Just as the title suggests I'm seeking advice on how to get my ex back. I 32m and her 30f were in a relationship for just shy of 6 years. For context, her and I dated for about a year when I was 19. That ended with her going through psychosis and leaving me for that reason. She basically vanished, but fast forward 5/6 years, she reached out to me after I had broken up with another ex and very clearly wanted to try and get back together. For the first 4 years it was amazing, we were very in love. Covid came around and I lost my job, we then lost our apartment and wound up at my parents house. Her, myself and my 2 children lived there and over the next 2 years things devolved into regular fighting, little to no sex, her basically separating herself from me until finally pulling the trigger and leaving me last July. I suffered from a bad anger problem, and ultimately that was what drove her away from me over time. The yelling and screaming and outward anger was not healthy for her or myself. Since last July I have been in therapy and sorted a lot of shit out and have begun to heal that side of myself. I've also worked on self improvement and weight loss, ect. Really trying to change myself, because I was very unhappy with what my actions had cost me.
Thankfully we have had little to no issues co parenting and sharing custody of our daughter. She also pretty frequently will take my stepson when she has our daughter. They are still very close, her and my son. I feel like that is a good thing? But I'm unsure
So with that pretext I need advice on what to do to get her back. I've read a lot of posts on here about getting your ex back. The thing I'm stuck on is that most of those methods rely on separation and true time apart. We do not have that, since we broke up I've seen her 1 or more a week for custody exchanges. So I am unsure how to navigate this process.. I brought up the topic of her and I in late January (6 month mark) and we talked about revisiting things. Most of her answers to direct questions about her and I were answered with "I can't answer that question right now".
What do I do? She's agreed to go with both kids and I this coming weekend to an exhibit in our city that's a balloon exhibit. This will be the 1st time we have hung out since February when we were together for my daughter's birthday party. I'm happy to answer any questions that may help me get advice pointing me in the right direction.
TLDR I share a kid with my ex that I was verbally abusive to, and want her back more than anything.

Excuse if this is a little messy. I hardly use reddit, and this entire situation is stressing me out to the point of shakiness and illness. On that not, onto the story.
So, for a bit of context, I am a very, very new adult. I just graduated high school, and I've never had the best relationship with my family besides my mom and brother. I was still very distant from my mom because of some slight neglect in the past. I don't blame her for it because she's a single mom and was working a very hard job.
Extra context, my mom had also been planning a California trip. She had changed the plans every other day. Me and my fiance couldn't keep up with it, especially because he had a work venture there.
The past few months, I had been going out with my boyfriend, now fiance ( we'll call Ax ). My mom had been pretty hard on me because of this. Saying how, "I'm not home enough," and, "I need to help with (this this and this)." So, I was already getting a little fed up. I just wanted an escape from the house which is honestly not a very healthy living space due to my fairly slobbish family. Everytime I would go home she would bombard me with stuff, which I never had to do before, so it made me want out more.
I'm just going to summarize the build up by saying, there were quite a few arguments and she never seemed to listen to me. I also have a super hard time communicating my feelings and confrontation so participating in an argument is a big deal.
Now we get to the big night. The last thing we "talked" about was the California trip and how Ax's parents won't let him go if we stay at her friend's house. She got upset and stormed off. Me and Ax were upset so we went to his birth mom's ( we'll call her Cat ) house to take a break. It didn't really help. I had gotten fed up with all of the arguing and bitterness from my mom. All of the snide comments to Ax. I texted her that I was moving out and wasn't going on the California trip. ( I was moving into Cat's house. )
Now should I have texted her? Probably not, but texting helps me form my thoughts into words. I express more clearly through text, and shut down on the phone and especially in person.
She calls and I freak out and hand the phone to Ax. Mistake number 2. A bit about Ax, he is very very protective of me, especially with some of the stuff I've told him about my family and my dad. He doesn't want me to go through the same thing again. He's also a big jokester but is autistic so he doesn't really get when not to do some of his joking tones and words. They also come off as very disrespectful sometimes and he was kind of tired of her. So my mom is angry.
She tells me to come home within 5 minutes. I very shaky get in the car and we head there. We get there and she takes the keys to the car and my phone. Tells me to come inside and talk alone. Now, I get where she's coming from, but I HATE feeling cornered. I need someone else there by my side or I just shut down. It socks and makes things a lot harder with this kind of stuff. Now the rest is a but of a blur but she gets aggressive. No physical violence, but she does get in my face. I back up and she starts acussing me of telling people I'm violent though I haven't. It blurs again and suddenly I'm packing my things and leaving. My brother (15) by my side sad to see me leave this way.
The night goes by and I hear nothing from her. The next day she texts. I don't remember many of the texts, but I do remember being stressed out and not replying to things often. I tell her I need some time.
Few days go by with few texts I answer and a couple calls I don't. Then we get to church just a few days after the big night and an argument over text starts. She acusses Ax of lying, stealing, and vandalizing her car. The "lying" was a joke he made about his origins that I took seriously at first, I am a very slow person, that he had not realized I took seriously until very very later on. On the stealing, he had not stolen from some of the places acussed, but we did have a separate incident that was true. However, he's done his best to make it up and has not done anything like it since. He got punished by me and his parents. She still thinks he should've gotten worse. He's especially tried to make it up to my mom because he had lost her full trust and she was very obvious about it and still hasn't forgiven him to this day. The vandalizing was him working on the car, but not fixing it fully, because, we'll, she took the car before he could.
I talked about getting my legal documents, the entire point I was texting her in the first place, she brought up Ax herself. I misunderstood her and thought she was wanting to keep them from me so threatened legal action. I won't go deep into this because I'm not a lawyer, but ultimately it was more a threat to get my stuff. She said that I could get my stuff from the garage. Remember when I told you that my family was slobish? Yeah, I have no clue where these documents are and the garage is stacked to the sealing so it's going to take me a bit. I don't want to, but it's the only way to get my documents.
I completely give up at this point. I already said I needed a bit of time, but she continued to text. When I didn't answer email me a mental health line. The only times I would talk to her was to get my stuff. She started making facebook posts warning about toxic relationships, and how losing loved ones without making peace is terrible. This continues for a bit then stopped a couple days ago. The last thing I got, just a few hours ago, was an email. I will be quoting it word for word but changing names blah blah, you know how privacy works.
"Hi, [deadname]! I hope everything is going well for you.
I just wanted to take some time to explain some things. I wanted to tell you these things in person because it really does matter. Reading something is far different from hearing how someone says it. Arguments and misunderstandings should always be fixed in person.
First and foremost, I love you. I would do anything within my power for you. I have always been there for you and I want to continue being there. It breaks my heart that you don't want anything to do with me. I've tried to make you feel loved and supported. I've been active in your interests and activities. I even played Minecraft for you... (Haha)
I wanted to talk to you privately because we will never be able to fix things between us if someone else is involved. And honestly, it's no one else's business. I've never physically or intentionally hurt you so there is no reason to be scared to spend time with me.
What I have tried to tell you through text, is that I did not blow up because you wanted to move out. My response was that we would talk when you got home. That was not blowing up and this is why it is important to communicate in person rather than via text. I wanted to know your plans and see if I could help or add some suggestions that might help. I blew up because of the disrespect. I was being treated like I was nothing and like I've done nothing for you. I tried to explain that I wasn't mad about you wanting to move out. I'm not sure why you thought I would be since we've been talking about it for 6 months.
I apologize to you for how I handled my thoughts and feelings about [Ax]. It shouldn't have been handled that way. I'm not mad that either of you made mistakes. I was mad at the lack of taking ownership of said mistakes. I was mad that I was lied to again when I called out those mistakes.
I just want us to work through this. I love you. I will always love you. I want to help you if and when I can. I always want to be a part of your life. I am hurt that you can so easily throw away our relationship because of one argument. I am hurt that you're acting like I've done something for you to be afraid of me.
My door is always open and I'm always just a phone call away.
Love, Mom"
It makes me feel like I'm in the wrong and I'm actually unsure if I'm being to harsh on her. AITH?
TLDR; I move in with my fiancé. Arguments with mom as she acusses us of things we didn't do besides one thing. Im tired and stressed so go almost no contact. I get an email from her making me rethink my position on the matter.
Edit 1 and 2: Updates to layout of the post.

