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This subreddit exists to debunk urban legends and share real verifiable information from the far reaches of the Tor dark web.
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2017.03.09 19:44 mintygreen99 Stardew Memes

The sister sub of /StardewValley for memes, quest screenshots, and favorite-thing screenshots.
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2014.05.01 01:56 J0j2 Found Pieces of Paper

Photographs of found pieces of paper with writing on them, photographs or discarded cutouts. Appreciate the forgotten artifacts of everyday life. Share any paper that you found (on the ground, stuck in some bushes or between cans of soup at the store for example) and you do not know who wrote it. Love letters, doodles, interesting to-do or grocery lists, notes from the past - share your discovery with us!
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2024.05.14 14:38 DutyTop8086 How to Land Your Dream IT Job After Earning Your CompTIA Certification: A Step-by-Step Guide

  1. Finding a Job You’re Interested In
Step one is incredibly important in your job-hunting journey because you don’t want to waste your time searching, applying, and interviewing for a position you don’t actually want. You can get the same practice interviewing by going out for jobs you really want, so you have to figure this out.
Is there a particular area of IT that interests you? Maybe you don’t see yourself specializing in your work, and that’s fine. There are companies seeking IT professionals who can follow various types of projects and work closely alongside other tech experts.
Not only is becoming an IT professional a practical job choice, but it’s also dependable in terms of career growth. The demand for IT professionals has continued to steadily grow over the years, with employment for IT specialists estimated to grow by a whopping 11% in the next decade.
As an IT professional, your skills will also make you eligible for employment at businesses other than tech companies. You might also decide to teach or be your own boss as an independent contractor for IT services. An IT education displays the skills necessary to work in a wide range of occupations, including government, finance, healthcare, and more! Should you transition into another field of study, IT courses still offer an educational foundation that you can build on throughout your life.
In today’s market, careers don’t have a linear direction—instead of moving up the office positions, you may shift from one occupation to another, learning to pick up certain skills as they become more in demand. IT professionals show great career development. They have strengthened problem-solving skills, technical knowledge, and interpersonal relations, all trending job traits.
Another way to narrow down your options is to pick a city or location in which you want to work and begin searching there. You can search in nearby areas as well if the immediate city doesn’t have open positions for IT professionals. Maybe you want to find a position that is flexible, so you can work some hours remotely or on the weekends to fit your lifestyle better.
Whatever the case, once you narrow down your criteria and select some jobs you’re interested in, you can begin applying and interviewing.
  1. Getting Past the Gatekeepers
Highlight your skills and credentials to potential employers. This will help you stand out, and it showcases your credibility and skills. Accreditation ensures high-quality education and services for schools in a similar way that certification ensures high-quality job candidates.
As a graduate of the CompTIA certification program, you secure more than the necessary coursework needed to sit for various IT exams and certifications, such as the CompTIA A+, Network+, and Security+ certifications. These certifications are well-recognized in the industry and can significantly boost your employability.
Your CompTIA certification demonstrates your competence and readiness to handle IT tasks effectively. Not only is CompTIA recognized globally, but it also aligns with industry standards and expectations. Employers often look for candidates with certifications from accredited programs, as it assures them of the quality and relevance of the skills acquired.
  1. Using Temporary Agencies
Once your certification is completed, the next steps and hunt for an entry-level career begin. Temporary agencies, or staffing agencies, are one of the best and time-tested strategies in the IT hiring process.
For a short period of time, employers hire temporary workers until they have time to find a permanent employee. Temp jobs can give you experience in industries and careers you might not have otherwise thought of trying—without a long-term commitment. Furthermore, firms like Robert Half Technology are well-paying and reputable temp agencies in the IT field.
They will send you out for short-term assignments, which is an ideal amount of time to get your foot in the door for a full-time position or to gain experience in a particular field. Having a high-powered connection is the most likely way to getting hired. These include a recruiter, a temp agency, or a personal friend who has connections in the industry. If you have no connections or you haven’t made it to a recruiter’s list yet, then your best bet is to go in through a tech temp agency.
The temp process should not last longer than a year. As a result, you may want to pursue a part-time position as a temp in a firm while you are getting your degree or other qualifications. Regardless of how you get on the inside of a firm, remember the cardinal rule number two in all firms is privacy. You should avoid gossip and discussing your business, or the business of others, with those inside the firm. Use discretion when releasing any personal information. You want to make and maintain friendships while remaining professional and representing the firm you are under at all times. You never know where networking will lead you, or how it can help you get hired in the future!
  1. Interviewing for an IT Job
Before interviewing with a company or any of its representatives, you will want to remember a few important facts. IT managers are often detail-oriented and thorough. Consequently, they listen to every detail you say and weigh it in the balance of what it is they want from you. Therefore, choose your words carefully and avoid getting personal.
While you don’t want to get too personal, you also don’t want to answer questions with a simple “yes” or “no.” Explain your reasons for answering a question a certain way. Take time to answer an interviewer’s questions. If you need a minute to think before you answer, take it. You don’t want to look stuck and allow long periods of silence, but thinking about a question before you commit to an answer shows the interviewer that you care about your answers and want to be hired. If you reiterate the question back to the interviewer, you can ensure that you’ve understood them correctly and buy yourself a few more moments to consider your response.
This is a cardinal rule in negotiations: He who speaks first loses. At a time when you are seeking to negotiate a salary, view our previous IT blog post for tips on negotiating an above-average IT salary.
  1. Accepting the Job
The goal of the interview process is to be hired for the job, so this moment is exciting and probably intimidating as well. You might decide to accept the job, decline the job, or negotiate the job with pending acceptance. When you’re offered a job that you’re unsure of accepting, it’s okay to consider the offer prior to accepting or declining. If you tell the company you’d like to think about the offer, give them a date you’ll let them know by, never more than a few days. They have a position to fill and others to notify, so they can’t wait around for you to respond to their offer.
Here are some things to consider about a potential job:
Once you are offered a position and decide you’re ready to accept the job, you’ll need to let the prospective employer know. Be proactive. It’s common to wait 24 hours before accepting a job, and during that time you can ask for the offer in writing if it is not provided. Verbal offers and acceptances are okay, but written communication alleviates room for any disconnect between you and your potential employer in the scope of the job, benefits, etc. Make sure you discuss the starting date of employment. Allow yourself enough time to prepare and conclude your time with any previous employers if necessary.
Perhaps the most important reason to pursue IT certification programs is that you have all the tools to achieve a career doing what you love. IT courses provide the tools and develop the skills necessary to excel in the field. Accessible resources may include online case citation software, exercises that strengthen your technical knowledge, research and investigative skills, technology organization, and multitasking.
If you’re searching for the tools you need to earn your certification in a convenient and affordable manner, then consider reputable institutions that offer comprehensive IT programs. These institutions provide you with the complete freedom to manage your personal life, get hired at your dream job, and pursue your education—all at your own pace. Contact them today and discover how their excellence in online career training can help turn your dreams of an IT career into a reality.
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2024.05.14 14:37 ConsciousRich Goading And You

