Make money not excuses

I’m a current MechE sophomore who is interested in getting into the civil world as a project engineer. The perks sound great and it seems like a good job to have while I’m young to learn a lot, make good money to pay off debt, and get to travel across the country at different job sites. However, I’ve heard that project engineers have some of the lowest happiness scores when polled. I’m also worried this is a job I might not enjoy but get stuck with as my career for the rest of my life. Do any MechEs with experience in this realm have any advice for me? Anything is appreciated!

So a little bit of context I (17f) have a younger brother, (16m) who has always been the golden child. He would physically and mentally abuse me and my family, excluding my parents. In my parents eyes he is the perfect younger sibling, and I am the troubled child. My brother had a girlfriend named Nancy, my brothers name is Nick (made up names). They have been dating since they were both 14, Nancy is a beautiful girl, she is also very bright. This incident happened on Nancys birthday, Nancy didn’t have any family so our family kind of adopted her in. We were at her house, preparing to throw her a suprise birthday party. We were all sat in our places, waiting for Nancy and Nick to come to her home, Nick didn’t know about the party as he was bad at keeping secrets. They walked in through the front door, Nancy was in tears and she had a black eye. I was the first one to rush to Nancys side. She explained that Nick had punched her because she refused to get intimate with him, because they were out at a nice restaurant for lunch. I felt my blood BOIL. Nick was walked through the door about an hour later, my mother and father kept making excuses for Nick, saying that a mand pleasure is the woman’s responsibility. He walked in and I yelled at him angrily, explaing to him that I knew. Nick began yelling back, talking about how he was planning to break up with Nancy. Thats when I lost it, I started punching and kicking my brother, years of pent up abuse powering me on. Nancy was screaming at me to get off him, and my father was already on his way to drag me off of him. My mother comforted Nancy, my dad pulled me off of him, I had broken his nose and a few of his teeth fell out. A bit of content I am a trained boxer, I like working out aswell. I grabbed my car keys and drove off stranding my family to deal with him. A few hours later I got a text from my mother saying. “You are no longer a child of mine, violence is not acceptable in this house, and we will be pressing charges.” I blocked her number and just sobbed uncontrollably for hours. I just want to know if I went too far?

Currently and before, does it feel like the whole world is against you. Like snide remarks, strange looks, horrible coworkers who email you job listings to another state, coworkers who go out to eat without you. Family who blame you for everything. Parent will only love you if you buy them things, expensive things. Family who rationalize everything to the point of making excuses for your parent’s behavior. It’s never anyone else’s fault. You’re the one who did it wrong. You did everything wrong. You’re trapped at home because you’re a loser. You’re too ugly and fat for anyone to love you. You’re too weird. Oh and you’re too autistic to be taken seriously. Stop lying about things that actually happened to you. Stop lying about me telling you, to stop lying about you almost getting SA’d long ago.
It was only a pat on the shoulder the second time around.
Nobody ever apologizes.
It keeps happening again. Then you lose a friend group because they chose him over you.
Friends who care, but how much can you pull your heart out for them before they push you away. Where is the line I can’t cross. If I do then it’s my fault too.
Not everything is that serious, they say. You’re too sensitive. Grow thicker skin and deal with it.
Learn from your mistakes.
But I’m tired.

I’m 15 right now, and something that eats my heart away is that iam still a virgin. Not just a normal virgin. A incel turbo virgin. For a while now I’ve been wanting to lose my virginity so bad. I want to have sex so bad. Everyday at school I get so hard the whole class thinking about having sex and it eats my brain away because I cannot have sex and I will not be having it anytime soon. Because iam a shy incel that does not know how to talk to girls. Iam so horny I’m on different level. A while back I tried hiring a prostitute off instagram dms. I was so shaky while I was texting this girl. We were so close to meeting up and she sent me nudes and videos and photos and stuff. I told her I was underage and she said she was fine with it. I had to let her know. She was gonna drive around my area and we were gonna get a hotel to have sex in. I was gonna pay 100$ for 2 hours of sex. I was GENUINELY shaking so hard while getting ready to send the money. But before I sent it, I decided to reverse google image search one of the photos she sent me. Turns out it was a fucking scam. I was disappointed. Not because I almost got scammed. But because I didn’t get laid. If I was older and had a car I’d prolly have a better chance of finding a prostitute on the street. But unfortunately, I’m gonna have to wait a year or 2. The most wildest thing I’ve done was actually a few days ago. A few days ago I wanted to masterbate with a condom on, to make me feel as I was the one having sex. During lunch I snuck out of my school and went over to cvs and bought some latex lube condoms. I was gonna wait around midnight to masterbate with them on but I should’ve known my horniness got the best of me. I jerked off with the condom 1 hour after getting back from school. It actually felt like I was the one about to have sex. And it was my first time trying a condom. I still have 2 more. Iam very sad because I turn 16 in 14 days. (The 29th). And iam still no where near gonna lose my virginity, or have a girlfriend and it makes me sad and unmotivated. Me horniess is the reason I can’t do shit. Im just to horny thinking about having sex and I don’t know what to do or how to control it. And it’s only gonna get worse over time. I look at all the girls with good body’s full of lust and I can’t control it. I think I need help. What do I do?

