Just like the title says: my boyfriend’s roommate is really messy, to the point where it is clearly depression-related. He is our friend, but has never had many friends before meeting us, so he seems uncomfortable with being close to others. He but doesn’t open up much to us and makes it very difficult to understand him or what’s been bothering him, so we’ve never felt comfortable giving advice or offering help. He’s clearly been depressed for some time, and lost his job some months ago and never really explained why; we’ve felt very caught between being concerned and interested friends, and seeming like we’re prying insensitively. At this point, we’ve grown rather concerned — including about the state his bedroom, as there is no way for someone to live like that and feel good about themselves. While obviously his bedroom is not the cause of his depression, it seems like something that maybe we could help fix and alleviate some of his stress about if we offered to help him clean it, and it wouldn’t put him on the spot about his emotions, which clearly makes him uncomfortable. However, he does not know that we’ve peeked into his room to see it, and we aren’t sure how he’ll react to us potentially overstepping to offer. Would we be bad friends if we offered to help him clean his bedroom (should we just mind our business)? If any of you are depressed like this and also not very open with your emotions, what might make you feel better and more supported?
Tl;dr, my boyfriend and I want to be helpful to his depressed roommate and think that offering to clean his room could be a good idea, but we want feedback on if that’s weird or invasive, or other suggestions for how to help him.

I went through a very bad 2023 I was depressed for a very long time and I always had maladaptive daydream.
Every story In my life must end in a good way.

• getting the passing mark on my darkest day
• getting to tell my grandpa I graduated on his final day
• finally giving the gift to my professor after 6 months and 2 accidents.
• finally getting a job in a field where not one person supported me, the company even called me not the other way.

However forget all this. There is one thing that seemed impossible and crazy circumstances made it so close to becoming a reality only for my dreams to be crushed.
This is one thing is not about me, it is not for me, it is because I love 2 people and want to help them. I think about them more than I think of myself and even more than they think about themselves.
I can't say anything because people will say I am crazy and I am, they will say I am a control freak and I am, but I never was, it is just that I wanted this to happen so bad. That I ended up going to therapy. Where I was diagnosed with OCD.
This one thing I am willing to die for it to happen, that how much I love them both. But this is insane. I shouldn't care this much about others.
But I don't care about myself. I pray qiyam everyday and pray this happens more than i make duaa about myself. I took an oath to learn the whole quran if it happens.(but learning either way)
I lost my individuality and don't care about myself.

My ex and I were together for 7 years going on 8 and we have been broken up now for a little over 2 years. We haven't spoken a single word to each other a single time since the day she broke it off which I find haunting as that's all I want and everyone I know has had theirs reach out at some point whether for good or bad.
She got with someone else and made it official a few months later and made sure to send me a fake follow request on IG (follow so I get a notification, but unfollow so she's not actually following me) to show me that she has a new boyfriend who my family and friends say looks just like me. She and her new guy moved within the first few months to a different state together which I wasn't aware of for over a year. I knew during this time though that she was unblocking and reblocking me upwards of 10+ times because I was curious trying to figure out what she was up too.
While all of this is happening I have been working on myself. I got a good paying job as a manager, I got my dream car, I workout 5 times a week, I've gone to therapy, I've spent time with friends, I've gotten new hobbies and reconnected with old ones, been more sociable, and open to new things. Yet I still think about her everyday and it feels like she could care if I was dead or alive.
I've been mostly good until a little while back when I got news from a good friend of mines girl that said my ex had added her on every social media. Which she has been doing since the breakup following girls I follow who she has no relationship with whatsoever. I really don't get why she would do that, but I would notice it back when she would unblock and reblock me. I always kept her unblocked in hopes she would message me but the hope was slowly being drained. Just a couple months ago I finally did one of the methods that allowed me to block her back even though I was blocked so she could stop snooping and so I could move on.
A few days ago my mom even told me she popped up on her "people you may know" on FB and then I got a text from a random number saying "How are you doing today?" I wasn't sure who it was so I check the number and the area code is to the exact city she moved to with her new guy. I know I'm probably delusional at this point but what are the odds of that especially when I check my IG right after and I'm unblocked. I haven't unblocked her because part of me feels she is playing a game and doesn't really want me back just wants to get an ego boost when she sees I unblock her. In my situation is it my job to be the one to reach out when it was mostly my fault the relationship ended or hers when she's got someone else who I'm pretty sure she is still with.
Thanks for reading.