Goading is a frankly underrated mechanic in commander. The couple precons we have seen so far have leaned too much into goading to the detriment of the deck's ability to actually win the game.
I believe that for Goad to be used effectively it has to be sprinkled in a deck, not as a central theme but as a way to mitigate aggression and force your opponents to make uncomfortable choices.
To give some concrete examples I am going to talk about two decks I have built and the different ways they utilize Goading
  1. https://www.moxfield.com/decks/OGcV3Q7STUC-XYaAh2pGlg
This is a Karazikar deck, and Karazikar has all the goading you will ever need on him. Now this particular list is vaguely built around treasures and some theft, but the main idea is to put pressure on your opponents slowly, going from encouraging them to attack each other by offering the incentive of card draw, to goading their bigger creatures and finally either overwhelming them with value or just taking away their ability to fight back with cards like Painful Quandary. While the plan itself is rather mean-spirited the gameplay is a hoot! Everyone is drawing cards, casting spells and trying to get their ducks in a row before they get punched in the face by their friends
  1. https://www.moxfield.com/decks/a20CqiHOA0-oMgmPZeFZDg
This is a Firkraag deck! Goading here is a deliberate effort, you need to keep your opponent's creatures off your back while you are building up your dragons. Card draw becomes more of a challenge as you need to balance ramping, keeping your hand full and your board threatening. You take a much more active role in the game, nettling your own creatures with cards like Goblin Diplomats to trigger the card draw trigger on Firkraag, while forcing your opponents to either attack each other or send their creatures into your dragons' jaws with cards like Bident of Thassa, Public Enemy and Bothersome Quasit. If all goes according to plan, you are finish the game with a massive dragon wearing The Sound of Drums or by giving your board doublestrike with Spectacular Showdown and soaring over your opponents' blockers, and hey if you can't finish the job on that turn, their own goaded doublestriking creatures will probably do it for you
So yeah! Go out there and splash a Disrupt Decorum or a Coronation of Chaos in your decks, don't be afraid to utilize the board instead of wiping it
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2024.05.14 14:36 Prestigious-Worry644 UnitedCrafters SMP

Welcome to UnitedCrafters SMP, a vibrant and chill community for players aged 13 and up! We maintain a vanilla feel with some fantastic plugins that enhance gameplay. Claim your spot and build freely, just be mindful of others' space.
Our server, will launch once we hit 15 applications. It will runs on the newest version(not snapshot) and is here to stay. No playtime expectations; take a break for six months, and we'll still be here. Play your way - whether you're a redstoner, builder, or collector. Our economy mirrors Hermitcraft, with diamonds as the primary currency.
For Java players, we offer a alot of QOF features like double shulker shells etc more listed on our discord. Our community is welcoming and helpful to new players. Good vibes only, but we love a bit of friendly banter.
Griefing, stealing, and any behavior that ruins the fun are not tolerated. Join us to make new friends, explore builds, and discuss future plans. We're committed to growth and welcome suggestions. Our active staff team values your input.
We take pride in creating a Hermitcraft-like experience. If this sounds like your kind of server, Join the discord below to join and apply there to join UnitedCrafters SMP and be part of something big!
add me on discord instead at tyrant.exe2345.
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2024.05.14 14:36 DcraftBg A rant/question about NVMe

Hello!
Before I begin I want to say that this "rant" is more like an open ended question and doesn't specifically have to be about NVMe
I recently got some inspiration back to try out NVMe since I've always wanted to get something really basic up and running for reading and writing to disk (NVMe was a big recommendation so I wanted to try that).
The problem I'm encountering is that there's A LOT of useful documentation - both the wiki and the specification generally are pretty great at documenting things, but what I've been searching for is some useful code snippets or something that can kind of guide me towards what I need to do to start identifying namespaces. And I know what you're gonna think "This guy wants someone to write him the driver or just give him a full tutorial on it" (something already pointed out by forum members here), however that's not my intent with this. What I want is to have some code that could show me simple steps to just submitting a command and waiting on it (preferably without an IRQ handler since I'm quite the noobie and don't really know how to set the IRQ handler), even if it is just sudo code - I am the kind of person that can understand more the topic at hand if it had some code along with it (C structs to represent data for example or simple functions be implemented in sudo code). Maybe I am jumping the gutters a bit and shouldn't be trying to implement this without first understanding more how PCIe works (another thing mentioned in the wiki page is mem mapping BAR0 which I have zero clue how to do. I can allocate pages and set the BAR0 itself but I don't really see any effect from this)
I was able to get to the point where I could list information about the controller itself from BAR0, print its capabilities and version, but when it came time to submitting the Identify command the program just didn't want to work. It didn't matter if I allocated ASQ myself then set it at BAR0.ASQ or using the pre-existing one from BAR0, the doorbell for the completion queue at 0 was always just 0. Maybe I'm misinterpreting how to check if a completion entry is done or not (I didn't really get the doorbell part, except write to it when you want to submit a command)
The wiki page also mentions some stuff that aren't really covered by it (for example it talks about resetting the controller which is only really covered in the specification) and memory mapping bar0 which I couldn't find any reference to in the couple of searches I did.
I did find some resource online, mainly two things: A reddit post by ianseyler: https://www.reddit.com/osdev/comments/yy592x/successfully_wrote_a_basic_nvme_driver_in_x8664/ A C++ driver for NVME: https://github.com/hikalium/nvme_uio/blob/master Both of which would serve as useful sources but don't really apply for my case. Nvme_uio is kind of messy and abstracts a lot of the simple stuff away in a weird way and iansaylers driver is very useful but I don't want to steal his implementation and a re-write seems kind of cheap and doesn't feel like I learned what I did wrong/what I should've done.
This "rant" is more like an open end question as to:
Should I have worked on other stuff before trying to write a simple driver for NVMe? - How do you exactly "wait on a slot" for NVMe without an irq handler? Do you have to go through every entry in the completion queue or look at specific doorbells. - Have you had any similar issues with your OS and how did you manage to solve them? - Do you think adding code to wiki pages can make it more or less helpful?
Thanks for reading this.
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2024.05.14 14:35 LiahDev 20tf europe - trying to make friends and potentially writing buddies :b

You don't havvveee to be from europe but the time zone difference can be annoying. Anyway if you decide to reach out please type an into. I haven't had the greatest of time chatting with people who aren't willing to put in effort :/
My interests revolve around art in general, tho i love the 2d animation medium the most. I do have some experience with making illustrations as i was trying to work my way towards making my own animations but life stuff happened and i can't quite do that anymore. Anyway, as of late I've been getting back into writing because somehow that's less demanding on my brain (brains with depression are weird lol) and idk maybe interacting with other on writing related stuff could be fun. Idk i don't really have friends cuz dealing with depression and general burnout sucks and i barely have energy in general and I'm not really used anymore to being social and ugh life's funny like. Anyway, I'm a mess uwu. Lol anyhow, yea life is a struggle and I'm trying to make that struggle worthwhile and i find stories meaningful so yea there's only so many stories you can engage with until you can't just do that anymore and feel like you have to make your own. Or maybe im just built different like that ;3
I'm bad at "marketing" myself and posts like those feel like a gamble anyway. You might make a good friend or no one reaches out lol. So yea idk I'll give it a shot and see what happens
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2024.05.14 14:35 Ok_Letterhead_4782 Can I get some opinions on a possible unfair situation I'm dealing with?

