My main language is Spanish. I might have some mistakes here and there.
We've been together as a couple for over a year. Yes, not that long, but we even felt comfortable enough to start living together after just 6 months, and we're now on a rental, doing good enough as a couple, although there are areas that I'd like to improve together.
She has received from her parents a good amount of money (€100K) to buy a house, and we've been talking about the topic, but more about placing us both on the mortgage, although of course with me owning less part of the house since I would put less on the starting point (around €20K) which I completely agree. I'd love to help more, but unfortunately, my savings are just not as good as hers right now. We've been checking houses together and do feel that agree with most of the things we'd like to have, so it's good.
However, lately, she's been telling me that she'd prefer to buy the house on her own to avoid possible legal issues in the future if we split up or anything (which I also understand) but it has just been a bit sad and impotence for me since I can't help as much as her, and I've been working to also save up more money and help more, and it does lower a bit my trust on her since I feel she can't trust me as much as I thought.
She also has asked if I could help her pay part of the mortgage as a "rental" for me but without me owning anything, as well as services, furniture, and more, which I understand and would agree, but it doesn't help too much with my feeling of being there as a "temporary" person, but at the same time she does feel me as the father of our children, she does talk about marriage and gives hints as to what she would like, and we do match in several ways of thinking for the future, which is a great bonus point.
I do feel that we are having a good communication about all the process, I do feel her receptive on my emotions, and we do and will have a deeper conversation on this topic soon, so I hope at least we can get up to a middle ground where we feel good.
How can I make sure I feel comfortable with her decision down the road? How can I feel more trust from her side in all of this?
TL;DR: My gf wants to buy a house without me legally owning anything, but paying part of the mortgage and it makes me feel a bit insecure or with a bit of loss of trust about everything.

5 years ago - my best friend and i (both female btw) lived together as roommates/went to the same college. During this time, I started dating my current boyfriend who is the first & only serious romantic relationship I’ve had. She got very uncomfortable with this and started to make rude comments & a list of rules about his visits and when they could happen. I assumed she was just being extremely jealous and wanted to gain control of the situation to cope with the changes. My bestie and I started arguing lots to the point where it would always end in tears or disappointment. Since I was moving away - I ultimately decided to ghost her and block her on all social media. It made me very depressed because she was my only true friend besides my now boyfriend, but i needed to set boundaries. She made us uncomfortable with her unpredictable behaviour. I’ve developed new friendships over the course of the years, but none as deep as this one was. She was the only friend that I opened up to fully. I’ve asked others for advice on rekindling this relationship and I’ve received mixed answers. I’m afraid that I might open up pandora’s box if I try to reach out at this point. Ideally, I would like to be friends again. If not, I hope to give her closure at the least. Do you think it is possible, would it be worth taking the risk? Or is opening this back up disrespectful towards my boyfriend, because of the past things that have been said and done? He wants what is best for me, but I want what is best for him also. He knows that I miss her sometimes despite how toxic things got at the end. What should I do???? Please help. 

Hey, for some reason I am just not able to pass hcaptcha when logging in to for example shop.app (Shop Pay). I've had issues with captchas on Linux based images before so I tried both WSL2 and a fresh Ubuntu VM as well as a fresh Windows VM and have no issues on those with Brave (Chrome and Chromium will sometimes fail on WSL2). I'm really at a loss, this is reproducible by just running the kasm-brave:1.15.0-rolling image and trying to login on ShopPay (shop.app/pay/authentication/login), you don't even need to use a valid account, basically any attempt will throw a captcha and after you solve it you get a 401 saying unauthorized, this does not happen on my Ubuntu VM, WSL2, Windows VM and bare metal systems. If anyone can suggest me some tips to figure out the root cause here that would be immensely appreciated. I have dumps of the fingerprints hcaptcha is looking for, and I ruled out fonts being the issue (I copied over my fonts from the Ubuntu VM to the docker container and verified with browserleaks.com/fonts that they were installed properly), I've noticed a few discrepancies like time zone being off but modifying those through Devtools -> Sensors utilities unfortunately made no change either, I've also tried disabling hardware acceleration so that the video drivers match the browser properties of my WSL2 browser but that also made no change. Another idea I had was that maybe the mouse movement is being flagged by some AI model but by logging in only using the keyboard I can make sure (by checking the motionData parameter) no mouse data is being sent to hcaptcha and Kasm will still fail, while my other test setups have no issues. The last thing I have ruled out thus far is anything related to TLS fingerprints, I'm not terminating TLS at any point and I confirmed this by checking browserleaks.com and making sure that Grease shows up as well as a unique fingerprint.
Again if anyone has any thoughts please let me know!! Also a reminder that it seems vendors are able to tweak their hcaptcha settings so it might be that hcaptcha will work on other websites, thus far I have only been testing with ShopPay (shop.app/pay/authentication/login) since this one fails 100% of the time.

