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Is it Common For Family and Friends to Abandon someone if they survive late stage diagnosis?
2024.05.15 07:40 SeekingtheTruth1115 Is it Common For Family and Friends to Abandon someone if they survive late stage diagnosis?
I was diagnosed stage 3 NSC Lung cancer almost four years ago (36 yo male). Family situation was/is My dad lives here in Ohio and so does my brother (34) . My sister (38) lives in Chicago. My mom lives in Florida it comes up here for the summers. I was always close with my family and coworkers before I was diagnosed. I had that overwhelming wave of support you get when everyone you know finds out your cancer. It was all phone calls, texts, and emails for the most part. My diagnosis wasn’t the best as the cancer had spread to my adrenal gland and lymph nodes. My dad really stepped up and he was my rock. I’m lucky I had him during that time. He drove me to chemo the first couple of treatments and sat in on the dr appointments as a second ear. I was going to be doing 5 rounds of chemo every three weeks and immunotherapy for 12. The chemo killed the tumor so they cut out the upper lobe of my right lung. Immunotherapy wasn’t great but I got through it.
I was incredibly happy that I survived it all and got back to work. However some things really bothered me such as my mom never came back home during my chemo. She came home for my lobectomy in November 2020 and visited me in the hospital and held my hand like I was her baby boy again when they removed all the breathing , catheters, and drainage tubes. When I got home I noticed phone calls and texts weren’t coming in. It also bothered me that my sister never came to see me and she’s about four hours away but not four days. My brother was in town and only came once during the year of treatment.
Another thing that bothered me is none of my coworkers would call or text during my time off. I really worried when I got a letter from my employer of ten years that I was terminated. It was a really tough time and I was on so much medication and my whole routine was sitting on the couch and watching YouTube. I slowly descended into a very dark place and became scared of going in public places because I thought people were staring at me because I looked so sickly and dying. My bank account was getting down to nothing and I asked for my old position back and luckily they hired me again. It was excruciatingly difficult physically and emotionally to sell cars that hot summer of 2021. I had heat stroke three months of being back and thought I was done. I was really sick and weak. I was miserable with so many things. When I did see my family I’m sure that attitude wore off and I soon was getting comments that I was too negative.
My kids mom hates me and was in cancer research and sent me this factoid sheet from the American Cancer Association that said my five year survival odds were 3%. She said I was wasting my time I had left. She fueled my fire to live just to prove her wrong but at this point my kid wanted me to die because he thought he’d get lots of life insurance money. Then I had to take custody unexpectedly of that same kid who wanted nothing to do with me. I was barely selling enough cars to keep my job and now had to take care of and raise a 13 year old with angst. That’s when my family truly disappeared and I think it’s because they’re worried my cancer would cone back then they’d have to care for my kid.
Fast forward to now and my son is reunited with his mom. His and my relationship has never been better after getting to spend 16 months living together. My health is I’m still alive obviously but my lungs are getting much weaker and my volume is shrinking and i also originally diagnosed late stage copd and have to take steroids to help me breathe. So my health is back on the downslope and my family is completely gone. My dad never calls or talks to me, and neither do my brother or sister. I see my mom once every couple of months when she’s home from Florida . We’ll go to Cracker Barrel and she’ll give me this half disgusted look and I get about 45 minutes of her time
I’m just sad that they’re gone but realized they’re kind of not the best family so I might be better. I truly believe they were looking at my custody and health situation as a hot potato so they all ran for the hills. Now with my breathing is getting more and more along with seizures it’s difficult and it’s real I’m going to die young and possibly soon. it’s really effecting my memory and stamina. I get confused and need naps. Its sometimes an insurmountable task for me to go greet a customer on the lot and begin the five hour process of selling a car and getting dirty looks from customers because I look like shit because well Ive been through some stuff. My sales are failing and they want me gone. I need health insurance and what little money I do make to support my son. Im worried all this financial, parental, and physical stress is going to bring back my cancer just because im stressed and just feel hopeless. I think of how I’ll die from COPD and how horrifying it seems to die that way. With my family gone and my coworkers wanting me gone I know it will be alone or at a state hospital with some hospice nurse I have no clue is. I don’t look for your pity but I’d like any advice you might have to how I can find solace in this lonely isolated place I’m trapped in. I’m angry at my family but I love them.I feel like I was supposed to die and even though I didn’t die then physically I died to them mentally. Maybe it’s too tough to watch someone you love struggle and know you’ll have to do it again
The only thing besides spending time with my son that really makes me happy is painting. During all of this I somehow found out I love to paint and since a June 2022 I’ve painted a couple of hundred paintings. Painting gives me hope.
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I was incredibly happy that I survived it all and got back to work. However some things really bothered me such as my mom never came back home during my chemo. She came home for my lobectomy in November 2020 and visited me in the hospital and held my hand like I was her baby boy again when they removed all the breathing , catheters, and drainage tubes. When I got home I noticed phone calls and texts weren’t coming in. It also bothered me that my sister never came to see me and she’s about four hours away but not four days. My brother was in town and only came once during the year of treatment.
Another thing that bothered me is none of my coworkers would call or text during my time off. I really worried when I got a letter from my employer of ten years that I was terminated. It was a really tough time and I was on so much medication and my whole routine was sitting on the couch and watching YouTube. I slowly descended into a very dark place and became scared of going in public places because I thought people were staring at me because I looked so sickly and dying. My bank account was getting down to nothing and I asked for my old position back and luckily they hired me again. It was excruciatingly difficult physically and emotionally to sell cars that hot summer of 2021. I had heat stroke three months of being back and thought I was done. I was really sick and weak. I was miserable with so many things. When I did see my family I’m sure that attitude wore off and I soon was getting comments that I was too negative.
My kids mom hates me and was in cancer research and sent me this factoid sheet from the American Cancer Association that said my five year survival odds were 3%. She said I was wasting my time I had left. She fueled my fire to live just to prove her wrong but at this point my kid wanted me to die because he thought he’d get lots of life insurance money. Then I had to take custody unexpectedly of that same kid who wanted nothing to do with me. I was barely selling enough cars to keep my job and now had to take care of and raise a 13 year old with angst. That’s when my family truly disappeared and I think it’s because they’re worried my cancer would cone back then they’d have to care for my kid.
Fast forward to now and my son is reunited with his mom. His and my relationship has never been better after getting to spend 16 months living together. My health is I’m still alive obviously but my lungs are getting much weaker and my volume is shrinking and i also originally diagnosed late stage copd and have to take steroids to help me breathe. So my health is back on the downslope and my family is completely gone. My dad never calls or talks to me, and neither do my brother or sister. I see my mom once every couple of months when she’s home from Florida . We’ll go to Cracker Barrel and she’ll give me this half disgusted look and I get about 45 minutes of her time
I’m just sad that they’re gone but realized they’re kind of not the best family so I might be better. I truly believe they were looking at my custody and health situation as a hot potato so they all ran for the hills. Now with my breathing is getting more and more along with seizures it’s difficult and it’s real I’m going to die young and possibly soon. it’s really effecting my memory and stamina. I get confused and need naps. Its sometimes an insurmountable task for me to go greet a customer on the lot and begin the five hour process of selling a car and getting dirty looks from customers because I look like shit because well Ive been through some stuff. My sales are failing and they want me gone. I need health insurance and what little money I do make to support my son. Im worried all this financial, parental, and physical stress is going to bring back my cancer just because im stressed and just feel hopeless. I think of how I’ll die from COPD and how horrifying it seems to die that way. With my family gone and my coworkers wanting me gone I know it will be alone or at a state hospital with some hospice nurse I have no clue is. I don’t look for your pity but I’d like any advice you might have to how I can find solace in this lonely isolated place I’m trapped in. I’m angry at my family but I love them.I feel like I was supposed to die and even though I didn’t die then physically I died to them mentally. Maybe it’s too tough to watch someone you love struggle and know you’ll have to do it again
The only thing besides spending time with my son that really makes me happy is painting. During all of this I somehow found out I love to paint and since a June 2022 I’ve painted a couple of hundred paintings. Painting gives me hope.
2024.05.15 07:33 Business_Bar6887 [PC - Console maybe?] [Around 2014-2018] run n gun pixel type shooter platformer game
Platform(s): on PC, can be downloaded on steam I presume
Genre: pixel, shooter, run n gun, platformer I'm guessing?, cyberpunk
Estimated year of release: around 2014-2018
Graphics/art style: pixelated, sort of a "chibi style" with elements of cyberpunk
Notable characters: main protagonist was some girl with short pink hair iirc and there was a boss which was a bunch of little guys piloting a car
Notable gameplay mechanics: the player would have two guns in their hands and they'd shoot one of or both of the guns depending on how long they've held their mouse down for, shooting where the cursor was.
Other details: the protagonist always did a cutesy little pose with a smile and a giggle whenever she beat a level with her hands up if I remember correctly.
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Genre: pixel, shooter, run n gun, platformer I'm guessing?, cyberpunk
Estimated year of release: around 2014-2018
Graphics/art style: pixelated, sort of a "chibi style" with elements of cyberpunk
Notable characters: main protagonist was some girl with short pink hair iirc and there was a boss which was a bunch of little guys piloting a car
Notable gameplay mechanics: the player would have two guns in their hands and they'd shoot one of or both of the guns depending on how long they've held their mouse down for, shooting where the cursor was.
Other details: the protagonist always did a cutesy little pose with a smile and a giggle whenever she beat a level with her hands up if I remember correctly.
2024.05.15 07:32 AffectionateMetal366 Anyone can me explain
 | Why i this blueprints can't used in my garage? several this cars i have already unlocked. (it's only for trade?, and nothing else?) submitted by AffectionateMetal366 to Asphalt9 [link] [comments] |
2024.05.15 07:18 priushotsauce is he creepy or am i crazy…
context im afab nonbinary- i met a trans man through a friend at our job at an event. i love meeting more gender expansive and queer friends so I was of course, kind! it was pretty short (maybe was in the same space for an hour) he leaves and asks for a few peoples IGs. he gets it, and he constantly likes and sends ig messages and says he wants to hang out because he likes my vibe and wants to be friends. he texts extremely persistently and if i don’t respond he still would triple text. then, I feel guilty and like maybe im not giving building community and a new friend a chance, so I tell him we can get coffee at work, luckily, a friend walks by and joins us. (leaving out a lot of extra context about his consistent texts and the things he said during this coffee hang but can add if needed) he talks about himself and his savior complex for 1.5 hours… I leave because I have an appointment and end up waiting at the train stop. he comes after 5 mins and offers to drive me bc i’m running late. the drive was 6 minutes, and he drove around the entire perimeter saying he knew where to go and I didn’t need my GPS on and it takes us 30 minutes and I’m late to my appointment… during the drive he asks if we can go on a date and i am SHOOK and literally cannot speak because I was not expecting that at all. i was 1) kind 2) AFRAID bc i was literally in his car and he was driving slow and the wrong way. i say I don’t catch feelings fast can we hang out without the context of a date l and he was fine with that. I think. he’s texted me 4 times since. I can’t shake how terrifying it was that he drove me around for that long just to ask me out but trap me in the car. I feel crazy for overreacting but I feel so depressed and sad that I let that happen to me and didn’t realize he was flirting and trying to get me alone. sigh. am i crazy / is this normal like what is the dating world like now ahhhhh!!! like idk if im valid for feeling scared and upset or if he was just trying to flirt and go on a date which I get is normal and people want to do that. Idk … please feel free to leave your opinions…
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2024.05.15 07:15 priushotsauce help.. was he creepy or am i crazy..
context im afab nonbinary- i met a trans man through a friend at our job at an event. i love meeting more gender expansive and queer friends so I was of course, kind! it was pretty short (maybe was in the same space for an hour) he leaves and asks for a few peoples IGs. he gets it, and he constantly likes and sends ig messages and says he wants to hang out because he likes my vibe and wants to be friends. he texts extremely persistently and if i don’t respond he still would triple text. then, I feel guilty and like maybe im not giving building community and a new friend a chance, so I tell him we can get coffee at work, luckily, a friend walks by and joins us. (leaving out a lot of extra context about his consistent texts and the things he said during this coffee hang but can add if needed) he talks about himself and his savior complex for 1.5 hours… I leave because I have an appointment and end up waiting at the train stop. he comes after 5 mins and offers to drive me bc i’m running late. the drive was 6 minutes, and he drove around the entire perimeter saying he knew where to go and I didn’t need my GPS on and it takes us 30 minutes and I’m late to my appointment… during the drive he asks if we can go on a date and i am SHOOK and literally cannot speak because I was not expecting that at all. i was 1) kind 2) AFRAID bc i was literally in his car and he was driving slow and the wrong way. i say I don’t catch feelings fast can we hang out without the context of a date l and he was fine with that. I think. he’s texted me 4 times since. I can’t shake how terrifying it was that he drove me around for that long just to ask me out but trap me in the car. I feel crazy for overreacting but I feel so depressed and sad that I let that happen to me and didn’t realize he was flirting and trying to get me alone. sigh. am i crazy / is this normal like what is the dating world like now ahhhhh!!! like idk if im valid for feeling scared and upset or if he was just trying to flirt and go on a date which I get is normal and people want to do that. Idk … please feel free to leave your opinions…
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2024.05.15 06:51 userno1515 to all baristas who keep sweet things on top of their machine, dont purge + wipe your wands, and hit your port with your tamp…
i am so concerned upon reading a recent post in here. to anyone who currently has honey, caramel, chocolate, etc. on top of their espresso machine; PLEASE make sure it is on/in a tray, cup, bowl, whatever is not going to trap heat from escaping and also big enough to catch when the tops blow off your ghira***** caramel bottles and run down the sides.
