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I think my future MIL hates me - what do I do?
2024.05.14 03:38 Electrical-Ad-2922 I think my future MIL hates me - what do I do?
So for context -my partner and I have been dating for half a decade. Our relationship is strong and we are enjoying our time together immensely - he's the love of my life, my favourite laughing partner and just a really special human being I'm honoured to know so deeply. My MIL came accross as a strong personality but seemed delightful and embraced me at first. Over the last few years it has become suspected she has a personality disorder with her "incidents" and behaviour. My partner and I are planning on getting engaged this year and have had this timeline for a very long time. While this should be a very exciting time in my life - I am instead feeling worried, stressed, and down. This MIL is constantly bringing up the concepts of engagement, weddings, and babies at get-togethers which sure is fine but the thing is it feels like she makes an effort to leave me out of it. My partners brother is also proposing this year to his partner which have been dating a few years less than us (super happy for them). My partner also has another sibling that isn't planning on proposing anytime soon and is younger. I have a really good relationship with everyone else in the family including the father (says i'm like a daughter), the siblings, and the partners (we have become friends). My MIL is not only making the maintenance of these relationships hard, but she is making me feel like abolute crap on a consistent basis at family events with how she blatenly treats me poorly compared to others. Here's some examples:
Some of these things above I have cried, laughed, or both about. There are many more things she has done that have hurt me these past few years of our relationship which I haven't mentioned above by myself and my partner thought were unintentional at the time and not necesary to address. She has love bombed me before which has confused me and made me think i'm over reacting to feeling like she wasn't treating me well/ doesn't like me -but most recently its gotten to the point where I am crying when I get home from every family event because of how prominent her efforts to exclude and bellttle me are.
Me and my partner have great communication and have agreed on the implementation of boundaries such as increased distance if her behaviour progresses etc. and he has offered to say something but I am scared. No matter what, I will have to attend family get to-gethers and I am marrying into this family that I really do love. I get along with the siblings partners so well it's such a shame that her presence leads to her making me feel poorly around them because of how she acts/things she says. I have also suggested she gets more mental support but right now shes attending therapy alone where I don't think she is fully honesst about her incidents/treatment of others. My partner knows she is unwell and we are both upset and tired of this being a thing. I definitely don't want to be overly embraced and put on a pedestal but I think what shes doing currently takes more effort than just acknowledging me and treating me with an ounce of the kindness she gives the others. I am scared to get engaged after her reaction to hearing we have been ring shopping and I am also more scared about the concept of a wedding or having kids as I find she has a tendency to be controlling and I don't want my future kids to see their mom being treated like this or possibly be treated the same. That of course made my partner upset and now don't know where to go from here (hence me referring to reddit) but I know a life with this is not a happy one for me or my partner and I don't deserve it but I love the family and I do love her for who she may be when shes mentally more well and her perseverence in life.
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- At family events the MIL will bring up the topic of marriage, babies, moving in, etc. talk about it happening for both other siblings and then completely disregard me and my partner. For instance recently she went on about who shes inviting to the one siblings wedding and then talked about how the other sibling (one not proposing anytime soon)'s would be and then (I kid you not) looked at me, said my partner and I's names and laughed.
- Im telling you at every.single. event. for the past 3 years from the first few months of them dating she is bringing up the other siblings future engagement and how they deserve it so much etc. Cute at first but its very very excessive at this point (and thats me underexagerating). Im talking about begging, and not letting the topic go when no one in the room is reciprocating. Not a peep has been heard about me and my partner in this half a decade of being in the family. - Would I every want it to the extent of the other sibling? no. Do i find it odd and a bit rude? Yes. especially considering the fact that she has known my partner is proposing this year.
- one day she brought down her mothers gold jewlery and was passing it to the other siblings partners and asking what type of ring she wants. Then when that sibling's partner asked me (attempting to include me in the conversation) and I showed pictures of the the ones I tried on and the MIL immediatly went quiet then interrupted and changed the conversation back to the other siblings partner. She acted like I wasn't there and afterwards the other siblings partner said they noticed too.
- when leaving a get together she went out of her way to hug every partner but me.
- After not saying a word to me in a room she calls over other siblings partners and has private conversations in the other conjoining room about non-private things.
- (this is wild that im even saying this) I noticed she covers our picture on the mantel up by either putting other siblings and their partners photos in front or a nick nack like a bible verse plaque.
- I have tried doing activities she enjoys with her -making an effort to let her know I care about her and her interests. - a lot out of my comfort zone.
- One of my love languages is gifts/acts of service (I don't expect it in return but I would think she would atleast treat me kindly) - I hand-made the whole family including partners sweaters (while other partners go nothing), every year I make the family yearly recap videos, I also make every family member including her birthday videos where I spend hours collecting photos, and videos from the past with their favourite music - started as something just for my partner but my FIL was so appreciative of it I thought i would do it for everyone. I do something special for her for international womens day and mothers day every year.
- I thank her in cards and have told her many times for raising very kind respectable humans.
- I ask her questions/ listen to her vents about conflicts with friends or family - (which btw she can be very negative about people).
- Myself and my partner both do the most activities with her and go out of our way to visit/help her the most. (ie. going shopping together, visiting her at work)
- I have cleaned her whole kitchen/ made food for the family on my own dime and time.
- Even when we first started dating and I was a broke university student - I would go out of my way to spend money on her and her family because i wanted to and I love them.
- When she would have mental "incidents" ie. leaving the house for a few days, calling family members really horrible names etc. I was the one who would speak sense to my partner and his siblings about how this is a mental health issue and she doesn't really mean it. - I have defended her at her worst.
- invited her to two outings/events things we have done together before - denied
- Asking her about life/work - not holding conversation
- Used to hug me good morning/goodbye - not anymore.
- Blatantly ignoring my prescence in the room when other siblings partners are there/not including me in conversation
- didn't respond to my mothers text and makes very little effort with my family (despite my family having them to our cottage and visiting/checking in - my dad and the FIL are friends) - meanwhile when we are in big groups she is constantly talkig about the other siblings partners parents and going out of her way to invite them to fancy dinners - buy them the most expensive bottle of wine etc. (bc she "wants to make a good impression"). - lol i guess my family wasn't important these past 5 years.
Some of these things above I have cried, laughed, or both about. There are many more things she has done that have hurt me these past few years of our relationship which I haven't mentioned above by myself and my partner thought were unintentional at the time and not necesary to address. She has love bombed me before which has confused me and made me think i'm over reacting to feeling like she wasn't treating me well/ doesn't like me -but most recently its gotten to the point where I am crying when I get home from every family event because of how prominent her efforts to exclude and bellttle me are.
Me and my partner have great communication and have agreed on the implementation of boundaries such as increased distance if her behaviour progresses etc. and he has offered to say something but I am scared. No matter what, I will have to attend family get to-gethers and I am marrying into this family that I really do love. I get along with the siblings partners so well it's such a shame that her presence leads to her making me feel poorly around them because of how she acts/things she says. I have also suggested she gets more mental support but right now shes attending therapy alone where I don't think she is fully honesst about her incidents/treatment of others. My partner knows she is unwell and we are both upset and tired of this being a thing. I definitely don't want to be overly embraced and put on a pedestal but I think what shes doing currently takes more effort than just acknowledging me and treating me with an ounce of the kindness she gives the others. I am scared to get engaged after her reaction to hearing we have been ring shopping and I am also more scared about the concept of a wedding or having kids as I find she has a tendency to be controlling and I don't want my future kids to see their mom being treated like this or possibly be treated the same. That of course made my partner upset and now don't know where to go from here (hence me referring to reddit) but I know a life with this is not a happy one for me or my partner and I don't deserve it but I love the family and I do love her for who she may be when shes mentally more well and her perseverence in life.
2024.05.14 03:35 Successful_Leek6813 How can I make a good YouTube channel for Pokemon Solo runs?
I've got a YouTube channel that's going on 4 years in the making this year, and I've got 217 subscribers, and almost 400 videos between shorts and long form videos. I've been gaining about 1 subscriber a day on average for the past month, and I continue to make shorts of the successful battles I have in Pokemon romhacks and Pokemon games. I started doing Pokemon Solo runs in long form videos of all gym battles and elite four and champion battles back in 2020, but they didn't get many views, maybe 50-100 or so views. I stopped doing that until this year, and I should've kept doing what I did in 2020, but now I do long form videos of each Gym Leader battle with failed attempts and the successful battle, but for right now only in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do plan on wrapping up my Solo Starmie run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo, and I plan on tackling Pokemon Crystal for some Solo runs to show successful runs instead of failed run after failed run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do make my own thumbmails, however I'm on a Nokia G50 android phone, and I can't seem to make the good thumbnails many of the other Pokemon Solo run tubers make, mainly because I can never tell if the Pokemon image will fit into the YouTube Studios thumbnail size until I upload it into the app, and usually you can't see the whole Pokemon.
I use the Meme Generator to add text to the thumbnail, telling of the Pokemon game I'm playing, the Pokemon I'm using with the word "Solo" so everyone knows it's a Solo run (I've had to say this in the #shorts videos because so many people keep saying I'm overleveled, now the comments are better), and the Gym Leader or Rival number I'm facing.
For example, I'll have a Long Form video titled "Pokemon Blue Kaizo: Solo Starmie (Part 1) - Brock" Simple, right? I also have that in the thumbnail with a picture of Starmie, so you know what to expect in the part. Then I make a #shorts video of the battle, and if the battle takes over a minute, I do 60 seconds of the end of the battle, then link the full video in the Related Video.
One of my shorts videos did pretty well, 225+ views and 110.9% average viewed, although those amount of views are pretty low, but much better than my long form videos, although they're now doing better after being linked as the Related Video.
