Okay, so I’m gonna try keep this short but first of all, trigger warning for eating disorder talk of course.
TLDR: My boyfriend makes small comments on weight/calories and sometimes words things in a way that I feel restricted with eating. How do I talk to him about this?
So, when I was 13 I was diagnosed with anorexia, I struggled a lot but have been in official recovery for 4 years now, and despite some little blips my relationship with food/eating has been great. However, I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and I’ve noticed a lot of the comments he makes has affected me enough to start seriously relapsing into my ED for the first time in ages.
I know he’s struggled with binge-eating in the past, but I don’t think he’s very educated on anorexia (Not that I expect him to be) but I know he wouldn’t purposely trigger me he’s just not the best with wording. He knows I’ve been struggling with food guilt etc lately since I brought it up after he noticed I wasn’t eating as much.
Examples of triggering comments - Making comments on how many steps he’s done/how many calories he’s burnt - Telling me his weight/weighing himself in-front of me randomly - Telling me to “eat something small” which I know rationally, he means “eat something, even if it’s just something small” but again, the wording of that makes me feel confined to only eating something small even if I planned a meal - The other day we sat down to do some revision together for his upcoming exam, I brought two chocolate bars and said we can have them afterwards. During his revision I realised it wouldn’t be healthy for me to “reward” myself with food, and I also knew making a deal out of me eating would make me not want to eat. So I tried to open my chocolate bar and take me a bite during revision without making a big deal about it, in which he turned around and said “No. Put it down. You can’t eat that” Obviously I know he was just sticking to the thing I set in place, so it’s not his fault AT ALL but the wording of that made my stomach drop and then even afterwards, I couldn’t bring myself to eat it.
TO BE CLEAR, I do not hold this against him. and I fully understand this is a me issue, but I need to bring it up to him, not to pick at him, but to ask him to be slightly more mindful of his wording, I just don’t know how to work that (Ironically)

I put in an order for a Pod 4 and the post-ordering experience is pretty bad:

• Order confirmation says to download the app in order to see the order status, but the app seems to think I already received my order and jumps to "how to set up"
• As per the order confirmation email I should have received an update with regards to shipping timeline in 3 days - that didn't happen. Shipping estimate after ordering said late June.
• I can't log in to eight sleep with my user account - the website gets stuck.

Maybe it's because I'm in Europe, but the whole experience seems extremely amateurish. Nothing really works.

[TW]: insects, SH
I woke up two days ago with two itchy bites on my ankle, and it's all been a whirlwind from there. I've pretty much convinced myself that I have bedbugs living in my bed, based on the following:

1. The two bites I've described, plus some other skin irregularities/itchy patches (the latter may be imagined) I've noticed on my body.
2. A blood patch I found on my bedsheets.
3. Something I found on the floor, which I took to be a molted bed bug shell.

Now, from a rational perspective I know I'm overreacting completely. And here's why:

1. After discovering the bites, I found a mosquito in my room. Though the bites don't look like other mosquito bites I get and were somewhere that I assumed was covered by bedding while I slept. But it's still probably the mosquito, and if not, I did sit the night before in my friend's car, who recently got a dog. It's possible they could be flea bites.
2. The blood patch looked fairly old, and by Googling it seems bed bug blood patches would be smaller and darker. It's also possible either my girlfriend or I had a spot/pimple that bled in our sleep - we both have some on our back.
3. That "shell" I found was the same colour as a bed bug, but apparently their molted shells are translucent, and this one lacked any "bug parts" (antennae, legs) and had a different texture than I would expect. Could just as easily have been a seed from a bread loaf.

Nevertheless here I am tearing up my mind about bedbugs, scrutinising my mattress constantly, and washing my clothes and sheets at 60° even though I usually do 40° because it's gentler. The bedbugs subreddit does not help because everyone over there seems as anxious as me, and every "is this a bed bug/shell/egg" post gets a few yes responses despite a real diversity in the pictures posted. The thing with bed bugs is they're practically unfalsifiable: they're good at hiding, so you don't see them, their bites vary from person to person, and they can go for long periods without feeding.
Like I said, I likely don't have bedbugs. The fear stems from a budget hotel my friend booked us in to two weeks ago, which wasn't the cleanest. But I did check the mattresses there, and they seemed to pass the test. My friend actually moved on to a second hotel after I went home that did have bed bugs, and he said it was immediately noticeable. I visited India last year, and when my friend jokingly talked about bringing bedbugs home on the return flight (we didn't encounter any) the thought played on my mind for a couple weeks, but this time is more intense.
The only reprieve I get from worrying about them is when I'm distracted, like at work. I did a pretty intense yoga session yesterday and didn't think about it once, but as soon as we brought the session to a close with a meditation, they were back all over my mind.
I also know that, worse case scenario, if I did have them, I'd have to call an exterminator and be out €2000, which would be utterly shit but wouldnt kill me. It's not like the bugs can kill me or even hurt me either. I thought about calling an inspector, but I don't want to spend all that money (and probably anger my landlord) just for reassurance.
I've always been an overthinker and have struggled with anxiety throughout my life. In the past year or two, though, I've noticed some more intrusive thoughts:

