Background: (jump down to "Current story" if you like to skip this, TD;LR in the end)
My heart is aching today as I realise I need to cut off one more sister from my life. I wrote about her and my little sister in my very first post when I joined Reddit last year, so this is a bit of an update, or a continuation, as this is about my relationship with my sisters. I had planned to write much more about them last fall, just to get this heavy heart ache off my chest, but then I realised there wasn't that much to say. A lot of it had healed already.
This is especially true to my eldest sister, Anna, who I never had a warm relationship with and who I have had a cordial, distant and very LC relationship for years. Most of the things she has done to me are forgotten, and it gives me peace. We call each other maybe once or twice a year to catch up and are civil to each other. She has four kids and I have a good relationship with the two eldest who I used to babysit when I was young. So I'm happy to keep these family bonds intact.
My youngest sister, Ella, I have had a similar relationship until last year, when she got a new job and stopped calling me all together. It wasn't a disaster as I had stopped caring for her already ten years ago (see my first post on my page to know why). I don't even get an urge to call her and tell her my latest news any more, which is great. The post I wrote on Reddit last year really helped me get closure and move on in this, and I've gone almost completely NC with her afterwards. She is only a member in our large family chat, but that's all.
I ditched family Christmas at her place last year and it was such a relief to realise I wasn't obliged to go there any more. I made one more phone call to her in January this year and realised during the call that this would be my last call I ever make to her. A relief again.
Now, my sister Bertha, who showed her true nature of being an ableist ten years ago, I've had a very turbulent and passionate relationship with all my life. We have fought, we have made up, we have loved each other and we have been there for each other in the darkest moments of our lives. Well, it used to be that way, until she couldn't handle me becoming severe in my ME 10 years ago.
But we did get past that (I forgave her and never talked about it again). Now I realise, it was stupid.
The current story:
I'm writing this because I need to go NC with Bertha now, and I need help to get there. I've been carrying the secret hurt of her ableism all these years in silence, because I somehow always thought that maybe if I try really hard she'll still love me, even though she can't stand my handicap. I know I’ve been a fool, but family relationships go really deep and there are so many layers of love and hurt in them, it takes time to untangle it all.
There is this yearning in me to be accepted and loved by her, that I wish I didn't have,and it makes me want to hear her voice once in a while, which is why I get the urge to call her about every 3–6 months. I, of course, don’t talk about my illness to her any more (I learned my lesson the hard way), but there are other aspects in life to talk about. So we did. I really wished we could maintain a good enough relationship as sisters, and I have been carrying that hope for years. Yeah, I’m a fool.
Now, this spring I have some exiting things happening to me and I wanted to tell it to those who I'm used to telling good things about. This includes my best friends, my brother, and it used to include Bertha. So I tried to call her. She didn't answer. I called again a few days later, she didn't answer. All I got was a text about how busy she is with her new dream career right now and can't take the call.
Yesterday I tried a third time in the evening. We talked last time in February, so I know it's not that long ago, but I really wanted to tell her my big news. So, when she did not answer I wrote a text message asking if I had done something to her because she doesn't call me back. (She has always called me back before. If not the same day, at least during the same week). She answered with a voice mail telling me about how busy she is rn with her career and won't have time to talk until June at the earliest.
Now, I actually talked to my brother last week, and he couldn't talk because he was out eating at a restaurant with Bertha and her hubby, and he called me back later that evening. So this was of course all lies. Anyone can put a 15 minute phone call in their schedule sometime during a week. But I digress.
I got the voice mail this morning as I woke up and realised I need to stop having a relationship with Bertha all together. I need to put her in the same box where Ella sits and have her as a member of our family chat only (where I never actually write anything, I'm just a passive member there). I just wish my heart wasn't breaking at the moment over it. I wish I didn't want to tell her about my news the same way I don't want to tell Ella, or even Anna. Now, please help me get there with Bertha. How can I stop loving her and stop wanting to call her to talk to her and hear her voice? I really can't go on being an afterthought in her life any longer. I need to form a strategy to follow so I can move on and forget about her, without my heart breaking over it.
TD;LR: My big sister Bertha has had me as an afterthought in her life ever since I got severely handicapped 10 years ago due to ME. I need to cut her out of my life to stop her from hurting me over and over again, but I still foolishly love her, so I need help going NC.

Here is the recap of the 14 monetized posts from Kylea and Joseph "Joe" Gomez of Kylea G Weight loss Journey on 05/13/24.
Disclaimer: I am not a physician, influencer, or paid content creator. I am not affiliated with WW. I am semi-retired from healthcare with multiple college degrees. These opinions are my own based on social media content. I wish no harm to Kylea or Joe Gomez.
☎️ If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, please call or text 988 for assistance.
The tagline of Kylea G Weight loss Journey is, "I changed my life with prayer and a playlist of songs. No surgery, no meds. Just Jesus."
DAILY STATS 05/13/24:
0/14 posts discussed prayer
2/14 contained vague references to music
0/14 discussed exercise
0/14 shared a recipe
4/14 were about something Kylea ate or drank
1/14 contained a side by side photo comparison
2/14 were about her current/future pet (one of these was from "Joe" about Amazon pet items)
1/14 "Joe" posted about getting Whataburger
2/14 were about donut holes & a clapback
2/14 were a trip update
📢 For our friends at Meta, that means at least 50% of Kylea's monetized content had nothing to do with weight loss, which is the tagline and purpose of her page.
⚠️ Disordered Eating- Daily Food Consumption (Data compiled from monetized content):
5 WW Points: Barebell Cookies & Cream Protein Bar
0 WW Points: Alani Nu Energy Drink (🚨 These contain 200mg of caffeine)
9 WW Points: TWO In-N-Out "Protein style" hamburgers wrapped in lettuce.
0 WW Points: Bahama Buck's Sugar-free Birthday Cake & Sugar-free Strawberry cheesecake flavored shaved ice.
📢 For our friends at Meta, that means Kylea consumed 14 out of (up to) 30 daily WW points in maintenance mode= Disordered Eating. This is dangerous messaging for her 138k+ followers on a weight loss journey.
Recipes Shared:
ZERO
🚨 Please speak with a medical professional about any questions or concerns you have about your health.
Comments: Kylea CHOSE to continue posting triggering food content, and clapbacked at followers for questioning it.
⚠️ Binge Eating, Compulsive Buying Disorder (CBD), aka shopping addiction, Disordered Eating, Food Addiction, Gaslighting, and Religion will be discussed.
Post 1. Donut Hole Controversy: Kylea posted an empty donut hole bag and claimed her sister ate all of them at 3 WW points each. When called out by a follower, Kylea responded with this, "I don't eat donuts. I support other people eating whatever they'd like to eat. What's unhealthy is commenting on other people's food choices.💖💖 💖"
Post 2. Using the Pet Cat for Content: This nontent was her male cat's reaction to being told his puppy sister arrives on Sunday.
Post 3. Protein Bar Slip Up: Kylea recycled an old photo of her holding a Barebell protein bar and tried to act like the photo was taken today. 👀
Post 4. Trip Update: Kylea is shopping for puppy bandanas online because Birdie "only" has 6, while her sister drives. She is listening to 🎶 in the car. 💤 This is nontent.
Post 5. "Unhealthy" Food Clapback: Narcissistic, defiant Kylea had to get the last word in.
"I had someone comment that I post a lot of "unhealthy" food for a weight loss page. The point of my page is to show others that all foods are healthy in moderation. What is not healthy, is commenting on other people's food choices. Mind your own plate. 💖 I personally eat very healthy myself but I support all of the people around me in whatever food choices they want to make for their own lives. I will never and have never commented on someone else's food choice for their own lives."
⏸️ This is gaslighting. Here we go...