I heard look at the metrics, so I think I'll start doing that, although many of my long form videos are getting more views than before, mainly because I stopped making 30+ minutes videos and just show the important battles in the Solo runs, and then I put the long form videos in the Related Video of the Shorts videos I make, so perhaps I'm going in the right direction?
Sorry for my very long message, I'm not really good at just making it short, sweet, and to the point. I know of quite a few people on YouTube that do Solo runs (Gym Leader Matt, JRose11, Mah Dry Bread, RBY Challenges, Squidgy, Scott's Thoughts, etc.) I want to one day do YouTube full time, although this might not be that good of a niche to do that, I'd at least love to make some extra income on my YouTube channel. I want to get monetized by 2025, so any helpful feedback would be highy appreciated!
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I do plan on wrapping up my Solo Starmie run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo, and I plan on tackling Pokemon Crystal for some Solo runs to show successful runs instead of failed run after failed run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do make my own thumbmails, however I'm on a Nokia G50 android phone, and I can't seem to make the good thumbnails many of the other Pokemon Solo run tubers make, mainly because I can never tell if the Pokemon image will fit into the YouTube Studios thumbnail size until I upload it into the app, and usually you can't see the whole Pokemon.
I use the Meme Generator to add text to the thumbnail, telling of the Pokemon game I'm playing, the Pokemon I'm using with the word "Solo" so everyone knows it's a Solo run (I've had to say this in the #shorts videos because so many people keep saying I'm overleveled, now the comments are better), and the Gym Leader or Rival number I'm facing.
For example, I'll have a Long Form video titled "Pokemon Blue Kaizo: Solo Starmie (Part 1) - Brock" Simple, right? I also have that in the thumbnail with a picture of Starmie, so you know what to expect in the part. Then I make a #shorts video of the battle, and if the battle takes over a minute, I do 60 seconds of the end of the battle, then link the full video in the Related Video.
One of my shorts videos did pretty well, 225+ views and 110.9% average viewed, although those amount of views are pretty low, but much better than my long form videos, although they're now doing better after being linked as the Related Video.
I heard look at the metrics, so I think I'll start doing that, although many of my long form videos are getting more views than before, mainly because I stopped making 30+ minutes videos and just show the important battles in the Solo runs, and then I put the long form videos in the Related Video of the Shorts videos I make, so perhaps I'm going in the right direction?
Sorry for my very long message, I'm not really good at just making it short, sweet, and to the point. I know of quite a few people on YouTube that do Solo runs (Gym Leader Matt, JRose11, Mah Dry Bread, RBY Challenges, Squidgy, Scott's Thoughts, etc.) I want to one day do YouTube full time, although this might not be that good of a niche to do that, I'd at least love to make some extra income on my YouTube channel. I want to get monetized by 2025, so any helpful feedback would be highy appreciated!
2024.05.14 03:34 IdeaKitchen7877 Why do some people not slow down or brake to avoid accidents?
Even if the other person is at fault, why do some drivers not take proper evasive maneuvers? I look at stuff like this and it just boggles my mind https://youtu.be/KNgyPbEg5Ns?t=340 . They didn't even try and brake. You could've seen this coming almost immediately when the clip starts. This is just an extreme example, but I've seen this many, many times on the road myself
Is it ungodly slow reaction time? Extremely poor judgement? Does the driver feel like they are in the right and are willing to get into a collision over it? I don't get it.
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Is it ungodly slow reaction time? Extremely poor judgement? Does the driver feel like they are in the right and are willing to get into a collision over it? I don't get it.
2024.05.14 03:32 sveniseven My Mom passed and I’m stuck on what to do with inheritance
Hello,
I wanted to ask for some opinions on the financial situation I’m in. My mom passed away and I will be coming into an inheritance of around 80-100k and I don’t know how to best allocate the money. My partner and I would like to buy a larger house this summer for our growing family but that is a pipe dream at this point.
-I make just over 100k a year and my partner makes 60k after taxes. -I have 74k left on a vehicle loan that is financially sinking me. Partner has 38k left on their manageable vehicle loan. -We have 140k in equity in our current house. Our current mortgage is quite cheap at a 2.78% rate with 3.5 years left. -We have 17k in credit line debt. -We have 5k in student loan debt.
I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this post. Any ideas will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
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I wanted to ask for some opinions on the financial situation I’m in. My mom passed away and I will be coming into an inheritance of around 80-100k and I don’t know how to best allocate the money. My partner and I would like to buy a larger house this summer for our growing family but that is a pipe dream at this point.
-I make just over 100k a year and my partner makes 60k after taxes. -I have 74k left on a vehicle loan that is financially sinking me. Partner has 38k left on their manageable vehicle loan. -We have 140k in equity in our current house. Our current mortgage is quite cheap at a 2.78% rate with 3.5 years left. -We have 17k in credit line debt. -We have 5k in student loan debt.
I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this post. Any ideas will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
2024.05.14 03:31 LittleBirdSansa The ableism really jumps out of medical records, geez
I was reading some summarized medical notes from childhood just for kicks and giggles and man, talk about really seeing some of the ableism. I knew what I was in for since I had recently requested later records, so for this one I opted to just get abstract summaries. I had no particular motivation in getting these records other than a strong idle curiosity. I now have a few connected diagnoses, you know the ones, POTS/EDS, allergies, asthma, and also narcolepsy is thrown in there just for fun. Plus the occasional eczema flare up and recurring headaches that never stay on my chart.
I think some small part of me hoped that the notes from my pediatric time would show doctors who cared but couldn’t figure out the problem. With the records I found from my high school years, that tiny hope was quashed without a bit of surprise.
When I was a kid, we’d been in and out for years between headaches and abdominal pain. Lots of the abstracts imply my mom is somehow at fault for bringing me in but oh this one section just made me put my phone down. I was 9 at the time of this visit, just for context. Cynicism was clear in the notes that I was being coached on describing my headaches because I sometimes looked to my mother to help me explain or give details on symptoms of my severe headaches, specifically the possible auras. Probably because I was in too much pain at the time to code the memories properly and also I was barely 9, of course I was going to check with my mom.
Multiple notes reference me watching TV or reading or listening to soothing music “despite” my headaches and idk maybe I did but I also know I had a lot of times I laid in the bathroom because it was the only quiet and dark place.
Apparently abdominal migraines are a thing and even when one of the medical professionals said that seemed to be part of my problems, the sheer skepticism oozing from these notes…I have to laugh so I don’t get angry. It 100% sounds like my symptoms were worsened by my anxiety/depression but my mom brought me into the office during one and I was clearly suffering, that wasn’t “just” psychosomatic. Also, luckily, I outgrew the abdominal migraines.
I also had an essential tremor (now treated perhaps thanks to my POTS beta blocker) worsened by anxiety and I acknowledge it was worsened by anxiety, that doesn’t mean caused by anxiety ffs. That issue came up later, in the previous set of requested records. Also we kept bringing it up with doctors because my teachers were commenting to us on it out of concern.
Back to the records I just got though. Multiple instances occurred where we got blamed by one specialist for trusting another. Example: with the GI issues, one person told us maybe it was lactose intolerance. Another person down the line would take notes like we were hypochondriacs for saying “person 1 said maybe there’s lactose intolerance, maybe that’s part of it? We were told to track if symptoms were worse after milk. They didn’t seem to be but maybe?” The test for it later came back negative and the notes sound so high and mighty that again, it’s laughable.
Also the amount of “in no acute distress” despite coming in for complaints of pain, etc. I’m not surprised but I am somehow still disappointed.
Mom did get anxious about my health sometimes, seems she tried to keep me away from milk for a bit just in case. I also do believe there were some things where she brought me in unnecessarily but the poor woman was an anxious first time parent. I fault her for lots of other things but not being overly worried about my health to doctors who kept dismissing everything. Plus, I’ve always been extremely sensitive to physical stimuli and imagine I was deeply unpleasant when dealing with that discomfort while learning how to be a human.
On a more lighthearted note, apparently I took a prescription of belladonna for a while, I didn’t even know that was a thing but it was a fun Google rabbit hole to go down. I guess I also played soccer when I was in 3rd grade, which was news to me! I don’t doubt it, I just didn’t remember I’d played it.
I’m not genuinely distressed, like I said, I expected the ableism. Mostly I’m just satisfied to have my curiosity largely sated and a better timeline of certain things in my own life. As sad as it is, I can’t help laughing that multiple grown ass adults with medical degrees seemed to have one-sided beef with prepubescent me. Why even go into pediatrics, especially a pediatric specialty like urology, cardiology, etc.? (Rhetorical question)
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I think some small part of me hoped that the notes from my pediatric time would show doctors who cared but couldn’t figure out the problem. With the records I found from my high school years, that tiny hope was quashed without a bit of surprise.
When I was a kid, we’d been in and out for years between headaches and abdominal pain. Lots of the abstracts imply my mom is somehow at fault for bringing me in but oh this one section just made me put my phone down. I was 9 at the time of this visit, just for context. Cynicism was clear in the notes that I was being coached on describing my headaches because I sometimes looked to my mother to help me explain or give details on symptoms of my severe headaches, specifically the possible auras. Probably because I was in too much pain at the time to code the memories properly and also I was barely 9, of course I was going to check with my mom.
Multiple notes reference me watching TV or reading or listening to soothing music “despite” my headaches and idk maybe I did but I also know I had a lot of times I laid in the bathroom because it was the only quiet and dark place.
Apparently abdominal migraines are a thing and even when one of the medical professionals said that seemed to be part of my problems, the sheer skepticism oozing from these notes…I have to laugh so I don’t get angry. It 100% sounds like my symptoms were worsened by my anxiety/depression but my mom brought me into the office during one and I was clearly suffering, that wasn’t “just” psychosomatic. Also, luckily, I outgrew the abdominal migraines.
