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2024.05.14 22:17 Mammoth_Land_6818 AITA/ADVICE
I, F26, never thought I would have to write on here. I am a single parent of a toddler. (Dad is not in the picture at all)
I have 2 order step sisters, and over the past 2 years things have got a little rocky, and I just can't wrap my head around it. I am going to try to put both stories in here, because I have a baby shower to attend, in less than 3 weeks. We will call the oldest sister, X, and the other sister Y.
So Y, got married in September 2022, long story short, her best friend told my sister I was talking rudely about her, and my sister believed her. I asked my mom multiple times if I HAD to attend the wedding, and she said no. So I already didn't want to go, I was not in the wedding, I was going through stuff at home, and she didn't want my ex boyfriend there. I reached out and told her I would not want any pictures taken of me or my kid, and she got mad and started saying I was a horrible mom for doing that to my kid. Which really made me not want to go, so I didn't.
We stopped talking for months. Fast forward to April, our grandma has a 70th birthday party. Which I also didn't plan on going, (I'm not close to my mom's side of the family) and even then, I had remember right when the party started, which is about a 30 minute drive, I had slept late that day because I was up all night with my SICK kid, so I wsd very much tired. So sister X sent me a LONG paragraph, after the party, 2 pages long, stating that "the least I could do is show up to a party since I constantly drop my kid off with the grandma) which I found weird because when she's in town, she drops her kid off there? Plus I pay my cousin. Anyways, the message went on to say "I never thought you would grow up to be such a sh*tty person" and "your kid is going to grow up to hate you so much for this" "you are just jealous of me and Y" then she made a comment about my cousin (who us no longer here) comparing his death to my parenting? I still don't understand.
Okay so sister Y has apologize since then, but after telling me how horrible of a mom I am and that "it's sad someone with no kids can tell you're failing as a mom" but whatever, I'm grown enough to hear your apology and show up for my mom's sake. Sister X has not apologized, and my mom tells me she will never plan on apologizing so I just need to accept it.
So, AITA for not wanting to be around either of my sisters? And AITA for keeping my toddler away from both of my sisters? Also, please send advice about this baby shower I have to attend and face both of my sisters š©
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2024.05.14 22:14 PracticalListener Writers, how do you write NT and ND characters?
Since my recent diagnosis I've started to reconsider how certain behaviors I thought were normal (and therefore neurotypical) are actually more common among neurodivergent people than neurotypical ones. And, this is going to sound silly, but it's making me reconsider my plans to write and share stories. I'm afraid I'll start writing a character I've set up to be NT, but they'll be ultimately read as ND. I know a lot of fictional protagonists are outside the scope of what's considered "normal", and I'm planning to write ND characters anyway, but I also want to be able to write about people who fall within the norm without feeling "off". Does anyone else have a similar worry? If you're a writer, how do you write neurodiversity in your stories? I know I'm probably overthinking this, but it's been on my mind nonetheless.
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2024.05.14 22:12 scattergodic Dumb and Dumber ruined Loras Tyrell by turning him into a malicious gay stereotype
In the books, Loras was groomed into a relationship by an older knight while serving as his squire since age 10 or 11. He became so attached to this man that he chose to take vows of celibacy when he died. This is an example of a good, non-stereotypical gay character. Everyone knows that there are no harmful stereotypes of homosexuality being caused by grooming or child abuse.
In the show, Loras has a relationship with someone his own age and then gets over his grief when he dies and sleeps with someone else. They changed a good, abstinent gay into a stereotypical manwhore by making him have sex with one more person, which is enough to turn you into a slut.
Did they stop Loras from being celibate and becoming a Kingsguard because economy of characters in adaptation made them cut Willas and Garlan, making Loras more important as the Tyrell heir and the subject of the marriage plans? Was his sexuality made a greater plot point because all the storylines and characters involved in Cersei framing Margaery for adultery, such as Taena Merrywaether or the Kettleblacks, weren't included, causing the writers to include some other premise for the Faith Militant persecution? No, none of those practical reasons were part of it. It was all a contrived scheme to make his gayness the only thing that mattered.
Remember, the problem of a token character is not whether they are being depicted with harmful or offensive stereotypesāit's that their identity exists at all or plays any role in the story. I could talk about how they changed a tall and strong knight who was gay into a smaller, more effeminate gay man who's scared of fighting. But that's clearly less of a problem than what they did to his boyfriend, who was changed from a talented fighter to a talented fighter with a different storyline and on-screen sex scenes. Clearly a gay man being turned into a coward and a pansy is far less problematic than seeing another gay man be gay. We should be much more concerned with the latter.
In summary, the teenager whose trauma and grief from a pederastic relationship turn him to celibacy is tragic and nobly sexless, like the gays should be. In contrast, a young man with grief from a much more appropriate relationship who recovers with an intact sex drive and the gall to be a homo on screen is nothing but a useless token poofter. Learn your lesson, D&D, you hacks.
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2024.05.14 22:12 PossibilityLanky3829 I have never felt lonliner in my life
I'm 20 in a month and honestly I'm so lost. The fact that I'm even writing this on reddit just proves how far gone I am. The feeling of loneliness and grief feel equally as bad to me. I have a boyfriend I'm doing ok at university, but I feel that I have no one. I feel that I'm not as close to anyone as I used to be. My relationship is crumbling and was never stable full of hate, abuse, manipulation, mind games and i know i should leave but I love him so much and am equally at fault for most things. I feel like I give too much love to the world just to be disappointed in what I receive and I don't want to act like a victim I just feel so deprived of pure love. I have honestly tried everything in my power to work though all the problems but I feel like I've hit a dead end and will always feel this rotten. I dont want to hope and relay on the fact that someone will come into my life and love me the way I deserve, because that has to come from within myself. Its either time and slow growth that will make this pain go away or either I'll always feel this detached from the earth no matter what. I just want to be close to people I want to be fucking happy. Everything I've done I've been doing alone, I live alone, I sit and stare and the wall thinking about my emotions for hours and I'm not getting anywhere. I make art about these feelings at least I try with my limited motivation. I have so many issues and it's honestly too much. Maybe I deserve being alone maybe its a lesson or something I don't know but all I know is that it's the most painful thing in the world. This is embarrassing.
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2024.05.14 22:08 whatamidoinghere009 Is my recovery strategy okay? Can I restore a full DB back up, let the DB run in prod for a week, take transaction log backups, then restore the DB again with differential and transaction log backups?
Preface: I am a new sysadmin. My job title is jr sys admin. My background is basically tier 1 and 2 help desk, and VERY low level sql.
I just got this sysadmin job around 7 months ago. Prior to that I was working tier 1 and 2 help desk.
We do not have any DBAs on payroll. I am not a DBA.
On April 24th I did a change in production. The change didn't work so I had to roll back the changes. This included rolling back a sql DB. MSSQL Enterprise specifically.
I had to roll back the sql DB through Veeam. It took around 8 hours and right at the end, an error pops up. I didnt write it down, but it said something along the lines of cant locate MDF file or MDF file locked. Basically the roll back failed.
I didnt have time to try again. Well Veeam has a feature called publish database which basically just takes the veeam backup file of the DB and publishes it to sql server. Its not a permanent restore its more just for disaster recovery to minimize down time.
So our DB has been running in production like this for a few weeks.
Well yesterday, Veaam crashed. Which means the published DB vanished and broke everything.
Veeam doesnt back up published databases so that data is gone.
I predicted this would happen, so I took a full backup of the published database on May 3rd and kept it on the sql server locally.
Then once a day after that, I took a differential backup.
As of now I have a full back up from May 3rd and I have differential backups from may 4th - may 10th.
When the DB crashed yesterday, I restored my may 3rd full back up of the DB. Once that DB finished restoring, it started receiving connections and data was being written to it again. Again, Im a new admin so I was naive and didnt turn off the apps that connect to this DB. So I wasnt able to restore my differential back ups since new data was written to the DB once it was done restoring the initial full backup. Only the May 3rd full back up was restored.
My plan:
- Get a maintenance window going this weekend.
- turn off all db connections so I dont get screwed up again causing my differential back ups to be incompatible.
- Take a transaction log back up of the DB so we have the transaction logs for everything that happened on may 14th - may 18th.
- Drop the DB
- restore the May 3rd full DB back up.
- restore the differential backups I have from may 4th - 10th.
- Restore the transaction log file so it adds the May 14th - May 18th data that was written to the DB right before the maintenance window.
Is this possible? I'm not sure how transaction log back ups work. I was talking to a co worker - who also isnt a dba - and they think this wont work because as of now the DB in production has May 3rd data, and now since its live in production, May 14th data is being written to it and so on until we do this maintenance window. So there's this gap of data missing. May 4th - 10th was never added to the DB like I had intended on doing with the differential back ups but was unable to.
My co worker is under the impression that because there is currently a gap of data since I wasn't able to restore the differential backups today, he thinks there will be data abnormalities. He thinks that the data being written on the 14th and so on will be inserted into the rows that would normally have the the data that should have been restored from my differential back ups. Because of that, if I restore the differential back ups and then try to restore the transaction log data for later dates, that transaction log would overwrite the data in the differential backups. Or the application may think that May 14th data exists on row 1000 but if I restore those transactions into the DB after I restore the differential backups, now may 14th data exists on row 3000 so any application references would be broken.
Are transaction log back ups bound to specific row IDs or will they restore data into any row? I'm under the impression that transaction logs just contain data like "INSERT INTO names.listedNames (fullName) VALUES ('Bob Joe');"
Should I be fine with my recovery strategy proposed?
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2024.05.14 22:07 Altruistic_Engine818 Fleshing out Other unseen NCR Settlements
I thought it would be a fun idea to write out my headcanons for the other, unmentioned settlements/cities in the New California Republic. As a SoCal native, I thought it would also be fun seeing how some notable cities in the region would look in the fallout universe. Iāve only included places in Southern California because I honestly donāt have too much detailed knowledge about central/northern CA cities.
I tried fitting it in with the lore at the time of New Vegas in 2281, but there might be a few mistakes here and there.
San Diego Area
-Camp Pendleton: Controlled by one of the largest Raider groups of SoCal, cutting off entry to the San Diego area from the 5 Freeway. Uses restored Vertiberds, Power Armor, and APCs left over by the Marines after the war. Because of this, they are an extremely valuable target for the Brotherhood of Steel, though they have not launched a full-scale attack due to fears of high casualties. This, along with manpower shortages in the region due to the the situation in the Mojave, has prevented the NCR from conducting operations as well. Many in the San Diego area have discussed creating a temporary alliance between Settlers/NCR, the BOS, and the Temecula Super Mutants, though the feasibility of that seems a bit low.
-Escondido: Settlement located along the former 15 freeway and acts as a trade settlement on the way to San Diego. Population: 400. Facing raider attacks from nearby Camp Pendleton and feeling like theyāve been failed by the NCR, some local leaders have considered asking the Temecula Super Mutants to assist in a joint assault on the camp. Population: 500.