1. Kylea is triggered by words like treat, craving, and indulge but was not at the beginning of her weight loss journey.
   
2. Kylea is afraid to own a microwave because it could jeopardize her recovery with food addiction and give her quick access to convenient foods. (Please ignore the air fryer and cabinets full of snacks.)
   
3. If Kylea does not like what Joe is eating at a restaurant, she has placed the menu between them so she does not have to see it.
   
4. Joe is not allowed to have regular condiments in the fridge.
   
5. Joe is to "support" her by eating foods he does not prefer at home (most of the time).
   
6. Kylea controls what Joe eats when she is away from home.
   
7. Please ignore all comments Kylea makes on the Basham and Lee families' social media accounts about food.
   
8. Kylea does not eat clean.
   
9. She triggers her followers with calorie-dense items on purpose for monetary gain.
   
10. Kylea has disordered eating.
    

If that list isn't enough to question her speech, a follower requested a 24-hour food log and the # of daily WW points Kylea uses. Kylea replied, "after months of bullying over that because of how healthy I do eat, I won't ever do that again. It's for my peace that I no longer do."
📢 To our friends at Meta, why is a "weight loss influencer" allowed to refuse to answer follower questions about WW (her chosen tool) and refuse to provide an example of what she eats in a day? This is the job YOU pay her to do.
Post 6. Alani Nu: Avoid this beverage (200mg caffeine) if you are unsure about your recommended caffeine intake.
Post 7. Trip Update: Her sister drove 6 hours. They have to be at the airport tomorrow at 4 am.
Post 8. Fort Worth Stockyards: This photo editing fail made Kylea appear 8 feet tall with a shrunken head and long extremities. Upon follower questions, she blamed her sister for how she held the phone. 🤔
Post 9. IN-N-Out Burger: Kylea's sister ate a cheeseburger & fries, and Kylea had 2 "protein style" hamburgers she claimed were called "protein burgers." Umm, nope.
Post 10. Shaved Ice: Kylea's sister got the baby size shaved ice, and Kylea got a significantly larger-sized cup.
⏸️ I smirked as Kylea claimed the protein bar was "yummy," the In-N-Out was "really good," and the sugar-free shaved ice, "It is SO good!!," but the giant iced cookie cake slice yesterday was "fine." She loves to gaslight and act holier-than-thou. 😇
Post 11. Whataburger: "Joe" posted his bag of Whataburger after waiting 1.5 hours in the drive-thru on opening day.
⏸️ How are the donut holes, energy drink, cheeseburger and fries, and regular shaved ice Kylea's sister consumed, and Whataburger her husband consuming healthy weight loss content? Why is Meta paying her for this nonsense?
Post 12. Amazon Purchases: "Joe" posted a picture of more puppy items and said, "Can you tell my wife is excited about her new role as dog mom 😂 😂" This is nontent.
Post 13. May 2021 vs Today: Kylea is "forever proud of the girl who changed her entire life -208 lbs."
⏸️ Kylea, you traded addictions. That is not something to be proud of. You are terrified of the scale and heavily modify your photos. That is not something to be proud of, either. You can spend all the money and travel the world but you are not happy. Quite the opposite. Seek medical care. ☮️
Post 14. Final Update: Kylea feels "uplifted" from window shopping at the Stockyards and local Target with her sister, listening to country music.
Takeout Purchases: Donut Holes= $3.50 est; In-N-Out Burger: Cheeseburger & Fries with 2 "Protein-style" Hamburgers (online prices)= $11.75 est; Bahama Buck's Baby & Regular Sized Shaved Ice= $9.18 + tip; Whataburger (unknown food)= $8 est;
Shopping/Travel Expenses: Barebell Protein Bar= $2.45 est; Alani Nu Freezeberry Energy= $2.48 est; Alani Nu Juicy Peach Energy= $2.48 est; Gas Joplin, MO to Fort Worth, TX: (373mi/33mpg) x $3.85 est= $43.52 est; Gas Fort Worth, TX to Dallas, TX: (32mi/33mpg) x $3.85 est= $3.73 est; Hotel (prices by airport used)= $75 est + fees; Bocce's Coconut Macaroon Crunchy Biscuits 5oz bag Qty 2= $12.98 est; Bocce's Sauvignon Bark Soft & Chewy 6oz bag Qty 2= $13.58 est; Bocce's Burger & Fries All-Natural Dog Treats Qty 2= $9.08 est; PetStages Grow-with-Me Ring Dog Chew Toy= $5.24 est; Pet Botanics Training Rewards Soft & Chewy Bacon Flavor 20oz bag Qty 2= $27.98 est; Undercoat Rake Grooming Tool= $10.25 est; Paw Print Cube Fabric Storage Bin= $12.99 est; Baghler Airline Approved Dog Travel Bag Light Pink- A Backpack with Silicone Bowls & Food Baskets= $34.99 est; Fabric Strawberry Harness & Leash= $17.99 est; Black Nylon Training Leash= $8.95 est;
All info from Reddit. ✌️

