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Welcome to Day 42 of WiyHat?. Today's topic is "Sumireko Usami", the "Mystic and Troublesome Female Student".
She is introduced as the main antagonist of Touhou 14.5: Urban Legend in Limbo. Despite being an ostensible "normal" human from the Outside World (^{the Kanto region}), she effectively has an assorted amount of psychic powers, or just ESP in general. She creates the Secret Sealing Club (first seen in ZUN's stories with Renko & Maribel) at her high school Higashifukami and becomes its first president because of her interest in the occult (and then Gensokyo).
Sumireko is one of those characters ZUN really made a big deal out of after her introduction: to put it plainly, she was basically everywhere back during her heyday. I'll go over all of her appearances first:
Games:
-14.5 (ULiL): Sumireko is the antagonist of the game, who instigated a plot using "Occult Balls" to bring residents of Gensokyo to the Outside World for a short time so that she can learn things about them. However, every single person who came to her fought back, much to her curiosity. Eventually, Mamizou tricks Sumireko to be the one who is brought over and trapped in Gensokyo instead.
Cue Sumireko's own story mode, which has her fight everyone else to find a way back to the Outside World. Miko eventually just tells her to use the balls whenever she wants to return, albeit technically temporarily now that she's a "resident". Sumireko eventually panics, believing she'll die at this rate, and so decides to sacrifice herself by unleashing the full power of the Occult Balls, possibly destroying the Great Hakurei Barrier.
Reimu stops her, but not before Sumireko accidentally activates a Lunar Capital Ball, which links Gensokyo to the Lunar Capital, therefore setting up TH15 and Gensokyo's potential "purification" by Sagume Kishin, if she can't deal with those attacking the Lunar Capital. ^{So, yeah, even though Sumireko was stopped in 14.5, she still inadvertently put Gensokyo in grave danger later on. She's not unlike a certain trio who created a cascade of incidents back in TH10...}
Regardless, Sumireko later apologized and befriended most of the characters after this particular incident, and her tales of the Outside World intrigue most of the residents in Gensokyo.
-15.5 (Antinomy of Common Flowers): Sumireko basically stumbles into Gensokyo at a bad time, and has to find her way out of the Dream World using Doremy's help. Although this sounds like a minor issue, her "Dream soul" was released into the Outside World as this happened, which could have had dire consequences, according to Yukari. Bizarrely, Sumireko encountered 2 versions of her Dream soul, here. Eventually, she solves the problem, with Doremy confirming she was the "real" one who prevailed in the end.
16.5 (Violet Detector): Sumireko keeps having weird dreams were she has to fight off dream world dwellers jealous of her having a "real" body. After a while, she finds and fights the real Okina. Impressed by her resilience, Okina lends her power to fight off even stronger nightmares, with the upside that if she wins, the dreams will stop eventually.
That is, until it turns out the "Sumireko" we've been playing as was the Dream version of the real one all along! Okina rescinds the power she lent to the Dream version so that the real one (which you now play as) has a fair shot at getting her body back (since the Dream one was in control of her body). Sumireko wins, and then she wakes up not remembering anything, and the player is left complaining at ZUN for not actually creating any new patterns for this game.
Oh, yeah, she also makes outrageously "hip" descriptions of the patterns when she manages to win it definitely doesn't endear her to some people.
That's all for the game appearances, which while only 3, left her with quite a bit of presence during that era of Touhou. 16.5 is Sumireko's own solo game, by the way, in case you didn't know.
As for her Printworks appearances:
-Grimoire of Usami: Basically, this is Sumireko taking a page out of Marisa, and making a Grimoire where she explains various Danmaku attacks done during a "Fireworks festival". While there's a bit of a plot in here, it's mostly just descriptions of patterns.
-Wild and Horned Hermit: Sumireko's dream souls cause trouble again in chapter 29. She also (accidentally) summons a UFO at the Hakurei Shrine in chapter 31, much to Reimu's irritation.
-Curiosities of Lotus Asia: This was basically known as "Rinnosuke's series", except after a long hiatus, it was brought back with Sumireko taking center stage in almost every new chapter, much to the irritation of some people. Put plainly, Sumireko works part-time with Rinnosuke there, which is why she's so involved.
She also had various cameos in most of the other printworks (including further cameos in WaHH).

• Wild and Horned Hermit (34, 35)
• Forbidden Scrollery (Chapter 34)
• Visionary Fairies in Shrine (Chapters 2, 7)
• Alternative Facts in Eastern Utopia (Interviews)
• Who's Who of Humans & Youkai - Dusk Edition

So, am I done summing up Sumireko? Well, no. Because I glossed over so much, I should mention that Sumireko's good friends with Mokou because she matched her blow to blow in a duel they once had, and friends with Kasen too, even giving her (and various other people) nicknames. ^{She's friends with Reimu, Marisa, Mamizou and Rinnosuke, too, but that was already implied before.}
PHEW! Now, that's a lot of canon stuff for a single character, particularly one introduced so much later into the franchise's continuity!
You might be thinking: "What about her relation with Renko Usami? They have the same family name!" Well, the truth is, we still don't know to this day what the exact relation between the two is. We assume Sumireko is Renko's grandma or something, making her one of the few Touhou characters to (eventually) canonically have a family, but even that's not confirmed for sure, so we can only theorize about it.
More to the point...what do the fans think of Sumireko?
Well, according to the yearly popularity polls, she started off decently popular, but she's dropped hard lately, going as low as 80th last year (2023). This is partly due to her diminishing presence in the canon, presumably, but...
...it's also because, not unlike other Outside World foreigners to Gensokyo like Sanae and Mamizou, Sumireko's got a bit of a hatedom who detested how much ZUN pushed her as a "regular" of Gensokyo, despite the fact she wasn't even truly living there, and that she got off too easily for almost ending Gensokyo's very existence...twice, no less!
And then there are those who are fans of Rinnosuke who hate that he has to share the spotlight with her all the time when "his" series was brought back. Or maybe the fans of Mokou who hate that instead of ZUN further expanding on her relation with Kaguya/Keine/someone else from the Windows era, she gets stuck with a generic isekai wannabe.
Yeah, I think that's the core of the issue with Sumireko for some people: She's essentially got no real relation or story to the actual core of Gensokyo's world^\1), and thus comes across as inherently boring to them. And yet, many canon stories used to revolve around her, much to their frustration.
^\1 Sumireko technically visited Gensokyo as a kid through her dreams, so technically she does have a backstory with Gensokyo, but she never remembered her experiences there back then and it feels more like lore stuff than actual backstory to most fans.)
Of course, Sumireko still has some diehard fans, and she does provide a niche hardly many other characters have, so don't be surprised to see her in fanworks involving Outside World stuff.
But, for now, let's see what you think of Sumireko. Vote or comment below about it.
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Little bit about us: I (M) just turned 30 and my significant other (F) in mid 20s. We have been together for 7 years. We are both healthy and live a very healthy lifestyle (occassional alcohol & some marijuana use).
End of last year, my partner's best friend came forward and told us that she went through IVF to get their first baby. They tried for over 3 years with no success and eventually went the IVF route. Both the mom and dad are extremely overweight and have no ounce of healthy living in them. My partner's friend told her to not wait and to get all the tests done and start IVF since it's so hard to conceive.
Hearing that, my partner wanted a baby as well so we tried naturally for 2 months before my partner decided that it's time to get help. I was against it but few days of my partner sobbing convinced me as well. We scheduled a consultation with the doctor and my partner told the doctor that we have been trying for 2 years (in reality, it was only 2 months). Hearing that, doctor recommended IUI and IVF and gave us data for both.
Offline, I was pushing for few months of us trying naturally but my partner was pushing us to start IVF since the pregnancy rate is so high with this. Again, few days of sobbing from my partner due to us not being pregnant already and we eventually decided to start our first IVF cycle. Our insurance is not the best but it covered some portion and we were left with paying some of it. First retrieval, we had couple of embryos (not PGT tested) and we transferred both and both failed to implant. The doctor recommended we try for the 2nd IVF cycle. I was still pushing for us to try naturally since we are young and have no known health issues. Again, few days of sobbing resulted in my partner getting her way which was another cycle of IVF. We had 3 embryos and all 3 passed PGT (decided to get them PGT tested). We are yet to transfer those but our doctor recommended we go for another retrieval cycle since my partner told the doctor we wanted 4 kids.
Now, we are in the same boat where I want to try naturally or at-least do the transfer instead of going with the 3rd retrieval. My partner has since started her usual sobbing and wants us to go into the 3rd retrieval. I am against it since it's taking a financial toll on us. In addition to it, I am mentally out of it due to all the lying and emotional manipulation.
You may think I am the asshole for thinking of leaving but I am sick and tired of our "short" pregnancy journey which started on a lie because an obese couple couldn't get pregnant. We realistically only had 4 shots at getting pregnant (2 natural and 2 IVF). Even though, it seems like it's "our" decision, it's just her decision which is forced on me by getting emotional. We have only been intimate twice since we started our journey and my partner has no plans of being intimate since retrieval/transfer is happening. IVF has taken over her life and she doesnt think or talk about anything besides IVF.
I am running out of patience now and cannot live my life like this. I simply dont understand why we cannot attempt naturally or at-least transfer those embryos.

