should be flogged in public. Make an example of one or two and the others will tow the line. So my brother completed University last year, around October. He'll graduate next month with honors and I couldn't be more proud. Son of my mother did engineering, structural... something along those lines. He's been searching and searching for internship or even a GMT programme.
Last month my sister in law talked to a friend of hers who knew someone who knew someone...you know how the thread goes. Little brother is called for an interview, leaves an excellent impression on the MD and CFO.
He's informed he'll be contacted. The firm makes contact last week and asks him to report on Monday (Yesterday) to sign the contract. My brother is over the moon. When he arrives, he's taken to a small office and suddenly the language has changed.
He's told since there were no available positions and he wants to gain experience, he'll have to work 3-6 months without pay then they'll consider onboarding him. After that he's told to report on site and start working.
To say my blood boiled when he narrated this to me is an understatement. How do they expect him to get to work? What will he eat? How's he supposed to fund his site attire?
Who do these people think they are? How do you expect someone to work with no pay...yes granted it's internship but it's not like they'll be sitting on there bum doing nothing. It's really pissing me off.

Anyone disagree with many people getting St.Jude statues and putting money on them? This is especially a phenomenon amongst Hispanic Catholics, I feel like this a clear example of cultural Catholicism. And worse is that St.Jude is being associated with narcoculture. On top of this, I keep seeing videos of people putting st.Jude statues next to Santa Muerte statues, whom is not an official saint, and I see people in these comments saying “they work together.”. It just feels like this great saint, an apostle of Jesus, is being misrepresented as a patron saint of illegal activities and riches gained through illegal means. My sister recently got a St.Jude tattoo, but makes fun of me for going to mass more recently and caring more about my faith, it just really rubs me the wrong way.

Reading and reflecting, I understand that I'm coming under the definition of a "nice guy". I can feel myself being the weakest among my roommates, even though we're in the same program of grad school. I'm always looking up to someone - I constantly see other people as better than me. Smarter than me. Stronger than me. More experienced than me (dating, relationships, academics, work, health, you name it). I'm glad that I'm - well - me with the world and life I've been brought into and the circumstances. I worked hard through college to get into grad school. I'm grateful for the things that have been given to me.
But lately I keep wishing to acquire parts of other people. I want to be respected like that guy. I want to be knowledgeable and well read like that guy. I want to be desired by girls like that guy is. And yet - can I ever?
After my breakup four years ago, I took the time in college to work on my fitness, health, and academics (probably could have done a better job with the last one). And after moving to grad school, I have learned some things I never would have living with my parents. I can cook now, I work part-time while doing a full-time graduate degree.
But again, it's nothing compared to the people around me. I don't feel like and have never felt like an equal. Today was a perfect example.
I matched with a girl last week, we exchanged numbers, and even set a date for today but I got ghosted shortly on Friday (I'm very sure of this). I'm not thinking too much about why she ghosted me. And today, my roommate had a date with that same girl. He didn't even swipe - she liked his Hinge profile upfront. Of course my roommate didn't know, but it was clear what it meant to me, and why he wasn't bothered by the fact that I had matched with her and had a date planned too.
What's worse is that I kept apologizing for mentioning that I matched with the same girl - that my first thought was "Did I say something wrong?".
I take more time than these people on projects and assignments. They do way cooler things than I do. I got an internship at a leading company in the US, but I still feel beneath them. I still feel I'm a joke to these guys. I'm not respected, am I?
I can't think of anything that can make things different - I'm roped into watching movies and plans with a guest who they invite every weekend night for dinner and a movie. I can cook for everyone, but even then I can't help but do the dishes even though the rule is that one person cooks and another person cleans. I don't have control. If there's any hint I do, it's my fault for not stepping up. Even if I do step who who will take me seriously?
Even this is an example of being a textbook nice guy - I'm claiming to be a victim here, aren't I? The only solution I can htink of for things being different is if I could live alone. If I had complete independence over my time and what I want to do. If I din't have to answer to any roommate or anyone. I imagined with a Master's I could acquire deep knowledge, spend time actually learning this subject I'm passionate about but I'm barely getting by. Life, this social life gets in the way from living with these people. If I'm not agreeing I'll be disliked and life will be uncomfortable. Not that I'm in the position to move out anytime soon - I often rely on help from the more experienced roommates to figure out problems I get stuck on with assignments.
It's all on me. It's up to me to make a change. But I feel like I can't. I feel helpless and guilty and angry. I can't imagine any empathy to this post, but if there's any chance or hope you can sense from what I shared... Please help by commenting. Anything helps. I don't know where to turn to right now - what time I can afford, who to tell.

Hi everyone!~
I'm on the hunt to find the (almost) perfect lab grown pear diamond for myself.
Initially, I went to a jewelry store in Huntington Beach and was quoted almost $5k for a 3k lab grown diamond.
I decided to message some jewelry stores located in the LA jewelry district and for one of them, I was quoted $3k. Not only that, even the specs are better than the one in Huntington Beach.
I'm here to ask, AM I GETTING PLAYED?! LOL I tried to do my due diligence and researched more about the LA jewelry district but every article is saying the price is more expensive there. So l'm utterly confused.
In addition, I've read online that you can't really trust the IGI reports even when the specs are great. You have to truly inspect the diamond in person yourself.
With that being said, what should I look for? For example: 1. Look at the symmetry • Like should I be drawing a line or something? 2. Look at how the light reflects • Is it easier to have the diamonds place next to another to see which shines more?
Like any advice on how to inspect and what to look for in a pear diamond.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Appreciate y'all!

