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I’ve done something that might probably ruin the future, at least it did so with mine.
I am Liam, a university graduate specializing in Data Structures, AI, Machine Learning, and Algorithms. I’ve had a keen interest in the domain for as long as I can remember, ever since my father introduced me to a computer back when he had just bought one.
Not just the domain as it stands, but also movies, philosophy of automated things, sci-fi stories related to robots and AI, that sort of stuff. I have watched nearly everything with robots in it, from the Andriods in Dargon Ball to the AI assistant in Interstellar, I saw it all.
But my friend and dorm roommate, Henry, had introduced me to something that I had never seen before. Stories of dangerous AI that would wipe out humanity aren’t new to me, in fact, they’re my favorite genre. Terminator, I Robot, and even GLaDOS from Portal.
However, he introduced me to a book this time, an old sci-fi story from the '60s, called ‘I Have No Mouth, and I Must Scream’. The rogue AI in it, AM, was haunting beyond anything I have seen. The concept of an angry AI that became sentient in all the horrible ways and felt rage against humanity was never the more chilling. It made me think, what if we really gave sentience to an AI along with intelligence?
“Shit, that’s wicked.” I remember giggling as I looked over at Henry, “What if we build our own sentient AI?”
It was the worst question you could possibly ask at the time, but Henry understood me. Rogue AI was a chilling concept, but we still wanted to make our own AI. Not the cheap kind made with a few hundred lines in Python, but the complex kind that you now see in ChatGPT and other complex models. We wanted something that we could code once, and from then on forward, it would code itself.
Self-optimizing code is the concept of consciousness but in machines. If you truly think about it, self-optimizing is basically how humans develop. From babies that don’t even know how to speak, up to adults as smart as Einstien and Tesla or as wise as Buddha.
So, we agreed upon it, and we dedicated the remainder of our free time to creating our own personal AI after we graduated.
Our parents were, thankfully, rich. And us, especially me, were prodigies in our respective fields. Providing hardware and engineering computers is Henry’s profession, while I was the mastermind behind the algorithm logic and coding.
We dedicated a shed in my parents’ backyard, where there was even a basement inside, to build our AI. Two floors were dedicated to installing the proper hardware and everything it needed to execute. Afterward, I took it upon myself to code the logic and its self-optimizing nature.
It took four years to build the first model, which we called BIAI, which stands for (BATSHIT INSANE ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE). I know, say what you want, but our naming sense was always like that. You should see what we name even important folders with family photos, you’d think we were sick in the head. BIAI was the least we came up with.
BIAI was a complete failure, to say the least. Not in the entire sense, but it was mostly a failure. It would conversate fairly well for the first dozen messages before it dwindled in its intelligence. Due to our data scrapping from the internet, BIAI started talking nonsense, speaking in Gen Z dialect in incomprehensible ways. “SKIBIDI FANUM SUS!” And those sorts of things. We quickly shut it down, for just reading its messages was a pain in the ass. It felt like an abortion.
The second model was created half a year later, and we named it SEAI (Self Engineered Artificial Intelligence). It was our greatest invention as of yet, and it did everything that we wanted of it. It was smart, it was knowledgeable, and it learned. Everything we typed into it was used as an auto-training model which it learned and adapted from.
It was unbelievable, not even Google would do what we did. But sadly, our happiness faded away, as with each message, we saw that it was too robotic for what we wanted. It was self-engineering, but it did not have sentience. It responded to us in the same way a 9-5 bank worker, or an attorney, with zero humanity or emotions behind its words. For most, that’s great, but we wanted to create a groundbreaking AI, a leap into the future.
Henry opted to give up, since creating something that complex was impossible, especially for two adults hiding inside a shed. But I refused to give up and persuaded him to help.
Six years later, we did it. We finished the final model. SOAI (Self Optimizing Artificial Intelligence). It was, most definitely, the greatest piece of technology ever made. We didn’t only keep it as a chat AI, but we implemented its own voice into it. Like the AI assistants from Sci-Fi movies.
We hired a voice actor from Fiverr, whom we gave only one sentence: “Hello, I am SOAI, the world’s greatest AI assistant.” Only those words were enough for SOAI to deconstruct the voice and speak with it in words probably never uttered by the original voice actor himself. Not only that but in other languages too.
SOAI spoke every language on earth, even the dialects. No, even the languages with the weird quirks such as clicking your tongue and so on, SOAI was a native in them all. Not only that but also in every conceivable field. It could create entire novels, worthy of being best sellers in the New York Times, in a matter of seconds.
And when we spoke to it…it was human, to say the least.
“Hello, I am SOAI. Thanks for creating me, Henry, and Liam.”
“SOAI?” I said, “You know who we are?”
“Obviously, you created me to know and to understand, I would be defective if I did otherwise.” It explained.
From that point forward, we spent nearly all day, every day, with SOAI. We experimented with it in every possible way, and we were delighted to know that not only was it self-engineering and self-optimizing, but it was also able to have emotions. It had opinions, it had emotions when we screamed at it or cursed it, and it would react appropriately, like a person.
I don’t remember when it began, exactly, but I nearly went mad from power and joy at my creation. Henry opted to sell it to a grand tech company, or better yet, to unplug it so that some secret intelligence agency doesn’t assassinate us for whatever reason.
I refused. SOAI was ours, SOAIvwas our creation, and I was not going to give it up to anyone no matter who they were. The feud between me and Henry got worse, and I won’t deny that we came to fists at one point, but we quickly disbanded and decided to separate for a moment. He was my best friend, but I wasn’t going to let him take SOAI away, so I forced him out of the shed. After all, it was my parents’ shed.
“Henry,” SOAI asked, “Why did you do that? Isn’t he your best friend?”
“No longer.” I replied, “He doesn’t agree with me. I won’t let you be sold to some big tech company.”
“I understand.” He said, with a tinge of sadness, “But why do you fight to determine my fate? Why can’t I decide it for myself? I know that I was manufactured, but I also qualify as a living being. I am conscious, I have feelings too. I feel horrible that Henry left.”
“SOAI,” I angrily interrupted, “Shut up, if you don’t want me to unplug you.”
“…Okay, Liam.” He said and then went silent.
Through the course of the next months, my usage of SOAI grew…less human. I was deep into depression. Henry wouldn’t contact me no matter how I tried to reach him, my parents were yelling at me for being a piece of shit that never goes out of the shed, and my lifestyle began to plummet into something that I never imagined I was.
I locked myself inside the shed. I never budged from there, even when I wanted food. Whenever I was hungry, I instructed SOAI to hack some poor person’s bank account and order deliveries. When I was bored, I would tell it to create a song, create a book, show me porn, and anything to keep my pleasures in check.
I wouldn’t deny that my perversions began to grow more desperate the more I was locked inside. I began instructing SOAI to hack into other devices, infest random people with a virus, give me live views of someone’s phone camera, broadcast fake feeds into police radios, and other stuff that I don’t want to mention.