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2:22 - Why It's Important to Understand Why Narcissists Love Religion
So here's the thing about religion: religion provides a readymade context that can feed into the unhealthy things that narcissists crave the most. A narcissist has an insatiable need for admiration, affirmation, and validation, all of which are their drug of narcissistic supply. They believe themselves to be superior and grandiose, they're arrogant they lack empathy, they're exploitative, they have unreasonable demands of people. These are all traits that are opposite from the traits of Jesus Christ and yet a religious context is often the most optimal place for a narcissist to freely practice their narcissism while appearing virtuous or pious. So I'm going to share with you 10 insights into why narcissists love religion and how they use it to serve their own purposes. It's important to understand these things because Jesus warns his followers to beware of false prophets which come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. Hopefully these 10 insights will help you hack into whether or not you're dealing with a true follower or true shepherd or minister of Christ or a narcissist who is posing as one of these roles instead of being there to serve.
2:51 - #1 - The Abundance of Narcissistic Supply to be Had
The first reason why narcissists love religion is because of the abundance of narcissistic supply that could be had. It's a reality there is so much narcissistic supply to be had in religious settings and narcissistic supply. As I mentioned before is the praise admiration validation honor sense of significance that a narcissist is addicted to in order to regulate their negative emotions so a religious context provides an easy platform for a narcissist because they could get access to a stage or a pulpit or a mic or some means to exert influence where they can gain all of that admiration and praise or a sense of superiority where they can present themselves as godly or pious individuals or chosen by God or specially anointed, all of this to gain validation and attention from people. And like I mentioned all of these things are a drug that a narcissist is addicted to and it is what actually feeds them, more than actually being in a relationship with God but to the pure all things are pure so there are many people in church and religious contexts who are honest good-hearted who believe the best about others and so they can be gullible to the narcissists around them who have disguised themselves as pious people for the sake of getting narcissistic supply and this is truly an evil because a narcissist pursuit of narcissistic supply comes at the cost of destroying and stepping on other people without any regard for their welfare.
4:32 - #2 - The Allure of Control and Power
The second reason why narcissists love religion is because of the alert of control and power. Religion offers a structure of beliefs and practices that can be manipulated by narcissists to exert control over others. For example a narcissist may twist and distort doctrines and scriptures to justify their authority and demand obedience from followers they could create God in their own image, which a lot of them do rather than follow and conform themselves to the God of the Bible. This kind of control feeds into the narcissist need for domination and power and it can get to a dangerous point where religious narcissist replaces God with themselves where they subtly over time position themselves as intermediaries between individuals and God. A narcissist might manipulate followers into believing that they alone possess the ability to interpret God's will or to speak on his behalf a narcissist does this whether consciously or unconsciously to elevate themselves to a divine status in the eyes of their followers and they may never say that they are doing this outright because no person would ever accept a human saying that you have to worship them like a god but a narcissist will certainly have structures and systems in place to make this a reality. And a follower or member of that religious context might not even realize what is happening until one day they notice that this narcissist has taken on an increasingly central role in their life and is dictating their decisions and their behaviors as if they were the ultimate authority. If you notice that you might be in a spiritual environment like this or someone you love might be and you're wondering if there's spiritual abuse going on or if it's a cult I put together a checklist to help you assess that situation and you can get access to it by clicking on the link in the description box below it's a really good tool to help you identify if the religious context you're in is toxic or has turned into a cult.
6:47 - #3 - Camouflage for Manipulation
The third reason why narcissists love religion is because it serves as a camouflage for manipulation. Religious contexts serve as a perfect camouflage for narcissist to disguise their true intentions these are places where it's easy for narcissists to cloak their behaviors and demands in spiritual language where they can manipulate and exploit others while appearing righteous and virtuous at the same time. And what better setup could there be for a covert narcissist who can continue acting narcissistic while appearing like a saint in the process there's no other place except churches and ministries and religious environments.
7:29 - #4 - Their ability to exploit certain teachings for personal gain
The fourth reason why narcissists are drawn to religion is because of their ability to exploit certain teachings for personal gain. Many religious communities emphasize principles like forgiveness, redemption, giving a second chance, reconciling, turning the other cheek, submitting to authority, and narcissists exploit these teachings extensively. They may present themselves as repentant as enlightened or they could be demanding forgiveness and reconciliation from others while refusing to cultivate Christ-like virtues within themselves so all this manipulation allows them to continue exploiting others behind this facade of being Godly.
8:15 - #5 - It allows them to Idolize their Self-Image
The fifth reason why narcissists love religion is because it allows them to idolize their self-image. Narcissists often have an inflated sense of self-importance and believe that they are special or unique so religion can offer a platform to reinforce this idealized self-image where they can portray themselves as chosen by God or having special spiritual gifts or insights or anointings.
8:44 - #6 - The Lack of Accountability
The sixth reason why narcissists love religion is because of the lack of accountability. Some denominations or churches or contacts might have more accountability than others but narcissist tend to gravitate towards those religious contexts that don't have much or have very little. Many religious narcissists exploit religious settings because they perceive them to be environments where their behaviors are less likely to be questioned or challenged so this lack of accountability allows them to continue their manipulative tactics without being questioned or challenged.
9:23 - #7 - It Gives Them a Get-Out-of-Jail Free Card from Having to Self-Reflect
The seventh reason why narcissists love religion is because it gives them a get out of jail free card from having to self-reflect. Narcissists typically struggle with self-awareness and introspection so religion offers a way for them to avoid confronting their own wounds or trauma or shortcomings by focusing on outward religious performance or acquiring religious knowledge, all this outward stuff that they can focus on. It's like Jesus saying to the Pharisees they're like these whitewashed tombs; they look beautiful and nice on the outside but inside they're full of dead man's bones. The attraction to religion allows a narcissist to spiritually bypass themselves where they can use all kinds of spiritual language like it's all washed by the blood or things like that to avoid dealing with deeper unresolved trauma within themselves and getting healed from it because there is power in Christ for healing but you have to do the work.
10:26 - #8 - Entitled and Exploit People in those Contexts
The eighth reason why narcissists love religion is is because it's easy for them to be entitled and to exploit people in these contexts in religious settings. Narcissists may feel entitled to special treatment or privileges due to their perceived spiritual status they might exploit others trust and vulnerability for their own personal gain and control narcissists may expect people to serve them like a slave free of charge for instance because they believe that they have a God-like status or they might expect people to hand their wealth over to them or neglect their own families in order to put the narcissist first all in the name of God.
11:09 - #9 - They Can Create a God in Their Own Image
The ninth reason why narcissists love religion is because they can create a God in their own image. Narcissists are not interested in cultivating Godly virtues within themselves as I mentioned before they would rather project their own traits onto God viewing him as judgmental, angry, or traits that resonate more with their narcissistic personality, more than who God actually is. And this kind of behavior allows narcissists to maintain a sense of superiority and justification for their actions.
11:43 - #10 - The Facade of Moral Superiority
The 10th reason why narcissist love religion is the facade of moral superiority religion provides narcissists with this platform to project a false sense of being moral or virtuous or Godly. And they can create this facade by practicing all the religious rituals and portray themselves in a certain way in front of people like this upstanding citizen, but in reality they could be practicing all kinds of dark deeds in private without people knowing hiding their true intentions all with this mask of piety and so that can serve very well for many narcissists and to enable them to continue their dark practices is in secret while people are believing that they are this Godly pious person and that is actually a very hypocritical way to live and Jesus actually condemned these kinds of practices because that is what the religious leaders were doing in Biblical times but many narcissists gravitate towards religious settings in order to be able to continue living out this hypocritical lifestyle.
So understanding why narcissists are drawn to religion is really important in order to recognize and address the manipulation that can happen in churches and ministries while many churches and ministries promote cultivating Christ-like qualities. Sadly those same places attract narcissist to them because of opportunities it presents for control and admiration and validation but hopefully by being aware of these dynamics we can hopefully discern between genuine spiritual leaders and those who are using religion to drive their own ego-driven motives. Remember Jesus warned against the false prophets so hopefully by applying these insights we can navigate relationships in churches and ministries and operate with God's wisdom and discernment where we can be as shrewd as a snake and as innocent as a dove.