So I just graduated from my university with my bachelor's degree (in a health profession) and will be attending the same school this fall for my masters degree. While preparing for grad school, I applied for a scholarship offered by my school and applied for a GA position, but unfortunately, I'll be starting grad school with neither. I'm obviously upset because I wasn't considered, but I also feel frustrated because of the circumstances surrounding these situations. I could use opinions on whether I'm acting irrationally because of hurt feelings or if I'm involved in a potentially unfair situation.
When I was applying for my school's masters program, I only applied to one of the merit-based scholarships that they offered. While I did do this for financial reasons (the scholarship I applied to offered the biggest financial reward), I also did this because I believed I didn't fully qualify for the other scholarships (for example, one scholarship stated it would show preference to a student that had experience and wanted to work with clients of a specific age with a specific diagnosis, and I lack experience with this demographic). So I knew that I had a small chance of receiving any scholarship money from my school, given my own decison to only apply for one. It turns out that applying didn't even matter though, as I found out that more than one person was rewarded with one of these scholarships, even though they stated themselves that they never even applied for them. How is it fair for someone to be granted a scholarship they didn't apply to? Each scholarship required letters of rec and a personal statement outlining why they'd be a good fit, personal experience, and proof of commitment towards our field. How could they get these scholarships without putting in the necessary requirements? And, of course, this made me wonder that if an application didn't matter, why wasn't I considered?
I'm also frustrated with what's been happening with the GA position. Faculty gave us a vague idea of when the applications for this position would open, but never ACTUALLY announced it to us at large. It took me checking our school's career page every week to see if applications had opened. When I asked a professor for a letter of rec for my application, they accidentally revealed that some of my other classmates had already asked for a letter, and thus, had already applied. So not only did our program fail to inform all of us of when the applications opened, but some of my own classmates knew about it and kept it to themselves. During the last week of class, I found out that I had qualified for an interview. I heavily prepared for my interview and honestly thought I did really well, but I wasn't chosen. I don't know how many other people also got an interview (it definitely wasn't everyone who applied), but I do know of some other people who got an interview, and I have a gut feeling that they might've been chosen. And tbh, if it was just them and me who made it to the interview process, I never stood a chance. I have nothing against them; they're incredibly kind and considerate people who have also worked hard to succeed in our program and extracurriculars. We all get along well even if we have our different friend groups. However, there's definitely an ounce of preferential treatment that sometimes goes their way that has been felt by myself and others. This is obviously all speculation, because I don't actually know if they're the ones who were chosen, but I was taken aback that upon hearing that I wasn't considered, some of my other classmates came to the same idea/conclusion that I did: that they must've been chosen for the positions. I can't help but wonder if they really are the ones who were chosen, and I can't stop wondering what it is that I'm lacking in comparison.
It's not like I was an irresponsible student either. I graduated with honors and a 3.86 gpa. I was part of our program's club and also served on the executive board for it. I never had a missed or late assignment and I only missed class once due to an illness that was excused. I performed well during clinicals, being given full marks by my supervisors, and more than once, my professors referenced my work ethic and diligence in succeeding in the work/expectations they gave me. Rationally, I know that they were also qualified, but given past experiences, I can't help but think that part of the reason I wasn't chosen for any of the scholarships or the position may be due to preferential treatment.
Someone please tell me if i'm reacting like a butthurt child or if my concerns are warranted. I'm more upset than anything after finding out I wasn't considered for either of these opportunities (and not knowing why), and I need to know if i'm being irrational.
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2024.05.14 14:31 Eyeball_Paul98 I explored an abandoned mill and discovered something terrible

Sneaking into supposedly haunted building late at night always sounded like a laugh, but I don't think so anymore.

My town has this old mill. There used to be a lot of farmland around here, and the mill was practically the lifeblood of the town. You wouldn't know it to look at the place now. The soil surrounding us for a good couple of miles out is dry as bone with nothing growing out of it, and the mill looks like it's falling apart. Which apparently it has been since even before it closed down a few decades ago since a series of accidents is said to have been what finally pulled the plug on the old place—accidents where people died.

Which is where all the ghost stories come from, which in turn are what led to my late-night venture into a building that looked like it would fall on top of me any moment if I brushed the wrong bit of wall. It was dumb, and the one or two friends I'd told of my plan thought I was going to get myself killed. In hindsight, they were right. But then, hindsight is 20/20, right?

The door was easy enough to force. I had the torch function on my mobile phone switched on, and I saw that the wooden door was barely there anymore. Once it was open, I was hit by a cloud of dust so thick that I nearly choked on it. I couldn't believe I was the first one to try exploring the mill since it closed down, but that's what the air was telling me as I stepped inside.

Most of it was wood just like the outside. Decades-old wooden pillars held up the ceiling, above which had to be more machinery like what I saw in this downstairs room. I won't pretend to know what any of it does, but it was rusted with age and far past its ability to perform its function. It looked heavy, though, and I immediately feared the prospect of the ceiling crashing down upon me. But, I reasoned, if it were going to do that, this place would have collapsed years ago, wouldn't it?

The thought calmed me slightly but not much. After all, it would have to fall eventually.

I was about to climb the stairs, satisfied that nothing was left to see on the ground floor, when the whisper reached me.

"Help."

I spun around, startled, to see absolutely nobody. The room was still as empty as it had been when I broke the door open. My heart raced in my chest from the start the voice had given me. "Is that someone mucking about?" I asked.

There was no answer.

I took some slow, deep breaths to calm myself down. Just my mind playing tricks on me, I thought. This place being spooky is the whole reason you came here.

Satisfied that I was alone and that the voice had been nothing more than an illusion produced by my own mind's reaction to the darkness around me, I continued on up the stairs. Each one creaked as I planted a foot upon it, and I had visions of the flimsy wood breaking beneath my weight. At least I wouldn't have far to fall.

I was right about there being more machinery on the floor above, although I still couldn't tell you what any of it was for. Well, I knew logically that it was for the process of making grain, but you know what I mean. I pointed the torch at it and saw that it was just as rusty as what was downstairs. I sighed. Nothing here but rust and dust. Not that I was expecting to find any ghosts or anything, but I was hoping for something marginally more interesting than old machinery and drifting flakes of crumbling wood.

One of the shadows to my left moved, and I bloody near toppled onto my ass, yelling.

My heart hammered away its rhythm at a quickened pace, and I pointed my light toward the area of the movement. Nothing. Just more old wood.

