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2024.05.15 23:17 sandboxxsally Run Club Review - Denver, CO - Mercuria Running Highland Tap and Burger Run Club
Running is an individual sport, but is much better when you have the support of a community. running provides that community in an online forum, but many running groups and clubs are scattered throughout the US. I plan to submit weekly reviews of different running clubs in different cities over the upcoming weeks - I currently have on the schedule Houston (multiple times), Los Angeles, Denver, Kansas City (multiple times), Dallas, San Antonio, Austin, Atlanta (multiple times), Oklahoma City, Tampa, Jacksonville, Orlando, and possibly Louisville. I hope you enjoy!
Club Name: HTB Run Club - Highland Tap and Burger Metro: Denver, CO Meet dates: Wednesdays at 6:30 pm Run date: May 1, 2024 Route distance: 3.1 or 6.2 miles
Last Week's Review: https://www.reddit.com/running/s/Jsa1fNld13
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mercuriarunning?igsh=MWo5NHU5dzBtY3Axbg==
Strava: https://strava.app.link/6bxq68G1CJb
This was the first time in a while. I'd stayed in Denver, and believe it or not, I don't think I had ever gone on a run in this city. I was only here for a couple of nights, so I decided to check out one of the few Wednesday night run clubs that I could find. This was a run club that is sponsored by a running coaching group called mercuria running, and the perks are pretty great. You get a free dinner by attending the run Club.
I was staying in downtown, so I decided to make the 2 Mile Trek across town to the Highlands area. I was very impressed with the charm of the city and how pretty it is overall. The group meets at Highland Tap and Burger, and I arrived about 5 minutes early. The parking seemed a little tight, as street parking was all that was available.
When I walked up, roughly 20 people were already hanging out on the patio, and I quickly introduced myself to a few few of the runners. A little after 6:30 pm, the main coach and run Club leader gave a quick club overview and mentioned that there was a 3.1 mile route and a 6.2 mile route. I, along with the group I was talking to, decided to do the 3.1 mile route. The group took off, and immediately headed east towards Commons Park. The route is a loop course and consists of 1 and 1/2 mi running through residential areas and 1 and 1/2 mi running through Commons Park. Commons Park is a well-designed and lively Park west of downtown Denver that borders South Platte River. I ran with a local runner for the majority of the latter half of the run. Aside from the aesthetically pleasing Commons park, the end of the Run consists of a massive uphill climb that that is a leg destroyer.
After the run, runners lineup inside of a back room to get the free meal. They had a quinoa, rice, salad, ham, and spaghetti. While it was delicious, I couldn't help but think what an odd combination it was. However, out of all the clubs I've been to, not a single one has provided a free meal, so I'm definitely not complaining. While waiting in line for the food, I introduced myself to a couple new Denver transplants and we got talking about running, the Run Club, Denver, and life in general. Throughout the rest rest of the night, I was able to meet several other regulars and newcomers. Newcomers. Majority of people were young professionals ranging from mid-20s to mid-thirties. Additionally, it seemed the majority of the people were also transplants to Denver, although there were a couple people I meant who were born and raised in the area.
While the perks and route were great, The people of the club were were friendly and open a conversation. It definitely made the experience. I don't know if this was the case to other clubs, but as a newcomer, I felt very welcome and included.
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Club Name: HTB Run Club - Highland Tap and Burger Metro: Denver, CO Meet dates: Wednesdays at 6:30 pm Run date: May 1, 2024 Route distance: 3.1 or 6.2 miles
Last Week's Review: https://www.reddit.com/running/s/Jsa1fNld13
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mercuriarunning?igsh=MWo5NHU5dzBtY3Axbg==
Strava: https://strava.app.link/6bxq68G1CJb
This was the first time in a while. I'd stayed in Denver, and believe it or not, I don't think I had ever gone on a run in this city. I was only here for a couple of nights, so I decided to check out one of the few Wednesday night run clubs that I could find. This was a run club that is sponsored by a running coaching group called mercuria running, and the perks are pretty great. You get a free dinner by attending the run Club.
I was staying in downtown, so I decided to make the 2 Mile Trek across town to the Highlands area. I was very impressed with the charm of the city and how pretty it is overall. The group meets at Highland Tap and Burger, and I arrived about 5 minutes early. The parking seemed a little tight, as street parking was all that was available.
When I walked up, roughly 20 people were already hanging out on the patio, and I quickly introduced myself to a few few of the runners. A little after 6:30 pm, the main coach and run Club leader gave a quick club overview and mentioned that there was a 3.1 mile route and a 6.2 mile route. I, along with the group I was talking to, decided to do the 3.1 mile route. The group took off, and immediately headed east towards Commons Park. The route is a loop course and consists of 1 and 1/2 mi running through residential areas and 1 and 1/2 mi running through Commons Park. Commons Park is a well-designed and lively Park west of downtown Denver that borders South Platte River. I ran with a local runner for the majority of the latter half of the run. Aside from the aesthetically pleasing Commons park, the end of the Run consists of a massive uphill climb that that is a leg destroyer.
After the run, runners lineup inside of a back room to get the free meal. They had a quinoa, rice, salad, ham, and spaghetti. While it was delicious, I couldn't help but think what an odd combination it was. However, out of all the clubs I've been to, not a single one has provided a free meal, so I'm definitely not complaining. While waiting in line for the food, I introduced myself to a couple new Denver transplants and we got talking about running, the Run Club, Denver, and life in general. Throughout the rest rest of the night, I was able to meet several other regulars and newcomers. Newcomers. Majority of people were young professionals ranging from mid-20s to mid-thirties. Additionally, it seemed the majority of the people were also transplants to Denver, although there were a couple people I meant who were born and raised in the area.
While the perks and route were great, The people of the club were were friendly and open a conversation. It definitely made the experience. I don't know if this was the case to other clubs, but as a newcomer, I felt very welcome and included.
2024.05.15 23:15 ThrowRA_00000002 I (19F) fumbled a relationship with a guy (18M) which I still really like and I have no idea how to replenish it. Any advice?
Him (18M) and I (19F) have been talking for a while, around 7 months I think. We met on a dating sight, but it started off pretty chill — actually the first couple months we didn’t really flirt, we immediately got each others socials and were just friends for a while even to the point where we were talking about other people we were seeing. If I’m honest, it didn’t take long for me to be head over heels for this dude. He’s basically the male version of me, and we understand everything each other goes through. We spoke a lot around 5 months ago, like practically all day sometimes and eventually I decided I wanted to meet him (we live pretty far so it was a long way to get there). So we met up and honestly it went perfect. We held hands and kissed just before I returned back home, I really thought something would come from this and it did for the first couple days, but (this is honestly my fault) I got scared and started to act like nothing happened, I began to talk about dating sights again as if we hadn’t even held hands. I still liked him A LOT but I guess I didn’t really know what to do. We’d always discussed how we weren’t into the whole love bombing thing, pet names and stuff kind of grossed us out and we always wanted a relationship to be more chill so I was unsure how to go about it and it freaked me out. I’d never really had a proper relationship before, my last one was solely online due to distance and it left me with a lot of hurt which I’m only just healing from so all of this was new to me. Anyways, I think he noticed that I was kind of friendzoning him and backed off a bit.