I know it was your first relationship. At 28, you had already been through so much, having been on your own for 13 years. You were forced to grow up too fast, and had to prioritize yourself, building a life from nothing. I get it. It was your fierce independence that made me fall for you in the first place.
I always knew that trying to build a life with you was going to be a struggle. I thought it would be worth it, for both of us. You deserve to have someone in your corner, that always has your back. You shouldn’t have to be alone. I don’t know if you believed the same.
I think I gave up too much of myself for you. Was that my mistake or yours? Did you really ask for too much, or did I give too freely without expectation for anything in return? Maybe both. Probably more on me. I’m not perfect by a long shot.
Compromise. It really does all come down to that. I tried to show you its importance, but in the process I ended up being the only one willing to do it. Me getting to pick what movie we watched or getting to plan a date became something I only got to do on special occasions. You said you felt like you didn’t know me, but so many times in so many ways I offered up little pieces of me to you. I share myself by sharing the things I love with the people I love. But more and more towards the end, all you’d say was “no”. Ignoring any context. Ignoring those pieces of me.
I know you don’t like movies about kids. I know asking to watch Home Alone during Christmas was a big ask. But it was a tradition that I shared with my dad, who I lost just over a year before. I know you think that traditions are pointless, but it was important to me. My earliest memories are of that. I needed to continue on, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone. I needed you there, your support. It was such a small gesture I was asking of you, but all I got was “no”. Instead we watched a movie you picked: Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. A movie made by the exact same people that made Home Alone, and with even more kids.
We wanted to go to Ireland. Personally I’ve been wanting to go for years, but couldn’t because of my dad’s illness along with everything else going on. You knew that in the last 3 years I lost all of my grandparents, two uncles, my dad. I couldn’t risk going so far away for so long while everyone was sick. My mom saw me giving up the latter half of my 20s for my family, when she was hoping I would be enjoying life and seeing the world. That’s why she was happy to give us the money to have the trip of our dreams. I explained all of this to you while you were struggling to find a way to save for the trip. All my mom wanted in return was a single nice photo of us. That wasn’t even a requirement for the money. She just wanted to see me with the person that I love making our dreams come true. I know you hate having your picture taken. The only attention your dad ever gave you was when he wanted to test a new camera. It’s a trauma trigger. But I was only asking for one picture. You’d compromise for your friends, you’d compromise for your sister. You’d take pictures with them. Why wouldn’t you compromise for your partner, and the other most important person in your partners life? After a year, we have 3 pictures together, none of which are very good. I know that I was asking for a lot, but I felt so less important than everyone else in your life. Maybe you felt that as your partner, I was to be held to a higher standard? I honestly don’t know. All you said was “no”.
You admitted yourself I was so supportive. I always prioritized you. From always making your tea before mine, to giving you the better looking plate at dinner, to planting all of your favorite flowers in my garden. I always complemented you, how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how driven and independent you are. Your friend needed a ride to a 5k and someone to cheer them on? I was there. You needed someone to drive you around while your car was in the shop for 2 months? No problem. Accidentally overdrew your account again, and you couldn’t afford the late fees? Here’s $50. Need to move on short notice? I’m the guy tearing apart and moving your furniture. You have a migraine so bad you can’t eat? I’m bringing you pedialyte and sleeping on your couch, even though I didn’t actually get any sleep. I learned all your rituals so not to trigger your OCD. There are countless other examples. I never said no. I never complained. You rarely said so much as “thank you”.
The big one. The thing that ended us. You’re right, we did sit down like adults time and time again and talked things out. You said you needed me to anticipate your needs. You’d get overwhelmed, and couldn’t articulate what you needed from me. You couldn’t stand being asked what you needed. You just needed me to start helping. “Mental loads” and all that. I took that to heart. But I’m not perfect. Sometimes I’d miss the mark. Tried to support you, but in the wrong way. Even in my failures I showed effort, but you never seemed to see that. You only focused on how I failed.
We recognized that this was a problem caused by both of us. The communication wasn’t getting through. But I had already adapted to your communication style as much as I could. My exited, rambling, almost impulsive way of generating ideas became slow, methodical, thoughtful. I put intention behind everything so not to overwhelm you. I learned not to jump at the obvious solution.
Yes, we sat down like adults and talked things over time and time again. You told me what you needed from me, but I also told you what I needed from you. If I was missing the mark, please just guide me to what you needed. I’m not a mind reader. I did it for you all the time. You were honestly awful at anticipating my needs too. If I was venting, had a bad day, all you’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. So I had to show you how I needed support. I just needed you to do the same for me. “No”. Again.
One final time, I sent you words of support when you were having a bad day. It wasn’t enough, you wanted more. A phone call? For me to come over so you could vent in person? Did you actually want me to directly help for once? I don’t know. You never told me. Instead of guiding me to what you needed, you immediately shut down. Full silent treatment. I’ve been in abusive relationships where the silent treatment was welded as a weapon. I know you didn’t mean it in an abusive way, you were just overwhelmed again. But I never expected it from you. I didn’t see it for what it was. I only ever asked one thing from you to save us. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I wasn’t even asking you to put in effort on my behalf, it was for your benefit. I begged you time and time again for help. To communicate. Not to put it all on me, because I couldn’t do it on my own. But instead, you did the opposite.
You said that you felt like you were putting more effort into the relationship than I was. I’m sorry, but I can’t see that effort. I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I can’t. Maybe you mean you put effort into forgiving me every time I messed up? Maybe you mean that you were always planning dates, always picking what we watched, where we went, what we ate, what we drank? Again, mental loads and such. But I had things that I wanted to do and share with you that you always turned down. You only had to plan everything after my plans were rejected. It would have been more efficient for you to show love, patience, and compromise. Maybe we would have worked out then.
But then you left.