There’s this guy, we’ll call Jay, I knew for a good year, through local military and political channels online. He was angry and a bit grouchy, but I agreed with his takes on most things.
I moved to a different state for work, but had a lot of connections at the old place, so checked in on the pages and groups I was part of, here and there. April saw a friend request from Jay and I accepted.
In July, after a blow up online that I questioned, Jay confided that his wife had been cheating on him and he found out the night before his retirement ceremony that January. He’d been trying to get past it for the sake of the kids, and of course the finances and societal and family views. He’s from a pretty strict family that doesn’t condone divorce. A cousin of his divorced her husband and the family shuns her to this day. Jay was going on 30 years married and it pretty much upended everything.
When he started talking about little things that meant a lot to her that he would refuse, like taking couples pictures, posting together online, etc, I flat out told him that if he was committed to getting past it, he was going to have to try. I referred him to counseling services, for himself and as a couple.
In Aug, I went back to see my kids, and we saw eachother in person for the first time. Talked for a bit and went on our way. The next morning was the first red flag my blind eyes saw… a post from him on his page about the most exquisite sunset he’s ever seen. I have red hair. I blocked him on everything. May have been harsh, but I had enough drama in my own life already at that point, going through a divorce myself.
He used linked in and his son’s Xbox account to message me in what used to be Google hangout. He was supposedly devastated I’d do that after meeting him. If I was disappointed in what I met, I could’ve just said so. Etc. I explained my issue. He seemed genuinely embarrassed, apologized. He had me thinking I overreacted and it didn’t mean that much. He pleaded to just be friends.
A couple of weeks later, they took a family trip and he posted a picture of the two of them and of the entire family. He did his thing, I did mine. It was just as before again. No harm really done.
Fast forward a couple months and he was getting angry and blowing up online again. I asked him if he’d been to counseling and he said yes, but his marriage was over. He couldn’t do it. He could barely look at her, let alone touch her, for her betrayal. He had questions and she would shut him down. He showed me some of the graphic messages between her and the guy. They talked about him in them. It was bad. He started going on how the only thing he needed was for her to be a mom and she was slipping there too. She stopped cooking and taking care of their kid.
About a week after this, he butt dialed through Facebook… I could tell it was in his pocket or something. He was getting out of the car, then headed inside. All I heard from that point on was her screaming at him. He very calmly told his kids to head to the bedroom. Shortly after, something smashed loudly. It all went down in just a couple of minutes. I hung up. I never brought it up.
Not long after, he told me he loved me and he couldn’t do this anymore. He couldn’t stand the thought of finding me and letting me slip through his fingers. To which I replied… I wasn’t the solution to his problems. He needed to fix his shit before dragging anyone else into it. It wasn’t fair to me. He agreed. He claimed to start looking for apartments and going to see a lawyer. He’d “married for the wrong reasons and she married the wrong guy. He never romantically loved her and she viewed him as security.” I really did care about him, but I couldn’t do that. I won’t lie, the temptation was there.
After he told her they needed to get the finances together to fill out the paperwork and discuss the one kid’s situation with it all, she first threatened to hurt herself, then she decided to offer an open marriage. She “wanted the security of the lifestyle he provided and didn’t want to be judged by their friends and family, esp the kids.” He sent me the message. I responded again with I couldn’t do that. I was surprise, but not surprised he was considering it. He didn’t want the blow out either. On the surface, I’m guessing it looked like a great way to move forward. So he continued with the separating. We talked a lot.
Then he realized the other reason she had… she had a new guy she was emotionally cheating with already, making plans to meet up. The drama was past too much a while ago. But now, it got worse. He decided to encourage it. Yep. He wanted her to go off with the guy, so he could justify the divorce without it falling on him. A couple of weeks later, he went on a business trip and she went to see the guy. He came back and saw all of the proof, she admitted it, and she emptied their savings account into one he wasn’t on.
Time for me to exit. I had fallen for him. It was only a few weeks, but hook, line, and sinker.
Again, he found me and begged for me to just talk. He just needed someone to talk to. He wouldn’t do or say anything else about us. That didn’t last. Covid basically halted anything court related that wasn’t a criminal offense endangering lives. I bent and gave in.
By November, she wasn’t with the guy anymore. And she’d decided to actually look me up… she was livid. She was now upset that if he moved on with me, it would make her look even worse (her phrasing). She sent me a message to that affect and told me to leave him alone. I sent it to him and they had a blow up.
I was pretty broken up, but I just couldn’t do it anymore. I told him to go on with his life or don’t, but I wasn’t going to sit by and watch the miserable insanity, let alone be part of it. She had threatened his relationship with the kids, that she would tell them he was the cause. That was a threat he wasn’t going to risk, I knew it.
I moved forward with my life. He tried to message here and there and it always ended up in a fight. He started getting mean, verbally abusive, then messages of love and he didn’t want to live without me. It was crazy making. I found out later, they’d gone on an island get away, supposedly to show everyone how great they were, working on their marriage… only he was messaging me how he cried when he was alone and how movies and music reminded him that he will be “empty” stuck with her until the youngest is out of the house in a few years.
I started seeing someone. And I was happy. Really happy. I was in the best shape of my life, going out with friends, having a great time. He would not stop messaging me. Every time he did, my life got sad again. He’d keep going until he got a reaction. And there was always a reaction. I hated myself for that. I felt absolutely crazy.
The end of July had him saying he couldn’t fake it, he missed me in his life, and he would do anything. I told him I was seeing someone. He lost it. He sent me a screenshot of her blowing up at him after seeing the phone statement with his texting and calling me…to prove he meant it and didn’t care of she was upset anymore.
A week later, I was hospitalized with Covid, initially in the ICU. It was bad. He started sending messages, texts, emails, and leaving voicemails, one after the other. Going from loving me more than anyone to me being a horrible narcissist who just needed him to make me feel good about myself. He was totally unhinged. I started blocking him everywhere, and he made up phone numbers and profiles to continue. He found out which hospital and sent presents to my room. I had to tell the nursing staff to stop any more.
The most abusive rant he sent accused me of faking being raped. This one he included her on… That was the last thread.
He almost immediately sent another barrage of messages about loving me and how empty he felt with her, that he had no feelings at all and couldn’t live like that. He needed me, loved me, and would do anything and everything to make it all up to me.
From my hospital bed, I started gathering everything. Now that I had her email and phone number, it was easy. I just sent her everything. Everything. Every message he tried to send thereafter, I forwarded to her. Every text, every message request, every picture, every song, every video… I sent them to her.
After I was finally released, I was still very ill. The recovery took months. I mailed back the “gifts” and continued to send her anything he sent me. And he just continued to do it. He would blow up at me for attacking and abusing her…lol. But continue to try to contact me.
The voicemail from him identifying himself, stating he was “addicted to me” and “can’t stop” was probably the scariest. Sent from a fake phone number to get around my block, begging me to block him on social media where he’d blocked, but keeps making up profiles to get around the blocks.
I started getting back outside after a few weeks. I have lung and heart damage, so it was slow going. One day, he literally just showed up where I was. I was actually scared to a point at that one. He’d been stalking me all over online, harassing me to no end, now this. He blocked me in. He said he just wanted to talk. I said I listen. He begged and pleaded to be with him. He was moving out officially. Then… his wife drove by. Yep, she was tracking him. Some ppl showed up and he moved. I left as she was pulling in.
I went to the police, who did nothing because he didn’t actually hurt me.
He then sent messages to the guy I was seeing after finding out somehow who it was… telling HIM how much he loved me and how he’d have married me already if it weren’t for his youngest still at home and what this would do to him.
Two more times he showed up in two other places… I ended up changing jobs, moving out of state, changing my contact info, getting rid of any app I couldn’t lock down completely, and using a P.O. Box. He STILL found ways to contact me. He started friending my friends online. Anyone he saw mention me in any conversation, he tried to friend.
I continued sending everything to his wife. Every communication. Every “like”. Every friend saying he was trying to connect with them. The messages he sent the guy I was seeing… all of it. If I’m being harassed, she’s going to get it all too. I was sick of it. And scared her was going to continue getting worse. I guess there was a part of me that thought he’d give up if she went off on him enough. Delusional.
The new state’s DA sent him an official cease and desist order. It is just shy of a protective order, which I didn’t qualify for because he didn’t hurt me or specifically threaten to. I now know why so many women die each year.
It’s been two years… He still tries to reach out. Now, he’s just started spreading rumors about me to anyone who’ll listen. They get back to me every time. It’s really crazy the way he thinks. He’s telling everyone his personal business, while trying to make it look like I seduced him to a point he had no control of himself. It’s wild. I have over 100 emails, texts, and messages that I never replied to. And those are just the ones I’ve seen. Mind you, these ppl have seen the stalking themselves.
Am I the a-hole or just wasting my time? It’s been nearly five years, over two of them with me in no contract with him. She does blow up at him every time I send more stuff, she hasn’t blocked me, but it isn’t stopping him… reporting with the police didn’t either though.

