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2024.05.14 02:59 Frequent-Movie8220 Can someone please grade my synthesis essay
This was about the 2021 Free-Response Questions Handwriting prompt. Just looking for # values of my thesis, evidence, and sophistication.
Although some argue that handwriting instruction is beneficial in helping students develop certain skills, to a greater extent, handwriting instruction is not needed in today’s schools because the aforementioned skills aren’t directly proportional to handwriting and the world is evolving into a society that lacks the need for such writing skills.
Handwriting instruction has no place in this globally changing society that is geared more and more towards technology. Technology has no doubt pervaded into our school systems on a global level. Kids in elementary schools are receiving chromebooks, ipads, and even laptops. This is even the case for my own situation, in which I was given a chromebook for assignments in fifth grade. However, schools have continued to implement handwriting practice into daily routines, and for what reason? The opinions are starting to sway against teaching handwriting skills, however. Teachers themselves are stating that they believe we need to do away with the practice and “move on”(Source A). It is not only an individual basis level, however, as even forty one states have implemented courses that omit cursive from their curriculum as a whole(Source A). The fact that not only individuals are rebelling against this “archaic [...] communication” but also a majority of states on a national level are doing so highlights how change is what the nation wants. Specifically, technology is making the teachings of handwriting obsolete. The keyboard allows students to be “quicker on the keyboard” and can help them be “better writers as handwriting takes up less of their education”(Source C). Others agree with this sentiment that doing away with handwriting can give more time for education in other subjects too. For example, some articles are saying that handwriting is taking away time that could be better prioritized for “essential life-skills” like finance and programming(Source E). The sentiment of teachers, editors, states, and more, is that handwriting has no place in a society that is evolving.
The supposed skills that come with teaching handwriting at our schools are lacking in direct benefits. For example, some argue that handwriting activates cognitive and fine motor skills because it requires knowing what to write and how to use motion to write as such(Source D). However, this assertion could be applied to any scenario. Say painting: it requires a vision of what to make and the skills to create the work. However, why is painting not a required curriculum in many schools? This basic line of reasoning has been pointed out by others too, with one pointing out how “playing the original Super Mario Bros helps develop fine motor skills”(Source E). Knowing where to jump or which pipe to take is the equivalent to using your cognitive skills while inputting such decisions into your controller is using motor skills. However, schools are not requiring 15 minutes a day to gaming. This comparison between handwriting and Super Mario Bros underscores how the perceived benefits of handwriting are, in reality, not inherently needed. Another point of view to highlight is that while handwriting instruction may have benefits, they are highly constrained to when one is in school. In Source F, for example, it is shown that the use of paper over technology is heavily prevalent but in K-5. In Source D, it is said that elementary-age students were found to write more during their time. However, these assertions do not take into account the realities of our society. Children are not in the growing technology-focused workforce. Children will not have the time to take such liberties when having to take quick notes in high school or college. Children will be losing out on time that could be used to develop other more important skills.
Overall, the practice of handwriting instruction is not needed in today’s schools because the overall consensus agrees with such and the supposed benefits of handwriting do not outweigh the loss.
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Although some argue that handwriting instruction is beneficial in helping students develop certain skills, to a greater extent, handwriting instruction is not needed in today’s schools because the aforementioned skills aren’t directly proportional to handwriting and the world is evolving into a society that lacks the need for such writing skills.
Handwriting instruction has no place in this globally changing society that is geared more and more towards technology. Technology has no doubt pervaded into our school systems on a global level. Kids in elementary schools are receiving chromebooks, ipads, and even laptops. This is even the case for my own situation, in which I was given a chromebook for assignments in fifth grade. However, schools have continued to implement handwriting practice into daily routines, and for what reason? The opinions are starting to sway against teaching handwriting skills, however. Teachers themselves are stating that they believe we need to do away with the practice and “move on”(Source A). It is not only an individual basis level, however, as even forty one states have implemented courses that omit cursive from their curriculum as a whole(Source A). The fact that not only individuals are rebelling against this “archaic [...] communication” but also a majority of states on a national level are doing so highlights how change is what the nation wants. Specifically, technology is making the teachings of handwriting obsolete. The keyboard allows students to be “quicker on the keyboard” and can help them be “better writers as handwriting takes up less of their education”(Source C). Others agree with this sentiment that doing away with handwriting can give more time for education in other subjects too. For example, some articles are saying that handwriting is taking away time that could be better prioritized for “essential life-skills” like finance and programming(Source E). The sentiment of teachers, editors, states, and more, is that handwriting has no place in a society that is evolving.
The supposed skills that come with teaching handwriting at our schools are lacking in direct benefits. For example, some argue that handwriting activates cognitive and fine motor skills because it requires knowing what to write and how to use motion to write as such(Source D). However, this assertion could be applied to any scenario. Say painting: it requires a vision of what to make and the skills to create the work. However, why is painting not a required curriculum in many schools? This basic line of reasoning has been pointed out by others too, with one pointing out how “playing the original Super Mario Bros helps develop fine motor skills”(Source E). Knowing where to jump or which pipe to take is the equivalent to using your cognitive skills while inputting such decisions into your controller is using motor skills. However, schools are not requiring 15 minutes a day to gaming. This comparison between handwriting and Super Mario Bros underscores how the perceived benefits of handwriting are, in reality, not inherently needed. Another point of view to highlight is that while handwriting instruction may have benefits, they are highly constrained to when one is in school. In Source F, for example, it is shown that the use of paper over technology is heavily prevalent but in K-5. In Source D, it is said that elementary-age students were found to write more during their time. However, these assertions do not take into account the realities of our society. Children are not in the growing technology-focused workforce. Children will not have the time to take such liberties when having to take quick notes in high school or college. Children will be losing out on time that could be used to develop other more important skills.
Overall, the practice of handwriting instruction is not needed in today’s schools because the overall consensus agrees with such and the supposed benefits of handwriting do not outweigh the loss.
2024.05.14 02:52 nobishhoe Fast Forward Mastermind: Alen Sultanic
https://easygroupbuys.com/group-buy/alen-sultanic-nhb-fast-forward-mastermind/
Pay very close attention to this one if you don’t know who Alen Sultanic is.
ِِِِِِِِِِA full-stack marketer who uses psychology in his approach, he held the top affiliate on ClickBank from around 2006 if I recall well, till very recently, and other affiliates were just copying him and yet couldn’t beat his numbers. had to copy him to beat his numbers recently.
He is the ultimate authority among experts, think Justin Goff, Troy Ericson, Jeff Miller, people who have 7-9 figures businesses, and even people who work with big names in the industry like Grant Cardone, Same Ovens…etc
The names I mentioned are in his free Facebook group and his NHB plus community, there are waaay bigger names in this mastermind we’re group-buying now.
Alen charges $5,000 / hour for consults, $25,000-$35,000 for a funnel optimization review (takes me 4 calls), $50,000-$100,000 to build an offer, and $15,000 a month to work with someone. — people happily pay because he delivers.
All the knowledge he has from building MULTIPLE 7-9 figures and working with hundreds is inside.
No matter what niche you’re in, marketing, affiliate, health, photography, designing… literally EVERYONE must study this.
Sales, building offers, scaling offers, all of the strategies, tactics, copywriting, upsells, downsells, back end, joint venture promos, psychology, gender psychology, market ratios, formulas etc…(etc, meaning there is a whole lot I didn’t mention because there is so much).
You know what’s even better? you will create your own offer, your very own, out of nothing. turning this chance down means turning millions down…
Why is this group buy a no-brainer? You see, the thing with any course you studied, as I always said — no one will ever give his secrets — a copywriting course from a 7-figures copywriter will tell you what to do and what worked for him/her, how to find a hook, how to get some new ideas…
…but why? why are we using this way? why are we writing this thing? where did it come from?…nothing. Because they’re all copying his work.
This group buy is going to push all of us ahead of the game. let’s get it done, we’ve 7 days before the price increases since he’s creating a whole new platform.
After you go through this program, you’re going to be one of the best in the game, and you’re going to be better than anyone else who’s not in the program.
You’ll be able to see things others can’t see, and do things others can’t do. You’ll have opportunities open up to you never like before.
He just did a project for Caitlin Jenner, working on a Mike Tyson offer, and have Forbes.com as a consulting client and a ton of other A list celebs coming my way and huge companies.
He charges $5,000 / hour for consults, $25,000-$35,000 for a funnel optimization review (takes me 4 calls), $50,000-$100,000 to build an offer, and $15,000 a month to work with someone.
The main reason he can do this in such a wide scope of markets is that he can see things others can’t see, which means he can do things others can’t do, and he can innovate in ways others can’t.
it’s $20k per year, we will go for the installment option which is $10k upfront, and then $1k each month. This will be easy. All we need is 25 people, and right now we're at 24.
Group Buy Bonuses
To highlight the significance of this group buy, you will receive two of the following premium courses at no additional cost once we complete this group buy:
Jermey Miner – NEPQ Jordan Platten – Affluent Academy 3.0 Dan Hollings – The Plan Keith Cunningham – The 4-Day MBA Each course is highly regarded within its respective field, not just crappy ones.
Let’s get going!
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Pay very close attention to this one if you don’t know who Alen Sultanic is.
ِِِِِِِِِِA full-stack marketer who uses psychology in his approach, he held the top affiliate on ClickBank from around 2006 if I recall well, till very recently, and other affiliates were just copying him and yet couldn’t beat his numbers. had to copy him to beat his numbers recently.
He is the ultimate authority among experts, think Justin Goff, Troy Ericson, Jeff Miller, people who have 7-9 figures businesses, and even people who work with big names in the industry like Grant Cardone, Same Ovens…etc
The names I mentioned are in his free Facebook group and his NHB plus community, there are waaay bigger names in this mastermind we’re group-buying now.
Alen charges $5,000 / hour for consults, $25,000-$35,000 for a funnel optimization review (takes me 4 calls), $50,000-$100,000 to build an offer, and $15,000 a month to work with someone. — people happily pay because he delivers.
All the knowledge he has from building MULTIPLE 7-9 figures and working with hundreds is inside.
No matter what niche you’re in, marketing, affiliate, health, photography, designing… literally EVERYONE must study this.
Sales, building offers, scaling offers, all of the strategies, tactics, copywriting, upsells, downsells, back end, joint venture promos, psychology, gender psychology, market ratios, formulas etc…(etc, meaning there is a whole lot I didn’t mention because there is so much).
You know what’s even better? you will create your own offer, your very own, out of nothing. turning this chance down means turning millions down…
Why is this group buy a no-brainer? You see, the thing with any course you studied, as I always said — no one will ever give his secrets — a copywriting course from a 7-figures copywriter will tell you what to do and what worked for him/her, how to find a hook, how to get some new ideas…
…but why? why are we using this way? why are we writing this thing? where did it come from?…nothing. Because they’re all copying his work.
This group buy is going to push all of us ahead of the game. let’s get it done, we’ve 7 days before the price increases since he’s creating a whole new platform.
After you go through this program, you’re going to be one of the best in the game, and you’re going to be better than anyone else who’s not in the program.
You’ll be able to see things others can’t see, and do things others can’t do. You’ll have opportunities open up to you never like before.
He just did a project for Caitlin Jenner, working on a Mike Tyson offer, and have Forbes.com as a consulting client and a ton of other A list celebs coming my way and huge companies.
He charges $5,000 / hour for consults, $25,000-$35,000 for a funnel optimization review (takes me 4 calls), $50,000-$100,000 to build an offer, and $15,000 a month to work with someone.
The main reason he can do this in such a wide scope of markets is that he can see things others can’t see, which means he can do things others can’t do, and he can innovate in ways others can’t.
it’s $20k per year, we will go for the installment option which is $10k upfront, and then $1k each month. This will be easy. All we need is 25 people, and right now we're at 24.
Group Buy Bonuses
To highlight the significance of this group buy, you will receive two of the following premium courses at no additional cost once we complete this group buy:
Jermey Miner – NEPQ Jordan Platten – Affluent Academy 3.0 Dan Hollings – The Plan Keith Cunningham – The 4-Day MBA Each course is highly regarded within its respective field, not just crappy ones.
Let’s get going!
2024.05.14 00:41 JuOlNa Underage daughter's explicit pictures are being sold online, local authorities aren't willing to take action against company processing the payments
Over the last few months I've been in a very dire situation. My underage daughter was extorted/tricked out of some explicit pictures and an individual is selling these pictures online. I have his name, address, phone and ID number and yet local authorities aren't helping.
For context: This individual is an EU/RUS dual national residing in Dubai. He's getting paid for selling various such media and receiving payments via a US LLC he has set up in Delaware. It's obvious that hundreds of thousands of dollars pass through this shell company monthly. And before I get asked this: I've already sued this individual in his country of residence. However, the process to find justice can take many many years there, if ever. And ofc as always Dubai police is useless.
If I want faster results I'd need to target his companies. I have had multiple calls with Delaware police and even had a call with a police chief. They explicitly told me that if I want anything done I should try to get the attention of someone from the locale senate because the local police currently doesn't have neither the means in manpowefunding nor politically to act against the lax LLC scheme in Delaware in any way.
I went on to file a letter to the attorney general of Delaware, including a plethora of digital evidence presented to them in USB. They received the letter but never responded. When I called they told me off the record that they are not interested in such cases and I should instead be contacting the FBI.
Well, understandably after filing the FBI form and waiting several months, nothing has happened. It's more likely than not that the FBI has bigger fish to catch and won't even be interested in looking at a case whose only connection in the U.S. is an LLC.
I don't know what other means there would be to pursue this. This whole experience has been quite haunting for my daughter and me, especially after her peers discovered these media online, the abuse came to real life. I honestly thought US authorities would be more interested in taking down literal child porn, but no... What would be the proper way to escalate this? Perhaps I should hire a paralegal to write letters to google/cloudflare/facebook/tiktok/telegram and domain hosts etc where this abuse is promoted?
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For context: This individual is an EU/RUS dual national residing in Dubai. He's getting paid for selling various such media and receiving payments via a US LLC he has set up in Delaware. It's obvious that hundreds of thousands of dollars pass through this shell company monthly. And before I get asked this: I've already sued this individual in his country of residence. However, the process to find justice can take many many years there, if ever. And ofc as always Dubai police is useless.
If I want faster results I'd need to target his companies. I have had multiple calls with Delaware police and even had a call with a police chief. They explicitly told me that if I want anything done I should try to get the attention of someone from the locale senate because the local police currently doesn't have neither the means in manpowefunding nor politically to act against the lax LLC scheme in Delaware in any way.
I went on to file a letter to the attorney general of Delaware, including a plethora of digital evidence presented to them in USB. They received the letter but never responded. When I called they told me off the record that they are not interested in such cases and I should instead be contacting the FBI.
Well, understandably after filing the FBI form and waiting several months, nothing has happened. It's more likely than not that the FBI has bigger fish to catch and won't even be interested in looking at a case whose only connection in the U.S. is an LLC.
I don't know what other means there would be to pursue this. This whole experience has been quite haunting for my daughter and me, especially after her peers discovered these media online, the abuse came to real life. I honestly thought US authorities would be more interested in taking down literal child porn, but no... What would be the proper way to escalate this? Perhaps I should hire a paralegal to write letters to google/cloudflare/facebook/tiktok/telegram and domain hosts etc where this abuse is promoted?
2024.05.14 00:38 Bowl_full_Of_Owls A perfume mystery I wanna solve
It might be hopeless and a bit stupid to write this, but I am going crazy.
I had a perfume 10 years ago, seems it was discontinued, but there is no trace of the company on the internet, no pictures, nothing.