Since then I’ve been trying to replenish what I broke, I’ve done practically everything to try and get things to be like before. We still talk, but hardly as frequently and he never tells me anything anymore. One of my advances did work for a while, but then he stopped replying for a couple weeks and now it’s back to stage one. I’ve asked if he wants to meet again, it’s his birthday soon and I got him a couple gifts which I’ve put a lot of thought into. But I really don’t know if this’ll work. I know I’m still young and maybe I do just need to let go but I really like this guy — I’d even go so far as to say I love him. So what should I do? I’m too scared to communicate how I feel but I really regret messing things up, I worry I won’t find someone like him again if I let go. (Apologies if the writing isn’t great, I don’t really want to read it back😅)
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Since then I’ve been trying to replenish what I broke, I’ve done practically everything to try and get things to be like before. We still talk, but hardly as frequently and he never tells me anything anymore. One of my advances did work for a while, but then he stopped replying for a couple weeks and now it’s back to stage one. I’ve asked if he wants to meet again, it’s his birthday soon and I got him a couple gifts which I’ve put a lot of thought into. But I really don’t know if this’ll work. I know I’m still young and maybe I do just need to let go but I really like this guy — I’d even go so far as to say I love him. So what should I do? I’m too scared to communicate how I feel but I really regret messing things up, I worry I won’t find someone like him again if I let go. (Apologies if the writing isn’t great, I don’t really want to read it back😅)
2024.05.15 23:04 Ur_Anemone How Celibate Women Became a Threat
 | Amid a number of recent pivots, including scrapping the women-message-first system it launched with 10 years ago, dating app Bumble recently unveiled a new ad campaign that seemed to take aim at its primary demographic: women. Over the weekend of May 11, a number of TikTok users in the Los Angeles area posted the dating app’s new anti-celibacy billboards, which appear to tease women who have sworn off sex and dating… submitted by Ur_Anemone to afterAWDTSG [link] [comments] The billboards generated considerable backlash from women on TikTok, with a creator @Fleeksie posting, “LADIES! The patriarchy is SCARED!! They’re losing us and they’re panicking!!” Julia Fox, for her part, commented on one of the posts: “2.5 years of celibacy and never been better tbh.” The overwhelmingly negative response to the campaign pushed Bumble to issue an apology on May 13, acknowledging the many valid reasons that move someone towards celibacy: restrictions on reproductive rights, recovering from trauma or abuse, or existing as asexual. “We have heard the concerns shared about the ad’s language and understand that rather than highlighting a current sentiment towards dating, it may have had a negative impact on some of our community,” a Bumble spokesperson shared in a statement to TIME. The app has promised to remove the ads, as well as donate to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. But in attempting to make light of a social climate in which, as they worded it in their apology, “a community” (read: women) “are frustrated by modern dating,” Bumble ended up, inadvertently or not, mirroring the language many women experience when they tell men they are not interested. The sexless, “crazy cat lady” trope is a tale as old as time, but in the context of rising incel ideology—which psychologists partly attribute to women’s increased economic and social power—the sentiment still feels like a toxic, all-too-familiar neg… Even beyond the persistent pressure from individuals to participate in hookup culture…the dating industry at large is perpetually badgering single people to redownload, buy premium subscriptions, and remain in the romantic marketplace. This begs the question: Has a celibate woman become more threatening than a sexual one? Increasingly, women are both sexual and celibate at once, and perhaps that makes them doubly threatening: A new generation is proving that sexual empowerment doesn’t hinge on having lots of sex, or even sex at all. In 2023, I wrote about the rise of “celibate sluts,” people who consider themselves sexual but have taken big steps back from sex, usually when they realize sex isn’t serving them, and found peace… Across age groups and genders, studies suggest that people are having less sex, a phenomenon that’s been called the “sex recession” and largely cast in a negative light. In 2021, the General Social Survey found that over a quarter of Americans over 18 hadn’t had sex once in the past year, which is a 30-year high. Not to mention women, overall, are opting out of dating: 2020 Pew Research Data found 61% of single men were actively looking for dates, compared to 38% of women. Rather than examining the social, economic, and political conditions that may make sex and dating unappealing for individuals, particularly women, the impetus is put on the individuals to fix it. What I found when reporting my book, Laid and Confused: Why We Tolerate Bad Sex and How to Stop, is that young people are consciously opting out of sex and dating, largely due to swiping burnout, but also due to setting higher standards for romantic partners… The truth is, being single is incredibly healthy for people who want or need to be, and studies show that single women without children are often happier than their married counterparts with children. Celibacy can facilitate some of this joy. Online conversations about the “male loneliness epidemic” tend to rope in women as a potential solve, particularly on incel forums. Yes, male loneliness is a real problem: A 2021 American Perspectives survey found that the number of men who reported not having a single close friend had quintupled to 15% since 1990. For unmarried men under 30, 25% say they have no close friends at all. Consistently, studies show that men have a harder time making and keeping friendships. But women don’t owe men companionship, even if those men are lonely. While all Americans are reporting fewer close friendships than they had before the pandemic, the same American Perspectives Survey found that young women are more likely than young men to lean on their friends for support. While loneliness affects all genders, women who opt out of dating are more likely to do so by choice. If men’s loneliness is stemming from a lack of sex, many women clearly benefit from that lack. When it comes to the business of dating apps, the most relevant principle isn’t necessarily patriarchal, but inherently capitalist: celibate, app-less women are not lucrative, an issue that the entire industry is grappling with. The business of dating, in general, is floundering: Dating app downloads are starting to fall, and a Pew Research study found that more people are dissatisfied with the apps than ever before… |
2024.05.15 22:51 SuspiciousActuary988 Any young widow/ers here struggling with dating?
Would like to hear from other young widow/ers. I am 32 and was married for years. He was my soulmate, my everything, we were perfect for each other. Its been 2 years since my husband died. I am so fucking lonely. I have zero luck with dating. I don't even know how to date really. Im not too wild about local because I don't like where I am forced to live due to family and I met my husband online and moved.
When I tell the truth people pull away, ghost me and make up reasons why we aren't compatible. Everything is Fine until i mention im a widow. To add insult to injury I have some disabilities and my husband never expected me to work. I get a monthly check from his job and it is so embarrassing to say. I feel unlovable with all this extreme baggage. Guys my age really can't stand it. I have talked to a few people and I been hurt badly 5 times now (6th one was nice and accepted me but I wasn't attracted physically or emotionally)and I am so SICK of having to talk about my husband's death and how he died (fuck cancer).
I know everyones response is always the platitude cliche "to the right person it wont matter" but my right person came and died. I had baggage from severe abuse and addiction when I met him. He healed all that. Now I have baggage x100! Young guys in their 30s are definitely bothered by it and seem insecure and have a grudge against me.
I feel just so defeated and unlovable. Who wants to constantly keep having to mention bad topics like death when you are getting to know someone!?
Also when/ how far along into having conversations should his death even be brought up?? Wish i wasnt disabled so I could just hide it...
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When I tell the truth people pull away, ghost me and make up reasons why we aren't compatible. Everything is Fine until i mention im a widow. To add insult to injury I have some disabilities and my husband never expected me to work. I get a monthly check from his job and it is so embarrassing to say. I feel unlovable with all this extreme baggage. Guys my age really can't stand it. I have talked to a few people and I been hurt badly 5 times now (6th one was nice and accepted me but I wasn't attracted physically or emotionally)and I am so SICK of having to talk about my husband's death and how he died (fuck cancer).
I know everyones response is always the platitude cliche "to the right person it wont matter" but my right person came and died. I had baggage from severe abuse and addiction when I met him. He healed all that. Now I have baggage x100! Young guys in their 30s are definitely bothered by it and seem insecure and have a grudge against me.
I feel just so defeated and unlovable. Who wants to constantly keep having to mention bad topics like death when you are getting to know someone!?
Also when/ how far along into having conversations should his death even be brought up?? Wish i wasnt disabled so I could just hide it...
2024.05.15 22:49 apophisius How do you use Signal? How do you should use it? Like do you try to redirect all communication to signal or do you use it only with trusted people/family?
I forced my parents to use signal with me but I am not sure if it would be a wise idea to redirect all communication(coworkers, acquaintances, people i have met online like on datings apps but not sure if i will continue to talk to later) to signal if possible. My main concern is if people I started to chat with the help of usernames will be able to see my current username even after I changed it and if the only way to remove contact is to block them.