barista AND espresso machine technician speaking - be very careful with your expensive ass machines please please please. know what backflushing is, do it every close, and learn when and how to change your gaskets and screens. make sure EVERYONE is wiping and purging the steam wands EVERY TIME. the machines are literally just sweet little babies and they get treated so poorly. they are also ridiculously expensive :)
AND STOP USING YOUR TAMP TO HIT THE PORTAFILTER TO LEVEL THE GROUNDS. LOOK AT THE POOR PORTAFILTER. IT DID NOT HAVE THOSE MARKS BEFORE •••• you ••••
silly goofy rant aside, repairs for the long term damage these things cause is ridiculously expensive and slow. with no purging, boilers will get “skunked” from milk going up the steam wand and need a complete empty and clean to get the curdled milk out. steam wands will need to be taken apart and completely rebuilt. your portafilters are going to start marking the inside of your groupheads that will start leaking during shot pulls because they are not fitting as designed anymore.
if your coffee place owner is not behind daily backflushing find out the cost of a grouphead rebuild at a place near you and show them. or if they wont wipe the wand a boiler flush and steam wand rebuilds. a complete detailing. idk i just want you to protect these really cool things that are so precisely designed to move with the only intention to brew a really delicious moment to share, an opportunity to connect with someone and share energy and make someone’s day. and obvi save money (and give me time to refurbish some old really cool machines!)
gross work stories bc of things baristas and/or owners did time! and warning. ⚠️ the fried skeleton of a mouse jaw still stuck on a wire, feet stuck in chocolate originally on top of the machine, overheated, burst, melted and left for weeks inside a machine (which is why the mouse was residing in there) has happened. roaches inside 2/3rds of the automatic espresso machines. more than one client then put it in the freezer, which burst every valve, both boilers, most fittings and connections, plus my patience. a marzocco with no water flow from all 3 groups. the cause? no backflushing ever owning the machine, but one round of cafiza? chunks. pried the screen out with a knife and pliers and had to gut the gasket in chunks. baristas not purging the wand? whole machine smelling like curdled milk and not even being able to make espresso because it comes out smelling and “tasting” like bad milk. (in quotes bc i personally did not try it and say that.) steam wands not spraying, needing bent off with pliers, to find it won’t just spin off because there is rotten hardened milk all the way up the temperature probe blocking and pressing in and out of every possible place it could get to. i will make a separate post at some point about everything crazy and gross that has happened, but mainly just a straightforward guide on how to take care of your machine and the full bloopers of what happens when you don’t. i can add pics.
thank you. love u. good night.
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barista AND espresso machine technician speaking - be very careful with your expensive ass machines please please please. know what backflushing is, do it every close, and learn when and how to change your gaskets and screens. make sure EVERYONE is wiping and purging the steam wands EVERY TIME. the machines are literally just sweet little babies and they get treated so poorly. they are also ridiculously expensive :)
AND STOP USING YOUR TAMP TO HIT THE PORTAFILTER TO LEVEL THE GROUNDS. LOOK AT THE POOR PORTAFILTER. IT DID NOT HAVE THOSE MARKS BEFORE •••• you ••••
silly goofy rant aside, repairs for the long term damage these things cause is ridiculously expensive and slow. with no purging, boilers will get “skunked” from milk going up the steam wand and need a complete empty and clean to get the curdled milk out. steam wands will need to be taken apart and completely rebuilt. your portafilters are going to start marking the inside of your groupheads that will start leaking during shot pulls because they are not fitting as designed anymore.
if your coffee place owner is not behind daily backflushing find out the cost of a grouphead rebuild at a place near you and show them. or if they wont wipe the wand a boiler flush and steam wand rebuilds. a complete detailing. idk i just want you to protect these really cool things that are so precisely designed to move with the only intention to brew a really delicious moment to share, an opportunity to connect with someone and share energy and make someone’s day. and obvi save money (and give me time to refurbish some old really cool machines!)
gross work stories bc of things baristas and/or owners did time! and warning. ⚠️ the fried skeleton of a mouse jaw still stuck on a wire, feet stuck in chocolate originally on top of the machine, overheated, burst, melted and left for weeks inside a machine (which is why the mouse was residing in there) has happened. roaches inside 2/3rds of the automatic espresso machines. more than one client then put it in the freezer, which burst every valve, both boilers, most fittings and connections, plus my patience. a marzocco with no water flow from all 3 groups. the cause? no backflushing ever owning the machine, but one round of cafiza? chunks. pried the screen out with a knife and pliers and had to gut the gasket in chunks. baristas not purging the wand? whole machine smelling like curdled milk and not even being able to make espresso because it comes out smelling and “tasting” like bad milk. (in quotes bc i personally did not try it and say that.) steam wands not spraying, needing bent off with pliers, to find it won’t just spin off because there is rotten hardened milk all the way up the temperature probe blocking and pressing in and out of every possible place it could get to. i will make a separate post at some point about everything crazy and gross that has happened, but mainly just a straightforward guide on how to take care of your machine and the full bloopers of what happens when you don’t. i can add pics.
thank you. love u. good night.
2024.05.15 06:34 pastor_pilao Hiking Volcan Pacaya
I will be traveling to Guatemala the end of this month with my partner and hiking a volcano seems a nice experience. I am not interested in staying overnight and also not in an extreme hike lasting for 10 hours going through extreme climates. So, after reading a bit seems like the best bet would be Pacaya, that is a 3.5mile hike (I am not used to this elevation gain but at least this distance is easy for me), and also a short drive from Antigua.
The main problem I am facing is that I read I can only hike up the volcano with a local guide, and I can only find online tourist trap websites with expensive guided tours including transportation and alimentation.
I will have a rental car and can drive there and I would like the cheapest possible option for finding a tour to hike up the volcano. My partner is a native spanish speaker and I understand it so we don't need a english speaking guide, a spanish-only guide is fine, but how can I make sure I won't be unable to hike the volcano for the lack of a guide? Do they always have guides there at the visitor center or do I have to reserve one for the day somehow?
Also, am I really right in my choice of Pacaya or is there any other volcano in the area that is not a very extreme hike and would be a much better experience?
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The main problem I am facing is that I read I can only hike up the volcano with a local guide, and I can only find online tourist trap websites with expensive guided tours including transportation and alimentation.
I will have a rental car and can drive there and I would like the cheapest possible option for finding a tour to hike up the volcano. My partner is a native spanish speaker and I understand it so we don't need a english speaking guide, a spanish-only guide is fine, but how can I make sure I won't be unable to hike the volcano for the lack of a guide? Do they always have guides there at the visitor center or do I have to reserve one for the day somehow?
Also, am I really right in my choice of Pacaya or is there any other volcano in the area that is not a very extreme hike and would be a much better experience?
2024.05.15 05:53 SlimeSpree MEGA SIZED Rodem review (with many pics!)
 | Rodem Slime Shop submitted by SlimeSpree to Slime [link] [comments] 7.5oz for $12.99-19.50 Labels are now waterproof! Yaaay! 💪🏻 I was so excited to get into this giant package from one of my favourite stores, and one I really love to support as they deserve it! This was actually a couple of orders I placed over time and Rodem contacted me to ask me if I wanted to combine them which demonstrates their incredibly attentive customer service. Usually the customer needs to contact the store for this to happen. Included inside was powdered borax, a free gift slime for each order plus one more because it was a large order and they are generous. This exchange with Rodem got us chatting and then something very special transpired but I will post separately about that as I have to cram a lot of slime into this review and have limited space for images! I had to brew a cup of tea, sit down and take my time going through all of these to make sure I combined all the correct things! It helps a lot that they are all pictured on the enclosed invoice but it would be helpful if they were packaged together. That having been said, separating the heavy pots of slime from the clays is a good idea when the order is this big and heavy so I can't complain!
The clay was soooo very soft, moist and pleasant to squish into the base. After you take the base out the pot you are met with a little bit of “caramel” sauce on the bottom of the pie. It’s all very mouth watering. This was the perfect, massively inflatable snow fizz and I was so in love with it. It was super crunchy and had the expected abundance of ASMR fizzles. It was beautifully activated and in every way a perfect slime. Some may find snow fizz a bit pokey but this wasn’t bad at all, the inflation was very cushioning! https://preview.redd.it/wtbtvsydai0d1.jpg?width=1800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f0666d6916014f49d076dc2eb32c19490944c76f
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The base was soft, jiggly, super clicky and fluffy and the Styrofoam really satisfying to crush into it. I just couldn’t get over how spectacular the scent was, it was making me hungry! This slime was a slightly looser slay texture and needed a little bit of activator to aid in handleability but not much. It had a few nice medium pops in it but very little hold, which unfortunately isn’t to my taste but many people love that. I was tied over this slime as the scent was just divine but I prefer more holdable textures. That is a reflection on my personal tastes however, not the slime which was great! If you like jiggly slays you’ll fall in love with this. I may not be a slay person but there is no way this wasn't going be a keeper, it had just too good a scent and crushing the styrofoam is great fun! https://preview.redd.it/x9yw1riaci0d1.jpg?width=9009&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3f3ceaaf5020ef0116257b956ce3da686e84b61c
The base was quite loose and jiggly and called for a little bit of activator but very soft, chubby, quite matte and pleasant in the hands. This combined into a huge, soft, marshmallowy mound of slime with a lovely plush surface. Super stretchy and fun to fold for soft bubble pops and lovely soft sizzles. It was a little on the loose side for my personal tastes but slay lover will again adore this! It was a well made slime. https://preview.redd.it/d6t6p7llci0d1.jpg?width=5515&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fff18d675300332aa3e06239028d0de57701e0c1
The HUUUUUGE cheese clay came in a sealed package and was so soft and pleasant to squish. It became a ginormous, matte, sort of butter texture, which was both fairly holdable and yet exceedingly soft. It stuck to my play area a bit. It was quite a job to handle it on account of its size and a difficult texture to describe. It didn’t feel sticky at all on my play surface but stuck to my hands when I tried to pick it up and stretch it. When I pressed my hand into it on the surface it didn’t stick or feel sticky but if I picked it up to try and stretch it, it was very gooey and hard to shape. Activator didn’t seem to make that much of a difference. This was a texture unlike any other I’ve experienced. It’s one I’m a little lukewarm on but still enjoyed playing with for an unusual experience and worth it for the mega-sized clay cheese alone! https://preview.redd.it/0kgtacjfdi0d1.jpg?width=5846&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=075fb7676513e410ab1c2962e84c2cbec9cd13b7
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The scent was a relaxing and homely peachy perfume with notes of bubble bath and baby powder. The drizzle was good!! True cloud is a hard slime to make to spec and, in light of that, a lot of companies don’t really bother with it. I’m so happy Rodem did and did such a great job. It was very soft and plush with gorgeous blankety folds and I have everything crossed they make more of this texture soon. I have no idea what I’ll do with the delightful little rug other than treasure it forever! Haha! Even just looking at these photos as I type out the review I'm smiling again! I wish this slime was my dressing gown! haha!
This was a medium thickness, glossy texture which was very chewy and clicky. The foam pieces were quite hard and angular but crushable if you really go for it. This was a very novel floam texture which made a great change from the usual balls. This was exploding with fantastic crackles and pops, top tier sounds. I think the angular foam is even better for trapping air as this slime sounded like a tiny elephant stampeding in a bubble wrap factory! I got some big air pocket type bubbles from this one too! https://preview.redd.it/t6eh86yigi0d1.jpg?width=5986&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5954f9b63ef8b82f6b18c833abed2b45aa816ce0
The clay was again super soft and pleasant to squish into the nice, clicky base. This was a lovely, chubby, stretchy slime. It was a little on the thicker side and created satisfying farty bubble pops. C'est bon!
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https://preview.redd.it/2yfdnspdhi0d1.jpg?width=5788&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2498da365a7c185a377dd2a8b7bbf12c9b80e52e https://preview.redd.it/pt6a3kjbhi0d1.jpg?width=6051&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4e7081712ecf6916d69111bfd736883628f12a6b
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This is a moist, super clicky, jiggly slime with two large sponges in it that crush like jelly cubes. This is extremely bubbly and full of juicy wet crackles and high pitched big pops. You can create absolutely gargantuan air bubbles with this texture. If you, like me, don’t typically enjoy loose jiggly slimes, there is a damn good chance that you will enjoy this as I loved it! It was just so multifaceted with what it offered. First, you have the unusual scent which is pretty intriguing and different. Then you have the two giant cubes to crush which is always nice. Then you have the joy of the crackles, pops and loud clicks. Finally, you have the enormous bubbles! You just can’t not have fun with this! That bubble (slubble?) was bigger than me!!