I bought in a drugstore in Eastern Europe (Drogas store). My memory is a bit muddy, but from what I remember - The perfume was colored blue, in a tall clear bottle, with a logo of a butterfly made up of two Bs. It was called something something Oriental. The fragrance actually was fruity with a bit of sweetness and something interesting.
I have literally searched everywhere, found an Indian perfume company that had a similar logo, but they are definitely not the ones that created the perfume in question. (I went through all their facebook posts, I basically know all their history now help :D) Pretty Butterfly by Betty Barclay has a similar cap, but the fragrance profile doesn't seem to be the right one.
Does anyone have a similar memory or might know what I am talking about?
I might just recreate it from memory if I let myself get out of control. PS. Mby someone can recommend another perfume that is fruity with some je ne sais quoi to it?
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I had a perfume 10 years ago, seems it was discontinued, but there is no trace of the company on the internet, no pictures, nothing.
I bought in a drugstore in Eastern Europe (Drogas store). My memory is a bit muddy, but from what I remember - The perfume was colored blue, in a tall clear bottle, with a logo of a butterfly made up of two Bs. It was called something something Oriental. The fragrance actually was fruity with a bit of sweetness and something interesting.
I have literally searched everywhere, found an Indian perfume company that had a similar logo, but they are definitely not the ones that created the perfume in question. (I went through all their facebook posts, I basically know all their history now help :D) Pretty Butterfly by Betty Barclay has a similar cap, but the fragrance profile doesn't seem to be the right one.
Does anyone have a similar memory or might know what I am talking about?
I might just recreate it from memory if I let myself get out of control. PS. Mby someone can recommend another perfume that is fruity with some je ne sais quoi to it?
2024.05.14 00:31 Allovertheplace11 Not only did my Family refuse to help me when I needed them, they also tried to get my mom to cut me off. But she threw down an uno reversed instead!
I wrote this party as a form of therapy and partly to have it read on okop. Love you guys!!!! You are all awesome! Especially Sofia! She made the podcast whole!!!
About 2 years ago I couldn’t find a place to live and ran out of money paying to live in air bnbs after moving back to the East cost. I was taken advantage by my cousins, I paid the equivalent of $1800 in work a month for a tiny room to live in while also expected to cook and clean 2 hours a day but I refused to do that part.
I had managed to get out of that situation and get my own 1 bedroom apartment and it cost only $1350 a month. A year later I needed help again. My mom who lives 3000 miles away asked my aunt to help me out. My mom had taken off work to help care for my grandpa so she was strapped for cash. My mom told me that my aunt had her old home still with a friend living there and that she would let me live there. But when I talked to her I was told that “you burnt every bridge when you claimed squatters rights and trashed their home.” I was appalled! And heart broken that people were just believing these lies. I had no idea anyone was even taking about me. I was taken advantage of? That’s how I burnt every bridge?????? So I posted this on Facebook
My cousin and her husband took advantage of me when I needed help. They OFFERED. They were my family. I worked my ass off to be treated like a servant (someone has a birthday in the home? I got him a present then They went out to eat without inviting me because I wasn’t considered family to them) I didn’t say anything. I just did what I was told until it became too much. It’s so sad that his fragile ego couldn’t take my criticism when he ADMITTED without me asking that he was testing me. Apparently a test from a book on war. The test is to see how much someone will sacrifice themselves for you with nothing in return. So I was treated like something to sacrifice not like family. And because I refused to sacrifice everything of myself and when I found out I condemned him for his actions He Literally tried to throw me out on the street. I Worked over 30 hours a week for him for a tiny room, while putting 3,000 miles on my car a month. While paying for my own food. I tried so hard because I thought his intentions were pure. In the end I didn’t complain to anyone about this but my mom and sister. Because I’m not that type of person. It was over. I didn’t want to ever think about it again. But recently I was told that I burned every bridge when I claimed squatters rights. Which didn’t happen. I claimed living rights. I didn’t want to be there but I HAD NO WHERE ELSE TO GO and I was working 30 hours a week for him! I was there for 1 day when I wasn’t working for him before I left. 1 DAY! So I was completely taken advantage and this is how I burned every bridge?? The only thing I did wrong was trusting them. I thought they loved me, I helped raise their children and loved them like my own. He WAS MY ONLY FATHER FIGURE GROWING UP. He knew how I felt about him and he completely took advantage of that. So I’m putting my side out there. Because I didn’t even know that any of them were talking shit to people.
Also important note my mom let her and her husband and 3 young kids live in our house for FREE FOR 4 YESRS!!! 20 years ago.
My mom was able to get my asshole father to pay for a down payment on a car for me to live in by taking the cash without permission lol and telling him the money was for her.
I do instacart for work so I really needed that car. I was going to just try to save enough for a room to rent but decided I was done working paycheck to paycheck. I currently am living in my car while saving every cent I would have spent on rent and utilities.
My mom called me yesterday 2 months after the post on Facebook to tell me how upset she was. She told me that after the Facebook post the whole family started talking about me and how I should be able to take care of myself by now. Even though they have no idea what I’ve been through.
(Necessary context) For years my chronic illness, EDS short for Elhers Danlos syndrome, was really bad. At one point I was completely Bed ridden. My boyfriend of 6 years was amazing and became my full time caregiver while working part time to pay for my pain medication. This went on for about a year. I then found a new doctor that put me on a new medication that changed my life. I was able to brush my hair again! I was able to walk again! I was able to work again! Before this new doctor I was looking into getting a wheel chair and filing for disability! Everything was perfect for a few months. Then my bf developed schizophrenia. We were living with my mom for all of this. With in a few months I went from being taken care of by my bf to being his full time caregiver. It took him about 1.5 years to stabilize. Though all this we were working doordash and instacart because neither of us could keep a full time job. When we moved out of my moms place back to the East cost we thought we could just keep working gig jobs but after the pandemic people wanted to go out to eat and shop for themselves. We tried to get real jobs but with out any recent regular work history or references it was really hard. On top of that any job I could get was either part time or lied to me about being full time!! That is the gist of our problems with paying for a place to live.
So back to the main story. My mom told me that her 6 siblings were contacting her one by one to tell her to cut me off. (She had been helping me financially as much as she could for years now) There was a reason my mom lives 3000 miles away and it was to get away from these assholes. The only reason she had contact with them was to coordinate care for my grandfather. Until recently I thought at least some of them were good people. They told her that I was almost 30 years and should be able to care for myself. I had never received help from any of these people! And only ever asked for help from one of them once! I didn’t understand why any of them even cared. Did I make them feel some type of way with my post that talked shit about none of them? (Unless calling out someone for talking shit is talking shit) it’s not like she had been giving me money instead of any of them. The 2nd Best part of the story is the hypocrisy. 3 my cousins, all from different parents, still live with their parents! And they’re all older then me! But no one has a problem with that? My mom asked her brother why it was ok that his daughter was still living with him? My uncle said it was because she has 3 children. My mom then asked him why she should abandon me for not having children I couldn’t afford? Great burn mom! Now this is the best part!! After telling me all of this she says that she wants to pay off my car for me. I was going to wind up paying 20 grand for a 10 grand car because of my lack of credit. So I guess thank you to everyone that told her to cut me off! Because it has only seem to inspire her to help me more!!!
Ps: my mom is writing a book that already has 3 publishers trying to sign her! Exposing all the reasons she moved across the county to get away from all of them. Go her!!!
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About 2 years ago I couldn’t find a place to live and ran out of money paying to live in air bnbs after moving back to the East cost. I was taken advantage by my cousins, I paid the equivalent of $1800 in work a month for a tiny room to live in while also expected to cook and clean 2 hours a day but I refused to do that part.
I had managed to get out of that situation and get my own 1 bedroom apartment and it cost only $1350 a month. A year later I needed help again. My mom who lives 3000 miles away asked my aunt to help me out. My mom had taken off work to help care for my grandpa so she was strapped for cash. My mom told me that my aunt had her old home still with a friend living there and that she would let me live there. But when I talked to her I was told that “you burnt every bridge when you claimed squatters rights and trashed their home.” I was appalled! And heart broken that people were just believing these lies. I had no idea anyone was even taking about me. I was taken advantage of? That’s how I burnt every bridge?????? So I posted this on Facebook
My cousin and her husband took advantage of me when I needed help. They OFFERED. They were my family. I worked my ass off to be treated like a servant (someone has a birthday in the home? I got him a present then They went out to eat without inviting me because I wasn’t considered family to them) I didn’t say anything. I just did what I was told until it became too much. It’s so sad that his fragile ego couldn’t take my criticism when he ADMITTED without me asking that he was testing me. Apparently a test from a book on war. The test is to see how much someone will sacrifice themselves for you with nothing in return. So I was treated like something to sacrifice not like family. And because I refused to sacrifice everything of myself and when I found out I condemned him for his actions He Literally tried to throw me out on the street. I Worked over 30 hours a week for him for a tiny room, while putting 3,000 miles on my car a month. While paying for my own food. I tried so hard because I thought his intentions were pure. In the end I didn’t complain to anyone about this but my mom and sister. Because I’m not that type of person. It was over. I didn’t want to ever think about it again. But recently I was told that I burned every bridge when I claimed squatters rights. Which didn’t happen. I claimed living rights. I didn’t want to be there but I HAD NO WHERE ELSE TO GO and I was working 30 hours a week for him! I was there for 1 day when I wasn’t working for him before I left. 1 DAY! So I was completely taken advantage and this is how I burned every bridge?? The only thing I did wrong was trusting them. I thought they loved me, I helped raise their children and loved them like my own. He WAS MY ONLY FATHER FIGURE GROWING UP. He knew how I felt about him and he completely took advantage of that. So I’m putting my side out there. Because I didn’t even know that any of them were talking shit to people.
Also important note my mom let her and her husband and 3 young kids live in our house for FREE FOR 4 YESRS!!! 20 years ago.
My mom was able to get my asshole father to pay for a down payment on a car for me to live in by taking the cash without permission lol and telling him the money was for her.
I do instacart for work so I really needed that car. I was going to just try to save enough for a room to rent but decided I was done working paycheck to paycheck. I currently am living in my car while saving every cent I would have spent on rent and utilities.
My mom called me yesterday 2 months after the post on Facebook to tell me how upset she was. She told me that after the Facebook post the whole family started talking about me and how I should be able to take care of myself by now. Even though they have no idea what I’ve been through.
(Necessary context) For years my chronic illness, EDS short for Elhers Danlos syndrome, was really bad. At one point I was completely Bed ridden. My boyfriend of 6 years was amazing and became my full time caregiver while working part time to pay for my pain medication. This went on for about a year. I then found a new doctor that put me on a new medication that changed my life. I was able to brush my hair again! I was able to walk again! I was able to work again! Before this new doctor I was looking into getting a wheel chair and filing for disability! Everything was perfect for a few months. Then my bf developed schizophrenia. We were living with my mom for all of this. With in a few months I went from being taken care of by my bf to being his full time caregiver. It took him about 1.5 years to stabilize. Though all this we were working doordash and instacart because neither of us could keep a full time job. When we moved out of my moms place back to the East cost we thought we could just keep working gig jobs but after the pandemic people wanted to go out to eat and shop for themselves. We tried to get real jobs but with out any recent regular work history or references it was really hard. On top of that any job I could get was either part time or lied to me about being full time!! That is the gist of our problems with paying for a place to live.
So back to the main story. My mom told me that her 6 siblings were contacting her one by one to tell her to cut me off. (She had been helping me financially as much as she could for years now) There was a reason my mom lives 3000 miles away and it was to get away from these assholes. The only reason she had contact with them was to coordinate care for my grandfather. Until recently I thought at least some of them were good people. They told her that I was almost 30 years and should be able to care for myself. I had never received help from any of these people! And only ever asked for help from one of them once! I didn’t understand why any of them even cared. Did I make them feel some type of way with my post that talked shit about none of them? (Unless calling out someone for talking shit is talking shit) it’s not like she had been giving me money instead of any of them. The 2nd Best part of the story is the hypocrisy. 3 my cousins, all from different parents, still live with their parents! And they’re all older then me! But no one has a problem with that? My mom asked her brother why it was ok that his daughter was still living with him? My uncle said it was because she has 3 children. My mom then asked him why she should abandon me for not having children I couldn’t afford? Great burn mom! Now this is the best part!! After telling me all of this she says that she wants to pay off my car for me. I was going to wind up paying 20 grand for a 10 grand car because of my lack of credit. So I guess thank you to everyone that told her to cut me off! Because it has only seem to inspire her to help me more!!!
Ps: my mom is writing a book that already has 3 publishers trying to sign her! Exposing all the reasons she moved across the county to get away from all of them. Go her!!!
2024.05.14 00:28 hannahhbleu weird situation. im not sure if my intolerance for people is the problem or not??
about 6 months ago, i was in a very toxic and filthy living situation with a childhood friend (i am f21 and he was m22). I became desperate on my roommate search, and moved in with a girl (f21) off facebook university roommate search. I met her a few times, found her to be really well put together and mentally stable (which i really needed to live with given my mental health issues.) this apartment is kind of expensive, we both pay 750-800 a month, and its some of the cheapest stuff you can find in my city unless you want to live in a shit hole. for a while, she was an ideal roommate. i prefer being alone, and she is basically using this apartment for storage and to lie to her parents (she is EXTREMELY CATHOLIC) while she stays at her boyfriend every single night and day. I maybe see her a couple times a week in passing, or she is here when i am at work or busy. I like to be energy efficient, i keep lights off when im not in the room, i do not use the air unless im warm or the heat unless im freezing. like i said, she was ideal for a while. then i started realizing things. she comes in and leaves all the lights on in the apartment, she organizes things of mine in my drawers and cabinets without asking, she nails pictures of jesus up on the wall and leaves ugly bible quote's everywhere (i am alternative and collect clowns, do taxidermy, and have pet spiders) so its a strange juxtaposition, she writes her to do lists on my calenders and weekly planners on the wall, she comes in and adjusts the air to insane conditions that she doesnt even realize because shes never here, and has the room with lots of space and sunlight that is almost twice of mine yet never spends time in it.(picture is comparison of our room, she lives door open so no i didnt go in there to take picture) idk what to do! she really wants to move with me when our lease is up (i would much rather stay here because i plan to move out of state next year) and she is refusing to negotiate a plan that works out for both of us, and is practically begging me to move with her. am i the problem?!? should i be more tolerable of people?! (first pic is her room second is mine)
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2024.05.13 23:45 not_dmr Advice for someone looking to get in from outside the industry
Yet another long noob career advice post, sorry in advance. Any help is graciously appreciated.
Context
I got my undergrad degree last year with a double-major in history and computer science. I’m now working full-time as a software engineer and it’s a pretty good gig, but I don’t think it’s the right career for me in the long run. I really miss using the critical thinking, investigative, and storytelling skills I used for the history part of my degree.
I think my ideal fit would be some flavor of using technology to do journalism and/or doing journalism about technology, as a way to blend both skill sets I’ve developed. I just need to figure out how to start bending my career path in that direction.
Deeper background (skip if desired)
I only started thinking about this path during my senior year so didn’t have time to develop a portfolio for the school newspaper or anything like that. I did publish one op-ed in the school paper junior year that had some bearing on this technical beat, but I also recognize the difference between opinion and journalism, so I’m not sure how much that’s worth.
For my senior thesis I wrote about the history of the commodification of personal data (basically a deeper look at how we developed an economy where your information is worth money to Facebook, Google, etc) which gets at that space of covering technology and society. I’m really proud of it and it got summa cum laude honors, but it’s not published anywhere.
I also got another history paper published in an undergrad history journal which isn’t super relevant but hopefully at least shows that I can write and go through an editing process.