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2024.05.15 22:44 ODOG448 Bought this online finally was able to get better look at it. Thoughts on it and help with dating?
 | Came from Thailand did not realize the care tag was cut but besides that looks legit from pretty much every other detail, also was the fit on the levi’s jackets from the 80’s/90’s have a tighter fit? Feels like it any thoughts and opinions would be greatly appreciated. submitted by ODOG448 to VintageLevis [link] [comments] |
2024.05.15 22:43 Ok-Ordinary8874 Online dating vs traditional dating
Does traditional dating or online dating work for you? For me, I would rather do traditional dating.
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2024.05.15 22:38 SeaNo8699 22F, Indonesia
I'm Nat, I'm looking forward to meeting someone new. I am not in a rush as I am still studying for my Bachelor's Degree in University right now, and it is my current priority. But, as a Christian, I believe that we are called to "be fruitful and increase in number", so of course at this age, I think it is natural for me to start thinking and do something about it. I also believe in dating to marry, so I am seeking for someone with the same value in mind. If I have a chance to get to know you more, I would tell you early and honestly if I feel like we do not match so we wouldn't waste each others' time, and you could tell me the same thing too.
As for my hobbies, I love singing, drawing, journaling, playing some online games, or finding new interests, like new languages or random interesting topics I could find on the internet. I am shy and introverted most of the time especially when I am alone, but with my friends or like-minded people, I could be pretty energetic and talkative. I love going on adventures and travelling, though I haven't travelled much internationally. For my physical appearance, I have a mid-length dark hair and dark eyes, 164 cm, 85kg (that's 5'4 and 187 lbs), which falls under the heavier criteria here, but I am keeping my self healthy, I cook my own meals and frequent walking when I am not busy.
My Christian journey is my whole life. I was born and grew up in a Christian family. My parents went to church under the denomination of Calvinism, and I am still a member of that Church. Since I was a child, I have been taught of all the things every Christian should know of God, Christ, Sin, Salvation.. I even went to a Christian-based School, from elementary to senior high. I am a Christian, intellectually. But I know deep down, I wasn't following Christ wholly as I am attached to a sin. I prayed time and time again for God to save me from this, but I would always fall again. Until I got to university, and He took everything I am so proud of, the mortal things I rely on. I realized that I have been counting on my self, on my own strength. Not on Him. Eventually, I come to Christ, and I give Him my sins, I don't want to be bound by it anymore. I found that the strength, that could set me free from my sins, only comes from Him. I am grateful that He never left me astray, and that His Spirit would always guide me through the rough patches of my life. And I am reminded to "seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." (Matthew 6:33).
I am looking for someone whose faith is in Christ and have similar values as I do. I want someone who's open minded, but is strong in his values. A listener but also a leader. Age range, 20 - 28, but would prefer someone older than me.
For now, I am open to long distance relationship since I don't have the funds to relocate. We could discuss it more.
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As for my hobbies, I love singing, drawing, journaling, playing some online games, or finding new interests, like new languages or random interesting topics I could find on the internet. I am shy and introverted most of the time especially when I am alone, but with my friends or like-minded people, I could be pretty energetic and talkative. I love going on adventures and travelling, though I haven't travelled much internationally. For my physical appearance, I have a mid-length dark hair and dark eyes, 164 cm, 85kg (that's 5'4 and 187 lbs), which falls under the heavier criteria here, but I am keeping my self healthy, I cook my own meals and frequent walking when I am not busy.
My Christian journey is my whole life. I was born and grew up in a Christian family. My parents went to church under the denomination of Calvinism, and I am still a member of that Church. Since I was a child, I have been taught of all the things every Christian should know of God, Christ, Sin, Salvation.. I even went to a Christian-based School, from elementary to senior high. I am a Christian, intellectually. But I know deep down, I wasn't following Christ wholly as I am attached to a sin. I prayed time and time again for God to save me from this, but I would always fall again. Until I got to university, and He took everything I am so proud of, the mortal things I rely on. I realized that I have been counting on my self, on my own strength. Not on Him. Eventually, I come to Christ, and I give Him my sins, I don't want to be bound by it anymore. I found that the strength, that could set me free from my sins, only comes from Him. I am grateful that He never left me astray, and that His Spirit would always guide me through the rough patches of my life. And I am reminded to "seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." (Matthew 6:33).
I am looking for someone whose faith is in Christ and have similar values as I do. I want someone who's open minded, but is strong in his values. A listener but also a leader. Age range, 20 - 28, but would prefer someone older than me.
For now, I am open to long distance relationship since I don't have the funds to relocate. We could discuss it more.
2024.05.15 22:36 f4ndag0 My online girlfriend is often "overstimulated" and I feel bad that we don't spend time together
So I [18M] been dating this girl [17F], I found her profile online and we clicked instantly, we went really fast and started seriously dating about a week or two ago. It's been exclusively online and it's hard to have time chatting with her due to time difference and us both being so busy with school and work. I've been sleepless just to wait for her to come back so we could chat over the evening but it's very short lived since she goes to sleep very quickly after ending her shift. the days where we're both free she ends up being "overstimulated", she's an extremely introverted one and sleeps a lot, plus she doesn't seem very stable. She never really wants to do calls, she is away a lot of the time, but then randomly comes back, we have a streak of one or two days of chatting 24/7 but then it stops suddenly. and when in this overstimulation states, she just ignores me for hours on end and we end up not talking for a day or two. I'm really attached to her and wish to spend more time with her but it just doesn't happen, due to long distance and time difference it's so difficult to keep this going and I really don't want to leave her nor look for somebody else. I work and plan on visiting her later this year but I fear it's going to end before this ever happens. I fear she's talking to somebody else or that she just does this to not hurt me, that it's all lies and all.. I'm so anxious because of this and it affects me a lot. Is there anything I can do or should I just be patient? I genuinely love her and want to get to know her better and talk more with her. I'm faithful and commit well while trying to be as understanding as possible.
TLDR: Online girlfriend and I almost don't chat often due to long distance and it's affecting me negatively and making me anxious.
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TLDR: Online girlfriend and I almost don't chat often due to long distance and it's affecting me negatively and making me anxious.
2024.05.15 22:35 Joshh170 New Switch Game Deletes Your Saves on Purpose
 | Losing save data is one of the worst things that can happen in a game, but Overmorrow, an upcoming title on the Nintendo Switch does exactly that; only this time it's on purpose. Overmorrow is an indie adventure game that erases players' progress after 30 in-game days, presenting a unique adventure with a gimmick that promises to make it all worth it. submitted by Joshh170 to GameGeeks [link] [comments] The game takes a top-down isometric view of its pixelated landscapes and characters and tasks players with solving the mysteries of the strange island on which they awaken within 30 days or lose everything and start from the beginning. Players can collect runes throughout their journey that will help them in their quest to determine what exactly is going on in this mysterious place they've found themselves in. How a Game That Wipes Your Progress Works The game launched on Steam earlier this year, but a trailer finally appeared online for the Nintendo Switch port after the developer, PixelManta, reached its Kickstarter funding goal for a multi-platform release. The trailer shows off the game's unique, pixelated art style and lo-fi, peaceful music and environments, but also confirms its official release date of May 17. While the loss of progress might seem a detriment to some, it is seemingly part of the game's story, as the island boasts mysterious powers that seem to cause time to work a little differently. As the player collects runes, they can use them to unlock more secrets and further explore the game's world in a series of fixed-camera environments but they will be in limited supply and can only be replenished through resting, which progresses the day forward. According to the game's official Nintendo eShop description, there is no official time limit for finishing the game aside from the 30-day reset, as the player will have unlimited time to explore every individual day. This means they are encouraged to see as much as they can before resting at the end of each day, but also will not be pressured to find absolutely everything over the course of its runtime. A fairly low-budget indie title, Overmorrow comes from just one solo developer by the name of Marcus Clarke, who published the title under the name Pixel Manta. Clarke funded the game through a Kickstarter campaign which exceeded its goals mere weeks after it first began. Overmorrow debuts on May 17 for the Nintendo Switch, but eager fans can always check out the Steam version, which is available now for $15.99. However, fans who pre-purchase the Switch port can enjoy a 20% discount from the original price. |
2024.05.15 22:33 psalmsweetheart is there a way to get the press release / news articles about my rape taken down?