I also had an essential tremor (now treated perhaps thanks to my POTS beta blocker) worsened by anxiety and I acknowledge it was worsened by anxiety, that doesn’t mean caused by anxiety ffs. That issue came up later, in the previous set of requested records. Also we kept bringing it up with doctors because my teachers were commenting to us on it out of concern.
Back to the records I just got though. Multiple instances occurred where we got blamed by one specialist for trusting another. Example: with the GI issues, one person told us maybe it was lactose intolerance. Another person down the line would take notes like we were hypochondriacs for saying “person 1 said maybe there’s lactose intolerance, maybe that’s part of it? We were told to track if symptoms were worse after milk. They didn’t seem to be but maybe?” The test for it later came back negative and the notes sound so high and mighty that again, it’s laughable.
Also the amount of “in no acute distress” despite coming in for complaints of pain, etc. I’m not surprised but I am somehow still disappointed.
Mom did get anxious about my health sometimes, seems she tried to keep me away from milk for a bit just in case. I also do believe there were some things where she brought me in unnecessarily but the poor woman was an anxious first time parent. I fault her for lots of other things but not being overly worried about my health to doctors who kept dismissing everything. Plus, I’ve always been extremely sensitive to physical stimuli and imagine I was deeply unpleasant when dealing with that discomfort while learning how to be a human.
On a more lighthearted note, apparently I took a prescription of belladonna for a while, I didn’t even know that was a thing but it was a fun Google rabbit hole to go down. I guess I also played soccer when I was in 3rd grade, which was news to me! I don’t doubt it, I just didn’t remember I’d played it.
I’m not genuinely distressed, like I said, I expected the ableism. Mostly I’m just satisfied to have my curiosity largely sated and a better timeline of certain things in my own life. As sad as it is, I can’t help laughing that multiple grown ass adults with medical degrees seemed to have one-sided beef with prepubescent me. Why even go into pediatrics, especially a pediatric specialty like urology, cardiology, etc.? (Rhetorical question)
2024.05.14 03:31 oh_how_droll How do I get my career back on track after serious health problems and a personal crisis?
I'm going to try and keep this fairly short, but:
Outside of finishing my degree and getting some recent projects on my GitHub, how do I recover from this massive gap in my resume and get my career back on some kind of track? I'll be bluntly honest and say that I hate front-end web development, but if it means that I can afford to move out, I'll take it. Ideally, I'd find another job in Haskell, but that's not exactly easy, and I'd be about as happy with systems programming, embedded firmware development, or anything else more on the concrete end of the field rather than the "Javascripty" end of things.
I've lost contact with most of my network in this span of time, and don't quite know how to reach out to people after falling off the face of the earth for two years. This isn't socialskillsquestions, though, so I think that's largely out of scope. I think my resume is terrible as well, but I'll save that for tomorrow's sticky.
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- I was on track to graduate in 2020, and completed all major requirements. Due to a professor not submitting grades in one of my classes during the Spring quarter that year, I was technically two credits short of the total units required to graduate. I am currently working on reenrolling to officially get my degree, and plan to finish that over the summer session, which starts in July. I went to a fairly mediocre school in terms of engineering, UC Davis, and struggled heavily to network and make friends in the program because I was a transfer student and also double majoring in mathematics, although I ended up dropping the double major in the end while I was attempting to graduate in Spring 2020. This also impacted my GPA, which was approximately 2.7.
- Despite not graduating, I got a job in January 2021 working for a small finance startup in what was essentially a data engineering role in their nascent research department, working on a Haskell-based domain-specific language for genetic programming in the contexts of neuroevolution and program synthesis.
- Most of my largest personal projects are written in Haskell, and I have made major open source contributions to Haskell tooling, although I don't want to describe them in too much detail since that would doxx myself. I haven't been active on the project in the last two-three years, but I am still officially a maintainer of Cabal, the Haskell package manager.
- This work was on a contract basis, and despite being verbally assured that I would be renewed for another year, the CEO (who was my main point of contact outside of my direct superior on the research team) ghosted me in early January 2022, and I have not had work since for a variety of reasons. I became severely ill in late 2021, spending the last several months of the year in the hospital and having a major surgery as part of the management of my chronic health condition. Managing my health and recovery took up much of my time, but I did manage to land several interviews in the summer of 2022, including two that reached the point of verbal job proffers, although in both cases the offer was rescinded before I received an offical contract.
- After several more months where I had to focus on my health and securing access to my medication, my wife separated from me largely due to the financial stress of my extended unemployment in March of 2023. I struggled seriously with depression to the point that I was essentially bedbound for large stretches of the remainder of 2023, and needless to say with the difficult job market since, I have not had luck trying to find work.
Outside of finishing my degree and getting some recent projects on my GitHub, how do I recover from this massive gap in my resume and get my career back on some kind of track? I'll be bluntly honest and say that I hate front-end web development, but if it means that I can afford to move out, I'll take it. Ideally, I'd find another job in Haskell, but that's not exactly easy, and I'd be about as happy with systems programming, embedded firmware development, or anything else more on the concrete end of the field rather than the "Javascripty" end of things.
I've lost contact with most of my network in this span of time, and don't quite know how to reach out to people after falling off the face of the earth for two years. This isn't socialskillsquestions, though, so I think that's largely out of scope. I think my resume is terrible as well, but I'll save that for tomorrow's sticky.
2024.05.14 03:29 CoconutJeff Estate, probate, & squatter, oh my (VIRGINIA)
My father died about 2 months ago. He had a will that said his estate goes to his children. The executor has had most paperwork for 1 month.
Pops had an estranged wife. Wife and pop are on a small vacant property and main residence they acquired while together. Main residence is them on title but deed is a trust with pops lawyer and pops pop lawyer. Pop pop still alive.
Pops wife abandoned their residence about 15 years ago. Had a hokey agreement notarized saying she wouldn't be held responsible for any payments.
Pops also got a rental property after wife abandoned. It is just him listed on it.
Further, one of his sons has been living and taking care of him up until short. Recently the wife has filed an eviction on the son. Requirements for squatter are tall but he meets them.
What would be in the best interest of the squatter? File?
The rental property is about to end its tenant on both contract and would need us to spruce and list as we have been working with pops on it.
But it seems that VA marriage trumps the will and properties would go to the wife. However it can be appealed?
We have gotten nothing but lawyer vagueness so far. I would like to ask for an update and know where it should be. Should it be in probate? 6 months total maybe?
Honestly I'm not sure I have much trust in pops lawyer either, he's a 1 man show, old, and a bit country. Sorry, no offense, I'm sure the Mayberry lawyer is good somewhere, maybe not here. Is getting a new one a huge pain? Should I let it ride?
Help/advice appreciated.
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Pops had an estranged wife. Wife and pop are on a small vacant property and main residence they acquired while together. Main residence is them on title but deed is a trust with pops lawyer and pops pop lawyer. Pop pop still alive.
Pops wife abandoned their residence about 15 years ago. Had a hokey agreement notarized saying she wouldn't be held responsible for any payments.
Pops also got a rental property after wife abandoned. It is just him listed on it.
Further, one of his sons has been living and taking care of him up until short. Recently the wife has filed an eviction on the son. Requirements for squatter are tall but he meets them.
What would be in the best interest of the squatter? File?
The rental property is about to end its tenant on both contract and would need us to spruce and list as we have been working with pops on it.
But it seems that VA marriage trumps the will and properties would go to the wife. However it can be appealed?
We have gotten nothing but lawyer vagueness so far. I would like to ask for an update and know where it should be. Should it be in probate? 6 months total maybe?
Honestly I'm not sure I have much trust in pops lawyer either, he's a 1 man show, old, and a bit country. Sorry, no offense, I'm sure the Mayberry lawyer is good somewhere, maybe not here. Is getting a new one a huge pain? Should I let it ride?
Help/advice appreciated.
2024.05.14 03:27 President_Roosvelt Staking on ledger is auto compounding?
As per title: is it? Or does it depend on the currency? Let’s take as example SOL and ATOM. From what I can see SOL is auto compounding because my overall quantity increased over the time. As for ATOM, the overall staking quantity has remained the same, but I have the possibility to claim the staking reward.
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2024.05.14 03:26 A5terdaftzx Looking for some opinions on my panoramic and lateral cephalometric radios.
 | Hi there! Hope y’all are doing well. 18 yo class ii male patient here. submitted by A5terdaftzx to askdentists [link] [comments] This is my very first post into the -askdentists subreddit, which I came across with some hours ago while looking out information on how to read the results for some evaluations I took yesterday (Ricketts and Steiner, specifically) due to problems caused by my lower wisdom teeth. I must first clarify however that there are other reasons for which i’m seeking help here. (For the record, i never drink nor actively smoke, however the air is pretty much polluted where i live in so might be equivalent to being a passive smoker aswell. this is also kind of a rant btw lol) You see, it’s been 4 years since I first identified problems with my jaw, regarding bite malposition and overall crowding of teeth. I continuously told both my parents and health professional about these concerns but they kept telling me not to make a big deal out of it. Over time consequences arrived and I was left not only deeply insecure about my physical appearance, but also worried that if left without treatment this could bring repercusions to my quality of life in a not-so distant future (propension towards allergies and other respiratory issues which i also had before, for example). I went on as my facial structure changed, accentuated some unwanted traits and these unattended issues kept progressing for the worse. The radiographs shown here expose a clearer picture of all that’s been going on. https://preview.redd.it/0tby6kl9pa0d1.jpg?width=2896&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=70a01d2f80443d9c86493ac09a2daae244333ed8 https://preview.redd.it/k9myp8cbpa0d1.jpg?width=2044&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cccaa91c95b5cc90517bb320620c47b9c7d04218 Now that my overjet+crooked smile have become inevitably noticeable for everyone around they’re finally offering me apparently appropriate treatment, which in general terms implies the extraction of some teeth and orthodontics for jaw and maxillar incisor accomodation, but I’m still not very confident if that will be enough to solve the problem. In fact, the results haven’t been sent to me directly and i don’t understand how to take the radiographs as a reference, neither have i had any explanation of which could be the precursors that led to these issues. Hell, i haven’t even been told where the problem specifically is. So..for now I’m trying to trace back lines with my early medical history to see if my past traumatologic injuries had anything to do with this, wondering if my jaw presents any signs of underdevelopment, or if it is more related to mouth breathing habits during childhood, etc. I’m looking forward to making an appointment with maxillofacial+orthodontic experts to get answers to these questions and guidance through the whole process, but i’d like to read whatever y’all have to tell to me about this first. Any advice, answers, suggestions, comments are welcome. I’d really appreciate them a lot. (also srry for my bad use of english, it’s not my native language) |
2024.05.14 03:23 Capable_Scallion_184 No idea what to do…
First, I read so many posts from here and the help has been great. Thanks to all who moderate, post, and comment!