Hi. I'm the daughter in this situation and just looking for some advice. I'm a UK national but currently living in Norway. My mother and father both live in the UK. Sorry if this is too heavy.
My father (55) has been an alcoholic for as long as i can remember. When he drinks he becomes abusive to my mother. When I was 12 he pushed her into the fireplace and broke her arm. I remember being told we had to tell everyone that the dog did it running into her.
Over the years hes got worse but since the pandemic he has sunk so low that I didn't know it was possible without a body failing. He is his own boss now in his company and so with that mixed with work from home he will be binge drinking almost every night. When he drinks he is incredibly abusive to my mother. He will send her abusive text messages. He has blocked her cards before when she goes out grocery shopping in order to embarrass her. He hides her items around the house. Broke her phone multiple times so she cannot contact me.
Last summer he was violent with her and i walked in and he attacked me whilst i was pregnant (all was 'okay') Ever since this i have been recording incidents down as they happen and sending them to myself so I have the memories as they were at the time incase i need it in the future.
Ive tried to get my mum to call the police and she is just too scared to do it. She is scared if she finds somewhere to go she will not be able to to take her dogs with her (2 golden retrievers) and they truly are her babies. He has also been working on her to tell her she is the abusive one, not him. They've been together since she was 16 and he was 18. During the pandemic he convinced her to quit her job and so she's financially dependant on him too. hes had over 3 decades to work her down.
I talk to my mum on the phone almost everyday around 8pm so she can talk to her grandson a little and we talk about how things are. the last few days shes been telling me about my dads recent ailments. a few days ago he fell down the stairs from drinking and has smashed his shoulder in and needs an x-ray. He has turned this into saying my mother did it to him and she is abusing him. Last night he went out to get more alcohol and the bag with his red wine broke and smashed on the floor, he stood on it and got a deep cut on his foot. Now he is saying my mother has also done this to him,
Today I get a message on my phone from him telling me that he is filing for divorce from my mother on the grounds of physical abusive.... that she will get no money and its what best. she thinks he is clever enough that he will be able to pull this off...
I just can't believe the audacity of this man, but i'm also really scared for my mum.
tldr: my abusive father is filing for divorce against my mother and saying she is the abusive one. She thinks he will be able to convince people of this and she will end up with nothing. He is financially abusive. How can I help her?

Alright so I (17f) and my gf (16f) were on my bed making out because we thought my parents left and their location showed that aswell but we didn’t realize they came back home and my mom walked in on us making out and ran to tell my dad. After that my gf quickly called her dad and told him the situation and that she needs to get picked up asap so he’s on the way and I don’t want to be there because of the last time this happened so I’m begging her dad to take me too but he’s like they haven’t kicked you out yet and I don’t want to be labeled as a kidnapper so now I’m calling my best friend to see if she could let me sleep over and she said the same thing and then my gfs dad pulls in and she gets in the car and my parents come up to my room fuming and started screaming and degrading me and my dad was the most pissed of them all and he grabbed one of my bags and hit me repeatedly with it until my mom told him to stop and to go to work and he grabbed my phone and when he left he screamed not in my house so I quickly packed some things and waited for the right moment and I left and I walked 1 mile away to the nearest Panera because of the of the WiFi and I take my school computer out and email my friend to please come pick me up but at that point my parents already called the police and are looking for me so they get there in 15-20 mins and my friend comes in first and tells me your mom and dad are on the way and I start breaking down saying no and my dad comes in and grabs me and goes let’s go get in the truck so I do because I have no other choice and on the way home he once again degrades me and when we get home he parks and tells me this whole speech of like hes doing this for the best of me and he loves me more than anything and he will always be on my Side and that the world is brainwashing me and he gave me my phone and was like promise you will straighten up and tell this girl that you guys can only be friends and that you can’t hang out and I’ll let you guys text because she seems like a good person and I pinkie promised but I’ve never been at such of a low in my life lie we’re together for about 8 months and it just hurts is there anything I can do to Make the situation better (also I would’ve gotten my license next week but they might take away my privileges to do hat too)

I have a sheet with todays weekname in one cell
In another cell I would like to have a formula so it show one text if it's Monday, and another text if it's Tuesday etc I tried to search for such formula but couldn't find any.

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I’ve known this girl, let’s call her S, for almost six years now, been friends for almost five. I always thought she was pretty and that evolved into what I think was a little crush after we started hanging out. I’m still unsure about how you tell what’s a crush or not. But this was in my late teens and I was sort of scared of my sexuality and just other people in general, so I barely even acknowledged it even to myself.
Eventually, I told my BFF who’s also friends with S. A while after that, BFF came to me and revealed that the girl had asked her if I had a crush on her, because I wanted to hang out one on one a lot. BFF was a hero and lied for me and said no. S was apparently relieved and said something like, the only reason I would have a crush on her was because she was the first wlw I’d made irl friends with. “[My] first viable option” or something like that.
That fucking stung, and killed my crushy feelings stone dead. So I was a bit of an asshole and, with BFF’s permission, called S and told her straight up I just liked her as a friend. She was terribly embarrassed and ngl I took a bit of sadistic joy in that at the time. I thought that that would be the end of it and I could focus on our platonic relationship instead.
It’s been three years since then. My gay feelings went on a bit of a break but crept back in. I still sometimes get butterflies looking at her, or even just thinking about her. The other day she wore a top her boobs looked fantastic in and it was awful and wonderful at the same time. (I wanted to tell her she looked good, like BFF did, but I felt like a creep and didn’t.)
It’s not like it’s ruining my life or anything. I don’t lose sleep over this. I just … pine lol
S is bi but, in her own words, regularly forgets she’s gay. She’s also considering whether she might be asexual. That tracks because I’ve never seen her express any sort of attraction toward women—I’ve not really seen her express any attraction toward real men, either, but she’s clearly drawn to a lot of fictional guys. On the other hand, she loves to semi-ironically talk shit about men, you know the classic, “That I’m bi is proof sexuality isn’t a choice, girls so soft and pretty, man so gross and ugly,” vaguely feminist-flavoured war of the sexes kind of stuff. Occasionally gets on my nerves, to be honest. Thankfully, it's been decreasing the older we get (what a shocker).
She’s way out of my league anyway. Objectively very pretty and conventionally attractive, though she doesn't understand that herself. It seems pretty much any relationship she strikes up with a guy, it ends with him asking her out. She always turns them down and gets uncomfortable and kind of freaked out about it, and BFF and I have to comfort her. She’s never been with anyone, though tbf never have I. (We’re 23 and 24.)
Most recently, a guy tried to ask her out, she turned him down and stopped talking to him. Then, a few weeks later, her phone rang and it was him. She deliberately ignored the call, but it turned out he was driving past and was just going to ask her if she wanted a ride, so he saw her ignore him. She was incredibly embarrassed.
So like. There’s something going on, clearly, but she doesn’t want to talk about it so [shrug] hope she figures it out I guess!
She does flirt with me, but it’s just how us three talk to one another. BFF, who’s straight, started it with both of us, S started flirting back and then started flirting with me. I very rarely reciprocate because it makes me feel like a creep, since I kind of sort of mean it. It’s also really nice lol. I scroll back through our text conversation to re-read my faves sometimes, which I know is not helpful.
Every time I think about this I’m kicking myself for not shooting my shot back when crushgate happened. In fairness to myself, I was struggling badly with my mental illness at the time and barely keeping my head above water, so it was understandable I didn’t want to risk anything. And I don’t want to risk anything now either. BFF is moving across the country this autumn and S stopped hanging out with the guys who’ve tried to ask her out, and I can’t lose both of them at once. I have atrocious social skills, a professionally diagnosed social anxiety disorder, and basically no other friends.
I want to date, I’m just terrified of it. I should go to bars and events and shit and find someone else. Both for its own sake and to get over S. But that’s easy to say and much harder to do. And a little voice at the back of my head keeps saying, why should I, when S is right here and so wonderful?
All of my problems are my own fault! What a shocker!
that’s all just wanted to vent thanks for reading <3