I have been fighting a chronic disease for the past 15 years. Think "long covid meets brain damage". There's no cure, no therapy besides adapting to the limits dictated by this disease.
I know for a fact that i've come a long way and made some impressive improvements. I'm highly functional compared to other patients. Very highly even. In some regards my life actually has improved. Not in the area's that really matter to me but nevertheless.
More often than not, when the evening comes, i know i should be proud of how i handled myself during the day. That i did what i had planned to do and even a small task or chore extra. That i actually had fun too. I should be, but i am not.
You see, what i do on a good day still is about only 65% of what a "normal" person does. Because that's what my disease grants me. Nothing more, nothing less. I do my parttime job (a mere shadow of my 6 figure former job), i walk the dog and i do some household chores. That's all. After that i'm exhausted. Exhausted and dizzy after that, can you imagine?
Everything i do, every step, every small chore, is a struggle. Physically and mentally. Literally everything is about me pushing myself to my limits while carefully preventing crossing them. Because next time i cross the line i might be thrown back a couple of months or a new symptom pops up. I already lost a chunk of my cognitive abilities, my concentration, my memory and i have trouble findimg words. I can't risk losing more.
I literally need my spirit to force my mind to force my body. I'm so tired of fighting and forcing every single second.
I know i should be proud but i'm not. My wife has to supervise everything of any importance. She works double as hard as i do. I feel like a burden, an anchor dragging her down. When she goes out with her friend i'm afraid of her meeting a man who's "whole", normal, and sees what she's missing out on. Sometimes i wish for her that she does but frankly i'd be lost without her.
I know i should be proud. But i'm not. I feel useless and only half human.
Anyway, just venting.

Hi Reddit,
I recently received an unexpected notice from my letting agency, informing me that my tenancy agreement will not be renewed, despite having already negotiated and signed a renewal contract. I am looking for advice on how to handle this situation.
Here's the full context:

• Tenancy Details: My tenancy started in July 2022 and is set to end on July 25, 2024 (re-newed every 12 months). In early May 2024, I expressed my interest in renewing the tenancy for another 12 months.
  
• Rent Negotiations: The landlady initially proposed a £125 increase in rent, but we negotiated and agreed on a £75 increase. This brought the rent from £1275 (July 2022) to £1325 (July 2023), and now to £1400 starting from July 2024.
  
• Contract Signed: I signed the renewal contract with the new rent amount.
  
• Additional Clause Request: A few days after signing, the landlady requested an additional clause for access for photos, measurements, and viewings. I queried this additional clause since the existing contract already included similar provisions.
  
• Unexpected Notice: Following my query about the additional clause, I received a notice stating that my tenancy would not be renewed and that I would need to vacate by July 25, 2024.
  

Key Points from My Response to the Agency:

• Expressed shock and requested reconsideration of the decision.
  
• Clarified my willingness to cooperate with reasonable requests for property access, including scheduling viewings in the evenings after work to minimize disruption.
  
• Inquired about the necessity of the additional clause, given that similar provisions were already outlined in the existing contract.
  
• Highlighted the significant negative impact that moving within two months would have on my work and personal life.
  
• Proposed a 6-month renewal term as a compromise, instead of the 12 months initially agreed upon.
  
• Emphasized my good relationship with the landlady and the managing estate agency, making this situation particularly distressing.
  

I am deeply upset by this sudden turn of events, especially considering the previously positive relationship with the landlady and my efforts to accommodate reasonable requests.
I would appreciate any advice on:

• How to negotiate or appeal this decision.
  
• Potential legal steps or rights I might have in this situation.
  

Thank you in advance for your help!
[Female 31yr old Working primarily from home as data engineer for a bank]
Snippet from the last email
"The landlord, having considered the highly sensitive nature of your work and disruption caused to you by the necessary work at the building to ensure compliance with the new government guidelines and the safety of all occupants, and that it will be necessary for further appointments for surveyors or workmen to attend where it cannot be guaranteed they will always be on time or turn up at the appointed time, has decided that it is not in either parties interest to renew the tenancy and wishes you well in your next home. Therefore you will shortly be receiving formal notice, Section 21, to end the tenancy on the 25th July"

Hi Reddit,
I recently received an unexpected notice from my letting agency, informing me that my tenancy agreement will not be renewed, despite having already negotiated and signed a renewal contract. I am looking for advice on how to handle this situation.
Here's the full context:

• Tenancy Details: My tenancy started in July 2022 and is set to end on July 25, 2024 (re-newed every 12 months). In early May 2024, I expressed my interest in renewing the tenancy for another 12 months.
  
• Rent Negotiations: The landlady initially proposed a £125 increase in rent, but we negotiated and agreed on a £75 increase. This brought the rent from £1275 (July 2022) to £1325 (July 2023), and now to £1400 starting from July 2024.
  
• Contract Signed: I signed the renewal contract with the new rent amount.
  
• Additional Clause Request: A few days after signing, the landlady requested an additional clause for access for photos, measurements, and viewings. I queried this additional clause since the existing contract already included similar provisions.
  
• Unexpected Notice: Following my query about the additional clause, I received a notice stating that my tenancy would not be renewed and that I would need to vacate by July 25, 2024.
  

Key Points from My Response to the Agency:

• Expressed shock and requested reconsideration of the decision.
  
• Clarified my willingness to cooperate with reasonable requests for property access, including scheduling viewings in the evenings after work to minimize disruption.
  
• Inquired about the necessity of the additional clause, given that similar provisions were already outlined in the existing contract.
  
• Highlighted the significant negative impact that moving within two months would have on my work and personal life.
  
• Proposed a 6-month renewal term as a compromise, instead of the 12 months initially agreed upon.
  
• Emphasized my good relationship with the landlady and the managing estate agency, making this situation particularly distressing.
  