I am literally strung out over this process. I have parent plus loans which qualify for PSLF. I have been teaching for over 20 years. My employer was verified (after two Mohela mess ups), and I am currently three years in.
Because of all my questions I did reach out to TISLA, an organization that gives free student loan advice. They told me to do a “double back consolidation.” Consolidate half my loans with one lender, the other half with another, and then consolidate the two. Cool.
Now I am being told that I will lose my 3 years of PSLF if I do this, but, “It’s no big deal as you would pay so much with PSLF.” To be honest, when I look at my current PSLF payoff chart I am not really being granted forgiveness on anything; I’m just being asked to pay off everything within 10 years.
I am a single mom who is trying to make this work. Nelnet? Mohela? TISLA? All different answers. I feel screwed over by everyone and anyone, and at this point just think taking out a second mortgage would just be better for piece of mind.
Thanks for any advice you have, and for listening!
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I am literally strung out over this process. I have parent plus loans which qualify for PSLF. I have been teaching for over 20 years. My employer was verified (after two Mohela mess ups), and I am currently three years in.
Because of all my questions I did reach out to TISLA, an organization that gives free student loan advice. They told me to do a “double back consolidation.” Consolidate half my loans with one lender, the other half with another, and then consolidate the two. Cool.
Now I am being told that I will lose my 3 years of PSLF if I do this, but, “It’s no big deal as you would pay so much with PSLF.” To be honest, when I look at my current PSLF payoff chart I am not really being granted forgiveness on anything; I’m just being asked to pay off everything within 10 years.
I am a single mom who is trying to make this work. Nelnet? Mohela? TISLA? All different answers. I feel screwed over by everyone and anyone, and at this point just think taking out a second mortgage would just be better for piece of mind.
Thanks for any advice you have, and for listening!
2024.05.14 03:23 Normal_Post_7014 Personal experiences filing bankruptcy or consumer proposal?
Context: I’m 24, currently unemployed for the past two months (actively searching for work and working with job developers), no assets and have close to 65k in debt but 25k is OSAP which I’m not worried about because they’re on pause and have no interest
Of the remaining 40k, 30k is from my student line of credit that just recently got converted into a loan. The rest credit card debt (8.7k) from three different cards, one is 6.6k the two are about 1k each
The vast majority of my debt is from funding myself through school. I worked and received OSAP but still needed the line of credit since those weren’t enough for rent and groceries.
My credit score was always excellent up until two years ago where the credit card debt started building. My cat got very sick and long story short i maxed out my 7k credit card on him (worth it, he’s healthy and happy now) and that’s where all the cc debt comes from. I’ve always made my monthly payments that are over $300 on that one cc alone but it all just goes to interest so the principal hasn’t come down much, same with all my other debts
I pay roughly $750 towards debts a month. I just can’t afford that + rent + groceries + other essentials like bus pass, phone bill and medications etc. I quit my low paying job because of an extremely toxic environment and never thought it would take me months to find literally any min wage job especially since I have a degree + leadership experience on my resume.
I’ve only made it this far without working because of what I got back from my tax refund but I have literally no more money left to pay all my debts and am considering filing for bankruptcy (I have an appointment with an LIT to seek professional advice)
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Of the remaining 40k, 30k is from my student line of credit that just recently got converted into a loan. The rest credit card debt (8.7k) from three different cards, one is 6.6k the two are about 1k each
The vast majority of my debt is from funding myself through school. I worked and received OSAP but still needed the line of credit since those weren’t enough for rent and groceries.
My credit score was always excellent up until two years ago where the credit card debt started building. My cat got very sick and long story short i maxed out my 7k credit card on him (worth it, he’s healthy and happy now) and that’s where all the cc debt comes from. I’ve always made my monthly payments that are over $300 on that one cc alone but it all just goes to interest so the principal hasn’t come down much, same with all my other debts
I pay roughly $750 towards debts a month. I just can’t afford that + rent + groceries + other essentials like bus pass, phone bill and medications etc. I quit my low paying job because of an extremely toxic environment and never thought it would take me months to find literally any min wage job especially since I have a degree + leadership experience on my resume.
I’ve only made it this far without working because of what I got back from my tax refund but I have literally no more money left to pay all my debts and am considering filing for bankruptcy (I have an appointment with an LIT to seek professional advice)
2024.05.14 03:21 Crafty_Progress1225 Has your Catholic faith completely changed you and made you start disliking things that you used to like in the past?
My family and I are Catholic. My parents always went to church every Sunday but were never overly religious. The when my dad reached his late 50s, he suddenly started getting very religious. He started watching EWTN pretty much everyday, started going to mass everyday and started praying the office daily. And I find nothing wrong with that. I think that’s great. But ever since he’s been doing that, which has been over 20 years already (as he’s now 75), he now has a whole different interest in things and no longer likes what he used to like. For example, when I was a kid (when he was around 40) he used to LOVE baseball and watched it everyday. I remember as a kid how he used to love taking me to baseball games. And I cherished those memories. Now, he HATES baseball due to their support over Black Lives Matter. Also, when I was a kid, he used to LOVE listening to Billy Joel. I remember he took me to a few of his concerts when I was a kid. Again, more memories I cherished with him. Now, he HATES Billy Joel because he said he’s anti-Catholic. So the thought of baseball or Billy Joel’s music now enrages him.
Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s wonderful my dad tries hard to deepen his faith, but I feel he’s a whole a new person now and no longer likes the things he used to like. The wonderful things I remembered about him and spending time with him (i.e. going to baseball games and going to Billy Joel concert) are completely gone.
Did this happen to many of you too when you started becoming more religious?
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Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s wonderful my dad tries hard to deepen his faith, but I feel he’s a whole a new person now and no longer likes the things he used to like. The wonderful things I remembered about him and spending time with him (i.e. going to baseball games and going to Billy Joel concert) are completely gone.
Did this happen to many of you too when you started becoming more religious?
2024.05.14 03:11 OttoVonBlastoid Nature Of A Homeless Musician: Special Thanks/Announcements
 | Hello all! Otto here. And, as you all now know. NoaHM has finally come to an end. It's been a hell of a ride that I'll never forget. But before I move on to thanking specific people and telling you all what's in store, I wanted to be a bit mushy for a minute if you'll indulge me... submitted by OttoVonBlastoid to NatureofPredators [link] [comments] When I first heard of NoP, I was in the middle of the night shift that I'm still working to this day. I had a single ear bud in, which was TECHNICALLY against the rules, and still is but fuck 'em. And to pass the time, I listened to stories. Either Mr. Creeps' Creepypasta compilations or, in this case, Agro Squirrel's Tales From Outer SPACE series. And eventually, I heard the name, The Nature Of Predators...and it all went downhill from there as you all can well imagine. Jokes aside, I fell in love with the story and universe and decided to check out the community. And soon, I found the very first fic I ever read on here, "My Floridian Arxur Daughter". From that point on, I was hooked. I read "Arxur Nursery", "The New Terran Refugee", "Feathers Of Deceit", "Lost In Found", "Recipe For Disaster", "Playing By Ear", and so, SO many more. The sheer amount of creativity on display was amazing. And so...I decided to try my hand at it. I'd already written a short creepypasta, as well as a small five-part miniseries based off of one of my friends DnD campaigns, so I had a LITTLE experience, but I still hadn't taken a single writing course or knew...anything about what I was doing, so I decided to try something small. (That worked out well...) I was in the middle of rereading "Floridian Arxur Daughter" for...maybe the sixth time when a particular scene stuck out to me. Something about it...made something click in my head. After evacuating young Chalta from the house, her big bother Carlos and his girlfriend Salisek decide to take her out on a drive, and while their driving, Carlos mentions his ability to sing, and after both Chalta and Salisek both ask for a demonstration, he sings a beautiful rendition of "Send Me A Peach" from Over The Garden Wall. It was a touching scene, and hearing the song from Chalta's point of view clicked with me. It was by this point that I'd also discovered "Playing By Ear" by u/VeryUnluckyDice, which was essentially this "listening to music through the perspective of someone else's mind" idea made manifest. And that's where it all began. I made a post, proposing the premise of my story, and while I didn't get a LOT of feedback, most of the feedback I got was positive. And a few days later, "Nature Of A Homeless Musician: Prologue" was born, in all of its overly edgy glory. And well...you know the rest from there... I never could have imagined just how big this story would get. It was NEVER supposed to grow this much, touch so many people, inspire so many others to make stuff themselves. Sure, I hoped that it might, but I never thought it would! But now...here we are... I...can't put into words, how thankful I am to each and every single one of you, who gave my little idea a chance. It means more to me then I could ever describe. Ever since I was a kid, I knew I wanted to make my living by making things! At first, I thought that just meant being a Youtuber, like every cringy middle schooler does, but now...I think I get it... I've always wanted to be able to make things, and for those things to make OTHER people happy. Make them laugh, make them cry, make them smile, and make their days just a little bit brighter. I've...long since given up that old dream... I just didn't think it was possible, not for me anyways. But you all proved me wrong. Every comment, every meme, every bit of art you guys make...proves me wrong. When I got my first bit of fanart, I cried at my monitor. Because for the first time in so long that I can't even remember, I was happy. I was so, so happy, because it genuinely felt like this dream that I've had since I was a kid was finally possible. Someone discovered something I made, and enjoyed it enough, loved it enough, got invested enough, to make something themselves just to show me and everyone else just how much they loved it.... And it made me happy, so, so