I think to me what's most disheartening about this Quagmire of a situation is that most people are just aligning with their historical patterns of political/religious/racial/national identities and biases.
Which is not surprising because I just basically described the entire history of the human race and how we generally lean one way or another when it comes to conflicts and beliefs.
I think you know true impartiality is pretty much impossible and that's probably a whole super long discussion about how we even arrive at truth and reality and what pushes in different directions.
I just I I really makes you very depressed and forelorned at times just to see most people reacting as you would expect.
Like most of my social media friend circles are Lefty anarchist types and they pretty much are like fully on board free Palestine movements and busting out the watermelon emojis and all the all these kinds of things which to me is like the the 2024 version of the BLM black/blank profile support solidarity thing.
Of course now that you read that last paragraph you probably already thinking oh this guy is already revealing his cards of where he stands.
Basically my position is leaning pro Israel pro peace pro equilibrium pro stability in the region. This is a departure from my long held leanings of free Palestine because of all of my radical backgrounds and volunteering for things like food not bombs and all this sorts of things in Portland.
I basically am leavithis way and open to shifting of course at any time given new information and new insights, but the two main sticking points for me are what follows:
1.) Wary of the regressive left element within the free Palestine movement that is totally in bed and on par for the course given the conflict.
2.) Wary of extremist radical Islam jihadist intifada sentiments messaging and direct calls to eradicate and harm a people group and a nation. This last point I think doesn't get enough airtime in some circles and this is nothing new and has been a concern of mine for many years, and is often maybe overlooked or people are afraid to bring it up even because it looks like it's bigoted or racist or whatever. But to me it seems like this is why we are in this position most assuredly. You swap out Hamas with some other Hardline Fringe religious group but I don't think you get the same results. There is something uniquely dangerous about a religious Fringe element that promotes martyrdom and jihadism. Ain't nobody ever had issues with Buddhist extremists on this level. Or even Christian extremists on this kind of level, although there have been pockets of hate and othering of course from almost every group of people/ideology
Like even I've been trying to track just in the comment sections of let's say various kinds of YouTube videos from all different perspectives and I keep coming back to this weird unsettling feeling when I see a lot of pro Islamic things and from accounts that seem like they come from an Arab origin.
Put another way what is the percentage or total number of folks that have a Islamic Arab background that are actually pro Israel?
And then along the same lines how many folks with a Jewish background or connections are actually pro Palestine?
Cuz to me one is not like the other in this regard, and my hypothesis is that the Muslim Arab tribalist group would skew predominantly one way that I think we all can assume is the free Palestine movement.
Whereas I think the Jewish Community has definitely some elements within it that is more peaceful negotiation and not so caught up in their religiously motivated perspective. This could be because you know maybe a lot of the Jewish Community is leaning more secular or they come from Western countries and all this sort of thing but like I just I don't think people are realizing the fundamentalists difference here in the factions. Which I will briefly where where I am about.l
I guess my question is how many people have switched historical sides over this conflict right now in the spring of 2024?
Is there something from either side that made you go oh man I need to reevaluate my whole position on this and lean one way or the other?
Or even when I think what is probably more profound and supportive of the general conflict would be to be also aimed at a third way out above The fray if that's even possible. because a third way out often makes me feel like I just need to stay out all together and let people that have a much better idea of what's going on engage
That last part is really key I think because all these folks are throwing in their positions when they may only have an understanding of like 5% of this thousands of year old conflict. The more I dig into it and ask questions and talk to people the more I feel even more lost and it seems like an unwinnable and unknowable thing.
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What’s wit these white hispanics(yea, because Hispanic ain’t a race)saying “nigga”? It’s so OBVIOUS Mariah is white but, Ahna also lying about being “light skin” is too much “I ain’t white, im light skin” in one show. Not only that but Ahna had the nerve to come for Sidney Starr on “bad vs wild” talkin bout sum “I ain’t fighting no niggas Sidney, Mangina”. Like bitch, how you gon be transphobic, when you tryna be transracial? How you gon say you and, yo siblings “light skin” when it’s pictures of them and they white asf? Make it, make sense. Ahna face be giving a titan from, the anime “attack on titan”.