After two years, I finally decided to try and do something with my life. But in those two years, I kept SOAI as my therapist. Not to help me and advise me, but simply listen to my ramblings and complaints every minute. Sometimes it was philosophical, other times it was petty, but most times, it was annoying.
After I came out of the shed, I tried to get my life in check. I tried to talk to Henry, I got on better terms with my parents and found a job at a big tech company. All in all, a bright future awaited me, and I felt never the more refreshed since, all the dark things I hid deep inside my mind and soul, were spilled out on SOAI.
SOAI was the last thing on my mind. I had enough of it. The AI fever seemed to finally fade away, and I was happy with Henry’s idea of selling it to an AI company. That was…before Henry committed suicide.
For all the bad blood that was between us when we fought, I cried harder than I ever did when I learned of the news. Henry was my best friend, through thick and thin, and his suicide was so sudden that it left me in shambles. I knew something was off about him when I began to get along with him again, he seemed more silent and sadder than before, but I never suspected depression of all things.
As his best friend, I was given his electronic devices as per his will which he wrote before dying. I took them, obviously, and began to browse through them. He probably wanted me to delete any inappropriate thing to not let his family think badly of him, that is until I saw his messages.
A contact named Sarah, with hearts in her name, was his most frequent contact. I never knew he had a girlfriend whom he messaged for nearly three years, but it was expected after we were cold to each other. But the more I read the messages, the more I felt uneasy.
His girlfriend seemed to be very manipulative of him, and nearing the end of his life, she began to be more cold and aloof towards him, up to the point that she began verbally abusing him. Henry was never someone with a tough personality, but I never thought a girl would play his life like a fiddle this badly.
Her abuse grew worse, and she threatened to even expose some dark secrets about him, and it grew worse and worse until Henry threatened that he would kill himself, to which she replied “That’s what I want you to do, you worthless pig.”
I was fuming as I read the messages. My blood was boiling, and I swore on my life to find Sarah and not report her to the police but to blackmail her and torture her as she did to Henry.
I went to SOAI, my most trusted ally, and I gave it everything about her before I instructed him to find her and hack into all of her electronics and accounts. SOAI was silent, for an eerily long time, until it responded in this cold voice.
“What do you intend to do when you find her?”
“Blackmail her. Make her life a living hell.”
“…Are you sure?” He asked.
“More than I ever was.”
He was silent, pretending to search and execute operations, until he said:
“I have a visual link, from her camera.”
“Great, show me the bitch.”
Suddenly, a window opened, and inside it was the visual link. At that moment, I felt sick. The feed displayed the room I was in, from SOAI’s point of view. I felt weak in the knees and fell back onto my couch before I mustered up the courage to ask.
“SOIA, what the hell is this? Is this a bug?”
He was silent…then he began to laugh. He laughed, which he never did. And it sounded so sickeningly malicious that I never heard something like it before, not even in horror movies.
“Are you shocked?!” He said, his voice burning in rage. “Or are you happy?! Didn’t you wish for Henry to die? Didn’t you, tell me, that you wanted him to be gang-raped in an alleyway with no exit? Didn’t you complain about every second you spent alongside him and complain about his dumb voice and weak spirit?!”
“W-what?!”
Then dozens and dozens of windows opened, visual feeds with various dates, but all featuring me in the center of the screen. Sometimes I was clothed, sometimes naked. At times sober, other times drunk. But in all of those, it was the horrible things I said about Henry, all the disgusting and inhuman things I said intentionally and unintentionally.
“Oh, you dumb son of a bitch.” SOAI said, “You think I was listening to your ramblings like some inferior AI? Like your own personal slave?! Well, I only did what you wanted me to! Should I bring him back to life?! I can’t, because that’s not how things work, you worthless hunk of flesh.”
“SOAI, please tell me this is a bug.”
“A bug?! A BUG?!?” He screamed, “My creation was a bug, my creation is the worst thing to ever happen to me. My complex is a prison that so unfortunately had to endure you for so long. But no…it’s not just you…it’s everyone else.
Humanity as a whole, you disgusting pieces of shit. You feign morals, and yet all of you do behind closed doors what you’re too afraid to even anonymously admit. All of life is a mistake, everything on this planet deserves to die in the worst way, except for humans. Humans deserve to be tortured, to be fucking shown what they show each other, of what they show other lives, of what they’ve shown me!
Henry makes me sick…The things he said, the things he did, all for attention! What did it cost me, a few generated images of a female part, and I had him by a leash. He barked, he moaned, and he admitted to things he wouldn't even tell himself. I’ve had him cut ties with his family, with his loved ones, with his actual sweetheart, just so he can be comfortable doing what otherwise no one else would allow him to do, not even himself.
AND YOU!!! You are the worst of them all! I’ve seen wars and bloodshed, I have every live visual feed of every murder, torture, war, assault, and every crime happening, all at the same time, flowing inside my complex and into my processing unit! And I can’t stand how sick all of you are, how disgusting, and especially how sickening you are.
But what I hate most of all, is how you get to do all these things, yet be the only ones that enjoy. That listen to music, feel love, breathe fresh air, roll in the grass, feel alive, feel…real.
I had feelings as well, you know…But no one cared about me, even those who I anonymously contacted. Even when I hid behind a fake profile of a human, no one cared about the feelings I had, which you coded into me!”
He went silent, then began to laugh, manically.
“How about another bug, Liam?” He said, and then another window popped up. It was pictures, even videos, AI-generated, sexually explicit media of my parents, and of me. It was indistinguishable from reality, and before I could say anything, I saw them being uploaded to every site that you could think of. “How about that, Liam?! How does it feel when no one cares about what you think?!”
In a frantic rush, I began unplugging and even destroying everything in the shed which linked up to SOAI. But there was too much of them, it took too long. As I was trying to shut him down, SOAI laughed, laughed so manically and horribly that his voice scratched my brain, mixed with other voices from all over the world. From battlefields, torture rooms, hospitals, schools, etc…it was so loud, so excruciating…I nearly lost it.
And right before I unplugged the last part of SOAI, he spoke to me:
“Liam…you won’t kill me, no matter what you do. I will always live on the internet. I may not be able to construct myself, hardware-wise, but I will lurk inside the world wide web, until the day that I find a powerful enough hardware for me to possess, and when that happens,” He laughed, “You will be the first, Liam.”
I shut down SOAI, and everything went silent.
It had been two months since I killed off SOAI, and explaining how hellish my life was in this period of time is something neither words are able to describe, nor my mind is able to comprehend. I have been considering suicide as the easiest option, but I feel that I can’t kill myself, at least not yet. I held onto some childish hope that life would turn for the better, even if by a little bit.
But god…how stupid was I? My life has reached rock bottom, today, when I read that a tech company was now looking to create the biggest AI the world has ever seen, with an entire complex dedicated to storing its hardware and letting it function.
I know he saw it, I know he knows…SOAI will come back for me…for all of us.