I am deeply upset by this sudden turn of events, especially considering the previously positive relationship with the landlady and my efforts to accommodate reasonable requests.
I would appreciate any advice on:

• How to negotiate or appeal this decision.
  
• Potential legal steps or rights I might have in this situation.
  

Thank you in advance for your help!
[Female 31yr old Working primarily from home as data engineer for a bank]
Snippet from the last email
"The landlord, having considered the highly sensitive nature of your work and disruption caused to you by the necessary work at the building to ensure compliance with the new government guidelines and the safety of all occupants, and that it will be necessary for further appointments for surveyors or workmen to attend where it cannot be guaranteed they will always be on time or turn up at the appointed time, has decided that it is not in either parties interest to renew the tenancy and wishes you well in your next home. Therefore you will shortly be receiving formal notice, Section 21, to end the tenancy on the 25th July"

I’ve got a feeling I know how this is going to come off, but here we go anyway.
I (32M) met my wife (35F) in college while studying to become an airline pilot. We shared a class together and hit it off. Fast forward a couple years we get engaged, married, then have a couple of beautiful baby girls who are 18 months apart in age.
Anywho, during my training (and there was a lot of it) my wife (let’s call her Mary) helped support me financially before and after I earned my degree and became a flight instructor. FYI, flight instructors make very little starting out, around 25 to 30k if you’re lucky.
Mary, switched degree programs a couple of times, not 100% sure on what she wanted to do, and that’s fine. My case is unusual since I knew I was going to be a pilot. She eventually earns her degree in Psychology, and takes a job in behavioral therapy specializing in children’s autism. She loves it and is apparently very good at it. She has another year before she finishes her masters, and is eligible for a big raise and title. She’ll be making around the six figure mark around then.
Before she started this behavioral job, I was hired at a regional airline and started out making 85 to 95k per year. Fast forward a year and some change and I’m making well above 6 figures now.
Between her job, raising two kids, going to school online FULL TIME, having no family or friends in our area (we just moved to a new state at the end of last year), she’s exhausted at the end of the day and seems miserable.
For the past couple of months I’ve taken a work schedule that is way less demanding (I’m home 85 out 90 days on average for now, still making the same) to help around the house. I don’t mind cooking but I despise cleaning.
We’ve probably over extended ourselves with two high interest loans we had to take in order to make the move happen in time, so hiring help really isn’t in the cards at the moment.
I can’t help but think our entire family would be happier if she decided to stay home and just cook and clean. My salary could support us easily, but I’m then denying agency to my wife.
We’ve had these conversations, usually after a cocktail or two, and it doesn’t end well.
AITA?

My ex and I were together for 7 years going on 8 and we have been broken up now for a little over 2 years. We haven't spoken a single word to each other a single time since the day she broke it off which I find haunting as that's all I want and everyone I know has had theirs reach out at some point whether for good or bad.
She got with someone else and made it official a few months later and made sure to send me a fake follow request on IG (follow so I get a notification, but unfollow so she's not actually following me) to show me that she has a new boyfriend who my family and friends say looks just like me. She and her new guy moved within the first few months to a different state together which I wasn't aware of for over a year. I knew during this time though that she was unblocking and reblocking me upwards of 10+ times because I was curious trying to figure out what she was up too.
While all of this is happening I have been working on myself. I got a good paying job as a manager, I got my dream car, I workout 5 times a week, I've gone to therapy, I've spent time with friends, I've gotten new hobbies and reconnected with old ones, been more sociable, and open to new things. Yet I still think about her everyday and it feels like she could care if I was dead or alive.
I've been mostly good until a little while back when I got news from a good friend of mines girl that said my ex had added her on every social media. Which she has been doing since the breakup following girls I follow who she has no relationship with whatsoever. I really don't get why she would do that, but I would notice it back when she would unblock and reblock me. I always kept her unblocked in hopes she would message me but the hope was slowly being drained. Just a couple months ago I finally did one of the methods that allowed me to block her back even though I was blocked so she could stop snooping and so I could move on.
A few days ago my mom even told me she popped up on her "people you may know" on FB and then I got a text from a random number saying "How are you doing today?" I wasn't sure who it was so I check the number and the area code is to the exact city she moved to with her new guy. I know I'm probably delusional at this point but what are the odds of that especially when I check my IG right after and I'm unblocked. I haven't unblocked her because part of me feels she is playing a game and doesn't really want me back just wants to get an ego boost when she sees I unblock her. In my situation is it my job to be the one to reach out when it was mostly my fault the relationship ended or hers when she's got someone else who I'm pretty sure she is still with.
Thanks for reading.

Hey guys,
I plan to travel to Philippines next months in August on 28th of August to 09th September, I don’t plan to stay in Manila I just want to go and chill on the islands and enjoy some snorkeling and scuba diving, my flight will be from Dubai to Puerto Princesa with 1 stop in Manila, for the first 5 days I plan to visit Palawan, I want to go in El Nido to visit the lagoons, do some snorkeling, Island Hopping Tours and after that for 5-6 days more I plan to go to Cebu or Bohol for the water activities (whale sharks, dolphins, coral reefs, kawasan falls etc.). I know in that period it’s the rain season so I don’t know what to expect exactly, I did some research and I found a lot of people who went there in that time and they were lucky to have some sunny days but I don’t know if it’s a good ideea or not so I need an advice do you think about this and how much it will rain in a day ?
Thank you so much for your time everyone 🙏🏻

I know the obvious answer but I've been juggling this for a while and I'm mostly curious what other people have to say.
Some context: I 26m dated a woman for almost 6 years. We were living together, were engaged, and looking at houses when we broke up. It's been 1.5 years now and while I don't miss her necessarily, I just feel like I need to talk to her. The breakup was fairly mutual so we left on good terms, but we stopped talking a few months after the breakup and I feel like I didn't get a sense of closure.
We had a lot of history together, not just as a couple but with her family too. I'm still in contact with them here and there but I feel like it could be worth reconnecting with her directly so I don't feel weird when they reach out. My heart always skips a beat when they do. It's like I lost my own family. But the radio silence from her makes me uneasy about it.
What do you think? Should I reach out or just leave it be and move on? What would you do?