About 3 weeks ago my neighbor knocked on my door. He said he had come by several times but I never seemed to be home. I shared with him that I travel frequently for work. He came by to advise that he was going to be replacing the fence line we share, to make it 2 feet taller, as he felt we had no privacy as he could see into our yard since his house sits above ours in elevation. What he didn’t share is that he extended his back patio and that when he’s in his yard we can also see him. He also has a large birdcage on his patio with varying sizes of birds from parakeets to large doves and I’d estimate there are 20 or so birds which has draws rats. This is against our HOA rules but I have feared mentioning to the HOA as I just want to get along with everyone around me. I digress. I told him I’d be willing to share in the cost but would like to see a receipt. He stated that was nice and proceeded to ask if it was ok that people would be in my yard to replace the fence and he knew we had a dog so wanted to be sure that wouldn’t be a problem. He also said he’d have our side stained. Very nice exchange.
Fast forward he did bring the receipt and his phone number. I thanked him and told him I’d review it and be in touch. The total cost for approximately 12 feet of fence line came in at $2,900USD. Not all of the fence he installed is shared with me as some is shared with another neighbor but I’d say 80% we share.
So again, I travel frequently and happened to be on vacation today when I get a camera (Ring) alert that someone is at my front door. I see it is this neighbor BEATING on my door aggressively so I answer via my phone to communicate through the camera thinking something is wrong at my home. I say hello and he begins yelling saying why haven’t I contacted him? Why haven’t I paid him any money? He said he’s come over many, many times and I refuse to answer the door. (News to me). He was very aggressive in his gestures, pointing at the camera and saying to “Open up the door right now.” I told him I wasn’t home at the moment at which point he said I was or I couldn’t be speaking with him now. I explained again I wasn’t home and he replied (still yelling), “When will you be home?” I replied I wasn’t comfortable sharing that with him with the way he was behaving. I told him I was happy to provide some money towards the project but nobody had stained my side of the fence yet so I didn’t think the project was complete. He kept yelling saying I didn’t call him and what was he supposed to think about me. Now I’m angry at the entitlement. I told him that I had no obligation to provide him any money, that we had not signed any agreement and that I didn’t think the project was completed as nobody had stained my side of the fence (and we agreed at the beginning my gate to the backyard was unlocked and his contractor could come on property at any time without permission since I travel). He continued to yell and repeated himself. I told him to please get off my property or I was calling the police as he was making me very uncomfortable with his behavior and body language. He left.
AITAH? I didn’t ask for the fence to be replaced. I offered to help but didn’t expect the cost to be so high. I figured I’d give him $1k but honestly thought staining still had to take place. Could I have called him. I guess I could have but thought my gesture was just that, a gesture and not a requirement. I’ll still contribute but I’m a bit fearful to knock on his door after this exchange.

I'm looking to hear any experiences from people who've lived in Los Alamos and/or Santa Fe and worked at the lab. Especially if you have any insight on how rough the commute is on a standard 10/80 schedule. Seems like after all is said and done it's ~11 hours door to door from home and back if I live in SF.
I have very little time to decide if I want to pay $3k to live in Los Alamos/White Rock, or around half that in Santa Fe but have to deal with the commute or public transport. The money difference is enticing but I'm dreading a commute of almost 700 hours/year already. I can squeeze in the budget of $3k in Los Alamos but I'm so torn as to if I should just suck it up and go to SF.
I don't go out for nightlife things, so SF is not a sell for me in that sense, and I don't do outdoor activities so I'm really just coming for work at the lab. With that being the case I'm really leaning towards just paying the premium for a short commute. Anyone have any insights or experience in making this decision? And if so what would you recommend? Did you do either and regret it? Is there anything I'm missing, like cost of living being higher (other than rent of course) in SF?
Thanks in advance.

I come from a poor family, everything I do has to be done keeping money in mind. This has got so worse that whenever I study, I do so for its future monetary returns, instead of actually studying the subject. This makes me feel disconnected to subject, and if I think the subject will not help me in a profitable way, I lose all motivation to do it.
Like I thought of doing genomics as an online course, but as there is no jobs in that sector in my country, I dropped it midway, even though I found it interesting. And this affects everything, I dropped my hobbies so I can do a part time gig in that time, but too wasn't enough to pay rents lol. I just am not able to afford my hobbies or interests.