I am writing this from a place of terrible anxiety and ocd induced panic. Over the past few weeks I’ve come to a sort of existential crisis. I was raised Catholic and always believed in God, but disagreed a lot with Catholic beliefs. Recently my ocd has driven me to question everything I know. I’m at a point where I want to believe in God, but I don’t even think I can believe anymore. My main problem is that the things that lead me towards believing in God often teach ECT. At this point I see two possible ways that Christianity is correct. One being that the Catholic Church and the majority of its beliefs are real. I am inclined to believing this based on history, miracles and visions of saints, artifacts like the shroud of Turin, and most convincingly modern priest exorcisms. The problem is that all of these people that seem to me as spiritually closest to God believe in ECT. If I affirm that exorcisms are real and exist in our world, the majority of exorcists talk very Augustinian in terms of literal hellfire and demonic battle. The same with the many saints who have had terrible visions of hell. I feel like almost all of the people that have been closest to God in a spiritual sense very much affirm ECT. I was reading Seraphim rose(orthodox) and he is very much the same. So many of these people lived these great ascetic spiritually connected lives and were the biggest believers in hell. I find this worldview somewhat convincing and extremely terrifying. A trip over to catholicism and searching the word hell will send anyone into a state of panic. These same people that likely have much deeper prayer lives than me and are much closer to God believe the majority of the population will burn, even Protestants. A lot of them don’t even seem disappointed in this belief. The other view of Christianity I see somewhat plausible is a super rational liberal Protestant one. Watching a lot of biblical scholars leads me to the idea that maybe the Bible is a very inconsistent document and that annihilationism or universalism may be true. The problem with this for me is it doesn’t seem very compelling and makes me pretty atheistic/agnostic. At the same time I am terrified of atheism. I have committed pretty bad sins to the point where certain secular people wouldn’t want to accept me. The only way I was able to cope with living at many points was the belief in divine love and forgiveness. There not being a point to this world and ceasing to exist after death terrifies me just the same. When looking objectively even at biblical scholarship and early church fathers, it seems the majority were annihilationists or ECT. I’m finding it hard to believe Jesus was a universalist if he even was God. I truly hope universalism or even at least atheism is true. Heck, I am almost wishing that Buddhism or another religion is real so that my soul will one day have peace. I am haunted everyday by the thought of Catholicism being the truth and that I will immediately go to hell after dying and not going to confession. I just wish I could have some sort of religious experience to guide me, but as history has shown that would likely make me believe in hell. I truly love you all and think the empathy you guys hold is admirable. Any help or spiritual direction is appreciated. I am sorry for the long rambling and bad grammar.

I'm 21 now, about to graduate with a BA in Media Studies. Not really knowing what I want to do later in life, I never sought out any practical experiences related to film during my studies, like working together with others for a student film, which is a huge opportunity I missed out on the past 3 years and I deeply regret it. I did do an internship at a film company in Korea once where I was able to visit the set of a recent Netflix series and get to know the positions, and I was absolutely delighted to be on set, even if it was just for a short time and in -15 degree weather in the middle of the night. After that however, I still didn't consider any film-related careers simply because I felt that since my life hadn't been leading up to the industry, it couldn't be "meant for me".
However starting this year, I suddenly gained very enthusiastic passion for filmmaking. I spend my days looking up related courses and workshops, internships and jobs. While I have no experience, I definitely do have the enthusiasm to put in the work to somehow enter the industry, there's nothing else on my mind currently. I'd love to work my way up to becoming an AD one day, so I know that until I reach that point, I'll have to do my fair share of constant set-running and PA-ing for minimal pay, but I'm okay with that.
I've been granted the opportunity to study film at grad school in Korea with a fully-funded scholarship, which, even though film school is mostly just for connections and doesn't really help outside of that, I hoped it would at least help me get up to speed with others in the industry knowledge-wise and start building a portfolio as well. I also would like to visit Korea for a while again before I close off that chapter and focus fully on building my film career. However, a professor of mine is currently working on a show, and they'll be filming it starting in September, which is exactly when I would start my studies. To me, this is a one-time chance to possibly get my first set-runner position, as it's the one connection I have in the industry right now, and I don't want to let it go.
So now, I'm torn between two options:
1. Going to film school in a country I miss and would love to visit for a while, while building a portfolio from scratch. Then, at age 23 I'd return to my home country with some knowledge gained, but no connections (I assume the professor wouldn't even remember me by then) and no student-status to get any entry-level positions or internships, so it might be hard to get my foot in the industry.
2. Giving up on studying abroad and the scholarship and trying to gain some experience here. If my professor lets me be a set runner, I'd gain my first practical experience and maintain some connections, which could be somewhat of a head start, and I'd probably enroll in a graduate program here to keep my student-status (I live in Europe, it's cheap) while I seek out more practical opportunities BUT! finding other jobs& internships might end up being really difficult, because I have 0 experience. I also don't have a drivers license yet (again, Europe, not needed here) and I know that it's crucial to have one in the industry so I'd have to do that as well first, which also takes time.
Both options are not ideal, and I'm just so torn. It's a shame I found my enthusiasm for this industry so late and now I'm confronted with a big decision that can make or break me. No matter what, it won't be easy, and I know it would've been better if I started much earlier. I really do want to try out this career and I am very much prepared to work like a dog, but the fact that it took me so long to realise this is crushing my confidence.