Currently 18 living in Texas.
sorry if this is a stupid question. I was raped when I was twelve years old and it was handled by the FBI. I didn't get any updates on it and since I was in foster care at the time, the people who worked on the case couldn't really track me I suppose so I never got to testify in court or be notified of anything.
A few years ago I searched up my rapists full name to see if there was any information on him that I wasn't informed of. It was released that he attempted suicide after being caught, owes me 3,000 in restitution, and was sentenced to 17 years in a mental health prison under possession of CP. I was not made aware of any of this, but what upset me is the description the article uses for me. It says that I "engaged in sexual acts" / "had sex" with him even though I was 12. It includes details of the city I lived in at the time and the date it took place, etc. If I didn't know his full name it's honestly really likely I would've been totally unaware that I was owed money or how long his sentencing was, etc.
A lot of this is paranoia but I do sometimes get creep messages from people who found those videos of me and it just makes me uncomfortable to have my worst moment plastered online with a flashy news article. Does anyone know if there's a way to get rid of it?
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sorry if this is a stupid question. I was raped when I was twelve years old and it was handled by the FBI. I didn't get any updates on it and since I was in foster care at the time, the people who worked on the case couldn't really track me I suppose so I never got to testify in court or be notified of anything.
A few years ago I searched up my rapists full name to see if there was any information on him that I wasn't informed of. It was released that he attempted suicide after being caught, owes me 3,000 in restitution, and was sentenced to 17 years in a mental health prison under possession of CP. I was not made aware of any of this, but what upset me is the description the article uses for me. It says that I "engaged in sexual acts" / "had sex" with him even though I was 12. It includes details of the city I lived in at the time and the date it took place, etc. If I didn't know his full name it's honestly really likely I would've been totally unaware that I was owed money or how long his sentencing was, etc.
A lot of this is paranoia but I do sometimes get creep messages from people who found those videos of me and it just makes me uncomfortable to have my worst moment plastered online with a flashy news article. Does anyone know if there's a way to get rid of it?
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2024.05.15 22:30 silent-fallout- 38 f4f want to find a real connection ld is ok 👍
🇨🇦 Hey👋 let's try this out! Currently living in a small town, hence why I say long distance isn't a problem as long as it doesn't stay that way forever! I'm a carpenter, I'm into having fun on the weekends usually fairly tired and a homebody on the weekdays. For fun I like to go skiing, golf, beach, art, gardening, cooking, living healthy and going to the gym(not a gym rat just fit)...usual things, chilling with friends trying new restaurants. I like gaming but not hardcore..nothing online.
I'm just looking to get to know someone, preferably 1 person, not 10. I'm not really looking to make friends. I have plenty so I'm looking to find someone to date! I'm absolutely 💯 not into competing or sharing. Know what I want in my life. People would say I'm funny, kinda quarky/silly positive, sensitive, loyal, great at communicating, hard working...
I am only interested in femmes/chapstick cis lesbians(mascs youre lovely byt not my type🙂). If your kinda, caring, empathtic, honest, funny, good communicator, like to do cute things for one another (im a total softy) preferably not loud and center of attention type we might just get along 😊 I do have a strong preference towards people who are fit and enjoy exercise and eating healthy thats non compromisable its something I like to have in common with a partner.
Also, you must be able to prove you are who you say you are, as I can. And I don't want my time wasted, nor do I want to waste yours 🤟
DM me if it sounds like we'd get along 😊
I will instantly block you if you send me sexual messages or anything of the sort. I'm not interested in that with someone I do not know.
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I'm just looking to get to know someone, preferably 1 person, not 10. I'm not really looking to make friends. I have plenty so I'm looking to find someone to date! I'm absolutely 💯 not into competing or sharing. Know what I want in my life. People would say I'm funny, kinda quarky/silly positive, sensitive, loyal, great at communicating, hard working...
I am only interested in femmes/chapstick cis lesbians(mascs youre lovely byt not my type🙂). If your kinda, caring, empathtic, honest, funny, good communicator, like to do cute things for one another (im a total softy) preferably not loud and center of attention type we might just get along 😊 I do have a strong preference towards people who are fit and enjoy exercise and eating healthy thats non compromisable its something I like to have in common with a partner.
Also, you must be able to prove you are who you say you are, as I can. And I don't want my time wasted, nor do I want to waste yours 🤟
DM me if it sounds like we'd get along 😊
I will instantly block you if you send me sexual messages or anything of the sort. I'm not interested in that with someone I do not know.
2024.05.15 22:29 Smart_Coconut535 For trying to end a friendship of three years?
I (16M) have this friend group in my class that i sit with. I always thought i was close with them. Maybe its because they are the only people from school i talk with (This group is a 6 people group including me and all of them are the same age with me, 2 girls 4 boys).
For context, im kind of a shy guy. I dont talk much. My other classmates always call me the "quiet kid". Im only open to the people i feel comfortable with. My grades were always high and one of the bests in class, which is not a thing anymore. And im always called "naive". People also call me a formal person since i dont like joking around that much unlike other kids my age. I dont really like my looks, but im always called ugly anyway. And i spend nearly everyday sitting in my room looking at my phone or studying or playing video games, without going out.
Back to our topic, i have been in this group since the start of high school, around my age of 14. And i wasnt really bothered about anything during my first year other than a crush, which kept going until the end of second year and ended with a rejection. In my second year, i found out my friend group and some other people in our class have been playing video games online for a while until then. I wanted to join them. After trying to get them invite me for weeks, i was finally in. They had a discord server to communicate to each other and set some date to play, etc. etc. I was finally in it and was avle to join a game night. And that was my last game night with them. After then the server was dead. Maybe it was a server for one use, i thought. When i tried to join again, i was just ignored. And never got to play again.
The ignoring situation wasnt only limited with game nights. During conversations with each other, what i said was always ignored. My best friend, at least thats how i saw him as, gave more attention to other people and always ignored me. And i always felt sad whenever that happened. I got used to hearing them talk about the game they played, next to me. And the obly thing i did was to think why they never called me. I thought i proved myself to them that i can play too with that one game night. Whenever i asked questions about it, i was ignored.
I started listening to their conversations about them meeting outside school during weekends. Or sometimes weekdays after school. I always wondered to myself why they never called me. Maybe it was because they didnt think i could join them if they did call me? So i told them multiple times that they can call me too, that i can come. They said ok, and it was just one meeting during weekend. And i was never called again. Since i sit with them in class i kept listening to their conversations about their meetings i was never called to. Whenever i was to say something about it, i was ignored.
They were texting each other daily. I rarely got texts. Once in a week the best. Mostly i texted them, trying to start a conversation. Some of my texts were ignored.
During my second year, my mental health was getting worse by day and there were times i felt so overwhelmed so i decided to talk to them sometimes. Did they care? No. I mean ok, its understandable if you dont have an enough capacity to deal with some stuff. But they do care about others? Why not me? I always thought we were friends. Or at least, tried to think that way... since i had no one else.
Now, in third year, all of them still happens. They meet, im not called. They play online, im not called. They chat, im ignored. My grades are declining fastly and im failing many classes, and i feel like they are laughing at me. I feel like they are laughing at my shyness and social awkwardness like the rest of the class. They call me naive like the rest of the class.
And in this last few weeks, i found out they talk bad behind me. Not just me, about another boy too in my class who is like me. So they call me "autistic". For what? Being sad? Shy? Awkward? Ugly? After i heard about it, it was over for me. Over for the group. I have been always in a doubt for calling them friends since second year, but i still kept calling them friend because I still had fun moments with them. But no, even if that means im gonna be completely alone now, i deny to call them friends. They are not my friends. Never were. I was just tricking myself to not be lonely. But thats it. I would rather be lonely now. At least i have an online friend since few months. She is nice. She is the only person keeping me sane.
