So, some of you may have seen my last post here regarding the additional HMO situation in Warwick a few days ago, and how the housing supply for sharers of 3-4 people is now near zero due to the additional HMO license requirement.
But, Stratford-on-Avon District Council, as my understanding goes, does not have the requirement for landlords to acquire the "additional HMO license" - I applied for a viewing of a house in Wellesbourne (which is in Stratford DC), and the estate agent said "unfortunately we couldn’t accept more than two sharers here - as the owner doesn’t possess a HMO licence." As my understanding goes, this property with 3-4 tenants would fall under an 'unlicensed HMO' and not require the landlord to acquire a HMO license.
Feel more than free to correct me if I am wrong here, I don't understand why HMO licensing would be an issue here. Thanks :)

Hi all,
I'm a PM and have a current problem which has been manifesting in different ways for over a year and I need to solve it.
Working for a start-up and we have 4 developers and a single QA from an outsourced agency, work in 2 week sprints, and the QA and UAT for tickets is included within the DoD for the sprint for each tickets.
We often find that tickets might still be in testing at the end of the sprint and need to be carried over to the following sprint to be fully tested and UAT'd before being moved to done. We then re-estimate the tickets when moving them into the new sprint to reflect the complexity remaining in the ticket, which in this case would be 0SP. Some of our developers don't like this approach and the developer on the ticket wanted to re-estimate it to 2SP in-case anything came up in testing. When I said that I didn't think it would be correct to estimate for theoretical bugs, he responded 'then I have no motivation to finish any tickets at the end of the sprint if I don't think they will complete testing, so I'll stop working a few days before'.
Besides the comment, I do want to make sure the team is motivated, so want to resolve. I mentioned in the planning that I don't want to focus on us creating a perfect process around when tickets are carried over into the next sprint, as I want that to be the edge case, and don't want to encourage it. I want to encourage us completing the tickets within the sprint.
We have looked before at aiming for the devs to finish their work 2 days before end of sprint to allow for testing, and for them to work on non-QA tickets for the end, but this didn't really work.
I am now thinking that one way would be to remove the QA from sprint process and the Jira sprint kanban would end with ready for testing. Then if any bugs are found during testing new tickets would need to be added to the sprint. We would have to manage the QA process in a different board where there is a clone of each ticket or something for them to track their work.
Side note - our QA knows the product better than anyone, so attends all refinement sessions which we currently hold on the last day of the sprint, so they aren't able to get a lot of testing done on that final day. Additionally, because of their knowledge of the platform, we have previously had a problem where the devs were using the QA to review their work too much and we had a record once of 21 bugs found in a sprint with 30SP - a lot of them were just simple missing acceptance criteria - we have resolved this problem and the bugs have come down a lot.
Any thoughts on this? How have other people managed a dev - QA process within a sprint where you need to make sure that everything is tested, but trying to get tickets completed within the sprint so you're ready for release.
Thanks in advance - and sorry for the long message, wanted to get in the context

I can't believe I'm even considering this, I know the answer already but I think I owe it to my family to get some external thoughts. Because maybe just maybe, I'm blind, or I'm making the wrong decision. This is a long post so settle down with a cup of tea.
An overview of my situation: I separated from my wife, but we live together with our 2 kids, a family friend and her new boyfriend.