I found 4 bikes that I think would be good for what I'd want and need, such as:
-bike touring compatible
-all terrain appropriate
-needs to handle a heavy load
-long battery (lithium)
We originally decided to try backpacking and my husband saw some bikes and wanted to switch it up to bike touring instead. I'm a cave dweller, walking 5-10 miles a day was gonna be interesting, with 25-30 lbs in gear, and probably a child for parts as well, also missing a few luxuries like a fan. Biking traditionally doesn't seem like the best course of action, and so decided on an ebike. Added bonus of carrying more than 30 lbs of gear, but also the 80 lbs in kids. I want to really like this activity and my bike, as well as knowing this is a wonderful life skill to be able to do and pass on.
How well be using the bike:
-anywhere from 3-14 days
-very hot and humid most days of the year
-civilization is always close
-be used in a pinch to hightail us away from a bear if I had a broken leg and couldn't peddle (husband was bear food, so just me and children)
-motor breaks and I can still peddle like a regular bike with no restistance
Thank you for any and all help!! Any other info on maybe getting another battery or if I'd need a portable charger or types of touring equipment or child carts best suited for an ebike would also be greatly appreciated.
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Hi everyone, I'm in a very unique and challenging situation and could use any help possible. Things I share about my experience may sound contradictory but everything is somehow simultaneously true.
For the sake of brevity, I will try not to go extensively into how I feel certain the man I am dating is who I will marry. The best way I can explain is that I feel the Lord has allowed me to perceive that He has been preparing us for marriage. A few details I can give:
There are deeply personal ways 'C' and I fit together that would be very rare to find in another person, things that only God would know about each of us. Things God urged us to talk about early on.
We have had intense seasons of God purging past sin and healing traumas throughout our relationship. In all this time, we have been acknowledging Him and avoiding sin. We still have not kissed (we are 31 & 38).
And lastly, on our third date I had a supernatural experience. He put his arm around me for the first time as we sat on the couch and in that moment, we were existing as husband and wife. I don't know how to explain it other than we were husband and wife. This supernatural experience of existing as something we weren't was more real than the literal fact that we were just two people who were dating.
We have now been together just over 2 years and God has not allowed me (and only me) to develop romantic feelings yet which needless to say has been very hard and frustrating at times. It's more like there is potential. We are simultaneously in a serious relationship (of God's doing; we didn't do anything to move things along) and also just friends. I definitely experience sexual desire for him. And I absolutely am someone who experiences romantic attraction just as most people do, it's just like they are currently 'on hold'.
He has had a different and more standard experience in our relationship. He told me he loved me 2 months into dating, he feels attraction to me romantically, spiritually, physically, etc.
Throughout this waiting season, I have at times struggled with intense frustration. In my worst moments, I have said things like, "I feel like God manipulated me into dating you". I have found myself hyper-fixated on things I don't like about C or that 'could be better' (things I never cared about in the past) and hyper-fixated on how there are men around me who don't have those qualities and seem more desirable. And at times I have felt so upset by C's personal rules and boundaries that I have left in a storm in the middle of hanging out.
Recently I've come to understand that I'm actually under spiritual attack which is where these very unlike me thoughts and behaviors have been coming from (I still recognize I'm responsible for my actions even when there is influence from the enemy).
A few weeks ago my pastor recommended trauma therapy based on things I shared about my childhood, and since then, it's like a war has even more intensely begun. The enemy is working to prevent me from getting professional help, getting me to isolate, and working to destroy my closest relationships (both with C and my mom). How do I fight against spiritual warfare?? I actually feel lighter and better now after writing all this, because things have become even more clear about what's really going on!

To tell it quickly: trying to kill children is no-no; and yet the whole point of the game is to make you love its characters, who all more or less want to kill the protagonist at some point.
I see two valid possibilities to explain why this may not be a problem:
1) The "meta" hypothesis: The whole game takes death kinda lightly, because the premise is that the player themselve may take killing monsters lightly. This way, it would be in the tone of the game for death not to be something as bad as it should be, and even "good" characters would see only a moderate problem in trying to kill a child. I do not say death is without consequence (as the whole point of the game is to prove there is), just that both the playeFrisk and the monsters have a bias towards death being somewhat acceptable.
2) The "in-universe" hypothesis: Most monsters would be... quite disfunctionnal adults; they're all cartoonishly goofy, in a way that makes Frisk, a litteral toddler, seem more mature than them in comparison. Therefore, maybe they all try to kill Frisk because they're a little to naive or dumb-dumb to realize the consequence of their action.
A third, "serious" possibility does not seem really plausible to me: the game is too lighthearted and all characters go from "I'll kill you" to "We're besties now" just too quickly and inconsequentially; it does not look like they're thinking this through, like "We've been trapped for centuries and absolutely loathe humans, which children it is legitimate to murder if it allows us to free ourselves, but this child proved by their actions that they're worthy of reconsidering our position, and now we respect them"... it's more like "Ngahhh I'm being an anime superhero and going to defeat the baddie but oh! they make nice spaghetti, yummy!". Therefore, I don't think that the "they do it out of necessity" is the most relevant one.
Let's just review the main characters:
Toriel: wants to help the child; is a bit irresponsible concerning the kingdom and Asgore.
Sans: Only attacks the player once they have gone too far. Says that, without Toriel, he would have killed Frisk... but is he just trying to sound badass or what would be his motivation? If he is this ready to kill a child, why wait for everybody to be murdered to react?
Papyrus: Does not really seem to understand what death even is.
Undyne: I likely to hot blooded to think her actions through.
Alphys: Never attacks the player.
Mettaton: Likely blinded by his ego.
Asgore: Seems "not bright enough" to think of a better solution.
Conclusion: I think Toby just didn't bother thinking too far, for a game that is firstly lighthearted and quirky; the consistency (or lack thereof) of the characters does not seem to be intended to resist fridge logic. There are scenes that are obviously there just for the sake of their effect and not in order to build a deep and consistent tone.

