Hello po. Medyo long story po.
Kakakasal lang po namin last March. We had a civil wedding sa Manila CH. Sila po ang naghandle ng papers namin, one of the councilor’s office. Day of wedding we found out that they were trying to have us married under Article 34. My partner went to them 3x before to ask if okay na ang license namin sabi nila oo daw. Of course, umalma kami. Their solution to that is to have the ceremony (we signed the papers) and wait for the marriage license to be released in a few days at yun ang marriage date namin on paper. Kinagat na namin since we cannot delay any further. We then submitted our local certificate to PSA and nung nirelease na laking gulat namin bakit may 2nd page na “Affidavit of Solemnizing officer” claiming that we were wed under Article 34. Even though page 1 clearly says that we have a legal marriage license.
We know it is our fault for relying on the “help” of others. We just want to know po if anything can be done to ammend the marriage certificate without going to court. We will be applying for spousal visa soon din po kasi.
Main concerns po namin: 1. Is it okay to just submit page 1 to USCIS? Without the 2nd page po 2. Do they scrutinize travel records since on paper our marriage date coincides with our honeymoon abroad? 3. May maissuggest po ba kayo as a next step?

I am a civil lawyer and head of my area, which means that everything that cannot be resolved through criminal means is resolved through us, from lawsuits against minors to divorces, false paternity, etc., everything that cannot be resolved by a lawyer penalist we solve it.
One thing that is true is that, at least in my country, it is much easier to process a divorce when there is domestic abuse involved, so much so that more than once clients are recommended to sign an affidavit of having suffered domestic violence. and use it as a determinant to end the marriage with their husbands.
These types of cases have become so common that I stopped seeing them and my subordinates see them directly, taking care of other types of more complicated cases.
The problem is that... I have become more distrustful of everyone, now when I see a case of abuse, violence or even r**e my first impression is "she's probably lying too", as I said, I don't see those cases directly, because even if the company and the lawyer are free of blame because it is the client who lies under a signed oath, so on that side I don't care, my hands are clean.
But talking to my therapist, she asked me if I don't have some remorse of guilt for thinking this way about other people who, in the end, may or may not be victims. The truth is, until she said it, I was fine, but I've started to doubt myself. myself, I'm not saying that I'm going to start believing any word someone says because a woman says it because I've seen too much shit to believe in people in general, but I am questioning my own identity as a woman and if my doubt made it possible victims society contributes or not, or whether it matters whether it contributes or not.
Please tell me, as a woman, is it wrong to have to doubt other women? Or are there cases in which I should believe? The truth is that it is very difficult for me at this point.
My husband says that I should take a rest from my job since it's actually changing the way I see people in general, not only men and women but kids too, but I worked so hard for this position that I don't want to risk it, at least for now.
I love my work, but it's true that by now the only persons I see as a "decent human" are my husband and my father, for everyone else I think the worst of them from the beginning, I'm on therapy for that tho, it doesn't make it feel less bad.

