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Okay so I didn’t get a job I was on trial for because of this and I wonder who was in the wrong, myself or the customer? I did a three week trial period-
I was working in a small restaurant (not a chain) and we shared table service. One table had about 12 people on it celebrating someone’s birthday. They’d eaten and were tipsy. I noticed their plates were finished so I started clearing their plates, on my second trip (there must’ve been about 20 plates to carry so I asked for help from a colleague) an old woman at the head of the table started clicking her finger at me pointing to the glasses on the table saying “well aren’t you going to clear those as well?” I said “yes I’ll get round to that I’m just doing the plates first” She argued “you could clear it all at the same time” I said “I only have one set of hands and am pregnant so not going to strain myself” Irked, I carried on and tried to put it past me. I told my colleague to finish the plates while I start glasses, then the old woman said “you need to take two trays (of glasses) instead of one” My reply was, “there’s no need for you to be so rude,” and I took the tray and refused to go back to that table. Told my manager what had happened, she said they already complained and she had to give them a free bottle of booze and money off their bill.
I ended up getting in an argument now with the manager when she told me I couldn’t speak to customers that way. I disagreed with her and told her managers should respect their staff and have their backs when treated badly by customers, by giving that old woman free booze and money off it signals to others that they can come, treat us like crap AND have money off your bill and a free bottle. What a great deal that is. What are people’s thoughts on this?
Many thanks

For background: I have tinnitus, but I manage it and try not to let it ruin my life. As a child I had sinus problems but I haven’t for a long time. During that time as a child it seems like Singulair was the only med that worked for me, but I’m scared to try it again because of the new black box label. Does anyone think it’s safe?
For two or three days I experienced a periodic popping or loud rubbing sound in my left ear. I have done some research and found that it could be Eustachian tube dysfunction. In that left ear it sometime feels like the T is louder but I think I could be imagining it. On Saturday afternoon I went to urgent care and the doctor did not find any fluid in my ear. She found slight redness in the outer ear but did not diagnose it as an infection. Saturday the popping was going away and getting quieter but I heard it in full force one more time after positioning my jaw a certain way, admittedly due to crying but for an unrelated reason. Today (Sunday) was the first day I did not experience the involuntary popping and I am very grateful for that. Last night I did start to develop a noise sensitivity in the same left ear, and I still have a constant slight tickling/pain/pressure. I am curious if it is related to allergies or sinus as I am experiencing some mucus in the back of the throat and maybe a slight pressure in the head. I can also swallow and experience the same feeling as “popping your ears” like on an airplane, but it is a different popping from the involuntary one that I no longer experience. I am wondering if this leads to sinuses but I am thankful that it’s not a full blown infection.
I can only think of two reasons. The first is that I rode in a loud car the day the involuntary popping started. It doesn’t make too much sense that it’s only in one ear though if that’s the cause.
The only other thing I can think of is that I rode in my friends car that had a mildew smell. I’ve rode in it before and had no issues, but I’m now wondering if it’s contributed to a sinus or allergy issue. I feel like I’m grasping at straws. I just hope my ear noise sensitivity and pain goes away just like the popping did. I am trying to stay hopeful.

First an introduction to my weird financial situation:
I am in the film industry, and my current "big project" (a large blockbuster movie) was delayed after the 2020 Covid stuff, and isn't restarting until August this year. Since 2020 I've been living off savings with no other income (blessed enough to have been able to afford to do so because of previous big pay-out from a movie in 2019).
Before I restart work in August, I've been asked to write a book about my life in the industry. Of course, I can write a book anywhere in the world on my laptop, and my plan is to go to stay in Paris for the 90 days allowed by the new post-Brexit laws - I love it there and I find the atmosphere inspiring. Note that I'm not going there to be employed by anyone, simply continuing to write on my laptop, so I'm there as a tourist, just wanting a nice change of scene.
I've booked accommodation in a nice cheap student-digs-style rental for 89 days (to be on the safe side with the 90 day limit!), and cheap coach travel to and from London to Paris - trying to make the whole trip as basic and affordable as possible. I've stayed for long periods in France before and I know that my basic spending per day is very low - I don't eat much and I buy basic produce from local markets for about 5 euros a day - I don't drink and I don't care about eating out etc. I like living the normal life like a local while I'm there.
However, I've only just noticed that on the UK government website it says "Be prepared to show proof that you have at least €65 euros a day for the duration of your stay" otherwise I might get denied access?! That's nearly 6000 Euros, which, frankly, I don't have as liquid assets right now. I don't want to get turned away at the border despite having paid upfront for travel and 89 days accommodation! 65 Euros per day seems ridiculous - I know full well that I can survive on a fraction of that. If this rule is actually enforced, what happens to people on "all inclusive" trips who spent all their savings on paying for the holiday and don't need spending money as its all included?
Or, am I worrying about nothing, and this is basically not enforced unless they think you are actually trying to become an illegal immigrant/unskilled labouretrafficking victim or whatever? I'm clean, well dressed, Caucasian (of course, it shouldn't matter, but probably does, unfortunately), have a UK passport and a return ticket already booked, can easily prove that I'm a (very minor!) celebrity so clearly not going there to try and sneakily get a job working in a field/factory etc.
Essentially, I haven't travelled to Europe from Britain since 2020, and I'm wondering is this something that its actively checked for everyone and strictly imposed, or is it just one of those "small print" things that is there if they feel they need to use it to keep out "suspicious" people? (I hate the implication of that but hopefully you know what I mean and I'm not condoning different treatment of people, just aware that it sadly happens.)
Thank you in advance for any advice from people that have travelled from UK to the Schengen areas recently!