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Just because you’re transported to another world, doesn’t mean you’ll escape from your pain.
Abused by her parents, thirteen-year-old Frances only wants to be safe and for her life not to hurt so much. And when she and her class are transported to the magical world of Durannon to fight the monsters invading the human kingdoms and defeat the self-titled Demon King, Frances is presented with a golden opportunity. If she succeeds, Frances will have the home she never had. If she fails, Frances will be summoned back to the home she escaped.
Yet, despite her newfound magic and friends, Frances finds that trauma is not so easily lost. She is dogged by her abuse and its physical and invisible scars. Not only does she have to learn magic, she has to survive the nightmares of her past, and wrestle with her feelings of doubt and self-loathing.
If she can heal from her trauma, though, she might be able to defeat the Demon King and maybe, just maybe, she can find a home for herself.
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“Not good,” Helias muttered.
Sara nodded woodenly. “Privacy spell?
The tauroll waved his sheathed Fangroar and after pouring himself and his wife a drink, sat down. “We’re safe. Oh Galena, this is really not good.”
“How dead are we?” Sara asked, her tone light.
“We’re not dead. We’re just in a lot of danger and even if we somehow force the humans to retreat, we’ve lost this war,” said Helias.
“Explain.”
Helias drank deep, noting that Sara was also drinking deep as well. “Thorgoth is going after the humans. That part of the plan is as good as it gets. We’ll be attacking them, and using the dragons, whilst our forces hold off Titania. Our objectives are also well-chosen.” Helias buried his head into his hands and let out a deep groan. “But winning this doesn’t change anything.”
“If we can defeat the humans, why won’t that change anything?” Sara bit her lip. “Unless it renders us unable to beat Titania?”
“Yes. Even on the chance we beat the humans we won’t be able to invade them, we won’t be able to defeat Titania. We’d be at a stalemate and both armies would have to withdraw.” His hands dropping to the table, Helias stared at his wife. “And we don’t have any reserves left. We’re going to lose the war, even if Thorgoth lives.”
“If we defeat the humans—”
The general shook his head. “By defeat, I mean we’ll hurt them but we can’t prevent them from withdrawing. We might kill a few of their leaders, their important mages and Otherworlders, but they will still have soldiers. After coming so close, they won’t surrender. They’ll keep attacking until they kill enough of Thorgoth and Berengaria’s supporters that nobody will help them, or until both of them die.”
“Alright so, what do we do?” Sara asked. Helias looked at his wife, noting how still she sat. Her wings were clamped tight to her back and her lips were drawn tight.
“Sara, I don’t have good answers.”
Sara steepled her trembling fingers as best she could. “They’re going to be better than mine. I don’t know anything about war.”
“Right. Well, you need to surrender to the humans if you are captured. Present yourself as a non-combatant. Cry, scream, anything to declare that you don’t mean any harm,” Helias said.
“Why not Titania?” Sara asked.
“She has every incentive to kill you off and far less compunction about doing so. Killing our family off would allow her to have more land to give away to her loyalists. In contrast, the humans have Erlenberg troops fighting with them along with those of the Lightning Battalion. They’re going to be far more friendly to Alavari civilians,” Helias said.
Soft hands, grabbed onto Helias’s waist with a surprisingly firm grip. “What about you? I can get away, but how are you going to survive this?”
“I don’t know. I—”
“Don’t you dare! Our daughter needs her father and I need my husband!”
The general stared at his wife. “Sara, I can’t surrender to the humans if we win. They want me dead.”
Sara refilled Helias’s glass. “Then you need to help Thorgoth defeat them.”
“Then what? We’re never winning this war. Thorgoth is going to be invaded and—”
Cutting him off with the clink of her goblet against the table, Sara hissed, “And what? Why think that far? We can plan for that after this battle, so long as you are still here and with me.”
Letting out a breath Helias pushed his hair back and allowed himself a sigh. Reaching across the table, he took his wife’s hand.
“Sara, you’re right, but you know you can escape this if Thorgoth is defeated.”
The harorc placed her other hand on top of his. “We’re partners. I need you. We need you. So promise me that you’ll do your damndest to live.”
Helias closed his eyes and nodded. “I promise. First things first, before we turn in we need to talk to the dragons.”
***
Fennokra stalked slowly toward the camp. This wasn’t the collapsed side-passage where she and Yolandra had some privacy. This was the main camp where Thorgoth and their army were preparing for what had to be the final battle.
It was also where her siblings were swallowing the last of what seemed to be a side of salted pork.
“Velkandra, Makentra, we need to talk.”
Their second-eldest sister licked her lips, her neck rising to Fennokra’s level. “I am assuming you mean in private?”
“Of course.” Fennokra could see Velkandra’s haunches tensing to raise herself higher. Her sister was trying to look down on her. Allowing her head to dip, she held her height.
“Alright.” Velkandra flicked her tail and Makentra, licking his lips, followed them.
Since their enemies had set up their siege camp behind them, the Alavari camp had been reduced in size. Still, there was the alcove of the collapsed tunnel. Whilst couriers and soldiers crossed across this natural cavern to the defenses on the other side, they kept a good distance away.
Yolandra was waiting for them, scratching something into the cave wall. Fennokra let out a rumble in her throat and her sister turned from the wall suddenly, shaking her head.
“Velkandra, Mankentra—”
Velkandra puffed a cloud of smoke out. “What’s this all about?” she hissed, lips drawn back to show teeth.
Fennokra took a step away from her sister to take Yolandra’s side, her eyes narrowed. “Are you joking? Do you not think we should at least discuss what is going on?”
“And what would be the point? It is a bit late to be having this discussion. The course of the winds have been chosen,” said Velkandra.
Yolandra rose to her full height on her four legs, but even so she was still shorter than the silent Makendra. “The winds can be fickle, Velkandra, and where we are is proof.”
Velkandra pursed her lips, eyes for the first time, looking toward the ground. “The survival of our family is tied to that of Thorgoth. To abandon him would be death by the hand of the Stormcaller and her allies or by his hand.”
“Besides, if we were to abandon Thorgoth’s cause, that would be dishonorable. We promised to assist him,” said Makendra.
Fennokra blinked at her brother’s tone. It was quiet and yet there was a touch of a deep growl to his voice. His claws were ever so slightly digging into the ground.
“We are dragons. We can think and make decisions for ourselves. We are allowed to consider other options, are we not?” Fennokra asked.
Velkandra’s tail flicked violently side to side as her neck turned to her younger sibling. “Then why does it sound as if you wish to follow in the wingbeats of our elder sister?”
“Who we killed. I was there. I lost a claw striking her down!” Fennokra raised one clawed hand, flexing the remaining digits.
“On that, why did we have to kill Lakadara?”
All golden eyes fixed on Yolandra, who held the gaze of her siblings with a contemptuous scowl.
“Lakadara betrayed us,” said Velkandra, almost growling.
“I’ve been thinking over what happened. Lakadara said nothing about betraying our mother. She merely was questioning if Thorgoth was trustworthy,” Yolandra said.
A scowl flaring his nostrils, Makentra growled. “He fed us, trained us in how the humans and their allies fought. Hid us from their eyes—”
“And now Caldra is dead!” Yolandra exclaimed.
“Which is why we must kill the Stormcaller and her friends! So we can avenge him and our mother!” Velkandra almost completely unfurled her wings. Only the tips slapping the stone forced her to pull them back.
“Then what?” Yolandra asked.
Velkandra frowned. “Then what? We’d have our revenge—”
Yolandra’s tail cracked against the ground. “Then what? You all must have heard of what Thorgoth is capable of. What he’s done to others.”
Makentra rolled his eyes. “Sara’s story is just a story. She might have been just trying to turn you.”
“She was honest and she is not the only tale I’ve heard. You must have heard rumors of what Thorgoth did to his own son, Teutobal,” said Fennokra.
“Propaganda,” Velkandra hissed through her gritted teeth, while smoke wafted through the gaps. “In any case, we have no other option. We fight or we die.”
Fennokra, her claws grinding against the floor, had had enough.
“Velkandra, Makentra, have you ever considered that Thorgoth is perhaps using us for his own goals? We have not even considered what he might do to us after we’ve destroyed the humans and their allies. How do we know the Stormcaller and her allies might treat us better? Besides in the first place, she never intended to kill our mother—”
Fennokra blinked. She was flying backwards, something hard was bearing her into the wall. Dizzy as if struck by one of the Stormcaller’s spells, she realized that the force was the foreclaws of her elder sister. Mad rage lit those golden eyes that were the exact same shade as hers. Horrified, Fennokra tried to throw Velkandra off, but her sister was larger and heavier than her.
“Say that again. I dare you to say that again—ARGH!”
Velkandra rolled off, forced off of Fennokra by the Yolandra shoving into her side. As the elder dragon recovered, the smallest of Telkandra’s brood hissed, “It’s the truth! You are a fool to deny it!”
An ugly sneer on her lips, wings quivering with fury, Velkandra snorted. “The truth? Oh right so we are speaking the truth then. Well here’s the truth. Our kind is doomed!”
Makentra blinked. “Sister?”
“Of course Thorgoth is going to get rid of us or try to after this campaign. He has to, but right now he needs us and that’s what we need to rely on until we gain more strength. Of course, whether he wins or the Stormcaller’s allies win, how can we expect to survive in a world dominated by these lesser species hm? How could they ever not see us as a threat?”
Velkandra stalked toward the wide-eyed Fennokra and Yoandra. Her head turned side to side as she fixed her sisters with wild wide eyes.
“Well? Tell me Fennokra. Speak the truth Yolandra. Or are you both too afraid to admit that our kind are doomed and the only thing is to live as long as we can and hopefully avenge those that hurt us as we do so.”
“You’d have us fly to our deaths?” Makentra asked.
The stammering voice brought Velkandra around. Extending a wing, she touched its tip to her brother’s. “I would at least have us fly together.”
Fennokra shook her head. “We’d knowingly fly with a murderer of children and someone who would want to kill us after we’ve stopped being helpful to him.”
“And we have no other options,” said Makentra. Letting out a breath, he rose to his claws and walked away. “I’ll see you tomorrow, sisters.”
Velkandra, without another word, turned for the exit. “You know it’s true, Fennokra, Yolandra.”
Fennokra closed her eyes. Yolandra, though, narrowed hers. “Doesn’t change that Lakadra’s blood is on our claws.”
Velkandra flinched and left. She strode away so quickly she nearly stepped on Helias and Sara as they came to the cave. She gave the pair no acknowledgement other than a growl.
“See you tomorrow, General,” said Makentra, his tone curt. “We will talk to King Thorgoth ourselves for the plan’s details.”
“Of course,” said Helias. He bowed as the pair left before turning to Yolandra and Fennokra. “I believe we missed something important?”
“Be honest, General Helias. Even if we succeed tomorrow, your king has no use for us after we help him kill the Stormcaller, am I correct?” Fennokra asked.
Sara and Helias didn’t say anything. Their slight move to stand closer so they could hold hands was enough.
“I thought so,” said Fennokra. She let out a sigh and glanced at Yolandra, who nodded. “We will be on the battlefield tomorrow. Where are we going?”
“You’re going with me. We’re attacking the forces sallying from Kairon-Aoun. The plan is that you dragons breathe flame over their army to soften them before we attack.
“Understood. Any questions Fennokra?” Yolandra asked.
Fennokra shook her head. What could be asked anyway?”
Yolandra flashed the pair a joyless smile. “For what it is worth, you two have been good caretakers to us. Even if it was to preserve your own lives.”
Helias didn’t bow. Instead he extended a hand. Yolandra stared at him, but Fennokra, recognizing the gesture, extended a single talon.
“May you always be able to see the sun.” At the dragon’s blink, Helias smiled. “It’s an Alavari saying. It may come from when we used to be enslaved by the Goblin Empire. It means good luck.”
Yolandra nodded and Fennokra found herself smiling.
“Our mother taught us a saying as well. May you never fly alone. I wish that for you both,” said Fennokra.
“Thank you,” said Sara in a quiet voice. She curtsied and the two dragons dipped their heads. They watched Helias and Sara leave with placid smiles.
Then, when nobody was looking, they turned from the entrance to hide their bulks as best they could. The gloomy light of the alcove their only curtain of privacy.
***
Frances slowed slightly as they approached Lakadara’s enclosure. However, Ginger did not slow down.
“Hold on, Ginger, what’s the plan?” Frances asked.
Adjusting her new crown mid-stride, Ginger said, “I’ll show you. I’m certain it’ll work, though.”
Frances’ eyebrows rose. “Is that crown getting to your head already?”
The new Queen of Erisdale flashed a slightly nervous grin over her shoulder. “Yes actually, but I think that’s a good thing in some way. Don’t you?”
Frances found herself nodding. It was strange to see her friend even more confident than usual and so comfortable in the regal crown that she wore atop of a standard Lightning Battalion light blue uniform. Yet she rather enjoyed the new gait that Ginger had.
“I do.” Frances smirked. “Your Majesty.”
Ginger rolled her eyes. “Fuck you.”
Giggling, Frances stopped herself as they drew even closer to Lakadara. The dragon was drawing herself up, placing her massive foreclaws over each other.
“Lakadara. I am Ginger, the new Queen of Erisdale. Pleased to make your acquaintance.”
The dragon coughed, blowing out a puff of smoke. “Greetings Ginger, Queen of Erisdale. I’m sorry for your predecessor’s demise.” Lakadara’s golden eyes narrowed. “Why are you here?”
Ginger dipped her head. “Thank you and as to why I’m here. I have a proposition. If you accept it, I will grant you and your kin, the domain of the Erisdalian mountains marked by the Kwent River Valley, Freeburg and Athelda-Aoun as your home in perpetuity, so long as you do not attack humans unless in self-defense.”
“I am unfamiliar with human geography. From the Stormcaller’s expression, I assume that is a lot.”
Frances swallowed and closed her mouth, but she didn’t question her friend. Ginger, still smiling slyly, nudged her. “It is. Frances, can you lend me a hand here?”
Nodding, Frances closed her eyes and imagined a rough map of Erisdale and its territories. With a wave of Ivy’s Sting she created an image of Erisdale, highlighting in red the expanse of the mountains that bordered Alavaria and Erisdale. The area that Ginger had described sketched a rough red triangle between the three points. It was a fairly sizeable area with a low and Alavari human population.
“My husband is in negotiations with Queen Titania and I’ll have to talk to Frances and Prince Timur, but we are quite certain that Athelda-Aoun will also be included in this area,” Ginger said.
Lakadara’s golden eyes were flickering as she examined the land. Suddenly, she turned, long neck arching toward the Erisdalian Queen. “And what must I do? Fight on your kingdom’s behalf?”
Ginger shook her head. “No.”
“No?”
“Nope. If you would like to do so we can renegotiate the agreement, but my husband and I fully intend to grant you this land.”
The dragon’s tail lifted up as her eyes narrowed. “Explain yourself and the favor you seek. This is far too generous.”
“Let me explain myself first. If what I’m told by my experts is correct, you can lay eggs by yourself without a mate, but it takes time right? A few decades?”
“Yes. Still, that doesn’t explain—”
“Here me out. This war is going to end. We may lose, but if we win, banishing you to the north is making you Queen Titania’s problem and she’ll have more than enough problems to deal with. You might just end up coming south again and we know how that ended. I’d prefer to avoid that so that means we need to make an agreement. You need a new home and I need peace for Erisdale. If the kingdom has to give up some poor agricultural land then I’m all for it.”
The dragon nodded. “I see, but why so much land? Why not just give me a cave? Or request my service as Thorgoth did?”
“And how will you eat? Hunt? Where will your grown children go? I’m making an agreement that will last for decades, not just a few years. As for service? I was tempted, but you wouldn’t agree to that anyway and why should you? We haven’t given you any reason to agree.” Ginger gave Frances a wave to dispel the map. “Maybe in the future we can work something out, especially if the dragon population increases. Your service in return for more food, but again, I want to start us off on the right path, not the left path.”
“Left path?” Lakadara asked.
“Erisdalian expression. It means the wrong path,” Frances said helpfully.
Lakadara nodded slowly. “You still ask for a boon, though.”
Ginger nodded. “Yes. I want you to speak to your siblings. Before the upcoming battle starts, tell them of my deal with you. So long as they choose to accept that deal and defect, then I will have it so our forces will not hurt them. After that, you may leave. I will not request you to fight with us.”
“You want me to show myself to Thorgoth? To the siblings that tried to kill me?” Lakadara asked, mouth agape.
Ginger stepped closer to the dragon, who lifted her head away from the queen. “I want you to save your siblings. I want you to save yourself from becoming the last purple dragon in existence. I would rather you not be alone, stewing in hatred for my kingdom and our allies who brought down your family, even if we had just cause. I want peace. What do you want?”
“How do I know I can trust you?” The dragon suddenly grimaced. “Ah, right, you want a lasting peace. You have every reason to want peace.”
Ginger, arms crossed tapped her foot. Frances could see how stiff her friend was, but the action was also comforting. That her magic-less friend had such control over the situation, despite being faced with the dragon was rather…badass.
Letting out a puff of smoke that slowly drifted into the cavern, the dragon pondered the queen’s proposal. Frances held her breath and yet the dragon remained silent, only her tail moving from side to side.
Ginger waited, still content to wait for the dragon’s answer. Frances couldn’t. The tension coiled in her chest, waiting to explode.
“Lakadara, what do you want for your future?” Frances asked.
The dragon glanced at Frances, golden eyes wide. She turned back to Ginger, who continued to stand tall, awaiting Lakadara’s answer patiently.
“I accept your offer, and your promise for the future,” said Lakadara, dipping her head.
“We are glad that you wish the same as we do,” said Ginger. She extended her hand and Lakadara, took her claw and put the tip of it on the queen’s palm.
*Author’s Note: Queenly Ginger was really neat to write 😀 *