I spent most of the last four years with my head down studying. Now I am graduated and realize how much time I didn't spend making friends, and discovering myself. Seems like we are all supposed to do most of the self discovery when we are young, and sadly I spent a lot of that time depressed and isolated. This summer I'll be staying at my campus till my lease ends, and hopefully by then I'll find a job. But I am really feeling a lot of fomo for the fun I missed out on. The lasting friendships I could have made but never did. I am beginning to start to heal, I've started going to therapy, going to more on campus events and meeting people now that school is 100% over. It's made me realize how much I got it all wrong. I should have spent my life working from the inside out... instead of being stressed and depressed with school, I should have spent more time trying to find the underlying problems and fostering meaningful relationships. I spent so much time grinding to get done will college, only to want to stay longer. The irony. I've always had a really difficult time with balance. for that reason, usually when school would get busy, I would enter "school mode" in my head and cease all connections with others. It's something I've always struggled with. for example, I usually only have really bad days, and then really good days. there's no balance, no in between. Everything's always been really black and white for me. Most of the friends I do have, which are few (but the best), have two more years of school left anyway, so it really hard to realize they will be making more college memories without me. I think I am scared of being forgotten by the friends I love the most. I find myself having severe attachment issues to these friends, and wanting to spend every waking hour with them, and pissed off when I can't. I'm scared of loosing the good parts of my life, and afraid that I'll keep the bad parts. I'll never be in another time of my life when I am surrounded by so many young people my age. This was the opportune moment to discover myself, and now I feel like I am just beginning that process...right when I leave school. I don't know how I am going to make friends after this. I thought I wanted to move to a new city and start a new life, but now I realize how lonely I really am, and maybe I don't want that. I hate that I feel the clock ticking, that I need to figure out where I am going next. I just want to have the fun college experience I postponed for the sake of grades. On paper I got everything, a great GPA, a portfolio I'm proud of, and a decent foundation to start my career. But in my soul I am empty, and feel a sense of nostalgia for the college life I could have had, but didn't.

Reading and reflecting, I understand that I'm coming under the definition of a "nice guy". I can feel myself being the weakest among my roommates, even though we're in the same program of grad school. I'm always looking up to someone - I constantly see other people as better than me. Smarter than me. Stronger than me. More experienced than me (dating, relationships, academics, work, health, you name it). I'm glad that I'm - well - me with the world and life I've been brought into and the circumstances. I worked hard through college to get into grad school. I'm grateful for the things that have been given to me.
But lately I keep wishing to acquire parts of other people. I want to be respected like that guy. I want to be knowledgeable and well read like that guy. I want to be desired by girls like that guy is. And yet - can I ever?
After my breakup four years ago, I took the time in college to work on my fitness, health, and academics (probably could have done a better job with the last one). And after moving to grad school, I have learned some things I never would have living with my parents. I can cook now, I work part-time while doing a full-time graduate degree.
But again, it's nothing compared to the people around me. I don't feel like and have never felt like an equal. Today was a perfect example.
I matched with a girl last week, we exchanged numbers, and even set a date for today but I got ghosted shortly on Friday (I'm very sure of this). I'm not thinking too much about why she ghosted me. And today, my roommate had a date with that same girl. He didn't even swipe - she liked his Hinge profile upfront. Of course my roommate didn't know, but it was clear what it meant to me, and why he wasn't bothered by the fact that I had matched with her and had a date planned too.
What's worse is that I kept apologizing for mentioning that I matched with the same girl - that my first thought was "Did I say something wrong?".
I take more time than these people on projects and assignments. They do way cooler things than I do. I got an internship at a leading company in the US, but I still feel beneath them. I still feel I'm a joke to these guys. I'm not respected, am I?
I can't think of anything that can make things different - I'm roped into watching movies and plans with a guest who they invite every weekend night for dinner and a movie. I can cook for everyone, but even then I can't help but do the dishes even though the rule is that one person cooks and another person cleans. I don't have control. If there's any hint I do, it's my fault for not stepping up. Even if I do step who who will take me seriously?
Even this is an example of being a textbook nice guy - I'm claiming to be a victim here, aren't I? The only solution I can htink of for things being different is if I could live alone. If I had complete independence over my time and what I want to do. If I din't have to answer to any roommate or anyone. I imagined with a Master's I could acquire deep knowledge, spend time actually learning this subject I'm passionate about but I'm barely getting by. Life, this social life gets in the way from living with these people. If I'm not agreeing I'll be disliked and life will be uncomfortable. Not that I'm in the position to move out anytime soon - I often rely on help from the more experienced roommates to figure out problems I get stuck on with assignments.
It's all on me. It's up to me to make a change. But I feel like I can't. I feel helpless and guilty and angry. I can't imagine any empathy to this post, but if there's any chance or hope you can sense from what I shared... Please help by commenting. Anything helps. I don't know where to turn to right now - what time I can afford, who to tell.

