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THIS IS JUST A RANT
I just recently joined a small local law firm as an intern, and I'm miserable. I decided to intern before starting law school, and all the firms I applied to were notified about this matter.However, I'm ready to learn.
The first few days were okay-ish, people were "nice.". However, as the days progress, everyone just seems to have their own circle of "friends.". I do have someone to talk to too, a dude sitting next to me in a different row, and another dude who is sitting across from me.
I admit I made a lot of mistakes in my first few weeks,but I took all the changes as advice. I came in late due to vehicular issues or made some Microsoft word error. I thought it was okay as the others would come in late as well (Pupil of Chambers and the lawyers) and try ducking away from the bosses view (if he is in),then they would laugh about it among each other. However, I was advised otherwise by my superior. Now I come an hour earlier then the others, I would read ,scroll socmed,study or whatever to pass the time till 9 am (Work hour) and if Iam late I would inform my superior. Even during lunch time, I would be back as early as I could so I wouldn't be in trouble, but the others would sometimes be back 30 mins late to the office, laughing away with their bobba tea in hand. I also apply to some Microsoft Word classes to improve my MW usage so I won't make so many useless mistakes and be a burden.
I was put under conveyancing,which I never studies before, ,so to prep myself, I self-studied and hire a tutor to help me understand better.
Next, I realised I don't get to do certain things unlike the others ( Pupil in Chambers (PIC), certain lawyers/paralegals) . At first, I thought it was due to the fact I was still new and just an intern. However, they get away with more things but I get in trouble if I do it . What annoys me is that some joined the firm only a month before me and they are already "buddy-buddy" with the lawyers.
Next dilemma, I was told that everyone was going to a work trip that week, which at the time I thought it was just the bosses and the exec lawyers but turns out it's everyone, including the staff and pupils in chambers. I was stuck wfh aiding a lawyer that chose to stay behind . OFC I had some issues with MW , which I tried the hardest to research , google, youtube and even call some friends for help but alas to no avail and I was upfront about it to the lawyer I was aiding. Obviously I got in trouble the next week by my supervisor when they were back. Hence why I applied for courses after work in MS so I can enhance the skill and be useful to my superiors so I wont get that resented and disappointed look from my superiors. Also, I didn't get to do anything that day, heck I even ask people in the office if they needed any help (desk to desk , email and text but was sadly ignored) .
When they got back from the trip, I realised they were more closer to each other, heck, even with the bosses. I tried making friends but I seem to be getting ignored except by those 2 guys. Hence, I speak to the lawyers in a formal way, even tho the secretary told me it was okay to talk on first-name basis . I wont do so until they tell me it's okay, even towards the firm's secretary.
During lunch time is lonely too. They would go eat together (except for a few who decided to stay behind to eat or chill in the office), and Im never invited, unlike when I was on my first day. Most of the lawyers are ladies (late 20's to early 30's, I think) . From experience, women tend to be meaner to other ladies if you are not up to par with them, could be a racial thing as well but I'm not bringing that in. However, in the past, working with men was a different story, they were somehow more welcoming and pleasant to work with.
This morning, I got told to stop speaking with one of the PIC because she was trying to "concentrate.". Bitch gets to laugh and talk as loud as she wants when others are working but I can't? I use my earphones to muffle the sound if things gets loud. I used to be excited to come to work, but now I feel dread. Im contracted to be with the firm for 4 months, but now I somehow slightly regret joining the firm. I don't want to quit because its barely been 1-2 months, and I don't want to be a pussy by crying about it or quitting (despite wanting to cry in the toilet stalls during lunch break).
Also,I don't always get tasks to do; I feel isolated and everything I do seems to never be good enough. Despite all of this, I somehow still have the urge to learn and be helpful. So I filled my time studying and out of trouble. I try so hard to behave and do my work right so I won't be picked on or chastised by my superiors. Im getting diarrhoea thinking about it. The bright side about this firm, is that they're pretty lenient, unlike other firms.
I know I can be a problem, so I try to mend my mistakes. The advice/feedback help, and I stay in my lane. What I understand, that I'm an intern, ,bottom of the totem- pole, especially given the fact that I'm not in school yet and that I'm slightly older (started later due to COVID). To them, I am a dog, and when they tell me to bark, I bark. Since I will be a dog for the next 4 months, I decided to be a Golden Retriever—helpful, friendly, and always ready to please and learn. I am learningto learn by showing a brave face and cry at home. I have to walk off the pain and all fo this will be just a memory. Luckily, the pay is good and I need this for CV purposes.

Hey everyone. FTM of a 6 week old here. I am feeling guilty at the moment and I am trying to navigate those feelings but am also I guess trying to figure out how is everyone doing it. Everyday, I am learning than another thing I do is going to mess my child. Cosleeping is bad, swings are bad, pacifiers are bad, baby falling asleep on the breast is bad, too many contact naps are bad, toys with flashing lights are bad, certain wake times should be followed, et cetera et cetera. Also, I did hear of the term mom wars but haven't conceptualised it before very recently.
This morning I was scrolling on facebook and saw a post in a group where a mom was really upset. She was saying that she was mad with her husband as he tended to watch TV when he was the one taking care of their 11 week old. This was shocking to me. Her feelings are valid, of course, I think she was saying that she makes a lot of effort to avoid all screens, even as background, and she felt unsupported in her parenting decision. But what was shocking is I never even thought about that as a potential issue in newborns. And I started feeling very guilty as the tv is most of the time running since my LO was born. Of course, we play, read, go for car rides, walks. But I am EBF so she is on the breast a lot (I follow her lead and she tends to comfort suck too) and as expected she does sleep a lot (and I am not able to get her to nap independently) so it was natural for me to just pop a Netflix show in the background. Now I wonder how to rearrange my days differently.
I guess my question is: what do you guys do? Am I messing her up? And for those who are strict on screen time (and are currently on leave), what handsfree activities do you do instead? Thanks a lot

I didn't want to post here but I didn't really have a choice so i am just gonna cut to the chase. My older sister is dating my nephew. It sounds weird but please read. They both are under 18 so I wont use real names. First, I will start with explanations about my family. My other older sister I will call her Hope) who is 30 at the time of this post is married to my brother-in law. My brother in-law's brother and his wife was caught doing "Illegal things" (Sorry Its still an ongoing case atm). So brother in-law's other brother and his wife decided to take their kids in but they were still living with Hope and my brother in-law and one of those kids were my nephew who I will name Lee was one of those kids.
(By the way, when me, Pou, and my other older sister who is a year older than me were in foster care. When we were, my brother in-law and Hope took us in and this was when I was five or six. Hope, my other sis and me walking in on Lee and Pou cuddling. That was when Pou was eight or seven and Lee was 9 or 10. )
My sister whom I will call Pou started acting strange when we were folding boats for their grandpa whom recently passed away. Folding boats for our loved ones is part of our tradition. Pou and Lee were acting strange because they were glancing at each other as if they were elementary children.
That's when my suspicions started. Not to be creepy or anything but every movement they made and every small action I was watching as I did with everyone else. To be honest watching and reading people's face wrinkles and actions became a habit when I was 11 and right now I'm 14 so three years of experience was screaming "Somethings happening" So I will list things that stood out and rose my suspicions.
1.Lee's Actions: Lee is a quiet guy just like my brother in-law and they both are talkative to people they know. So during spring break we went to spend time at Hope's house to help with the kids and to hang out. Suddenly Lee came into our room and decided to hang out with us. Usually when we are over Lee stays in the basement. Even Hope said that. I didn't think much of it and thought he had a change of heart.
2.Pou's Voice: Pou is a confident talkative girl and her voice is like Jim Carrey, Drake, and Jennie if they were in one voice box. So that same day where Lee cam into the room to hangout, Pou was acting strange and I noticed Lee being distant from me and Hope. So when Pou would start talking its like she was summoning the snow white out of her soul. So of course that made me realize, "Yea, something is goin on here"
3.Pou's Actions: Usually when it comes to Hope's house Pou wouldn't really be that enthusiastic when going. So when we were about to come back home from Hope's house Pou said."To be honest, I kind don't wanna go home." We had to anyways because we had school the next day. She also would use the bathroom in the basement where Lee sleeps. (The basement is not messy its actually a bar, gym, and bedroom.) Usually Pou would be reluctant to use the bathroom in the basement because that bathroom was cramped and the door couldn't close properly. So when she did I was already convinced she was seeing him.
Next is Confirming My Suspicions
During her visit to the basement she was taking too long so I decided, "Lets see if I'm right." So I tried sneaking down in the basement but my dam flip flops were slapping my feet and the stairs would creak so they hear me coming down. When I opened the door Lee was pretending to be asleep and Pou coincidentally "finished" using the bathroom. A few things stood out

1. Pou was out of breath
   
2. She was smiling and looking to my left.
   
3. I looked at her direction, she didnt look like she came around the corner where the bathroom was at. it looked like she just turned around from going to the direction of the bathroom.
   