1. My ex and I had a place last year and she had a cat. One day when I was leaving for work I didn't pull the door all the way closed. My ex noticed and chewed me out (another story) because it was an indoor cat. But for months afterwards this led me to coming back to the house after leaving for work (sometimes already after walking 10 minutes), coming home early, or staying home completely. At this time I also had a depressive period and my work suffered for a few months as a result.
2. After my breakup when I moved into my new place, I put a hanging plant attachment into the roof and couldn't shake the feeling I'd hit a gas line, even after my Dad (a tradesman) told me they were unlikely to be in that part of the ceiling. I left on a work trip abroad the same day and for the first day away all I thought about was returning to a blown-up apartment. I had a similar feeling when my fridge gas pipe ruptured - I thought I was gonna die in my sleep and ventilated my flat for days.
3. I'm terrified of fire, always have been, but lately I've been unplugging things every time I leave my office because I'm afraid I'll burn the whole place down. I recently quit smoking with the help of an e-cigarette, but for the first week or two I had it I was often terrified it would explode in my pocket.
4. I had an unexplainable pain in my nether regions for a few months that took A LONG TIME to diagnose (turned out to be a muscle problem). But I was constantly anxious about testicular torsion and I wondered why doctors/urologists didn't care. At one point I remember telling myself "I think you want testicular torsion just so you know you're right."
5. When I leave my house I check my balcony door is locked and that the stove is turned off, usually only once, maybe twice. Regarding unplugging things in work, I've once sent my colleague to check something in my office after I left, under false pretenses, in the hope that if something bad had happened (a fire) they would notice and catch it in time.
6. I have - very, very rarely, probably less than 5 times in my life - been consumed momentarily by thoughts of self-harm. Mostly it's fleeting like the intrusive thought I guess everyone gets occasionally, just pushing your brain to consider the worst. However, twice - once after trying SSRIs for my depressive episode and again at random more recently - I had thoughts of slitting my wrists that scared the fuck out of me and sat with me for a good few hours.

I've been in therapy before for anxiety but stopped for a while because my therapist's son got really sick and stopped all sessions. When I look at all this, written out, I'm honestly starting to convince myself that the more likely thing going on here is that I have undiagnosed mild OCD. However, these thoughts don't normally take over my whole day - I can usually get away from them if I'm distracted, and most of the time they don't bother me unrelentingly, just mildly. Also, besides the unplugging of electronics and checking of locks - which I do not do universally - I don't really think I have any compulsions.
What are your thoughts? Does it sound like anxiety or OCD experience? I'm planning to go back to therapy next month if I can (it's hard to get appointments where I live, especially in my native language), but do you have any tips for dealing with such thoughts by myself too?Many thanks for taking the time to read.

We sleep trained my daughter about 1.5 months ago using CIO and she had been sleeping wonderfully. We were getting about 11 hours of sleep straight a night. The only times she woke up were for very clear reasons, like a poopy diaper or a missed feed during the day.
The last several nights she’s woken up around 3 or 4 AM and not gone back to sleep without intervention (for an hour.) She doesn’t seem overly fussy, so I’m not sure it’s teething pain, although she is starting to teeth. She will eventually go back to sleep after she nurses, so could it be hunger? Like a growth spurt? She’s been eating and nursing the same amounts during the day. I’m afraid that I’m getting her used to MOTN feeds again by letting her nurse at night again.

wow i’m a junior now wtf
i’m tispy, bored, and its the summer and nostalgia and late night reddit stalking inspired me to revisit a2c and yap about my college admissions file. also, i found a lot of dms about my collegeresults post even two years later so maybe this can clear up some questions. also, please insert disclaimer about this being my own unique experience, but you guys have probably reach enough of those. apologies if there is any incorrect info - it’s been so long since i’ve even thought abt admissions that i don’t even remember my SAT score. if curious look at collegeresults post on profile which i am too lazy to link
i looked at my admissions file at the beginning of freshman year out of sheer and utter curiosity. honestly it was really anticlimactic, but i’m really happy that i did read it since my interview wrote a couple essays about me, and it makes me tear up and cheers me up to think about when i’m feeling pretty stressed at school.
this was during the co 2026 (hs co 2022) admissions cycle. i applied for RD.
SCORES
Overall:
R1: 3+
R2: 2-
Academics (rip the Bs bro):
R1: 2-
R2: 2-
Extracurriculars:
R1: 2
R2: 2
Athletics:
R1: 4 (LOL)
R2: 5
Personal:
R1: 2-
R2: 3+
All counselors/teacher rec: 3+
INTERVIEW:
Overall: 1 (AHHHHH)
Personal: 1
Openness to new ideas: 1
Potential to contribute to college life: 1
What kind of roommate: 1
Extracurricular: 2+
Academic: 2+
Love of learning: 1
Intellectual curiosity: 1
Intellectual originality: 1
COMMENTS
AO comments were all really positive! tldr;

• very understanding of mediocre teacher recs due to extracurricular family commitment
• very understanding of grades for same reasons
• talked about extremely busy extracurricular load and how it was impressive to juggle a lot
• wanted to interview me, really wanted to interview me
• didn’t mention my supplemental essays / make direct comments on essays

interviewer comments made me actually cry ugly tears when i first read them. he was extremely well written and wrote me an essay. highlights are that he said it was “the rare interview that ran long and didn’t feel like it had been very long at all” and that he was “confident she would make the most of her Harvard experience if she were admitted,” and i got diff tags under the interview for “diamond in the rough,” “rare and rewarding convo,” etc, god imma cry while writing this
i really think i taken advantage of the opportunities, i can’t be more thankful, and i’ve gotten to know my interviewer more now which is cool!!
i think i had strong essays, my recs were meh, grades were meh, extracurricular were alright, and the interview M A T T E R E D. i just wish i can seen yales 🙃 would’ve been so funny
i think it’s been way too long since i’ve seen my file to give my own proper opinions, so i’ll leave it at that. feel free to ask questions in comments / dm, i’ll respond until life’s business ramps up again :D i don’t really use reddit, so sorries not sorries to people i haven’t responded to 🙂‍↕️ hopefully this makes up for it