So I’ve been out of collecting for the last few years since scalpers ruined it, but I’ve been collecting since I was 5 years old, and have learned a lot about collecting.
If you’re a serious collector, I’d recommend joining the Facebook groups: - AUSTRALIAN COINS & NOTES - Buy Swap Sell by FNQ Groups - ACBC - Australian Coins Banknotes Collectables - Coins And Banknotes Australia (CBA) Buy Sell Swap
Those were the main 3 when I was buying/collecting a lot. The admins are all really great too. You’ll learn a lot in those groups.
IN REGARDS WHAT TO LOOK OUT FOR
If you’re collecting for value, there’s the obvious ones like the $1 ‘mule’ from 2000, $2 Red Poppy from 2012, 20c ‘wavy’ from 1966, round 50c from 1966, etc.
A good way to know if a coin is valuable is often based off its mintage.
In regards to $2 coins, you want anything really with a mintage less than 2 million. So 2012 Red Poppy (0.5 million), 2013 Purple Coronation (1 million), 2015 Red Lest We Forget (1.46 million), 2014 Green Remembrance Day (1.85 million) are the main ones, but there are others of course.
For $1, it’s somewhat similar, in regards to NOT error coins, but mintage wise, you’ll want to look for 1992 MOR (0.008 million - very rare), 2016 50th Anniversary of Decimal Currency (0.56 million), 2021 MOR (0.16 million), 2015 Anzac (1.4 million).
Surprisingly, the ‘A’, ‘U’, and ‘S’ stamped coins from 2019 with a mintage of 1.512 million never really was super desired, but it might become more valuable in future.
50c, 20c, & 10c don’t have much worthy of collecting for low mintage wise. 50c there are a couple of low mintage years for COA (1985 & 1993 - 1 million mintage, 2019 (IRB design) & 2020 (JC design) - 1.1 million mintage). The lowest mintage commemorative 50c coin is Eddie Mabo (2017 - 1.4 million).
20c lowest mintage year is 1988 (0.2 million) for platypus design.
10c only has one commemorative design in circulation, being the 2016 50th Anniversary of Decimal currency design on the obverse side of the coin (6.2 million mintage) but the lowest mintage for circulating 10c is from 2011 (1.7 million mintage).
5c I find interesting because before the release of 50th Anniversary of Decimal Currency 5c coin was released in 2016 (mintage 4.8 million - only circulated commemorative design for 5c), collectors often searched for the (previously) lowest mintage 5c coin, being the 1972 design (mintage 8.3 million). The lowest mintage for 5c now is the 2019 (JC design) with a mintage of 2 million.
When it comes to error coins If you’re noodling, check every coin for any errors, but it’s fairly widely agreed (to my knowledge) that $1 coins are most commonly found errors.
For $2 coins, the main error is: - Misstamped coloured coins (more common with the coloured $2 coins released in newer years, often the colour of the coin will be incorrectly on the ‘heads’ side of the coin, leaving the ‘tails’ side colourless)
For $1 coins, the main errors you’re looking for are: - 2000 mule (double rim on MOR coin) - ‘Spew Roo’ (error in design on MOR coin coming from the ‘mouth’ of the kangaroo up the top of the coin, not the main kangaroo) - ‘Rabbit Ears’ (error in design on MOR coin similar to ‘spew roo’ but on the kangaroos ears) - ‘Three Leg Roo’ (error on MOR coin where a background kangaroo is missing a leg) - Centenary Federation Rotation Error (2001 Centenary Federation coin is rotated different from the obverse side to the reverse side)
For 50c coins the main one is: - Millennium ‘Incuse Flag’ (on 2000 Millennium 50c coin where the star on the flag is affected)
For 20c, the main one is: - ‘Wavy’ 1966 coin (the ‘2’ on ‘20’ is notably different, giving it a ‘wavy’ affect)
For 5c, the main one is: - 2007 ‘Double headed’ (a 5c coin with 2 ‘heads’ sides, made in 2007) arguably up there as one of the most valuable coins
For all coins: - Rotation errors (more common with some coins than others, but a possibility nevertheless) - Misstampted coins (where the printing of the coins design is not inline with the actual coin) - Double head (very very rare, but a possibility nevertheless)
There are really so many possibilities when it comes to errors, checking each coin thoroughly for any misprints, rotation errors, etc. is a good idea when noodling
At the end of the day, your coin is worth as much as someone is willing to pay. Coin prices fluctuate. Holding onto coins to sell when major events happen, such as a death in the monarch or if Australia decided to become Independent and break from the Monarchy, would cause an INSTANT increase in coin prices, that is guaranteed to fluctuate. Sometimes coins will take YEARS to increase in price, take the 2017 Planetary Set as an example.. RRP $180 and at its peak it was selling for as much as $14,000 a few years ago, now it’s on eBay for $6,000. When checking the value of your coins, eBay listings are NOT accurate ways to value them. Always check the sold listings for a more accurate value.
Links:
Mintage: https://www.ramint.gov.au/circulating-coins#
Error coin (semi) list: https://numismatics.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/vol-27-harris.pdf