I 24M, have been dating my NB22 boyfriend for a little over 1 year. We recently have both escaped abusive situations, and he is recovering from a particularly nasty break-up(we are poly, their bf dumped them on the street while they were struggling with unemployment and it REALLY messed him up), we currently live together.
Important information: I am DX AuHD, trying to get medicated for it, and I suspect I have some form of DID/OSDD. I struggle a lot with memory, it's just something I can't be consistent with. It's frustrating, and it makes remembering to do chores around the house agony. I've been trying to cope by asking for lists of things to do from my live-in bf, so I have a physical reminder of tasks to complete. I also ask for help from my headmates, and sometimes it works, but they are just as AUHD as I am and we're really sick and tired of it affecting people around us, which is why we're hoping getting medicated will help. The thing is, my bf doesn't always have the energy to write out lists for me and I don't want them to be carrying me, basically. I've asked for a permanent list that I can keep on my phone, so he doesn't have to keep reminding me, but he brushed me off.
When we first started dating, I wrote up a little manual for them, detailing how I learn and think and how my moods work and what to do in case of XYZ scenario. I know that my AUHD makes me a lot. I know it makes me a really bad and forgetful partner whos best doesn't meet the bar. I asked my bf if he could write a manual for themselves, so I can better navigate my relationship with them. They keep saying they don't have time or energy. I wanted to let them know what they were getting when they chose to date me, and they have told me that I've made it clear to them, but I don't know if they're saying that just to please me now. I don't expect them to be at 100% all the time, but I want to know that I can rely on them for the occasional reminder or push in the right direction when I lose track.
We've also been struggling with money a lot lately. I was able to finally land a part-time job, even though it's not nearly enough to cover everything. I'm looking for a second job while selling(or, trying to) my art on the side. Every month, my bf has a breakdown about not being able to cover rent. Naturally, I mirror his distress. He's told me I need to stop treating it like life or death, but they have panic attacks about the rent like clockwork every month. I don't know how else they expect me to react if they're always on the verge of a mental break every month, crying and shaking and repeating out loud "we're not going to make it. They're gonna evict us." I don't know what they expect me to say or do in that situation. I tried asking them about it and they didn't give me an answer that made sense. "Stop worrying" and "you need to be okay with me being okay eventually", which sounds like fucking nonsense.
In the past, they asked me to offer help more often. So I do, when I wake up I ask, "Anything I can help with today?" When they're distressed or upset I ask if there's anything I can do to change the environment or my actions so that they feel safer. I try cooking for them, something I enjoy doing, and I'll offer to cook for them and they'll say no.
After all this, they got angry with me because I'm sick and there was meat(that he took out) on the counter defrosting, he'd wanted me to put it away. I was sleeping and getting up to puke pure mucus, I never even knew he'd taken out the meat. He questioned me, asked if I was really that sick, and all I could do was nod. My voice is shot, my throat is sore and dry and sandpapery. I'm leaking snot by the bucketful and my eyes are puffy and gross from inflamation. They asked me why I hadn't been helping or cooking for them, and I told them. "Every time I offer, you say there's nothing I can do. I offered to cook for you these past few days and you rejected me. I'm trying to do what you asked of me, but you tell me no, so I listen to that no. What do you want from me?" And all they could say was "Sometimes I don't know."
I've never felt so fucking defeated. Six months of this, and I can't do anything right. I don't know if it's genuinely just me or if it's something with my bf. I'm questioning our compatability, I don't know what to do and I don't know how to correct things. I asked what I could do, and was told nothing, and now they're angry at me for doing nothing.
What the hell do I do? Sorry if this is long and rambly, I've stressed myself out to the point of a migraine, and I'm still sick. Any advice would be appreciated.
TLDR: My boyfriend asks me to do one thing, I do so, and he rebuffs me, then gets angry at me. What the hell do I do?