My (F29) 2 friends (both F30) from university have created a group chat and are urging me to go to Japan with them, since tickets are cheap right now. I told them that I will be going twice this year already, so I will have to pass on going with them and they can just go together. I don’t want to go with them at all, because I went with them to a different prefecture in Japan 6 years ago and we had so many differences. They are always looking for the cheapest things and places regardless of where it is and what it is. I also had to plan everything and make the itinerary and buy tickets for everything. I was also the designated train expert. I’m okay with staying in cheap hotels as long as it’s in a good location and the bathroom is clean. I’m also okay with taking trains and walking instead of taking taxis, since the price difference is insane and I love walking anyways. What I’m not okay with is eating at 7/11s, family marts, or random restaurants that have 1 star reviews but are cheap. I know I sound crazy, but I love food. I love to eat. I especially love to eat when I’m on vacation. I’m not rich by any means, but I would rather save up and eat whatever I want and go to whatever attraction I want on vacation rather than go there and just stare at food and places I cannot afford. Eating while on vacation is one of the best experiences. Especially in Japan! When I went with them 6 years ago, I wanted to try this yakiniku restaurant, but they did not, since they found it to be expensive. It was about 30USD per person. I acquiesced since they both didn’t want to eat there. They chose this random restaurant with a more affordable menu. The food was about 10USD per dish. I just ate ice cream, because the food did not look appetizing at all and even they were having a hard time finishing it. The bill came and we were all shocked. There was a random door charge that was about $10 each person. I was pissed. They wanted to complain to the waitress, but how in the world were we going to complain when it was probably normal in that area. I just stayed quiet the rest of the night and told myself to just let it go. The next day came and we were in line at this famous tonkatsu restaurant. It was about $20 per meal and when we sat down they only ordered one croquette ($5) per person because they didn’t have want to order a $20 meal. The croquette wasn’t even that big so they were still hungry. My meal was a set and was refillable, so they just ate my rice and soup. It was honestly really embarrassing, because the waitress was staring at us and I just wanted to melt. I’m not dragging them to $100 per meal restaurants here. I completely understand that people have different budgets for different things, but I feel like this is too extreme. We also went to a theme park and instead of riding different rides, they got tired after 3, and wanted to just sit down the rest of the day. I had to go around by myself, because they were too tired. We meet about once a year, because our schedules are too different. Even when we meet I cannot help but think we are just growing apart. We have so many different views on things. We recently went out to dinner and we were just having a good time when one of them mentioned a very delicate topic about another young woman. This woman had an intimate video of her released when she was a minor and they were making fun of her. I saw red. I didn’t shout at them or anything, but I reprimanded them for being vile and I told them if they were going to continue with this conversation, I was leaving. They always stick up for each other, so it always feels like I’m in the wrong, but this time I didn’t back down. They told me I was ruining the dinner, so I said it wouldn’t be ruined in the first place if they just acted like well raised adults. We all went home soon after that. They’ve been acting like nothing happened and have been messaging me and still asking me to go to dinners with them, but I just don’t want to anymore. I can’t help feeling sad, because we’ve been friends for over a decade. They’re going to ask me to go with them again somewhere sometime in the future, and I don’t know how to tell them I don’t want to go with them without hurting their feelings. I’m not even sure if I still want to be friends. I know we’re all old enough to talk about this maturely, but these two are not very mature. When I mentioned that I was already going this year, they both said that it’s because I didn’t want to see them and I was choosing my other friends over them. I don’t know how to handle these two, because all my other friends act their age. My 14 year old sister is easier to reason with. What do I do?

I guess I just want to rant a bit after my experience tonight. I haven’t been diagnosed with HS as I haven’t been able to get into a dermatologist, but I ( 22 F ) have been suffering with recurring abscesses and cysts in my groin mostly and armpits since I was 16. In 2020 one appeared in my groin and grew bigger than a golf ball within 5 days resulting in a stay in hospital to get it lanced in theatre.
I’ve had this one abscess / cyst on my groin for 4 months now - I’ve seen 2 GPs and been to the emergency department twice, each time given antibiotics and sent away with no real directions. The antibiotics do decrease the size of it temporarily but afterwards it continues to grow and ooze, and become extremely painful.
I have work tomorrow (I’m a nurse) and after work today this abscess was causing me so much grief as I’m on my feet all day. I’m going overseas in 2 weeks and can’t get an appointment with any of the GPs in my area. I live in a regional area and there are no urgent care / 24hr medical centres nearby.
I went in at 9pm when it was quiet, only to come out feeling frustrated and a bit upset at the way the nurse commented on my situation.
Her first interaction with me was asking when I finished work, when I replied she stated “wow you picked such a great time to come in!” In a condescending tone. I work at this hospital in a different area and knew that the ED would only have 1-2 patients at this time as were a small hospital. I saw the bed board in triage and the ED was empty at this time. Further, she asked me if I shaved my bikini area and I said yes. She then replied “that’s a really smart idea for someone who has a history of reoccurring abscesses” and rolled her eyes. The whole time she was pulling faces as I replied to the doctor and it made me feel really stupid for coming in. It doesn’t matter if I shave, I still get abscesses. It’s just something that happens.
I ended up just being brushed off and sent home with antibiotics (again) which I know won’t do much and told to see my gp. The swab they did last time came back NAD. I just feel really disappointed and upset after this experience. I’m thinking of calling out of my shift tomorrow as it hurts to walk around too much. I’m sick of being brushed off and the wait times and fee to see a dermatologist is not something I can do at the moment.

