College student autoboigraphy

I’m currently using Chime for checking, I created an account because I was in a bind and I’ve had it for wayyy longer than I wish to. I use Discover for HYSA and it works pretty well for mebut I’d rather have a brick & mortar bank. The big ones where I live are Chase and Credit Union but those sort of have a bad rep. Does anyone have an other recommendations for a college student?

I'm struggling so much lately as I've finished grad school and started some new jobs. It can't be argued that I'm overworked and underpaid, but I figured I'm starting out at the bottom. The work is entry level for my field, I'm working full time in a sales/marketing job within my interest area, and I'm also a teaching assistant for a community college. Both are WFH which should be nice, but I don't get out and I don't have many friends or time/money to do anything outside of work. I often work from the moment I wake till the moment I sleep.
Again, I try to look at this as a temporary step to get to the career I want, but I'm starting to question my entire plan. Was going to apply for a PhD later this year, I do love talking about my study subject a lot, but I'm terrified of the long term commitment. The original plan was to become a professor, but now I'm worried I won't like it at all if it's even remotely similar to what I do now (non stop computer work, an overwhelming amount of tasks, and advising daft and disrespectful people).
You would think I'd like WFH but staring at a computer screen all day is making me want to die and I feel so disconnected from the world. Nothing interesting happens in my life now. I stay up until 3am scrolling social media content because its the only thing I enjoy doing now. My hobbies feel like a chore or involve my computer, so I never do them.
I've thought about changing career paths, I'm 27 now, but I feel like there is literally nothing I want to do. I feel like a stupid asshole saying that because nobody truly loves working, but full time work has always sent me into a depression spiral like this. Between my ADHD and suspected autism, I get burnt out immediately if I work 40 hours or more a week. I somehow crave both uniqueness and routine. I liked being a student because I still had some free time to go out and do things. But also got extremely stressed because I had no money. I feel like maybe I'd like to be a professional dancer because I love performing and it's been my hobby since childhood, but I live nowhere near any opportunities, can't move, and I know I won't make money with it. I want to have a job that is more active/analog but there aren't many of those anymore.
It's getting to the point where my depression and bottomed out dopamine is keeping me from doing anything. It's starting to interrupt with my work and life tasks and I'm worried it will eventually cripple me so that I can't do work at all. I've told myself I will create healthier routines with breaks but I can't manage to stick to anything and still overwork myself. I either can't start or can't stop. There are too many work and life tasks to do and I'm just so overwhelmed and don't think I'll ever catch up. And it doesn't matter if I take my Concerta or not, I'm the same either way and just more irritable on the meds.
I wouldn't say I'm suicidal but I just don't want to do or feel anything anymore. I feel like even if I abandoned these jobs and changed gears, I would still hate it. I also would feel like a failure because my family doubted the necessity and ROI of my grad degree. I have thoughts about moving back abroad because life is more fun there, but there were tons of aspects to that situation that I hated too, I was even more isolated and I don't think I could find a job there I wouldn't hate either. I'm also stuck here helping my mom out here and she's just getting older. I feel trapped.
I'm sorry this post is so negative, I'm just so burnt out and hopeless right now. Almost flaired as rant or depressing but advice would hopefully be helpful. thanks

