Six months anniversary poem
Dreaming the Legend
2018.01.14 20:29 nun_atoll Dreaming the Legend
Sister-sub to Arthurian. Dedicated to arts and media based on/inspired by the legends of King Arthur.
2024.05.15 14:19 Weary_Tax_9274 In five years, I made $20,000 a month
Introduction:
I am a 28-year-old e-commerce entrepreneur from China, and I have been in the business for five years. Initially, I ventured into various product categories such as clothing, watches, and pet food, all of which ended in failure. Over time, I realized that in these saturated markets, I lacked competitiveness. Large players easily defeat smaller businesses through strategies like paid advertising, price reductions, promotions, and even selling at a loss to dominate market share.
Strategic Shift:
To explain, selling at a loss refers to a strategy used for consumable goods with short repurchase cycles. This approach can crush competitors while quickly capturing market share, with profits recovered through customer repurchases. Of course, this requires careful optimization of the product SKUs.
As a result, I shifted my strategy to avoid such cutthroat competition and started looking for "blue ocean" products. Previously, my product selection was based on intuition, and any success was merely due to luck and couldn't be reliably replicated. I began an in-depth analysis of data from the "Taobao" platform and realized I was constantly battling in a "red ocean." Before, I would only consider a product's trend charts (search popularity, conversion rates), thinking anything on the rise was good, but I overlooked other indicators like "online product count." For instance, the keyword "casual men's clothing" had a search popularity of 240,000 but faced over ten million competing products. That was the moment I understood my constant failures.
I subscribed to several data analysis platforms and began vigorously searching for products, eventually discovering a niche product with a search popularity of over 3,000 but only 180 items online: "shoes for elderly people with swollen feet." I contacted the supplier, obtaining the shoes for $11 per pair, or $12.50 if they handled shipping. The leading seller on the platform priced them at $29. Observing the mild competition, and poor quality of the product images in the listings, I bought a few pairs of the shoes, had a designer create exquisite images, and listed them at the same price but included three extra pairs of comfortable socks as a bonus. Orders began trickling in a week later. As autumn progressed and winter approached, search popularity for the shoes climbed to over 7,000. In winter, many elderly people suffer from swollen feet due to varicose veins or poor circulation, prompting their children to buy these adjustable shoes as a sign of filial piety.
My sales surged day by day, and that winter, I sold over 1,900 pairs of shoes, experiencing the thrill of earning over ten thousand a month and a deep sense of achievement. This success showed me that such outcomes are replicable, prompting me to collect more "blue ocean" products and open multiple shops. Some of these included post-surgery pillows, luxury cosmetic samples, and foot-soaking medicinal packages, most of which turned profitable.
Reflections:
This journey taught me that "one cannot make money beyond their understanding." Once you truly comprehend and deeply understand certain aspects, the path to success is less crowded. The key for the average person is to understand differentiated competition—sometimes, choice is more important than effort. Running an online business is actually simple; just manage your customers and suppliers well.
Looking Forward:
Recently, inspired by numerous cross-border e-commerce posts on TikTok, and considering my small company’s good performance with a profit of about $20,000 a month after paying six employees—a considerable income in China—I continue to explore new directions and profit opportunities, focusing on the European and American markets. Here, I hope to meet like-minded friends.
That's all from me for now. I welcome your comments and discussions. Thank you very much.
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I am a 28-year-old e-commerce entrepreneur from China, and I have been in the business for five years. Initially, I ventured into various product categories such as clothing, watches, and pet food, all of which ended in failure. Over time, I realized that in these saturated markets, I lacked competitiveness. Large players easily defeat smaller businesses through strategies like paid advertising, price reductions, promotions, and even selling at a loss to dominate market share.
Strategic Shift:
To explain, selling at a loss refers to a strategy used for consumable goods with short repurchase cycles. This approach can crush competitors while quickly capturing market share, with profits recovered through customer repurchases. Of course, this requires careful optimization of the product SKUs.
As a result, I shifted my strategy to avoid such cutthroat competition and started looking for "blue ocean" products. Previously, my product selection was based on intuition, and any success was merely due to luck and couldn't be reliably replicated. I began an in-depth analysis of data from the "Taobao" platform and realized I was constantly battling in a "red ocean." Before, I would only consider a product's trend charts (search popularity, conversion rates), thinking anything on the rise was good, but I overlooked other indicators like "online product count." For instance, the keyword "casual men's clothing" had a search popularity of 240,000 but faced over ten million competing products. That was the moment I understood my constant failures.
I subscribed to several data analysis platforms and began vigorously searching for products, eventually discovering a niche product with a search popularity of over 3,000 but only 180 items online: "shoes for elderly people with swollen feet." I contacted the supplier, obtaining the shoes for $11 per pair, or $12.50 if they handled shipping. The leading seller on the platform priced them at $29. Observing the mild competition, and poor quality of the product images in the listings, I bought a few pairs of the shoes, had a designer create exquisite images, and listed them at the same price but included three extra pairs of comfortable socks as a bonus. Orders began trickling in a week later. As autumn progressed and winter approached, search popularity for the shoes climbed to over 7,000. In winter, many elderly people suffer from swollen feet due to varicose veins or poor circulation, prompting their children to buy these adjustable shoes as a sign of filial piety.
My sales surged day by day, and that winter, I sold over 1,900 pairs of shoes, experiencing the thrill of earning over ten thousand a month and a deep sense of achievement. This success showed me that such outcomes are replicable, prompting me to collect more "blue ocean" products and open multiple shops. Some of these included post-surgery pillows, luxury cosmetic samples, and foot-soaking medicinal packages, most of which turned profitable.
Reflections:
This journey taught me that "one cannot make money beyond their understanding." Once you truly comprehend and deeply understand certain aspects, the path to success is less crowded. The key for the average person is to understand differentiated competition—sometimes, choice is more important than effort. Running an online business is actually simple; just manage your customers and suppliers well.
Looking Forward:
Recently, inspired by numerous cross-border e-commerce posts on TikTok, and considering my small company’s good performance with a profit of about $20,000 a month after paying six employees—a considerable income in China—I continue to explore new directions and profit opportunities, focusing on the European and American markets. Here, I hope to meet like-minded friends.
That's all from me for now. I welcome your comments and discussions. Thank you very much.
2024.05.15 14:16 hesteheste On MBB burnout and PTSD
https://brokenmbb.medium.com/the-downfall-of-an-mbb-consult-282140a9d60e
From the fine article:
I am a former management consultant who six months ago decided to leave the firm because of severe stress and signs of burnout. Six months on I am battling severe PTSD and deep depression following the whole downfall. I am currently admitted to a psychiatric ward where I receive sufficient care. For those of you who are unfamiliar with MBB, it refers to McKinsey, BCG, and Bain — the three of the world’s top consulting firms. I started with the MBB firm as a senior hire, which was unheard of at the time. Having previously spent five years at a less prestigious / tier-2 firm, I had to spend a lot of energy and time proving that I was ‘good enough’. One of my first projects was a big ‘transformation project’ for a troubled corporate. The project conditions were insane. One of my team member turned up at work shaking because she had slept on average less than 4 hours per night during the last five days. She was in charge of the financial model, which was incredibly stressful for her. She left shortly thereafter. During the project I received multiple ‘coaching’ lessons in a rather aggressive manner. I wasn’t being 80/20 enough. I was focusing on the wrong things. I wasn’t able to “crack the case” well enough. All the comments were likely fair, but the delivery format was dubious. At one occasion I broke down in front of my boss who just kept giving tense feedback. It was as if I deserved extra treatment because I was the new senior hire and didn’t necessarily know all the right ways of working. The MBB firm liked to talk about ‘homegrown’ vs ‘non-homegrown’ talent. Homegrown talent that had come ‘up through the system’ was rated higher than people like me. Even after five years I was still referred to as an external hire; not ‘homegrown’ talent. My project reviews were generally stellar and I was a high achiever who did my very best to fit in. Still, I just wasn’t homegrown. My downfall last year started with panic attacks due to a very senior client expecting us to have overnight meetings ever two weeks. Meeting start, if lucky, at 11pm and, normally, end around 4.30am. My whole life revolved around this client’s diary and created an immense sense of anxiety because I was expected to prepare contents for these meetings at extremely short notice. Often the partners involved would change their mind last minute, resulting in significant rework and hours wasted on producing the wrong content. An added stress factor was the pressure to keep the project team happy. Every week a survey was run. Junior team members would often use this as an outlet against the leadership team because they were overworked and stressed. So as the project manager I was tasked with the challenge of ‘fixing’ the engagement projects. Most of the issues were out of my control — rude clients, client not making decisions fast enough, boring topics, etc. It was almost impossible to turn around, but it still was my job to be the ‘fun uncle’ for the team and keep scores up. In essence, the pressure was four-fold. Pressure from the client to deliver a good recommendation. Pressure from partners to sell the next engagement. Pressure from the project team to fix all of their issues. And pressure from the family at home to spend more time, travel less, and be present. These four pressures broke me completely. One night I woke up with severe panic attacks because I knew I had one of these all-nighter meetings coming up, but I didn’t know when. Out of frustration I hammered my hand into the wall multiple times. The next morning I notified my manager that I had severe panic attacks. He told me to rest up. After ongoing discussion with my psychiatrist, I got my psychiatrist to send a letter to my employer, asking them to reduce my workload for a period of of time. This is what common practice in most European countries. This request didn’t go down well. As a consequence, I was pulled into a meeting by my supervisor who asked me when I would get better: “What’s your timeframe? When will you be better? We need to know now.” Of course I had no idea: It is really a question of how long is a piece of string. It depends on how well I can manage my symptoms and anxiety I was experiencing from the stressful work conditions. Shortly thereafter, I decided to resign because I couldn’t withstand the pressure anymore. They gave me six months paid leave to find a new role, which I have done. Fact of the matter is that working with an MBB ruined large parts of my life. I have been given the diagnosis PTSD following the downfall last year and how I was treated. I now suffer from severe depression and I have no confidence in my own ability to undertake complex or stressful work. More to come.
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From the fine article:
I am a former management consultant who six months ago decided to leave the firm because of severe stress and signs of burnout. Six months on I am battling severe PTSD and deep depression following the whole downfall. I am currently admitted to a psychiatric ward where I receive sufficient care. For those of you who are unfamiliar with MBB, it refers to McKinsey, BCG, and Bain — the three of the world’s top consulting firms. I started with the MBB firm as a senior hire, which was unheard of at the time. Having previously spent five years at a less prestigious / tier-2 firm, I had to spend a lot of energy and time proving that I was ‘good enough’. One of my first projects was a big ‘transformation project’ for a troubled corporate. The project conditions were insane. One of my team member turned up at work shaking because she had slept on average less than 4 hours per night during the last five days. She was in charge of the financial model, which was incredibly stressful for her. She left shortly thereafter. During the project I received multiple ‘coaching’ lessons in a rather aggressive manner. I wasn’t being 80/20 enough. I was focusing on the wrong things. I wasn’t able to “crack the case” well enough. All the comments were likely fair, but the delivery format was dubious. At one occasion I broke down in front of my boss who just kept giving tense feedback. It was as if I deserved extra treatment because I was the new senior hire and didn’t necessarily know all the right ways of working. The MBB firm liked to talk about ‘homegrown’ vs ‘non-homegrown’ talent. Homegrown talent that had come ‘up through the system’ was rated higher than people like me. Even after five years I was still referred to as an external hire; not ‘homegrown’ talent. My project reviews were generally stellar and I was a high achiever who did my very best to fit in. Still, I just wasn’t homegrown. My downfall last year started with panic attacks due to a very senior client expecting us to have overnight meetings ever two weeks. Meeting start, if lucky, at 11pm and, normally, end around 4.30am. My whole life revolved around this client’s diary and created an immense sense of anxiety because I was expected to prepare contents for these meetings at extremely short notice. Often the partners involved would change their mind last minute, resulting in significant rework and hours wasted on producing the wrong content. An added stress factor was the pressure to keep the project team happy. Every week a survey was run. Junior team members would often use this as an outlet against the leadership team because they were overworked and stressed. So as the project manager I was tasked with the challenge of ‘fixing’ the engagement projects. Most of the issues were out of my control — rude clients, client not making decisions fast enough, boring topics, etc. It was almost impossible to turn around, but it still was my job to be the ‘fun uncle’ for the team and keep scores up. In essence, the pressure was four-fold. Pressure from the client to deliver a good recommendation. Pressure from partners to sell the next engagement. Pressure from the project team to fix all of their issues. And pressure from the family at home to spend more time, travel less, and be present. These four pressures broke me completely. One night I woke up with severe panic attacks because I knew I had one of these all-nighter meetings coming up, but I didn’t know when. Out of frustration I hammered my hand into the wall multiple times. The next morning I notified my manager that I had severe panic attacks. He told me to rest up. After ongoing discussion with my psychiatrist, I got my psychiatrist to send a letter to my employer, asking them to reduce my workload for a period of of time. This is what common practice in most European countries. This request didn’t go down well. As a consequence, I was pulled into a meeting by my supervisor who asked me when I would get better: “What’s your timeframe? When will you be better? We need to know now.” Of course I had no idea: It is really a question of how long is a piece of string. It depends on how well I can manage my symptoms and anxiety I was experiencing from the stressful work conditions. Shortly thereafter, I decided to resign because I couldn’t withstand the pressure anymore. They gave me six months paid leave to find a new role, which I have done. Fact of the matter is that working with an MBB ruined large parts of my life. I have been given the diagnosis PTSD following the downfall last year and how I was treated. I now suffer from severe depression and I have no confidence in my own ability to undertake complex or stressful work. More to come.
2024.05.15 14:12 Sansan_Lemon2431 N doodles inspired by my dad cuz he was the awesomest guy ever
 | His death anniversary is this month but I forgot the exact date and I'm too scared to ask my mom ｡:ﾟ(;´∩`;)ﾟ:｡ submitted by Sansan_Lemon2431 to MurderDrones [link] [comments] |
2024.05.15 14:12 ThrowRA_1911GTD I think I ruined any chance of fixing things
TL;DR Didn’t respects EXs wish for space after she dumped me out of nowhere and refused to tell me why, now wants to just throw away our six years together instead of fixing things.