Before reading : This is gonna be a more in general post than any particular project related post. I am posting this here since this is where Pycraft Launcher was originally posted. More of a rant post about what happened to me so far and why I haven't been able to work on the project. Since a lot of people were messaging me in the dms about the project, I guess it's time y'all got to know the situation I'm in.
For context : look up "I created an open-source Minecraft launcher in this sub" (typing from phone so I couldn't post the link here my bad)
So back in 2022 I published what was the final release of Pycraft Launcher from my end, before other people made forks of it and picked up the slack and fixed my errors. I however stated that I will be making another better version of this launcher with many new features, fixes and what not. I went as far as designing a properly working prototype, with said features, (which is sadly lost to time since I switched computers to a better one and formatted my old system). However this is where things take a turn as I joined college (biggest mistake of my life) to pursue Btech in computer science.
The moment my classes started, life went to, well shit.
It was not long before I realised that my college and the board which governs it, is designed to make students fail so that they pay for for retests and paper rechecks. Couple that fact with the one that backlogs (the exams in which you were failed) don't really get cleared (you have a roughly 30% chance of passing), really really messed with my life in 2023 and continues to do so, so much so that I had to drop everything about my projects and work on getting myself out of this jam, but 3 semesters in, I have backlogs in all of them, the subjects in which I am not supposed to fail. Did a lot of research about this and found out that the board purposely does this ( there have been lots of protests and cases against it but to no avail).
Plus I got rejected by my crush but that's character development lol.
Add in the entrance of AI into all this and general panic/confusion/fear mongering took up a good chunk of my mind as well. And the general dread of not being able to make any money as well while my family struggles.
Right now I'm still studying for the current semester, don't know what I will do about the previous ones, don't know whether I'll be able to earn or not, but that's all in my head, I guess.
Regarding the launcher : I do intend to pick up where I left off, but only if I'm able to catch a break from this hellhole. Also I have other projects lined up, which I want to work on but that's from July most probably I guess. Keep an eye out in the PycraftLauncher sub from time to time in case I do manage to post a release of the new launcher.
Also about the current Pycraft launcher, if y'all want to go ahead and use it, you can, I don't know whether it will work with the current version or not, I made it in such a way that it is automatically able to scale with modern versions. But there are better forks of it so be sure to check them out as well.
And I don't like asking this of the readers of this post, but if any one of you can support me a bit a financially(by small donations or such) so that I can get back up on my feet and can allocate resources to work on my projects (mc launcher included), it would be really good. If anyone is interested, please DM me, as posting any such links might get me kicked off this sub.
That's it for now I guess. Take care everyone.

Hi, I'm interested to hear experiences people have had, and are currently having with Apex Trader Funding PA accounts. Specifically if they've been paid out ok, or if they've had any "unqualified trades" removed.
My issue is that Apex have a TON of extra rules on the PA accounts. They can seemingly deny us a payout for literally any reason they choose. Things like not "chasing the market" - what even is that? If it's going up, I'm going to buy! I trade price action, and if I think that going long is going to make me money, why wouldn't I buy?
I understand that they have to protect themselves from people throwing 10 contracts on the NQ and making $5000 on day 1, then flipping 1 contract on the MNQ for the next few days. That's fine, and is covered by the 30% consistency rule(although I'd prefer that to be 30% per trade, not per day).
What I don't like is the unnecessary threats of removing trades and funds from my account if I slip up and don't follow their rigid, draconian set of rules. They have rules about always using a stop loss, yet allow group trading on Tradovate, which does not allow bracket orders on group trades! It's literally the most requested feature on the Tradovate forum.
They have rules about not changing sizes. I change sizes depending on a few things, volatility, how sure I am about a trade, what my balance/drawdown is etc.
They have rules about having a clearly explainable system, yet I am a discretionary trader and use price action.
They have a no news trading rule, yet it doesn't state what news trading is. Is it a major economic release, and you have to be flat 1 minute before and after? 2 minutes before and after? It doesn't say!
There's a no dollar cost averaging rule, does that mean we can't scale? Scaling is essential for some people, and absolutely makes sense if the market is in a trading range, as your first entry may not be optimal if you tried to buy the bottom and it pulls back further, so why not add a second contract?
I could go on, but I think I've made my point. Trading is hard enough without these artificial rules being enforced. If I make money on my personal account, that's it, I have profit. I don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's money that I have made. All I need to focus on is trading and making profit. Yet with Apex, I would need to be thinking "does this trade meet their criteria, is my stop enough ticks away, have I waited long enough after news, how many contracts did I use yesterday" etc.
Thoughts?

I kid you not, my partner’s mom will come up with excuses to hang out with her son (just them) after learning him and I did something together. Essentially, if he and I were to go on a date or trip, she will (shortly after hearing about it) make an excuse to see him. For example, this past Sunday for Mother’s Day she told him that she didn’t want to do anything except watch him play (he plays in an adult league sport). While I was sitting there next to her, I told her about a cute date him and I went on last night. Fast forward to today, Tuesday, my partner tells me that him and his mom are meeting up after work for drinks as a Mother’s Day gift. Her idea, of course. Just a little background, my partner and I have been dating for about 1 year. We are happy in our relationship. We don’t live together but are about a 30 min drive from each other. His parents live about the same distance. I have a friendly relationship with his mom, but keep her at an arm’s length because of this and other reasons. What I’ve noticed about her is that she is the type of person who does nice things for the recognition, not because she wants to do it to be genuinely nice. (And that kind of disgusts me.) I will add that I am grateful to be dating a person who does care about his family.
So I’m hoping to learn some strategies I can use to be smarter in this situation in order to get a more healthy boundary/balance between him and his mom. I’m just honestly frustrated at this point because it doesn’t seem like it’s going to ever stop and I’m worried that it’s going to potentially get worse as him and I start to get more serious. Like, is she going to go on a trip with him after him and I get back from our honeymoon? Geez. I just want her to be happy for the both of us spending time with each other instead of getting jealous.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!

