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I'm not as knowledgeable at this and I want to learn more. My dream would be to retire at 60. Or earlier if that is even achievable.
Currently I have 46k total saved in my bank account and I feel like it's just wasted potential. No loans. I paid off student debt. $30k seems like a good start for any retirement investments. I don't know if I am better off using my $30k into my 401k or if I should venture into an additional retirement account that can help me retire earlier. High yield savings account?
$12,200 in my 401k Roth from my previous job.
92.98%T. Rowe Price Retirement 2060 Fund$11,346.88 7.02%T. Rowe Price Retirement 2010 Fund$856.97
$3,260.72 in my 401k Roth in my current new job. Taking out 10% from each paycheck adds $304.62 every 2 weeks from my paycheck.
29.95%Fidelity 500 Index$976.45 29.12%Vanguard Developed Markets Index Admiral$949.38 15.76%Vanguard Small Cap Index Adm$513.76 12.25%DFA Emerging Markets I$399.32 3.98%Vanguard Mid Cap Index Fund - Admiral$129.82 8.95%Other Investments$291.99
These investments are just the suggested default when I created the account. I called Empower and the guy said I can change this to whatever I want. I think I can deposit additional funds from my bank account as well. Are my current 401k investments ideal?
From this subreddit, I read it's good to have 75% VTI and 25% VXUSI. Do I have any of those currently invested? I think it should include S&P 500 but I would like to know what you all think. It would be nice to make adjustments to this once without any future constant maintenance.

So I have a group of 10 people, we’re going to be staying near San Jose, and we were debating on taking 2 cars or 1 15 seater. However, one of the places we’re going to is los angeles, and I feel like the city is known that it can be congested. I was wondering if anyone had any insight into how difficult it might be to drive such a large vehicle there? For context, we’ll probably also be going to Yosemite, Disneyland, northern california while visiting, but LA is the biggest concern for the vehicle size.

Hello, I'm 25/F and this is my fourth attempt at college only this time I'm majoring in graphic design (something I'm passionate about). Im in my second year of my major and have been able to get on the deans list twice so far. This is a result of an intense rollercoaster of anxiety and depression followed by my organized messy skills. Because my major is lenient with deadlines, I am able to pull things off last minute without hurting my grade as much. This is usually how each semester goes for me:
First month of class: Im on time with my routine, I show up to class, I work on assignments and I'm happy.
Second month: I have a personal slip-up or I get sick (I have a weak immune system) and take a break. I don't show up to class, I'm behind on my assignments, I get embarrassed, I get anxious and depressed.
Third month: I've missed multiple classes, i have severe depression and leaving the house seems impossible.
Last week before studio finals: I find myself scrambling to finish my projects and pass my classes.
This semester has been the hardest and can feel myself slipping into a wormhole of depression because I'm so far behind in all of my classes and don't think i'll be able to pull it off this time. Im in the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD, only its taking months to get my diagnosis and I'm 95% its ADHD. How do you dig yourself out when everything has gone to shit?

And they brought to him infants as well, so that He would touch them: but when His disciples saw it, they rebuked them. But Jesus called them to Himself, and said, "Allow little children to come to Me, and do not forbid them: for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I say to you, Whoever will not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will in no case enter into it." Luke 18:15-17

A child raised with care doesn't run to someone else's mother when he's in need. To have faith like a child, there is no question which Savior we run to. Jesus is our comfort, our Hero, our home, When I remember this, I experience the reassurance only Jesus can give. He is teaching me the beauty of trusting Him. (Isaiah 1:2-3)
Can you imagine a time as a child when you'd have been perfectly happy to eat in front of a starving person without sharing? Most children can't bear to stand by at the sight of a needy animal, much less a needy person. (Matthew 18:3, Matthew 10:42) Children haven't yet conditioned their consciences to ignore justice for others. To make oneself have less in order to ensure that someone else is not in need, is childlike humility. This results in real justice. Justice is equality. (Mark 10:14-24, Daniel 4:27) When mankind came to understand that "an eye for an eye," would make the whole world blind, our hearts were ready for the truest form of justice: "love thy neighbor as thyself."
Do you believe there are hungry people in the Kingdom of Heaven? Is anyone still sick, blind, crippled or deaf in the Kingdom of Heaven? (Isaiah 35:6, Psalm 146:8) There is still a deficit here on earth, and a need for true justice. We are the children of the kingdom. (Job 29:15-16, Romans 2:19, Proverbs 31:8) If we don't understand and implement justice, who will? (Luke 16:25-31) We take God's guiding hand when we lend a helping hand to our neighbor.
My heart breaks for a world that cannot understand Mercy and Justice Walk hand-in-hand.
Scripture references:
Rebellion causes separation. It is the temptation of the flesh. Rebellion seems reasonable to those who feel they don't need God.
Matthew 18:3

3 and said, "Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven."

Isaiah 1:2-3

2 Hear, O heavens, and give ear, O earth! For the LORD has spoken: "I have nourished and brought up children, And they have rebelled against Me; 3 The ox knows its owner And the donkey its master's crib; But Israel does not know, My people do not consider."

Mercy promotes unity. It is the desire of the spirit. Mercy seems reasonable to those who know that everything they have comes from God.
Matthew 10:42

42 "And whoever gives one of these little ones only a cup of cold water in the name of a disciple, assuredly, I say to you, he shall by no means lose his reward."

