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2024.05.14 19:09 CodScary4316 Laying off Permanent Employees to Make Room For New Hires

My center just hired 3 people for preload. I have no idea why because we have a full staff. Anyway, for 30 days theyā€™re laying off our bottom seniority people to make room for the newbies to get their 30 days in. Is this right?
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2024.05.14 18:53 incandescent_walrus The Eras Tour Follies

The Eras Tour Follies
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The Folly of it all: a Revue

Folly, from the French folie, means madness, extravagance, foolishness, lunacy. It has two dominant uses. One is madness or craziness as in folie a deux (a delusion shared by two people). The other meaning of folly is a musical revue, developed in Paris in the late 1800s at the Folies Bergere.
Revue in French means ā€œmagazine,ā€ and the musical revue is meant to be the performance version of reading a magazine. A crucial part of the revue, cabaret, burlesque, or variety-show style of entertainment is the inclusion of commentary on current events, often satirical or parody. The Eras Tour provides a retrospective - a review, if you will - of Taylor Swiftā€™s musical catalog. It tells several stories. And with the inclusion of The Tortured Poets Department set, it now also provides clear satirical commentary on Swiftā€™s own story. It is not by accident that the TTPD set was added to the Eras Tour in Paris, the birthplace of the revue.
The initial concept for the musical revue at Folies Bergere centered on women and dance, but was not overtly sexual. American choreographer Loie Fuller, whose serpentine dance style Taylor Swift honored with the Dress performance on the Reputation tour, worked at the early Folies Bergere. Fuller also fought for artistsā€™ control of their own work and lost a legal battle to copyright her choreography. She was also a lesbian.
You look like Loie Fuller in this light
However, revue overlapped and blended with cabaret, burlesque, variety, and vaudeville into the early 20th century. Elaborate staging and ā€œsmall nude womenā€ became the hallmark of the Folies Bergere under director Paul Derval; the Moulin Rouge was a contemporaneous music hall with a more sexual nature, and the American Ziegfeld Follies - inspired by Bergere - were known for their chorus girls.
The opening of the Eras Tour, with dancers using massive billowing seashell-shaped fabric and sunrise-like lighting, is a callback to Loie Fullerā€™s choreography style, as are the billowing Folklore dresses. It ends with the Midnights set, including the Vigilante Shit burlesque-style dance using cabaret chairs. Both the endcaps of the Eras Tour are intentionally choreographed Follies.

Bejeweled & Burlesque

American neo-burlesque, as championed by Dita Von Teese and others, seeks to reclaim burlesque as an art form for self-expression of sexuality rather than for consumption.
Among other hints, the music video for Bejeweled - released a week before the Eras Tour was announced - featured many Easter eggs per Taylor Swift herself. In that video, Dita Von Teese, with her iconic martini glass, teaches Taylor's character neoburlesque dance. Speaking to Out magazine of working with Swift, Von Teese said, ā€œShe knew everything about what I do and about burlesque.ā€
The background for Taylorā€™s own burlesque show in the Bejeweled video is a pink, purple, and gold sky very much like the opening of the Eras tour, and scallops line the floor. Taylor is sitting on the clock that was in the Mastermind lyrics video.
Clockwise from top left: (1) Bejeweled burlesque opening shot; (2) Eras Tour opening; (3) did I mention Loie Fuller was a lesbian who lived in Paris?; (4) what if I told you none of it was accidental?
As the dance unfolds, Taylor is surrounded by dancers holding fans and then lying on the ground encircling her in a kaleidoscope-like starburst, both images that appear in the TTPD set. She touches the clock to make it disappear as the light turns blue, and rainbow lights on the dancers encircle her, reminiscent of her dancers and backup singers in the Karma performance at the end of the Eras tour.
Rainbows and dancers and kaleidoscopes. Go Chiefs!

The Eras Tour: Taylor Swift Follies

As the dancers open each Eras Tour performance, orange, pink, and purple Loie Fuller-esque fabric billows. ā€œItā€™s been a long time comingā€¦ā€ Swiftā€™s disembodied voice sings, a reference to the years since her last tour, but I think also referencing also Fullerā€™s - and Swiftā€™s - fights for artists to own their work. This performance will be a retrospective, but itā€™s a retrospective of a catalog that Swift does not yet fully own. It may also be a reference to a coming-out.
Swift bursts out of the billowing scalloped fabric, a shimmering musical goddess arising fully formed at an ever-ascendant peak, reminiscent of Venus, the goddess of love and sex - and also of victory and prosperity.
She then performs a magnificent three and a half hour retrospective of her work. But we need some kind of social commentary, parody, or satire to make this concept work. And what about the other meaning of folly?
Welcome to Female Rage: The Musical.
The Tortured Poets Department set is a spectacle. In stark white and black, it leans into the asylum aesthetic of Fortnight, and it is nonetheless the most over-the-top visual experience of the entire concert. The Tortured Poets Department album contains heavy themes of Swift navigating her fame (which I wonā€™t explore much here), and the Eras Tour set is no different. The visuals represent an asylum, a high school pep rally, zombie horror, an alien abduction, war, and finally a Vaudeville-esque representation of The Eras Tour itself, in which a doll-like Swift performs an onstage costume change, reanimates and then proceeds to perform I Can Do It With A Broken Heart, a song as upbeat as it is seething about performing the Eras tour while depressed, mirrors reflecting the audience as they confront the decision whether to sing along to the line ā€œAll the pieces of me shattered as the crowd was chanting ā€˜more!ā€™ā€
Have they come to take me awaaaaaay?
The allure of the folly was audience participation. Follies were madness because the audience became part of the story, swept up in it, performers surrounding them and transforming the entire venue to the stage. There was no fourth wall. Any modern concert will include audience participation, but Swift is a master at engaging her audience in a way that no other pop star is - and here, she tells us, it is perhaps to her own personal undoing. Are you not entertained?
Midnights is the final set of the Eras Tour, and Vigilante Shit is its climax. As she performs a burlesque dance, Swift sings ā€œLadies always rise above; ladies know what people wantā€¦ the lady simply had enoughā€¦" "I don't dress for women / I don't dress for men / Lately Iā€™ve been dressing for revenge / I donā€™t start shit, but I can tell you how it ends.ā€
Why is burlesque dance ā€œdressing for revengeā€? Perhaps because it is not burlesque but neoburlesque, which is done for self-empowerment. She's not "dressing" - performing - for others, she's doing it for her own reasons. Taylor Swift is reclaiming her own music - not only rerecording the masters, but in a broader sense too. TTPD lyrically expounds on this idea - Taylor Swift is making music for herself now. She started off making music for herself - she didnā€™t start this conflict - but sheā€™s telling us how it ends, and itā€™s with her winning.
After Vigilante Shit, she stays in the same costume, with a segue into Bejeweled, and then Mastermind, finishing the concert with the lyric ā€œIā€™m a mastermindā€ and immediately taking a bow.
See how the Bejeweled backdrop and the Midnights bodysuit look similar?
Karma, last on the set list, functions as a curtain call. Curtain call songs in musical theatre tend to summarize or reprise the story that the actors just told, coming back around**.** Karma is a song about Taylor Swift reclaiming her art, and so is the Eras Tour. Of course, Karma also being a possible lost album fits well with this.