Hello, FEARNOT passing by. I was lurking on the lesserafim where there was a post about how Eunchae in particular has been getting an alarming amount of hate and expressing concern.
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In that post, I noticed that people kinda brushed passed the controversy of her teasing high school students as a non-issue (which, don't get me wrong, it definitely is), but I'd like to provide some cultural context because it was this specific moment that garnered the most hate for her among Korean kpop stans. Coachella doesn't even come close.
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I want to explain why her comments generated so much outrage, and in particular, how her words were taken out of context and purposely made to sound so much worse.
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**The Situation (and the context)**
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On a [3/17 Weverse ~11min](https://weverse.io/lesserafim/live/3-115327263), Eunchae made a bit of a joke where poked fun at students having to get up early, saying that "That must be hard~ I had to do that too at one point too~~" and the conversation then continues onward with the other members about how difficult it was to get up that early during their student days.
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This was combined with [another live on 9/07 ~27min (though the context starts a few minutes prior)](https://weverse.io/lesserafim/live/3-132041098) with Kkura. In it, the two of the discuss conversations with their non-celebrity friends. Boomer Kkura tends to just talk or text, which surprises Eunchae, since she almost always prefers to facetime instead (don't worry Kkura, same). Kkura mentions that the first thing she asks her friends are, "you haven't gotten married yet right?" whereas Eunchae says that her friends have been recently talking about becoming high school seniors. That topic closes with Eunchae talking about a recent conversation she had video call she had with her close friend, who complained that she had to get up early, upon which Eunchae teased her and says, "I start at 11 tomorrow! Hella lucky~"
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Maybe a bit of a crass joke in the first clip, but nothing too major, right?
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**The Attack (and the twisting of facts)**
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This is where the usual suspects come in: Twitter.
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Disclaimer: I'm going to be completely honest here. I don't follow Pann or FMKorea or all the other niche online communities except since the HYBE/MHJ situatio, but while researching this topic, I searched Eunchae's name on both sites to see how the situation unfolded (I can't really search theqoo very well because that site has the worst user-friendliness I've ever seen).
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The situation blew up on **March 15th** (as far back as I can find), with [this Twitter post](https://x.com/chonnong_s/status/1768666838953771322) blowing up and a Pann post ([now deleted, restored w/ Wayback](https://web.archive.org/web/20240316113504/https://m.pann.nate.com/talk/372248533)).
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(Note, regarding the deleted Pann post, it was referenced in this [YouTube video
](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Hy4fINd3BME) by one of those trash drama Youtubers and had 150k+ views at the time of their video)
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There were also some pretty weird posts on Pann around this time, [nitpicking her response in an EASY interview to say she thinks LSF was successful](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372255969) and spreading twitter posts of private documents to prove that she didn't get accepted to Hanlim (I will not be sharing this one.) Many comments at that point on Pann are still quite sympathetic to Eunchae, with the top comments defending her and telling the twitter bitches to go away (although the doxxing post still got 600+ upvotes and 300k+ views)
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After this though, the narrative began to change, combining the clips above and turning it from Eunchae teasing students, to Eunchae teasing **High School Seniors**. And things began to take a huge shift.
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After this began to spread, [March 23rd](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372282377), comments started to become more negative (example posts on [March 17th](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372257704?)) and [March 23rd](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372282377)).
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Alright, I can hear you saying, students, high school students, so what?
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**Korean Seniors and the Suneung**
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If you're at all familiar with Korean culture, you know where I'm going with this.
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The Suneung is the Korean equivalent of the American SAT, except it is so much more than that. If I had to explain it, the Suneung is your entire life. Imagine your college application, except screw your class grades, your extracurriculars, your letters of rec, your essay. The only thing that really matters is your SAT score.
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It is a huge deal. The entire nation [BBC article](https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-46181240) falls silent on the day of the Suneung. Stores close, construction stops, traffic is redirected, the stock market opens late. On the day of the Suneung, there are no flights.