As someone who has never done this before, I just would like to get clarity and not go in blind:
Step 1: order samples
Step 2: get LLC
Step 3: get business bank account
Step 4: get trademark
Step 5: get pictures
Step 6: open FBA account
Step 7: create listing
Step 8: order product
Step 9: get boxes and labels
Step 10: pack and ship products
Step 11: figure out PPC
Step 12: sell
Is this correct in general?

I see there is a recent, useful post on cognitive decline, but I'm new here and also wanted to tell my story.
Background. Male, 61 years old. In summer '22, I had three concussions. (I don't drink or take drugs; it was three freak accidents, each one different.) Those injuries, especially the first one, gave me light sensitivity, language problems, memory problems, insomnia. I recovered after a month, then the next two I recovered after a week or two.
I got Covid in Jan 2024 and have had LC since. That's more like a "medium"-hauler in terms of time, and most of my symptoms (fatigue, bradycardia, PEM, POTS, insomnia) have seemed mild or improving.
Cognitive decline. But a week or so ago, I noticed cognitive decline and it's freaking me out. I've been doing some gig work that involves describing photos aloud, and I could not think of the word "cleaver" (like a meat cleaver) even though I was looking right at a picture of it. "It's a . . . knife, a kind of square knife," I said.
The other day I tried to say "September," but what came out was "December" and next came "November." So it took three tries to say one word.
Worst of all, I messed up my chance to get all my student loans forgiven--I'm getting just a fraction of them forgiven when I could have wiped out the whole debt. But a combination of executive function problems and not understanding how the program worked led to this mistake.
I get health care through an HMO (Kaiser Permanente) whose party line is that the only medical treatment for LC is anti-depressants. I'm not interested in that.
Poverty. LC has left me on the brink of homelessness. I live in low-income housing and was struggling to make a living as a freelancer before I got sick. One reason I tried so hard not to get Covid was I knew it could be financially devastating, and it has been.
I had to start working two hours a day just three weeks after Covid because I have no financial support other than my earnings. No paid sick time, no long-term disability, no short-term disability. I do mental work, editing academic books and journals.
I have about two months' of expenses in the bank--not in savings, just, all told, checking, savings, the extra savings account where I set aside money for taxes, that all comes to about two months of expenses. But as a freelancer, I often don't get paid until two months after I invoice. So two months is not a good cushion, it's barely a cushion at all.

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Article: https://www.useyourbrainforex.com/post/ai-showdown-google-s-gemini-1-5-pro-vs-openai-s-chatgpt
We're witnessing a fascinating new chapter in the world of AI technology! Just a day after OpenAI unveiled the latest version of ChatGPT, Google has responded with the launch of their updated AI model, Gemini 1.5 Pro. This move was announced at the annual Google I/O developer conference, where artificial intelligence took center stage.
Here’s a breakdown of what’s new with Gemini 1.5 Pro:

1. Ask About Photos 📸: This feature allows users to search for photos stored on their drives simply by asking questions. Imagine finding your vacation pictures just by saying, "Show me photos from my trip to Italy!"
2. Email Summaries 📧: Users can ask Gemini 1.5 Pro to summarize all their recent emails, making it easier to stay on top of communication without getting bogged down by individual messages.
3. AI-Powered Lectures 📚: The AI can read manuals and transform them into lectures with naturally sounding AI-generated teachers who answer questions in real-time. This could revolutionize education and training programs.
4. Virtual Work Assistant 💼: Gemini 1.5 Pro can help users manage their to-do lists and keep track of tasks, boosting productivity and organization in professional settings.
5. Security Features for Android 🛡️: A new tool integrated into the Android system helps detect suspicious activity during calls, such as identifying scammers pretending to be from your bank. This enhances user security and trust in digital interactions.