This was exactly the texture and scent I fancied finishing on and quite by chance it was! I couldn’t find Rodem’s description for this one’s texture until later so I had no idea what to expect as I had forgotten, what a joy!!! This combined into a really lovely, soft sage green. This is another light, soft, squishy, chewy and chubby inflating texture that ends up airy and puffy. I absolutely loved it! Unfortunately that is one more image than I am able to embed on Reddit so please click here to see it! With Rodem, nothing is fully predictable and every texture brings with it a nice surprise. This is especially pleasing to experience when you place big orders. There is nothing more disappointing to me than buying a lot of slimes from a company just to discovered there is hardly any nuance between them and the experience is basically a rinse and repeat one, texturally identical and/or predictable. Rodem break the mold and throw in some very unusual elements and scents. Their themes are so well thought out and utterly charming and beautifully presented. They produce so many textures and master them, each one designed with so much love and attentiveness. I really adore this company and feel they work hard to bring joy and excellence to the slime community. Recently one of the more commercial slime companies was caught using Rodem’s brand as a key word on their google ads to steer business away from them and onto their own website which I thought was in very poor taste. It is however testament to the fact that they knew Rodem was a company slime enthusiasts were talking about. And so we should be! It is my pleasure and honour to continue supporting this wonderful company. I'm so excited to see what they come up with next! I loved pretty much every slime and the ones I didn’t were more so a personal taste thing than a quality control issue. There were a couple I found less handleable or with activation issues (Emmental and Sakura Sand) but that is pretty damn good going for an order this huge and the sand one was easily fixable. A well deserved 9.9/10 |
2024.05.15 05:48 scooby_sploog_snak 24 w pregnant and I HATE my job… should I quit?
TL;DR - I’m 24w pregnant and at my breaking point with my current job. Have a new job already but it won’t pay me for 2 months. My family thinks I’m stupid bc I want to quit right now. Would It be a bad decision?
First of all Ty for reading. I’m at a huge dilemma right now that is causing me extreme stress.
I (19F) am 24 weeks pregnant and a FTM. My fiancé (21M) and I have been together for 4 years, we own a house together, have decent paying jobs and have been living together for almost a year, about to be married in July, so we are pretty put together for our age. We also have everything in order for our son, if he was born tomorrow (which I obviously don’t hope for!) he’d have everything he could ever need for his first few months of life, including crib, car seat, clothes, diapers etc. I have been very excited for this pregnancy and also wanted to prove myself as a young mom so I made sure of this before I even hit trimester 3, plus with so many big events coming up, we had an early baby shower with a diaper raffle and everything.
So my problem is I’m working full time as a CNA to help with my half of the bills, and I absolutely HATE my job. Not only is the job itself grueling, but as I get farther along in my pregnancy it has become exhausting and every day is a mental battle. My job consists of constant bending over, lifting 300+ lb residents either in bed or into chairs, sitting on my knees (well really my butt bc of circulation issues) and being on my feet majority of the day. I could put up with it easier if I had any inclination of help throughout the day. Healthcare facilities are usually understaffed, but my building recently had a walk-out of literally 20 staff members, most of them CNAs, and it leaves the rest of us short handed pretty much every day. I have had several instances of asking nurses and MACs for help and they outright refuse or come up with stupid excuses why it’s not their job. Just yesterday I reported a nurse for walking out of the room when I pretty much TOLD her to help me because I couldn’t do cares on a specific individual myself, she walked out because I was “arguing” with her. I had a huge screaming match with my managers a couple of weeks ago basically threatening to sue them if they kept putting me on this one unit, which I am almost guaranteed to take on 20 patients by myself when I work there. They are so short staffed that they can’t even afford to fire me. My paychecks have been inconsistent for months starting back when they cut all of my hours, now half of the employees left they are constantly asking me to pick up extra shifts. I constantly say no because I can barely make myself go work my regular scheduled shifts. My paychecks continue to be inconsistent because of the amount of times I’ve called in. I just have stopped caring and the only reason I haven’t walked out yet is because I want to be responsible and I know I won’t get fired for missing work anyway.
I am BEYOND over it. I have been wanting to quit for weeks, but struggled to find another job that suited my wants and needs, as I DID NOT want to be a CNA anymore so I told myself I wouldn’t quit until I had something good lined up. It’s difficult to get hired while pregnant because most employers see it as a loss due to maternity leave and pay. The thing is, I actually did find another job and have already been hired and technically making money, I just won’t get paid until after I get my license which will take bout 2 months. It’s 100% commission based but the company has trades in the NYSE and I can make really good money there if I can get clients. I am ready to throw myself and my focus into this new career, and I’ve been looking for any excuse to leave my current job, I really don’t care if I’m not getting paid atm.
I talked to my fiancé, my parents, and my bsf about this and they all pretty much told me I’m stupid for thinking I can quit my current job right now. My fiancé is actually the most supportive out of all of them but he is scared about our finances and worries about how he’s going to pay the bills on his own. Mind you, he has $5000 in personal savings and our shared account that we put money in for our bills is about two months ahead of our monthly expenses, so it’s not like we don’t have ANY money at all. I definitely don’t want to drain our savings in the meantime, but with this new career I could potentially make more than I am currently making, meaning I could soon put way more into savings than I ever was since we moved in. My parents think I should wait until after the wedding to quit my job so I know I’ll have money for the expenses, however, we already paid for majority of the venue costs and they agreed to help us with the rest of the expenses like food, my dress etc (I am NOT getting an expensive dress, it’ll be $300 at most.) they act like I will be constantly asking them for money, which I haven’t done once since living on my own, or that I won’t be able take care of myself. My plans were to get my last paycheck from my current job and put it all towards our bills. We are also expecting one last rent payment from our roommates who are in the process of moving out. At worst we will only need to take a bit out of savings and I can’t allow myself any frivolous spending until I start making money again.
I just feel trapped and like nobody close to me understands what I’m going through. I cried for like an hour last night just thinking about having to go back to work, I just have no idea how I can keep this up for another two months. My self confidence in my ability to prosper in this new job is also deflated due to my family’s reaction. Pregnancy hormones aren’t helping … I thought I’d ask y’all bc ik my family is just worried about my financial security and doesn’t want anything bad to happen. I just want to message HR tonight and never go back.
BTW my current job doesn’t offer paid maternity leave so there’s no reason to wait for that.
Any thoughts?
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First of all Ty for reading. I’m at a huge dilemma right now that is causing me extreme stress.
I (19F) am 24 weeks pregnant and a FTM. My fiancé (21M) and I have been together for 4 years, we own a house together, have decent paying jobs and have been living together for almost a year, about to be married in July, so we are pretty put together for our age. We also have everything in order for our son, if he was born tomorrow (which I obviously don’t hope for!) he’d have everything he could ever need for his first few months of life, including crib, car seat, clothes, diapers etc. I have been very excited for this pregnancy and also wanted to prove myself as a young mom so I made sure of this before I even hit trimester 3, plus with so many big events coming up, we had an early baby shower with a diaper raffle and everything.
So my problem is I’m working full time as a CNA to help with my half of the bills, and I absolutely HATE my job. Not only is the job itself grueling, but as I get farther along in my pregnancy it has become exhausting and every day is a mental battle. My job consists of constant bending over, lifting 300+ lb residents either in bed or into chairs, sitting on my knees (well really my butt bc of circulation issues) and being on my feet majority of the day. I could put up with it easier if I had any inclination of help throughout the day. Healthcare facilities are usually understaffed, but my building recently had a walk-out of literally 20 staff members, most of them CNAs, and it leaves the rest of us short handed pretty much every day. I have had several instances of asking nurses and MACs for help and they outright refuse or come up with stupid excuses why it’s not their job. Just yesterday I reported a nurse for walking out of the room when I pretty much TOLD her to help me because I couldn’t do cares on a specific individual myself, she walked out because I was “arguing” with her. I had a huge screaming match with my managers a couple of weeks ago basically threatening to sue them if they kept putting me on this one unit, which I am almost guaranteed to take on 20 patients by myself when I work there. They are so short staffed that they can’t even afford to fire me. My paychecks have been inconsistent for months starting back when they cut all of my hours, now half of the employees left they are constantly asking me to pick up extra shifts. I constantly say no because I can barely make myself go work my regular scheduled shifts. My paychecks continue to be inconsistent because of the amount of times I’ve called in. I just have stopped caring and the only reason I haven’t walked out yet is because I want to be responsible and I know I won’t get fired for missing work anyway.
I am BEYOND over it. I have been wanting to quit for weeks, but struggled to find another job that suited my wants and needs, as I DID NOT want to be a CNA anymore so I told myself I wouldn’t quit until I had something good lined up. It’s difficult to get hired while pregnant because most employers see it as a loss due to maternity leave and pay. The thing is, I actually did find another job and have already been hired and technically making money, I just won’t get paid until after I get my license which will take bout 2 months. It’s 100% commission based but the company has trades in the NYSE and I can make really good money there if I can get clients. I am ready to throw myself and my focus into this new career, and I’ve been looking for any excuse to leave my current job, I really don’t care if I’m not getting paid atm.
I talked to my fiancé, my parents, and my bsf about this and they all pretty much told me I’m stupid for thinking I can quit my current job right now. My fiancé is actually the most supportive out of all of them but he is scared about our finances and worries about how he’s going to pay the bills on his own. Mind you, he has $5000 in personal savings and our shared account that we put money in for our bills is about two months ahead of our monthly expenses, so it’s not like we don’t have ANY money at all. I definitely don’t want to drain our savings in the meantime, but with this new career I could potentially make more than I am currently making, meaning I could soon put way more into savings than I ever was since we moved in. My parents think I should wait until after the wedding to quit my job so I know I’ll have money for the expenses, however, we already paid for majority of the venue costs and they agreed to help us with the rest of the expenses like food, my dress etc (I am NOT getting an expensive dress, it’ll be $300 at most.) they act like I will be constantly asking them for money, which I haven’t done once since living on my own, or that I won’t be able take care of myself. My plans were to get my last paycheck from my current job and put it all towards our bills. We are also expecting one last rent payment from our roommates who are in the process of moving out. At worst we will only need to take a bit out of savings and I can’t allow myself any frivolous spending until I start making money again.
I just feel trapped and like nobody close to me understands what I’m going through. I cried for like an hour last night just thinking about having to go back to work, I just have no idea how I can keep this up for another two months. My self confidence in my ability to prosper in this new job is also deflated due to my family’s reaction. Pregnancy hormones aren’t helping … I thought I’d ask y’all bc ik my family is just worried about my financial security and doesn’t want anything bad to happen. I just want to message HR tonight and never go back.
BTW my current job doesn’t offer paid maternity leave so there’s no reason to wait for that.
Any thoughts?
2024.05.15 05:31 angel_of_satan I'm not strong enough for this
I haven't had a single pain free day in a year, nine months, and five days. I was hit by a car at 16, breaking my pelvis in three places- they didn't heal right and now I've had early onset arthritis since I was 17.
I don't know what to do anymore. Over the counter painkillers don't do anything, and my insurance is tied up. I haven't been on medication since three months after the accident, and I can't do this anymore.
I'm way past the end of my rope, it all hurts all the time. Not just my hips; my back, my neck, my knees, my head. Nothing is comfortable. Lying down is better than sitting and sitting is better than standing, but the pain never goes away.
I've lost everything. Graduation (too many days of school missed bc of pain), friends, my independence, my hobbies, my dreams for the future, my fucking dignity. I'm semi-incontinent now, and can't do anything anymore. I was so active. I genuinely thanked the universe for my able body every day, I was so grateful, I didn't need to learn a lesson, I don't understand why this had to happen to me.
All I want to do is sleep, but I can't even do that. I haven't gotten an uninterrupted night in weeks. I wake up every few hours in excruciating pain because staying on one position for too long (over an hour) hurts so bad, and the pain makes it hard to get to sleep in the first place, let alone fall back asleep after I wake up.
I can't barely even go for a drive anymore, the one hobby I have left that gets me out of the house, because it hurts to stay in the position for longer than 30 mins.
They said I would make a full recovery. "You're so young, you're bouncing back so fast, you'll be back to normal in six months," They said. It's only ever getting worse.
I'm trapped in this bed- trapped in this stupid, useless fucking body. I need out. I can't fucking do this anymore. I've lost my youth, my innocence, my optimism, my hope, my independence, my future I wanted so bad, my job- my mind. I've lost my mind. It hurts. It hurts so much. All the time. I can't. I can't I can't I can't.
My gf keeps telling me I'm so strong for pushing through, but I'm not doing anything. I lay here day in and day out, rotting away into a puddle of madness and pain. I'm not strong, I'm not strong enough for this.
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I don't know what to do anymore. Over the counter painkillers don't do anything, and my insurance is tied up. I haven't been on medication since three months after the accident, and I can't do this anymore.
