, im using wherever has the cheapest petrol atm (supermarkets mainly), which is primarily e10 fuel. Money is tight, fuel is expensive but i guess so is car repairs soo i have a few questions. The car states e10 fuel, but i assume something like shell e5 would work fine in the car ?, and if im reading and listening right the fuel has additives to help clean the fuel system out etc.
Closest garage that has semi decent fuel is probably a shell garage which does vpower e5 fuel, some super markets are now doing premium as well, so would i benefit from switching to e5 fuel, with the additives in it helping the car.
Just wanted to add as well, the car is due a service, all the stuff has been ordered, oil is being switched this time to a different brand, its had Castrol every 10k miles for the last 3 services that i can see from the book, this time round after reading online i have ordered liqui moly moly gen stuff, (car has lifter tick), so hoping this will help it slightly. But i was wondering about adding fuel system cleaners like the liqi moly one, or even redex stuff, wondering if adding something like this will help my slight rough idle.
All advice welcome

"I just like to look at you," Jim exclaimed as Greg noticed Norton's cold stare. This was hot on the heels of a truly exquisite piece of humor from the fuzzy bald man:
https://archive.org/details/FOXNEWSW_20240515_020000_Gutfeld/start/2640/end/2700 (7:44PM - 7:45)
The clip really speaks for itself. Jim Norton's rather distinct brand of comedy can be hit-and-miss at times, but the hits were definitely in his corner last night.
This rather bizarre course of discussion arose from a Story in Five Words segment highlighting a piece written in the ever-ignorant Washington Scratching Post about elitists who want the peasants to use cold water only (a rule that they, of course, would be exempt from). Surprisingly, despite their politically-immature tendencies, both Kat and Jim were vocally opposed to this maniacal suggestion, so I count it as a win when the show's lefties show some signs of being on the right side of an issue, even if it is only sarcastically.

I have been looking to switch my skincare routine lately and figured I would go to a medical esthetician for help because I don’t want to waste money on mid products at Sephora. She recommended AlumierMD. I checked the ingredients online and some of them had a couple pore clogging ingredients.
Makes me wonder, can it really be that good? I have some samples and I’m scared to use them but lots of people swear by AlumierMD. I’m just confused as to why a medical grade brand would have pore clogging ingredients.
I feel like I know nothing about skincare anymore lmao. Help 😭😭😂.

Hello, i can get K1C for 400$ brand new, or P1S combo for 1k, imho its big price jump, same for tech, but im complete beginner basically and want to get second fdm, is the "friendliness" for new users from bambu worth that extra money or nah ? i dont mind learning about what im using, im IT guy anyway KEK Thanks for input

Like every product/service. SaaS products are different. They are intangible. They have intangible buyers. They have subscribers like Netflix, who have to pay for their product/ service annually, monthly, or quarterly.
To increase sales, they have a few tricks which are by giving annual discounts, showing off customer testimonials, social media promotions, enhanced customer experience, demos, Live chats, CTA, set up calls, and Feedback to retain the customer.
Not only this, this industry has its process as it has an intangible audience. So, they have to understand their presentations not through body language but by how they are expressing their views or presenting their questions in an email or call.
Providing Free trials is mostly there in the SaaS industry. As the audience will get to know what your product is creating value to their biz and how it is helpful in the growth of the biz by saving time/ money.
The free trial should not be too long or short. It should depend upon the complexity of the software.
Before knowing the technique one should know what Saas is and how it works. Right? Like before buying anything we ask for the price of the product.