Bought the hype in early 2021 and went red candles for over 3 years. After WSB pretty much banned all the MOASS, dark pool and fake short-interest discussions, my smooth brain couldn't really get a hold on anything in the new threads, so I considered selling.
Then I considered to hold this bag to infinity to remind me, that WallStreet always wins in the end and it was ridicilous to actually believe, some random basement-dwellers could unite against the forces of evil.
The second reason was, even though all of this dream (power to the people, Hedgies r fckd, re-occupy WallStreet) seemed dead, there was no information around that DFV has ever sold. This was like the last glimpse of hope. But time went on.
Anyone else went back to DFV's GME YOLO updates with a nostalgic sadness?
Yeah you did.
I promised myself to never buy so called memestocks again. Two days ago, I bought another 5 shares.
Dont get me wrong: I'm living on welfare and have to sell some stuff to pay my rent this month (already too late) because of this 5 shares.
I'm in profit now, so I could easily sell all and walk away. Be one of these guys, that consider themselves oh so smart, daytrading the hype, making fast money.
You know what? Fuck that. I'm regarded enough to enter a sell limit of 1.000.000 €. so did I yesterday.
Maybe I'll lose everything again. Maybe MOASS will make everybody rich. Probably the government will bail out SHFs before that happens. Maybe the whole market is going to crash. Who knows?
All I know is this: We are writing history. We are actually here, right now. And it could become bigger than anyone of us. And I want to be a part of this, no matter my financial outcome. (Tendies still would be nice)
I close this with a quote from a movie, almost driving tears in my eyes. It's referencing the 60s hippie movement, but if you look closer: IT IS US! All of us, all of this. Let me just change a word or two:
"It seems like a lifetime, or at least a Main Era — the kind of peak that never comes again. WSB in early 2021 was a very special time and place to be a part of. Maybe it meant something. Maybe not, in the long run... but no explanation, no mix of words or music or memories can touch that sense of knowing that you were there and alive in that corner of time and the world. Whatever it meant...
There was madness in any direction, at any hour. You could strike sparks anywhere. There was a fantastic universal sense that whatever we were doing was right, that we were winning...
And that, I think, was the handle — that sense of inevitable victory over the forces of Old and Evil. Not in any mean or military sense; we didn't need that. Our energy would simply prevail. There was no point in selling — on our side or theirs. We had all the momentum; we were riding the crest of a high and beautiful wave...
So now, 3.5 years later, you can go up on a steep green candle and look up, and with the right kind of eyes you can almost see the MOASS — that place where the system finally broke, and rolled back.”
I want to see them bleed. Cant stop wont stop. Not selling. Fuck the SHFs! I love you guys.

I want to invest my money in something that won’t break down in 3 years. I see comments saying “yea this pre built Pc on this website is good for 2k” then I research that one and I see other comments saying “no that one is actually trash this one is better” then it’s repeated and the same shit all over again in vice versa. I work 5 days a week and I just don’t have time to build my own, I also lack the skills to do so and don’t want to fuck something up. This entire experience is pretty jarring and overwhelming because I want to make a commitment that’ll be worth it, and not end up wasting 2-3 grand that i worked so hard for. From the PC goats anything that’ll run Cyberpunk or Elden Ring without it lagging or crashing every 15 minutes could pretty much run anything within a budget of 3K with semi new hardware that’ll last. I’m growing tired of my PS5 and I just want to experience more

In 2024, which is the Year of the Dragon, the previous zodiac sign in the Chinese zodiac cycle is the Rabbit. If 2023 was your zodiac year, you may have encountered some obstacles. So, how will your fortune fare in 2024? Let's explore.
As a Chinese astrologer, I often receive inquiries from foreign friends about whether using the zodiac to predict fortune is accurate. I can tell you that there is indeed a correlation, but it cannot solely rely on the zodiac. Instead, it must be combined with individual natal charts. After all, there are only 12 zodiac signs, but everyone's destiny is different. What we can provide is guidance on how to navigate your own path. Everyone's starting point and foundation are different, and the choice of path and the difficulties encountered along the way also vary. Our Zi Wei Dou Shu (traditional Chinese astrology) can help you find the right path. If you are a jeep, you won't fear muddy roads, but if you're driving a sports car, even the most luxurious car won't be able to take you to your destination. Chinese astrology teaches you to drive the right vehicle on the right path, avoiding dangers along the way, and reaching your destination.
Now, let's focus on those born in the Year of the Rabbit. How might your fortune fare in 2024?
You may find your father particularly troublesome this year. Perhaps it's due to conflicting views that make him difficult to communicate with, very stubborn, or possibly due to financial issues that worsen your relationship. Conflicts between generations are common and normal, but this year may be especially troublesome for you. If you have historical issues with your father, please handle them with care. Feeling entangled is just a phenomenon, and the outcome depends on the individual's natal chart. If there are too many ominous stars, you should be cautious as it may be a major challenge for you this year. If auspicious stars accompany you, it may just be a minor issue. If you need a personal natal chart analysis, please contact us.
If it's not conflicts with your father, then you should be cautious, as it may be issues with your boss or superiors in the workplace. This could affect your career. When everyone has different standpoints, viewpoints will naturally differ. This year, pay attention to managing upwards in the workplace. If you offend your boss, your career life may not go smoothly this year. However, sometimes differing standpoints may not necessarily lead to bad outcomes; it may even create opportunities for you. As with the previous issue, the outcome depends on the individual's natal chart. If there are too many ominous stars, you should be cautious as it may be a major challenge for you this year. If auspicious stars accompany you, it may just be a minor issue. If you need a personal natal chart analysis, please contact us.
Another tricky aspect is that there's a greater chance of financial losses. The opportunity may arise due to the need to resolve conflicts at home or issues with superiors, resulting in financial losses. So, be mentally prepared. Some money needs to be spent, but whether it achieves the desired results can be judged by the auspicious and ominous stars in your natal chart. Feel free to contact us for assistance.
These are the main issues mentioned. If you want to know about other aspects such as your romantic relationships, relationships with siblings, or whether you can cooperate with friends, feel free to contact us for a personal natal chart consultation.
Some daily solutions include: 1. Maintain a healthy lifestyle. Although this year may be challenging for you, it won't be tumultuous, but it may feel like a constant ache. You'll need a strong body and mind to get through this period, and good health can assist you. 2. Stick to your principles. Hardships can wear down your will. Without a firm heart and principles, you may veer onto the wrong path, make mistakes, or even break the law, which could significantly impact your life. 3. Try to avoid wearing clothes in bright red. Generally, choose clothes in yellow hues to improve your mood. 4. Yellow is the lucky color for this year. You can choose to wear a yellow pixiu, which can help ward off evil and attract wealth, stabilizing your financial fortune. 5. A black pixiu can also help ward off office politics. 6. If you want to maintain relationships with family members, it's advisable to communicate gently.