I'm way past the end of my rope, it all hurts all the time. Not just my hips; my back, my neck, my knees, my head. Nothing is comfortable. Lying down is better than sitting and sitting is better than standing, but the pain never goes away.
I've lost everything. Graduation (too many days of school missed bc of pain), friends, my independence, my hobbies, my dreams for the future, my fucking dignity. I'm semi-incontinent now, and can't do anything anymore. I was so active. I genuinely thanked the universe for my able body every day, I was so grateful, I didn't need to learn a lesson, I don't understand why this had to happen to me.
All I want to do is sleep, but I can't even do that. I haven't gotten an uninterrupted night in weeks. I wake up every few hours in excruciating pain because staying on one position for too long (over an hour) hurts so bad, and the pain makes it hard to get to sleep in the first place, let alone fall back asleep after I wake up.
I can't barely even go for a drive anymore, the one hobby I have left that gets me out of the house, because it hurts to stay in the position for longer than 30 mins.
They said I would make a full recovery. "You're so young, you're bouncing back so fast, you'll be back to normal in six months," They said. It's only ever getting worse.
I'm trapped in this bed- trapped in this stupid, useless fucking body. I need out. I can't fucking do this anymore. I've lost my youth, my innocence, my optimism, my hope, my independence, my future I wanted so bad, my job- my mind. I've lost my mind. It hurts. It hurts so much. All the time. I can't. I can't I can't I can't.
My gf keeps telling me I'm so strong for pushing through, but I'm not doing anything. I lay here day in and day out, rotting away into a puddle of madness and pain. I'm not strong, I'm not strong enough for this.
2024.05.15 05:21 AnachronIst_13 Rescue: 1947 Cadillac “Topaz”
 | More detailed story posted on my blog: submitted by AnachronIst_13 to Cadillac [link] [comments] https://mlempert0.wixsite.com/anachronist/post/art-deco-mposition-the-incomplete-history-of-topaz Topaz is a 1947 Cadillac Series 62 Sedan with a 346ci flathead V8 (the block shared with the M24 military tank). The car was shipped to Africa by a film studio and left there. In the 1980s she was returned to the U.S. by a private citizen, and parked in 1987. In 2006 I drove passed a sad looking derelict Cadillac trapped behind a fence on the side of the road. (First pic). Every year for 10 years I stopped to visit and tell her she deserved better. In 2016, I purchased her for $2,500 after 29 years of neglect, mostly outside. On the drive home with the car on a trailer behind us, I named the car “Topaz” after the rare blue gem. In 2019, after over a year in the shop and after 32 years of stagnation, I drove Topaz onto the Motorama show floor under her own power, on her original suspension, and with the original body and interior. I (really, the car) won an award for an outstanding representation of a historical artifact - a full mechanical restoration to factory specs, but without any cosmetic work. The car presents exactly as I found her. I went back and took a picture of Topaz in front of the same fence I found her behind when I was only 16 (second pic). The iron heart beats again. We’ve gone 1,500 miles together since the restoration was completed. Machines Don’t Die. ~The AnachronIst (IG: @carchitekt) |
2024.05.15 05:14 Top-Eye377 for anyone struggling with mental health pt.2
pt.2
I thought It’d be fine but I kept procrastinating and it always built up and built up and built up and I didnt do it and that was the last straw when I started getting minor panic attacks. At first it wasnt bad and this was near the beginning of trhe year but next year it got BAD.
I had panic attacks just getting in the car to go to school. I was just lonely stressed depressed and felt trapped and it felt terrifying.
eventually our school counselor and my regular counselor helped find a place called a PHP program. only problem with that program is that it felt very awkward to me.
You see, not to get political or anything but I was raised conservative and thats how I believe I dont hold anything against liberal or woke people all our opinions are just the same but the way they handled stuff and I was raised was too much. Instead of me being able to worry about handling my anxiety I had to worry about being politically correct and pronouns all the time and if I messed up or anything I was a bad person. And I also have a relatively dark sense of humor which is very common for kids and people with trauma and stuff its just relatable and stuff and I make jokes around my friends abt ravism and stuff and sensitive topics bc its funny to us. We take all those things seriously in a serious context like if I heard a guy harrassing a kid bc of his race im givin him a piece of my mind (I like to speak instead of fight J often have a lot to say and love my voice being heard but yall have prolly figured that out by now lol) but anyways something as dumb as that got me to speak up and ask if it makes me a bad person and a woman literally said “If you make racist jokes doesn’t that make you racist?” which rlly got to me bc im not racist I just didnt realize that my dark humor abt stuff not just that but thats the prime example for this story but instead of getting over my anxiety I felt I always had to be hyper aware of everything I say and if I make one wrong move I’m some evil horrible human being. and I still feel like that now but not bc of that bc i learned that they just didnt get me and theres a time and place for that stuff. But in THERAPY which is supposed to be all abt talking abt ur problems and getting advice and venting I “overshared” even tho it was brutal it had to do with the convo and was something important to how i felt abt it. but away from school my anxiety subsided until I went back it flared up like hellfire. eventually I just failed all my classes, didnt work, dropped out of a play that I was more excited for than anything bc I was too anxious and all I got was pop some pills and youll be ok but eventually they realized “crud this cant keep happening” so they sent me off to a residential facility. basically its an in between of a psych ward and baccaraction but at first I HATED IT
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I thought It’d be fine but I kept procrastinating and it always built up and built up and built up and I didnt do it and that was the last straw when I started getting minor panic attacks. At first it wasnt bad and this was near the beginning of trhe year but next year it got BAD.
I had panic attacks just getting in the car to go to school. I was just lonely stressed depressed and felt trapped and it felt terrifying.
eventually our school counselor and my regular counselor helped find a place called a PHP program. only problem with that program is that it felt very awkward to me.
You see, not to get political or anything but I was raised conservative and thats how I believe I dont hold anything against liberal or woke people all our opinions are just the same but the way they handled stuff and I was raised was too much. Instead of me being able to worry about handling my anxiety I had to worry about being politically correct and pronouns all the time and if I messed up or anything I was a bad person. And I also have a relatively dark sense of humor which is very common for kids and people with trauma and stuff its just relatable and stuff and I make jokes around my friends abt ravism and stuff and sensitive topics bc its funny to us. We take all those things seriously in a serious context like if I heard a guy harrassing a kid bc of his race im givin him a piece of my mind (I like to speak instead of fight J often have a lot to say and love my voice being heard but yall have prolly figured that out by now lol) but anyways something as dumb as that got me to speak up and ask if it makes me a bad person and a woman literally said “If you make racist jokes doesn’t that make you racist?” which rlly got to me bc im not racist I just didnt realize that my dark humor abt stuff not just that but thats the prime example for this story but instead of getting over my anxiety I felt I always had to be hyper aware of everything I say and if I make one wrong move I’m some evil horrible human being. and I still feel like that now but not bc of that bc i learned that they just didnt get me and theres a time and place for that stuff. But in THERAPY which is supposed to be all abt talking abt ur problems and getting advice and venting I “overshared” even tho it was brutal it had to do with the convo and was something important to how i felt abt it. but away from school my anxiety subsided until I went back it flared up like hellfire. eventually I just failed all my classes, didnt work, dropped out of a play that I was more excited for than anything bc I was too anxious and all I got was pop some pills and youll be ok but eventually they realized “crud this cant keep happening” so they sent me off to a residential facility. basically its an in between of a psych ward and baccaraction but at first I HATED IT
- It aas scary I’d never been away from home so long especially with complete strangers and there were a lot of scary things too. 2. I finally got a gf two days earlier which gave me purpose but still hurt to have anxiety. 3. I cried at least twice, It was an amazing experience but at first b4 u realize when people go a bit wild they seem to be lunatics when ltr u realize they just cant handle their pain like u it just gets more violent for them. but I met a lotta great people but one in particular, we’ll call him tony. He was a staff member an old guy but in pretty decent shape. Super wise and nice but also real and had issues like everyone. He had a tattoo of the star of david I will never forget he said he had it bc the book of david changed his life. I started back into the bible more, reading a lotta proverbs, started following Jesus and try tk be a better person and follow hos will although I made a million mistakes but one time I got a horrible attack and I finally realized what was missing what wasnt working.
2024.05.15 05:07 Top-Eye377 To anyone struggling with mental health pt.1
ok ok ok ik this is gonna be a basic white kid story but I hope it helps some of ya’ll
so me m15 turning 16 in one week struggles with very severe anxiety, my dad was imprisoned and on parole since I was 2, I’ve lived with a single mother all my life, and have multiple mental disorders. These include adhd severe anxiety mild depression PTSD and undiagnosed (getting evaluated soon) autism and bipolar. I am currently a tenth grader and have grown up in church all my life. I got saved when I was five and always believed in God but mever truly trusted in him. well over time bc of the PTSD of my dad and mom one aspect of it is bc of my parents divorce and my loneliness I’ve struggled very badly with severe crushes that I can’t control bc I feel desperate to be in a relationship and have somebody to love who I won’t be afraid to leave me and romance is very serious to me It’s not just for fun to me I date to one day marry if I can bc i dont plan on it anytime soon at all but ik very well that any girl i date could end up being my wife and if she does I want it to be a good healthy relationship bc it isn’t likely but idk the future so who am I to tell. anyways, I had a bery bad experience with a girl who led me on and I fell deep in live with her a year ago but eventually she broke my heart. we are still friends and we have both matured and learned from that and i like her again as of now and am still struggling with accepting being single but shes a much better person than she was and was still very young then (1 year younger yhan me whoch is a lotta maturity at my age depending on the person) but after realizing I was living a lie the whole time feeling ok bc of all that thinking id finally have a girl (I’d broke. up with a girl after only two weeks due to circumstances neither of us wanted but still that already left a scar) and so I broke down into tears but soon went on a NYC trip on a plane for the first time. but secondly me and my dad have a very spontaneous relationship to say the least. He loves me more than anything ik that but we are both very stubborn and very firm in our very different beliefs and opinions. I wont get into all of that bc im not getting political or say anything that might be taken the wrong way or offensive but we argue a lot and he is a very manipulative person like me neither of us realize it half the time but we are both working on it but with him being my dad he automatically has more authority to overpower me and make me feel trapped. Along with that my parents fight A LOT well did over me and visitation and stuff so much that since I was in kindergarten I felt like they were providing for me but I was THEIR parents wich put so much pressure on me. so with all that combined all my life suppressing not even feeling it eventually it built up and after an amazing LIFE CHANGING trip to nyc last year after all thats happened and my mental instability, came one last thing. Makeup work
I thought It’d be fine but I kept procrastinating and it always built up and built up and built up and I didnt do it and that was the last straw when I started getting minor panic attacks. At first it wasnt bad and this was near the beginning of trhe year but next year it got BAD.
I had panic attacks just getting in the car to go to school. I was just lonely stressed depressed and felt trapped and it felt terrifying.
eventually our school counselor and my regular counselor helped find a place called a PHP program. only problem with that program is that it felt very awkward to me.
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so me m15 turning 16 in one week struggles with very severe anxiety, my dad was imprisoned and on parole since I was 2, I’ve lived with a single mother all my life, and have multiple mental disorders. These include adhd severe anxiety mild depression PTSD and undiagnosed (getting evaluated soon) autism and bipolar. I am currently a tenth grader and have grown up in church all my life. I got saved when I was five and always believed in God but mever truly trusted in him. well over time bc of the PTSD of my dad and mom one aspect of it is bc of my parents divorce and my loneliness I’ve struggled very badly with severe crushes that I can’t control bc I feel desperate to be in a relationship and have somebody to love who I won’t be afraid to leave me and romance is very serious to me It’s not just for fun to me I date to one day marry if I can bc i dont plan on it anytime soon at all but ik very well that any girl i date could end up being my wife and if she does I want it to be a good healthy relationship bc it isn’t likely but idk the future so who am I to tell. anyways, I had a bery bad experience with a girl who led me on and I fell deep in live with her a year ago but eventually she broke my heart. we are still friends and we have both matured and learned from that and i like her again as of now and am still struggling with accepting being single but shes a much better person than she was and was still very young then (1 year younger yhan me whoch is a lotta maturity at my age depending on the person) but after realizing I was living a lie the whole time feeling ok bc of all that thinking id finally have a girl (I’d broke. up with a girl after only two weeks due to circumstances neither of us wanted but still that already left a scar) and so I broke down into tears but soon went on a NYC trip on a plane for the first time. but secondly me and my dad have a very spontaneous relationship to say the least. He loves me more than anything ik that but we are both very stubborn and very firm in our very different beliefs and opinions. I wont get into all of that bc im not getting political or say anything that might be taken the wrong way or offensive but we argue a lot and he is a very manipulative person like me neither of us realize it half the time but we are both working on it but with him being my dad he automatically has more authority to overpower me and make me feel trapped. Along with that my parents fight A LOT well did over me and visitation and stuff so much that since I was in kindergarten I felt like they were providing for me but I was THEIR parents wich put so much pressure on me. so with all that combined all my life suppressing not even feeling it eventually it built up and after an amazing LIFE CHANGING trip to nyc last year after all thats happened and my mental instability, came one last thing. Makeup work
I thought It’d be fine but I kept procrastinating and it always built up and built up and built up and I didnt do it and that was the last straw when I started getting minor panic attacks. At first it wasnt bad and this was near the beginning of trhe year but next year it got BAD.