So here’s how my ocd been treating me for the past 4 years, Hearing the news to articles to coworkers to pretty much any social media is this overwhelming sense of helplessness and dread fill me to the point of mental decline at such a young and fast rate, the fear started when I was 12, but as I got older it was much more intense, especially with the media nowadays? Forget it. (E.g 2020, I would lock myself away in a closet with no light or widows because I had such a fear of seeing an asteroid fall from the sky, I would rather be blinded than see it all before I go for 9 months, I was on seroquel, kepra, and Xanax at the time, this was all because I read a article about some meteor being really close to earth but not actually hitting earth. I misinterpreted it all, and believe it for 9 whole fucking months.) I would I would have imagined scenarios of asteroids hitting the earth whenever drove around or whenever I look out my window or be around a peaceful part of the Forest, it’s overwhelming and ruining my quality of life so of course MMJ was necessary and a last resort for me, I’ve been on many and various medications but none of them helping as much as MMJ did, but then the sense of being seen as lazy and all that stigma has me feeling like I really don’t need it at all, hence the shame being so overwhelming that I just stop and then wonder why my brain is going 900mph. So of course I need to be on top of it even if it’s a small dose. I have such a fear of death, demise and doomsday scenarios that I also barely eat at all, because while I live in America, the food quality with the amount of chemicals drive me away, and with fruits and veggies, all the thoughts, such as “this could have pesticides or e.coli or tiny maggots” overcloud a simple action (eating.) only way I can even eat at all if it’s my brain being stoned, I’m also ashamed of it.
It’s been driving me nuts not knowing what this is called. If this also helps, I also have autism, c-pstd and BPD.

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Hi everyone,
I’m reaching out for some advice on a rather complicated situation involving a friend of mine. We met in college and, unexpectedly, ended up living together during and after our college years. Despite an initial romantic interest on my part, he expressed that he wasn’t interested romantically, and we remained friends. We’ve shared a home for over 3 years, and during this time, our friendship has been through various phases. Despite a few rough patches, during which our relationship became strained, he’s remained a constant presence in my life. Feelings were strictly platonic after our first rough patch.
But, there were even homoerotic encounters that left me questioning his orientation, especially considering I have evidence from multiple sources and encounters suggesting he may not be as straight as he claims. During the COVID-19 pandemic, things took an unexpected turn. The lines between our friendship blurred, with some suggestive touching, pushing up against me, or even straddling me on occasion. At the time, I questioned these actions but didn’t think too much of it.
He’s like family to me; his influence has shaped who I am today. We’ve gone on countless adventures, and he’s been by my side through many significant milestones. About 8 months ago, during a drunk and heated heart-to-heart, we addressed the major issues affecting our friendship and reconciled. Since then, things have never been better.
Recently, I’ve found myself catching feelings for him again. This has left me feeling confused and unsure about what to do next. On one hand, I value our friendship and don’t want to jeopardize it. On the other hand, these feelings are becoming increasingly difficult to ignore.
I’m struggling to navigate this situation and would appreciate any advice or insights you all might have. Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Any advice on how to proceed while maintaining our friendship would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance for your help.