In August last year, I discovered my wife had been taking a class B drug (ketamine). I was naturally concerned, she assured me it was for her mental health and she knew what she was doing. And that it was under control. She's not stupid, so I said well ok. But keep it away from the kids.
Over time, I saw changes in her she slept for hours and hours. Then one day, the kids tried to talk to her and she wouldn't wake up. I later discovered this was likely a K hole. I gave her an ultimatum, the drugs or our relationship. She chose the drugs.
Fast forward a little, we live in separate rooms; she basically keeps herself in her room all day except to go out to smoke. Her boyfriend also moved in, who hasn't caused much in the way of issues aside from not contributing to the rent. We agreed on who should pay what to the rent, and she paid double what everyone else did. Over time, the drug use has increased and she now takes a variety of class A and B drugs. I've obviously grown increasingly concerned.
I had, foolishly, assumed that when our relationship ended she would leave. And in fact, at one point, she agreed to, but now she's changed her mind.
She doesn't really bother with the kids, at all. She literally hasn't seen them for over a week. Our family friend does a lot in terms of child care, he will put them to bed if I'm at the gym, and feed them if I'm out or entertain one while the other is out with me etc. The family friend and my kids have a really lovely relationship.
Now here's where the issue is: I got a well paid job, I was absolutely over the moon, it was in the field I got my Master's degree in, in the industry I love, and I was good at it! I made no attempt to hide that I had a job, however I continued to pay half of what my ex-wife paid towards rent. I'd actually been saving the whole time I was working this job, and I chose to use the saved money to take my kids on holiday. This has really, really, annoyed her. And I get why, she feels that it was unfair of me to keep money rather than share. From my side, she pays less than half of her wages, so I feel like, I saved y'know?
My kids welfare is what's important here, so constructive critism is welcomed however hard I may find it to read (I don't need captain hindsight saying I should have used the money for court!)
But here's the personal dilemma I'm facing, she's told me I should move out, without the kids. I'm the primary carer; meaning I do the school run, the food, the groceries, the 6am wake up for football training and I even solo'd my son's 10th birthday party while she was in bed. On the flipside, she earns a lot of money and can afford things like housing and food without me even helping if she had to. I simply couldn't afford to without her.
I feel like, I can't leave because I'm not even sure it's safe for my kids, and all the effort I've put in to get tossed aside feels pretty brutal. But, they love the family friend and my ex has told me that although she can't look after them, her new boyfriend can as can our family friend. Basically I'm torn between: Leave the house that the kids grew up in, with their pets, near good schools in an affluent area, or, take myself out of the equation and leave the kids there. I mean, if I leave maybe she'll come off the drugs? I really don't know what's best for my kids

Before we start, we have to exclude genetics and eating disorders. Some people are just born big/skinny bc their family is. Some people have real diagnoses which prevent them from gaining/losing weight. Lets exclude "time" for the sake of the argument bc they will hurt/benefit both sides. Losing weight no time to exercise/cook the food. Gaining weight no time to find/cook the food and no time to be stagnant to burn less calories.
This discussion is only talking self-discipline, motivation and free will.
That being said, losing weight. Exercising/ working out and just simply "moving" is free. We move all the time, just do it more. Volume eating is a good start. You can still enjoy a majority of your foods, just eat less of it and eat more "low-caloric" foods. I dont understand how its more difficult to lose weight when you are at a caloric deficit and burning calories. It take less energy to eat less.
Gaining weight is more difficult bc it takes more energy to eat. You have to find "high caloric" foods. Not all high-caloric foods are built the same. We all know fast-food chain restaurants are unhealthy so those aren't an option. Im talking about the high-caloric "healthy" foods which are more expensive than unhealthy foods. Also being in a caloric surplus while burning less energy is difficult bc we have to move, go to work, we are always moving/burning calories.
In addition, i live in the US. Standard American Diet (SAD). We are surrounded by unhealthy fast food which comes down to self- discipline. I understand its convenient but doesnt make it healthy.
In summary, losing weight is easier bc it takes less money to eat less and its free to move. Gaining weight is difficult bc it more money to buy more food and moving less makes you unproductive.
Thanks for reading. Change my view.

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Hello guys, my troubles with neck, stomach and bowels started 2 and galf year ago.
First I woke up with stomach pain on left side under my rib cage one morning that never got better.
After couple of weeks I also started having troath pain on the same left side.
Both things were sometime worse, sometimes better but always present.
Doctors couldn't find a thing.
Fast forward to 2023 January and my bowels started making gurgling and growlig sounds.
Also my left side and since then everything went downhill. I did Colonoscopy (clear), endoscopy (redness/irritation of stomach), CT scan clear, various CBC and everything always clear except constant vit D defficiency.
I also had constipation for whole 2023 and ubtil couple of weeks back.
Stomach/bowels pain were every day, usually worse on empty stomach.
My stomach make sound even if I swallow my saliva.
Yesterday I took Prednisone 20mg and for first time in longer then a year I had day without any pain, tightening or heavyness of my stomach. My stomach and bowel sounds also calmed down a bit and today is second day on Prednisone and second day witout pain.
Is this sound as MCAS?
I was for sure exposed to mold, and I suspect to heavy metals until 2022 March, but heavy metals I can't prove and I am not sure.
Does anyone have opinion, what testing shall I do and how to aproach this topic with my house doctor because he probably never heard if MCAS?