My (F29) 2 friends (both F30) from university have created a group chat and are urging me to go to Japan with them, since tickets are cheap right now. I told them that I will be going twice this year already, so I will have to pass on going with them and they can just go together. I don’t want to go with them at all, because I went with them to a different prefecture in Japan 6 years ago and we had so many differences. They are always looking for the cheapest things and places regardless of where it is and what it is. I also had to plan everything and make the itinerary and buy tickets for everything. I was also the designated train expert. I’m okay with staying in cheap hotels as long as it’s in a good location and the bathroom is clean. I’m also okay with taking trains and walking instead of taking taxis, since the price difference is insane and I love walking anyways. What I’m not okay with is eating at 7/11s, family marts, or random restaurants that have 1 star reviews but are cheap. I know I sound crazy, but I love food. I love to eat. I especially love to eat when I’m on vacation. I’m not rich by any means, but I would rather save up and eat whatever I want and go to whatever attraction I want on vacation rather than go there and just stare at food and places I cannot afford. Eating while on vacation is one of the best experiences. Especially in Japan! When I went with them 6 years ago, I wanted to try this yakiniku restaurant, but they did not, since they found it to be expensive. It was about 30USD per person. I acquiesced since they both didn’t want to eat there. They chose this random restaurant with a more affordable menu. The food was about 10USD per dish. I just ate ice cream, because the food did not look appetizing at all and even they were having a hard time finishing it. The bill came and we were all shocked. There was a random door charge that was about $10 each person. I was pissed. They wanted to complain to the waitress, but how in the world were we going to complain when it was probably normal in that area. I just stayed quiet the rest of the night and told myself to just let it go. The next day came and we were in line at this famous tonkatsu restaurant. It was about $20 per meal and when we sat down they only ordered one croquette ($5) per person because they didn’t have want to order a $20 meal. The croquette wasn’t even that big so they were still hungry. My meal was a set and was refillable, so they just ate my rice and soup. It was honestly really embarrassing, because the waitress was staring at us and I just wanted to melt. I’m not dragging them to $100 per meal restaurants here. I completely understand that people have different budgets for different things, but I feel like this is too extreme. We also went to a theme park and instead of riding different rides, they got tired after 3, and wanted to just sit down the rest of the day. I had to go around by myself, because they were too tired. We meet about once a year, because our schedules are too different. Even when we meet I cannot help but think we are just growing apart. We have so many different views on things. We recently went out to dinner and we were just having a good time when one of them mentioned a very delicate topic about another young woman. This woman had an intimate video of her released when she was a minor and they were making fun of her. I saw red. I didn’t shout at them or anything, but I reprimanded them for being vile and I told them if they were going to continue with this conversation, I was leaving. They always stick up for each other, so it always feels like I’m in the wrong, but this time I didn’t back down. They told me I was ruining the dinner, so I said it wouldn’t be ruined in the first place if they just acted like well raised adults. We all went home soon after that. They’ve been acting like nothing happened and have been messaging me and still asking me to go to dinners with them, but I just don’t want to anymore. I can’t help feeling sad, because we’ve been friends for over a decade. They’re going to ask me to go with them again somewhere sometime in the future, and I don’t know how to tell them I don’t want to go with them without hurting their feelings. I’m not even sure if I still want to be friends. I know we’re all old enough to talk about this maturely, but these two are not very mature. When I mentioned that I was already going this year, they both said that it’s because I didn’t want to see them and I was choosing my other friends over them. I don’t know how to handle these two, because all my other friends act their age. My 14 year old sister is easier to reason with. What do I do?

Throwaway account because I don’t want this story getting back to me lol.
I've been on/off with a girl I met in college for 2.5 years. Currently a recent college grad and she will finish her undergrad in August. For context, I have generalized anxiety, OCD, and depression while she has borderline personality disorder, generalized anxiety, depression, and ADHD.
Long story short, she emotionally cheated on me, lied to me about another guy and her values, and manipulated me into staying with her for about half a year in late 2021 and early 2022. We were apart for half a year, then one of my friends told me to give her another chance and I did. We were on/off during this whole time and after because of the guy she was emotionally cheating on me with. She’s pretty great most of the time but has recently had random periods of being terrible.
During our time apart, she wasn't with anyone sexually or emotionally. She went on a date or two but that was all. I pursued other girls, but nothing happened.
Fast forward to January of this year, l've endured a lot of disrespect, childishness, and immaturity from her. l've basically had to show her how to be respectful in a relationship and be a decent person (she asked me to, and those are her words) despite the fact that she has been in two relationships before me and I had been in none before her.
She broke up with me in late January because I wasn't being as affectionate with her as I was during our honeymoon phase. She has borderline personality disorder (she was diagnosed in February of this year) and was having an emotional episode where her feelings overwhelmed her. Later she admitted this and said I wasn't actually doing anything worth leaving over, but that she simply wanted me to say I would touch her more rather than accepting her breaking up with me.
The day after we broke up, she began talking to a guy who hit on her last summer (I didn't know about it at the time). At the same time, she was texting me telling me she wanted to take back the breakup. I caved in after a week only to find out she met up with the guy five days after our breakup. I took her back anyway, but said she should think about it first. She said she didn't need to.
A day later, she told me she was excited about the other guy and couldn't stop thinking about him. I told her I didn't want to talk anymore. Two days later, I tried to win her back and she said she felt the same way when I told her I loved her. She said nothing happened with the other guy three times when I asked before eventually admitting that she gave him head.
I agreed to put the past behind us and gave her another chance anyway. However, over the next month, she admitted she couldn't stop thinking about the other guy and said I deserved better. She wanted to break up and while I did fight for her, I eventually just let her go.
We talked about wanting to stay together over the next day, and I eventually called her drunk saying I loved her. She said she felt the same way. I asked her if she had sex with the guy and she said that while she wasn't planning on it at the time, she impulsively decided to that morning after she started talking to him and he asked to come over.
She has reiterated over and over that that she didn't like him anymore when she did it, but that she didn't want to be alone and was being impulsive like she usually is. Also that she was excited about having sex with someone new after 2.5 years. She made him stop halfway through doing the deed and he cut ties with her after that. She said it was because she wasn't over me and started dissociating.
We've been trying to work things out. She's going to therapy for her BPD and trying to fix things with me, but everything she did hurts. She's been showering me with attention and gifts and promises to do better like she normally does after she messes up. She said she would stop the lying and betrayal, but I found out a couple of days ago that she's been lying about when she began texting the guy again after we broke up most recently. Instead of texting him the next day, she texted him less than a couple of hours after the breakup. No telling what else she's lying about.
My question is, how do I leave? She's my first love and I know she isn't a good person, but every time I try to leave, she just worms her way back into my life.
TL;DR: Ex/Situationship cheated emotionally, then a couple of years later left me for another guy twice and came back after having sex with him. She's my first love, first relationship, and many of my firsts. She is a great girlfriend most of the time but when she isn't, she's the worst. How do I leave and stay strong enough not to take her back? Or is there any way this can work out?

i have a severe addiction for siege and i cant stop tweaking whenever im not playing it, its worse than my nic addiction i cant stop thinking about siege, when im not playing siege im hearing proximity alarms around my house and sometimes planting sounds, i also look for valk cam spots around school to entertain myself, i stopped hanging out with my friends after school and run straight home to play siege, i’ve had a 30% attendance rate in school ever since i bought this game too. This is not a shitpost i am actually addicted and i dont know what to do, i cant go a single day without playing siege, also im failing all my classes If there are any people who were addicted like me and somehow quit please let me know Also im not really trying to quit, i want to play it once or twice a week, not 80 hours a week