I am 25F and I have wasted a lot of time. This is mostly a rant, but I really need some advice as well.
I live with my parents. I lived with them when I went to college and never moved out.
I have a BA in English. I graduated right after the pandemic when the job market was pretty weak. I tried to apply for some positions but most of them were very far (my parents live in a village. It takes around 2 hours to get to the city by public transport, 1 hour by car but I didn't have a car back then). And because my country and city are smaller, there weren't many remote options, especially for people who were just starting. So I settled for remote tutoring. I work 20 hours a week and I have a low average monthly income. I often feel tired from even 5 hours a day (one-on-one conversations are exhausting for me) and I'm scared/too lazy to take on more hours. It also means that for the past 4 years that I've been working, I didn't have any PTOs, benefits or any career movements. I'm not sure I can even call it a work experience.
I don't have any irl friends. I lost contact with my school and college friends as soon as I graduated, and as I work remotely and leave my house very rarely, I don't meet new people. If I do go out, it's usually with my mom and little sister. Partly because I really like them and theur company; mostly because I don't have other people to hang out with and I don't want to do it alone. The only friends I have are the ones I met online playing computer games.
I have never had even as much as a kiss. And I'm not unattractive, a few guys back in high school and college were interested. But I always got scared and became distant as soon as I could feel some interest from them. I am in an online relationship now, and at first I entertained the idea of actually meeting with him and maybe even living together, but now after almost a year I realize it's not something he wants to do. He's in a similar position (never dated before, doesn't have many friends offline etc) and when I said this relationship might not be for me, he got so sad. At this point I'm only with him because I don't want to make him sad.
I don't even have much money despite living with my parents and not paying rent. I spend it regularly on games and online shopping and now I have maybe enough to live for about 4 months, if I were to stop working.
And I really just waste a lot of time, by mindlessly scrolling social media. I used to read and watch a lot, and learn new things. I don't do that now.
And looking at everything, I realize that I'm the one who let things get this bad. I have financial support of my parents but I never did anything but be lazy and scared. I have a car now. I'm trying to learn programming but I keep seeing that the situation on the market is pretty bad, and my motivation often disappears for weeks. I'm afraid to act and I'm afraid to change. So how do I get my life together?

Alright, folks, gather around because I've got a bone to pick. I don't understand it. You've got these developers out here creating absolutely brilliant SaaS apps—gorgeous UI, seamless functionality, features that could make you weep with joy. And then... BAM! They decide to translate their app, and it's like watching a Picasso being turned into a kindergarten finger painting.
Either don't translate your app at all if it's already in English (which is fine, by the way), or if you're going to do it, for the love of all things tech, do it correctly. Because nothing says "I don't care about my product" like a poorly translated interface. It makes your app look like a cheap piece of junk. It's like buying a Rolex and realizing the "L" fell off.
Translation is not hard, people. Just don't use Google Translate unless you want your app to sound like a drunk robot. Just use DeepL. It does translations 10x better and is free as well. Why do you guys keep bothering with Google Translate? When it comes to German it literally translates "Let’s go" to "Lass uns gehen" which basically means "Let’s leave". Quite the opposite, huh?
Imagine this: You're on your shiny new app, ready to tackle the world, and then you hit a button that says "Submit your cow." Excuse me? I didn't realize I was on a farm simulator. Or the classic "Press the button for enter the next." Enter the next what? The next dimension? The next existential crisis? Who knows!
I mean, these developers have already done the hard part—coding, designing, testing, deploying. Yet they stumble at the finish line because they can't get the text right. It's like a chef creating a five-star dish and then dumping a can of spray cheese on top. All that hard work, ruined by something so simple.
So, dear SaaS developers, please, I'm begging you. Invest in proper translation tools. Your users will thank you, and your app won't look like it was translated by a toddler with a dictionary.
Oh, and if anyone has questions about German translations, hit me up. I'm so tired of seeing BS translations that make my eyes bleed. I'd be happy to help out and save the world from more translation disasters.