I’ve really fucked things up. She left me over a month ago, but when she dumped me out of nowhere she had said she was unhappy since November but she never told me. She decided in February that she was going to leave at some point, but never said anything to me until April. During the last month I had been trying to give her the space she wanted, but I never had closure on anything. She never told me she was unhappy until the night she left and she had refused to tell me why she never told me back when she knew things weren’t working. All she had said about it was I should have just known, but I figured after six year together, I didn’t have to look for signs she was unhappy and that she would be able to tell me. She said she wanted nothing to do with me and that there was no chance in fixing things.
Because of this, I reached out to her family members to see what I had missed. My family is no help so that’s why I never turned to them, but everyone in her family had loved me, with multiple of them encouraging me to propose at several points, but it was like once she left, they all hated me. Every time I asked someone about how I should fix things to let her know she is the most importantly thing in the world to me and that I would do anything to make her happy if she would have just told me what was wrong in the first place, they all just shut me out. They would then tell her that I was talking to them about fixing things, and this just resulted in me pushing her further away, not respecting the space she had said she wanted.
Last night was when I got the wake up call. Her Aunt had told me to “How about you just fucking stop reaching out to everyone. That would be a great idea about now.” They are right, I shouldn’t have crossed over these boundaries and sought help from her family, and now I have to pay the price for it. She wants nothing to do with me and has said after I move out (we got an apartment together a week before she became unhappy. She moved out when she dumped me but has been paying half of rent since I can’t afford it on my own) and are separated financially (take her name off the car loan and title, get new insurance, and pay for the laptop she got me in March) she intends on never speaking to me again.
Even after everything that has happened, I still love her and I wish that I had known things were bad , but how was I supposed to know what was going on when she never told me? I guess it doesn’t matter now, but I’m hoping after several months of no contact she will realize that I was just doing what I could for closure and maybe she give me, not a second chance, but a chance at all to fix things.
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I’ve really fucked things up. She left me over a month ago, but when she dumped me out of nowhere she had said she was unhappy since November but she never told me. She decided in February that she was going to leave at some point, but never said anything to me until April. During the last month I had been trying to give her the space she wanted, but I never had closure on anything. She never told me she was unhappy until the night she left and she had refused to tell me why she never told me back when she knew things weren’t working. All she had said about it was I should have just known, but I figured after six year together, I didn’t have to look for signs she was unhappy and that she would be able to tell me. She said she wanted nothing to do with me and that there was no chance in fixing things.
Because of this, I reached out to her family members to see what I had missed. My family is no help so that’s why I never turned to them, but everyone in her family had loved me, with multiple of them encouraging me to propose at several points, but it was like once she left, they all hated me. Every time I asked someone about how I should fix things to let her know she is the most importantly thing in the world to me and that I would do anything to make her happy if she would have just told me what was wrong in the first place, they all just shut me out. They would then tell her that I was talking to them about fixing things, and this just resulted in me pushing her further away, not respecting the space she had said she wanted.
Last night was when I got the wake up call. Her Aunt had told me to “How about you just fucking stop reaching out to everyone. That would be a great idea about now.” They are right, I shouldn’t have crossed over these boundaries and sought help from her family, and now I have to pay the price for it. She wants nothing to do with me and has said after I move out (we got an apartment together a week before she became unhappy. She moved out when she dumped me but has been paying half of rent since I can’t afford it on my own) and are separated financially (take her name off the car loan and title, get new insurance, and pay for the laptop she got me in March) she intends on never speaking to me again.
Even after everything that has happened, I still love her and I wish that I had known things were bad , but how was I supposed to know what was going on when she never told me? I guess it doesn’t matter now, but I’m hoping after several months of no contact she will realize that I was just doing what I could for closure and maybe she give me, not a second chance, but a chance at all to fix things.
2024.05.15 14:11 MarillatheHun Deals on Canisters?
Do canisters ever go on sale? Mine shattered about six months ago and it was out of warranty. The replace price for a new one really hurts but I’m missing my blender so much. I've been trying to keep an eye out for an accessories deal but I’m starting to wonder if I should just bite the bullet.
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2024.05.15 14:08 butterflyblast should i (17F) break up with my boyfriend (19M) over finding out about his porn addiction?
this is my first time posting on reddit, im looking for any kind of advice or input. i (17F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for almost six months now, our anniversary is in 2 days. this is my first relationship and his second relationship, we’ve had problems since we started dating, we’ve never been in a fight over anything ive done, just gonna be completely real im a very anxious person and a huge perfectionist in every aspect of my life and since this is my first relationship i have been extremely diligent to do everything right, i cant say the same for him. hes hurt me emotionally so many times throughout this relationship, he can often be careless and doesnt consider me, and then doesnt see a problem with that. hes fucked up in so many MAJOR ways that have literally landed me in the hospital, no physical ab*se is happening, but he is still the cause of my reoccurring doctors visits. i wont get into all the ways hes hurt me emotionally and done shit thats fucked me over since this post is intended to be ab my current predicament with him, but i will just say that it gets BAD. hes never cheated on me as far as i know, i believe women should never trust men so im not saying this because i trust his every word, i just genuinely dont think he would have the balls to do something like that, plus i am literally the catch of his life. his friends and mine and just people we are acquainted with often ask me how he pulled me and say to him and i that im way out of his league, my boyfriend says this as well. i dont want to come off as cocky or anything like that at all, i am a very humble person irl, but i just want to paint the picture of our relationship for anyone who can help me out right now. i do know that im very very pretty, patient, caring, generous, kind, understanding, polite, and poised. i grew up with an eating disorder most of my life and never believed my appearance was good enough or held any value, so i made a point to not have a rotten soul, i made a point to really really work on myself on the inside, so that i could fall in love with being alive enough to realize that my appearance was not the most important thing. throughout the years my insecurity faded away and ive gotten to a point in my life where i know who i am, i know that im a truly good person, and i know that im really good looking. ANYWAY sorry for that whole spiel but it will be relevant when i get into whats happening in my relationship at the moment!!!!
my relationship has a lot of really good moments, i can be so real with him, we are always laughing on good days, he can be so kind and caring and chivalrous at times, i feel so safe with him in those times, i believe we have a really genuine connection.
NOW for the current issue… i broke up with him this march (we were only broken up for exactly 24hrs) due to the build up of fucked up shit hes put me through, him following pornstars on insta, liking girls thirst traps, disappearing to LA when i was in the hospital because of him, and the list goes on and on and on. my point is, one of the reasons was him following porn stars and liking that kind of content on social media. we are not an on and off couple, this is the only time we’ve broken up, and the whole 24hrs that we were we quite literally stayed on the phone, throughout the whole evening, night, morning, and his whole work day up until we met up to continue talking ab things in person. i was extremely explicit in the fact that his current behavior was unacceptable, i wasnt going to stand for it, and that i would have a 0 toleration policy for any boundary crossing, fuck ups, or general asshole behavior in the future.
i told him that i had 2 options, i could either follow through with my decision to leave him based on what has actually happened in our relationship, or i could trust him saying that he was going to change and give him a second chance. i am really in love with him and i want him to be a part of my life, as i want to be a part of his, so i chose to stay with him and give him the opportunity to prove to me he could be better, and continue to be a better man from that point forth. things have been really good since i made this choice, hes made a major effort to be better in every aspect, and made positive changes to his own life, he seems happier and seems to have more energy and more of a lust for life since this, and i am so happy to see that. i could go on and on but basically things have just been really amazing.
NOW FOR THE REAL TEA!!!! 2 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant, and had to take the abortion pill a few days after that, he was really amazing throughout the whole process, but its been hard for me nonetheless, the way doctors treated me, having to hide it from my mom, having morning sickness, the hormonal up and downs of it all, the fact that being pregnant is my biggest fear, combined with other stress in my personal life. ive been kinda down lately due to this, it was just a hard thing to go through esp at my age, but ive been making an effort to take care of myself, not slip into depression, and move forward with my life. ive been doing well more recently, but it was just a rough patch for me personally. my cat has also been sick since ab the exact same time i found out i was pregnant, and ive been super stressed ab that and losing sleep taking care of him all night and day, every night and day.
REALREAL TEA TIME. REAL TEA. since my cats not doing well, i decided to hangout with my boyfriend after he got off of work the other day, just to get my mind off of it, get out of the house, and enjoy life for a bit. we ended up having an AMAZING night, like seriously so good, i fell in love with him all over again ab 10 million times that night. at the end of the night we decided to go back to my place and sleepover there. he went to sleep soon after we got home, but i stayed up because i needed to take off my makeup and take a shower. before showering, i decided to go on his phone to send myself cute pictures we had taken and also to take a peak at what hes been up to. things have been so good lately and i wanted to prove to myself that i made the right decision in staying with him. unfortunately things did not go so well. i ended up looking through his phone for a few hrs because i found LOADS of hentai and porn he was looking at on reddit in his history, porn on discord, repeating onlyfans links in his search history (which were dated to the DAY after i found out i was pregnant and would have to have an abortion), i found a group he was in on facebook that consisted entirely of borderline porn, and i found messages he had deleted on facebook of him messaging a girl and asking her to send him nudes and telling her that she was sexy dated to when we first officially got into a committed relationship, his recent searches on reddit were all groups that consist solely of porn, his link history on reddit contained onlyfans links, and there were onlyfans models in his recent searches on insta as well. i was absolutely devastated, i was feeling so many things and wanted to end it right then and there, i decided to take my shower, do skincare and all of that stuff, go to sleep and tell him what i found in the morning. it was like 3am at this point. i finished getting ready for bed around 5:30am and went to my nightstand to plug in my phone, my boyfriend is a super heavy sleeper so i didnt think him waking up was even a possibility, but he woke up and asked me to come cuddle in bed with him, since he was half awake, i knew if i got into bed he’d start cuddling with me, and i could not handle that so id have to push him away, leaving me no choice but to confront him at that time instead of in the morning as i had planned. so i said “hey (bf’s name), do you wanna tell me why you’ve been looking at loads of porn on reddit” he quickly became fully conscious when he realized what was happening. he was still out of it but kind of trying to talk to me and ask me what was happening, i didnt say anything, i grabbed my pillow and a blanket and told him to go back to sleep and that we’d discuss it in the morning, he asked me where i was going and i said to sleep on my couch, then i gave him 2 options, i said he could either leave right then and there, or go back to sleep and we’d talk ab it later in the morning and i would sleep on my couch, but i told him we were not gonna have the convo right then and there. i went downstairs and set up my couch bed, then i was like wait a damn minute why am i the one sleeping on the couch, i came back upstairs and told him that i changed my mind and that he could either leave or sleep on the couch. he never made a decision and we ended up having the whole convo ab everything right then and there, i remained stern and i was clearly angry but i did not raise my voice or throw out insults. at first he tried lying to me and saying it wasnt him and all this other bullshit, but eventually he admitted that he has a porn addiction. i was still extremely upset, i understand that its a common thing in my generation, porn-like content is all over social media and so easy to access, but it still shook me to my core. porn addiction is a real thing but like idk how to deal with this, i am so hurt and feeling so many things, there was SO much of it and it all feels like cheating to me. this is making me question everything ab our intimate life, it makes me feel like it doesnt mean anything to him. idek when and how he has the energy to jerk off because we both have a high sex drive and see each other rly often, so we have LOTS of sex and im never the one to tap out after multiple rounds. its not vanilla either so its not like theres some sort of unfulfilled desire happening, i really do not get it at all, and i am SO unbelievably hurt. i dont know if i can ever move on from this or forgive him, or “help and support and reassure” him as he tries to quit this addiction. it feels like im begging my bf to only have eyes for me. like im support him in his endeavor to stop looking at other naked girls. nothing about it feels right and i dont know what to do. i love him so unbelievably much, but this changes everything, i wish this never happened because i do want to be with him, i just dont know how to, or if i should, now. any and all advice would be appreciated. i am completely undecided on what to do from this point on.
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my relationship has a lot of really good moments, i can be so real with him, we are always laughing on good days, he can be so kind and caring and chivalrous at times, i feel so safe with him in those times, i believe we have a really genuine connection.
NOW for the current issue… i broke up with him this march (we were only broken up for exactly 24hrs) due to the build up of fucked up shit hes put me through, him following pornstars on insta, liking girls thirst traps, disappearing to LA when i was in the hospital because of him, and the list goes on and on and on. my point is, one of the reasons was him following porn stars and liking that kind of content on social media. we are not an on and off couple, this is the only time we’ve broken up, and the whole 24hrs that we were we quite literally stayed on the phone, throughout the whole evening, night, morning, and his whole work day up until we met up to continue talking ab things in person. i was extremely explicit in the fact that his current behavior was unacceptable, i wasnt going to stand for it, and that i would have a 0 toleration policy for any boundary crossing, fuck ups, or general asshole behavior in the future.
i told him that i had 2 options, i could either follow through with my decision to leave him based on what has actually happened in our relationship, or i could trust him saying that he was going to change and give him a second chance. i am really in love with him and i want him to be a part of my life, as i want to be a part of his, so i chose to stay with him and give him the opportunity to prove to me he could be better, and continue to be a better man from that point forth. things have been really good since i made this choice, hes made a major effort to be better in every aspect, and made positive changes to his own life, he seems happier and seems to have more energy and more of a lust for life since this, and i am so happy to see that. i could go on and on but basically things have just been really amazing.
NOW FOR THE REAL TEA!!!! 2 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant, and had to take the abortion pill a few days after that, he was really amazing throughout the whole process, but its been hard for me nonetheless, the way doctors treated me, having to hide it from my mom, having morning sickness, the hormonal up and downs of it all, the fact that being pregnant is my biggest fear, combined with other stress in my personal life. ive been kinda down lately due to this, it was just a hard thing to go through esp at my age, but ive been making an effort to take care of myself, not slip into depression, and move forward with my life. ive been doing well more recently, but it was just a rough patch for me personally. my cat has also been sick since ab the exact same time i found out i was pregnant, and ive been super stressed ab that and losing sleep taking care of him all night and day, every night and day.