Thank you to u/TrueSaltnolies , they contributed a lot of details into this! I tried my best to add in what I could as well, but the original creator is on Facebook. All in all, we 3 contributed heavily. If you see any edits that need to be made, please comment them.
-February 8, 1998/1999 (unsure which year)- JP was indicted on charges: assault and battery of a high and aggravated nature. The indictment charges Miller with hitting a woman twice with his vehicle at a high rate of speed.
-April 13, 2003 - John-Paul Miller is found guilty of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon and knowingly causing property damage in excess of $300.
-February 28, 2005 - John-Paul Miler is charged with domestic assault/battery and bodily harm.
-2007- Mica and her family move to Myrtle beach. At this time she is 14 and enters JP’s youth group. He then starts grooming her.
-2012 - Mica Miller is married to another man. JP officiates the wedding.
-2015 - Mica & Pastor John-Paul Miller have an affair with each other. Both spouses of Mica & JPM file for divorce.
-2015 - Pastor John-Paul Miller writes a letter to the church asking for forgiveness. According to multiple members of the church at the time, Elders told them, "You're not a good Christian if you don't have forgiveness."
2015/2016- a video of JP is taken from a neighbor where he pretends to have fallen out of his truck, pretends to cry, and says “they changed my medication I feel like I’m going crazy. I just want to meet Jesus.”
-2017 - Mica & Pastor John-Paul Miller get married.
-2021 - Pastor John-Paul Millers alleged affair with Susie Skinner begins. Both Susie and her husband are members of the church. I've been told by several sources this is when the relationship began.
-September 6, 2021 - Susie Skinner's husband is found dead in a pool. Bound by a wheelchair, he accidentally falls in and drowns.
-October 2023 - Mica Miller files for divorce.
-October 22, 2023- JP uploads his sermon to YouTube where he says he’s seeing a psychiatrist for a VERY deep depression, has been taking lithium, and has suicidal thoughts.
-October 15-27, 2023- Mica participated in a church mission in Kenya.
-December 24, 2023 - John-Paul Miller sells his house to Solid Rock Church. (Deed of 246 Cold Water Circle).
-February 2024- Mica Miller's application for divorce is dismissed.
-February 4, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul preaches a sermon on Korah and Moses and how it's wrong to rise against religious leaders.
-February 6, 2024- Mica leaves this voicemail to JP: "Hey honey. Uhh, hope I'm talking to my husband. I never should have left you. I never should have abandoned you when you were trying to work things out. I never should've put anybody else before you. I love you. At this point, I don't even know who my husband is because I don't have a paper trail. I don't have a copy of my marriage license and where it was filed and proof that I am married to who the world thinks I'm married to, who I think I'm married to. I don't even know anymore. I'm getting tax records from Mica Francis, Mica Miller, I don't even know what my last name is. I know I'm Mica Acacia, I know I'm that. My parents gave me those two names. That's on my original birth certificate. Still is today. But I don't know who I belong to under God and legally anymore, because I don't have a paper trail. And that's important because if you get put on life support, if you are mentally unable or unfit to run the church, I need to know the paper trail. Who's in charge? We got a lot of assets, a lot of money to guard. This is not our money, it's God's money. Whose money was that before God? He put it in the pocket to people, and then those people gave it to us and entrusted us with God's money, in God's house, to do as God wishes. But I don't know who steers the boat anymore, and that concerns me. I'd like a paper trail. I don't feel like that's too much to ask from the First Lady, or maybe the First Lady of Solid Rock, in case something happens to you. I love you. This isn't to harm you. I love you. Bye."
-February 8, 2024- Mica is involuntarily hospitalized in a mental facility by JP. (Note: this was after she asked for a paper trail).
-February 8, 2024- According to affidavits from Mica's family, John-Paul Miller removes Mica’s possessions from the home they shared while she was in Waccamaw Mental Health Facility. While in the facility, JP *allegedly* removed documents of abuse and fraud that Mica had been collecting from her digital file and locked her out of Facebook, iCloud, and other social media. He then makes posts pretending to be her.
-February 10, 2024 - Mica accuses JPM of stealing her car while admitted in the hospital.
-February 12, 2024- Mica withdraws the divorce filing.
-February 15, 2024- Mica’s sister, Sierra Francis, posts: “If you see any post, messages, or text from my sister, “mica miller”, it is not her. She doesn’t have access to phone, email, fb, none of it. You can see from her posts who’s actually controlling her account.”
-February 23, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul files for spousal support.
-February 23, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul leaves his number for a waitress. An adult conversation, through text, happens. JPM is seen begging for explicit photos from the woman.
-February 25, 2024 - In another sermon to his congregation Pastor John-Paul says a mentally ill person doesn't know they're sick. "You have to trust people around you. The thing that's sick is your mind and your mind is what you need to realize that you're sick."
-Febuary 29, 2024- Someone uploaded the new Dare2CareMissions website.
-March 7, 2024- Mica’s sister, Sierra Francis, posts, “Friendly reminder: My sister Mica DOES NOT have access to her phone, email, fb, OR charity account. She is not making these posts or sharing them.
-March 10, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul preaches a sermon and reveals he went through two years of messages on his wife's phone. He found that 18 people reached out saying to her, "If you ever want to talk about your husband you can talk to me and I'll keep it confidential." Visibly upset, the Pastor followed up with, "That's a demon talking..."
-March 10, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul tells his congregation that his wife was in the hospital and as soon as she got out, she left him. "She gets out and she just leaves. Just completely leaves me. Leaves everything, drains the bank account and just goes. Guess what? While you're talking bad about me out there l'm building a school in Africa for over a hundred kids to be able to be fed."
-March 10, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul says to his congregation, "One thing I'm going to preach about is gettin' rich, strong, healthy, and finding a hot wife that loves Jesus." while wearing his wedding ring.
-March 11, 2024 - Mica Miller files a police report that her tire was slashed. The possible suspects name was redacted from the report. There was also a tracking device found by East Coast Honda (Where Mica used to work)
-March 11, 2024- JP withdrew the separation filing.
-March 12, 2024 - Pastor John-Pauls request for spousal support was dismissed. There's no explanation as to why.
-March 14, 2024- Officers visited Mica’s apartment regarding report of a tracker found.
-March 17^t, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul tells a story of a Pastor whose wife left him for a member of his staff. The pastor had to hire a third party company to find her. Once he found her, divorce papers were drawn up. When the time came to sign the papers, the Pastor couldn't do it because, "Bible says divorce is wrong..." and if she wanted out she would have to leave him. According to affidavits, Mica Miller accuses her husband of tracking her.
-March 17, 2024 - In a Facebook post made by Mica's sister, Sierra Francis says, she keeps an eye on her phone, " ...for fear of my sisters safety due to others behaviors towards her." She goes on to mention the sermon from March 17th and calls out the congregation of Solid Rock Church.
-March 18, 2024 - Mica posts a video encouraging others. She says, "I'm just making sure my heart doesn't have any unforgiveness, bitterness, resentment... Just forgiveness and hope for the future... and peace."
-March 19, 2024- Mica posted her first public Facebook post/profile picture (maybe a new account, maybe not). Mica posted a video discussing the challenges she has faced over the past weeks, months, and years, mentioning the importance of keeping her circle small and thanking those who have supported her.
-March 22, 2024 - Mica posts another video suggesting she was being abused physically and mentally. She also says, "God hates divorce. But how does God feel about abuse?" She also suggests her husband forced her to take illegal drugs.
**-March 23, 2024-**In a Facebook chat, Mica tells a friend she no longer goes to Solid Rock and says she is getting divorced and it’s for the best.
-March 26, 2024- Mica called police and said she found a tracking device on her own vehicle.
-March 27, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul Miller files a police report saying he's being harassed on social media by his wife. He tells police he's, "Worried about his reputation."
-March 31, 2024- Mica was baptized at Valorous Church in Little River, SC.
**-April 5, 2024-**Mica texts a friend, “Thank you for your gentle warnings through the years regarding my relationship with JP. I know that you knew I wasn’t ready to get out but looking back your warnings were very helpful when trying to make tough life decisions. Definitely have replayed our convo’s in my head over and over throughout the years and wished there was something I could do to get out. And now I’ve done it :)”
-April 9, 2024- Mica uploads a Facebook photo with the caption, “When terrible terrible TERRIBLE things happen to you… (yall know what I’m talking about;) RPF: Resting Peace Face” after JP uploaded a nude photo of Mica to Facebook, then deleted it (Shown in the affidavits, she reports this)
-April 13, 2024- Mica’s sister, Sierra Francis, posts on Facebook saying, “Don’t listen to the false stories being told about her (Mica)”.
-April 16, 2024 - Mica files for spousal support.
-April 23rd , 2024- A hearing notice was sent out for Mica's request. A court date for -June 5th was set.
-April 25, 2024- JP Miller was served with divorce papers.
-April 26, 2024- Mica gets help from friends to pay her car taxes that were due in December.
-April 27, 2024 - Mica dies of suicide.
-TIMELINE OF APRIL 27: (According to Robeson Sheriff’s Office..)
-11:38am: Mica is on Ring camera leaving home.
-12:12pm: Mica arrives at Dick’s Pawn Shop and purchases a firearm. She tells the clerk it’s for protection.
-1:35pm: Leaves 41 Grocery and Grill in Mullin’s, SC.
-2:05pm (approx.): Arrives at Lumber River State Park, in NC.
-2:22pm: JP’s vehicle (we don’t know who was driving) is spotted on Highway 17, in SC.
-2:25pm: Mica walks the mile to the water at the state park. -2:54pm: The Robeson County E911 Communications Center receives a 911 call, supposedly from Mica.
-Between 3:30-4:00pm: Gunshot heard by a fisherman.
-4:35pm: LEO spotted a body in the water, even though the fisherman only heard a gunshot, no splash into the water. Note: The fisherman picked up Mica’s belongings and returned to the dock. He spoke with LEO and gave them the belongings he found. He never said he saw Mica in the water, either.
-April 28, 2024 - Pastor John-Paul announces to his congregation, at the end of service, that his wife was dead and it was, "self induced" He also reminds the congregation of her mental illness. April 28th - Mica's sister, Sierra Francis, posts on Facebook saying, "Don't listen to the false stories being told about her (Mica)."
-April 30, 2024 - John-Paul Miller attempts to get into Mica's apartment. He's stopped by the building manager and police are called.
-May 2, 2024 - In an interview with ABC 15, Pastor John-Paul Miller says, "She was probably the greatest wife anyone could ask for." He also, once again, points out her mental illness.
-May 2, 2024 - Affidavits are filed by the siblings of Mica Miller. According to documents, Mica told her sister, "If a bullet ends up in my head, it wasn't me."
-May 3. 2024- Mica’s attorney filed the certificate of service with the family court showing when and by whom John Paul Muller was served with the hearing notice.
-May 4, 2024 - Photos of John-Paul Miller with Susie Skinner surface. Allegedly, he's seen in public multiple times with Susie after Mica's death.
-May 5, 2024 - John-Paul Miller is temporarily dismissed of his duties at Solid Rock Church.
-May 5, 2024- Protests erupt outside of Solid Rock Church. JP and his father, Wayne, are present. Wayne videos the protestors.
-May 5, 2024 - The funeral for Mica Miller happens later that afternoon. According to one man, John-Paul Miller attends a bar and shows no remorse for his wife's death.
-May 6, 2024 - North Carolina medical examiner rules Mica's death a suicide.
-May 7, 2024 - Mica Miller's 911 call, along with surveillance photos, are released by Robeson County Sheriff's Department. Mica purchased a firearm at a local Pawn Shop and drove to a National Park where she commits suicide.
-May 7, 2024 - Police confirm John-Paul Miller was no where near the scene. They say he was with a woman who he's allegedly romantically involved with.
-May 9, 2024 – Robeson County Sheriff’s Office deletes photo of Mica at Dick’s Pawn Shop from their Facebook page. The post has been edited 9 times so far.