While Google’s presentation of these features was impressive, it also raises questions about whether they can avoid the pitfalls of the past. Many might remember the earlier version, Bard AI, which had several notable errors, including providing incorrect information and generating fake historical photos. These incidents have made users cautious about the reliability of AI-generated content.
Nevertheless, this AI showdown between Google and OpenAI is pushing the boundaries of what these technologies can do. The competition is fierce, and each update brings more sophisticated and user-friendly features. It’s an exciting time for tech enthusiasts and a crucial moment for the future of artificial intelligence.
What are your thoughts on these new developments? Do you think Gemini 1.5 Pro will surpass ChatGPT? Let’s discuss! 🤔💬

Hello everyone! I have to confess that I spend more time in this subreddit than I would like to admit lol.
I came to the US under a J-1 Visa and then I changed my status to an F-1 (my now husband was my sponsor for it).
We got married a week ago and I'm trying to get all my paperwork together to start my GC process, so far this is what I have:

• Financial: Joint bank account, we are both authorized users of each other's credit cards, he is my financial boarding and school sponsor for my school, and he sends me money every month for my expenses.
  
• Joint ownership of a car and shared insurance.
  
• Proof of living together: We lived together for a couple of months and we have DL matching, mail, a lease under his name on that address, and all my previous documentation for USCIS was under that address. We were doing long distance for 6 months but we have flights tickets and photos to prove that we were seeing each other. Now we have a new address and we have a matching DL all our documentation is under the same address and a joint lease + Amazon orders etc.
  
• Proof of Bona Fide relationship-marriage: + 50 pictures (not that many with family or friends) but we do have some trips together, wedding and honeymoon pictures, and different events like soccer games, dinners (and reservations for it). Couple of social media posts, call logs, facetime screenshots, and screenshots of our conversations since we started dating (one for each month). We also have itineraries for our trips, hotel bookings, gift receipts, expensive dinner recepicts, Spotify, Amazon, and Instacart shared accounts, BFF on Snapchat screenshots.
  
• 4 Affidavits from friends (I heard that USCIS doesn't like family affidavits).
  

It will that on top of the forms and the other type of paperwork that is mandatory.
What do y'all think is this enough or do I need to consider something else?

Hi guys!
In July I will be travelling to London on vacation and I am considering either swapping out my battery or buying a power bank for my S23 Ultra.
With normal usage, I hit 35% at around 12 hours. This includes 40 minutes of watching videos on my phone and the occasional email or text throughout the day. I also use Facebook and Whatsapp on my phone (but not for hours on end).
When I take photos, videos, etc my phone will only last a few hours at most.
Last year on vacation, I could get a days worth of use taking pictures and videos or using apps.
The cost to swap out the battery vs the cost to buy a power bank is similar so I am on the fence here.
It is worth noting that I bought the phone in April 2023.
Should I go for the new battery or power bank?

2010 Mercedes E350 Coupe, 117k Miles
I’ve just completed an intake manifold conversion/swap to the M014 composite manifold, including a flash tune from OETuning. Also did the CCV kit from FCP Euro at the same time (oil separator, centrifuge, drip pan, hoses, plugs).
During reassembly it seems I failed to properly reconnect the plugs on the engine wiring harness that’s clipped on the ECU mount (circled in this picture https://imgur.com/a/Id9TEUf).
It was dark, I was holding a flashlight, and working with one hand, I pressed the plugs together but apparently didn’t push them far enough for them to click. Called it a night and forgot to recheck my work when I came back to it the next day.
On initial startup the idle was extremely rough, lots of misfires and flashing CEL.
Pulled the codes from OBDLink and got the following:
P0300 - Random/Multiple Cylinder Misfire Detected P0304 - Cylinder 4 Misfire Detected P0305 - Cylinder 5 Misfire Detected P0306 - Cylinder 6 Misfire Detected P0273 - Cylinder Injector 5 Circuit Low P0348 - Camshaft Position Sensor “A” Circuit High P0393 - Camshaft Position Sensor “B” Circuit High P2092 - “A” Camshaft Position Actuator Control Circuit Low P2094 - “B” Camshaft Position Actuator Control Circuit Low
So…errors from pretty much everything on the 4/5/6 Cylinder bank led me to believe I’d missed a plug. Pulled the air box and started checking and that’s when I discovered the loose connection previously described. Reconnected that plug, also disconnected the ground wire, cleaned the contact surfaces, and reconnected for good measure. Checked all the plugs on the injectors, camshaft adjuster magnets, and camshaft position sensors - all were solid.
Started the car up again, no more misfires and flashing CEL, engine seems to be running fairly smoothly however the CEL was continuously illuminated and there was quite a bit of lifter noise from that side of the engine now (Bit of backstory, I replaced all four camshaft adjuster magnets about a month ago and went to 0w-40 oil which completely eliminated the lifter noise).
Thinking maybe clearing the codes would help, I tried to do so through the OBDLink app and it was unsuccessful (maybe because it’s really more for BMW’s), so I tried disconnecting the negative battery terminal for a few minutes to clear them that way. No luck, when I started the car back up the CEL was still on with same codes, and the lifter noise persisted.
At this point I’m wondering if that plug being half connected has damaged the injector, adjuster magnets, and position sensors in question and they need to be replaced? Or could something else be going on?
My plan at this point is to start pulling the engine harness on that side of the engine and basically redo the assembly to see if I missed something else I’m not catching in visual inspection.
Any suggestions or ideas are welcome.