REALREAL TEA TIME. REAL TEA. since my cats not doing well, i decided to hangout with my boyfriend after he got off of work the other day, just to get my mind off of it, get out of the house, and enjoy life for a bit. we ended up having an AMAZING night, like seriously so good, i fell in love with him all over again ab 10 million times that night. at the end of the night we decided to go back to my place and sleepover there. he went to sleep soon after we got home, but i stayed up because i needed to take off my makeup and take a shower. before showering, i decided to go on his phone to send myself cute pictures we had taken and also to take a peak at what hes been up to. things have been so good lately and i wanted to prove to myself that i made the right decision in staying with him. unfortunately things did not go so well. i ended up looking through his phone for a few hrs because i found LOADS of hentai and porn he was looking at on reddit in his history, porn on discord, repeating onlyfans links in his search history (which were dated to the DAY after i found out i was pregnant and would have to have an abortion), i found a group he was in on facebook that consisted entirely of borderline porn, and i found messages he had deleted on facebook of him messaging a girl and asking her to send him nudes and telling her that she was sexy dated to when we first officially got into a committed relationship, his recent searches on reddit were all groups that consist solely of porn, his link history on reddit contained onlyfans links, and there were onlyfans models in his recent searches on insta as well. i was absolutely devastated, i was feeling so many things and wanted to end it right then and there, i decided to take my shower, do skincare and all of that stuff, go to sleep and tell him what i found in the morning. it was like 3am at this point. i finished getting ready for bed around 5:30am and went to my nightstand to plug in my phone, my boyfriend is a super heavy sleeper so i didnt think him waking up was even a possibility, but he woke up and asked me to come cuddle in bed with him, since he was half awake, i knew if i got into bed he’d start cuddling with me, and i could not handle that so id have to push him away, leaving me no choice but to confront him at that time instead of in the morning as i had planned. so i said “hey (bf’s name), do you wanna tell me why you’ve been looking at loads of porn on reddit” he quickly became fully conscious when he realized what was happening. he was still out of it but kind of trying to talk to me and ask me what was happening, i didnt say anything, i grabbed my pillow and a blanket and told him to go back to sleep and that we’d discuss it in the morning, he asked me where i was going and i said to sleep on my couch, then i gave him 2 options, i said he could either leave right then and there, or go back to sleep and we’d talk ab it later in the morning and i would sleep on my couch, but i told him we were not gonna have the convo right then and there. i went downstairs and set up my couch bed, then i was like wait a damn minute why am i the one sleeping on the couch, i came back upstairs and told him that i changed my mind and that he could either leave or sleep on the couch. he never made a decision and we ended up having the whole convo ab everything right then and there, i remained stern and i was clearly angry but i did not raise my voice or throw out insults. at first he tried lying to me and saying it wasnt him and all this other bullshit, but eventually he admitted that he has a porn addiction. i was still extremely upset, i understand that its a common thing in my generation, porn-like content is all over social media and so easy to access, but it still shook me to my core. porn addiction is a real thing but like idk how to deal with this, i am so hurt and feeling so many things, there was SO much of it and it all feels like cheating to me. this is making me question everything ab our intimate life, it makes me feel like it doesnt mean anything to him. idek when and how he has the energy to jerk off because we both have a high sex drive and see each other rly often, so we have LOTS of sex and im never the one to tap out after multiple rounds. its not vanilla either so its not like theres some sort of unfulfilled desire happening, i really do not get it at all, and i am SO unbelievably hurt. i dont know if i can ever move on from this or forgive him, or “help and support and reassure” him as he tries to quit this addiction. it feels like im begging my bf to only have eyes for me. like im support him in his endeavor to stop looking at other naked girls. nothing about it feels right and i dont know what to do. i love him so unbelievably much, but this changes everything, i wish this never happened because i do want to be with him, i just dont know how to, or if i should, now. any and all advice would be appreciated. i am completely undecided on what to do from this point on.
2024.05.15 14:08 Insightful-Geek Puravive Customer Review [Warning] Is Puravive Actually Legit?
![Puravive Customer Review [Warning] Is Puravive Actually Legit?](https://b.thumbs.redditmedia.com/ejnsCDdyn-haHtIVCvWOn7hy6_4bMEIapvJVVfnHRFc.jpg "Puravive Customer Review [Warning] Is Puravive Actually Legit?") | A Genuine Customer Review for Puravive: Sophia's Transformation Journey submitted by Insightful-Geek to reviewsarena [link] [comments] In the calm of the early morning, as the sun began to rise, Sophia sat on the edge of her bed, feeling the weight of her 39 years pressing down on her. Sophia had lived a life filled with ups and downs, but she knew deep inside that her best years were yet to come. As she gazed at her reflection in the mirror, she couldn't ignore the toll that time and neglect had taken on her. https://preview.redd.it/tp7swa6ezk0d1.jpg?width=5279&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f0ac887e1469227da082be0befda3238d8d8c7f6 Her once vibrant spirit felt overshadowed by doubts and self-criticism, especially when it came to her weight. Over the years, Sophia had tried countless diets, exercise routines, and supplements, each promising to be the solution she longed for. But none had delivered the lasting change she desired. Then, one day, her friend Sophia suggested Puravive, a natural supplement that claimed to support weight loss and overall well-being. Sophia was skeptical but hopeful, and she decided to give it a chance. The first few days went by without any noticeable changes. However, as the weeks passed, Sophia started to experience subtle shifts in her life. Her energy levels soared, and she found herself naturally gravitating towards healthier food choices. She began taking refreshing walks in the evenings, relishing the sensation of movement and the crispness of the air. As the pounds started to melt away, so did the layers of self-doubt and insecurity that had held Sophia back for far too long. A new image of herself emerged—a woman who was not defined by her weight, but rather, a strong and capable individual with boundless potential. Months flew by, and Sophia's transformation was nothing short of remarkable. She had not only shed weight but, more importantly, gained an unwavering confidence, self-love, and a renewed sense of purpose. No longer did Sophia dread facing her reflection; instead, she greeted it with open arms, a testament to how far she had come. OFFICIAL PURAVIVE WEBSITE 👉🏻 ****[CLICK HERE**](https://productinfoview.com/puravive) On Sophia's 40th birthday, she didn't just celebrate another year of existence but a year of profound growth and transformation. She had shed more than just pounds—she had shed the limitations she had imposed upon herself for far too long. Sophia knew that her journey was far from over, but with Puravive by her side, she was ready to confront any challenges that lay ahead, armed with a newfound strength. What is Puravive ?Introducing Puravive: Empowering Weight Loss the Natural WayPuravive is a plant-based weight loss supplement that utlize the power of tropical nutrients and plants to target the underlying causes of weight gain, particularly low brown adipose tissue levels. Unlike other weight loss products, Puravive is safe for individuals of all ages and is free from negative side effects. In this review, I will delve into the effectiveness and value of Puravive in aiding weight loss. Puravive Reviews: Examining the Legitimacy of This Natural Weight Loss Supplement!This supplement, manufactured in the USA, is carefully packaged to ensure secure delivery to customers. Puravive catches the eye with its quality appearance, transparent ingredient label, and overall presentation, exuding a sense of reliability. However, it's important not to judge solely based on appearances but to conduct a thorough analysis to determine its effectiveness as a weight loss supplement.Given the widespread issue of obesity, the demand for effective weight loss solutions continues to soar. With countless options available, it is crucial to select the best one to suit individual needs. Based on positive reviews, Puravive appears to be a trustworthy weight management formula. To gain a better understanding of its potential benefits, we will explore its mechanisms, ingredients, production standards, pricing, refund policy, and more. For further information on Puravive, visit the official website. Supplement Name: Puravive Type: Weight loss formula Form: Capsules Quantity per Bottle: 30 capsules Ingredients:
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2024.05.15 14:02 Icy-Belt4970 AITA for dumping my bf when I was a college student
I'm a M20 and this was a hard topic I need to get this off my chest.
Back in 2021 when I was a college student I met this guy call let's say "Timmy" my mates was trying to get me and Timmy together Timmy is a M16 I was M17 back then.
We started dating in November the 24th 2021 it was amazing for 3 months but then he started to be an ass to me told me to help him with his situation and I did but at the end he didn't even asked to help me out with my situation.
He wanted me to spend my pocket money on him he has hissy fits if I don't treat him with gifts.
Forward to March 2022 it was my 18th birthday family comes over and then "Timmy" show up I told him to leave at 1pm so my family can come over to spend time with me but he didn't so he decided to go to my own parent's and say "I got told that I should be leaving at 1pm" but my parents asked me he can stay a while-(let's get this straight he has been controlling me to do things and forced me to kiss him even I didn't wanna do)
I was so uncomfortable when Timmy stayed he played innocent all day on my birthday then out of nowhere he said "so are you and you're parents coming down tomorrow to meet my family"
As always my parents said yes Tomorrow comes we went to a pub to meet Timmy's parent's The music was way to loud and I wasn't a outside person but he kept on getting my hands and put it on his shoulder even though I didn't want to.
For few more months later in May I had enough of Timmy so I dumped him then decided to be a drama queen and got all of my mates at college against me and why I shouldn't have dumped him he was too clingy and lazy he only cares about himself but no one else. Then on the same day I got back with him....oh boy I was stupid I should have dumped him.
This part is a bit thunder bolt
In my summer holidays Timmy non stop texting me that I should meet up and I told him I have other plans 5 minutes later he messaged me that he was coming over to give me my plushie that he got for me I wasn't in the mood to see him at all I just wanted to spend time with my family in my summer holidays Then 4 days later I did see him and spend time with him..
A month later in August I had enough before I dumped him on the 24th it was our 10 months anniversary being together then I got intell about he was talking to another guy and that's when I found out he was actually cheating on me before I dumped him
I dumped his ass..but it got even worse In September Timmy wanted revenge and spread two fake rumors about me one of them was I apparently called one of my friend a slu# but I haven't and I knew I don't say those things to anyone of my friends.
Timmy made my life miserable at college he even got his mates to bully me and turn all of my new friends and my closet friends against me.
I also forgot to mention he emotional blackmail me when I was still with him.
He kept on bullying me so I told all the teachers about the situation and they are going to deal with it.
Fast forward in 2023 Timmy and his mates has been trying to follow me where I was going. Then when I finally finished college Timmy has been cyber bullying me for two years
And now 2024 I found out he still has feelings for me I told him "I don't have anything feelings for you anymore"
AITA?
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Back in 2021 when I was a college student I met this guy call let's say "Timmy" my mates was trying to get me and Timmy together Timmy is a M16 I was M17 back then.
We started dating in November the 24th 2021 it was amazing for 3 months but then he started to be an ass to me told me to help him with his situation and I did but at the end he didn't even asked to help me out with my situation.
He wanted me to spend my pocket money on him he has hissy fits if I don't treat him with gifts.
Forward to March 2022 it was my 18th birthday family comes over and then "Timmy" show up I told him to leave at 1pm so my family can come over to spend time with me but he didn't so he decided to go to my own parent's and say "I got told that I should be leaving at 1pm" but my parents asked me he can stay a while-(let's get this straight he has been controlling me to do things and forced me to kiss him even I didn't wanna do)
I was so uncomfortable when Timmy stayed he played innocent all day on my birthday then out of nowhere he said "so are you and you're parents coming down tomorrow to meet my family"
As always my parents said yes Tomorrow comes we went to a pub to meet Timmy's parent's The music was way to loud and I wasn't a outside person but he kept on getting my hands and put it on his shoulder even though I didn't want to.
For few more months later in May I had enough of Timmy so I dumped him then decided to be a drama queen and got all of my mates at college against me and why I shouldn't have dumped him he was too clingy and lazy he only cares about himself but no one else. Then on the same day I got back with him....oh boy I was stupid I should have dumped him.
This part is a bit thunder bolt
In my summer holidays Timmy non stop texting me that I should meet up and I told him I have other plans 5 minutes later he messaged me that he was coming over to give me my plushie that he got for me I wasn't in the mood to see him at all I just wanted to spend time with my family in my summer holidays Then 4 days later I did see him and spend time with him..
A month later in August I had enough before I dumped him on the 24th it was our 10 months anniversary being together then I got intell about he was talking to another guy and that's when I found out he was actually cheating on me before I dumped him
I dumped his ass..but it got even worse In September Timmy wanted revenge and spread two fake rumors about me one of them was I apparently called one of my friend a slu# but I haven't and I knew I don't say those things to anyone of my friends.
Timmy made my life miserable at college he even got his mates to bully me and turn all of my new friends and my closet friends against me.
I also forgot to mention he emotional blackmail me when I was still with him.
He kept on bullying me so I told all the teachers about the situation and they are going to deal with it.
Fast forward in 2023 Timmy and his mates has been trying to follow me where I was going. Then when I finally finished college Timmy has been cyber bullying me for two years
And now 2024 I found out he still has feelings for me I told him "I don't have anything feelings for you anymore"
AITA?