I ordered a pension file from Archives.gov for my ancestor who fought in the Civil War. It was filed by his widow in the 1880’s. He did not perish in the war. The file was around $80. I ordered it around the beginning of December and it took around five months to get. It’s a goldmine of 104 pages of information. For anyone thinking of this investment, it’s pretty incredible and was worth it for the information it contained. Here’s some of what I found: Birth and death date of soldier, previous marriage of both husband and wife as well as marriage dates and death dates and causes of previous spouse. Maiden and middle names. Children from prior marriage as well as testimonies from some children and their spouses which includes names. Personal testimony from the widow and a 4 page affidavit and account of their entire lives including years where they were, jobs, health and reasons that they were there. All military service and political positions. Mentions of brothers names, where they were located, their service, etc. on both husband and wife sides. Mention of neighbors and acquaintances. Current net worth of house and income. There are a ton of facts that have never been uncovered and this is an incredible resource. Albeit expensive and a little risky due to cost and not knowing what it may contain, it is really a fascinating account. If you’re looking for a good resource, don’t hesitate.

Filed back in May 2021. I had to file on my own, I don’t have the finances for a lawyer especially with 3 small kids including one with a physical disability.
I submitted everything I could, as proof of abuse like police report where it states that he punched me in the face with my daughter in my arms, text messages and affidavit from my mother that also witnessed the abuse and has been abused herself. And a self declaration describing what happened, how I was abused including several SA. I don’t know a lot of people since he started isolating me quite early on, and therefore I was only able to get the affidavit from my mother. I submitted state clearance from CA. I submitted proof of bona fide marriage (we had been married for 2 years when I filed and we are still married), photos, all 3 kids birth certificates etc. But after reading around the last few days seeing that it’s hard to get approved when you are self filing I am terrified that my case is not strong enough. Maybe I didn’t submit enough proof of abuse, maybe I didn’t submit enough proof of marriage, maybe I didn’t make a long enough declaration, maybe I didn’t get enough affidavits. I am terrified of having to through the whole process again.
Has anyone self filed and gotten approved?