I have 10+ years in the IT/Software field but I live in a very small town in rural Texas on the Gulf Coast. My mortgage is VERY small.
That being said, I have a potential opportunity to move to California for my DREAM JOB. Well, at least for my dream company, and its an open door to start at the company.
So, It is in Irving California which I understand is neain Orange County. I am curious how the housing market is and if someone local could point me to a good suburb or something in the area that is affordable and not the worst commute in the world?
The job pays ~$60,000 USD starting and I would likely get some relocation assistance. My girlfriend is in college to be a nurse and works full time at our local small university so she would be moving with me. My biggest problem is pets, I have 5 dogs (2 very small, 3 medium) and 2 cats. If I sold my house on market value currently after I paid off the remaining balance on my mortgage I'd have 30-40 thousand dollars from that sell.
Due to a divorce last year and I took all the credit debt from my ex-wife in the divorce, my credit score isn't strong at all. Also, I have been unemployed for 6 months I was a software engineer at ExxonMobil but I got laid off due to budget cuts.
Just hoping someone can make some reasonable suggestions that I could afford rent/mortgage, food, bills, etc and I'd like to bring my pets with me. If I have to rehome some of my dogs I understand that but with the way stuff is that's going to be very hard to do on short notice to find a no-kill shelter to take any in.

* Species: Dog * Age:6 years * Sex/Neuter status: Spayed Female * Breed:Rat Terrier * Body weight:12#
* History: For the past few months we have been dealing with what we thought was an UTI. She has never had any illnesses or UTI's in the past. Vet gave her 2 rounds of antibiotics. Each round seemed to have good results but came back
* Clinical signs: * Duration: February - prescribed Floxacillin ?? UTI Symptoms went away. Late March, bacteria found in Urine Sample and was given Cephalexan Sp?? UTI seemed to go away. Mid May - Now, Been oozing puss from Vagina and a rancid smell. Male brother keeps licking and inspecting and seems concerned. This is new for him. Female is in good spirits , still trying to kill everything in site. Was lathargic for a few days but no fever.
* Your general location: * Central Ohio
Links to any test results, X-rays, vet reports etc. that you have: Went to new Vet for 2nd opinion. I didnt feel other vet staff at vet I have had for 20 years was being very attentive or even cared really. Like they were too busy. Anyways New vet ran urinalysis, pulled urine from inside for a separate urinalysis and sent to lab. Nothing. No bacteria, no white or red blood cells,nothing odd is showing up. He now wants xrays and/or a scope.

I have type 2b lymphoma. I was on short term for 6 months and then long term for another 2 months. I returned to work for about 3 weeks and in the first week I mistakenly asked if one of the techs had ever been tested for autism. I was not discriminatory in my question, nor malicious in any way. I was let go 3 weeks later stating negligence. I have the strong feeling that I was primarily let go because I was gone for so long. I've not been able to find any precedence for this anywhere and thought you might be able to advise me?
Obviously my question was not a good one, but I was trying to understand my team member better and was fired for it. Also I work in TN. I was let go the last day of the month, lost my insurance and no additional pay, while they knew I needed all of that to co tinue my treatments and medications. Was my firing justified?

Divorced Singles 5 (돌싱글즈5) is on MBN/etc.
Synopsis:

Newly single and ready to mingle, divorced men and women enter the Dolsing Village looking to date, cohabitate and find love again.
But this time it's for those born in the 1990s or MZ Generation.

Cast

Female	Male
Park Hyekyeong	Son Minseong
Kang Saebom	Shim Kyudeok
Baek Sujin	Choi Jongkyu
Son Seah	Kim Kyuon

Panelists

• Lee Hye-young
  
• Lee Ji-hye (from S#arp group)
  
• Yoo Se-yoon
  
• Eun Ji-won (from Sechs Kies group)
  
• Austin Kang
  

Sources

Divorced Singles (돌싱글즈) channel on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dolsingles_official/videos
The MBN Entertainment channel also uploads some of the teasers/clips/etc. earlier than the Divorced Singles channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MBN_Entertainment/videos
Pre-release presentation with the panelists and PD: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf93Ed_gQes

Title	Version
Divorced Singles 5 (돌싱글즈5) Episode 2 English Softsub	720p/1080p (~2.0GB/4.0GB/6.0GB: https://gofile.io/d/GV8m5Z)
Divorced Singles 5 (돌싱글즈5) Episode 2 English Hardsub	1080p (~1.7GB: https://gofile.io/d/QwnmCI)

Discussion Threads

Divorced Singles 5 (돌싱글즈5) Discussion
E01, E02

Here have some other (variety/reality/etc.) shows too: https://www.reddit.com/koreanvariety/comments/1clzzpinfinite_challenge_무한도전_season_1_english_subtitles/
Centralized post about Korean/Chinese/Japanese/et cetera variety shows and how to access them (with AI-generated/machine translation info, language learning, and other stuff): https://www.reddit.com/useMNLYYZYEG/comments/1clzy6asian_varietyreality_shows_language_learning/
As usual, these links will automatically expire after say 10 days or so (it's that website's current default policy), so definitely get them ASAP. Like the links below were all/mostly updated last week for Divorced Singles Episode 1, so some of the links will probably expire this week or in a few days.

Title	Version
I Am Solo (나는 SOLO) Season 1-3 New English Softsub	720p (~14.6GB: https://gofile.io/d/5vNTHf)
I Am Solo (나는 SOLO) Season 1-3, New English subtitles only	720p (~3.4MB: https://gofile.io/d/8aEyZ9)

Title	Version
Once More (再次心动) English Softsub	1080p (~7.0GB: https://gofile.io/d/xNnZwi)

Title	Version
Go Straight for Love or Direct Love (연애는 직진) Better New English Softsub	1080p (~13GB: https://gofile.io/d/SIVGO2)

Title	Version
Hao You Hao You Ai Season 2 (好友好有爱 第二季) Episode 6 English Softsub	1080p (~1.5GB: https://gofile.io/d/8156eX)

Title	Version
Love Catcher Japan (ラブキャッチャージャパン) English Softsub	1080p (~16GB: https://gofile.io/d/kViuYg)
Love Catcher Japan (ラブキャッチャージャパン) English subtitles only	1080p (~1.5MB: https://gofile.io/d/wljuVA)

Title	Version
Love Catcher Season 2 (러브캐처2) English Softsub (fansub, credits to nytelynx)	1080p (~21GB: https://gofile.io/d/lGwgke)

Just about a day ago they finally uploaded the teasepreview/etc. for Twinkle Love Season 4 (怦然心动20岁 第四季) with Shen Yue/沈月 (super famous Chinese actress from Meteor Garden, A Love So Beautiful, etc.) and so on: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6LXILAvKQU. Can't believe that fourth season in Thailand/etc. is finally coming in the near future.
Same with Yes, I Do Season 5 (喜欢你我也是 第五季). Should only be several weeks from now with those new seasons.
For the Single's Inferno (솔로지옥) series fans, there's now a Chinese version of it, lol. Live and Love (势均力敌的我们) has 20 housemates (instead of the usual 10 or so) and ya that first episode focused more on the competition/survival/etc. aspect instead of actual dating, haha. Worth a try since the housemates are pretty chillax or cool from the get-go.