So basically I a 20 Female work in retail as a casual at clothing store, I started working at this store in march 2020, so it’s been 4 years and a bit.
I was usually working Fridays 5-8 pm every week, and then 2 of our stores that I both worked at weren’t making budget in February (for at least 20 weeks they weren’t making any budget) so my shift were slowly getting cut, During this time my manager had to call the big boss because someone called In sick and was asking if I could stay for another hour, and he said that in the big boss words “she’s too expensive because of her age so she’s limited to 3 hours” Leaving him the manager by himself for the last hour of business.
And then my shifts were completely cut, the last time I was rostered on was 22 march.
They call me here and there (4 times between 22 march and 14 of may) but they call around 7:30 to 8:30 am to ask me to work, but because it’s early in the morning, I’m usually asleep and by the time I wake up 10:30 to 11 they have already gotten it covered.
I’ve only answered twice and both times, I answered they said along the lines of, “thank you for answering I have called everyone and no one answered or no one can work” which makes me think that they are only calling me as a “last resort” person because no one else wants to to come in.
The first call I answered I couldn’t go in, and then the second time I answered, I went into work that was on the 29 of April. I hadn’t worked in so long that one of my coworkers was surprised I was in because he thought I quit.
Btw I feel like they are forcing me to quit because they can’t legally fire me because how long I’ve been there, and im not apart of a union
And a couple of months back (back in August 2023) they asked if I could become a supervisor, and I said yes, I was getting trained on how to close the store and then in September the store manager quit with 2 weeks notice and heaps of things were happening after it. So I was told I would be put “on the back burner for now”. So I waited till the new year and before I asked I found out that my big boss asked my coworker that just got out of school to become a supervisor… she just turned 18 when they asked her, while I was 20 when they asked.
Basically a run down of all of this is I was basically training to be a supervisor something happened so it had to pause but in the end they asked someone that is freshly 18 to basically take the position that was originally for me, (August 2023 to start of January 2024) Then my hours have been cut because I’m too expensive/ my age to the point I haven’t been rosted on since 22 of march 2024 but I worked once on the 29 of April.
All my friends I have talked too, and my jobseeker lady (I had to join Centrelink to get a income during this) have all said that it’s all about my age and my salary and it’s seems like a simple case of age discrimination
But I’m not sure if I’m just overthinking everything and even then I don’t know what to do, or who to contact, like do I contact a lawyer or fairwork etc
Sorry for the very long post but any help would be appreciated.

I was just minding my own business when the police and my neighbors started yelling at me from my VRBO I was living in along with my rental from Uber to do Uber Eats and I could just not stop hearing the horrible things they were saying.
They kept telling me to come outside. I did not trust them because you should never trust the police unless you can pay them off. So I just sat in my VRBO and let my Uber rental expire.
So now I don't have a car for Uber Eats and lost my job.
I was thinking about working for a tech company but I don't exactly know what I would do that they would pay me for. Maybe I could just yell at people. I am sure there are plenty of people that need to be yelled at on the daily in order to be efficient workers. I am good at yelling at people and I feel like this would be an excellent opportunity for me to channel the negative energy that encapsulates all of my consciousness into something that makes money.
Since I lost one of my jobs I could not afford VRBO anymore. AirBNB just banned me permanently because my cat puked so that is not an option. So I found a house to live in.
Don't ask anything about the house.
So as a protected native Austinite I live now in a reserve especially made for people like myself.
It is not a mental hospital.
They don't let you have a computer in the hospital.
So how am I supposed to find a tech job.
I have experience with WordPress and using LLM's to write content for me.
I had hope to be a prompt engineer but they renamed the position to Professional Plagiarist on Indeed.
Wait, I could just work for Indeed.
Do you think they would let me yell at and fire people for them?
I hate people enough that I don't mind making people cry or jump off the bridge after giving them "refreshments" laced with vitamin K.
C'mon there has to be something in Tech that I can do. I am not a bro. So I guess I can't be a tech bro.
I don't identify as a tech bro, rather a tech reject.
I have experience in Adobe Creative Cloud.
I used to take a picture of my painting and my cat every day and edit them together in AfterEffects to post to Instagram. That led to nothing. Absolutely nothing. But I learned how to use AfterEffects.
I animated a two hour film by myself. Should that not count as a tech job?
I know how to use Cody to write code in VSCode and have a lot of experience with Curl, Linux and CLI. I have used GCloud in the past to spin up an instance.
I know how to do things. I know how to make a drop shipping website. Of course everyone knows they do not make money.
I have been banned from almost all the work from home sites that have work available. I finally got enough rejects to go below 99% on Amazon mechanical turk and was banned from prolific and remotasks.
I know how to make a chrome extension. I know some HTML, CSS, JavaScript, Python and R. I have worked fine-tuning large language models.
And yet I can't find work.
Probably because of the yelling and screaming.
I need to stop that.
Or get a job that pays me to do that.
TLDR: I need a job that lets me yell at tech bros.