2024.05.15 14:02 ThrowAway7s2 "Sevastopol Spanish students Aided by Peruvian teacher" from the October 1, 1968 Door County Advocate
 | submitted by ThrowAway7s2 to DoorCountyALT [link] [comments] TEACHING SPANISH at Sevastopol high school is Luisa Contelli from Peru who is helping the regular teacher with classes and the students with their accent and pronunciation. She is shown above (on the swing) with Denise and Becky Volkmann. Luisa is a guest at the Lester Volkmann home while here. —Advocate Sevastopol Spanish students Aided by Peruvian teacherBy FRANCES BADTKETo paraphrase an old saying, "a long speech begins with a single word." And while we would not accuse Luisa Contelli of being "wordy," her English started not so long ago with a single word and she learned to speak English in just four months before she came to this country. Luisa is a Spanish aid teacher at Sevastopol high school and is assisting the regular teacher with her Spanish classes and helping the students with their pronunciation and accents. Her English is fluent with a pleasantly charming accent and a person talking with her would never suspect that she had not been speaking English, or perhaps we should say "American" for such a short time. She took an intensive four month course from the Peruvian North American Institute. When asked if she had trouble with all our various ways of pronouncing the same letters she said, "to study English for me is very hard, to understand is even worse." And if we were to have to get along with people who spoke only Spanish, we would probably echo her words. So when you talk to her, speak slowly and clearly. Luisa is staying with the Lester Volkmann family on Route 1, Egg Harbor, and she goes back and forth to Sevastopol on the school bus with the Volkmann children. Denise in the seventh grade and Becky in the eighth are especially thrilled that she is their guest while she is in Door county. Before coming here she was at Concordia college camp where she taught Spanish. Her stay here will be for a total of six weeks, after which she will go on to Chicago, Arkansas, Washington state and California. She will stay for six weeks in each of six locations while in this country. She will be showing slides at the PTA meeting at Sevastopol this Thursday evening and speak on her country and her experiences. She has many slides of Incas, hand made materials, festivals and other familiar scenes from her homeland in South America. She is from Piura, Peru, and has three brothers and three sisters. Her father has a tropical plantation and grows cotton and rice. Luisa herself worked in a bank before coming here. She had been in this country three times prior to this year, but had only spent about a month each time on a vacation. In 1963 she went to Mexico for two months and then to the U.S. for one month. It never snows in Peru, except in the mountains, and since it is very warm there, usually she finds our cool days something she will have to get used to. She plans to return to Peru in June, 1969, although she may stay for another year if she likes. But already she is getting just a little lonesome and is anxious to see her family and friends again. She is grateful and thrilled to be here and says "It has given me an opportunity to learn many things." She writes out a report every week of what she has done, both in her work as a Spanish aid teacher and in her off hours. She writes her impressions of our country and tells what she has been doing and with whom. Last weekend she visited another teacher at Sevastopol, Mrs. Mona Orthober, and her family. Mrs. Nicholson, also Spanish speaking, was there from the University at Madison. She is surprised at the youth of some of our bridegrooms and brides and said that in Peru they are about 24 before they feel they are ready to take on the responsibilities of marriage. One of Luisa's friends in her home town of Piura is the present Miss World, Madeleine Hartog, a stunning, stately brunette. Luisa attended Madeleine's sister's wedding before she came here and Miss World was one of her sister's bridesmaids. Madeleine's sister was named the best secretary in Peru in 1965. Miss World is crowned each November in London, England, and in November, 1968, Luisa will be able to watch her friend on television as she crowns the new Miss World and hands over her ermine trimmed cape and golden scepter. Luisa and Miss World When Luisa speaks to the PTA Thursday, she will also have some things from her country to show. Among these are lovely filigree jewelry In both silver and gold, intricately worked and beautifully designed. Special families in Peru make certain types of jewelry only and they pass their skills and patterns on to their children and their children's children, keeping them always in the family. She is the guest of the Lester Volkmanns who volunteered to have her and the family is taking her places around the county to see the scenery and meet different people. All the five children have enjoyed having her in their home. As Luisa said, "I will take my best 'remembers' from Egg Harbor." We can't ask more than that of any visitor. https://archive.co.door.wi.us/jsp/RcWebImageViewer.jsp?doc_id=1e8fc801-90a4-4104-8e86-19a1ea0947dc/wsbd0000/20151119/00000914&pg_seq=6 Courtesy of the Door County Library Newspaper Archive [There is also a photo titled "Miss World 1967-68, which is omitted due to possible copyright. It is in the Door County Newspaper Archive. Another similar photo of Madeleine Hartog Bell with sash and scepter is included in this article: https://elcomercio.pe/185-aniversario/1967-l-madeleine-hartog-es-elegida-miss-mundo-l-bicentenario-noticia/ ] Other visitor profiles: https://doorcounty.substack.com/t/visitor-profiles Articles by Frances Badtke: https://doorcounty.substack.com/t/frances-badtke |
2024.05.15 14:01 AwkwardObserver Late husband’s employer trying to sue me
So I started working for a small company in Colorado where I met my husband, let’s call him John. After about 5 months of me working there and us meeting, John and I got married in August of 2022. John was the general manager of this company who the owner (let’s call him Robert) trusted so much that he treated him almost as a co-owner though he was not. Well, John ended up passing away in February of 2023, almost six months after we got married. Keep in mind, I completely stopped working for that company around November or December of 2022. Robert withheld John’s W-2 from me for many months no matter what I did. That is until October rolled around and he served me papers (and the W-2, finally) stating he was attempting to sue me and John’s estate over John using the business card for personal expenses. Here’s the thing, back in January of 2021 John was in Peru with a girl he was seeing and an ATM ate his card, so he contacted Robert asking if he could use the business card for the remainder of the trip and that he would pay him back. Robert agreed. As I said, Robert trusted John very much with the company and with money. So even after John returned from Peru, this agreement was still in place and can be proven through text messages between the two of them. Lots of people in this small company had their own business cards, but I never had one. I never once touched John’s business card and never knew when he was using it. The credit card statements I was served show John using the business card to fund some of our trips to Las Vegas (for leisure) and California (because my dad was dying). Again, I didn’t know when he was using the business card, but him and Robert had already been in agreeance for well over a year that he could use the card as he pleased and would pay it down. The statement also shows expenses from before we were married and before we even met, up through May of 2023, three months after he died. Don’t even know how that’s possible. Robert is now trying to get about 28k out of me and out of John’s estate. To be clear, John had no estate. I’ve already filed my response with the Denver County Court, so there would be no deferred judgement and I haven’t heard anything in a little while. I’m almost 24 years old and have no money to fight this asshole in court. Can he really successfully sue me for something I had nothing to do with?
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2024.05.15 14:00 Imaginary-Insect4181 Tree stuff down hill
Just wanna let people know. Be careful if you order from Tree stuff they falsely advertise just about everything. One time I had to wait over six months when I ordered a spider jack three from them. Their excuse was it was not in stock, but their website said it was and still said it was so I called finally. From a different number and acted like a different person in need of a spider jack three and the man said yes I have one right here. Then you can send it to me since I’ve been waiting over a year for it.. They were so embarrassed. They sent me a free zigzag. I stopped using them because a lot of companies in my area stopped using them for that reason. Then people told me they were doing better and I seen a few things that caught my eye so I ordered them. No receipt with my package. And a rope that says ships to next day was not in the package when other stuff arrived and took a week to get here only because I complained. Also they do sneaky stuff like pluralize words . if you look on their site, you will see a picture of four throw weights on sale the description all the way through reads( weights ) when it comes you have one weight ! . So just be careful if you’re in a pinch and you need something I would trust another establishment before I would trust them. I will no longer ever orde I will no longer ever order stuff again… oh, and their little tactic to get you to order stuff with their sales they try really hard to make sure you do not get those sales.
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2024.05.15 14:00 PenguinGreat Ranking how attractive every Nikke I have is
 | I'm very much expecting to be roasted for my great taste. Do your worst. submitted by PenguinGreat to NikkeMobile [link] [comments] I've been playing for nearly six months. Many of the characters I've really come to really enjoy. So, I wanted to go through each Nikke I have pulled and discuss how attractive they are. Attraction has two big components for me, how physical attractive they are and how attractive their personality is. I will refer to these as "beauty" and "personality" I will rank both on a 1-10 scale and combine for a total score. Note that I will only be reviewing Nikkes that I have pulled. Hard for me to review characters I don't know very well. Tier list for summary: https://preview.redd.it/ft83lqeexk0d1.jpg?width=727&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=752266e0bfbd061811f1147dd0223425bf5ca83b Let's start with the top tier "Spend the rest of my life with". These are the best of the best and most attractive girls with scores 18.5 and up. Rapi Beauty - 10/10 Personality - 10/10 Total score - 20/20 Starting with best girl Rapi. The only girl I give a perfect score to in both categories. She's the poster girl for the game for a reason. Just so beautiful and adorable. Just a great design and outfit. Love her cute cap especially. In terms of personality, she also knocks it out of the park. I have a big weakness for characters that appear cold on the outside but are actually just softies. Rapi pulls this off perfectly. I also really enjoy characters that are really disciplined and loyal to what they believe in. I also really enjoy the "straight man" role she plays with Anis and Neon's antics. Marciana Beauty - 10/10 Personality - 9.5/10 Total score - 19.5/20 Maybe it's the tight white pants, maybe it's the midriff, maybe it's the fact that she looks like a hot teacher I had when I was 14 but I think Marciana has one of the most attractive appearances of any Nikke. She has a great demenor and I will always have a love for dark haired girls. Her personality is also fantastic. I love her stern and cold appearance on first viewing. Much like Rapi, I just love a girl who is tough on the outside but a big softy on the inside. She was extremely adorable in her bond story and I loved seeing that other side of her you may not expect. D Beauty - 10/10 Personality - 9/10 Total score - 19/20 There is no more attractive combo than black hair + red eyes. This combo will kill me every time I see it. Now I liked D before, but once she got her new SSR she rocketed up my beauty rankings. She is the most attractive looking girl in all of Nikke without a doubt. Her black dress is to die for. Plus she reminds me a bit of Yor Forger which is always a good thing. As you can probably tell from above, I really love girls who seem really cold and rigid. I feel D may not show her soft side as much as Marciana or Rapi but the odd time it does come it is absolutely adorable. I also really appreciate her strong discipline and wanting to get her job done and do it correctly. Maxwell Beauty - 10/10 Personality - 8.5/10 Total score - 18.5/20 Maxwell marks the last Nikke in my ranking to receive a 10 for beauty, and she absolutely deserves it. Every part of Maxwell is just amazing to look at. Her toned abs are the highlight for me as I really love an athletic girl, as well as having my ideal chest size. She's free to examine me as much as she wants. Not to mention her design is also extremely adorable and I love the little cap she has on. Her personality also does quite well for me. I really enjoy the straight man role she has with her quirky teammates. A valuable role to have as it is needed to keep them in check and to not go overboard. Blanc Beauty - 9.5/10 Personality - 9/10 Total score - 18.5/20 Ah the bunny girls, of course Blanc's beauty will be high! Blanc is absolutely adorable! The white skin, hair, and suit mixing with those beautiful yellow eyes is truly breathtaking. The adorable collar and tie she has is amazing as well. My favourite part of her whole design has to be the little fang she has. It just destroys me. I really love how outgoing, extraverted, and friendly she is. This side of her does really well playing off Noir and giving them a fun dynamic in how opposite they are in many way. Someone just very enjoyable that I would love to see on my screen at any time. That concludes our top tier and my top 5. Next we will go to the still great but "Near perfection". This includes scores of 17-18. Privaty Beauty - 9/10 Personality - 9/10 Total score - 18/20 Privaty is super adorable. She has my favourite blush out of any girl in the game. Also love her adorable twintails, sexy yellow eyes, and her larger than sometimes expected chest. Her maid SSR is fantastic and really helps show off her adorableness and her assets. I adore tsunderes and Privaty does it perfectly. She would be so fun to tease as you would always get a great reaction. Like stated previously, I really love a girl who seems rigid at first but actually really cares. Diesel Beauty - 8.5/10 Personality - 9/10 Total score - 17.5/20 Diesel is really pretty and quite beautiful. Her conductor outfit is very cute and fits her very well. Her smile is always a joy to see and should always be protected. I adore how sweet she is. Someone who you just want to see keep smiling and never frown. I really enjoy her because she is just a joy to be around. Even in her sader moments, it is still great to see her be able to move on and keep a smile. Crown Beauty - 8.5/10 Personality - 8.5/10 Total score - 17/20 Crown is very elegant and beautiful. I love the dignified aura her design holds. Her outfit is great too, as it really does well in both showing her curves but still giving her a regal and professional feel. I think Crown is hilarious with how she can often mess up basic words and concepts. Otherwise, I really love how disciplined she is and how dedicated she is to being a leader. Rosanna Beauty - 9.5/10 Personality - 7.5/10 Total score - 17/20 Rosanna has a fantastic design. Split white/black hair is great and man those eyes are killer. Her outfit is also fantastic. The mafia boss style is cool and sexy, and she has great midriff and cleavage that are very alluring. Don't even get me started on those thigh high boots. Her personality is also good, even if not as great as who I have mentioned before. I love how forward she is with what she wants. Just straight up telling the commander she wants to hook up in her bond story was awesome. I also love how protective she can really get. Exia Beauty - 8/10 Personality - 9/10 Total score - 17/20 Exia is such a cutie. The oversized shirt is adorable and oddly quite sexy. The messy hair, dazed look in her eyes, and exposed thighs are also really good. I'd love to waste the rest of my life playing video games with Exia. Just waste away from responsibilities and society by just playing games. This is the ideal scenario in my mind. Isabel Beauty - 8/10 Personality - 9/10 Total score - 17/20 Isabel has a killer body and a very kissable face. I really love her beautiful long purple hair and how it blends with her beautiful eyes and outfit so well. Yanderes are always fantastic. Isabel can lock me in her house and throw away the key for all I care. She just needs some love and to have a stable happy family in her life (I mean I don't know how stable of a life you could have with Isabel but at least we have similar life goals). Those are the 6 in my second tier. Next we have the "Beautiful" tier for those scoring between 15-16.5. Rapunzel Beauty - 8.5/10 Personality - 8/10 Total score - 16.5/20 I'm not normally into the whole nun thing and I'm also not typically into blondes but Rapunzel is so gorgeous that I overlook that. She has a very lovely smile and a very alluring outfit that