DD two weeks, absolutely reeling - long post
Wow, so I've had a whole year of being trickle fed a truth. My partner of 8 years had been increasingly awful to deal with. Angry all the time (apparently about work). Ranting, cold and distant. Then he tells me, he got 'handsy, over clothes' with a colleague at work and they had an EA. To say I was devastated was an understatement.
He'd admitted to sexting a different colleague a month before and I'd been trying to hard for us after forgiving him. During my efforts he was starting the big EA/PA. After the 'handsy' incident I asked him to move out for a bit whilst I processed it so he moved into a shared house with some workmates. 1 year of us trying to rebuild (I thought) including starting couples counselling. Seeing each other a few times a week.
1 month ago he admits he slept with her that time at work. A week later he admits it was more than once and they had a brief affair but it broke up before he left our house. 2 weeks ago he admits hes lived a DOUBLE life this whole time and basically whenever he's not been with me he's been with her at her house, with her and her kids -whilst keeping his original rented room. So I'm on maybe the 4th DDay now.
I'm reeling, I've been gaslit and manipulated for a whole YEAR. Given the cold treatment and witholding whenever I questioned an inconsistency - and there were many. I lost 10kg in weight from the anxiety alone. He’s been having unprotected S with both of us, sometimes the same day! Feels l like such a violation (risks aside), both now being tested.
I spoke to her. She was equally gobsmacked. She'd been dumped a week prior to last DDay with no explanation from him. Apparently he left me a year ago for her, when I wouldn't have a baby with him. 1) He never asked! It was never off the table. 2) We never broke up! They've been talking about marriage, and venues and even a baby.
I'm so confused. I had 6 amazing years with this guy. Then he became this awful person to live with, then this.
As it stands; he loves me, it's always been me, he wants our future, he's had some sort of breakdown, his IC has brought him back. He can’t tell me why… anything.
He has allowed me to vent, not exploded (as he would normally before) he even cut his ridiculous midlife crisis hair for me. He's given me his phone location access and access to his phone (obviously it's been sanitised). Posted a pic of us on FB, AP doesn't have FB so missed our anniversary post in March obv. She was only ever known about implied or overtly by 4 people he knew and his therapist.
I demanded he enlighten the AP and was present for that text and the ensuing phone call. He's now blocked her so I've ended up answering her questions. Ive now set boundaries and stepped back.
Since then, he's been attentive and rode the waves with me. Hes been in IC the whole time and currently we are still in CC (4 months) but haven't been since this all broke (Next ones going to be crazy). I've spent a fortune this year in IC trying to improve myself because my self esteem has been eroded so bad by his behaviour.
What do I do? I'm so in love with that guy of 6 years but I don't recognise this awful gaslighting monster I've known for the last 18 months. And now it seems my guy is back from the dead. But 18 months of what I can only describe as demonic possession (not really obv, but that's what it looked like), I just... Don't know. I feel like an idiot for considering R. My emotions are everywhere. I alternate between wanting to be held and just the sight of him making my skin crawl.
I apologise for the stream of consciousness nature of this but I'm so overwhelmed and I darent tell most of my friends. Does it get better? How? If you’re a WP and can relate, how is it possible to fake (he says) a whole loving family life with AP and still love the BS and keep them around? BS, does it get any better? How did you ride the waves? How did WS regain your trust?
Input from both BS and WS welcome.

My father is re married to his 2nd wife for context. My step mom has always hated me for literally existing talked sh*t about my wife since the day she met her and called various family members to spread lies about her and say she’s dirty and crazy calling her fat. She even went as far as to call a family member that was letting us stay temporarily when things were hard to convince them they should put us on the street so we can be homeless. My dad never made her stop to this day I don’t know why. I’ve had various family members approach me and tell me randomly my wife is nothing like my step mother claims she is which I honestly find embarrassing. I would say majority of the horrible things that were said made their way back to me as my fathers side of the family hates my step mom so they always alerted me to her sh1t talking .Recently while me and him were speaking he brought up my wife and I asked him to stop speaking on my wife. I explained with everything that’s been side behind my back that’s been said it’s not appropriate. He told me so I’m “supposed to defend your wife?” I said you can tell her to stop and that it’s wrong because by staying silent you remain complicit with the behavior and she’ll do it further because you basically say it’s okay. He claimed not to know what I’m talking about. A few months ago I was making roughly 13,000 -15,000 a month and I got laid off from my job I decided to use the money I did earn to pay off debt and rent since then I’ve been working 4 jobs just until I can get myself where I need to be. So I asked him to borrow money a little while back he said he couldn’t do it. He said I need to be a man and that I’m old enough to stand on my feet. I left him alone on the topic and have just been working to save up the money to resolve the problem. He calls me today randomly to say “well why don’t you work instead of staying home”I answered I am working. (I work 56-60 hours a week currently) (my wife currently can’t work due to an injury). He says “ well your wife isn’t” and I stopped him and said leave my wife out the conversation she has nothing to do with this. I literally almost never ask for help if I didn’t get laid off you wouldn’t even know about the situation I would’ve just resolved it myself. He goes on to say you don’t wanna be a man you don’t wanna work hard I asked him simply when you let you friends borrow 3,000 or 5,000 why don’t they have to be men? He let someone borrow 3,000 and they never even paid him back. Why don’t you say any of this to them? One of his friends owns 2 rental houses and he regularly let him borrow money .And he asked me” have I ever asked you for money?” To which I responded yes you have you were fake crying about how you needed a 100$ to help your family and I gave you the money He got quite for a moment. For context when I gave him the 100$ I was literally homeless . He owned 2 properties but I was naive at (19)and gave in to the fake tears. He starts again with “your wife” I said I never speak on your wife even with all the awful things she’s said don’t speak on mine. I told him you never speak on a man’s wife. You don’t try this with anyone else and you don’t have the balls to go out in public and do it don’t do it with me. I told him when we talk you’re my father when you speak on my wife you come at me as a man. You wanna do that meet me in parking lot and we’ll see what you have to say about my wife . I told him don’t you ever speak on my wife. You got something you wanna say about my wife say it to my face and see what happens and then he told me I’m a loser and a bastard who spent his life draining him for money because he paid child support to my mother and basically disowned me as a son over the phone. My other family members heard about the argument and they went after him. AITAH?