It seems like the value journalism grad school is fairly divisive. That’s an option I’m considering for a couple years down the road, but would also appreciate any advice relevant to my situation that would help set me up for success there (both in admissions and then actually getting it done).
The ask
The advice I’ve seen very often on here is to build up clips, which makes sense. But how do I start that from zero? I don’t imagine I’ll have much luck pitching freelance stories without some portfolio to back them up, so it feels rather chicken-and-egg. I could start a blog or something like that, but it again feels like it might be tough to get sources to take me seriously without a real “name” backing me. Any advice or insight here?
Then there’s also the fact that with no journalism training I don’t really know what I’m doing, and I’m concerned that putting out bad work, even unintentionally, will put me in an even worse situation than having no work. How can I mitigate this concern?
Lastly, I’m also concerned about my pace of output. With my actual job and other commitments, I don’t think I’ll be able to put out more than one piece a month, if even that. These would hopefully be more substantial articles rather than short-form breaking news sort of stuff. How much would slow/sporadic output matter if I’m doing this as a side project?
Thanks in advance for any help you can offer!
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Context
I got my undergrad degree last year with a double-major in history and computer science. I’m now working full-time as a software engineer and it’s a pretty good gig, but I don’t think it’s the right career for me in the long run. I really miss using the critical thinking, investigative, and storytelling skills I used for the history part of my degree.
I think my ideal fit would be some flavor of using technology to do journalism and/or doing journalism about technology, as a way to blend both skill sets I’ve developed. I just need to figure out how to start bending my career path in that direction.
Deeper background (skip if desired)
I only started thinking about this path during my senior year so didn’t have time to develop a portfolio for the school newspaper or anything like that. I did publish one op-ed in the school paper junior year that had some bearing on this technical beat, but I also recognize the difference between opinion and journalism, so I’m not sure how much that’s worth.
For my senior thesis I wrote about the history of the commodification of personal data (basically a deeper look at how we developed an economy where your information is worth money to Facebook, Google, etc) which gets at that space of covering technology and society. I’m really proud of it and it got summa cum laude honors, but it’s not published anywhere.
I also got another history paper published in an undergrad history journal which isn’t super relevant but hopefully at least shows that I can write and go through an editing process.
It seems like the value journalism grad school is fairly divisive. That’s an option I’m considering for a couple years down the road, but would also appreciate any advice relevant to my situation that would help set me up for success there (both in admissions and then actually getting it done).
The ask
The advice I’ve seen very often on here is to build up clips, which makes sense. But how do I start that from zero? I don’t imagine I’ll have much luck pitching freelance stories without some portfolio to back them up, so it feels rather chicken-and-egg. I could start a blog or something like that, but it again feels like it might be tough to get sources to take me seriously without a real “name” backing me. Any advice or insight here?
Then there’s also the fact that with no journalism training I don’t really know what I’m doing, and I’m concerned that putting out bad work, even unintentionally, will put me in an even worse situation than having no work. How can I mitigate this concern?
Lastly, I’m also concerned about my pace of output. With my actual job and other commitments, I don’t think I’ll be able to put out more than one piece a month, if even that. These would hopefully be more substantial articles rather than short-form breaking news sort of stuff. How much would slow/sporadic output matter if I’m doing this as a side project?
Thanks in advance for any help you can offer!
2024.05.13 23:26 Sweet-Development904 My boyfriend (19M) always says that I (19F) am stupid and wants everything in his time. What should I do?
I 19 female, I've been in a long distance relationship for 3 years with John (fake name) 19 male. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety when I was 16. For context, John and I met in a group and since then we started talking. (I was dating my ex, but when I realized that I had developed feelings for John I ended that relationship.) In this group he was a big womanizer, and he talked to his ex, which didn't bother me since I never thought there was anything malicious about it. 4 months later I asked John if he felt anything for me, because he was acting romantic and sweet toward me, he said yes and then we started dating. (Note: he was jealous of my friends). A few weeks after we started dating, and all of our mutual friends knew about our relationship, and he didn't feel uncomfortable with people knowing about it, I sent him Intimate photos, he went on and sent these photos to our group, where there were more than 100 people, including our friends. When I saw it I was shocked and immediately left the group. My friends came to talk to me and so did he. He apologized, said he was going to send these photos to a group that was just him because according to him it was easier for him to see. Reading this now I realize it's a strange thing... but at the time I was so in love that I excused him. That same day we made a video call until I went to sleep, he praised me a lot, dedicated some songs to me, it was very romantic.During the next few weeks we made video calls every day, watched movies, listened to music, talked a lot until the early hours of the morning. There was a day when a girl joined the group where we were, and she and I became very good friends, there ended up being a lot of confusion because she wanted to date John, but he didn't want to. However, he always asked for intimate photos for her or for another girl in the group, he said it was to make me jealous, he ended up sending some intimate photos to her too. Well, a few months passed and I was suffering with my mental health, a few months before I met him I had tried to take my life, and I was under psychiatric care. During that time I started smoking and hurting myself, but he always helped me not to do so and always asked me to stop smoking and never use drugs. Until one day I was having an anxiety attack and felt the need to hurt myself while I was on a call with him, so he asked me to write his name on my skin with the razor. I did, he laughed. Some more time passed and I experienced what I think was an attack of schizophrenia, I saw and heard a person talking to me and asking me to do certain things that would hurt me. John stayed on video call with me while he tried to calm me down and said everything was ok and asked me to pray. That day my mother had gone to work, so I was alone at home, she wouldn't come back until 1pm. A few months later he asked me to buy some sex toys, I initially refused and was a little afraid, but then I agreed and bought my first vibrator. He always asked for videos and photos, or even for me to use the vibrator on a video call, as he always sent photos and videos and even did things on a call, I accepted. It turned out that I got sick, I couldn't walk, I felt a lot of pain, very strong cramps, I went to the hospital but it didn't help. I took some medication but none of it helped. Jonh was worried about me and asked me to go back to the hospital, which I did, but once again it didn't do much good. Then in December he asked me to buy another toy, but this time it would be a dildo. I was very afraid to buy it since I didn't have much privacy at home, but I bought it. When it arrived, he asked me to use it but I said I wasn't going to use it at that moment because I wanted to wash it first and then use it but my mother was in the living room so there was no way. He was extremely upset, he said that I had promised to use it the day I arrived and that he was tired from work and just wanted it to cheer him up a little. We argued a little and went to sleep.Cut to a few months later when he got a new job (he worked with his father), met some new people and completely changed. He became cold, distant, wanted everything his way or he would get upset and give me the silent treatment. Since then we started fighting almost every day, sometimes several times during the day. He always said he would break up with me if I didn't do what he wanted or the way he wanted, as I was "blind", so to speak, I always did everything. I don't want to go into too much detail but this but one thing you need to know is that during one of those fights he told me "welcome to hell". Since then everything has gotten worse. For me to achieve the minimum I had to do everything he wanted, how he wanted and when he wanted, in his time. If he wanted videos, I had to record them and send them to him, otherwise he He said he was going to break up with me or that he wouldn't talk to me until I sent the videos. I'm not a saint either, I often freaked out because of jealousy and when I saw that he had followed his ex I got really upset, because she was the only one who made me insecure, and he knew that. One thing I forgot to mention was that he told me at the beginning that he only followed some friends and family (he told me who was who and that if I wanted I could remove someone). Another thing I forgot to mention was that he's been in a group for a few years where his friends who are in that group always hit on him, he's kind of reciprocal with them. He never let me go there because according to him I wouldn't like the type of humor they have there... a group that sends a lot of videos and photos of naked women, women dancing.. But he refuses to leave because he "is already a long-time member there, and his friends are there", in his words. Coming back, he told me that he only followed her because she followed him first and I told him that if she followed him it was because he unblocked her, he was upset that I said that and blocked her again. Some time later I returned to the hospital with some urgency as I was unable to cope with the pain, I needed to stay there overnight whilst receiving medication. He wasn't happy about it at all since that meant there would be no videos or photos. The doctors asked me to do some tests as quickly as possible to try to find out the cause of this pain, which they thought was the kidneys (but it wasn't).This meant I had to leave the house and go to the clinics to schedule exams and take them. He was never happy when I needed to leave the house or when I went out with my family. Cut to a time later when we broke up (my initiative) and I put all the toys in the trash. He was super upset and we kind of talked back and forth (I know what many off you will think But I couldn't really break up with him. So he made me buy all the toys again. That is what happened. Well, I bought not only the toys but also some lingerie. He really liked that and it seemed like we were finally okay. But it didn't last long. Soon we fought again and broke up, once again I put everything in the trash, he came back, he forced me again Buying but he was the one who bought the things. He continued to force me to record the videos and send them to him. During this time of ending the relationship and coming back, ending the relationship and coming back, I called his friends to ask for help. John was super upset with this attitude of mine. He told me that I made a mistake and broke his trust. Then time passed and he went on a trip with his family when he returned home, it was on a day when there was a party in his city and his friends were going. When he got home he told me and said he was going to sleep. I was suspicious so I went to look at his friend's profile and guess what? His friend had just post a story where John appeared. Same t-shirt, same cap. The same face. Obviously I confronted him about it and he told me it wasn't him because he was sleeping at home. I didn't believe it but leave it behind. At this point, my best friend couldn't take it anymore, almost every day of me crying to her about John and his actions. A few weeks went by and I asked his friend if it was really John or not, he said no (I believe he was covering it up.So he went to get a tattoo, on his neck. When it was over he went to sleep. I don't remember that day well but I remember that I called him many times that night and when he answered I heard moaning.. so I hung up and told my best friend. I called again and again and when he answered I heard the sound of a car. I was devastated, I couldn't believe it. The next morning he freaked out at me, and said he was sleeping. First he said that his mother had answered the phone, then he said that he had answered the phone and that the moans were his because of the tattoo. I pretended this situation hadn't happened and we moved on. (note: I was emotionally dependent on him) Cut to January of this year, when he asked me to open up the relationship as this wasn't working. I said no, and that in my view it was like cheating but without the burden of conscience. So he continued to treat me badly. He admitted that when he first started treating me badly it was only because he wanted me to break up with him. (he thought traumatizing me and triggering me was a good idea) He told me he didn't want me to see his Facebook so I wouldn't see his relatives' profiles. When I asked about some people he followed that he had already said were cousins, he said that they were friends or that he didn't know that his friends had asked him to follow them and sending messages to them. When I followed someone he always freaked out and asked who he was over and over again, for example: I followed someone, John saw it and sent me a message asking who it was, I replied "he's a friend of mine" Then John would go on "who is he?" and again "who is he?" and again and again... Two months ago he said he wanted some time, I said very badly, he said it could be but that we wouldn't be with other people nor would there be flirting with other people. He agreed. But then we got into a big fight where he threatened me with a lawsuit, he didn't give me reasons or anything, he just said he was going to sue me. I insisted on knowing why he only said he was going to have to pay him a high price and I would probably go to prison. So for the next 3 days this was our topic of conversation, him threatening me, me crying, and asking why. Then I reached my limit On the day of the last lawsuit threat, I told my mother about him, the way he treated me and that I wanted a new cell phone number.(She didn't know, I never told her about him. Although he tried to contact her a few times. But I blocked him) So we went to buy a new contact for me, as he couldn't call me or get in touch with me anywhere. He asked some people to call my mother and my friends. My friends were talking to me and sending me screenshots of everything, so someone sent him the link to our group and he went in there and found out my new number. I was weakened when my friend told me that he was crying and that he told him that he loved me and that he was afraid of losing me. So I said okay I could talk to him. He told me some things like that he was sorry for making me suffer. I tried to understand his side. We came back. But I told him that the first thing he did I would leave. I did not go. And I regret it. He was never affectionate, or cute with me again. He continued to force me to send him photos and videos. And doing what he wanted. He was upset when I left. He didn't like me posting full body photos or showing more. Whereas he could go around shirtless, send shirtless photos to his group, post shirtless photos online. Once he published a photo of a photo with his cousin and hid it from me so I wouldn't see it (I knew he was going to this party, he had told me, it was a family party) Since then, I went to lawyers to ask for advice. One of the people I managed to talk to, as it was online and free, told me to contact the police and that what he was doing was wrong. Every time I ask him something he gets upset and says they are useless questions, that I'm stupid, I don't understand anything. Whenever he forces me to record something, he never sends anything. He always says he's tired, But if his friends ask him to go out or go to dinner or do anything, he'll go, even if he's tired. This is it. I don't know what to do anymore, I'm really afraid that he'll do something, after so many threats, and all the lies. I have the support of my family and friends. I'm sorry if there are some mistakes, I used the translator and tried to explain more or less all the information you should know. Please be friendly.
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2024.05.13 23:10 just_melancholia N mother doesn’t approve of my relationship, makes outrageous racist comments and claims she lost me
For context, I’m a 25yo female, that comes from a mixed background (my mother 56F is a white woman from southern Europe, my father is from the Balkans and migrated to my country when he was younger). This is relevant and you will understand later.
I moved away from home as soon as I could when I was 18 after a not so good childhood, and currently live in another European country. My parents are divorced, my father is not really in the picture, I keep in touch with my mother on a daily basis and come visit her and the rest of the family once or twice a year. We never had the best relationship but since I moved out it improved a lot. I’d say we get along better when I’m far away from home.
Anyway, back to the reason of this post. I’ve been seeing this guy for more than a year, he’s great, we’re slowly getting to know each other and see where this is going. We are not in a rush but of course this is a relationship and I felt it was time to tell something more to my mother. I’ve always been quite open about my relationships and people I was dating, however since getting older I started being more private as I don’t think it would be good to mention every failed date to my mother (lol). We come from a typical small town in southern Europe, where people are bigots and close-minded. The news on the tv are constantly complaining about immigrants coming to our country and jadajadajada. The government is mostly right wing. So yeah, I didn’t really mentioned much about this guy, first of all cause I’m trying to keep it private but also because I could imagine her reaction, since she’s the standard average middle age woman that you find on Facebook without much culture. She is ignorant not as an insult but as in the real sense of the word: she ignores, she doesn’t inform herself and just believes whatever the media tells her.
Anyway, she suspected I was seeing someone for a while, I never really said much but I’ve been giving her a few hints in the past weeks and now that I came back to my hometown for a week she started being very curious. The day after I arrived we were casually talking before bed and she just kept asking “C’mon, don’t you have a pic of this guy? Show me! C’mon c’mon! I’m your mother!” so, one side of me didn’t wanna show her, the other one was excited cause at the end of the day I’m proud of my relationship and I was happy to tell her more (maybe naively hoping for a good outcome…). So without thinking much I showed her one of the best pictures of him. Literally in the millisecond while I was showing her the picture she said something like: “hope it’s not a n****” (WHATTT???).
At that point the phone was already on her face. It was done. She said it, and at the same time she saw the picture. She was speechless and I was too. I was ashamed of her. And sad.
She didn’t say anything more for the following 10 minutes, she went to her room and I went to mine. Afterwards she just asked “does he even work?!” And I told her “don’t worry about it, he’s better off than the both of us” just to make her shut up about that question that I found so disrespectful. This made me just so sad, and disappointed.
But the worst had yet to come. We didn’t speak much about it at all until today.
We were having a casual conversation during the afternoon when the relationship topic came out. In particular, we were talking about how your partner should improve your life and not making it worse, meaning he should make you happy, he should bring good positive vibes, get along etc. that’s what I was thinking and referring to. But she started being very materialistic, she asked me “so, in which way is he improving your life?!” in a very aggressive sassy tone “I don’t see anything changing“ she said. I was mentioning that he makes me happy when the conversation degenerated. All sort of things came out of it.