Reading and reflecting, I understand that I'm coming under the definition of a "nice guy". I can feel myself being the weakest among my roommates, even though we're in the same program of grad school. I'm always looking up to someone - I constantly see other people as better than me. Smarter than me. Stronger than me. More experienced than me (dating, relationships, academics, work, health, you name it). I'm glad that I'm - well - me with the world and life I've been brought into and the circumstances. I worked hard through college to get into grad school. I'm grateful for the things that have been given to me.
But lately I keep wishing to acquire parts of other people. I want to be respected like that guy. I want to be knowledgeable and well read like that guy. I want to be desired by girls like that guy is. And yet - can I ever?
After my breakup four years ago, I took the time in college to work on my fitness, health, and academics (probably could have done a better job with the last one). And after moving to grad school, I have learned some things I never would have living with my parents. I can cook now, I work part-time while doing a full-time graduate degree.
But again, it's nothing compared to the people around me. I don't feel like and have never felt like an equal. Today was a perfect example.
I matched with a girl last week, we exchanged numbers, and even set a date for today but I got ghosted shortly on Friday (I'm very sure of this). I'm not thinking too much about why she ghosted me. And today, my roommate had a date with that same girl. He didn't even swipe - she liked his Hinge profile upfront. Of course my roommate didn't know, but it was clear what it meant to me, and why he wasn't bothered by the fact that I had matched with her and had a date planned too.
What's worse is that I kept apologizing for mentioning that I matched with the same girl - that my first thought was "Did I say something wrong?".
I take more time than these people on projects and assignments. They do way cooler things than I do. I got an internship at a leading company in the US, but I still feel beneath them. I still feel I'm a joke to these guys. I'm not respected, am I?
I can't think of anything that can make things different - I'm roped into watching movies and plans with a guest who they invite every weekend night for dinner and a movie. I can cook for everyone, but even then I can't help but do the dishes even though the rule is that one person cooks and another person cleans. I don't have control. If there's any hint I do, it's my fault for not stepping up. Even if I do step who who will take me seriously?
Even this is an example of being a textbook nice guy - I'm claiming to be a victim here, aren't I? The only solution I can htink of for things being different is if I could live alone. If I had complete independence over my time and what I want to do. If I din't have to answer to any roommate or anyone. I imagined with a Master's I could acquire deep knowledge, spend time actually learning this subject I'm passionate about but I'm barely getting by. Life, this social life gets in the way from living with these people. If I'm not agreeing I'll be disliked and life will be uncomfortable. Not that I'm in the position to move out anytime soon - I often rely on help from the more experienced roommates to figure out problems I get stuck on with assignments.
It's all on me. It's up to me to make a change. But I feel like I can't. I feel helpless and guilty and angry. I can't imagine any empathy to this post, but if there's any chance or hope you can sense from what I shared... Please help by commenting. Anything helps. I don't know where to turn to right now - what time I can afford, who to tell.

I (51M) met my wife (53F) when I was just 19. We dated a year before moving in together and then got married two years after that when I was still just 22. She was my first and only, but I wasn't hers. I don't feel like getting married young was a problem in itself, but I do feel like my entire marriage has been a lie and if I had been more experienced I would have done something about it sooner.
She seemed to have a great work ethic, having worked all through high school and college. She told me she was never without a job. Despite being younger I majored in computer science at just the right time and so I was making more than my parents by the time I was 20. We made an agreement that I would cover all of the fixed expenses and she would cover the other costs. However, it was always difficult to get her to pay her fair share and I usually ended up paying it. For example, I bought myself a car but when she needed a car she agreed to make the payment. She did it for about a year before I got tired of having to harass her to make it on time so I started paying it and she could pay me back. Except she never paid me back in a timely manner if at all and whined about it. This pattern continued until she ended up not working at all with me covering all of our expenses. That wasn't the agreement and I resent that. I do well so we still have a nice life, but it could be SO MUCH BETTER if she had just worked more often. I did the math and even at minimum wage she left hundreds of thousands of dollars (almost a million) in potential earnings on the table. We never had kids so I don't know why she felt so entitled. It was always one mental health crisis after another that kept her from working or quitting the jobs she did have within a year or two but never any desire to actually do something about it.
My wife was also really sexual and was the one to take the relationship in that direction but once we got married it stopped almost overnight just like the career did. We had several years long dry spells and the latest one is old enough to drive now. Not only did the sex stop, but so did all other affection. She was never super affectionate, but whatever did exist disappeared completely. She says it is because she was lacking self-esteem, felt like a burden to me, and never felt like an equal partner. There is truth to that, but how can I treat her like an equal partner when I am constantly carrying her water whether it was financially or even just bearing the emotional brunt of her moods. I never felt like she was lifting me up or giving me her best. It was always so one-sided.
When I had my 50th birthday last year I started some reflection and I feel like my entire marriage with her has been a lie. We weren't romantic partners or financial partners like she lead me to believe. What we have been is best friends and roommates. There is value in that, but it's not all I wanted out of a marriage. My lifestyle is very much below the standards I want it to be, especially compared to my peers. My sex life is non-existent. I am depressed. I am angry and resentful at her.
TBH, I think I want a divorce except we have been together 32 years now and I don't know that I can throw away my best friend in pursuit of my ideal of a wife, especially at my age. I am in therapy and my therapist says I am just complacent and that I deserve to be happy and so does my wife. She challenged me to decide if I can be happy with her. I just don't know. I love her, but I also don't respect her. I feel like even if a magic wand could make it all like it was at the beginning I am not sure I can let go of all the years of resentment. I feel like she lied and cheated me out of the chance to live a life with someone I was more compatible with. Is it too late for that now? My therapist says it is never too late, but I spent all of my adult life with my wife and I am finding it hard to let that share history go. I am also worried about what the future might have in store. Without her I will be all alone for the first time as an adult.

