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hi!
im done school for the year so now im turning up for the summer! i’d love to get to know some new people and make some new online friends that can keep me company!
a little mix of flirty banter and meaningful conversation would be perfect💕 would totally love someone I can talk to in my daily life about anything and everything
send me an interesting chat and tell me about yourself! but don’t just hit me with “hey”/“hi”/“what’s up”/etc. ✨please be able to hold a conversation✨and put effort into our talks. im super down to talk about anything as long as we vibe!
tell me if you’re watching the nba playoffs!🏀 tell me you’re team drake🦉💕 tell me about your summer plans! tell me about your passions!
vent to me about your job. tell me about your amazing relationship or vent to me about how messy the break up was; im here for the tea.
tell me your fav new show or song. tell me if the current events worry you.😩 tell me if you’re happy with life. talk to me about anything; let’s have a great conversation? :)
a little about me:

• im lebanese / canadian
  
• im bisexual / pansexual
  
• im a goofy sarcastic person at heart, i love to make people laugh, im pretty open minded and if you need someone to rant to or vent im a good listener
  
• i have an older sister
  
• i love back and forth playful banter, roasting each other and all things that energy
  
• im a night owl (est time zone, bonus points if you can keep me company late at night)
  
• just finished my freshmen year of university in canada; i want to be a doctor eventually
  
• i have have the cutest cloud dog
  
• im super outgoing and outdoorsy and want to travel the world as much as possible, i love to visit different areas and take part in new experiences! hiking through mountains, kayaking, rafting, camping, soaking in the sights and the atmosphere, and trying all the amazing local food. love going out with friends to concerts, to dance, to go on road trips, cottage trips and beach days
  
• i love to stay active, im a big basketball fan. (also a casual nfl fan)
  
• i have progressive / leftist views. pro-choice, lgbtqia+, etc
  
• little bit of a foodie
  
• love hiphop and r&b the most but a listen to a bit of everything else too
  
• some shows i love: breaking bad, the bear, russian doll, game of thrones (before it became terrible), avatar the last airbender, house md (also i watch a few anime)
  
• some movies I love: everything everywhere all at once, spiderverse 2, the dark knight, interstellar, the incredibles
  
• i don’t play video games
  
• i love to read too; hot take, the percy jackson (and sequel) series > the harry potter series
  

if any of that interests you send me a chat and let’s talk 💕 (i may get too many chats to reply to everyone so I apologize in advance! please keep that in mind but I’ll try to eventually get to everyone that grabs my attention thank you!)

I (28M) am talking to this women (29F) for 3 months, met her 2 months back. We have been on 3 dates and kissed on her on our last/3rd date. The reason for sporadic dates is our busy lives and circumstances/travel. I suggested a date today but i gave her the option of me cooking dinner for her or going for indoor activity. She said she bowling will be fun.
Now here is the dilemma. Things have been moving slow, she responds after 12-24 hours everytime and agrees to all dates. She is a sweet person and kinda shy and formal, but the slow response has been a drag and I am losing interest. I gave her the suggestions yesterday morning and she replied today morning (tonight's the date). She never offered to pay for the dates but doesn't complain/judge how small or cheap the date is. We won't be able to meet for couple more weeks due to travel. What should I do? We still haven't made out and I am not very comfortable making out in public spaces.
Should i tell her how I feel? If things keep at slow pace, I do not want to be in this. I don't know how to approach this topic.

US Residents - My boyfriend and I are traveling out of the country at the end of June, we ordered expedited passports and he didn't have any checks so I just wrote him one. I applied for a new passport in person so the USPS rep just wrote my DOB on my check. I saw her write something and asked if I can write a check for him, she confirmed with no extra context. When I wrote one for him I completely missed the instructions to put name and DOB! All I wrote was "Passport Application" in the memo line.
I read that the DOB is just to help identify checks if they get separated, but I'm not sure if the same applies to the name of the applicant.
Did I screw his application up?
I saw that it can take 2-3 weeks for them to tell you there was an issue. I saw some people find the processing center from their application status and call and pay over the phone, is that an option?
Any help would be amazing!

Is TCM a causal or competitive game? We all know the devs want this game to be party fun like F13 and that game was a fun causal game. This game needs to pick a side, you can’t have it both ways unfortunately. We can make the game more causal this way or competitive this way.
The 3v4: 3 against 4 will always be competitive, you have to keep everything balance enough where killers feel strong enough that they can kill and victims need to feel tough enough where they are survivable. One side has to be the stronger side and the happy medium is so much smaller in a 3v4 than a 3v5. The truth is ideally only 1 or 2 victims should be escaping, every escape should be a semi close call where a few seconds could have changed everything. The 3v4 is inherently competitive, I personally think a 3v5 would work better, there are already 5 free victims, you could easily keep the balance of the game due to one side having numbers over the other, having numbers can justify being the weaker side. The more players the weaker you can make victims without it being a problem. Note on the 3v5 queues would be so much better.
Speed of the game: the pace of this game is insane. Some matches LF gets everyone in basement, other matches Johnny picks off everyone in 5 minutes. On the other hand, no victim should be escaping in 45 seconds. There are tons of videos of both happening. The pace of the game must be slowed, family needs to be strong but victims need to be survivable. The family would need a rework, when the game first starts family would be at max “rage” being able to kill one victim then the rage would go down. Once down family can’t just kill victims but could leave them in a freezer or on a hook, maybe leave them in front of grandpa like in the movies but victims can save them. The more progress the victims make on objectives the more rage the family gets, more rage means they can kill another victim. Progress of the match = more family aggression. Every death resets rage but you still can “knock” a victim like the unconscious state the game already has.
Chat: you can’t talk to the other side, you are in two different chats like a ranked match. Proximity chat like in F13 would loosing things up, having everyone able to talk would create a much need causal feel. Yes there will be bad actors but there already are and Gun can handle them as they already do. It would bring both sides together instead of the us Vs them, you’ll be able to see the other person. It would also give everyone a reason to be on comms. Also a ping and a comm wheel would make things feel so nice.
The gameplay loop: for family the loop is so boring it is like being an ai, you can win if you want to be sweaty. Family shouldn’t have to feel like playing like a machine to win, both sides should be able to play like a human without auto losing. The loop is too competitive. Family should be able to remove fuse or valve and put it back, they should be able to relock doors (Idk up to 2 with each lock being weaker). The game is basically over if an objective is complete.
Rushing: no game should be over in seconds. Any non LF character shouldn’t watch the cutscene. Wells should start covered let victims open them and create a escape. Wells are a free fast travel with no downsides, you can easily reset. This will slow the rush meta and fix the pace. Grandpa having to pick only x bc y and z could one before feels so competitive let family vote or a tier system each grandpa levels gives a bit of the ability while level 5 gives the current perk. Now if we slowed everything than grandpa shouldn’t be max in less than 10 minutes. Ideally games now will take 20-30 minutes.
Just some random family mains view, lmk if you disagree or agree, want to add something. I’m open to discussing. Pls be civil.