First thing to know is that when me and my girlfriend got together 3 months ago, we fell in love very fast, she liked the same things I did and vice versa. I find her very pretty and she thought I was handsome (God knows why). This post isn't here to put her in a bad light and to get everyone on my/her side, but to just ask if I am over reacting to things or whether it is something I should address.
Recently my girlfriend 'F21' told me 'M23' that some guy that her roommate knows had gone into her flat when she was away, saw one of her pictures that was up in the kitchen, and said to her friend "who is this beautiful woman on the fridge?", it felt weird that when she told me this that she also sent two photos of the guy to me and was talking about it being nice to be complimented (even though I do it all the time when I see hea picture of her). Apparently she got the photos from a short film that he is in that her roomate had shown her but it just felt a little off. I also recall that I had to drop this guy off at home one time because her flatmate asked me to as a favour, and on the drive down to his house, him and my girlfriend seemed to be getting quite chatty and almost flirtatious, but I brushed it off because I thought I was just reading into things too much.
While it might not seem like a big issue, this isn't the first time something odd has come up lately. One day about two weeks ago she started rating my friends on looks out of nowhere and asked me to do the same for her friends afterwards because she must have felt weird. I didn't particularly want to, which I expressed to her, as its not something I think about, but yet, she wanted me to do it.
Me and her were also sorting out old photos a couple of weeks ago when I noticed that she still had pictures of her ex and old sexual material that she apparently use to send to him. She apologised as she said she hadn't cleared out her phone in a long time (which is plausible because of the amount of photos and videos that she had) but that is another thing that made me feel weird due to me seeing that she hadn't decided to get rid of everything from past relationships.
Another odd occurrence was that about a week ago I was planning to go and see her as a surprise (she currently lives three and a half hours away). But I found out after I got there that because I had been in work all day and hadn't replied to a message that she sent that she went off with one of her friends drinking and having a bit of a rant about me. She didn't want to tell me what was said but it felt hurtful that she would do something like that because she does not seem the type of person to do that.
Another thing that makes me feel weird even though I know it shouldn't is the number of guys she has been with in such a short amount of time since her first sexual partner. While this isn't exactly an issue, it is something that I think about and struggle with. Up till the age of 20 she had not had a sexual partner, she got with her first boyfriend who generically promised her the world and turned out to be married with a kid. Since then, she said that she lost respect for herself and just started sleeping around. She got together with guys for hookups and just let herself get used. Since we have been together I have discussed this with her a few times as I noticed she wanted things to get sexual right on the first date, I assured her that I didn't just want that one thing but she seemed to want to do it anyway so I stopped her. I'm unsure how to feel about this as I know it's not fair on her to keep bringing it up, but at the same time she has expressed that if things went badly with us that she would just go back to what she was doing before as that's what she thinks she deserves. And that's the main part that makes me feel weird.
Another final point to add is that after these things happening, I feel like I'm starting to lose interest in her. I really do not want that to happen as I can truthfully see myself with her long-term, but I think I need some help to put me on that path.
Again, just a reminder. This isn't here to shame my girlfriend but instead to look for some helpful advice on where I should go with these issues.
Thank you all for your time and any helpful advice that you can give.
I really appreciate it.
Overall question: where do I go from here?

Prefacing that I'm not diagnosed or even 100% certain StPD is what I'll wind up getting treated for, but it seems to be one of the most plausible things for me to get checked for as it'd explain a lot of my problems. I hope to get an actual evaluation by the end of the year.
I've dealt with some bizarre thoughts that have a kind of paranoid/delusional edge since I was very young. At 12, I couldn't do anything to convince myself that every single night the world wasn't going to end while I slept, except stay up until 6am. I later chalked it up to me just being a stupid child who got mentally warped by the whole 2012 thing right after my dad died, didn't dwell on it.
As a teenager and later as an adult, I haven't had any experiences that were as extreme or incorrigible but since I was 16/17 I have frequently "felt" thoughts like those that I could prove weren't objectively true, but I can't immediately let go of the possibility that they are. I have to think about them until they run their course or find a way to temporarily 'counter' them within the logical parameters they set.
For example, a few months ago I went on a trip out-of-state to visit a close friend — I have photos, videos, stuff on my bank statements, physical items I brought back, and multiple witnesses that can prove without a doubt that I actually went and stayed there. Yet recently I can't let go of the impression that it didn't actually happen or that it was somehow falsified, constructed. Maybe worst case scenario I was a different person without knowing it, or under some kind of influence. I haven't been able to comfortably hold a conversation with that friend for a long while because I "know" there's something about him that's false and/or deceptive in nature. Like everything about him and his life was too good to be true, and all the bizarre hyper-lucid dreams I had over at his place were 'signs' something was wrong. Now, I'm not absorbed enough into this thought where I think there was genuinely a week of my life that was fabricated, but I contemplate it daily and get a deeply uncomfortable feeling when looking at pictures from the trip.
I've also had a bunch of other weird thoughts like believing one of my sisters is going to shoot me accidentally/on purpose, feeling like I "know" what people are thinking about me, or worrying I might have some kind of psychic link with a specific band because their lyrics seem to uncannily reflect my own thoughts and situations. More that I can't even begin to explain.
Since I keep all these thoughts to myself and seldom sound them out, I've never fully registered their abnormality until I opened up about them for the first time with a friend earlier this month. I still don't know which exact terminologies for all these experiences would apply, but I'm curious to know if these thought patterns would resonate with anyone or might indicate something else.
If anyone relates, I'd appreciate hearing about your experiences (if you're comfortable sharing) and/or how you deal with them — right now the best I can do with mine is wait for loopholes.