i’m not one to usually come on here and ramble about my problems, but i feel like i have no one else to hear the story. the only person who actively listens is my boyfriend, but obviously he’s gonna be biased since we’re together. (small trigger warning for mental health/being suicidal, and i’m sorry the post is so long.)
i (M21) had a friend we’ll call taylor (F25), who is a manager at a semi-popular clothing store. she was desperately hiring for shift leads in order to finally be able to fire someone who was also our mutual friend but turned out to be a bad person (but with the way the story is and how our relationship turned out, i’m starting to think she did nothing wrong.) i applied and was hired almost immediately. the first few ish months of the job were great, but i am autistic as well as a lot of mental health problems so i warned taylor i will need more time to learn things, and that there may be days i can’t do much, if anything at all. she said that was fine and she understood because she was also autistic.
about three months go by, and i’m starting to get autistic burnout BAD. it’s to the point i’m visibly suicidal to everyone around me, because i haven’t had a chance to take a breather and calm myself down for several weeks. i had a few days off in a row and was glad, because i could finally rest and have time to decompress. well, the store manager called me asking me to come in, then followed by taylor spam calling me 5+ times. not asking, TELLING me i have to come in. incase you don’t know how autistic burnout works, it’s like sensory overload but to the point you can’t physically get out of bed or your resting spot until your “battery” is recharged. your (at least for me) body does not let you do things you could normally do. it’s near impossible.
i knew that if i told taylor the truth and that i was having burnout/actively suicidal, she would just yell at me and tell me to work regardless (i’ve seen her do the same to other coworkers by this point.) so despite it being a shitty move, i lied and told her i was at the hospital with my boyfriend (M20) who was getting a scan on his legs. (i had to make it something urgent so that i wouldn’t be yelled at, and everyone already knows he’s disabled in his legs.) taylor still yelled at me through the phone and DEMANDED i got an uber to work since my bf was also usually my ride and we had just gotten paid the day before. i told her i had no money because of bills (that was the truth), and that i couldn’t go in even if i wanted to. she had a field day with this, calling me incompetent and slow/careless at my job despite me warning her previously that i would be.
i decided to let her anger cool down a few hours, then texted her a long paragraph about how i wanted to resolve this like adults and didn’t want to lose our friendship over something so stupid. she decided to keep yelling at me, threatening ing to cut my hours because “we’re supposed to be running the store together and i can’t give hours to people who refuse to work.” she also mentioned how she was currently in the office having recovered from fainting. i asked if she was okay and that she should go to the hospital if this really did happen, to which she flat out refused. (i’m not sure if she was even telling the truth here, since she lied about being autistic and doesn’t have a diagnosis nor did ANY research into the disability.) she called me a number of names and at this point i just got so overwhelmed i quit.
this leads into the losing multiple friends part. taylor is dating my long time friend of 7 years i’ll call george. taylor immediately went to george, calling me an awful person and saying i abandoned her when she needed me most. because of this, george stopped talking to me. (george has known taylor for 6ish months. he never said we weren’t friends anymore, but he’s cut all communication with me, refused to talk about the situation to me and muted me from seeing any of his social media posts.) now that i can’t talk to either of them, i’ve lost contact with about 4-5 of our mutual friends associated with george.
so am i the asshole in this story? can i do anything to gain my friends back? i genuinely did not want things to blow this out of proportion, but now i feel like i’m in the middle of some sort of high school drama.

Unfortunately yesterday I got in a lil accident in Los Angeles. I was waiting for a left hand turn in my truck down a small one lane street and saw a young adult pull up to the light on a personally owned e-scooter, came to a stop and turned around looking back. The light was green, so I took that as him waiting/not taking the light and continued my turn. As I crossed he hit the gas on his e-scooter and ran into the rear quarter panel of my truck damaging the front tire of his scooter. I was going about 10mph not speeding. I got out and made sure he was ok. He was fine took pics of the license plate and I gave him my phone number and said I’d pay for the scooter. We agreed and parted ways. Never gave him my name, address, insurance etc. just my number and the pic of the license plates.
Now his brother is texting me saying he’s not well he’s really bad they need to take him to the hospital and his finger and foot hurts. Sent me an inflated non itemized bill for the scooter at 1400$, when I went to the website the most expensive scooter on there is 800$ and 500$ the next one. I think they got two scooters with insurance and tryna make me pay for both of them by refusing to show the itemized receipt.
I get the feeling their gonna try and take me on a money run or threaten to sue and make a police report. What should I do if they try to pursue that route instead of me paying for the scooter? And can they file anything against me with the info they have? Number and license plate. No video footage. Just my word against his. I didn’t hit and run.

My dad’s parents hate everyone. I’m not like talking about the phrase everyone uses I mean they HATE everyone. Racist, homophobic, conservative, republican you name it. I’m open about being lesbian and I’m accepted by my immediate family. The things is, I can’t tell them or I’ll lose my trust fund. They’ll disown me. Ever since they abandoned their family for selfish reasons, I’ve had to visit them to keep the peace. I dad (without my permission) told them I got my first job at Walgreens. I ended up quitting because of my mental health and they don’t know. My mom said since I’m 18 I can decide whither I wanted to go or not. My dad on the other took the liberty to make the decision for me. I’m going to see them for breakfast tomorrow. Last time I saw them my dad’s dad said something transphobic and I couldn’t finish my lunch. Now, with all this shit going on it’s gonna be fucking awful. I feel like I have to go since I have (supposedly) huge money waiting for me when they die or when I turn 21. I’m so worried or scared idk I just feel like I’m about to have an anxiety attack thinking about what could happen.

So, which dating apps actually work as advertised?
It seems most of them simply dont give a hoot about their paying clients and are solely focused on making easy money.
And I'm not looking at the US markets/clients. I'm looking for quality apps that have PROPER international coverage, services, and satisfied users.
Fair, no empty promises "we are working on it" like Feeld for example. (I've been battling with their app and support since Feb. It's mid May, and their chatting interface is still not working on Android).
And it can be from the very vanilla through to very kinky platforms. The diverse types of people found everywhere is not in the control of the platforms, we as users need to filter out the stuff we want or don't want. However, the platforms should be functional as to allow proper, finegrained management by its clients. Paying or non-paying.
Any pointers AND the reasons why an App is considered good by you are welcomed.
Be detailed in what works and what doesn't for you, please.
Which features you find helpful, which features you find a drag.
What scares you what excites you on the platforms.
Yes, this is research aimed at getting people who are active on dating apps to help guide others to design and build something that's flexible, safe, work very well, multilingual, multicultural, and completely inclusive.
Most importantly let's find a way to get people to actually meet, put their devices down, and connect in person, in safe environments and actually get out and do stuff together they all have interests in!
People are getting so... disconnected.
Tech is great, when used for the intended purposes. Like a car, a tool, or phone surely it can be applied to do just and only that, safely?
All comments are valuable, positive or negative. Let's brainstorm this and see what you folks think, want and need as humans, not devices, numbers or neverending cash-fountains.
Thank you.