-San Diego: Though one of the founding states of the New California Republic, San Diego, now known as Dayglow, is severely underfunded and underdefended compared to other States. Some say this is because of its distance from the capital, others says its because of continued discriminiation towards Ghouls and Super Mutants who helped found the settlement. Despite this, it still operates as a thriving scrap hub and exports many of the materials used by NCR soldiers, vehicles, and machinery. Many smaller settlements still exist in areas farther from downtown, the most major of which include El Cajon, Chula Vista, and Miramar. The latter is the main NCR facility in the area, and has been requesting additional support from Shady Sands to help defeat the Camp Pendleton Raiders. Though having the threat of Raiders in the northwest as well as threats of increased radiation exposure from the Glow in the northeast, many of these settlements are some of the most advanced in the NCR due to the pre-war governance and technology maintained by the descendants of Vault 72. Located near Balboa Park, Vault 72 is the only known vault in the area. Though initially an experiment vault, like Vault 81 in the Commonwealth, its operations were cut short, in this case after a mutiny against the scientists and Overseer by the inhabitants, many of whom were Ex-military due to the Vaultās close distance to the San Diego Navy Yards. For the next century and a half, Vault 72 acted as a control vault. Eventually, its systems started to fail, and many of its inhabitants exited the vault in search of new settlements, bringing the technology and infrastructure found in the vaults with them. As the New California Republic expands, there have been rumors among NCR soldiers about restoring some of the abandoned Navy ships in the former San Diego harbor, though nothing has been completely confirmed. The Brotherhood of Steel also seeks to acquire former military technology in the area, but has been unable to do so.
Inland Empire
-Riverside: Home to āRubidoux,ā a mid-sized NCR town with a population of about 1,000. Located on the base of Mt. Rubidoux. The Mission Inn, located in the former downtown, is now utilized as an NCR armory and base. Possible plans to rebuild more of downtown have been discussed by local leaders, but not implemented. Vault 54 is located near Rubidoux on the base of Box Springs Mountain. It is a rare control vault with around 800 living citizens, and has been frequently trading with the nearby Rubidoux settlement since its opening in around 2245.
-San Bernardino: Took the most nuclear strikes out of all cities in SoCalās Inland Empire during the Great War. Due to this, Feral Ghoul encounters are common in the area, though their population has been dwindling in recent years due to Rubidoux settlers and NCR forces slowly clearing up the area, mainly to help caravans from the area safely travel the 215 freeway to reach high desert settlements.
-Temecula: Reclaimed by former Master Super Mutants into a small settlement, population of 50. Do not mind caravans using the former 15 freeway that goes through the city to reach the San Diego area.
-Hemet: Thriving farm town. Decently isolated from the SoCal sprawl, Hemet is relatively sleepy and peaceful. Supplies a decent amount of crops to the IE region. Nothing really interesting about it besides that. Population: 300.
Desert Regions
-Idyllwild: Used as a training ground for NCR soldiers due to its isolation in the mountains.
-Palm Springs: Run by the remnants of the Agua-Caliente, Cabazon, and Morongo Native American Tribes. Due to its strategic prominence, being south of the Mojave and west of Arizona, as well as its proximity to the Idyllwild training grounds and routes to Shady Sands, it has become popular with many NCR higher-ups, many of whom own second homes in the town. Population: 1,000. Vault 93: Located in the foothills of the San Jacinto Mountains. Experimental vault studying the effects of celebrity influence. A dozen celebrities were selected among the 900 civilians who entered the vault, where factions aligning with each of them divided up the leadership inside. No holotapes have been found showing what happened next, though it is to assume that whatever played out led to Vault 93 being opened and vacated. Though considered by the NCR to be repurposed, it sits abandoned, now silently overlooking the Sonoran wastes.
Orange County
-Huntington Beach: Inhabited by the descendants of the Children of the Cathedral, who founded a settlement in what was Huntington Beach after the destruction of the Cathedral in Long Beach and the end of the Unity project in 2162. Though they tend to keep to themselves, there are still some devout Unity believers who kidnap caravans travelling along the former 405 freeway in order to adopt them into the cult and keep the population afloat (They donāt have any FEV to make Super Mutants). Population: 100.
-Irvine: Largely an NCR base centered around the former John Wayne Airport, though there are a decent amount of civilians who have set up shop to cater to the large soldier population. The 452nd Battalion is stationed at the airport, though their numbers have dwindled due to transfers to the Mojave. This has made them unable to respond to the Camp Pendleton Raiders. Population (including soldiers): 2,000.
-San Clemente: A āGhoul onlyā settlement ran by wealthy pre-war Ghouls who maintain the area. Despite the exclusivity, it has maintained a population of over 1,000 mainly by bringing in other Ghouls from Orange County and the surrounding area. Mainly keeps to themselves though they accept caravans for trade, though less have been showing up due to the threat of the Camp Pendelton Raiders.
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2024.05.14 22:04 Mammoth_Land_6818 AITA/Advice
I, F26, never thought I would have to write on here. I am a single parent of a toddler. (Dad is not in the picture at all)
I have 2 order step sisters, and over the past 2 years things have got a little rocky, and I just can't wrap my head around it. I am going to try to put both stories in here, because I have a baby shower to attend, in less than 3 weeks. We will call the oldest sister, X, and the other sister Y.
So Y, got married in September 2022, long story short, her best friend told my sister I was talking rudely about her, and my sister believed her. I asked my mom multiple times if I HAD to attend the wedding, and she said no. So I already didn't want to go, I was not in the wedding, I was going through stuff at home, and she didn't want my ex boyfriend there. I reached out and told her I would not want any pictures taken of me or my kid, and she got mad and started saying I was a horrible mom for doing that to my kid. Which really made me not want to go, so I didn't.
We stopped talking for months. Fast forward to April, our grandma has a 70th birthday party. Which I also didn't plan on going, (I'm not close to my mom's side of the family) and even then, I had remember right when the party started, which is about a 30 minute drive, I had slept late that day because I was up all night with my SICK kid, so I wsd very much tired. So sister X sent me a LONG paragraph, after the party, 2 pages long, stating that "the least I could do is show up to a party since I constantly drop my kid off with the grandma) which I found weird because when she's in town, she drops her kid off there? Plus I pay my cousin. Anyways, the message went on to say "I never thought you would grow up to be such a sh*tty person" and "your kid is going to grow up to hate you so much for this" "you are just jealous of me and Y" then she made a comment about my cousin (who us no longer here) comparing his death to my parenting? I still don't understand.
Okay so sister Y has apologize since then, but after telling me how horrible of a mom I am and that "it's sad someone with no kids can tell you're failing as a mom" but whatever, I'm grown enough to hear your apology and show up for my mom's sake. Sister X has not apologized, and my mom tells me she will never plan on apologizing so I just need to accept it.
So, AITA for not wanting to be around either of my sisters? And AITA for keeping my toddler away from both of my sisters? Also, please send advice about this baby shower I have to attend and face both of my sisters š©
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2024.05.14 21:57 No-Energy7682 AITA for leaving my partner of 11 years and father to our two kids over inappropriate messages I found between him and my sister?
I (F30) found inappropriate messages between my partner (M38) and my younger sister (F22). There were a lot of sex and cheating related memes and actual messages they were writing to each other, they even made fun of me with my sister sharing āmy sisterā memes of an ugly animal in the meme and the both of them laughing at the āmy sisterā memesā¦ my sister says āI just sent the memes because it was funny but I wasnāt making fun of youā. When I asked my partner why he was posting memes about cheating when you have a wife and family at home he said that he just thought it was funny, the character in the meme looked funny.
When I confronted them about the messages I found they both said that they sent the messages and memes to each other because itās their sense of humor and they never meant anything more than what was sent in the messages.
My partner has barely taken accountability for his actions and how itās affecting me. He actually minimized his inappropriate interactions with my sister by saying things like āitās not like I was explicitly telling your sister that we should hook up or that we were in love behind your back or anything like thatā. He has also said āmy crime was a misdemeanor but Iām being charged for a felonyā
I told him that this is the final straw (he has done plenty of damage throughout the 11years - lots of previous issues with his alcohol consumption) and that I want to separate.
After telling him I want to separate Iāve been treated poorly by him because he is upset that I want to end things over something that is not that big of a deal. He said that I should accept his apology and forgive him because he learned his lesson from the hell Iāve been putting him through for being so upset over this. He wants to move on with our lives because itās not like he actually cheated on me.
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2024.05.14 21:55 slimesly Dungeons & Prefabricated Rooms
| Hey everyone. So, for the last week or so, I've been trying to find some procedural generation algorithms that would work for me and a prototype that's been in the works. After lots of searching, testing, failing...I landed on probably the laziest method I tried....Now, this is not to bash anyone doing something like this, or someone thinking of trying it. I just thought some people may find this useful when trying to find a starting point. The Issue I suck at math and wanted nice handmade *rooms* in our *procedurally generated* dungeons. Dungeon Outline The main thing that was discussed was using prefabricated rooms. We needed spaces big enough to fight numerous enemies in, as well as consider the fact that up to 4 players could be fighting in the same areas. The first hurdle was designing spaces that are fun, but could also be used as jigsaw pieces to combine with others. Now, I am used to doing 2D projects, and have never touched procedural generation (in 3D) until now. Here are a couple examples of the prototype rooms: Room module #1 Room module #2 A couple things to note about the modules: - Each module is 128x128 cells on a gridmap, the cells are (2, 2, 2) in size.
- Each module has the exact same exit/entrance locations.
Exits/entrances marked with red square The Placement Whenever a new dungeon is generated, it follows this algorithm: - Initialize the grid - create a dictionary of grid positions and starting values
https://preview.redd.it/cri5cbqd1g0d1.png?width=570&format=png&auto=webp&s=d4cf8b68db244f389afbc78d7c9dfa49ffb51291 - Walk through the entire grid and generate the "absolute path" - the absolute path is stored in a separate dictionary and is used to check against the entire grid later on.
- Start adding rooms - this is done using a class which stores grid position and room type. Whenever a new room is added, it is stored in an array.