I asked her, "Why do you talk in that voice whenever Lee is near?" and she got defensive on me telling me not to get the wrong idea.
Yesterday, we were watching a horror movie named Exhuma and babysitting. Me, Hope, Pou, and my other sis whom I will name Alin were there and we were gonna use the bathroom one by one since we are watching our 1 year old niece. Pou wanted to use the bathroom in the basement since one of our nephews was taking too long. Once he was done, Me, Hope, and Pou had already used the bathroom. We waited and waited on our phones. I was honestly in a good mood since I had predicted the movie's outcome but Pou was killing to suspense of the movie so I told Pou and Alin that I was going to check on her. This time instead of trying to sneak, I decided to run down as it was a habit and when I burst opened the door, Boom, them rushing to get away from each other. Lee was laying on his stomach and face on the pillow, Pou standing up in shock, eyes wide, hands on her waist and covering her mouth. The only thing I thought was, "So I was right." I told her that I had a suspicion and tried to confirm it earlier. Honestly the only real emotion I could get out was a laugh. I didnt really feel anything about it but how funny it was.
How They Feel
Pou told me that she feels that she's truly in love with him and so is he. She told me things how they started falling for each other and by the information it sounds like Lee was the one in love first. It was a romantic story but she told me it was forbidden love. To me it seems more like Illegal love. For the record we come form a strict Asian house hold and culture. In our culture reputation is money, power, status, life. She told me that she loved him because he wasn't a brain-rotted 17 year old guy. Yes Pou is 16 and Lee is 17. Lee was healthy. He worked out just like me and was somewhat productive. She said that Lee was the only one who like her cranky and funny personality. He embraced her body like it was a statue. He didn't just like her, he loved her, and they loved each other. She said that she loved his voice, his protection, and his way of affection. She loved listening to him like he was a melody on the beach. It was addicting and calming to her in my opinion. She cried. She didn't trust me. I understood why.
Just a little information. I was mature for my age. I knew many things, and had many secrets and secrets of others. I used these secrets to get information of other people or use it to my advantage. In public I used an Innocent face, voice and personality. With family, neutral and tried to make others smile. Alone is when I express myself. I use information from others around me to blackmail or just to see their expressions because it was entertaining. I hurt people who hurt me and one of those were Pou.
So I understood why she didn't trust me. If I met me, I wouldn't trust me either. In all the conversations and stories, I felt like I related. I was also wondering what I would do if I lost someone close to me and I did, we all did. She told me that he was the reason she could live, losing him would mean losing herself. She told me to keep it to myself till the day I die. She couldn't trust me to the point she started eating less.
I'm not begging for her trust if anything I didn't want to get involved but curiosity drives me nuts.
I don't know if this is even legal. My strict parents would kick her out and my elders would give her a nickname to gossip about. I'm just a kid relying on internet people I truly don't know. I know its stupid but I cant anyone. My parents would disown her, I would get yelled at and my sis Hope would get shamed on by my brother in-law's elders. I'm supposed be the mediator in these situations but ever outcome I can think of leads to nowhere that everyone is good.
Adults or anyone experienced in things like this could help me I truly don't know what to do, advice would be nice.

My BP found out I was using OF a month into pregnancy (which was planned). Baby is due in early August. I was struggling with boredom and loneliness, and didn't have a healthy way to cope. I was also extremely stressed by work. I would pay to sext with people, who's real identity was always anonymous. I just saw it as porn 2.0. I saw it as me going to the strip club in Vegas with the fellas. It WAS cheating because I was satisfying a sexual and emotional need outside of my regular. AND bP was pregnant....I don't know what the hell I was thinking. I wasn't thinking. It was Brain rotting behavior. Mind numbing. Dday was December 18. After months of failing to reconcile, BP moved out on April 12. BP's family and BP asked for NC. They demanded space. It's been exactly one month, I still haven't heard from BP. I have no idea where they live, or what's happening with the baby. I am scared to text because I am just afraid of what BP will say, it's been pretty toxic and hurtful for both of us since Dday. This is the longest we have not spoken. It's surreal. They asked me to leave them alone, so I can't do anything else but let them be. I don't believe that they love me anymore, trust me, or feel safe with me. They have a ton of trauma from their past, and have a tendency to shut down during conflict OR explode. It's been so long in NC it feels like years. I can't imagine even making eye contact with them, hugging them. It feels like the relationship we had was from a different dimension. A past life. A parallel universe.. All I can hear in my head is their anger towards me, and how disgusting they feel I am. I feel horrible about myself. I feel humiliated. I am in therapy, but still struggling with passive si / no plan. Has anyone been in such a situation? The pregnancy aspect adds a layer of complexity that is beyond overwhelming. At what point do I let BP go? My life coach said BP told you they are done by their decision to move and not tell you anything. What more clarification is needed? But I just can't get myself to believe it. It's too painful to be true. It would be easy if they had died honestly, because I can accept whatever god does. But accepting that this is because of my own sexual perversion is the most humiliating thing I've ever experienced and I can't imagine ever recovering from this. Please help.