damn happy. So thank you. Thank you all so much for everything you do. Thank you for reading, commenting, replying, suggesting, joking, laughing, creating, and expressing with me. It means more than you'll ever know. And even if I don't end up pursuing writing after this, my life will never be the same, thanks to all of you. If you're reading this, right here, right now, YOU, yes YOU... Thank you...for everything you do. And even if you don't think so, I think you're one of the most amazing people in this ass-backwards galaxy of ours. Thank you. Now then, on to specific thanks: u/Bow-tied_Engineer: You were literally the first person to tell me that this fic was a good idea. If you hadn't been there in the comments, I might not have gone through with it. And even since then, you've still been an absolute chad. We might not have the same taste in romance sub-plots, but I'll always respect you and your takes. Thank you, for giving me the confidence to give this a try. u/CaptainChristopher02: The man himself. Your fic, "My Floridian Arxur Daughter" as well as "My Brazilian Arxur Nursery" were, as stated before, the very first fic I read on the sub. And your work was the first tiny spark that slowly became NoaHM. I've said it multiple times, and I'll say it again, if there was no "Arxur Daughter", there would be no "Homeless Musician". When I first started writing, I didn't even think I'd ever even meet you, but the fact that I have, and that you've joined my own little community of music and Tohba memes means the world to me. u/VeryUnluckyDice: Reading through "Playing By Ear" for the first time was an experience I'll never forget. It was so interesting and different to almost everything else on the sub at the time except "Venlil Metal". You've done so much to inspire me and my work and even now, you're still an absolute chad and someone this community just wouldn't be the same without. I'm really looking forward to the day when our two stories really do cross. It'll be a grand sonata of sound the likes of which this sub has never seen, I just know it! u/JulianSkies: Ever since you first started commenting on my chapters, you have been an absolutely ENDLESS source of positivity, helpful advice, information on the setting, proofreading, and all around good vibes. I always look forward to seeing what you have to say on the most recent post, and I hope you decide to stick around for whatever comes next. Thank you. u/xskipy10: Good lord, where to even begin with you? Before, when I mentioned that first bit of fanart that made me cry, that was YOUR artwork. And that one picture, of Michael and the rest of the main cast has had such an enormous impact on not just me, but the rest of the sub as a whole. It was that one picture that gave me hope that the dream I've had since I was a kid was possible. It was your artwork of Tohba that, TO THIS DAY, Dovah is still using to award people who beat him to the precious title of "SPEED". I mean it when I say you are an absolute treasure, not just to me and my story, but to the entire NoP community. u/OmegaOmnimon02: Before there was GuyWhoExists, there was Omega, the fastest memer in The West. You were the architect of the origianl "Rejoice! Tohba Be Upon Ye" meme, and it has since been used to this day as a form of mutual celebration for all. You've been one of my avid supporters for a long time now, and seeing another of your shitposts in the Discord never fails to brighten my day. Thank you for all that you do. u/DOVAHCREED12: I swear, if you aren't SPEED when this post drops, I'm gonna be so disappointed. Jokes aside, I have loved and appreciated every single Venbig hug I have ever received from you. Back when I first started writing this, the "Official Venbig Seal Of Approval" was this vaunted, holy, symbol that a lowly peasant such as myself would never be able to earn. And then one appeared in my comments and it felt like freaking Christmas. Thank you so much for giving my story a chance. u/Ben_Elohim_2020: I'll never get over just how hilarious our first meeting was. What was meant to be a quick one-to-two chapter long side trip with some shady dude in an alley completely spiraled into a giant, five-part, spat with the actual Space Mafia known as The Family. While the Twilight Valley Arc was divisive for a lot of people reading, I hope you know I had a MASSIVE amount of fun writing it with you, and I can't wait to see where you're future projects lead. Papyroo: (Sorry, I can't remember your new Reddit name) Along with Omega, I've always looked forward to seeing what you have to say when it comes to my fic. And the impact you've had on my story can't be overstated. The Ficnapping you did is the reason that Tohba now has his blue "Tiwfish" plushie. And the events of your addition to my canon will continue to be referenced and fondly looked back on by my characters for a long time to come. u/Spacer_Catgirl4969: I remember a time when you were still SpacerNEKO. You were always one of my most avid commenters way back when, and I always appreciated your kind words. And I still can't express how cool it was that you actually made a pixel art music video for Dohkar. It still holds up, even now. You and Guywhoexists should TOTALLY work on a project together. With your combined pixel art skills, who knows what's possible?! u/Mini-Tonk: Well, if it isn't the Rat boi, himself. You have never once faltered in your efforts to not only support my work, but also protect Tohba from the shadows. Your efforts have not gone unnoticed, and you canonically making ME a character in your fic is still hilarious and heartwarming. Thank you for everything you do. u/Guywhoexists2812: While you are one of the newest members of our little NoaHM family, that hasn't stopped you from being one of the most active and creative folks we have to offer. The sheer amount of memes and pixel art you've created is downright INSPIRATIONAL. Along with Skipy, whenever someone comes up with a cute idea for art, I know you'll find some way to pull through. Keep creating, King. You are no mere "Guy". You are a KING who exists! And of course, u/SpacePaladin15 for creating this awesome universe to begin with, without whom, none of use would be here right now. There are two other names missing on this list, but that's mostly because I'm currently working on a project with them and I don't want to spoil anything...yet. And speaking of future projects! ANNOUNCEMENT TIME!!!! It's been one hell of a wild ride, hasn't it? But I tell you this: THE RIDE AIN'T OVER YET!!!!! But...it will be slowing down for a while... After working on this story for so long, (especially that triple upload. GOD, what was I thinking?!) I am in dire need of rest. So, for now, I will be going on about a month-long hiatus from posting, except for a small occasion here and there. I'll still be active in the community, especially on Discord, but you won't get any big story updates for a while. Does this mean that I'm done and the story's over? No. This was but the first arc in the tale of Michael Ruiz Andrews and his family. There will INDEED be MOAR!!! More music! More hijinks! More action! More romance! More drama! More touching family moments! And, of COURSE, MORE TOHBA!!!! There will be MOAR!!! Just not yet. My Hiatus will officially start tomorrow after a belated NoaHM Mother's Day Special. I also have a Father's Day Special planned for next month as well. But other than the occasional announcement post, you won't be getting anything story-related out of me until my break is over and I'm ready to unveil the next project I and three other creators have been working on. I won't say anything more on the project, but I will say to keep an eye out... "But Otto!", I hear you ask. "If there won't be any more big story updates, how will I get my fix of Baby-roo induced dopamine?! My brain requires more Tohba and Ven-floof memes to give me the goody good chemicals!!!" Well my friend, I have just the solution for you!!! A SHAMELESS SELF-PLUG!!! Most of you may already know, but Nature Of A Homeless Musician has its OWN DISCORD SERVER!!!!!! We've got MEMES, STORY IDEAS, FOOD SO FULL OF LOVE THAT MAMA-ROO HERSELF COULD'VE MADE IT! We got fanart, gaming chats, and we even plan the occasional movie night! As well, as soon as this post goes live, I'll be adding a new channel specifically for Q&A and Trivia! For Example: Did you know that NoaHM was originally meant to only be ten chapters long? Did you know Trilly and Dailo were created entirely on accident? Did you know that the events of the FINALE have been remade, reorganized, and rewritten at LEAST four times? Did you know...THAT TOHBA WAS BASED OFF A REAL PERSON?! All of these things are true! And if you want to learn more about the making of this series, direct from my brain, the come on in and ask away! All I ask in return is that you follow the rules I've laid out a generally not be a jerk. We're here to have fun and be wholesome, so let's keep it that way. I hope to see you there! https://discord.gg/YSysvHHx And now, lastly, here's nearly EVERY single meme bit of fanart I've received: And once again, from the bottom of my heart, with all the love I can muster, thank you. https://preview.redd.it/2nxhg18mia0d1.jpg?width=2388&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5887802bce7c20b6fe2f190ce0992be17a3f6a58 https://preview.redd.it/u9i0zbgtia0d1.jpg?width=2048&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d0ff76b390ec3f7daed9d66a4d556db0a063fc97 https://preview.redd.it/pg860rcvia0d1.jpg?width=1024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2d6fa595bb160514ce214c1594e70ffdf9c8c4e3 https://preview.redd.it/u94h5np0ja0d1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=373918e5c84b606979efd9f793418068e6cbc468 https://preview.redd.it/609h59x3ja0d1.jpg?width=1334&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9b09601d8f19c0b7aaf262bdd887b24317e95a6d https://preview.redd.it/01pbmbs6ja0d1.jpg?width=524&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c5cdbf19cfa75be452cdfb4c54e19924d0b5b1aa https://preview.redd.it/6iz7wh8bja0d1.jpg?width=512&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2257a778a87bb3013b08bac4ce9021d1de8e56d1 https://preview.redd.it/zxry3gddja0d1.jpg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2f0a0b18130d8e3283970f3e8f97002362c957e0 https://preview.redd.it/qfx79v5gja0d1.jpg?width=1164&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0d5db5c8624a18513160ebb6f9648f2486a238cb https://preview.redd.it/metjjzphja0d1.jpg?width=888&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6adabe3c438808bbeb623f5690e9f34766d7e04f https://preview.redd.it/8yrync9lja0d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=d75e3c651c99936f2eccd6135ba769aeab119208 https://preview.redd.it/0uawe15aka0d1.jpg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5999790ce154f9022ca51812b857aeefd348b66f https://preview.redd.it/uug3dq1bka0d1.jpg?width=1668&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ca76e5a6939143aad5dc148607934b896eeb9305 https://preview.redd.it/lr2gzj6cka0d1.jpg?width=1521&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d4b2ec5e86862c8268aa0efdfde022b1a3ce37c1 https://preview.redd.it/sk0rz05eka0d1.jpg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0eedf45cb5627708f6c5449a4d4ce96f5820cca7 https://preview.redd.it/hwztvo5vka0d1.jpg?width=577&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d2492936771668389e1e33eb37adfdde5ff898e9 https://preview.redd.it/ns5mvayvka0d1.jpg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=78658096eda7cd47a2faf0add5806d78a2b9ea20 https://preview.redd.it/cn5ruxxwka0d1.jpg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e36414e11ee37f23418a5d7b9d3fce6f13b7d57c https://preview.redd.it/3w08uzb2la0d1.png?width=2048&format=png&auto=webp&s=84608636603a71dba3863d02cf3e0d655062fbe7 Thank you... Thank you all... |
2024.05.14 03:10 Full-Roof1492 Should I borrow from my 401k or not?