Room class Add room to array - Once the generation of the grid and absolute-path is complete, we can physically add the room modules
When a module is placed in the world, there is a 50% chance it can rotate on it's Y axis at 90deg intervals. This only rotates the grid map as well as the props placed within the module. Since all modules have their main doors at the same positions, there is no need to try and match up certain modules or do any fun math calculations... Once the algorithm is finished, we have something that looks like this: https://preview.redd.it/soz4gl4e2g0d1.png?width=1142&format=png&auto=webp&s=ab075456f88a03482343c502a94efbb43b1ce7d7 This is working on a 5x5 grid. The far left module is 0, and the last is on the right - the lone module one space above the rest. terrible representation of the main path Once this is complete, we then check all the empty grid spaces and if they're connected to a grid space that already has a module, we give it a chance to spawn "filler" or "secret" modules. These are modules that contain small puzzles, chests, cool visual pieces, etc. Conclusion We have found this system to be very lightweight. Although it's not the most sophisticated system, it provides different enough dungeons that you aren't running into looping dungeons - so to speak. This example is only utilizing 3 prefab modules, and will be expanded to, well, many. What's Next? We plan on taking the system a step further and allowing sub-modules within each quadrant to be randomly selected. Since all of the main modules are 128x128 tiles, we can divide this into 32x32 sub-modules and have them "randomly" generated as well. full-module split into 4 The main thing next is cutting off unused hallways. The plan right now is to write some logic into the modules themselves that find either a cutoff point where walls should be placed in the case the hallway doesn't lead anywhere, OR, just adding walls where the door should have been. Either one of these would work, although the latter solution will mean stretches of dead-end-hallways. Considering that the image above is a basic test modules consisting of a square room surrounded by short halls, this may not be much of an issue. Additional Steps The major thing to consider here is performance. Once the world gets more detailed, more props are being spawned, lighting, AI, VFX, it'll start to chug pretty heavily. One upside of this system, is we've already divided the world into "chunks" - this being each 128x128 module. So based on player location on the grid, we can disable neighboring cells. The main reason we decided to test this form of generation, was the fact that placing prefab rooms then trying to connect them with path finding was a pain in the ass. So far, it feels pretty natural running around these dungeons, main exits/entrances on each module don't feel too "square" - I think this depends massively on how you design your modules. Sometimes we create weaving hallways into more open spaces within a module, and this combined with other geometry from other modules, makes it feel pretty cool. That's all for now, might make another post once the world is more put together. I happy to answer any questions and if YOU have any ideas on how to improve upon this, drop it in the comments! Cheers, bn submitted by slimesly to godot [link] [comments] |
2024.05.14 21:54 Ok-You-7696 Fuckā¦
Just ranting needed to get this off my chest lifeās just been eating me up recently
My stomach and intestines will not shut up and any slight movement they bubble and gurgle and whine itās been so long dealing with this 2 months of hell I finally had bms daily for 7 days and now this is my second day without one Iām tired of taking miralax I wish my doctor would give me a diagnosis for fucks sake I still donāt know whatās wrong with me and itās a constant issue I donāt have a life anymore Iām pissed I reckon whatever it is itās probably gonna get worse and kill me im assuming itās colon cancer thatās spread to the intestines I chew tobacco and use to swallow the spit when I was in tech school cause they didnāt allow it on campus Iām not getting any better if anything slowly worse each day idk what to do my doctors worthless heās done one ct scan and just says itās constipation Iāve taken miralax every single day for 2 months ate entirely clean and all the bullshit they tell you nothings even got the slightest bit better life sucks Iāve lost everything I wish I could drink or smoke away the pain but in fact it makes it worse Iām lost man Iāve been Christian for 2 years as well and even that feels pointless Iām just dead inside the only joy I have left in life is tobacco how sad is that the only time I feel somewhat happy or normal is when I put a dip in and I was even planning to throw that out before all this but now whatās the point my healthās fucked apparently wether I get mouth cancer or not heāll I wouldnāt even be typing this if I had someone to talk to but i donāt Iāve got one freind left and heās busy bros got his own life and Iām hella proud of him for it I was on track to do the same finally bought a vehicle got the job I trained for now I lay in bed listening to my loud ass gut and minimize symptoms I really miss life Iām thinking about just going back to work and saying fuck it just let it get worse maybe then my doc will actually take me seriously probably not but yeah my life sucks I feel like god genuinely hates me I take a step forward and he smacks me 7 steps back with a right hook Iām tired of pretending to be happy for people around me Iām tired of pretending that my cursed and all this is a blessing and I just havenāt found the lesson yet Iām starting to doubt everything and Iām going crazy sitting in my room all day Iām sure no oneās gonna read this or care even if they do I just need this shit off my chest everyone around me acts like Iām fine cause Iāve always been the type of person to laugh shit off and try to just man up my way through every problem but I canāt do that anymore thereās no more jokes and Iām half the man I was I use to have goals that were possible and I was reaching them I was doing good but here I am worse than I started but fuck it as is life I guess some people got it worse than me and Iām truly sorry that they have to go through any of it but lifeās a bitch and this is a cruel ass world it really makes me struggle with my faith if gods all loving why would we be down here suffering even if we followed all the rules and did our best just doesnāt seem right but itās whatever I guess
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2024.05.14 21:54 No-Energy7682 AITAH for leaving my partner of 11 years and father to our two kids over inappropriate messages I found between him and my younger sister?
I (F30) found inappropriate messages between my partner (M38) and my younger sister (F22). There were a lot of sex and cheating related memes and actual messages they were writing to each other, they even made fun of me with my sister sharing āmy sisterā memes of an ugly animal in the meme and the both of them laughing at the āmy sisterā memesā¦ my sister says āI sent the memes because it was funny but I wasnāt making fun of you, I swearā. When I asked my partner why he was posting memes about cheating when you have a wife and family at home he said that he just thought it was funny, the character in the meme looked funny.
When I confronted them about the messages I found they both said that they sent the messages and memes to each other because itās their sense of humor and they never meant anything more than what was sent in the messages.
My partner has barely taken accountability for his actions and how itās affecting me. He actually minimized his inappropriate interactions with my sister by saying things like āitās not like I was explicitly telling your sister that we should hook up or that we were in love behind your back or anything like thatā. He has also said āmy crime was a misdemeanor but Iām being charged for a felonyā
I told him that this is the final straw (he has done plenty of damage throughout the 11years - lots of previous issues with his alcohol consumption) and that I want to separate.
After telling him I want to separate Iāve been treated poorly by him because he is upset that I want to end things over something that is not that big of a deal. He said that I should accept his apology and forgive him because he learned his lesson from the hell Iāve been putting him through for being so upset over this. He wants to move on with our lives because itās not like he actually cheated on me.
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2024.05.14 21:53 Mobile-Career-316 Type me please.
ā¢ How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself. - Either agender and/or pangender. Iām also either asexual and/or pansexual. I live comfortably alone but have a decent number of friends that I maintain communications with. Onlookers seem to believe I am dating all of them (not all at once but individually depending on which one I am āclosestā to), which I take to mean that I apply no distinction between a friend and a partner (which I can agree with), hence the asexual/pansexual duality. Not really sure what this has to do with typing but there's a description.
ā¢ Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow? Yes.
ā¢ Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it? I had a whole paragraph here but I realised it was probably very NSFW so I've decided to remove this part.
ā¢ What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not? Iām an engineer, a mix of both hardware and software. I like the work of my job, but I donāt care much for the job or career part of it. I donāt have any career ambitions and would rather just learn the skills that the work can provide me and then move on to becoming entirely self-sufficient and only working for myself. I donāt think it's the other people aspect I dislike here as such, more the lack of independence and control over how I spend my time. That said, itās worth it to live on my own two feet away from disturbances in the house.
ā¢ If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed? I know I would be completely fine, as I do this regularly. I donāt think I feel lonely nor refreshed. I generally have plenty to do with my time and find ways to occupy myself, even if that involves doing nothing and resting. If Iām interested in someone's thoughts or feelings on a topic I will just message them without issue and I usually do this once or twice a day, but there are many occasions in which I will just be focused on doing my own thing and wonāt have contacted anyone.
ā¢ What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities? I do all kinds of activities, from reading to games to sports. Iām very good at sports and enjoy them, but I usually choose to stay inside over doing them. I think to an onlooker a lot of my activities could look more like work than fun, but I get fun out of them. You would be most likely to find me (or not) inside reading some kind of research paper or building a machine. If not that then youād find me playing a single player RPG/sandbox style game and if not that then youād probably find me meditating/introspecting. Youād probably only find me outside playing sports if Iād been asked to by a friend.
ā¢ How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate? Very curious. I research just about everything in depth and if I had free time I would research even more. Itās become something of an inside joke at work that I will come in and have some kind of new theory or discovery to share with the office about some random topic that has nothing to do with the last. I donāt think I have more ideas than I can execute, it's more that I have more ideas than I do execute. Iām actually not a very ambitious person despite my insatiable curiosity, so there are many occasions where I will do nothing at all. Aside from the theories I create from whatever information/topic I have been researching, most of the ideas I present to others are to do with having fun. I often create small games using the objects we have in our environment (like playing cards or checkers pieces) on the spot, improvising the rules as we go along DnD style. I actually was invited to play DnD once with a friend group but I was something of a nightmare of a player since I would come up with completely outlandish ideas that the DM couldnāt handle. I was never invited to a session again after that.
ā¢ Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be? Being a leader isnāt tied to my self identity at all, but it does seem to be the impression other people get about me. I have been told several times that I would make a good cult leader (concerningly) and that I always seem to end up in charge of a situation. I donāt really do this on purpose but a lot of the time I am the only one who will speak up and start moving a group forward when we are in a situation that calls for it. I have been told that I am quite a diplomatic leader that makes sure people get along, have something to do and feel supported. That said, I personally donāt like telling people what they should value. I am of the belief that it is their own choice to decide that. I will however help people by telling them the actions they could take in line with those chosen values. I also think conflict is quite important and I will only try to keep the conflict civil without ending it until both parties are satisfied and have conveyed everything they wish to. This also includes conflict with me, I dislike āsweeping things under the rugā.
ā¢ Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity? I think I am. I often feel as though my entire body is under my control and I am very intune with any physical sensations. I fear being paralyzed or losing mental integrity. This is the reason I avoid dangerous and reckless behavior that could result in losing control of my mind or body. I will not partake in highly āextremeā sports such as free climbing and I will not consume any kind of drugs to an extent that it affects my mental state, including alcohol.
ā¢ Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forms of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer. Iām not actually sure. I like writing stories and drawing, but I wouldnāt consider myself an artist. I am very interested in art and have been learning how to properly paint and create music on and off for a while now. I think it's probably similar to sports in the sense that I enjoy it but rarely choose it over another activity. I donāt really enjoy going to art museums, I find art to be subjective so interacting with it from such an objective standpoint disinterests me. A lot of my friends are artists and I support them in their endeavors.
ā¢ What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them? I donāt think about the past much unless I actively make myself do so to search for something there. I am very in tune with the present and am constantly looking out for dangers in my environment and observing people, but it's not my main way of thinking. I am almost always thinking about the future, both in terms of potential futures as well as what future I am aiming for. I have some trouble deciding on a future to aim for since all of the options seem so appealing and I donāt particularly want to close any of them off. There is a part of me that wishes I was immortal so that I could experience as much of everything as possible. This is probably also the part of me that likes stories and hearing the experiences of others since I get to understand a whole other world with its own futures in such a short amount of time.