My journey towards my first injection of Zepbound the Friday before last started at an age earlier than I can remember. I was told that I would finish bottles twice as fast as my brother and sisters did and that was just the beginning. I can remember my first official diet at the age of 10 and can recall the allowances given by Weight Watchers to this day, 6 protein, 5 starch, 5 dairy, 3 fats, and 3 fruits, with unlimited servings of vegetables. At the time this was the accepted way of doing things and the family followed this plan together. We would calculate these portions and buy frozen meals that had these values written on the side. I never would have known that this would be the start of a lifelong battle, where I was accepted and validated while losing weight, dismissed and ridiculed when I wasn’t. In my house weight loss was looked at as a matter of willpower and my father would take me to the grocery store where we would open the bakery cabinet and breathe in the scents of the muffins, brownies, and other pastries without giving in the the temptation of eating any of them. The yo-yoing of my weight started then and continued through 5 years ago, when I was larger than ever and found my way to a weight loss clinic that restricted calories down to 800 a day before building back up over time, mostly through the use of bars and shakes, alongside a meal of protein and veggies. Just like in the past I was able to shed weight on command with a restrictive system, eventually losing 140 pounds, which brought me from 388 down to 248. This was by far the largest loss of my life, having had losses of 90, 75, and multiple losses in the 30-50 range. This time it felt different, but the binge eating at night came back every time I would get to the 250 range. Like clockwork I would creep up and the nurse practitioner would ask if I wanted to try a medication to help and instantly I would take offense and lose the 15 pounds that crept back on, realizing along the way that I needed someone to doubt me, that I needed someone to not believe in me to get back on track. Through this entire journey I had told every person involved that I would be impressed if they could help me keep myself within a 15 pound range for over a year. This method came close but it was always 15 up and 15 down, cycling nearly every other month. This epiphany was met with curiosity and I eventually was referred to a mindful nutritionist that focused on talking through my binge eating issues and removing the good vs. bad labels that I placed on each food my entire life as it relates to food. It took some time to get on their calendar and by then I had risen to 270 pounds. I started this new part of the journey barely eating any real foods and over time I incorporated foods into my life, while removing the labels associated with them. My weight crept up, but I knew this was part of the plan as I judged less and shamed myself even less. I knew this as I had taken up zen meditation over the past few years and along the way I noticed a voice in my head, that voice used my mother’s nickname for me and whenever clothes started to tighten I would hear this admonition, and then one day I realized that I was saying these shame ridden insult out loud to myself. Over the course of a year I reduced my binge eating considerably and accepted more foods into my life. I also noticed that I would often tell my children that “I couldn’t be trusted” with his food and that food and over time I stopped doing these things, both to my benefit and their’s, as the parentification wasn’t good for either of us. Despite all of this I still continued to see the numbers climb, but didn’t weigh myself and felt better than I ever had at such a high weight. As I went past the 300 mark the guilt wasn’t there and the shame was lessened to a a degree I couldn’t imagine. Along this path I believed that the more self acceptance I could show, the less shame I would feel, and in turn I would eat only one hungry, at least eventually. My weight stabilized and I thought I was in my way,but my clothes kept getting tighter, bit by bit over time. At my next physical my doctor looked at my weight and immediately went to suggesting medication. As I tried to explain my work with my nutritionist he was dismissive and kept referring to the work I was doing as being on a diet, which I had refused to do. I was incorporating all foods in my life while not binging and although I physically didn’t feel great, I was proud of the mental place I was in. It was at this time that I began a 4-5 month dialogue between my doctor and my nutritionist. Talking about my goals, fears, and everything in between. I had become comfortable in a bigger body and accepting of it, however I was starting to notice the effect on my psyche, especially at work when I had to present and speak publicly or on camera. I came to the conclusion that I just wanted to be able to exercise regularly and buy clothes at a regular store, staying at XXL sizes or below. My nutritionist was along for the ride and while she never had a patient on Zepbound her approval meant the world to me as I had my doctor place the prescription in at the pharmacy. It was another 2 months before I asked them to fill it and I eventually had it delivered and in my fridge. I had been dismissive of everyone who had bariatric surgery and other interventions, for they didn’t have the “willpower” that I had to lose weight on command. Swallowing my pride I injected myself 11 days ago not knowing what to expect. The injection instead served as admission that I was no better than anyone else and that I could accept medical intervention for something that I just couldn’t solve in any way. After the injection I experienced a profound moment where I went to the pantry prior to a Zoom panel discussion that would have 400 people on it. In this moment I realized that I always came here prior to speaking publicly, it his time was different. I realized I wasn’t hungry and I also realized that my anxiety was lessened in a way far beyond my appetite and impulses. In the 11 days since I have come to terms with the fact that I suffered from anxiety deeper than I ever knew and this new medication made that completely clear. I now move forward hoping to stay in XXL or lower, but fearful that without this medication my anxiety will come back, with my impulsive eating right behind. I then come back to the fact that I will continue the meditation practice, exercise routine, and self acceptance tools that I’ve worked on diligently over the years to guide my path. I don’t know where this journey will take me, but I am glad that I was able to share this publicly for the first time here on Reddit

My family went for the US immigration interview in march, and by the end they gave us a yellow slip with the names of my father and brother, and a white slip.
When we inquired what the issue was they said they just wanted us to fill a couple of forms form my father and brother, while the rest of the family was good. They returned our passports.
We filled the forms on the same day, and the last updated date changed twice in march, and then stopped, recently it changed on 9th may, the status is still refused.
We emailed them and they said it can take anywhere between 2 week to 180 days. Has anyone else had any similar experience?
Can you share how long it took and any additional information. Thanks !!

We are amidst a 10 day long vacation on Mallorca. Back in Germany before the vacation we booked a rental car through a provider called Sunny Cars that we would then get from Europcar right at the airport at Palma. We received a Fiat 500, everything good so far. Now on day 5 we had a look at our emails and there was one from Europcar. Translated from Spanish it would ask us to return the car to the airport so that it can be exchanged for a different one, no explanation on why. We contacted Sunny Cars, they managed to confirm that it was indeed legitimate but they also couldn't get a reason for it. They also told us that they haven't experienced such a thing so far and that it's very odd. We are still waiting for a email reply from the Spanish Europcar where we asked for the reason. I believe it's not reasonable for them to expect us to use our vacation time to drive across the whole island twice just to exchange vehicles. From what we noticed there's nothing wrong with the car. I would really appreciate tips or shared experiences from you guys, thanks!

Over the course of the past few months I’ve been working on compiling a list of my 500 favorite songs ever. I gave myself a few rules (only 5 songs per artist being the big one) and here’s what I’ve come up with. Just thought this was fun and wanted to see if this might spark any discussion about song placement or lack of certain things. Also wanted to see if anyone had any similar lists.