Hey there! I've been diligently tackling my credit card debt lately. I'm tired of getting buried under high interest rates, especially with the current economy. As a result, I haven't been able to save anything; every penny goes towards paying off debt. Most of it stems from emergencies like car repairs, hospital trips, and helping with my grandma's and father's funerals. I'm seeking advice on how to reduce my debt payments slightly so I can start building up savings without being overwhelmed by interest. Any suggestions?
Bank of America CC debt - $18,304 APR 26.24% Minimum: $568 Target CC - $700 Minimum:$35 Rent - $2116
Credit score: 650 Monthly income : $3,416 Monthly Debt : $ 2,719 Take home : $697 😔
I also have the option to sell around $7,000 worth of stock. I had been saving that for emergencies or potentially as a down payment for a house (though that's unlikely to happen). However, I'm considering taking out a $20,000 loan at 9.5% interest. The bi-weekly payment would be $232.08, facilitated through my 401k partner at work. Realistically, I wouldn't even notice the $230 deducted from my paycheck before I receive it. Is this a risky move, or does anyone have any other insights? I'm open to suggestions. Apologies in advance, as I'm not very savvy with finances. I used to rely on my dad for this, but he’s the one that passed.
Thanks in advance!
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Bank of America CC debt - $18,304 APR 26.24% Minimum: $568 Target CC - $700 Minimum:$35 Rent - $2116
Credit score: 650 Monthly income : $3,416 Monthly Debt : $ 2,719 Take home : $697 😔
I also have the option to sell around $7,000 worth of stock. I had been saving that for emergencies or potentially as a down payment for a house (though that's unlikely to happen). However, I'm considering taking out a $20,000 loan at 9.5% interest. The bi-weekly payment would be $232.08, facilitated through my 401k partner at work. Realistically, I wouldn't even notice the $230 deducted from my paycheck before I receive it. Is this a risky move, or does anyone have any other insights? I'm open to suggestions. Apologies in advance, as I'm not very savvy with finances. I used to rely on my dad for this, but he’s the one that passed.
Thanks in advance!
2024.05.14 03:09 ragingstunt I'm disgusted of myself
I have a sick mother with whom I stay with 24/7, I haven't went out in months and my life has been on hold since I finished my studies. The only time I used to get some relief was when I used to go study, basically. I have always been her caregiver, since none of her other children care enough to do anything.
Lately I'm starting to go crazy, I can't take it anymore, my mother calls me any time, she doesn't care if I'm in the middle of something or sleeping for example, this year has been so hard. When she calls me, she can go on for hours and not stop untill I go to her. I dread and hate her voice now, whenever I hear it, my stomach hurts and my heart sinks. I have developed a fear and extreme annoyance from it. She doesn't have any limits. I started hearing voices ringing in my ears whenever there's a high pitched noise in the background, sometimes while the kids are playing outside in the park, from all the noises and screams I hear my mother's voice in between them. It's like a train is coming from a distance. It made me so paranoid, I feel my stomach shrinking and my heart pounding faster.
I started snapping at her, yelling and saying rude stuff to her and then she tells me that she will not do it again but it's always the same. I am so disgusted from myself from being that rude to her but I hate her so much when she constantly over steps my boundaries, I have no rest. I can't even focus on a task anymore, my body is always on fear mode, decrypting every noise around me, I feel like a prey. I resent her and I hate myself so much especially when I see her scared of me when I snap at her and start screaming and crying bc I feel so exhausted, and no one helps.
I don't know what to do, i pray for god to give me more patience and that my love for her will make my angst and rage go away. But I can't, it's always here, at all times. I don't want to hate her, but in moments like that I can't control my emotions. I'm just very tired and lost.
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Lately I'm starting to go crazy, I can't take it anymore, my mother calls me any time, she doesn't care if I'm in the middle of something or sleeping for example, this year has been so hard. When she calls me, she can go on for hours and not stop untill I go to her. I dread and hate her voice now, whenever I hear it, my stomach hurts and my heart sinks. I have developed a fear and extreme annoyance from it. She doesn't have any limits. I started hearing voices ringing in my ears whenever there's a high pitched noise in the background, sometimes while the kids are playing outside in the park, from all the noises and screams I hear my mother's voice in between them. It's like a train is coming from a distance. It made me so paranoid, I feel my stomach shrinking and my heart pounding faster.
I started snapping at her, yelling and saying rude stuff to her and then she tells me that she will not do it again but it's always the same. I am so disgusted from myself from being that rude to her but I hate her so much when she constantly over steps my boundaries, I have no rest. I can't even focus on a task anymore, my body is always on fear mode, decrypting every noise around me, I feel like a prey. I resent her and I hate myself so much especially when I see her scared of me when I snap at her and start screaming and crying bc I feel so exhausted, and no one helps.
I don't know what to do, i pray for god to give me more patience and that my love for her will make my angst and rage go away. But I can't, it's always here, at all times. I don't want to hate her, but in moments like that I can't control my emotions. I'm just very tired and lost.
2024.05.14 03:08 Low_Cardiologist8073 Thoughts on Arabian clones vs. OG?
Please, I want to hear your hot take… what does everyone think about Arabian clones? I am feeling STRONGLY in complete opposite ways… there’s a part of me that absolutely adores Arabic clones, some of them hit spot on in terms of cloning the fragrance (many can stand on their own, too), and often beat their original counterpart in terms of longevity and projection. And price, of course… almost always. Although sometimes the bottles in which Arabian perfume companies choose to package their juice in DOES raise an eyebrow for me, generally, I’m a big fan… but on the flip side, and I’m wondering if anyone else feels this way, there’s something about my Arabic perfumes that is just…. Different? I can’t exactly put my finger on it…. My original perfumes feel… deeper? The notes just feel a bit more distinct, a bit more rich… more complex? Even though I literally feel like the scent is exactly the same.. if that makes any sense at all. I wore Delina on my birthday for example, and I was blown away by it all over again. I’d been wearing its Arabian counterpart (just conserving the OG) for awhile, which I actually think is a pretty solid dupe in terms of matching the scent… but WOW, it was just so beautiful! It just hit me in a totally different way. Somehow. ??
Maybe I’m crazy, maybe I’m hallucinating…. I genuinely don’t know if it’s psychosomatic or WHAT…but I really would love to know what you all think, and what everyone else’s experiences have been! Do you like Arabian clones? Prefer them? Can’t stand them? Is it worth it to you to buy the OG, even when it costs 10x more? Does it bother you on an ethical level picking up the clone?? Let me know!
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Maybe I’m crazy, maybe I’m hallucinating…. I genuinely don’t know if it’s psychosomatic or WHAT…but I really would love to know what you all think, and what everyone else’s experiences have been! Do you like Arabian clones? Prefer them? Can’t stand them? Is it worth it to you to buy the OG, even when it costs 10x more? Does it bother you on an ethical level picking up the clone?? Let me know!
2024.05.14 03:07 oooo_ahahahah Question about teleportation coordinates.
When you input coordinates on creative mode to teleport, do they take you only within worlds you have created? My son wanted to tp for the first time and i had no clue how. He was typing words into the txt field. i did a quick google and saw it needed to be three numbers and i saw an example as a - + - so i randomly typed in three multi digit numbers and it took us like 4 torches deep into the ground. he dug up and after a few minutes was in a desert. he then fly for like three minutes until he saw a cave. he went in and was like “i put these torches in the cave” and he then says “look here” and the flies over to a home he built like four months ago. seems extremely odd and statistically impossible. is it or am i just too big of a noob and im simply overthinking it?
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2024.05.14 03:06 throw123454321purple Advice, please: Mom is healthy enough to come home from skilled care but Dad won’t let her.
Mom (86) was in the hospital last Christmas due to a freak medication accident and has recovered. She had trouble walking unassisted before, and with the exception of that and some incontinence, she wants to come home.
Dad (84), transferred her out of the hospital to a skilled nursing facility when my mom was still pretty out of it. He’s told her that she’ll be staying there indefinitely. (This is to a woman who was been a stay-at-home Mom for several decades, has anxiety issues for which she takes meds, and has never spent more than 48 hours anywhere without a family member nearby.)
My dad, who is in great shape, has enough money to pay to keep her there indefinitely if Medicare ceases coverage. The facility won’t release Mom under her own recognizance because she cannot demonstrate that she can take care of herself (bathroom) unassisted and is in a wheelchair. We’ve seen that she can stand unassisted but the wheelchair transfer to her bed, toilet, car, etc. requires help.
My mom is physically well, but the stress of being in that place these last few months is breaking her psychologically. When she tells my dad that she’s in pain or wants to go home he shuts her down without explanation. She is very much used to him calling the shots in the marriage (63 years this July).