I've been researching different companies for investing in precious metals, and Goldco keeps coming up as a top choice. I thought I'd share a balanced view of the pros and cons to help anyone else who's considering them. If you have any personal experiences or additional insights, feel free to chime in!
Pros:

1. Exceptional Customer Service: Goldco is known for its white-glove service. From the moment you reach out, you're guided through the entire process, whether it's setting up a gold IRA or making a direct purchase. Their specialists are super helpful and make the experience smooth and stress-free.
2. Educational Resources: They provide a wealth of information, including a comprehensive Wealth Protection Kit. This is great if you're new to precious metals investing or just want to learn more. Plus, you can get advice through phone, email, or chat.
3. Trust and Reliability: Goldco has an A+ rating from the Better Business Bureau (BBB) and a Triple A rating from the Business Consumer Alliance (BCA). They've also won multiple industry awards, including being a five-time winner of the INC 5000.
4. Special Promotions: They often have promotions that can add value to your investment. For example, they might reimburse IRA fees or offer a percentage of your transaction back in free silver.
5. Buyback Program: Goldco offers a robust buyback program, which means you can sell your metals back to them at competitive prices. This provides peace of mind and flexibility if you need to liquidate your assets.

Cons:

1. High Minimum Investment: To start a gold IRA with Goldco, you need a minimum of $25,000. This might be a barrier if you're not ready to invest that much upfront.
2. Limited Online Transactions: Unlike some competitors, Goldco does not complete transactions online. This means more phone calls and paperwork, which can be inconvenient for those who prefer online handling.

Overall Impression:
Goldco seems to be a solid choice if you're looking for a reputable company to invest in precious metals. Their customer service and educational resources are top-notch, and they have a strong track record in the industry. However, the high minimum investment and lack of online transaction options might be a downside for some.

Hi all - new weekly SQL question is up and ready.

Q. First-touch marketing attribution

Difficulty - Hard
First-touch marketing attribution is a model for assigning credit to the marketing channel that initiated a user's first interaction with a brand/product. In this model, only the first touchpoint a user interacts with will receive credit for any subsequent conversions.
For example, if a user clicks on a Facebook ad, then later clicks on a Google search ad and makes a purchase of a product, the Facebook ad would be credited with the conversion because it was the first marketing touchpoint the user interacted with.
You have a table named user_event that contains data on user interactions with a marketing campaign (e.g., impressions, clicks), and a table with user purchases called user_purchase.
Write a SQL query that calculates the conversion rate of each channel based on the first-touch attribution model. The output should have channel & conversion_rate (rounded to 3 decimal points) in the descending order of the conversion_rate.
Conversion Rate = # of users who made a purchase using first-touch attribution / # of users who interacted with the channel

Table: user_event

COLUMN NAME	TYPE
user_id	INTEGER
event_type	TEXT
channel	TEXT
product_id	INTEGER
date	DATE

Table: user_purchase

COLUMN NAME	TYPE
user_id	INTEGER
product_id	INTEGER
date	DATE

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I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/ThrowRa-Alergy posting in AITAH
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 9th May 2024
Update - 10th May 2024
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AITAH for telling my bf that his daughter is not allowed in my apartment because she doesn’t stop smuggling peanuts in?
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I can’t have any contact with peanuts and I am terrified of them due to some bad experience ms ending up in the hospital. I have my shots now on me all the time. It is not exactly airborne but I could have irritation and if it for example touch something that had been in contact with peanuts i could have swollen eyes and itchy nose and throat. Ingesting is fatal.
She is 14 and has no respect what so ever for my anxiety. My bf and I moved in and she lives with us every other week. Now I told my bf that I don’t want her here because she is not respecting my boundaries. But that I understand that he doesn’t want to live with me in that case we could revert back to him being with me when he doesn’t have his daughter. He got very upset because he said that he loved me and wanted a real relationship and to live in one home.
So I told him that maybe he should be with someone who isn’t allergic then. He thinks I am being very unfair. He said well, she will probably hate the next one too and the next and the next because she wants her mom and me to be together again so it wasn’t “me specifically” that she dislikes. I said that maybe he needs to take a break from dating then until she is onboard but he said that he couldn’t be single just because his daughter wants him to. Before me he was single for 6 years and that wasn’t good enough.
Before we decided to move in together, we have done some “trial” living together and never once did his daughter do anything about the nuts. But now for 4 months she has always peanuts with her. I don’t know why she is doing this. I thought we were cool. She just smirks and says maybe if you are so allergic, maybe you’re not meant to survive(a stand up comedy bit from Louis CK)
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ERVetSurgeon
NTA but you need to leave this relationship. She thinks it is funny and he doesn't care. The amount of disrespect for your health is amazing.
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CruelxIntention
This. He’s allowing this instead of getting to the core of it and putting the child in therapy where she clearly belongs. She’s plenty old enough to know this can kill someone and to have complete disregard over that shouldn’t be overlooked. You may love this guy but I’m betting you love breathing more.
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WonderingGemini84

"You may love this guy but I'm betting you love breathing more."