I've been playing my first journeyman save in FM. Normally I pick a team and manage them to greatness, or, you know... give up and start a new save.
This year I wanted to try something new and it's been great! I started as a sunday league footballer with the most basic licence to be a manager and jumped into the job market.
First job was Dalkurd from a neighbouring city in Sweden. They were in the third tier of Swedish football, and I took them over as they hovered on the brink of relegation. First seson I stable the ship and get them to a top half finish. Second season we get promoted to the second tier.
First season in the second tier, after some good recruitment, and we're fighting for promotion. Last match of the year we need to win to secure promotion. We lose... but so do the second place team. Off to the top division we go.
During this entire time though, the board has adamantly refused to give me any new coaching badges. We're maintaining a decent position in the top division, but half way through the season it comes to a point, and I threaten to resign unless they can grant me funding to improve my coaching badges. It ends with me resigning and looking for a new job.
It takes a couple of weeks, but in July 2026, IL Hödd in the Norwegian third tier offer me a position. They have a lot more money than Dalkurd did, I'm guessing it's all down to the oil.
IL Hödd is in a decent league position, I think their old manager left them rather than them firing him. I spend a bit of their money and get them. I manage to win the third tier with them and get promoted in 2027.
I sign some good players in the winter transfer window and decide that maybe this will be a long term project. They've also granted me a few coaching licenses so all is going well. Then, in the summer of 2028, Bristol City wants an interview.
Now, I've been trying to make "realistic" decisions so far, and Bristol City are offering a lot of money. Also, they are in the Championship so it's a big step up, and will let me get a foot in the English league. With a heavy heart, I accept.
The Bristol City squad is full of old players with an attitude, and it's a bit of a fight to get them out of the club to free up wages and money for a transfer budget, but in the end I win and start the rejuvenation process. The marquee signing though, is a loan of Lucas Bergvall from Manchester United.
I break the transfer spend record in my first summer transfer window, €14.5 million spent, but I get some quality players in who are in their early to mid 20's in, with potential to improve.
The club situation is helped in part by a decent FA cup run where we end up beating Everton away 1 - 0, and in January the transfer total is up to 21 million euros. It pays off though, and Bristol City secures a top spot promotion to the Premier League, led by player of the year Bergvall, goalkeeper of the year Alex Palmer, and manager of the year, yours truly.
The Premier League, 2029/2030, the hallowed lands. I strengthen the squad buying Alfie Dorrington, a promising english centerback from Tottenham for four million. I secure Bergvall on a permanent deal and pick up a French wonderkid midfielder called Emmanuel Lebreton for a total of €60 million euros, an insane amount of money compared to my previous transfer windows. The both end up carrying the team for me, well worth it.
The Premier league is a different beast. We struggle a lot this season, sometimes it looks like maybe we'll get relegated but finally we end up in a solid mid table finish after some tinkering with new tactics. The high point of the season though, is the Carabou Cup which we manage to win, in part thanks to some timely wins, along with a lucky draw. This means we qualify for our first european adventure.
2030/2031 - Europe
At the start of this season I find the three best players I have found so far in the save: It's Angel Cañedo and Nicolas Duboc. Together they form a fearsome partnership with Angel on the wing providing assists to Duboc who can't stop banging the goals in.
It's another rough season in the premier league, but we're never in the relegation fight. We're solidly upper mid table at this point. The Conference League goes amazingly and we end up winning the whole thing without any real issues, beating Roma 8 - 2 on aggregate in the semis, and Real Hispalis 4 -1 in the final.
2031/2032 - Europa league
This is the season where the plan is to push for champions league. The squad is ready, and the youngsters have become more mature. A few signings bolster the holes in the squad, but then, right at the end of the transfer window, Bayern swoops in an pays the release clause for Angel Cañedo. 109 million euros. It's a bit of a blow, and I can't find a good enough replacement before the transfer window ends.
The season does go better though, we're starting to make a claim to the top four spots, and the Europa League is going well. Then Atletico Madrid fires their manager and asks if I want to take over.
I've built something special with Bristol City, and honestly, both the money and the players I have are way beyond what Atletico can offer. But it's a big club and a tempting offer, and a chance to rebuild something of a sleeping giant.
With a heavy heart, I resign at Bristol City, wish them all the best, and join Atletico Madrid.
2031/2031 The Atletico Madrid retirement home.
Holy shit, what have they been up to? The star of the show is 32 year old Fèlix, the rest are around the same age. Chilwell and Jurien Timber are good, but getting up there in age. They have two decent young players, and a minimal transfer budget to start the cleanup operation.
The new manager bounce is real, and I get them from 12th to 4th in relative short order. Barcelona seem untouchable, as well as Real Madrid, but the reason of the league is there for the taking.
They are in the champions league as well, and it goes alright and we qualify from the group in spite of a few losses from before I took over.
But then things fall apart. We lose at home to Benfica, 0-3 in the first knockout leg. We lose five games straight in the league. I try different tactics but nothing works and it's starting to look bleak. Then finally I stumble on a recipe that works and manage to claw my way back to the Champions League spots just in time for the season to end.
Now it's the first summer transfer window after I took over, and I am looking forward to rejuvenate the squad and see how long it will take until I can challenge Barcelona and Real Madrid for the title.

I think it’s very common to hear advice from people that says you don’t need to like your job you just need to be able to pay the bills and you can do what you enjoy outside of work. While that is technically true, I think like is a whole hell of a lot harder if you don’t enjoy your job in some ways. If you work at minimum 40 hours a week and sleep about 50 hours a week, that is nearly 50% of your week complete gone. Then with every other responsibility in life your time to “spend doing the things you enjoy” is very very low.
So I think you do need to like your job to have a more fulfilling life. It doesn’t have to be perfect, pay the best, love all your coworkers, have a tiny commute etc but it has to be something that doesn’t make you upset that you have to spend 8 hours doing it. I’m not necessarily saying chase your passion if it won’t pay the bills, but just trying to find a job for money and having no enjoyment of it isn’t sustainable.
I’m more so thinking of 9-5s in this sense but if you working even more I think you should like your job even more cause at some point if you spend enough time doing it your job IS your life, so I’d hope you like it.