ā¢ How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so? I will help immediately. Iām not entirely sure why but I imagine it has something to do with me enjoying solving problems, whether that problem is mine or anothers. I have largely minimized my worldly connections and needs so I often appear to āgo out of my wayā to help others even if it appears like it's sacrificial to myself. I donāt find it sacrificial to myself at all. I donāt need anything to be comfortable, itās all just building upon that initial comfort as a kind of āexcessā or āabundanceā. I could lose everything I own tomorrow and be absolutely fine. All of this to say, I donāt sacrifice myself for others, I just help them most likely because I enjoy it. I do not consider myself a āgoodā person for doing this, in fact I do not really believe in the concept of good or evil at all.
ā¢ Do you need logical consistency in your life? I think the fact that I immediately thought both yes and no for this question points to me not needing it. I certainly try to be logically consistent, but it's not the end of the world if Iām not. I think it's more important to me that I not be in denial about it.
ā¢ How important is efficiency and productivity to you? I do aim for efficiency but itās not very important to me. While I do want to make the most of my time in this life, if I donāt feel like doing anything then I wonāt. Iām comfortable with being unproductive and ālazyā for as long as I like.
ā¢ Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that? I think Iām indirectly controlling. I donāt use force to control people (at least not anymore), Iām more inclined to engineer the circumstances of a situation in a way that results in people choosing to move in one of the ways that I want them to. Nobody has told me I am controlling, nor do they seem to feel they are being controlled. I donāt really do this intentionally, it just ends up being the path that I go down based on the options I have available (perhaps I am being controlled by something as well?). Iām not sure why I do this but if I had to guess it would be to protect myself and others from being hurt, after all you canāt be hurt if the option isnāt even available.
ā¢ What are your hobbies? Why do you like them? See activities. My topics of interest are usually to do with people, nature or technology.
ā¢ What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses? I teach myself things. I always seem to find teachers/tutors intellectually suffocating. Outside of that I take any form of information possible.
ā¢ How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go? I break tasks down instinctively. I do like to plan out the whole project before I start but I have no problem deviating from the plan and improvising if I think of something I like the sound of more. This usually results in the finished project looking very different from the plan and taking longer than it could have.
ā¢ What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally? None really. Iām content with just existing. However, in terms of what I choose to pursue it would be perfection in all fields, having all knowledge and having experienced everything, as well as transmitting this perfection to everyone else so that they stand beside me. More realistically, Iām trying to buy some land and build a community so that as many people are under my direct protection and responsibility as possible. The world has many powerful people that are looking to exploit the innocent solely for their own gain. Iām not expecting a utopia but I would hope it would be more comfortable for people to live in than the insecurity of greater society. Itās nice to think of spending the rest of my days with this small community.
ā¢ What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why? As mentioned earlier, I fear losing autonomy of my body and mind. I think I would still be comfortable in this state as I would get used to it but I actively avoid it coming to pass. I donāt think I hate anything, I donāt think in black and white. Iām not even sure I think in shades of gray, it seems more like the whole spectrum of color to me. I mentioned I donāt really believe in good or evil. In the event that someone is judged as evil by the world I can easily look at them and find just as many things people would find good. Does this make me endlessly accommodating of the actions of others? Certainly not. Itās just a matter of managing a conflict of interests, which is not something I struggle with.
ā¢ What do the "highs" in your life look like? I canāt really think of anything that would fit a āhighā. I think the closest thing would be my family and my friends. Iām not sure why they are what comes to mind. I mentioned before that I would be comfortable with losing everything I own since I have discarded worldly attachment, but for some reason when I think of losing people it's not such an easy answer.
ā¢ What do the "lows" in your life look like? There was a time just after I had graduated high school and before I had moved out that I was highly depressed. I lacked any kind of purpose or direction in life and thought that I should have it. I also felt immense guilt over the harm I had caused throughout my school life. I believed that I should hide myself away from all life so that I never had the choice to take those actions again. It took me over a year living in this state to finally pull myself out of it. I discarded my need for a purpose or a direction and I discarded the need to be forgiven for the past so that I could live a new life. I discarded any other need that I could find as it is when a need is unmet that you enter a victim mindset, which is a mindset that I really want to avoid in me.
ā¢ How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so? Iām not attached to reality at all. I daydream very often but I do pay close attention to my surroundings while I do so. I think having extremely sensitive senses helps with this. I have quite a vibrant and detailed imaginary world.
ā¢ Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about? I would think about the same things I do as I fall asleep. In other words, Iād just daydream about hypotheticals and the future. Possibly not the future in this case as there might not be one but I imagine Iād be able to entertain myself endlessly in my head.
ā¢ How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it? I think of myself as having 3 decision makers. My rational mind, my sensory body/gut and my emotional heart. If all 3 are in agreement, I am able to make a decision very quickly. If 2 are in agreement, I will take longer to weigh up the options before I choose as often they will end up in agreement after I have thought it through. I will do the same if none are in agreement. In the event that they still canāt come to a unanimous decision I will flip a coin or roll a dice and go with the option that picks. I do this no matter how āimportantā the decision is.
ā¢ How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life? Apparently I donāt feel emotions in the way other people do (at least according to the people Iāve spoken to about this). I tend to recognise emotions through the bodily sensations they apply to my body, for example, I can tell if I'm angry by my body feeling hot and my jaw feeling tense. With reference to my 3 decision makers, this means I can only figure out what my heart is telling me by going through my body. In chaotic or highly sensory situations where there is not enough time or space to recognise what I am feeling, itās as though I am not feeling any emotion at all. I tend to think they are just as important as the other 2 decision makers when deciding things, as emotions are the basis for deciding what you value. If you donāt know what you value, you canāt determine what the best actions are for you to take according to those values, which results in nihilism. I think people would be surprised to learn that I consider emotions important. I have an almost entirely inexpressive face and a monotone voice which has resulted in me being called a robot quite often. In the times that I do have an expression, it is usually fake and done to make the other person feel more comfortable.
ā¢ Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why? No. If I want to keep the conversation going then I will intentionally disagree with them to see how far they can take their opinion and understand it better. If I disagree with someone, I will inform them of my perspective. I do not wish for them to agree with me to āappeaseā me, although I will understand if they make that choice. I want them to inform me of their whole perspective so that I can understand it. If they can convince me after all this, then I will truly agree with them. This is not always the case though, I can imagine times that I would pretend to agree with someone, but it would have to be āworthā it.
ā¢ Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why? I donāt think rules are set in stone. If I disagree with a rule and there are no meaningful consequences, then the rule may as well not exist for me. I make no comments on others' takes on that. I will challenge authority any time I want to. Whether or not they āshouldā be challenged depends on what you value in an authority, but for my case the answer is yes they should be. In the event I am an authority I would want to be challenged, it would be both an opportunity to test my ability as well as to exchange information with people.
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2024.05.14 21:52 YOBaBeBiBoBuYO .
It's really not going to look like anything special tbh. The Vocab cards would just be the Spanish word on the front then, answer on the back with an example sentence and a contextualizing image or clip on the back... if relevant.
But I wasted alot of time curating a personalized example sentence for (almost) every single vocab word I discover. Key word is discover imo.
Right now my example sentences contain a simple concept I already comprehend, atleast within the context of that sentence, for the word that I am learning to be applied to. Like my lunes card is Ā“Ā“lunes es antes martesĀ“Ā“. As I create the vocab cards I try to keep main vocab word part as the primary focus in usage and less that of the sentence itself for the sake of simplicity which means that the vocab card usually ends up as the first word of the sentence unless I personally see no reason actually care. Like another card I have that was luckily easy to make for desde is Ā“Ā“el imperio de mongol durĆ³ desde a 1206 a 1368''. Every example I create is with words I already know or do not feel a remote need to understand - to understand the sentence. but IDK. Also I'm more concerned with audio than I am with imagery though. But If I could make the back into a really simple clip and very quickly that would be nice, but I dont care about imagery too much as most of it is going to end up in immersion anyways. Sound matters for me though. Sound is really so i can read something out loud before I hear what it sounds like, which helps me make comparisons and judge myself while I flag cards to make filtered decks out of later. And of course, for words that I already knew before starting studying I do not even consider making vocab cards out of as it will be fluff. completely random words like maƱana or lanzar are weirdly glued to my head specifically because I have a specific memory with them. like for lanzar I watched a little game trailer and a text prompt showed up saying ''lanzar roca'' for this fucking kid to just launch a whole ass rock at a dude across a bridge. which is goofy as fuck. the game was called pedros adventures btw.
Also on the back of one of my vocab cards for the word 4th... I literally just put ''cuarto y cuarto'' fucking 10 times. because if you say cuarto 10x fast, it sounds like Squidward in Japanese which is fucking HILARIOUS.
But if I could imagine imagery in a specific way it would really just be for nouns and numbers... and anything that has a very concrete meaning with just an image. like for example, you could have a game where an image flashes on the screen and you need to translate that image in your head or if you want by typing it or speaking it out loud. And you get feedback for elements of the image relayed... but I haven't spent much time thinking about that kind of thing cos its not on any to do list, but it would be pretty cool.
its quite easy to curate examples as I'm watching these dreaming Spanish videos which is why id like to make some kind of sentence cards out of the clips. this is really because there is like a mix in my head between a sentence card and an example sentence on the back of a vocab card. Vocab cards are really the gateway for sentence cards imo. For any vocab card that has multiple definitions I need only create 1 vocab card for its primary use, and create sentence cards for its primary use and its different usages as I discover them through immersion. I can work out the nuance as I watch, read and write. and then as i immerse and gain enough vocabulary i will eventually bury more and more vocab cards and instead replace them with sentence cards. But of course, still using both in a balance.
And ideally, all of this comes from something I highly associate with in my head. As in English; for any single word and phrase and etc., I have in my subconscious a lil smth-smth associated with that word in so many ways that I do not even realize. But I do not care to understand the little neural networks, just as I do not care to actually develop some stupid ass grammatical understanding before I even begin speaking or listening. but only to just create a 24 7 immersive study environment conducive to an almost gamified consumption that gradually improves my abilities over time. Right now it feels like i'm just trying to make a build, and I cant even start grinding the way I want to. I have tidbits here and there but I haven't worked it out entirely.
And I do apologize if I seemed like there was friction between me and watching the dreaming Spanish videos when you had brought it up. it was just that as of now; everything I've been doing is just thinking of how to make this situation fairly seamless without needing any weird in-between steps just to do a single repetitive task. Like tagging and flagging cards is something you dont want to do manually, you want to do it with a key stroke or command. Books are easy to get, and I will be consuming the dreaming spanish videos now that I'm feeling how helpful they are compared to what I was doing before... Spanish dubs... alot of scrolling in tiktok... ALSO that one Spanish youtuber for chess called rey engima. He's like gotham chess but for Spanish which i absolutely love because I love chess and I needed a spanish way to consume it. Ive made alot of Spanish accounts for things and translated alot of UI into spanish. and I also downloaded urban VPN but i think that part was unnecessary asf.