1. Trash Panda - Aging out of the 20th Century
2. Djo - Roddy
3. The Beatles - Don't Let Me Down
4. Snail Mail - Heat Wave
5. Phoebe Bridgers - Savior Complex
6. Joji - SLOW DANCING IN THE DARK
7. The Shins - The Fear
8. Talking Heads - This Must Be the Place (Naive Melody)
9. The Cranberries - Linger
10. Post Animal - Ralphie
11. Hop Along - Not Abel
12. The Beach Boys - Heroes And Villains
13. Electric Light Orchestra - Livin' Thing
14. The Monkees - As We Go Along
15. Blondie - Heart Of Glass
16. The Strokes - Oblivius
17. Chet Baker - It's Always You - Vocal Version
18. The Beatles - Rain
19. Electric Light Orchestra - Telephone Line
20. Husbands - Must Be a Cop
21. Faces - Ooh La La
22. The Flaming Lips - Do You Realize??
23. Frank Ocean - Nights
24. Harry James - It's Been a Long, Long Time
25. The Turtles - Happy Together
26. Etta James - At Last
27. The Zombies - The Way I Feel Inside
28. The Beatles - Here, There And Everywhere
29. The Beach Boys - God Only Knows
30. Kanye West - Father Stretch My Hands Pt. 1
31. Briston Maroney - Sinkin'
32. John Lennon - Oh My Love
33. Herb Alpert & The Tijuana Brass - Ladyfingers
34. Squirrel Flower - Headlights
35. The Backseat Lovers - Maple Syrup
36. The B-52's - Rock Lobster
37. George Harrison - All Things Must Pass
38. Snail Mail - Ben Franklin
39. Laura Elliott - Grass Stains
40. Djo - Chateau (Feel Alright)
41. Tame Impala - Eventually
42. The Backseat Lovers - Snowbank Blues
43. Claude Debussy - Clair de Lune, L. 32
44. The Weeknd - Save Your Tears
45. Talking Heads - Thank You for Sending Me an Angel
46. The Zombies - Time of the Season
47. The War On Drugs - Nothing to Find
48. Queen - Brighton Rock
49. The Dream Academy - Please, Please, Please Let Me Get What I Want
50. The B-52's - Strobe Light
51. The Cranberries - Dreams
52. Fugees - Killing Me Softly With His Song
53. Molchat Doma - Тоска
54. Tyler, The Creator - ARE WE STILL FRIENDS?
55. The Mamas & The Papas - Dream A Little Dream Of Me
56. The Chords - Sh-Boom
57. The Beatles - The Abbey Road Medley
58. The Ronettes - Be My Baby
59. The Who - Baba O'Riley
60. Dr. Dog - Where'd All the Time Go?
61. M83 - My Tears Are Becoming A Sea
62. Billie Eilish - everything i wanted
63. Outkast - Hey Ya!
64. Nat King Cole - Orange Colored Sky
65. The Notorious B.I.G. - Hypnotize
66. Four Tops - Reach Out I'll Be There
67. Foreign Air - Shut Up and Show Me
68. Leonard Cohen - So Long, Marianne
69. dodie - If I'm Being Honest
70. Briston Maroney - June
71. Post Malone - Sunflower
72. John Lennon - Isolation
73. Buddy Holly & The Crickets - Not Fade Away
74. Phoebe Bridgers - I Know The End
75. Kanye West - All Falls Down
76. Alvvays - Adult Diversion
77. John Lennon - Beautiful Boy (Darling Boy)
78. Clairo - Amoeba
79. The Beach Boys - I Know There's An Answer
80. Paul McCartney - Let Me Roll It
81. Frank Ocean - Ivy
82. Radiohead - Motion Picture Soundtrack
83. Djo - Mutual Future (Repeat)
84. Phoebe Bridgers - Scott Street
85. Childish Gambino - Me and Your Mama
86. Pink Floyd - Astronomy Domine
87. The Pied Pipers - Dream
88. The Beach Boys - All I Wanna Do
89. Djo - Change
90. Второй этаж поражает - Крайности
91. Little Richard - Lucille
92. King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Shanghai
93. Chet Baker - Deep In A Dream
94. The Beatles - It's All Too Much
95. Post Animal - Dirtpicker
96. The B-52's - Love Shack
97. EDEN - foreve/over
98. Kanye West - Ultralight Beam
99. The Zombies - Going Out Of My Head
100. Talking Heads - Found a Job
101. Snail Mail - Pristine
102. Tom Tom Club - Genius of Love
103. Tears For Fears - Everybody Wants To Rule The World
104. WILLIS - I Think I Like When It Rains
105. Chet Baker - But Not For Me
106. Naked Eyes - Always Something There to Remind Me
107. Tyler, The Creator - GONE, GONE / THANK YOU
108. Djo - Half Life
109. Trash Panda - Check Please
110. Briston Maroney - Deep Sea Diver
111. Beach Fossils - This Year
112. Momma - Medicine
113. Hop Along - Prior Things
114. Talking Heads - Road to Nowhere
115. Electric Light Orchestra - Turn to Stone
116. Briston Maroney - It's Not My Fault
117. Tyler, The Creator - NEW MAGIC WAND
118. Snail Mail - Headlock
119. Phil Collins - Take Me Home
120. Gotye - Somebody That I Used To Know
121. The Beach Boys - Do It Again
122. Tame Impala - Breathe Deeper
123. Ella Fitzgerald - Misty
124. Phoebe Bridgers - Waiting Room
125. Kanye West - Runaway
126. Daft Punk - Get Lucky (feat. Pharrell Williams and Nile Rodgers)
127. Dire Straits - Money for Nothing
128. Kendrick Lamar - Alright
129. Black Country, New Road - Concorde
130. George Harrison - If Not for You
131. Harry Styles - Cherry
132. Ms. Lauryn Hill - Doo Wop (That Thing)
133. Paul McCartney - Junk
134. Wings - Maybe I'm Amazed - Live
135. Talking Heads - Houses in Motion
136. Del Water Gap - Ode to a Conversation Stuck in Your Throat
137. Pixies - Where Is My Mind?
138. Queen - Seven Seas Of Rhye
139. Paul McCartney - Jet - 2010 Remaster
140. Sufjan Stevens - Death with Dignity
141. A Flock Of Seagulls - I Ran (So Far Away)
142. Tame Impala - Let It Happen
143. Led Zeppelin - Whole Lotta Love
144. Clairo - Management
145. Tommy James & The Shondells - I Think We're Alone Now - Single Version
146. Fergie - Clumsy
147. Childish Gambino - This Is America
148. Prefab Sprout - The King of Rock 'N' Roll
149. Joy Again - Looking Out for You
150. Beach House - Space Song
151. John Lennon - Mind Games
152. The Weeknd - Gasoline
153. Weezer - Buddy Holly
154. Phoebe Bridgers - Sidelines
155. Tame Impala - New Person, Same Old Mistakes
156. Lana Del Rey - A&W
157. The Dillards - I've Just Seen a Face
158. The Doors - Break on Through (To the Other Side)
159. Julie London - I'm Glad There Is You
160. 2Pac - California Love
161. Dean Martin - Everybody Loves Somebody
162. Snail Mail - Anytime
163. The Strokes - The Adults Are Talking
164. Jordana, TV Girl - Better in the Dark
165. Juice WRLD - Hide (feat. Seezyn)
166. The Wild Reeds - Get Better
167. Finom - Mine
168. Hop Along - One That Suits Me
169. The Killers - Mr. Brightside
170. Michael Cera - Clay Pigeons
171. Clairo - Bags
172. Prince - Let's Go Crazy
173. The Zombies - She's Not There
174. Blackstreet - No Diggity
175. Frank Sinatra - I've Got You Under My Skin
176. John Denver - Take Me Home, Country Roads
177. Harry James - I'm Beginning to See The Light
178. The Clash - London Calling
179. Charles Bradley - Changes
180. Buddy Holly - (Ummmm, Oh Yeah) Dearest
181. Eagles - Seven Bridges Road - Live
182. Moxie - Honey
183. Faces - Stay with Me
184. Post Animal - How Do You Feel
185. New Order - Age of Consent
186. Natalie Imbruglia - Torn
187. Lana Del Rey - Doin' Time
188. Twin Peaks - Blue Coupe
189. Kanye West - Gold Digger
190. Fruit Bats - The Bottom of It
191. Frank Sinatra - Somethin' Stupid
192. Lorde - Perfect Places
193. Martha Tilton - Exactly Like You
194. King Crimson - 21st Century Schizoid Man
195. Glen Campbell - Southern Nights
196. Claire Rosinkranz - Frankenstein
197. Guillemots - Made-Up Lovesong #43
198. Fleetwood Mac - Say You Love Me
199. Frankie Valli - Can't Take My Eyes off You
200. The Crickets - Don't Ever Change
201. Paul Anka - Put Your Head On My Shoulder
202. George Harrison - Isn't It a Pity
203. Trash Panda - Off
204. Super Besse - Holod
205. Beyoncé - Hold Up
206. Charlie Burg - I Don't Wanna Be Okay Without You
207. Eagles - Peaceful Easy Feeling
208. Ella Fitzgerald - It's A Lovely Day Today
209. PERMSKY KRAY - Дорогой Человек
210. The Little Dippers - Forever - Single Version
211. The B-52's - There's a Moon in the Sky (Called the Moon)
212. Patti Page - Old Cape Cod
213. Daft Punk - Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger
214. The Soggy Bottom Boys - I Am A Man Of Constant Sorrow
215. Trash Panda - Things Will Never Change
216. Hop Along - Well-dressed
217. Sixpence None The Richer - Kiss Me
218. TV Girl - Daughter of a Cop
219. LAUNDRY DAY - Jane
220. Tyler, The Creator - EARFQUAKE
221. Sigue Sigue Sputnik - Love Missile F1-11
222. Joji - Gimme Love
223. The Backseat Lovers - Pool House
224. The Weeknd - Take My Breath
225. Mild High Club - Homage
226. Doc Watson - Am I Born to Die?
227. Daniel Caesar - Streetcar
228. The Kinks - Sunny Afternoon
229. John Lennon - #9 Dream
230. Tame Impala - Elephant
231. Chuck Berry - You Never Can Tell
232. Pink Floyd - Wish You Were Here
233. KIDS SEE GHOSTS - 4th Dimension
234. Soft Cell - Tainted Love
235. The B-52's - Song for a Future Generation
236. Gnarls Barkley - Crazy
237. Lana Del Rey - Blue Jeans
238. Billie Eilish - Halley's Comet
239. Glenn Miller - In the Mood
240. Kid Bloom - Control
241. The Cinematic Orchestra - To Build A Home
242. Marvin Gaye - I Heard It Through The Grapevine
243. Brenda Lee - If You Love Me (Really Love Me)
244. TV Girl - Lovers Rock
245. Art Lown - Knew You Well
246. Dean Martin - Ain't That A Kick In The Head
247. Miniature Tigers - Like or Like Like
248. Electric Light Orchestra - Sweet Talkin' Woman
249. The Hunts - Ages
250. The Cars - Good Times Roll
251. Bill Withers - Lovely Day
252. Drake - God's Plan
253. Kansas - Point of Know Return
254. The Neighbourhood - Stargazing
255. The Clash - Rock the Casbah
256. Hop Along - What the Writer Meant
257. Briston Maroney - Under My Skin
258. Jack Stauber - Buttercup