I thought my son would be the one toddler having 2 naps until 18 MO as he could barely hold a 3h WW in the mornings, but things changed from 1 day to another. I don't know if it's a regression or time for 1 nap (he's been sleeping independently from 3.5 months, didn't have to sleep train)
Our schedule was: 6.30 AM wake up 9.30 AM - 11:00 AM nap 1 2.30 PM - 3.30 PM nap 2 7 PM bedtime
Yesterday he just refused his 2nd nap, I kept him in the crib for 1h but he started to cry really hard so i just took him out. Bedtime was at 6 PM so he had a record long wake window. At 2 AM he woke up crying then put himself back to sleep. (Probably overtired, he hasn't woken up at night in months)
Today, he woke up at 7.30 AM. I tried to put him for a nap at 10 AM but he just cried and I tried at 11 AM again. He tossed and turned and eventually fell asleep 20 min later.
Is he ready for 1 nap? The schedule got thrown off with him sleeping in late today.
Thanks!

I made an account to play apex like 4 days ago (new player) and to this day i cant do anything to install the game properly...
So i just registered EA account and downloaded the usual EA app... and started downloading on 500gb free space drive to make sure it can download whatever it wants... Whenever it downloads 99% of the game at 100% its "calculating" then removes everything from install folder and starts download from 0 MB again... Whats interesting ME legendary edition (125GB) installed properly without issues... No i dont use steam...
Things i have tried:
1.Restarting all network devices at home.
2.Reinstalling whole system doesnt matter if its 10 / 11 version of windows (clean after format with drivers from windows update / manufacturer).
3.Clearing cache that they suggest to do.
4.Reinstalling the app completely with traces removed.
5.Turning off all firewalls / defenders / antiviruses / antiexploits / adding exceptions.
6.Installing origin with ea app block prevention patch.
7.Trying to install the game with origin... just gives an error after 75gb of download and starts again.
8.Using different hard drive to install the game.
So after nothing worked when i had 98% of download ready i paused it in ea app... went to the folder of apex install and copied all to make a backup... then proceeded with download... after it removed everything i copied backup to the install folder and ran origin to fix it... it removed the extension type that downloads make to make it normal files without any python scripts... then ran EA app to try to repair... after all of that its still downloading but instead of 80gb its downloading 25gb of data that its removing over and over... doesnt matter what i do... Whats bad about it is that i can stop ea app at 99% then go to old origin to hit play and game will start with EAC running and i can play 1-2 matches before it gives me engine error... Is there any way i can solve this problem? Or its impossible to play this game at all today? What can i do to even start and play the game normally?

My wedding is next month, and my fiance and I are trying to minimize the guest list as much as we can. On the invites, we have CLEARLY stated how many persons are invited to the reception, also have mentioned it's an ADULT-ONLY RECEPTION.
My father's uncle (late 80s) has three daughters, all of which are married. I will name them Tina (youngest, one 3 year old daughter), Jamie (middle, one 6 year old son), and Alexy (oldest with 2 young adult kids) for the sake of storytelling.
Two months ago, it was my bridal shower, and Tina brought her 3 year old with her without informing me beforehand (which is fine, she's 3), and then Alexy also brought her 21 year old daughter claiming "Jamie can't make it so I will get my daughter instead". This was done and over.
Now, the invites were given to them last week, we only invited my father uncle and his wife, and the three daughters with their husbands.
Yesterday, I receive a message from Alexy asking if her daughter can also attent, even though her card CLEARLY says the invitation is for 2 persons - her and her husband.
I responded saying we're on a tight number with the guest list, and that if Tina's husband who lives in Dubai can't make it, her daughter can take his place.
My father today is guilt tripping me that we shouldn't say no to their request, they're family, etc - but he's not the one paying for the wedding, my fiance is, and each guest costs us around $100.
Today, the youngest sister Tina sent a voice note, saying "I found a flower girl dress in my wardrobe, I will send you an image if you want my 3 year old to stand as a flower girl"
I never insinuated to her once that I was planning to have her daughter as my flower girl. There is only one flower girl, her dress is already decided, and even if I were to have other kids as my flower girls, there are others more close to me than her.
This bugs me because they keep trying to enforce themselves on a wedding they have no hand in planning, and nor am I that close with them. They're my father's uncle's daughters - I see them once a year at the most.
As mentioned, the event is adult-only. The only kids we are having are my fiance's niece and nephew who are the ring boy and flower girl, but something in me says these three sisters will bring their kids, and other relatives who do have kids will be offended.
I don't know how to handle this situation. Any advice?