I had panic attacks just getting in the car to go to school. I was just lonely stressed depressed and felt trapped and it felt terrifying.
eventually our school counselor and my regular counselor helped find a place called a PHP program. only problem with that program is that it felt very awkward to me.
2024.05.15 04:52 PAEDwisco UWorld Averages before the PANCE
What were your UWorld averages before taking the PANCE? And how did you end up performing on the PANCE?
I take my exam in 2 weeks! Still have a long way to go with my question bank but so far I have 27% used with 62% correct (which is a little concerning, but hoping my score will improve as I continue doing practice exams).
How I have been studying: -Printed out the PANCE blueprint and making sure I cover all topics using either PPP or Osmosis videos -UWorld practice exams exclusively (trying to do 60-120 questions per day) -Cram the PANCE podcast on car rides (especially the high yield questions podcasts) -Will be taking both the NCCPA Form A&B practice exams (one this week and one next week)
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I take my exam in 2 weeks! Still have a long way to go with my question bank but so far I have 27% used with 62% correct (which is a little concerning, but hoping my score will improve as I continue doing practice exams).
How I have been studying: -Printed out the PANCE blueprint and making sure I cover all topics using either PPP or Osmosis videos -UWorld practice exams exclusively (trying to do 60-120 questions per day) -Cram the PANCE podcast on car rides (especially the high yield questions podcasts) -Will be taking both the NCCPA Form A&B practice exams (one this week and one next week)
2024.05.15 04:44 ineedsymphony Mouse Trapped Even Though Not Cheating?
i was playing when i randomly got moused trapped, i play on controller on ps5 i did nothing wrong and now i dont want to play because of the terrible input delay. Is thrre anything i can do?
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2024.05.15 04:29 EccentricSage81 usb4 type C worse than cheap usb ethernet lan landline1900s phones? (rj11/45/cat8e whatevs)
Ethernet has landline 1900s phones two pairs wires reserved in the spec sheet its 8 or so wires when crimping the ends uses like two with one for ground and one seemingly empty and then has two for phone and some unused, with old 10/100 baseT coax with terminating ends exactly like optical or coax 90s cable TV with optical fiber 99% of the way just your block has coax to the rest which uses the 'same'DOCSIS data over cable standards as fibre optic.. just slightly worse latency and bandwidth is calculated by latency things like wifi lan has like 11 channels or 15 channels of frequency which optical calls wavelengths of light. A 2015 or around there linus tech tips video of him going to a swedish lan party called dreamhack had a bunch of multiple redundant 8Terabit or was it bytes of fibre optic internet they explained with light having 7 colors but having 8terabytes of bandwidth with different wavelengths of light called frequencys or a better term for optics is known as LASER ARRAYS of light at fixed frequencys that often plugs into the PC via ethernet cables or whatever for a gamer lan party or home/residential or small businesses at realistically within budget of anything with enough users to require that bandwidth or 'web hosting or web servers' you dont need to be an undersea cable or international link with 200terabits plus for an internet exchange to your main CBD or the fastest like the netherlands IX...
So the problem im trying to solve is, here in australia we got our undersea cables done wrong they kept breaking and we didnt have a navy or defense force securing our countrys communications to prevent war crimes and keep us connected to the global banking systems or whatever.. and then when our biggest telcos cable or fibre all had dialup speeds for around 2 weeks in the early years 2000s to force us to pay other countrys to connect to their links and be ' end of the line' maybe paywalled or proxied off the internet randsomewared to connect to and borrow bandwidth from other countries satellites and other countries undersea link cables which truly were indestructible to any cruise liner ships anchors whatever being flexible giant steel braided cables big as a CAR when australia finally paid to lay small sections of that stuff to link up to others and not pay randsome to internet butt bandits or have private businesses and multi nationals run their own links and ignore the public our lack of a defense force actually let somalian pirates literally somehow pick up and walk off with our expensive undersea car sized cables filled with a few arms thick of hair thin fibre optics which is cheapest clear resin enamels plastics about $3 not sure if USD per kilometer and resembles modern glass/glazing. How does anybody steal that stuff without people noticing like you cant just load it onto a truck and drive away? or a boat? if only satellites and some sort of defense organization existed to prevent us from being impersonated or whatever.. So now in australia ANYTHING with words like gigabit costs a fortune for a mainboard or switch or ethernet hub.. but the ancient 1900s 10/100 telephone land line wires of ethernet 10/100 clock in at a whopping 13 or so mhz sometimes 27.. and 60 or more mhz for like gigabits and whatever it increases shockingly fast with each mhz clock cycle as its units of work over time in nano seconds or zeptoseconds you see billionths of a second nano second RAM and PC with windows realtime kernel actually uses like ryzen hardware negative latency faster than reality freely syncing with any device in the universe and fixed mhz frequency bus can drive like 50 to 100 or thousands of GPU's and HDDs and monitors or whatever from the one modern multicore PC or whatever.. 90s AMD business server still holds world records for most connected devices though it had stackable CPUs opteron and would have used infinity cache type stuff probably software 3dnow and evolving game worlds tech of 80s and 90s AMD gaming evolved advertising.
So in australia anything gigabits costs hundreds of dollars for a switch router some thousands for lots of ports.. but its the shittiest weakest bandwidth ever with mhz and performance miles short of a raspberry pie or whatever. I had to pay a fortune for a mainboard with 10gigabit LAN port and everytime i got a high speed LAN port its been broken or missing so some pricks can sell ebay routers or switches for thousands here.. not knowing why its so expensive is youre paying fortunes for any real bandwidth because australia has to pay literal somalian pirates for their internet connections or privately owned businesses like telstra for access to their private links and glares at countries like new zealand and hawaii for being super technologically superior.. a cheap USB ethernet adaptor costs under 10 bucks on ebay or whatever and is maybe gigabit and your switches and routers 90% of the time you want the cheapest UNMANAGED switch possible. Yet the mainboard i recently purchased ASUS pro art creator x670E i recall had an issue with some asshats trying to steal pathetic measly 40gigabit USB4 chips from all the boards at the computer store to sell on EBay as other junk, when anything in the universe with an M.2 ULTRA slot does 40gigabits since PCI express 3.0/4.0 as PCI express 3.0 SSD drives famously use a specific I/O controller chip which gives them 38gigabits of the ultra M.2 slots 40gigabits of bandwidth. But for a couple years when AMD had pci express 4.0 and better than M.2 ultra intel was playing catch up on PCI express 3.0 and still had regular m.2 in all their boards until AMD was ready for pci express 5.0 my friend on intel bought the same NVME drives and complained they had corruption errors or issues i later learned his board wasnt fast enough and he was maybe trying to use the samsung magician RAM disk and enable NVME features and functions intel maybe did not yet support.
So.. why is USB 4 so many years late and why is it so dang expensive when terabits of ethernet or anything optical is like the cheapest stuff ever and comes with every internet connection since the 90s at the lowest cheapest mhz and 1900s land line wire telephones ever, remember digital isnt a physical thing and everythings literally analog with a sensor or multimeter whatever mathematically translating it to a graph or algebra equation mapping it into different values digitally +10 -10 whatever using microphones or camera sensor whatever. the gigabits tax and uhh LAN port taxes for dumb gay australians being literally see it via satellite outerspace levels dumb and gay astrogaylian should not apply to the cheapest of raspberry pie free 3d print or laser CNC yourself something computery like risc V for the cheapest of USB flash drives or memory cards etc.
I get intel pretends to have invented court ordered USB to probe their hardware after it was proven to have used other peoples code and chips by the chip makers and them selling computers with keyboard and mouse hardwired in so you bought a whole new computer when a key broke on the keyboard couldnt replace them.. and every other device had USB but theirs didnt free open standard and it kinda being the only way to connect any device in the universe and freely sync with it (mics/phones whatever).
why is 1900s phone tech ethernet so dang expensive to go from 20mhz ranges to 80 or whatever mhz ranges or use something very similar to 90s optical audio SPDIF output or anything remotely like a laser in australia? and who would be dumb and gay enough to be so financially retarded as to think that USB 4 was expensive or special as to steal it? am i... missing something?
also before you complain, but ethernets not the same as USB you cant power over ethernet or use your houses electrical wires as ethernet. You also cant use ethernet for monitors or displays, and its not like you can extend HDMI range limit of a about 10 to 15 meters by swapping its ethernet wires with optical ones for it to maintain its HDMI 0 latency spec or type C USB 0 latency spec. USB lets you connect heaps of devices you cant do that with an internet or ethernet for things like keyboard and mice or monitors or whatever. I understand what you mean power over ethernet or PPOE standards suck theres no way those are a thing. using devices over the internet and not the intranet who does that? thats so dumb. remote administration, theres no such thing youre mistaking malware or rootkits im sure. you cant connect a heap of devices up or entire computers to a ethernet port thats the dumbest gayest thing i've ever heard in my entire life! My gaydar is going off and it looks like the wifi symbol.
when trying to use anything ethernet with lame awful bandwidth thats limited, on my AMD board where the website images show AMD ethernet lists as marvel yukon controller i cannot use as its maybe broken there no light on the back, in devices managers advanced tab you can see the send receive or transmit buffer sizes and countless other ethernet settings are MISSING or a blank space. and are limited to 128 on send and 256 on receive up to 4096 or whatever max. But low latency 128 or 256 is maybe best but not all are an option and most networking features on the intel LAN adapters are missing countless advanced ethernet properties and settings because they're fake and lousy and the worst latency ever and they literally seem to swap your windows kernel out with something not realtime so you cannot ever hope to record or playback audio or video or anything close to a video game in hopes of slowly selling it back to you. Linux distros did this too its the dumbest thing ever that to hear or record or playback or play games you must patch in a realtime kernel for free to game like its the 80s and 90s or DOS or whatever. most 90s PCs were CAS 1 or lower nanoseconds. DDR 3 1600mhz depending the maker might be CAS1-4 latency. How can we verify our kernels are correct? and our ethernet and I/O bandwidth is correct? the youtube video about linus tech tips dream hack lan party of gamers in sweden was edited and reuploaded by illiterate asshat buttpirates maybe from somalia or the ones randsoming us some of their internet connections as a proxy piggy back on the international links as we dont have a defense force or army or whatever and dont know what war crimes are or why they are or what the heck a bank is and sure as shit dont know the cost of anything cheap USB or LAN. The dreamhack linus video falsely shows as 6TERABIT. they wanna steal 2TERABITS of EVERY optical or ethernet devices which isnt the government doing it if they wanna see whats in your computer they can document their reasons of why which is what a warrant is they dont need one if they believe a crime is occuring and literally take the computer by law to inspect it then give it back when nothings wrong they leave you a claim ticket and have you document it at the nearest policing station or whatever fill out forms sign 'they are taking my PC and i can get it back when it wasnt used for crimes." when australia doesnt technically have an internet and doesnt technically have RAID arrays which is required to use USB or SSD or NVME or storage tech with no moving parts and multicore a 2TB SSD is twice as fast and often has 2x 1TB wafer chips in there figure it out the IO controller chip supports many and you can buy the cheapest USB sticks with like 16terabytes of storage space i just see a $extend folder or uhh file format header thingy in the partition in my mainboard bios on that particular drive and using any cheap SSD or USB devices makes linux cry about the partition managers cant write or read extending past the storage limit. it doesnt take a genius to figure out what dumb gay fags the whole internet is.
infinitybitdepthinfinitygraphicsinfinitypixelsinfinityresolution.7z ~ pixeldrain
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So the problem im trying to solve is, here in australia we got our undersea cables done wrong they kept breaking and we didnt have a navy or defense force securing our countrys communications to prevent war crimes and keep us connected to the global banking systems or whatever.. and then when our biggest telcos cable or fibre all had dialup speeds for around 2 weeks in the early years 2000s to force us to pay other countrys to connect to their links and be ' end of the line' maybe paywalled or proxied off the internet randsomewared to connect to and borrow bandwidth from other countries satellites and other countries undersea link cables which truly were indestructible to any cruise liner ships anchors whatever being flexible giant steel braided cables big as a CAR when australia finally paid to lay small sections of that stuff to link up to others and not pay randsome to internet butt bandits or have private businesses and multi nationals run their own links and ignore the public our lack of a defense force actually let somalian pirates literally somehow pick up and walk off with our expensive undersea car sized cables filled with a few arms thick of hair thin fibre optics which is cheapest clear resin enamels plastics about $3 not sure if USD per kilometer and resembles modern glass/glazing. How does anybody steal that stuff without people noticing like you cant just load it onto a truck and drive away? or a boat? if only satellites and some sort of defense organization existed to prevent us from being impersonated or whatever.. So now in australia ANYTHING with words like gigabit costs a fortune for a mainboard or switch or ethernet hub.. but the ancient 1900s 10/100 telephone land line wires of ethernet 10/100 clock in at a whopping 13 or so mhz sometimes 27.. and 60 or more mhz for like gigabits and whatever it increases shockingly fast with each mhz clock cycle as its units of work over time in nano seconds or zeptoseconds you see billionths of a second nano second RAM and PC with windows realtime kernel actually uses like ryzen hardware negative latency faster than reality freely syncing with any device in the universe and fixed mhz frequency bus can drive like 50 to 100 or thousands of GPU's and HDDs and monitors or whatever from the one modern multicore PC or whatever.. 90s AMD business server still holds world records for most connected devices though it had stackable CPUs opteron and would have used infinity cache type stuff probably software 3dnow and evolving game worlds tech of 80s and 90s AMD gaming evolved advertising.