TL;DR: I’m juggling the ownership of two homes and seeking advice on how to optimize my financial strategy.
Background: I currently own a home valued at approximately $550,000 with a remaining mortgage of $300,000 at a fixed rate of 1.99% until February 2025. My savings have been funneled into a high-interest savings account, and I’ve been making minimum mortgage payments. The plan was to subdivide and build a second dwelling on the property within the next decade.
New Development: A career move necessitates relocation, and I’m eyeing a property worth $800,000 in the new area.
Goal: I’d like to retain my first property as a rental. I believe the rental income will sufficiently cover the mortgage, even post-February 2025 when interest rates are anticipated to increase.
Financials: I’ve estimated about $200k in usable equity from my current home, which could serve as a deposit for the new property. If I can manage a $600k mortgage (factoring in the $200k deposit), I should be able to secure the new home while retaining the old one.
Seeking Guidance On:

1. Transition Timing: When is the ideal time to switch from owner-occupier to IP status, especially considering the fixed interest period?
2. Feasibility: Is retaining the current property while acquiring a new one a viable option?
3. Timing for Pre-Approval: Should I seek pre-approval before or after my fixed interest period concludes?
4. Professional Advice: Would it be more advantageous to discuss this with a broker or directly with my bank?
5. Property Improvements: Is it better to upgrade my current home (repairs/improvements) before or after converting it to an investment property (IP)?
6. Tax Implications: Post-transition, would holding ‘bad’ debt lead to more deductible expenses and the possibility of negative gearing?
7. Expert Consultation: For comprehensive financial advice, should I consult a financial planner, an accountant, or a mortgage broker?
8. Additional Income Consideration: If I plan to lease out a room in the new house, will potential rental income be factored into my loan serviceability by the bank?

Additional Queries: Have I overlooked any critical aspects in my plan? Any insights or experiences would be greatly appreciated.

5 years in, is it over?
Hi all! I (27F) have been going out with my boyfriend (31M) for 5 years now.
While he is the kindest and most willing partner, we have had an ongoing issue where he takes no initiative in anything. He will do things if asked, but not on his own. This includes things like checking in on our relationship, initiating sex or any sort of emotional connection. He’s become more like a house-mate now than anything.
I have had deep conversations with him several times about this and have clearly explained my feelings and what’s important to me. However the issue keeps coming up, resulting in arguments (all from my side).
I’ve started to resent him because of this. Little things he does now send me over the edge. We rarely have sex (and if we do I initiate it!). I still care about him, but I’ve exhausted every avenue of trying to fix this
I’m wondering is this normal for a relationship that has gone on this long - or am I just creeping towards an eventual break up?
Any advice would be so helpful!
TLDR: boyfriend takes no initiative in trying to help our relationship. Starting to resent him now after trying so many times to fix things. Is it over?