She started by saying: “well, I truly hopes this will be just a friend and you will keep it like that” then she continued with: “please take birth control precautions before you regret it” “don’t come to me later saying I didn’t stop you” and the cherry on top was: “I would have preferred if you told me you were a lesbian cause at least that is cool nowadays”.
I was speechless and I still am.
I asked her what is it that she doesn’t like and what is she basing her opinions on, since she literally knows nothing about him. She couldn’t answer. She kept repeating the same things over and over and she also said she would never want to meet him. I have to mention that the few guys she met that I was dating were of different cultures, but she never had a problem with them, I guess because the skin color was the same… and in her mind there are probably foreigners of Class A, B, C… I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but I neither expected such a bad reaction. All this hurts me so much. I don’t know what to do. In my mind it neither makes sense cause she married an immigrant but it seems like she never really came to terms with it, she never really accepted it. For instance, I know nothing about my father’s culture, I never learned the language or interesting facts about it because nobody ever thought me anything about it. I only learned about my mother’s side culture of the country I lived in. And I always felt out of place because this country is extremely racist. The fact that my father was not a good husband or father has nothing to do with where he comes from. If a person is an idiot, is an idiot no matter what. And I told her this when we were talking. The fact that she had a bad experience doesn’t mean that I will, just because I’m seeing someone from a different culture. I also explained to her that I am myself an immigrant, since I’m living in another country. But it doesn’t seem to click in her head. And when I told her, to her face, that she is indeed racist, she obviously denied it, because how can she be racist if she married an immigrant herself?
And of course during today’s conversation there was some victim behavior on her side, because every time I come back here it’s certain that we are gonna fight and every time it happens I say stuff like “let’s see when and if I will come back again!”. So she was bringing that up cause the other day I said “the first racist comment I hear I’m gone”. She mentioned that, saying I don’t care about her, that she has to beg for me to call her (mind you, we write good morning, good night, text here and there during the day and we talk on the phone 3/4 times a week…). She even said that “she lost me already the moment I left”. Honestly, I don’t know what else more than this she expects from me if what I do is not enough already.
So I don’t really know how to handle this anymore. And I’m also just venting and need some support.
TL;DR: my 25F mother 56F doesn’t approve of my boyfriend 28M just because of the color of his skin. Her opinion is based solely on a photo I showed her and claims she lost me cause I don’t do enough for her.
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I moved away from home as soon as I could when I was 18 after a not so good childhood, and currently live in another European country. My parents are divorced, my father is not really in the picture, I keep in touch with my mother on a daily basis and come visit her and the rest of the family once or twice a year. We never had the best relationship but since I moved out it improved a lot. I’d say we get along better when I’m far away from home.
Anyway, back to the reason of this post. I’ve been seeing this guy for more than a year, he’s great, we’re slowly getting to know each other and see where this is going. We are not in a rush but of course this is a relationship and I felt it was time to tell something more to my mother. I’ve always been quite open about my relationships and people I was dating, however since getting older I started being more private as I don’t think it would be good to mention every failed date to my mother (lol). We come from a typical small town in southern Europe, where people are bigots and close-minded. The news on the tv are constantly complaining about immigrants coming to our country and jadajadajada. The government is mostly right wing. So yeah, I didn’t really mentioned much about this guy, first of all cause I’m trying to keep it private but also because I could imagine her reaction, since she’s the standard average middle age woman that you find on Facebook without much culture. She is ignorant not as an insult but as in the real sense of the word: she ignores, she doesn’t inform herself and just believes whatever the media tells her.
Anyway, she suspected I was seeing someone for a while, I never really said much but I’ve been giving her a few hints in the past weeks and now that I came back to my hometown for a week she started being very curious. The day after I arrived we were casually talking before bed and she just kept asking “C’mon, don’t you have a pic of this guy? Show me! C’mon c’mon! I’m your mother!” so, one side of me didn’t wanna show her, the other one was excited cause at the end of the day I’m proud of my relationship and I was happy to tell her more (maybe naively hoping for a good outcome…). So without thinking much I showed her one of the best pictures of him. Literally in the millisecond while I was showing her the picture she said something like: “hope it’s not a n****” (WHATTT???).
At that point the phone was already on her face. It was done. She said it, and at the same time she saw the picture. She was speechless and I was too. I was ashamed of her. And sad.
She didn’t say anything more for the following 10 minutes, she went to her room and I went to mine. Afterwards she just asked “does he even work?!” And I told her “don’t worry about it, he’s better off than the both of us” just to make her shut up about that question that I found so disrespectful. This made me just so sad, and disappointed.
But the worst had yet to come. We didn’t speak much about it at all until today.
We were having a casual conversation during the afternoon when the relationship topic came out. In particular, we were talking about how your partner should improve your life and not making it worse, meaning he should make you happy, he should bring good positive vibes, get along etc. that’s what I was thinking and referring to. But she started being very materialistic, she asked me “so, in which way is he improving your life?!” in a very aggressive sassy tone “I don’t see anything changing“ she said. I was mentioning that he makes me happy when the conversation degenerated. All sort of things came out of it.
She started by saying: “well, I truly hopes this will be just a friend and you will keep it like that” then she continued with: “please take birth control precautions before you regret it” “don’t come to me later saying I didn’t stop you” and the cherry on top was: “I would have preferred if you told me you were a lesbian cause at least that is cool nowadays”.
I was speechless and I still am.
I asked her what is it that she doesn’t like and what is she basing her opinions on, since she literally knows nothing about him. She couldn’t answer. She kept repeating the same things over and over and she also said she would never want to meet him. I have to mention that the few guys she met that I was dating were of different cultures, but she never had a problem with them, I guess because the skin color was the same… and in her mind there are probably foreigners of Class A, B, C… I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but I neither expected such a bad reaction. All this hurts me so much. I don’t know what to do. In my mind it neither makes sense cause she married an immigrant but it seems like she never really came to terms with it, she never really accepted it. For instance, I know nothing about my father’s culture, I never learned the language or interesting facts about it because nobody ever thought me anything about it. I only learned about my mother’s side culture of the country I lived in. And I always felt out of place because this country is extremely racist. The fact that my father was not a good husband or father has nothing to do with where he comes from. If a person is an idiot, is an idiot no matter what. And I told her this when we were talking. The fact that she had a bad experience doesn’t mean that I will, just because I’m seeing someone from a different culture. I also explained to her that I am myself an immigrant, since I’m living in another country. But it doesn’t seem to click in her head. And when I told her, to her face, that she is indeed racist, she obviously denied it, because how can she be racist if she married an immigrant herself?
And of course during today’s conversation there was some victim behavior on her side, because every time I come back here it’s certain that we are gonna fight and every time it happens I say stuff like “let’s see when and if I will come back again!”. So she was bringing that up cause the other day I said “the first racist comment I hear I’m gone”. She mentioned that, saying I don’t care about her, that she has to beg for me to call her (mind you, we write good morning, good night, text here and there during the day and we talk on the phone 3/4 times a week…). She even said that “she lost me already the moment I left”. Honestly, I don’t know what else more than this she expects from me if what I do is not enough already.
So I don’t really know how to handle this anymore. And I’m also just venting and need some support.
TL;DR: my 25F mother 56F doesn’t approve of my boyfriend 28M just because of the color of his skin. Her opinion is based solely on a photo I showed her and claims she lost me cause I don’t do enough for her.
2024.05.13 22:23 Worried-Quiet-3976 Post attempt
I hate that I use this account to post these sad rants but this is my new way of trying to explain myself. I’ve let months go by simply by accepting I’ll die soon.
I had my first serious attempt yesterday (none have come this close). Mother’s Day. Who does that ? My whole immediate family including young kids (my first baby cousins) came over. Usually at these parties I’m one of the best dressed, on making drinks, somehow am also the entertainer and the one to get the kids to sit/eat. Can’t even imagine my family getting to the house and finding me lifeless. Yet I still tried to die. Due to my appearance and having avoided my family for the last few months.. everyone asked me if I was “okay”. I was pretty good with avoiding these pursuits of answers by helping in the kitchen and playing with the kids. No sane adult is going to force you, an adult, to start explaining where/what you’ve been when a kid is playing with you or your hands are occupied. I pathetically took advantage of this. I’ve always been relatively close to my family but I’ve burned ties twice now. First time around this time last year and second time we are currently in. What got me out of that first time ? I’m not really sure. I think I just knew I had to try one more time before really giving up. There were some cornered moments and while my loved ones were just doing what family does (checking in) I just kept replaying my attempt that occurred precisely two hours before anyone got there. I wore a dress with a collar. This collar was important because my neck was extremely bruised and looked scratched. My attempt if not apparent by now was by partial hanging. I put makeup on it and left my hair down to cover. It wasn’t enough but this goes to show how good I was with avoiding eye contact and being investigated. My sister isn’t easily fooled. We were setting up some food before people arrived and she asked me what happened to my neck. I didn’t even take the time to come up with a story just in case. Was it a cry for help? I wasn’t going to let it be. I somehow blamed it on my necklace scratching me when I took it off. To this second I don’t know how she believed me or the conversation shifted. Must have been a combination of my tone/mannerism and her just going with the flow because I was actually present. I haven’t been with anyone in so long. My isolation has ruined everything. Anyways I put more concealer and kept a smile for my family. My dad walked into the gathering with flowers for everyone. After greeting everyone he approached me with my own orchid and a trinket for me. I am not a mother but he made it a point to include me and to remind me he thinks of me. The trinket can be described as a decoration for a table. An all in all thoughtful gift. It has in cursive “live the life you love, love the life you live” with a clip I’m guessing to add a picture. I immediately grabbed it, turned it around so I wasn’t reading it anymore, somehow changed the conversation and he being my father (I believe knows me more than I think), took the hint to walk away. I’m grateful he did because I was about to have a mental breakdown. I somehow held my tears back and forced my attention back to my baby cousin which wasn’t hard she was drawing and wanted me to see. After a bit of this she wanted to go by the front of the house to play and her mom was there alone. This is down a hall away from where we were. I felt time move slow as we made eye contact and my mouth go dry as the space between us was closing. I knew what was coming. Everyone else was congregated in the kitchen and family room. A simple what’s up how have you been was about to send me over the edge. I didn’t even notice I was holding my dads gift in my right hand. She grabbed my left hand and instinctively said “wow I’ve never seen your skin this pale it’s like porcelain”. She didn’t mean it in a bad way just stating a fact. I looked at her and as my eyes started tearing up she let go. She asked me if I was sad and I said I can’t talk now because I’ll lose it. Thing is once I start I can’t stop. I told her I needed to go to the bathroom. She called her daughter said we need to talk I said okay and went to my bathroom upstairs. As I stared at myself in the mirror now completely alone I realized just how different I have to look to everyone. I looked at my dads gift and really started crying. After a few sobs I somehow managed to stop crying and fix my makeup a bit. I went back down to the party mostly to try to prove I’m okay and avoid being a topic. I know this was the bare minimum thing to do. I know this isn’t who I should be. This weekend coming is a bigger party. Point is I barely survived yesterday. I’m one of the youngest in my family not including the baby cousins. That being said everyone is older and has way more stressors than me. They either have kids, their careers, more bills, and whatever else. These people manage to go to every party, maintain conversation, and overall be apart of the family. I 23 unemployed overweight believe I can’t get it together. I can’t be apart of anything. I went through college and from the moment that last semester ended didn’t know what the fuck to do next. Before my attempt yesterday morning I spent an hour on a suicide hotline. I never admitted to the woman on the phone how close I was to the edge. This is what I wrote down after the call “I told her almost everything. The isolation, how I let myself go, and how I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I couldn’t actually say what my plan was. The lady was really nice. We agreed I should face everyone and get professionally evaluated. I didn’t really mean it. I’m going to die before I face anyone and I couldn’t tell her I can’t tell anyone. She was a really nice lady. I wonder if she’s a mom. It’s Mother’s Day. Mommy I can’t do it. You were always there for me. Always answered me. I can’t answer you anymore. I wish I could’ve talked to you. I wish I would’ve just talked. For what it’s worth I do love you. “. My mother called me around 9AM Mother’s Day morning. Said she needs help getting gifts ready and I told her I felt bad. She said how everyone is worried and I have no reason to be this far gone/sad. I somehow got the conversation to end. She ended saying I was going to be okay that we’re going to get me a therapist just have to get through mothers day and next weeks party. I said I love you and immediately tied the belt around my neck. I was seeing black, choking, ears ringing, and arms shuffling. Something came over me and I got myself out of it. I didn’t even cry. I went to my bathroom showered, got dressed, and you know the rest. Now I’m here 4 o’clock the next day writing. I have spent the whole day in bed. I think subconsciously I’ve let myself go into this isolation to weaken my body. For it to be easier for me to die and severed connections for it to be easier for those around me. I don’t know what I want from writing this down. I know my throat feels sore and I think I want to know why this is happening. I want to somehow try to put a reasoning behind everything. Somehow find a way to maybe really talk to one of the people that care without breaking down and shooting blanks with my mouth. I’ve tried even though it looks to those around me I haven’t. Thanks for reading.. comments are sincerely appreciated.