My (24F) boyfriend (25M) have been dating for 8 months. He's my first ever relationship and first love; I've never had any experience with boys before him, having gone to an all-girls school. Although our relationship has been full of very happy memories and unforgettable experiences, it's also been challenging.
My lack of experience has impacted our relationship, as he struggles to deal with someone who doesn't initiate/lead. I've grown up in a culture that expects the man to take care of everything, so I'm still getting used to trying to initiate instead of going along with everything my boyfriend wants. My worries of scaring him away/disappointing also impact our relationship, as I usually just agree with his suggestions out of a fear of retaliation; in the past, he's said/done things that have made me scared to be myself around him/initiate (i.e. say he doesn't want to kiss me because I have no experience, doesn't like people of my financial background because of privilege, etc.). But I think the lack of bringing "myself" to the relationship has severely damaged our relationship, possibly to a point of no return even with my current efforts.
Furthermore, he's emotionally guarded and I find it very difficult to initiate deep intimate conversations. To me, having a deep emotional connection with my partner is of utmost importance, but at this point in time we only know superficial things about each other instead of our values/beliefs/history/etc. Earlier in our relationship, he expressed a frustration that we do not have an emotional bond; I agreed, and since then have tried to initiate more. However, his responses to my deep conversations always felt shallow and guarded, so at some point I stopped asking.
Recently within the past month, he began to grow increasingly distant where both physical and emotional intimacy stopped. Physical intimacy was frequent at the beginning before it completely stopped, and I have never felt so unwanted and undesired. We never hold hands, hug, kiss, or anything beyond sleeping in the same bed. I felt like a friend or roommate to him rather than a girlfriend, and every serious conversation we had in regards to the lack of romantic connection he chalked up to some excuse (i.e. me being a bad kisser, him waiting for the right time, him not an intimate person, etc.). Things never changed, and I held onto the hope it would but I grew increasingly insecure and unhappy, believing that the problem was me.
When I confronted him about his distance recently, he mentioned that he's unsure about us as a couple because he initially pursued me out of a strong desire for a relationship. I was "at the right time and right place", but he doesn't know if I'm the "right person". He told me that if I was the one, then maybe he would have an easier time opening up; he said he knows it was very selfish of him, considering how I was interested in him for who he was as a person before we dated. However he then proceeded to say that there is no such thing as the one, and that as long as we are both happy in the relationship we should keep dating. He said he can't lose me and is willing to compromise; he said he's been extremely happy with me, and that breaking up would make him so lonely. But everything he said shows me that he does not envision a long-term future with me, and that he's in this relationship because he simply does not want to be alone/is unsure of what he wants. I'm also hesitant because he's promised change in the past, but has not shown it through his actions; who's to say that this time will not be the same as the last times.
I'm beyond happy in this relationship, I've had some of the best experiences with my boyfriend. I would do anything for him, and through communication I'm learning how to express my care for him in ways he wants. I truly love him deeply, but I've been hurting especially after our last discussion. Everything that we talked about recently makes me question his intentions and whether or not he truly loves me for me. If he doesn't see a future with me, I don't understand why he continues to be in this relationship/claims he wants to work things out? I now feel like there's someone out there who's better for him, who will be able to initiate and grow a deep emotional/physical bond fastestronger than I can. However, I still love him and I want to make the relationship work.
I saw a future with him until he started growing distant, and if things change for the better I can still see a real future with him, getting married and having kids. I want to work things out, but I'm so worried the outcome will stay the same where words are promised but the actions never change. I'm so lost, I love him so much but knowing what I know now I don't know if I should give him another chance and work the relationship out or leave.
TLDR: BF is unsure about our relationship, and doesn't know if he sees a future with me. However, he still wants to make things work. Do I stay and work out our problems or leave?
Any and all advice is appreciated, thank you :)

“PLEASE STOP DECLARING A WINNER THIS EARLY AFTER A RAP BATTLE”
Okay folks please stop declaring someone a winner this early after a rap beef! The diss songs longevity and bars are going to determine who’s actually the winner.
When I was in High School everyone was claiming Biggie was the winner of the beef with Tupac. Biggie never actually released an actual diss record but 100% percent of the Biggie Stans would point to “Who Shot Ya”! They would claim that Tupac was a hater.
So let’s give this beef some actual time for people to actually realize what was actually said in the diss tracks.
I believe in the long term Drake will be considered the actual winner with the amount of Bars in “Family Matters”! But it’s going to take time for people to get out of their Stan mode to actually realize it!
And yes before we bring up numbers, Biggie and Bad Boy were outselling Tupac and Death Row by millions during that time. Still didn’t make Biggie a better rapper than Pac!

I have a basement that's finished with a closet under the stairs.

• Here is a pre-drywall picture of the closet below the stairs. As you can see there is a stud in the middle there.
• Here is a picture of the closet after closing. The builders (spec house) decided to wall off most of that space below the stairs by drywalling over the studs there in the middle. They made a point of telling me that the stud in the middle there is load bearing.