So in australia anything gigabits costs hundreds of dollars for a switch router some thousands for lots of ports.. but its the shittiest weakest bandwidth ever with mhz and performance miles short of a raspberry pie or whatever. I had to pay a fortune for a mainboard with 10gigabit LAN port and everytime i got a high speed LAN port its been broken or missing so some pricks can sell ebay routers or switches for thousands here.. not knowing why its so expensive is youre paying fortunes for any real bandwidth because australia has to pay literal somalian pirates for their internet connections or privately owned businesses like telstra for access to their private links and glares at countries like new zealand and hawaii for being super technologically superior.. a cheap USB ethernet adaptor costs under 10 bucks on ebay or whatever and is maybe gigabit and your switches and routers 90% of the time you want the cheapest UNMANAGED switch possible. Yet the mainboard i recently purchased ASUS pro art creator x670E i recall had an issue with some asshats trying to steal pathetic measly 40gigabit USB4 chips from all the boards at the computer store to sell on EBay as other junk, when anything in the universe with an M.2 ULTRA slot does 40gigabits since PCI express 3.0/4.0 as PCI express 3.0 SSD drives famously use a specific I/O controller chip which gives them 38gigabits of the ultra M.2 slots 40gigabits of bandwidth. But for a couple years when AMD had pci express 4.0 and better than M.2 ultra intel was playing catch up on PCI express 3.0 and still had regular m.2 in all their boards until AMD was ready for pci express 5.0 my friend on intel bought the same NVME drives and complained they had corruption errors or issues i later learned his board wasnt fast enough and he was maybe trying to use the samsung magician RAM disk and enable NVME features and functions intel maybe did not yet support.
So.. why is USB 4 so many years late and why is it so dang expensive when terabits of ethernet or anything optical is like the cheapest stuff ever and comes with every internet connection since the 90s at the lowest cheapest mhz and 1900s land line wire telephones ever, remember digital isnt a physical thing and everythings literally analog with a sensor or multimeter whatever mathematically translating it to a graph or algebra equation mapping it into different values digitally +10 -10 whatever using microphones or camera sensor whatever. the gigabits tax and uhh LAN port taxes for dumb gay australians being literally see it via satellite outerspace levels dumb and gay astrogaylian should not apply to the cheapest of raspberry pie free 3d print or laser CNC yourself something computery like risc V for the cheapest of USB flash drives or memory cards etc.
I get intel pretends to have invented court ordered USB to probe their hardware after it was proven to have used other peoples code and chips by the chip makers and them selling computers with keyboard and mouse hardwired in so you bought a whole new computer when a key broke on the keyboard couldnt replace them.. and every other device had USB but theirs didnt free open standard and it kinda being the only way to connect any device in the universe and freely sync with it (mics/phones whatever).
why is 1900s phone tech ethernet so dang expensive to go from 20mhz ranges to 80 or whatever mhz ranges or use something very similar to 90s optical audio SPDIF output or anything remotely like a laser in australia? and who would be dumb and gay enough to be so financially retarded as to think that USB 4 was expensive or special as to steal it? am i... missing something?
also before you complain, but ethernets not the same as USB you cant power over ethernet or use your houses electrical wires as ethernet. You also cant use ethernet for monitors or displays, and its not like you can extend HDMI range limit of a about 10 to 15 meters by swapping its ethernet wires with optical ones for it to maintain its HDMI 0 latency spec or type C USB 0 latency spec. USB lets you connect heaps of devices you cant do that with an internet or ethernet for things like keyboard and mice or monitors or whatever. I understand what you mean power over ethernet or PPOE standards suck theres no way those are a thing. using devices over the internet and not the intranet who does that? thats so dumb. remote administration, theres no such thing youre mistaking malware or rootkits im sure. you cant connect a heap of devices up or entire computers to a ethernet port thats the dumbest gayest thing i've ever heard in my entire life! My gaydar is going off and it looks like the wifi symbol.
when trying to use anything ethernet with lame awful bandwidth thats limited, on my AMD board where the website images show AMD ethernet lists as marvel yukon controller i cannot use as its maybe broken there no light on the back, in devices managers advanced tab you can see the send receive or transmit buffer sizes and countless other ethernet settings are MISSING or a blank space. and are limited to 128 on send and 256 on receive up to 4096 or whatever max. But low latency 128 or 256 is maybe best but not all are an option and most networking features on the intel LAN adapters are missing countless advanced ethernet properties and settings because they're fake and lousy and the worst latency ever and they literally seem to swap your windows kernel out with something not realtime so you cannot ever hope to record or playback audio or video or anything close to a video game in hopes of slowly selling it back to you. Linux distros did this too its the dumbest thing ever that to hear or record or playback or play games you must patch in a realtime kernel for free to game like its the 80s and 90s or DOS or whatever. most 90s PCs were CAS 1 or lower nanoseconds. DDR 3 1600mhz depending the maker might be CAS1-4 latency. How can we verify our kernels are correct? and our ethernet and I/O bandwidth is correct? the youtube video about linus tech tips dream hack lan party of gamers in sweden was edited and reuploaded by illiterate asshat buttpirates maybe from somalia or the ones randsoming us some of their internet connections as a proxy piggy back on the international links as we dont have a defense force or army or whatever and dont know what war crimes are or why they are or what the heck a bank is and sure as shit dont know the cost of anything cheap USB or LAN. The dreamhack linus video falsely shows as 6TERABIT. they wanna steal 2TERABITS of EVERY optical or ethernet devices which isnt the government doing it if they wanna see whats in your computer they can document their reasons of why which is what a warrant is they dont need one if they believe a crime is occuring and literally take the computer by law to inspect it then give it back when nothings wrong they leave you a claim ticket and have you document it at the nearest policing station or whatever fill out forms sign 'they are taking my PC and i can get it back when it wasnt used for crimes." when australia doesnt technically have an internet and doesnt technically have RAID arrays which is required to use USB or SSD or NVME or storage tech with no moving parts and multicore a 2TB SSD is twice as fast and often has 2x 1TB wafer chips in there figure it out the IO controller chip supports many and you can buy the cheapest USB sticks with like 16terabytes of storage space i just see a $extend folder or uhh file format header thingy in the partition in my mainboard bios on that particular drive and using any cheap SSD or USB devices makes linux cry about the partition managers cant write or read extending past the storage limit. it doesnt take a genius to figure out what dumb gay fags the whole internet is.
infinitybitdepthinfinitygraphicsinfinitypixelsinfinityresolution.7z ~ pixeldrain
2024.05.15 04:23 Artistic_Turnip4760 AITA for cutting off my roommate a week before moving?
I'm (24m) moving out of state this upcoming Sunday. I've been living in my current house for two years now, and my roommate (22f) moved in last fall. I had known her for a few months prior, and we briefly shared a mutual interest/attraction in each other before she moved in, which we discussed. We both agreed that it would be best to move on as friends since anything more could turn out messy if we lived together. That said, I had a massive crush on her, and despite my best efforts to get over her this past year, I never fully moved past it, likely because even though we talked about our feelings, we never really got closure. Regardless, we both remained respectful to each other and tried to be friends.
Fast forward to two months ago. After a party at our house, when we were both pretty drunk, I laid down in our foyer, and another roommate's guest laid down next to me. Then she laid down next to me too. I'm not one to look a gift horse in the mouth, so I fell asleep. When I woke up the next morning, the other roommate's friend was still next to me, but she was gone. Not to sound rude, but she was all I really cared about. So later that day, I asked her if it meant anything. She admitted she likely wouldn't have cuddled up to me had the other girl not, but she was still attracted to me and was interested in hooking up before I move. Nothing ever came of this, and she had just gotten out of another situationship that was probably on her mind, but we did cuddle and watch one of her shows a few times (which I was openly fine with). I was simply confused.
About a week ago, she finally told me that we couldn't continue with anything and needed to move on, for real this time. It was disappointing but reasonable, and I was elated to finally have real closure and actually move past this silly crush. Plus I did enjoy just hanging out with her and wanted to be friends. That's what I wanted, but it's not what happened.
This past Friday, I had a guest over and my roommates were throwing a party. My guest didn't know anyone, so I didn't want to abandon him. About two hours into the party, my roommate, whom I just started trying to get over, began flirting with my friend right in front of me. And I felt trapped because I didn't want to leave my friend alone. But it was too much. I sat outside for what felt like hours for fresh air but couldn't breathe. I tried playing it cool, but it was obvious I was upset. At one point, she had to move her car so someone could leave (meaning she was sober, too), and on her way inside she asked me if something was wrong. Before I could answer, she then asked me, "Is it because I'm flirting with your friend?" That was the last straw for me. Not only was I hurt that she would consciously flirt right in front of me with my friend only a week after our talk when she knew my feelings, but now I had to answer a targeted question that proved to me that she knew what she was doing was questionable. I said "yes," and all I remember saying afterwards was, "Why would you do that?" I admittedly teared up because it was a lot to try and process at 3AM while slightly drunk. She asked if she could sit next to me, and I said I wanted to be alone. She went inside, talked to my friend, he came to talk to me, and then I got ready for bed with pretty much everything unresolved. As I went upstairs to sleep, I assured my friend I wasn't mad at him and told her I wanted nothing to do with her. We haven't spoken since, and frankly I don't want to.
Am I wrong for cutting her off and never wanting to talk to her again once I move? Being hurt by a woman is one thing, but I can't forgive someone who claimed to be my friend doing something she seemingly knew would hurt me.
TLDR: I had a crush on my roommate for over a year, and a week after we agreed nothing could happen and we should stay friends, she flirted with another friend of mine right in front of me despite knowing I still had feelings for her that I was trying to move past. Is it wrong for me to feel hurt?
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Fast forward to two months ago. After a party at our house, when we were both pretty drunk, I laid down in our foyer, and another roommate's guest laid down next to me. Then she laid down next to me too. I'm not one to look a gift horse in the mouth, so I fell asleep. When I woke up the next morning, the other roommate's friend was still next to me, but she was gone. Not to sound rude, but she was all I really cared about. So later that day, I asked her if it meant anything. She admitted she likely wouldn't have cuddled up to me had the other girl not, but she was still attracted to me and was interested in hooking up before I move. Nothing ever came of this, and she had just gotten out of another situationship that was probably on her mind, but we did cuddle and watch one of her shows a few times (which I was openly fine with). I was simply confused.
About a week ago, she finally told me that we couldn't continue with anything and needed to move on, for real this time. It was disappointing but reasonable, and I was elated to finally have real closure and actually move past this silly crush. Plus I did enjoy just hanging out with her and wanted to be friends. That's what I wanted, but it's not what happened.
This past Friday, I had a guest over and my roommates were throwing a party. My guest didn't know anyone, so I didn't want to abandon him. About two hours into the party, my roommate, whom I just started trying to get over, began flirting with my friend right in front of me. And I felt trapped because I didn't want to leave my friend alone. But it was too much. I sat outside for what felt like hours for fresh air but couldn't breathe. I tried playing it cool, but it was obvious I was upset. At one point, she had to move her car so someone could leave (meaning she was sober, too), and on her way inside she asked me if something was wrong. Before I could answer, she then asked me, "Is it because I'm flirting with your friend?" That was the last straw for me. Not only was I hurt that she would consciously flirt right in front of me with my friend only a week after our talk when she knew my feelings, but now I had to answer a targeted question that proved to me that she knew what she was doing was questionable. I said "yes," and all I remember saying afterwards was, "Why would you do that?" I admittedly teared up because it was a lot to try and process at 3AM while slightly drunk. She asked if she could sit next to me, and I said I wanted to be alone. She went inside, talked to my friend, he came to talk to me, and then I got ready for bed with pretty much everything unresolved. As I went upstairs to sleep, I assured my friend I wasn't mad at him and told her I wanted nothing to do with her. We haven't spoken since, and frankly I don't want to.
Am I wrong for cutting her off and never wanting to talk to her again once I move? Being hurt by a woman is one thing, but I can't forgive someone who claimed to be my friend doing something she seemingly knew would hurt me.
TLDR: I had a crush on my roommate for over a year, and a week after we agreed nothing could happen and we should stay friends, she flirted with another friend of mine right in front of me despite knowing I still had feelings for her that I was trying to move past. Is it wrong for me to feel hurt?