A bit of backstory i lived in a 20 square meters apartment since high school because my parents house was too small to fit all 5 children and because im the eldest i had to move out first.I mean its not a big deal and i find a good job and rented this small apartment.After 2 years of hard work i get promoted to a new state and i earned 200000$ in the next 5 months so i was happy to finally be able to buy i house.I found a house in a nice neighborhood for a good price and it has 3 bedrooms 2 bathrooms,kitchen and big garden in the fornt.
When I moved to the new neighborhood, I was filled with optimism and hope. The house was exactly what I was looking for - peaceful, with a beautiful garden and enough space for my favorite hobby, gardening. The first few weeks everything was wonderful. My neighbors seemed friendly, except for the neighbor next to me who will call Karen.
At first I didn't pay much attention to her unfriendly looks and comments. But over time, things started to deteriorate. Karen was clearly not happy with my presence and never missed an opportunity to show it. It started with complaints about the smallest things - noise from my lawnmower when I cut the lawn, my flowers that "disrupted the aesthetics" of the neighborhood, and other such ridiculous claims.
One day, while I was working in the garden, Karen came over and started yelling that I was disturbing the peace of the neighborhood. I tried to calm her down and explain that I was just doing my job, but she wouldn't listen. This was the first sign that she was not going to be easy to deal with.
Soon after, Karen began calling the police with false accusations. He claimed that I was in my house illegally and that I was probably a criminal. When the police came, I showed them my title deeds and explained the situation. They quickly realized that Karen was making false accusations and warned her to stop complaining.
But that didn't stop her. She started sending letters to the municipality, organizing neighborhood meetings to complain about me, and spreading rumors that I had a criminal record. All this became so unbearable that I decided to take more serious measures.
One night, after Karen called the police again with false accusations, my patience ran out. I waited until late in the evening when everything was quiet. Then I approached her house and saw that she was still awake, sitting in the living room watching TV.
I knocked on her door. Karen opened the door with a smile, expecting another neighbor to complain about me. But instead, she faced me. Before she could say anything, the rage and frustration that had been building up in me was unleashed and I hit her.
Karen fell to the ground, shocked and scared. I leaned over her and told her in a low but firm voice that it was high time she stopped trying to harm me. I made it clear to her that I would not tolerate her harassment any longer and that if it continued I would go to the authorities and file a formal harassment complaint.
After this incident, Karen changed her behavior. She no longer engaged with me and even avoided contact with me. I went about my life in peace and enjoyed my garden. Although I did not condone violence, I realized that sometimes people like Karen need to be put in their place to understand that they cannot act with impunity

Hey everyone,
I've been considering investing in a water flosser lately to up my dental hygiene game. However, with so many options on the market, I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. I thought I'd turn to this forum to get some recommendations from those who have firsthand experience.
First off, why am I leaning towards a water flosser? Well, traditional flossing is great, but I find it a bit cumbersome and sometimes painful, especially around my gum line. Plus, I've heard that water flossers can be more effective at removing plaque and debris, particularly in hard-to-reach areas.
Now, onto the nitty-gritty. What features should I be looking for in a water flosser? I've done some research, and here are a few key factors I've come across:

1. Water Pressure Settings: I've seen that some water flossers offer adjustable pressure settings. Is this important? Should I prioritize a model with multiple pressure options?
2. Tank Capacity: How much water does the reservoir hold? I don't want to constantly refill it, especially if I'm flossing multiple times a day.
3. Portability: I travel quite a bit, so having a compact and portable water flosser would be ideal. Are there any travel-friendly options that still pack a punch in terms of performance?
4. Attachments: I've noticed that some water flossers come with different attachments, like specialized tips for targeting specific areas or for users with braces. Are these attachments necessary, or are there any must-have ones I should look out for?
5. Ease of Cleaning: Cleaning appliances can be a hassle, so I'm looking for a water flosser that's easy to clean and maintain. Any models that stand out in this regard?
6. Brand Reputation: Finally, I want to invest in a water flosser from a reputable brand known for quality and reliability. Are there any brands that consistently come out on top in terms of customer satisfaction?

Of course, I'm open to any additional advice or recommendations you may have based on your own experiences. Whether you're a water flosser aficionado or just starting out like me, I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Thanks in advance for your help!

Just a rant, I think.
I don't understand how functioning alcoholics exist. I can't do it.
Every single day I'm late for work because I'm sat on the john having liquid painful poops that come with an alarming "get to the bathroom NOW" feeling.
When I get here, I just sit for like 3 hours, sweating, heavy breathing, unable to think or function. I'm self employed so I don't have a boss breathing down my neck, and I work from home so I don't have to drive.
I have a constant headache. I sleep maybe 3 good hours a night, after about 2am I'm just in and out of a sweaty, hot/cold light sleep that I have to break up with 2 or 3 visits to the bathroom. My heart pounds constantly and the anxiety and fear is unreal.
Once I'm up, I overeat during the day, especially in the morning, to try and make myself feel better, so on top of the £300 a month I'm spending on wine and beer, I'm also spending a tonne on crappy food.
My day is interspersed with multiple sudden, urgent toilet visits, to once again sit writing in agony as my insides go into spasm.
None of my clothes fit, so I have to go out and get new ones all the time. I'm ballooning.
I try and quit, I make it like... 3 days maybe? I feel incredible. I've never had the bad sober sleeps or anything like that. If I didn't drink tonight I would sleep like a CHAMP... honestly like 10 hours straight, and tomorrow I'd do the same. It's always 3 days... or a weekend comes along and I'm right back to making excuses... "just this weekend" or "I'll only drink friday night". Yeah, we all know how that goes.
Anyway.
All this to say, I have recently found myself pouring my first glass of wine and saying out loud to myself "I don't even want this. I hate this." then obviously going on to sink a bottle of 13.5% wine and 4 6.5% cans of beer. So, I guess that's progress. I've identified that I don't want it. All I need to do is act on that. Man that's terrifying.
I hate that all this started with just a beer in the evening, then two, then 4, then changed it to a bottle of wine because it's cheaper... then a bottle of wine plus a beer, then two, then four.
There are no AA groups in my area, in fact the nearest one is a 45 minute drive away
It has to end.