First an introduction to my weird financial situation:
I am in the film industry, and my current "big project" (a large blockbuster movie) was delayed after the 2020 Covid stuff, and isn't restarting until August this year. Since 2020 I've been living off savings with no other income (blessed enough to have been able to afford to do so because of previous big pay-out from a movie in 2019).
Before I restart work in August, I've been asked to write a book about my life in the industry. Of course, I can write a book anywhere in the world on my laptop, and my plan is to go to stay in Paris for the 90 days allowed by the new post-Brexit laws - I love it there and I find the atmosphere inspiring. Note that I'm not going there to be employed by anyone, simply continuing to write on my laptop, so I'm there as a tourist, just wanting a nice change of scene.
I've booked accommodation in a nice cheap student-digs-style rental for 89 days (to be on the safe side with the 90 day limit!), and cheap coach travel to and from London to Paris - trying to make the whole trip as basic and affordable as possible. I've stayed for long periods in France before and I know that my basic spending per day is very low - I don't eat much and I buy basic produce from local markets for about 5 euros a day - I don't drink and I don't care about eating out etc. I like living the normal life like a local while I'm there.
However, I've only just noticed that on the UK government website it says "Be prepared to show proof that you have at least €65 euros a day for the duration of your stay" otherwise I might get denied access?! That's nearly 6000 Euros, which, frankly, I don't have as liquid assets right now. I don't want to get turned away at the border despite having paid upfront for travel and 89 days accommodation! 65 Euros per day seems ridiculous - I know full well that I can survive on a fraction of that. If this rule is actually enforced, what happens to people on "all inclusive" trips who spent all their savings on paying for the holiday and don't need spending money as its all included?
Or, am I worrying about nothing, and this is basically not enforced unless they think you are actually trying to become an illegal immigrant/unskilled labouretrafficking victim or whatever? I'm clean, well dressed, Caucasian (of course, it shouldn't matter, but probably does, unfortunately), have a UK passport and a return ticket already booked, can easily prove that I'm a (very minor!) celebrity so clearly not going there to try and sneakily get a job working in a field/factory etc.
Essentially, I haven't travelled to Europe from Britain since 2020, and I'm wondering is this something that its actively checked for everyone and strictly imposed, or is it just one of those "small print" things that is there if they feel they need to use it to keep out "suspicious" people?
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So I was introduced to this "historical volume" a few weeks ago via this website.
I've noticed this thing popping up on here and Israel and I want to clear the air regarding this document.
This blog post makes some pretty serious claims regarding the various populations of Jews, Christians and Muslims in the region at the beginning of the 1700s.
Since the original text is written mostly in Latin (with some portions in Greek and Hebrew as well) I just sort of took it at its word.
For some background, Hadriani Relandi was a Dutch scholar born in the late 1600s with specialty in oriental studies, philology (with focus on semitic languages), cartography and geology.
The author of that blog post claims that Hadriani Relandi traveled to Palestine and took a census of 2,500 biblical settlements. The blog further claims that the majority of this population at the time was Jewish with some exceptions of Christians in the Galilee and Muslims and Shomronim (Samaritans) in former Shechem. Having scanned the entirety of the translated version found on google here, I can tell you that these claims are false. Granted, I only translated the Latin portions and not the Greek or Hebrew but considering the main body of the text is written in Latin it seems unreasonable to believe he would have deviated for these supposed census numbers.

1. Hadriani Relandi (AKA Adriaan Reland) never visited Palestine in his life. This is according to this source among others.
   
2. No where in vol. 1 or 2 is there a chapter or section dedicated to census numbers, nor are they mentioned in passing in other portions of the text.
   

So I'm not really sure where all these claims are coming from but based off actually scanning this document, it just isn't in the book.
What the book actually goes into:

1. Biblical history of the region
2. Non biblical history, such as from greek and roman periods
3. Geography of surrounding mountains and water features in the region and from countries nearby
4. Longitudes, latitudes of borders and landmarks

Unless I missed something in my scan of this text that someone else can point out I think this document should be dropped from the discussion and considered irrelevant to the current Israel/Palestine conversation at hand.
I honestly don't really expect this post to lead to much discussion, but I feel it's my duty (since no one else seems to have taken it upon themselves to read the translated version) to ensure that misinformation (even that which would have benefited my arguments as a Zionist) is not propagated and elevated

Never posted one of these before, so I will try to tell an unbiased account, granted, it's from my perspective, so there might be a bit of bias regardless.
I've been friends with a girl, we'll call her Sam (real name omitted for privacy reasons) for about 3 years. Last semester I had a class with her and she started acting strange: always wanting me to sit next to her, always sitting so her arm was touching mine. One day, she randomly slapped my thigh and started laughing, another, kicking my butt. Fast forward to the start of second semester, we no longer have the class together, but Sam continues to be weird around me. Over the next few months, she starts hugging me a lot more, always trying to be by me, and in general getting very physical. One time, she changed her name in my phone and added a heart to her name. Another time, we had a lock-in event for school, and had a talent show. In that, we did Meet the Plastics from Mean Girls and I was asked to be Regina George. She joined after I did, only to be "Regina George's boyfriend" (aka my "boyfriend"), and wanted to fake dry hump my leg during the line "the whole school humps my leg like a chihuahua". During rehearsal, she continually hugged my leg, even when not needed. She also invited me on a "double date" with a dating couple and me and her, bugged me to visit her at work a bit, one day when we were playing basketball she kept hitting my butt to try to distract me, and most recently she was showing me a video and was actively snuggling closer to my chest. Since it had been a continuous thing over the past few months, I figured she was flirting with me. So did 4 of my other friends.
I decided to take the prerogative and ask her if she'd be interested in me asking her to Prom, seeing as it was coming up. She left the whole thing very open-ended, saying she'd think about it. However, the next day, one of our mutual friends is making small talk and asks if she has any prom plans. She completely disregards the fact that I was interested, tells him no, and asks him out. She proceeds to go to McDonald's with some people, and then I receive a text from her saying that she needs to talk to me. She proceeds to text me, telling me that she and our mutual friend had been dropping hints about this for weeks. When I asked the mutual friend, he said "Nah, she's tripping. I've asked everyone about Prom plans". So first, the stories don't add up, and she completely neglected to tell me she was interested in going with our mutual friend when I asked her, instead leaving me in a 24 hour period if awaiting her response. I also find out that at that McDonald's conversation, she told her friends she sees me as a brother, didn't mean to lead me on, the whole 9 yards. She also tells them that I've been bugging her to have a conversation and that it's my fault we are in this situation, painting me as a villain to my friends and, in my opinion, victimizing herself. I've tried over the past 4 days to have a conversation with her, but she always comes up with some excuse as to why she can't today, why she can't tomorrow, etc.
I feel lost. I've asked multiple people, including some of her close friends who are also my close friends, and they all say they thought she was crushing on me. One even thought we were dating. A few of my friends are angry, but now there's a group who is seemingly against me asking her to Prom. Honestly, the whole situation blew up far more than it needed to.
With that being said, AITAH for asking my friend out to Prom and subsequently wanting a conversation with her to clear the air?
Some additional things I didn't know where to fit in: She is the one who wanted the conversation initially, I'm the one trying to make sure we have the conversation She has treated other guys like this before, but not to this caliber She told me she didn't want a Promposal, but then asked the other guy to do a big Promposal for her She told me she didn't want any drama, but then proceeds to tell all her friends about everything, especially one friend who constantly gossips
If any other clarification is needed, please ask and I'll try to provide an answer. I can tell this is taking a toll on my health though because I've had heightened anxiety for the past few days. It was never meant to become this crazy