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It happens 1 time a year. Just once. If you miss it or get a bad grade, you repeat a year just to get a chance to retake it.
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And high school seniors carry all of that stress. They are studying for a test that is the culmination of their entire education and determines their entire future. There are many, many stories of students falling into deep depression, even after doing well on the Suneung, because studying for that test consumed them to the point that they don't know what to do after it's over. These students study in excess of 15 hours a day, from 7am to 10pm.
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You do not touch high school seniors, ever. There is a saying that even parents tiptoe around their kids once the test date nears.
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Also, keep in mind that the primary demographic for kpop are young adults. People that are in school, preparing for this test that they will eventually have to overcome. Some of those people might be repeating a year (or two or three or four) while studying for that test.
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And so, when the narrative shifted from Eunchae teasing a close friend about having to get up early to Eunchae making fun of High School Seniors for having to get up early, things turned ugly quick.
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And then Coachella happened. And then MHJ opened her big mouth. And you guys know the rest.
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So that's my little story. I hope this provided some insight as to why it seems like the hate for Eunchae seemed so particularly loud on the Korean side, and how she suddenly switched from nearly universally loved to the opposite.
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In conclusion, fuck Twitter yo.
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P.S. Is this post worth posting on the kpopthoughts subreddit? I'm split because it provides context, but also this has kinda flown by international eyes and I don't really want to accidentally add fuel to the flame. LSF and Eunchae have it hard enough as it is.
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I'm struggling so much lately as I've finished grad school and started some new jobs. It can't be argued that I'm overworked and underpaid, but I figured I'm starting out at the bottom. The work is entry level for my field, I'm working full time in a sales/marketing job within my interest area, and I'm also a teaching assistant for a community college. Both are WFH which should be nice, but I don't get out and I don't have many friends or time/money to do anything outside of work. I often work from the moment I wake till the moment I sleep.
Again, I try to look at this as a temporary step to get to the career I want, but I'm starting to question my entire plan. Was going to apply for a PhD later this year, I do love talking about my study subject a lot, but I'm terrified of the long term commitment. The original plan was to become a professor, but now I'm worried I won't like it at all if it's even remotely similar to what I do now (non stop computer work, an overwhelming amount of tasks, and advising daft and disrespectful people).
You would think I'd like WFH but staring at a computer screen all day is making me want to die and I feel so disconnected from the world. Nothing interesting happens in my life now. I stay up until 3am scrolling social media content because its the only thing I enjoy doing now. My hobbies feel like a chore or involve my computer, so I never do them.
I've thought about changing career paths, I'm 27 now, but I feel like there is literally nothing I want to do. I feel like a stupid asshole saying that because nobody truly loves working, but full time work has always sent me into a depression spiral like this. Between my ADHD and suspected autism, I get burnt out immediately if I work 40 hours or more a week. I somehow crave both uniqueness and routine. I liked being a student because I still had some free time to go out and do things. But also got extremely stressed because I had no money. I feel like maybe I'd like to be a professional dancer because I love performing and it's been my hobby since childhood, but I live nowhere near any opportunities, can't move, and I know I won't make money with it. I want to have a job that is more active/analog but there aren't many of those anymore.
It's getting to the point where my depression and bottomed out dopamine is keeping me from doing anything. It's starting to interrupt with my work and life tasks and I'm worried it will eventually cripple me so that I can't do work at all. I've told myself I will create healthier routines with breaks but I can't manage to stick to anything and still overwork myself. I either can't start or can't stop. There are too many work and life tasks to do and I'm just so overwhelmed and don't think I'll ever catch up. And it doesn't matter if I take my Concerta or not, I'm the same either way and just more irritable on the meds.
I wouldn't say I'm suicidal but I just don't want to do or feel anything anymore. I feel like even if I abandoned these jobs and changed gears, I would still hate it. I also would feel like a failure because my family doubted the necessity and ROI of my grad degree. I have thoughts about moving back abroad because life is more fun there, but there were tons of aspects to that situation that I hated too, I was even more isolated and I don't think I could find a job there I wouldn't hate either. I'm also stuck here helping my mom out here and she's just getting older. I feel trapped.
I'm sorry this post is so negative, I'm just so burnt out and hopeless right now. Almost flaired as rant but advice would hopefully be helpful. thanks