I was alone, but I was certain that something had moved in here.

"First your ears, now your eyes," I said to myself shakily, trying to make a joke of it. "This dark's making you lose your marbles. You're the only one here."

Only ... I found that I didn't believe that anymore.

I can't tell you what it was, but I just had an overwhelming feeling that I was no longer alone. I felt like a deer in a clearing who's just begun to suspect a tiger is watching me from the bushes. I could feel my legs tensing, preparing myself to run for the stairs.

I stood there for what felt like an hour but was in actuality only a couple of minutes. I breathed to calm myself down again and decided that I really wasn't in the right headspace for this. I was too nervous. Too ... scared. Prey instincts I didn't even know I had were kicking in, and that couldn't be healthy. I decided to leave.

I walked down the stairs, each step toward the front door coming as a relief.

Then I saw it.

A door. A door I knew hadn't been there when I'd entered the building. I remember sweeping my torch all over the room, and at no point had I seen that door in its light.

"Down here. Help."

It was the same voice as before, whispering in my ear so closely that I should have felt their breath on my lobe. But I felt nothing of the sort. A chill ran up my spine. Fuck this, I thought, and turned to charge at the exit.

It was gone.

Where once there was the front door, which I had broken open to gain entry in the first place, there was now only more wooden wall.

I could bring myself to do nothing but stand and stare for a few minutes. It wasn't possible. The door was there, I knew it was! How could it be gone? What was happening? A scream of primal fear ripped its way out of my throat, and I charged at the wooden wall. The wood was flimsy-looking and rotted and should have broken easily, but with every punch I succeeded only in making my fists ache, and with every kick all I made was noise. Noise which reached nobody but myself.

Tears of terror and frustration ran down my cheeks in rivers, and I bit my hand to keep from loudly sobbing. I was trapped.

My legs buckled beneath me as the truth of my situation finally became clear, and I sat on the dusty wooden floors, my back against the infuriatingly sturdy wooden wall, and I held my head in my hand. What do I do?

I must have sat there for hours.

The sun didn't rise. No light peaked in through the gaps between the wood planks.

"Help," the voice came again. This time it was no whisper, but a call from beyond the new door. "Down here. Help."

Well ... what else could I do but listen?

I stood up on shaky legs, bracing myself against the wall until I was sure I could stand unaided. Then I made my way over to the new door and gently pushed it open. It made a long, high-pitched creaking noise as it opened to reveal a second staircase—one that led down.

I didn't want to go down. I wanted to leave, but I couldn't. My only other option was to sit and wait for something to happen, and I thought that might drive me mad.

I went down the stairs.

Unlike the ones upstairs, these steps didn't creak as I stepped on them. In fact, my footfalls made no sound at all, which if anything was even more unsettling.

Yet that was not the most terrifying part. The part that scared me most, the part that got my heart racing so badly that I thought it'd beat its way right out of my chest, was the way the stairs just didn't end.

I must have been walking down them for a good ten minutes before the thought occurred to me. My first instinct was to run around and run back up, but somehow I knew that if I did that, I would be running up forever just as I'd be walking down forever. Maybe I was wrong, but I don't think I was.

"Keep going," the voice said, whispering from right by my ear once again. "Come down."

I could see it now, whatever was speaking to me. Only not really. I didn't see what it looked like, but I saw it there, out of the corner of my eye, walking right next to me on the stairs somehow without ever touching me. Just a dark shape that only superficially resembled a human body—and too many eyes to count, all of them glowing a dull yellow, each one blinking periodically. Its entire body covered in them.

I sped up my descent down the stairs. I knew I wouldn't find an end, but I had to get away from whatever it was that was with me. That deeply-buried prey instinct rose in me again, this time to the point of damn near screaming at me to run, run away because the predator was here.

But I couldn't get away.

No matter how much I picked up speed, it was always there, right by me.

"Yes, yes!" it cried in pleasure. There was a sort of slurping sound. "Just like that! Such delicious terror!"

I screamed.

It laughed.

And suddenly, I understood.

It was eating me, not in body but in soul. With every second of fear, I could feel myself growing weaker. I felt thinner, less substantial. At some point, I knew, I would stop existing.


I was scared, and that only fed it more of me.

But then I realised something else: there were no walls around the staircase. Just a great expanse of darkness beyond the splintered wooden bannisters on either side.

I had a way out.

I stopped running down the stairs, turned, and gripped the bannister. Without so much as thinking about the height, I launched myself over the edge.

There was a roar of pure rage loud enough to still be ringing in my eardrums now.

Then a blinding light.

It was the sun.

I sat up, and I was outside the mill again. The warmth of the sun felt glorious, and I've never been happier to find myself lying in the grass where all the bugs could crawl all over me.

I think I know why the land around our town died.

I'm moving soon. I've told everyone else they should do the same, but they aren't listening to me. I hope they come to their senses before it's too late.

Because whatever is living in the mill is hungry.

How long will it take to leave its habitat and feast properly?

I can already hear that voice again.
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2024.05.14 14:30 Petospital Can Bearded Dragons Eat Spinach? Exploring the Leafy Greens Debate

Can Bearded Dragons Eat Spinach? Unveiling the Truth Behind the Greens


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You've just brought home a delightful bearded dragon, and now comes the perplexing question – can they feast on the seemingly nutritious spinach? We delve into the leafy labyrinth to uncover the truth about whether your scaly friend can indulge in this green delight.

Nutritional Symphony of Spinach

Spinach is often hailed as a superfood for us humans, packed with vitamins and minerals. However, when it comes to our reptilian companions, the story takes a turn. Let's break down the nutritional composition of spinach, exploring its calcium, oxalate, and vitamin content, setting the stage for our bearded dragon's dining dilemma.

Can Bearded Dragons Have Spinach?

It's the million-dollar question – can bearded dragons safely indulge in spinach? We navigate through the scientific realm, unraveling the potential risks associated with oxalates and calcium binding. Buckle up as we unveil the verdict and provide insights from expert opinions and studies on this leafy matter.

The Potential Perks of Spinach for Bearded Dragons

Hold on! Before you write off spinach completely, let's explore the flip side. Are there any benefits for our bearded buddies in munching on these green leaves? We dig into potential health advantages, shedding light on the role spinach plays in providing essential vitamins and minerals. Get ready for a surprising twist in the spinach tale!

Risks and Considerations: A Cautionary Tale

It's not all sunshine and rainbows. As we embark on this leafy adventure, we uncover potential risks lurking in the shadows. From the dangers of oxalate buildup to the perils of calcium depletion, we outline the darker side of spinach consumption for bearded dragons. But fear not – we've got recommendations for moderation and a diversified diet.

Green Alternatives: A Feast Beyond Spinach

The world of greens is vast, and spinach is just one player on the stage. Join us as we list alternative vegetables suitable for bearded dragons, ensuring a diversified and balanced diet. Say goodbye to monotony and discover a palette of options to tantalize your dragon's taste buds.