shows her great proportions very nicely. Her normally holy design and behaviour being taken over by her dirty thoughts is always funny too see. She reminds me a bit of Darkness from Konosuba in that way. With the impure thoughts just constantly invading her mind. Mihara Beauty - 8/10 Personality - 8/10 Total score - 16/20 Mihara really activated something in me that I didn't know I had. Her outfit is quite lewd but also very attractive. The black goes really well with her lovely black hair. You can really tell she mean business. Masochism is great, right? I definitely like giving pain rather than receiving so this works for me. Not to mention that I really like her voice. Goes right through my ears and into my brain. Noir Beauty - 7.5/10 Personality - 7.5/10 Total score - 15/20 The 2nd best of the bunnies, she is good but not nearly as good as Blanc. She has quite the attractive appearance but I feel her chest is a bit too large for what I normally like in a girl. Otherwise the black bunny suit is really great. Personality also isn't as good as blank. I don't tend to enjoy someone who is overly shy and reserved. I do appreciate how kind and caring she is and how she is trying to improve. Yuhla Beauty - 7.5/10 Personality - 7.5/10 Total score - 15/20 Yuhla's design overall is very good but it is her sharp teeth that appeal to me most. Something about them is just very attractive and suits her quite well. Not to mention her outfit gives her great midriff and even shows off some cool scarring. I really appreciate hard workers and while she doesn't have the most friendly personality, she still wins me over with how spicy she got in her bond story. That ends this tier of characters. Next we start to fall off a bit with the "Almost good" tier. This tier has scores from 13.5-14.5. Helm Beauty - 7/10 Personality - 7.5/10 Total score - 14.5/20 On paper Helm's design should by a 10/10 for me. The outfit, the hair, the thick thighs all really appeals to me. Just something about her feels a bit... off? Maybe it is her posture and how she is a bit hunched over that makes it look odd to me. Still overall I like her design but I just feel it is not as good as it should be. I really appreciate how disciplined she is. Anytime a girl has strong discipline and loyalty she will really appeal to me. Other than that she is a little bit boring. I remember her bond story being a bit meh. Naga Beauty - 8/10 Personality - 6.5/10 Total score - 14.5/20 Naga has a great design. Schoolgirl outfit is very cute and the unbuttoned top and short teasing skirt are very alluring. I really like her hairstyle with one of her eyes being covered by her hair. Naga's personality doesn't quite hit for me. I like how she tends to act more on the mature side but in reality I just found her to be really really boring most of the time. A few times she was good but it wasn't often enough for me to give a higher score. Noise Beauty - 7.5/10 Personality - 6.5/10 Total score - 14/20 Noise is another girl with a very attractive design. It is really good all around and I can see how people would really like her, but for me it is good rather than great. I'm not a big fan of the blonde she has in her hair. If her hair was all dark I think it would look better. Her personality is very bland. On paper I like the idea of a one hit wonder trying to get another hit but Noise just doesn't have the personality to get me invested. No an awful one but not great either. Mast Beauty - 8.5/10 Personality - 5/10 Total score - 13.5/20 Mast has a great design. Very sexy and very cute. Reminds me a bit of Marine from Hololive. The twintails are super cute and the fang is fantastic. For personality, I haven't done her bond story yet so I don't know it too well. Her ranking may change when I play it. For now I think a 5 is fair as from what I have seen, she seems average. This ends the first half of tiers. Now we start getting into those I don't like. Next is the "Average at best. Bad at worst". Scores will be 11-13. Quiry Beauty - 7/10 Personality - 6/10 Total score - 13/20 Quiry is very cute and I really like her outfit. One major drawback of her is that I am not a huge fan of pink hair. Otherwise the design is pretty solid all around. I don't know too much about her as I haven't done her bond story but I do like her quirk of having poor eyesight. Cute and endearing but I just don't know her well enough. Soda Beauty - 7/10 Personality - 6/10 Total score - 13/20 Soda has two very big reasons to like her design. The thing holding her design back for me is that her head just looks empty. Like just a blank face with no other thoughts behind it. Normally I like a smile but she looks less dumb without one. Her personality is a bit annoying. I like a bit of clumsiness but hers just is way too much. Really brings down her score for me. Otherwise she seems cute and kind. Julia Beauty - 7.5/10 Personality - 4.5/10 Total score - 12/20 If there was an award for most forgettable SSR, I would give it to Julia. I completely keep forgetting she exists even tho I do really like her design. It is very beautiful and elegant. I really like the violin as well. Maybe because I haven't done her bond story but what I have seen just seems really boring to me. As I learn more about her, she may go up but for now I can only give a 4.5. Yuni Beauty - 5.5/10 Personality - 6/10 Total score - 11.5/20 Yuni's design doesn't hit super hard for me. A bit too small in stature for my personal preference but she is quite cute. Plus again not huge on pink hair in general. I don't like receiving pain (at least not physical) so that relly does turn me away from her a bit. Otherwise she is cute enough but not my cup of tea. Anis Beauty - 6/10 Personality - 5.5/10 Total score - 11.5/20 Now I know some won't be happy with this one. Anis is very ok but is 100% overrated. She is quite cute but she really doesn't live up to the hype that some people give her. I do like her hat a lot tho. For personality she can be annoying at times. She can be funny but for the most part I think a lot of her jokes fall flat. This ends the average tier. Now we can get into girl I don't like in the "Why do people like them?" tier. This has scores between 5-10. Brid Beauty - 5/10 Personality - 5/10 Total score - 10/20 I know Brid has 2 big reasons that people like her, but for me they are a bit too big and I don't really like anything else she has going for her. Not huge on the hair even tho I am normally a big fan of white hair. Personality is a bit boring. I like how she is a hard worker but she really puts me to sleep. Delta Beauty - 5/10 Personality - 5/10 Total score - 10/20 Very meh design. Not a fan of the hair, or the army gear. If she wore the sunglasses rather than having them on her forehead, it would improve my opinion. Personality is just plain boring. I appreciate discipline but I would rather watch paint dry. I have heard she give something at the end of her bond story tho... but not enough to redeem her. Alice Beauty - 4/10 Personality - 4.5/10 Total score - 8.5/20 Way too much pink on her. The pink jumpsuit I could live with but the pink hair just makes it a bit too much for me. With a different hair colour or different outfit colour she may appeal more to me. I thought she was cute at first but got really annoying quickly. Her voice also just begged the heck out of me and made me want to put the game down. Tia Beauty - 4/10 Personality - 4/10 Total score - 8/20 I don't really like her design. Schoolgirl is normally really good but hers just isn't appealing. Not a fan of the haircut and the look on her face has always bugged me a bit. She is very annoying. Like really she just gets on all my nerves. Not even sure why but she just really grates on me. Neon Beauty - 4/10 Personality - 3.5/10 Total score - 7.5/20 Neon is easily the worst Counters member. I wish it had been someone else. Exia I think would have been a good choice. Her design really doesn't do much for me. I usually like hats but hers I always thought looked really bad on her. Needs a change of outfit and to actually face the camera. Her personality is very annoying as well. Feels like she is so one note for someone who is a main character. Just talking about firepower and not a ton else. Just in the game way too much. Rupee Beauty - 3.5/10 Personality - 4/10 Total score - 7.5/20 Honestly I think she is kind of ugly. The big smile makes her looks super dumb and a bit like a bimbo. That's just what I get from her design. Don't find her attractive at all. Her personality also seems really annoying and was making me roll my eyes when she's on screen. That is the end of this tier. I know I have made some enemies for these placements. The next tier is the "Pass" tier. I'm not going to go through each girl here as they are all ones I just don't have an interest in. Most because the design just looks too young for me and I don't want to talk about their attraction level. There are some however who I really like the characters of. For example, Liter is great and I'd love to complain about the youth with her. Soline is also special to me as she was the first Nikke I pulled. The final tier is the "Extremely attractive but I hate them as characters so I wouldn't go close to them". These are the worst offenders of all. Characters who have the design but just awful personality. Sin Beauty - 9/10 Personality - -5/10 Total score - 4/20 Sin is insanely hot. A top 10 design in the game IMO. The yogo pants are wild and I really think the mask looks good on her. Here is the problem. I HATE manipulative women. Nothing is more aggravating and a bigger turn away than someone manipulative. Taking advantage of someone's kindness like that is just cruel and evil (and not evil in the sexy way). I just can't like someone like that. Viper Beauty - 9.5/10 Personality - -7/10 Total score - 2.5/20 Viper is even a worse case. She was the reason I started playing the game in the first place. My disappointment when she turned out to be manipulative and cruel just upset me greatly. A great design wasted on garbage. Crow Beauty - 8.5/10 Personality - -8/10 Total score - 0.5/20 I hate Crow. She has a great design that is attractive but I really hate her. I don't want to explain further because of spoiler reasons but she is everything I hate in a character and personality. This concludes all the Nikke girls I have and how attractive I find them. So, how's my taste? |
2024.05.15 13:59 teabagsforlegs Chronically occluded vein issue?
Hey all, I am a 35y female who experienced a blood clot in my upper arm as a result of having a PICC line for months. I initially was prescribed Xarelto, but was switched to Lovenox. Ultrasound showed the clot has reduced in size. However, a chest CTA revealed the left brachiocephalic vein is “chronically occluded.” It’s been about six months since the initial event and I’ve taken the anticoagulants consistently, but haven’t cleared the clot.
As a result of the occlusion, I’ve developed a number of collateral vessels to work around it. Hoping the anticoagulants break it up further, but I’ve heard that gets less likely over time. In a case like this, is it better to leave it alone (and let the collaterals do their job) or seek out some way of reopening the affected vein? Thank you!
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As a result of the occlusion, I’ve developed a number of collateral vessels to work around it. Hoping the anticoagulants break it up further, but I’ve heard that gets less likely over time. In a case like this, is it better to leave it alone (and let the collaterals do their job) or seek out some way of reopening the affected vein? Thank you!
2024.05.15 13:58 tinkerellabella Husband wants us to sell family home
My (29F) husband (40M) wants to sell our family home. What do I do?
Hi Reddit,
I'm in need of some advice regarding my current marital situation and the potential sale of our home. To give you the full picture, I'll start from the beginning. Apologies for the length, but I feel all the details are necessary to understand the context.
I (29F) met my husband (40M) on Tinder four years ago. We dated for about eight months when my family had an opportunity to purchase a property. My then-boyfriend was also looking to be involved in a business deal of that sort, and he was interested in having his name on the property as well. My father supported this, seeing as how my boyfriend was a physician with a good income, and saw this as a way to bring him closer to our family. The opportunity came quickly, and we all signed the contract to purchase the house.
Trouble began shortly after this. My boyfriend requested that only he and I be on the title of the house, removing the rest of my family, as he saw a future with us and envisioned it as our potential family home. My father was very pleased to hear this and supported it, so we obliged. During this time, the property had increased in value, and I requested the other family members be paid off so we could buy out their shares. My boyfriend declined, feeling it was unfair.
To skim over some details, here are the highlights of the construction: My boyfriend paid more for the down payment than we initially realized would be required. Because of this, he paid no further construction costs. The construction proceeded with debt from my family until the construction loans came through. My family paid for the construction, and my father built the house for us without charging for his management services. My father was displeased with my boyfriend’s behavior and required him to pay more money for the construction due to inflation and the COVID shutdown. My boyfriend declined, and my mother and I secretly took out a line of credit to front the construction costs to my father, pretending it was from my boyfriend. Eventually, as we got the construction loans on a rolling basis after meeting construction milestones, my mother’s line of credit was paid off.
During this time, my family and I wondered why my boyfriend had not proposed. I decided that if he hadn't proposed by a certain time, I would leave him. Fortunately, he did propose on Valentine’s Day 2022. By spring of 2022, construction was coming to an end, and it was time for us to settle into the house. My fiancé felt uncomfortable with how much money he had put into the house and was worried I could leave him and make a profit. I promised him I wouldn’t leave him, but it wasn’t enough. He said he would believe me if I had a child with him, otherwise women would leave men if there were no ties. I told him I would have a child with him right when we got married. He suggested I come off birth control, as it takes months for a woman’s cycle to normalize after being on birth control for many years. I promised him I would come off birth control.
Coming off birth control was more stressful than I realized. I was very hormonal, breaking out, and felt unlike myself. This contributed to my fiancé and I fighting more than usual. In one particularly heated fight, I told him I would go back on birth control and even purchased the pills, but he told me he would break up with me if I did because he wanted to get to know the real me. I conceded, and then something switched in me and I became excited at the possibility of having a baby. I started tracking my cycle and figuring out my ovulation days. I shared this with my fiancé, and on one of those days, we got pregnant. I didn’t find out until the end of summer 2022. When I did find out, I told my fiancé and suggested we should probably get married.
My fiancé's first response was that we should wait to see if the baby sticks, and if it does, then we can plan a marriage but he wanted to wait until February 2023. I was very disappointed and angry and yelled at him. I felt alone and overwhelmed by the thought of having an illegitimate child. After discussing potentially getting an abortion, potentially breaking up, and potentially selling the house, I talked my fiancé into keeping the baby and getting married. He also wanted to keep the baby but was afraid of our situation. After many fights about when to have the wedding, we finally decided on December 2022. At that point, I was four months pregnant. During this time, my fiancé and I had major arguments that therapy couldn’t even remedy. We would yell at each other, slam doors, I would cry, and he would hold himself up in a room for hours. We had nice moments too, but they were heavily clouded over by the bad.
Finally, we got married, and things were good for a while. But then we faced some marital problems. My husband kept separate accounts and managed the finances himself. We had a joint credit card where I could pay for expenses without being questioned. He made all of the major investment decisions and major purchases. If I tried to disagree or speak up, he would get upset because this was not the submissive wife I had promised him I would be. I made significantly less money than him but lived a good lifestyle, buying almost anything I wanted within reason. Coming from a traditional family, I was upset that finances were kept separate. And so it continued that my husband would invest tens of thousands of dollars into our house so that his family from out of town would visit. We live in Vancouver, Canada, but his family is from Ottawa. In hopes of luring his youngest sister (of four) to Vancouver, my husband would make any modification to the house that his youngest sister showed the slightest interest in. This included a hot tub on the rooftop, a media system in the basement, a movie projector, and much more. After said sister got married, she made it clear that she would not move to Vancouver. Then a switch happened in my husband, and he suddenly wanted to sell the house.