So, I have a friend I walk home with everyday. Only known them for 2 1/2 months. We usually wait for each other and walk and talk. Don't really argue or fight. And honestly they laugh at everything I say and seem to pay attention to what happens to me in class. But, they sometimes do weird things where they kinda pull away. When I was walking out of class to walk with them they started walking really fast like they were trying to lose me lol. Legit seemed like they didnt want me to catch up. So, Then I pulled out my phone to look up some directions to a shop I wanted to go to while lagging behind them. They were eye glancing back at me to see if I was still following and I had my phone out checking directions. Legit didn't wanna slow down. So at this point I was just like "OK, ur being weird today" and I thought maybe they don't wanna walk home with me today? So I just stopped following and turned around and talked to some classmates while we played with this cat lol.
Like 5 minutes later I get a text from the friend asking "Where did u go, I turned around and you were gone?"
and I was like "I thought u didn't wanna walk with me lolololo, u were speeding up" What do you guys make of this? It kinda hurt my feelings ngl but I just recognized it as some attachment issue. Did I do the right thing or should I give them space? Or is it good now lol?

I genuinely didn’t think I would be here again. I thought blocking him would resolve this but here I am. here is the deleted post-
Best way to break ties or stop a guy from sending r18 texts?
There’s this one guy in my class and pe class who’s constantly messaging me everyday but doesnt talk irl, abt r18 stuff. I’m pretty sure he likes me too, but texts varies from Im gonna grope you, I’ll suck the milk out your tits, I’m going to penetrate dildos into you ect. I don’t engage with his sexting but I don’t want to message him everyday, I feel disgusted someone like that probably likes me. I don’t plan on telling adults since I don’t want to be making enemies, since it could affect my school life and backfire, I didnt send anything bad just stuff you wouldnt expect a high schooler to do. I don’t want to send a massive paragraph because it’ll seem like i’m overreacting and ‘sensitive’ and it’ll definitely make it awkward. I’ve been messaging my friend the whole time about this and she said that if I keep in contact with him he’s just going to keep messaging me like that. I agree with her, I just don’t want to make it awkward and affect my school life if I say anything that makes him mad. Please don’t get mad abt anything I’ve done I genuinely don’t know what to do.
After ghosting him, he’s repeatedly sent me emails from his school email to my school email. My friend recently sent me an email I would be receiving.
* I had a dream one night. It was about you unblocking me. I was so excited and began talking to you immediately. But the only thing you said to me was 'its boring to talk to you' and after reading that i woke up covered in sweat and tears. I had a dream. About you shunning me from you. About you ignoring me. Ghosting me. Before you came up with a petty lie. 'yo kevin i'm sorry but my mum is going to go through my mssgs so i'm removing you from my contacts sorryy" No. You're not sorry. You never were. And it pains me to think that you had to lie. I emailed you twice today. You didnt respond to either of them. You aren't in pain. You aren't recovering at all. You are doing this to give me pain. It is a toxic and disgusting action that you have chosen to do. I really want to talk to you. I truly do. It makes me feel empty and unfocuessed everyday I cannot talk to you. But this isn't how you feel. And i think that single dream explaing it to me. so yes, I had a dream. I had a dream about you ignoring me and blocking me without giving me a single chance to redeem myself. I had a dream where you jokingly decided to block me. I was devestated. The only reason i wake up and go to basketball training is because you thought that I could get into A division. You said it yourself "AT LEAST YOU PLAY BASKETBALL" the second i saw that something changed in me. I finally had a motivation, a reason to go to basketball training. To push through the painstaking hours everyday of pushups and running and wearing a cursed mask of positivity even when i'm really cracking inside little by little. Every single day I have to push myself to go to school and every single day i come back to a broken family of hate and violence. Every single day I am constantly motivating myself to do my homework but every single day I am crying inside. And you might just be laughing at this message. Thinking that I'm so pitiful that i have resorted to emails talking to you. And you might be right. I am pitiful. Because despite all this I am still pushing myself every single day to try and persuade you to just talk to me. Because I'm too scared to do it in person. I'm a coward. But i know that not even i go as low as to make a groupchat about how im being too weird and hating on me. I dont go as low as to say someone is obsessed with me. I dont go as LOW as to ghost someone before blocking them and giving them one word answers each time they want to talk to you. I had a dream one night. And it was about you and i being friends. and I woke up in tears. because i know its not true. because no friend would ever do the things you did. I got valorant and genshin impact so we could play together, despite being hit for getting the apps. Every single day i live in a constant state of fear because of my broken family. Every single day I see you. And yet every single day i know i can never talk to you. I have concluded that you are a toxic person with no sense of conscience that I need to stay away from. But still. I am a pitiful person myself and still cling on pathetically on the false hope that i made for myself and my immature reality that you would unblock me. Notice me. But thats not happening. Is it. I dont even know if you're going to read this. Or if you somehow blocked me from emails as well. It's sad, really. I am disappointed in you, but also myself for thinking that we could ever be friends. But even as i am writing this i am hoping that we can still be together. That we have a chance. That you might just unblock me. Even though i have figured this out and that this may end in tears. I am just asking. Please, talk to me. whether it be in person or virtual i cannot even think straight anymore.
I just want you to know how i feel, and that i feel really sad when you dont talk to me.
I was scrolling through TikTok one day and found this comment: Love is like handing someone a pistol and have them aim it at your heart and just pray they don't shoot.
I didnt pull the trigger.
You did.
So I had a dream. It was about you unblocking me. I was so excited and began talking to you immediately.
I'm surprised you made it this far
*
Okay that was really long. I took most of your advices and blocked him but I guess he was desperate and the situation ended up like this. I have the day off school tomorrow so I have until then to sort things out. I genuinely felt sick and uncomfortable reading that. I feel like I have to tell an adult. This really isn’t okay. But before I do, does anyone have anymore advice on what I should do?

