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The subreddit for fans of Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Legend of Korra, the comics, the upcoming Avatar Studios animated movies and other projects, novels, games, and all other Avatar content.
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A costuming and culture subreddit dedicated to the awesomeness that is Mandalorians. This is not the subreddit for the Disney+ Mandalorian TV series. TV show comments should go in either the weekly discussion thread, or be posted on TheMandalorianTV.
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2024.05.16 18:41 teabagandwarmwater Why is Allaah not answering my duaa?

by Asma bint Shameem
You’ve been making Duaa to Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala for a long time. You’re begging. You’re crying. You’re asking Him. But there is no response.
And you wonder “why”?
Why is it that your Duaa is not answered? Is Allaah not listening to you?
Well, sometimes it may SEEM like Allaah didn’t accept our duaa although in reality He DID.
Thats because the RESPONSE to the duaa may take different forms:
  1. Allaah will respond and give you exactly what you made the duaa for
  2. He will turn away some evil or harm from you because of the duaa, or
  3. He will save it for you for the Day of Resurrection when you will need it the most.
🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:
“There is no Muslim who calls upon Allaah with words in which there is no sin or severing of family ties but Allaah will give him one of three things: either He will answer his prayer soon, or He will store it up for him in the Hereafter, or He will remove something bad from him that is equivalent to what he is asking for.”
They said, “Then we should make a great amount of du’aa’.”
He said, “Allaah is greater.” (at-Tirmidhi -saheeh by al-Albaani)
Our Deen encourages us to make a LOT of duaa, and we shouldn’t be hasty in seeking a response.
That’s because duaa is a most beautiful act of Ibaadah and is so beloved to Allaah Subhaan Allaah.
So we MUST ALWAYS make duaa and NEVER give up.
But the Shaytaan does not want us to make duaa and have it accepted. So he whispers in our head and puts doubts in our minds about Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and makes us lose hope.
However, we can NEVER lose hope or despair.
Remember, NO ONE despairs of Allaah except those that are astray.
🍃 Allaah says:
[Ibraheem] said: "And who despairs of the Mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?" (Surah al-Hijr:56)
So have GOOD HOPES with Allaah and know that Allaah WILL respond to our duaas sooner or later.
If He’s not responding ’now’, He will respond ‘later’.
🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:
“The duaa of any one of you will be answered so long as he is not impatient and says, I made duaa but it was not answered.” (al-Bukhaari and Muslim)
🍃 Ibn al-Jawzi said about duaa not being answered right away:
“I think part of the test is when a believer supplicates and receives no response, and he repeats the du’aa’ for a long time and sees no sign of a response. He should realize that this is a TEST and needs PATIENCE.
1️⃣What a person experiences of waswaas when the response is delayed is a sickness which needs medicine, I have experienced this myself.
A calamity befell me and I supplicated and did not see any response, and Iblees started to lay his traps.
Sometimes he said : The generosity (of Allaah) is abundant and He is not miserly, so why is there a delay?
I said to him: Be gone, O cursed one, for I have no need of anyone to argue my case and I do not want you as a supporter!
Then I told myself: Beware of going along with his whispers, for if there was no other reason for the delay except that Allaah is testing you to see whether you will fight the enemy, that is sufficient wisdom.
My soul (nafs) said: How could you explain the delay in the response of Allaah to your prayers for relief from this calamity?
I said: It is proven with evidence that Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, is the Sovereign, and the Sovereign may withhold or give, so there is no point in objecting to Him.
2️⃣The wisdom behind that is proven in definitive evidence. I may think that something is good, but wisdom does not dictate it, but the reason for that may be hidden, just as a doctor may do things that appear outwardly to be harmful, intending some good purpose thereby. Perhaps this is something of that nature.
3️⃣There may be an interest to be served by delay, and haste may be harmful.
The Prophet Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam said:
“A person will be fine so long as he does not become impatient and says, ‘I prayed but I did not receive any answer.’”
4️⃣The response may be withheld because of some FAULT in you.
Perhaps there was something dubious in what you ate or your heart was heedless at the time when you said the du’aa’, or your punishment is being increased by means of your need being withheld, because of some sin from which you have not repented sincerely.
So look for some of these reasons, so that you might achieve your aim.”
Subhaan Allaah what a beautiful explanation of why duaa may not be answered right away.
So as Ibn Jawzi said, sometimes there may be reasons why Duaa may not be accepted.
For example;
And Allaah knows best.
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2024.05.16 18:41 teabagandwarmwater Why is Allaah not answering my duaa?