Meanwhile, during all this time, I had my baby, and my husband and I were still fighting more than ever. I felt no support from him, and he felt drained by his work, our fights, and being away from his family. Recently, for the past three months, he has been consistently pushing for the sale of our house. This is where my dilemma lies. I am afraid to sell this house because my husband has kept finances separate, and the mortgage on this house has been serving as a way for me to feel secure. My husband contributes a monthly amount on a regular basis. He could have forced a sale in the past but didn’t, instead paying into the monthly mortgage on top of other bills. Now, he is considering forcing the sale of our house, but I am upset that he is citing financing as the issue when I have been begging him to save money instead of spending (his response is that $200,000 does not affect a $2M mortgage, and that he now feels burnt out and wants to retire sooner and live passively). If I agree to sell, I feel unstable about moving from our home given that my husband and I fight so frequently, and I am left alone to take care of the child. It is also worth noting that my parents live right across the street and come over frequently to help with the child, or I would go over to seek their help. My husband says that he feels abandoned and uncomfortable frequently because of our proximity to my parents, but I feel it’s only been helpful because there have been times when I felt truly alone, and my parents were my only solace and support. My husband would ignore me for days, especially when I was postpartum and vulnerable. My parents now see my husband as someone who doesn’t put his wife and child first. My husband says that the massive mortgage we have is too stressful for him, and he can’t take that burden. I am sad that my husband will not consider keeping this house for another three years so that I can get comfortable with the idea of selling the house and that potentially I and my family can all move to Ottawa so that we can allow my husband to be closer to his family. My husband says that he’s tired of the mortgage and feeling forced to work and missing out on spending time with our daughter (his job is very high stress).
I don’t know what to do at this point, Reddit. I’m currently on extended maternity leave, but it ends in six months. My husband and I will have to come to an agreement about the house, otherwise, it is likely that he will force the sale of the house even if I’m not ready to move. I’ve consistently felt rushed and overlooked in this relationship. I am tired of being the small voice that does not impact decision-making. My husband is now being nice to me and trying to show me a good time, but I see it as him turning on his charming mode so that I can say yes to the sale of this house. I’m not sure what to do. Our fights and disagreements are so bad and the marriage feels like doom sometimes (never any physical violence). I sometimes questions even staying with him, but I worry for my daughter. I’m afraid of her being an only child of divorce; I imagine it’ll be lonely and emotionally traumatizing. He is a good father to her, even though he is cold (but civil) with me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR:
I need advice. I met my husband four years ago, and we bought a house together with my family's help. Financial disputes caused issues. Despite getting married and having a baby, we fight often. My husband handles our finances separately, spent a lot on the house, but now wants to sell it. I feel insecure about selling because the mortgage is like an investment to me, and also I rely on my parents, who live nearby, for help with our child. My husband feels stressed by the mortgage and feels homesick for his family 3000km away. I feel overlooked in decision-making and am unsure whether to agree to the sale, or to stand my ground and not sell. Sometimes I question staying in the marriage for my daughter’s sake, or is it better give up on this unhappy marriage.
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Hi Reddit,
I'm in need of some advice regarding my current marital situation and the potential sale of our home. To give you the full picture, I'll start from the beginning. Apologies for the length, but I feel all the details are necessary to understand the context.
I (29F) met my husband (40M) on Tinder four years ago. We dated for about eight months when my family had an opportunity to purchase a property. My then-boyfriend was also looking to be involved in a business deal of that sort, and he was interested in having his name on the property as well. My father supported this, seeing as how my boyfriend was a physician with a good income, and saw this as a way to bring him closer to our family. The opportunity came quickly, and we all signed the contract to purchase the house.
Trouble began shortly after this. My boyfriend requested that only he and I be on the title of the house, removing the rest of my family, as he saw a future with us and envisioned it as our potential family home. My father was very pleased to hear this and supported it, so we obliged. During this time, the property had increased in value, and I requested the other family members be paid off so we could buy out their shares. My boyfriend declined, feeling it was unfair.
To skim over some details, here are the highlights of the construction: My boyfriend paid more for the down payment than we initially realized would be required. Because of this, he paid no further construction costs. The construction proceeded with debt from my family until the construction loans came through. My family paid for the construction, and my father built the house for us without charging for his management services. My father was displeased with my boyfriend’s behavior and required him to pay more money for the construction due to inflation and the COVID shutdown. My boyfriend declined, and my mother and I secretly took out a line of credit to front the construction costs to my father, pretending it was from my boyfriend. Eventually, as we got the construction loans on a rolling basis after meeting construction milestones, my mother’s line of credit was paid off.
During this time, my family and I wondered why my boyfriend had not proposed. I decided that if he hadn't proposed by a certain time, I would leave him. Fortunately, he did propose on Valentine’s Day 2022. By spring of 2022, construction was coming to an end, and it was time for us to settle into the house. My fiancé felt uncomfortable with how much money he had put into the house and was worried I could leave him and make a profit. I promised him I wouldn’t leave him, but it wasn’t enough. He said he would believe me if I had a child with him, otherwise women would leave men if there were no ties. I told him I would have a child with him right when we got married. He suggested I come off birth control, as it takes months for a woman’s cycle to normalize after being on birth control for many years. I promised him I would come off birth control.
Coming off birth control was more stressful than I realized. I was very hormonal, breaking out, and felt unlike myself. This contributed to my fiancé and I fighting more than usual. In one particularly heated fight, I told him I would go back on birth control and even purchased the pills, but he told me he would break up with me if I did because he wanted to get to know the real me. I conceded, and then something switched in me and I became excited at the possibility of having a baby. I started tracking my cycle and figuring out my ovulation days. I shared this with my fiancé, and on one of those days, we got pregnant. I didn’t find out until the end of summer 2022. When I did find out, I told my fiancé and suggested we should probably get married.
My fiancé's first response was that we should wait to see if the baby sticks, and if it does, then we can plan a marriage but he wanted to wait until February 2023. I was very disappointed and angry and yelled at him. I felt alone and overwhelmed by the thought of having an illegitimate child. After discussing potentially getting an abortion, potentially breaking up, and potentially selling the house, I talked my fiancé into keeping the baby and getting married. He also wanted to keep the baby but was afraid of our situation. After many fights about when to have the wedding, we finally decided on December 2022. At that point, I was four months pregnant. During this time, my fiancé and I had major arguments that therapy couldn’t even remedy. We would yell at each other, slam doors, I would cry, and he would hold himself up in a room for hours. We had nice moments too, but they were heavily clouded over by the bad.
Finally, we got married, and things were good for a while. But then we faced some marital problems. My husband kept separate accounts and managed the finances himself. We had a joint credit card where I could pay for expenses without being questioned. He made all of the major investment decisions and major purchases. If I tried to disagree or speak up, he would get upset because this was not the submissive wife I had promised him I would be. I made significantly less money than him but lived a good lifestyle, buying almost anything I wanted within reason. Coming from a traditional family, I was upset that finances were kept separate. And so it continued that my husband would invest tens of thousands of dollars into our house so that his family from out of town would visit. We live in Vancouver, Canada, but his family is from Ottawa. In hopes of luring his youngest sister (of four) to Vancouver, my husband would make any modification to the house that his youngest sister showed the slightest interest in. This included a hot tub on the rooftop, a media system in the basement, a movie projector, and much more. After said sister got married, she made it clear that she would not move to Vancouver. Then a switch happened in my husband, and he suddenly wanted to sell the house.
Meanwhile, during all this time, I had my baby, and my husband and I were still fighting more than ever. I felt no support from him, and he felt drained by his work, our fights, and being away from his family. Recently, for the past three months, he has been consistently pushing for the sale of our house. This is where my dilemma lies. I am afraid to sell this house because my husband has kept finances separate, and the mortgage on this house has been serving as a way for me to feel secure. My husband contributes a monthly amount on a regular basis. He could have forced a sale in the past but didn’t, instead paying into the monthly mortgage on top of other bills. Now, he is considering forcing the sale of our house, but I am upset that he is citing financing as the issue when I have been begging him to save money instead of spending (his response is that $200,000 does not affect a $2M mortgage, and that he now feels burnt out and wants to retire sooner and live passively). If I agree to sell, I feel unstable about moving from our home given that my husband and I fight so frequently, and I am left alone to take care of the child. It is also worth noting that my parents live right across the street and come over frequently to help with the child, or I would go over to seek their help. My husband says that he feels abandoned and uncomfortable frequently because of our proximity to my parents, but I feel it’s only been helpful because there have been times when I felt truly alone, and my parents were my only solace and support. My husband would ignore me for days, especially when I was postpartum and vulnerable. My parents now see my husband as someone who doesn’t put his wife and child first. My husband says that the massive mortgage we have is too stressful for him, and he can’t take that burden. I am sad that my husband will not consider keeping this house for another three years so that I can get comfortable with the idea of selling the house and that potentially I and my family can all move to Ottawa so that we can allow my husband to be closer to his family. My husband says that he’s tired of the mortgage and feeling forced to work and missing out on spending time with our daughter (his job is very high stress).
I don’t know what to do at this point, Reddit. I’m currently on extended maternity leave, but it ends in six months. My husband and I will have to come to an agreement about the house, otherwise, it is likely that he will force the sale of the house even if I’m not ready to move. I’ve consistently felt rushed and overlooked in this relationship. I am tired of being the small voice that does not impact decision-making. My husband is now being nice to me and trying to show me a good time, but I see it as him turning on his charming mode so that I can say yes to the sale of this house. I’m not sure what to do. Our fights and disagreements are so bad and the marriage feels like doom sometimes (never any physical violence). I sometimes questions even staying with him, but I worry for my daughter. I’m afraid of her being an only child of divorce; I imagine it’ll be lonely and emotionally traumatizing. He is a good father to her, even though he is cold (but civil) with me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR:
I need advice. I met my husband four years ago, and we bought a house together with my family's help. Financial disputes caused issues. Despite getting married and having a baby, we fight often. My husband handles our finances separately, spent a lot on the house, but now wants to sell it. I feel insecure about selling because the mortgage is like an investment to me, and also I rely on my parents, who live nearby, for help with our child. My husband feels stressed by the mortgage and feels homesick for his family 3000km away. I feel overlooked in decision-making and am unsure whether to agree to the sale, or to stand my ground and not sell. Sometimes I question staying in the marriage for my daughter’s sake, or is it better give up on this unhappy marriage.
2024.05.15 13:57 teabagsforlegs Chronically occluded vein issue
Hey all, I am a 35y female who experienced a blood clot in my upper arm as a result of having a PICC line for months. I initially was prescribed Xarelto, but was switched to Lovenox. Ultrasound showed the clot has reduced in size. However, a chest CTA revealed the left brachiocephalic vein is “chronically occluded.” It’s been about six months since the initial event and I’ve taken the anticoagulants consistently, but haven’t cleared the clot.
As a result of the occlusion, I’ve developed a number of collateral vessels to work around it. Hoping the anticoagulants break it up further, but I’ve heard that gets less likely over time. In a case like this, is it better to leave it alone (and let the collaterals do their job) or seek out some way of reopening the affected vein? Curious if anyone else has had this experience… Thank you!
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As a result of the occlusion, I’ve developed a number of collateral vessels to work around it. Hoping the anticoagulants break it up further, but I’ve heard that gets less likely over time. In a case like this, is it better to leave it alone (and let the collaterals do their job) or seek out some way of reopening the affected vein? Curious if anyone else has had this experience… Thank you!
2024.05.15 13:56 LetterGrouchy6053 Treason; it's as simple as this.
It is all as simple as this. Giuliani, Trump, and a bevy of traitors to our country, tried to nullify the votes of 87 million people and overthrow the legitimate government of the United States.
That's it in a nutshell.
Almost every one of these treasonous criminals has been indicted and the government has overwhelming proof of their guilt. In boxing they say "You can run, but you can't hide".
The wheels of justice may be slow, but the results ar inevitable.
Trump and his accomplices (many in the House of Representatives) will be tried, convicted, and hit with the most severe prison sentences allowed by law.
See this -- Italics mine.
Giuliani has now been charged under an Arizona fake electors plot, with one legal expert suggesting investigators have "gold" evidence against him.
© Joe Raedle/Getty Images
Rudy Giuliani's legal problems could be about to get worse, a former U.S. attorney has said.
Giuliani was one of 18 people indicted last month in Arizona over an alleged scheme to overturn the 2020 election results in the state. He was served the indictment alongside six Trump allies, including Trump's former and his close adviser Boris Epshteyn, as well as 11 individuals who acted as fake GOP electors for Arizona in the last presidential election.
However, Giuliani is the only defendant prosecutors have been unable to serve with a summons, according to Richie Taylor, a spokesperson for the Arizona attorney general's office.
Taylor said prosecutors and investigators working for Arizona Attorney General Kris Mayes have made multiple attempts to serve Giuliani a summons, which serves as a formal notice that he has been criminally charged and must appear before a judge at Maricopa County Superior Court on May 21. However, they have been unable to find him. He added that the day after the state-level grand jury handed up its indictment to Giuliani, two agents for the attorney general's office traveled to New York City with plans to hand-deliver the notice to him.
The agents determined that Giuliani was in his New York apartment because he had recently video streamed from his residence, Taylor continued, adding that upon their arrival, they were told by a person at the front desk that they were not allowed to accept service of the documents. Taylor said the person did not dispute Giuliani lived there. "We were not granted access," Taylor said.
The attorney general's office has also made multiple attempts to try to contact Giuliani by calling various phone numbers for him, "and none of them were successful," according to Taylor.
Newsweek has reached out to a representative for Giuliani via email for comment.
A person close to Giuliani told The Washington Post that the former New York City mayor and one-time attorney for Trump "keeps a busy schedule." Amid his apparent absence, Paul Charlton, a former U.S. attorney appointed by President George W. Bush, has argued that Giuliani's legal problems could potentially get worse if he does not appear for his initial court appearance, warning that it would lead to his arrest. "You can think of a summons to appear as a courtesy by the prosecutors—it is an invitation to appear," Charlton told The Washington Post. "You can be held in contempt if you are served and fail to appear. But the alternative for prosecutors is to issue an arrest warrant, and that is, of course, a much more compelling vehicle." He added that generally speaking, defendants who seek to avoid a summons should consider "the reality that the next step the prosecutors take won't be quite as gentle."