Im now distancing myself from them and going full ghost mode. I will be completely alone now. But i feel like im betraying them. Why? Why do i feel that way? They have done good stuff. But also all this i explained. It feels like im gerting hurt from this friendship. But idk if im overreacting or overthinking. They still smile to me and make up some small conversations even when im distancing myself from them now. So it makes me think, am i just overthinling as always and overreacting? Am i ending a friendship of 3 years over nothing? These days my brain is just not working so i might appreciate if i heard someone telling me if im the asshole or not.
Sorry for the long text.
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For context, im kind of a shy guy. I dont talk much. My other classmates always call me the "quiet kid". Im only open to the people i feel comfortable with. My grades were always high and one of the bests in class, which is not a thing anymore. And im always called "naive". People also call me a formal person since i dont like joking around that much unlike other kids my age. I dont really like my looks, but im always called ugly anyway. And i spend nearly everyday sitting in my room looking at my phone or studying or playing video games, without going out.
Back to our topic, i have been in this group since the start of high school, around my age of 14. And i wasnt really bothered about anything during my first year other than a crush, which kept going until the end of second year and ended with a rejection. In my second year, i found out my friend group and some other people in our class have been playing video games online for a while until then. I wanted to join them. After trying to get them invite me for weeks, i was finally in. They had a discord server to communicate to each other and set some date to play, etc. etc. I was finally in it and was avle to join a game night. And that was my last game night with them. After then the server was dead. Maybe it was a server for one use, i thought. When i tried to join again, i was just ignored. And never got to play again.
The ignoring situation wasnt only limited with game nights. During conversations with each other, what i said was always ignored. My best friend, at least thats how i saw him as, gave more attention to other people and always ignored me. And i always felt sad whenever that happened. I got used to hearing them talk about the game they played, next to me. And the obly thing i did was to think why they never called me. I thought i proved myself to them that i can play too with that one game night. Whenever i asked questions about it, i was ignored.
I started listening to their conversations about them meeting outside school during weekends. Or sometimes weekdays after school. I always wondered to myself why they never called me. Maybe it was because they didnt think i could join them if they did call me? So i told them multiple times that they can call me too, that i can come. They said ok, and it was just one meeting during weekend. And i was never called again. Since i sit with them in class i kept listening to their conversations about their meetings i was never called to. Whenever i was to say something about it, i was ignored.
They were texting each other daily. I rarely got texts. Once in a week the best. Mostly i texted them, trying to start a conversation. Some of my texts were ignored.
During my second year, my mental health was getting worse by day and there were times i felt so overwhelmed so i decided to talk to them sometimes. Did they care? No. I mean ok, its understandable if you dont have an enough capacity to deal with some stuff. But they do care about others? Why not me? I always thought we were friends. Or at least, tried to think that way... since i had no one else.
Now, in third year, all of them still happens. They meet, im not called. They play online, im not called. They chat, im ignored. My grades are declining fastly and im failing many classes, and i feel like they are laughing at me. I feel like they are laughing at my shyness and social awkwardness like the rest of the class. They call me naive like the rest of the class.
And in this last few weeks, i found out they talk bad behind me. Not just me, about another boy too in my class who is like me. So they call me "autistic". For what? Being sad? Shy? Awkward? Ugly? After i heard about it, it was over for me. Over for the group. I have been always in a doubt for calling them friends since second year, but i still kept calling them friend because I still had fun moments with them. But no, even if that means im gonna be completely alone now, i deny to call them friends. They are not my friends. Never were. I was just tricking myself to not be lonely. But thats it. I would rather be lonely now. At least i have an online friend since few months. She is nice. She is the only person keeping me sane.
Im now distancing myself from them and going full ghost mode. I will be completely alone now. But i feel like im betraying them. Why? Why do i feel that way? They have done good stuff. But also all this i explained. It feels like im gerting hurt from this friendship. But idk if im overreacting or overthinking. They still smile to me and make up some small conversations even when im distancing myself from them now. So it makes me think, am i just overthinling as always and overreacting? Am i ending a friendship of 3 years over nothing? These days my brain is just not working so i might appreciate if i heard someone telling me if im the asshole or not.
Sorry for the long text.
2024.05.15 22:29 According-Ride-8071 In notice period-feeling slightly screwed over- need advice
Hi all! I currently work for a construction company as the Human Resources Manager and have been in my role for 7 months. We’re a small company, but growing (45 employees total). I have not been here long, but during my tenure here I’ve accomplished alot for the company and the owners, and have completed multiple projects/ helped them transition during a difficult time of company ownership changes and payroll related issues. As of a month ago, I sat with the owners and explained to them that I will be moving four hours away to be closer to family, as I am currently five months pregnant, and want to have support from family. I told them I was pregnant at four weeks, so this was no shocker to them, as I’ve told them I have no relatives near me currently.
As we sat and spoke, I explained this was not me giving notice, but rather me seeking to potentially work from home full time- as my job can be completed full time from home. I explained my move date of 6/21 and that my final day in office would be 6/14. (A two month ahead notice) Completely transparent on my end. My boss laughed, and said “you know we are moving away from that”. Meaning, work from home positions. He wants everyone in house, so he can micromanage, look at the back of people’s heads, and have his ego stroked. I’ve got him figured out. Anywho- the owners stated that although this isn’t what they’d prefer, that they would consider several things and ensure to touch base with me again. The things they considered were: letting me work from home until my due date- which is September 23, and also them networking with some people they know in the area to tell them about me for future reference.
Here’s where I’m conflicted- yesterday I see the posting for my job online. It was posted a week ago yesterday and I had just found out. Meanwhile, we never spoke and they never followed up with me like they said they would regarding what their plans were with me. I feel like it’s sort of them giving me the middle finger, especially considering if they don’t plan on at least keeping me part time until my due date I need to know , as I need to find work in my new city in the interim. This ain’t the first issue of lack of communication, and I’ve actually been under the impression that the owners enjoy leaving staff in the dark, and wondering. There’s zero transparency , and as HR I tried initially to change that. I quickly realized that would not be happening , the culture has already been ingrained and unfortunately tarnished . Decided not to waste my time. I could give examples but don’t feel like typing out the stories .
I know I should go to the source - them. And discuss, but I do not trust them to give me the clarity, respect, and honesty I deserve . I expect to be frustrated and more confused . 😕
I know either way I gotta look for work to cover my own ass, but fuck. Who’s gonna hire a five month pregnant lady just for me to take leave once baby is here ? Not my companies problem, I’m just offended and I’ll be damned if they ask me to train this person just to tell me to kick rocks 6/14.
Thoughts?
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As we sat and spoke, I explained this was not me giving notice, but rather me seeking to potentially work from home full time- as my job can be completed full time from home. I explained my move date of 6/21 and that my final day in office would be 6/14. (A two month ahead notice) Completely transparent on my end. My boss laughed, and said “you know we are moving away from that”. Meaning, work from home positions. He wants everyone in house, so he can micromanage, look at the back of people’s heads, and have his ego stroked. I’ve got him figured out. Anywho- the owners stated that although this isn’t what they’d prefer, that they would consider several things and ensure to touch base with me again. The things they considered were: letting me work from home until my due date- which is September 23, and also them networking with some people they know in the area to tell them about me for future reference.
Here’s where I’m conflicted- yesterday I see the posting for my job online. It was posted a week ago yesterday and I had just found out. Meanwhile, we never spoke and they never followed up with me like they said they would regarding what their plans were with me. I feel like it’s sort of them giving me the middle finger, especially considering if they don’t plan on at least keeping me part time until my due date I need to know , as I need to find work in my new city in the interim. This ain’t the first issue of lack of communication, and I’ve actually been under the impression that the owners enjoy leaving staff in the dark, and wondering. There’s zero transparency , and as HR I tried initially to change that. I quickly realized that would not be happening , the culture has already been ingrained and unfortunately tarnished . Decided not to waste my time. I could give examples but don’t feel like typing out the stories .