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I had my first serious attempt yesterday (none have come this close). Mother’s Day. Who does that ? My whole immediate family including young kids (my first baby cousins) came over. Usually at these parties I’m one of the best dressed, on making drinks, somehow am also the entertainer and the one to get the kids to sit/eat. Can’t even imagine my family getting to the house and finding me lifeless. Yet I still tried to die. Due to my appearance and having avoided my family for the last few months.. everyone asked me if I was “okay”. I was pretty good with avoiding these pursuits of answers by helping in the kitchen and playing with the kids. No sane adult is going to force you, an adult, to start explaining where/what you’ve been when a kid is playing with you or your hands are occupied. I pathetically took advantage of this. I’ve always been relatively close to my family but I’ve burned ties twice now. First time around this time last year and second time we are currently in. What got me out of that first time ? I’m not really sure. I think I just knew I had to try one more time before really giving up. There were some cornered moments and while my loved ones were just doing what family does (checking in) I just kept replaying my attempt that occurred precisely two hours before anyone got there. I wore a dress with a collar. This collar was important because my neck was extremely bruised and looked scratched. My attempt if not apparent by now was by partial hanging. I put makeup on it and left my hair down to cover. It wasn’t enough but this goes to show how good I was with avoiding eye contact and being investigated. My sister isn’t easily fooled. We were setting up some food before people arrived and she asked me what happened to my neck. I didn’t even take the time to come up with a story just in case. Was it a cry for help? I wasn’t going to let it be. I somehow blamed it on my necklace scratching me when I took it off. To this second I don’t know how she believed me or the conversation shifted. Must have been a combination of my tone/mannerism and her just going with the flow because I was actually present. I haven’t been with anyone in so long. My isolation has ruined everything. Anyways I put more concealer and kept a smile for my family. My dad walked into the gathering with flowers for everyone. After greeting everyone he approached me with my own orchid and a trinket for me. I am not a mother but he made it a point to include me and to remind me he thinks of me. The trinket can be described as a decoration for a table. An all in all thoughtful gift. It has in cursive “live the life you love, love the life you live” with a clip I’m guessing to add a picture. I immediately grabbed it, turned it around so I wasn’t reading it anymore, somehow changed the conversation and he being my father (I believe knows me more than I think), took the hint to walk away. I’m grateful he did because I was about to have a mental breakdown. I somehow held my tears back and forced my attention back to my baby cousin which wasn’t hard she was drawing and wanted me to see. After a bit of this she wanted to go by the front of the house to play and her mom was there alone. This is down a hall away from where we were. I felt time move slow as we made eye contact and my mouth go dry as the space between us was closing. I knew what was coming. Everyone else was congregated in the kitchen and family room. A simple what’s up how have you been was about to send me over the edge. I didn’t even notice I was holding my dads gift in my right hand. She grabbed my left hand and instinctively said “wow I’ve never seen your skin this pale it’s like porcelain”. She didn’t mean it in a bad way just stating a fact. I looked at her and as my eyes started tearing up she let go. She asked me if I was sad and I said I can’t talk now because I’ll lose it. Thing is once I start I can’t stop. I told her I needed to go to the bathroom. She called her daughter said we need to talk I said okay and went to my bathroom upstairs. As I stared at myself in the mirror now completely alone I realized just how different I have to look to everyone. I looked at my dads gift and really started crying. After a few sobs I somehow managed to stop crying and fix my makeup a bit. I went back down to the party mostly to try to prove I’m okay and avoid being a topic. I know this was the bare minimum thing to do. I know this isn’t who I should be. This weekend coming is a bigger party. Point is I barely survived yesterday. I’m one of the youngest in my family not including the baby cousins. That being said everyone is older and has way more stressors than me. They either have kids, their careers, more bills, and whatever else. These people manage to go to every party, maintain conversation, and overall be apart of the family. I 23 unemployed overweight believe I can’t get it together. I can’t be apart of anything. I went through college and from the moment that last semester ended didn’t know what the fuck to do next. Before my attempt yesterday morning I spent an hour on a suicide hotline. I never admitted to the woman on the phone how close I was to the edge. This is what I wrote down after the call “I told her almost everything. The isolation, how I let myself go, and how I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I couldn’t actually say what my plan was. The lady was really nice. We agreed I should face everyone and get professionally evaluated. I didn’t really mean it. I’m going to die before I face anyone and I couldn’t tell her I can’t tell anyone. She was a really nice lady. I wonder if she’s a mom. It’s Mother’s Day. Mommy I can’t do it. You were always there for me. Always answered me. I can’t answer you anymore. I wish I could’ve talked to you. I wish I would’ve just talked. For what it’s worth I do love you. “. My mother called me around 9AM Mother’s Day morning. Said she needs help getting gifts ready and I told her I felt bad. She said how everyone is worried and I have no reason to be this far gone/sad. I somehow got the conversation to end. She ended saying I was going to be okay that we’re going to get me a therapist just have to get through mothers day and next weeks party. I said I love you and immediately tied the belt around my neck. I was seeing black, choking, ears ringing, and arms shuffling. Something came over me and I got myself out of it. I didn’t even cry. I went to my bathroom showered, got dressed, and you know the rest. Now I’m here 4 o’clock the next day writing. I have spent the whole day in bed. I think subconsciously I’ve let myself go into this isolation to weaken my body. For it to be easier for me to die and severed connections for it to be easier for those around me. I don’t know what I want from writing this down. I know my throat feels sore and I think I want to know why this is happening. I want to somehow try to put a reasoning behind everything. Somehow find a way to maybe really talk to one of the people that care without breaking down and shooting blanks with my mouth. I’ve tried even though it looks to those around me I haven’t. Thanks for reading.. comments are sincerely appreciated.
2024.05.13 22:18 SuperIntHuman Crafting an Effective Job Portal Profile
What works for me might not work for you, but why not give it a try and see for yourself? Adapt my style to fit your personality and preferences.
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Example Roles:
Choose 2-3 roles:- Content Creator
- Social Media Manager
- Digital Marketer
Example Profile:
Introduce yourself in 15-20 lines. Write clearly and avoid using emojis. Instead, use ASCII bullets to list items.Straight to the point—let’s drop the time-consuming tasks that hinder your business growth! • Social Media Automation: Streamline your posting and audience engagement effortlessly. • Content Creation: Craft impactful posts and videos that truly represent your brand. • Social Media Campaigns: Launch and manage promotional campaigns on platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. • Audience Engagement: Boost interactions with strategic communication and engaging content. • Analytics and Reporting: Leverage tools to monitor, analyze, and enhance your strategies for optimal results. Let's keep this simple. I’m here to support you; just share your vision, and I’ll take care of the execution!
Skills Breakdown:
Niche Skills
- Social Media Automation: Streamline your posting and audience engagement effortlessly.
- Social Media Campaigns: Launch and manage promotional campaigns on platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.
- Audience Engagement: Boost interactions with strategic communication and engaging content.
Technical Skills
- Content Creation: Craft impactful posts and videos that truly represent your brand.
- Analytics and Reporting: Leverage tools to monitor, analyze, and enhance your strategies for optimal results.
Soft Skills
- Communication
- Teamwork
- Adaptability
Portfolio/Website:
- Provide a Linktree: [Your Linktree Link]
- Share links to your resume on Google Drive (initials only for privacy).
- Don't include a picture on your resume to keep the focus on your skills and experience.
- Mention your city and country in your resume's address section, but avoid providing the exact address.
- Add other relevant links as needed.
Application Strategy:
- Use a catchy subject line for your job application emails, like "Your Next SMM is Here to Support Your Vision".
- In the email, start with an introduction, propose how you can meet the job's needs, and explain why you're the best candidate.
- Optional: Include links to your internet speed, typing speed, computer specs, personality tests (like MBTI or DISC), and an English proficiency test. Also, offer a presentation of your profile and services when you confirm the client's legitimacy.
Contact Information:
- Mobile: [Mobile No.]
- Email: [Email Address]
- Skype: [Skype ID]
- Calendly: [Link to Calendly]
Keep in Mind:
- Apply to jobs with points 10 or higher to ensure your application stands out.
- Prefer live remote interviews over sending pre-recorded voice or video.
- Avoid insecure communication channels such as Telegram, WhatsApp, and Viber.
- Carefully read job descriptions to understand all requirements.
- Confirm the legitimacy of employers by checking if they have a paid account on the job platform.
- Use a professional email account for job applications to keep your personal email account secure.
Extra Mile Email:
- Create a simple, professional email signature with your full name, phone number, and a link to your LinkedIn profile or professional website. Ensure your email address looks professional, ideally using your name without nicknames or unusual numbers.
2024.05.13 22:14 Blankboo97 The Lost Women of NXIVM Part 7
PRODUCER: Do you have the suicide note?
HEIDI CLIFFORD (As “Anonymous Classmate”): (Reading purported “suicide note” aloud): This is a copy of the suicide note.
“I attended a course called Executive Success Programs, aka Nexium (sic), based out of Anchorage, Alaska and Albany, New York. I was brainwashed and my emotional center of the brain was killed and turned off. I still have feeling in my external skin, but my internal organs are rotting. I’m sorry, life. I didn’t know I was already dead.”
“No need to search my body.”
Was this potential suicide letter in Kris’s car coerced?
Was it her willingly writing it?
You don’t know.
As we have discussed in previous posts, nothing about the Kristin Snyder missing person case makes any sense whatsoever, and the purported “suicide note” found in her vehicle is certainly no exception.
Before we start analyzing the “suicide note,” here are a few factors to keep in mind:
• We know through information from multiple sources that Kristin was a prolific journal writer and letter writer, so we have a plethora of writing samples to compare with this alleged “suicide note.”
• We refer to “the writer” in our discussion of the “suicide note” below. The reason for this phrasing is because the actual writer of this note is unknown. Did Kristin herself write it, either as a explanation for killing herself, or for the purpose of faking her own death? Did someone else write it to make her disappearance appear to be a suicide? Was part of the text written by Kristin and added to by another party? Was the entire note faked? Was the note written by Kristin, but under duress/coercion as Heidi pondered?
• See notes under each section below regarding clear discrepancies between Kristin’s baseline writing style based on the hundreds of writing samples we have obtained from multiple sources through varying times throughout her life.
Now, without further ado, let’s take an in-depth look at this “suicide note” – line by line.
“I attended a course called Executive Success Programs (aka Nexium) based out of Anchorage, AK + Albany, NY.”
• Who is the note intended for? There is no salutation. We have tons of samples of Kristin’s letters and there is always a salutation – AND a date. If this is really her “suicide note,” why wouldn’t she address it to her partner Heidi, friends, coworkers, and/or family – as she always had addressed people in her letters? Similarly, wouldn’t she document the date of the most significant letter of her life, as she did routinely with her letters? In fact, she often even included the specific time (for instance, 7:15 p.m.) that the letter or journal entry was written.
• In addition to a salutation and date on other writing samples, Kris also typically indented her paragraphs and she also usually wrote on each line of the paper in her letters and journal entries, unlike this “suicide note,” which does neither.
• Related to the numerous writing samples we have acquired though multiple sources, Kris also primarily wrote in cursive in both her letters and in her journal. This “suicide note” is an odd hybrid of cursive and print.
• Why would anyone start a suicide note with “I attended a course…”? Clearly, the writer of this note is directing the reader to correlate ESP with the disappearance, but it seems like a very odd place for anyone to start a suicide note. Also, Kris attended two courses, not “a course”; a fact that Kris would have clearly known.
• “aka Nexium” is another oddity. Kris did not take any NXIVM classes, not even one, despite the extensive recent propaganda linking her to NXIVM. Why? Because NXIVM did not even exist at the time of Kristin’s disappearance; it was still in the planning stages. The writer had obviously heard about these plans as evidenced by the phonetic spelling. Again, it is obvious the writer of the note is clearly directing the reader’s attention to ESP/NXIVM – but if Kris were distraught enough to write a suicide note (and as functionally incapacitated as reported by her partner), why/how would she focus on minutiae like this?
• Speaking of minutiae, it gets even more obvious in the next words: “based out of Anchorage, AK + Albany, NY.” First of all, WHO CARES where ESP was based? That is in no way pertinent to the reasoning, and apparently is another clear attempt by the writer to direct the reader toward ESP/NXIVM. Secondly, this information is actually wrong. ESP wasn’t “based out of Anchorage, AK” – they held classes in Anchorage in a rented hotel space. The home base was in NY. Furthermore, Kris knew very well that this information was wrong, having recently visited their NY headquarters herself weeks before her disappearance!
•The words “based out of” (city, state) are odd as well. None of Kristin’s other writing samples did this. Nowhere does she mention elsewhere that anything is “based out of” anywhere in any of her copious writing samples we have obtained.
• Furthermore, why would the note say “Anchorage, AK” anyway? Presumably, Alaska law enforcement would be able to deduce that Anchorage is in Alaska without this unnecessary clarification.
“I was brainwashed + my emotional center of the brain was killed/turned off. I still have feeling in my external skin but my internal organs are rotting.”
• If Kris was brainwashed, she wouldn’t know (at least at the time) that she had been brainwashed. Again, this seems to be yet another clear attempt by the writer to direct the reader to look at ESP.
• Furthermore, if Kris finally did realize that she had been brainwashed, why would she then kill herself?
• The writer switches “my” and “the” in a sentence – something Kris never did, even once, in the hundreds of pages of writing we have obtained. The sentence should read “the emotional center of my brain,” not “my emotional center of the brain.”
• Another oddity is in the redundancy of “external skin.” Again, this sort of mistake does not appear to be Kris’s style, based on other writing samples. She had a Master of Science (M.S.) in Biology and she worked as an environmental consultant to the National Guard. She was a precise, clear, scientific, and articulate writer.
• This passage clearly implies that Kris was suffering from Cotard’s syndrome; per WebMD: “People with Cotard’s syndrome (also called walking corpse syndrome or Cotard’s delusion) believe that parts of their body are missing, or that they are dying, dead, or don’t exist.” We have talked to multiple people who Kris had visited in her January 2003 trip immediately prior to her February 2003 disappearance, and nobody reported any observations of any mental health issues, suicidal ideation, depression, psychosis, nor delusions of any sort. All of the people who discussed Kris’s reported mental health decline stated that they had not personally witnessed any symptoms, but rather, they were told of a rapid decline following Kris’s disappearance.
• If Kris thought she was already dead, why would she kill herself?
“Please contact my parents Bob + Jonnie Snyder at (number redacted) in Dillon, SC if you find me or this note.”
• Why would she specify to contact her parents, who lived out-of-state? Why not her partner? Why, in fact, is Heidi, the love of her life and civil union partner not mentioned AT ALL in the entire note?
• The inclusion of Kris’s parents as the sole contacts listed in the note contradicts a specific story told at the time of the disappearance alleging that Kris had uncovered memories of abuse during the class and that these purported memories were the reason/a factor in her alleged suicide. But: if that story was true, why would she include her father in the note? It should be noted that there is no evidence whatsoever that Kris was abused. As with the alleged rapid mental health decline, people who reported that story were not told of the purported abuse by Kris themselves, but rather, they were told of the purported abuse allegations after her disappearance. In fact, we even have been given a copy of a text message exchange in which the person who spread this abuse claims refers to it as “the lie.” This is yet another example of the myriad of inconsistencies and contradictions that plague Kris’s case.
• Why mention “Dillon, SC”? There is already a phone number given, so the city/state is irrelevant, and also, it is not her typical style. Again, it seems like someone with a quirky tic to mention a city and state wrote this.
• “if you find me or this note” is similarly nonsensical. If someone found her but NOT the note, they wouldn’t see the note, would they? Again, this oddity of wording is inconsistent with Kris’s typically precise style.
“I am sorry, life, I didn’t know I was already dead. May we persist into the future. KRISTN (sic) SNYDER”
• Again, if she thought she was already dead, why would she need to kill herself?
• Why is she addressing “life”?
• “May we persist into the future” is interesting. “Persist into the future” is a phrase used in ecology, which could potentially mean a couple things: a). Kristin wrote this herself; b). Kristin wrote this phrase elsewhere and someone traced/copied it onto the “suicide note”; or c). the writer had seen a document that referred to this phrase and used it.
• WHO LEAVES A LETTER OUT OF THEIR OWN NAME???? The second “I” is missing in “KRISTN.” Furthermore, as mentioned earlier, Kris predominantly wrote in cursive and she typically signed her name in cursive as well. Why, in the most important document of her life, would she BLOCK PRINT her name, and even more bizarre, why would she leave a letter out of her own name? The writer appears to drop letters and cram letters together, but there is no evidence from other writings that Kris did these things.
“No need to search for my body”
• Why was this written on the BACK of the page on the “suicide note”? And why was the note left inside of a notebook to begin with?
• Kris was a member of the Anchorage Nordic Ski Patrol, and therefore, she was involved in search and rescue. Therefore, she would already know that THEY WOULD SEARCH FOR HER ANYWAY. Also, more importantly, why would she intentionally hide her own body and therefore put her colleagues/friends on the search and rescue team through the extensive trouble and potential dangers of conducting the search for her?
• Why write “my body” on the back of the page but write “me” on the front of the page of the note? That is yet another incongruity.
• Why the emphasis on not looking for a body? The writer clearly has a very specific reason to mention this; there is a reason the writer does not want the body found. It is very rare for a person to want to hide his/her own body, and even more rare to be able to successfully do so.
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HEIDI CLIFFORD (As “Anonymous Classmate”): (Reading purported “suicide note” aloud): This is a copy of the suicide note.
“I attended a course called Executive Success Programs, aka Nexium (sic), based out of Anchorage, Alaska and Albany, New York. I was brainwashed and my emotional center of the brain was killed and turned off. I still have feeling in my external skin, but my internal organs are rotting. I’m sorry, life. I didn’t know I was already dead.”
“No need to search my body.”
Was this potential suicide letter in Kris’s car coerced?
Was it her willingly writing it?
You don’t know.
As we have discussed in previous posts, nothing about the Kristin Snyder missing person case makes any sense whatsoever, and the purported “suicide note” found in her vehicle is certainly no exception.