Giuliani has not responded to the case against him in Arizona, where Trump lost by 10,457 votes.
Trump was not among those charged in Arizona. He is described in the indictment only as "Unindicted Coconspirator 1."
"In Arizona, and the United States, the people elected Joseph Biden as President on November 3, 2020," the indictment reads. "Unwilling to accept this fact, Defendants and unindicted coconspirators schemed to prevent the lawful transfer of the presidency to keep Unindicted Coconspirator 1 in office against the will of Arizona's voters."
Giuliani is also involved in a Georgia election racketeering case brought by Fulton County District Attorney Fani Willis, in which he was charged alongside Trump with allegedly conspiring to overturn Biden's victory in the state. Both have pleaded not guilty.
He is also facing a $148 million judgment for defaming a pair of election workers in Georgia, which has led to him declaring bankruptcy.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/politics/rudy-giuliani-s-legal-problems-could-get-worse/ar-BB1mqtrK?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=HCTS&cvid=d6a1978455c442e1a30f1bf76541e86a&ei=41
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That's it in a nutshell.
Almost every one of these treasonous criminals has been indicted and the government has overwhelming proof of their guilt. In boxing they say "You can run, but you can't hide".
The wheels of justice may be slow, but the results ar inevitable.
Trump and his accomplices (many in the House of Representatives) will be tried, convicted, and hit with the most severe prison sentences allowed by law.
See this -- Italics mine.
Giuliani has now been charged under an Arizona fake electors plot, with one legal expert suggesting investigators have "gold" evidence against him.
© Joe Raedle/Getty Images
Rudy Giuliani's legal problems could be about to get worse, a former U.S. attorney has said.
Giuliani was one of 18 people indicted last month in Arizona over an alleged scheme to overturn the 2020 election results in the state. He was served the indictment alongside six Trump allies, including Trump's former and his close adviser Boris Epshteyn, as well as 11 individuals who acted as fake GOP electors for Arizona in the last presidential election.
However, Giuliani is the only defendant prosecutors have been unable to serve with a summons, according to Richie Taylor, a spokesperson for the Arizona attorney general's office.
Taylor said prosecutors and investigators working for Arizona Attorney General Kris Mayes have made multiple attempts to serve Giuliani a summons, which serves as a formal notice that he has been criminally charged and must appear before a judge at Maricopa County Superior Court on May 21. However, they have been unable to find him. He added that the day after the state-level grand jury handed up its indictment to Giuliani, two agents for the attorney general's office traveled to New York City with plans to hand-deliver the notice to him.
The agents determined that Giuliani was in his New York apartment because he had recently video streamed from his residence, Taylor continued, adding that upon their arrival, they were told by a person at the front desk that they were not allowed to accept service of the documents. Taylor said the person did not dispute Giuliani lived there. "We were not granted access," Taylor said.
The attorney general's office has also made multiple attempts to try to contact Giuliani by calling various phone numbers for him, "and none of them were successful," according to Taylor.
Newsweek has reached out to a representative for Giuliani via email for comment.
A person close to Giuliani told The Washington Post that the former New York City mayor and one-time attorney for Trump "keeps a busy schedule." Amid his apparent absence, Paul Charlton, a former U.S. attorney appointed by President George W. Bush, has argued that Giuliani's legal problems could potentially get worse if he does not appear for his initial court appearance, warning that it would lead to his arrest. "You can think of a summons to appear as a courtesy by the prosecutors—it is an invitation to appear," Charlton told The Washington Post. "You can be held in contempt if you are served and fail to appear. But the alternative for prosecutors is to issue an arrest warrant, and that is, of course, a much more compelling vehicle." He added that generally speaking, defendants who seek to avoid a summons should consider "the reality that the next step the prosecutors take won't be quite as gentle."
Giuliani has not responded to the case against him in Arizona, where Trump lost by 10,457 votes.
Trump was not among those charged in Arizona. He is described in the indictment only as "Unindicted Coconspirator 1."
"In Arizona, and the United States, the people elected Joseph Biden as President on November 3, 2020," the indictment reads. "Unwilling to accept this fact, Defendants and unindicted coconspirators schemed to prevent the lawful transfer of the presidency to keep Unindicted Coconspirator 1 in office against the will of Arizona's voters."
Giuliani is also involved in a Georgia election racketeering case brought by Fulton County District Attorney Fani Willis, in which he was charged alongside Trump with allegedly conspiring to overturn Biden's victory in the state. Both have pleaded not guilty.
He is also facing a $148 million judgment for defaming a pair of election workers in Georgia, which has led to him declaring bankruptcy.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/politics/rudy-giuliani-s-legal-problems-could-get-worse/ar-BB1mqtrK?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=HCTS&cvid=d6a1978455c442e1a30f1bf76541e86a&ei=41
2024.05.15 13:56 liamjonas Spring 2002 the season 2nd wave died
Everyone here knows that mall emo over saturating the market killed 3rd wave emo but what do you think killed the second wave?
In the beginning of 2002, 3 specific albums came out, that were follow ups to big hits, where the band was like "fuck the kids" we are going to release our version of a Pink Floyd album, try to tour on the new songs and everyone that goes is gonna probably be their last show. 2 albums were shunned so bad that it ended the band.
Your Majesty January 22, 2002
Wood Water April 23, 2002
On a Wire May 14, 2002
The Anniversary released Your Majesty, was playing 12 minute jam versions of the new songs live, the kids weren't having this new shit at all and stopped going to shows. Josh, Jim, and Janko continued on as the only children putting out 2 whole albums that sounded exactly like Your Majesty. Adrianne Married Robbie from the Get Up Kids, then divorced Robbie from the Get Up Kids during this period, then released a reggae album that I personally love. Justin got really into crystals and moved to an island. Band over.
The Promise Ring released wood water on April 23 of 2002. Between the recording of Very Emergency and Wood Water, Davey had to have brain surgery, and so they wrote a chill album full of acoustic guitars and slow stuff. Much akin to when REMs drummer Bill had brain surgery and the band soldiered on, the kids weren't having it. Like not at all. There are demos of Wood Water with up tempo songs with synth all over them but it was not to be. The band was done and would later reform as Maritime doing the Midwest version of that boom tiss drum beat that was all the rage at the time like the killers and Franz Ferdinand. Still it felt like maritime was always chasing a sound and not pioneering it like the Promise Ring did.
Finally we come to On a Wire. The album that would split a fan base, and ultimately kill an entire wave. After Your Majesty and Wood Water came out months earlier, flopped, the kids were dying for some uptempo shit for the summer and this ain't it. The get up kids release On a Wire on May 14, 2002 and the rest is history. At the time the kids had had enough of this slow jam, lock yourself in the closet with a black light on shrooms and chill emo music. They all said fuck you second wave. Bye Bye.
A little album called Tell all Your Friends released exactly a month before on a wire on March 26, 2002. People will credit this album for starting the 3rd wave but Your Favorite Weapon came out in October of 2001. The one two punch of those 2 albums, combined with the release of these 3 disks full of never ending slow jams defeated a wave.
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In the beginning of 2002, 3 specific albums came out, that were follow ups to big hits, where the band was like "fuck the kids" we are going to release our version of a Pink Floyd album, try to tour on the new songs and everyone that goes is gonna probably be their last show. 2 albums were shunned so bad that it ended the band.
Your Majesty January 22, 2002
Wood Water April 23, 2002
On a Wire May 14, 2002
The Anniversary released Your Majesty, was playing 12 minute jam versions of the new songs live, the kids weren't having this new shit at all and stopped going to shows. Josh, Jim, and Janko continued on as the only children putting out 2 whole albums that sounded exactly like Your Majesty. Adrianne Married Robbie from the Get Up Kids, then divorced Robbie from the Get Up Kids during this period, then released a reggae album that I personally love. Justin got really into crystals and moved to an island. Band over.
The Promise Ring released wood water on April 23 of 2002. Between the recording of Very Emergency and Wood Water, Davey had to have brain surgery, and so they wrote a chill album full of acoustic guitars and slow stuff. Much akin to when REMs drummer Bill had brain surgery and the band soldiered on, the kids weren't having it. Like not at all. There are demos of Wood Water with up tempo songs with synth all over them but it was not to be. The band was done and would later reform as Maritime doing the Midwest version of that boom tiss drum beat that was all the rage at the time like the killers and Franz Ferdinand. Still it felt like maritime was always chasing a sound and not pioneering it like the Promise Ring did.
Finally we come to On a Wire. The album that would split a fan base, and ultimately kill an entire wave. After Your Majesty and Wood Water came out months earlier, flopped, the kids were dying for some uptempo shit for the summer and this ain't it. The get up kids release On a Wire on May 14, 2002 and the rest is history. At the time the kids had had enough of this slow jam, lock yourself in the closet with a black light on shrooms and chill emo music. They all said fuck you second wave. Bye Bye.
A little album called Tell all Your Friends released exactly a month before on a wire on March 26, 2002. People will credit this album for starting the 3rd wave but Your Favorite Weapon came out in October of 2001. The one two punch of those 2 albums, combined with the release of these 3 disks full of never ending slow jams defeated a wave.
2024.05.15 13:56 Postrevolution Should I tell my boyfriend I looked though his phone?
I 21F have been dating my boyfriend 21M for just under 2 years
I want to start this by saying I know snooping through phones is wrong and I feel really guilty for it but here’s kind of my explanation of why I did it
Me and my boyfriend have quite a large Friend group. There’s one girl in this group that quite often makes little comments like how attractive my boyfriend is and how I shouldn’t worry about her and his relationship because they’re just really really close friends. There was also one instance where we slept together and she just happened to sleepwalk into the room while we were doing it but it just sounded like a big coincidence how time it was.
I’ve brought the fact up that I’m uncomfortable with him speaking to her a few times, but I’ve never said that I want him to stop speaking to her because I don’t want to be that controlling kind of person but my brain got the best of me so he was at the gym to see if there was anything that she had been saying that was kind of crossing the lines a bit I looked on Snapchat and there wasn’t too much to find. There was one video where she sent a photo of her ass and said oh my God remember how small my bum used to be what she just kind of shot down and said that he wasn’t looking there and it was kind of brushed off and but apart from that there’s only one or two small little things that like friends would send to each other. I wasn’t too concerned although I would prefer he didn’t send them to her, then but when I was on there, I found something else that has upset me
So the girl in the friend group really isn’t as much of an issue that was all resolved but while on text I saw a message from a girl he was speaking to while me and him were still speaking.
(to fill in on the history at this point I had known him for six months three of those I’ve been actively flirting and admitting my feelings and he was reciprocating that that’s what it’s kind of the speaking phase)
I looked through some of their messages and a lot of the flirting he was doing with her sounded very similar to the flirting he was doing with with me at that time I know we weren’t dating so it’s not that big of a deal that he was speaking to someone else test all your options But the bit that upset me as well we were away on a group holiday. There was about 20 of us away me and him slept together (I was his first) and and after that seven of them continued travelling while the rest of us went home once he got back to the UK he then messaged this girl saying that he had got back and hope she was doing well with a x on the end
Fast forward nearly 2 years I’ve gone on to look on his phone and saw this messages. There’s been no contact after that message he had said after we slept together, but I’m still the fact that he had her after we had slept together and the fact that she didn’t reply I don’t know if he , chose not to speak to her or he just chose me because she didn’t reply
So my question is should I tell him that on his phone so should I bring up the fact that the girl in her friend group has been a bit flurry and I don’t like it or should I bring up the fact that he was still speaking to a girl when we were sleeping together before we got together or should I just let bygones be bygones since it was two years ago even though knowing this information is driving me a bit crazy
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TL; DR my boyfriend was flirting with another girl after we slept together for the first time (he was a virgin and we weren’t dating yet) but hurt as he told me he wasn’t speaking to anyone
Should I tell him I know ?
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I want to start this by saying I know snooping through phones is wrong and I feel really guilty for it but here’s kind of my explanation of why I did it
Me and my boyfriend have quite a large Friend group. There’s one girl in this group that quite often makes little comments like how attractive my boyfriend is and how I shouldn’t worry about her and his relationship because they’re just really really close friends. There was also one instance where we slept together and she just happened to sleepwalk into the room while we were doing it but it just sounded like a big coincidence how time it was.
I’ve brought the fact up that I’m uncomfortable with him speaking to her a few times, but I’ve never said that I want him to stop speaking to her because I don’t want to be that controlling kind of person but my brain got the best of me so he was at the gym to see if there was anything that she had been saying that was kind of crossing the lines a bit I looked on Snapchat and there wasn’t too much to find. There was one video where she sent a photo of her ass and said oh my God remember how small my bum used to be what she just kind of shot down and said that he wasn’t looking there and it was kind of brushed off and but apart from that there’s only one or two small little things that like friends would send to each other. I wasn’t too concerned although I would prefer he didn’t send them to her, then but when I was on there, I found something else that has upset me
So the girl in the friend group really isn’t as much of an issue that was all resolved but while on text I saw a message from a girl he was speaking to while me and him were still speaking.
(to fill in on the history at this point I had known him for six months three of those I’ve been actively flirting and admitting my feelings and he was reciprocating that that’s what it’s kind of the speaking phase)
I looked through some of their messages and a lot of the flirting he was doing with her sounded very similar to the flirting he was doing with with me at that time I know we weren’t dating so it’s not that big of a deal that he was speaking to someone else test all your options But the bit that upset me as well we were away on a group holiday. There was about 20 of us away me and him slept together (I was his first) and and after that seven of them continued travelling while the rest of us went home once he got back to the UK he then messaged this girl saying that he had got back and hope she was doing well with a x on the end
Fast forward nearly 2 years I’ve gone on to look on his phone and saw this messages. There’s been no contact after that message he had said after we slept together, but I’m still the fact that he had her after we had slept together and the fact that she didn’t reply I don’t know if he , chose not to speak to her or he just chose me because she didn’t reply
So my question is should I tell him that on his phone so should I bring up the fact that the girl in her friend group has been a bit flurry and I don’t like it or should I bring up the fact that he was still speaking to a girl when we were sleeping together before we got together or should I just let bygones be bygones since it was two years ago even though knowing this information is driving me a bit crazy
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TL; DR my boyfriend was flirting with another girl after we slept together for the first time (he was a virgin and we weren’t dating yet) but hurt as he told me he wasn’t speaking to anyone
Should I tell him I know ?