I know I should go to the source - them. And discuss, but I do not trust them to give me the clarity, respect, and honesty I deserve . I expect to be frustrated and more confused . 😕
I know either way I gotta look for work to cover my own ass, but fuck. Who’s gonna hire a five month pregnant lady just for me to take leave once baby is here ? Not my companies problem, I’m just offended and I’ll be damned if they ask me to train this person just to tell me to kick rocks 6/14.
Thoughts?
2024.05.15 22:27 Zestyclose-Show8918 Your 7Sultans Online Casino FAQs Answered
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Once you’re in the user interface of your selected video, classic or Vegas-inspired slot, adjust your coin size and number, and select the amount of paylines you want to activate if the lines are not fixed. After that, you’re ready to start spinning the reels and enjoying yourself.
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Roulette is often called the king of casino games, and for very good reason. There are several RNG and live dealer variations to enjoy at 7Sultans. In both formats, the principle is the same. To play Roulette online (or in land-based establishments), you must predict where a ball will land when it is dropped onto a spinning wheel.
The wheel is divided into segments numbered from 1 to 36, and alternately coloured in black and red. A green segment is numbered 0, and in the American version an additional green panel is numbered 00. You can bet on large or wide ranges of numbers, with varying levels of odds.
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You’ll love the Baccarat games available at 7Sultans online casino. There is plenty of tradition behind the real money casino games, which are believed to have originated in Italy during the 15th century. In fact, the word Baccara is Italian for Zero!
The simple elegance of the game is what has made it so popular for so long. When you play Baccarat online, unlike with any other card game, you have no control of the hand. All you can do is bet on the outcome – will the Player hand be bigger than the Dealer hand or vice versa, or will they tie?
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Progressive jackpots are a great addition to any casino online experience. Most commonly, you’ll find progressive jackpot slots online, although 7Sultans does also feature progressive Video Poker, Roulette and a few other real money casino games.
Whatever type of progressive game you’re playing, they will be connected to a progressive network. A small portion of every bet, placed by every player, on the network, is added to a central, cumulative pot.
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Due to our AML compliance and alignment with current FATF recommendations and FIAU regulations we are at times required to establish a client’s “source of wealth” as part of our enhanced due diligence responsibilities.
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- divorce settlement and court order specifying the written settlement agreement
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2024.05.15 22:20 Visual_Recipe7154 Insignia set up on modded xbox?
Hey, so I found an xbox original for sale for 15$ at goodwill outlet. When I got home I opened and it had a copy of Gauntlet Dark Legacy in the disk tray in awesome condition.
I still have copies of halo and halo 2, and a copy of PSO so I wanted to play online from the comfort of my couch like back in the day and figured this would be a good time to purchase since it was so cheap.
The xbox has some type of mod installed called Evolution.
I'm able to save my games to the hard drive with it and play them from the hard drive.
I can also access the original xbox dashboard if I choose to.
But when watching a walk through my dash number is out of date, probably due to the mod.
Is it possible to set up insignia with a modded xbox? Any links or personal success story would be helpful. Or should I just get a second xbox?
I thought I hit the jackpot finding that xbox at goodwill for so cheap, but now I'm thinking it might not be that cool. Especially since it had a stock hard drive and I can only fit one game.
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I still have copies of halo and halo 2, and a copy of PSO so I wanted to play online from the comfort of my couch like back in the day and figured this would be a good time to purchase since it was so cheap.
The xbox has some type of mod installed called Evolution.
I'm able to save my games to the hard drive with it and play them from the hard drive.
I can also access the original xbox dashboard if I choose to.
But when watching a walk through my dash number is out of date, probably due to the mod.
Is it possible to set up insignia with a modded xbox? Any links or personal success story would be helpful. Or should I just get a second xbox?
I thought I hit the jackpot finding that xbox at goodwill for so cheap, but now I'm thinking it might not be that cool. Especially since it had a stock hard drive and I can only fit one game.
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2024.05.15 22:19 Practical-Ad983 As a woman is it really a no go to wear trainers/sneakers for a date?
I’m not a fan of wearing skirts or dresses so I’d be looking at jeans and maybe a nice blouse. I’ve not got much experience in this area and I have checked online but never see a mention of women wearing trainers on their dates. Maybe I would look too casual?
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2024.05.15 22:14 cookenupastorm Arby’s and online dating
Hello everyone I took someone’s advice on here on how to meet up with potential romantic partners. Arby’s has great sandwiches but I have had not met the woman of my dreams there yet. What is the preference for online dating apps. Thanks
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2024.05.15 22:08 Anhxtaiii Am I (28M) in the wrong here? (F27)
This might be a long read so brace yourself ...
When I'm asking if I'm being in the wrong here I only mean in terms of accountability and in regards to the situation and not so much about the wrong or right itself and would like some insight/advice basically..
Relationships Background: I met my first ex a few months ago and she gave me a speedrun of everything most couple would usually do after a few months and since I didn't know any better I just went with it since she was my first everything. It ended with her initiating the breakup after less than a month after 2 weeks of long distance after she came to visit me. She gave me the "it's not you, it's me" and "you are the first one to treat me right" (she had multiple partners). She was also a bit insecure and sensitive and needed constant reassurance.
In the case of [HER], all her exes are by products of one night stands which ended up into relationship because they all asked her for one to her surprised and she just agreed with them. She described as liking them but not really ever falling in love with them so I guess I'm the first one to be fall into that category. In [HER] case, she is highly confident about herself and in what she accomplish (makes a lot more money than the average person). She gets self gratification from making money even though she can just live off her parents wealth but she finds having nothing to do boring so she became independent.
With that in mind, here's how this story starts.
On April 3rd, I reinstall Hinge because I want to have some new connection after moving on from my ex. It's not until April 23rd when I match with [HER]. At first I was surprised since I didn't expect it so I express my surprised via text in which she later explained her side via a voice note saying that she thought I looked like one of her students so she was afraid someone would recognize her which is her fear so she never matched with me. (I sent her a total of around 4 likes because I used to delete my account and make a new one again and her acc would always show and she kinda recognize from that as well.)
After that, we just exchange a lot of voice notes talking to each other about stuff and things which later I ask if its okay for me to ask her to go out on a date at this point. She then explains she has some requirements before actually going on a date with someone, she prefers getting someone a little bit more and seeing if we're compatible before meeting since she finds it weird how most people would rush which I agreed.
From there, we talk a bit more via voice note where she asks me what's my definition of love and my concept of relationships which she said almost is the same as hers. She explained for her to fall in love for someone it would at least take her 5 years or so and that's after they're able to past the 4 stages of love described in her own way; honeymoon phase, difference, compromise and initial stage of love.
The next day we just talk some more via text and and voice notes till 2 AM and what not talking about random things and life. At this point, I thought we had some good chemistry or so. We later talk about our exes and stuff.
A few days later I then try and ask again for a date since it felt like we had established some sort of rapport and knew a bit more of each other. She then tells me more about her schedule and how busy she'll be and how she'll be traveling soon in the next 2 weeks for her school stuff. At some point she said she had a symposium she was organizing at the university and I asked if it would be weird If I came to see her.
She said she didn't mind but wouldn't have time to cater me since it would be busy. Please also note that up until this point, I didn't know her real name since in Hinge she's using some random name and I didn't really ask her about it since I guess she didn't want to but I figure me showing up to that event, I would at least find what's her name which I did.