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Ever since i've been a child i've had these dreams about a man, its like im awake but dont realise i aint awake?? first dream i had was when i was 7-8. i was in my childhood room, keep in mind i cannot sleep for the life of me, and at that time i didnt have sleeping pills. so i was doing my normal playing with plushies late night game. my room was on the second floor and i lived in a small town, my house was ontop of a mountian with a big forest right outside my window. but a small road just before it. as i looked out it was raining, the small light coming from the street light but it was flickering cuz it was old, i watched the rain drop but got an uneasy feeling as i looked further into the forest i saw him, he was a man, tall, strong but not too strong to it being his only feature. he looked like a normal man. his left hand had an axe. and i started to sweat as he walked slowly towards my house. stopping under the dim light. then up the driveway, then watched me like i watched him. he threw the axe at my window, and i must've woken up, but i didnt realize i was dreaming it, so i fell off my bed and ran to my parents room yelling at them that 'hes here' and call the cops. i still to this day dont remember it being a dream.
as some time went by, i didnt sleep at all. but only night i fell asleep, but woke up to an uneasy feeling like the first dream. then i heard it, our doorbell. i somehow didnt get scared and just walked downstairs, knowing he was there. i opened our door, and walked out. it was propally in the middle of the night cuz it was fully dark. i started to walk towards the forest. knowing he was there. my ma stopped me. asking the hell i was doing. i straight up told her 'hes here' but then realised what i was doing. keep in mind, i was too scared as a kid to even leave my bed at night. i still dont get how i just walked out of the house without sobbing.
my dreams slowed down. i felt uneasy sometimes but kept telling myself it was a dream and i was okay, even tho i was actually awake. it fully went away in some years, moslty cuz i never slept. but when i moved to a diffrent place he came back. first one after a while was while i was babysitting this dog for two weeks, he had been there for a week atleast at that point. i woke up and went upstairs, sitting on the arm rest on my sofa and scratching the austrelian sheperds ears. he was pretty big so he was perfect height for it, but then he got a freaked out face on. like he knew someone was there but didnt dare to look. i was confused and got the uneasy feeling again, i looked over at this corner, as i look down i saw two shoes. and i know for a fact no one was home cuz it was summer break and everyone in my fam was at work. i didnt say a word, my breath stopped as i saw the shoes move a bit. then i woke up, with a full on panic attack. it felt so real.
some days later i dreamt another dream. it felt so real, i was doing my morning rutine, but when i came to the living room which is upstairs. i saw my whole family, mom, dad, and my big brother. they were towering over something on the floor. it was an dark aura around it as i kept asking them why there were home and not at work. but they had the same as the dog in the other dream had. i looked more down. the shoes were at the floor with some jakcet over them. but then somone started to crawl out of it, hands gripping the floor as it came to life. and i woke up.
after that he kept coming. one dream i had was while i was sleeping at my aunts in my childhood city. i dreamt like i was walking back to my old house, going to check it out. but when i came there, all the windows, door and carage was fully open and fully dark inside. all our stuff was thrown out of the house laying at the drive way. i went up and kncoked on the wall next to the open door. no one came so i turned around going to leave. but when i turned around someone grabbed me, dragging me inside the dark empty house. i looked down as it happened and then i saw it again, those shoes.
im starting to lose track on what happens after what, but i remeber always feeling awake as it happens, to the point i dont know if im awake or dreaming anymore. ive had plenty of dreams of just living and then seeing him stareing. then waking up. i wont name them all but imma name the worst ones.
still during the summer i was laying in my bed, my room is very small, and my window is next to my bed, but i got curtains over the window to block the sun light, i was watching tiktok as i layd there, but then i got that uneasy feeling again, i looked to my door, and the light in the hallway made it easy to see two shoes blocking the light. i sat more up, grabbing some scissors i had next to my bed on my desk. as i sat started to sit even more up i heard knocking on my window, i fully turned my eyes there, and it was a gap just with the curtians enough to see some of the window, and there he was sititng, leaning down to meet my gaze. same shoes as always. i woke up in a panic. i didnt even know if i was awake or not. but i looked towards my window, and it was a gap with my curtians, its never a gap there cuz its creepy.
Another dream i had was that me and my family was at this place, my pa was sunbathing and i was chilling inside. its like a hotell. i kept going out to check on my dad as it started to get dark and i got an uneasy feeling. i knew something would happen. as i went out again, i found my dad laying on his sunchair, only that his limbs had been awfully ripped off. just where is knees started his leg stopped, just where his elbow started his arm stopped. and he had that look on his face like in the others dreams whenever someone saw him. i ran inside agsin and got met by his gaze as i woke up in panic. i ran to my parents room as they were dead asleep. but i needed to check if it was real cuz it felt so real.
im seeing that im writing a lot so imma just hurry up with the newest ones.
one dream i was back at my childhood home, i was with my two friends from there as we were playing in some tunnels made from WW2. me and my friend was supposed to find our other friend cuz he ran away somewhere. but as we looked she also dissepeared. i looked around. i saw some stairs, i know exaclty where i am and is 100& i was there, the stairs leads you to the dakrest point of the tunnel, its like your eyes are closed cuz its fully dark, as i went down i stood still for a second trying to hear them. but only thing i heard was the mans heavy breathing. in every damn dream he has this heavy breathing. i woke up with a scream as i dreamt that.
this is the newest one, only last week i dreamt of him again.
i was biking to my nearest shop for a drink, as i went back my bike had stopped cuz something happened with it, it does that sometimes. so i walked instead. it was fully dark outside and raning just so slightly. but as i looked forward in the small street, i saw him walking towards me. his head slighty turned to his side like hes watching me. with a knife in his left hand. i woke up with my breath knocked out of me, i went out again with a friend, we were getting some snacks to watch a movie, it was late, so it was dark. she sat behind me on my bike as we biked the same way i did in my dream. i got like a deja vu from my dream. but i was awake for sure, cuz i had already dreamt. but then i saw him again. the sight made me crash the bike into a small hole. she fell off as well did i. i quickly sat up a bit and went to help her sit up from the fall. but then as i was helping her i felt that uneasy feeling. but i didnt turn. her face went like everyones face whenever they see him. i didnt have time to turn. the knife he held in the other dream went straight into her collarbones. i turned around in fear only to be met by him sitting close to me, watching me with a damn mask on, the mask is fully black wiht a white lines a cross of it with some 2-3 other small lines over it. i had, had a double dream. it felt so unreal. and i never know if im awake anymore.
i went to a therapist for it one time cuz i hadnt slept for two week straight, and my parents got worried, and they tried to sign me up for pills. but i told them i was getitng better cuz i didnt wanna take pills and get worse.
PS. one dream i had was that i was in school, i had a morning rutine. getting ready, biking down there, sititng in fucking math class, learning math!! but then i got an uneasy feeling as i saw him just stand next to the door to the classroom watching me. that was an annoying dream cuz when i woke up i actually had to do it all over again.
but he seems to alwyas hurt people i know but never seems to hurt me, just stare, watching or some touches. ive had one dream where he shot my two best childhood friends in my old woods at where i used to live. it felt so real, i saw their pain as i hid behind a rock, as he just shot them with a hunting gun. and while they're brains were dripping everywhere he just stared at me and walked closer till i wake up.
i srs dont know what is happening, its creepy and idk if im dreaming or awake anymore. i be hanging with friends but get the uneasy feeling and just run off. into the woods or hide or legit start to sob.