What does all of this mean?

The Eras Tour is Taylor Swiftā€™s neo-burlesque revue, it is her reclamation of her art, and it is the key to her claiming the key to her castle. As she performed this dance in the Bejeweled video, the countdown and her exile ended and the clock struck midnight.
We know with the countdown theme she's been doing, there's something coming that'll be "1" in the countdown. Re-recordings haven't counted so far, so I don't think it will be Rep TV or Debut unless they come with significant new material - such as Rep TV + Karma (which would be TS12) and then Debut + TS13. I have always thought Debut would come at the end of the Eras Tour, and with all of this analysis, I think that's likely to happen along with something that is a significant change for Taylor Swift.
I also think there might be something going on with the moon.
Whatever happens between now and the end of the Eras Tour, the clock will strike midnight, the performance will be over, and Taylor Swift will step into the dawn of a new era. We'll meet her at midnight.
Images from Bejeweled, Lavender Haze, Daylight lyric video, and the Eras Tour
P.S. The Bejeweled video also contained several easter eggs for Speak Now TV being the next re-recording. The music video for I Can See You, a Speak Now vault track, was released toward the beginning of the Eras tour. Joey King and Presley Cash, who were in the Mean video as children, were also in the I Can See You video. Taylor wrote on IG that she wanted them specifically. The video for ā€œMeanā€ (2011) features Taylor Swift performing in a variety of music hall-style sets. Taylor spends most of the video playing banjo in a string band, and then transitions to a Broadway stage in a fringe dress, reminiscent of the Ziegfeld Follies era. 
Joey broke the banjo when she used it as a weapon to save Taylor from the vault
Loie Fullerā€™s break into show business was playing banjo in a Buffalo Bill touring show, from which point she went to New York. For her breakout role in a New York theatre, critics reportedly said she could sing but she couldnā€™t dance - similar to Swiftā€™s inspiration for the song Mean. Fuller went on to be one of the most influential figures in modern dance. 
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2024.05.14 18:51 anon-3279 My [29F] wife [25F] is refusing to work unless we move. Where to go from here?

Hope this makes sense, my grammar can be rough and my thoughts tend to be scattered so please ask for clarifications if needed
TL;DR Wife doesnā€™t want to work unless we moves states to be closer to her family. I might have considered the move were we in a good place, but the relationship was already rough. Any advice on trying to move forward or fix things? Or is it a lost cause?
Me (29F) and my wife (25F) have been together about 4 years, married for 1. Thereā€™s been a few ups and downs in our intimate life that caused us to open our relationship up to polyamory about 1.5 years ago. Overall weā€™ve always been best friends and becoming polyamorous gave a strong but temporary boost to our intimate life. I used to really admire her for her self-work and reflection she would do as part of her addiction recovery. She had goals and passion. She had friends. She could be there to support me, and Id be there to support her.
But after moving in about 2 years with me and out of her sober house it was like she slowly stopped all self-improvement. One day she quit her grocery store job announcing she was interviewing for a job in a recovery center. Of course she didnā€™t get that one and she was out of work for about 6 months before finally starting to apply again and securing an overnight recovery center job. And I was patient the whole time, not making her pick up extra slack around the house, not nagging her about applying to jobs, none of that.
Well with the new overnight job she started treating me like a human alarm clock because her shift was 12pm-8am. She would change the time she wanted to wake up between 9pm and 11pm. Some days she would tell me 10pm and ā€œsnoozeā€ me repeatedly until 11pm. And if I happened to fall asleep because I wake up around 5-6am she would be late and blame me. Eventually she got fired from that job for calling out and being late so often.
After a couple months of being off she wasnā€™t looking for any new jobs and wasnā€™t doing any cleaning of any sort around the house. Even if I was asking her nicely to do specific tasks. So when I tried to have a conversation with her about when sheā€™s going to find a new job, and if she can start doing the things I ask her to around the house, she replied with ā€œIā€™m not going to be applying to any jobs. Iā€™ll only get a job again if we move to Maine(where her family lives). And if you want me to do things around the house you have to tell me, not ask.ā€ I was kind of in awe because this wasnā€™t the type of answer I expected from her.
Most recently sheā€™s taken to playing Fallout at all hours of the night, and sleeping during the day. She literally goes to bed when Iā€™m coming out to the living room with my breakfast before work (She had readjusted from the night shift schedule before this). So Iā€™m sleeping alone at night, we have no physical intimacy, like we might give each other a small kiss 2-3 times a week, we donā€™t hug, and even if she did get into bed with me I canā€™t touch her even just to rest my forehead lightly on a part of her or just rub her back. Sheā€™ll do 1 chore a day, but never to 100% completion. And that only started because I threatened to take the Xbox to work with me.
Because weā€™re poly Iā€™ve floated the idea of de-escalating our relationship in the past where we have our own separate rooms and can be free to find new live-in partners but sheā€™s immediately shot the idea down each time.
I feel like Iā€™ve got a pet roommate. Should I end things and tell her to move back to Maine in with her mom on her own? Or is there any real chance at fixing my marriage at this point? Does anyone think marriage counseling would work? Iā€™m not sure I could even get her to schedule that for us and Iā€™m tired of feeling like Iā€™m the only one putting in effort. Idk where to go from here.
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2024.05.14 18:49 McManGuy Guide for Preventing Elevation Glitches When Moving a World Over to the Ashlands Patch