Hi i was told by a cardiologist that I should purchase compression socks, increase electrolytes and salt content but none of this has helped my symptoms. I am at a loss of what to do next. I’m a college student but live in Long Island and am hours away from my cardiologist. I have an appointment for early July but I don’t know if I can wait that long. I’m not sure if anyone can help or just give advice but I would really appreciate it.

note*: most of this stuff is hypothetical, I just want to know realistically if I have a chance. please don't give nonsense responses and say "u ain't getting in", provide some feedback to improve with. thanks in advance.*
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major: cs (will most likely do a MBA too)
gpa: 3.8 (school doesn't have aps yet I'm self studying so no weighted GPA am taking 8 ap exams and aim to get a 5 on them , also skipped 9th, messed up a bit in 10th but it should be fine considering I'm going to take harder courses and do well, btw my college counselor told me they would also use my 8th grade transcript so yeah i had all As in 8th grade :D )
sat: 1550
Relevant Courses: BC Calculus, Multi-Variable Calculus, Linear Algebra, Differential Equations, Computational Science, Object-Oriented Programming, CS Seminar: Machine Learning
ecs:

1. Neuroscience research with Northwestern
2. Summer internship with GM
3. Summer research internship with Northwestern
4. Community Service (500+ hours)
5. Technology Student Association president at school
6. High School Newspaper section editor
7. FBLA (President)
8. Columbia Pre-College Program (in Finance)
9. Academic Tutor (in/out of school for the past three years)
10. Stock Trading (for fun)

awards:

1. JSHS Nationals
2. Presidential Volunteer Service Award (2x Gold)
3. AP Scholar with Distinction
4. National Merit Scholarship Semifinalist
5. National Spanish Exam (Gold top 5% of test takers)

Hi, There are many posts about getting difficulties to get a job with CS degree after graduate. Is that really true? Isn't it possible to get a job right out of college? Are there anyone who got ajob right out of college? I'm a rising junior year student majoring in CS. Should I change my major? I really need to get a job right out of college because of my family's financial situations. Which degree should I major in to get a job?

Demographics

• Gender: Female
• Race/Ethnicity: Mixed (Asian, White, Black)
• Residence: Virginia
• Income Bracket: <$70,000 (Negative SAI)
• Type of School: Public
• Hooks (Recruited Athlete, URM, First-Gen, Geographic, Legacy, etc.): URM

Intended Major(s): Creative Technologies (Animation)
Academics

• GPA (UW/W): 4.0 / 4.1952
• Rank (or percentile): 6/378 (Not submitted)
• # of Honors/AP/IB/Dual Enrollment/etc.: 2 Honors (only 2 offered), 7 AP (Human Geo, Lang, Stats, US History, Chem, Gov, and Art), 1 Dual Enrollment (English 111 and 112)
• Senior Year Course Load: AP Chem, AP Gov, Dual Enrollment English, AP Art, Japanese 1, Digital Art

Standardized Testing

• SAT I: 1200 (620 RW, 580 M)
• ACT: N/A
• SAT II: 1300 (630 RW, 670 M)
• AP/IB: Human Geo (5), Stats (4), US History (3), English Lang (2)
• Other (ex. IELTS, TOEFL, etc.): N/A