Title	Version
Live and Love (势均力敌的我们) Episode 1 English Softsub	1080p (~1.8GB: https://gofile.io/d/hyuMgz)
Live and Love (势均力敌的我们) Episode 1 Commentary English Softsub	1080p (~230MB: https://gofile.io/d/95PKfZ)

Min Heejin (director of NewJeans/ADOetc.) is probably crying right now again (lol) since they used I'LL-IT's Magnetic as like the very first song for this dating show, which is insane when you think about it since that song/music video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vk5-c_v4gMU) just released say nearly two months ago (March 25, 2024). And it's already being used in a Chinese dating show like this.
Live and Love (势均力敌的我们) is available on WeTV/Tencent Video with like propeofficial/etc. subtitles (in English, Bahasa Malaysia/Indonesia, Spanish, Portuguese, Thai, etc.) check Youtube (Tencent Video-Show-Get the WeTV APP channel), more info here: https://www.reddit.com/KDRAMA/comments/1csecz9/frankly_speaking_episodes_5_6/l49sej8/
Live and Love (势均力敌的我们) Episode 1 Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1CKX7rVxMm8
Live and Love (势均力敌的我们) Episode 1 Part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7fvyfNA1kSw
But ya, as expected, the subtitles by those Chinese streaming services (WeTV(Tencent Video)/iQIYI/YOUKU/MangoTV/etc.) are often machine-translated as well with these variety/reality shows (and Cdramas). So maybe they'll fix it later though ya those official/propeetc. subtitles are also missing a few scenes or certain parts for now, but the subtitles are sorta a bit better than the OpenAI Whisper I posted earlieabove since they quickly redid the subjects/objects/etc. of the machine-translated sentence. So try watching the official/propeetc. version first instead of the AI-generated version that I posted since sometimes they update the subtitles on Youtube after a while to somewhat fix stuff.
Oh and the new Frankly Speaking Kdrama with Kang Han-na and Go Kyung-pyo is literally like Love Is for Suckers (has Lee Da-hee, one of the panelists of Single's Inferno (1, 2, and 3), as the producer or main character there, and Super Junior's Choi Si-won as the male lead), as in it's got the behind the scenes storyline and recreations/parodies/etc. for shows like I Am Solo (나는 SOLO) and Single's Inferno. It's so hilarious, definitely watch it if you're a fan of dating/cohabitation/slice of life/etc. shows.
Some info about Frankly Speaking and the Couple Paradise (커플천국) dating show inside the drama: https://www.reddit.com/KDRAMA/comments/1csecz9/frankly_speaking_episodes_5_6/l49lpej/
Han Dong-hee (한동희) is literally like the 첫사랑 (her visuals were insane in Captivating the King as Hongjang: https://www.reddit.com/KDRAMA/comments/19bxla0/captivating_the_king_episodes_1_2/kiye1e6/) and like wow, does she not look like Seah from Divorced Singles 5 (돌싱글즈5), such sharp features, much wow (Balltze/Cheems doge forever living in memories), lmao.

I have 10+ years in the IT/Software field but I live in a very small town in rural Texas on the Gulf Coast. My mortgage is VERY small.
That being said, I have a potential opportunity to move to Austin for my DREAM JOB. Well, at least for my dream company, and its an open door to start at the company.
I am curious how the housing market is and if someone local could point me to a good suburb or something in the area that is affordable and not the worst commute in the world?
The job pays ~$60,000 USD starting and I would likely get some relocation assistance. My girlfriend is in college to be a nurse and works full time at our local small university so she would be moving with me. My biggest problem is pets, I have 5 dogs (2 very small, 3 medium) and 2 cats. If I sold my house on market value currently after I paid off the remaining balance on my mortgage I'd have 30-40 thousand dollars from that sell.
Due to a divorce last year and I took all the credit debt from my ex-wife in the divorce, my credit score isn't strong at all. Also, I have been unemployed for 6 months I was a software engineer at ExxonMobil but I got laid off due to budget cuts.
Just hoping someone can make some reasonable suggestions that I could afford rent/mortgage, food, bills, etc and I'd like to bring my pets with me. If I have to rehome some of my dogs I understand that but with the way stuff is that's going to be very hard to do on short notice to find a no-kill shelter to take any in.

So I need your help choosing a gaming laptop, I have been looking at them for months and still don’t know. I will need it for UNI engineering course. I have 8 options. I want your opinion on the which laptop is the worth the money. They have different price points and different specs. My main need is alright battery life for simple word document work and good enough GPU to play games like red dead or war zone.
Btw I can only buy from this website, so if you find a laptop that is better but is not from the website plz don’t post it.
I know there is a lot of options, if you have time plz have a look if not, no problem.
If you find a laptop under 1k and from Argos. Post it below
1) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3414882?clickSR=slp:term:aus%20tuf%20a15:2:5:1
2) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/5647561?clickSR=slp:term:aus%20tuf%20a15:3:5:1
3) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3268753?clickSR=slp:term:hp%20victus:1:149:1
4) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/4634733?clickSR=slp:term:hp%20victus:4:149:1
5) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3282162?clickSR=slp:term:loq:2:7:1
6) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3267369?clickSR=slp:term:auss%20tuf:1:28:1
7) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3292619?clickSR=slp:term:acer%20nitro:1:43:1
8) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3365113?clickSR=slp:term:acer%20nitro:4:43:1