THIS!!!
You can not love someone when you're dead.
The boyfriend doesn't seem to realise how serious "the no peanuts"-thing is. This is a non-negotable. Your home should be your safe space, she doesn't respect that and he doesn't hear you (or doesn't care enough)
Throw them out OP!!!
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weeperOfChimneys
NTA, she has all but said she's attempting to kill you with peanuts. Quoting a comedian doesn't make it funny or acceptable. He hasn't bothered to search her and divest her of the nuts when he picks her up either.

OOP: He offered this as a suggestion. Visitation before she entered my apartment but I don’t want this kind of life. I was fine only seeing him on his weeks off. But I understand that he wants something more permanent than meeting every other week so he probably should find another woman

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YoghurtSnodgrass
She would probably just hide peanuts around his place for you to hopefully come in contact with. Just break up. His kid is trying to kill you.
Where is she even getting all these nuts from? Is her mom buying them for her? Does she buy them from a vending machine at school? How crazy is the little turd?
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Update - 1 day later
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Hi everyone! Thank you so much for really caring about a stranger with a dilemma. I was glad that I wasn’t wrong in my guts. I told my bf that I wanted to break up.
He was very sad and tried to reason with me. He suggested that we could live separately. His daughter will soon be an adult. I told him that being 18 doesn’t guarantee that she leaves the nest nor that he stops being a father either. Any time she could come across hardships and wants to move home and she needs to find that home. She couldn’t have it with me.
And about living separately, while it is fine now and some few years ahead. What about the future?
He was silent and listening to me. I felt overwhelmed because I love him. He said that the only way his daughter will be happy is when he is alone. She is in therapy but she has not shown any regards for her father or his life. She seems to not see him as an individual with feelings. He is just a father. I didn’t know what to tell him and just said that she probably needed time to grow up.
Until he moves out, his daughter is not allowed to be in my apartment. She called and threw a tantrum about her father choosing me instead. That she has the right to live with her father every other week and this shouldn’t change. I didn’t say anything, they need to fix this as a family, I am not a part of this family anymore.
He rented his apartment for a year’s contract so I don’t know how he will manage to find a new or terminate the lease so he could move back to his old apartment. Anyway he is staying here for a couple of months.
I am very sad that this beautiful relationship has come to an end. But I need to think about myself now.
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he_nooch73
Know you made the right choice for you, your health, your safety. As someone said in your other post ‘you may love him, but you probably love breathing more’. I think you’re right about his daughter never accepting his partners. He needs to address this with her in therapy. I hope her therapist knows about the peanuts because her behaviour is truly disturbing. I’m so sorry your relationship had to end.
Commercial-Ask3416
I feel so bad for you and your boyfriend. I feel like he is stuck between a rock and hard place regarding his daughter. I know people are saying he should discipline her or this and that, but it sounds like it wouldn't work and that she would likely escalate. I work with kids like her. Hoping her not being able to live with her dad the next few months will be a wake up call for her but in my experience I doubt it. Good luck to the both of you, especially him as he has to deal with the fallout. Not your monkey, not your circus anymore.
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Gday team. I have a note I add to when I learn things about SM. I got sick of seeing the same questions so I every time I answered I added to the note and just pasted a generic reply. I’ve been invited to post it here, so here you are!
Here’s my ever-growing, non-specific copy-paste reply, built from my own notes:

• Remember, followers are only for your ego. If you’re a business, Would you rather have a million followers who never buy anything or 1000 followers who purchase everything? (Read Kevin Kelly’s 1000 true fans article). However, if you’re trying to build an account for a brand or human deals, you need as many as possible. I.e. athletes wanting future deals/contracts, actresses wanting future roles, etc
  
• Dollars are the only score that matters in business. You can sell 1 million $1 items or 1x $1m item, it’s still a million dollars
  
• How do you get your first ten followers/sales? ASK. Start with your friends/family/personal socials. “Hey, I've started this thing; I'd love for you to follow”. Then contact everyone you've ever known (see cold outreach later, but this is warm haha). THEN ask them all for referrals: “who do you know that could use my help?”
  
• Re: cold contacting. Have a framework, but don't automate. Solve their problems. Say something personal (” [mutual person] told me to reach out to you” / “I really like your x” /”congratulations on y”). I noticed that [problem]. Fix their problem. Wish them a nice day. Have an offer in your email signature.
  
• Your profile description should be a hook/tagline / USP and link to your offer. Remember you’re building your house on rented land if you use socials as your client base. Algorithm changes, and they’re gone. Try sending them off socials to your email list, learn storytelling in email marketing (Russell Brunson has good advice), and you will own that contact for life.
  
• Choose a monetisable niche, find the most successful person in that niche, and put your spin on what they’re doing (ask AI)
  
• Make GOOD content that is visually appealing, entertaining, and has hooks (you have 3 seconds to get attention), but most importantly, ADDS VALUE to your target market (ask AI for suggestions - you can even ask AI to create a customer avatar for you and then ask it how to make good, relevant IG posts for that avatar)
  
• Keep your ears and eyes out for trends. Can you throw a trending song over a clip?
  
• Leverage pop culture. Search for what’s trending daily. Can you combine a movie or album release with your product? For example, if you’re in the auto niche, create an image of a car covered in green slime coinciding with the new Ghostbusters movie
  
• Document your process. Humans evolved on stories & we love to feel part of something and/or have front-row tickets to the show. For example, If you post art, film yourself making the art, not just the final product; talk about your decisions along the way. Also, it is easy content for you, and you’re just filming something you’re already doing
  
• Share as many success stories/testimonials as possible, preferably videos. Tag them. Make it easy for users to share themselves.
  