So... my mom has never really been loving. My dad had/had PTSD. It is his way or the highway. My mom will straight up tell people "I learned to ignore him", "I never wanted another kid, I should've got my tubes tied after the first one, his dad is the only reason I didn't get an abortion". She will buy me things, and then when i'm telling her she is acting horribly yelling at me for something minimal (not writing a note in the cashapp for example) and then say "I wasn't treating you horribly when I bought you this thing earlier!!"
I don't remember the last time I got a hug from either one of my parents.
My parents never actually helped me get my license, they claim they "Tried to teach me!!" but got about 20 driving hours for me, refused to fill out the time sheets, and would yell and freak out at every mistake I made on the road. They bought me a barely driveable $900 grandam @ 18 after I was told i'd get a new car when I graduated (I am 22 and graduated in 2020) I was expecting like a decent condition 2007-2008 car that would reliably get me from point a to point b but was bought a 2002 wrecked grandam with hood latches due to deer wreck damage and struts so bad that the back end would slide out from under it on minimal potholes and tires that I had the fill back up daily to keep it off the ground. I had to eventually buy my own car (they never helped me fix it depaite my dad being a literal jet mechanic) and drive it back and forth from work illegally until I got good enough at driving to get my license, because it was apparently easier for my mom to continue driving me to work on her lunch break and picking me up from work at 7 then to spend a few weekends and hours after work some days with me preparing for a drivers test.
Both my mother and my dad would get physically aggressive and spank pretty excessively but not to the point where I was like "this is abuse". As I grew older and grew to be a bigger teenager it turned into them moreso actually trying to physically fight me, me running as to avoid a fight as they yelled things like "I'M GOING TO RIP YOUR F***ING HEAD OFF" and locking myself in my room or running around outside until they were no longer violently angry.
One time I got a full blown blender thrown at my shoulder as a kid because I didn't help my dad find his shoes when he was late to meet some of his work friends, he also in that instance chased me a quarter way down our street (thankfully I was like 16 5'10 and fast) before going home and cooling down.
One time he also threw a tape measure at my shin and I still have a mark in my shin bone from that.
Lots of promises that were never kept and were forgot about. "If you help me with this massive months long hard process I will buy you shing expensive thing" helps and never gets said thing but gets yelled at the whole time for not doing things "the right way"
My mom also called me ugly as a kid, told people in front of me (and I quote) "Yeah I was pissed when he came out with red hair, i don't like red heads!"
She would tell people I was a little bastard and would tell them the amount of adhd medication I was on and how it was enough for like 2 adults (i already started questioning why the hell I was on that amount of adhd medication in the first place, i was basically m37hed out on adderall and vyvanse and concerts as a 7-14 year okd kid)
One time she bought me a pokeball as a kid at walmart, and our way home I did something she didn't like and she grabbed the pokeball and chucked it out the window and bragged to people about it
One year my brother got a laptop and an ipod and some other stuff and ya boy got some action figures
My mom thrrows a fit that I don't "contribute in the house" or clean when I stick to my area of the house, don't use the kitchen or dishes (i have my own dishes I use and I eat out mainly so i don't have to deal with them) and don't created that messes that need to be cleaned up and I keep my areas of the house clean. I could probably go count 7 wrappers and 6 pop cans and 3 plates down on our kitchen bar right now and I do not spend any time in the kitchen but I am apparently supposed to clean that stuff up as well as do the dishes that I don't use.
My dad will say "Here i'll tell you what you need to do" and if I do anything other than agree with him he will say "well then you're f***int stupid"
My dad would get violently angry at you if there was a tiny piece of lettuce in his taco or anything but meat and cheese on his burger and if you laugh at him for how ridiculous he is reacting he redirects that anger and amplifies it towards you
My parents and brother would kinda gang up and do things that would "trigger" me and laugh and yell at me when I reacted badly.
I just want confirmation that this is narccisism. I've been looking for what to call my experience with my parents for a while and I think this is it.

RAGE TRAIN is recruiting again! https://link.clashofclans.com/en?action=OpenClanProfile&tag=2RQLL0LUY
About Us Chill active war clan. If you like to compete in wars and participate in clan games and raid weekends frequently but don’t want the pressure of a super competitive war clan then this is the clan for you! Just make sure you follow war rules. Come grow with us!
Clan Info Minimum TH Level: th9 Clan Level: 5 War League: Gold III Capital League: Silver II English speaking
Benefits and Rules A quick note about discord: We do have one but we currently are not really using it as some of our active members don’t have it. Therefore it’s not a requirement. We may use it more in the future but that is tbd.
Follow war rules. We do mirror then cleanup. If you continually break this rule and steal people’s mirrors we will stop including you in wars. If you need to take a break because of life/hero upgrades/whatever, make sure you opt out of war.
Feeder Clan. We have a feeder clan called Train Station I where town halls under th9 go to build and gain experience before being able to come into the main clan. This also helps our main clan in war so we get better matchups.
Inactivity grace periods. If you are inactive for under a week, you won’t be kicked. We get that life happens sometimes. If you are inactive for more than a week, you will be kicked, but are more than welcome to come back once you are frequently active again.
War League participation. We do take war league very seriously. You don’t have to participate, but make sure you opt out. We take a one-week break from war the week before war league in order to prepare.
Clan Games. Although we don’t strictly enforce participation in clan games, it’s greatly encouraged so that we can all benefit from the great rewards that you get from completing clan games. We do pretty good but could always use more help.
Raid Weekend. We do raid weekend every weekend. Leaders and co-leaders will prioritize places to contribute.
Chance to increase in rank. We are a newer clan so we are still building our squad. Every now and then as we see fit we may put out a request to apply for co-leader role

RAGE TRAIN is recruiting again! https://link.clashofclans.com/en?action=OpenClanProfile&tag=2RQLL0LUY
About Us Chill active war clan. If you like to compete in wars and participate in clan games and raid weekends frequently but don’t want the pressure of a super competitive war clan then this is the clan for you! Just make sure you follow war rules. Come grow with us!
Clan Info Minimum TH Level: th9 Clan Level: 5 War League: Gold III Capital League: Silver II English speaking
Benefits and Rules A quick note about discord: We do have one but we currently are not really using it as some of our active members don’t have it. Therefore it’s not a requirement. We may use it more in the future but that is tbd.
Follow war rules. We do mirror then cleanup. If you continually break this rule and steal people’s mirrors we will stop including you in wars. If you need to take a break because of life/hero upgrades/whatever, make sure you opt out of war.
Feeder Clan. We have a feeder clan called Train Station I where town halls under th9 go to build and gain experience before being able to come into the main clan. This also helps our main clan in war so we get better matchups.
Inactivity grace periods. If you are inactive for under a week, you won’t be kicked. We get that life happens sometimes. If you are inactive for more than a week, you will be kicked, but are more than welcome to come back once you are frequently active again.
War League participation. We do take war league very seriously. You don’t have to participate, but make sure you opt out. We take a one-week break from war the week before war league in order to prepare.
Clan Games. Although we don’t strictly enforce participation in clan games, it’s greatly encouraged so that we can all benefit from the great rewards that you get from completing clan games. We do pretty good but could always use more help.
Raid Weekend. We do raid weekend every weekend. Leaders and co-leaders will prioritize places to contribute.
Chance to increase in rank. We are a newer clan so we are still building our squad. Every now and then as we see fit we may put out a request to apply for co-leader role

I call apon the reddit community to please help me. I am in middle school and i have recently discovered that my classmate I will call Kate, has been in a inappropriate relationship with our teacher. This consists of her sending him photos n_de and him sending photos of his "rooster" back. Most of our class already nows and we are taking action by spreading the word of this situation around so it reaches the principal. I am scared for Kate please help this is serious.
Extra info:
Kate is not in this relationship against her will.
I live in Mexico and things work differently legally here.
We are planning on buying a microcamera to film and gather evidence.
I'm scared for Kate please this is not a joke help

Here are 70 multiple choice questions I hope it will help you all.

1. What does the C in CIA Triad stand for?

- a) Confidentiality
- b) Communication
- c) Control
- d) Consistency
- Answer: a) Confidentiality

1. What is the main goal of confidentiality?

- a) Ensuring data is accurate
- b) Keeping information private
- c) Making information available
- d) Validating user identity
- Answer: b) Keeping information private

1. What does the I in CIA Triad stand for?

- a) Integrity
- b) Information
- c) Identification
- d) Involvement
- Answer: a) Integrity

1. Which concept involves ensuring data has not been altered?

- a) Confidentiality
- b) Availability
- c) Integrity
- d) Authentication
- Answer: c) Integrity

1. What does the A in CIA Triad stand for?

- a) Accountability
- b) Authorization
- c) Authentication
- d) Availability
- Answer: d) Availability

1. Ensuring information is accessible to authorized users is a principle of:

- a) Confidentiality
- b) Integrity
- c) Availability
- d) Authentication
- Answer: c) Availability

1. Which method supports confidentiality?

- a) Hashing
- b) Encryption
- c) Auditing
- d) Redundancy
- Answer: b) Encryption

1. Which technique is used to check if information has been modified?

- a) Encryption
- b) Hashing
- c) Redundancy
- d) Authorization
- Answer: b) Hashing

1. What supports availability by having multiple copies of information?

- a) Encryption
- b) Hashing
- c) Redundancy
- d) Authentication
- Answer: c) Redundancy