How to Incorporate Spinach into the Menu

Hold your dragon reins! If you're not ready to part ways with spinach just yet, we guide you on how to incorporate it safely into your bearded dragon's diet. From serving sizes to preparation tips, we've got your dragon dining experience covered. Get ready for a culinary adventure that keeps both taste and health in mind.

Signs of Dietary Dilemmas: A Dragon's Cry for Help

How do you decipher the subtle cues your bearded dragon may throw your way, indicating a dietary dilemma? We explore the signs of both overfeeding and malnutrition, providing a roadmap to navigate the nutritional maze. Your dragon's well-being is our priority, and we're here to help you read between the scales.

The Personal Touch: A Tailored Conclusion

As we wrap up our journey through the verdant realm of spinach and bearded dragons, we leave you with a personalized touch. Drawing from personal experiences and shared emotions, we encapsulate the essence of this dietary debate. Remember, your bearded dragon is a unique companion, and their diet should reflect their individual needs.
In this conversational journey, we've demystified the spinach saga for bearded dragons, blending science with personal touchpoints. Whether you're a seasoned reptile enthusiast or a new dragon parent, this article serves as a compass in the vast landscape of dietary decisions for your scaly friend. So, go ahead, read on, and embark on this leafy adventure with your bearded companion!
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2024.05.14 14:30 glamira-reviews Oliver Rose - Ways to promote ecommerce business in better way

Oliver Rose is a reputed name in New Zealand blogging industry. Oliver Rose is also famous due to his trendy and interesting posts. In this post, Oliver Rose is sharing tips to promote ecommerce business in better way.
Promoting an eCommerce business effectively involves a combination of strategies to attract, engage, and retain customers. Here are some ways to promote your eCommerce business:
  1. Optimize Your Website: Ensure your eCommerce website is user-friendly, mobile-responsive, and optimized for search engines (SEO). Make it easy for customers to navigate, find products, and complete purchases.
  2. Create Compelling Content: Develop high-quality product descriptions, blog posts, videos, and other content that educates, entertains, and inspires your target audience. Content marketing can help drive traffic to your website and establish your brand as an authority in your industry.
  3. Social Media Marketing: Utilize social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Pinterest to showcase your products, engage with customers, and drive traffic to your website. Experiment with different types of content, including images, videos, stories, and live streams.
  4. Email Marketing: Build an email list of subscribers and send targeted email campaigns to promote your products, share news and updates, and nurture customer relationships. Personalize your emails based on customer preferences, behaviors, and purchase history to increase engagement and conversions.
  5. Influencer Marketing: Collaborate with influencers and bloggers in your niche to reach a wider audience and gain credibility. Partner with influencers who align with your brand values and have a genuine connection with their followers.
  6. Paid Advertising: Invest in pay-per-click (PPC) advertising on platforms such as Google Ads, Facebook Ads, Instagram Ads, and Pinterest Ads to target potential customers based on demographics, interests, and behavior. Monitor and optimize your ad campaigns regularly to maximize ROI.
  7. Offer Discounts and Promotions: Run special promotions, discounts, and sales to incentivize purchases and attract new customers. Create urgency by setting expiration dates and limited quantities to encourage quick action.
  8. Leverage User-Generated Content: Encourage customers to share their experiences, reviews, and photos of your products on social media and your website. User-generated content adds authenticity and social proof to your brand and helps build trust with potential customers.
  9. Optimize for Mobile: With the increasing use of smartphones for online shopping, ensure your website is optimized for mobile devices to provide a seamless shopping experience. Test your website on various devices and screen sizes to ensure compatibility.
  10. Provide Exceptional Customer Service: Deliver outstanding customer service before, during, and after the sale to build loyalty and encourage repeat business. Respond promptly to customer inquiries, address concerns, and resolve issues to ensure a positive shopping experience.
By implementing a combination of these strategies and continually measuring and optimizing your efforts, you can effectively promote your eCommerce business and drive growth and success.
Follow Oliver Rose for more such insightful posts!
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2024.05.14 14:29 tazinwonderland listless and unwanted and tired of myself

Been waking up feeling 'off' for the past week, I know its my fault because I've been smoking joints every day for the past month so now I'm putting it aside again cos it seems like I just can't have a regular relationship with it. I quit after smoking daily for months from Feb-Oct last year, then had a 2 month clean stint til mid December where I started smoking daily again pretty much immediately, then quit again for 2 months mid jan up to early april and been smoking multiple times a day since then. I keep kidding myself I can use casually but it obviously affects my studies and I'm way less inclined to be social since I just feel a bit reluctant/out of place/at loss for words when sober with people. When I'm high it's almost always by myself since I like to get in a zone for hobbies, work, whatever, so I become really introverted. I'm just pissed that I gotta do another detox cos I'm so unmotivated during them and spend hours listlessly arranging and rearranging stuff instead of working and I don't really feeling like talking to people, I have nothing to say bcos I'm dissociating. I don't even really like getting high that much, its just that I get bored so easily and it gets rid of that 'itch' for me to focus (ADHD meds help but not 100%)
Plus I was rejected by someone I had a crush on for a year after working up the guts to tell them (twice, cos the first time I was too drunk to remember anything). Which is mostly fine but my brain is clearly stuck on it anyway since I keep dreaming about kissing them even though I was rejected like 4 months ago. Kinda awkward cos we are still in the same loose friend group and coupled with my lack of confidence in socialising, my self-worth is abit lower than it could be cos I don't feel like I can act relaxed and confident around them, which I would hope sends a message that I'm not upset or hung up over it (lol I totally am but I don't want the friend group dynamic to be weird plus I enjoy their company). I'm gonna persist with quitting cos I like my sober self much better and will probably try to avoid seeing the dude, though it kind of means I'll miss hanging out with friends sometimes but I just feel so lame and unwanted when I am around him so I guess it's better that I do some work anyway
don't really need sympathy or advice but if you relate pls share your stories so I can feel a little less pathetic in mutual solidarity lol
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2024.05.14 14:28 Accountant-Funny I thought I had a business but then I change my mind