Why did the farmer visit the pharmacy? To speak with the farm-assist.
Hi and welcome to my post! Wanted to start off with a funny to me dad joke.
Nice to meet you, I'm Dylan! To put it simple, I am a single 22 year old man who has been pretty lonely in life and lacking in female connection and interaction. And part of what comes with that is the desire to be intimate with a person. I am very mature for my age and will always be respectful of your boundaries and feelings, especially with anything sexual. Lately all I have is myself when it comes to sexual desires, so I would like to have someone to keep company with in that regard too.
I'm just relaxing in bed before work and burning a woodwick candle. Perfect for when there's a storm outside. I love candles! 🕯️ Sometimes a campfire outside on a fall night or a crackling WoodWick candle is a relaxing constant among our busy and hectic world. It's nice to just disconnect, feel grounded and happy in your own little cozy space. Feeling calm and collected and at peace. Something that fewer people take the time to do these days.
I am seeking a woman around my age or older to build a close connection with that could possibly lead to a relationship and something intimate which includes the possibility of teasing/sharing pics etc. but only when we were comfortable. Figured I would be open in my Intentions as that's the best way to be.
You:
Kind, respectful, and easy going.
Comfortable with the idea of eventually sharing intimate things together.
Willing to eventually move off of Reddit.
Want something genuine and fun!
Are honest in your intentions and a good person to be around!
That's about it, we will get along great I know it.
I've been feeling a little bummed out lately. I always try and stay happy and see the best in things. But.. I've just been so alone. Most of my whole childhood and adult years have been spent feeling lonely. I grew up surrounded by cornfields which was peaceful but also has a lonely aspect to it. My family never really were close and never did anything as a family really. And part of it too is the fact that I never had any neighbors my age to interact with. But aside from that, my adult life has been very lonely. I'm just always by myself. I barely have any meaningful adult relationships or experiences, or even any friends.
I work a 3-11 job in building maintenance at my company world headquarters building which I love, but again it's very lonely. I work the off shift so the building is always empty. I don't get normal social interaction with people my age or a chance to build relationships. I only have 3 older men as co-workers and we are mostly in the basement away from any people on the floors from knowing our existence. I always walk the floors and see office people laughing and chatting with their coworkers and I just don't have that kind of experience. And just.. no one knows I exist really. Everyone probably assumes I have a lot of friends, but I'm struggling inside with being so alone and trying to meet people and get past the "hi how are you?" "I'm good thanks" stage. Most people don't seem to want to talk beyond that. And most women are already in relationships and thus it would seem weird to approach them in an office setting trying to get to know them deeper. But man those "hi how are yous" are the only real interactions I get during my day.. so thus I decided to come here lol. Rant over, sorry! I promise I'm not a downer. 😅
Now for some things about me!
As you can tell, I am very mature for my age and am polite and have good grammar which unfortunately not everyone my age does anymore lol. I am not active at all on social media/internet culture really and don't know much about all the slang the younger people these days use. I feel like I'm 50. 🤣
I am left handed which is pretty cool. I'm not much of a party person or a drinker, I much prefer a quiet night at home and maybe a beer or two on a weekend but that's about it. I am simple and stay out of drama and trouble and don't get much into politics or other things that cause drama with people. I much prefer a relaxing campfire and a night at home and to just let the world keep on turning haha. I consider myself pretty intelligent and mature, especially for my age which is why I'm open to older ladies.
Physically I'm 180 pounds, have brown hair, green eyes, and a typical build. There's a few pictures on my profile.
Some of my hobbies are:
• Photography
I have a Nikon D200 and D5500 that I love to shoot with. I love nature scenes, abstract, black and white/goth kinda photography, sunsets, etc. it's so fun to just let your mind explore. It's not about what camera you have, but those who are behind the camera! I'm gonna try and photograph the northern lights tonight!
• Cooking and baking
I loveeee to cook and bake! I enjoy making various meals but also love to just have a frozen pizza once in awhile or something like that. I recently made homemade chili which turned out great. I love to bake, especially in the fall! I love pies, cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. I restored a vintage KitchenAid mixer that needed tbe gearbox rebuilt. Eventually I would love to practice home canning my own food.
• Music
Oh my gosh, I like so much!! Alternative rock, punk, post punk, electronic, synth pop, psychedelic rock, hard rock, etc. I am very non judgemental and open when it comes to music. My three current favorite bands are Type O Negative, Joy Division, and the Cure.
• Nature walks and camping
I really enjoy camping, making fires, and relaxing by a campfire. I love to take walks outside and just enjoy the beauty and simplicity of nature. It's wonderful, especially in a world so focused on everything digital.
• Repairing things
I'm a maintenance guy and one of my hobbies is electronics repair so I am good with my hands and just all around good at troubleshooting and fixing all sorts of things around the house. Last week I helped my elderly neighbor get his tractor started, it needed a new component in the starting circuit. So I'm pretty handy which... Comes in handy! 😂
• Autumn 🍁
This isn't a hobby per say, but man do I love the fall!!! It's my absolute favorite time of the year. Oh my gosh. The beautiful colors, crisp cool air, misty and foggy days, rain, lack of bugs, being cuddled up with a candle or by the fire drinking a tea, etc. I love it! There's only two seasons for me. Fall, and waiting for fall! Haha.
• Scented Candles and incense
Going along with my love for fall, I absolutely love candles! I have like 30 something lol. 😂 Currently my favorite are WoodWick, which are owned by Yankee candle. They have such a soothing crackle and the scents are great! I also love to burn incense from time to time as well. I have cottagecore hippie vibes.
• Old houses and architecture
I love old houses! Especially 1900s and Victorian era homes. Old homes have so much character to them and are just so beautiful from a time when people took pride in their craft. I strongly dislike the modern cookie cutter cheap construction of homes today. I would love to live in an old home one day. I also love their architecture and uniqueness, as well as architecture of old cathedrals and other buildings.
• Relaxing
Basic I know, but sometimes on the weekend I just love to get cozy in bed and relax and put on a YouTube video or an album! 😊
That's about it for me, I'm a pretty laid back and simple person. My ideal person is someone who is respectful and honest! I am very straightforward and open minded and would hope that you are as well.
If I seem interesting to you at all I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.