Hello! I'm "Ro". 29F, 5'7, 114lbs (170.2cm, 51.9kg).
Current Medical History: non-severe idiopathic gastroparesis, chronic abdominal pain with visceral hypersensitivity, chronic idiopathic constipation (bowel movements once every 10-16 days or longer), poorly controlled blood sugars, seizure disorder, trimmer, elevated prolactin levels (not pregnant or lactating), elevated liver numbers, benign mass next to heart, liver perfusion abnormality.
Past Medical History: Idiopathic Intracranial Hypertension with papilledema, Overweight, asthma, eczema.
Current Meds: Keppra (seizure prevention), pepcid, L. gasseri, hydroxyzine (for allergies/sleep), NJ tube w/ pump, docusate liquid, vitamin B complex, Vitamin D, Cod Liver Oil, Magnesium, Potassium, Biotin.
I've posted here before about other things so if you recognize some of this, hi again! Long story short: I began having post-prandial abdominal pain, early satiety, nausea, lightheadedness, extreme blood sugar fluctuations and seizures at around the same time. I was super fatigued and became very weak. My hair fell out in clumps so now I have bald spots. My appetite completely went away and my tolerance for solid foods disappeared over time. I was at the point where I could barely stomach 1 supplemental drink per day. I ended up losing over 70lbs in 6 months, then had an NJ tube placed to prevent further weightloss but ended up losing an additional 30-40lbs. At that time my caloric intake was about 1900 calories per day. Over the last 18 months I have increased my caloric intake to around 3000 calories per day, with no weight increases (give or take fluctuations of 1-3lbs around menstruation). Recently, a nutritionist suggested supplementing more calories with MCT oil or Olive Oil. I started with olive oil at 2-3 tablespoons per day for one week, then MCT oil at the same amount until I reached about 5 tablespoons per day. This brought my caloric intake up to around 3400+ calories per day for a month straight. Instead of gaining weight, I lost 10lbs this month.
None of my docs can figure out why or know what to test for. I'm already a medical mystery because my chronic abdominal pain doesn't respond to medication of any drug class or therapies and there is no visible damage there. Does anyone have a clue what my docs could test for?
Previous tests (negative): VGKC pathologies, NAFLD, gallbladdeliver function, porphyria, hepatitis array, sarcoidosis, cystic fibrosis, sickle cell anemia, biopsies of several lymph nodes, thyroid biopsy, duodenal biopsy, gastric biopsy, esophageal biopsy, amyloidosis, clear MRI, clear echocardiogram with bubble test, superior mesenteric artery syndrome, Lyme disease, lupus, rheumatological pathologies, mitochondrial diseases, periodic paralysis
I was very healthy prior to this; a vegetarian for nearly 15 years, ate whole, well rounded meals with macro management. Yes I was well over 200lbs, but I was training to be a competitive power lifter, moving hundreds of pounds 5x a week with yoga and cardio and still reaching PRs even after losing the first 20lbs.
I am currently in palliative care with the decision made to transition to hospice in 6 months. Just wondering if there's anything else I can do before then! Thanks in advance! 🤗

Just a bit of background, we started dating about 3-4 months ago. I’m his first serious gf, he is my second. We are long distance and started the relationship long distance, we live in different states within the same timezone so it is relatively easier for us to see each other than other LDRs.
Last night me and my bf had an argument. We have been going through a rough spot, coming from the fact that his work is allowing him to move to a different country which made him realise we are on very different trajectories in life. He’s already in the workforce and I will be studying (hopefully getting a PhD by 30) for about the next 8 years. I was willing to do my masters remotely in order to close the gap between us and move in together, but he said he can’t live with the guilt since I have never brought this up before and it would eat at him that it feels like I’m being prevented from doing something I want to do. This is not true to how I feel as to me, a masters is a masters no matter how I get it. Before this offer from his work, we were planning that I would move to his city once I graduate mid next year and were both incredibly excited about it. He believes this isn’t something fixable whereas I do, since to me there are many ways we can make sure to be able to do what we both want to do individually whilst being in a relationship.
He made it clear that he still loves me very much and that he cannot find it in himself to look for someone else, but he needs to feel ‘free’ and go back to his own routine with contact to absolutely no one. He calls them ‘detox periods’ and I completely understand as I do the exact same thing when I’m overwhelmed (shutting out everyone and just doing my own thing to feel a bit more centred and clearheaded). He says that he wants to see his partner but be able to do his own thing. He said he wants a ‘normal’ relationship, not LDR, and I asked if he would rather have a normal relationship with someone else or try with me, he said he couldn’t date anyone after us. He was crying a lot during this conversation. He said the stress of this relationship is getting to him.
At the moment, we call each other almost every night and text through out the day, but haven’t seen each other in real life for about a month due to my academic obligations. I’m afraid the degree of calling may be crowding him out, as I have felt the same way. I’m also worrying that because this is his first relationship, he has no faith in the fact that communication can help up come up with solutions. I love him and it broke my heart when he was sobbing and saying that this isn’t fixable and maybe he doesn’t want to try.
He wanted to break up. I asked him to trust us and that we can get through this. After a lot of pleading, I managed to get him to try a 2 week break period with boundaries. We would still be in a relationship but there won’t be contact between us. At the end of every week, on Sunday, we would check in with each other. I’ve essentially blocked him on everything without telling him, just so I can resist the temptation to check in early and not give him what he asked for.
I’m aware I guilted him into this, I was extremely desperate for us to work. I’ll exhaust all options before letting us go. We were both treated badly in our previous experiences romantically, and the biggest regret I had with my last relationship was that I did not fight for it. I was immature and thought to call it quits at every turn. I do not want the same to happen to what we have, we were both incredibly happy and we both admit that the chemistry between us isn’t something that comes by easily. We click in every aspect personality wise, but the timing and where we both are at professionally is in the way. He told me he has never met someone who is this loving and sweet to him. I see him as being in my life for the next 5 years. I’m not the type to date around not do I have interest in doing so. I want a partner who will be with me for a long time and I’m very happy to settle down early, the idea of having an anchor as I pursue my own academic goals and he pursues his professional ones and we grow with each other is incredibly appealing, as that is the environment I have grown up in.
With me, once we break up, we are over. I do not mess around with exes. We disagreed twice for the past 3 months over this same issue, and he asked if I genuinely would never speak to him again. In his words, ‘I want us to date eventually, but not now. In 5 years when we are both at a more stable part of our career.’ I asked him if he expected me to wait for him to reach that point and put my own love life on hold, and he said no, I don’t have to, he would wait for me. He is convinced that we are a right person wrong time situation, but I don’t believe in that. If it is the right person, you will both fight to be and stay together. What I’m deciding now is simply that I will fight tooth and nail to make us work, but if all my efforts are in vain, then I will let go and move on with my life. I was miserable being in a ‘will we get back together’ push and pull with my ex bf for 2 years because I never learnt to let go until I got sick of being led on. This time I will spare both of us the heartache should we call it quits.
Am I on the right direction? What does it sound like it will pan out for us? I’m willing to move on, but we are practically in a purgatory stage and I can’t begin the healing process until we are officially over.