Anyways day comes and I show up to the event, it's is a medium size classroom. I didn't recognize her at first since she had a different haircut. I didn't wanna intrude or anything so I just sat there listening to the event till the end. I didn't really get the chance to talk to her or anything by the end since they had an after party and whatnot so I decided to head home instead feeling somewhat weird? So rather than just heading straight home I just sat there on the subway train listening to music instead. I texted her saying I wished we could have spent a bit of time together but you looked so busy and what not.
After a few minutes later I decide to head out for a walk because I was just feeling weird, I then see a text from her inviting me to help with returning books to the library if I want to which I agreed. To my surprised she showed up with two luggages .. which we just walked around till we reach the library. From there, I got to finally meet her in person and talk to her for a bit. I thought we had a good time, by the end I walked her home and that was mostly. We just kinda waved to her each and say goodbye to each other. I was kinda thirsty that night so I asked her for water but she gave me some korean brand banana juice instead. I then later send her a text thanking her for inviting me to help her which she doesn't reply to.
She's usually only replies if I initiate the conversation first which then let me gaslight myself into thinking it's because she's probably busy .. anyways we text each other for a bit that night because I asked for her number later instead of using Hinge. I then get somewhat down bad and ask if I can see her again tomorrow in which she replies "what's the benefit of seeing you again tomorrow?" which I thought was funny but she was serious. She had to write her REB so I guess she didn't really have time.
It's then the weekend and on the morning of Saturday she invites me to join her to the library and then we can eat at some place later if I want to where she'll be busy working on some stuff. She emphasize that she'll be annoyed if she is disturbed while trying to get work done which I didn't mind since my work is online and I only need a laptop to work.
I showed up at the library a bit early and letting her know, she then tells me she's going to get some coffee nearby first and then meet me so I wait for her at the library. Around 30 min goes by and I start getting a bit worried because she still hasn't showed up and hasn't given me any updates at which point I text her if anything is alright or if she's safe and what not. I get no answers for a bit then later she texts me she's inside where I was on my way to the coffee so I go back inside and then we just sit near each other and focus on our work. I give her the same korean banana juice which I found later at some korean market I went by to buy before meeting her. A few hours goes by we then go to a japanese place by walking there so I get to speak with her for a bit which was nice. I then pay for the bill then walk her home and then again we just wave to each other and say goodbye.
At this point, there has been no physical affection or the sort. Her body language isn't really telling me she's comfortable so I'm not really going for it even though I'm starving for it. I figure she prefers taking things slow so I'll go at her pace. Again, I text her later thanking her for inviting me and spending some time together which I appreciate. She doesn't really reply and giving me back the same energy.
So constantly, I'm always wondering if she's interested in me or enjoy spending time with me. When I ask her about it, it most of the time gets deflected or maybe it's a language barrier and I don't always get what she means when she sends some of her texts if I'm being honest but for some reason I find it cute. it's not like she's playing hard to get but it's confusing to say the least.
Anyways, because of that, I became hesitant to make plans to see her again since she doesn't really people calling her on the phone either unless absolutely necessary she explained to which I joked saying if I'm about to die then I'll call you.
After that second "date". i just try to limit my interaction to texting her a few text daily or so because I just wanted to have some kind of interaction with her. At this point I realized this may or may not be a one-side interest but then I gaslight myself thinking, she's a busy person and still makes some time for me so surely she's interested in some way?.
After a week or so of daily interaction I decide to somewhat stop contact because I also wanted to focus on my stuff and perhaps explore my other dating options if any .. a week goes by and I never hear from her again until one day she just sends me a text that just finished working at some factory as an interpreter and that her phone will be temporarily be disabled because she'll be traveling.
I then expressed my surprised because I figured she had forgotten about me and whatnot. We then exchange a few text here and there, we both caught a cold and talked about how shitty the weather is here and stuff. Again, I'm always the one having to initiate or there won't be any contact .. like at all. So it's hard for me to know if the person is interested even when being asked so I'm left with just overthinking.
Anyways, I ask her more about what time she's leaving and what time and if she wants to spends the last 2 days eating out and spending time together and stuff.
She said she went to some resto the day before but it was busy and had no table because of mother's day. At this point, I looked up the resto because I wanted to make some reservation so we could go there but I stopped myself because I had no idea what kind of situationship this was and if I was putting more effort and not receiving any. So I ended up sleeping instead.
The next day in the morning she texts me she went back to that resto but found out it's only open on certain days for brunch so she was sad and we exchanged a few random texts from that.
then the next day, this is our last conversation this morning before she's away for the next 4 months ..
ME
Or maybe you're right, maybe I'm the problem idk..
HER
NEED OBJECTIVE OPINIONS/ADVICES? I consider myself pretty in tune with myself and my emotions but here I find myself a bit confused and I can't tell if I'm getting clingy or obsessive or too close to the situation to think clearly so I figured I'd make a post and hear some of yall thoughts on this to see if maybe I'm the one who still need to work on myself or maybe we're just not compatible? I guess it would also help me get some closure and not feel so shitty.
p.s if you made it this far, thank you for reading and hopefully you have some insight on my situation since I do not have that much experience when it comes to dating certain girls.
i also passively use twitter and saw this tweet that goes: I’ve noticed I don’t have an issue communicating. My issue is people’s responses . It’s the lack of accountability and the one-sided perceptions that I cannot tolerate.
And I thought that was kinda how I'm feeling right now but not sure ...
submitted by Anhxtaiii to dating_advice [link] [comments]
When I'm asking if I'm being in the wrong here I only mean in terms of accountability and in regards to the situation and not so much about the wrong or right itself and would like some insight/advice basically..
Relationships Background: I met my first ex a few months ago and she gave me a speedrun of everything most couple would usually do after a few months and since I didn't know any better I just went with it since she was my first everything. It ended with her initiating the breakup after less than a month after 2 weeks of long distance after she came to visit me. She gave me the "it's not you, it's me" and "you are the first one to treat me right" (she had multiple partners). She was also a bit insecure and sensitive and needed constant reassurance.
In the case of [HER], all her exes are by products of one night stands which ended up into relationship because they all asked her for one to her surprised and she just agreed with them. She described as liking them but not really ever falling in love with them so I guess I'm the first one to be fall into that category. In [HER] case, she is highly confident about herself and in what she accomplish (makes a lot more money than the average person). She gets self gratification from making money even though she can just live off her parents wealth but she finds having nothing to do boring so she became independent.
With that in mind, here's how this story starts.
On April 3rd, I reinstall Hinge because I want to have some new connection after moving on from my ex. It's not until April 23rd when I match with [HER]. At first I was surprised since I didn't expect it so I express my surprised via text in which she later explained her side via a voice note saying that she thought I looked like one of her students so she was afraid someone would recognize her which is her fear so she never matched with me. (I sent her a total of around 4 likes because I used to delete my account and make a new one again and her acc would always show and she kinda recognize from that as well.)
After that, we just exchange a lot of voice notes talking to each other about stuff and things which later I ask if its okay for me to ask her to go out on a date at this point. She then explains she has some requirements before actually going on a date with someone, she prefers getting someone a little bit more and seeing if we're compatible before meeting since she finds it weird how most people would rush which I agreed.
From there, we talk a bit more via voice note where she asks me what's my definition of love and my concept of relationships which she said almost is the same as hers. She explained for her to fall in love for someone it would at least take her 5 years or so and that's after they're able to past the 4 stages of love described in her own way; honeymoon phase, difference, compromise and initial stage of love.
The next day we just talk some more via text and and voice notes till 2 AM and what not talking about random things and life. At this point, I thought we had some good chemistry or so. We later talk about our exes and stuff.
A few days later I then try and ask again for a date since it felt like we had established some sort of rapport and knew a bit more of each other. She then tells me more about her schedule and how busy she'll be and how she'll be traveling soon in the next 2 weeks for her school stuff. At some point she said she had a symposium she was organizing at the university and I asked if it would be weird If I came to see her.