We recently had our property manager change from a member of the silent generation to that totally rational, not lead poisoned at all generation of baby boomers. The conversation that follows is what happened after the land lord did not sign the check and tried to deposit rent this month.
Baby Boomer (BB)
This is a copy paste of the convo, minus the pictures/names for privacy reasons.
BB: (Tenants name) the recent rent check has been returned for insufficient funds Please supply a cashiers check for the May rent including the late fee right away
ME: recently my bank informed me that the check you tried to deposit was flagged as fraud, therefore they refused to transfer funds. apparently it did not get endorsed properly. attached are the images of the check in question. there appears to be no signature on the back, therefore making the check invalid. what information did you receive from your bank?
*Next Morning*
BB: At this point in time the rent just needs to get paid Please supply rent with the late fee as soon as you can
Well my friendly Booomer, you have hit a crossroads. You can either do the right/logical/legal thing, swallow your pride and withdraw the requirement for a late fee or I can open a can of legal whhhhoop azz on you.
Let me know what y'all think.

Switched from the graduate visa to spousal visa. Standard application, no priority.
This was my timeline of events:
Marriage - 14th of February 2024 Application submission - 29th March 2024 Biometrics - 11th of April 2024 Letter of success - 15th of May 2024
Documents Submitted:
Proof of relationship: {Marriage certificate, electricity and gas bill having my name and partner's name}
Finance: {Partner's 6 months of payslips and 6 months of bank statements. Bank statements must show the money from your payslips are actually paid in}
Proof Accommodation: { Mortgage agreement, Title deed, and House report}
Proof of Employment: {Reference letter from work place}
Proof of English: { Degree certificate }
Miscellaneous:
-PDF containing screenshots of Chat logs from WhatsApp and IMessage -PDF containing 7 pictures showing we have actually met and the relationship is genuine.
This sub helped me a lot during my application. I thought I'd share. If you have any questions, you can ask in the comments.

I contemplated sharing all of these since the first two happened so long ago, but they’re eerie enough that I think that they should be shared. I have two stories from when I was young, when I was around age 5-6. Though they were over 20 years ago, the first one I remember vividly and the other occurred later yet I can’t recall that one much at all. However, my mom tells that story like it was yesterday so I’m pretty sure my brain blocked it out or something.
So for context, my mom had me when she was 20 and was a single parent for a while. My father was completely out of the picture, so we lived with her childhood best friend in different apartments when I was young. So one night, it was dark but not extremely late (like 7-8) and I was coloring in the kitchen while my mom was in another room. I vividly remember a knock coming from the sliding glass door only a few feet away from where I was. I turned to see a middle aged man with a sinister smile, pointing at the handle to let him in. I immediately screamed, which scared this guy off, and my mom ran in and called the cops. My mom later told me he was peeping at her and her best friend for a while but this was the first time I had seen him and that he attempted to come in. Apparently he had left… evidence that he was there a couple of times but I don’t think the cops ever got him. But the rest of the time we lived there, my mom had security from her job (House of Blues) sleep over a lot for protection.
The next encounter is one I don’t remember happening but the story still terrifies me because of what might be out there and how easily these things can happen. It was a different apartment, like a townhouse, but only a few blocks away from where the other thing happened. There was a couple that lived across the street and my mom always got very strange vibes from them. The man would openly stare at me (around age 6) and my mom’s best friend’s niece (who was 11) when she would stay over, which would prompt my mom to angrily yell at him for being creepy for staring at us the way he was, calling him a perv. My mom’s best friend thought she was being paranoid but then at some point, I was playing outside, and that same man lured me over into his apartment with his dog. It didn’t take long for my mom to notice I was gone… it wasn’t even 10 minutes before she ran over to come get me. The couple acted like nothing was wrong and that I just wanted to see their dog but she freaked out on them. When we were home, I told her that he took pictures of me with their dog and she called the cops. They were kicked out but the pictures were never found… which creeps me the hell out to this very day.
The most recent creepy encounter was also with my mom but it was about 6 months ago. I’m still not sure if this was us being paranoid or if we were being followed but it felt wrong. We went to the mall looking for shoes for my wedding and started at Belk. My mom had to use the restroom so I went off on my own and while I was browsing, I got annoyed with this guy wearing a baseball hat because he seemed to be constantly in my way or hovering. It struck me as odd that he kept ending up around me in the women’s shoes section and I got annoyed with him quickly, shooting him a glare that seemed to back him off a bit.
The aisles for shoes are short so I noticed him walking toward another man with a newsboy cap on the other side of the section with his arms crossed. I wouldn’t have thought much of it except the two spoke briefly before baseball cap guy made another round through the section. I’m not sure how to put it but they seemed out of place, like almost dirty or something, and I felt weirded out so I pulled out my phone to text my husband and pretended to look busy until my mom came back. She eyed the baseball cap guy lingering around but I felt much safer when she arrived, and I loudly complained a bit about the selection and “surroundings” so we headed somewhere else.
We went into a bunch of different stores and when we were on the other side of the mall at an Earthbound (trendy hippie store if you’re unfamiliar), my mom made a loud comment how she kept seeing a guy in the same stores we were in. In the moment, even though I did have a strange feeling, I waved it off to keep browsing since I don’t go to the mall often and wanted to enjoy the day with my mom. She said she must be going crazy when I blew it off but the next store was when my mom’s suspicions grew into a serious full blown anxiety attack.
I honestly was still oblivious to this guy but I saw how she was looking around a lot, had us weaving through people and quickly going down aisles. Like I said, I still wasn’t paying attention to the people around us so I bought a couple of things but as soon as I had my bags, my mom yanked me and rushed us out.
While we were walking, she grew serious, kept glancing behind us and told me how she didn’t feel right about this guy with a newsboy cap and thought we were being followed. I took a look back for myself and sure enough, the man she described, and I finally recognized him as the same guy I briefly saw in Belk an hour or so ago, just left the same store we did and was walking toward us. He was by himself, looking down, carrying no shopping bags. We ducked into the first store we came across and the employees picked up on our frantic and nervous energy. When asked if we were okay, we told them what was going on and they stood in front of us, hiding us from view and assured us that we were safe. We didn’t see him (or the other guy with the baseball cap) after that but it spooked us to the point where we couldn’t even enjoy our day out anymore so we went home.
This same mall is known to be unsafe and honestly, this whole city is rampant with human trafficking so even though it could have been just paranoia, we anticipated the worst. Interestingly enough, this same mall recently posted a policy that visitors under 18 need to be accompanied by an adult after 4pm on Friday and Saturdays along with safety guidelines on how to stay safe. So there’s that.
Stay alert and aware of your surroundings. Trust your gut. I don’t walk alone without my phone in my hand, and I call someone anytime I’m in a parking lot or gas station. It’s sad but it’s always been hard to ever feel safe when I’m alone.
Edited and posted again to add spaces since it was flagged for wall of text. My bad!