I've just sent the rest of this to my lawyer, but I'd like to know if anyone else thinks this might help my case. I separated in Sept 2023 and allowed him to have her every other weekend, and if he asked during the week after school, also got her a phone so they can talk. In December, right after we asked for the financial affidavit, he filed for an "emergency custody order " based on something that happened in 2018. So for Dec, I got 4hrs of supervised (by mil) visits a week. My lawyer finally got through to the judge before Christmas so I got to have her for that, day after was court and the judge decided on every other week til the divorce is finalized. She Hates it. It's been the entire source of her anxiety and depression. She was soo happy last fall. Mediation happened a few weeks ago and I thought we'd finally get off this switching back and forth thing. Nope. Child support was brought up again so at the pretrial last week he went back to asking for full custody. He works 10hr days at a factory 5-6 days a week. This isn't shared parenting between me and him if his mother is doing it all. My daughter is 10. In 2018 she was shot with a 22 by her then 8yr old brother. Ex has a habit of leaving his guns loaded laying around. Never taught gun safety to my son. I took the fall, lied about the gun safe so he wouldn't get in trouble and did 6mo jail. 1.5yr probation. He acts like a martyr and still continues to blame me for Everything. I'm totally at least 60% to blame, but good grief. They weren't my guns, I begged him to teach gun safety and to make sure they were put away. This record of mine is what I'm most worried about. Are they gonna take one look at my f3 and say no? Will they take my child's wishes into consideration? Will they even care to hear my side?
I'm getting sick and tired of this back and forth. Here's what I think we should propose. He signs over full custody with no financial obligations at all. Or we go after him for everything to pay for the past 10 yrs of abuse. Make it clear all I want is Elora, and if he's going to continue he's going to pay. He's just being a 'good boy' right now. As soon as the court isn't paying any attention he'll just go back to his normal neglectful selfishness. And I don't want Elora to suffer that. I didn't want to have to take this route, I just wanted it to be over, but his ego is wrapped up in it, he can't stand the idea of being labeled a bad dad, and he doesn't want to pay child support. This is the only reason he keeps flip flopping.
Forms of abuse: Isolation: nobody was allowed at our house in hayesville, we bought it as a run-down starter house to slowly renovate. He wouldn't let Connie pay for a contractor because that would mean someone else seeing the house. No friends over for the kids or me. No family gatherings, no holidays. Whenever he'd actually hang out with friends we weren't invited. If I actually had permission to go do something guaranteed he was calling me within an hour to see when I was coming back. No actual freedom. Disallowing trying reunification with my kids even though both want to see each other. No going out to eat as a family because the kids might be obnoxious.
Weaponized ineptitude/control: I was slowly in charge of ALL household and yard duties including cleaning up after him, all errands, all child related activities, transportation of children including his son, forced to maintain employment making at least $500 a week. I was 'in charge' of bringing in firewood everyday because he'd bring in 5 pieces and say thats enough for the night, then we'd freeze, the woodburner heat was his plan, i asked repeatedly to get someone to look at the furnace. Forced to manage bills then micromanaged and criticized. I asked repeatedly if he would just take it over and he could give me an allowance instead. His method of control is complaining about something until someone says well I could do that for you and then you're in charge of it forever. And also micromanaged and criticized about how your not doing it right. It's very demoralizing. I mentioned all of this to his mother last year, she said 'I'm so sorry, I don't know how you put up with his selfishness"
Sexual abuse: Coerced A Lot, he'd complain and cry that I don't love him. Wake me up multiple times in the night to see if it suddenly became a yes. We're talking a no at 9pm, no at 12, no at 130, finally a 'fine I give up' at 3 because I just wanted to get it over with and get some sleep. This wasn't a one time thing, this was multiple times a month. I'm sorry but if you touch your wife when she's sleeping and she scoots away and closes her legs that means no. I was so sleep deprived for years because of his selfish needs not to mention the psychological abuse of it feeling like you're just a sex doll. The only time he showed me any sort of affection was when he wanted to have sex. And even then he wouldn't stop if I started to say it hurt and I wanted to stop because "he was close". My first marriage was awful, and Bryan knew, that because of the rapes in my first marriage I was afraid to say no. Yet he'd beg and pester after I said no. It made me very uncomfortable every time. This was definitely a heartbreaker for me, it just felt like I didn't matter. When I brought these feelings up he would apologize and also get upset that I wasn't more assertive with my no. The next day he'd gaslight me and say that because I wasn't having sex with him he felt like nothing. He read somewhere that couples should be having sex 3-5x a week and thought that would fix our relationship. I think he got it backwards.
Neglect/selfishness: All money went to him and bills. Nothing for us unless I begged or snuck, this is including clothes, haircuts, shoes, food, household items etc. I asked about cosi($130 a yr) and zoo membership($100 a yr) once in a while and always got a "no, that's a waste of money." While he spends at least $300 a month on ammo, powder, reloading equipment, scopes, guns, camo, hunting equipment etc. (Example: $600 sitka camo outfit) He actually refused to buy any clothes that weren't high quality and expensive for himself while my kids and I wear goodwill finds. Our hobbies weren't allowed unless they were 'useful'. Any activity had to be basically free. Drive thru etiquette was nonexistent and extremely selfish. He wouldn't ask if we wanted anything then be taken aback if we asked for anything. This includes gas stations, drink drive thu's, and fast food. We would literally go through the drive-thru he would order something for himself get upset that I started to try to ask for something and then me and the kids wouldn't get anything. On top of taking care of everything around the house, all the errands and working, he would expect me to wake up in the middle of the night to "spend time with him" which usually consisted of him trying to force himself on me. He wouldn't go over one street to stop at the grocery store before he came home to get me some last minute thing for dinner. I'd be berated for not doing it myself.
Psychological abuse: Every single work break of his he'd call. And complain, again and again. The same things over and over. Things I could do nothing about, his life and how much he hates ohio and has to leave or he'll go insane, gaslighting me saying he takes care of everything, moaning about his job etc. I've had a severe anxious reaction to his phone calls for the past 3yrs of our marriage. Just constant negativity even when we're supposed to be having fun. It's always gotta be about him and his discomfort in his own life. He is a textbook 'woe is me' narcissist. I have been Elora's primary caregiver since she was born besides when we had to get her back. Then I immediately went back to being primary. He showed no interest it being a bigger part, had to be reminded to hug her. If he actually had to watch the kids he'd forget to feed them because "he wasn't hungry" no interest in daddy/daughter outings. He obviously couldn't care less how Elora feels. December's emergency custody order is a perfect example, way to traumatize your own daughter. Then blame it on the courts. This drawn out back and forth is another excellent example of him not giving a flying f how his daughter feels, she's been more anxious and depressed the longer this is going on, she's told him a few times what she wants and he just brushes it off.
This separation has been a long time coming, I've told him a few times over the past three years that I was not happy at all and that I felt like I was raising a really grouchy teenager. And that he should go. He wants to live in the mountains he wants to live his dream he should go. I repeatedly asked him to go to therapy and counseling. I felt that cognitive behavioral therapy really really helped me and I thought it could help him too but he refused. Not enough time supposedly. Because of the no contact order between my children I obviously couldn't move in with my parents with elora. So I found a very comfortable home with one of my friends in my daughter's school district where I can work on reunification and rebuilding my life. As a generally passive and helpful person I was very hopeful that he would carry on the behavior that he was putting on when we were regaining custody of my daughter. However once children services was no longer involved he immediately went back to the way he used to act. Guns laying around all over the place loaded, complaining constantly, didn't spend time with us anymore, wouldn't clean up after himself, wouldn't help me out with anything without complaining. Last year he went back to first shift, I really thought that maybe he would actually work on himself. Maybe he would actually spend time with us now that he was on a 'normal' schedule. Instead he didn't go to a single one of the Elora's softball games, he didn't go to any of Easton's baseball games, he'd sequester himself upstairs and reload ammo for hours and not let us go do anything while saying that he wanted to spend family time with us. The cognitive behavioral therapy that I participated in was life-changing for me. It taught me how to work through my traumas, how to recognize bad relationships, how to recognize thinking errors, and reprioritized my life. I guess I was just extremely hopeful that the person that I married would try as hard as I did in order to better himself. And I recognized that I was in a really bad narcissistic relationship probably around 3 years ago. I've had multiple friends come to me and ask why I'm still married to him because they recognize his abusive behavior. 6 I know this is a lot but I wanted to provide plenty of examples. So if you actually need more let me know I've got more.