She said she didn't mind but wouldn't have time to cater me since it would be busy. Please also note that up until this point, I didn't know her real name since in Hinge she's using some random name and I didn't really ask her about it since I guess she didn't want to but I figure me showing up to that event, I would at least find what's her name which I did.
Anyways day comes and I show up to the event, it's is a medium size classroom. I didn't recognize her at first since she had a different haircut. I didn't wanna intrude or anything so I just sat there listening to the event till the end. I didn't really get the chance to talk to her or anything by the end since they had an after party and whatnot so I decided to head home instead feeling somewhat weird? So rather than just heading straight home I just sat there on the subway train listening to music instead. I texted her saying I wished we could have spent a bit of time together but you looked so busy and what not.
After a few minutes later I decide to head out for a walk because I was just feeling weird, I then see a text from her inviting me to help with returning books to the library if I want to which I agreed. To my surprised she showed up with two luggages .. which we just walked around till we reach the library. From there, I got to finally meet her in person and talk to her for a bit. I thought we had a good time, by the end I walked her home and that was mostly. We just kinda waved to her each and say goodbye to each other. I was kinda thirsty that night so I asked her for water but she gave me some korean brand banana juice instead. I then later send her a text thanking her for inviting me to help her which she doesn't reply to.
She's usually only replies if I initiate the conversation first which then let me gaslight myself into thinking it's because she's probably busy .. anyways we text each other for a bit that night because I asked for her number later instead of using Hinge. I then get somewhat down bad and ask if I can see her again tomorrow in which she replies "what's the benefit of seeing you again tomorrow?" which I thought was funny but she was serious. She had to write her REB so I guess she didn't really have time.
It's then the weekend and on the morning of Saturday she invites me to join her to the library and then we can eat at some place later if I want to where she'll be busy working on some stuff. She emphasize that she'll be annoyed if she is disturbed while trying to get work done which I didn't mind since my work is online and I only need a laptop to work.
I showed up at the library a bit early and letting her know, she then tells me she's going to get some coffee nearby first and then meet me so I wait for her at the library. Around 30 min goes by and I start getting a bit worried because she still hasn't showed up and hasn't given me any updates at which point I text her if anything is alright or if she's safe and what not. I get no answers for a bit then later she texts me she's inside where I was on my way to the coffee so I go back inside and then we just sit near each other and focus on our work. I give her the same korean banana juice which I found later at some korean market I went by to buy before meeting her. A few hours goes by we then go to a japanese place by walking there so I get to speak with her for a bit which was nice. I then pay for the bill then walk her home and then again we just wave to each other and say goodbye.
At this point, there has been no physical affection or the sort. Her body language isn't really telling me she's comfortable so I'm not really going for it even though I'm starving for it. I figure she prefers taking things slow so I'll go at her pace. Again, I text her later thanking her for inviting me and spending some time together which I appreciate. She doesn't really reply and giving me back the same energy.
So constantly, I'm always wondering if she's interested in me or enjoy spending time with me. When I ask her about it, it most of the time gets deflected or maybe it's a language barrier and I don't always get what she means when she sends some of her texts if I'm being honest but for some reason I find it cute. it's not like she's playing hard to get but it's confusing to say the least.
Anyways, because of that, I became hesitant to make plans to see her again since she doesn't really people calling her on the phone either unless absolutely necessary she explained to which I joked saying if I'm about to die then I'll call you.
After that second "date". i just try to limit my interaction to texting her a few text daily or so because I just wanted to have some kind of interaction with her. At this point I realized this may or may not be a one-side interest but then I gaslight myself thinking, she's a busy person and still makes some time for me so surely she's interested in some way?.
After a week or so of daily interaction I decide to somewhat stop contact because I also wanted to focus on my stuff and perhaps explore my other dating options if any .. a week goes by and I never hear from her again until one day she just sends me a text that just finished working at some factory as an interpreter and that her phone will be temporarily be disabled because she'll be traveling.
I then expressed my surprised because I figured she had forgotten about me and whatnot. We then exchange a few text here and there, we both caught a cold and talked about how shitty the weather is here and stuff. Again, I'm always the one having to initiate or there won't be any contact .. like at all. So it's hard for me to know if the person is interested even when being asked so I'm left with just overthinking.
Anyways, I ask her more about what time she's leaving and what time and if she wants to spends the last 2 days eating out and spending time together and stuff.
She said she went to some resto the day before but it was busy and had no table because of mother's day. At this point, I looked up the resto because I wanted to make some reservation so we could go there but I stopped myself because I had no idea what kind of situationship this was and if I was putting more effort and not receiving any. So I ended up sleeping instead.
The next day in the morning she texts me she went back to that resto but found out it's only open on certain days for brunch so she was sad and we exchanged a few random texts from that.
then the next day, this is our last conversation this morning before she's away for the next 4 months ..
ME
Will I see you again after 4 months or this is goodbye..? I feel a bit envious of your exes because they all got to be in a relationship with you and meet the girlfriend version of [HER] and all I ever got seems to be the busy version that just sends me off saying bye bye and leaving me confused most of the time with her texts haha 😅HER
? wtf you don at 6 am plus even boyfriends need to see me off for the summer. I only going for fieldwork, not leaving. don't worry, you will see me when I'm backME
I was trying to fix my sleep schedule and I ended up waking up early randomly and then you were in my thoughts idk What do you mean I'll see you after you're back, are you saying you want me to wait for you? 😭 I don't even know what we are, I figured you're too busy to think about that or me as an option so I'm left overthinking.. I would have wanted to see you off but I didn't know where we standHER
I thought you gonna visit yesterday since you askedME
I wanted to but I didn't know if you wanted me to since it seemed you wanted to go to [restaurant] I was gonna make reservations there but then I realized I might be doing too much because I don't know we're in a relationship or just buddies. Now you leave in one hour and I'm even more confusedHER
Can't you see the problem in your first 'relationship' is that you guys rush everything? In my opinion, you don't know how to form healthy relationships. Take it slow. If you want to see me, make plans. Don't moan afterwards this and that. I can tell you I have always been very busy even with boyfriends. I suggest you set goals and we can celebrate together once you achieve them. I will be back in September. You're welcome to contact me then.ME
Yes I agree that rushing was the issue in my first but in this case it's more of a mutual interest and communication. From my perspective, it seems like I'm chasing you for some reason because I'm not getting the same energy that I'm sending out. It seems you only respond if I initiate first. I'm always left wondering if you actually want to spend time with me or interested. When I ask you about that, you seem to be deflecting instead of giving me a straight answer or tell me how you feel.. I literally have no idea what you feel most of the time aside from being busyI can take it slow as a 100 years as long that I know the other person is also interested in building something together in the near future with me. I do want to make plans but it's hard to differentiate if I'm being used for my kindness or for attention when I receive no reassurance when being asked for it? Surely you understand the concept of return on investment.
Or maybe you're right, maybe I'm the problem idk..
HER
well, investment. I would say even my friends invest more on me than you, if you really want to argue that. I also think if we can't make good friends, we won't make good couples. If you rush things, I will retreat because I need my independence more than anything. Make you own choice. Do not talk like a victim.I didnt really reply anything after that because well not sure how to respond after reading that so I ended up on reddit instead.
NEED OBJECTIVE OPINIONS/ADVICES? I consider myself pretty in tune with myself and my emotions but here I find myself a bit confused and I can't tell if I'm getting clingy or obsessive or too close to the situation to think clearly so I figured I'd make a post and hear some of yall thoughts on this to see if maybe I'm the one who still need to work on myself or maybe we're just not compatible? I guess it would also help me get some closure and not feel so shitty.
p.s if you made it this far, thank you for reading and hopefully you have some insight on my situation since I do not have that much experience when it comes to dating certain girls.
i also passively use twitter and saw this tweet that goes: I’ve noticed I don’t have an issue communicating. My issue is people’s responses . It’s the lack of accountability and the one-sided perceptions that I cannot tolerate.
And I thought that was kinda how I'm feeling right now but not sure ...