I leave for Italy tomorrow and last minute I discover that I’m traveling alone! The person I am traveling with has to go a week later. This is my first time to Europe. I am 27f from the states. I know I can do this as I’ve left the country before but never alone. I’ll should be arriving in Naples at noon. I am not checking a bag. I have to make it to the port and over to Ischia and finally to my Airbnb. I don’t speak Italian. I’m nervous but in a good way I think. My plan is to act confident and don’t cry in public.. I believe some reassurance right about now would be pretty nice.
Are there a many taxis outside or the airport? Do taxis attempt to overcharge? Can I wait to buy my ticket to Ischia until I arrive at the port? Will they speak English?
Thanks guys. It is as already surreal that I get to travel to the other side of the world. But all alone it just so unexpected.

Hi all! This is my first post and please, be kind. I know English is not my first language and I tried my best to personalize my story without giving too much personal information.
I've been in a relationship with a man that I met in college days, nearly 10 years ago. I am three years older than him, F (33) M (30) but we both feel it's insignificant. Back then, he stopped his degree because I got pregnant and I had to work so he could take care of our daughter. Couple of years passed, and we decided to leave our home country because it was impossible to have a good job and provide for the basic necessities of my family. We moved to the USA, and I asked him to finish his degree here in the USA so he could accomplish his personal goals such as graduating and finding a job in his field. I had to leave the job that I have because the college that accepted him was over two hours and I prioritize his goals. So we moved again to another county this time. But I feel so pleased that he was able to graduate in physics, as he dreamed. Took him time but he did.
Back to myself, since I graduated and started working, I've done everything to support him and our daughter meaning I pay for everything. Even though we both grad, I am still the HOH. I expected nothing in return, we share our money, our accounts, even our clothes! There's like no distinction from us and I really feel I lost myself into it... I have dreams I want to pursue for example, I wanted a master degree and by that time, I told him about it and he said to better wait. I didn't liked that idea, so I enrolled my Master and was able to graduate. I think that's the only thing I've done to "rebel" and feel like myself. I am not saying he is not supporting. He is supportive but put a "stop" sign?. I want to separate a hotel room and there's a "no", plan a vacation "no", travel "no", doing some home arrangements "no", buying adult toys "no", just to mention some.
By my age I wanted to travel at least one or two places, want to dance more often, have not a big group of friends at least some, discover places, have someone to tell me "hey I planned this for us", "I separated a hotel room in X place" "you really look great".. But we are both stuck here in the USA, taking care of our daughter with autism, working remote, no sex life, cleaning our house all day including weekends...nothing really interesting.
I am the HOH, paying for the house, vehicles, school, insurances and so on. He do his part but I feel is not enough, or is just my perception? I am not asking anything more than to feel love but without loosing myself, to be able to make decisions because I want to feel human, not someone who always have to work and pay. I'm here with antidepressants, having scheduled meetings with mental health counselors and wondering if everything is happening within me because I may become too materialistic or it's because of my perception? My goodness... Sorry for all this.

Hi everyone,
I recently lost my wallet which includes California issued driver's license and state ID while taking a walk in the Upper East Side. I'm reaching out for some advice on what steps to take next:

1. Unable to File Online with CA DMV: Unfortunately, I can't file a lost ID report online with the California DMV because my ID is set to expire in two months. They require in-person applications, which is not feasible for me since I've already moved my residency to NYC and plus don't want to travel back to California just for this.
   
2. Filed a Police Report: I've already filed a police report for the lost IDs.
   

I'm considering re-applying for IDs in NYC, but my main concern is identity theft with the lost CA IDs. Does anyone have any advice on how to proceed?
Any tips or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I (25F) have been best friends with my (26F) roommate for years, we have worked together and lived together for two years. We knew eachother pre work and living together, I actually got her the job as we get along so well I didn’t see it being an issue to spend so much time together. We never fight and there’s been no tensity or conflict since living together.
She has been very stressed lately and has quit the job she had with me because she got into a course that is also very high stress and needs to commit to that fully. It doesn’t start for several months and she wants to travel all summer before beginning this. I was so excited for and we planned for me to join this trip near the end so we can spend the end of summer together. We had dates set out and discussed flights and budgets, as far as I knew this was 100%
She told me out of the blue yesterday she wants to move out. Our lease isn’t up for another 2 years and the only reason she gave is because she feels when she’s stressed she takes it out on people around her and doesn’t want to do that to me, she feels she takes on others emotions and doesn’t want to be worried about mine when so stressed out and anxious herself about this course. She wants to live with strangers and focus on our friendship from a distance. I respected that, I’m obviously upset but if she’s prioritising her mental health and our friendship (in her opinion) I said ok. The issue is I won’t live with a stranger and none of our friends need a place right now meaning I now have to live by myself. I know this is a personal choice not her fault but she did know this would be my case which would mean I have to move out of our two bed and find a new place. She is also leaving in a month for her travels and because we are breaking the lease we need to pay fees and replace the tenants. I need to do this by myself as she’ll be away and I can’t move out before she leaves as it isn’t enough time to find new people, find somewhere else and move all my things. I have to find new tenants, pack everything up, sort out the deep clean, the moving truck, the property inspection, file for deposit all alone while she’s away all summer. I asked her if she’d maybe stay until end of September so we can do it together when she’s back but she says no she wants it sorted before she comes back. I now can’t join the trip as I’ll need to be doing this during the time I was going to be joining. Her quitting when her contract wasn’t up for another three months also leaves me with a lot of additional responsibilities in work so my job will be very intense during this as well.
I feel really blind sided and that she’s being quite inconsiderate with this? She said she’ll pay rent while she’s travelling for some summer but I think the issue is more she’s not here to help with anything and that she never even hinted at not wanting to live with me we only recently discussed how much we love living together. I don’t feel her reason for moving (prioritising our friendship) is very valid as I always try to organise things and she’s often out with mutual friends and doesn’t invite me. All our friends are mutual and I feel bad complaining about it as she’s very stressed with everything and I don’t want to add to her stress but she’s told me she’ll only pay 10 more weeks rent from June and this is a very competitive time to try find somewhere in the city we live.
I didnt expect to have to be stuck with this and moving all our things alone and also being excluded from a trip we planned to take together to do this. Am I the asshole for being upset about this or should I just let it go and respect she’s overwhelmed and given me just over two months to figure it out?