259. King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Ya Love
260. Ginger Root - Loretta
261. Thompson Twins - Hold Me Now
262. Frank Ocean - Pyramids
263. Kate Bush - Running Up That Hill (A Deal With God)
264. Destroy Boys - I Threw Glass at My Friend's Eyes and Now I'm on Probation
265. Mild High Club - Dionysian State
266. Franz Ferdinand - Take Me Out
267. Kevin Abstract - Empty
268. The Frights - Crust Bucket
269. Stealers Wheel - Stuck In The Middle With You
270. The Shins - Fighting in a Sack
271. fun. - We Are Young (feat. Janelle Monáe)
272. Lil Uzi Vert - Money Longer
273. Miniature Tigers - Cannibal Queen
274. The Doors - Touch Me
275. Jean Dawson - Clear Bones
276. King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Catching Smoke
277. Molchat Doma - Люди Надоели
278. The Go-Go's - Our Lips Are Sealed
279. Billie Eilish - ocean eyes
280. BOYO - Crown
281. The 1975 - Somebody Else
282. Husbands - She's a Betty
283. Syd Barrett - If It's In You
284. Trash Panda - Atlanta Girls
285. Frank Ocean - Godspeed
286. Alice Phoebe Lou - Glow
287. Childish Gambino - Redbone
288. New Order - Blue Monday
289. Post Animal - Schedule
290. Harry Styles - Fine Line
291. Harry James - I'll Get By (As Long As I Have You)
292. Depeche Mode - Never Let Me Down Again
293. Chet Baker - I Fall In Love Too Easily
294. The Cranberries - Put Me Down
295. John Mayer - Edge of Desire
296. George Harrison - All Those Years Ago
297. Electric Light Orchestra - The Diary of Horace Wimp
298. Alex Clare - Too Close
299. Eric B. & Rakim - Know The Ledge
300. Peter Frampton - Show Me The Way - Live
301. Simon & Garfunkel - Mrs. Robinson
302. Black Eyes - Deformative
303. The Righteous Brothers - Unchained Melody
304. Bonny Light Horseman - Deep In Love
305. The Walker Brothers - The Sun Ain't Gonna Shine Anymore
306. Cage The Elephant - Cigarette Daydreams
307. Hot Flash Heat Wave - Raindrop
308. Clairo - Sofia
309. Kendrick Lamar - PRIDE.
310. Camille Saint-Saëns - The Swan
311. Weezer - Say It Ain't So
312. C418 - Sweden
313. Lana Del Rey - Let The Light In (feat. Father John Misty)
314. The Postal Service - Such Great Heights
315. Pickin' On Series - Those to Come
316. Lana Del Rey - Grandfather please stand on the shoulders of my father while he's deep-sea fishing (feat. RIOPY)
317. John Mayer - Moving On and Getting Over
318. Field Medic - POWERFUL LOVE
319. Cage The Elephant - Flow
320. Joji - Run
321. The Who - Won't Get Fooled Again
322. Boston - Peace of Mind
323. Ben E. King - This Magic Moment
324. David Bowie - Starman
325. Beastie Boys - Sabotage
326. Harry Belafonte - Banana Boat (Day-O)
327. Gene Krupa & His Orchestra - Rhumboogie
328. The Cardigans - Lovefool
329. The Kinks - You Really Got Me
330. The Zombies - She's Coming Home
331. Michael Jackson - Thriller
332. Moxie - Blue Skies
333. The Mamas & The Papas - Straight Shooter
334. Peter, Paul and Mary - Don't Think Twice, It's All Right
335. Green Day - Brain Stew
336. Dua Lipa - Levitating (feat. DaBaby)
337. The Police - Roxanne
338. Britney Spears - Toxic
339. Tears For Fears - Head Over Heels
340. Rex Orange County - Pluto Projector
341. The Strokes - Call It Fate, Call It Karma
342. Portugal. The Man - Feel It Still
343. The Black Crowes - Twice As Hard
344. Ted Nugent - Stranglehold
345. fun. - Some Nights
346. Wings - Silly Love Songs
347. Paramore - Still into You
348. Peter Frampton - Baby, I Love Your Way - Live
349. The Monkees - Last Train to Clarksville
350. Royel Otis - Oysters In My Pocket
351. The Backseat Lovers - Growing/Dying
352. Nelly Furtado - Say It Right
353. Post Animal - Goggles
354. Erik Satie - Gymnopédie No. 1
355. Childish Gambino - IV. Sweatpants
356. Steely Dan - Dirty Work
357. ABBA - Lay All Your Love On Me
358. Still Woozy - Goodie Bag
359. Arlo Parks - Black Dog
360. Goth Babe - Weekend Friend
361. George & the Handsomes - Sleepy Beats
362. boygenius - 20
363. The Mills Brothers - You Always Hurt The One You Love
364. Travis Scott - SICKO MODE
365. Pinegrove - Need 2
366. The Backseat Lovers - Sinking Ship
367. Franz Schubert - Ave Maria, Op. 52 No. 6, D. 839 (Arr. for Soprano, Harp & Chorus)
368. Zac Brown Band - Knee Deep (feat. Jimmy Buffett)
369. Justin Timberlake - Mirrors
370. Simon & Garfunkel - Cecilia
371. The Cranberries - Zombie
372. Daniel Caesar - Japanese Denim
373. Billie Holiday - Easy Living
374. ISLAND - By Your Side
375. Phil Collins - Tomorrow Never Knows
376. Bob Dylan - The Times They Are A-Changin'
377. The Four Freshmen - Day By Day
378. Fleetwood Mac - The Chain
379. Billy Joel - Big Shot
380. Billie Eilish - Happier Than Ever
381. Yot Club - down bad
382. Rihanna - Stay
383. Fleetwood Mac - Landslide
384. Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky - Swan Lake, Op. 20, Act 2: No. 10, Scene. Moderato
385. The White Stripes - Fell In Love With a Girl
386. Alvvays - Easy On Your Own?
387. Jason Isbell and the 400 Unit - If We Were Vampires
388. Blackway - What's Up Danger (with Black Caviar)
389. Albert Hammond - It Never Rains in Southern California
390. Matt Maltese - Jupiter
391. John Denver - Mother Nature's Son
392. Childish Gambino - Sober
393. Claire Rosinkranz - Pools and Palm Trees
394. The Cars - Just What I Needed
395. The Doors - Light My Fire
396. Blondie - Tomorrow Never Knows
397. King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Hell's Itch
398. The Japanese House - Saw You In A Dream
399. Franz Schubert - String Quartet No. 13 in A Minor, Op. 29 No. 1, D. 804: I. Allegro ma non troppo
400. The Drifters - White Christmas
401. The 1975 - Robbers
402. George Harrison - Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea
403. The Frights - Tongues
404. Paramore - Ain't It Fun
405. Billy Joel - Pressure
406. Frank Sinatra - My Way
407. Art Lown - Going Back to Carolina
408. Bruno Mars - Just the Way You Are
409. Under The Rug - Lonesome & Mad
410. The Mamas & The Papas - Dedicated To The One I Love
411. Foster The People - Sit Next to Me
412. Weezer - Undone - The Sweater Song
413. Michael Jackson - Wanna Be Startin' Somethin'
414. Tia Blake - Plastic Jesus
415. Los Bravos - Bring a Little Lovin'
416. Lady Gaga - Bad Romance
417. Minnie Riperton - Les Fleurs
418. Billy Idol - Dancing with Myself
419. Cody Fry - I Hear a Symphony
420. Gringo Sapiens - Driver's Licence - 16LM mp3
421. Vacations - Relax
422. Glitter Party - time waits
423. Steve Lacy - Bad Habit
424. The Crystals - Then He Kissed Me
425. The Pied Pipers - Mairzy Doats
426. Mitski - Bug Like an Angel
427. James Ray - I've Got My Mind Set On You Pts. 1 & 2
428. Clairo - Bubble Gum
429. Masayoshi Takanaka - SEXY DANCE
430. Nat King Cole - (I Love You) For Sentimental Reasons
431. Sleigh Bells - Crown On the Ground
432. Olivia Rodrigo - favorite crime
433. No Doubt - Just A Girl
434. Foreigner - Long, Long Way from Home
435. Heart - Crazy On You
436. The Hunts - Darlin'
437. David Bowie - Heroes
438. Alice Phoebe Lou - Hammer
439. Thee Oh Sees - Toe Cutter - Thumb Buster
440. Roar - I Can't Handle Change
441. TV Girl - Birds Dont Sing
442. Laufey - From The Start
443. Chas McDevitt Skiffle Group - Freight Train (feat. Nancy Whiskey)
444. Metro Boomin - Am I Dreaming
445. Liana Flores - rises the moon
446. POP ETC - Speak Up
447. Jean Knight - Mr. Big Stuff
448. The Platters - Twilight Time
449. Derek & The Dominos - Layla
450. King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Homeless Man in Adidas
451. Charlie Burg - Lovesong (The Way)
452. Hot Flash Heat Wave - Gutter Girl
453. ABBA - Fernando
454. Mitski - My Love Mine All Mine
455. Savannah Conley - More Than Fine
456. Young the Giant - Mind Over Matter
457. Future Crib - Yer Movin'
458. Bob Dylan - Like a Rolling Stone
459. benches - Violent
460. Musical Youth - Pass The Dutchie
461. Olivia Rodrigo - vampire
462. Ryan Gosling, Emma Stone - City Of Stars
463. Maya Hawke - Thérèse
464. Current Joys - A Different Age
465. Wayne Newton - Danke Schoen
466. La Roux - Bulletproof
467. Jason Segel, Walter - Man Or Muppet
468. U2 - I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For
469. The Raconteurs - Steady, As She Goes
470. The Ink Spots - Into Each Life Some Rain Must Fall
471. Ace of Base - The Sign
472. Vulfpeck - 1612
473. Nordista Freeze - Hey GiGi
474. The Chainsmokers - New York City
475. Suki Waterhouse - Johanna
476. Pete Rodriguez - I Like It Like That
477. Calvin Harris - Summer
478. The Rare Occasions - Notion
479. a-ha - Take on Me
480. Rush - Working Man
481. Traffic - Dear Mr. Fantasy
482. Starbuck - Moonlight Feels Right
483. Van Halen - Drop Dead Legs
484. The Troggs - Wild Thing
485. Led Zeppelin - Good Times Bad Times
486. The Byrds - Turn! Turn! Turn! (To Everything There Is a Season)
487. Cream - Sunshine Of Your Love
488. Justin Timberlake - SexyBack (feat. Timbaland)
489. David Bowie - Suffragette City "490. Ludwig van Beethoven - Sonata No. 14 in C-Sharp Minor, Op. 27, No. 2 ""Moonlight"": I. Adagio sostenuto"
490. Avicii - Wake Me Up
491. The Who - La-La-La-Lies
492. The Spinners - The Rubberband Man
493. MGMT - Time to Pretend
494. Hootie & The Blowfish - Only Wanna Be With You
495. Sheck Wes - Mo Bamba
496. Claire Rosinkranz - 123
497. Ringo Starr - Photograph
498. The Proclaimers - I'm Gonna Be (500 Miles)
499. Duran Duran - Rio