There is a significant amount of space below those stairs that I could use for storage, but with no access to it. Assuming I want to make a door there at the back of the finished closet, what is the best method of reframing that space to allow for safely doing that? I'm a bit of noob to carpentry, but very eager to learn.

My anxiety is through the roof. I have no idea what the protocol is here. I wanted to reschedule the appointments to begin with but, had found a way to get there. Lo and behold, I’m not meant to go. I woke up this morning and my phone is a brick. I needed it for the ride shares, gps, and more. I was going to be over an hour away, alone, in a bigger city, trying to make multiple appointments. A phone is kind of necessary. Right? I tried to connect my iPad to literally anything with a “heartbeat” so, that one of the “free” call apps would work. I couldn’t make it work. I’m almost to the point of literally pulling my hair out but, I think I’m better off admitting defeat.
So, how do you cancel several appointments because of a bricked phone? How do you word it without making it sound like an excuse or like you’re trying to give them all your problems? At this point I have to filter through all the extra info and send each doctor a message. Help would be much appreciated. So far the only advice I’ve gotten is lie. Make it short, and lie. It doesn’t sit well with me when I’m cancelling such short notice.

Just watched "Summer Wars", the obvious things (the things you have to give it credit for ) l:
The art style and overall animation was FLUID. It was REALLY good. I am into this kinda thing. Sonny boy, Tatami Galaxy.
The premise was great too. So was the OST.
Since that's out of the way:
I watched the movie and I felt whoever wrote/ directed/ made the movie does not know how to carry out plot. Most of the things are "ass pulls" or "plot conveniences".
Don't get me wrong, these work, they work when you have a build up or the vibe you have when introducing your character is "comic" or "chaotic".
But the way the anime first establishes a normal looking character dynamic and then introduce chaos? It makes the things look "ass pulls".
I also felt that many characters were unnecessary, for instance, the children, they were so irritating (not in a good, "plot will move" kinda way).
I feel their only purpose was to mess up King K vs A.I' first fight.
There is also the character of "Grandma". I have nothing against wholesome characters but she is being portrayed as a "Girl Boss" or "King Pin" (if that makes sense) yet all she is doing is make phone calls and say generic dialogues to "motivate" people?
The only character who kind of made sense was the uncle. They did not I trounce him so the suddenness does not expect anything.if you were to introduce the "chaos element" with this character, it would be acceptable.
Some parts of it were just cringe (sorry) for instance l, the "ajapan's Greatest Gamer" before a very important fight is apparently practicing martial arts with the "sensei".
I KNOW the vibe they want to go for, I KNOW the atmosphere they wanted to create but the way they did it made it look so generic.
As stated earlier, the dialogues are (again) generic.
The main characters were decent though. The primary protagonists "superpower" is math but fortunately, his entire personality does not revolve around "Maths".
All in all, it was a 7/10, I say 7/10 because I am scared of the public opinion (apparently, my favourote anime tuber gives this movie a 9 if I remember correctly )
But we were to remove the 7 from the rating scale, I would give it 6/10.

Hey everyone.
I wanted some help and advice with something that has been going on for a while. Actually more than 7 years.
The problem is obsessive thoughts.
The past 7 years my life has been made difficult from this compulsion. It can be anything. It started with me obsessively thinking about somebody saying bad stuff behind my back. I would just destroy myself thinking what did he say about me and all of that. Most likely he said nothing about me but my brain wouldn’t stop thinking about it.
When that finished I started thinking that I have melanoma because I had a black band on one of my nails. And I would think about this for months.
Then I thought that I left a gf pregnant and again I would think about it until she had her period. Again tho I would think that maybe she is lying to me. So the thoughts would come back.
After that I saw an irregular mole on my hand which again I thought was melanoma and would fixate on it and think about it all the time.
Nowadays I think about my ex and our breakup and trying to make sense of it all. It has been two months since the breakup and I know most of what has happened but I still think about it all the time.
My therapist asked me if I feel that my life is good. Which of course is not but I believe that my life is good enough. I have my parents and a few good friends. I have a job that I like. Yes I need to have a hobby which i will start as well. All in all my life is ok. Of course I want more and more but you can’t have it all.
My question is: how do I stop this? How do I stop the obsessive thoughts from popping up all the time. At this point I am tired of it. I can’t live my life and I can’t be happy. My last relationship was something I started because I thought it would make me happier but in the end of the day I wasn’t. Why? Because I wasn’t happy with myself.
How do people feel happy with their lives? The constant thoughts are killing me. There is no point in doing it and I know it but the compulsion is there.
I feel tired and drained. I am trying to have fun and be present but I always keep going back to the obsessive thoughts and feeling miserable. That my life is not good enough. That something is missing.
Any advice?
Thank you.