Warning: This is extremely long
I am writing this because I need to make it known my love for this girl. And there needs to be something in the world that shows my love. All the hours of sleep I have lost for this girl, who I will call Eve, were for naught and I need there to be something tangible of what we had. This is my story of her.
I first met Eve at a volunteer event for an see organization we both went to, 4 days of 5 hours of volunteering. I thought she was beautiful and I wanted to ask her out. As we were leaving on the very last day I asked. I told her I enjoyed talking to her and thought she was cool, I asked if she would want to hang out sometime. I was elated. I thought she had given me her number romantically. I was so happy that day, I had never felt such joy. I was potentially going to be in a relationship with this amazing and beautiful woman. I texted her that night, and we talked some. The next day I asked her on a date, if she wanted to go to a local aquarium with me. She told me that she had a boyfriend. My soul was crushed, I felt myself die a bit. I physically felt my joy leave, everything was gray again. I had fallen in love with her over the simple act of her giving me her phone number. I have longed for female connection and affection for so long that even a slight show of something that could be considered as romance made me adore her. And that shows how fucked up I am. I made some more small talk, nothing much. I tried to play it off as “oh yea that’s cool”, perhaps I could salvage a friendship for now, and wait until she did not have a boyfriend. I asked her if she wanted to do paintball for my Birthday, she couldn’t because her sister got injured as a kid from it. For the next 3 months I mourned. I was sad, I had fallen in love with this beautiful girl, but could not even attempt to be with her. Then in November I saw her at another event, I was so scared. I was too afraid to make contact with her. I saw her and was terrified, of scorn, of disgust. I was embarrassed. She walked past me once and I said hi, as a friend, but no response, perhaps she did not hear me. I avoided her for the next few hours. Eventually during a raffle at the end we made eye contact. It was very brief, barely a second. I looked away so fast. She was so breathtaking. Now I knew that she knew I was there, and she knew I knew she was there. I went home without any more contact. The next months were the same, sadness. Mourning the relationship I (thought I) almost had. Every day I thought about her. Every single day. Not 3 hours could pass without her crossing my mind. At night I would look at her on Instagram. Look at her pictures, it was nothing creepy, I just admired her beauty and longed for her. I saw her boyfriend, he was ugly and fat. I do not mean to be rude or hate, but she could do better. I am ugly, but I take care of myself, I was jealous of him. One day she posted her Junior prom pics with him, she was so beautiful. One day when I went to admire her pictures, I noticed something. She had taken his name from her bio, and deleted all her posts. They had broken up. I was elated, perhaps I had a chance. I needed to see her again, establish connection. I went to an event where she was going, I saw her, I tried to find a chance to say hello but we were all so busy and split into different groups, I didn’t get a chance. As the event ended it was late. It was dark and in a not desirable area of town, Eve was leaving and my mom was going to accompany her to her car and called me over to accompany her. I walked out and was with them, Eve was so beautiful, her smile made me melt inside. We made some small talk between the three of us as we walked for a minute or two, and then she got in her car and left. I was angry at myself and my situation, I should have talked to her more, put myself out there. I was beating myself up for it the rest of my time there and the ride home. But when I got home I was overjoyed, while I drove Eve had texted me. She said it was nice to see me at an event again, with a smiley face. We talked for a bit, texting back and forth. I was so happy to be talking to her again, and SHE initiated it. Mind you this is on the 8th of February. For the next week or so we texted, not a ton. She was busy, however I have noticed she uses that as an excuse to not reply, more on that later. Come Valentine’s Day it was nearing Junior Prom at my school, I had dreams of bringing her to it. I was hoping to try and do something in person with her and some friends over the weekend, where I could ask in person. However, on Valentine’s Day she posted on her Instagram story a gift she had received from a secret admirer. I was scared I would lose my opportunity, now I had competition. This rushed me. I called her that evening, I told her I wanted to ask in person but saw her story and felt rushed, i asked if she wanted to go to our Junior prom with me. She said that she wasn’t sure, and wanted a few days to get back to me. A few days later she responded, she could not go. She said that she was talking to someone else pretty seriously and didn’t want to go for that reason. I accepted this with grace, I respect her decision. Exactly one month later I ran into her at an event. We talked a bit, we worked by each other this time. She mentioned when we talked with some others as a group that she was going on a spring break trip to California. After the event ended and we had gone home I texted her later that evening. I said it was nice seeing her, and I hoped she enjoyed her break. She responded, I was scared she wouldn’t. Throughout all of this I have held an underlying belief she is weirded out by me, or wants me to screw off, I had asked her out twice, maybe I am just a creep to her. But she did respond. We talked for the next few days, she still took a long time to respond, over 12 hours usually. I get you’re busy, but let’s be honest, everyone checks their phone in that time. On the morning of break when my family was driving off for ours I got a text from her. She sent me sunrise pics from her trip she was on, and said she would send some more. We texted back and forth a bit then, and she said I should send her pics of my trip. I was so happy, she had sent me pictures and asked I send some. While they weren’t pictures of HER, they were still beautiful sunrise pics, and SHE sent them to me first. Over the course of spring break we talked, there was a large time difference so most of it was sending picture, asking or telling something, and responding to previous texts. But one day we were both sat down and we texted back and forth for a straight hour. She was giving me her time and attention, I felt as if she enjoyed talking to me. When break ended however it changed. She took more and more time to respond, hours to days. She said she was busy, but I knew the truth, you can check your phone over the course of 2-3 days and respond. I felt hurt and confused. She has given me so much time and we had talked so much over break but now I was being ghosted. I couldn’t take it anymore. I wrote her a long text, telling her how I felt about her and what we had going on. How she was the most beautiful woman in the world and how I love talking to her, and also how I was getting mixed signals for her. She responded and told me that at first she was texting for friendliness but began to like me as we talked, she said she would text me before her friends and that must mean something subconsciously. She was flattered and admired my persistence in asking her out, now she was open to going out with me to test the waters. I was overjoyed. However I am moving overseas, about 3 months from when this happened, and I told her that. Very unfortunate that when I get my chance it is cut short. We talked more, and planned a date. She never did tell me why she didn’t respond. It was wonderful, we talked a lot. Of course it was awkward at times, but it got better as it went. I couldn’t take my eyes off of her. She was breathtaking, she had makeup on, but she looks even prettier without it. We talked about all sorts of things, and it all made me like her more. Same passion we wanted to go to college for, both love animals, both believe the same stuff. When the date ended, we went our separate ways. That has since been the last time I have seen her. When I got home she texted me she had a good time, I was so incredibly happy to see that. I hadn’t weirded her out, she hadn’t found me too unattractive to date. One day I posted a pic of me after winning a sports championship along with some others of my team on my story. I have never posted a pic of myself because I am self conscious, this was the first. She viewed my stories, and the only one she gave a like was of me. That made me feel so special, she liked the picture of ME. I was happy, we were still texting, she still took a while to reply, usually a day, but I was happy because I was going on dates with her. During the midst of planning a second, she stopped replying for a few days. When I was touring a college I got the message. She had felt nothing romantic on our date, only platonic. She enjoyed it she said, but felt no feelings for me. She wanted to go out again to solidify these feelings, and give me another chance but because I was moving she didn’t want to potentially start a relationship we would end in 2 months. She said she didn’t want to lead me on. I was heartbroken. I love her. This was the final nail in the coffin, it was over. We would not work out. I replied to her, said thank you for the honesty and wished her luck with life. I have been left on read. I don’t expect anything else, but a reply, a thank you for understanding, anything would be nice. I don’t want it to end. Any connection I can have with her I wanted. I don’t understand, I thought she liked me? While she did say she thought she had feelings, I understand that she may have changed how she felt after going out, but why would she do what she did? Why would she tell me she had a good time it she didn’t think it would work? I feel as if that just got my hopes up. It put me under the impression she liked me too. And why would she like my picture if she did not LIKE me? I am confused m, and I am sad. My situationship with her is done, and any contact is as well. I miss her, I want to be with her. I don’t understand what to do now. For the past year she has been my purpose. I have improved myself for her, cried for her, tried at life for her. Now I have nothing, no purpose. How can I go on when I have no purpose. She was my driving factor for all I did. I am empty now. I write this because I need people to know. I cannot let all I felt for her go unknown. I need to express my love for her somehow, it must be known, it not to her then to you all. I can not let all we had, even if it was really nothing for her and to outside perspective, it was so much to me. And a message I leave for her, if by some miracle she stumbled upon this and recognizes these events. Eve, I love you. I know that it is not reciprocated. I am sorry for loving you, when we together had so little. You are the most beautiful girl in the world, your heart is pure and your mind is sharp. Although I can not be with you I hold no hard feelings. I am not angry, because your feelings are valid, even if they are not what I wish you felt. I hope whatever happens to you in life you excel. I hope you find someone you love that loves you like I do. I will never forget you. Thank you for the chance you gave me, and your honesty and clear communication. Goodbye.

TL;DR need advice on how to go about contacting or how to find more contact info for my landlord that I just found out is different than who I believed.
Apologies in advance for the long-windedness. Questions are at the end
So I asked a question in this sub a bit ago about trying to avoid having to pay rent if I broke my lease because I knew they wouldn’t rent my apartment because they plan to flip it. Most people told me to just ask to see if they would be amenable to ending the lease early.
So I did that last week only to be told I would need to talk to the owner. I had been on the phone with the maintenance dept of the management company because of an ongoing issue they have still not resolved, so I thought they meant I just had to talk to someone else so I asked to be transferred. They said they couldn’t do that. So I asked if they had a direct line so I wouldn’t have to go through the automated prompts again. They said no. So I asked if calling the office or using the text line would be better. He said, “no, that’s all for the management company. We are hired by the owner. You would have to talk to the owner directly if you had a question about the lease.” I was a bit dumbfounded by this because I had never been given any other information. My former landlord sold my building at the end of February and just told us that we would be contacted by [first name last name] realty on how to pay rent for March. The next day I had a letter from [3 letters] management with an intro and how to pay my rent. We were given a phone number to call and a different one to text. Around that time I got a text from the text number who identified himself as same [first name last name] from [3 letters] management. So at this point, I assumed he was my landlord. I did ask the maintenance guy if he could just tell me the name of the owner and he said he knew it but couldn’t give out that information.
I was kind of at a loss at this point and venting to my friend and he told me I could look up the property records online. The owner is an LLC that was created about a month before buying my building. I only have a PO Box address in a city 2+ hours from my apt. I really don’t want to mail a letter asking for them to contact me about mutually ending the lease early. I had been hesitant just to ask the management company when I thought they were the landlord just because of how difficult they have made this. I have to imagine a landlord that hasn’t made themselves known and is also kicking out of everyone from the building to flip it is not going to be helpful. I tried googling and the AI overview states that a landlord must notify tenants who the new owner is but when I click into the articles, nothing I have found explicitly states this.
So my questions are:
Was someone supposed to tell me who my actual landlord was and how to contact them?
Are there other resources I can use to find out how to contact my landlord other than the P.O. Box?
Is it worth talking to a different person at the management company to see if they would be willing to give me more info?
Should I try to ask my old landlord for this info?
Has anyone else gone through something like this and what did you do?
TIA, ETA line breaks because mobile sucks