Hi there,
After he had rejected several therapists (claiming each one incompetent or in some other negative judgement), my husband finally stuck to one and had been seeing that psychologist for several weeks until she diagnosed him with BPD. Promptly after that diagnosis, he stopped seeing her and denied the diagnosis. He has instead likened to the idea of being autistic without a professional evaluation and for sure has adhd though I understand all three can often coexist/be confused for one another etc etc. My issue lies in his inability to coherently comprehend what I say without perceiving it as an attack or manipulating it as if I am saying something else entirely. Additionally, he gets violent and hurts himself or damages property while he blames me for something as seemingly harmless as me asking if he added water to a recipe or casually asking if he’d done a task he said he’d do two weeks ago (that made him flip a chair and also threaten to stab himself with a steak knife). I think I need more resources to understand if reactions like this is common in BPD, or if this is even what he has because I feel like i’m the one who is crazy. I’ve neutrally brought up a conversation about how he might reconsider his medication because of his outbursts (lots of broken glass in our house lately, and he even punched the screen of my imac, my traumatized brain can’t even begin to tell you what triggered that) but now he dismisses me and then walks away and then screams “Don’t talk at my back!” or reengages in the conversation by making up what I said and when I correct him, he yells “I don’t want to talk to you! Stop baiting me into conversation!” and i’m left baffled and at a complete loss. He also has had trouble holding down jobs (he’ll make up a reason why it’s suddenly abhorrent then jump ship) and recently admitted to “his dreams of wanting to be a teacher” and went on to say he has “connections to teach a college course” and when I asked if he’s ever taught before (which, to my knowledge, is a big no), I suggested maybe he should try and get more opportunities to do that, to which he responded, screaming that I was “belittling his dreams”, and the next day he argued that he meant PLANS and not DREAMS, but there already was a hole in the wall and the actual topic didn’t matter anymore because he didn’t hear me when I voiced that I felt scared or that he was denying and accusing me of things that weren’t accurate (which I learned recently is DARVO, and he does it all the time). Deepest apologies for the immense detail but my current dive to find solace and resources about NPD (because after that episode, I get love-bombed) OR BPD and my spouse’s ability to pedantically take “clinical information” and vocabulary and use it out of context or in sentences to defend or deny and reverse it on me is truly making me question myself, like, is this my fault? 7 years of marriage and I’ve tried all the ways to speak to him kindly, patiently, directly, use a neutral tone - everything I say, he’ll try to tone police or question as if it’s an attack or entirely fabricate and avoid the point. Even if it’s something about how I’m feeling, suddenly we’re having a therapy session about him. I really want to bring him in to somewhere so he can get some professional insight where a space can be held where I don’t have to referee for both of us and someone else can point out the ways he’s communicating in unhealthy ways and call out things that are triggering (Space hasn’t been held for me for so long and the stress and pain is finally metaphysically showing up as nerve damage in my body. When he shows up in public, he acts as if he’s normal and charismatic and fine and I just feel like the out of context scorned wife, when for example, prior to us arriving, he’s just punched a hole in the wall before we left the house. Any resources would help. I am personally a high functioning and award-winning in my career with goals of becoming a pilot to fight fires and do rescue (which has entirely been put on hold because we seem to be tending to him a lot lately) and the more accolades, and goals I plan out and the more I achieve in my own personal career, the more my spouse seems to act terribly towards me. Despite me trying to encourage him to look inwards and seek his own purpose. Lots more details to divulge but the intention is the same, to gain resources in how common his reactions are, how one keeps themselves sane if or when their partner is like this, if you noticed almost parabolic mood swings (he was the perfect husband two weeks ago) and ultimately, for me not be overcome by whatever it is he has. Thanks for your time.