Today is day 4 sober. The recent pattern has been relapsing one or two times every 1-4 weeks. It's so hard feeling caught in the trap, like the tentacles of addiction will reach out and get me and it's almost inevitable that this is just the next of infinite cycles.
But even if that's true, once a month is a hell of a lot better than once or twice a week and that's how it was for a long time.
Really appreciate reading everyone's stories. So much inspiration from your resilience.

So a couple of weeks ago my ex reappeared in my life. It has completely thrown my life into hell. I am married and have been for going on 10 years. I am a stay-at-home parent of 5 children, one of whom is nonverbal autistic. I have been in burnout mode for probably the past 5 years. As soon as this guy pops back into my life it's like I have woken up! I realize that I am not getting the attention from my husband that I need. This is something I have brought up multiple times in the past year. I have been telling my husband I need more physical touch, more help around the house, more attention.
My husband is great and I love him more than anything. He works 40 hours and has a lot going on at work. Once he gets off work he comes home and gets straight on the game or goes takes a 30-minutes shit. He rarely helps clean up around the house and when he does it is like he wants a standing ovation. He will do things with the kids on the weekends like fishing or yard work. He only wants to do things that he likes when he is off and that's kind of another issue. He only wants to do things that he likes with me. I even have a recent little example. I convinced him to download and play words with friends with me. We played two games and last night he told me he doesn't want to play anymore because I won them both. It isn't fun to him. He asks me to play video games with him which I do sometimes. I get tired of them after a while because it isn't me he just wants to play with it is his friends as well.
The physical touch thing has been an issue for a while. He hasn't ever been too affectionate. It was okay when I was younger and the kids were constantly overstimulating me. I did not want to be cuddled which I am sure other parents can relate with this. Well, now our youngest two are 5 and aren't constantly hanging all over me and I want to feel loved by my husband. He doesn't make out which whatever no biggie. I usually have weed breath so it's whatever. But daaang when he hugs me he does it with a side arm and it is not like a squeeze. It is like something you would give to your sister. I even told him the other day that I want to be hugged or cuddled like if you don't hold on tight enough I might float away. I shit you not this man tried to crush my ribs the next time we hugged. I am just so confused.
I do not know what to do or how to tell him I need more. I love my husband and would never want to go without him but I am so sad that I am not getting the affection I need to feel loved. What should I do to get it across that I need this because I am feeling lonely and not loved?
I am also worried that I am making nothing out of this and am overreacting because all these past memories with my Ex have come up. I only talked to the ex on FB twice. The last time I talked to him he told me we couldn't talk anymore because it was too hard because he was still in love with me. I instantly blocked him and told my husband about it the next day. I would have told him that day but we got into a little fight about how lonely I was feeling.