Been seeing this lovely woman for about 8 months, and overall things have been great don't get me wrong. Every time I ask to hangout or give her a call or a text she responds mostly enthusiastically, and never leaves me on read or says no to a date. If I bring her a gift or cook us dinner she brings a gift or contributes without me asking.
Now - a few months into dating I asked if she wanted to be an official 'relationship' and she said she wanted to get to know me more. Which, okay - sure. At about 6 months I asked what I was to her out of curiosity about the pacing of things and she said she sees me as someone she's dating. And - yes semantics matter here. She didn't mean it as a relationship more exploratory than that.
Now it's 8 months in. Things have progressed intimacy wise, and we have agreed our boundaries are no dates with other people and not keeping options open etc.. so I'm a bit confused what the difference is between committing to a relationship, which we already have basically, and what we are now.
Neither of us have met each other's friends or families. And I'm usually the one reaching out or planning things. Unless I wait to hear from her for over a week, to which she would say something like 'Is everything okay?' cause she's wondering why I haven't planned a date like I usually do or text or call etc. sometimes she'll say good morning or something but then I am usually driving the conversation after that, even when she initiates it or else it fizzles out for the day.
Now that could all be chalked up to communication style and wanting the man to take the lead etc. Like I mentioned she's a traditional woman for the most part. And has been open about having very little dating experience and is still learning how to communicate or what she likes... ( I guess? )
The thing that confuses me is little lies here and there that could be me over thinking, but also could be an issue. Very few examples here because like I said most things are great, but I'll list them because I think they're important even if it is only a few red flags.

1. We planned for a call one night and I called and no answer. Hours go by. She replies and says she was in the shower. Except, her activity status on social media was online... Which I use to message friends from other countries, and saw that she was online the whole time we were supposed to be on the call. Not a big deal, maybe she had a bad day and didn't know how to say she wasn't up for a conversation idk I'm not going to make up excuses for her. But she did initiate a call the next day since we missed ours. It's the little lie that nags at me sometimes.
   
2. She still uses a dating app even though she says she hasn't since we started dating. I did not look at her phone and would never do that. I know because of something pretty unfortunate. I am pretty into this woman and so I was going to delete the app. But for nostalgia I looked at our messages from the beginning of the 'relationship' smiling like an idiot reading our first messages. Then - noticed her location updated which only happens when you open the app. So... I did not delete the app, I wanted to see if she was using it. Probably shouldn't have kept it. But despite knowing it's out of my control and just deleting it - I kept it and checked and yeah it updates and no it doesn't do that in the background. That being said it only does it like once or twice a week. Which isn't consistent with having conversations on there you know? So I don't know if she's using it like I am to see if IM still using it. Which would be funny cause then were both worried about each other still using it even though we're just checking each other's status lolll. Anyways
   

She's never started an argument - never been insecure about it - and never really brings up a relationship or anything. The closest she gets to talking about the future is stuff like 'next time we hangout let's do XYZ' etc.
Anyways that's really it. Otherwise everythings amazing. Since I don't know exactly whats going on without directly asking which - won't get anywhere because she's already said she's not using it and I don't want to come across insecure - I've decided to let it go for now but want to know what you guys think?
Is it weird that we're basically a relationship but she won't commit?
If you need more information for an opinion I'm happy to provide. Thanks for reading.
TLDR: Woman I've been seeing who is honestly really fun to be around and talk to and is the most healthy mentally stable woman I've ever had the pleasure of talking to, is sending mixed signals and won't commit to a relationship - still using (or at least opening) dating apps after talking for 8 months and setting exclusivity boundaries. Also little lies here and there for seemingly no reason. Seeking advice

Quick story. I was at a gas station to get my usual grub before work. On my way out, this guy asks me about my work shoes, which are super comfortable. We chat for a little bit, and he tells me about a couple him and his wife met who “retired in their 20’s”. Tells me that there’s an opportunity for me to “meet my financial goals”. It’s already sounding like an MLM to me, but it’s more intricate with how he’s going about it. He offers to meet at Panera Bread to discuss more about this opportunity. I’m like alright my MLM flags are already going off, but I’ll hear this guy out.
I go to Panera the next week and we chat some more. He asks me “what would you do with your time if you didn’t have to worry about money?” I was unsure. But then he explained more about “David and Angela” the couple who “retired” in their 20’s. Yadda yadda, more conversation. He’s really pushing the lifestyle of this venture rather than explaining what the actual job is. The meeting ends, he invited me to a meeting that’s happening tomorrow (5/14/24). At first I’m like okay I’ll think about it and get back to you.
I get to my car, drive home, then google this retired couple. Found the guys LinkedIn and dug deep, found his twitter and immediately saw buzzwords like “this team made our goal” “sold this much product” “team meetings” “up line” this and that. Definitely is an MLM by my book lol. So I texted him and told him I wouldn’t be attending as I’m satisfied with where I am career wise and all that. He asked me what had changed my mind? And that I didn’t have to make a decision yet until I can see what the meeting is, but I’d personally rather not waste my time lol.
I’m pretty sure this dude was trying to recruit me to his downline or however you put it. But I caught it in time to confirm my suspicions lol. This dudes “company” doesn’t even have a valid website, the link from LinkedIn led nowhere, and his twitter just gave up huge red flags that reeked of MLM schemes. Glad I decided not to go through with it lol. Hope the dude lives his best life, cause he was nice, but that’s a big no thanks from me.

Hey Everyone! The Obsidian Warrior’s journey continues at last. As always I recommend reading Crowson’s Intro post and Chapter 1 before this part of the story. Hope you enjoy what was made!
Completed Chapter 2s: Thearnt, Taland, Pascal, Harmony, Crowson
(Next Chapter 2: Asherah the Chef)
Crowson the Warrior, Chapter 2: Recommended Level 24
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(The Journey So Far…)
Crowson had served loyally under his father King Milo for all of his life.
But once his close comrade Theo was sentenced to be executed…
Crowson abandoned all loyalty he had to the Obsidians
And so, He fled their newly captured town of Westfirst…
and arrived in Fallholt to lay low for a while, before taking action on his one and only goal, Kill King Milo and end the Obsidians…
Crowson stands atop a ledge, overlooking the small town below. He sighs, “They won’t find me here. It was a mistake to slip the name of Beggar’s Hole to Maverick, he’s likely told Milo and… I hope Theo decided to lay low in another town like I did.”
He would proceed to walk down some stairs and into the town properly. He’d sit down on a bench, going through his thoughts, frustrated at not being able to keep his mind off King Milo… “I need a drink.” He stands up.
You’d head to the Fallholt Tavern

• Travel Banter: The Sacred Flame’s Forgiveness (Crowson and Thearnt) Crowson finds Thearnt praying about something, Thearnt reveals she was letting the gods know Crowson was on their side she tells him that he’s doing the right thing and the Flame will forgive him. Crowson questions her, asking if killing people, and continuing to do so is really what the flame stands for? Thearnt is stunned and silent. “I– I was trying to be nice…”
  
• Travel Banter: Wasting My Time (Crowson and Asherah) Asherah asks Crowson if they came all this way just to get him a drink, Crowson tells her “It’s nothing more than a waste of time, but that’s why I came here.” Asherah laughs and asks Crowson if he has anything better to do here. “Do You?” He fires back. “Then hold your tongue and let us be going.” Asherah just says “This whole conversation was a waste of time.”
  