My partner and I have been together for over 2 years. We have lived together for 1 and recently moved to another new place. We have always had good chemistry, very similar goals , interests and dreams. Besides a couple of things we are a great match. One of the things that is a big problem for me is he is not affectionate, we have had a few fights and a few calm coherent conversations where I explained to him that cuddling, occasionally offering me a light massage or hugging is huge for me, it’s like foreplay for me emotionally and by touch. He himself has his own intimacy needs that he shared with me, they are all related to sex, and I have done each and everyone of those requests even though some of them to me were just meh.
Not only have I done them, I offered to do them at certain points of our relationship myself enthusiastically to make him happy. And he has told me how much he appreciated and loved it.
But after 2 years I am still waiting to wake up one morning to him cuddling me or randomly hugging me. He will occasionally give me a kiss or quickly touch me but that’s pretty much it outside the bedroom . Few months ago I had a huge meltdown over this and told him I can’t be like this anymore, that it’s something that I lack tremendously, that I want my partner to cuddle me without asking. He got angry and defensive and shut down for days, when he came to talk after 2 days I was so angry he responded this way to me when I was hurt and vulnerable I said I didn’t want to continue. But we talked for hours and made up and he promised he will make an effort. He did for first few weeks slightly better and I hoped that progress will evolve but it has reverted back to how it was. And now I feel insecure and generally bad about myself because I have talked with him several times about this, calmly and not calmly-crying and I can no longer think he doesn’t get it but chooses not to do it
Another thing to mention is that I do most of housework, and I constantly have to ask him to do things as well, he does some easy housework without me asking, but a lot of things like cleaning toilets, fridge, bathtubs, windows, bed/towel laundry is all me. He never does it unless I ask him and because when I ask him he will reply by signing and annoyingly saying OK, I have stopped, because it feels like I pestering him.
We split the cooking id say I do 70% of that but he is a great cook. And we split finances 50-50.
This weekend I kind of had a trifecta of all these issues and ended up breaking down in tears again. First I came on to him insinuation we get busy later and he joked it off which I didn’t take seriously at that moment but nothing happened for 2 days and at the end of second day I asked him if he can cuddle me in the morning, he said yes and I asked him to promise me which he did. When I woke up he heard I was awake but didn’t come , I came out of bedroom looking upset and he realized he forgot, and said oh no sorry I forgot let’s go, at first I said just forget it, but then later we went , he spooned me while browsing with his phone and I went seriously? I didn’t really want to continue because it felt like he was doing a chore I asked him to do interrupting his phone time. So I left.
Sidenote - A week before this I asked him to go grab a small coffee table we had in our car after the move , I kept asking him all week but he never did it , so this same day I asked him again: please go grab it tomorrow I have been asking you for a week I don’t want to drive with it in my car. He again sighed and said K.
So the next day comes and by 7 pm he still hasn’t brought it upstairs so I go take up myself . He asks you need help? At that point I’m boiling inside thinking “kinda late to ask that buddy” and say no, because well I already brought it. I went into bedroom and closed the door and suddenly it all hit me: ignoring my sexual advance , forgetting to cuddle with me again then bringing his phone for the ride,forgetting the coffee table I asked him to do at least five times , I couldn’t hold back tears and waterfalls started.i know he realized I was upset but didn’t approach me, when I came to sit on a couch he asked if I was ok. I gave myself 2-3 min to calm and said: no ok you win I’m done asking you for affection I’m so tired of asking you to do things you are supposed to do as an adult, Do wtv you want I feel drained.
He interrupted raising his voice saying I told you I forgot to cuddle ! I went and cuddled with you after. To which I said ya ok with your phone in hand browsing, thanks for that special moment. And then he said I did dishes the other day. To which I replied: you took 10 minutes to load dishwasher but I literally spent 4 hours cleaning unpacking our boxes and organizing things. He raised his voice again and I said : you ask me what’s wrong I tell you and you yell at me, anything else you want to add ? He shut down. I thought F this got dressed for a walk and before I left I calmly came up and said;when I tell you how I feel you yell at me then shutdown, so let me tell you this when you are done with your silent treatment after 2-3 days don’t come talk to me, not this time. As I walking away he said “I wasn’t yelling but ok”.
I have no idea where to go from here , part of me just wants to end it because I don’t think he will ever try to fulfill my needs. Part of me wants to be manipulative, but that wouldn’t work I think. And part of me wants to tell ya let’s continue as partners / roommates as we JUST signed new lease and neither can move but to sleep separately - no intimacy.
Has anyone faced similar issues? Any ideas how I can navigate though his response ? I feel so hurt that he again chose to raise his voice rather than comfort me or apologize. I will never feel comfortable again asking him for affection at this point it would be pathetic. Besides ending it is there anything I haven’t tried that I should?

For context my husband and I knew each other before we started dating. When we were dating everything was great and he was so sweet and kind. One day while planning our wedding I found a photo of a girl naked on his phone. He explained to me that it was a mistake it was there he thought he had deleted it. I thought it was from his ex and he explain that he did not know why it was there. I decided to believe it was his ex and it was an old photo and we went on with our planning. Our wedding was nice and even our honeymoon Things started to hit rock bottom once we got back. One day I wasn’t going into work late and either was he so he slept in and I was awake. I saw a notification on his phone from the security camera pop up I decided to check it and out of curiosity I checked the rest of his phone ( big mistake). I went onto Instagram and that’s when I saw it… videos of ladies naked dancing and other videos of other ladies showing cleavage and their butts all in his Instagram saved. I could not believe it. I was devastated. I woke him up and after him lying to me multiple times why it was one there he confessed the truth. I could not believe it he had betrayed me to me in my eyes and in my opinion he had cheated. And to make things worse I was pregnant (2 months). After a lot of talking we decided to work things out. Sadly that didn’t last long.
when I was cleaning out his drawer I found and old phone I decided to put it to charge and when it charged I opened it up and to find the girls naked pictures I had found before we got married. They were screenshots from Snapchat. A random girl send him nudes offering to give more for payment. The date on those screenshots…. 3 days after he proposed to me… all I could say is my heart shattered into a million pieces. But then again I stayed because I was pregnant. I couldn’t go to my family with this. They don’t believe in divorce.. now fast forward and I find videos of girls in his watch history of tiktok and I can’t believe it but at the same time I can he has done it before. I love him but I don’t trust him . He says he never saw those videos but I’m not stupid they don’t just show up on there. It’s called a watch history for a reason. I don’t know what to do . I want to believe him but a part of me knows his lying to me. Why can’t I leave him? Why do I still love him even though he has caused me so much pain? I can’t even look back to our engagement and be happy cause all I remember are those pictures of the naked girl burned forever in my memory. We come from a no divorce belief system/ family but I don’t think I can keep doing this I feel so alone and hurt and to be honest embarrassed that this happened to me. I don’t want anyone to know that I failed, that I was betrayed.. I feel like I did something wrong.