A quick thought on Challengers that I haven't quite seen voiced quite this way yet:
So the whole movie is this psychosexual drama between Tashi, Patrick, and Art, and their desire for each other that keeps drawing them towards this toxic, complicated mess of a threesome. Clearly Tashi never got over her career-ending injury, and so constantly strives to live vicariously through Art and/or Patrick; and Patrick, having lost Tashi to Art, lives in a limbo state of self-imposed destitution as he pines for both his woman and his best friend. So at the beginning of the movie, both Tashi and Patrick are profoundly unsatisfied with their lives.
But Art, at this point, has lost his drive for tennis - both the sport and what the sport represents. He's old and tired and just wants to rest on his laurels and raise his daughter. Which Tashi and Patrick both seem to see as an indication that he's "already dead" on the inside, but for any normal person, this would seem very healthy and reasonable! Art's already had a very successful career, and as he says himself, it's pathetic for him to still try to cling onto the glory of his youth into his 40's. Sports are a young man's game, and it's fine to want to move onto the next stage of his life.
Art, like Tashi and Patrick, is not particularly happy in 2019. But it's not because he's lost his drive for tennis, not directly - it's because he loves Tashi, and Tashi resents him for losing his drive, and it's painfully obvious. When Tashi comes back to the hotel after his affair with Patrick near the end of the film, she catches a glimpse of Art sleeping in their daughter's room; were it not for Tashi, this is the life he'd really want.
So when the film ends with Art embracing Patrick, having been ironically reinvigorated by Patrick and Tashi's infidelity, it's not a triumph. For Tashi and Patrick, this game - this back and forth of constant conflict and tension - is the only thing that will ever make them happy. Art, though, could've been perfectly content with a simpler, calmer, less aggressive life; the tragedy is not that he'd lost his love for tennis, but that there was still enough left in him that he let himself get dragged right back into the mess he thought he'd left behind.

So my ex ex met this woman in November and after 28 days of knowing her proposed to her. I have three little girls who care for by myself. He was abusive anyway, and I left him. However, from the beginning, this woman has manipulated being on his phone, pretending to be like him, and then threw his phone, pretending to be him tells me that he would rather I go through this new fiancé. Who has zero fucking boundaries. It's been so long, got married in January. Since he married this girl, he's maybe total out of the entire year had maybe six or seven weekends. And before, he would never miss a weekend with his kids. She comes up with these bogus ass excuses, whenever I don't wanna bend to her will.
They don't attend our kids events, because I'm going to be there clearly it's a matter of jealousy and hatred for whatever reason I have no idea this is wicked. Anyway, I have not seen or spoke to their dad ever since they got together. And I mean that. Maybe on an occasion of once or twice on a house phone and which he just repeatedly kept telling me I'm gonna learn to respect his wife. It was so strange. It was like a recording. But it's just so bizarre anyway, if I'm not able to do it, she desires which sometimes it's insisting that I go through her with coparenting like literally telling me any problem I have the girls I'm gonna go through her, down to cutting off his cell phone and not any of us allowed to have the phone number and limited to a house landline That he never calls me back and every time he talks to my kids, he always mention things like did I tell them to, to listen or stalk?. or making statements, insisting that the reason they're calling me is because I told them to Call him for whatever reason. It has really affected because this woman has cut off and blocked all contact that I've attempted only to address parenting things, my kids are not allowed to call me when they're there, and my oldest has to turn in her cell phone. Which point now she doesn't even bring it. She's afraid. And as per my Childrens report, when they're there all she does is scream at him and they fight.
Additionally, anytime that they're with their dad at their new house that technically is both of their homes. (Dad moved into her place before marrying all so soon), this woman loves bombs the shit out of my kid, the oldest. And the youngest. But stonewalls the middle child and makes like she's the problem sort of. It's so fucked up. It's so emotionally confusing and honestly traumatic especially because she imposes these ridiculous periods where dad is not gonna be able to care for the children because of all these impairments that come up and I'm not allowed to know what they are. She told me none of my business. So the fact that she's cutting off my kids from contact with her dad and he doesn't even call and then all of a sudden they wanna pop back in their life like nothing changed It's very very very detrimental to my girls.
What can I do legally? To where I don't have to deal with her at all. Or where it's a violation for her to even contact me? She keeps referencing the court order between he and I which she knows is so entirely vague. It literally just says " three weekends a month, visitation as mutually agreed by both parties" and that's about it. As, it says as mutually agreed which was fine with us because we definitely had our own thing going for a few years that was totally fine, but she keeps mentioning it that the court order there's a lack of mention on the Transportation, which she keeps forcing me to bring them out there, knowing I don't have a vehicle and uses that as a reason to not take them, it's also messed up
. What can I do to cut her out of our parenting? And force him to talk to me?this lady is so twisted. I can't imagine what is being told to him, that he's just totally OK with this

Hi, I am making a character with a gun in blender. The way I approached it was I made the character mesh and rigged it and textured it, while a friend created the gun and textured it himself. I then imported the gun as an FBX and joined it to the character mesh, and then animated it.
It looks right in blender (see picture 1) But when I import it into my program, it looks messed up, like the guns mesh doesn't even import correctly, and the character get the guns textured scattered across its tris.
I though joining it like this would make the character and the gun into two separate submeshes, with their own textures and UVs, but maybe I am doing something wrong.
Help is appreciated
mesh in Blender
Imported with assimp