Hello. I just got approved for my I-485, is this the end of the road? Does it matter for the 131 and the 765 if it's still pending?
So once I receive my card for the 485 I would be free to travel and work? Is that what I think it means? Or do I still need the approval for the 131 and 765
Some background and timeline
Currently on H1b (since 2019 from Canada), married USC Oct 2023, living in California. Previously on F1 starting 2013
Submitted ~50 pictures with small description and date, wedding contract for venue, marriage certificate, drivers license with same address, airfare confirmation for travels together, joint bank opened Jan 2024, 2 affidavits, joint tax returns for 2024
Timeline (IOE09251)
March 24 - mailed concurrent 485, 130, 131, 765 with attached medical
March 27 - received receipt notice (NBC)
March 27 - PD
April 4 - received online access code (checked on account)
April 10 - scheduled for biometrics on April 23
April 16 - biometrics done today, rescheduled earlier due to work. Case changed to actively being reviewed same day
May 7 - 130 updated to approve in the morning. 485 updated to approved. Approval notice within document section (NBC)
No interview or RFE requested
Thank you to the reddit family for all your knowledge and guidance. Read hours of reddit when doing this application

My Paternal grandmother was born in Ireland.
I have obtained her full certified birth certificate.
I have my Grandparent’s Marriage certificate with proof of change of surname. This is the only sort of Identification I can obtain of hers, as my Father and Grandmother are now completely estranged, but I’ll happily submit an affidavit if needed.
I have a copy of my Fathers full certified birth certificate. A photocopy of his British passport as identification.
I have 2 separate proofs of address and a photocopy of my British passport for identification.
I have 4 passport style photographs, where do I go to get them witnessed by someone in the UK, also what form does the same witness have to sign?
As I know the application is all online, is there’s an option to print it out once it’s all completed, also how do you attach all the relevant documents How does it all work I would be so grateful thank you.

I received an RFE from USCIS and one of the things requested is an Affidavit of support of someone who can verify our marriage. Can anyone send me a sample how is it written? anyone who's RFE got approved?