by Asma bint Shameem
You’ve been making Duaa to Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala for a long time. You’re begging. You’re crying. You’re asking Him. But there is no response.
And you wonder “why”?
Why is it that your Duaa is not answered? Is Allaah not listening to you?
Well, sometimes it may SEEM like Allaah didn’t accept our duaa although in reality He DID.
Thats because the RESPONSE to the duaa may take different forms:
  1. Allaah will respond and give you exactly what you made the duaa for
  2. He will turn away some evil or harm from you because of the duaa, or
  3. He will save it for you for the Day of Resurrection when you will need it the most.
🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:
“There is no Muslim who calls upon Allaah with words in which there is no sin or severing of family ties but Allaah will give him one of three things: either He will answer his prayer soon, or He will store it up for him in the Hereafter, or He will remove something bad from him that is equivalent to what he is asking for.”
They said, “Then we should make a great amount of du’aa’.”
He said, “Allaah is greater.” (at-Tirmidhi -saheeh by al-Albaani)
Our Deen encourages us to make a LOT of duaa, and we shouldn’t be hasty in seeking a response.
That’s because duaa is a most beautiful act of Ibaadah and is so beloved to Allaah Subhaan Allaah.
So we MUST ALWAYS make duaa and NEVER give up.
But the Shaytaan does not want us to make duaa and have it accepted. So he whispers in our head and puts doubts in our minds about Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and makes us lose hope.
However, we can NEVER lose hope or despair.
Remember, NO ONE despairs of Allaah except those that are astray.
🍃 Allaah says:
[Ibraheem] said: "And who despairs of the Mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?" (Surah al-Hijr:56)
So have GOOD HOPES with Allaah and know that Allaah WILL respond to our duaas sooner or later.
If He’s not responding ’now’, He will respond ‘later’.
🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:
“The duaa of any one of you will be answered so long as he is not impatient and says, I made duaa but it was not answered.” (al-Bukhaari and Muslim)
🍃 Ibn al-Jawzi said about duaa not being answered right away:
“I think part of the test is when a believer supplicates and receives no response, and he repeats the du’aa’ for a long time and sees no sign of a response. He should realize that this is a TEST and needs PATIENCE.
1️⃣What a person experiences of waswaas when the response is delayed is a sickness which needs medicine, I have experienced this myself.
A calamity befell me and I supplicated and did not see any response, and Iblees started to lay his traps.
Sometimes he said : The generosity (of Allaah) is abundant and He is not miserly, so why is there a delay?
I said to him: Be gone, O cursed one, for I have no need of anyone to argue my case and I do not want you as a supporter!
Then I told myself: Beware of going along with his whispers, for if there was no other reason for the delay except that Allaah is testing you to see whether you will fight the enemy, that is sufficient wisdom.
My soul (nafs) said: How could you explain the delay in the response of Allaah to your prayers for relief from this calamity?
I said: It is proven with evidence that Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, is the Sovereign, and the Sovereign may withhold or give, so there is no point in objecting to Him.
2️⃣The wisdom behind that is proven in definitive evidence. I may think that something is good, but wisdom does not dictate it, but the reason for that may be hidden, just as a doctor may do things that appear outwardly to be harmful, intending some good purpose thereby. Perhaps this is something of that nature.
3️⃣There may be an interest to be served by delay, and haste may be harmful.
The Prophet Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam said:
“A person will be fine so long as he does not become impatient and says, ‘I prayed but I did not receive any answer.’”
4️⃣The response may be withheld because of some FAULT in you.
Perhaps there was something dubious in what you ate or your heart was heedless at the time when you said the du’aa’, or your punishment is being increased by means of your need being withheld, because of some sin from which you have not repented sincerely.
So look for some of these reasons, so that you might achieve your aim.”
Subhaan Allaah what a beautiful explanation of why duaa may not be answered right away.
So as Ibn Jawzi said, sometimes there may be reasons why Duaa may not be accepted.
For example;
And Allaah knows best.
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2024.05.16 18:39 calibuildr Texas Music Office- does your (state, country, city) have a resource like this? Do you live somewhere that's serious about tourism and live music? Can you start a project to help promote live music in your area?

I noticed a while back that there's a state website with contact info for tons of Texas bands and I think it was something affiliated with the Texas Music Office: https://gov.texas.gov/music . You could literally find at a glance, contact info for the bookers for most red dirt artists but also other kinds of bands. The other day Saving Country Music had an article about something else (Big Loud Records texas division) and it reminded me of this state project existing and how cool it is.
We have an poster here, u/Conscious-Group, who produced his album with the help of an Austin city program that gave grants to promote music projects. https://andrewblanton.bandcamp.com/album/laredo
Those are government examples, but tourism development happens at all kinds of levels, private, nonprofit, and public.
I'm always interested in how you can develop local scenes in places that supposedly don't have one and we've discsssed it on the sub quite a it in the past. I figured I'd put this out there in case it inspires anyone to look into creative opportunities for music promotion at their local level.
Of course Texas is up there with maybe 2 other US regions (which are just cities) in promoting music as a major part of their image. Nashville and New Orleans are the other two places I can think of.
There are sevearl towns or states where it seems like it could be an obvious tourism development project for local government or business development/chamber of commerce sorts of groups. Even developing a centralized website with info on local bands and resources for bands to promote themselvs like the Texas Music Ofice has on their website seems like a fairly affordable way to help nurture live music in your area:https://gov.texas.gov/music/page/resources
I've lived in other states with great music scenes in the South but there wasn't as much of an official push like this Texas one (Nashville is the obvious exception). Are any other regions doing stuff like this, outside of private businesses?
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2024.05.16 18:39 Wild_Ebb5097 Okinawa elderly face difficulties with many not getting a pension

NAHA—The percentage of senior citizens in Okinawa Prefecture not receiving pensions is about double the national average, a result of the southernmost prefecture long falling under U.S. rule after World War II.
Many of those 65 and older in Okinawa are facing increasingly dire circumstances as the prefecture marks the 52nd anniversary of its return to Japanese sovereignty on May 15.
Okinawa had no pension system under U.S. rule and it was only from around 1970 that one was established. The pension program covering all other Japanese began in 1961.
But even after Okinawa returned to Japanese sovereignty in 1972 many Okinawa residents were unaware of the pension program.
Many also failed to pay the full pension premium, due in part to the low wages in Okinawa, which is highly dependent on the service sector, such as tourism and restaurants.
While close to 220,000 Okinawa residents are now enrolled in the national pension program that covers those not in company pension programs, about 68 percent do not pay the standard premiums.
That means any benefits they receive in the future will be lower.
In 2022, 6.2 percent of those 65 and older in Okinawa were not receiving pensions.
In addition, the average monthly amount received through the national pension program comes to 51,864 yen ($332), the lowest level in Japan.
The lack of a manufacturing sector in Okinawa affects residents of all ages. The per capita income in Okinawa in 2020 was 2.16 million yen, the lowest figure in Japan and about 1 million yen less than the national average.
A major reason for the low figures is the large percentage of those working irregular jobs as well as the large number of women holding down part-time jobs, compared to national trends.
Asahi Shimbun
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2024.05.16 18:39 BlackHazeRus New laptop: 4080 or 4090?

Hey, folks!
I’ve been Legion 7 user for 2 years, but recently I did send it got the repairs and I got my money back because I cannot get the parts (Russia, you know how it goes).
The thing is I would like to buy a better laptop more, since I consider it an investment. I do watch Jarrod’s Tech videos, so I have my options narrowed down (ASUS, Lenovo, Alienware (?), Razer).
However, there are almost no laptops in this category, specifically 4080/4090 — similar situation was 2 years ago (before the war, so I assume miners got too crazy), but now there are way less options. It's important to note that I was looking at only major electronics stores, not resellers and smaller shops. Reason is that I want to have somewhat safer purchase — I would consider them if the amount of saved money will be substantial, but it is not the case.
Here is there list of laptops:
1. ASUS ROG Strix SCAR 17 G733PYV-LL045W • 3410 USD (309999 RUB) • RTX 4090 + AMD Ryzen 9 7945HX3D
2. ASUS ROG Strix SCAR 17 G733PY-LL002 • 3300 USD (299999 RUB) • RTX 4090 + AMD Ryzen 9 7945HX
3. ASUS ROG Strix G16 G614JZ-N4011 • 2475 USD (224999 RUB) • RTX 4080 + Intel Core i7-13650HX
4. Lenovo Legion Pro 7 16IRX8H • 3000 USD (272636 RUB) • RTX 4090 + Intel Core i9-13900HX • Potential scam? This is the only one from a marketplace and a seller looks kinda shady.
So my main question is it worth to pay more, about $1000) for 4090 laptop with better (?) AMD CPU?
If it is a good long lasting investment, then great, otherwise I would buy a new smartphone.
I guess I could buy a cheaper laptop in the US/EU and get it cheaper, but I did a quick research and… was surprised that the savings aren’t that large — considering the currency conversion, delivery ($120), and import tax (up to $500?). I guess the benefit would be a bettelonger international warranty (maybe? Not too sure about it?) and 3 months game pass (only for the purchase region accounts?). The pros of buying in Russia would be, well, store warranty (no manufacturer warranty due to parallel import) while staying in the country and maybe faster delivery.
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2024.05.16 18:38 TRAIANVS Walking the Cracked Pot Trail 20 - In Which Erikson Roasts Fans