It's common for non-Ashlands biomes that were connected to the border of the Ashlands biome to have vastly different elevations in the new update, resulting in stuff floating in the sky above the land or sea. (rocks, ancient roots, trees, etc.). This also happens up near the Deep North biome.
The simple solution is to make a fresh new world after the new Ashlands patch. And if you never visited the Ashlands in your old world, you're also likely safe.
But if you ever traveled close to the Ashlands, you'll get this glitch. You can prevent this with the Upgrade World Mod. But it's quite the process.

Part 1: Make a world backup

The game automatically makes backup files, but just to be safe, you want to manually create your own backups.
Your Valheim world consists of 2 files with these extentions:
  • *****.db
  • *****.fwl
In fact, I suggest you include the backups of your backup, too:
  • *****.db.old
  • *****.fwl.old
Actually, it's not a bad idea to make a backup copy of the entire save folder, just in case.
Now, it's best to be working with Local Saves rather than with Cloud Saves. By default, the game uses cloud saves. Your save file location might be different depending on which save method you had employed.
This is the Valheim local save file location:
  • C:\Users\*****\AppData\LocalLow\IronGate\Valheim\worlds_local
The AppData folder is normally hidden. So here's another way to find the AppData folder:
  1. Windows Key + R
  2. type in appdata.
  3. Navigate Appdata > LocalLow > Irongate > Valheim

Part 2: Staying Pre-Ashlands

In order to prevent elevation errors, you'll want to perform these fixes before loading up the world with the Ashlands Patch downloaded. To do this, Go to your Steam Library and set your game to the previous patch:
  1. Steam Library > right-click Valheim > Properties > Betas
  2. change "Beta Participation" from "None" to "default_preal"
(It might not be necessary to stay pre-Ashlands, but better safe than sorry)

Part 3: Console setup

Now you need to enable the developer console
  1. Steam Library > right-click Valheim > Properties > General
  2. Find the Text field in the Launch Options section under where it says "Advanced users may choose to enter modifications to their launch options"
  3. In this text field, type -console
You can now open the Developer Console by pressing F5 while in the game world.

Part 4: Mod Installation

You need to install the BepInEx Pack. Followed by the Upgrade World Mod.
I recommend either installing these mods manually or using the r2modman manager (Source)
(DO NOT use the Overwolf / Thunderstore mod manager - it has video ads that ruin performance)

Part 5: Finally doing something

Now we're finally ready to get started.
Be sure to make a new character for this test and do not use your actual character. Then, Load up your Valheim world.
Open the console with F5 and make sure you have the following developer commands active:
  • devcommands
  • god
  • fly
This just makes things easier for later on.
Now we want to reset the Ashlands. In order for a zone reset to work, there needs to be no players near the Biome at all. A quick way to move away from the Ashlands is this command:
  • goto 0 0
The command to reset Ashlands is:
  • zones_reset biomes=AshLands force
The "force" part of that command forces any player bases in the biome to be destroyed without a trace. If you do not do this, the zones around the base will not be reset by the mod.

Part 6: Fixing Problem Spots

This is where trial and error begins. If you're obsessively cautious like me, you'll want to travel back and forth between the Ashlands update and the previous patch to preserve your original world. (If you don't want to do this, simply type the command 'goto 0 0' instead of step 5)
  1. Save another backup of your world file.
  2. Change your Beta selection back to "None"
  3. Load up the game and fly around in god mode, checking to see if everything is fine
  4. Write down the coordinates of any problem areas that you find.
  5. Restore your backup world file, and change Beta back to "default_preal"
  6. Reset the problem spot (see below)
  7. Repeat Steps 1-6 until done.
For Step 6, you'll need to use more targeted resets, limited by max distance. There are 2 ways to do this: by raw position (in meters) or by zone. (a zone is a 64x64 chunk of the map)
  • zones_reset pos= max=
  • zones_reset zone= max=
pos sets a center position and max sets how far out it goes.
zone sets a center position and changes max to set how many zones away the reset can reach.
Example:
  • zones_reset pos=-3700,-7200 max=350
This resets a small area on my map that was giving me problems.
  • zones_reset zone=-58,-113 max=6
This more or less does the same thing, but goes by zones. Notice that the max needs to be smaller since zones are a 64x64m area.
 