*except for a couple texts in the first year
a few nights ago i dreamt that i was telling my ndad about a book i read. (he always used to get mad at me for 'reading too much' but a love of literature was something we connected on a very rare few times). the book doesn't exist outside of this dream btw. i heard him say my name, so clearly that it woke me up. i couldn't fall back asleep for hours. a lot of the dreams i remember are about him; most are borderline nightmares.
ages ago, back before i even really understood anything about any of this, someone on this sub told me that this whole process was one akin to mourning the father i never really had. that helped so immensely. i seem to feel the urge to post here right around anniversary time, so this is a sort of vent post – but hopefully an optimistic one.
i think what's been hardest to reconcile is that sometimes i do miss him. at first i missed him as this sort of stand-in for my self-worth. to not be in contact was to be unmoored – what was i supposed to do without his incessant opinions tearing me down or building me up (to tear me down again)? for a while i was so bitterly angry mixed in with the grief and the sadness and the numbness. now, i know there were some soft moments or some funny ones or some neutral ones, some shared habits or positive traits or commendable talents, some unimaginably rare flashes of connection like light through a thick fog.
the thing is, i would trade all of those moments what i have now: a chance to live life. not only to 'live life on my own terms' or to 'have a life' or to 'experience life.' but to live, period. when i went no contact it had gotten so that i felt it was the only option i had left. it was that or lose myself completely, to no longer exist in any meaningful way. it all sounds melodramatic but it was so simple in the moment when i heard his voice on the phone for the last time. what followed was less an active decision than an inevitable sort of reshuffling of cards.
it's still hard: knowing how much to disclose to people, thinking about other people in my life that let me down or those who could've stepped in, not having someone to (quietly and inwardly but still) blame when schedules got derailed in order to react to and process his emotional needs and fits, dealing with the negative traits of his that are also mine, coming to terms with my other problems which are less directly related. what i've realized is: all narratives (such as 'if only he was normal and i was normal and so was everyone else' etc) must end and it's up to me to put down the pieces, pick up the pen, and decide when. as the author, so to speak.
in this short time i've done so much more than i ever really thought possible, as much as i prayed that it was. i've achieved a a few big dreams that i could never have under his control. i only ever really pictured my life into my mid-20s; it gets really blurry beyond this point. i guess it's the fun of it to find out, to pick up new goals along the way, and just. to live.

My husband claims all of our issues over the past 12 years are because I am a narcissist, but he is abusive and can be violent. He breaks out into these rage fits where he is screaming, throwing things, slamming doors. when our kids aren't around then these fits also often lead into him screaming that I make him want to kill himself. These fits happen maybe once a month or so. Outside of this he seems like a normal kind loving supporting partnefather. We have two kids, age 8 and 6.
Three weeks ago I told him I want a divorce, because earlier that week he had a rage fit in the car and threatened to crash it (to kill me) and was punching the steering wheel so bad he made his hands bleed. We have since separated living under the same roof, with rooms on opposite sides of the house. He has also gone to the doctors and gotten diagnosed with MDD and started meds, and will start counseling (all because I insisted and literally drove him to the offices).
This was in our text conversation today, and I'm just so confused. He doesn't want to divorce so he says I'm controlling him because I do?
HIM: Regarding our talks later, I'm happy to discuss logistics and finances in regards to the separation period but I want to be clear that I would like to engage in marriage counseling before we make any permanent decisions.
ME: It feels like you aren't letting me want a divorce, like you have to control me in this. I understand you want things to work out but I don't.
HIM: It feels like you aren't letting me want to stay together, like you have to control me in this. I understand you want a divorce but I don't. And this is why we need a counselor to mediate. I'm not trying to be malicious in anyway.
Has anyone dealt with something like this?

Hello,
New member here👋🏻
I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 15 after a day in the hospital because of a ruptured cyst. I was on birth control until I turned 21 and I regret every moment of it lol. It did give me regular, light periods for a while but didn’t last long.
Anyway, I’ve spent the past ten years trying to find doctors that actually listen and care and it was very hard. We actually thought I might’ve had endo at some point and found a gyno who suggested a lap, but luckily, everything was clear.
I’m 25 now and I’ve been with my partner for a while and we’ve been married for almost a year. We’ve been trying to conceive for a while and have not been successful. I don’t have a regular period, but I usually get one every few months. Recently, I had labs done and my gynecologist (who I adore her and her NPs very much) decided to prescribe me Metformin to try to regulate my periods and help me ovulate. I started exercising and eating a little better as well.
About a month later, I had awful pain in mid to right lower abdomen. Scheduled an appt on Friday and then they had me come back the following Tuesday to do an ultrasound, where they saw I was ovulating. A week after that, I started spotting, then light bleeding, which turned into heavier bleeding which turned into blood clots and changing my tampon every half hour to an hour (current day). The bleeding is starting to slow down now.
My mother also has PCOS and when she was younger, she says she used to not get a period for a while and when she would, it was heavy with blood clots like I’m having now. I just really hope it’s not like this every month. It takes so much out of me, emotionally and physically, and I just want to lay in bed all day. I’m also just very discouraged and afraid I won’t be able to conceive (which isn’t very logical thinking, but I’m sure most of us have been worried like that). I haven’t been to the gym more than twice in three weeks because of all the pain and bleeding, which sucks because exercising can be so beneficial for lots of reasons.
I guess I’m just wondering if anybody else has a similar story? I know I’m not alone, but it can definitely still feel that way some times.
Best wishes to everybody experiencing PCOS and other similar reproductive issues. It’s a terrible thing to go through.