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A lapdog's brainless zeal

The Entourage! Whence comes1 such creatures so eager to abandon all pretense of the sedentary? One envisages haste of blubbering excitement, slippery gleam in the eye, a lapdog’s brainless zeal, as a canvas bag is stuffed full of slips and whatnot, with all the grace of a fakir backstage moments before performing before a gouty king. A whirlwind rush through rooms like shrines, and then out!
We get Flicker dropping back into his more heightened style, starting off with a declamation. Remember how we ended the last section
He would unveil himself in Farrog, and then they would all see. Calap Roud, that stunning watery-eyed dancer, Purse Snippet, and the Entourage too—
So this is very much an interruption. Previously we had Flicker placing himself inside Brash's head, until he mentions the Entourage, at which point he switches completely and breaks out into this much more heightened description.
Flicker is back in his picture-painting mode as well, as he imagines the backgrounds of these girls. The first sentence is posed as a question, but is really more of a statement. I love the phrase "abandon all pretense of the sedentary". They were clearly from a wealthy background, living a carefree life before, but now they've chosen to drop it all to follow (in this instance literally follow) their favorite artist.
He imagines the scenario surrounding their departure, with the "blubbering excitement", a "slippery gleam in the eye", and of course "a lapdog's brainless zeal". I'm curious about the "slippery" descriptor there. Especially when paired with the lapdog comment, it calls to mind a dog skidding and sliding on a slippery floor as they're completely unable to contain their excitement. Does anyone have a different reading?
Then they stuff a canvas bag full of slips (as in the clothing, not as in paper slips) and "whatnot", showing how they're clearly not thinking this through, but rather just throwing things in their bag and running out the door. I love the comparison to the fakir. First of all, it hearkens back to the Arabian Nights inspiration, while also giving us the image of a fakir rushing to get ready for his act, but more important is how it works as a metaphor.
The Entourage (who as we will soon learn are all young women) are here posed as a performer, performing in front of an old, fat, wealthy man. It really spotlights the power imbalance between them and their idol. Then we end the paragraph on a sentence that I'm having a really hard time figuring out. What is the significance of the rooms being like shrines? Shrines are (definitionally) places of worship. So it's like they're rushing past these places intended for worship in order to worship their idol, perhaps implying that it would have been more productive to stay and worship a real god. But these aren't shrines, but rather rooms like shrines, so it would be a worship of the home or something in that direction. I don't think this would imply a worship of domesticity, the metaphor is not fleshed out enough for that. I think it's simply saying that they should rather try to stay connected to their roots. I must say I'm not fully convinced by this reading. What do you all think?

Holding up a mirror

Pattering feet, a trio, all converging in unsightly gallop quick to feminize into a skip and prance once He Who Is Worshipped is in sight. The Entourage accompanies the Perfect Artist everywhere, gatherings great and small, public and intimate. They build the walls of the formidable, impregnable keep that is the Perfect Artist’s ego. They patrol the moat, flinging away all but the sweetest defecatory intimations of mortality. They stand sentinel in every postern gate, they gush down every sluice, they are the stained glass to paint rainbows upon their beloved’s perfectly turned profile.
I absolutely love this image we get here of these three girls "converging in unsightly gallop" with their "pattering feet". It's juxtaposing two images, one dainty and the other the exact opposite. If you've seen one of those videos of cows being released out to pasture after the winter, that's basically what I'm picturing. But as soon as they're in the presence of their idol they switch into an exaggeratedly feminine gait.
Then there's the intentionally vague description of their idol. We don't get the name, but he's called He Who Is Worshipped and the Perfect Artist. This is a reminder that we're not talking about particulars, but rather the general case, in particular how people behave in real life fandoms. Let's examine the rest of this paragraph while keeping in mind that this is Erikson is holding up a mirror to us. And you thought you were safe?
The Entourage is always where their artist is. I think this is especially true in the modern day where fans have practically unlimited access to their favourite artists. And they act as defenders of their artist, and notice how at no point here we get any sense that this Perfect Artist asked for any such thing. They build up their own unassailable version of their artist, and then dismiss any criticism except the most basic, toothless ones.
Finally we get these three statements, two quick ones, and a longer one. They "stand sentinel..." is essentially a continuation of the previous sentence. Then they "gush down every sluice". This is a strange turn of phrase to say the least. A sluice is of course a sort of water channel, and since we're in this castle metaphor, it's likely meant as a preventative measure against flooding. But it's not water that's the risk here, but the gushing of the fans.
And lastly they are the stained glass windows that "paint rainbows" on their idol (with a nice alliteration on perfectly and profile). I really like this one. They are not only viewing their idol through rose-tinted glass, but they have made themselves a piece of stained glass, that colors the artist in every color of the rainbow. They are creating a false, or at least exaggerated, image of the artist, and projecting that image to others as well. I think this whole description really mirrors how fanatically devoted some people can get around their favorite artist, and I don't think we should exclude ourselves from this.