If there are any player bases in the affected zones, the mod will skip them. To force the mod to delete the player base, add force at the end of your reset command, like we did in Part 5

Side Note: The Reset Area shape

It is unclear to me whether this "max" distance is actually a "radius" for a circle. I think it might just create a square around the center point. So, for example:
  • zones_reset pos=0,0 max=100
If it was a square, this would make a 200x200m square with these corner locations:
   
-100, 100 100, 100
-100,-100 100,-100
A circle dictated by a radius wouldn't include those.
I have no idea if it is a square or if it is a circle. All I know is that I've had unpredictable and strange results when using a very large radius.
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2024.05.14 18:48 MilkyHoody Who'll get the job done first

So in 2.2 we learn that Acheron wants to kill the Nihility Aeon IX. This won't get rid of Nihility but it'll stop people from being banished to the shadow realm I guess.
Currently, The Stellaron hunters ultimate goal is to kill Nanook presumably. Firefly said Elio used to only see futures revolving around certain stellarons but after mc came into picture this doesn't seem like the case. Not sure whether that's the case or not since the context for that was b4 they learned Penacony had a stellaron despite no contamination. I'm guessing their plan revolves around getting as many stellarons as possible since they're basically space magic stones and manipulating events centering around stellarons located on the star rail so that it leads the express to challenge Nanook.
Jingliu & Luocha plan to kill Yaoshir for good. Xianzhou and Lan have been trying to do it for ages but they don't seem to ever break the status quo so they turned to the ruin author.
Who do you think will succeed in killing a Aeon first. I'm guessing Jingliu/Luocha which might sound crazy since a Abundance emantor already has immortality so their aeon might just be immortal on some conceptual level. I'm guessing they'll somehow get Nanook to kill and maybe absorb Yaoshir despite being 2 completely different paths. We know there's a 3rd method to killing a aeon but it hasn't been revealed yet. No idea how Acheron would even kill IX, I assume it'll just let her but idk.
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2024.05.14 18:43 YoniLaika Travel international to Japan for the first time, need advice and recommendations!

Hello! I (22) am trying to plan my very first international trip and id like to go to Japan. I originally planned a trip literally right before covid happened so i had to cancel but now i am graduating collage and would like to celebrate by traveling with my mom! I've been saving up for years and finally feel like I'm ready. We plan to leave Dec 1st and come back on the 10th. Plane tickets will be 1800 each, I'm personally ok with spending 500$ on hotels. 300$ for food costs and 200$ on souvenirs
Problem is, I've literally never done anything like this before. I'm a homebody, I'm never flown, I'm rattled with anxiety, i have no idea what I'm doing. I've come to ask for some help! My mom has flown before but this will be both our first international trips.
After some research I've decided well stay in or around Tokyo and spend our trip there/take day trips to near by places. I'd LOVE to go Osaka but our two main things we want to see are centered around Tokyo so that's a trip for another time maybe. I'd love any hotel recommendations.
Here are some places or events we'd like to attend, please give me your thoughts or advice!: Chichibu Night Festival on Dec 3rd (this is a must), Mt. Fuji, Mitsumine Shrine, Ghibli Museum (i know tickets are hard to get but i have to try!!), Kamakura, Asakusa, and that's all we've got so far.
I'd love to know yall's favorite places to eat, hike, or shop! Me and mom would love to make crafts together and just try new experiences!
(Also any diabetics that have traveled to Japan, how did you find your experience?)
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2024.05.14 18:38 neurosmitter Looking for Venue Recommendations for Morning/Early Afternoon Pop-Up Coworking Meetups in SF

Hi everyone!
I'm planning to organize a series of pop-up coworking meetups in San Francisco and am currently on the lookout for suitable venues. The idea is to create spaces where people can come together to work, especially during times when some venues might not be too busy, such as mornings and early afternoons.
Here's what I'm envisioning:
Why Coworking Meetups?
What Iā€™m asking from this community:
Your insights and suggestions would be invaluable, and Iā€™d love to turn this into an opportunity for us to connect and collaborate. Thanks in advance for your help!
Looking forward to your recommendations and thoughts!
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2024.05.14 18:38 bakhtiyark How many foreign languages you speak?

Proficiency in speaking foreign languages is often regarded with a certain degree prestige in Kazakhstan. Numerous language centers exist, some even with direct involvement from embassies or consulates of the target language. Non-English courses are frequently affordable, or almost free. How come despite these favorable conditions for language learning, Kazakhstan is notorious for scoring poorly on English proficiency rankings? I see some improvement in proficiency among kids aged 10-12 but still unimpressive.
Share your experience of learning languages and ideas how this process can be facilitated or otherwise improved. My suggestion would be to stop dubbing everything, TV-Shows, movies, etc., no-cost - high returns, however since dubbing of Hollywood movies(with potential extensions) is seen as a valid tool to promote Kazakh language it's unlikely to become a norm anytime soon.
P.S. This poll is not meant for anything but curiosity's sake. Assume proficiency at a basic conversational level (B1 and above).
View Poll
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2024.05.14 18:33 Mad__Lib How do I stop being resentful of a low-effort proposal after 12 years?