So, I'll begin by telling you about my personality. I'm ambiverted , mostly an extrovert with the right people but I have a strong feeling and introverted side too. So I can be INFP in rare case scenarios too if I'm in such a circumstance / mental state. The extroversion highly depends on the company and environment I get plus my motivation levels too. Since I mostly see socializing as either an opportunistic move that expands my network / connections or something that multiplies my happiness and recharges my energy. But I do enjoy one on one interactions or virtual deep intellectual conversations with strangers too.
I want someone to be understanding of my difficulties, worries, and anxieties, and I would do the same for you. Someone who is understanding of the imperfections I can't simply change in myself. Additionally, I will accept and understand all of your flaws. Together, let's get better.
I need to speak. It offers me joy, hope, and relieves my loneliness. I want to strengthen that tie and connection. But eventually, if it's feasible, I'd like to be in a relationship. I recognise that everyone has expectations for a spouse and that no one should lower those standards. And that's completely fine.
I'm looking for a soul connection that is honest and compatible somewhere in the world.
I'm a tall (six feet) , decent-looking man from india who makes enough to support myself but not so much to be able to provide anyone a luxurious lifestyle , sadly. But I can assure you will find my company comforting and feel peaceful with me by your side as a best friend and faithful boyfriend. My field of work is in software / programming.
I'm open to LDR and seeking a lasting relationship. you can originate from any city. I can move away, and one day we'll actually be together.
I am not looking for a woman for sake of having someone to give me kids. I only want you for your affection , emotional and intellectual support , and experiencing the joys of life together . Overpopulation already causes a shortage of resources in this globe. Instead of creating more human offsprings , I would rather add something of value and significance to the world.
I'm open to all races / nationalities but physical attraction is important. I generally feel attracted to women who take good care of their body, have an active lifestyle ( or atleast the desire to work on themselves even if they may be sedentary presently )

So I'm a 31 year old male and last night my wife where having a decent night till it came to our daughter waking up in the middle of the night. Well needles to be said we started to argue, I said some things she said somethings but eventually everything dies down in our house. Well outta left field she turns to me and saids that I'm sick and fucking disgusting for my attraction to other people (besides women) . I feel so devastated with her speaking like that she never had any issues prior with it and was rather accepting in my opinion guess I was wrong. Im not doing this to just bash her or anything but trying to explain what happened and why I feel so down about myself there was many things said on both parties but this stuck the most. Side question is this how everyone is going to treat me from now on blame my bisexuality for all there problems/ calling me sick and disgusting as well? I guess idk what to think or feel thanks for reading hope you have a wonderful day.