Trigger warning - religious differences
I always bragged about how awesome my extended family was. NO family is perfect, but I heard horror stories and always counted my blessings that I had strong ties with my Aunt and uncles since I was raised an only child. That was until a few months ago when my last living Aunt, whom I considered a second mom, shattered me.
Ok, some backstory here. My aunt is a Jehovah’s Witness. Now before you get all judgy, I have always loved her, my uncle and her son with all of my heart. I still do. I respect that they have found faith and live by this code on the daily. I have met many people from their congregation and loved them all (ok, a couple of exceptions). I also appreciate the community they have and love they all show each other. If it weren’t for the religion itself, I would have converted.
I, however, am pagan and have always been since I was about 5 (even the first book I signed out from the school’s library was about witchcraft). Not raised that way, but always found spiritual comfort in nature and the natural world. I have a very strong connection and dedication to my Powers That Be and work every day to help the world be a better place. My Aunt did not know my religion until about 7 years ago. That being said, she and I would have very philosophical conversations when we hung out together. Even at the age of 8, I would listen to her preach to me and ask questions to which she never had answers. I remember her telling me how only 144,000 people would be allowed in heaven and didn’t I think that would be wonderful knowing that our whole family could be together again after we died. We’d all be in heaven if we were all Jehova;s witnesses. I had gone with her many times to do field service (door to door) and asked her why they do that if there’s only a certain number of people allowed. Didn’t that lessen her chances of getting in because I’m sure there were many people more deserving than myself. How did she know for sure she’d be one of the ones to get in and was that fair to keep bringing people into the religion when all the spaces were probably already filled up?
At 8 years old, I had many questions and was just trying to figure these things out. Since she was an adult, I figured she had the answers. My questions were not with malice, just for a want of better understanding. When she didn’t have the answers, I'd ask my mother and grandmother. While they were extremely amused, they said they never understood either. They never said anything bad about her or her attempts to get them to convert, just allowed me to explore religion and spirituality as I wished so I could make my own decision of what was right for me.
Once I was an adult, I avoided talking to her about religion, but found that if I didn’t ask questions and just let her talk, it made her happy. I know she’s a good person at heart and that’s all that matters. After my Mom passed, my aunt and I talked almost every week. I loved talking to her and she became even more like a mom to me. She gave me encouragement and we supported each other through health and emotional crises. I’d make it a point to try and visit at least once a year for a few days so she could visit with my daughter and I. We’d always do lunch with her friends and I loved it. I fell in love with some of the people in her congregation and wished we could live closer to hang out more. I, however, never wavered on my spiritual beliefs, but I have never cared about the religion, race, or sexuality of anyone. If we got along, we were friends and that was that.
My aunt and I had come to an understanding that I would not convert and that we would love and respect each other regardless. Religious talk was off the table for the most part until both of my uncles (my aunt’s two brothers) passed and she had a very hard time dealing with it. She was the last surviving sibling and she was sinking into a depression. I’d talk to her at length and listen to her as she mourned the fact that she would never have contact with them (and my mom) in heaven because they never converted. When she asked me what I believed, I told her that I believed that the soul lived on after the body died and that I believed in reincarnation. I explained my beliefs were closer to hindu and buddhism than christianity (so she had context). We had very long talks and she expressed that she respected my views and actually found comfort in talking with me.
That was until my daughter and I opened our store about 3 years ago. It’s a metaphysical shop and we have crystals, teas, gifts, jewelry, candles and more (about 10% strict;y pagan). My aunt was happy for us until it dawned on her that we might sell pagan stuff. I told her what we sold and she asked me if I was a witch. I replied that I suppose that was one way to describe me, but, again, I considered myself spiritual and that I followed a path closer to buddhism, hinduism, native american. I sent a couple of pictures of the jewelry that we made and she said when we came down, we should bring the jewelry making.
We did, I brought down our best crystals to wrap and bracelet materials and my daughter and I made her a necklace with a very expensive stone (A $200 piece). She brought her friends over and they picked out crystals that they wanted, made bracelets and such. We had fun and I was happy to do it, though I wasn’t expecting people that I had never met before. Still, we had fun. My daughter and I also brought her a basket with local items from our hometown, (Raw honey, handmade stoneware mugs, cutting board, herbal tea and some other items made by us as well) She was thrilled. My aunt and uncle had taken a couple of bad falls a few months before and so my daughter and I made them hand carved cedar walking sticks as well because we knew they went for regular walks and thought it would help their balance. It felt amazing to lavish expensive and heartfelt gifts on them as I has struggled so long with money. I was finally in a place that I could do it. To say the gifts probably totalled in excess of 1K is on the low side, but I was still happy to do it.
Besides the fact that they tried converting my daughter when I wasn’t around, it was a lovely visit. The only problem I had was with a new person my aunt introduced us to. This woman, we’ll call her Dee, ignored me and only talked to my daughter. She was my age if not older, but conversed with my daughter, 17, like I wasn’t there. They traded contact info and Dee insisted that they keep in touch while my daughter was in college. Dee said she was going to keep an eye on her. I thought that was odd, but I did enjoy the feeling of having an extended family sort of since I actually had no family besides my Aunt.
Let’s jump forward to the following year and we were struggling financially. Not horrible, but unable to lavish the gifts that we did the year before. Instead, I created a beautiful aromatherapy candle, some delicious herbal teas and we found a couple of very rare antique tea cups that had amazing value to them (about $100 a piece). We made a basket for her and I decided we would cook for them. (gluten free, soy free, dairy free etc). Our visit went so well, it was great to see them. We just enjoyed hanging out with them and talking. They loved the meal we made for them and the dairy free organic chocolate I made. Everything was great until the day we were leaving. Dee showed up and again ignored me, talked to my daughter and chastised her for getting a pet snake as that was an animal associated with the devil. My daughter is one to push the envelope a bit and said how she wanted to get a tattoo as well, one of a snake. Both my aunt and Dee were shocked and said she should never get a tattoo.. Again related to the devil, I went to the bathroom as I was not involved in the conversation and knew my daughter could hold her own. Little do they know that my daughter is also trans. I told her not to say anything to them just yet. I came back to them talking about how college was going and I thought my aunt and Dee would faint when she said her college roommate was male. She quickly explained that it was fine because he was gay and how awesome he was (he is btw). She quickly realized what I meant when she saw their reaction to him being gay. It wasn’t that she was living with a boy, it was that he was gay and “why did he choose to be gay.” I tried redirecting the conversation a couple of times, but they ignored me.