I (35F) and my fiance (46M) just got engaged two days ago.
**Backstory: we have been together for 12 years. We have raised eachother's kids together. I call him my husband instead of boyfriend when I introduce him to people because boyfriend is such a lowly term to describe what we have been through. For the first about 5 years of our relationship, it was really toxic, we broke up for a couple months and my kids and I moved to another city. We got back together and changed so much to be better and are a very strong couple. Just giving you context of why he didn't propose in first few years as is pretty standard. We have been wanting to get engaged for years, didn't have the money to actually have a wedding and all that until the last year or so when I got a really good job.
For more context, on our 10th anniversary in Miami, I cried at the end because I really thought he would propose there, he could have chosen any pretty area really. When I finally said something to him, he said he felt terrible because he thought my expectations were so high that I would have to go to Italy or Paris for a proposal (lmao I have never close to indicated that). I laughed because there would never be a time we would do that until after our high school aged kids graduate, so that was really crazy he even thought that was a good idea or timeline. I told him all I care about is that he put EFFORT into it, that it is special and meaningful. In my brain, it was obvious, on the waterfront where we met by our house would be a great easy and free idea.
This last weekend was our 12th anniversary. I had hopes I guess but I'm so used to it not happening that I really did not think he was going to propose. More backstory: he is not a planner whatsoever. He is content living the same life and doing nothing more, no major goals, no aspirations, he does NOT plan or surprise or spearhead anything, I do it all. He is a good, stable, and caring man but I do have already built resentment that he #1 had taken 12 years to propose and #2, he just never does anything unless I hold his hand through exactly what to do. I lead everything and this was the one thing that he had to do on his own. Also, we were at the mall about 8 months ago and looked at rings, I showed him the very simple ring, the saleswoman wrote everything down for him.
The Proposal We had planned that Saturday night in Vegas we would go out for our anniversary dinner. But of course the planning was left to me. I chose Alexxa's at the bottom of the eiffel tower, on the terrace, directly looking at the Bellagio fountains. After dinner, we went in the casino. I was like hey look, you can go up to the viewing deck, then I was like oh nvm you have to buy a ticket and everything. We walked back to the hotel, he wanted to get froyo so we got that and went back to the hotel. As I am about to sit down to eat my froyo, bro says "I've been trying to do this all day" or something like that and then says will you marry me, and gives me the ring. Of course I said yes but I said a lot of "you're messing with me" at first because I thought it was a joke until I saw the ring.
It took everything within me that night to not cry and not ruin the one engagement night I will ever have. Since then, I have been filled with sadness, resentment and it's just triggering me a lot about things I already get upset about in our relationship like how I'm always disappointed if he doesn't do something or does it badly IMO. I've told him very nicely about all of this and he feels terrible. I don't want to be mean to him, I know he was nervous but he planned NOTHING. He told me that his "driving force was the element of surprise". Girl what? So he chose to wing it in order for me to be surprised after 12 years rather than put thought, effort and planning to do something special or sentimental. Would have been nice to have at least a single picture as well but whatever. I think this is hitting me so hard because it's such an indication of a bigger problem that I already feel. I'm not ever going to leave him over it but I don't know how to stop resenting him for this. How did he go from "Paris or Italy" to hotel room? Lol. Also, my ring is nothing like we discussed. Beautiful ring but it's falling off my finger, the setting for the center stone is about 3/4 inch high for what reason I have no idea so it just adds to how I already feel, can this man do anything without me?
Tldr; we've been together for 12 years, he proposed in a hotel room with not an ounce of planning. How do I stop resenting him and move forward?
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2024.05.14 18:29 Yawgmoth420 Center gauge lighting issue

My center console gauges are having some lighting issues that I was hoping someone here would know a fix for.
My middle gauge is always lit up, but the left gauge often dims by a large amount (can't see in day time) and my right gauge is either bright or off. The lighting changes randomly (right one comes on or off/left one becomes dim or bright) when I smack the dash or sometimes if I hit bumps, so I figured it was just a loose connection.
Pulled up the console and sprayed both ends of the connector with DeOxit but no change, although wiggling the connector yielded various results between the three of them.
Any idea where to go from here?
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2024.05.14 18:08 dennisa2511 The Ouija board experience that has been etched in my mind

Hi! I won't drag out this story, so I'll get straight to the point. When I was around 14 years old, I played the Ouija board game several times with my friends. We were all intrigued by it, especially me (which I now regret). Looking back, we were naive and foolish.
Let's begin. One day, I was with my friend in the park, and we impulsively decided to play Ouija. Why? I have no idea. We crafted a makeshift board using paper and a plastic bottle cap from the lid to mimic the real one. Placing two fingers on each corner of the 'board,' we began. I took the lead in speaking, as my friends were too frightened. I initiated the session by asking the entity to introduce itself, and then we delved into asking silly teenage questions about the future, like boys, marriage, and so on.
Soon, I noticed something odd. The entity only responded to my questions, not my friend's, which unsettled me. It dawned on me that it was reading my thoughts, providing answers to questions I hadn't verbalized, including detailed ones. When I asked if it could read my mind, it affirmed it could. The intensity of the connection was uncanny, with the bottle cap moving at a startling pace.
As time passed, the entity began directing the bottle cap toward my fingers at the bottom of the table. Despite our attempts to retreat to the center, it persisted, moving back rapidly. We continued questioning, but the entity only responded when my finger was on the cap. Eventually, my friend withdrew, leaving only me. At that point, the entity seemed to delve deeply into my mind, answering every fleeting thought. It even expressed a desire to join me in bed that night, prompting me to call an end to the session.
Months later after that experience, I attempted to ā€œplayā€ ouija board at home, but nothing happened. I've never encountered any paranormal activity in my house. Despite my youthful curiosity with the Ouija board, I've never before experienced an entity reading my mind.
I'm keen to hear your thoughts on this peculiar experience and thank you for taking your time to read my story.
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2024.05.14 18:06 Nessarra My castles look like doo doo

I've tried a 3x3 modular campus approach to rooms for my castle but then it feels cramped. I've tried using every available space in my plot for the castle and then it just looks like an asymmetrical blob. Maybe I'm OCD so if it's not symmetrical it doesn't look good to me.
The plot I've been trying to build on is one of the twin plots in the center of Farbane Woods. Maybe the plot is just too skinny to make anything that looks good? I'm really starting to doubt my artistic ability even though I always have ideas. I just can't seem to turn those ideas into any kind of reality.
This problem I'm having is just from using foundations and walls to create something that looks good before I start decorating. I know the decorating part can make even a lopsided castle look better but I'm frustrated. Should I do the campus layout (separated buildings) or one big castle? I think my imagination is failing me. And DELETING WALLS seems to take forever. I have to delete the middle part and then the two pillars. For. every. wall. Is there a faster way to delete walls?
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2024.05.14 17:43 FlanneryOG Choosing between two daycares