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Free_River_3388
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Trigger Warnings: infidelity, past abuse, mention of abortion, deadbeat father, coercion, manipulation
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Original Post: January 28, 2024
I (F, 26) had an affair with a married man (M, 42) a few years ago. I had no clue he was married when we first met and hooked up. I obviously looked him up on social media and while he did have photos of his kids on there, there was absolutely no mention or photos of a wife at all. I found out that he was married about a month after we first got together, but he told me it was just a marriage on paper and that they basically lived separate lives and agreed to remain married for practical purposes until the kids were older. They owned a business, which she really ran and he was just financially involved in.
I knew at the time that I probably shouldn’t believe him, but I convinced myself it was true. I was in my early 20s and so attracted to him and I guess almost infatuated with him. He made me feel so good. I know now that I should have ended it immediately, but I didn’t realize what I was getting myself into. I was addicted to all of the attention he gave me, the great sex, the places he’d take me. I felt special. I was so naive.
I got pregnant about a year into seeing him. I had always been so careful with preventing pregnancy, but during my relationship with him I took stupid risks. I was so high in lust with this guy, it’s embarrassing. The things he’d asked me to do…I’d say yes to almost anything, even when I knew it was a bad idea.
I was in love with him, or I thought I was. I hadn’t intentionally wanted to get pregnant. I would of course dream about being his wife and having a family but I knew that wouldn’t be a possibility while he had this arrangement with his actual wife. I didn’t get pregnant on purpose with any intention of him leaving her for me, even if I wished that we could be a real, normal couple. I was surprised by how excited I was to be pregnant with his baby. I wanted that baby once I found out I was pregnant. The thought of carrying this baby of the man I loved was so special to me, but I knew he probably wouldn’t feel the same.
I told him I was pregnant and he told me I couldn’t keep the baby. I expected his reaction, but I was devastated and it hurt me to my core that he didn’t feel the same way I did. He offered to pay, to make a whole weekend of it somewhere exciting (wtf?) and to buy me something special if I’d just please get rid of the baby. He explained that he didn’t want any more kids and that he couldn’t openly be a father to another kid when he and his wife were still pretending to be happily married to the outside world.
I agreed to do what he wanted and we made plans for him to pick me up and find somewhere out of town to go get it done. I was all packed the night he was going to pick me up, but I started to feel really scared and really unsafe about the whole thing. I took my bag and checked myself into a hotel to hide because I couldn’t go with him. I texted him to say I promised to never contact him again and to never name him as the father or go after child support if he’d promise to leave me alone.
At first he tried to sweet talk me into doing what he wanted. When I didn’t cave in, he said some very nasty things to me and that I essentially better never contact him again or show up at his door.
I have a 2 year old now. At times, it’s been difficult, but overall we are thriving as best we can. I have kept my word about not naming his as the father or requesting child support.
His wife contacted me on social media. Well, she’s his ex-wife now. She wants to talk to me. She found out about me and told me that she divorced him 6 months ago. She wants her children to know their sibling and for my child to know his siblings. That’s weird to me.
I haven’t responded back to her yet. I am unsure about how to approach this. How to I respond to this? I wonder if I’m being selfish by not exploring an option for my child to know his siblings, if she’s being genuine about that. If I was married and my husband fathered a child outside of our marriage I don’t think I’d feel the same that she does.
RELEVANT COMMENTS
Comment 1

I didn’t know he was married when we first got together. I acknowledged that I should have ended the relationship as soon as I found out he was married. I allowed myself to believe what he told me, which made it seem not so bad - like this was some sort of agreement he and his wife had. Emotionally, I was already hooked. I’m not making excuses.
I wouldn’t say I was “happy” to bring a baby into this situation. There was a huge mix of emotions. I felt like I was in love with him, so there was a part of me that was excited at first. That feeling soon died, but I felt that I loved my baby still. I tried to do the best thing that I could, which was to remove myself from his life and his family’s life. I just wanted to be able to keep my baby and love my baby. I did not get pregnant on purpose. I wasn’t on birth control. I had been on birth control when I was slightly younger and had a life threatening health complications as a result. He knew I wasn’t on birth control. He loved unprotected sex. I was stupid and I agreed to do it. I would do almost anything he asked sexually. I tried to track my cycle and would tell him when it was probably not a safe time to do it.
His wife isn’t really what I’m afraid of. Whatever she’d want to say to me is probably deserved anyway, and more.

Comment 2

He found out about the pregnancy before I “ghosted” him. And upon finding out I was pregnant with his child, there was absolutely no real discussion about what we were going to do. We were going to do what he wanted to do and he had it all planned out. He threatened me, by text and by phone calls and voicemails, when I told him I was not going to go with him on this abortion vacation he had planned. I begged him to please not force me to do that and he turned mean. I offered to never contact him again if he’d just let me go. After threatening me again, about what he’d do if I didn’t keep my word, he agreed. He has kept his side of the bargain and has never contacted me.

Comment 3

I’ve been assuming that she found out about me in her own, maybe saw something on his phone or computer and has probably known for a while before reaching out to me (if it’s actually her).
I get what some people are saying about siblings and such, but that man is not my child’s dad. He is the dad of his older kids but he’s not the dad of my kid. I’m still young and I hope to have more children one day, and those children would be my son’s siblings. I hope to find a man who loves me and my son and with whom I can have a legitimate relationship. I haven’t been with another man since I ended things with this guy. I actually just went on 2 dates for the first time very recently. I’m not desperate to find a man right now, but I hope to find real love one day.
Those people are not my son’s family. He’s 2 and they’re old enough to drive. So, I do t think they’re missing out on any sort of important relationship right now. I understand wanting to know your bio family, and I feel he can decide that later on when he’s old enough to have a day. Depending on where we are at in our lives at the time, he might not feel a need to know those people.
I don’t plan to lie to my son about his conception, but I don’t think we need to involve ourselves with the man’s ex-wife and teenage children at this time.