They finally let it go, but just after Dee left, we were getting ready to depart as well. My aunt returned the basket I made for her (minus the expensive tea cups). She said she could not accept them as they were touched by the devil. Shocked, I asked what she meant. She said that because they came from my store, they carried Satan's influence and she could not have them in our home. Truthfully, I explained that I made those items for her and that the only things that came from the store were the teacups. She was confused why I had gotten upset. When I explained that I gave her a gift and if she didn’t want it, she could regift it or throw it away. That gift came from my heart with all the love I have for her and that I didn't need to know her opinions about the gifts because It insinuated I, myself, was evil and it was extremely hurtful. She basically continued on insisting that I was just not aware of how much Satan had a hold of me. All I could do was tell her how much I loved her and leave.
I didn’t take her calls and cried about this for over a month. I finally felt strong enough to talk to her and again she insisted that because those items touched my hands, they were influenced by satan and she wished I could understand how they just can’t have that influence in their home. Frustrated, I asked how she could shop at grocery stores or buy anything from department stores because she can’t guarantee that those items didn’t touch hands that were influenced by satan. Also , I asked her how they could have eaten the food I prepared for them and why did they even invite me into their home to begin with if that’s the way she felt about me. She suddenly needed to go.
We talked a few times since then but it always came back to religion. At one point I asked her again why she would even invite us to her home if she felt that way. Her response was to save my daughter. The pain and heartache she has inflicted is immense, but I cannot bring myself to argue the point because I’m afraid if I make my point to her, it will break her. She’s in her 80’s and I believe has the beginnings of dementia. Her religion brings her comfort and I don’t want to say anything that might make her doubt her religion at her advanced age.
I’ve decided it is probably best for both of our mental health to stop all contact with her( with the exception of sending cards telling them how much I love them) even though I’ve always seen her as a second mom. AITA for making this decision and not trying to work things out with her or allow her to believe that I still might convert?
*** Please understand this is not a bash on any religion. Everyone has the right to believe in whatever religion they wish. That includes me, so if you feel the need to bash them or me for our spiritual choices, you can move along ***
I have never felt like I needed to hide any part of me from my friends, family, and the public in general. Not until now. Buckle up, this is a bumpy ride.
I've always been kind hearted, almost to a flaw. I took care of my grandmother, my step-dad, my mom and helped with a family friend during long term and terminal illnesses. I had my daughter and, without her father's help, raised her on my own with very little to no support. I helped friends with their farm who left me homeless in the end because I want interested in an extramarital affair. I lost my home and all that I loved including my husband because he lied to me and never paid it mortgage while I was recovering from an illness. In short, I have had a tough life, but it has never made me turn my back on anyone who needed help or in difficult family when they were ignored by the others. That's just some background before I tell you this situation.
Three years ago, after a bout of covid, my daughter was suicidal. She had been in the top three of her HS class and yet at that point almost failed her junior year. Not knowing if she would have the emotional strength to face college and adulting in general, I set up a plan B for her. I started a store in her name and that way she'd have something at least to fall back on if she was unable to function in the m-f 9 to 5 world. We started slow by doing craft fairs, seeking crystals, candles, jewelry, and gifts. We were kicked out of one because the person running it assumed we were witches. She was not wrong exactly as we identified as pagan, but we lived our life closest to the Buddhist and Hindu traditions, not traditional wicca. These were people who knew us for years and were considered acquaintances if not friends.
Our business flourished and we ended up opening our brick and mortar that fall after remodeling our garage/ barn and turning it into a store front. Even though I run it for my daughter, it is hers and we work together to keep it going.
In the past few years I've lost my mom, and two uncles. I have no family besides my mother's sister and her husband which we were pretty close. My aunt knew that I was pagan and had tried recruiting me into her religion since I was 5. Even at that tender age her religion never made sense and I would ask her questions to which she never had answers. I accepted her and respected her and her religion even though I didn't agree. I loved the people she introduced me to that were in her church and I always got along with them. That is until we visited the year after we started our store. My aunt was thrilled about us bringing crystals down and making jewelry with her. We met a new friend of hers (middle aged woman) who ignored me completely and oozed affection on my daughter. She got my daughter's contact info and contacted her frequently. Trying to convert and ”save” her. My daughter wasn't having it as even though she was in a delicate state, she is very level headed and strong willed.
This year we visited and we brought herbal tea, candies, and rare vintage tea cups for my aunt. The day we were leaving, she handed back everything but the vintage tea cups and told me she couldn't accept them because they were touched by Satan (aka made by my hands). To say I was devastated is an understatement. This woman was always like a second mom to me and we had grown closer after my mom passed away. It was a 20 hour drive home and I cried most of the way. I cried for weeks after a well. Thinking of it now still brings me tears. As she was telling me that Satan had a hold on me and that she was trying to save me, all I did was remind her how much I loved her and my uncle. Every time since then that we have talked, she says the same thing, but now she told me I was a lost cause. I feel like trying to stay in touch is detrimental to her mental health ( and my own). I don't want to give up or abandon the last of my family, but I can't talk to her and endure the endless insinuations that I'm evil because I don't believe in her religion. She took a bad fall and broke her arm. The last time we spoke, she talked as if it was my fault for bringing the devil into her home.
While I could usually brush this off as delusional ranting, it hits hard because the same day she fell, my dad died. I know the Powers That Be only give as much as we can handle, I just wish they didn't have so much faith in me.
They are in their 80s. I know in all the pieces of my broken heart that they'll never be able to accept my daughter and I unless we change religions and it has crossed my mind just to say we have to put her at ease, but I can't lie like that to them and we cannot betray ourselves like that either. By