So where do I start? I went to my mates house the other week just to hang out and see her. Some context she’s a young single mom who lives with her mom and she has aniexty due to something happening to her while going home one night. But I’ve known her since late high school. So I for a while I wanted to buy her some gifts which to me working minimum wage were quite pricey and I just wanted to spoil her because of the accident while going home and I knew her aniexty was bad anything that topped it off and as a young single mother with a 1 year old you don’t get too much time to yourself so I wanted to buy her some pampering things.
Anyway the situation happened the next day, I was chilling in her bed but when I went to find her and I asked her mom where was she her mom gave me a cold answer and I could tell something was off, I messaged her on Snapchat asking where did she go? She comes into her room where I’m laying and says “why have you been putting the baby stuff into your bag?” To which I replied I haven’t, she went on to say she wouldn’t understand why I would want to steal off a baby, something of her moms has gone missing and it’s my fault, she said she checked my bag and my pockets to which they found nothing. I was so shocked by this, she went through my stuff without my permission and then they both still accused me of something I didn’t do? And they had no proof, for the baby thing being in my bag the only reason I could think of is it must’ve fell into it. My bag is a tote bag quite a large one, so no zipper and when you put heavy items in it it kinda sinks the bag, but we got to a point of the day when the baby was asleep and I was helping clean up she through some baby toys at me to have a look at because she liked them but one must’ve fallen into my bag. I even asked her why would you think I would steal of you? To which she again didn’t reply, to any of my questions she either laughed at me or ignored.
I’m sorry that her mom lost something priceless to them but honestly why would I want to steal off of them when I pay for meals when me and her go out, i spent a pretty penny on gifts for her to pamper herself with, why would I do that? Anyway I leave their house I left it as it was as to me it was clear they had made up their mind and nothing I was saying went through their heads.
They rang my work telling them about this incident to which my job didn’t care because it was my personal life and they sided with me. I’m a gift giving person that’s my love language and I have adhd so I can’t understand body language or sarcasm so to me I thought they were joking until someone from my work messaged me about it. I blocked her on everything but I want answers but I know I’ll never get them and I’m starting to not care by telling myself they clearly had horrible intent in what they were doing. They threatened the police but what can you say to them? You never saw me put anything into my bag, or my hoodie that I wasn’t wearing due to the weather. And I wasn’t hiding my bag or keeping it hidden from her when she touched my bag multiple times.

Alright so I (17f) and my gf (16f) were on my bed making out because we thought my parents left and their location showed that aswell but we didn’t realize they came back home and my mom walked in on us making out and ran to tell my dad. After that my gf quickly called her dad and told him the situation and that she needs to get picked up asap so he’s on the way and I don’t want to be there because of the last time this happened so I’m begging her dad to take me too but he’s like they haven’t kicked you out yet and I don’t want to be labeled as a kidnapper so now I’m calling my best friend to see if she could let me sleep over and she said the same thing and then my gfs dad pulls in and she gets in the car and my parents come up to my room fuming and started screaming and degrading me and my dad was the most pissed of them all and he grabbed one of my bags and hit me repeatedly with it until my mom told him to stop and to go to work and he grabbed my phone and when he left he screamed not in my house so I quickly packed some things and waited for the right moment and I left and I walked 1 mile away to the nearest Panera because of the of the WiFi and I take my school computer out and email my friend to please come pick me up but at that point my parents already called the police and are looking for me so they get there in 15-20 mins and my friend comes in first and tells me your mom and dad are on the way and I start breaking down saying no and my dad comes in and grabs me and goes let’s go get in the truck so I do because I have no other choice and on the way home he once again degrades me and when we get home he parks and tells me this whole speech of like hes doing this for the best of me and he loves me more than anything and he will always be on my Side and that the world is brainwashing me and he gave me my phone and was like promise you will straighten up and tell this girl that you guys can only be friends and that you can’t hang out and I’ll let you guys text because she seems like a good person and I pinkie promised but I’ve never been at such of a low in my life lie we’re together for about 8 months and it just hurts is there anything I can do to Make the situation better (also I would’ve gotten my license next week but they might take away my privileges to do hat too)

I’m sorry this is going to be long but buckle up. For a bit of background. I (17F) am part of a group of 4 + 1 girl that hurt me deeply in the past so I do not consider her as my friend. They are my only friends at school but last year some problems began to rise. The thing said girl did to hurt me was try to instigate fights between me and my friends and try to convince me that they hate me. My friends took my side in the fight and yet they stayed friends with her because she guilt tripped them. I believed that would be the end of it.
This year one of my friends that I’ll just name as K began speaking up about an issue she had with her mother for a very long time now and she began visiting my best friend who I’ll call T almost every day. Both of them have stricter parents than I do so that basically meant that for example if K went to meet up with T one day and slept at her house, the next day nobody could visit T. This also worked about the same with K’s parents. This put a strain on my relationship with both of them since it meant I couldn’t meet up with them ever and the few times that I have been able to meet up with them T basically told me: "You can come over if you have to".
My relationship with my last friend has been strained for a while now. I’ll call her Y. In middle school we used to be close and I was there for her and she was there for me. That isn’t the case now. Y is cold towards me and avoids me most of the time. Over the span of a few weeks the only words spoken between her and I were me asking her to please stop munching during a test we had because it wasn’t helping me focus (I have ADHD and Dyslexia). Which even then, she didn’t do.
I feel like I’ve reached my breaking point. I try so hard to hug them, comfort them, be there for them whenever they have to vent. I even organized some things for their birthdays (which I would have done regardless if they celebrated with friends or not) and yet on my birthday I didn’t get anything close to what I tried to give to them. I feel unappreciated but there’s this nagging feeling that I’m in the wrong. That I’m judging them for things they can’t control.
This brings me all to the actual breaking point. I’m Jewish and I live in a Jewish country (you can guess where, I just don’t want to state it for personal reasons). During the year we have many holidays. Recently, we had three specific ones that I hold close and dear to me.