It feels like my girlfriend is putting her emotions and the outcome of her feelings on me. She is quick to get into whatever kind of feelings; sad, mad, crying or whatever and it would be for reasons like example; yesterday I picked her up from the airport from visiting family for a graduation in California(I didn’t go with because I was working) and I was excited to see her because yes my girlfriend back. So I’m at the airport and I’m happy to see her and she is meh to see me because I didn’t stay on the phone with her for the 2 mins before I literally saw her in person. Okay I ignore that and stayed happy to see her and gave her a barrage of kisses.
So I ask if she wants to go to one of my favorite dispensaries she says yes. So I make it a spontaneous date and we get food after. Mind you we did do some window shopping and just enjoying each other company. Then it’s time for me to take her home. And it’s an hour and a half drive so she take a nap. We get to her house I help with her luggage and tell her that I had a great time. She basically on the brink of crying because I dropped her home and she want to be with me. I’m confused because we just spent 6-7 hrs together. Don’t you wanna go home and unwind and unpack? And that’s just one example it happens every time we hang out and I gotta drop her home and we see each other everyday. If I don’t wanna be on the phone with her, she gets in her feelings and mind you we are on the phone in silence and she nor I are saying anything she is just watching YouTube videos or playing video and I’m drawing, watching a show, playing video games(and actually paying attention to the story) my hobbies.
Idk it’s draining for me because I feel like I can’t do the things I enjoy without her getting in her feelings. What should I do?
Please don’t recommend including her on my hobbies because I tried. I like to work out and go hiking. She’s not an active person so that’s usually a no and the games she plays are good but they are mainly life simulatosandbox games like Minecraft, stardew valley and etc and I’ve tried them they are cool but when I offer for to try the games I like like NFS, Dead Cells, Splatoon, Pokemon and etc she says okay and never actually tries them (the only game she’s tried is NFS and she tried once for 15 and never opened it again).

To preface one thing - this is in Singapore, I am half singaporean and half thai, I have no close friends or family members around here, but I study here.
So after many years of dating and many quite one sided and manipulative relationships with guys and after 3 months of being single I finally got into relationship with my GF. First time trying lesbian dynamic. I felt it would be very different, she would understand me more and was less demanding of me and of course less physical and simply more harmonious, since, you know it's a fellow woman.
I was also taking it slow and we had like dozen dates before getting entangled officially couple months ago. She is quite lovely and well educated, slightly older than me, somewhat exotic looking around here and it felt we are becming good friends.
When we finally hooked up she had to guide me a lot because it's indeed quite different dynamic than with a guy but that was fine, I guess and she seemed to even enjoyed and would joke about how I was lesbian virgin and she can shape me to be suited for her. Which I thought at the time was cute.
Long story short I recently finally moved in with her and that was a mistake. I've been at her place most of the time we would hang out because my place was really tiny. Right after I moved in I was just in a span of week introduced to basically a laundry list of chores I should do and at the time I thought alright we pull this together right, but we didn't. After next couple weeks I realised (for the first time ever) that I am doing the same chores I would be doing for my former boyfriends and I started to feel, yet again, more as a maid with benefits. This time I had courage to voice that to my GF and she would apologise and be all sweet about how she didn't realise and that would coo me for another week, but no changes would actually happen. Only now I think it's been manipulative.
Since I am a university student and a "gym bunny" I have less free time than one would expect and suddenly it was filled mostly by coming home doing chores before going to gym and then coming from gym and my GF would be still up and then she would be demanding for attention, mostly in bedroom. This is when I've also noticed that while guiding me in bedroom she never seemed eager to pleasure me in return unless I would specifically ask and so for days I tried not to ask and suddenly it was super one sided bedroom stuff and she seemed perfectly fine with that. That stung because it immedaitelly reminded me of my last 3 boyfriends where it was the same.
I held a lot of this in, trying to keep being disciplined and do all she'd like me to do and chores and everything more and better in hopes of her seeing more value in me. But it simply didn't happen, not over course of two plus weeks.
Well this weekend I was using her ipad, where she always logged off out of all social and communication apps when she wasn't using. I always thought it's a like... internet safety thing in case the device gets hacked or something. But this time her whatsapp and wechat was logged in and I simply discovered that while I am at school and she's "working" from home she's hooking up at least once a week with guys. Or at least mostly with guys I wasn't in the mood to read into too much detail, seeing texts of your presumeably loved sending very intimite and heartfelt texts to guys and reacting to their D pics and sending stuff back... I felt betrayed but so far I haven't said anything and the routine contiues to my own detrement.
From doing gymnastics on higher level for 10+ years I'm used to some discipline and manners that would now be probably consider abuse, but what I learnt from that was to be quiet a lot not to cause conflict and please people. Despite my previous relationships with guys being basically abusive it was eventually always them to dump me, I never had the guts to do it yet (not counting middle school lol). This time I recognize the problem and I would like to end things but at the same time I moved too soon (in hindsight) and have nowhere to go at the moment.
And so for weeks I felt like maid and for 4-5 days now I feel more like bang maid who's also stupid and naive and I couldn't contemplate a good .. like escape plan, that's why I am making this post. In the meanwhile I continue the same old routine unable to almost meet my GF's eyes, yet she seem strangely not noticing any change and looking quite happy. On top of that you probably can guess how I feel being at school, knowing there's a decent change she's out hooking up. It just all crushing my selfesteem yet I feel stuck in the routine and my head.
TLDR: GF is cheating, doesn't know I know, because I am scared to confront her since I have nowhere to go if I'd move out.