I know, starting friendships off bonding over a mutual hatred is weird. But I miss hoodie weather!
I'm into all the generic things - gaming [xbox], animals, traveling and being outdoors, coffee, tattoos, horror movies, bad tv shows.. I have a wide array of music interests and enjoy new recommendations. I'm slowly getting into graphic novels and comics. I'm happy to go more in depth about specifics when we chat, I know I left this as a barebones template.
I have dad-joke-humor. I'm a nervous extrovert. I try my best to improve myself and stay positive, with the exception of this post title. I don't discriminate, I just ask you be 21+ and keep the convo platonic.
Have a great day/night!

A bit of context is required I (24,M) met (We'll call her Sam) on tinder in early 2021. We chatted for a bit and I ended up getting her instagram and that's where we chatted from that point forwards. Initially we were talking everyday, if not back and forth, then maybe at the start and end of the day as we were both working. Eventually I asked Sam to grab a coffee, she declined (specifically she actually ignored it the first time i asked, I'm not sure whether out shyness, or distrust or whatever, but she made it clear that she didn't have a lot of free time due to study and work when i asked why she ignored it) we continued talking anyway, a few months later, I asked again, I got the same old tune of "i'm soo busy im sorry" kinda vibe and eventually I gave up asking but we remained talking, I still very much liked her and found her pretty.
The talking dwindled, sometimes she'd take 1 or 2 days to get back to me, days became weeks, then there were periods inbetween of hearing from her more freqeuntly, then back to a week, or a day, or several weeks, it fluctuated a lot. I had just accepted that, she probably saw me as an overseas friend (shes an international student) and wouldn't ever be interested in meeting. But still we remained talking, eventually it normalised to talking to each other about once a week, this continued for almost a year I'd say, we'd share occasional funny videos, respond to each others stories and just talk about life.
Fast forward to early 2023, I asked her if she wanted to finally meet up as we'd been talking more recently, and we did. We went to a bar, had some drinks, grabbed dinner and then walked around the city, it was a great night, I felt excited because we finally met each other in person and she was lovely, soft spoken, smart and pretty, she even asked me if I wanted to grab lunch with her the next day during her lunch, and we did, and i thought this is where things would take off, but after that day, things slowly drifted back to the way things were, it would be a year before I saw her again (just this last week) and before that, we had gone months without talking at times (I had an interesting year and a lot of distractions, I'm sure Sam did too) but we still remained talking somewhat, even talking about meeting up again eventually.
Fast forward to last week, we meet up (we tried to earlier but I was going through some heavy stuff for the last 5 months that left me disinterested in taking care of myself, let alone trying to "date") we grabbed dinner, and the night was just great, conversation flowed, we were buying rounds for each other, whilst we were eating she at times would just plonk stuff from her bowl into mine and would tell me "try this", "try that" etc, we then went to get some cocktails at some different bars, we were chatting about music, cars, our lives and stuff, I was smitten by her, we then went and got ice cream and we were sharing them with spoons and then I walked her back to her apartment, hugged, said goodbye (we also promised we'd see each other soon). I was sold that I really liked this girl, shes gorgeous, I love her energy, her sweetness, she is quite literally a breath of fresh air in an unfortunate dating history of mine where I've been strung along/lied to. I LIKE this girl a lot. I can't get her out of my head, we talked a bit the next day, and now the talking is starting to diminish again, for example we spoke on sunday, then she didnt respond to me til yesterday, which was just a video (she didn't actually reply to anything I said, which isn't totally unusual she has done that before) and I'm just stuck wondering what she thinks of me, everyone I've spoken to said that was a date.
I was going to send her a message the night of that basically would have said that I have feelings for her, and I would want to know if im barking up the wrong tree looking for a relationship with her but was talked out of it by a friend, but eventually I'll have to say something, whether that results in her not wanting any kind of serious relationship or not, I just need to get this off my chest. Any tips for me? Feel free to ask any questions, this is a rather layered story. I know some of you are probably thinking, 'the fuck is wrong with this guy? shes clearly not interested' or 'shes using you' but like man the date/catch up was genuinley so good, that's why im so fucking confused. Is it me? is it her? What should I do?
btw we have agreed to see a movie sometime in the next two weeks. aswell go out to dinner w some of her friends eventually too

Earned my gold die today. I wanted to share a few things I wish I and everyone understood going into honor mode. After these common misconceptions I’ll go over a few general tips that you probably already know, but they bear repeating.
Most guides and videos for “Best Characters for Honor Mode” are wrong. They focus on complete builds for characters level 8+, in Act Three. This is the opposite of what is necessary and fun. Act One is the most difficult. That’s where the game will squeeze you the hardest, and you’re most likely to die. The first four levels are where you may need to min-max and select characters based on their relative power. If you want my advice, here are a few classes and the level where they start to shine.
Level 2: Light Cleric, with bless
Level 3: Rogue Assassin, surprising enemies with bow
Level 4: Barbarian Berserker, with tavern brawler and throwing weapons
That said, feel free to ignore those suggestions. What’s the worst that can happen? Die in Act One? Not much time invested and plenty of excitement in trying again.
The second biggest misconception is that you need to do certain things in honor mode, play certain classes, or make “safe” decisions. The truth is, if you do your utmost to make the game as easy as possible, it’ll be boring, even on honor mode. After you reach level five, your party will get much stronger. You won’t need to pick the sweatiest classes. I thought you did, but the rest of my game turned into a cakewalk. You should focus on playing the classes you enjoy, rather than those you feel are the most potent.
Instead of looking for ways to make honor mode easier, search out paths to make it more entertaining. You shouldn’t be doing anything as far as role play that feels gross. If you don’t want to make Momma K sad, don’t side with Gortash. If you love Gale too much to blow him up, fight the final battle instead. That’s what I decided to do in the eleventh hour, and it made for a much more memorable story. Just prepare to fight the big brain and enjoy the challenge. To reiterate, don’t feel pressured into any path or strategy you don’t enjoy. I didn’t pickpocket gold. I didn’t use barrelmancy. And I stopped using throwing weapons because I find them too finicky.
Some people make honor mode more exciting by limiting their long rests per act. Another idea is only letting wizards use spell scrolls, or no crafted potions, etc. Definitely play with the origin characters you enjoy. Do only those quests in Act Three that feel fun and necessary. Some will go poorly. For instance, I killed Minsc. Even with sublethal enabled, either my crit ended him or the thunder damage from Punch-Drunk Bastard. Jaheira left. Boo cried, but all good stories have tragedy.
Honor mode reduces the temptation of save scumming and injects more chaos into your narrative. Two other exciting aspects are the more challenging boss fights and some more balanced abilities. Lean into the fun. With all that in mind, here are a few general tips for honor mode.
1. Stick to well-traveled paths. Don’t test the unknown. This game likes to surprise you, trick you, and kill you. If you aren’t sure what’s coming, if you try a different dialog choice than one that worked for you in a prior playthrough, you may well die. If you like to live dangerously, break a leg. As long as you understand the risk.
Personally, I regret fighting the Mystic Carrion for the first time, on honor mode. He didn’t have any loot I wanted, and since I didn’t know what to expect, the battle felt brutal. That’s the only time any of my characters died in Act Three. (Outside of camp anyway.)

1. Play a main character with high charisma. Remember, you can respec any origin character into a charismatic class. If you don’t do this, it will be a different and more exciting experience, with less gold (like 4x less) and more scary fights.
   
2. Gain as much experience as you can before fighting bosses. Since they are tougher, with legendary abilities, it is safest to confront them with your party a level higher than typical.
   
3. Do your research. Read honor-mode posts. Study up on the legendary abilities, and go into every battle with a plan.
   
4. And most importantly, have fun.
   

Hi everyone,
I am planning to travel to Iceland in near future. I would like to know if there is a law in Iceland which prohibits an individual to carry a ceremonial dagger in their checked-in luggage while coming into Iceland and also while leaving. I am an initiated Sikh and we carry a ceremonial dagger on us at all times. This is legal in a lot of countries including US, UK, India etc., but the google search says that blades are usually not allowed. So. I want to know:

1. If I would be questioned regarding the said item in my baggage once it is checked-in or during the check-in process ?
2. Is there a limit on size/length for carrying on-person ?
3. Is there any kind of exception for blades/knives that are required to be carried with religious reasons ?

Thank you in advance.