Before we start analyzing the “suicide note,” here are a few factors to keep in mind:
• We know through information from multiple sources that Kristin was a prolific journal writer and letter writer, so we have a plethora of writing samples to compare with this alleged “suicide note.”
• We refer to “the writer” in our discussion of the “suicide note” below. The reason for this phrasing is because the actual writer of this note is unknown. Did Kristin herself write it, either as a explanation for killing herself, or for the purpose of faking her own death? Did someone else write it to make her disappearance appear to be a suicide? Was part of the text written by Kristin and added to by another party? Was the entire note faked? Was the note written by Kristin, but under duress/coercion as Heidi pondered?
• See notes under each section below regarding clear discrepancies between Kristin’s baseline writing style based on the hundreds of writing samples we have obtained from multiple sources through varying times throughout her life.
Now, without further ado, let’s take an in-depth look at this “suicide note” – line by line.
“I attended a course called Executive Success Programs (aka Nexium) based out of Anchorage, AK + Albany, NY.”
• Who is the note intended for? There is no salutation. We have tons of samples of Kristin’s letters and there is always a salutation – AND a date. If this is really her “suicide note,” why wouldn’t she address it to her partner Heidi, friends, coworkers, and/or family – as she always had addressed people in her letters? Similarly, wouldn’t she document the date of the most significant letter of her life, as she did routinely with her letters? In fact, she often even included the specific time (for instance, 7:15 p.m.) that the letter or journal entry was written.
• In addition to a salutation and date on other writing samples, Kris also typically indented her paragraphs and she also usually wrote on each line of the paper in her letters and journal entries, unlike this “suicide note,” which does neither.
• Related to the numerous writing samples we have acquired though multiple sources, Kris also primarily wrote in cursive in both her letters and in her journal. This “suicide note” is an odd hybrid of cursive and print.
• Why would anyone start a suicide note with “I attended a course…”? Clearly, the writer of this note is directing the reader to correlate ESP with the disappearance, but it seems like a very odd place for anyone to start a suicide note. Also, Kris attended two courses, not “a course”; a fact that Kris would have clearly known.
• “aka Nexium” is another oddity. Kris did not take any NXIVM classes, not even one, despite the extensive recent propaganda linking her to NXIVM. Why? Because NXIVM did not even exist at the time of Kristin’s disappearance; it was still in the planning stages. The writer had obviously heard about these plans as evidenced by the phonetic spelling. Again, it is obvious the writer of the note is clearly directing the reader’s attention to ESP/NXIVM – but if Kris were distraught enough to write a suicide note (and as functionally incapacitated as reported by her partner), why/how would she focus on minutiae like this?
• Speaking of minutiae, it gets even more obvious in the next words: “based out of Anchorage, AK + Albany, NY.” First of all, WHO CARES where ESP was based? That is in no way pertinent to the reasoning, and apparently is another clear attempt by the writer to direct the reader toward ESP/NXIVM. Secondly, this information is actually wrong. ESP wasn’t “based out of Anchorage, AK” – they held classes in Anchorage in a rented hotel space. The home base was in NY. Furthermore, Kris knew very well that this information was wrong, having recently visited their NY headquarters herself weeks before her disappearance!
•The words “based out of” (city, state) are odd as well. None of Kristin’s other writing samples did this. Nowhere does she mention elsewhere that anything is “based out of” anywhere in any of her copious writing samples we have obtained.
• Furthermore, why would the note say “Anchorage, AK” anyway? Presumably, Alaska law enforcement would be able to deduce that Anchorage is in Alaska without this unnecessary clarification.
“I was brainwashed + my emotional center of the brain was killed/turned off. I still have feeling in my external skin but my internal organs are rotting.”
• If Kris was brainwashed, she wouldn’t know (at least at the time) that she had been brainwashed. Again, this seems to be yet another clear attempt by the writer to direct the reader to look at ESP.
• Furthermore, if Kris finally did realize that she had been brainwashed, why would she then kill herself?
• The writer switches “my” and “the” in a sentence – something Kris never did, even once, in the hundreds of pages of writing we have obtained. The sentence should read “the emotional center of my brain,” not “my emotional center of the brain.”
• Another oddity is in the redundancy of “external skin.” Again, this sort of mistake does not appear to be Kris’s style, based on other writing samples. She had a Master of Science (M.S.) in Biology and she worked as an environmental consultant to the National Guard. She was a precise, clear, scientific, and articulate writer.
• This passage clearly implies that Kris was suffering from Cotard’s syndrome; per WebMD: “People with Cotard’s syndrome (also called walking corpse syndrome or Cotard’s delusion) believe that parts of their body are missing, or that they are dying, dead, or don’t exist.” We have talked to multiple people who Kris had visited in her January 2003 trip immediately prior to her February 2003 disappearance, and nobody reported any observations of any mental health issues, suicidal ideation, depression, psychosis, nor delusions of any sort. All of the people who discussed Kris’s reported mental health decline stated that they had not personally witnessed any symptoms, but rather, they were told of a rapid decline following Kris’s disappearance.
• If Kris thought she was already dead, why would she kill herself?
“Please contact my parents Bob + Jonnie Snyder at (number redacted) in Dillon, SC if you find me or this note.”
• Why would she specify to contact her parents, who lived out-of-state? Why not her partner? Why, in fact, is Heidi, the love of her life and civil union partner not mentioned AT ALL in the entire note?
• The inclusion of Kris’s parents as the sole contacts listed in the note contradicts a specific story told at the time of the disappearance alleging that Kris had uncovered memories of abuse during the class and that these purported memories were the reason/a factor in her alleged suicide. But: if that story was true, why would she include her father in the note? It should be noted that there is no evidence whatsoever that Kris was abused. As with the alleged rapid mental health decline, people who reported that story were not told of the purported abuse by Kris themselves, but rather, they were told of the purported abuse allegations after her disappearance. In fact, we even have been given a copy of a text message exchange in which the person who spread this abuse claims refers to it as “the lie.” This is yet another example of the myriad of inconsistencies and contradictions that plague Kris’s case.
• Why mention “Dillon, SC”? There is already a phone number given, so the city/state is irrelevant, and also, it is not her typical style. Again, it seems like someone with a quirky tic to mention a city and state wrote this.
• “if you find me or this note” is similarly nonsensical. If someone found her but NOT the note, they wouldn’t see the note, would they? Again, this oddity of wording is inconsistent with Kris’s typically precise style.
“I am sorry, life, I didn’t know I was already dead. May we persist into the future. KRISTN (sic) SNYDER”
• Again, if she thought she was already dead, why would she need to kill herself?
• Why is she addressing “life”?
• “May we persist into the future” is interesting. “Persist into the future” is a phrase used in ecology, which could potentially mean a couple things: a). Kristin wrote this herself; b). Kristin wrote this phrase elsewhere and someone traced/copied it onto the “suicide note”; or c). the writer had seen a document that referred to this phrase and used it.
• WHO LEAVES A LETTER OUT OF THEIR OWN NAME???? The second “I” is missing in “KRISTN.” Furthermore, as mentioned earlier, Kris predominantly wrote in cursive and she typically signed her name in cursive as well. Why, in the most important document of her life, would she BLOCK PRINT her name, and even more bizarre, why would she leave a letter out of her own name? The writer appears to drop letters and cram letters together, but there is no evidence from other writings that Kris did these things.
“No need to search for my body”
• Why was this written on the BACK of the page on the “suicide note”? And why was the note left inside of a notebook to begin with?
• Kris was a member of the Anchorage Nordic Ski Patrol, and therefore, she was involved in search and rescue. Therefore, she would already know that THEY WOULD SEARCH FOR HER ANYWAY. Also, more importantly, why would she intentionally hide her own body and therefore put her colleagues/friends on the search and rescue team through the extensive trouble and potential dangers of conducting the search for her?
• Why write “my body” on the back of the page but write “me” on the front of the page of the note? That is yet another incongruity.
• Why the emphasis on not looking for a body? The writer clearly has a very specific reason to mention this; there is a reason the writer does not want the body found. It is very rare for a person to want to hide his/her own body, and even more rare to be able to successfully do so.
2024.05.13 21:56 SuperIntHuman Build Yourself as a Social Media Manager and Beyond
Creating a simulation project is an excellent way for beginners in social media management (SMM) to build a portfolio and gain practical experience. Here's a detailed guide on setting up and managing a fictional business's social media as part of a simulation to demonstrate your capabilities as an SMM:
"For beginners not well-versed in graphic design and branding, focus on simple, achievable tasks using user-friendly tools like Canva."
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"For beginners not well-versed in graphic design and branding, focus on simple, achievable tasks using user-friendly tools like Canva."
Step 1: Choose a Business and Define Its Brand
- Select a Business Type: Choose a type of business that interests you, such as a local bakery, a yoga studio, or an online clothing store.
- Define the Brand: Establish the brand's voice, color scheme, and overall aesthetic. Determine the brand's values and the message it wants to convey to its audience.
Step 2: Create Brand Elements
- Logo: Design a simple logo using Canva or another graphic design tool. Ensure it aligns with the business's brand identity.
- Tagline: Create a catchy and memorable tagline that encapsulates the essence of the business.
Step 3: Develop a Social Media Strategy
- Identify Your Target Audience: Define who the business's products or services are for based on demographics like age, location, interests, and behaviors.
- Choose Social Media Platforms: Select platforms that best reach your target audience. For most businesses, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are staples.
- Set Goals and Objectives: These might include increasing brand awareness, driving traffic to a website, or growing audience engagement.
Step 4: Create a Content Calendar
- Plan Your Posting Schedule: Decide how often to post on each platform. A common strategy is to post 1-2 times a day on Instagram and 3-5 times a week on Facebook.
- Develop Content Themes: For consistency and engagement, create daily themes like:
- Motivation Monday: Inspirational quotes or stories.
- Tutorial Tuesday: How-to videos or step-by-step guides.
- Feature Friday: Highlight products, services, or customer testimonials.
- Include Relevant Hashtags: Research and use popular hashtags that align with your business and posts.
Step 5: Produce and Schedule Content
- Create Posts: Use your branding elements to design posts. Tools like Canva are great for creating high-quality visual content.
- Write Captions: Develop engaging and relevant captions that include calls to action, such as asking followers to comment, share, or visit a website.
- Schedule Posts: Use a tool like Buffer, Hootsuite, or Facebook's scheduling tool to plan your posts in advance.
Step 6: Simulate Engagement and Analytics
- Engage: Even though this is a simulation, practice writing responses to comments and messages. Think about how you would handle customer service inquiries or feedback.
- Track Performance: Although you won’t have real analytics, create hypothetical data based on your objectives. For example, imagine how many likes, shares, or comments each post could realistically generate.
Step 7: Evaluate and Adjust Your Strategy
- Monthly Review: At the end of each month, review your hypothetical analytics to evaluate what worked and what didn’t.
- Adjust Tactics: Make changes to your strategy based on your review. This could involve altering your posting frequency, trying different types of content, or refocusing on different aspects of engagement.
Step 8: Compile Your Work Into a Portfolio
- Document Everything: Keep records of your strategy documents, content calendars, post designs, and engagement tactics.
- Create Case Studies: Write up case studies on your strategy, implementation, and hypothetical results to showcase your skills and approach to potential clients or employers.
2024.05.13 21:32 FirefighterTiny7965 Wattsapp
What is a good way to grow a story on wattsapp? I'm using it to compile and get feedback on a story I'm writing but I'm not too sure how to grow it and I don't want it on Facebook in particular (it contains some things my ex did). I do want others to read it and I do want others to give feedback but that requires getting readers and I'm lost on how to do that. I'm going through the second chapter and I am splitting the first chapter into different parts just so I can keep track of opinions on different areas. Is this even a valid way of doing things? It's a NSFW themed story. I'm gonna try and update it at least every four days with a new part.
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2024.05.13 20:59 SantaBarbaraMint How mad men really ends…
So I wrote this after the final episode of Mad Men some years ago, and Facebook was kind enough to remind me of the post the other day:
How MAD MEN really ends:
1977: Pete & Trudy Campbell win the Wichita Country Club Charleston contest for the fifth consecutive year.
1972 - Without Roger and Pete to abuse anymore Ken Cosgrove realizes the Dow job sucks, quits it, then writes 4 NYT bestsellers.
1976 - Henry Francis, Gerald Ford's campaign manager 1986 - On deathbed tells Roger Ailes that GOP needs their own TV news network
1977 Wichita Neighbor: "Hi Pete, your dog pooped in our yard." Pete Campbell: “The King ordered it!”
1977 - Meredith becomes the third Mrs. Jim Hobart.
1979 Daniel J Seigel wins Oscar for his remake of THE MAN IN THE GREY FLANNEL SUIT 1982 arrested w/John Delorean
1985 Bobby Draper is a college dropout doing stand-up comedy at the Laugh Factory on Sunset Blvd. 1989 staff writer on The Simpsons
1985 - An unemployed Duck Phillips provides inspiration to his nephew Bobby Moynihan to create a sketch called Drunk Uncle someday.
1985 - Pete Campbell gives Peggy Olsen, the CEO of The Olsen Group, a great deal on a Lear Jet.
1985 - McCann's Ted Chaough creates ad campaign for New Coke 1986 -retires from advertising. 1995 - Invents banners ads for internet
1987 - Dawn Chambers becomes first African American female COO of a FORTUNE 100 company.
1981 - Jim Hobart joins Reagan Administration. 1984 - Convicted for lying to a Congressional subcommittee.
1985 - Sally Draper invents Spanx, becomes a billionaire.
1981 - After producing the series HELLO LARRY, Harry Crane becomes President of NBC Broadcasting . 1992 - Picks Leno over Letterman
1975 - Dick Whitman invents The Pet Rock, becomes legendary direct marketing guru and creates first cable TV Infomercials.
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How MAD MEN really ends:
1977: Pete & Trudy Campbell win the Wichita Country Club Charleston contest for the fifth consecutive year.
1972 - Without Roger and Pete to abuse anymore Ken Cosgrove realizes the Dow job sucks, quits it, then writes 4 NYT bestsellers.
1976 - Henry Francis, Gerald Ford's campaign manager 1986 - On deathbed tells Roger Ailes that GOP needs their own TV news network
1977 Wichita Neighbor: "Hi Pete, your dog pooped in our yard." Pete Campbell: “The King ordered it!”
1977 - Meredith becomes the third Mrs. Jim Hobart.
1979 Daniel J Seigel wins Oscar for his remake of THE MAN IN THE GREY FLANNEL SUIT 1982 arrested w/John Delorean
1985 Bobby Draper is a college dropout doing stand-up comedy at the Laugh Factory on Sunset Blvd. 1989 staff writer on The Simpsons
1985 - An unemployed Duck Phillips provides inspiration to his nephew Bobby Moynihan to create a sketch called Drunk Uncle someday.
1985 - Pete Campbell gives Peggy Olsen, the CEO of The Olsen Group, a great deal on a Lear Jet.
1985 - McCann's Ted Chaough creates ad campaign for New Coke 1986 -retires from advertising. 1995 - Invents banners ads for internet
1987 - Dawn Chambers becomes first African American female COO of a FORTUNE 100 company.
1981 - Jim Hobart joins Reagan Administration. 1984 - Convicted for lying to a Congressional subcommittee.
1985 - Sally Draper invents Spanx, becomes a billionaire.
1981 - After producing the series HELLO LARRY, Harry Crane becomes President of NBC Broadcasting . 1992 - Picks Leno over Letterman
1975 - Dick Whitman invents The Pet Rock, becomes legendary direct marketing guru and creates first cable TV Infomercials.