Hi everybody,
disclaimer: Nothing I say in this post is necessarily true, and in NO WAY, do I condone anyone following in my footsteps or referencing anything I say in this post to the FAA/AME... but with that being said:
New to this reddit, but Just wanted to make this post to any future pilots who are going through a similar situation to what I have, about Depression, Anxiety, antidepressants, Therapy Etc.
To start this off... If you are an aspiring pilot, wanting to eventually work in the airlines, corporate, military, or basically anything that makes money, you need an "FAA First Class Medical" This is a non-negotiable aspect of aviation, that any pilot you see had to earn, but also maintain every year.
If you are not aware yet, the FAA takes mental health issues very seriously and almost always tends to disqualify or defer pilots who have had, or continue to have these issues (Bipolar disorder, Depression, ADHD, Anxiety, etc)
My personal story is that I have always wanted to be a pilot, but never really thought to start my training until more recent years, which also happened to coincide with the beginning of my depression/anxiety diagnoses, for which I was medicated on a few different antidepressants (prozac, zoloft, wellbutrin) over the timespan of 1.5 years. During this time I was regularly visiting a psychiatrist for psychotherapy and a regular therapist, along with my pediatrician at the time (I was 16-18).
In regards to my diagnosis: In my own opinion, my depression was a result of my environmental and lifestyle issues, which resulted in my diagnosis later being classified as "adjustment disorder with anxiety." This is a factor that I believe helped me later on in this story.
WIth 100% honesty, I never had any suicidal intentions or any dangerous thoughts that would ever truly make me a liability in the cockpit, as I understand why the FAA is careful around people with this type of history, so I will say that if you are reading this, and you do fall under this category, I would highly recommend doing some introspection about your mental health, and if you deem yourself capable to hold the lives of potentially hundreds of people in your hands, as this can be serious issues down the road.
I would say I am definitely on the safer side of the world of mental health issues, as some of you may have much more serious conditions or history, like suicidal ideas, bipolar disorder, ADHD (depending on if you take medicine/are diagnosed). Unfortunately, The cases mentioned above are much harder to get past to earn your medical, and I would not be able to advise you in those situations, although I believe a "HIMS AME" is the person you would go to for help in that department.
Going back to my story, however...
After learning that being on antidepressants would not allow me to be a pilot, I realized that I had essentially made a grave mistake in getting medicated for a diagnosis that I was not even confident I had, and was extremely upset by this. That was the moment I started going online to find people who had been through similar situations, and the reason why I am now writing this post.
To clarify, I never personally felt as though the medication was doing anything for me, and always wanted to get off, but I was always at the mercy of my pyschiatrist's treatment plan, which basically required me to stay on medication for a certain period of time before getting off.
In NO way did I intend to intentially stop my use of medication, which is VERY dangerous, but I was out of the state for about a month while doing some volunteer work, and unintentionally forgot to take my medication in the morning, which I did not realize for about a week (IT WAS ONLY SAFE BECAUSE MY DOSAGE WAS VERY LOW, OTHERWISE IF YOU STOP USAGE OF MEDICATION SUDDENLY YOU CAN HAVE SERIOUS PERMANENT BODILY DAMAGE).
Because I was doing very good with my life and my mental health, I opted to stay off medication with accordance to my psychiatrist, and from there on out was smooth sailing as far as my mental state. I would see my psychiatrist once a month as a check up, and always reported my positive state of mind. About 7-8 months after that, this month, I decided to start my flight training, but more specifically my AME appointment.
I was already familiar with the process, which begins with you filling an AME form out on medexpress website, where you fill out all medical history. I will specify this one time and one time only:
DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT LYING TO THE FAA!!!!!!!
No matter how desperate you are, lying to the government will always hurt you in the end, and a potential career in aviation is not worth it if it is based on a single or possibly multiple lies.
After filling out the form truthfully, with all my medical history as mentioned in the above texts, I went to my appointment, and talking with the AME, who was quick to start asking me about my mental health history, for which I was ready to explain. I was also able to get a letter from my psychiatrist, mentioning that I was "adherent to my treatment plan"
After telling the AME EVERYTHING about my mental health struggles, history, etc. He decided that I was fit to earn my medical, pending a signature from my psychiatrist ensuring everything I said was truthful, which it was. Finally, after so much struggle, I was able to earn my first-class medical.
The point I want to get across with any of you who still stuck around to read all this, is that if you do disqualify for the medical, there is a reason for that, which you simply must accept in the name of safety of others.
for those of you who are in a similar position to me at any point in my journey, just know that If you stay honest with yourself, your doctor, and eventually the AME, you will definently have a path to earning your certificate, pending some potentiall obstacles.
There is a resource from the faa about medications allowed for pilots, though I never used it as a reference for myself, but definitely check it out if it applies to you in any way. If I missed anything please reply below and I will try my best to answer.