• In a similar vein, and with permission, share your audience questions in your stories (and tag them)
  
• Remember the rule of 100 (you need to do something 100x before you get “good” at it). Have you posted 100x and made changes as you’ve observed what worked and what didn’t?
  
• Every 5th or so post, add a Call To Action
  
• Always have something to invite people to, such as an event (e.g. Facebook live, face-to-face), a giveaway, a new product, etc. Ensure all your social media banners, popups, CTAs & email sig reflect this (read Book Yourself Solid by Michael Port)
  
• Use the right hashtags (be discoverable)
  
• Post at the correct times for your target market (I like 6-630am so when they wake up and scroll, it’s on their feed, their lunch break and a story at 8 pm in the relevant timezone). Steven Bartlett credits the daily 8pm personal thought post the most important part of his success.
  
• Follow the top 100 people in your niche with between 10k & 100k followers. Engage with them daily. Share their posts. Comment on Their work. As always, be sincere and say something meaningful
  
• Comment relevant things on important people pages (Gary Vees $1.80 strategy)
  
• Spend $10 a day on ads of targeted content to targeted people (don’t “but I want to grow organically” - Do you want to be seen or not?). Start ad sets at midnight.
  
• Russell Brunson recommends ads are only for offers; posts that aren't offers aren’t to be paid for ads—two separate things. Ads get your customers into the funnel and upsell makes you a profit. Say you sell a $10 ebook and a $300 course. Spend $10 per click for the ebook, so it’s a break-even cost, and everyone who buys the upsell is pure profit. Ad budget for testing is the price/profit of ONE upsell, so $300 in this example. Then, reassess, test and adjust. If it’s working, keep it going, but also test variations regardless. Brendan Kane suggests 50-100 variations from memory. Again, get AI to help. Start with your headline. Ask for ten variations. Then your pic. Get ten variations. Then your hook. Get ten variations etc.
  
• Pay relevant influencers to share your stuff
  
• Read all of Gary Vees and Brendan Kane’s books
  
• Do these things 30-50x a day (Gary Vees' advice for new accounts, search for his eight tips 2024 YT vid) across all your platforms for months, maybe years, and you’ll grow. Perhaps someone famous will share your stuff, and you’ll go viral. But remember, each platform has its nuances, so you need to rework content for it (again, use AI - create one piece and ask AI to brainstorm how to recreate for each platform - you can start with the longest form, say a YouTube vid or blog post and ask it how to make tweets or IG posts from it) however you can still “push”. For example, you can post native Facebook content, but you can also put your YouTube vids and IG posts there
  
• Make at least three posts a day for a month, that's 90 posts, and report back what you learned, what worked and didn’t for everyone else’s benefit. *I've had some pushback on this: A) I don’t make the rules; this seems to be current best practice; B) 1st post = a BTS post of you developing the post, 2nd post = the post, 3rd post = a story summing up your day. OR make all your content in one day and schedule it to post throughout the week. If you don’t have money, you have time; if you have money, outsource it.
  
• Good luck!
  

So I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 months and everything has been going well, we haven’t had the “what are we” talk yet but I’ve gotten the vibe from him that this is a romantic relationship (he bought me some items to keep at his house for when I stay, taking me on a trip this summer, told his friends about me). However, he has this close girl friend that he talks about multiple times every time I see him. Here are some examples: - he saw her on one of our dates and got up to say hi very excitedly, and then started texting her when she left because she passed us by quickly and didn’t say hi back. - he told me on our last date that she’s just “one of those people you meet and just instantly connect with” and that their personalities mesh very well - he challenged me to an arm wrestle (fun) and said that she had done the same last time they hung out and that im stronger than her and he will have to tell her about that. - he casually brings her up in conversation and shows me funny texts she sends him fairly often. These seem like red flags that he has feelings for her, I’ve never known a guy to talk about a girl this way if he didn’t have feelings. I think he did mention she has a boyfriend and I fear that he’s only entertaining me because she’s unavailable.
I was cheated on in my past 2 relationships so I’m not sure if I’m being overly anxious or if these are truly concerning, but I need advice about if this seems suspicious so that I can feel confident in my decision to break things off or not (I’m leaning toward breaking it off). Thanks!

I realized the reason I will never find my absolute love: because it it has a great sillage it isn’t as good nose-to-wrist. If it’s great nose-to-wrist, then the sillage isn’t there. I don’t mean just others smelling me. But when I am doing something and the scent wafts up to me. I want something were I can appreciate a nice scent bubble.
Thee Examples: Good Girl Blush/Blush Elixir, BR540, Eilish: All smell amazing when they waft my way but “sitting” in them or going in for a deep inhale just isn’t as satisfying and can be headache inducing.
Me Examples: Diptyque Eau Rose, Nemat Oils (Vanilla Musk and Amber), Flora Carnivora. They are all absolutely lovely for me but I have to go out of my way to sniff my wrist. I don’t get a waft very often.
I would love to find that perfect blend for both sillage and direct scent but maybe it isn’t possible. *le sigh