Let's back up a little

But let us not snick and snack overmuch, for each life is a wonder unto itself, and neither contempt nor pity do a soul sound measures of health, lest some issue of envy squeeze free in unexpectedly public revelation. The object of this breathless admiration must wait for each sweet woman’s moment upon the stage in the bull’s eye lantern light of our examination.
Flicker yet again addresses the audience directly. The phrase "snick and snack" here is interesting. A snick can of course be a small cut, and there's definitely been enough of those so far. I think the snack is not intended to have a semantic meaning, but is rather intended to complement the onomatopoeic sound of snick. The word "overmuch" is also doing a lot of heavy lifting here. Some snicking and snacking is fine, but let's not get carried away.
The "each life is a wonder..." part is hilarious. This is definitely an example of overpraising, where Flicker uses hyperbolic language while implying a much more subdued meaning. He's now spent two whole paragraphs detailing how ridiculous and vapid the Entourage is, but now he's all "oh the miracle of life etc. etc." So even when he's talking about how he should stop mocking them, he continues the mockery. Absolutely savage.
He then encourages us to not view them with pity or contempt. Possibly because it would be condescending to do so. Certainly nobody likes being viewed that way, and Flicker claims that it is at best unhelpful to take those attitudes. I am a bit confused, however, about the mention of envy. Is Flicker saying that he is envious of them? Or is he warning us to not be envious? Is there a risk, when expressing pity or contempt, of appearing envious? Are the Entourage themselves envious when we do that? I admit I'm kind of lost here. What do you think?
Flicker ends by calling attention to the fact that we haven't really discussed the Entourage's Perfect Artist at all. He's been this remote figure this whole time, almost irrelevant to the conduct of his fans. Note also how he's called an "object". That word has been used once before in this story, and it was to describe the way Purse Snippet was viewed by Calap Roud. This is not an accident. FlickeErikson is saying that the way the Entourage views their Perfect Artist is not entirely dissimilar to the way Calap Roud, a disgusting old pervert, leers at a much younger woman. Again, this is not lust for the artist themself, but rather for the godlike image that the fans have constructed of the artist.
And before we can know that artist, we are going to be introduced to these three young women, each more ridiculous than the last, before we get to their Perfect Artist. Indeed, they must suffer the "bull's eye lantern light of our examination". This is a great description of what Flicker has been doing so far with his ruthless introduction. He also doesn't call it an interrogation or even a description. No, he's simply examining each of these characters, down to their core2.
And that does it for this week's post. Next time we'll be discussing Sellup, the oldest member of the Entourage. See you all next week!
1 I don't know exactly what to do with this seeming error. It strikes me as an editing artifact. That is, Erikson originally wrote this sentence differently, then changed the wording but forgot to change the whole sentence.
2 And it's worth remembering that he may well be making all of this up.
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2024.05.16 18:38 Schwanz_Hintern64 Am I making a mistake?

The Situation:

TLDR: My game has potential and piques interest, but the execution is poor. I'm recreating the game from scratch (as Version 2) and it's already a much better product, but it'll take a long time to finish. I don't feel comfortable selling the game in its current state and feel like the current version gives a bad impression of what the game will eventually become with Version 2. What should I do?

I have a VR game released to early access that has been out for about a year and half. Overall, it has been received fairly well (77% review score with 77 review atm), ~7,000 wishlists... But the current state of the actual game makes me embarrassed.
The controls are not intuitive, the physics are janky, the AI have a lot of issues, the visuals are very basic, and a lot of other little issues just plague the entire game. This is my first large project and an early access game, so all of this makes sense of course, but I'm at the stage where I honestly do not feel comfortable charging money for it.
The bright side is that I started recreating the game from scratch a few months ago with my new skills and knowledge, and this second version is already miles ahead of the current game. I chose to start fresh because the first project was super scattered and unstable, which made modifying most things a challenge.
I release test builds for Version 2 every month and anyone who owns the game can switch over to the beta branch to test and provide feedback. The fanbase seems to enjoy getting to take part in development and I love it too, because their feedback and reports are extremely helpful and help shape the product for release. Overall, Version 2 is something I'm proud of and it will show off my intended vision so much better than the current state does. The only issue is that, being an entirely new game, it will take at least another full year before it's ready to release.
Because it will take so long before this version is finally released, that means the current version will be the main game people pay for and play in the meantime. Because it's so unpolished and scattered, the current version gives a poor impression. What I found from the game's stats is that people get excited at the idea of this game (~7,000 wishlists), but when they buy it and play it, they usually get disappointed because it doesn't live up to the idea. The refund rate is extremely high, over 25%, and the average playtime hovers around 2 hours.
What I worry about is people who would normally enjoy Version 2 buy and play Version 1 then think "it's a good idea, but it needs more time" (a very common piece of feedback), so they usually refund and forget about the game. Maybe they wishlist again, maybe they don't, but the game is no longer something they look forward to as much. I totally understand this mindset though and I don't blame them for refunding and forgetting because there are so many other games you can get for the same price and cheaper.
I don't want to do any more marketing (who does?) because I don't feel comfortable getting people to buy a product that even I am not happy with. I do, however, want to show off Version 2, but that's hard to do without people seeing Version 1.

Possible Solutions:

  1. Do I keep the game up, forget about it, and keep developing Version 2?
  2. Do I remove the option to purchase but leave the store page up?
  3. Do I take the store page down, create a new app ID / Steam page, and treat it like a completely new game (which it kinda is)?
  • Owners of Version 1 will receive Version 2 for free, whether it's from an update or as a new game in their library.
  • I want to let people continue to test Version 2.
  • Because it's early access, I want to avoid the presentation like I'm trying to scam people because I didn't finish the first Version. It's the same goal and I won't take money twice from anyone. I work on the game as often as I can, too, and I do progress updates weekly and interact with the community, etc... I just don't want to give this impression!
  • Money isn't really a concern. I only make a few hundred dollars a month with Version 1(which I'm grateful for!), but I'd be able to work on Version 2 without it. I'm more concerned about the overall quality and presentation, etc....
  • I would still allow owners of Version 1 to play that version even if it's not available to purchase anymore
I like the idea of option 3 the best because I would be able to treat the game as a new product in terms of visibility and whatnot. I only released the first version with about 2,000 wishlists because I didn't do any marketing until a week before (plus the graphics and bareness of it all scared a lot of people away). I feel so much more knowledgeable about the process now that I feel like I'd be able to create a much better launch. The actual game will be a much better product, so that's gonna be huge too. I'd do a demo and Nextfest again and contact content creators (I didn't last time), and focus on getting as much visibility as I can.
The big thing if I go with the third option is that I don't want people to get the idea that I'm releasing the same game again and that I'm going to make people pay for it again. I'll make it clear in the description that owners of V1 will get this new version for free, but you know how gamers take things sometime (not talking of my fans, they're awesome, but it's usually players that would never play your game in the first place to try to call you out).
So, what should I do? What advice to you have?
Thanks!
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2024.05.16 18:37 _Day- Not my story but I wanted to share it.