But of context i guess I (14f) and my brother (17m) had a pretty shitty upbringing we had an abusive dad my parents divorced when I we were both too young to really remember my dad was never very violent but he was very emotional abusive I stopped seeing and talking to my dad when I was 7 due to a lot of reasons but that’s a different rant anyway after that my mum dated another abusive man he never really hit me but he did hit/ attack my brother a few times he more emotionally abused me my mum left him in November 2019 and ever since it’s just been us three my brother is very strong he’s only 5’9 but still a good bit taller than me and he’s a boxer me but I can hit a good punch as well we always argued and fought as kids but it was never really that violent kinda more pushing and wrestling anyway I’m not exactly sure when it started but I remember a few times he said some pretty shitty things to me and did some pretty shit things starting from 2020 when I was 10 my mum bought me this little short set it had a cropped hoodie that was black and shorts that were black I wore a black vest underneath and when my brother saw me in it called me a whore when he was 13 (I turned 14 recently and would never imagine saying that to a 10 year old or even thinking that about a 10 year old) and said that all I’m ever gonna be in life is a one time use for some one like Jeffery epstine this hurt me but like whatever he made me full on sob free he repeated called me autistic and “special” for over an hour and saying I was a mistake I’m not exactly sure when the violence started but I remember one time I think I was 11 he wanted the remote and I didn’t give it to him so he punched me in the face took the remote it hurt like fuck so I was crying and he told my mum I was crying because he took the remote and didn’t tell her he punched me I got called dramatic and emotional then whenever we would have a disagreement he started turning violent like basically squaring up to me if we were arguing in the car he would jump over from the front seat while my mum was driving and hit me like full on multiple shots to the face and trust me I’ve had enough punches to know they hurttttt! Like ur face and body is sore for days like multiple days when I came out as bisexual and asked to use she/they he called me a mistake and told me I’d be better off dead he called me a bunch of slurs and different shit and that went on for quite a while he doesn’t care anymore tho whenever we argue or if I do things like make a small mistake he will call me really shitty things say I’d be better dead tell me to kill myself say that he’s gonna kill me his favourite move is to chase me about the house and when I go to my room and push it shut basically push it in and hit me over small disagreements he’s basically reason why I’m insecure about a lot of things because he just basically calls every part of me ugly I think the thing recently is that he’s 17 he’s 18 in December he’s learning how to drive and like he’s too old for this bs like yk and I’m done with it in December we went to Cuba I’m Scottish and Scottish parents tend to be quite loose especially on holiday one night I get a bit too drunk and my mum tells me brother to take me home when I say too drunk I mean I am black out and the whole time we’re walking he’s saying shit to me and all this bs at the time I’m 13 and he’s 17 anyway when we get in I get very angry cause he went out for a smoke and I thought ogiht he had left me completely so very drunk me finds his favourite football shirt gets shampoo and put’s shampoo or body wash all over it I can’t really remember when he comes in he sees this and he goes mental he chases me to my room and hits me and then I’m on the bed and he starts choking me while punching the shit out of me eventually I get him out and I lock the door but he spends the full night outside the door calling me ever single name under the sun yeah I get I shouldn’t of done that but it was only body wash it comes out the next morning I wake up with some pretty nasty bruises and some marks on my neck the worse one was on my leg were he kicked me a couple times and it bruised purple for like 2 weeks the next day he acts like nothing happened like he always does somtimes I wonder if he genuinely doesn’t see a problem with his behaviour a few months later we’re arguing outside about somthing stupid and he shuved me hard I rarely hit him back when he does this shit but I told him “I’m gonna fucking hit you” he gets in my face and says “who the fuck do you think ur speaking to” he turns around I hit him in the r head so hard that his head went forward and his airpod fell out the other side he turns around and hits me 4/5 times in the face and a couple body hits we argue I go back inside he shouts for a bit but we move on today he squared up to me over something small and I told him to fuck off he chases me to my room my mum comes over he sorts it out and I tell her “I’m fucking done with this I’m not gonna live on eggshells because I’m scared of my own brother” and she’s like “I’ll talk to him” this pisses me off I’m like “no you’ve said that for the last three years if you don’t sort him out the next time he hits me or tires to I’m gonna fucking kill him I mean it” she talks to him he starts shouting at her and I’m like this can’t be normal surley but the thing is that when he’s not like this he’s a really good brother so it’s hard to not forgive him I’m so angry right now but in an hour he’ll charm his way into me forgiving him and no matter how hard I try I can’t I actually feel somtimes like he’s an abusive boyfriend that I can’t leave I mean I love my mum and my brother but it’s not like this is enough reason to leave them plus even if it was I have no where to go I have no family that would think what he does is wrong another thing is when my mums talking to me after he pisses me off tryna calm me down he stands behind her smirking trying to piss me off more

So I need your help choosing a gaming laptop, I have been looking at them for months and still don’t know. I will need it for UNI engineering course. I have 8 options. I want your opinion on the which laptop is the worth the money. They have different price points and different specs. My main need is alright battery life for simple word document work and good enough GPU to play games like red dead or war zone.
Btw I can only buy from this website, so if you find a laptop that is better but is not from the website plz don’t post it.
I know there is a lot of options, if you have time plz have a look if not, no problem.
If you find a laptop under 1k and from Argos. Post it below
1) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3414882?clickSR=slp:term:aus%20tuf%20a15:2:5:1
2) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/5647561?clickSR=slp:term:aus%20tuf%20a15:3:5:1
3) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3268753?clickSR=slp:term:hp%20victus:1:149:1
4) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/4634733?clickSR=slp:term:hp%20victus:4:149:1
5) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3282162?clickSR=slp:term:loq:2:7:1
6) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3267369?clickSR=slp:term:auss%20tuf:1:28:1
7) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3292619?clickSR=slp:term:acer%20nitro:1:43:1
8) https://www.argos.co.uk/product/3365113?clickSR=slp:term:acer%20nitro:4:43:1

Hi Reddit,
I recently received an unexpected notice from my letting agency, informing me that my tenancy agreement will not be renewed, despite having already negotiated and signed a renewal contract. I am looking for advice on how to handle this situation.
Here's the full context:

• Tenancy Details: My tenancy started in July 2022 and is set to end on July 25, 2024 (re-newed every 12 months). In early May 2024, I expressed my interest in renewing the tenancy for another 12 months.
  
• Rent Negotiations: The landlady initially proposed a £125 increase in rent, but we negotiated and agreed on a £75 increase. This brought the rent from £1275 (July 2022) to £1325 (July 2023), and now to £1400 starting from July 2024.
  
• Contract Signed: I signed the renewal contract with the new rent amount.
  
• Additional Clause Request: A few days after signing, the landlady requested an additional clause for access for photos, measurements, and viewings. I queried this additional clause since the existing contract already included similar provisions.
  
• Unexpected Notice: Following my query about the additional clause, I received a notice stating that my tenancy would not be renewed and that I would need to vacate by July 25, 2024.
  