Anyone who fantasises about a dreamy, patient, and mindful relationship? We are on the same page. I feel I'm ready to get back into the dating scene. But I would take it slowly so that it can lead us to a greater compatibility or even a longer lasting relationship.
Modern dating is not easy but I still hope to meet someone kind and gentle again who is worth the risk. At the end of the day, all we want is a real emotional connection.
About me: * from QC * eye candy * tall * Libran * extrovert * softie girl * loves music * beach person * fur parent of newly adopted cat * hobbies/interests: mech kbs, photography, frequent local traveller, swimming
About you: * age: 28-32 * height: 5'8 / above * nearby area (pref North) * affectionate & giver * aesthetically pleasing * have the same hobbies or interests as I do. * willing to disclose IG acct (will not entertain dummy acct)
If this piqued your interest, slide into my dm. Hihi. Lmk about your current hobbies or start our convo by stating how you usually spend your weekends. ☺️🌸

Sometimes you need that courage to breakup with the person who's actively hurting you. If you know anything about narcissism and its cycles you know how torturous such a relationship can be. Love booming is followed by devaluation, followed by discard, followed by re-engagement.
My ex isn't a full blown narcissist, rather a more introverted and rationalising covert narcissist. Looking back on our relationship there's a reason it seemed so fairy-tale perfect in the first six months. I argued my doubts away by thinking this was the first time I was in love in three years. We travelled a lot, delayed university plans, flirted, went out, teased each other, supported each other. He mirrored my tastes in music, literature, and film; we made plans for the future.
Six months in, his effort disappeared and the devaluation phase began. He withdrew the attention he'd put in fulfilling my love languages and started future faking. All our discussions and small fights were very civilised and now I understand that this was the case because he purposefully misunderstood my concerns. I know my worth; I know my failures and my faults but that doesn't mean I have earned emotional manipulation. I ended the relationship at the ninth month when after repeat conversations about his behaviour, nothing happened. Looking back I recognise so many narcissistic qualities which I ignored at the time.
If you are in any way feeling under-valued, gaslit, are questioning your perception of events, get out. Even if it intermittently still feels good; in a lot of cases that's a facade and you're being duped. Get a haircut, change your style, cut out that negativity.
I miss the relationship very much. He was a great light in my life - until he wasn't. I will treasure his love-bombing phase as it supported me very much while I was scared and recovering from a major health scare. But this is not a partner for life. Narcissists are the opposite of consistent. Remember, if the breakup offers instant relief - that was probably a good choice.

Always remember that on January 6th 2021, Mike Braun traveled from Indiana to Washington DC to rally people on the street corner to march towards the capitol..
After all was said and done that day, Braun has never once spoke out against the violence or against those that attempted to hang the Vice President (our former governor), instead he has chosen to keep his mouth quiet and tout himself as a "Pro Trump Republican.
Are we better than that? Or are the majority of Hoosiers really that stupid that they'll allow a dude who made comments on interracial marriage, supported political violence and continues to deny the previous election to run our state? If that is who you think needs to be running the state of Indiana then God help us all.
If you would rather have a breath of fresh air, then vote for Jennifer McCormick, she is the only person that is willing stand up for woman, men & children.