Why WILLPOWER Can NEVER Work!
Have you "tried your best to fight the craves and can't seem to win?" Are you sitting there scratching your head about what went wrong and feeling like you can "never win?" I'll tell you something I learned Thanks to the Elders who helped me launch the adventure of my lifetime - Smoke FREE Living!
I came here like most of us not knowing anything about Nicotine Addiction and was told to read and I did! It really helped but there was this guy who I thought was goofy (Thank Goodness I now know that he was spot on!) His name is James and his moniker is the Happy Quitter! ....Say what? what's there to be happy about? Strong, yes! Determined, yes! Stubborn, fierce, a fighter! But happy??? As I thought about it, something really clicked and the light bulb came on! I had been fighting the Nico-Demon with willpower! What could be more effective than that? But I was missing the essential...The Nico-Demon is ME!!!!!
So when I was fighting myself, how could I win without losing??? And guess what, the loser had been the part that wanted to be FREE! You can't be FREE when you're fighting!!!!
This fellow James had something - something I really, really wanted! he was not just Quit - He was Happy being Quit!
So how do you handle the craves if you don't fight??? What do you do instead?
There's a fellow here named Tommy who repeatedly told me to use Focus and Determination. Could I combine these 2 great pieces of advice? Think about Focus for a minute
When you focus with determination instead of fighting with determination, the whole picture changes! I had changed my perspective! The Nico-demon became more blurry, less important and the object of my Focus increased in POWER - the POWER to WIN! And what was that very important object of my FOCUS?
KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE! FREEDOM!
FREEDOM from the Chains of Addiction!
FREEDOM to be the ME that my Creator made me to be!
FREEDOM from pain, suffering, illness, devastation!
Keep Your Eyes on the Prize and ignore the Nico-Demon - but don't fight Him because HE IS ME! Just Focus on the Prize! Will He scream for attention? Oh yea! But when you ignore Him long enough, He loses energy - your Energy is on your Prize! And He gets weaker....and weaker...and weaker...and becomes a little bitty gnat that once in a great while bugs you but you easily have the POWER to swat Him back into His place ...so tiny! So worthless!
AND YOU WIN! ..
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2024.05.16 18:37 StWd Would asking to postpone meeting because it's last minute organized for first thing before full day of teaching and I know it's going to be bad, be a reasonable adjustment?

I had the worst lesson of my career and it was also of course when I was having my first ECT observation after being on long term sick. I already know the feedback will be terrible- I knew it was bad anyway but spoke to one of the observers who couldn't give me a single positive about it. This was already a massive toll on my mental health but I bounced after a couple of days of back to normal, still some tough but feeling okay days.
After school today the ECT people said can they meet tomorrow morning before my full teaching day to give my feedback properly and I already know it's going to be horrific and don't want this before my full teaching day. I have a mental health condition and am neurodivergent, school knows as I used counselling services they part funded last year. I would even do the meeting after school because then I can process on the weekend but I just really don't feel like I can take this week anymore. I can't take any time off because I'm on absence plan or whatever it is cos I was off an entire term this year due to severe physical illness (2 weeks hospitalized).
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2024.05.16 18:37 Rodius_J Warning… when provoked I bite

This story began as any other does… with someone being an ass hole.
When I was around 7-8, my family had a dog, we’ll name him Blitz. Blitz was not a friendly dog. He scared both me and my sister. The only one in the house who could handle him was my dad and even then, if my dad turned his back on Blitz for too long Blitz might have tried to bite him. Blitz was the kind of dog that would maul a squirrel if they happened to get caught by him in our backyard.
So… we let Blitz live in the backyard permanently, really only letting him in during bad snow storms or freezes. We got him a heated dog house and enough toys to keep him busy. We fed him, and kept him around despite how much he scared us (my sister and I). It was a pretty harmonious relationship.
Now, we had a kid in the neighborhood, we’ll name him Jake. Now Jake was the kind of kid that sought attention and trouble. He’d run down the street with his pants hanging around his ankle, break windows and garden fences for fun. Eventually Jake learned Blitz lived outside and so one of his new favorite pass times was throwing snow and ice at Blitz in the winter. This went on for a few months (Toronto Winters in the 90s). My dad would always tell him to stop but he never would.
Well, one day, while all the Neighbourhood kids were out on the street playing, including Jake, Blitz had dug a hole under our fence and gotten out into street. I saw him first and screamed, get to the porch (our porch had a locked gate). Almost all kids ran for my porch but not Jake. Jake thought he could outrun Blitz over a 200 metre stretch and bolted for home.
But almost like Blitz had been keeping tabs, he locked onto Jake and chased him all home, scratching him a few times on the back. At this point, my dad had heard the chorus of kids on our porch, came outside and saw what transpired. I remember my dad kind of chuckling and saying, that dog is too damn smart. Eventually my dad chased Blitz and got him into his cage.
Later that day, Jakes dad came knocking.
Jakes dad, “Did you know your dog scratched my son?”
My dad, “did you know your son has attacked my dog with snow and ice for last 2 months”
Jakes dad, “No, he left the part out. I’m sorry to bother you.
We didn’t see Jake after that. Seems that was the last straw and his parents put him in reform school and sent him to live with his grandparents.
TLDR; kid tormented my dog with snow and ice for 2 months. Dog got out, attacked him and got him sent to reform school
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2024.05.16 18:36 The_ZombyWoof 10 Songs I Discovered [Rap, R&B, Rock, Pop]