Extracurriculars/Activities

1. Community Service: Volunteer, Society of St. Vincent de Paul (10th, 11th, 12th; Year-long; 2 hours/week, 24 weeks/year) I packed bags for my church's food pantry a couple times a month.
2. Work (Paid): Part-Time Health and Beauty Clerk, Harris Teeter (12th; Year-long; 21 hours/week, 40 weeks/year) I worked a couple days a week during the summer and weekends during school year.
3. Academic: Active Member, National Honor Society, Leadership: Oversaw Fundraising Event (11th, 12th; School-year; 3 hours/week, 15 weeks/year) I attended monthly meetings and joined fundraising, peer tutoring, and teachestaff appreciation committees.
4. Work (Paid): Part-Time Frozen and Dairy Clerk, Harris Teeter (11th; Break; 18 hours/week, 12 weeks/year)
5. Art: Student, Pre-College Summer Course, The Art Institutes (12th; Break; 20 hours/week, 2 weeks/year) I took an 2-week online animation class where I learned animation principles and used Adobe Photoshop and Animate to create a 2D animated short film.
6. Religious: Eucharistic Minister, Church (11th, 12th; Year-long; 1houweek, 15 weeks/year) I volunteer for my church by serving communion during mass at least once a month
7. Athletics: Club Volleyball, Member of Youth HS Competitive Team, Achievement: Won a League Championship (10th; School-year; 6 hours/week, 25 weeks/year) I attended practices twice a week and played two games every weekend.
8. Other Club/Activity: Member, Film Club (9th, 10th; School-year; 2 hours/week, 20 weeks/year) I went to weekly meetings to discuss filmmaking and made individual short films outside of meetings to present weekly.
9. Community Service: VolunteeLeader, Vacation Bible School, Church, Leadership: Managed Arts & Crafts Station (12th; Break; 12 hours/week, 1 week/year) I helped set up and clean crafts station. I managed younger children and helped them when needed.
10. N/A

Awards/Honors

1. QuestBridge National College Match Finalist (National; 12th)
2. National African American Recognition Award (National; 12th)
3. Principal's List (School; 9th, 10th, 11th, 12th)
4. AP Scholar Award (National; 12th)
5. Student of the Year (School; 9th, 10th, 11th)

Letters of Recommendation

• Guidance Counselor (?/10): I didn't meet with him a lot so he doesn't know me too well, but it seemed like I stood out to him because of how well I always do. I never saw his LOR, so idk how good it was, but I'm sure it was good.
• AP Statistics Teacher (10/10): junior year teacher; I always had an A in his class but didn't talk much. He was kinda awkward so I avoided talking to him lol, but his LOR was actually really good. He said that he wanted his daughter to grow up to be like me!
• AP US History Teacher (8/10): junior year teacher; I always had an A in his class but never talked either. His LOR wasn't bad but he basically rewrote the resume I sent him
• Art Teacher (9/10): teacher during sophomore and senior years; she chose to enter one of my pieces in a local art show and I won an award. She kinda overhyped me but it was good nonetheless.

Interviews
N/A
Essays
I think I spent about a month on my essay, but I can't remember. I felt like my essay was pretty good, but I thought it might be controversial depending on the reader so I was a little nervous. I'm not that good of a writer, but I think the content made up for it. I basically talked about my experience growing up mixed race and how I won't let race define me. I thought it might be problematic because I said a black girl was being racist to me by mentioning how a black girl once told me I only got straight A's because I was "white" and that I realized that some people use race as an excuse for their failures. I said that I thought it was sad she was raised to think that way and ended by saying I wouldn't let my race dictate what I should like or how I should behave and that I would decide for myself rather than following others.
Decisions (indicate ED/EA/REA/SCEA/RD)
Acceptances:

• Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University (Virginia Tech)!!! (EA) - Presidential Scholarship Initiative Recipient (approx. $17,000 per year to cover rest of tuition and room and board)
• Virginia Commonwealth University (EA) - Virginia Merit Award Recipient ($4,000 per year)
• Longwood University (EA) - Presidential Scholarship Recipient ($8,000 per year)

Waitlists:

• N/A

Rejections:

• University of Southern California (ED through QuestBridge)

Additional Information:
Let me just start by saying that I'm extremely grateful for how things have worked out for me. I feel so lucky and fortunate to be in the situation I am. I know I had my GPA and low income going for me, but I got so much more than I ever expected and I still can't believe this is actually happening!! QuestBridge didn't work out, but I still ended up getting what I was looking for: a way to go to college without taking out loans.
So to explain me being able to "go to Virginia Tech for Free," I have multiple sources that are paying for my first year; I didn't just get a full ride from VT (although it basically is when combined with everything else). I got about $15,500 in govt. grants, the scholarship from VT to cover the rest of tuition and room and board which is about $17,000 this year, and $12,000 in outside scholarships. And that's way over the COA, so I don't have to worry about paying anything!! Now I can follow my dreams of being an animator at my dream school without worrying about how to pay for it!!!