Apologies if this is unrelated. I do have T but I manage it. A few days ago I experienced an involuntary popping/creeking noise in my left ear that lasted a few seconds and subsided. This would reappear periodically for a few days. Today was the first day I haven’t heard it again, so it didn’t stick around but only a few days. Went to the urgent care to see if I had ETD but they didn’t find any fluid or infection. Last night after the urgent care I started to feel sensitive to noise in my left ear even though the popping was coming to an end. I still feel a weird sensation in it like a slight pain or pressure. I have since saturday been able to get the same sensation you do when going into different altitudes. This is a different popping than the involuntary one I mentioned previously. I do potentially feel slight allergies and I say this because I think I’m swallowing mucus, but my nose isn’t stuffed or anything like that. Does the “altitude swallow popping” and the mucus mean I could have allergies, and are allergies a potential cause for my popping sensations (that have now ceased) and now my noise sensitivity in my left ear?

Hi all, sorry if the title sounds weird, I'll do my best to explain here.
I've been dating my boyfriend, "K," for a year and a half now. We're sort of long-distance, as we live about an hour apart from each other. We can only see each other on weekends if we're able, but often text and facetime every day. K is amazing: he's sweet, great at communicating, loving, fun, and giving. I feel so open and safe with him, and he(obviously, haha) enjoys being with me. We love each other a lot. We know so much about each other and I can see myself being with him for a very long time.
Recently, I was admitted into two great universities. For privacy, I'll call them College #1 and College #2. They were my top picks and they're some of the top universities in the country, and I'm super excited and honored to be accepted.
College #1 is about 8 hours away. I'd have to pick up and move to a completely new city, but I want to go so bad I'm willing to take the next step. College #2, however, is about 2-3 hours away from me, but around an houhour and a half away from K. I'd also have to move to a new area, but I'm much more acquainted with the city it's located in. I've been there several times before and know a good amount of people close(or close-ish) by, including K. I've even been to College #2's campus before to visit a friend of mine who went there a few years ago. Both universities are intimidating to me, but I can still see myself attending either of them because of their great major programs I’m in.
K has joked about wanting me to go to College #2 since it's closer to him. I truly don't think he's trying to control me when he does this, as he's reiterated that he supports whatever choice I make and he's super happy for me to get into such great schools. When I spoke to him about seriously considering College #1, he again said he supports it, but actually started crying because he would miss me so much :( this of course made me cry too, and I feel conflicted about choosing where to go.
I told him if I chose College #1 I still want to make it work. He said he wanted to too, but he was clearly sad at the idea and that it would be harder not being able to see each other for long periods of time. (He almost seemed hesitant? I wasn't too sure, he could've just been sad.) It scares me that he won't want to if I choose College #1. Maybe not now, but somewhere down the line, you know? I care about him so much, but I don't want to fall into the trope of choosing a school for a man. (Even though both schools are great, so I wouldn't necessarily be losing whichever one I pick, haha.)
Another important note: College #1 would be cheaper to go to with financial aid and work-study factored in. College #2 would be about $7k more. Not a huge gap in terms of college tuition, but it makes a difference for a broke college student lol.
I'm not sure what to do, or how to approach it with him. He knows that I'm seriously considering College #1, but idk how he'll react if I tell him I'm definitely going. K and I want to see each other while I go to school, but this is my future. It's a big decision. I'm anxious and I want some advice on how to talk about it with him. Any help and kind words would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
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Originally, my wife and I had planned to wait until our child was 4 to 6 months of age to begin sleep training. However, as he approached his third month, we realized that we were often spending an hour or more each night on getting him to sleep. We would put him in his crib, return to him when he cried, and then try to console him. He always eventually fell asleep, but we knew that this time was cutting into the amount of rest he was getting each night.
Meanwhile, I had been reading through the 5th Edition of Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child (HSHHC) by Weissbluth. It seems that Weissbluth used to recommend waiting until 4 months to begin sleep training; however, this new edition makes it clear that he recommends that parents consider sleep training (including cry it out/extinction methods) as early as 2 months. (See the ‘Relevant Quotes’ heading below for more information.)
Developing our CIO plan:
After reviewing his discussion of various sleep training methods, I decided on a cry-it-out (CIO) approach, as I figured it would ultimately produce less crying and better-quality sleep than methods that could stretch on for weeks or months. For my wife and I, the benefits of allowing our child to learn self-soothing and giving him better-quality sleep right away outweighed any potential risks of CIO. (I know that many people would say that babies can’t begin self soothing until they’re older, but he has been sucking his thumb and fist pretty often in the past few weeks, so we figured that he could use this as a self-soothing method, especially since we were transitioning to an arms-out swaddle.) We did meet with our pediatrician to confirm that using CIO at his age would be OK, and she reassured us that he was at an appropriate developmental period for this method, even if not all babies are.
Because of his young age, we decided to implement a 2-hour cap. We’d wait 2 hours before going in to console or feed him, but if he cried after that, we’d go in and soothe him (and of course feed him if he appeared hungry). We realize that he will likely continue to need feeding once or twice overnight for a number of months, especially because he’s on the smaller side, so our goal was to help him get to and return to bed earlier, rather than to night wean him.
At HSSHC’s recommendation, we also shifted his bedtime to an earlier period (around 8 PM); made sure he was getting lots of naps during the day; and continued to use a white noise machine and blackout curtains to create a calmer sleep environment. We had been swaddling him arms-in since he was a newborn, but since he was now getting more active and gaining the ability to roll, we shifted to an arms-out swaddle. We knew this would make sleep training even harder, but at the advice of a Reddit thread on sleeptrain, we decided that implementing CIO at the same time that we switched to an arms-out swaddle would be the easiest option.
Implementing the plan:
So, shortly after he turned 3 months old, we began sleep training. After changing his diaper, feeding, and swaddling him and providing a little soothing, I laid him in his crib at 7:35 PM and left the room. He cried and fussed for around 42 minutes, then fell asleep. He then woke up 14 minutes later; cried/fussed for another 27 minutes; and fell asleep for good at 8:58 PM–after which he slept for around 4 and a half hours. He would sometimes show signs of the startle reflex (probably because he was getting used to the arms-out swaddle), but he was then able to calm himself back to sleep.
During the second night, he cried and fussed for 20 minutes before falling asleep; he woke up around 5 hours later. He’d sometimes move around in bed but then return to a resting position soon after.
On the third night (tonight), he only fussed for 7 minutes; I didn’t actually hear him cry at all. (This may have been because he was pretty drowsy at the end of his meal.) He’s sleeping great in his crib as I write this message.
In short, the time he needed to self-soothe and fall asleep decreased from 42 minutes the first night (or 69 if you count the second bout of fussing) to 20 minutes the second night, and then to 7 minutes the third night. This is huge for him! He can now use the early nighttime hours for sleep rather than for bouts of fussing, which should help with his development. He has continued to eat overnight, and that behavior will probably continue for quite a while, but we’re just thrilled that he now knows how to soothe himself to sleep.
His amount of crying also aligned pretty well with Weissbluth’s predictions for babies below 4 months of age (30-45 minutes on night 1; 10-30 on night 2; 0-10 on night 3; and none on night 4). Weissbluth actually predicts more crying than this for babies 4 months of age or older (see quotes below).
Final thoughts:
He was a happy, smiley baby before we implemented sleep training, and that has remained the case. I don’t see any signs that our attachment with him has been impaired by CIO. As he continues to get better rest, I expect that he’ll become even happier and more smiley in the coming months.
I’m sure he’ll have periods of worse sleep now and then, but overall, my wife and I are thrilled with how well the extinction method has gone. Every child’s needs and circumstances are different, so this method may only be ideal for a minority of children. However, at the very least, I think more parents should at least consider beginning CIO at an earlier age.
Relevant Quotes:
(If you’re considering this approach as well, I highly recommend that you read as much of HSSHC as you can. I added the quotes below to help explain why we didn’t wait until 4 months or later to begin CIO.)
“Because this process of sleep regulation is developing during the first 4 months, there is no reason for most parents to delay and begin to think about helping their child sleep better only at 4 months of age. Starting earlier is easier.” (p. 536)
“Parents who started helping their child sleep better at or before 4 months described better sleeping in their children than those parents who started after 4 months. This validates the notion that starting early is better than starting later” (p. 162) His research also indicates that extinction results in less crying for children below 4 months of age than it does for children aged 4 months and up (p. 536)
“For babies younger than 2 months of age, consider graduated extinction, extinction with a cap, or check and console. Extinction, even for extreme fussiness/colic, may also be considered and be successful at 2 months of age” (p. 451)
Although Weissbluth was our main resource on sleep training, I found Emily Oster’s section on this subject within Cribsheet to be helpful also. She notes that, while it’s impossible to prove that sleep training has no harmful effects, “you could easily argue the opposite: maybe sleep training is very good for some kids–they really need the uninterrupted sleep–and there is a risk of damaging your child by not sleep training. There isn’t anything in the data that shows this, but there is similarly nothing to show that sleep training is bad” (p. 181).
She also notes that “there is relatively little guidance on the appropriate age to start sleep training . . . generally, it will be easier to sleep train a six-month-old than a three-month-old [though Weissbluth would disagree with her here], and probably harder to train a two-year-old. But these methods seem to work on a variety of ages.”