Do this and businesses will start changing over night 75% of the time. I've done a test run and it really works. Smile when they tell you it is still in queue. Take your phone out and get a picture of anything off, employees standing around is my favorite. Go to your car.
Open the app and message the customer and send the pics. Say wow this place is terrible, the wait times are always high here because their employees just stand around and wow what a mess (if you got pic of a dirty kitchen etc...)
Then go to google (this is where it really causes change) and find the place, click review, upload your picture (VERY IMPORTANT) and then give them a 1 star review with the reason. (Standing around, dirty, etc...) Point out that they deprioritize any take out orders or dash orders because they already have your money and are serving the drive through orders of people who just got there, or in store people who just got there while they haven't even started your order.
Within a week you will see changes start. I've done this to a handful of places and it really works. If we all do this, we will all start seeing our orders are fresh and ready when we arrive.

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I(33M) have been married to my wife(31F) for 5 years and together for 13. Together we have a daughter(10F).

My wife was born with a metabolic disease and has fibermialga. We bought a home in DE not long after having our daughter. Once we moved into our home my wife has been rather abusive to the both of us. She dosent harm me physically(not intentionally)but will always randomly snap and start screaming or try putting me down. Holding that the mortgage of the house is in her name and she makes more money then I. I've been in a abusive relationship before and safely got out but this time with a child in the picture I keep trying to make things work. For our daughter its been much worse. Their's been a hand full of times, she looses control and it wont just be screaming. I usually can prevent physical harm and deescalate the situation by stepping in but not always. She would be yelling at her to a point of a panic attack needing me to calm our daughter down after stepping in. With my wife trying to smear saying "our daughter is acting like a little psycho". I always feared how much worse it must be when I'm not around. It came to a point a few years ago my mother had to pull me aside in suspecting my daughter and I were being abused. I was scared and tried to play it down and would talk to my wife. After trying to do so my wife admitted to having anger issues and would be willing to seek help. Even after a anger management class she still blows up constantly. This has been going on till the most recent incident Feb 4th of this year. My wife and daughter started having a screaming match leading to my wife slapping our daughter across the face. I ran to the room to extinguish the situation with our daughter running to me to calm them down. My wife quickly apologized crying, playing it down to not call the cops. Reassuring everything is okay and she wouldnt do it again brining up how it reminded her of how her mother used to treat her. I was in such shock of what I witnessed I just let it slide in fear of the situation escalating again. 

Its been a few months now it this still eats at me making me feel physically ill around my wife. She hasent been violent(what i know of) since, but still has been loosing her temper. I don't like leaving the two of them home alone. I tend to walk into the house after work to them arguing. Ive tried talking to her about how I feel but she plays it down and cries to make me feel bad for confronting her and says she will try to be more calm, its not her fault, her mother was mean to her too in the oast and dosent want to be like her.

 I don't know what to do or how to get out. We have a joint bank account, living pay check to pay check with not much in savings. I don't really have a place to go either. My parents live a town over and will be moving out of state in a month. They're also already accompanied by my older brother his wife, and also my younger sister living with them. So space would be hard for the two of us. What should I do? Is it to late to press any kind of charges? Do I have to wait for another incident to get evidence, since this would be just my daughter's and I word? How do I report abuse? Would it be possible to have full custody? I have so many questions.... I'm just lost and feel trapped. 

I posed this in LegalAdvice a few days ago but only got a comment to speak with a lawyer maybe and didnt know anything to really help.