Crowson is served a drink by the barkeeper, the only other people in the tavern are two men sitting far away from him. He quickly downs his drink and orders another that he downs just as fast.
After some time passes, Crowson is standing outside. “To the ruins we go Zach!” he hears someone just beside him. “Aye, Careful now.” Zach responds. Crowson watches as the two leave town to the north.
“Ruins…?” He wonders to himself, He gazes at the distant valleys and stone structures and against his own will at first, he decides to follow them.
Road to the Ruins of Fallholt, Danger Level 24
Fairly quickly, Crowson would find them and start listening. The same men from the bar, “Now what Rene?” Zach asks. Rene stays silent. “There has to be someone else on our force who can lend us a weapon…”
“Your force?” Crowson reveals himself to them. Rene is startled by him, “We’re the Fallholt Guard!” he shouts “It’s you...You aren’t going to– kill– us– are you?”
Crowson turns around, as if to make sure King Milo isn’t there, “No.” he says at last. Rene and Zach ask Crowson if he’s part of the Fallholt Guard too, He tells them that he isn’t. Rene asks Crowson if he would mind doing them a favor.
“We’ve dealt with our fair share of Stealing, Murder, and Trafficking around Fallholt, It’s… not a very safe town. Recently, something’s been especially off about these ruins over there. We don’t know what’s going on inside, and we need someone to take a look because we–”
He turns to Zach, as if he doesn’t want to say it himself “We lost our weapons. Stolen by some bandits.” Zach continues. “I know it’s a lot, could you help us?”
“...” Crowson frowns, “Where did these bandits go?” Rene points him in their direction
You’d mug the bandits and take Rene and Zach’s weapons back.
Crowson returns their weapons and tells him to get a move on. Rene apologizes for not being much help yet. Zach tells him not to worry, Crowson turns and walks in the direction of the Ruins of Fallholt.

• Travel Banter: Too Harsh on them (Crowson and Orlando) Orlando asks Crowson if he’s being too harsh on Rene and Zach. “They’re lucky I agreed to do this favor at all.” Orlando still tells him that he could be nicer to them still, They seem to be nice people after all. “I suppose so, But I thought you knew I’m not big on the idea of blindly obeying.” Crowson replies. Orlando asks “Is that what this is about?” Orlando tells him that as long as he’s there, he won’t let what happened with King Milo happen ever again.

The Three of them stop at the ruins door, Rene and Zach have no idea how to get it open. Crowson decides to use a bit of brute force, pushing and shoving against the door until it opens, revealing the dark ruins inside…
Ruins of Fallholt, Danger Level 25
As you make your way through the ruins, the screen would occasionally rumble.

• Travel Banter: Pitch Black Ruins (Crowson and Pascal) Pascal remarks about how dark the ruins are “Light conditions are not favorable.” Crowson replies. Pascal says “I hope you do well in the dark.” He then brings up something he thought he saw on the wall, strange scratch marks on the stone. Crowson doesn’t worry about it. He tells Pascal that most ruins in Zalaina have scratches like that. Nothing about the Ruins of Fallholt is particularly strange…
  
• Travel Banter: Lurking Mystery (Crowson and Taland) Taland says he hears the rumbling, and wonders what could be hiding here. Crowson and him would talk about different causes and theories for what could be going on, Slightly lightening the mood. Taland says he’ll do his best to fight from behind the “Sword wielder”, but there’s only one way to find out what could be lurking in here…
  

The source of the noise is uncovered deeper in the ruins. Crowson, Rene, and Zach encounter a Minotaur. A bull-like creature. It growls as it exits from the shadows. Rene and Zach draw their weapons and eagerly await a fight. Crowson takes out his sword and stares coldly at the Minotaur, speaking to it and the others, as it strikes.
BOSS: Minotaur
(Boost Dialogue: This is where I set things right.)
The Minotaur is defeated. Crowson puts his sword away, “That takes care of that…” Rene says, Zach nods “We owe you a lot...”
Crowson is about ready to go back into town, when he takes a look ahead, behind where Rene and Zach are standing. He walks forward and stares up at the wall, Painted on it, is the symbol of the Obsidian Crow.
“W– What is that doing here…”
“Crowson?” Rene tries to talk to him, but he can’t take his eyes off the crow.
“That bird… That damn bird…” Crowson turns around, his face partially obscured, he slowly draws his sword on Rene and Zach… They both take a step back.
“Who are you… Was all this to lead me here? Are you one of them?”
The “Challenge” screen would appear, allowing you to challenge Rene and Zach to a duel.
“Answer Me.”
Once the duel is over, Crowson stares at the ground and puts his sword away. Rene, gasping for air, tries to reason. “I swear to you! I don’t know anything about that symbol, or what it means. I’m not a crow!”
“....” Crowson thinks about what to say “I’m sorry.” His voice echoes.
Zach asks “What does the crow mean?”
“It means a someone was in these ruins. But why, Why here? Why in this place?”
“The Crows…?” Rene ponders
“I have to leave. Now.” Crowson says, as the three begin to walk out.

• Travel Banter: Crow Tattoo (Crowson and Oukirii) Oukirii asks what the crow symbol means “I know it’s about the Obsidians, but what’s with the crow?” Crowson explains to Oukirii that it’s the way they discretely mark Obsidian items. Each member has it tattooed on their body. Oukirii asks if that means Crowson has it too, he confirms that it’s on the back of his left shoulder.
  
• Travel Banter: Memories of King Milo (Crowson and Harmony) Harmony asks Crowson if he wants to sit down and talk about King Milo and the Obsidians. Crowson says it doesn’t matter, they have to keep moving forward. But Harmony persuades him into opening up a little. “Here, take my hands.” she offers. They’d talk about things Crowson remembers of Milo. But eventually Harmony decides to leave it alone for the best.
  

Rene and Zach stop Crowson at the entrance to Fallholt. “We just wanted to thank you for helping us out.” Rene says. “I’m sorry about– the crow.” Crowson tells them not to think about it. They ask Crowson where he will go next before he leaves, Crowson looks down and almost smiles when he says “To meet an old friend…”
(Ending Text)
A place meant to be a hiding spot for Crowson turned out to have already been tainted by the Obsidian Crow…
He knew he had to flee town immediately upon the risk of an Obsidian finding him here.
But he still asks himself, Why was the crow here? He’d been everywhere that Milo went and never once visited Fallholt.
And so, Crowson sets out once again. His quest for King Milo’s blood continues.
He leaves for Beggar’s Hole, wondering If any place is truly safe from the crows ravaging anymore...
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Crowson the Warrior: Chapter 2, End.

My(16F) Boyfriend (18M) and i recently got into a relationship. my boyfriend is a senior and i am a junior, before getting into a relationship we were best friends for around 3 years. we have been through thick and thin together and both have grown into who we are today. next week we will be coming up on our 4th month; it has been a very short relationship however he and i have both grown as people so much together and have learned so much relationship wise. because we have been friends our relationship has moved faster than all our previous ones, however we also are so connected on a deeper level that it feels like we have been together for years. our friends often compare us to an old married couple, we sit on par benches and admire the nature around us for dates, bicker and joke around with each other, and have kind of an old souls tied together type relationship. now for the hard part, getting into this relationship we both agreed that this relationship is on a timeline and that we will have to break up and continue on as being just friends moving forward because he is going to japan for the whole summer and then immediately to college. at first i was accepting of this because we had agreed on this very early in our relationship. however, as we continued i fell more and more in love with this man each day. i truly didn't know i could love a person this much and it hurts. i talked to him some weeks ago about this and practically begged him to reconsider us breaking up. i told him to take a couple days to take some time to think about this and to have a conversation with me about it when he is ready. this past weekend he sat me down to have the conversation, he told me that his opinion had not changed because he wanted to end this relationship on good terms and not have it on a lifeline throughout the summer and possibly the school year because he is HORRIBLE at texting people and hates being on his phone. he told me that he wont cut me out of his life and that he will never stop liking me and if it works out would like to try again in the future, however he made me promise that i wont hold out for him and mold my life to getting back with him. he still wants to be a big part of my life and still be my best friend. i agreed with this and told him that if that is what he wants that is what we will do and that i am not gonna fight for him to change his mind. while i am happy that we will stay in each other's lives and can still be possibly together romantically again in the future. however i am very scared that i could be losing the love of my life... as crazy as it sounds i truly feel like our relationship is so much more than a casual high school relationship or a relationship to learn how to properly love in a relationship. yes we have learned a lot and have taught each other so much but i am afraid one of us will potentially move on while the other is still holding onto hope that we will end up together again, mainly the person holding on being me. he is staying local for college and will only be about an hour at most away and the college he is attending is one of my top colleges as well. we both have similar future plans and wants and when talking about what we want in the future such as what we want our future house to look like, kids, marriage, and careers we have similar if not the same ideas and expectations so it feels like the universe is simply making it obvious that we are so much more than a temporary fling. however i believe that if we are meant to be, we will come back into each other's lives at a better time and a lot of our friends also believe that we are meant to be together. i am still going to keep my promise of not intentionally holding out for him, however dating him has raised my standards way to high for most likely all other boys our age, he is the only person in my life that i know will play a significant role in my life and will have a major part in my big life events such as my wedding. what that role specifically is, only time will tell.
thank you for listening to my rant, i apologize for all grammatical errors and run on sentences.
**TL;DR;** : my boyfriend and i are breaking up over the summer however i am absolutely devastated because i believe that we are meant to be together