Originally, my wife and I had planned to wait until our child was 4 to 6 months of age to begin sleep training. However, as he approached his third month, we realized that we were often spending an hour or more each night on getting him to sleep. We would put him in his crib, return to him when he cried, and then try to console him. He always eventually fell asleep, but we knew that this time was cutting into the amount of rest he was getting each night.
Meanwhile, I had been reading through the 5th Edition of Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child (HSHHC) by Weissbluth. It seems that Weissbluth used to recommend waiting until 4 months to begin sleep training; however, this new edition makes it clear that he recommends that parents consider sleep training (including cry it out/extinction methods) as early as 2 months. (See the ‘Relevant Quotes’ heading below for more information.)
Developing our CIO plan:
After reviewing his discussion of various sleep training methods, I decided on a cry-it-out (CIO) approach, as I figured it would ultimately produce less crying and better-quality sleep than methods that could stretch on for weeks or months. For my wife and I, the benefits of allowing our child to learn self-soothing and giving him better-quality sleep right away outweighed any potential risks of CIO. (I know that many people would say that babies can’t begin self soothing until they’re older, but he has been sucking his thumb and fist pretty often in the past few weeks, so we figured that he could use this as a self-soothing method, especially since we were transitioning to an arms-out swaddle.) We did meet with our pediatrician to confirm that using CIO at his age would be OK, and she reassured us that he was at an appropriate developmental period for this method, even if not all babies are.
Because of his young age, we decided to implement a 2-hour cap. We’d wait 2 hours before going in to console or feed him, but if he cried after that, we’d go in and soothe him (and of course feed him if he appeared hungry). We realize that he will likely continue to need feeding once or twice overnight for a number of months, especially because he’s on the smaller side, so our goal was to help him get to and return to bed earlier, rather than to night wean him.
At HSSHC’s recommendation, we also shifted his bedtime to an earlier period (around 8 PM); made sure he was getting lots of naps during the day; and continued to use a white noise machine and blackout curtains to create a calmer sleep environment. We had been swaddling him arms-in since he was a newborn, but since he was now getting more active and gaining the ability to roll, we shifted to an arms-out swaddle. We knew this would make sleep training even harder, but at the advice of a Reddit thread on sleeptrain, we decided that implementing CIO at the same time that we switched to an arms-out swaddle would be the easiest option.
Implementing the plan:
So, shortly after he turned 3 months old, we began sleep training. After changing his diaper, feeding, and swaddling him and providing a little soothing, I laid him in his crib at 7:35 PM and left the room. He cried and fussed for around 42 minutes, then fell asleep. He then woke up 14 minutes later; cried/fussed for another 27 minutes; and fell asleep for good at 8:58 PM–after which he slept for around 4 and a half hours. He would sometimes show signs of the startle reflex (probably because he was getting used to the arms-out swaddle), but he was then able to calm himself back to sleep.
During the second night, he cried and fussed for 20 minutes before falling asleep; he woke up around 5 hours later. He’d sometimes move around in bed but then return to a resting position soon after.
On the third night (tonight), he only fussed for 7 minutes; I didn’t actually hear him cry at all. (This may have been because he was pretty drowsy at the end of his meal.) He’s sleeping great in his crib as I write this message.
In short, the time he needed to self-soothe and fall asleep decreased from 42 minutes the first night (or 69 if you count the second bout of fussing) to 20 minutes the second night, and then to 7 minutes the third night. This is huge for him! He can now use the early nighttime hours for sleep rather than for bouts of fussing, which should help with his development. He has continued to eat overnight, and that behavior will probably continue for quite a while, but we’re just thrilled that he now knows how to soothe himself to sleep.
His amount of crying also aligned pretty well with Weissbluth’s predictions for babies below 4 months of age (30-45 minutes on night 1; 10-30 on night 2; 0-10 on night 3; and none on night 4). Weissbluth actually predicts more crying than this for babies 4 months of age or older (see quotes below).
Final thoughts:
He was a happy, smiley baby before we implemented sleep training, and that has remained the case. I don’t see any signs that our attachment with him has been impaired by CIO. As he continues to get better rest, I expect that he’ll become even happier and more smiley in the coming months.
I’m sure he’ll have periods of worse sleep now and then, but overall, my wife and I are thrilled with how well the extinction method has gone. Every child’s needs and circumstances are different, so this method may only be ideal for a minority of children. However, at the very least, I think more parents should at least consider beginning CIO at an earlier age.
Relevant Quotes:
(If you’re considering this approach as well, I highly recommend that you read as much of HSSHC as you can. I added the quotes below to help explain why we didn’t wait until 4 months or later to begin CIO.)
“Because this process of sleep regulation is developing during the first 4 months, there is no reason for most parents to delay and begin to think about helping their child sleep better only at 4 months of age. Starting earlier is easier.” (p. 536)
“Parents who started helping their child sleep better at or before 4 months described better sleeping in their children than those parents who started after 4 months. This validates the notion that starting early is better than starting later” (p. 162) His research also indicates that extinction results in less crying for children below 4 months of age than it does for children aged 4 months and up (p. 536)
“For babies younger than 2 months of age, consider graduated extinction, extinction with a cap, or check and console. Extinction, even for extreme fussiness/colic, may also be considered and be successful at 2 months of age” (p. 451)
Although Weissbluth was our main resource on sleep training, I found Emily Oster’s section on this subject within Cribsheet to be helpful also. She notes that, while it’s impossible to prove that sleep training has no harmful effects, “you could easily argue the opposite: maybe sleep training is very good for some kids–they really need the uninterrupted sleep–and there is a risk of damaging your child by not sleep training. There isn’t anything in the data that shows this, but there is similarly nothing to show that sleep training is bad” (p. 181).
She also notes that “there is relatively little guidance on the appropriate age to start sleep training . . . generally, it will be easier to sleep train a six-month-old than a three-month-old [though Weissbluth would disagree with her here], and probably harder to train a two-year-old. But these methods seem to work on a variety of ages.”