I've never wanted to be one of the those people who, after a certain age, stopped trying to discover new music. So many of my friends are stuck listening to only the artists and all the songs that they grew up with, or listened to in high school and college.
Every few years I try to push myself and only listen to artists that either I have never heard of before, or I've never been into, but I thought I would give them another try.
Here's 10 of the songs that I've recently discovered that have been on repeat on my Spotify.
Please understand, most of these are NOT "new" songs, you may know many of these songs and artists, but they are all, or mostly, "new" to me.
Just wanted to help out with suggesting something different for people who might be in a rut.
1) Lyrics Born - Callin' Out
https://youtu.be/vfWzyEWFu3I?feature=shared
I like rap, but I'm no aficionado. I know what I like, though, and I stopped dead in my tracks when I first heard Lyrics Born (born: Tsutomu "Tom" Shimura). Formerly known as Asia Born he is a Japanese-American rapper, singer, and producer, and I just can't get enough of his groove.
2) Jorja Smith - Falling or flying (Reimagined)
https://youtu.be/kYe3fa6vjp4?feature=shared
In 2018, British R&B singer Jorja Smith won the Brit Critics' Choice Award. In 2019, she was named Best British Female Artist at the Brit Awards and was also nominated for the Grammy Award for Best New Artist. And her style of deep, old school soul is so heart wrenchingly gorgeous it actually hurts.
3) J Roddy Walston and The Business - Don't Break The Needle
https://youtu.be/Fn8Mf6zHLgM?feature=shared
A fresh take on boogie-woogie, a Southern tinged interpretation of down and dirty honky-tonk? Inject this straight into my veins.
4) Tedeschi Trucks Band - Midnight in Harlem
https://youtu.be/gy5-EQ7Ae_0?feature=shared
Where has this band been all my life? No, seriously, where? With many artists, I'll find one song in their catalogue which will be good, but I'll find myself being "meh" about most of their other work. With Tedeschi Trucks Band, every song I listen to is gold, every album is an adventure. Why are they not as famous or as well known as Springsteen or U2? As for me, I'm now a bone fide Tedeschi Trucks Band Evangelist. Hallelujah!
5) Mimi Webb - Freezing
https://youtu.be/tClJ98w3Y5A?feature=shared
Pop music is a weird thing. So much can be derivative and familiar, but with Pop music, that often works in the music's favor. Pop is never about changing the world, it's mainly about upbeat, energetic jams with loud, singable choruses, even if the actual subject matter might be a downer. Besides, Taylor Swift should not have a monopoly on break up songs. Other people have break ups, too, ya know.
6) Lana Del Rey - Did you know that there's a tunnel under Ocean Blvd
https://youtu.be/IuY54A3bOmg?feature=shared
Lana Del Rey is an artist I've known of for a long time, and I count the Cedric Gervais remix of 'Summertime Sadness' as one of my favorite driving songs ever. But, I never really dug any deeper into her albums. That was until I hear this song. Then, I decided to listen to the whole album. I actually sat in silence after the record was over. I haven't heard anything quite like that since Joni Mitchell's Blue album. And, Jesus, praise doesn't get much higher than that. Now, off to listen to Norman F****** Rockwell.
7) Grateful Dead - Scarlet Begonias
https://youtu.be/xt4XAz2WZ3Y?feature=shared
There's this band I discovered called the Grateful Dead, you've probably never heard of them. No, seriously, though, I appreciate that I'm about 30-40 years behind in becoming a fan of the Dead but I've just never connected with their music before. Yet, somehow, and I don't know exactly how, Scarlet Begonias got onto my radar recently and I just cannot stop listening to it. Such a great song. And, I'm thinking, a good springboard to finally get to be a Deadhead.
8) Big Boi - "Chocolate" ft. Troze
https://youtu.be/h4XnBOOCCLs?feature=shared
I heard this played in an episode of the TV series Lucifer, and it immediately ear-wormed itself into my brain.
9) Tash Sultana - Murder To The Mind
https://youtu.be/Hjo8xdBhF0I?feature=shared
Tash Sultana is an Australian singer-songwriter, multi-instrumentalist and music producer, described as a "one-person band". No idea where I heard this song, but that ending guitar solo is just one for the ages. Crank it up.
10) Cocteau Twins - Heaven Or Las Vegas
https://youtu.be/6KnYw4EwYGc?feature=shared
Growing up in the 80s and loving bands like Siouxsie and the Banshees, Joy Division and The Cure, you would have thought that I would have listened to the Cocteau Twins as well. But, somehow, they just slipped through and were never a part of my regular playlists. But that dreamy, jangly pop sound is just perfect, they sound as contemporary as ever, and it's better late than never.
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2024.05.16 18:36 ThrowRA_593445903434 I (30F) recently moved away from my boyfriend (32M). My family and friends think hes a covert narcissist but a part of me wants to give him a second chance and I don't know why?

Recently I moved out and away from my boyfriend of 7 months. I moved in with a friend about an hour away. During the 7 months, it felt like a giant roller coaster. There were an insane amount of highs and lows. When things were good, they were really good, but when they were bad, they were really bad. It became very exhausting over time. On top of it, there were a ton of miscommunication, unresolved conflicts, him refusing to apologize or take accountability, him cutting me off constantly in conversations, not having my basic needs met, and resentment developing due to all of it. I spent months trying to communicate anything to him which always led him to being very defensive and shutting down. I was accused of creating problems and a bunch of "I didn't start anything so nothing was wrong or my fault" statements from him. If an issue was brought up and discussing it turned into an argument, he would physically become cold and distant from me for a couple of days after. In arguments he always spun it around about his abuse growing up, his abandonment issues, his ego problems, etc. It always made me feel worse for even trying to bring anything up to him. I always felt sorry and sad for him to have experienced so much pain in life. I eventually gave up on trying to communicate and shut down for the last 3 months of living with him.
Some other things that went on:
I am a full time student and I work on top of it. Finding time to do my school work without him pestering me became difficult. If I tried to do any homework at home, he would play a game or music loudly, ask me what I was doing, attempt to show me videos, etc (he worked from home so he was constantly there.) It felt like it was more than he could stand I couldn't give him attention 24/7. If I took my laptop to a cafe or the library, he was texting me asking me where I was and getting upset if I ignored him. It would blow up into arguments later on so I stopped doing that.
My job I worked second shift as a manager at a local store. He would constantly criticize it and say it wasn't a good job, the pay wasn't good enough, it wasn't giving me the relevant experience for my degree, I should change it, I should get a work from home job instead, I'm constantly gone at night, etc. I enjoyed the job because it got me out of the house and interacting with people.
He rarely cleaned. Dishes with food caked on them always left in the sink for me to clean up later. If I didn't, he would let them sit for days or even weeks. I would mention for him to do them but he never would. I always washed my own dishes and put them away when I was done. He would live out of a laundry basket mixed with clean and dirty clothing. He never vacuumed, mopped, picked up after himself, and constantly forgot to fill the water bowl for the cat and dog.
There was a bunch of other things too but those are just a couple.
The day I moved, I didn't tell him I was moving. I listened to my family and friends to not tell him anything. He was incredibly mad and upset with me. I was a monster, normal people don't just move out, a liar, a cheater, must be some other guy, etc. The person I moved in with is a female friend. I moved everything on my own into a moving van.
Since I moved, he has been making attempts to keep the relationship going. I feel vulnerable, tired, and exhausted. My brain has been extremely foggy since then. I feel confused and like I am having "withdrawal" symptoms from him. I have talked to to him on 2 occasions on the phone regarding everything since. He tells me he is changing and becoming a better person. He recognizes all the mistakes and wants to work stuff out. He even said he would see a couples therapist, even after he made multiple statements about how therapists give bad advice in the past. Part of my brain keeps holding on to him and I don't know why. It makes me feel sick. I have attempted to break things off with him and talked to him about how everything has made me feel but he refuses to take no for answer. He's like a totally different person.
I am not sure what to do I feel stuck, tired, vulnerable, and cloudy. I have never experienced someone like this before. My previous relationship were very different and ended on fairly amicable terms. Part of me wants to find out if he truly is willing to change and step up but part of me says don't do it.
I feel so torn on what to do?
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2024.05.16 18:35 crescent__moon24 What should I do in this situation?