I’ve done a ton of homework on the matter and have shared with Dad that Mom’s needs can easily be met with some part-time home care from an CNA/LVN. She just needs someone to change her diapers, sponge bathe her, and give her her meds.
Dad shoots down every one of my suggestions on how to bring Mom home. Every concern he has expressed about bringing her home is either easily addressable or will require some flexibility on his part. For example, he claims that he’ll need to spend thousands to renovate the bathroom for a wheelchair user; I counter with the fact that as long as Mom requires only diaper changes and sponge baths from a CNA, she need never step foot in a bathroom again. Dad doesn’t want a parade of strangers in the house every day to car for Mom; I counter with the fact that he has a weekly cleaning service come to the house and it doesn’t seem to be a problem for them. I add on that should anything happen to him at home—where he now lives alone—at least Mom will be there to call 911 (as opposed to us finding him days after the fact).
Outside of him having some terminal disease that he’s not telling people about, there absolutely no reason why Mom can’t come home, and I’m now stating to wonder if a lawyer needs to be involved. He can’t just deny her the ability to return home and refuse to participate in her care there as long as Mom’s needs can be easily be accommodated, can he? (He won’t have to lift a finger except let home care help in and out the door.) He just needs to get over having strangers in the house.
Is he breaking the law and committing some kind of psychological abuse or neglect, or is he just a complete asshole? Am I being the asshole for trying to stand up for her? She won’t stand up for herself and I’ve told her that as long as she complies with Dad’s wishes, he has no reason to listen to her needs. She rarely gets any other visitors, and she greets Dad when he visits like the way an puppy still greets its abusive owner because it sees no one else all day.
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Dad (84), transferred her out of the hospital to a skilled nursing facility when my mom was still pretty out of it. He’s told her that she’ll be staying there indefinitely. (This is to a woman who was been a stay-at-home Mom for several decades, has anxiety issues for which she takes meds, and has never spent more than 48 hours anywhere without a family member nearby.)
My dad, who is in great shape, has enough money to pay to keep her there indefinitely if Medicare ceases coverage. The facility won’t release Mom under her own recognizance because she cannot demonstrate that she can take care of herself (bathroom) unassisted and is in a wheelchair. We’ve seen that she can stand unassisted but the wheelchair transfer to her bed, toilet, car, etc. requires help.
My mom is physically well, but the stress of being in that place these last few months is breaking her psychologically. When she tells my dad that she’s in pain or wants to go home he shuts her down without explanation. She is very much used to him calling the shots in the marriage (63 years this July).
I’ve done a ton of homework on the matter and have shared with Dad that Mom’s needs can easily be met with some part-time home care from an CNA/LVN. She just needs someone to change her diapers, sponge bathe her, and give her her meds.
Dad shoots down every one of my suggestions on how to bring Mom home. Every concern he has expressed about bringing her home is either easily addressable or will require some flexibility on his part. For example, he claims that he’ll need to spend thousands to renovate the bathroom for a wheelchair user; I counter with the fact that as long as Mom requires only diaper changes and sponge baths from a CNA, she need never step foot in a bathroom again. Dad doesn’t want a parade of strangers in the house every day to car for Mom; I counter with the fact that he has a weekly cleaning service come to the house and it doesn’t seem to be a problem for them. I add on that should anything happen to him at home—where he now lives alone—at least Mom will be there to call 911 (as opposed to us finding him days after the fact).
Outside of him having some terminal disease that he’s not telling people about, there absolutely no reason why Mom can’t come home, and I’m now stating to wonder if a lawyer needs to be involved. He can’t just deny her the ability to return home and refuse to participate in her care there as long as Mom’s needs can be easily be accommodated, can he? (He won’t have to lift a finger except let home care help in and out the door.) He just needs to get over having strangers in the house.
Is he breaking the law and committing some kind of psychological abuse or neglect, or is he just a complete asshole? Am I being the asshole for trying to stand up for her? She won’t stand up for herself and I’ve told her that as long as she complies with Dad’s wishes, he has no reason to listen to her needs. She rarely gets any other visitors, and she greets Dad when he visits like the way an puppy still greets its abusive owner because it sees no one else all day.
2024.05.14 03:03 Old_Foot_4039 Laid off during an already filed CH 13
(Kentucky)
I entered a chapter 13 plan last summer, so coming up on about a year now with payroll garnishments. I a being laid off and receiving my last normal paycheck in August. (When I originally filled, I was about $300 a month shy of qualifying for ch 7).
I have been with the company for 10 years and will likely be looking at about $20,000 in severance, and another $3,000 in vacation payout. (I have a 401k loan that I plan on paying immediately since it is an automatic payroll deduction, which will be about 5k).
After taxes and paying off 401k loan, I will be left with about 15k. I am worried that I will go through this hardship and will have to handover my severance to the trustee, but I am almost 100% positive that I will be taking a pay cut if/when I find a new job and would need the severance to supplement the difference in income over the foreseeable future.
My lawyer hasn't been super helpful with vague or indirect responses, which I understand to a point because everything is hypothetical at this point since I am still currently working, but this is a certain outcome of me losing my job. I am just trying to figure out the best outcome/route I should take. Losing the severance to the payment plan would be throwing salt in the wound after losing my job. I also have MS and will likely have some health flare ups related to the stress, and will have to either re-start a new insurance plan with a new employer, or if I am not employed or keep my current plan with COBRA I will be paying $800 a month out of pocket. I also have dental work that I can't afford currently, which is $1,000 that I was hoping to pay out of severance as well.
I was originally planning on filling for unemployment and using the severance to limp through a few month while I convert to a chapter 7. But I have recently applied for several jobs in anticipation of trying to have a job lined up at the end of my current employment, to establish health insurance, but I am wondering if that would likely change the probability of converting to 7 or filling for a hardship discharge.
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I entered a chapter 13 plan last summer, so coming up on about a year now with payroll garnishments. I a being laid off and receiving my last normal paycheck in August. (When I originally filled, I was about $300 a month shy of qualifying for ch 7).
I have been with the company for 10 years and will likely be looking at about $20,000 in severance, and another $3,000 in vacation payout. (I have a 401k loan that I plan on paying immediately since it is an automatic payroll deduction, which will be about 5k).
After taxes and paying off 401k loan, I will be left with about 15k. I am worried that I will go through this hardship and will have to handover my severance to the trustee, but I am almost 100% positive that I will be taking a pay cut if/when I find a new job and would need the severance to supplement the difference in income over the foreseeable future.
My lawyer hasn't been super helpful with vague or indirect responses, which I understand to a point because everything is hypothetical at this point since I am still currently working, but this is a certain outcome of me losing my job. I am just trying to figure out the best outcome/route I should take. Losing the severance to the payment plan would be throwing salt in the wound after losing my job. I also have MS and will likely have some health flare ups related to the stress, and will have to either re-start a new insurance plan with a new employer, or if I am not employed or keep my current plan with COBRA I will be paying $800 a month out of pocket. I also have dental work that I can't afford currently, which is $1,000 that I was hoping to pay out of severance as well.
I was originally planning on filling for unemployment and using the severance to limp through a few month while I convert to a chapter 7. But I have recently applied for several jobs in anticipation of trying to have a job lined up at the end of my current employment, to establish health insurance, but I am wondering if that would likely change the probability of converting to 7 or filling for a hardship discharge.
2024.05.14 03:03 Tmill233 Should I file?
I’m 30 years old with married with 2 kids. My wife is a stay at home mom so I’m the only bread winner. I currently make around $90k in the Dallas Fort Worth area. I currently have $19k in consolidation loans, $37k in credit card debt which is currently being managed by American Credit Counseling. I also have around $44k in student loan debt, all of which is through the government. The way things are sitting now, I am able to make all my payments, my wife an I have done a lot better with our budget since enrolling with American Credit Counseling, but we are one emergency away from having it run off the tracks. We own both of our cars out right, both cars are worth less than $6k each. We just resigned the lease to our house for 18 months. Part of me wants to just keep paying off the debts, especially since they have all been re-negotiated and have extremely low interest rates, a few are even at 0%. It will take around 63 months to pay off all of our consumer debts, but that leaving no cushion. The other part of me just wants to file bankruptcy, learn from my past mistakes and start over fresh. It would be nice to finally start saving for retirement, and have some savings for things like car troubles. I’ve been afraid to post this question because I’m honestly ashamed at how bad the debt became.
Edit: I forgot to add I’ve spoken to an attorney,they said I qualify based on my income and debt and they made bankruptcy sound amazing, almost to amazing.
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Edit: I forgot to add I’ve spoken to an attorney,they said I qualify based on my income and debt and they made bankruptcy sound amazing, almost to amazing.