I'd say "I have no idea why" but that would only be partially true. I have at least a clue to work with but that might not even be it.
We've been together since 2021 (two traumatized twenty-somethings.)
A couple of weeks ago, we were having a heart-to-heart about some of the trauma I'd been through, which they seemed encouraging and actively listening until all of a sudden, they weren't anymore. Literally in the tiny pause after I finished a sentence and was waiting for them to respond, they suddenly started ignoring me for their ipad. I tried saying another sentence and got "uh huh"-d. Obviously this upset me, and I was trying to figure out what just went wrong, asking questions and freaking out a bit. To make a long story short, for this crime I got the silent treatment, and they literally used the exact trauma triggers I'd just been talking about against me.
I let them know about this, how badly hurt I was, and how in the future if they would say literally anything about their feelings or intentions this could be avoided from happening again. Because they just lashed out with no explanation given. Apparently, having been triggered by them getting mad at me out of the blue and then leaving me in isolation refusing to say a word makes me the bad guy, because their intentions were to leave the conversation and "avoid making me any more upset", so their intentions are all that mattered in that case. And asking them to say some words so I know why they're acting out (& whether it has anything to do with me) makes me even worse. Apparently I'm "not even trying to understand" and am solidly The Asshole for interpreting being given the aggressive silent treatment all of a sudden as them being angry with or punishing me. They completely rejected what I'd said and turned into them being the victim of me being completely unreasonable. (Repeating for redundancy: I asked them to communicate with me so I could understand their actions in a better light, and was told I'm "not even trying to understand" and that communication was a completely unreasonable ask.)
Things were a bit awkward for a week, and then completely fine for a couple of days. As of yesterday, all of a sudden, everything is different and they won't tell me why. They look at me as if I'm a complete stranger, wouldn't let me go in for a kiss, are aggressively ignoring me to talk to other people when we have time together... I texted them something along the lines of "ugh I have to make a doctor's appointment", which if I'd sent that even a month ago, they would have understood the conversation to be "oof, that sucks because you have no medical insurance or reliable transportation, maybe you can argue about not having to go in person?" But what I actually received back was "Then make the appointment."
I'm literally being treated with less tolerance or sympathy than they would give to any random person they meet in the store or online. I'm being treated like they suddenly hate my guts.
Worse, I completely depend on them for transportation and a place to live. So I'm going to be in very close proximity (small living quarters, not even an alternate place to sleep) to someone I should have been able to turn to for sympathy and joy and physical comfort, who's instead just ????? treating me like the scum of the earth suddenly. I asked them if there was something wrong and got a dismissive answer.
I'm completely breaking apart. Things were bad enough. I already needed them to regain my trust and show me they cared about me, and now they're doubling down on that damage with this. Every horrible thing I already believed about myself, but had been healing from, has been ripped back open. I have no more reason to believe I'm worth anything on this earth or that anyone could have any reason to want me around. And they don't care. They want me to be perfect, psychic and only ever thinking about them. Seemingly. Because if something else is the issue apparently I'm supposed to already understand that without them saying anything.
And I know if I show even a tiny amount of weakness surrounding how they're currently treating me, they'll get even more worked up, because they seem to think they can just act however they want and everyone else needs to just be understanding.
(Before anyone jumps to "cheating" A. I couldn't even if I wanted to, B. They're asexual and don't really enjoy sex to begin with, and C. We already agreed that having other sexual partners would be OK as long as everyone's in the loop about everything.)
I can't stress enough how bad it's getting. I don't really have anyone I could turn to IRL at this point and like I said, I'm still dependent on them to get to work and the store and have a place to sleep. So I'm going to be around this 24/7 with no lifeline.
What the fuck. What the fuck. What the fuck.
Edit: Shit sorry I forgot to add a flair

I’m 25/F & my partner is a 35/M a two year long relationship going on to three. I want to say that I deeply love this man but I know the relationship has become toxic & unhealthy. My partner came to visit me December 2023 during my Christmas break from school. He was drunk & was looking into my iPad. Found text messages between me & my rapist before he was my rapist. While drunk he woke me up & screamed at me accusing me of lying about my rape. Stated I probably enjoyed being raped & maybe that’s what he has to do to make me respect him. He pulled me out of the bed & I was confused, & I’m still confused. Anyways he put me in a choke hold, dragged me by the hair, & shirt. Bit my face & said a lot of mean things to me. I forgive him, because he was drunk & promised me he wouldn’t do it again. He wrote me a letter apologizing for what he did. A year later this time in February he gets mad because I had a friend reach out to me who used to like me but is now in a happy relationship. We just check in & I’ve made clear boundaries but I don’t feel like he’s interested in me in that way. My partner doesn’t understand this & it led to an argument, I shut down cause I just can’t do the arguments anymore. He gets mad that I shut down & refuse to talk. He drags me to my room where he ends up choking me & slapping my face. I hid in my apartment for a week because I had a green bruise forming under my eye with a busted lip. I know I should leave & I want to leave but I don’t know how. I feel like I owe him because he’s paid for my car, my school supplies, food, & overall provided for me when I was in school. He’s also a great guy when he’s not accusing me. Yes, I know this is a manipulative tactic but I feel stuck.
So anyone who took the time to read this… how did you leave because I promise I’m trying.
I made this short & straight to the point. I’m tired of crying about it & I hate where it puts me mentally.

Platform(s): PC
Genre: Top-down Zoo Simulator game, but like a 3/4ths angle?
Estimated year of release: 2010-2016
Graphics/art style: The UI had a blue background, and the animals, People, and plants were fairly realistic, if not simplified since you never really had to see them up close. Typical cheap 3D Graphics for the time. There wasn't a lot of Shading on objects, the colors were fairly flat.
Notable characters: I believe the tutorial was told to you by a woman in a ponytail, either blonde or brunette. She and maybe a Male partner would give you daily quests? But other than that there wasn't any real people. The male either had black hair, or he was old and gray, and they both were wearing typical zookeeper attire. The Woman's name might start with a K.
Notable gameplay mechanics: It was a Zoo Simulator, and you would play each day out, with a dark 'dusk' period before you would open for the day and you would use that extra time to take care of animals and build things without people in the way, though you could still do that even during the day. You could pay for advertisements on Newspaper, Television, and Radio to get more visitors the next day. You weren't able to Remove fences, nor would the fences break over time. You would have to check the animals health, because they would get sick. The Tutorial would always start with you Building an enclosure for an African Buffalo. Sometimes you were given an animal from the wild who was sick and you would have a few days to take care of them before they were sent back to the wild, Or you kept them and the time limit was just to make sure you had a habitat ready for them. Also they would be super sick when they arrived and wouldn't be happy.
Other details: The App Icon was a panda, just like a model of the whole body in the Top-down 3/4ths perspective. When I got the game, it came in a box set with other Simulator game discs. One of them was a forest ranger game, which was 1st person pov, and there were no other humans and it creeped me out, walking in the woods with no real map or anything. There were a total of 5 or 6 other games that came with, but the zoo was my favorite, and I only remember the forest one because it scared me. I believe one of them was a Carnival Simulator. The title of the game starts with 'My' or 'Your' like 'My/Your Zoo World' or 'My/Your Zoo Simulator'. I remember the animals getting sick all the time, and I'd have to check my animals every two hours in game time. you were able to see how far the food/waterestroom/gift stalls were able to reach, like their zone od effectiveness. You could click on a person and they would have a name and you could see their thoughts about whatever they were looking at. There were research centers for discovering animals and a research center to "level up" your animals, to make them less likely to get sick/more fertile to help with engagement animals
It isn't Zoo Tycoon, Empires, Paradise, My Free Zoo, or Zoo Planet, I've already looked at them and they aren't it.