2024.05.13 20:14 jaydee3839 Kobo Libra Colour with the Dell Active Pen PN579X Stylus
I bought the Kobo Libra Colour with the Notebook Sleepcover. To save on money, I found a new Dell Active Pen PN579X Stylus on ebay for $20.
Just came in the mail today. At first I thought there might be something wrong because it didn't seem to work, but then I looked at the manual and realized the Stylus had "AES" mode and "MPP" mode and was "AES" mode by default. Switched to MPP, and now it's working.
It's not exactly paper-like, but it doesn't feel bad or awkward at all to me. My handwriting is no worse or better than pen/paper. Slight delay, but not enough to bother me or negatively impact penmanship. The handwriting convert to digital text is also better than I expected. I write with a print/cursive mix and it's picked up everything.
The big question I had was whether or not the Dell stylus pen would fit and magnetically attach to the stylus slot in Kobo Notebook SleepCover. It does not on either account. It does not stick magnetically and it's slightly too big. It will sit in the rounded slot ok, but with it nestled there, the cover doesn't close flat -- the edge of the fap sits up about 2 inches above the edge where it should be flush.
Hope this information serves useful and let me know if you have any questions.
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Just came in the mail today. At first I thought there might be something wrong because it didn't seem to work, but then I looked at the manual and realized the Stylus had "AES" mode and "MPP" mode and was "AES" mode by default. Switched to MPP, and now it's working.
It's not exactly paper-like, but it doesn't feel bad or awkward at all to me. My handwriting is no worse or better than pen/paper. Slight delay, but not enough to bother me or negatively impact penmanship. The handwriting convert to digital text is also better than I expected. I write with a print/cursive mix and it's picked up everything.
The big question I had was whether or not the Dell stylus pen would fit and magnetically attach to the stylus slot in Kobo Notebook SleepCover. It does not on either account. It does not stick magnetically and it's slightly too big. It will sit in the rounded slot ok, but with it nestled there, the cover doesn't close flat -- the edge of the fap sits up about 2 inches above the edge where it should be flush.
Hope this information serves useful and let me know if you have any questions.
2024.05.13 19:09 yelpvinegar Create A Sock Funnel To Sell Your Freelance Services
One store that always surprises me in malls and shopping centers is the funky sock store. They always seem to be empty, but I see them all over.
Anyways, this article isn’t about selling actual socks.
The sock funnel is an idea I heard about a while ago from my favorite Twitter copywriter — George Ten. This isn’t a new idea. It’s a basic marketing funnel strategy.
Giving it a clever name helps you understand and remember it.
The beginner’s luck didn’t last.
A few months down the road I had zero clients and no Plan B. I was trying everything I knew and nothing worked. My foot was jammed on the gas pedal. The tires were spinning. My car wasn’t moving.
The big mistake?
I was trying to sell my services and no one was interested. I assumed that since I was providing a service that businesses need, I could simply tell them about it and they’d hire me.
That’s not how the world works.
99% of your potential customers aren’t ready to buy right now. And they don’t trust you — a stranger on the internet. It’s a quick and easy “No” for them.
That’s why you need to build a sock funnel.
How do you grab attention?
You need to uncover the value that’s within you — hiding in your brain. You have some insight or knowledge that your potential customers don’t have. You wouldn’t be freelancing if you didn’t. The challenge is usually discovering what that is, because you think it’s not valuable. It’s common for you.
A friend messaged me on LinkedIn the other day. They have a website for their local service business and didn’t know how to get SEO traffic.
I looked at the site and within 5 minutes I had a list of 10 simple things they could do.
That stuff is common and uninteresting in my mind, but extremely valuable and helpful for my friend.
Here are some great question to ask:
Unless they’re actively searching to hire a freelancer like yourself, they have a current solution. They’re content with where they’re at. They need to become discontent before they hire you.
So, what would make them ditch their current solution?
Which one of your industry secrets would make them say, “Why didn’t they tell me about this??”
My car got a flat tire a few months ago.
I took it into the shop and found out that the other front tire was on it’s last leg and both needed to be replaced. That’s not surprising. What was surprising was that the mechanic told me the car was out of alignment, causing the tires to wear down faster than normal. He showed me the uneven wear on my tires.
He could’ve just sold me the new tires and got paid. The additional insight helped build trust. And if I had been going to a different shop — one that didn’t tell me about the alignment problem — I’d want to switch to the shop that’s more helpful.
When I started freelancing, I was providing SEO services.
One of the secrets I learned about was internal linking. Almost every website I worked on needed more internal links.
Imagine you’ve been working with an SEO agency and they weren’t adding internal links to your site. Then I share the secret about internal links with you. This simple will get you better results. You’d think about switching who you work with.
You’re going to package it up nicely as a free product and send it out into the world.
Start with one of these, but you’ll want to test a few of them to see what grabs the most attention. It’s very important to test this. Don’t assume you know what’ll work best.
A car mechanic might have something like:
See which one gets the most attention.
Some trial and error is required, but I promise it’ll work.
And once you know what grabs the most attention, you can create your first pair of socks. No, not actual socks. You’ll create a low-ticket product around the same topic.
For example, the mechanic finds that the 7 simple things that keep cars running smoothly past 70,000 miles ad works the best. Their pair of socks can be:
Ideally, these low-ticket sales will cover the cost of ads you’re running, or be a nice bonus to your income. You also filtered out the leeches and tire kickers who will waste your time and never give you $1.
Now that they trust you enough to open their wallet, you can tell them about your main offer. I saw you found a nice pair of socks, we’ve also got suits for every occasion.
And if they’re still not ready? No problem. Keep selling them more socks.
We’ve got a drawer full of socks that you’ll love. You bought the red pair, but you probably need a black pair as well, and these green ones are trending. Socks are an easy yes.
What happens?
Every pair they buy makes them like and trust you more.
They start going to the mechanic for wiper blades, then new headlight bulbs, and oil change, etc. It’s only a matter of time before they need to get new tires and brakes, and that’ll be the first place they go to.
Selling more socks is the key to selling more suits.
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Anyways, this article isn’t about selling actual socks.
The sock funnel is an idea I heard about a while ago from my favorite Twitter copywriter — George Ten. This isn’t a new idea. It’s a basic marketing funnel strategy.
Giving it a clever name helps you understand and remember it.
The big mistake I made
I started freelancing almost exactly four years ago. My journey began with a bit of luck and I had my first four clients nearly overnight.The beginner’s luck didn’t last.
A few months down the road I had zero clients and no Plan B. I was trying everything I knew and nothing worked. My foot was jammed on the gas pedal. The tires were spinning. My car wasn’t moving.
The big mistake?
I was trying to sell my services and no one was interested. I assumed that since I was providing a service that businesses need, I could simply tell them about it and they’d hire me.
That’s not how the world works.
99% of your potential customers aren’t ready to buy right now. And they don’t trust you — a stranger on the internet. It’s a quick and easy “No” for them.
That’s why you need to build a sock funnel.
Uncover your potential
The first thing you need to do unlocks the potential for the rest of your funnel. The goal here is to grab your prospect’s attention.How do you grab attention?
You need to uncover the value that’s within you — hiding in your brain. You have some insight or knowledge that your potential customers don’t have. You wouldn’t be freelancing if you didn’t. The challenge is usually discovering what that is, because you think it’s not valuable. It’s common for you.
A friend messaged me on LinkedIn the other day. They have a website for their local service business and didn’t know how to get SEO traffic.
I looked at the site and within 5 minutes I had a list of 10 simple things they could do.
That stuff is common and uninteresting in my mind, but extremely valuable and helpful for my friend.
Here are some great question to ask:
- What info always surprises clients when they work with me?
- What am I surprised that my clients never do or always miss?
Why would that make them switch?
Now, you need to make sure that your industry secrets are things your potential clients care about.Unless they’re actively searching to hire a freelancer like yourself, they have a current solution. They’re content with where they’re at. They need to become discontent before they hire you.
So, what would make them ditch their current solution?
Which one of your industry secrets would make them say, “Why didn’t they tell me about this??”
My car got a flat tire a few months ago.
I took it into the shop and found out that the other front tire was on it’s last leg and both needed to be replaced. That’s not surprising. What was surprising was that the mechanic told me the car was out of alignment, causing the tires to wear down faster than normal. He showed me the uneven wear on my tires.
He could’ve just sold me the new tires and got paid. The additional insight helped build trust. And if I had been going to a different shop — one that didn’t tell me about the alignment problem — I’d want to switch to the shop that’s more helpful.
When I started freelancing, I was providing SEO services.
One of the secrets I learned about was internal linking. Almost every website I worked on needed more internal links.
Imagine you’ve been working with an SEO agency and they weren’t adding internal links to your site. Then I share the secret about internal links with you. This simple will get you better results. You’d think about switching who you work with.
Free info
Think about whatever that is for your niche.You’re going to package it up nicely as a free product and send it out into the world.
Start with one of these, but you’ll want to test a few of them to see what grabs the most attention. It’s very important to test this. Don’t assume you know what’ll work best.
A car mechanic might have something like:
or
My internal link example could be:
It’s free, helpful information that other people aren’t telling them about. You position yourself as an expert, and you stop competing with everyone else who’s trying to sell their services.
Sell the socks
So, now you create a few variations of the free info. Run Facebook ads, publish an article on Medium, make a YouTube video.See which one gets the most attention.
Some trial and error is required, but I promise it’ll work.
And once you know what grabs the most attention, you can create your first pair of socks. No, not actual socks. You’ll create a low-ticket product around the same topic.
For example, the mechanic finds that the 7 simple things that keep cars running smoothly past 70,000 miles ad works the best. Their pair of socks can be:
The SEO can create a guide:
Perfect. Now they’re a paying customer.
Ideally, these low-ticket sales will cover the cost of ads you’re running, or be a nice bonus to your income. You also filtered out the leeches and tire kickers who will waste your time and never give you $1.
Now that they trust you enough to open their wallet, you can tell them about your main offer. I saw you found a nice pair of socks, we’ve also got suits for every occasion.
And if they’re still not ready? No problem. Keep selling them more socks.
We’ve got a drawer full of socks that you’ll love. You bought the red pair, but you probably need a black pair as well, and these green ones are trending. Socks are an easy yes.
What happens?
Every pair they buy makes them like and trust you more.
They start going to the mechanic for wiper blades, then new headlight bulbs, and oil change, etc. It’s only a matter of time before they need to get new tires and brakes, and that’ll be the first place they go to.
To give you a quick recap:
- Brainstorm the free insights you can share
- Find out what grabs attention
- Create low-ticket products
- Tell them about your main offer
- Repeat 🔄
Selling more socks is the key to selling more suits.
2024.05.13 18:53 StaleIncenseOldSweat Is it a bad idea to send a letter of apology to an Ex I haven't spoken to in 20 years?
I dated a wonderful woman from 17 to 25. We broke up and it was hard for me. She wanted kids and I wanted to finish a PhD beforehand. She didn't want to wait. She moved on very quickly and within 3 months was married and had a kid that year. I haven't spoken to her since we broke up.
Over the last 20 years I have realized some things about myself that I wish I could have made more clear to her. I know she felt that I was too focused on my school and we had some conversations back then where I am sure I inadvertently made her feel like she wasn't a priority - which wasn't true but I'm positive my ability to communicate wasn't what it is now.
For a long time I have regretted how that ended and how I might have made her feel bad about her importance to me. I know she was a catch and that I screwed up.
Is it a bad idea to write her a letter to essentially say "I'm sorry for the part I played in all of that and I'm even more sorry for ever making you feel bad"?
I don't want anything from her. I'm not trying to win her back or have a negative impact on her life. She's reached out to me on Facebook years ago and I just didn't reply. I just couldn't. In no way am I trying to be manipulative or anything - I guess I just hit an age where I think "Christ, life is short and I wasn't perfect and I wish I could tell people 'I'm sorry.'"
Part of me just wonders if that's a terrible idea.
Set me straight if so, and thanks for your time.
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Over the last 20 years I have realized some things about myself that I wish I could have made more clear to her. I know she felt that I was too focused on my school and we had some conversations back then where I am sure I inadvertently made her feel like she wasn't a priority - which wasn't true but I'm positive my ability to communicate wasn't what it is now.
For a long time I have regretted how that ended and how I might have made her feel bad about her importance to me. I know she was a catch and that I screwed up.
Is it a bad idea to write her a letter to essentially say "I'm sorry for the part I played in all of that and I'm even more sorry for ever making you feel bad"?
I don't want anything from her. I'm not trying to win her back or have a negative impact on her life. She's reached out to me on Facebook years ago and I just didn't reply. I just couldn't. In no way am I trying to be manipulative or anything - I guess I just hit an age where I think "Christ, life is short and I wasn't perfect and I wish I could tell people 'I'm sorry.'"
Part of me just wonders if that's a terrible idea.
Set me straight if so, and thanks for your time.
2024.05.13 18:50 Qedhup Welcome new Cypher Players
With the Humble Bundle, there are a lot of new players that are likely to join in the community. So here's my welcome, and some things to know.
The system itself is HIGHLY customizable. Setting up a campaign is like getting a box of lego bricks, and building it up how you want. Do you want a free-form improv light narrative game that's entirely theatre of the mind? Easy! Done. Would you prefer it to be more tactical, crunchy, lethal, with precise measurements and gridded battlemaps? There are rules for that as well. There are options for every genre, with more coming out all the time. As of me writing this, MCG just had their kickstarter for both a Cyberpunk genre book, and a Weird West genre book.
Cypher also has some of the best mechanics I've ever seen in the form of GM and Player Intrusions. It's a tool that lets anyone at the table affect the scene, without it feeling "cheaty" or ruining the fact that it's a Game, with Rules. As a GM you never have to worry about encounter balance or anything, because you are given the tools to modify things as part of play.
And because of the fact that Cyphers are one-use character abilities, and even Artifacts often deplete. You rarely have to worry about giving out an item that permanently breaks the rest of the campaign. Everything is always refreshing and new in those areas.
As mentioned before you never have to worry about balancing encounters or anything. NPC's are also those same 1 to 10 difficulties, and due to GM Intrusions, you have a mechanic to make it easier or harder within the confines of the rules. Players don't have to worry about you having to "fudge rolls", or do anything that starts to remove the Game from Roleplaying Game. That is NEVER needed in this system. You will always have the tools you need to balance things as a GM.
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System Core Summary
The Cypher System is a Universal TTRPG that can be used for any style of game. It's written by a team of VERY experienced writers. People that worked for TSR, WotC, Paizo, etc.The system itself is HIGHLY customizable. Setting up a campaign is like getting a box of lego bricks, and building it up how you want. Do you want a free-form improv light narrative game that's entirely theatre of the mind? Easy! Done. Would you prefer it to be more tactical, crunchy, lethal, with precise measurements and gridded battlemaps? There are rules for that as well. There are options for every genre, with more coming out all the time. As of me writing this, MCG just had their kickstarter for both a Cyberpunk genre book, and a Weird West genre book.
Cypher also has some of the best mechanics I've ever seen in the form of GM and Player Intrusions. It's a tool that lets anyone at the table affect the scene, without it feeling "cheaty" or ruining the fact that it's a Game, with Rules. As a GM you never have to worry about encounter balance or anything, because you are given the tools to modify things as part of play.
Being a GM is EASY STREET!
I'd be hard pressed to find a system that's easier to run. The rolls are all player-facing, and as a GM you can focus almost entirely on managing the storyline and world. When it comes to conflicts, all you really need to know are how some of the rules basics work, and how to tell the players a difficulty from 1 to 10 (or 1 to 15 for super heroes).And because of the fact that Cyphers are one-use character abilities, and even Artifacts often deplete. You rarely have to worry about giving out an item that permanently breaks the rest of the campaign. Everything is always refreshing and new in those areas.