2024.05.15 13:54 teabagsforlegs Treating chronically occluded vein
Hey all, I am a 35y female who experienced a blood clot in my upper arm as a result of having a PICC line for months. I initially was prescribed Xarelto, but was switched to Lovenox. Ultrasound showed the clot has reduced in size. However, a chest CTA revealed the left brachiocephalic vein is “chronically occluded.” It’s been about six months since the initial event and I’ve taken the anticoagulants consistently, but haven’t cleared the clot.
As a result of the occlusion, I’ve developed a number of collateral vessels to work around it. Hoping the anticoagulants break it up further, but I’ve heard that gets less likely over time. In a case like this, is it better to leave it alone (and let the collaterals do their job) or seek out some way of reopening the affected vein? Thank you!
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As a result of the occlusion, I’ve developed a number of collateral vessels to work around it. Hoping the anticoagulants break it up further, but I’ve heard that gets less likely over time. In a case like this, is it better to leave it alone (and let the collaterals do their job) or seek out some way of reopening the affected vein? Thank you!
2024.05.15 13:53 LetterGrouchy6053 Treason; it's as simple as this,
Treason; it;s as simple as this.
It is all as simple as this. Giuliani, Trump, and a bevy of traitors to our country, tried to nullify the votes of 87 million people and overthrow the legitimate government of the United States.
That's it in a nutshell.
Almost every one of these treasonous criminals has been indicted and the government has overwhelming proof of their guilt. In boxing they say "You can run, but you can't hide".
He wheels of justice may be slow, but the results ar inevitable.
Trump and his accomplices (many in the House of Representatives) will be tried, convicted, and hit with the most severe prison sentences allowed by law.
See this -- Italics mine.
Giuliani has now been charged under an Arizona fake electors plot, with one legal expert suggesting investigators have "gold" evidence against him.
© Joe Raedle/Getty Images
Rudy Giuliani's legal problems could be about to get worse, a former U.S. attorney has said.
Giuliani was one of 18 people indicted last month in Arizona over an alleged scheme to overturn the 2020 election results in the state. He was served the indictment alongside six Trump allies, including Trump's former and his close adviser Boris Epshteyn, as well as 11 individuals who acted as fake GOP electors for Arizona in the last presidential election.
However, Giuliani is the only defendant prosecutors have been unable to serve with a summons, according to Richie Taylor, a spokesperson for the Arizona attorney general's office.
Taylor said prosecutors and investigators working for Arizona Attorney General Kris Mayes have made multiple attempts to serve Giuliani a summons, which serves as a formal notice that he has been criminally charged and must appear before a judge at Maricopa County Superior Court on May 21. However, they have been unable to find him. He added that the day after the state-level grand jury handed up its indictment to Giuliani, two agents for the attorney general's office traveled to New York City with plans to hand-deliver the notice to him.
The agents determined that Giuliani was in his New York apartment because he had recently video streamed from his residence, Taylor continued, adding that upon their arrival, they were told by a person at the front desk that they were not allowed to accept service of the documents. Taylor said the person did not dispute Giuliani lived there. "We were not granted access," Taylor said.
The attorney general's office has also made multiple attempts to try to contact Giuliani by calling various phone numbers for him, "and none of them were successful," according to Taylor.
Newsweek has reached out to a representative for Giuliani via email for comment.
A person close to Giuliani told The Washington Post that the former New York City mayor and one-time attorney for Trump "keeps a busy schedule." Amid his apparent absence, Paul Charlton, a former U.S. attorney appointed by President George W. Bush, has argued that Giuliani's legal problems could potentially get worse if he does not appear for his initial court appearance, warning that it would lead to his arrest. "You can think of a summons to appear as a courtesy by the prosecutors—it is an invitation to appear," Charlton told The Washington Post. "You can be held in contempt if you are served and fail to appear. But the alternative for prosecutors is to issue an arrest warrant, and that is, of course, a much more compelling vehicle." He added that generally speaking, defendants who seek to avoid a summons should consider "the reality that the next step the prosecutors take won't be quite as gentle."
Giuliani has not responded to the case against him in Arizona, where Trump lost by 10,457 votes.
Trump was not among those charged in Arizona. He is described in the indictment only as "Unindicted Coconspirator 1."
"In Arizona, and the United States, the people elected Joseph Biden as President on November 3, 2020," the indictment reads. "Unwilling to accept this fact, Defendants and unindicted coconspirators schemed to prevent the lawful transfer of the presidency to keep Unindicted Coconspirator 1 in office against the will of Arizona's voters."
Giuliani is also involved in a Georgia election racketeering case brought by Fulton County District Attorney Fani Willis, in which he was charged alongside Trump with allegedly conspiring to overturn Biden's victory in the state. Both have pleaded not guilty.
He is also facing a $148 million judgment for defaming a pair of election workers in Georgia, which has led to him declaring bankruptcy.
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It is all as simple as this. Giuliani, Trump, and a bevy of traitors to our country, tried to nullify the votes of 87 million people and overthrow the legitimate government of the United States.
That's it in a nutshell.
Almost every one of these treasonous criminals has been indicted and the government has overwhelming proof of their guilt. In boxing they say "You can run, but you can't hide".
He wheels of justice may be slow, but the results ar inevitable.
Trump and his accomplices (many in the House of Representatives) will be tried, convicted, and hit with the most severe prison sentences allowed by law.
See this -- Italics mine.
Giuliani has now been charged under an Arizona fake electors plot, with one legal expert suggesting investigators have "gold" evidence against him.
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Rudy Giuliani's legal problems could be about to get worse, a former U.S. attorney has said.
Giuliani was one of 18 people indicted last month in Arizona over an alleged scheme to overturn the 2020 election results in the state. He was served the indictment alongside six Trump allies, including Trump's former and his close adviser Boris Epshteyn, as well as 11 individuals who acted as fake GOP electors for Arizona in the last presidential election.
However, Giuliani is the only defendant prosecutors have been unable to serve with a summons, according to Richie Taylor, a spokesperson for the Arizona attorney general's office.
Taylor said prosecutors and investigators working for Arizona Attorney General Kris Mayes have made multiple attempts to serve Giuliani a summons, which serves as a formal notice that he has been criminally charged and must appear before a judge at Maricopa County Superior Court on May 21. However, they have been unable to find him. He added that the day after the state-level grand jury handed up its indictment to Giuliani, two agents for the attorney general's office traveled to New York City with plans to hand-deliver the notice to him.
The agents determined that Giuliani was in his New York apartment because he had recently video streamed from his residence, Taylor continued, adding that upon their arrival, they were told by a person at the front desk that they were not allowed to accept service of the documents. Taylor said the person did not dispute Giuliani lived there. "We were not granted access," Taylor said.
The attorney general's office has also made multiple attempts to try to contact Giuliani by calling various phone numbers for him, "and none of them were successful," according to Taylor.
Newsweek has reached out to a representative for Giuliani via email for comment.
A person close to Giuliani told The Washington Post that the former New York City mayor and one-time attorney for Trump "keeps a busy schedule." Amid his apparent absence, Paul Charlton, a former U.S. attorney appointed by President George W. Bush, has argued that Giuliani's legal problems could potentially get worse if he does not appear for his initial court appearance, warning that it would lead to his arrest. "You can think of a summons to appear as a courtesy by the prosecutors—it is an invitation to appear," Charlton told The Washington Post. "You can be held in contempt if you are served and fail to appear. But the alternative for prosecutors is to issue an arrest warrant, and that is, of course, a much more compelling vehicle." He added that generally speaking, defendants who seek to avoid a summons should consider "the reality that the next step the prosecutors take won't be quite as gentle."
Giuliani has not responded to the case against him in Arizona, where Trump lost by 10,457 votes.
Trump was not among those charged in Arizona. He is described in the indictment only as "Unindicted Coconspirator 1."
"In Arizona, and the United States, the people elected Joseph Biden as President on November 3, 2020," the indictment reads. "Unwilling to accept this fact, Defendants and unindicted coconspirators schemed to prevent the lawful transfer of the presidency to keep Unindicted Coconspirator 1 in office against the will of Arizona's voters."
Giuliani is also involved in a Georgia election racketeering case brought by Fulton County District Attorney Fani Willis, in which he was charged alongside Trump with allegedly conspiring to overturn Biden's victory in the state. Both have pleaded not guilty.
He is also facing a $148 million judgment for defaming a pair of election workers in Georgia, which has led to him declaring bankruptcy.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/politics/rudy-giuliani-s-legal-problems-could-get-worse/ar-BB1mqtrK?ocid=msedgdhp&pc=HCTS&cvid=d6a1978455c442e1a30f1bf76541e86a&ei=41
2024.05.15 13:52 ninemountaintops Its the hope, however tiny the flame, that is the pilot light to all the prolonged pain. Snuff it out.
"Sometimes they don't ever come back..."
I've seen a few posts like this getting around. It's the truth. Sometimes they just don't. Do you have a conga-line of people, exs, past friends you fell out with etc that follows you around through all your days? I didn't think so.
A lot of times people just move in and out of our lives. In your fifties, you really see the patterns of your life laid out a little more clearly.
Six months now and we haven't spoken. Looking back, it was only ever painful being in that in-between space... will she won't she, are we on are we off, does she love me or not love me, are we doing this or are we finished?....
3 months, in hindsight, that's all I shouldve given it. 3 months and then, I MAKE THE DECISION... ITS OVER. AND THERE IS NO MORE 'US'.
No contact is a good thing, but set your time limit.... and once you've reached it...
...get back into life. Be done with them.
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I've seen a few posts like this getting around. It's the truth. Sometimes they just don't. Do you have a conga-line of people, exs, past friends you fell out with etc that follows you around through all your days? I didn't think so.
A lot of times people just move in and out of our lives. In your fifties, you really see the patterns of your life laid out a little more clearly.
Six months now and we haven't spoken. Looking back, it was only ever painful being in that in-between space... will she won't she, are we on are we off, does she love me or not love me, are we doing this or are we finished?....
3 months, in hindsight, that's all I shouldve given it. 3 months and then, I MAKE THE DECISION... ITS OVER. AND THERE IS NO MORE 'US'.
No contact is a good thing, but set your time limit.... and once you've reached it...
...get back into life. Be done with them.
2024.05.15 13:51 YonghaeCho I want to buy my family a house, but I don't know if it's a bad idea.
I'm currently living with my parents, working a remote software engineering job, earning $120k a year, $140k with bonuses. It's a pretty decent gig, and if I work hard, I'm only going to be making more money as time goes on. That said, although I'm very new to this, I'm looking to buy a house now. With the status of the current market, I know what you're thinking, but hear me out.
Throughout our lives, we've sort of lived in poverty/paycheck to paycheck. We've only ever had a home once, but that was many years ago, and my parents couldn't afford the mortgage anymore, so we were forced to sell it. We lost a lot of money doing that. My parents have been very sad since, and, now that they're getting old, I can tell that it makes them really sad that we don't have our own home for the family before they pass.
Now that my parents are almost in their 70s, and I'm earning a six-figure income, I want to move us into a house. A nice house. It doesn't have to be a mansion. But I want it to be clean, comfortable, and, most important of all, I want it to be our house. Not someone else's apartment we're renting. Not some room or rooms in someone else's house we're renting. A house that my parents can be happy to officially call their home.
I've always wanted to do this for them, and it would mean the world to them and more. Of course, I plan on paying the mortgage and any other fees, but that should be okay. The average home around where I live is $1.2 million USD, which is very high, but I think that I can get away with paying this off with a monthly mortgage of ~$3,400.00 per month across 30 years. If that's the case, I can afford that.
My parents are getting old, and they're sick. I want them to live happy in a home that they know they can truly call "ours" before they pass away. Just imagining them smiling and walking around the house all giddy because we finally have a home again makes me so happy, and it just makes me sad that I haven't been able to do anything life-changing for them. But I don't want to jump the gun. I know almost nothing about buying houses, other than that the market is really bad right now, that I'd have to pay a monthly mortgage (which, conceptually, is kind of like paying rent, I guess), and that my credit score has something to do with it, although it isn't too high right now (mid-700s).
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Throughout our lives, we've sort of lived in poverty/paycheck to paycheck. We've only ever had a home once, but that was many years ago, and my parents couldn't afford the mortgage anymore, so we were forced to sell it. We lost a lot of money doing that. My parents have been very sad since, and, now that they're getting old, I can tell that it makes them really sad that we don't have our own home for the family before they pass.
Now that my parents are almost in their 70s, and I'm earning a six-figure income, I want to move us into a house. A nice house. It doesn't have to be a mansion. But I want it to be clean, comfortable, and, most important of all, I want it to be our house. Not someone else's apartment we're renting. Not some room or rooms in someone else's house we're renting. A house that my parents can be happy to officially call their home.
I've always wanted to do this for them, and it would mean the world to them and more. Of course, I plan on paying the mortgage and any other fees, but that should be okay. The average home around where I live is $1.2 million USD, which is very high, but I think that I can get away with paying this off with a monthly mortgage of ~$3,400.00 per month across 30 years. If that's the case, I can afford that.
My parents are getting old, and they're sick. I want them to live happy in a home that they know they can truly call "ours" before they pass away. Just imagining them smiling and walking around the house all giddy because we finally have a home again makes me so happy, and it just makes me sad that I haven't been able to do anything life-changing for them. But I don't want to jump the gun. I know almost nothing about buying houses, other than that the market is really bad right now, that I'd have to pay a monthly mortgage (which, conceptually, is kind of like paying rent, I guess), and that my credit score has something to do with it, although it isn't too high right now (mid-700s).