My boyfriend (maybe not my boyfriend anymore) left for underway last week and I think he’ll be gone till the end of the month I’m not sure. Prior to him leaving his been working long hours and been staying at the boat fixing the shit that broke that’s preventing them to go underway. They’re supposed to leave a couple of times already but unable too so they’re kind a behind on schedule. His been stressed, pressured and overwhelmed at work. Sometimes he would talk to me about it how stressed he is and he doesn’t have an outlet to release his stressed. From what I heard from him there are stuff at work that only 2 of them are qualified to do the work and his also undermanned because of some other problem. The last time I didn’t hear from him only lasted 3 days because he had a mental breakdown, he shut down and closed everything off. He also did mention to me that his going through a lot and that his not okay. I tried my best to support him in every way I can possibly do. The last time I heard from him was him saying sorry because his been busy and that he has a lot of work that needs to be done before leaving, after that I never heard anything from him again. They left came back and left again … still no words. I don’t know if I should wait… move on… or what. Everyone’s telling me to move on, and a part of me is telling me to wait …. I don’t know if he shuts down again and all. This is so unlike him not to say any word. I reached out through call and text and got nothing. When he comes back it will be almost a month of no communication.
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2024.05.16 18:35 crawchalk Anyone ever moved far away with a toddler? Tips on helping a 2 yr old cope with big change?

Have any of you ever moved to another state or had a similar big location change with a toddler? My husband and I are planning on moving from Texas to Colorado soon and I’m very concerned about how my almost 2 year old son will handle it. He is so familiar with this house, he knows the whole layout and has parts of it he prefers to others. When we go out for the day he recognizes it when we pull back into the driveway, and he says “we’re home”. He knows his own room and where in the house he can go to find mama or dada. I’m worried he will be very upset and confused being in a new house where nothing is familiar to him. Routine is so important at this age and whenever there is change he gets very overwhelmed. He’s big enough to be very aware of his routine and surroundings, but still too little to understand things. I’d love to hear success stories or tips on how to make a transition like this as comfortable as possible for him.
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2024.05.16 18:35 ConfidentCranberry34 new build need some help making sure its alright

Hello hope you are having a good day,
I recently built a new pc its like almost a week old. These are my components:
PCPartPicker Part List https://pcpartpicker.com/list/xWJ6z6
**CPU** Intel Core i9-14900KS 3.2 GHz 24-Core
**CPU Cooler** Corsair iCUE H150i ELITE LCD XT 65.57 CFM Liquid CPU Cooler
**Motherboard** Asus ROG STRIX Z790-E GAMING WIFI II ATX LGA1700
**Memory** Corsair Vengeance RGB 32 GB (2 x 16 GB) DDR5-5600 CL40 Memory
**Storage** Samsung 990 Pro 2 TB M.2-2280 PCIe 4.0 X4 NVME Solid State Drive
**Video Card**
Gigabyte GAMING OC GeForce RTX 4070 Ti SUPER 16 GB Video Card
**Case** NZXT H7 Flow ATX Mid Tower Case
**Power Supply**
be quiet! Straight Power 12 1200 W 80+ Platinum Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply
**Operating System** Microsoft Windows 10 Pro OEM - DVD 64-bit
I just need some help because I was watching Jayztwocents recent video. He was talking about the settings the MoBo manufacturers have set up are out of whack and don't meet intel specs. So I looked in BiOS and my mobo version was from several years ago, maybe 2019 and Jayz was from 2024, April 19th I believe.
Another thing that brought me here was that I just got an error that crashed my system and it was a blue SOD and the error was page fault in nonpaged area.
I have done some research, but I am wondering if the two could be related. I can surely research how to update my bios and probably do that on my own. But I am wondering if anyone has time to help me make sure my computer doesn't kill itself and that I can just set it up to work okay. I don't need crazy overclocking or anything I just want this thing to not die after like 6months to a year.
Thanks for any tips

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2024.05.16 18:34 lazyAfHyper [WTS] Closet Cleaning Closeout

Timestamp and wares: https://imgur.com/a/lxuzpEy
Old account was u/_rustybucket with 4 transactions
Hey all, selling a bunch of shit that I don’t use anymore and letting go to new homes! Not looking for trades or looking to part out. Local transactions will be given priority (in the Fullerton, California area)
Below is what I have for sale along with respective prices:
WE-Tech M4 URGI - $375 Built from a WE R5C base, it comes with these parts installed:
Internals: RA-Tech trigger group ML bucking RA-Tech NPAS Hard recoil buffer ~$2 in quarters in the buffer tube
Externals: HAO Industries Handguard Magpul pistol grip WE buffer tube Magpul Stock
Gun comes with: 5 non-leaky mags WE 15rd speed loader for mags
TM HiCapa - $350 Built from a 4.3 base, does not come wirh mags, comes with the following:
Diva 5.1 silver slide
AIP cocking handle 5KU Outer barrel CowCow 3 Piece Guide Rod 120% AIP Recoil spring AM Hopup Unit AIP Bucking Stock Inner CowCow B01 Blowback Housing AIP 120% nozzle spring AIP Nozzle Nine Ball Grip Silver trigger
Boneyard EMG Space Invader - $100 Was gonna be a project, but have no time for it. Pretty much disassembled for an HPA set up. *Will not guarantee all internals are present.
Comes with:
3 Mid caps Internals + gearbox Space Invader Body EMG buffer tube Whatever stock that is
Picatinny buffer tube for MCX/MPX - $40, in used condition
Angel Custom Suppressor - $10, in VERY used condition. Outer barrel is basically fused on, but suppressor ends can still be removed for tracers
Pistol Brace stock -$10, literally don’t know why I have it, it fucking spawned in my workbench
CYMA MP5 mag -$5, I don’t even own an AEG MP5
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2024.05.16 18:34 FreeandFurious Coughing now?