England.
So just over 10 years ago I have been a student and living in the student accommodation. The landlord of the accommodation demanded to be paid with a cheque every 3 months so he would clear them all at the same time. I haven't stayed there for the full length of the contract due to the condition of my room and the house (there were rats and mice we were not warned about that were making holes in the walls, plus the ceiling in the room collapsed one day making the room uninhabitable with the landlord being unable to provide alternative accommodation), so the landlord allowed me to leave early without any extra fees. The landlord was quite old and was living next door to the house I was living in.
I got a message from landlords son(genuine as I had contact with him before about repairs) over Facebook the other day saying he noticed his dad (the landlord) hasn't cashed in the last cheque and it is "bouncing back" and if I can sort it.
Now I am unsure how true that is since I have stopped banking with the same bank that issued the cheque around 5 years ago and the cheque itself is over 10 years old and don't really have any way to check it. What is the best course of action here?

I had sex a day after ovulating (according to my period tracker). We use condoms + the pull out method + I check the condom after to make sure it didnt leak or break (i squeeze it and feel for any breakage). We have sex at most twice a month (my boyfriend and i live in a very religious country so having sex is often hard to plan). On the day of, I was still wet. In fact, 2 days later, I still get wet clear mucus that’s slippery. I thought I timed it right, but maybe the app wasn’t accurate. Could this be potential pregnancy discharge or am I still ovulating? Also am i potentially pregnant even with everything we did to avoid it?

several months ago, I had a mass extinction level event in my 10 gal blackwater tank, for some reason which I never figured out the PH went down from a stable 6.5 to a PH of 4 almost over night, and it seemed like nothing was spared. My school of neon tetras, 2 otos, about 20 blue neo shrimp, 4 kuhlis 2 mystery snails and a bunch of bladder snails and Planaria as well as 3 baby electric blue crayfish that I had just gotten 2 weeks prior and even the majority of live plants all gone!!
I was soo upset I decided to just completely give up on that tank and left it as is (filter and heater still running) albeit without bothering to take parameter readings for about a month until I started noticing copepods, some bladder snail babies and tiny Planaria returning to the the tank. not sure how they survive the acid apocalypse!
fast forward 2 more months to the present, and about 2 weeks ago , I was walking past the tank and I notice the water was super crystal clear and pristine, the bladder snails were thriving the Planaria were also doing well (not that I want them to) and the 2 amazon swords I had in there had gone from having sickly translucent leaves to vibrant green opaque leaves and the bigger of the two was even sending a shoot up to the surface to flower....at this point I decided to take some parameter measurements and everything check out okay....perfect parameters and it it seemed like the tank had restarted the cycle and was now ready for fish, although the PH was slightly high (for that tank) at around 7.8 PH but nothing to worry about.....I thought about restarting the hobby but my financials atm did not agree....so I continued to ignore the tank and havnt touched it since...…..
As of last Friday I noticed the tank had started to become hazy, and getting more and more opaque by the day......it is currently sooo opaque whitish yellow I cannot see the other side.....This morning i took measurements of the parameters and they are as follows:
TDS: 457 PPM
PH: 7.6........................................... Ammonia: .25 ppm
GH: 4 dH ........................................Nitrites: 0 ppm
KH: 5 dH .........................................Nitrates: 10 ppm
If im not mistaken that looks like a cycled tank to me. what is happening to my tank?? why is it so cloudy?? is this the fog of rebirth??? are my fish going to miraculously reappear in the tank after the fog clears, lol jk......but honestly im just soo confused.....
p.s. i did a 50% water change and the haziness disipated for a few hours but is now almost back to what it was before the change.....

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Hi no matter what version you advertised your server as long as you based on 4.6 this is my thought.

• 4.6 is overused and same setup every server.

Despite level limited is 55(2.7) or 60(3.0) most of the servers give starter set which meant to be given at 4.6 event with max level 65 in mind. This created unpleasant leveling experience for 2.7 and 3.0 limited content servers especially. I don't know what cause mentality that all players want to skip all leveling process to rush to max level as fast as possible. All servers have weekend exp boost drop boost in mind. This is not Aion only but most likely happening to all game servers. My opinion is this is causing FOMO (Fear of missing out)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear_of_missing_out
It's negative feeling it doesn't make players feel healthier or happier but rather forced players to stay home during weekend to play the game. It's a scumbag strategy. Let everybody enjoy your server any day not just weekend. I would support a server without exp boost weekend boost just because it gives a peace to players and slow life.