Hey guys, not sure if this is gonna be a legit, non-sketchy sub but here goes. I’m a student at UBC currently, right by Wreck Beach. Im looking to try out some new experiences and as someone who grew up really insecure and self-conscious I’ve been thinking about nudism. Now that I’m in college I wanna try out some new things but I’m still too scared to go alone lmao.
Would be awesome to try out the beach for the first time with some chill guys, open to working out or running first like I know some people do before they go to the beach.

Hello, I'm a senior in college with a Chemistry degree and I realized this semester that I don't want pursue a career in it. For the past couple of weeks I've been researching Chemical Engineer and I was deciding to do a masters in it but I found out it's not that simple. It turns out I wouldn't be considered an engineer unless I take the PE which you need to take the FE which can only be given from an ABET accredited degree. I'm very lost as to what to do. Changing majors is not an option do to the fact that it's not offered in my school and I'm already a transfer student. I'm very lost

https://www.commentary.org/articles/kc-johnson/title-ix-biden-administration/
" In 2017, citing a wave of federal court decisions in lawsuits filed by accused students, Trump’s education secretary, Betsy DeVos, made clear that the federal government would welcome universities placing more emphasis on procedural fairness in the Title IX process. Few schools responded. The sprawling Title IX bureaucracy and organizations representing accusers’ interests successfully preserved the status quo.
In response to that, DeVos’s department promulgated new Title IX regulations that forced schools once and for all to adjudicate sexual-assault claims fairly. The process would need to begin with a written complaint and provide sufficient notice for the accused student to respond. He would be presumed innocent and could not receive an interim punishment based solely on the allegation. After an investigation, the university would share the gathered evidence with both parties. Adjudication would occur at a live hearing, where the investigator could not also be a decision-maker, and each student’s adviser could cross-examine adverse witnesses. Each student also could present expert witnesses to advance his or her case. The instructions for hearing panelists could not use sex stereotypes and had to be posted publicly on the school’s website. Since August 2020, every college student accused of a Title IX offense—from Maine to California to Florida—has possessed these rights."
Biden's OCR has reversed this, The last time around the universities lost hundreds of federal lawsuits for violation of student civil rights. Here we go again.

I live very close to The Irvine Spectrum. I'm wondering if there are any chess clubs nearby open to general audiences (not just kids or college students), preferably without membership fees or the such. Thanks for the help!

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I live very close to The Irvine Spectrum. I'm wondering if there are any chess clubs nearby open to general audiences (not just kids or college students), preferably without membership fees or the such. Thanks for the help!

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Hi, I’m a college student who attends CSU. I have a place but the lease doesn’t start until August, and I have no where to go until then as I cut off my abusive family. Does anyone know good short term leases or places I could stay in the meantime? I will be working as a server full time.