Hello! I am moving my two-year-old son to a new daycare soon because my daughter will be starting kindergarten in the fall, and their current daycare is too far away. I'm on the fence about which one to choose.
Daycare 1 is a corporate daycare run by the same company that operates the daycare we currently attend. Their center is smaller and a mile from our house, and they provide lunch and snacks. When I toured, the director seemed lovely and supportive, and the facility was nice. However, it was a little chaotic in the classrooms, and it kind of seemed like the kids were merely being watched, not led.
Daycare 2 is an independently ran center that is slightly farther away. (Think an additional five minutes of driving each way, although it is out of the way). It is also smaller, but they have an incredible outdoor space with big trees to climb on, hills to run up, and mud kitchens to play in. They go outside four times a day. The teachers have been there since the center opened, and everything was controlled when I toured without being strict or anything. I could just tell that they provide the right amount of guidance and direction without stifling creativity. The quality of care was clearly better. However, in addition to being slightly farther away, we would have to make lunches every day.
Tuition is about the same, although Daycare 2 is slightly more expensive, and they have more breaks in care than Daycare 1. They have a week off in August, for example, and pretty much take every bank holiday off. That's doable but not ideal.
I'm leaning toward Daycare 2 because of the quality of care, but I'm worried that my husband and I will be overwhelmed with making lunches, and that the extra driving and breaks in care will be hard on us. It seems worth it for better quality of care, but maybe not? What do you all think?
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2024.05.14 17:28 itsemmab What are we doing for toppers?

Iā€™m a middle aged professional and Iā€™m trying to dress more Power Bitch, or at least Coastal Socialite, not so much Business Lady. Itā€™s cool here so even now, I need a topper over my dresses and boots. I have worn cardigans into the ground, and blazers make me feel like the vice principal. Iā€™ve even tried arm warmers. Long sleeve shirt under a dress makes me feel like a kindergarten teacher. So far the best thing Iā€™ve got going is a cute white cropped denim jacket, but I need to mix it up. Any ideas?
EDIT: Not outerwear, more like something for a cool office or a breezy day.
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2024.05.14 17:25 MIY55 Is it safe to walk from the Newark airport hotels (specifically Comfort Inn and Suites) to Prudential Center

Is it safe to walk from the Newark airport hotels (specifically Comfort Inn and Suites) to Prudential Center
Iā€™m thinking about coming to town for UFC 302 June 2nd at Prudential Center by Amtrak . Looks like thereā€™s not too many hotels directly around the center or Penn Station already and the ones that are, are either sold out or over $300 a night. I was thinking about just getting a hotel by airport (specially the Comfort Inn) since. I was thinking of just walking to around the area during the day before the event and was wondering if these roads highlighted are ok to walk during the day time? I do not mind the 30 min walk Iā€™m just wondering if it would be a good idea. Iā€™m going to just UbeLyft otw home at night. Alternatively thereā€™s also the Hilton Riverwalk if you guys think that would be better, or if thereā€™s any other hotel around the area that you think would be better I am open to hearing.
TYIA!
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2024.05.14 17:18 Al-D-Schritte Opus Dei didn't (still don't?) allow family photos in numeraries' rooms: reflections

I remember in all the centers I lived in, there were plenty of pictures of JME, Don Alvaro, JME's parents and "Aunt Carmen", his sister around the place, but numeraries never had photos of their blood relations on display in their rooms. This rule must have been given to us when we joined but I can't remember now. I found this sad article in Opus Libros from a num in Spain who remembers an instruction came out from OD in the late 80s on this issue - no personal photos on display in bedrooms.
Opuslibros - Familia de Sangre.- Edu
The whole article is worth reading as it shows how Opus Dei's practices "detached" this man so much from his family that he didn't shed a tear when either of his parents died, and gradually lost all feeling for his siblings. He was allowed to go the burials of his parents but not the funeral masses. He makes the point about how OD's practices hardly line up with the 4th commandment to honor one's parents.
As for me, I took this in my stride as I had a deeply fractured and traumatic relationship with my blood family, which I had hardly begun to process by the time OD offered me a spiritualized escape from it. I would never have put up photos of my family anyway but looking back, the idea that we had photos of JME's blood relations all around but none of our own says so much about how cultish OD is. If I had had to explain that to someone outside OD, I think I would have balked at it or been embarrassed. It's disturbing beyond measure.
It also got me thinking about the other nums I knew. It's not like we chatted much about our families, but I picked up that a fair share had the loss of one parent as a child, two had alcoholism in the family, some had been to boarding schools, and many others were emotionally stunted by parents who were not emotionally available. So in a sense, it would have needed that kind of distance and family trauma to not care about the prohibition on displaying family photos.
What are others' experiences and feelings? Have the rules changed in recent years? Thanks
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2024.05.14 17:07 flibbertygibbetted Barely There

Barely There
I am 32 and I've been aware of my PTSD since I was about 17. Prior to that, I knew I had depression and anxiety. I have been in and out of therapy since childhood. Currently, I'm on some medications which do seem to help. Nevertheless, I am struggling against the current many days, feeling irritated and afraid of how dark/evil I believe myself to be. I don't want to hurt anyone, and am extremely careful to not offend others. But, I don't feel safe enough to connect much with anyone. Even my girlfriend of three and a half years, who I live with, still is liable to disappear at any moment, in my mind, because I can't fully internalize that she actually loves me. Or, I frequently feel backed into a corner like a wild animal, imminently about to be maimed or killed. There are no allies. Only danger.
Most of the time I coast through life, keeping to myself, focusing on my special interests to keep me entertained or distracted. I am aware of IFS and the potential to do more work on my own. Meditation and journaling are also there as potential tools. But, like many people, I am currently unable to afford therapy, or even a psychiatrist right now. I have so much medical debt from the last few years that I have to take what I gained from that period and work with it on my own.
I am troubled by this angry, defensive creature which contorts me in awful ways and isolates me from others. The depth of grieving still to do, as well as the fundamental damage done to me from a young age, means that I lower my expectations and am satisfied with having a roof and food and a job I can manage.
But I know that I am still a broken person.
I hope I can become so broken that the human gives up and something else takes over. Maybe that's happening all the time anyway. I don't know. But I know I am terrified and this creates a fight-or-flight response, when I'm not frozen or fawning. I seldom stand my ground from a place of centered compassion. I have those goals. But it's just an idea to me, most of the time.
Sorry to rant, but thank you for reading.
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2024.05.14 17:07 MBotLovesMushrooms How do I stand this up?