2024.05.15 04:01 Nikkilatte My Top (Non Hardcore) Emo Albums
This is my list of the top 10 non hardcore emo albums post 2000. I did not include any hardcore or true pop punk albums. Obviously this comes down to personal preference, and the emo genre is so diverse this was a difficult list to make. I think I did a decent job of putting together a solid list of diverse emo albums. Let me know your top 10 list! I want to note that I only chose one album from every artist to go on this list. I honestly believe 5 of the 10 bands have more than one album that could potentially make this list, but I wanted to give a nod to a few other lesser known bands and albums. I put the list with no commentary first so people would not be forced to wade through my reviews to see the list.
My Top 10 Emo Albums: 1. Turnover - Peripheral Vision 2. Citizen - Youth 3. Movements - Feel Something 4. Tigers Jaw - Self Titled 5. The Hotelier - Home, Like No Place There Is 6. City and Colour - Bring Me Your Love 7. A Great Big Pile of Leaves - You’re Always on My Mind* 8. Pinegrove - Marigold 9. Gleemer - Down Through 10. Foxing - The Albatross
Honorable Mention: 1. Secondhand Serenade - Awake 2. For When You Can’t Breathe - A Home That Doesn’t Exist
Quick Album Reviews:
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My Top 10 Emo Albums: 1. Turnover - Peripheral Vision 2. Citizen - Youth 3. Movements - Feel Something 4. Tigers Jaw - Self Titled 5. The Hotelier - Home, Like No Place There Is 6. City and Colour - Bring Me Your Love 7. A Great Big Pile of Leaves - You’re Always on My Mind* 8. Pinegrove - Marigold 9. Gleemer - Down Through 10. Foxing - The Albatross
Honorable Mention: 1. Secondhand Serenade - Awake 2. For When You Can’t Breathe - A Home That Doesn’t Exist
Quick Album Reviews:
- Turnover - Peripheral Vision This is and will always be my top album. A true masterpiece to my ears. The music is dreamy, but they still kept some of the heaviness from earlier albums. That Roland JC-120 tone will always be legendary. The lyrics are super emo, but it doesn't sound dark unless you really listen. I have played this album at the cafe, and more than once I have had someone mention, “This music is so happy” lol. Go read the lyrics and get back to me on that. The lyrical content is approachable and relatable. Solid 10/10.
- Citizen - Youth This album simultaneously rocks and jams. The guitars can be heavy at times, but the mix of calm and heavy parts is a genius execution. The Vocals are something of magic. The mix of the clean and yelling vocals not only fits the style but also adds a ton of dynamics. The lyrics are gut wrenching. Songs like “The Night I Drove Alone” are an all too real description of what living with suicidal ideation is like. This is the closest thing to being a hardcore album on this list, except maybe the Hotelier album, but I believe it is much more approachable than your average hardcore album, as the vocals do not really scream. 9.5/10
- Movements - Feel Something This album does not rock as hard as “Youth” but It does jam twice as hard. Now don’t get me wrong: it rocks…hard. The lyrics and melodies on this album may be my favorite on any emo album. The lyrics are clever and witty, and the melodies are smooth and memorable. This is an album I have to sing along to when I listen to it. I believe the first 5 songs on this album may be the best 5 song stretch on any emo album ever produced. These songs together get a 10/10. The only things I didn't really care for at first were the spoken word parts. The words are great, but spoken word just really isn't my thing. It takes me back to my days in the evangelical church, but I have grown to love it. 9.5/10
- Tigers Jaw - Self Titled This is a classic emo album. Personally it is not even my favorite Tiger’s Jaw album. For my personal taste “Spin” takes the cake, but there is no denying that the Self Titled album was more successful and had a larger influence on emo music as a whole. The music is very raw. It could have easily been produced in a bedroom, though it was recorded in a real studio. The guitars and vocals are both pretty raw. It has very little pop influence in the sense that it is not very polished. Let’s be honest, that is one of the major draws to the album. The lyrics, though silly at times, are very real and raw. “What about your friends, do they make you happy?” “Lie to me like you used to” “We are made from chemicals, but what holds us together is much more than that” This album showcases great lyricism and melody building. 9/10
- The Hotelier - Home, Like No Place There Is Many avid emo fans consider this album to be the best emo album ever produced. I agree that it is one of the best. The music ranges from pretty heavy to chiller alt rock. It does have some screamo style vocals, but that is not the majority of the vocals, which is why it's not on the hardcore list. “Life In Drag” is 100% screamo, “Housebroken” is a chill alt song, and songs like “Among The Wildflowers” and “Your Deep Rest” are an excellent combination of both. The lyrics are another example of top tier lyricism in the emo genre. The song “Your Deep Rest” may be the most gut wrenching song I have ever heard in any genre. 9/10
- City and Colour - Bring Me Your Love This is the only acoustic album to make the top 10. I listened to this album from 2008 to 2015 before I even realized that most people even considered it emo. I just saw it as an awesome acoustic album. The music overall has a pretty dark sound especially for an acoustic album. The sound reminds me a bit of The Spill Canvas’ “Sunsets & Car Crashes” album but it is much more refined and has a more pop style production. Dallas’ advanced guitar skills and beautiful and soulful vocals are really a thing of beauty. My first year in college this was my drink and be sad album. It is incredibly dark. “Every man needs a muse and mine could be the bottle” “It's passion, it's not love. Infatuation never ends up right. At least I won't be alone tonight.” “We celebrate the lives of the dead. It's like a man's best party, only happens when he dies.” 8.5/10
- A Great Big Pile of Leaves - You’re Always on My Mind* A Great Big Pile of Leaves is the least popular band to make this list, but honestly one of the most original emo bands I’ve ever heard. This album has a super fun and happy sound. The music jams and groves very hard, while having a calming effect on the listener. This is a great album to take a nap to. The lyrics can be pretty silly with songs about a wild mouse in the house that they consider a pet, slumber parties, and going back to school. They prove that being happy and joyous are also worthwhile emotions. It is not all fun and games though, it also includes themes of those you trust letting you down, and the struggle of being introverted. I have never related to a song more than “Ambervision” 8.5/10
- Pinegrove - Marigold I'm sure there will be plenty of people who will question why I chose this album over all the other bangers Pinegrove has released. It is one of Pinegrove’s least successful albums. They have obviously had several hits bigger than any of the songs on this album, but the overall album is so cohesive and perfectly executed. Every song’s sound fits perfectly into the style of the whole album. My biggest complaint about Pinegrove, and the reason I disliked them for so long, is because they have such a country (It is fair to say folk) sound. I grew up in East Texas where country music is king, and I always hated it with a passion. This is the album where they leaned the most heavily into the country sound. The melodies have a slight twang and the harmonies are obviously country inspired. The reason I chose this album is because they were able to take elements of music that I hate and make me love it. So Good! 8.5/10
- Gleemer - Down Through This is the most recent album to make the top 10 list. This band is also fairly unknown. I actually did not discover them until maybe a month ago. It may be fair to say that my introduction to this album is too fresh to make it on this list, but It is simply that good. The first time I heard it I knew it would be one of my favorites. It has that dreamy aspect that made Peripheral Vision such a huge hit. I dream of the day that every emo band realizes that a strong chorus effect and intense reverbs are their friend. It is a bit heavier than PV, not by much. The lyrics are very poetic and leave the meaning a bit up to interpretation but they are dark and without a doubt emo. The choruses are catchy, but they do not quite have the sing along factor of PV. Dreamy Emo/Shoegaze for the win! 8/10
- Foxing - The Albatross I actually saw Foxing open up for Tigers Jaw back in 2017, before I had ever heard their recorded music. I really enjoyed it. They slap live. A few months after the concert I was playing random emo music in the cafe and the song “the Medic” came on. I was jamming to it and in the middle of the song I realized, “Holy shit, I saw these guys live”. This is another album that has a crazy 5 song stretch. The first 5 songs are on another level. 9.5/10. “Pent Up In A Blind” is a short interlude instrumental but it perfectly bridges “The Medic” and “Rory” which are undeniably the best two songs on the album. It is dark and depressing, but their musicality is something I have never heard from an emo band. The sound on this album is very unique in the genre. They use a trumpet (which is sick live) and the guitars have a slight midwest emo style, with the sweeping guitar parts on some of the songs, but the tone is unlike what you would hear in midwest emo. The rest of the album is solid, but very instrumental heavy which is the only reason the overall album was dropped down to a 8/10
- Secondhand Serenade - Awake In my mind this is the second best acoustic emo album out there. It is much more polished and poppy than anything else that made the actual top 10. The vocals utilize some fairly significant pitch correction, which becomes obvious when you hear the songs live. He uses pitch correction, but it feels more like an effect than it does about fixing vocal imperfections. The vocals needed to be that perfect to fit the style of the music. Secondhand Serenade used amazingly written harmonies to add depth and dynamics to the music. SS utilizes some unique tunings and chords in his music. I learned so much about playing the acoustic guitar from this album. Just like City and Colour I never considered SS an emo band until around 2015. That’s when I looked past the beautiful music and took a deeper look into the lyrics and realized, “Damn, this guy was going through some shit.” I always considered it a love album, as there are some beautiful love songs, but if you look deeper you will see that they are all about trying to fix messed up relationships. Not exactly as happy as the songs sound.
- For When You Can’t Breathe - A Home That Doesn’t Exist This album was just released this year, by an artist that released their first song in 2022. They are almost completely unknown with less than 36,000 monthly listeners on Spotify (most of those have come in the last few months). The newness of the artist does not detract from the perfection of this album. It has dreamy guitar tones, especially on the verses. The choruses have a strong pop punk feel. The vocals feature both super clean poppy melodies, and yelling and screaming. It kind of feels like a mix of Secondhand Serenade’s clean vocals, Peripheral Vision’s guitar tones, Mayday Parade’s choruses, and the raw vocals of Hotelier. Seriously a cool mix of music and styles. It is everything my 17 year old scene self hoped emo music would be in 15 years.
2024.05.15 03:41 ddgr815 Detroit killed the sedan. We may all live to regret it
Last week, General Motors announced that it would end production of the Chevrolet Malibu, which the company first introduced in 1964. Although not exactly a head turner (the Malibu was “so uncool, it was cool,” declared the New York Times), the sedan has become an American fixture, even an icon, appearing in classic films like Say Anything and Pulp Fiction. Over the past 60 years, GM produced some 10 million of them.
With a price starting at a (relatively) affordable $25,100, Malibu sales exceeded 130,000 vehicles last year, a 13% annual increase and enough to rank as the #3 Chevy model, behind only the Silverado and the Equinox. Still, that wasn’t enough to keep the car off GM’s chopping block. The company says that the last Malibu will roll out of its Kansas City, KS, factory this November; the plant will then be retooled to produce the new Chevy Bolt, an electric crossover SUV.
With the Malibu’s demise, GM will no longer sell any sedans in the U.S. In that regard, it will have plenty of company. Ford stopped producing sedans for the U.S. market in 2018. And it was Sergio Marchionne, the former head of Stellantis, who triggered the headlong retreat in 2016 when he declared that Dodge and Chrysler would stop making sedans. (Tesla, meanwhile, offers two sedans: the Model 3 and Model S.)
As recently as 2009, U.S. passenger cars (including sedans and a plunging number of station wagons) outsold light trucks (SUVs, pickups, and minivans), but today they’re less then 20% of new car purchases. The death of the Malibu is confirmation, if anyone still needs it, that the Big Three are done building sedans. That decision is bad news for road users, the environment, and budget-conscious consumers—and it may ultimately come around to bite Detroit.
When asked, automakers are quick to blame the sedan’s decline on shifting consumer preferences. Americans simply want bigger cars, the story goes, and there’s some truth to it. Compared to sedans, many SUV and pickup models provide extra cargo space and give the driver more visibility on the highway. In a crash, those inside a heavier car have a better chance of escaping without injury—although the same can’t be said for pedestrians or those in other vehicles. (That discrepancy inspired a headline in The Onion: “Conscientious SUV Shopper Just Wants Something That Will Kill Family In Other Car In Case Of Accident.”)
This narrative of the market’s dispassionate invisible hand tossing the sedan aside holds intuitive appeal, but it leaves gaping holes. For one thing, federal policy has, in many ways, ]distorted the car market to favor larger vehicles](https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/24139147/suvs-trucks-popularity-federal-policy-pollution). Fuel economy regulations, for instance, are more lenient for SUVs and pickups than they are for smaller cars, nudging automakers to produce more of the former and fewer of the latter. Another egregious example: Small business owners such as real estate agents can save thousands of dollars by writing off the cost of their vehicle—but only if it weighs more than 6,000 pounds, a stipulation that effectively excludes sedans entirely.
Carmakers, for their part, powerfully influence consumer demand through billions of dollars spent on advertising. Because SUVs and pickups are more expensive and profitable than sedans, manufacturers have a clear incentive to tilt buying decisions away from small cars and toward larger ones (which helps explain ad campaigns designed to confer an undeserved green halo on SUVs).