I’m feeling quite helpless and am hoping for some advice on how to navigate these family problems.
TL;DR: My sister Emily, who has a history of lying, claimed our stepmom Christie was accusing her of dropping out of college and other things, which led to a lot of family stress. Christie recently committed suicide, and it turns out she was right about Emily not being in school. Now, I’m worried about my dad’s emotional state, and my sister’s ongoing lies are making family life toxic. I can’t even stay in the same house as her because I fear for my safety.
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For perspective, my immediate family overview:
My mom and dad divorced when my mom was pregnant with me. My dad left her for my two older brothers' babysitter. I grew up with her as my step mom. There was always some tension between my brothers and her growing up, while I was more of a neutral observer. To be honest, she wasn't the best person but I did come to love her in the end. My dad and stepmom, Christie had one child together, Emily. When I was in high school my older brother passed away in a car accident, which was needless to say devasting for my parents. My oldest brother struggle with extreme drug addiction after that, going to rehab twice. He's doing very well now, with two kids and a wife in Florida. I'm in Chicago with my partner; gay, came out in high school.
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Emily’s always been the golden child, spinning tales that often cast her as the victim or star. Last year, she started telling me these intense stories about her mom / my stepmom Christie, who was truly going through a rough depressive patch mentally. Emily used this depression and painted her as delusional and abusive. Then, Christie tragically took her own life, a decision we believe was heavily influenced by the stress of Emily’s lies about attending college—lies that we only recently discovered were actually true.
At Christie’s funeral, Emily’s behavior was off. She looked like she was dressed for a TV show rather than a funeral, and her emotional breakdown during a speech she barely prepared for felt staged. It was like she enjoyed the drama.
Her past is a complex web of claimed abuses and sexual assaults, many of which have been proven untrue. She’s excellent at manipulating narratives and even now boasts about becoming a CEO from a supposed buy-out of her PR firm (really she's just a freelancer), dropping names like Pauly D and Blake Lively as if they’re everyday business contacts.
The lies escalated in the days following her mother’s death. She claimed she was graduating a year early, was getting her diploma overnighted, that she had been named valedictorian, and that she was supposed to speak at the graduation ceremony. After her diploma didn't show up after a few days and she had excuse after excuse, had us drive 45 minutes to a friend’s house to pick up her 'diploma', only to receive a last-minute call from a random girl claiming it wasn't there after all. Random lie anyway, because why would a friend have her new diploma!?
This pattern of deceit was further confirmed when my brother and I checked with the National Student Clearinghouse and found out she wasn’t enrolled since last year and has no diploma from her university, contrary to her claims. Rather than coming clean, Emily’s response was to weave even more complex lies.
On top of all this, she’s lying about big financial moves involving my dad’s friends, like apartments in NYC and buying new houses, which just isolates us more when we can’t follow up on these claims without risking embarrassment.
Our dad is devastated. He’s always been private and protective, and these events have hit him hard. He’s still defending Emily and seems in denial, despite everything. It feels like everything’s falling apart because of Emily’s fabrications. My brother and I aren't speaking with my sister right now, and not speaking to my dad much, after we gave them ultimatums that they ignored.
I suggested family therapy, but that got shut down. I’m at a loss. I want to help my dad and find some way to bridge the gap, but Emily’s presence makes it impossible to even think about staying at his house. I’m genuinely scared of what she might do next given her track record and intensity.
So, what should I do? Is there a way to get through to my dad or to arrange some kind of intervention for Emily without making things worse? How do I find someone who can help us navigate this incredibly tough situation? I'm also open to some questions and perspectives on her outrageous lies.
And before you ask, yes, I know about What Jennifer Did, let's not bring that up!
Thanks for letting me vent. I just want to find some way to bring honesty and peace back to our family.

33F, SAHM and college student. Married but my husband is always at work. I have basically zero family and friends. I can go all day without a text or call from someone. It’s extremely lonely. Being socially awkward and making friends in your 30s when you have kids is hard. I’d like to actually have genuine friendships that is not one person putting in all the effort.
Nonjudgmental. Open to talking to anyone but prefer you to be atleast 28+