Another day, another hopefully-weird decktech.
So a couple of days ago I got help from other reddits with initiative and banding. I love to build janky decks that are actually playable and I recently saw a metal plate printed with [[Undercity]] to mark everyone's inititative with magnets - love it!
Therefore I present to you
Banding-Initiative feat. Mom
Synergies/Idea
[[Elesh Norn]] actually synergizes quite well with the banding mechanic. Meaning your opponent blocks your attacking creatures and you get to split the damage on each creature in your band so your opponent gets a ton of Mom triggers. Even on defense this works quite well and in addition with cards like [[Pariah]] on [[Stuffy Doll]] it's kinda gg anyway.
The included initiative mechanic (quite hard to get running in MonoW) gives a nice piece of value for your creatures not being blocked.
Wincons
The obvious way to win is just beatdown with cards like [[True Conviction]] or [[Graaz]]. But there is more! Just imagine to swing with your [[Frontline Medic]] and cast a [[White Sun's Twilight]] for 7 2nd main. Even [[Strixhaven Stadium]] is a fun way to make your opponents hit you while getting mom-taxed.
Footnote
All in all this deck is no way any kind of optimized. But it's hella fun to swing at your opponents with banding, make them thwink twice to block or hit back and at the same time make friends through the [[Undercity]]!
What do you think? Any suggestions?

25F 130lbs Insulin Resistant After going through every loop possible I was finally able to get my hands on Metformin.
The doctor just gave me a week of 250mg and then upped the rest of the trial (3months) to 500mg once a day. I felt great on the 250! Felt light and the initial nausea went away in 2 days with a good protein based breakfast. My dark patches have lightened and i can see the hirsutism go down a bit. I upped to 500mg and the bloating, the dizziness and feeling just heavy has been weird. I started getting non stop cervical mucus. I feel and look like Ive gained weight. It’s been almost a week and it’s making me question whether people had the same side effects.
Should I try cutting the pills and taking 250mg twice a day instead? Will this go away? I see the benefits of metformin but the bloating and weight gain is making me question.

40M 6’1” 215lb, caucasian, occasional drinking(twice a week) no smoking/drugs. Was recently oversees on vacation.
So I have had sinus infections and allergies in the past. It gets gross, thick, changes color to yellow. This is very different.
This liquid is not viscous at all, very runny, almost has a copper, tang, orange Gatorade color to it. After I get up and blow it all out, I don’t see it for the rest of the day. No runny nose, no stuffy nose. It has happened for two days now. I’ve never seen anything like it before. Any ideas what this could be?

Hey, all!
We have a 1.5 years-old boy who we started potty training very early, as soon as he was able to sit comfortably, he was around 6 months-old. We sort of guessed when he would go, right after sleep, after eating and so on. The first couple of months successes were pure luck and anticipation on our side, rather than him actually knowing what's going on. But by the time he was a 1 year-old he did his thing almost every time we put him on the potty, either number 1 or number 2, but rarely left an empty potty. At about 1 year, 3 months-old he started to tap his chest well he wants to go potty - there were actually full days with 0 accidents in the diaper! We were so close! That period was about 2 months.
Fast-forward to the past month. We have changed absolutely nothing about the routine we followed, but he simply doesn't say he wants to go anymore. He only informs us (the same way, with a tap on his chest) when he already did in the diaper. We would put him on the potty, sit with him for upwards of 30minutes, he would play, stand, come back, most of the times pee as well, but no pooping. Right after we put his diaper on and dress him up, he bloody poops himself! I haven't seen a poop in the potty for nearly 2 weeks and he used to go there at least twice a day religiously.
So, is this a phase? Are we doing something wrong? Will it pass or we should change something? I'm sure you'll think he's too young to understand what's going on, but I assure you this is not the case. He perfectly understands it, and as far as I can tell is doing it on purpose.
We're certainly not giving up or slowing down with the potty training, but every bit of advice would be greatly appreciated!
P.S. I forgot to mention that accidents only happen when we're at home. He hasn't pooped in the diaper while we're outside in forever, I think it last happened 6 months ago, because we were outside for too long. So he definitely knows how to contain himself.

I finally got around to commissioning a used R8000 I bought a few days ago. I have a very basic configuration running right now. Basic networking and some DHCP and 2.4 and 5.0 with basically default settings. The issue I have is that twice now, the wifi (2.4, haven't checked 5.0) has failed. No wifi device is able to connect. Wired connections work fine.
I'm just wondering if there are any known issues with this setup. Obviously, as the router is used, there could be questions there but obviously I'd be happier to be told an upgrade to 2024.1 would fix things or that I need to change a setting.