• 4.6 still plague with events

Ultima of FOMO, most of 4.6 events give the tempering solution as an ultimate prize from event. IMO tempering solution should be farmable from instances at decent rate but it was designed to be abysmal rate so they would rather hand out in events instead I can't blame this on private servers directly but rather how lame NCsoft designed this item after all. Still on some 2.7 server I see they adapted event from 4.6 change some loots. More events don't mean healthier server it just means more FOMO and more money for the server owner during more reset scrolls etc they will sell during events. I saw some servers planning to add more custom events on their servers and I was like "FUCK THEM" I'd rather playing nothing than playing a game with a ton of FOMO.

• Most players are not English speakers

Well you misunderstood if you think Euroaion are made up by English speakers population. Most are Russians. If you check out all servers. You will find most popular server is Moscow based + some influx from Chinese players during their close location to Moscow given low ping enough (I believed it's about 100ms from Hong Kong). So no Europeans do not make the most populate of server but rather Russian and no Europeans shouldn't discriminate someone solely based nationality or whatever their political of their countries. Unless they're so arrogant about it then report them and get them ban.

• All servers require VIP (at least drop rate buff) to get something decent from instances

Again this is not direct blame on private servers but rather scumbag strategy from NCsoft. They made drop rate on instances abysmal so they can sell drop rate buff. This can be simply fixed by rising drop rate permanently and don't sell VIP or drop buffs.

• Too few mounts in game too many in shop.

This is clearly P2W, Mounts obtainable in game are too few such as Kahrun, TS mounts. They should add some shop mounts in game and making them drops from 4.x instances at decent rate 5-10%. It's not a game breaking. Mounts are essential in order to chase someone or escape someone in PvP so everybody should have it not just shop.

• Remove EB/SWB from the game.

This instance do no good for anybody. It's just luna instances of 4.x. It's boring stressful no fun of it at all and potential unleash the nasty greed of human. It's better to make cera medals rewarded from Tia siege at 100% chance and from Dredgion for winning. Those are much more fun at EB. EB gears can completely removed no one will miss it if nobody can get it. So Glory Point will mainly coming from PvP.

• Make all mobs in Katalam, Danaria ,ID dropping IDE

IS/Kata should be easily access to everybody not just rich people if you can't get rid of key process of it then at least make material widely available to 4.x maps.
I have no experience about PvP in Aion so I won't comment about Arena , PvP instances anyone want to add comments about it please feel free to do so.
Conclusion if a server followed my suggestions you would see a paradise server and it doesn't even need updated content or anything it's just regular 4.6 with some modify. Read and comment if you like thank you :)