Hi Horror fans! I am back with a few more reviews. I normally try to mix up the new and the old the classic and the atypical when I can. My success varies depending on which books call to me. Let me know what you think!
Lowest reviewed to highest.
Survivor Song by Paul Tremblay
Premise- A new rabies virus is running rampant in Massachusetts and Nats is running out of time. Almost ready to give birth and exposed to the rapidly advancing virus she needs help before the baby arrives or she succumbs…
Thoughts- This book almost broke my DNF record. It has been a long time since I gave up on a book and this was close. If it wasn’t a relatively short book (around 300 pages) I don’t think I would have powered through. I disliked one of the main characters throughout (Nats) finding her grating and her attempts at humour embarrassing. It also employs just about every cliché ever put into the apocalyptic or outbreak genre and then makes it worse by being self referential about the cliches. Then towards the end the other main character who I didn’t mind as much becomes so selfish (I understand she’s trying to help her friend but come on) that she willingly endangers a busload of people just for her own ends. All of this is without delving into the awkward and awful kid “slang” Tremblay employs for about 50 pages in the middle of the book. My wife really enjoyed the audiobook for his A Head Full of Ghosts so I will probably try that before writing him off as an author who is not for me but he has a really difficult hill to climb after this. A final thing to note much of this book even when action was occurring felt plodding and slow somehow which I can’t even wrap my head around because rabies infected people chasing down our main characters should be exciting but I could barely keep my eyes open.
Rating- 2/5. Not a 1 because I finished it. Do not recommend. Read any other apocalyptic or outbreak book The Stand or Swan Song comes to mind.
Between Two Fires by Christopher Buehlman
Premise- The Black Death ravages the French countryside and evil lurks behind every corner. A former knight turned brigand encounters a young girl who is more than she seems. Can he find redemption? Does he deserve it?
Thoughts- This is another horrorlit darling. I actually picked up Buehlman’s fantasy novel The Blacktongue Thief first in anticipation of this this novel because it was the only novel of his available at my book store. I enjoyed that and appreciated the author’s humour and dark side. This novel came with a lot of hype as it has to be one of the most recommended books in this sub. The premise of a medieval horror which features demons and devils was incredibly appealing and my wife and I decided to read through it at the same time (her on audio). We both found it pretty underwhelming which I know might be controversial. It’s strange because its well written, I enjoy the characters and the setting but somehow it did not gel with me. The best way I can describe it is it felt almost like a horror show with say 22 episodes. Like most shows with 22 episodes a lot of them are filler or freak of the week episodes and that is how a lot of the middle of the book felt to me. We would travel along with Thomas and Delphine, they would encounter something strange and remarkable (occasionally horrifying) and move on to another area where another strange or remarkable thing would happen. It felt oddly disconnected. Now I need to talk about the ending which didn’t redeem my feelings about a large portion of the book but it was my favourite thing about this novel for sure. It ends in a fantastic way and encapsulates what I think the author was going for throughout the book but didn’t land for me until the end with themes concerning sin, redemption and second chances. This might be the definition of a book I appreciate and can see what others love about it but didn’t register with me for large portions. That ending though, so good.
Rating-3.5/5 stars. An interesting setting for a modern horror novel let down by some meandering adventures which caused it to lose me somewhat before ending on a high note.
Little Heaven by Nick Cutter
Premise- Three hardened mercenaries team up for what seems like an easy job, rescue a woman’s nephew from a cult down south. What it turns into is a fight for their lives which will haunt them down through the years and will make them wonder if they ever really escaped Little Heaven?
Thoughts- My second foray into the work of horrorlit darling Nick Cutter. I enjoyed The Troop and found it suitably disgusting and chilling to earn the reputation it has in the wider horror fan annals. I actually think I prefer Little Heaven overall. One of my biggest gripes with The Troop was its lack of meaningful characters and many of them felt like stereotypes and while some of the characters in Little Heaven fall a little into that category (the Reverand in particular is just a straight black heart) the main group were all well realized in my opinion and despite their obvious shortcomings I came to root for them. Cutter per usual is a master with description, creeping the reader out with every mention of things slimy, crawly or looming. In this book he has included some pages of art which further the atmosphere and really burn some of the images into your mind (one rather tall character in particular). I enjoyed the back and forth between the two timelines, one during the initial trip to Little Heaven in the 60’s and the ugly return in the 80’s. It had almost an It like feeling of needing to overcome your fear when you know what is awaiting you but finding the courage decades later to face it regardless. Similarly to The Troop, Cutter doesn’t give us the Hollywood happy ending either which I enjoy, you get your elements and take what you can from such an evil place. Without going into spoilers there were things about the ultimate confrontation which I disliked (mostly the reveal of what is within the black rock itself) and things which I enjoyed a lot (the ultimate fate of one of the main characters). I think that I have now read what I would consider his two most applauded books I can move onto the one which splits horror audiences in half, The Deep. Overall though Cutter writes horror that really is a page turner and I will continue to read him until he proves otherwise.
Rating-4/5 stars. Another fast-paced creepy jaunt evoking elements of Heart of Darkness (and modern horror takes like Children of Chaos) and the two timeline split involving children obsessed evil like King’s It, Mr. Cutter continues to impress and make it his own.
Empire of the Vampire by Jay Kristoff
Premise- The sun has gone dark and the great empire of Elidaen is at war. Not with their neighbouring countries but the great unholy horde of undying monsters that make up the vampiric kingdoms. Gabriel De Leon will learn what it means to survive and battle against these creatures on his journey to becoming a member of the Silversaints, the great brotherhood of warriors who try to keep the darkness at bay.
Thoughts- Let me start by saying that putting this into my horror reviews is a little of a stretch. This is really more of a dark fantasy book with horror trappings. If you just want straight horror and are not into fantasy as a genre maybe give this one a pass, but if you do enjoy fantasy even a little please check this out. It is epic in scale with fantastic characters and really fun dialogue. If I am being reductive it is like 70% Witcher, 20% Blade and 10% Interview with a Vampire. I happen to enjoy all three of those things quite a bit so I loved this book. The story bounces between three time frames, the framing story in the “present” where Gabriel is imprisoned and telling his life story to his vampire jailor, his origin story taking place when he is around 16 telling of his upbringing and becoming a Silversaint and finally him as a 32 year old on a quest for the holy grail. Kristoff does a really good job at least early on keeping the reader engaged on each story as they bounce back and forth and I never felt too much like I needed to go back to the other time line even though I was always interested in what would happen next. There was one sequence which dragged a little for me (basically the sequence going to and time in Redwatch) but it is a minor gripe in a hell of a book. I am very excited for the sequel which should be out in first half of 2024. This book looks from the title and cover a little juvenile but it is very adult (many brutal murders, battles, amusing and creative cursing and a fair bit of the sexy stuff) so do not be scared off by appearance alone. A definite recommend from me. I could see some people finding the dynamics and themes well trodden from other recent media as mentioned Witcher and things like The Last of Us, but the world and characters Kristoff creates makes it work despite the familiarity.
Rating-4.5/5 stars. A brilliant start to what I hope will be the and amazing vampire series.
Perfume: The Story of a Murderer by Patick Suskind
Premise- Jean-Baptise Grenouille is born with a unique ability, the most extraordinary nose of all time. He can remember, store and create any scent he wishes. To that end he “collects” as many as possible and aims to create the greatest perfume known to mankind. Unfortunately, the best scents that he wishes to capture for his perfume comes from virginal teenage girls and he will take their odour no matter the cost….
Thoughts- I prepared myself for this book based on comments from fellow readers by expecting it to fall into the more distinguished “literature” side of the horror genre. It did but it still surprised me with the directions that it went in. I was expecting more focus lets say on the murders themselves and Suskind does such an amazing job detailing the inner workings of Grenouille’s mind that when we finally get to that part of the book we absolutely understand why they are not really the focus of the novel but merely a means to an end. The descriptions of odours are amazing and a few times I felt myself almost gagging at some of the images Suskind conjures with his prose. I am not a prose person but he does a wonderful job detailing scents in a way you would never think of. The journey Grenouille goes on is utterly unexpected and fascinating. You truly get a strange insight into this broken creature and why he is doing what he is doing and how ultimately the murders mean nothing to him but a way to capture or collect his perfume which is his ambition. The last few pages erupt into a madhouse of defied expectations just when I thought we would have a fairly basic ending Suskind pulls the rug out once again. It also really underlines how animal humanity can be and what we can be reduced to based on our senses.
Rating-5/5 stars. A truly unique novel which defied all expectations. Very different and easy to recommend to horror readers who want something out of the ordinary.
THANKS FOR READING!
If you want to read my previous horror reviews I will post the links here:
Devil in the White City, The Troop, The Damnation Game, Swan Song, The Fisherman and Something Wicked This Way Comes
https://www.reddit.com/horrorlit/comments/15a7jvq/review_sixpack/
Playground, Ghost Story, Red Dragon, The Exorcist, Children of Chaos
https://www.reddit.com/horrorlit/comments/17a3s9t/halloween_season_reviews/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
Mr. Gaunt and Other Uneasy Encounters, Mongrels, Strange Weather, Let the Right One in, The Final Girl Support Group
https://www.reddit.com/horrorlit/comments/18282lx/fall_horror_reviews_feat_graham_jones_hill/
Potential Options Upcoming books:
Owned- Old Country by Query, The Fireman by Hill and Carrion Comfort by Simmons (started this one got about 1/3 through and put it down wasn’t clicking despite me loving his Sci-Fi).
Wishlist- The Imago Sequence and Other Stories by Barron, Boy’s Life by McCammon.

Hello,
I've seen on DUO's page that they advise us to obtain a personal OV card, because they reduce the price of public transportation either by 100% or less. I don't understand this specific piece of information.
When does an OV card allow you to travel for free and when does it not?
For example, if I was to travel with an intercity train for A to B, would that be reduced or free? What about travelling by tram or bus from inside the city?
The ticket prices already seem low enough for me, but obviously I wouldn't mind at all to pay even less.
Thank you in advance for all the precious answers!