Hey all. I’ve had type 1 about 2 years now. No procedures yet. I can still eat and drink. Just need to drink lots of water to push food into my stomach.
The last couple weeks Ive started coughing. Occasionally Ill puke up some food from coughing. At night I coughed up a little bit of onion a couple times. Most of the time, it’s just regular coughing because there is a tickle or whatever at the back of my throat.
At work, I can’t have this coughing going on, so I started chewing gum to stop it. That works for the most part, but I have to chew gum all the time.
Has this happened to anyone else? Causes? Help? Lol.
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2024.05.16 18:34 AIntrigue Privacy concerns

Hey homeautomation,
I'd like your advice/opinion on the privacy concerns that home automation can raise. In today's day and age, where data is sold and transferred all the time, the consumer is left drowning in a sea of ToS-agreements and is responsible for their own protection of data. So I'd like to crowdsource my questions and hope I can leave this post with a bit more certainty:
  1. How legitimate is the concern that a company is stealing your data? Sure, knowing when you turn your lights on and off might not be the biggest privacy-leak, but I'm sure that the combination of all those little data-points is (or could be) interesting to (in the best case) greedy or (in the worst case) malevolent actors. Can we trust GDPR laws (I'm European)? Or are laws too vague or slow to keep up with technologic advances?
  2. How can I maximize privacy? I know that working with local servers is an obvious plus. But is this truly safe? Can z-wave or matter signals be intercepted and decrypted? And is this realistic? What are my best bets? I'm thinking HomeAssistant as central hub, but what about other devices? Thermostat? Security cameras? Doorbell?
Im in love with the idea of having an automatic home, but a bit of a paranoid part is a bit scared as well. I'm hoping you guys can ease my mind, and that we can maybe have an interesting and educational discussion about it as well!
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2024.05.16 18:33 GarbageEquivalent383 Richer Waje: A thread part 2

Siguro some of you hindi kilala kung sino to ano? admin lang naman siya dati at siya ang na gangbang ng grupo ni ~ oppps can't spill. Yan ang reason kaya siya nag resign 🤭🤭🤭 Brainy din siya e kasi she knows na may makakaalam kaya nag resign 🤭🤭 balita ko ngayon nagpopokpok na siya sa mga afam infairness ha lumelevel up ang hustle ni ateng 🤭🤭
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2024.05.16 18:32 TinyChip-2934 I don’t know what to do for myself in my (23F) marriage with my husband (27M) anymore, and I am considering separating from him?

TLDR; My husband (27M) and I’s (23F) ideals for the future are misaligned now and I’m becoming unhappy, I don’t know what to do.
My husband and I met when I was still in college, a little over 4 years ago and have been together ever since. The first two years were fantastic, and we got engaged on our 2 year anniversary. At the time, we really thought we had talked over every “big conversation” you’re supposed to talk about (kids, where do you want to live, values, etc.)… Well we eloped a few weeks later (he’s in the military so that in itself speeds things up a bit), and then like 8 months later we were to have our actual wedding with family and friends, the whole 9 yards. During this time period, i don’t know what changed, but I guess I started to learn more about myself and my desires for life— I want an adventurous life before I settle down and have kids, and am more on the fence about having kids in some ways (mind you, I used to be all for it, but now I’m like 50% want 50% don’t want)? I also feel in a lot of ways as if he stopped “dating” me. I tried to bring this up and made it clear that I need to feel DATED, and set a kind of system up for us to have “date night” once every week. This went on for 2 weeks before it fell off and he got busy with school (which I was understanding of, as I also was in uni for the first 2 years of our relationship). Well, long story short, ever since then, we’ve gone on maybe 2/3 actual “dates”. I’ve tried bringing it up again but nothing came of it so I just dropped it and didn’t feel heard. That mixed with the bigger issues - how our values don’t line up as much anymore in where we see ourselves 2 or 5 years down the line, has made it so hard for me to be fully confident in us. We’ve had tough conversations a lot recently (within just this year maybe 3-4 times) about us and our future & the things we like to do (I also feel like we barely have any shared interests/hobbies besides playing video games, and it’s almost summer now so I am always wanting to be outside while he stays in and plays), but after we have the conversation it always ends with “but we love each other, and that’s just the way it is” and things go back to normal for some time — we’re very physically affectionate and goofy with each other, it’s so natural to be good. And then I get plagued with these thoughts of doubt again. I don’t know how to replace them or push them away, I went to therapy for a little bit and then helped but I wasn’t able to keep on it financially. We had another conversation last night about how I felt unhappy and he got frustrated and told me he didn’t want to talk about this again and I need to just make a decision because I’m stringing him along. I have no idea what to do or say, and part of me feels like it shouldn’t be this hard— we are so young. I’m just lost.
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2024.05.16 18:32 Careless-Chemistry85 What do my top 5 ships say about me? (Part 2)

What do my top 5 ships say about me? (Part 2)
I just cosncluded I like ships that I know they will not be canon so they are more enjoyable
Also we can all agree the last one is the best
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2024.05.16 18:32 Affectionate_Monk_67 My mom blames me for her marriage failing- I need some perspective

I am a 35 year old female and struggle with many issues- major depression, drug addiction(im 2 years sober), ptsd, chronic fatigue, back pain,, I've had 4 surgeries since nov. 2022(open heart surgery, pte lung clot removal surgery which is a gnarly procedure, gallbladder removal, heart vacuum procedure). I'm 9 months post op, except I just had my gallbladder removed 1 month ago. I cannot get put of bed a lot of days. I believe that part of the reason is because I live in a fucked up family living situation.
My stepdad cannot stand the fact that I can't get out of bed. Hes so mad that I'm not working 40 hours a week or going to sober living(my animals can't go and sober living requires you to work go to meetings do chores). So because of this he nit picks me. Every night, when my mom and him go to bed, he intensly complains for 30 minutes to an hour to her about me not getting out of bed. How lazy I am. I'm taking advantage of them. Etc etc. He doesn't believe all the issues I mentioned to you guys that I have struggled with can cause me to lay in bed everyday. He knows that my mom is a light sleeper and has trouble falling asleep. She's told him that when he goes off about stressful things before bed that she wakes up multiple times a night with anxiety ruminating about what he's said.
So my mom blames his behavior on me and says that I'm the problem and if I moved out everything would be fantastic. And she thinks that if I don't move out I'm responsible for the deterioration of their marriage.
I'm desperate for your guys take on this situation. Do I deserve all this? Is it my fault? Is it his fault? Is it both their faults? Everyone's fault?
I feel like the scapegoat and have been for years. I am losing the will to live because I'm not getting support or understanding from the people that are supposed to love me. I've considered going low contact once I figure out a way out of this mess.
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