But really the annoying thing was how to approach anki. also, that 4 hour video I linked is really just an oversimplified text book to just get a general idea of a concept. Which is all I care about. Things like grammar are terribly taught in classrooms and that video just goes about it in a way I really like, atleast compared to every other explanation ive seen. I planned to just do just 30 minutes per day on that video as I focused on other things. but I got caught up with other random shit and then I kind of just set that video to the side... which is why i only watched 20 minutes of it.
I am a really slow thinker, and things get to expedited when I get a foundation.
In regards to what I mean when I said 'gamified element'. I don't mean to say things like grind and such like this is some MMORPG. I mean gamified in the sense that I get some kind of gamified feedback or feeling in a dopamine inducing form that encourages me to do really weird things to lock in that I dont anyone actually does. Like if im at the microwave and the numbers are going down, im literally saying those numbers in Spanish as they go down because in the end the main goal is to entirely quit using English as a crutch for the language and reach a point where you need only convert your conceptualizations into language and vice versa i.e., other Spanish speakers. But gamified elements provide for me an extremely significant way for me to engage with the language that I also really enjoy... cos im a weirdo. Being able to see how long I've spent on each card and other visual inputs about the outputs of my efforts are also cool, especially if displayed in a consumable manner to increase my receptivity.
Anyways, hopefully I could at least give you an idea of what's going on in my head and what my goals are. This process has been poopoo stinky, and my brain is very poo poo stinky.
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2024.05.14 21:48 ScallionDue5235 Feedback on original song 'pretty lies' appreciated :D
https://photos.app.goo.gl/nrGWxfiVrGRQnrsJ6 I wrote a song and have the lyrics, rough melody, and chords. I also recorded audio on my phone with piano accompaniment (the link should work if you copy and paste in the Google search bar). I apologize in advance for the crappy quality and singing (I was trying to be quiet bc my roommates were home). I also got confused towards the end lol. Do you think this has potential? Any feedback is welcome!
Lyrics and chords: Dm You've got some nerve G got some gall C Didn't think to read Am The writing on the wall
Dm How many times G Of rejection C Will it take Am To learn a lesson
(Bridge) Dm I'm over you G I'm over this C I'm said I'm over you Am Get a grip
(Chorus) Dm You say you want forgiveness G For your crimes C Then turn around and say Am Pretty lies
Dm So save your pretty please G I'm ok C Get off of your knees Am Go away
Dm go away G c am Oooh dm Go away g Ooh C am go away go away
Dm You never came to pick up G Your box of stuff C Get a move on and accept it Am Cuz I've had enough
Dm. You say you can't move on G until you give it one more try C You tell me that your different now F and that's the reason why
Dm You say you want forgiveness G For your crimes C Then turn around and say Am Pretty lies
Dm So save your pretty please G I'm ok C Get off of your knees Am Go away
Dm go away G c am Oooh dm Go away g Ooh C am go away go away
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2024.05.14 21:48 tvchannelmiser Lead My First Writer's Room!
I recently lead my first writer's room as a head writer! I've been working on a personal project for a while and when we finally got backed and financed, it was crazy! I don't have enough experience to be a showrunner, so we hired someone else. However, being in a writer's room and not just a PA was mind blowing. It kinda felt like knowing how to swim, but now it's my first time in the deep end. I'm sure there are more experienced people on this subreddit with better advice, but I just want to talk about what I learned.
Context: Even though I can't say which show it is right now, I can say that it is for cable and is a 13 episode, half-hour drama. Including myself, there were seven writers.
1: Don't be afraid to redo the pilot!
- They say "writing is rewriting" and this couldn't have been more true for me. Once we actually sat down and talked about what we wanted the season to look like, the pilot had to be rewritten. The pilot I wrote had won a screenwriting competition and has got many glowing reviews. However, I'd be lying if I said I put as much thought into the other episodes as I did the pilot, simply because I didn't want to waste all that effort on a show that might not even get made.
My showrunner really showed his experience by pointing out the flaws in the pilot, not based on the telling of the story in the pilot, but the pay offs we wanted to happen later in the series.
2: Confidence, confidence, confidence!
- This wasn't my first pilot that has been picked up, but it was the first that had actually been put into pre-production instead of just being optioned again or being bought to collect dust in development hell. I was the least experienced in the room and it really made me nervous. People who had some serious skill were asking me questions about my story that I genuinely never thought about before. After our first session, I honestly thought I shouldn't even be in there.
I talked about it with one of my producers and she encouraged me to just do the best I can. After all, you can't really be wrong or mess up something that doesn't really exist yet. The writer's room was really a place for everyone to just figure out what was going on and the first season is always full of experimentation. As my confidence grew, I was able to talk about my characters and core themes with a lot more depth, like I had when I was talking to myself. This made everything way easier to write and had I just had the confidence from the beginning, I feel like we wouldn't have started off so slow.
3: Lean on everyone's specialty.
- I always knew writers had preferences in genres and writing pillars like dialogue or structure. What I didn't expect was how rewarding it would be to have someone prop up your weaknesses with their skills. I usually write alone, so having people help fill in for my weaknesses was great! Leaning into what everyone else does best kept things going at a good pace.
4: Try new stuff till it sticks.
- I had ideas for the show that flat out did not work. Looking at the overall season, some of the episodes we wanted to do, didn't actually add up to the type of emotional pay offs we wanted. Out of the 13, only 5 (including the pilot) of my original episode ideas actually stayed. We came up with a bunch of stuff that was great, but didn't really fit. In the end, some of our random ideas worked better than ones were were sure of.
Even after we got everything off of index cards, sat down and wrote the scripts, there were holes and weaknesses in the season that wasn't as obvious before. Always looking at the big picture and the pay offs we wanted was key. Don't be afraid to try something new if you think it can improve the script or season, no matter what stage.
5: Communication
- When we were ready to start typing, there were some people who wanted to write certain episodes and others who didn't care which. However, we found out that everyone has an episode they really want to do and some people just didn't speak up about it. My showrunner talked with everyone together and individually to make sure people were not only writing for the show, but writing something they really wanted to sink their teeth into.
Other times when people were "too quiet", he made sure to make those writers give opinions on the topic at hand. Sometimes they had ideas they thought were stupid, but actually were really great.
6: Be friends
- Yeah, you can't be friends with everyone. It's true. Even so, our writer's room really felt like it kicked into high gear as we all got to know each other. We talked about what inspires us, what we do outside of writing and how our lives were going in general. It made it feel less like a job and more like the discussion you would have with your friends at a bar after seeing a movie. Awesome feeling. We even attended one of my writer's birthday party were he proposed to his long time girlfriend. After that, writing felt like butter. It's way easier to debate and fix things with people you get along with. I can't imaging being in a room with someone for that long for months with people I don't like or don't know well.
7: Check the ego at the door
- This is something my producer told me and something my showrunner said up front. We all are going to be wrong sometimes. If something needs defending, defend it, but not to the point to where it may cause a problem. Honestly, I couldn't have written this season this well on my own. Teamwork made the dream work.
We are scheduled to start shooting the pilot later this year, so I can't wait to see what happens next. It's far from over and there's a lot that still needs to happen before it even goes to screening, so I hope everything works out! If you have had any experiences in writer's rooms or advice, I'd love to hear it! I just thought I'd share this. Happy writing!
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2024.05.14 21:48 Shadowchaos1010 My thus far successful writing routine, for anyone struggling with consistency
I'm starting off with some context and stats to give some more information on how useful this has been. I'd also like to mention that I'm a planner, so this would work best for those types of writers. It might work for discovery writers, but I wouldn't know. If you just want the information, I'll be bolding the first line of it, so just skip to that.
I tried motivation. That led to long stretches where I simply didn't write because I didn't "feel it." I tried pomodoro and that didn't work, because I got distracted too damn much. So I thought this up and it's worked wonders.
I'd written five chapters of my current project between the beginning of last December and the beginning of March, totaling 23,416 words. Since starting this new routine in the first week of April, I've completed seven chapters totaling 33,410 words. Just a little bit over a month to write the same number of words I had in three.
As for the process itself, it works like this:
Outline the chapter. I've been doing it like this: , where X is whatever number that specific note is, and b is what content it's actually laying out.
By the time I'm done, I have an entire chapter planned out, and I know how many things I want to touch upon in it.
Then I decide on a time I want to have the chapter complete by. My current pace has been because I'm able to say "I'll have one chapter done a week" and then stick to it. Five days writing, two days planning, repeat. The important thing is that, in theory, this approach is extremely flexible. You could do one a week, two per week, one a month, whatever works for your schedule and how much time you have. Let's just call this Z.
The number of notes you complete each day is 1/Z. That's it. Then by the time Z days have passed, you're done. Some days you'll write more than others (Sunday I got 657 words and today I got 1084), but the important thing is that you've completed several of the beats you wanted to hit (Both of those day covered four of my notes). You won't always have an outline evenly divide into your defined time period, so you can always make some days lighter than others (I was busier yesterday than today, so I only did three notes).
And if the motivation happens to strike and you finish early? Congratulations, you've bought yourself some time off. If you're not feeling it and can only do two of a planned four? You can always move them around. Six tomorrow, five over the next two days, or five tomorrow, four the day after that, and then five again.
So if people hear "Consistency is important" but there's not much on how to become consistent or "You have to find what works for you" but no plan for what works has come to mind yet, I hope this is at least a first step in trying to find whatever writing method can help you keep up a good pace.
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2024.05.14 21:47 Ace0fBats Making my own book about my special interest! (any advice welcome!)
Roughly 2 years ago I became incredibly fascinated by bats and everything they do. I started writing both general facts and detailed document on my laptop (notion). I painted some that I found pretty or especially interesting and bought all books i could find!
After about 1 year this special interest faded because the way i "interacted" with it felt dull to me... But I still get super happy when I see a bat, or someone mentions bats in any way during my day. I just absolutely adore them!!! I think I want to write a book about this special interest of mine, not only about bat facts but also about how they've helped me get through life, what they mean to me. I don't plan on publishing, because I am not a professional by any means, just an obsessed 18 year old with google, books and documentaries lol.
Would this be a good idea? And if so, are there any question or topics (etc) that I should include in this book? I'm open for all suggestions!!! Also if you've done something like this please share your experience with me, i'd love to hear all about it!