I have trouble engaging in conversations some times depending on the topic and who it is with. I hate sitting there feeling like I’m just there. I don’t say much and I listen to the conversation but I just can’t think of anything interesting to contribute. It’s not to say I’m not a talkative person. I have no problems carrying conversations with people I know more. A couple examples are like friends I haven’t seen in a while, sometimes I don’t know where to start a conversation with them. Another example is a couple nights ago some family came over that I hadn’t seen in a while. I engaged a little bit but the conversation was so sporadic and all over the place that I only chimed in a little bit. The last one I’ll give is me and my dad and my friend and my friends dad went to a restaurant and met up with some of my friends dads friends if that makes sense (his dads friends) and I just met them and they seemed interesting and the conversations were good, but I just once again couldn’t really think of how to engage. Even sometimes when it’s on my interests I find it difficult to engage with people I don’t know as well. I’m a very talkative person when I get to know someone, but just jumping into convos no matter who it is would be a great skill to have. I’m only 20 btw but some of my friends can sit and “BS” with a bunch of old dudes for hours upon hours. Any advice on how to just relate better to people and carry conversations.

Hi everyone! Back to post another one!
So I'm looking for a 3ct lab grown pear diamond. I've read online that you can't really trust the IGI reports even when the specs are great. You have to truly inspect the diamond in person yourself.
With that being said, what should I look for? For example: 1) Look at the symmetry - Like should I be drawing a line or something? 2) Look at how the light reflects - Is it easier to have the diamonds place next to another to see which shines more?
Honestly, any advice is appreciated. I basically just want all the knowledge that I can accumulate before I step into the store.

Hi everyone! Back to post another one!
So I'm looking for a 3ct lab grown pear diamond. I've read online that you can't really trust the IGI reports even when the specs are great. You have to truly inspect the diamond in person yourself.
With that being said, what should I look for? For example: 1) Look at the symmetry - Like should I be drawing a line or something? 2) Look at how the light reflects - Is it easier to have the diamonds place next to another to see which shines more?
Honestly, any advice is appreciated. I basically just want all the knowledge that I can accumulate before I step into the store.

Hi. So I wanna start this off by saying, this wasn’t something that has always affected me. Back when I was younger, I could watch more mature movies, maybe even an occasional r rated one (if I found one.) but as I’ve gotten older (currently 17 as of writing this.) I’ve kinda become more sensitive with it. Now it’s not a great movie, but the silent hill ones are an example. It’s been a while so I’m not sure which movie it was in. But the alessa scenes/flashbacks really bothered me. If you know, you know. Not like “oh I gotta look away for a minute!” But more “I’m uncomfortable and really don’t wanna continue watching” kinda thing. I’m just curious if this affects anyone, maybe older or around my age (if any are on Reddit lol.) I do use stuff like common sense, and IMDb to get a heads up. But it never really helps. Makes me feel a little kiddie, and there’s load of great films that are more mature that I’d be missing out on. So if I’m not alone on this, hey that’s awesome. If anyone has tips, that’s even better.

Heya everyone who may be reading this!! I'm here looking for a genuine connection, and taking things slow to get to know each other is fine by me! I'm mainly looking for a friendship where we can both be open with each other. :)
Gaming is definitely my main hobby as of now, and I play a variety of different types. From horror to casual I'm usually up for whatever. I also happen to be a streamer! Vtuber to be specific. I ain't big or anything as I take it casually, but I love my community to bits and I've made so many great friends because of it. It's helped me play more games and get to stuff I may have missed before. For example, I played through all the 3d Zelda games, and I also am playing Paper Mario which I am loving! I'd love to talk more about it and the games we love later, as I love learning about new people!
I quite enjoy TV shows, anime, and movies and have a bunch of hobbies I'd love to learn like art, but...here comes the big caveat with me: i suffer from pretty extreme depression that's made it hard for me to do things I used to enjoy as I can barely focus unless someone sits down with me to do it. The main reason I started streaming is so I'd be able to play games again as it was so hard for me to so so otherwise. I don't have a job and have lived with my mom for the past 8 years, and while I'm trying my best (currently trying adhd meds), it's been rough. Don't get me wrong, though. My mood is relatively stable and I'm actually quite positive and optimistic, though my current meds are messing with my head a bit. I may need some pokes if I don't respond right away and patience would be super appreciated. I've grown so much as a person over the years and have learned a lot about myself and how to be comfortable with who I am and embrace it. So yeah, I totally understand if you don't wanna deal with my current situation and all that. I just wanted to be upfront about it so you know what you're getting into.
ANYWAYS!! I consider myself a chill, goofy, and caring person, and I genuinely love helping people and hope to make it my career someday and be something like a social worker or counselor. I just really enjoy making other people happy, ya know? I can also be relatively shy and awkward, but at the same time I have the energy and enthusiasm to make up for it. I like to consider myself an 'extroverted introvert' if you will. I also really try to be open with my emotions and approach things upfront, and loyalty is a HUGE thing for me. I am loyal to a fault and will stick by someone's side even if it's probably not good for me if I care about them enough.
Let's see....besides having a cat named Roo who I love a ton, I think that's it! I'm probably missing a few things, but I'm not always the best at organizing my thoughts haha. I'd love to chat and get to know whoever is reading this more, but if not that's fine as well as I totally understand. I hope you all have a great day and find what you're looking for! :)