Honestly im not the best at writing, but lately but have been feeling so confused and distraught, i have lived on and off with my mother in law for the past 3 years almost, for soe context her son is my fiance and we are a gay couple, when i first moved into there household a few years ago i had some savings with me, that i had used on stuff around her house, like decorations, stuff she wanted, groceries, bills, maybe if she ever wanted anything like a dress or cosmetics, that was my first mistake, she is the type of woman who will say money doesnt matter, and proceeds to be frugal with her own money but use as she wishes of mine lets say she goes grocery shopping usually shed spend 20 dollars or 30 for a fww things but if she knows we will help her with groceries (me as my fiance didnt work in the two years i lived there)Enter
She will use 40 - 60 or even 70 suddenly money is no longer an issue and it doesnt matter only when it comes to her spending, around this time, she barely worked as she only cleaned houses, her other two sons who lived with us didnt work, and if they did it was part time and sometimes not alot, leaving me too be the bread winner for many months, 3 months by myself, 6-8 by myself, until i had an explosion and couldnt handle seeing my fiance and his whole family laugh, eat and have a good time while i worked everyday and all i did was sleep, his mother resented me, for many months saying how i was stingy and controlling with money, saying i shoulsntEnter
Be like that with THE money, never my money, or me and MY fiances money as they saw we are together so whats mine is his, saying that my money belonged to him, at the time me and him shared my financial account, and we have savings but then suddenly he see a new compurer he wanted or something on facebook marketplace and that money would go away, id save it up, itd go away, leaving too a contant cycle of him buying and re-selling stuff at a higher price too make some sort of "income" for usEnter
I couldnt handle it, while his mother resented me for calling out her sons for not working, she called me out on the littleest things, oh he doesnt drive, oh look at these crumbs he let, hes so dirty, he walks weird, why does he talk lke tat and laughing with her two sons in the kitchen at my expense, while i paid for the things theyd eat, then if i talked with her sons about something if they didnt like it theyd go back too her and just know they are only a few years younger then me, one is 22, 24 and my fiance 26, she is in her 40s and also gets angry at me because since she is from mexico cant always understand what im saying and takes it as a insult or the wrong way, a few says ago i told her while have a conservation for hours, as i always try my best too spens time with her and talk about her interests, she was talking about her hair falling out and how if shes too rough it falls out and i said, that might be because irs very thick! Alot of people with native american ancestry have really thick coarse hair, in the olden days they said it was like horse hair, its not like mine, mine is really thin, I found out that upset her alot, but at the time she was laughing about it and was like oh really, but i think now shes seeing it as a insult or whatever excuse to be mad at me, because a few days ago she began too insult me again, for context in had just moved back with them because i left for almost 8 months or so too get away from her and too help my grandparents who had stage 4 cancer, they recently passed away in December and i moved back because my family saw me more of a nuisance, just as they did with my grandparents, i was taking care of them because no one in my family didnt want too, not my uncle, not my aunt (who lived with them) not my two cousins, not my brother, only my one brother sometimes, but mostly me then my mom and that was it, eventually it got too difficult too take care of my grandparents and my aunt and uncle kicked me out because my aunt kept talking badly about me because i overselpt and there would be a day or two were i wasnt as up to beat and aware there for my grandparents but its very difficult too constantly take care of two people all day long, id usualy get 5 hours of sleep every day or less sometimes, as id also do all the chores throughout the house, my laundry my grandaprents laundry, take out the trash, cook, clean, prepare my nans bed, help her too the toliet, stuff like that, but its way more said then done, i did try my best but my aunt complained too my nan once i told my aunt i didnt need to work because its already alot too take care of my granddparents and there social security pays for most of the bills, about 60-70 % and my uncle pays for the rest, my aunt wasnt paying for anyhting shed spend her money on herself, go hiking, spend time with friends, eat out all the time, or do doordash too make more money, so because i told my aunt about this she resented me and tried getting my grandmother on her side saying that i didnt do enough, it hurt me more then you could have ever imagined i looked at my nan and said nan i do everything for you, how dare you say that too me, and because of me and my aunt fighting my uncle kicked me out, throughout 3 weeks i spent time going there to still take care of them about 3 or 4 days a week with my mother, but there health got worse, they didnt eat as much and they went into a nursing home, my grandfather then passed away a few weeks into staying at the nursing home and then a 10 days later my grandmother did as well. i then stayed with my mom who put pressure onto me working right away when she knows it take some time to get work, i applied too many places, not getting anything at all, it doesnt help my mother lives in the middle of the woods 15 minutes away from any town. and i think as i said i dont drive, and no one was willing to help me. i then lived with my brother and his fiance who took all of my money and gave me false promises of helping me find a job and driving me there, then after they got what they wanted said we dont want too drive that far for you too work evne if i gave them gas money, i then decided to go back too being at my fiances families house and it seems things are repeating themselves and i feel lost, helpless and distraught, his family treats me, as if im the bad guy, and i should accept how his mom is. do you know how painful it is too talk with her and say oh sonia! lets go get some seeds and we can plant them together! so i did, i bought them a grill too, my fiance wanted it but i know my fiance just wants me for my money and his lazy ass, he doesnt want to work anywhere and lost his job, and when i got here his other brother lost his job and his other brother is saying he wants to quit leaving me as the only one working again, im going too lock my finances and move out. but today or tomorrow i am going too church after so many years to find solice i cant handle all this, after me and his mother were happy and planted all these vegtables and squash, etc. she comes into the house and screams that i am lazy, dirty, and that i dont want too work, i already have a job, i am going for my CNA classes in 5 days, it takes two weeks and then i work but it took me a month of waiting, and this is coming from the woman who barely works. but still it hurts that i do so much for them and get nothing in return but i shouldnt care. i honestly dont know how i havent pulled every single hair out of my scalp yet, this is only a small piece of all the things that have happened and context for my situation. in the past she has also said me and my fiances relationship makes her uncomfortable and she doesnt like gay people, especially after becoming muslim. I feel like i should put more, and i might later, but i am tired.. and its overwelming too type all of this.. i guess im making this post because im just hurt and feel alone, my grandparents were all i had in my life they raised me when my mother wasnt there until about 15 or older, my mother never gave me attention even when i lived with her only until i got too the age of 18/19 after her new baby was getting older.. today my "fiance" if you wanna call him that was siding with his mother, saying how this situation between me and her gave him anxiety but before that he said hed move out with me but i know he wont. He was saying how im dramatic and how i hold grudges against his mom and after all this and all, all the stuff he made false promises woth me and agreeed with me on, it just hurt too hear him say that again, he kept saying i love you when he went too bed, i didnt respond, they are all narcissists i am debaing on seeing if i can live at my towns university for a few years getting my degree and then leave this town once i do. also because i have no where else to go.

I'm about to do day 3 of 6 of a tattoo sleeve.
I'm traveling internationally to see a pretty famous artist for this, took 3 years to get the slot and I saved up ~ a years worth of discretionary income for it.
I wasn't able to see the designs ahead of time-- I understand this, it's standard, no problem. However, when I got here and looked at the design, it seemed like the artist ignored some of my requests and also parts of it just seemed... lazy. Not like the work he has online. For example, I asked him if he could integrate a maze into the forearm somewhere, because I used to draw mazes on my friends' arm as a child and he just put a maze on the bottom that looks like it was just cut and pasted from online and doesn't even have a solution with just a big black line separating it from the rest of the tattoo (his work usually has thoughtful, flowing transitions between sections).
I told him I was still willing to begin, but only if he promised to work with me on some of the things that I didn't feel good about and he agreed.
I'm finding that the artist is not taking any kind of feedback well and is giving intense resistance and failing to be constructive with a lot of my concerns. What I would hope for in this situation is that if I tell him I don't like a part of the tattoo for my body or want something adjusted/checked, that he would take it seriously, accept it, and brainstorm some alternatives with me. However, what keeps happening is that I'll bring something up that I don't like and he'll literally just say "it has to be this way but it would be too difficult to explain it to you" or he'll ask what I want instead, and I'll come up with some ideas and he'll shut them all down.
It's pretty clear that he's annoyed with me and finds me difficult, but I feel like the things I'm asking for are reasonable e.g. "hey, I don't think these lines are actually lining up with my anatomy, can we spend 5 extra minutes to check please" kind of thing. I'm having a ton of anxiety that I'm going to end up with a very technically accomplished sleeve on my body that doesn't feel right because I was rushed through the process by someone who wasn't taking my concerns seriously. I feel stupid for going with someone who's up on a high horse about his work instead of someone maybe less technically accomplished who would sit with my concernsa and make sure that I'm getting the tattoo that I want. What can I do?