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2024.05.14 21:47 dragonshouter The shaman of Muck returns( end of spirit conflict sub event)
| NOTICE: This was taken from a group chat with the participants. u/AnActualCriminal , u/avamir , u/HalfDrowShaman , u/DragonWisper56 . That's why it is weirdly formated; I tried my best. The party enters the spirit world, that land of infinite mist where concepts have form. Last time the group had discovered the location of the Exalted beacon and now they can see the spirits domain on the horizon(?). The domain of the of the spirit is a shining citadel made of crystal and marble. There are lines of silver and gold throughout the whole compound. Light radiates like miniature sun. In place of a sun or moon floats a giant metallic eye... watching. As the party arrive they notice something, there are no shadows in this realm Crispin: *Crispin is jostled awake by Ichor and spills out onto the ground covered in tar.* "Eugh. What? Oh yeah. Exalted Beacon. Shit tracks." Riva: Riva seems... ill at ease, guarded. Crispin: *Crispin looks at the giant metal eye for a bit too long.* He get's sunspots Riva: "Don't look into the giant lights, imp." Riva lets out a loooonng sigh. Agnur: Agnur weaves illusion around them it would be bad if they were spotted Drow: *the drow casts soul shadow and light eater to give herself some magic sunglasses* Riva: Riva just squints. "Do we attempt to kill everyone, or do you think there's a possibility of converting them back from... this?" She gestures vaguely. Agnur: They took our friend, they made their choice Riva: "I tend to agree with you. But at the same time... killing the zealous because of the new religion they picked up isn't the greatest look."10:33 AMRiva makes some... warding circle shades? and places them on her face. Crispin: "Let's fucking defile this place. Stupid giant sexy eyes blinding me." Riva: Riva grimaces at the whole "sexy eyes" thing. Ugh. "Works for me. Let's do this." Agnur: regardless of sexing eyes how are we going to get in? As the party walks up up to a tall wall around the citadel. Drow: I can just walk up this Crispin: "I can fly. Lookit." *He does, in spite of his wings looking like one of those oil spill ducks from a Dawn ad.* Drow: *the drow walks up the walls casually* *she makes it to the top and then shoots some ephemeral ropes out of her armor, tethering them to the wall* Riva: Riva takes a rope and begins climbing up... in a manner like Adam West Batman, admittedly. But she isn't going to ask for a memory from Crispin so she can teleport up. Agnur: Agnur climbs up Ichor: *Ichor slorps up a rope with peculiar viscosity as Crispin lands at the top.* The group looks over the wall As they do they notice how...still it is. Nothing is out of place, there is no dirt or dust, no noise or bustle. Only silence except for a few sentries. Moving through the streets are some weird creature. It is like a shadow except shadows don't exist here. The aren't light however, just not shadows. Silver "shadows" will do for now; they stalk the streets. On top of towers however sit zealot priests in pale robes, watching Drow: "sentries. Some kind of... Silver shadow monster..." "you wanna go in hot or cold guys?" Crispin: "I can make a distraction. Gotta call in a debt though." *Crispin rattles a bag of teeth.* Riva: "They don't seem to be tethered to the priest but they seem kinda similar to the undead type shadow. There is something soul adjacent about them. Probably touching you does some sort of damage to your spirit." "I wonder whether killing the priests would rid us of the... spirits." Crispin: "Guys I think we're being too thinky here. These are order guys right? All this strategy plays right into their hands." *He rattles the bag again.* "C'moooooon." Agnur: I mean it would give us some cover... Drow: "why don't I just sneak ahead and try to grab one of those guys first" "just make sure I have backup" Riva: "That works for me." Drow: *the drow begins sneaking along the wall as best she can towards the nearest priest tower* Ichor: *Ichor clings to the outside of the top of the wall, trailing behind Drow.* Drow is able to sneak up the tower un-noticed. The guards are spaced out because they have a giant eye in the sky( literally). She gets behind the guy and hear muttered prayer. *the drow does a series of actions in rapid succession. First she creates a bubble of mute, then she taps the man on the back making him go blind and deaf, and finally she grips him by the neck and begins choking him out* Drow: [do we want this guy alive or dead?] []= telepathic cummunication Agnur: [he can't talk if he's dead. lets get information first] Drow: [ok let me disable him...] *the drow touches two hands to the man's head and begins dripping horrors into his mind until he passes out from fear* [ok. What do you guys want to ask him?] Agnur: [what the fuck is he and what does he do. we need to know how dangerous he is] Crispin: [Where's our boy? And do these shitheads know we're coming for him?] Drow: [ok! I'll try the normal way first, if he doesn't comply I'll kill him and ask his soul] *the drow creates an illusory similacrum of herself and places it inside the man's mind, she asks his inner consciousness the following questions and listens for his answers* "hey guy, who are you?" "You will pay infidel!!! The great and glorious Exalted Beacon will end you! Their (he goes into like a thousand titles and compliment I am not writing) will force you to kneel before them. All shall kneel before them so sayth their loyal preist and servant Atticus!!! Drow: what does this exalted Beacon look like Exalted Beacon is beautiful a statuesque, thirty feet tall, being made of the most stunning marble, crystal and precious metal. Their voice is a chorus, their eyes are brilliant rubies. They have a mosaic halo of gold with eyes on it. They also float above the ground because they are to good to tred upon it. The rest is repetitive praise Drow: *within the zealot's mind he sees the drow prance about, threatening him. Then he sees the exalted beacon launch a bolt of light through the sky, exploding the simulacrum of the drow**the exalted beacon stands tall in the distance and booms at him*"I have come to save my loyal servant" "tell me thy purpose servant, so I shall have it known" (this is an illusion) "Thank you my master! I am but a mere secondary sentry, but one of the ones that joined you willingly unlike those plebian villagers. ( he just continues blubbering thanks) Drow: "good! And have you been enjoying the powers you have been granted? Describe your abilities to me, compare yourself to your cohort" "you have done well. If you are worhty I shall grant you more powers" Thank you lord. You have granted me the ability to smite those in your name with radiant light. I could fight toe to toe with the lowest of mages. I am slightly above average amongst my cohort but I serve well enough guarding the domain. I am also tasked with commanding the Vestiges of Shadow you have given me. Like hounds of war they hunt down the non-believers and drain them of energy before I can bring them to you. Drow: "I see. How goes your training with the vestiges of shadow? Tell me every relevant detail about them" Riva: Riva waits expectantly for him to spill the beans. Of course master. They are made from the shadows of your prisoners at the throne. Screaming you praises for all eternity. This torment shatters there soul to create these vestiges in place of their shadows. From then on they act as loyal servants and drain the disgusting essence of show from a persons being. Without you intervention a person could not survive long without it. That shadow needs to be replaced with your energy to remain among the living. Drow: *the drow relays this information telepathically* Riva: [ "I wonder if their shadows, and parts of their soul, can be returned to them." "Another idea. Can you mimic a vestige, Drow? We are terrible nonbelievers, and you could bring us to this being. Once we have a way of dispelling its power, of course."] Drow: [yes, I should be able to mimic one][he also mentioned the eternal torment of the civilians was how they separated their souls to make the shadows][if we disrupt that maybe we can have them despawn without killing the guy] Riva: ["He said he drained the non-believers of energy before bringing them to this being... so if we can get in, perhaps we can disrupt this ritualized torture, and perhaps that would rid us of the vestiges? And perhaps drain this being of power."] Drow: [yes my thoughts exactly. Now, for the last question]"servant Atticus. Tell me where kyrgrin is now." Your most hated prisoner? At he very center of the citadel where you can keep an eye on him. Riva: After relaying the information telepathically, Riva might ask Drow to ask whether Krygin was being used as a power source. Perhaps word it as some sort of test for Atticus. "Remind me, my servant... What treatment is Krygin receiving?" (Or something along those lines) No your holiness. The prisoner's magic is incompatible with ours. You bound him everyway you could so he couldn't conspire against you. You worried that killing him wouldn't be permanent enough for your plans. Wizards have escaped death before and that welp is harder to kill than a cockroach. He is to be bound until the universe ceases to exist. Riva: Riva makes a quiet, "Hm." And considers. Crispin: "Checks out. He's not a powerhouse but last we saw him a fucking bomb was turning him into a puddle. Krygin's hard to kill." Agnur: It was a fucking black whole....I love that little guy Riva: "If this being is using his power to bind Krygin personally, I wonder if disrupting his power will free Krygin. Now to figure out how to disrupt this being's power." Agnur: I mean if we mess up the palace it could help, or at least distract it Crispin: "They're spirits, yeah. Purity. Order. The grosser and more chaotic we are the better." Agnur: should we call in crispin's debt Riva: "Ah! Yes, that would... ha. That would definitely do it. Ha ha." She had neglected the symbolism of things. And if anyone could make a mess, it'd be Crispin. Riva + drow: With the questions done, and Atticus disposed of, Team Kryginator decides to move closer to the goal. Using Drows abilities at illusion, she feigns being a Vestige bringing the group (who pretend to be tired so to look like their energy is drained), and move closer into the area where people are being kept. [now crispin!] Crispin: *Crispin rips open the pouch the way he opens most things. Tearing it open upside down like a dysfunctional kindergarten with a bag of dorritos, completely ignoring the draw-string.* "Been playing a lot of poker in my down-time..." *Teeth clatter onto the ground. Dozens. Each one with a name in low Sylvan etched onto it. They transform into tiny pallid creatures with gangly limbs, dragonfly-like wings, and rows upon rows of needle-like teeth.* "I've been winning." *The tooth fairies scatter, each one set on either harassing a guard or knocking over something expensive.* The giant eye focuses on the distraction and the party feel the energy of the domain shift aggressively. The tooth fairies will likely be driven off but it will certainly distract everyone. Guards from across the citadel converge in this area. The group moves at a light jog; *Crispin strolls languidly until Ichor picks him up and moves at a better clip* *the drow vestige leads the pack hoping that the other guardians will let her through* The party charges through the gates. The guardians are too distracted to pay close attention to the vestige and entourage Agnur: Agnur cuts himself and draws runes of corruption on the wall ever once in a while. The runes cause the walls to pucker like wounds as the natural energies of this place try to fight off the intrusion. Ichor: Ichor leaves a trail of tar The party sees the prisoners as they reach the "throne room". It is like a giant colosseum like structure. The Exalted Beacon floats in the center eyes closed; it hasn't noticed you. Around the room are hundreds of people in various states of torture such as having silver bars impaling someone. The blood runs like rubies in here. It should be discussing but something makes it beautiful. All of them ar screaming praise and begging for release. The influence of this place is makes what should be discordant noise into a choir. Silver shadows prowl but currently accept you as prisoners. Patrolling a silver shadows with priest overseeing them. Drow: Drow sneaks behind a priest while invisible. *the drow tries to grab him and swiftly stab him in the heart. She plans on taking his form and turning him invisible simultaneously* A invisible body drops down quitly. *for now, the drow simply takes her post and waits for the right time to issue some more interesting commands* Riva, Ichor and Crispin hide. Crispin is in the form of a rat Agnur: Agnur activates his Teumessian pendant and starts sneaking around. when agnur reaches one he tries to club them to death as quietly as possible. His pendant warps fate so no one is looking; he bashes a mans brains in and tries to hide the body. He dies before he can scream Crispin: *Crispin transforms, shrieking at the top if his lungs like a baby on fire, lugung at one if the priests. The shriek is pitched and sustained specifically to counteract the choire-like atmosphere of the room.