My boyfriend (18M) and I (18F) have been together for 7 months now and we are each other's first relationship. We are both college students and are currently on summer break. I am only working one part time job, and he is working 2 part time jobs, taking night classes, and training to be a firefighter as well. Obviously, he is really stressed, and I feel like it is starting to impact our relationship. Earlier today, we were having a nice date together and it was going perfectly fine until we got back to my house. We had made plans for later in the week to see each other but had nothing set and stone. When we got back to my house, I got a text from my manager to work on the day we planned to hang out. My shift will end at 5, so I asked him if it was fine for us to hang out after my shift since I never get scheduled and I need the money. He told me no, nothing will be open, there will be nothing for us to do, and that he will be tired anyways because his shift at one of his jobs ended at 2. I had thought this was a bit odd but ignored it and we went and hung out in my room. He was being quiet the whole time, not reciprocating any affection I was trying to show him, wouldn't even entertain me when I was trying to cheer him up, and swatting my hand away when I tried to tickle him (we tickle each other all the time, more him tickling me than me tickling him). Eventually he left my house, and I had other things to do. He texted me when he got home saying that he was sorry and that he is stressed and that he still wants to see me. I forgave him, talked to my mom about it, and she said that he was probably having an off day. But these off days are becoming more normal than I would like.
Last week we had a date together and it was great until we got to his house to hang out at after. He fell asleep immediately with his back to me and not even touching me. I felt invisible, ignored, and a bit upset so I started to gather my stuff to leave. Something that I think is important to take note of is that I just started birth control pills, and it has been making me a bit more reactive and sensitive than normal. He did not want me to leave his house in that state because I was on the verge of tears. I told him how I felt ignored and he kept apologizing and beating himself up over it and I told him it was okay. I left, started sobbing immediately, he went inside and also started sobbing. I had to pull over into a local park and cry because I was in no state to drive properly. I called him 6 times and left voicemails while I was crying but he never picked up because he was also sobbing. I left the park I was in after about 20 minutes and he called me while I was driving but I did not pick up, he called me again when I got home (we have each other's locations on) and cried on call together. He, again, told me that it was because he is so stressed.
I don't know what to do, I want to be more accommodating to the amount of stress he is under, but I hate the way that he is making me feel because of it. I want to be a good girlfriend and help him as much as I can, but I feel that I've been crying and getting upset every time I see him. I have let him know many times that I want to be a rock for him, I want to listen to him, and do anything I can to alleviate any stress in any way I can. Does anyone have any advice on what to do?
Sorry for any grammar or spelling errors, I am just stressed :(
TLDR my boyfriend is stressed from his busy schedule, and I hate how his behavior from the stress is making me feel and I do not know what to do

I'm (20f) a college student, and recently learned I'm currently three months pregnant. I haven't told anyone, not even the father, my boyfriend (26m). I've been going back and forth about what to do. After a lot of soul-searching, and reading about all of the couples that want a child but can't have one, I've been thinking about giving my baby up for adoption. I know everyone says it's a selfless act, but it doesn't feel selfless. The truth is, I feel like I'm doing it for selfish reasons.
I'm reaching out here because I don't know much about adoption and could really use some advice from anyone who's been through this or knows about it. Obvious throwaway because my partner is on Reddit and knows my account. Please, if you don't have anything nice to say, or you're one of those people that just likes to argue, move on. I'm here looking for real advice. Thank you in advance.
I feel guilty for considering this, but I want to do what's best for me right now and I want to make sure I can give my baby to someone who really deserves them. There's no way I'm in a position to provide the life they deserve right now, especially because I still have a couple of years left before I graduate. Plus, the career path I've chosen requires me to do internships and maybe even graduate school. I had also planned on doing a study abroad program next year, which could really help me with my future career. It feels selfish to give up my child for these reasons. I'm not poor or sick or on drugs. Is it wrong to feel this way?
It's too late to even consider an abortion, and I don't think I could have gone through with it anyway. Knowing that so many families are out there that want a child, I figure at least I could do something good and right and my child will know that I wasn't all bad. Though, I think if I do give them up for adoption that I would want it to be closed because I wouldn't want them thinking they were different. For those of you that have gone through with this before, how did you deal with the father? My boyfriend would be disappointed to learn he had a child that I didn't keep, so I think I don't want to tell him, but it breaks my heart. My plan is to go away for the summer and then say I'm not coming back to school in the fall. Hopefully he will understand and still love me.
Should I contact an adoption agency now? Will it cost me any money? Money isn't really a problem but I just want to be prepared. Is it better to do a private adoption over the internet with someone or go through an agency? Any info you can provide would be welcome.
TL;DR: Pregnant college student considering adoption, looking for advice and hugs from internet strangers.