I've had this urge and interest since I've known myself to have my own thing. Not because of the money, but because it felt natural - like you know, how some people know that they will sing, act, dance - it's the same that I want to be an entrepreneur.
For the last two months I have been working on a small candle business - buying supplies, testing, attending masterclasses, learning, researching, marketing strategy, legal side, etc. and I've been talking about the journey on my TikTok.
The thing is - I am only 22 years old and yes I've liked candles and it came to me naturally (actually dont know from where it came from), but at the deep deep DEEEP down I know that it is not something I'm like willing to die over. It is purely professional (how I perceive my candle business) and considering I have a full time job, it takes time and energy to do extra stuff outside of work. Also, I noticed that this changed that I'm kind of not going all in with it and I am reluctant to spend money on it.
My dillema is that at the same time and before candle business I've been passionate about social media & marketing. I want to have a community, I want to help people optimise their profiles and sometimes help local businesses with content creation. My friends, family and strangers I've met at masterclasses for social media tell me that I have a knack for it. The downside to this is a lot of things:
  1. I'm fearful of putting myself out there - talk about this on my actual profile (Instagram,Tiktok) bc I do not count myself as an expert + my boss at work wants me to do their social media, but I said no, because I was not interested (in their social media)
  2. I've already put in energy into my candle business that now I would have to go on Tiktok basically and say that hey, I'm actually not passionate about this and would that not be such a fail? I mean I have a year's supplies of candles now.
  3. I would have to restart (but this also a good thing, but the thing is what if I change my mind AGAIN?)
  4. I'm scared to reach out to people - I see that it is easier and you face less rejection if you sell a product, versus are the face of the business literally or in some way, because with services, you market your skills and time, knowledge, energy.
  5. I feel like there are so many SMM (social media managers) already out there and I would not stand out. But then again, there are so many candle businesses.
With the candle business, I have already told some friends, and it seemed like paving the path and that if this worked, I would have a real life case study that my social media skills work (because that is how I market my product), and it is an extra income. But it feels overwhelming that I get lost and overthink over this at night. Any suggestions?
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2024.05.14 14:28 SaxInTheWorld I (25M) may be divorcing my wife (36F) of 3 months over a COVID vaccine. Is this salvageable? What would you do?

My wife and I have dated 2 years, married 3 months. For about half of that we were long distance/international. She lived in Ecuador, I met her on a trip there, and continued to go back every few months to see and take trips with her. Eventually I had her meet my family, she moved in with me in NYC for some time, and I proposed.
We were very in love. While the proposal and eventual wedding was relatively quick due to practical and immigration reasons, I still felt good about it and felt she was my person.
Now the rough parts, she has debilitating anxiety (from living in a dangerous city her whole life and a rape 12 years ago) and is anti-vax/pro sketchy naturopath medicine. I had seen her have an episode here and there but they were infrequent. Starting literally 3 days before the wedding the panic attacks got more severe and more frequent. She was hospitalized just days before the wedding with no clear trigger or solution. She had another one because of a dog we were sitting acting a little nuts and seemed like every week there would be some episode of lower severity compared to the one before the wedding. I was supportive of her through this. Not as much as her parents (who really baby her a lot). Stayed with her in ER, made her soups and teas, walked with her. Made sure she figured out insurance, got her a therapist and primary care doctor. I wasn’t the perfect husband, eventually grew tired/irritable of sleepless nights consoling her and was more distant, not sexually interested but sincerely I was trying. We became more distant after the wedding not closer. Though to be clear I never considered or committed any infidelities and would never. About the naturopath part, she knew how I felt about it. I told her as long as she would never withhold needed medicine in favor unproven natural solutions from our hypothetical child (which would be a dealbreaker and I told her this) I wouldn’t make an issue with how she chose to treat herself. She agreed and understood.
All this came to a head when we were filing for immigration paperwork for her marriage based green card. USCIS requires her have a COVID vaccine and while I knew she wouldn’t like this, I never predicted a meltdown. She had several panic attacks, went to dozens on doctors seeking one that would write her a waiver, and considered hiring a vaccine lawyer to get her a religious exemption. When it seemed none of these avenues were working, she told me would be leaving the US and likely me because she refuses to get this vaccine. That she wouldn’t get it under any circumstances. We had already finished all the paperwork, got all the letters of recommendation, and were so close.
I tried so hard to convince of the safety of the shot, showing her study after study, the relative worse dangers of COVID. In addition, the city where she’s from and would likely move back to where she is too scared to walk at night would surely trigger her anxiety way more than having to recover from the vaccine for a couple days. Once she started telling me she was considering leaving I just felt so numb. Like Jesus this is my life. Her mother and these sketchy doctors she talks to from back home convince her this vaccine will mess her up and she trusts them more than me
We’ve only been married 3 months. I spent about $15K on the wedding in NYC in January with all family and friends and now this is what it’s come to… I’m not super worried about the financial consequences of divorces at this point but damn. This woman has been my life for two years. I feel embarrassed, helpless, like an idiot to be honest. Why I didn’t see this sooner. I know this is a lot. Does this seem at all salvageable to any of you? I feel if we can just sort out her anxiety and get her this shot we’ll be off to the races but things are seeming pretty bleak
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2024.05.14 14:27 NoBreakfast3243 Deleted account? Still showing up for friends with no profile pic but name still shows in friend list

Wondering if someone could advise me on what I've done wrong please. I thought I deleted my account but my friend can still see my name, I just don't have a picture next to it in their friends list. I'm not sure what I've done or how to fix it, does this mean my account isn't deleted?
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2024.05.14 14:24 Borsten-Thorsten Team Comms

I have been playing with a lot of different friends and new people and i see everyone has their own way of communication and gameplan.
Example: me and the friend i learnt the game with would always say something when we go for the ball, and if nobody says something its on the person that made the last touch (closer to the ball) to go.
Now i have a friend who decides more on the flow of the game whether it is my ball or his to move up on and we really dont find the right way of communication, so we have a lot of double commits.
Example: i make bounce touch to the side wall to out play an enemy and wait for the ball to fly towards the middle to go up for a shot. Same moment my teammate comes from behind and goes for the shot because he thought my setup touch was a pass to him.
Or he is in goal while i am backpost and it is clear he is up for the challenge, with 2 enemys moving up to our net. he goes for the challenge the very last second before the ball goes into net. So i am afraid he is not going to challenge at all and go for the clear. I feel all these moments are just plain lack of communication, which is easy to mend when you are in discord together, he thinks its a gamesense issue.
How do you guys handle Communications?
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2024.05.14 14:23 Iranian_VoodooDoc Buying PC parts from Facebook Marketplace

Hello, I was wondering when it came to buying pc parts off of FB marketplace if there was any way for me to check if the buyer was legitimate or any way to check that the part is functional without the risk of being scammed? I understand that you can't always guarantee a safe purchase but any sort of tips on making sure I get a good deal would help!
I saw this listing which gave me a laugh, but it made me wonder what would stop someone from doing the same in a less conspicious manner.
Thanks in advance!
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2024.05.14 14:23 Original-Avocado-509 Does he m45 want to marry me f38?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year, and we've had the most romantic and passionate relationship, up until very recently at least. A few weeks ago he told me he wants to marry me and asked me to show him the kind of engagement ring I want, my ring size etc. A few nights ago whilst lying in bed he told me he has bought the ring and has it and would I like to see it. I was very confused about why he'd want to show it to me so he went on to explain that instead of it being an engagement ring, he was thinking of making it a promise ring instead because it's not expensive enough and he wants me to change a few things in my ways before proposing. I am absolutely crushed. It's my dream ring thar he had me choose and get measured for and now he doesn't want it to be an engagement at all. I feel so unwanted and hurt and confused. Could someone help me understand what could be happening here because I'm so spun out and heartbroken. Especially after getting so excited, even telling my friends what was happening and how perfect the ring was. I've been imagining how he might have proposed and after what has been a particular difficult and tragic year for me in other parts of my life (my 15 year old daughter passed away in December, I was made homeless and just two weeks ago one of my best friends died of an overdose), it was a little glimmer of happiness and something I was so looking forward to. Any opinions or advice on how I should handle this are welcome.
TL;DR!
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2024.05.14 14:23 Brutaal-sauce How do I tell people I'm ace