1. Holocaust day (My great grandmother was Polish and we did lose family members in the Holocaust)
2. Memorial Day for the soldiers who fought in wars (specifically the fallen)
3. Independence day

Specifically the first two. On those days I get really depressed and I try to be with my family who have lost people they care about, especially on Memorial day. Two days ago, my friend T wrote in our group chat (this was right after Memorial Day ended and Independence Day started), asking why we didn’t call or text her to ask if she’s alright. I told her that I’m sorry but I’m with my family right now and that I’ve BEEN with my family this entire day as soon as I got home from school. My dad took me to place flowers on graves of soldiers because their families are often no longer there and sometimes they have nobody to place flowers to remember them. T got upset that we didn’t ask her if she’s okay because she also mourns on this day. I didn’t want to say anything in the group but I was very obviously upset and my family who I was with (because it had switched to Independence Day and usually we celebrate by eating BBQ) noticed and I explained that if there’s one day that I expected my friends to not be selfish on, it was those three days. And yet, they still were.
I’ve given up so many things for them and I’ve tried so hard to be the best friend that I could be. And yet, I never received that in return. All I got was to be the therapist and at that moment I finally broke down. I cried to my parents. My dad was busy and the guests had left by then already so he didn’t really stay to hear me out (even though he would. He’s a great dad) but my mom hugged me and said that it’s okay and that I have a right to be upset after everything.
I’ve just had enough. Enough of the drama, enough of the lies, enough with feeling like I don’t belong, enough with feeling like I always try to do everything for them and yet I get nothing. I’ve reached a point where I just can’t handle it. Especially because my friends have been so cold with me recently for seemingly no reason. I don’t know what I should do. Am I the asshole?

So I have a swarm of contractors coming to the house I recently bought. House is from 1955. One was a stucco guy. I had some areas bulging in the stucco that concerned me.
He went all around the house, tapping with a hammer on the stucco. Some places went “tink” with a nice tight sound. Others went “thunk” and sounded a bit hollow. A couple were super obvious repairs.
Anyway, the contractor informed me that the looseness would allow moisture to wick upward behind the stucco where the freeze thaw would loosen it more, and possibly allow mold / rot etc.
Anyway, most of the loose noise was about the first 18-24 inches from the ground. Suggestion was I need to have it angle ground off, then redone, at a cost of almost $17k. I don’t really know stucco, and I’m having a hard time finding other contractors to check it out.
Tbh in the next 2-4 years I wanna go fiber cement siding anyway for a visual update on the house. How do I gauge how much of a priority this issue is, or if this diagnostic is valid and there’s a real issue at all?

As the title suggests she ended things exactly a month ago, we are/were long distance, while I was at her house she decided to end it based on multiple small different reasons
I stayed 2 weeks after as she said she wanted me to, which was confusing in itself, but I took this as time to try and fix it
Now we have been apart for 2 weeks and mostly no contact from my side, there are a few things that confuse me:

1. She still has my/our pictures on socials
2. She has not told her family
3. She keeps liking posts on twitter things like:(paraphrasing)

• If they are your person you will reunite
• There are people destined for each other, they will come back together

1. she almost instantly views my insta stories and likes them of the 4 I have posted she has viewed all within 5 min and liked them...
2. Before I left the last 2 weeks were quiet nice and she was distraught at the airport and didn't seem to want to let me go
3. She keeps her location sharing on even after I ended mine

I really didn't want the relationship to end and do really want to get back together, to me it seems like she ended it in the heat of the moment and her being an avoidant needs space, now she has it maybe she regrets it
And that's why I'm here, obviously I'm heavily biased and selling myself dreams based on her behaviours, so what do you guys think, how should I interpret this?