As mentioned before you never have to worry about balancing encounters or anything. NPC's are also those same 1 to 10 difficulties, and due to GM Intrusions, you have a mechanic to make it easier or harder within the confines of the rules. Players don't have to worry about you having to "fudge rolls", or do anything that starts to remove the Game from Roleplaying Game. That is NEVER needed in this system. You will always have the tools you need to balance things as a GM.
The Community
The Cypher System has one of the best TTRPG communities I've ever seen with the Cypher Unlimited community both on DISCORD and facebook. It's like 6k-7k members on the discord alone. Although not officially run by MonteCook Games, they work closely with MCG, and that's where the events happen like AMA's, Online Conventions, Give-Aways, etc. It's a very well run community I'd suggest checking out.Videos
I've got a complete video tutorial that walks you through the steps if you need it HERE. I've also got some examples of play in edited one-shots with players like BobWorldBuilder, NerdImmersion, TreantMonk, Indestructoboy, etc. HERE and HERE. If you've only played D&D 5e and want to know why Cypher may actually work out for you better, you can watch this video HERE.Open License
Monte Cook Games has not one, but two licenses to make products for the cypher system. One of them is a little more closed, but allows you to actually write content in some of their I.P.'s! The other is a very simple open license that let's you use the main rules not only from the core rulebook, but all of their genre books as well (which they add as soon as they are published). the open license (CSOL), has all of the main rules content from those books, although things like advice, lore, world settings, etc.. you still need to buy the books for. But if you just need the main mechanics, you can use the SRD for quick reference. This also means there are a bunch of established third party creators to check out.Online Support
Monte Cook Games has a launched a growing number of Online tools. From an NPC/Bestiary reference area, to a full on Character Builder that let's you make, organize, and export to PDF or even some Virtual Table Tops. Speaking of VTT's, there is strong support for both Roll20 and Foundry, with soon-to-exist support in other platforms like Alchemy. FoundryVTT is my personal favourite. It's been crafted well enough that you can run it perfectly fine with zero mods of any kind. Although with the addition of just a few content mods you could have the entirety of the SRD contents as drag-and-drop supported in your game. So if you live in the digital world, MCG has you covered there as well.Any Other Input?
If any of the other regulars around here have any input, feel free to add more things for new players to know.2024.05.13 18:40 AzerothSutekh I've been trying to learn Old Roman Cursive, but each source seems to conflict on almost every letter. What should I do?
So, I've been trying to learn how to write in Old Roman Cursive, but there seems to be many different ways to write each letter, and the sources I've been using seem to conflict on almost all of them (A is the only letter that seems to actually stay the same throughout all of them). The sources I've been using are:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXWUL8ieBgE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQu2zKYdIWw
https://www.omniglot.com/writing/romancursive.htm
https://sites.dartmouth.edu/ancientbooks/2016/05/25/ancient-fonts-rustic-capitals-old-and-new-roman-cursive/
https://coriniummuseum.org/schools/resources/roman-writing/
https://www.detailedpedia.com/wiki-Roman_cursive (full image is on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roman_cursive )
I've also been using LLPSI to learn Latin, and the Epistula Magristrī chapter (as well as an image on p259 of some carving from Pompeii) has some Old Roman Cursive that I transcribed onto a notebook, so I have that as well to reference.
Anyway, the conflictions between all these sources has me wondering which I should rely on. The person on this 9 year old Reddit post said he used the the second link I provided, but the detailedpedia source and the first YouTube link both seem to use the same letters (the omniglot and dartmouth links also use the same letters), so that's two sources that actually agree... originally I was actually going to compare each letter with each source and use the form for the letter that the most sources used, but I don't want to accidentally mix dialects or something, and end up writing E's like I'm from Ostia while writing my P's like I'm from Pompeii, or anything like that.
Anyway, what do you guys think? How should I pick which source to rely on? Or is there other sources that are more accurate than these, that I should be looking at?
P.S. Some of the letters are even considered New Roman Cursive in some of the sources, but put under Old Roman Cursive for other sources, to make things even more confusing (e.g., the "New Roman Cursive" E in the coriniummuseum link and the third "Old Roman Cursive" E in the omniglot link are identical)
P.P.S. A couple of other sources I excluded, as I haven't actually looked into these two too deeply: https://www.reddit.com/latin/comments/f7wtc2/breakdown_of_the_cursive_used_in_ancient_roman/ https://www.reddit.com/latin/comments/ecgk4a/old_roman_cursive_variants/
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXWUL8ieBgE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQu2zKYdIWw
https://www.omniglot.com/writing/romancursive.htm
https://sites.dartmouth.edu/ancientbooks/2016/05/25/ancient-fonts-rustic-capitals-old-and-new-roman-cursive/
https://coriniummuseum.org/schools/resources/roman-writing/
https://www.detailedpedia.com/wiki-Roman_cursive (full image is on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roman_cursive )
I've also been using LLPSI to learn Latin, and the Epistula Magristrī chapter (as well as an image on p259 of some carving from Pompeii) has some Old Roman Cursive that I transcribed onto a notebook, so I have that as well to reference.
Anyway, the conflictions between all these sources has me wondering which I should rely on. The person on this 9 year old Reddit post said he used the the second link I provided, but the detailedpedia source and the first YouTube link both seem to use the same letters (the omniglot and dartmouth links also use the same letters), so that's two sources that actually agree... originally I was actually going to compare each letter with each source and use the form for the letter that the most sources used, but I don't want to accidentally mix dialects or something, and end up writing E's like I'm from Ostia while writing my P's like I'm from Pompeii, or anything like that.
Anyway, what do you guys think? How should I pick which source to rely on? Or is there other sources that are more accurate than these, that I should be looking at?
P.S. Some of the letters are even considered New Roman Cursive in some of the sources, but put under Old Roman Cursive for other sources, to make things even more confusing (e.g., the "New Roman Cursive" E in the coriniummuseum link and the third "Old Roman Cursive" E in the omniglot link are identical)
P.P.S. A couple of other sources I excluded, as I haven't actually looked into these two too deeply: https://www.reddit.com/latin/comments/f7wtc2/breakdown_of_the_cursive_used_in_ancient_roman/ https://www.reddit.com/latin/comments/ecgk4a/old_roman_cursive_variants/
2024.05.13 17:59 sohaibnori request to review my account
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2024.05.13 17:39 Educational_Milk4686 Me and my gf are having trouble and I need some help
Me and my GF are having a lot of trouble and I don’t know what to do
I need some advice
TLDR: My girlfriend thinks I cheated on her so she went ahead and threatened to cheat on me and I have no idea what to believe. She claims she didn’t but I don’t believe her and I tell her that I didn’t betray her but she doesn’t believe me. No idea what to do in this situation I love her so I don’t want to leave and I can see that she also loves me. She wants to fix this and so do I but I don’t know what to believe or what to do in this situation. I have never dealt with this before. She says we need to talk about it but we can never successfully do it because she becomes extremely irritated and also doesn’t believe anything I say.
She is 30Y F I am a 26Y M
I’m new to Reddit so i apologize if this is a long post. To start I am in a long distance relationship for about 5 months now. From the beginning I was trusting her but things kept happening like her disappearing for the whole night. We talk on WhatsApp a lot so I would send her a message and she would not respond for hours a lot of the time even though she’s online. honestly I’m extremely busy. I run my own moving company and I just started about 6 months ago so I am just getting used to it and when I say I am extremely busy I work from the morning until night. Every day seven days a week. Most of the time I don’t even eat throughout the day because I don’t have time to stop. I still set aside time to talk to her at night and during the day I am very responsive I even sneak my phone to text her back when I’m with clients. She however is not responsive and claims to be busy but I know for a fact she cannot be as busy as me. It’s very clear.
About 6 weeks ago she was ignoring me a lot. For 4-5 hours and she disappeared one night when I was getting out of work. And this happened several times. She said she was going to visit a girl friend of hers at her house but I noticed she was dressed up. It didn’t even register until after I closed the call with her because I was exhausted. She claims to have slept on her friends “couch”. Anyways a couple of days after that I was at work and worked 3 jobs and I was fasting as well so I was extremely thirsty and tired. My last client of the day was a woman. We were talking normally and she started hitting on me. I was already disgusting from work, uncomfortable, and I was upset because my gf was ignoring me pretty much all day. It was like this on and off for weeks. So I wasn’t shutting her down honestly I let her keep talking. But I didn’t say anything that showed I was interested or wanted anything to do with her.
She sent me a request on Instagram during the job and I didn’t accept it. My application has been having an issue so I told her that. I can go on safari and accept it if I want to but I said no I’m having an issue with Instagram. She then asked again so I felt bad and I accepted it but I never even went on her profile. We were in the middle of a job. And she had a 5flight walk up for unload. Her brother was also there at the unloading location.
I was not interested at all. I am very into my gf and I love her and I talked to her that same night for hours. The next morning it was chaos. She saw the woman on my Instagram and She accused me of cheating on her, said she will be with other people, just all bullshit. I was never interested in her and I don’t go on social media. I am physically exhausted every day. I don’t even have time for my gf but I make time. I haven’t seen my friends in months. I just sleep for a few hours work and talk to her So I surely don’t have time for someone else who I’m also not interested in. Apparently this girl is a call girl that works at a club. She told me she was a bartender. I didn’t see how bad her Instagram was until after the accusations. Very revealing photos and videos
Long story short several times I tried to fix it. She said disgusting things to me. Disgusting things she would do to get revenge. All for something I never did. She keeps saying I betrayed her. Despite all my pain and suffering I fixed it. Until one day my phone died while I was at work. I had an extremely hard time getting to my client because I was traveling blind and I could not find a charger, I didn’t have time to charge it and I had no idea how to travel through public transportation to this client and my partner also had a dead phone. She did not believe me when I finished the job found a charger and texted her. She called me a liar and told me to leave her alone. The next day she said I will not keep myself from having sex with someone else. I don’t want to be with you you betrayed me.
So I became angry honestly and I threatened to do something very bad. I couldn’t take it anymore because I was extremely angry. She started calling me tried to fix everything. We went back to normal. This is exhausting to even write so I’m sorry if there’s a lot to read. I understand if it’s annoying.
I started falling asleep early because my gf would try to call me late at night around 1am and my body would shut down at this point. So one day this happened and I called her in the morning. She was busy doing something so I was on Facebook looking at a post of me and my friend from 13 years ago. She said claimed I was looking at other girls… I don’t even like Facebook I go on it because I can unwind for a few minutes since I don’t go on Instagram.
This also led to an extremely bad fight between us. We’re at the point where we are fixing it and being affectionate but I cannot shake this feeling that she’s talking to other people and seeing other people. She claims she isn’t I don’t know what to think or do at this point. I don’t know what to believe and she keeps saying I betrayed her. Even until last night. She thinks I talk to this girl and slept with her. Despite all the proof I sent to her. I cannot shake this feeling that because she thinks I did something even though I didn’t she will still seek revenge.
What do I do? If she’s seeing other people regardless of this situation I don’t want her. Someone please give me some advice on this
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I need some advice
TLDR: My girlfriend thinks I cheated on her so she went ahead and threatened to cheat on me and I have no idea what to believe. She claims she didn’t but I don’t believe her and I tell her that I didn’t betray her but she doesn’t believe me. No idea what to do in this situation I love her so I don’t want to leave and I can see that she also loves me. She wants to fix this and so do I but I don’t know what to believe or what to do in this situation. I have never dealt with this before. She says we need to talk about it but we can never successfully do it because she becomes extremely irritated and also doesn’t believe anything I say.
She is 30Y F I am a 26Y M
I’m new to Reddit so i apologize if this is a long post. To start I am in a long distance relationship for about 5 months now. From the beginning I was trusting her but things kept happening like her disappearing for the whole night. We talk on WhatsApp a lot so I would send her a message and she would not respond for hours a lot of the time even though she’s online. honestly I’m extremely busy. I run my own moving company and I just started about 6 months ago so I am just getting used to it and when I say I am extremely busy I work from the morning until night. Every day seven days a week. Most of the time I don’t even eat throughout the day because I don’t have time to stop. I still set aside time to talk to her at night and during the day I am very responsive I even sneak my phone to text her back when I’m with clients. She however is not responsive and claims to be busy but I know for a fact she cannot be as busy as me. It’s very clear.
About 6 weeks ago she was ignoring me a lot. For 4-5 hours and she disappeared one night when I was getting out of work. And this happened several times. She said she was going to visit a girl friend of hers at her house but I noticed she was dressed up. It didn’t even register until after I closed the call with her because I was exhausted. She claims to have slept on her friends “couch”. Anyways a couple of days after that I was at work and worked 3 jobs and I was fasting as well so I was extremely thirsty and tired. My last client of the day was a woman. We were talking normally and she started hitting on me. I was already disgusting from work, uncomfortable, and I was upset because my gf was ignoring me pretty much all day. It was like this on and off for weeks. So I wasn’t shutting her down honestly I let her keep talking. But I didn’t say anything that showed I was interested or wanted anything to do with her.
She sent me a request on Instagram during the job and I didn’t accept it. My application has been having an issue so I told her that. I can go on safari and accept it if I want to but I said no I’m having an issue with Instagram. She then asked again so I felt bad and I accepted it but I never even went on her profile. We were in the middle of a job. And she had a 5flight walk up for unload. Her brother was also there at the unloading location.
I was not interested at all. I am very into my gf and I love her and I talked to her that same night for hours. The next morning it was chaos. She saw the woman on my Instagram and She accused me of cheating on her, said she will be with other people, just all bullshit. I was never interested in her and I don’t go on social media. I am physically exhausted every day. I don’t even have time for my gf but I make time. I haven’t seen my friends in months. I just sleep for a few hours work and talk to her So I surely don’t have time for someone else who I’m also not interested in. Apparently this girl is a call girl that works at a club. She told me she was a bartender. I didn’t see how bad her Instagram was until after the accusations. Very revealing photos and videos
Long story short several times I tried to fix it. She said disgusting things to me. Disgusting things she would do to get revenge. All for something I never did. She keeps saying I betrayed her. Despite all my pain and suffering I fixed it. Until one day my phone died while I was at work. I had an extremely hard time getting to my client because I was traveling blind and I could not find a charger, I didn’t have time to charge it and I had no idea how to travel through public transportation to this client and my partner also had a dead phone. She did not believe me when I finished the job found a charger and texted her. She called me a liar and told me to leave her alone. The next day she said I will not keep myself from having sex with someone else. I don’t want to be with you you betrayed me.
So I became angry honestly and I threatened to do something very bad. I couldn’t take it anymore because I was extremely angry. She started calling me tried to fix everything. We went back to normal. This is exhausting to even write so I’m sorry if there’s a lot to read. I understand if it’s annoying.
I started falling asleep early because my gf would try to call me late at night around 1am and my body would shut down at this point. So one day this happened and I called her in the morning. She was busy doing something so I was on Facebook looking at a post of me and my friend from 13 years ago. She said claimed I was looking at other girls… I don’t even like Facebook I go on it because I can unwind for a few minutes since I don’t go on Instagram.
This also led to an extremely bad fight between us. We’re at the point where we are fixing it and being affectionate but I cannot shake this feeling that she’s talking to other people and seeing other people. She claims she isn’t I don’t know what to think or do at this point. I don’t know what to believe and she keeps saying I betrayed her. Even until last night. She thinks I talk to this girl and slept with her. Despite all the proof I sent to her. I cannot shake this feeling that because she thinks I did something even though I didn’t she will still seek revenge.
What do I do? If she’s seeing other people regardless of this situation I don’t want her. Someone please give me some advice on this