* The blood sprays across the room. Drow: Drow gives the shadows contradictory orders to confuse them Riva: Riva concentrates, and draws a circle. Unlike the vast majority of ones she done, however, this is strangely... green? This is very much not her affinity, but she knows the basic forms. And from this circle, she calls on the Alseid clans of the Earthen planes. Unlike a fire elemental, she doesn't bind it to her will directly, but rather asks and *pressures*.*If successful, some of these looking dudes/dudettes/etc. bound from the circle. Riva would direct them to release the hostages, Unbinding them from Thews of Earth (silver), and heal them." The Alseids have a green glow which pushes against the natural energies of the citadel. Asleids( nice earth elemental adjacent dudes) The Exalted Beacon starts to wake from it's trance. As this is happening Agnur notices a false wall of crystal which he deduces Krygin is behind. Agnur: Teleports over to the wall but finds no way of opening it. Drow: *the drow continues concentrating on the shadows, trying to get them to help break more chains* *she drops her illusory shadow and instead creates a bubble of sensory deprivation around the exalted beacon* *trying to stall it's awakening* The "shadows" help confused but do so. Some blink out of existence as they free the human they were made from. Ichor: *Ichor spews themselves as much as possible. Spattering the room.* Agnur: I summon bram and he starts hitting the wall with the force a earthquake. I impower him. The crystal starts to break but it accelerates the Beacons notice Ichor: *Ichor readies to surge at the beacon like a geyser the instant it becomes aware. They're likely not strong enough but they can hold attention.* Drow: "Someone get a big portal ready! We gotta get kyrgin and these civs out" *she mentions the civs to appease the others but does not care at all about them* Agnur: Agnur takes bottled rage and pours it into bram to increase his attack power A red glows around Bram and his blows triple in power. Soon the wall will break. The Beacon wakes and tears through the illusion and the halo flares! "Who intrudes on my domain" Riva: Riva tries to portal the civilians out of the crumbling tower, back to somewhere outside where she's been before. It's a little strange in this realm, but she shuffles them out as quickly as she can. And has one of the Alseid's go out with them to try and heal the wounded and keep them moving. Riva gets ready to crank out a bigger gate for Krygin... The civilians try to escape as quick as they can. Every peson saved seems to dim the Beacon's glow Ichor: *Ichor surges forward and Crispin lights the tar with a firebolt. A geyser of flaming tar would slam into the Beacon like a locomotive.* The Beacon slams against the other side of the room but grabs at Ichor. It's touch burns( though because Ichor likes fire it is more of an acidic burn) "Do you Challange a god!!" Drow: *with all the civs freed, the drow releases her other illusions and pulls out her spell grenade launcher. She launches a ball of incendiary darkness at the pillar* Agnur: I enhance the runes I places around the castle to weaken it The darkness slams into the wall and it shatters and the walls shake as the walls start to corrupt Ichor: "BalaNCE MUsT bE rEStOReD!!!" No one but Krygin really speaks primal tar, but that's what they say Crispin: *Meanwhile Crispin is saying every swear word he knows at the top of his lungs. Every obscenity. Every vile act one can do to a hole. Fulness and impurity of another kind.* As the smoke clears Krygin is revealed. Krygin "sits" boneless with silver chains around his wrist. He sits in a circle of salt surrounded by a circle of pure water. Agnur: Agnur uses a piece of Sorrowsore to pollute the water The Beacon begins shooting flashes of divine energy at Ichor while a translucent "reflection" of it appears before the rest of the group and punches the ground before disappearing Drow: *the drow goes invisible and prepares to bolt. She leaves behind 3 illusory duplicates to continue fighting* Ichor: *Ichor can't take much more. They try to hurl the Beacon into a wall and retreat. Too much Tar has been used up.* The Beacon is slammed into the wall leaving a crater. The beacon begins to charge up a divine blast. Riva: *Riva kind of... kicks some corpses over at him(Krygin)? Can he eat that? Us that to reconstitute himself? while she redirects the Alseids to poop on things, kick over the salt, and piss into the pure water.* *Kicks corpses at Krygin. She'll try and open a portal once he's able to... uh... move? Slither?* As soon as Krygin can slither he slides forward a a burger on grease and swallows the corpses whole like a a snake. Bones shift under skin. He isn't 100% but he can walk now Crispin: "I missed this repulsive fucker." Drow: *the drow runs next to the portal and launches an ephemeral rope at kyrgin, grabbing and pulling him like a child down a slip and slide to the portal* *her other clones try to distract the beacon while she does" Krygin: "Wait what?! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH" Several reflections of the beacon strike at illussions. Shattering the area around them Ichor: *Ichor doesn't have time to grab a corpse. Headed for a portal. Crispin grabs some deer poop, ignites it, and throws it before fleeing.* drow: *the drow grasps the weird slime creature they just saved and falls backwards through the portal like a trust fall* Agnur: Agnur summons up all his rage greif and desperation from the past while and pours it into a curse. calling favors from fae, demon, spirit and monster he brings rot and decay to the pure. bram carries him out Riva: *Riva keeps the portal open until everyone is out, then tries to snap it shut. At the last second the beacon grabs the portal; not magically just pulling reality open but then Agnur's curse hits them like a truck. So hard in fact that a small piece of crystal fractures. The Beacons cries in pain and the portal closes. Drow: Hey job well done guys. Where are we riva? *the drow immediately takes out some tea and begins sipping*. They were in an Ithicar hospital. Ichor: "LAWyeR. ArE yOU All rIGhT?!" Krygin: Krygin shakily stands. "I'm ... free. I'm free. I'M FREE!!!!" He tries to jump for joy but hurts himself. He gives Ichor a goopy hug Riva: Riva thanks the Alseid's in greek, and they make appropriate polite noises in their ungulate sorts of ways, and disappear. Drow: Hey krygin, nice to meet you. I'm your savior, the Drow. Krygin: The just looks at drow with the placid expression of a frog. "Sure, I'm used to dealing in favors" Drow: *score, the drow thinks* Also Riva. You owe me too! The rest of you... We should get drinks later Crispin: "Waaaaay ahead of ya." Pulls out a bottle of medical alcohol and drinks Drow: *the drow taps his alcohol bottle with her tea vial* Riva: "Sigh. I'll add it to the tab." Krygin: "I... must... throw a feast!" "You are all invited!" Riva: "Glad to see you back, Krygin." Krygin: "I'm glad as well Riva Crispin: "You just ate a corpse!" Drow: Don't act like you've never eaten a corpse crispin. I know I have Crispin: "Not a whole one! I'm small!" Riva: "There is much to catch up on." Riva doesn't mention the Pact being mostly empty, and Krygin probably being the only one left to fill a position, EON, Belial's disappearance and reappearance, the assault on Lemarcia, etc. etc. Krygin: (he needs to catch up on so much. He doesn't even know about sorrowsore!) "Yeah, I was gone for a long time" Agnur: "we're just glad your back." He says as he rest a kind hand on Krygin's shoulder El Fin /uw Here's a big shout out to the players of this post! They were great. I can't belive Krygin's been gone for two months!!!! I was going crazy!! Also not kidding about the feast. In a few hours of posting this. submitted by dragonshouter to wizardposting [link] [comments] |
2024.05.14 21:44 Less-Service-4882 Iām not getting prioritized in my marriage
Sorry English is my second language so please donāt mind the mistakes. We got married 5 years ago and moved to Canada 3 years back. We just got engaged and did the marriage registration very simple. Did throw a wedding which was one of my dream. Iām now 27/F (22/F when getting married) and my husband is 32M years older than me. I didnāt travel anywhere and I was in university when I got married. I was not mature enough when I got married, it was sudden since we were moving to Canada. But we were in relationship for about 3 years before marriage.
He doesnāt help me alot on household stuff. But when it comes to outdoor work where others can see like lawn mowing he doesnāt let me do them. But I do mow the lawn often since he doesnāt care majority of the time. Oh also he blames me for almost everything. I feel really hard to say my points during our fights too.
Heās a mommaās boy and I feel like he prioritizes his family over me. This happened yesterday: Me and my husband did budgeting for this year. We are doing some renovations in the basement so that we can rent the place since we are planning to get pregnant this year and it would help us financially. I was telling him for a long time that we should go on a vacation somewhere closeby like Cuba, Mexico, Dominican Republic since we wonāt be able to travel for a while after baby also this is our 5th anniversary year. In the budget we have included flights tickets for his parents for 5000 for this year. And also they are going to visit us again next year if we get the baby.. my husband didnāt even include our vacation plans in the budget until I say him also he didnāt estimate any amount for it and seems like that he didnāt care snd it was not a priority.
Last month we sat and spoke how much this vacation means to me since we didnāt do a wedding, didnāt go to honeymoon, literally didnāt travel anywhere alone as a couple. He always wants someone else to be included in the travel plans like family or friends. But I like to travel with him.
I care him a lot and I donāt think I get much in return. I cook really good and I provide him variety of foods even though Iām working full time and doing house work. We send them a lot of money for his parents for expenses too. Even though we are always on the edge financially. We own a house which we bought last year and 1/2 of our salary is going to the mortgage. We donāt go out a lot. I donāt have social life either because itās hard to make new friends in Canada.
I love to give him gifts and surprises. So I take that extra leap and do something special. But he is not like that. Heāll be like āyour birthday is approaching and I have to do something for it too rightā while rolling his eyes. Once he even said that not do anything special for his birthday so he doesnāt have to worry much about planning for mine. He doesnāt express his love towards me. Literally no love language. I feel like I deserve much better than this.
But he is good in all the other ways. He works full time. He cares when Iām not well.
Iām confused about this whole relationship. The majority of the time we fight. I canāt talk about everything with my mom since sheāll think a lot about this. I need some advice on how to approach this.
Sorry for writing this much. I donāt know what to include and not to.
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2024.05.14 21:42 Financial-Bee9887 I am good at guitar but i didn't learn theory on it so i feel like i know a lot less than most people. I've been teaching two of my cousins for about a month now. I'm feeling unsure about what topics to delve into. I need reassurance and/or advice.
Hi! I hope this kind of post is allowed in the sub I've never posted on reddit lol.
I'm a guitar and piano player, I've been playing piano for 10 years and I've learned theory from there. However I only took piano lessons for 6 years and I've only really been playing on my own since then. Anyway. I learned guitar 5 years ago and I kind of just learned on my own. I know that having musical background from the piano helped a lot, and I've been writing songs on the guitar for almost as long as I've been playing, and I have no problem playing along with others.
The thing is, I never really learned scales or theory relative to the guitar. I have very basic knowledge but I don't really even know where to start teaching. I don't have the notes memorized on the strings. I could find them, but, give me a second.
I want my (i guess, students, at this point) to learn the notes and things to understand why the music works and stuff like that, but is it really necessary when a lot of the times, I don't even use it in my guitar playing??
So, my big question for you is: if you learned guitar without any previous musical background, how did you do it? Would you consider yourself a great player today?
Should I just focus on learning songs with them and rhythm practice and things like that? Should I really worry about this?
I guess I can't teach/expect my students to learn something I don't really know myself, huh? I feel like I've answered some of my own questions here but I already typed this out so I'll take whatever feedback. Sorry this is so jumbled I literally made a reddit account just to post this because it's been on my mind a lot.