I need help I'm 17m and aroace and closeted and am trying to figure out the best way to come out to my family, this is a throwaway acount so nobody that knows me sees this post. Some of my friends know I'm asexual but dont know I'm also aromantic. I'm just looking for advice on how to be subtle about this process and if coming out at all is a good idea. Did you tell people you were ace or is it not really worth it.
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2024.05.14 14:23 VeryMiserable-Dummy Yeah so

Can you imagine working a job 9-5 having a stable income knowing you gonna get a paycheck if you go to work.
Or if you run your online business, having a massive income streams but not knowing how stable it is?
Thats how bitches become prostitute.
Excuse me?
Yeah you heard that right. Let me explain, a person making all her incomes online. Never worked a job before in her life, and all the sudden all her income is gone. And she resolve to prostitution man.
Real shit no lie.
You see how dangerous not being used to working a job could be? They could easily target a person by basically making her successful for a period of time. Wait till she is comfortable, and she decides to move out away from home into the free world. Then she is just a lonely lonely money bag in this massive jungle.
Real shit no lie.
Censoring out her internet at first, basically just paying her a steady paycheck. Till she is comfortable getting that money just sitting at home, and she is all booked to be on the next flight of becoming a successful prostitute.
Real shit no lie.
Yeah after hearing all that scary stuff, you must wonder. What the fuck is wrong with this world.
Yeah, I hear you. I am with you on this one, the world is a fuck up place. It used to be being happy and making friends, now you gotta look out for the one looking for you. And that's real shit no lie man.
A group of people realized they found access to make a device unusable, they have the knowledge from working with electronics. But they don't know what to do with that information.
Until one day, another person realized that knowing that information will probably get leaked one day so they looked deeper into it and made some homemade scripts to protect themselves just incase the world does end and a group of script kiddo come and destroy their shits wirelessly.
They did what they could with what they got at the time, the homemade scripts must execute without the hackers knowing, just incase he notice and rewrite it and make it worthless.
The person with these access could make the device pretty much a brick, it will connect to the internet but it won't be a legit one. Kind of confusing but basically a brick.
The homemade script will make the device disconnect multiple time to try and get a reconnection.
All this works great at the time, it was a bit battery consuming. It was not the ideal way to solve this issue. But it was working, and it was under the radar.
Until these hacker found out and reverse the scripts, now it just doesn't work.
And you know what, people are gaming nowadays. The script was designed for one of the first few smart devices. With one goal in mind, which is to get it connected to the internet at all time. Now that people are gaming with their laptops, pc etc. With this script unknowingly running without their concent. It's all just a shit shows really.
And that's real shit no lie.
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2024.05.14 14:22 Serious_Canary_6275 GIGS Syndrome or just not in love? M/32 & 29/F - 3 year relationship

Dear Reddit,
I’m, 32M, faced with a very difficult relationship dilemma. I broke up with my SO 29F last weekend but am afraid that I might suffer from GIGS syndrome (Grass is Greener Syndrome). On the other hand I always felt that there was something missing in our relationship; that I could not love her the way she loves me.
It’s often difficult for me to express my feelings for her in an affectionate way (maybe because I don’t have any?). She on the other hand is VERY touchy-feely and it makes me feel the ick sometimes.
On the plus side we have quite good sex but I can not even touch her for the life of me after I orgasmed (which hurst her very deeply). Sometimes I just put on an act and try my very best to hug/console her after sex (she can be very emotional after sex). I believe that I only lust for her now because of my healthy libido ( I do a lot of sports ). She was attractive to me the first time we met 3 years ago but now it’s just ‘Meh’. I think it’s not fair for her because she’s lovely as she is but more often than not I just don’t feel anything anymore for her.
Now in terms of compatibility; we actually get along great and we share a lot of common interests. ~Most~ of my friends and family like her and she can be good fun. She is also a great cook.
The thing is that she moved in with me 6 weeks ago and that things have taken a turn for the worst.
Her moving in really caused to put more stress and tension on the relationship as I really, really value my private space and time and to be fair also have a small apartment. On top of that she also brought her cat which she loves dearly, but I’m allergic to cats … Although for now it’s still manageable as I’m not very high on the spectrum, it still caused a lot of discussion and I felt even more bitter now towards her.
To make matters worse some family members have been trying to talk to me about this relationship, noticing that I’m not all that happy about her and should leave her if that’s the case.
I feel like a total asshole because her world is really falling apart right now since we broke up last weekend and it breaks my hear to see her so devastated. She called off work for a couple of days because she just can’t function anymore now. She has a very hard time to regulate her emotions and also has ADHD (confirmed) en anxiety disorder (unconfirmed)
It’s also important to say that we kind of had an on-off relationship the last 3 years because the ‘feelings’ issue I experience towards her always seem to come back sooner or later. Only last year we were together 1 year non stop; which was a good time.
Regarding the GIGS syndrome; I’ve read a lot about it on internet forums but I’m not quite sure if this is something that applies to me. I do have been watching more porn as of late but I do not yearn for a new relationship or meeting anyone new anytime soon. I just want have my own space again and start enjoying the new apartment that I just bought and focus more on sports and my job again. My father is handling over his company to me within a couple of years and there’s a huge responsibility on my shoulders which i think under my skin causes me also a lot of stress.
To make a long story short I think it's safe to say that we are quite compatible but that the chemistry is totally missing for me.
Do you think I made a mistake because of the stressful “moving in” situation and should try again to make it work or will this uneasy feeling I have for her always come back?
My apologies for possible languages mistakes I’m not a native speaker.
Thank you for reading.
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2024.05.14 14:21 Small-Difficulty27 the "why didn't you just leave" comment