I (25F) have been best friends with my (26F) roommate for years, we have worked together and lived together for two years. We knew eachother pre work and living together, I actually got her the job as we get along so well I didn’t see it being an issue to spend so much time together. We never fight and there’s been no tensity or conflict since living together.
She has been very stressed lately and has quit the job she had with me because she got into a course that is also very high stress and needs to commit to that fully. It doesn’t start for several months and she wants to travel all summer before beginning this. I was so excited for and we planned for me to join this trip near the end so we can spend the end of summer together. We had dates set out and discussed flights and budgets, as far as I knew this was 100%
She told me out of the blue yesterday she wants to move out. Our lease isn’t up for another 2 years and the only reason she gave is because she feels when she’s stressed she takes it out on people around her and doesn’t want to do that to me, she feels she takes on others emotions and doesn’t want to be worried about mine when so stressed out and anxious herself about this course. She wants to live with strangers and focus on our friendship from a distance. I respected that, I’m obviously upset but if she’s prioritising her mental health and our friendship (in her opinion) I said ok. The issue is I won’t live with a stranger and none of our friends need a place right now meaning I now have to live by myself. I know this is a personal choice not her fault but she did know this would be my case which would mean I have to move out of our two bed and find a new place. She is also leaving in a month for her travels and because we are breaking the lease we need to pay fees and replace the tenants. I need to do this by myself as she’ll be away and I can’t move out before she leaves as it isn’t enough time to find new people, find somewhere else and move all my things. I have to find new tenants, pack everything up, sort out the deep clean, the moving truck, the property inspection, file for deposit all alone while she’s away all summer. I asked her if she’d maybe stay until end of September so we can do it together when she’s back but she says no she wants it sorted before she comes back. I now can’t join the trip as I’ll need to be doing this during the time I was going to be joining. Her quitting when her contract wasn’t up for another three months also leaves me with a lot of additional responsibilities in work so my job will be very intense during this as well.
I feel really blind sided and that she’s being quite inconsiderate with this? She said she’ll pay rent while she’s travelling for some summer but I think the issue is more she’s not here to help with anything and that she never even hinted at not wanting to live with me we only recently discussed how much we love living together. I don’t feel her reason for moving (prioritising our friendship) is very valid as I always try to organise things and she’s often out with mutual friends and doesn’t invite me. All our friends are mutual and I feel bad complaining about it as she’s very stressed with everything and I don’t want to add to her stress but she’s told me she’ll only pay 10 more weeks rent from June and this is a very competitive time to try find somewhere in the city we live.
I didnt expect to have to be stuck with this and moving all our things alone and also being excluded from a trip we planned to take together to do this. Am I the asshole for being upset about this or should I just let it go and respect she’s overwhelmed and given me just over two months to figure it out?

Heya! These posts/introduction messages always feel awkward and forced for me 😅 so buckle up 🤪…
Let’s get what I’m looking for out of the way, as no sense in taking up more of your time if it’s obvious that we aren’t a fit.
What I’m seeking:
As of current, my primary interests align most with a FWB situation, but I am open to any form of connection that develops organically between us (including simple friendship). I’m relatively open with regard to availability, though in an ideal world you would be open to seeing each other 1-2+ times a week. I’m attracted to a wide range of personalities and body types, so it can be hard to relay my interests there and is usually best just to connect and see if we click or not. I guess in the end, I’m pretty flexible in my interest and desires.
It’s also important to note that I do not smoke or drink at all. I don’t judge if you do either, but I will say that being around cigarette smoke is likely to be a dealbreaker for me. As for weed, I hate the smell, so I just ask that you please avoid smoking it around me. Vapes are fine, just please don’t blow them in my direction as I personally don’t care to breath that in. Alcohol I have no problem being around in all capacities lol get plastered for all I care.
A bit about myself:
It’s always hard to gauge what to share to the world in “bios” like this..I’ll try to highlight some of my most prominent characteristics and details 🤷‍♂️.
Let’s start physical. I’m 6’7”, definitely a dad bod with a bit of a stomach, 33 years young, long brown curly-ish/wavy hair (admittedly facing some male pattern baldness at my forehead hairline, so doing what I can with what I’ve got while I can 🤷‍♂️), brown eyes, wear glasses (if that matters to you at all), maintain a beard at all times (take the hair where I can, right? 🤪🤷‍♂️), and wear a size 19 shoe (putting that out there as it’s always a shocker 😆). No, I never played basketball for any teams growing up, but did play pickup games often after high school. The weather is just fine “up here” 🤪. As for style, or lack thereof 😆, you’ll likely always see me in some form of graphic or plain T-shirt with likely some form of shorts (I love the cold and hate being hot) year round, though every now and then I’ll change it up with pants and/or pollos 🤷‍♂️. I want to be more stylish tbh, but I don’t have the eye for good style, I’m colorblind, and often don’t feel other styles would suit my looks 🤷‍♂️. Speaking of looks, standard bearded Caucasian nerd looking dude lol, though when people see me, they might be quick to assume I’m the standard white conservative Christian type, when in reality I’m far from such (curse the genetics and looks I was born into 😭).
Kink friendly, so any questions or curiosity around such please feel free to bring up and discuss with me further.
I think that’s a good start on physical attributes, let’s move on to the internal ish…
Gah this section is much tougher to fill out 😅. Look, I just love just about everybody, will generally give everybody the time of day and benefit of doubt, can strike up a convo with just about anyone (though sometimes I need the other person to engage the start of that convo 😅), and would do my best to help and protect anyone around. I just want the best for everyone, ya know? I’d say i lean more extroverted, but do battle a moderate amount of social anxiety that im sure you’ve picked up on by now..you’d likely think im more introverted with how often I stay home and how little I randomly reach out to friends/others. It’s not that I don’t love getting out and about and don’t care to talk to my friends, I just get so caught up in my day to day life that it just doesn’t cross my mind, OR I get social anxiety (especially if I haven’t spoken to someone in a long time, I always worry they think I don’t care about them and our friendship).
Beyond this, it’s hard to list my other qualities, so I’ll just move on to interests and maybe that’ll help highlight more?
My Interests:
Can’t help but feel kind of boring and basic when filling out this section 😅. I feel like it’s a lot of what most people list as their interests and that my list is small/limited/boring. Travel Culture/language Food Music (very large and eclectic taste in music) Gaming of any form (video, board, etc) Puzzles/challenges/sports (I love a good challenge, so huge kudos if you are competitive) Technology (always fascinating what we are making in this world) I’d like to learn to dance but right now I’m very self conscious about my terrible dancing (I feel awkward 😔)
Disinterests: Low hanging ceiling fans and light fixtures 🤪
Details regarding my current Poly configuration:
I’m happily married with one child. If I do take on any new partners I never expect you to take on any form of relationship or responsibility for the rest of my family beyond just maintaining a safe space through proxy. My wife and I practice kitchen table Poly, so we are completely open to everyone happily interacting together, but if you aren’t comfortable interacting with the rest of my family no problem! Ask if you have any further questions on how we Poly ethically, happy to answer any questions!
Anyways, I’ve made this long enough…if you’ve made it this far, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post to entirety! Even if we aren’t meant to connect, you and your time are greatly appreciated! Sending my warmest regards and a friendly virtual hug ❤️.