Key Points from My Response to the Agency:

• Expressed shock and requested reconsideration of the decision.
  
• Clarified my willingness to cooperate with reasonable requests for property access, including scheduling viewings in the evenings after work to minimize disruption.
  
• Inquired about the necessity of the additional clause, given that similar provisions were already outlined in the existing contract.
  
• Highlighted the significant negative impact that moving within two months would have on my work and personal life.
  
• Proposed a 6-month renewal term as a compromise, instead of the 12 months initially agreed upon.
  
• Emphasized my good relationship with the landlady and the managing estate agency, making this situation particularly distressing.
  

I am deeply upset by this sudden turn of events, especially considering the previously positive relationship with the landlady and my efforts to accommodate reasonable requests.
I would appreciate any advice on:

• How to negotiate or appeal this decision.
  
• Potential legal steps or rights I might have in this situation.
  

Thank you in advance for your help!
[Female 31yr old Working primarily from home as data engineer for a bank]
Snippet from the last email
"The landlord, having considered the highly sensitive nature of your work and disruption caused to you by the necessary work at the building to ensure compliance with the new government guidelines and the safety of all occupants, and that it will be necessary for further appointments for surveyors or workmen to attend where it cannot be guaranteed they will always be on time or turn up at the appointed time, has decided that it is not in either parties interest to renew the tenancy and wishes you well in your next home. Therefore you will shortly be receiving formal notice, Section 21, to end the tenancy on the 25th July"

I (20M) feel like i’m really in a moment of struggle. I do not know how to handle this anymore. Most of it’s college as my whole graduation is at risk since one class is not being updated by the professor and i’m falling behind in my classes. I am getting mental blocks each time I try to try and sit down and read or write. My physical health has also taken a toll as I have had inflammation in my mouth for months now and the doctor said they believe it’s from stress and won’t heal. Each time I try to fight back I am falling down mentally. Now I find myself depressed and having fits of headaches and anxiety. I just have more bad days than good days with me no longer having my determination. What im begging for is any advice on how to get myself out of this hole since right now I no clue how much time I have left.

I (23 F) have been diagnosed with Bipolar, ADHD, and social anxiety for a few years now, starting Sophomore year of college. I never really agreed with the Bipolar diagnosis. I didn't feel like what I had was mania, though I did relate to a cyclical type of depression and periods of higher mood and motivation, not as much with the super fast talking or no sleep. I do get really bad irritability (just in general, but it gets really unmanageable when I'm depressed). I'm also very prone to isolation, impulsivity, rumination, and have avoidant tendencies in relationships/in general. Since the start of the year, I've had about 3 social outings that lasted a few hours each. I only go into the office 4 times a month, and I order my groceries, so I really never leave my house.
For context, I was always very motivating in school and went to a really good university for an engineering degree. I recently graduated and I'm now a Software Engineer. As soon as I started college, the ADHD symptoms and other mental health struggles started taking a toll on my grades, which was really debilitating. At 19, I got on Adderall for ADHD, and was smoking weed heavily, and for a period I was definitely abusing my adderall, which I now greatly regret. During the height of this, I had a really bad case of persecutory delusions that were scary as hell. Typical "CIA is after me" stuff. I got off adderall for about a year, and I really struggled. It was so hard to feel motivated to do anything, and studying was very difficult. Even when the depression was fine, concentrating was not. I was still having some paranoid/suspicious thinking, but I was smoking weed a lot less and not taking any stimulants, and it didn't reach full-blown delusional state. However, it was definitely still there. For example, if I couldn't find an article of clothing or item in my room, I would quickly jump to "someone must have stolen it", until I would find it. I would also think a lot about the persecutory delusions from before, and wonder about them, but wouldn't really go back to believing them. I graduated last May, and a few months later, I got back on Adderall. It helped my executive dysfunction so much. For example, cleaning is a severe problem for me. I cannot clean, and my apartment frequently gets ant or fly infestations if I don't pay someone to clean for me. The adderall helps with stuff like this, especially if I'm not depressed. When I am severely depressed, it helps with concentration but I don't care enough to do the things I should be focusing on, if that makes sense -- basically the motivation is not there but the concentration is.
I finally started with a new psychiatrist, and today we had our second visit. I explained my whole history, and my main concern being that I'm currently extremely depressed, and I have little bits of these paranoid thoughts, which I know get worse with adderall, but I don't want to stop adderall since it can be so helpful for me. I also told him that I'm scared to go on an antipsychotic because they can cause cognitive issues and in my career, I cant afford that. He concluded that what I have sounds more like a thought disorder than mania, along with a mood disorder -- He said it possibly could be schizoaffective disorder. He said since the Adderall helps a lot, we could switch to Ritalin which has a lower chance of psychosis, and add on Vraylar. He said Vraylar is good for my concern with a lack of motivation, and fear of cognitive decline with other antipsychotics.
I'm scared of this whole thought disorder thing. I looked it up, and it's pretty spot on with my delusional thinking. My whole life, my "intelligence" is the only thing I feel like I've been good at, and the thing that's basically gotten me through life. And now I have this thing that is basically characterized by "illogical thinking". And it's true. In those heightened delusional states, I can feel my mind connecting dots that have no business being connected. And it's getting worse. And adderall, the thing that feels helpful, may have exacerbated this. At least from my understanding, its affects on dopamine are similar to the root cause of Schizophrenia and disorganized thinking, etc. And it is supposed to get worse over time. I'm only 23, I'm only just starting my Software Engineering career, and the thoughts that "I'm getting dumber" since I was 19 are proving to be true. Schizophrenics see a significant drop in IQ over time. I'm honestly terrified. I feel unable to function without Adderall, but I'm also scared that I'll just become more psychotic if I keep taking it. To make matters worse, after 2 sessions with this psychiatrist who was going to prescribe the Vraylar, he tells me he, in fact, does not take my insurance (he'd told me this whole time he did, but he was "mistaken"). It took me so long to find a psychiatrist and now I might have to pay hundreds of dollars worth of two sessions out of pocket. I'm so scared, what do I do... I've been considering going back and getting my masters in Computer Science because I want to work in AI, and you usually need higher education for that. But I would feel incapable doing it without Adderall, and now I feel like either way, this "thought disorder" thing will worsen and I won't be able to do any job that requires logical thinking because my brain just broken. I feel like I broke my brain. And I'm only 23. I've always been an intellectually curious person, I feel so hopeless right now like what is the point of living this way.