 
Update: February 18, 2024
I made a post 3 weeks ago and things have only gotten stranger. I had an affair with a married man a few years ago. I regret it and I will never do anything like that ever again. I knew it was wrong from the very beginning, but he captivated me. I was naive. I allowed myself to believe when he told me they were pretty much just married on paper for the sake of their kids. I got pregnant and while he tried to talk me into getting an abortion I ultimately decided to keep the baby. I have a 2 year old little boy now. I promised this man that I wouldn’t expose our affair and I wouldn’t formally identify him as the father or request child support. I did that because he was becoming very nasty about the whole thing and I felt like due to the mess that I had created and the way I felt by the end of it, a clean break with no involvement with him would be the best thing for everyone. I moved back to where my family is, hundreds of miles from where he and his family live.
About a month ago his ex-wife reached out to me via social media, claiming they had been divorced for 6 months and that she wanted our children to be able to know each other. Now, their kids are teenagers, so I didn’t really think they’d want anything to do with the toddler and the woman their father was having an affair with. It seemed odd to me. After posting here, I sort of decided that I wouldn’t respond to her. I’d just ignore it. She just sent me the one message, so it wasn’t as if she was badgering me about talking to me or meeting me.
On Friday night I decided to message her. I don’t really know why. I think it was really just for my sake so I could have the chance to apologize to her. I told her that I would be more comfortable speaking with her face to face since I couldn’t trust that it was really her. She said she understood. I was too nervous to meet her in person, but we did a video chat. I didn’t know what to expect, if this was all a ploy just to unleash her fury on me or what. I mean, I’d deserve that. She wouldn’t be wrong to feel that way.
It was really her. She told me she discovered our affair when she found communications between the two of us, after our relationship had ended. She told me I’m one of many women he had affairs with over the years and she knew about somebody even before he met me, but she didn’t divorce him at the time. Finding out about my child was the final straw for her. I told her I was sorry for my relationship with her husband and admitted that I knew he was married. She graciously told me she forgives me and that while she harbored a lot of anger towards me initially, she ultimately blames her husband. I’m not blameless, but she chooses to not hate me, essentially. She said she couldn’t have said this 6 months ago or a year ago when she first found out about me, but she has moved past that. She still has anger toward him, in addition to many other emotions surrounding him. She started pouring out her heart to me about their 20+ year marriage and life together and it was very awkward because what do I even say?
Her kids know about me and my son. She says they’re very mad at their father. Somehow I don’t think they’re mad about the fact that he’s not involved with my son’s life. And why would they be mad about that? I would hate me if I were them.
I told her with my son being so little right now, I don’t really feel comfortable with him meeting her kids or being involved with their family. I feel unsure about it and it’s just not something I feel needs to happen right now.
Then she told me her ex husband was in a bad accident 2 months ago. He’s fine now, still not allowed to return to all his normal activities just yet, but will be fine. He is probably the most physically active person I’ve ever met, barely ever seems to sit down, so he must be terribly annoying to be around if he’s not allowed to go go go all the time. She told me he wants to meet my son. Apparently she moved back in with him temporarily when he first came home from the hospital. She said the accident really shook him up and he has been expressing a lot of regret about my son, not being involved, not providing for him.
So now it’s like was everything she said just a lie and he somehow got her to reach out to me on his behalf? And she actually did it? It felt almost like a relief talking to her initially, but then it’s like was any of that true or you were just trying to be his messenger? I don’t even know if that part is true now. Why wouldn’t he just contact me himself?
I’m just feeling so uneasy about the whole thing now.
RELEVANT COMMENTS
Comment 1

I don’t believe I HAVE to involve his teenage children in my son’s life. Maybe when my son is old enough to decide if he wants that.
He is not named on the birth certificate and I do not receive child support from him. I have asked nothing of him, except to let me move away and not try to force me to have an abortion. I basically had to promise him to not contact him, not make him as the father, not request child support.
If he truly wants involvement with my son he can reach out to my directly and he can take the legal route to establish himself as our son’s father.

Comment 2

He did not legally sever his rights. He never established rights in the first place. He has no rights until he goes to court and establishes himself as the father. He is welcome to do that.
Honestly, I wish my son did have a father who was involved in his life and loved him. Yes, this guy has faults, but he has plenty of positive qualities. He is really involved with his older children. I met them many times because they’d be at work with him or he’d have to drop by the office in his way to take them somewhere. He was always doing things with them. They seemed like good kids who really loved their dad. I wish my son could have that experience too. I didn’t think it was an option based on how he behaved when I was pregnant. He wasn’t interested and wanted me and our baby to go away. That’s what I did. And I accepted it.

Comment 3

He is not legally my son’s father at this time. This means that currently he has no legal parental rights or responsibilities regarding my son. I cannot stop him from taking the legal steps to establish paternity if he wishes to do so.
He will always be my son’s biological father. I can’t change that fact. Regardless of whether or not he ever legally establishes paternity, my son will likely be curious about his biological father and who knows, maybe they will establish a relationship one day regardless of legal paternity.
There is no way to say if I will meet a man who may want to adopt my son one day, thus becoming his legal father. It’s something that I think would be nice, but nothing that I’m “intent” on doing. By choice, I’ve only been one 2 dates since my son was born and that was only within the year 2024. I realize that it will not be as simple as signing a piece of paper.

 

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Update #2 - April 30, 2024 (2 months later)
I posted about this few months ago.
To summarize very quickly, when I was fresh out of college I had an affair with a married man and father. I became pregnant. He wanted me to get an abortion. He had arranged to “take me away” in a “vacation” to get an abortion. I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to do but I agreed to go along with what we wanted. At the last minute, when he was on his way to come pick me up, I told him I couldn’t go through with the abortion. I just really didn’t feel comfortable about his plan and how he was orchestrating everything. It scared me. I realized at that time how deep I had gone with this mistake, how screwed up the whole relationship was.
He was really mad. He threatened me, said a lot of nasty things to me. I told him if he just left me alone and let me have my baby then I’d leave him alone and wouldn’t name him as the father or seek child support. I moved back home (I was living in a different state when I met him). I kept my word and I did t it name him as the father or seek to establish paternity. I have never sought child support. My child is 2 now.
A few months ago his wife contacted me via social media. At first she made it seem like she wanted my child to have the opportunity to know his siblings. It was sort of weird since the siblings are teenagers. She said she had divorced him 6 months prior.
I agreed to talk to her virtually, not in person. I felt that I owed it to her to apologize for what I had done. I do feel bad about it. But at the end of the conversation I told her that I didn’t feel it was the appropriate time to connect my son with her kids. He’s a toddler and their teens, plus I had promised her husband to stay out of his life. That’s when she told me that he was recently in a bad accident and she had been helping to take care of him. Supposedly he was going to be fine and was fairly recovered at that point, but she said he had expressed interest to meet our child. So she was basically his messenger.
I have not been in contact with her since then. I deleted my social media. I don’t know why, but the whole thing just really made me uncomfortable.
Since I last posted here….
Then, I received a handwritten letter from him. In it, he expressed how he wanted to get to know our son, he wants to be a father to our son, he wants to provide financially for him, he’d like us to come visit him. He asked me to sign a paternity affidavit. I refused to do so. I know he is my son’s father but I’m not going to make this that easy for him. After the things he said to me and threatened me with, he at least has to work for this.
At that point, my parents felt that we needed to meet with a lawyer. All communication from me has gone through a lawyer. I have never responded to him personally/directly.
Now, I have a court order for paternity. I have to present my son to have a specimen taken tomorrow. I already know what it’s going to say.
It’s not that I don’t want my son to have a dad in his life. It’s just…the whole situation is a mess. And he lives a few states away from me. I don’t know what to do. I can’t really do anything. He’s doing things legally. Next, I’m sure he’ll petition for some form of custody or visitation. He’s not married anymore, supposedly, but he’s a lot more established than I am. He has considerably more financial resources. I also know he has all sorts of connections where he lives. Luckily they don’t hold as much weight here in my state but it’s still so scary to me.
I’m a bad mom. I brought my son into this world knowing it was a messy situation. I just got so comfortable with it just being the 2 of us and now I don’t want to give that up.
Relevant Comments
OOP on if the father would be moving closer to her and her son now that he’s divorced from his ex-wife