Soooo after lots of thinking and going down one road and up another and repeat like 20times. I have decided want to try having an open marriage. Are you ready cuz this is a looooong story and well you were warned.
So once upon a time….. just kidding, about two years ago now I (f 38) found out my husband (maa was 40) was having an affair with a co-worker. After the confrontation and pain and digestion of feelings I decided I wanted to give it another go. I still to this day love my husband and think he is truly my soulmate. We have been togethemarried a total of 9yrs. Have children from previous relationships but not any in common. Although if you counts our fur babies we have 3 in common.
We have been in couples therapy since about a month after it happened. While that has been amazing I have also been attending my own personal counselor to make sure I don’t have anything I am carrying from childhood into my marriage. He on the other hand has stated that he knows exactly how to communicate what he needs to and express how he feels. It always feels like I’m the one that “has” to work on her shit for “our” marriage to work.
With all that being said, about almost a year ago I noticed our sex life go in decline. He has became somewhat reliable in me initiating sex and he just goes with it. It’s has become very far in between the times he does and while it is amazing I just want more. I know with time marriages go through it, however even during the time he was having the affair and after we had a good fucking sex life.
Now two years after the fact and having me mention it multiple times all I have received from him and our counselor is:
HIM- Maybe I just don’t satisfy you and you need someone or something else.
MARRIAGE COUNSELOR- His testosterone was down so let’s give it time to get it up again with his shots( which he already takes)
Now I’m not an innocent victim here. While I don’t appreciate an affair I would have been less hurt with a one night stand. No strings attached. No flirty texts while we were in bed. I recently went on a solo trip and might have had one myself. It showed me that while I do love him so fucking much I didn’t feel bad and well got a good sex night.
Now because of others peoples circumstances and shit having an open marriage came up. I asked him if he would be open to it. To what he responded, “No, I don’t want anyone else but you”. I can’t help but feel like that was such a hypocritical respond. He had a full on affair was actually planning on meeting up with her the same week I found out. So had I not found out he was going to meet up with her yet again.
I love him but I want to have a fucking phase and be fucked the way I should be. There’s nothing exciting about our sex life anymore and it’s not for lack of imagination. I have books for us to get ideas and spark up the light but he doesn’t care.
Now the more I think about it do feel like I want an open marriage. I don’t want a polyamorous marriage. I just want to be fucked the way I want to once in a while and it seems to not phase him at all.
What are y’all’s thoughts?!

Hello, everyone.
I hope you all are doing well! I'm reaching out to the lovely community at Indiangirlsontinder to discuss an idea for a new dating app that We've been developing. I'm quite excited about it, but before I start, I'd like to receive some comments from everyone.
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We noticed and saw how other dating apps business models are based on getting money from people via cash grabs and keeping them on the app as long as possible, and we don't think that is good. If a dating app is made, its sole purpose should be to make people meet and form connections.
They say if they make their app in a solid dating-focused way and do not keep people on their apps, then their business will fail. We say that is WRONG. People turn 18 every day, and a lot of people will join dating apps and will keep joining if it works great. And even if someone finds their partner at first try and they somehow break up in, say, 2 or 3 years, they will only come back to the app that works nicely.
The Concept:
This is how it works. Users put up a profile, select their preferences, and indicate their availability for live matching. When they're ready, they tap the "Live Matching" button, and the app matches with compatible folks in real time based on geography, interests, and availability. It's all about simplicity and honesty, with no tedious swiping or scrolling. You are shown the profile and similar interests to break the ice. If you like the person and the other person likes you both move to the chatroom phase. You are given a time of 15 minutes in the chatroom. it is heavily moderated with no way to send photos and no cursing to protect both users. After chatting you will be taken to the 'Like or Not" page where you indicate if Like the person and will like to take it further. if Yes a you are added to each others match page and not then repeat.
Why Your Input Matters: We're especially interested in hearing from the fantastic members of Indiangirlsontinder . We'd want to know if this idea appeals to you and if you'd be interested in joining such a platform. We recognize that many people are bored of the constant assault of likes and messages, which frequently lack actual content. We seek to provide a space where meaningful interactions may thrive, devoid of the noise and distractions that typical dating apps bring.
Your feedback matters: So what do you think? Would you be interested in using a dating app like this? Do you think such a site may attract singles who priorities quality over number when it comes to matches and interactions? We welcome any feedback, recommendations, or concerns you may have.
If you have any questions or want to share your ideas, please leave a comment. Your feedback is invaluable as we continue to polish and grow this concept.
Thank you for taking the time to read this essay and evaluate our new dating app concept. We're delighted to hear your thoughts!

Hey ya'll cyber folks. I have a little problem, that kind of began when I noticed my Uni account was acting funny. This escalated up to me reporting to the Office of Dean of Students after learning a 'few things' and telling them 'there be problems' (multiple interactions, no IT help, no 2fa/mfa, no account lock/change, etc.) and even offered them a laptop with nothing but an edubuntu and a 3rd party vuln. assessment to 'let them know there be problems (i.e. account being cleaned out, me being locked out of anything/everything, etc. etc.). Basically -> Left out to dry. MD/MSc. put on hold (b/c of course whomever messed with my Student Aid accounts, which were initially setup at that particular uni, as well as healthcare, everything). Despite having an all-out ID theft event happen, support and advocate for myself with research/evidence/documents/reports -> literally left after some nasty discrimination, harassment/threats (subtle but deadly), and no help. Well it's a year on, and my ID insurance has been useless, my ISP is useless, and I am stuck in Canada learning cyber on a dime, trying to recover anything I can however I can. Savings dried up, work is sparse, etc. etc. Regardless, have all the evidence in the world that the University of Alberta has problems ("They are unhackable", "There are no problems", and they "Will not open or read vuln. assessment and will be deleting it" when presented with it). I don't have a cyber team here, my degrees are in Applied Psych and Indigenous studies prior to Medicine/Biotech. I have all of the reports, etc. stating 'there be issues' - but, again - subtle threats, or I get brickwalled at tier-1 support across the board. Any/every piece of access/cred/ID I have (MD/MSc. Biotech) = still not recovered. Received replies from U of A: "No problems"/"We are unhackable"/"We will not be reading this and will be deleting it".
Got the vuln. report: No bueno or I don't know how to use it since my uni says "No Problems"
https://wormhole.app/pbeNx#F2H5aAaJCcJxB7mugeapaQ (Up for 24 hours)
Started a group where folks w. similar problems where we can collaborate on same problems:
https://otx.alienvault.com/group/2096/pulses
VT stuff:
https://virustotal.com/gui/usejwanihad/collections…
https://virustotal.com/gui/usejwanihad/graphs
https://virustotal.com/gui/usejwanihad/comments
Honestly, there are a lot of problems. 1) I can't put it all together. I don't have the expertise. I am trying but ya know, student life poor. I just do not know enough nor am I specialized enough. 2) I keep getting brickwalled or stuck at tier-1 support across the board (Student Aid Alberta - loans, scholarships, bursaries, resources), Banks I had to shut down. My Insurance folks (Norton Lifelock offered via Telus - my ISP; neither have helped me and make me do the 'run-a-round' non-stop). I am here in Edmonton, trying to learn what I can, and trying to fix stuff that went down real fast (and I reported quickly to), while at the University of Alberta. Feel free to scroll my TwitteX: @ NorrisN60014 and you can kind of see the timeline. Any advice honestly would be amazing - I am stuck. I am trying. I am watching 10 years of my life wash away, and I am trying to learn in the worst environment possible. Any options/suggestions/solutions/folks ya'll might know? I'm in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada - but also a USA Citizen. I'm stuck here and just overall - stuck. Any advice on how to proceed would be amazingly appreciated. Thank you for your time and consideration, Cheers.