How do I stand this up?
I am putting in my first irrigation system, and did not expect this part to be so big. Here is what's going on:
I live in a trailer park and we have a shared irrigation spigot with my neighbor for irrigation water whenever the park decides to turn it on - there is no consistent time it is turned on or turned off, just sometime between 6am-12pm and 6pm-10pm. I work full time, and often the irrigation is off when I am home, so I want to put in an automatic sprinkler system to use while I am not able to babysit a hose. The irrigation water is very dirty and the psi I have measured ranges from 20psi-150psi depending on how many people are watering. I also want to use water from my sillcock to supplement when the park decides not to turn on water for that day. Also, my freeze line is 18 in. and I read the filter and backflow preventer should be at least 12 in off the ground, so it is measured at 30in high x 57in across. Here is my idea.
Water comes from the irrigation spigot, goes through a filter, and I have a shutoff valve after in case I need to use domestic water. Water from the sillcock goes through a backflow preventer (unclear if this is necessary) and I have a shutoff valve in case I am able to use irrigation water. These two sources join through a tee to a pressure regulator in case the irrigation water happens to be high pressure that day (the sprinklers I got are rated up to 70psi). I want to monitor the pressure in and out to get a better idea when better times to water are, so I have included gauges to help with this. From the regulator the solenoid valves will be supplied to two different zones.
When I put this together, it seemed very flimsy. It's not glued yet, but the center is still sinking because of the weight. Is this a good design? If so, what can I do to make this stand upright, or will the trench hold it after I fill it back in? The space I need to put it in only has 60 in of space available.
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2024.05.14 17:03 HuggyB_44 How would you guys handle this?

So I have been working for an independent P&C agency for almost four years now and focus/only get paid on commercial P&C accounts. I started in this industry after leaving public accounting with zero experience and my starting salary was around $50K plus commissions. The first year was rough as I didnā€™t know enough about what I was selling. Year two I moved into a call center where we sell commercial insurance in all 50 states on the internet. In the call center I was working pretty much three jobs. I was prospecting for my P&C book, answering the phones for the call center, closing business for the call center, and doing all my own quoting and invoicing. I did that for over a year and worked my way up to about $72K.
The company I work for has seven offices in the state and two are in my home town. So the idea was always that I would start out at our corporate office to learn and then they would move me down to my hometown to take over one of the offices and books from an older agent. Well about a year and a half ago I got called into the bosses office. The one young agent we had in my home town screwed up a $300K renewal and quit all at the same time. Because my bosses were secretly trying to sell the company to a giant conglomerate at the time they needed someone down there asap!
They called me into the office and asked if I would move back home and run the book down there. I told them yes as long as I was not going to be punished for the large account that we were about to lose that I had nothing to do with and as long as they felt it was a way for me to increase my income. They agreed and I moved home and back in with my parents in two weeks notice. However, before the move the president of the company told me he did the math on the book of business I was taking over. He told me that the book made $70Kish without the $300K account we were about to lose. Well fast forward a year and I sold half a million in premium last year but some how my W2 came back at $67Kā€¦. Thatā€™s like $15-20K less than what I was expecting since the book made ā€œ$70Kā€ before I got here.
I am beyond furious and really donā€™t know how to handle this situation. I left a house and a girlfriend to move in with my parents under the impression I would get an account manager (that part actually happened) and make more money. Now itā€™s been over a year and it seems like I agreed to take two steps backwards. Iā€™ve consistently sold $400-500K a year in premiums which should result in around an additional $8-10K a year in after tax pay.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I canā€™t continue at my current pay but donā€™t want to leave what I have worked hard to build.
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2024.05.14 17:02 13Sanely How to Build Peasant Typal EDH

So, I have a long-standing interest in and identification with the peasant ā€œclassā€ of people irl. I appreciate the underdog, the every-person. I think that the peasant type in MTG does a great job of depicting the humanity of regular people, and I love that, so I want to make an EDH deck that tells a story about the peasant experience as people with limited resources, who have been historically exploited, and have had to act collectively to take back power. See this article about Wat Tylerā€™s 1381 peasant revolt for an interesting example:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peasants'_Revolt
I am not sure what commander and themes I want to use to tell this story. For reference, here are all of the 46 peasants in MTG currently.
https://scryfall.com/search?as=grid&order=name&q=type%3Apeasant+%28game%3Apaper%29+legal%3Acommander
They are centered in red and white with some black and green, and a couple blue.
I have thought about going with Mardu [[Caesar, Legionā€™s Emperor]] to hit on the theme of exploitation (there are also some death matters themes among peasants) but I would love other ideas about how to highlight this unique card type. What cards would you include outside of those with the peasant type to flesh out the deck? Maybe some aristocrats that also benefit from the exploitation of peasants? [[Cartel Aristocrat]] What do you think? Thanks!!
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2024.05.14 16:54 Eastern_Repeat3347 The DLC tree, the Haligtree, and Miquella's Plan