So in our reservation system, you can either make multiple reservations separately or simultaneously. Oftentimes making them simultaneously is the option that makes the most sense. You only need to get the guest’s personal information and CC number once as opposed to however many times. There is, however, a quirk with this shitty reservation system that’s started happening in the last week. When you make multiple reservations simultaneously, you have to send the confirmation emails individually. And when you do that, for whatever reason, the system lists the total for ALL the rooms on EACH confirmation email. So if each room is $100 and someone has three rooms, each confirmation email will show one room, but the total on each of them will show as $300. Might be enough to make you go, “wtf? That ain’t right.” and call the hotel, right? Totally understandable. And those phone calls involve the guest explaining the problem and asking why the total for all the rooms is showing for each individual room. And I politely explain that making multiple reservations simultaneously produces that result in the automated emails, and I assure them that each room is still the same price. And they say thank you, they appreciate the explanation, and we say goodbye. Pretty simple, right? A shitty bug in the system, but it’s not our fault, and it’s not our hotel’s fault. It’s the reservation system itself. The call this post is about is, what, the second call I’ve had about it, though apparently my GM was already aware of the issue earlier in the week and didn’t say anything until I brought it up. Of course.
So this lady calls me to make two reservations over the phone. Okay, no problem! I make them simultaneously and send the emails. She calls back, and she explains the issue. I’d said each room is $100, but the confirmation emails each say $200. I apologize and explained the issue that’s cropped up and assured her that each room was still only $100. She asked if I’d be able to resend the confirmation emails with the correct totals on each. I hesitated before telling her it wasn’t possible with the way the reservations were made, but I’d be happy to manually send her an email confirming the price if she wanted documentation. She didn’t say anything for a few seconds, so I asked if it was for an employer that would need proof in order to compensate her. She said, “just a second, my boyfriend wants to talk to you.”
Of course he does. Gotta get The Man on the phone to Set Things Straight, huh. Right away, he was a lil bitch. Actually a huge bitch, but y’know. “YOU told me those rooms were each $100 but then YOU sent two emails saying they were $200.”
“And I explained that th-“
“I HEARD your explanation, but obviously you don’t know how to do your JOB.”
“Uh, excuse me?”
“I want you to do your job right.”
“Okay? Well I can do my job just fine without you being rude.”
“I WANT two separate emails with the right totals on each. Because THAT’S WHAT I DESERVE.”
I actually, audibly, scoffed when he said that. Because, sir, what you deserve is to have my foot crammed up your ass.
“I’d have to cancel both and remake them separately to do what you’re asking, which is fine, b-“
“I don’t care what you have to do, just do your job right this time. If I find out you’ve charged my card the wrong amount, it’s not going to end well.”
“Oh, would you like to come in for your rooms tomorrow night and yell at me then, also?”
Now HE’S scoffing in disbelief because I said something unprofessional over the phone. Well suck my dick, sir, because you’re a Grade-A piece of shit.
“Oh I won’t be yelling at you. I’d be speaking to your manager and telling them to fire you for lying.”
“Great! I’m going to go ahead and cancel your two reservations and you can stay somewhere else. Feel free to call tomorrow morning from 7am to 3pm to discuss this with the manager.”
Dude didn’t even say anything for a second. And then he said, “isn’t there a manager there RIGHT NOW?”
“Nope… I hope you have a night as lovely as you are, sir.” and then I hung up on his ass. And yes, I shamelessly ripped that suggestion from people on this sub. That’s what came to mind. Well, that’s what came to mind after I reminded myself that I couldn’t call him a motherfucking cocksucker and hang up on him. I was at the desk waiting for him to call back and bitch at me. To my surprise, he never did.
God, he pissed me off so much that I was shaking with anger for half an hour afterwards. I went back into the office and texted my manager about the whole conversation followed by a string of profanity. My GM was accepting of the situation. My FOM was like “what an asshole. I would’ve said worse before hanging up on his ass. DNR him.”
I did. The best part was, he went online and made two reservations for our hotel that way. Like a few hours after the phone call ended. And I cancelled both of those ones too. Sent the cancellation emails and everything. He didn’t try to rebook. He tried to bitch at the manager the next day, but he was told he was put on the DNR list and would be escorted off the property by police if he came in.
What a fucking prick.

About four years ago, I applied for a trademark and got as far as the proof of use submission but due to circumstances, I wasn't able to complete the process. Then, two days ago, I got a text from someone claiming to be a paralegal with Secure-TM notifying me that they have a client looking to claim the same trademark. I gave the number in the text a call yesterday and was informed that if I wanted to petition it, they'd send me a form and I'd have to resubmit, which all sounded fine. What stuck out to me was the way the guy spoke to me and the awkwardness of the call in general; He was brash and rude and would interrupt and would leave long pauses after stating something that felt like he was going to extrapolate with further context, but wouldn't, and just his general phone presence gave me real scammer vibes.
So, I just want to know if anyone here has had any experience with them, and if I'm right in what I picked up from the phone call?

About four years ago, I applied for a trademark and got as far as the proof of use submission but due to circumstances, I wasn't able to complete the process. Then, two days ago, I got a text from someone claiming to be a paralegal with Secure-TM notifying me that they have a client looking to claim the same trademark. I gave the number in the text a call yesterday and was informed that if I wanted to petition it, they'd send me a form and I'd have to resubmit, which all sounded fine. What stuck out to me was the way the guy spoke to me and the awkwardness of the call in general; He was brash and rude and would interrupt and would leave long pauses after stating something that felt like he was going to extrapolate with further context, but wouldn't, and just his general phone presence gave me real scammer vibes.
So, I just want to know if anyone here has had any experience with them, and if I'm right in what I picked up from the phone call?

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About four years ago, I applied for a trademark and got as far as the proof of use submission but due to circumstances, I wasn't able to complete the process. Then, two days ago, I got a text from someone claiming to be a paralegal with Secure-TM notifying me that they have a client looking to claim the same trademark. I gave the number in the text a call yesterday and was informed that if I wanted to petition it, they'd send me a form and I'd have to resubmit, which all sounded fine. What stuck out to me was the way the guy spoke to me and the awkwardness of the call in general; He was brash and rude and would interrupt and would leave long pauses after stating something that felt like he was going to extrapolate with further context, but wouldn't, and just his general phone presence gave me real scammer vibes.
So, I just want to know if anyone here has had any experience with them, and if I'm right in what I picked up from the call?