TLDR: why did it take you a while to leave, or why havent you left yet? I want to spread awareness about this topic.
I hate when people say this to abuse victims, it is absolutely ignorant and insincere. There was another post regarding this topic not too long ago, and I had made a comment about how i'd like to start a tiktok or something of stories of why people "dont just leave" abusive situations. A few people were keen on the idea. I want more people to be aware of the reasons, and be aware that its not just as simple as "just leaving." I think bringing awareness to the issue is important.
That being said, I am not self promoting as I have basically no following but if I do start trying to share info about the topic, I need some ideas on why we "didnt just leave." I doubt it will gain traction, but ya never know.
Reasons it took me a long time:
-Financial abuse. He always had control of the money. He made me work 2-3 jobs, but I was never able to squirrel away more than $300 or so at most, then an "unexpected" bill would pop up and I would have to fork over the money
-Also financial abuse-- he ruined my credit. Getting approved for a rental is darn near impossible with ruined credit.
-His threats that if I ever left, he would keep the kids and I would be paying him child support. And that is exactly what just happened in the last few months. The abusive man I left, now has primary custody of our small children. Its a long story, but there is a lot of corruption involved.
-Fear of retaliation/smear campaign. He is a prominent figure in the community we lived in. Everyone believes him because of the amazing persona he puts out to the world; no one truly knows what its like to be with him behind closed doors.
-His threats to kill me if i left. He attempted once, so this was believable.
-Losing absolutely everything. I left everything behind but suitcases and what I could pack in my car. I realize that its just material possessions... but it is really, really hard to part with literally everything you own and start totally fresh. Is it worth it? Yes. But I had to learn to be ok with letting go of sentimental things as well. I also lost basically all of my friends. He smeared me so badly most stopped talking to me. And yes, I know, if they don't stick with me through this they probably arent true friends. Regardless, losing them is still difficult and coming to the realization that people you thought were your best friends that cannot support you, is heartbreaking.
-Lack of police support-- the night my ex tried to unalive me the police were called by neighbors. They showed up, did not question why I was soaking wet in clothes, why my fingers were 5 times the size due to being broken, they didnt even separate me from my ex to ask if i was ok. They took one look at him, asked if everything was OK, then told us to "keep it down." Once they left, my ex told me "see? even the police wont believe you." I also tried getting the police to help me obtain my items... they said its a civil matter, and if i showed up on MY property (my name is on the deed) that I would be arrested.
The list goes on. I have finally left. But I am trying to win custody of my kids back, and starting my life over while living with my parents. If you feel comfortable sharing, what barred you from "just leaving?" Why haven't you left? Why did it take a long time to leave? What obstacles did you have to overcome to leave? I will absolutely not share any names or personal details if you choose to share with me so I can try to share with the world.
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2024.05.14 14:20 Fun-Fix6487 ongoing bad experience with people taught my friend to avoid leaving home

There's general anxiety vs anxiety with good reason. This story is about the latter, and no one seems to be addressing it online...
this is a genuine post & has been going on decades.
I have a friend whom people love on the phone & by text & in emails, but as soon as they see her face people just turn on her for some reason. It messes with her social & work life in such a deep way that she's had a miserable time in jobs, ended up with depression, anxiety, and ended up hiding at home, set up her own online busines where she doesn't have to see people & is doing very well, but is lonely. She tried taking a few video calls with clients only for them to abandon her shortly afterwards. Since then she refuses to let anyone see her face, and is doing better again- not losing clients.
She has quite a pointy nose- it's just genetics I guess. People in public seem to think she looks "nasty" or like she's turning up her nose at them in disgust. She has considered surgery but can't find a surgeon able to do that specific job as it requires adding in skin / cartillage in a specific place to lower the nostril flap that can't be done apparently.
So... I don't know how to help her. I don't think this is in her mind.
I've seen the reaction of people to her & am constantly defending her.
It just upsets me that someone I love has been bullied out of society like this...
She says it takes months & months for someone to get to know her before they realise she's not a nasty person or not actually looking at them with 'superiority / disgust' - but no one will give her months to get to know her. The only reason I do is because I lived with her for a year (couldn't get out of rental contract). Her only friends are people who were forced to get to know her by renting as flatmates. It was pretty horrible until we got to know her as everyone assumed she was not nice.
I don't know the point in this post- just saying I hope one day we as the human race can stop judging by appearances less :(
I wonder how many people this affects - because I imagine there must be more like her we never or rarely see on the street due to them having a happier life hiding at home. Her life isn't happy by any means- she's lonely- but she tells me it's "not a bad" as when she tried to integrate with society.
Please no replies about it being about "confidence" or "how you see yourself" as that really isn't the case here. She's confident, kind, nice personality, and saw herself as just like everyone else, but it still leads to being misunderstood by everyone.
I know there are jokes about "RBF" and videos like that online but it's actually quite soul destroying from what I see. If we go to a shop, I sometimes have to step in to calm people down after they see her, especially if she talks to them. They think she's "smug", "arrogant"..etc.. Usually it's just nasty looks from people toward her but occassionally can get aggressive in certain areas. In every case, after they get to know her they say "she's actually really nice! I'm shocked." -
It's just a face thing.
Has anyone else experienced this or known anyone like this?
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2024.05.14 14:18 Cupidz_Snakes Scared myself, wanted to talk about it!

Sorry for the long post I didn’t want to exclude the important bits As someone who can disassociate I try to stay away from it but it slowly creeped into a storyline I’ve been barely putting together. This is an ability I came up with long ago for a different narrative and later tried to remove it from the lore as much as possible for my own mental health.
Tbf this brainstorm sesh was already way too cruel. It was about a power vamped revenge fight. It was super cool! The Mac wins by trapping our villain and using the skill ‘stillborn’ which kills an enemy within an ‘egg’ thru the pain of having their existence(s) unbirthed.
This leaves the villain who I’ll now call Tess with claustrophobia and ptsd when she respawns.
Eventually our Mc who I’ll call Elle sees Tess obviously still shaken and decides to do something about Tess’ backing. Elle then uses an illusion to make it seem like the world is closing in on Tess. When her mental state drops enough Elle’s familiar posses Tess. Elle shows her a nightmare asking about who is behind her. Tess says she won’t tell and Elle explains that no one can truly escape her grasp.
This is where things get disturbing so be warned
Tess goes back to her old life but something seems off. Everywhere she goes she hears small snippets where other people sound like Elle. When she gets to her bosses hq. She explains the fight and everything they need to worry about but their voices keeps switching to one that sounds just like Tess.
Within the story Tess has a good time and this is where a new chapter would start. We follow Tess who scared of the world of power and strength ruling over all, decides to take a brake and even meets and overcomes a fearful person from her past who she hurts and feels guilty for. And then the chapter ends except the page number goes back to just before this rather short chapter.
Tess goes back home to her mom holding a video of all the crimes she committed. Dropping to her knees crying over what
She runs back to the guild backing her but The boss breaks the ‘fourth wall’ by berating her and saying she can’t escape her which would then place them both in a white space. here elle explains that all of this was fake. We then go thru the experience of Tess running away into illusions and then waking up repeatedly. And then Tess chooses to go back home and her mom is there holding a video and her nightmare flashes before her eyes. However it is a video of a pretty field delivered by her ‘friend’. A few more flashbacks to the nightmare later and she runs to the guild but no one is there. And then someone says that this building has been empty for a few months. She goes to other guild members’ families and all her friends are missing complete with crying siblings from the affected families. The next page is the correct number and the rest of the chapter shows Elle using the memories to put the pieces together. The chapter ends with Elle doing a final snap and Tess waking up one more time before slumping over into a wall and bawling. And never trying to compete in that cruel world again. Happily never after.
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