The DLC tree, the Haligtree, and Miquella's Plan
I've always seen the Haligtree as one incomplete half of a whole that is made up by it and the Erdtree, which is made whole by the two in harmony. I think the Haligtree's warped, curling form embodies a half of reality which is crucible-like: chaotic, organic, spiralling, impure. And that the Erdtree embodies a half of reality which is orderly: rigid, straight, unchanging, bright, and pure. And that the overarching idea behind Miquella's plan is not to "create a new Erdtree" as many people think, but rather that the Haligtree was one step in his realization of the fact that a balanced order could exist by unifying two inextricably woven halves of reality together. This, I think Miquella realized the Haligtree was doomed to fail because he somehow uncovered this truth hidden in the land of shadow, and realized he has to go there to see through his plan. In the same way, the Erdtree is also appearing doomed to fail, as all of its reputation as being the one pure truth, and being infinite, are failing. I think this is because the true, balanced order of the world in Elden Ring comes from duality, and moreover duality in harmony. Wouldn't be the first time duality has shown up: D and his twin (embodying gold and silver, also connected to the DLC), radagon/ Marika, Miquella/ St. Trina but also Miquella / Godwyn (also likely embodying gold and silver). Before the last shot of the trailer, one half of the tree appears to be suffocating, weighing down, and bleeding the other. Specifically, the Haligtree half is doing this to the Erdtree half, and it appears both are collapsing / decaying together, possibly as a result of this imbalance. But by the end of the trailer, which appears to be Miquella's plan coming to fruition, the two are still woven together but in harmony - the burnt color is fading and replaced with silver (perhaps the other half will turn gold in the DLC), and the wound is mended with what appears to be a silver helix which reminds me heavily of Miquella for obvious reasons. But most interestingly to me, and in what is probably the most beautifully evocative visual storytelling in the whole trailer if not the whole game: the two trees are still woven, but the presentation of that final shot looks a lot less like one half suffocating and collapsing the other, but rather two halves - almost like two lovers holding and facing each other - embracing. Inextricably woven in harmony. Concepts of order and chaos, gold and silver, Erdtree and crucible, light and shadow, Erdtree and serpent, pure life and pure death - all actually different manifestations of the same concept of the need for balance. This final shot my friends, I believe is the culmination of the entire overarching story of Elden ring. After all, Miquella's character embodies a kind of magical simultaneity - he is simultaneously male and female, young and old, alive and dead. He as the final child of Marika alongside Malenia (also embodying another half of perpetual decay). He is the final step in mending the error of Marika and the Golden Order. His plan, and his fate, is to unobscure the land of shadow, and this will somehow relate to the death / true death of Godwyn (again, gold and silver). Reunifying the golden light of the erdtree with the darkened husk of the realm of shadow brings two opposing halfs together again in harmony. I think the twinbird embodies this same concept as well. The helix shape down the center of the earlier Elden ring in Farum Azula is missing in the golden orders version of the Elden Ring, and this is part of the story. A concept of balance and cyclical nature between opposing halves is incompatible with the golden order, and this is exactly why it is doomed to fail. I could go on and on, but yeah. Message if you wanna chat more.
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2024.05.14 16:50 FeelingsAlmostHuman Titan Island (hexcrawl)

A few weeks ago I requested help prepping a DCC hexcrawl and received a lot of excellent suggestions. To that list I'd like to add this great youtube guide which goes into the nuts and bolts of running a hexcrawl in a simple and matter-of-fact way.
u/CurrencyOpposite704 suggested I check out the hexanomicon, which was an excellent idea, in more ways than one. I'd been searching for inspiration for a loosely connected campaign. Which I found on the title page of the hexanomicon, which features a giant 'island turtle'.
The idea is that the party is shipwrecked on a large island that is much more than it seems. The island is a turtle-shaped vessel--a titan--built eons ago by a long-vanished race in order to traverse the astral seas, or whatever. When the party first lands, they have no idea that the island is anything other than what it seems. Centuries have passed; the surface of the island appears completely nature. Exploring the island, particularly the dungeons deep beneath it, will reveal the mechanical heart of the island, and thus repair it, if they choose to do so.
Of course, they aren't the only inhabitants of the island. They won't be the only ones trying to get control of it.
A quick image search led to this map, which works for me. I ran it through gimp and overlayed it with a hex pattern, and now I'm good to go.
I've already run the party through Starless Sea, which was awesome and really set the tone. I'm going to have them wash ashore in the inlet on the southern side of the island, with a path leading up from the shore to the east side of the inlet.
I'd like to seed the island with some adventures. From the small beach on the inlet is a path that winds up the cliff. At the top of the cliff is a painted sign that points north and south. The sign is a warning. North is death and south is not death.
South leads to the village of Hirot and the Doom of the Savage Kings adventure. Once the village is saved the party can use it as a base of operations to explore the island. North I'm not sure about yet, but I'm imagining that something dangerous lives in the swamp north of the inlet.
There are several other points of interest on the map I'd like to get some input on. There are the mountains east of the inlet. The scarred area NW of the inlet screams 'chaos' to me. What's going on it those chasms that seems to be killing the surrounding flora? Whatever it is is probably corrupting the wildlife and poisoning the swamp.
In the NE corner is a large swampy area. I'm considering setting Moon Slaves there, or perhaps even in the swampy area closer to the inlet. Really, I'm open to ideas, though generally I'd like the danger, and thus the level, to increase as the party ventures north.
Finally--and this is the part I really need help with--there is the mystery at the heart of the island. The large mountain chain near the center of the island contains the entrance to a dungeon that leads to the control center of the titan. The control center is guarded by sentient AI, constructs, clockwork guardians, and things of that nature. Perhaps corrupted over time. One idea is that the Patrons/Deities of this island are all different and conflicting personalities of the same fractured AI overmind. The keys to this dungeon are scattered about the island, encouraging exploration and making it so the party can't access the dungeon until the island has been fully explored.
Any suggestions with the control dungeon would be greatly appreciated. Once the party explores the surface and conquers the main dungeon, they gain full access to the titan. The campaign ends with them sailing off on the cosmic seas to future adventure.
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