Hello new poster here. Apologies in advance for any frustrations caused from my lack of experience.
I'm a Mac + PC user, however my core media library lives on my PC. I DJ in Rekordbox.
Core Issue: my main library is in C:/Music, but I can see new tracks import into Rekordbox and live in multiple subfolders of C:/Downloads. This causes many small but frustrating issues down-stream.
My import process is pretty simple. I try to purchase and download a handful of tracks at one time periodically. Once I have a folder of new tracks I...
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1. Tag them using Mixed in Key
2. Import them into my music library using iTunes (this is clearly where things are failing)
3. Add them in bulk to Rekordbox Collection using iTunes > Recently Added

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My main goal would be to have my entire music library live in C:/Music without any doubt. Any advice on amending my process would be appreciated. Any software recommendations to get everything into a single folder library would also be appreciated.

I have a BMO credit card that I use regularly and fully pay off. I've been offered a zero interest balance transfer for 12 months with a 3% fee.
The timing is great because I have about $10,000 worth of home renovation costs coming in the next couple months.
But I'm concerned with the fine print of how the balance transfer interacts with regular purchases:

You will pay interest on purchases unless you pay your full Account balance by the payment due date. For example, if you complete a balance transfer for $5,000 and spend $2,000 in purchases during the same statement period, you must pay the entire balance of $7,000 before the payment due date to avoid paying interest on your purchases. You will be charged interest if you only pay the amount owing for your purchases. There is no interest-free grace period for cash advances or balance transfers

That doesn't clear things up for me...
If i have $10,000 zero interest balance, which I intend to pay off in the allotted 12 months, how do new purchases interact?
If i also made $1000 in purchases, my hope would be that I pay $1000 plus $833 and would be in good standing and face no additional charges.
Is that the case?