The Fundamentals

“Having a repeatable process empowers your sales reps to sell with efficiency and confidence”. The process begins from:
Prospecting:Since we are selling it to the tech-savvy audience, we will do inbound marketing which includes blogs, online posts, email newsletters, whitepapers, etc.
In addition to that, we can do face-to-face interaction with potential buyers which is rare in this SaaS industry.
Qualifying: Not all visitors on your website or trial subscribers will buy the product. To know that, there are lead scores which is an automatic way to qualify leads and you will get information and interpret it from your data and assign it with the lead scores from 1 to 10.
Another way is to start a trial is to email them or call them for after-sale service. So, you will get an idea of the status of the buyer.
Presenting: Mostly it’s not possible to present in face-to-face interactions in the SaaS industry otherwise we have got it through body language.
Through online mode, presenting would be done through email sequence and frequent follow-ups which will let us know the pain points the way it’s been expressed.
Handling objectives: After presenting, prospects have questions and concerns about the product or service. So, you must have known what most of the customers ask and know how to handle the response of the prospect.
Closing: At this moment, the prospect becomes your customer. In this stage, we will deliver the final proposal of the product and negotiate with the customer.
Nurturing: to retain the SaaS customers excluding customer support which includes training for existing and new customers. Feedback includes reviews, rates, and testimonials.
Part of their happy moments by sending happy birthday, and celebration notes, etc.

How to increase your SaaS conversions using the right marketing strategy:

Create strategic trial duration
Most of the SaaS products have a trial duration. As it is a great way to hook new customers to buy, however, to make it worthwhile, you should plan it strategically.
When the customer has the opportunity to get trials which will help them to know the value of the product in their biz as well as the benefit of your offering.
The trial period should depend on the software. if the software is complex then 14 days or more trials would work. But what if the software is easy to adapt and gives the trial for 30 days?
It would only make the sale cycle long and there would be fewer customers buying the product. As they know every part of your software and will compare with the alternatives of the service. So, it depends on the product.
Custom/ live setup call
Many of us don’t know how to set up the software. How did things work? These customers have the priority of how the software will work for them by giving lesser importance to how your products work.
SaaS has the highest conversion from this special technique of Live setup call only. This CRM would help them to achieve their objective related to the product they have taken a trial or purchased.
Leverage Annual discounts
Many SaaS products offer annual discounts in exchange for the customer paying the bill all at once in a cheaper amount as compared to paying it every month which attracts customers to attain the service. While the company gets a sizable influx of cash at a moment and doesn’t get worried about a customer leaving at any moment.
Automated follow-up
As you see whenever you log in to the florist website or hospital website. They will ask ‘how may I help you?’ which is an automated way of assisting you. In the same way, these automated services will help the new customer to assist with the service and product and they have common queries stored which will be solved by the assistant by putting up the questions and shortening the sale cycle.
Content Marketing
This is the only way of communication between the buyer and seller. By reading your content, understanding it, and perceiving it makes the buyer come into your contact. Biz around the globe is using content marketing to reach the audience and generate leads. With consistency, you share the content it will increase its value over time
PPC( pay per click) also generates leads but with valuable content. So, content marketing is an asset for biz owners while online ads are temporary or rented. Biz around the globe is using content marketing to reach the audience and generate leads. Keeping content quality consistent across multiple channels helps increase brand awareness among your audience.
Search Engine Optimization (SEO)
This feature works hand in hand with content marketing by making it discoverable in google, bing, and ranking it in two ways: On-page SEO and off-page SEO.
On-page SEO: This form is under your control. You create content that people search to read. By adding internal links, UI, use of the title, and description.
Off-Page SEO: Mainly, when we hear about SEO, links are the things that click us. But getting the right trusted and authoritative link is what matters! The best way to gain links and shares is by a distribution strategy.
Google AdWords
While inbound marketing reduces the spending of Adwords, zillion people are still clicking on the search engine ads per day. If you don’t want to miss out on these people to generate leads then you should still invest in PPCi.e pay per click.
PPC is beneficiary as it is scalable, generate leads, and generate the best ROI for your biz
Pro Tip: to increases sales, some strategies to take care of is to choose the right model of SaaS, identify the target audience and its value proposition, set prospect qualification criteria, create templates, call scripts, set revenue goals, create a customer support system, and keep track of sales performance metrics that will be effective in rank in the SEO.
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