Even those who don’t want a big car may feel pressure to upsize, if only to avoid being at a disadvantage in a crash or when trying to see what lies ahead on the road. Such people find themselves trapped in a prisoner’s dilemma, preferring that everyone had smaller cars, but resigning themselves to buying an SUV or pickup since others already have them.
For all these reasons, modest-size sedans like the Malibu are disappearing from American streets, supplanted by SUVs and pickups that seem to grow bulkier with every model refresh. (The Chevy Bolts produced at GM’s Kansas plant will be bigger than the previous Bolt model, which was retired last year.) This pattern of ongoing vehicle expansion, a trend I call car bloat, is especially advanced in North America, but it’s visible worldwide. In 2022, SUVs alone comprised 46% of global car sales, up from 20% a decade earlier.
From a societal perspective, the decline of the sedan is a disaster. Consider road safety, an area where the U.S. underperforms compared to the rest of the rich world, especially for pedestrians and cyclists (deaths for both recently hit 40-year highs). Larger cars have bigger blind spots, convey more force in a collision, and tend to strike a person’s torso rather than their legs. They’re also heavier, with propulsion systems that guzzle more gasoline (or electrons) to move, producing more pollution in the process. Their weight also catalyzes the erosion of tires and roads, spewing microscopic particles that can damage human health as well as aquatic ecosystems.
Despite the myriad problems of car bloat, the federal government has taken no steps to restrain it. In the absence of regulations or taxes, carmakers have ample reason to abandon their sedan models in favor of SUVs and trucks. The higher margins of larger cars is especially precious now, as the Big Three scrabble for money to invest in electrification and autonomous technology, as well as to pay for the rising costs of wages and benefits that they agreed to last fall during negotiations with the United Auto Workers.
Realistically, it would be a Herculean task to pivot back toward selling small cars, even if American automakers wanted to. Although adept at selling high-priced, feature-laden SUVs and trucks, they’re far less experienced at the low-margin, high volume business of producing cheaper small cars. That is one reason (though hardly the only one) that China’s booming market for EVs, including many modest-size and affordable models, is sowing fear throughout Detroit—and in Washington, too.
Where does the shift from sedans toward SUVs and trucks leave everyday Americans? With a strained wallet, for one thing. With its MSRP starting at $25,100 the Malibu has been one of the most affordable U.S.-produced cars, costing barely half as much as the average new vehicle, which exceeded $47,000 in February (the Malibu is also at least a few thousand dollars cheaper than the Bolt that will replace it at the Kansas factory).
Especially when factoring in higher interest rates and spiking insurance premiums, cars are becoming a financial strain for many Americans. According to the federal Bureau of Transportation Statistics, the average annual, inflation-adjusted cost of owning a vehicle and driving it 15,000 miles hit $12,182 in 2023, an increase of over 30% in just six years.
Over time, the elimination of sedans leaves the Big Three vulnerable if consumer preferences shift away from enormity. “Legacy car companies haven’t done a great job of thinking long term,” said Alex Roy, a cohost of the Autonocast podcast. “Gutting lineups is probably good for manufacturing efficiency, but not having one vehicle in a given product segment is short-sighted.”
Due to sprawled development patterns and woefully underfunded transit, many American families will still want a car even as they become more expensive. But, as I argued previously in Fast Company, a surge in vehicle prices could compel some households to swap a second or third car for a minicar or e-cargo bike that offers limited range, but costs only a fraction as much. Already, golf carts are popping up in places far removed from the retirement and beach communities where they have been a mainstay: In New Orleans, they’ve become so popular that the city is adopting new ordinances.
With the Malibu’s death, is clearer than ever that Detroit has abandoned the affordable sedan. They may yet live to regret it.
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With a price starting at a (relatively) affordable $25,100, Malibu sales exceeded 130,000 vehicles last year, a 13% annual increase and enough to rank as the #3 Chevy model, behind only the Silverado and the Equinox. Still, that wasn’t enough to keep the car off GM’s chopping block. The company says that the last Malibu will roll out of its Kansas City, KS, factory this November; the plant will then be retooled to produce the new Chevy Bolt, an electric crossover SUV.
With the Malibu’s demise, GM will no longer sell any sedans in the U.S. In that regard, it will have plenty of company. Ford stopped producing sedans for the U.S. market in 2018. And it was Sergio Marchionne, the former head of Stellantis, who triggered the headlong retreat in 2016 when he declared that Dodge and Chrysler would stop making sedans. (Tesla, meanwhile, offers two sedans: the Model 3 and Model S.)
As recently as 2009, U.S. passenger cars (including sedans and a plunging number of station wagons) outsold light trucks (SUVs, pickups, and minivans), but today they’re less then 20% of new car purchases. The death of the Malibu is confirmation, if anyone still needs it, that the Big Three are done building sedans. That decision is bad news for road users, the environment, and budget-conscious consumers—and it may ultimately come around to bite Detroit.
When asked, automakers are quick to blame the sedan’s decline on shifting consumer preferences. Americans simply want bigger cars, the story goes, and there’s some truth to it. Compared to sedans, many SUV and pickup models provide extra cargo space and give the driver more visibility on the highway. In a crash, those inside a heavier car have a better chance of escaping without injury—although the same can’t be said for pedestrians or those in other vehicles. (That discrepancy inspired a headline in The Onion: “Conscientious SUV Shopper Just Wants Something That Will Kill Family In Other Car In Case Of Accident.”)
This narrative of the market’s dispassionate invisible hand tossing the sedan aside holds intuitive appeal, but it leaves gaping holes. For one thing, federal policy has, in many ways, ]distorted the car market to favor larger vehicles](https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/24139147/suvs-trucks-popularity-federal-policy-pollution). Fuel economy regulations, for instance, are more lenient for SUVs and pickups than they are for smaller cars, nudging automakers to produce more of the former and fewer of the latter. Another egregious example: Small business owners such as real estate agents can save thousands of dollars by writing off the cost of their vehicle—but only if it weighs more than 6,000 pounds, a stipulation that effectively excludes sedans entirely.
Carmakers, for their part, powerfully influence consumer demand through billions of dollars spent on advertising. Because SUVs and pickups are more expensive and profitable than sedans, manufacturers have a clear incentive to tilt buying decisions away from small cars and toward larger ones (which helps explain ad campaigns designed to confer an undeserved green halo on SUVs).
Even those who don’t want a big car may feel pressure to upsize, if only to avoid being at a disadvantage in a crash or when trying to see what lies ahead on the road. Such people find themselves trapped in a prisoner’s dilemma, preferring that everyone had smaller cars, but resigning themselves to buying an SUV or pickup since others already have them.
For all these reasons, modest-size sedans like the Malibu are disappearing from American streets, supplanted by SUVs and pickups that seem to grow bulkier with every model refresh. (The Chevy Bolts produced at GM’s Kansas plant will be bigger than the previous Bolt model, which was retired last year.) This pattern of ongoing vehicle expansion, a trend I call car bloat, is especially advanced in North America, but it’s visible worldwide. In 2022, SUVs alone comprised 46% of global car sales, up from 20% a decade earlier.
From a societal perspective, the decline of the sedan is a disaster. Consider road safety, an area where the U.S. underperforms compared to the rest of the rich world, especially for pedestrians and cyclists (deaths for both recently hit 40-year highs). Larger cars have bigger blind spots, convey more force in a collision, and tend to strike a person’s torso rather than their legs. They’re also heavier, with propulsion systems that guzzle more gasoline (or electrons) to move, producing more pollution in the process. Their weight also catalyzes the erosion of tires and roads, spewing microscopic particles that can damage human health as well as aquatic ecosystems.
Despite the myriad problems of car bloat, the federal government has taken no steps to restrain it. In the absence of regulations or taxes, carmakers have ample reason to abandon their sedan models in favor of SUVs and trucks. The higher margins of larger cars is especially precious now, as the Big Three scrabble for money to invest in electrification and autonomous technology, as well as to pay for the rising costs of wages and benefits that they agreed to last fall during negotiations with the United Auto Workers.
Realistically, it would be a Herculean task to pivot back toward selling small cars, even if American automakers wanted to. Although adept at selling high-priced, feature-laden SUVs and trucks, they’re far less experienced at the low-margin, high volume business of producing cheaper small cars. That is one reason (though hardly the only one) that China’s booming market for EVs, including many modest-size and affordable models, is sowing fear throughout Detroit—and in Washington, too.
Where does the shift from sedans toward SUVs and trucks leave everyday Americans? With a strained wallet, for one thing. With its MSRP starting at $25,100 the Malibu has been one of the most affordable U.S.-produced cars, costing barely half as much as the average new vehicle, which exceeded $47,000 in February (the Malibu is also at least a few thousand dollars cheaper than the Bolt that will replace it at the Kansas factory).
Especially when factoring in higher interest rates and spiking insurance premiums, cars are becoming a financial strain for many Americans. According to the federal Bureau of Transportation Statistics, the average annual, inflation-adjusted cost of owning a vehicle and driving it 15,000 miles hit $12,182 in 2023, an increase of over 30% in just six years.
Over time, the elimination of sedans leaves the Big Three vulnerable if consumer preferences shift away from enormity. “Legacy car companies haven’t done a great job of thinking long term,” said Alex Roy, a cohost of the Autonocast podcast. “Gutting lineups is probably good for manufacturing efficiency, but not having one vehicle in a given product segment is short-sighted.”
Due to sprawled development patterns and woefully underfunded transit, many American families will still want a car even as they become more expensive. But, as I argued previously in Fast Company, a surge in vehicle prices could compel some households to swap a second or third car for a minicar or e-cargo bike that offers limited range, but costs only a fraction as much. Already, golf carts are popping up in places far removed from the retirement and beach communities where they have been a mainstay: In New Orleans, they’ve become so popular that the city is adopting new ordinances.
With the Malibu’s death, is clearer than ever that Detroit has abandoned the affordable sedan. They may yet live to regret it.
2024.05.15 03:36 Suspicious_Abies7777 Disowning the In-laws
Today is the day I flat out disown my in-laws, they know we have children, but instead of getting tickets for all to the Royals game, they only get 2, they know how much my kids love going to baseball games and getting hot dogs and campfire shakes. My wife snatches them with the biggest smile ever and said oh thank you so so so so so so much, I knew it was a trap, they want us to start a fight so they can watch us squirm, I didn’t take the bait, I put my kids in the car and left, and went to the pizza joint, and lord behold My wife and her sister go, and my MIL calls and asks me “what the matter” ????? I just hung up, blocked her number, and went to dinner with my little ones, piss on you MIL, take your brainwashed daughter and go run off into the sunset…..I’ll be a dad to my babies….
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2024.05.15 03:34 TimesAreChanging1 Am I being too frugal?
I’ve recently graduated from college and have been living on my own for about a year now in a big US city.
I have no debt, earn $70,000/yr ($4,500/month after tax), and save about $2,300/month to max out my Roth 401k and IRA. My expenses are about $1,900/month (includes rent).
Question: I’ve been strongly considering bringing my car to the city after I get a $10k raise in July. It would cost me $2500-$4000/yr with all expenses. I really enjoy camping, and feel kinda trapped here in the city.
I’ve been trying to save up for a home down payment, but feel this level of lifestyle inflation would make my life more enjoyable. Is this normal/a good idea?
Thanks!
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I have no debt, earn $70,000/yr ($4,500/month after tax), and save about $2,300/month to max out my Roth 401k and IRA. My expenses are about $1,900/month (includes rent).
Question: I’ve been strongly considering bringing my car to the city after I get a $10k raise in July. It would cost me $2500-$4000/yr with all expenses. I really enjoy camping, and feel kinda trapped here in the city.
I’ve been trying to save up for a home down payment, but feel this level of lifestyle inflation would make my life more enjoyable. Is this normal/a good idea?
Thanks!
2024.05.15 03:27 Im_into_guns_shut_up My speculation and opinions on the demise of giant keyboards
There are many speculation on why big keyboards have slowly faded away from the mainstream mechanical keyboard market, for me, it's one of three things:
So, what is my opinion: It's sad that big keyboards are going away(like 60s and 70s 'land yacht' cars), the reason behind it is quite understandable. every keyboard size has best environment that can pull out full potential, and I understand that. however, the 'trend' of having a small keyboard, while having a large desk space, is not quite understandable for me. sure, it gives more desk space, but I'm not sure if that's worth it. I mean, there's already a fair amount of desk space.. right? why would you want to sacrifice the keys?
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- the decrease of desk space
- easier maintenance
- the trend of having a smaller keyboard
So, what is my opinion: It's sad that big keyboards are going away(like 60s and 70s 'land yacht' cars), the reason behind it is quite understandable. every keyboard size has best environment that can pull out full potential, and I understand that. however, the 'trend' of having a small keyboard, while having a large desk space, is not quite understandable for me. sure, it gives more desk space, but I'm not sure if that's worth it. I mean, there's already a fair amount of desk space.. right? why would you want to sacrifice the keys?