1. Which concept is the process of claiming an identity?

• a) Authentication
  
• b) Authorization
  
• c) Identification
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: c) Identification
  

1. Which process verifies an entity's claimed identity?

• a) Authorization
  
• b) Authentication
  
• c) Auditing
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: b) Authentication
  

1. What ensures an entity is allowed to access a requested resource?

• a) Authentication
  
• b) Identification
  
• c) Authorization
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: c) Authorization
  

1. Tracking the actions of entities is known as:

• a) Auditing
  
• b) Authorization
  
• c) Authentication
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: a) Auditing
  

1. Holding people responsible for their actions is a principle of:

• a) Authentication
  
• b) Accountability
  
• c) Authorization
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: b) Accountability
  

1. Preventing individuals from disputing their actions is known as:

• a) Accountability
  
• b) Auditing
  
• c) Non-repudiation
  
• d) Integrity
  
• Answer: c) Non-repudiation
  

1. Digital signatures are used to ensure:

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Non-repudiation
  
• Answer: d) Non-repudiation
  

1. Encryption helps in supporting which part of the CIA Triad?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: c) Confidentiality
  

1. Hashing helps in supporting which part of the CIA Triad?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Identification
  
• Answer: a) Integrity
  

1. Redundancy helps in supporting which part of the CIA Triad?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: b) Availability
  

1. In the CIA Triad, what does the term 'availability' refer to?

• a) Keeping data accurate
  
• b) Ensuring data privacy
  
• c) Making data accessible
  
• d) Verifying user identity
  
• Answer: c) Making data accessible
  

1. Which of the following is NOT a part of the CIA Triad?

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Authorization
  
• d) Availability
  
• Answer: c) Authorization
  

1. The process of keeping information private is known as:

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Confidentiality
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: b) Confidentiality
  

1. Ensuring information is unmodified and accurate refers to:

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Integrity
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: c) Integrity
  

1. What is the process of holding individuals responsible for their actions?

• a) Auditing
  
• b) Authorization
  
• c) Accountability
  
• d) Non-repudiation
  
• Answer: c) Accountability
  

1. Which of the following helps in ensuring data integrity?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Hashing
  
• c) Auditing
  
• d) Redundancy
  
• Answer: b) Hashing
  

1. Making sure only authorized users can access data refers to:

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: d) Authorization
  

1. What mechanism prevents users from denying their actions?

• a) Accountability
  
• b) Non-repudiation
  
• c) Auditing
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: b) Non-repudiation
  

1. The CIA Triad is fundamental to which field?

• a) Marketing
  
• b) Cybersecurity
  
• c) Medicine
  
• d) Law
  
• Answer: b) Cybersecurity
  

1. Which of the following is a method to support availability?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Digital Signatures
  
• c) Redundancy
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: c) Redundancy
  

1. What does encryption ensure in the context of the CIA Triad?

• a) Availability
  
• b) Confidentiality
  
• c) Integrity
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: b) Confidentiality
  

1. Which of the following is an example of confidentiality?

• a) Checking file integrity
  
• b) Backing up data
  
• c) Using a secure password
  
• d) Logging user activities
  
• Answer: c) Using a secure password
  

1. What ensures that data remains accurate and trustworthy?

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: b) Integrity
  

1. The process of ensuring data is available when needed is known as:

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: c) Availability
  

1. Which principle helps in preventing data breaches?

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: a) Confidentiality
  

1. Which method helps to verify the accuracy of information?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Hashing
  
• c) Redundancy
  
• d) Non-repudiation
  
• Answer: b) Hashing
  

1. What is an example of supporting data availability?

• a) Using encryption
  
• b) Conducting audits
  
• c) Implementing redundancy
  
• d) Verifying identity
  
• Answer: c) Implementing redundancy
  

1. Which concept involves claiming an identity?

• a) Authorization
  
• b) Identification
  
• c) Authentication
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: b) Identification
  

1. Ensuring a user is who they claim to be is a process of:

• a) Authorization
  
• b) Identification
  
• c) Authentication
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: c) Authentication
  

1. What checks if an entity should access a resource?

• a) Authentication
  
• b) Identification
  
• c) Authorization
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: c) Authorization
  

1. Tracking actions of users is referred to as:

• a) Auditing

- b) Authorization

• c) Accountability
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: a) Auditing
  

1. Holding users accountable for their actions is known as:

• a) Authorization
  
• b) Non-repudiation
  
• c) Accountability
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: c) Accountability
  

1. Which concept helps prevent denial of actions?

• a) Accountability
  
• b) Authentication
  
• c) Non-repudiation
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: c) Non-repudiation
  

1. Which part of the CIA Triad is affected during an outage?

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: c) Availability
  

1. What ensures that unauthorized parties cannot access information?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: c) Confidentiality
  

1. Which of the following prevents information modification?

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: b) Integrity
  

1. What supports confidentiality by hiding information?

• a) Hashing
  
• b) Encryption
  
• c) Redundancy
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: b) Encryption
  

1. Ensuring data can be accessed by authorized users refers to:

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Non-repudiation
  
• Answer: b) Availability
  

1. Which method supports integrity?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Hashing
  
• c) Redundancy
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: b) Hashing
  

1. Which of the following supports availability?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Redundancy
  
• c) Hashing
  
• d) Non-repudiation
  
• Answer: b) Redundancy
  

1. The CIA Triad consists of:

• a) Confidentiality, Integrity, and Accountability
  
• b) Integrity, Availability, and Authentication
  
• c) Confidentiality, Integrity, and Availability
  
• d) Identification, Authorization, and Auditing
  
• Answer: c) Confidentiality, Integrity, and Availability
  

1. Which process involves tracking user actions?

• a) Authentication
  
• b) Authorization
  
• c) Auditing
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: c) Auditing
  

1. What ensures users are held responsible for their actions?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Accountability
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Confidentiality
  
• Answer: b) Accountability
  

1. Preventing users from denying their actions is called:

• a) Accountability
  
• b) Non-repudiation
  
• c) Authorization
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: b) Non-repudiation
  

1. Which part of the CIA Triad does encryption support?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: c) Confidentiality
  

1. Which part of the CIA Triad does hashing support?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: a) Integrity
  

1. Which part of the CIA Triad does redundancy support?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: b) Availability
  

1. Ensuring data is unaltered refers to:

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: b) Integrity
  

1. Which of the following ensures data is private?

• a) Availability
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: c) Confidentiality
  

1. What supports availability by having backup copies?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Hashing
  
• c) Redundancy
  
• d) Non-repudiation
  
• Answer: c) Redundancy
  

1. Which method helps in verifying the accuracy of information?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Hashing
  
• c) Auditing
  
• d) Identification
  
• Answer: b) Hashing
  

1. Ensuring data is accessible when needed refers to:

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Confidentiality
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: c) Availability
  

1. Which of the following methods supports confidentiality?

• a) Redundancy
  
• b) Hashing
  
• c) Encryption
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: c) Encryption
  

1. Ensuring only authorized users can access data is known as:

• a) Authorization
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Confidentiality
  
• Answer: a) Authorization
  

1. Which concept helps track user actions?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Accountability
  
• c) Auditing
  
• d) Authentication
  
• Answer: c) Auditing
  

1. Holding users responsible for their actions is a principle of:

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Accountability
  
• Answer: d) Accountability
  

1. What prevents users from denying their actions?

• a) Non-repudiation
  
• b) Authentication
  
• c) Authorization
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: a) Non-repudiation
  

1. Which principle ensures data is not accessible to unauthorized users?

• a) Confidentiality
  
• b) Integrity
  
• c) Availability
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: a) Confidentiality
  

1. Which method supports data accuracy?

• a) Encryption
  
• b) Hashing
  
• c) Redundancy
  
• d) Auditing
  
• Answer: b) Hashing
  

1. Which concept ensures data accessibility?

• a) Integrity
  
• b) Availability
  
• c) Confidentiality
  
• d) Authorization
  
• Answer: b) Availability
  

1. What is the process of verifying user identity?

• a) Auditing
  
• b) Authorization
  
• c) Authentication
  
• d) Identification
  
• Answer: c) Authentication
  

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