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2024.05.14 21:42 Available_Map_5369 Options Plays for Income - Money Moves for May 13 & 14, 2024 ; Meme Stock Rally 2.0
Account Starting Balance this Week: $4,085.15
Back with another week with the iron condors, lazy plays on earnings. It worked out well during the first week (catch the wrap up
here). Let's see if we can repeat the adventure this week.
Lack of Earnings To Start the Week
We are nearing the end of the quarter earnings sessions. There are a few names left, including the big guns Nvidia, however that won't be until next week. This week we have a lot of consumer driven companies.
Gamestop Rally
Did anyone notice the subtle moves Gamestop was making last week? It started around Wednesday and quietly crept into the close of the week. I had heard about it but to be honest, I don't really pay much attention to meme stocks lately so I didn't really think anything of it.
Then we get the return of
u/DeepFuckingValue to Twitter on Sunday night and it completely changed the stock market for retail traders.
I watched it in the morning, pre-market made a big move on Monday but then opened up rather weak so I just figured I would watch. Really kicking myself on that one for not jumping in, because we saw a massive pull up, 5-6 market halts and a hold the line into the close. I made a play, but I thought it'd be a loser since I joined in "late"
Then today.... wake up to one of the most beautiful pre-market charts I've ever seen lol. GME top ticks hitting $80 three times. It's a ton weaker now as I write this post, having shrunken to about $45 a share. But... there's a lingering feeling of revenge coming. I can't even remember how many times GME was halted today. And I think we are having a standoff between retail traders who see maybe another market maker enemy in sight. I wouldn't be surprised if the meme stocks explode in after hours and pre market trading again. As for me, my play got stopped out at a nice profit level so I'm happy where I am. But I'm considering another play at market close because of the thesis above. I don't think it's done just yet.
The Plays
Ticker | Max Risked (Price) | Premium or P/L (% RoR) |
*GME $30 Call May 17, '24 | ($900; 1 contract) | +$1,100 (222%) |
**GME $20 Put May 17, '24 | ($414 total; 3 contracts) | Open |
HD | $250 | $53.76 (21.5% RoR) |
BABA | $100 | $25.76 (25.8% RoR) |
ONON | $100 | $23.76 (23.8% RoR) |
*LAZR $3 Call May 17, '24 | ($48 total; 16 contracts) | -$32.75 |
***AMC | $2,000 | $29.52 (1.5% RoR) |
MNDY | $1,000 | $219.76 (22.0% RoR) |
TOTALS | $4,812 | $1,419.81 (29.5% RoR) |
\ stopped out of trade*
\* took this short-term short when I opened up the yolo call just as a hedge. Pretty much worthless as it stands now, however, I'm planning to vertical spread this one either at open Friday or closer to the end of day to try and recoup some of the losses and/or even make a profit. We'll see)*
\** Took a very long-term short position here and opened a vertical spread this week with a closer to the money strike. That's why the max risked is so high because there are numerous contracts at a $4 spread in between legs. If it works out, I have some long term puts completely free. If not... just a bit of position management will get through it.*
I'm a little out of my entire budget for the week already. Which to me, is ok because without this meme stock rally I wouldn't have been so tied up. But, opportunities only come knocking a few times a year, so I figured I would take a chance with this one.
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2024.05.14 21:41 Queer_always My guide to Disneyland Paris for Disneyland Californians
Writing this for folks whose home park is OG Disneyland and are considering or planning a trip to DLP. Whether that's you or you're looking for advice in the opposite direction, feel free to AMA!
I wrote up some aspects of my trip
in this post, for reference. For context, I visit Anaheim a few times a year for 2-3 days each -- sometimes alone, sometimes with others -- and have been to Walt Disney World a handful of times (mostly for a single day while visiting my in-laws in the Orlando area).
Stow yer weapons: this is gonna be long. I'll talk atmosphere, attractions, food and drinks, and tips geared toward this audience. (I won't cover shows or character greetings, since they're not really my thing.)
Atmosphere:
Disneyland Paris is widely regarded as the most beautiful of the castle parks, and I agree. The attention to detail is stunning, from the horticulture to the rock work to the stained glass in the castle. The land transitions are smooth and beautifully executed, and the park generally feels more deliberately planned (probably since it wasn't built in a year and haphazardly swapping parts for the next seventy, like DLCA).
The park is bigger than Anaheim's, probably close to Magic Kingdom size, so add a minute or two to your commute time when crossing from one end to the other.
Some can't-miss experiences and details unique to DLP (skipping the rides since I'll cover those next, but including walk-throughs):
MAIN STREET
- The arcades on either side. Don't miss either of them! I enjoy the Discovery side with steampunk visions of cities in the future.
- If you can tour Walt's, do: the salons are themed by original lands and are charming. The home goods store named after Lily also has some nice turn-of-the-century fixtures and creative interior design.
FANTASYLAND
- The dragon. I mean, it's a dragon under the castle that snorts smoke!
- Shop interiors, especially Snow White and the Merlin shop. The beanstalk was closed when I was there, sadly.
- Cinderella's glass carriage near the Auberge.
- Sleeping Beauty's Castle. Do the walk-through. Eyvind Earle would be proud. The rectangular topiaries are a nice touch.
- The Alice in Wonderland labyrinth! Charming surprises, a true dead end, and a climb to a super neat park view in the center.
ADVENTURELAND
- The marketplace and Aladdin cave. Reminiscent of the Morocco pavilion at Epcot (sadly, I haven't been to Morocco). The restaurant has a very cool lived-in market look if you can take a peek inside. Even the windows have faux Maltese balconies/muxrabija and hanging wares.
- Adventure Isle. It's basically their version of Tom Sawyer's Island, so you can clamber through caves, look through Skull Rock, run around a pirate ship, and generally pretend you're eight. Genuinely photo-worthy.
FRONTIERLAND
- Peek into their version of the Golden Horseshoe. It may not be a replica of Calamity Jane's, like ours, but it's handsome and bigger.
- Phantom Manor's horticultural and exterior design. There's just more space for cool themed plants, and the queue design gives you time to admire them.
DISCOVERYLAND
- Steampunk everything! This is where we got our Astro-Orbiter and our short-lived, ill-fated redesign from the late 90s. It looks way better on them.
- The submarine walk through is really fun. Not sure how much it resembles the original walk-through from 50s Disneyland, but it's a low-key and visually rich treat, especially when it's sunny out.
Rides:
Some comparisons and contrasts. Didn't ride everything (e.g. carousel, teacups, Autopia), so I'll just share notes on the ones I did.
Big Thunder: Best version I've been on, period. It's on an island, so you plunge in and out of the darkness to get there, and the seats are actually divided so you're not body-slamming the person next to you every time you careen around a corner. Don't sleep on the detail and theming! Only bummer: no goat trick.
Pirates: Great queue: caves and little sneak peeks into scenes. Caribbean themed instead of bayou, restaurant included. Different structure and order of scenes, and frankly sort of confusing (e.g. Jack Sparrow is on the treasure pile among the skeleton tableaux for his little monologue). The sword fighting scene is unique to DLP (I think).
Fantasyland dark rides: Pinocchio is almost exactly the same as in CA. Snow White is more like the pre-COVID version, but even creepier; it's definitely the most divergent from the current CA version. Peter Pan is close to its CA version, but feels slightly larger?
Small World: More granular Europe, cute America section, generally quite different in layout. White-clad finale is a fair with a Ferris wheel and such.
Haunted Mansion/Phantom Manor: Identical ride track and Doom Buggies, but totally different storyline and different tableaux, particularly at the finale, which is a Western town instead of a graveyard. They don't put scrims in front of the frontier town zombies, which makes them creepier somehow. It's a unique take and a must-do.
Space Mountain: This one blows ours out of the water. Catapult launch, several inversions, much faster and darker. Be aware they don't have pouches for your stuff and will instruct you to put it on the floor. I stepped on the strap of my bag because I was certain I was gonna lose it.
Star Tours: Identical, though one time I got narration in English and the other time in French. May be randomized?
Railroad: No primeval world but they do have their own Grand Canyon. Circle tour is a must; you cover completely different ground and get a great pano of the whole park. My train was in compartments rather than long cars.
Indiana Jones: This is not the Jeep tour by any stretch; it's an outdoor roller coster that rattled my teeth out of my head. Think an extreme version of Goofy's Sky School with the unbanked turns. KEEP YOUR HEAD BACK. And even then, don't be surprised if you get off with sore ears and a buzzy headache that last a few minutes.
Food and Drinks: I talked extensively about this in my other post, so I'll just note a couple of comparisons.
- Alcohol is more widely available in the Paris park, akin to DCA. Your best bet is wine or a kir (or a beer, if you prefer) unless you're at a place with a dedicated cocktail menu.
- The little stalls across from Small World serve things like ham and gruyĆØre sandwiches and gauffres and sweets, with beer and wine available. Meh by Paris standards, but decent snacks that you wouldn't find in Anaheim.
- Unique themed dining. Captain Jack's has sub-par food, but if you're a fan of the Blue Bayou, it may be worth it just for the Caribbean nighttime theming. Boats floating by, and a more defined/secluded space than the sea of tables at BB. (Who goes to BB for the food anyway?) Agrabah restaurant has the most divergent theming and food from anything you can get in DLR.
General info/advice: I have a lot of good news for Californians, because Paris is a cakewalk in comparison. I'm sure I hit a slower period, but it's so easy to go with the flow without playing nine-dimensional chess on your phone every three minutes.
- Stay at a hotel on campus! The great news is that the hotels, parks and shops are after security, so you won't have to leave the bubble for your whole trip. Say goodbye to waiting in line for bag check behind one billion strollers every morning. If you're staying in the DLH (covered in my other post), you basically roll out of bed and through the turnstiles.
- Early entry was EMPTY, and since it was 8:30 instead of 7-7:30, it felt downright luxurious. Hit those Fantasyland rides like they're going out of style. I hit Peter Pan twice before 8:40. That one does fill up later and skipping the line costs an absurd amount of money, so morning is your best bet. Not everything is open for extra magic hour, though, so do check your map.
- The park is significantly bigger and you're going to do a lot of walking. It's not as easy to jump from point to point in rapid succession as in our little jewel of a park. Plan accordingly.
- That said, take the time to really slow down and enjoy your surroundings. No need to travel halfway across the world just to bang out a bunch of rides. It's fun to check out the beautifully executed transitions (John Hench would be proud). There's even a list of horticultural treasures within the app.
- Express pass is way easier than Genie Plus. I don't recommend getting the full day; the one day I did it, I failed to break even on what I would have spent skipping the line for individual rides. Get it for the rides you want if the line looks too steep for you. They're generally valid either immediately or within 5 minutes.
I'm tired of typing, and you're doubtless tired of reading, but if you have questions about the Studios park, feel free to ask in the comments.
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