I was hired on about 7 months ago. We work closely with child welfare organizations providing daytime care, education, and other resources to families in transition. I'm mostly on the care and education end of things, and I am almost always by myself. I'm supposed to have help, but I never know if my lead is coming in until they either show up or don't.
I can't physically leave the area that I'm in for any reason, because doing so would leave the children in my care unattended. Which I wouldn't do anyway, but I don't appreciate getting lectured from a fully staffed area for asking to go to the bathroom once in a 10 hour shift. It gets annoying.
So, obviously that sucks, and there's so much more I could add to that, but I trust you guys to use your imagination about not being able to take a break of any kind until it's time to leave.
But this is the part that I'm getting really worried about. I'm a pretty anxious person already, and things have a tendency to eat at me once an idea has taken root.
I drink a lot of water. I have a 40 oz water bottle that I usually fill up 3 times, but I usually don't finish that 3rd fill up, so I drink at least 80 to 100 oz of water a day at work. The tap water at my house is fantastic, but I don't normally drink tap water from other places unless I know that it's properly filtered, treated etc.
But we have children on site, and they are served water from the tap. It's usually mixed up with drink flavoring powder stuff and called "juice" which I thought was weird, but what do I know...
Water is water, and our tiny, adorable, precious, lovable, precocious, beautiful little squishers all drink the stuff, and that was good enough for me. It's important to note that the kids I work with are older, think 4 to 7ish, and they almost exclusively drink vitamin D enriched whole milk, because that is what I was told to serve them. So, they're drinking milk, the little littles are drinking either flavored water or formula that is similarly mixed with the tap water.
I have never in my life had so many issues with sinus pressure, congestion, excessive mucus production, etc. It's disgusting and ridiculous how many times I have to blow my nose through the day, because thick green mucus is constantly filling my sinuses and slowly worming down my nostrils.
I can feel it moving, and I get paranoid about inhaling through my nose because then it goes down my throat and I want to vomit up my entire soul. The children I have with me don't really have the same issue, outside of the occasional runny nose, so I assumed it was just seasonal allergies, got some Zyrtec, and carried on. It helped, but not very much.
But I was filling in for someone else in one of our little rooms, and every kid in there had thick green snail trails coming down their nostrils. And it occurred to me that this was not the first time I'd ever noticed the babies and toddlers having severe snot ropes making an entrance, this is something I see with them, and hear my coworkers complaining about every single day.
The older kids almost never drink water, my coworkers are strict soda drinkers, and the babies and I are losing a disgusting war with sinus congestion. I didn't connect the two until yesterday when I grabbed my water bottle from work and took a swig from it. My nose clears up a little when I'm home for the weekend, so I can actually taste and smell things slightly better.
7 months is a long time, you can get used to some pretty weird shit in that amount of time. When I started I had just been cleared to work after contracting COVID. I couldn't smell or taste anything until about 3 months ago.
The water at work has a weird metallic, minerally flavor, and (this is so gross) there's a scent INSIDE of my nostrils that I can't get rid of, and it's affecting the way things taste. It's like a rancid, spoiled dairy kind of smell. Blowing my nose gets rid of the current mucus flow, but it also makes the smell more noticeable. The demonic snail trails in the tissue smell the same way.
Am I onto something? Am I dying? Am I imagining a problem because my job kinda sucks? Am I just being ultra paranoid?
And finally! Did I post this in the correct place?

Before I get started on my story, have any of you ever heard of Mr. Men & Little Miss. For those of you who haven't, it's a book series that features many anthropomorphic creatures who represent different aspects of human aspects. The book series statted with a man named Roger Hargreaves, a British cartoonist who, after being asked by his son, Adam Hargreaves, what does a Tickle look like, wrote and illustrated the first installment of the Mr. Men & Little Miss books: Mr. Tickle. The story exploded with popularity, that he followed it up with Mr. Greedy, which was soon followed by Mr. Happy, and so on. After a while, Roger began writing the first installment of the Little Miss series: Little Miss Bossy, a Little Miss whose bossy mannerisms are that of a drill Sergeant.
After his death, Roger's son, Adam, took on his legacy and continued the books, now having the characters go on all sorts of wacky adventures. The books proved so popular that it spawned two Television series: Mr. Men & Little Miss, and The Mr. Men Show. Due to their rising popularity, a company known as Endeavor Content wanted to make a series based on the children's book series. They said it would be out sometime in 2023. Unfortunately, it never came. Well, I can tell you why. You see, I used to work at Endeavor Content. However, recent events caused me to quit. Allow me to explain.
It all started with the cancelation of the Mr. Men Show. You've probably heard the reason of the show's cancelation. The series producers said they didn't want to continue. The reasons for this were never given, but I know exactly why. You see, the Mr. Men Show changed a lot of things with the book characters, such as their personalities, their designs, and even their own genders (some original characters were even made to make it more interesting). Adam didn't like these changes. He constantly demanded that the series producers to cease their discretion of his father's work at once. Everybody just pushed him aside and continued their work.
That's when Strange things began to happen. For a small few instances, some scenes in the US dub were mysteriously cut from the UK dub, some scenes that were planned for the show were unable to be digitally animated, and in some rare occasions, the voice actors reported seeing the characters they voice in their own dreams. The events got so bizarre that they ultimately decided to cooperate with Adam Hargreaves and canceled the series. Despite being a cult classic, the Stagg were deeply unnerved by the curse it carried. When Endeavor Content decided to create their own show starring the titular characters, it seemed that the curse was reignited.
Some things were made to spice up the show a bit: Mr. Noisy and Little Miss Chatterbox would be in a romantic relationship, Little Miss Sunshine, Mr. Happy, and Mr. Cheerful would have a love triangle,, Mr. Bump would have depression from being in so many accidents, and Mr. Tickle would be the youngest Mr. Man in all of Misterland (those are just the more interesting ones). As production began, accidents began to happen. Ventilation would act up, people would end up mysteriously injured, and blackouts would periodically occur within the studio. There was one particular experience that crossed the line. I was animating a scene with Little Miss Star and Mr. Perfect performing a duet on a variety show episode. I kept looking back at my reference sheet to be sure I had the proportions correct.
Suddenly, the lights began to flicker. This mildly annoyed me, but luckily, there were some spare light bulbs in the storage closet. I walked out the animation department and entered the hallway. As I walked towards the storage closet, I couldn't shake off the feeling that I was being watched. After what felt like hours, I finally found some spare bulbs and returned to the animation studios. Entering inside, I dropped the spare bulb. There, scribbling on my animation was a crudely made Mr. Tickle costume. What made it even more chilling was the fact it was in the same style as our show's version of the character. It was as if Mr. Tickle had jumped out of the show's pages and entered out reality. It looked at me, and the costume blinked. Not the person inside, the costumes eyes actually blinked. Next thing I knew, the lights flickered, and it was gone. I found myself writing my resignation papers in a heartbeat.
I don't know what we did to anger Adam this time, but one thing is clear, if you want a Mr. Men & Little Miss Show made, be sure it suits Adam's standards. Otherwise, you might fall victim to it's curse like I did.

i took the pill for about 3 years, i stopped because my sex drive went to 0 and my depression got so bad it would’ve legitimately killed me to keep taking it. now i have a copper iud but my skin is breaking out so bad constantly and my periods are horrible, the week before and during my period i get so angry and suicidal and i cry so much. i really miss the light periods and clear skin the pill gave me but i like not being suicidal for at least 2 out of 4 weeks a month and having a normal sex drive with the copper iud. is there any birth control with no side effects that isn’t condoms or hormonal?? i feel like there’s always at least one horrible thing you have to endure with any kind of birth control..