i'm not really sure where to even start with this, but i have a friend (also gay) who i've grown fairly close to over the past year or so. he lives nearby and so we hang out a lot,.
at first things were fine. i always thought he was cute but never really thought anything more than that. over time i've definitely developed some fondness for him, he really is a great person. But it never got to a point of thinking anything would come of us.
well the other day we went out and somehow we ended up making out a lot. i honestly don't remember how it happened or who initiated it, my memory is very spotty. but it happened multiple times in the night, and he touched my dick too.
well the next day he texted me to check in and asked what i remember about the night. i said that i always found him attractive and i enjoyed it, and apologized if he felt uncomfortable.
then he basically responded that he didn't feel uncomfortable, but it "caught him off guard", and that he makes out with friends all the time, like it was a normal thing. He brushed me off and ignored that i said i enjoyed it, and basically told me he doesnt want to lose me as a friend.
well i love him as a friend and really value our friendship, so i've been trying to just continue our friendship as normal and respect his wishes. for a few days it was going fine, but as time goes on it isn't getting any easier. he constantly flirts with me, and he's brought up the fact that we made out pretty much every time i've seen him.
a particularly bad moment was the other day when he was telling me about how badly he wants a partner, and started describing qualities of a partner he wants that are pretty much exactly in line with me. that hurt pretty bad.
then today he told me about a date he went on that went poorly, and part of me really wanted to respond with "well, it should have been me taking you on that date".
all of this fucking hurts and i really dont know if i can continue our friendship. it feels like one of my close friends has me under his palm and is just manipulating my emotions. i don't know if it's on purpose, but that's how i am receiving it, and i am really struggling coming to terms with what happened and moving on. i haven't felt this way in a long time.
do i move on from this friendship? i'm lucky to have other supportive friends, but i'd really hate to have to move on from this friendship. i just want to feel okay again.

Moses and Jesus are seen as Prophets in Islam. They both worship the One true God, Allah ( The God ) and they preach Islam, and do miracles with the permission of Allah. Muslims will then say if you look into the bible then you will see references pointing out that this is the fragments of Islamic text like Jesus bowing to the father or Moses worshiping One God and saying your Lord is One.
But this is generally a dishonest tactic because what the Muslims do is they rely on question begging that somehow our bible originally subscribe to their ideas of what a Biblical Prophets should be. They know the bible is "corrupted", they admit they reject the bible but at the same time they will references verses of the bible while knowing our bible is corrupted and say that you will find Muhammad in the bible or "Look, this is similar to worshipping Allah".
I'm here to disprove this claim and convince y'all none of the biblical Prophets have belief similar or 1 to 1 with Islam. Therefore, none of them preach Islam and the idea of Islamic Jesus of Moses are just question begging fallacies or an appealment to a mysterious Islamic dead see scrolls.

1. Moses worship and professes to a God eternally named Yahweh (Exodus 3:15) (Shirk)
2. Moses practice Sabbath, a Holy day which is a day that God rests (Exodus 16:23; 20:8) (Blasphemy, God can't rest in Islam, especially celebrating a holiday where God rested is blasphemy)
3. Moses allowed the beatings of Slave near death with a club (Exodus 21:20) ( This is Haram, Islam forbids the mistreatment of slavery, if a slaves is mistreated then the slaves must be manumitted)
4. Moses allowed the Stoning of Children who dishonor their parents (Exodus 21:17) ( Honor killing is haram in Islam)
5. Moses call for the destruction of the gentiles and their sacred objects (Exodus 23:24) (This is a violation of the Sharia, Muslims can't kill people unless they are combatants, Muslims also can't destroy their object of worship)
6. Moses forbids those to make treaties to Gentiles in their lands, in future expansions and forbid any gentiles to live in their land ( Exodus 23:31-33) (Exodus 34:12-16) (This is also a violation, Sharia allows Dhimmis to have treaties, practice their religion, and live in Muslim lands)
7. Moses commands the Jews to offer burnt offerings, spices and incense to God in his holy sanctuary, this is because God lives in them (Exodus 25: 1-9) (Blasphemy, offerings are haram because its superstition, also in Islam God can't be residing in creation)
8. Moses commanded the Israelites to mold 2 angels on top of the Ark of Covenant (Exodus 25: 19-22) (This is Haram, Islam is iconoclastic and making living images is a sin)
9. Moses instruct those that whoever desecrates the Sabbath shall be put to death, and anyone who works during Sabbath, shall be cut from the Community (Exodus 31: 12-17) (Again, Blasphemy)
10. Moses ordained all Religious objects, Priestly garments and praying sites with Gold (Exodus 36-40) (Gold is haram in Islam)
    
11. Turning water into wine John 2:11 (Alcohol is prohibited)
    
12. Jesus spare the adulterer John 8:1-11 (Adultery is to be put to death)
    
13. Jesus baptized Matthew 3:13-16 (Jesus baptized, Muhammad doesn't teach that)
    
14. Jesus say marrying to divorcees is akin to adultery Matthew 5-32:33 (Islam encourages men to marry divorced women)
    
15. Jesus numerous times calling God, "The Father" (Shirk by associating to him to creature)
    
16. Jesus is the way, truth and life John 14:6 (Shirk, No sane prophet would say this) ( remember Mansur Al-Hallaj Ana 'l-Haqq)
    
17. Jesus forgives Sin Matthew 9:1-8(Shirk, only God does that)
    
18. Jesus grant Peter the ability to bind and loose laws Matthew 16: 17-20 (Shirk, When did Muhammad says O'Uthman I will grant you Keys to Jannah so you can bind laws to heaven and earth)
    
19. Jesus profess that he is "The Lord" Matthew 12:8 (Again, Shirk)
    
20. Jesus say Before Abraham was, I Am John 8:48-59 ( Ultra Shirk, Professing divinity and Omnipresence)
    

Some of you may object and say well Muslims deny our books but at the same time believe in the idea of 2 completely different persons of the bible. But then again its a contradiction because they ultimately don't know the biblical Prophets and they don't know their own books. The word Injil is Arabic word for Evangelion which mean gospels or good news. Now how can that be? Muslims believe Jesus spread the Gospel only for the Jews. But the original Gospels were Aramaic so how did it become a Greek translated scripture in the first place

I’ve been broken up with my girlfriend for about 2 weeks now. Feels like a part of me is missing and it hurts really bad.
The context starts about 2 years ago when we first started dating and we were attached at the hip. Being my first true relationship I had trouble balancing time with friends and time with her. More often than not I was spending time with her but when it came time when something with my friends came up, she would get clingy and beg for me not to go.
My friend group consists of two other guys and a girl and I’ve been really close to these people for years. The girl and my gf used to be best friends but have a really rough past with one another. When I would go over to my friends I would bring up the different things that would bother me, especially the clinginess. After a few times the girl began making joking remarks when asking me to hang out saying “if you’re allowed” and whatnot. I thought it was kinda funny and didn’t think anything of it.
Fast forward to a few months ago, the jokes come up in conversation with my gf. My gf and my friend were absolutely obsessed with stalking each other’s social media profiles and stuff like that but never talked. My gf absolutely hated this girl.
March of this year I was trying to see my friend and her bf since they were home from college and she makes that same joke, but my gf reads it the same time I do. In context, I have a really hard time confronting people so I never said anything about the jokes or jokes they made about me. They’re all lovely people but they love to tease. After seeing the text my gf says she’s not comfortable with me being friends with her anymore. So I took that as I have to choose between my friend and my gf, and I was completely right. But there was no way I was making a decision like that.
A couple days before the breakup we have a huge fight and are on the precipice of breaking up but don’t. That night I call her and tell her I choose her. But it was just too late for her so she broke up the relationship. I’ve had a rollercoaster of emotions and we’ve already had a communication ending fight. There’s a lot of context missing but this is a real heartbreaker. She’s moving on with her life very fast. She’s already texted my Mom saying thank you for everything. Hurt like a bitch
I guess what I’m asking is how do I accept that it’s all over? At what point am I going to be able to work on myself? Because since the breakup I’ve had no motivation to do anything for myself.
More context upon request.