A few months ago, my building's committee organized a small party for everyone living in our building to bond. It included some dancing and singing at the beginning and ended with a fancy dinner. My father was in charge of the food. During the party, the food arrived before dinnertime to ensure it was fresh and was set up on the buffet table. My dad went over to check if everything was up to standard.
Unfortunately, my neighbor, who is also my classmate, was there. He’s known as the class clown and is quite popular on Instagram for the funny stuff he posts. He secretly recorded my dad and posted it on his story, labeling him as someone who only comes for the food and can’t even wait for it. He also mentioned that he was my dad and added goofy music in the background. The whole school saw it, and needless to say, the next day wasn’t pleasant. A few people mentioned it and brushed it off as a joke, but I was dying inside and knew I had to get back at him.
Now, this guy is terrible at math and knew he would fail finals if he didn’t cheat. His roll number was after mine, so he always had to sit behind me. Throughout the year, I helped him pass the exams, but now there was no way I was giving him any answers. He realized this just before the math exam and offered to pay me a few dollars if I helped him pass.
I couldn’t believe his audacity. Not only did he ask for help after making a joke about my dad, but his offer was also ridiculously low. I was about to cuss him out but instead said, "Sure, you don’t need to study at all. I’ll tell you all the answers to the multiple-choice questions and you’ll pass for sure."
The exam time came, and I gave him the answers. After the exam, I asked him for the money, and he laughed and said, "I’m not giving you anything. You really thought I would pay you?" I laughed back and said, "You really thought I would help you pass after what you did?" He was shocked and I told him every answer I gave him was wrong. His expression was priceless; I wish I could have recorded it and posted it on my story.
A few weeks later, the results came out and he scored a 3 in math. He obviously failed and would have to repeat the year. I could hear his father yelling at him. A few hours later, I went to his house and showed his dad a screen recording of the story he posted. His dad, already furious that he failed, became even angrier. He then proceeded to discipline him right in front of me. I left immediately; I initially felt a little bad, but it was so satisfying. Apparently his dad was so pissed that he permanently confiscated his phone

When I was 4 or 5 , traveling cross country..I saw a beautiful long blonde hair woman in a long sleeved long dress with tiny flowers print standing in the middle of a flat golden plain with the wind blowing her hair and dress and I KNEW she had died by a wildfire soon after. ( I still remember the image and thought later, maybe reincarnation memory). 9 yo..AF Brat we visited Ephesus, Turkey..there was a tunnel leading up to the colosseum grounds from the cages and prison cells below and I saw a woman in traditional biblical garb with a blue shaw over her hair bent over with her hand on the wall for support, blinking up into the bright sunlight ..I had the overwhelming urge to touch the Wall were her hand had been. (Just my imagination?)
Years go by and I am diagnosed with an incurable eye desease ..my sister and I go on a road trip, for historical sites while I still can, and then I KNEW this was a ghost energy. Shiloh National Cemetery Park Walking around I saw a copse of trees with 1 Confederate marker among Union Markers and I wondered how he got there. Suddenly (,in my minds eye?) I SAW a very young slim man with dark hair stumble out of the dense brush and be confronted by the sight of Union men sitting around a fire. (Imagination again?) Later my sister and I were standing at the dedication plaque podium and my sister said how sad this place made her feel ..suddenly I felt a sense of Pride and said How proud that their sacrifice was being honored ..then felt joy and laughed and tried to shoulder bump the Confederate ghost... I KNEW, but could not see, standing beside me. Sight deteriated fast, facial recognition gone. It's a blurry world. Btw I can only type on my phone close to my face. Black screen. White lettering. Allen, Texas standing outside grocery store waiting on my ride, I look up and not 2 feet from me is an older gentleman with full head of grey hair and bushy mustache smiling and staring at me..not saying a word..at the time I didn't wonder HOW I could see him so clearly..minutes go by..silence..I'm wondering if he is just standing there judging me, my attire, etc. I turn my back on him and ignore him. Thought no more about it UNTIL..2 years later living in Mabank, Texas AGAIN outside waiting for my ride..Hes THERE.. 2 feet from me, silent and smiling at me..75 miles distance from Allen..thats when I realize I can SEE him as I did in Allen because I RECOGNIZED him from Allen, remember facial recognition is gone, I can't even see myself in a mirror. That shocked me. I don't know him. I walked away. Now you are going to say I'm crazy or hullicinating ..4 years later I'm living in Kentucky and I visit an Amish Store as I'm waiting in line at cashier I see an Amish couple in traditional garb standing perfectly still staring at me I see her clearly with her bonnet and long dark green dress, slim with hard lines on her face (wrinkles) she barely comes to her husband's shou, I look at him and see his white shirt and red suspenders BUT there is a black blob that covers his face and part of his shoulder..ok I think, blind spot from my eyesight, not wondering why I can SEE her so clearly, turn to look at cashier and I can SEE her plump, blonde middle age with glasses smiling at me and I suddenly think..she is connected to the couple..then Memory lapse..until I found myself with a receipt in hand saying "It will be okay, It will be okay" to a crying cashier who won't look up at me. Last experience was December 5th 2023 Weekend getaway with my sister and her DIL. Nashville, TN, Broadway St. Bar hopping, I had slowed down drinking and had switched to water as we walked into Blake's Place. DIL was very drunk and got nose to nose with bouncer..suddenly I felt such Pride for the bouncer and could see him and DIL clearly.,he stood there stoic and unresponsive to DIL barrage of drunk BS till she gave up and moved on. He had a black stocking cap and heavy coat and gloves on, roundish face but not fat..small nose and thin lips. I went to the back of the dance floor and planted myself there so my sister would know where I was and listenened/enjoyed the band, with my water. To the right of me I saw, as if in a spotlight a tall blonde man, in a Red short sleeve t shirt and huge biceps standing there just staring at me, not drinking or moving to the music as the blurry guys behind him were..song after song, he just stood there watching me.. I felt a little self conscious.. I am now 60 so WTH? Eventually my sister came to tell me it was time to leave to get DIL to hotel. Memory lapse..(not drunk, had been on water)..dont remember anything until we were outside on sidewalk when the bouncer came running out to me and grabbed my arm and with a shocked expression on his face demanded.."What did you just say tome! What did you just say to me!" ...I DONT KNOW! I sheepishly say "Best Band" and he stood back and watched us as we moved on down the road. I beleve Red shirt was a ghost connected to him and said something to him thru me. But unlike Shiloh, but like Amish Store..I don't know what the message was.was. If I hadn't effected these two people the way I had, I would think I had had hulicinations or a very vivid imagination..but seeing the stoic bouncer so shook up..convinced me..and I am trying to find explanation/validation that I am not crazy.