OOP: To touch on just a few things…
I don’t think he’ll move away from where he lives. He has way too much established there.
He’s in his early 40s. I don’t know how this supposed accident (if that even really happened) has affected him, but he was incredibly physically active when I knew him. He only slept like 4 hours a night, took a 20 minute power nap daily, and rarely ever sat down. He was also HIGHLY involved in his children’s lives. I’d even say overprotective, like a helicopter dad instead of the typical helicopter mom.

Careless_Welder_4048: How did he have time to cheat?

OOP: He only slept a few hours a night and moved at about a million miles a minute. Everyone joked about it. Somehow he always had time to get up at 5 am, go surfing, do some work, take his kids to school, do some work, take his Power Nap, get coffee, pick his kids up after school and take them wakeboarding or some other sort of thing like that, do some more work, be at his kid’s basketball game, and so on and so forth. He literally never ever stopped.
I was just another thing to help fill out his calendar to prevent him from getting bored.

OOP on the father’s relationship with his ex-wife and their children

OOP: I also don’t think he and his wife had much of a relationship, although it wasn’t quite as he described it to me. They lived in the same house but I believe they lived pretty separate lives. He bought her a business to give her something to do and keep her busy. She was there most of the time. They didn’t even go to their kids activities together. He was always the one going. So I think that freed up time too. I don’t think they liked being around each other so she was happy to have him out of the house. She admitted to me that I wasn’t the first affair he had and she knew about most of the time we were together.

 

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TW; abuse // advance warning and apology nalang din for the lost post ahead
Around 4 years ago, my parents split up because my narcissistic dad was financially, verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive towards my mom throughout their whole marriage.
In terms of career, my dad is an executive and holds a big reputation in his profession.
Recently, I found out from my mom that a few months after my parents’ initial separation, another executive he works closely with in his company somehow found out a little bit about why they separated. This executive (a woman, no less) was let on by another family member of mine who runs in the same business circle that she should be careful when “working with someone like him because of the way he treats women.” This was brought up as well because this family member and my dad’s co-worker, at the time, were part of the same collective whose members were comprised exclusively of female executives, CEOs, etc. and that is also how they knew each other, apart from the small world connection with my dad.
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His employees definitely do not know because they all still seem to be operating under the assumption that their boss isn’t an abuser. If I were to guess, some executives and higher-ups probably know about this, but because my dad is a narcissist, he also would’ve probably resorted to manipulating them when questioned about it.
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TLDR; Recently learned that people within my dad’s company know an inkling of his abuse towards my mom and they did nothing about it despite having the resources and authority to.
Thank you for reading, if you got this far. 😅

Trying to make sure I submit all required and sufficient evidence to avoid an RFE. Any suggestions or what else I should submit? Or is anything missing?
I-485 Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status
· 2 Passport Photographs
· Current Passport (Biographic page only)
· Old Passport (Used on last date of entry, + page with entry stamp)
· State ID
· Birth Certificate + Translation.
· I-94 Arrival/Departure Record + Travel History page
· SHOULD I RESUBMIT ALL BONAFIDE MARRIAGE EVIDENCE THAT WAS SUBMITTED ONLINE WITH i-130?

I-864 Affidavit of Support
· 3yrs Tax Return Incl. W2’s and all 1099’s
· 6 Months of Paystubs
· Letter from Employer
· Passport (Biographic page only)
· Birth Certificate
· Social Security Card
· State ID

I-765 Application for Employment Authorization
· 2 Passport Photographs
· I-94 Arrival/Departure Record + Travel History page
· ???

I-131 Application for Travel Document
· 2 Passport Photographs
· I-94 Arrival/Departure Record + Travel History page
· Current Passport (Biographic page only)
· Old Passport (Used on last date of entry, + page with entry stamp)
· ??
I-693 Medical Examination and Vaccination Record

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I had made a mistake in I-130 by not mentioning where my husband's interview will take place because of which entire processing got delayed by 1 year plus I had to file new form I-824 which cost extra money and more importantly it wasted 1 Year. Now thanks to god few days back my case got approved and it's in NVC now.
I want to make next steps at NVC smooth and easy hence I seek advices from experienced people on what should not be done while filling application for consular processing. Kindly suggest any mistakes you have overcome in your application or in some other application which should be avoided.
Little background about our ourself
I am from INDIA and I am LPR of USA and We have two kids both are US citizen. I am married to person resident of my native place. My husband is in India and is working in one of Multi national IT company. Due to our marriage I stayed for quite long time in my native I quitted my job in ending 2020 and then we had kids. Hence I didn't worked after 2020. Now for Affidavit of Support and supporting financial documents I had planned that my My father and brother will take care. How tough or easy its ? whether any challenges are there for the same? Please post your valuable comments.