2024.05.14 03:02 FARTSNIFFER9051 Why Oogie Boogie vs Alastor still holds up 3: Shitty debunks never die
 | Wow, thank you so much Dependent Ad for this completely pointless and repetitive debunk! I'm getting sick of this so let's get it over with. This is like the third one, sorry if my points are redundant but this debunk itself is redundant. submitted by FARTSNIFFER9051 to DeathBattleMatchups [link] [comments] “Both are sadistic, power-hungry, charismatic and man-eating villains from animated media who have a 1930s aesthetic (Oogie Boogie is based on Cab Calloway. Who was at the height of his popularity in the 1930s; Alastor was alive around the time period and was a radio host).”-Fair enough then “Both exist in magical alternate dimensions from ours filled with creepy creatures and people (Halloween Town; Hell).”-Nitpick much? What do you fucking want me to say? “They live in creepy alternate dimensions with the citizens having contrasting behavior”. Oh wait, you complain about me pointing out the differences in the connections anyway. So I guess it's just a fucking lose-lose for me am I right? “Both are animal-like creatures (Oogie Boogie is a talking sack of bugs; Alastor is a deer dude).”-Fair enough “While they are intimidating and powerful they still have minions to help them, whether they want to serve them or not (Lock, Shock and Barrel are known as "Oogie's Boys". They're incredibly loyal to Oogie Boogie; Husk and Niffty souls are both owned by Alastor. And because of that Husk genuinely despises Alastor).”-What summons apparently Oogie's Boys better? Also I don't see how they're not similar in concept. “Both before the events of the main story they tried obtaining high social power, with one failing while the other succeeded (Oogie Boogie tried taking over Halloween Town and mix it with his own bug themed holiday, turning it into Crawloween, but failed; Alastor when he was sent to hell started killing off the Other Overlords until he reached the top and became the strongest Overlord in Hell).-Pretty nitpicky point to make since while the roles they're trying to get are different they're still doing the same fucking thing. Isn't that what fucking matters? “Both became infamous in these dimensions because of this, but whether willingly or not they started to lie low (Oogie Boogie was banished from Halloween Town and so lives in the outskirts of it; Alastor after murdering every Overlord completely disappeared from the public scene for [as of now] unknown reasons).”-How? They're both leaving town and the public scene! It's the fucking same in concept. “Both ended up showing back up when the kind hearted but naïve ruler protagonists of these worlds needed help with their plans (Jack Skellington when he got Oogie Boogie's minions Lock, Shot and Barrel to kidnap Santa Claus; Charlie Morningstar when she needed up to get the Happy Hotel up and running).”-He controls Lock, Shock and Barrel and tells them what to do “[IDK if I should or shouldn't remove this connection, but] Both ended up betraying the protagonists (Lock, Shot and Barrel sending Santa Claus to Oogie Boogie's lair even though they promised to not involve Oogie Boogie in Jack's plan; Hazbin Hotel hasn't gotten there yet but Viv has said that Alastor will betray Charlie).”-Fair enough Ending Thoughts:-In conclusion literally everything I fucking said in the last rebunk applies here and I'm sick of this shit. What the fuck was even the point of this Debunk? Do you have a hate boner for Oogielastor so much you just had to create this? Fight Potential: Lets look at Alastor's kit first: Alastor has quite a bit, we haven’t seen everything he can do but we’ve seen that hes a very skilled fighter, being able to work from most ranges but generally likes to keep distance with this minions and tentacles. He also has portal creation, size changing, and fire manipulation. He has an overall fencer style of fighting, opting to bait and punish if he can’t simply just overpower who he’s fighting. Now lets look at what oogie has-I'll give you that Ok so one thing I think people don’t understand is everything Oogie can do is very limited given how he’s far more of a trap character with his house having his more interesting shit. Only problem is that there is absolutely NO way the fight could realistically take place there. Alastor is stuck in hell, and has no way to get out. Yes there are ways to leave hell, Lucifer and I.M.P. have shown this but alastor has no way to do so. Oogie meanwhile can’t go to hell, and even if he does go to hell after he dies, well then he just doesn’t have his shit cause they’re in halloween town.-You act like this issue doesn't apply to every fucking Alastor MU. Have you heard of this new concept DB totally hasn't done before called creative goddamn liberties? So this would have to take place in a random place where oogie wouldn’t get his traps, so what are we left with? A sack of bugs that can punch, grow in size, and throw pumpkins. Riving I know. And that kaiju fight everyone talks about I doubt would even happen.-If your big deal is that Oogie Boogie doesn't directly have reality warping magic I think you're surely mistaken https://youtu.be/p2aGTiIjFqk?si=U-Rw_MO7Q6M7TxLm I know it's a fucking commercial before you say anything but DB literally used GBA games for Scooby Doo so don't act like that. Idk how to describe it what I'm trying to say but you can bullshit up Oogie Boogie's abilities since FUCKING DB HAS DONE IT FOR THE SAKE OF ANIMATION POTENTIAL!!!! Yes, they can grow in size, but Al almost never does. He did so to threaten vox, and against the loan sharks to prove a point. You want to know what he would do? Summon a fuck load of tenticals to just rip oogie apart. Which brings me to the next point.-Oh yeah, Alastor totally wouldn't do that and want you said is true and accurate based off one fucking scene. And the debate totally reflects how the fight would go down. Omniman vs Homelander & SF Aquaman vs SpongeBob totally don't show that AP isn't affected by the debate. Debate: So the numbers for alastor are very skewed but lets go ahead and use his lowest end, Town Level and Hypersonic. Keep in mind this is Alastors absolute lowest end. Oogie on the other hand is…Wall Level and Superhuman. No matter what, Alastor fucking SLAUGHTERS. Now I have heard that this includes Kingdom Hearts Oogie, so lets look at that. For this lets use Alastor's absolute highest end and say that it’s true. It’s not but lets say it is just this one time: Planet and 4000c (MFTL+). Anyway oogie is Multi and IMM in speed. No matter what, it’s a complete stomp with the only “““Debate””” being if oogie would get kingdom hearts scaling.-Why are you even bringing this up? It's a matter of person if a stomp affects their enjoyment of a MU. This isn't some objective issue so what was the point other than you not having anything original to say? In conclusion I hope someone will actually fucking read this shit instead of ignoring it and making another pointless Oogielastor debunk. Bye |
2024.05.14 03:01 irishboy_3 Unusual swelling, fatigue, and pain.
28 M, 6ft and 146lb
Hi guys 👋 I hope you're well, first off apologies in advance for what will be a long winded post but I'll try keep it concise and information based 🙂
I've been suffering for the past year with some very strange symptoms
Medication wise I'm only on 25mg promethazine (Phenegran) taken every night to help me sleep but it literally does nothing it's currently 1.30 am in Ireland as I write this post lol.
My doctor seems baffled and hasn't really given me any indication of what this might be. Obviously I'll have to just wait for all of these different specialist appointments but I thought maybe I could be pointed in the right direction of some possible causes of this or what might be beneficial to discuss with my doctor. I must admit I'm a terrible patient as when I go in I sometimes struggle to describe exactly how I'm feeling or else I forget to mention specific things due to the brain fog/anxiety I also hate bothering people and hate even asking for help as I feel like I'm being dramatic.
I have shared some pictures of the swelling I get in my lips. I have no pictures of the swelling I get in my hands or the soles of my feet as you can't even see it only feel it.
All of this is having a huge impact on my life I recently left my job because I was just physically and mentally not able to continue with it. It's irritating because I feel like my body is falling apart around me and I think people just think I'm dramatic but in my gut I know there's something going on.
Many thanks and apologies for that novel!! 🙂
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Hi guys 👋 I hope you're well, first off apologies in advance for what will be a long winded post but I'll try keep it concise and information based 🙂
I've been suffering for the past year with some very strange symptoms
- Swelling of lips, hands and soles of my feet (allergies have been ruled out I had a test already) it also appears to happen randomly hot days / cold days. When I haven't even eaten anything yet. There's nothing obvious I can link it to
- Extreme fatigue but also complete insomnia at night
- My appetite seems to fluctuate generally I was always a great eater. Dear God I love food haha. Lately though there could be some days that I don't feel hungry at all and have one meal just for the sake of it but food doesn't appeal to me really anymore.
- General feeling that like my body is inflamed hard to describe but I get like dull pains all over the place but mainly my lower back / knees
- Quite severe brain fog and forgetfulness. I will constantly misplace things. Walk into a room and forget what it was I came to do. This one is the main one that gets to me and upsets me because I feel like an old man. At one stage I thought I had dementia or something as ridiculous as that seems but I could watch a movie and then the next day be left scratching my head thinking what was that great thing I watched last night. My partner will talk to me about things and then say "I told you this already an hour ago/last week/yesterday" and I'll have absolutely no recollection of it.
- Very weak. My strength is laughable people have pointed it out to me that a guy my age shouldn't be struggling trying to carry a bag of groceries for example.
- Mood swings I can get quite frustrated for no reason again I'm usually a very laid back person but lately the smallest things are annoying me. Even my partner who is great is irritating the life out of me and I feel so bad because I'm like I have no reason to get frustrated at you.
- 2 weeks ago I also collapsed outside of a pub I had only like a couple of drinks (5 pints of beer over a period of 5 hours) and was not drunk. Started to feel very faint out of the blue and my vision blacked out and I ended up being taken by ambulance to the hospital. My heart rate was all over the place. I was discharged from hospital and was told it was alcohol intoxication which really annoyed me because although technically my blood alcohol levels would've indicated I was "intoxicated" I know for a fact I wasn't I have drank 3 times as much and been absolutely fine. I also walked out of hospital and had a perfectly coherent conversation with the nurses and doctors. I just feel like because of my age and being a young guy that just happened to pass out while out socialising they jumped the gun which has really bothered me.
- I have since had an ECG that came back normal but I was told those things are pretty useless unless you're actually having an episode while it's hooked up to you
Medication wise I'm only on 25mg promethazine (Phenegran) taken every night to help me sleep but it literally does nothing it's currently 1.30 am in Ireland as I write this post lol.
My doctor seems baffled and hasn't really given me any indication of what this might be. Obviously I'll have to just wait for all of these different specialist appointments but I thought maybe I could be pointed in the right direction of some possible causes of this or what might be beneficial to discuss with my doctor. I must admit I'm a terrible patient as when I go in I sometimes struggle to describe exactly how I'm feeling or else I forget to mention specific things due to the brain fog/anxiety I also hate bothering people and hate even asking for help as I feel like I'm being dramatic.
I have shared some pictures of the swelling I get in my lips. I have no pictures of the swelling I get in my hands or the soles of my feet as you can't even see it only feel it.
All of this is having a huge impact on my life I recently left my job because I was just physically and mentally not able to continue with it. It's irritating because I feel like my body is falling apart around me and I think people just think I'm dramatic but in my gut I know there's something going on.
Many thanks and apologies for that novel!! 🙂
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