Mark 10:14-24

14 But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God. 15 "Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it." 16 And He took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them. 17 Now as He was going out on the road, one came running, knelt before Him, and asked Him, "Good Teacher, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life?" 18 So Jesus said to him, "Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God. 19 "You know the commandments: 'Do not commit adultery,' 'Do not murder,' 'Do not steal,' 'Do not bear false witness,' 'Do not defraud,' 'Honor your father and your mother.' " 20 And he answered and said to Him, "Teacher, all these things I have kept from my youth." 21 Then Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, "One thing you lack: Go your way, sell whatever you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, take up the cross, and follow Me." 22 But he was sad at this word, and went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions. 23 Then Jesus looked around and said to His disciples, "How hard it is for those who have riches to enter the kingdom of God!" 24 And the disciples were astonished at His words. But Jesus answered again and said to them, "Children, how hard it is for those who trust in riches to enter the kingdom of God!

Daniel 4:27

27 Therefore, O king, let my advice be acceptable to you; break off your sins by being righteous, and your injustices by showing mercy to the poor. Perhaps there may be a lengthening of your prosperity."

There is no more need for spiritual training in heaven. Every injustice will be made right.
Isaiah 35:6

6 Then the lame will leap like a deer, and the tongue of the dumb will sing. For waters shall burst forth in the wilderness, and streams in the desert.

Psalm 146:8

8 The LORD opens the eyes of the blind; The LORD raises those who are bowed down; The LORD loves the righteous.

We can do our part today, to bring heaven's equality to earth.
Job 29:15-16

15 I was eyes to the blind, And I was feet to the lame. 16 I was a father to the poor, And I searched out the case that I did not know.

Romans 2:19

19 and are confident that you yourself are a guide to the blind, a light to those who are in darkness,

Proverbs 31:8 8 Open your mouth for the speechless, In the cause of all who are appointed to die.
If we refuse to promote equality in this life, God will make things fair in the next.
Luke 16:25-31

25 "But Abraham said, 'Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, and likewise Lazarus evil things; but now he is comforted and you are tormented. 26 'And besides all this, between us and you there is a great gulf fixed, so that those who want to pass from here to you cannot, nor can those from there pass to us.' 27 "Then he said, 'I beg you therefore, father, that you would send him to my father's house, 28 'for I have five brothers, that he may testify to them, lest they also come to this place of torment.' 29 "Abraham said to him, 'They have Moses and the prophets; let them hear them.' 30 "And he said, 'No, father Abraham; but if one goes to them from the dead, they will repent.' 31 "But he said to him, 'If they do not hear Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded though one rise from the dead.' "

May our hearts be persuaded to love one another as Jesus our Messiah has loved us!

I’m starting grad school this fall and quitting my full time job to pivot careers. On one hand, I’m extremely excited to go to school because it means I’ll leave my niche field and get to move out of my parents’ house. It’s also my dream grad school and very prestigious. On the other hand, I am terrified. I’ll be taking on substantial debt, but the average salary is around or above the debt level I’ll be taking. I’m also scared because the job market sucks and getting a summer internship is required for graduation. My parents are going to cover my living expenses in school, so I have a support system. My partner is also really excited for me, and he doesn’t have any debt from school, so we can pay it off. This also means we can potentially end long distance because he can move to where I’m studying because it’s a big city.
From talking to my therapist, it seems the anxiety stems from my fear of the unknown and my need to be in control. I have this cataclysmic anxiety that I won’t get a job that pays well after graduation, won’t be able to pay off my debt and will have to severely delay getting married and having kids. I’m also scared that if I get the high paying job, I’ll hate it because it’s in a field where work life balance is tough. I’m so scared to go to school. I was so excited to apply and get called for an interview, but the finances terrify me. I keep telling myself that it’s worth leaving my job because I don’t like it and this is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Has anyone else been in this situation?

So I take care of my in-laws cell phone and last fall we though it would be smart to get one of the cell boxes that allow you to hook a old school landline phone so my FIL could call out if he needed to(he has lost the ability to work a flip phone). We had it for a few months, then a couple weeks ago my MIL asked if I could turn it off. My FIL keep trying to either call her as he no longer recognizes her most nights, or tries to call 911. So suspended it with plans to sneak it out as to not disturb my FIL.
Three days ago my MIL texts and tells me he was dialing random numbers and now the phone is active. Looking at the history he dialed 411. I chatted with Verizon and they informed me that I had called in and turned it on. I am sure what happened is he yelled at the agent (MIL said he was telling someone crazy things) and the agent just turned it back on. I ended up canceling the line, and will now have to pay to reactivate it.
How can I get Verizon to realize the mistake and at least give me a credit to cover reactivation

I have a bunch of old biologic injection pens and have filled up an a sharps container, I saw on the Kaiser Washington website that you could take it to a Kaiser lab for drop off.
Is it the same for Southern California, and do they charge money for drop off if I’m using a brand new sharps container I received from the manufacturer of my biologic injection pens?

Hey, I need some advice. About 2 months ago, I (26 he /him) cheated on my boyfriend (30 he/him). We’ve been together for 2 years and we live together , we have a life together, it’s precious I feel terrible.
I took the decision of hanging out with an ex partner and even though it never got to sex, we made out once. And I know that the fact that I was hanging out with him and lying/ not talking to my boyfriend about it is not okay. It’s cheating.
I also started being flirty over texts with a guy, it never got to anything physical but looking in retrospective I acknowledge that I was ‘flirting’ with the idea of having sex with someone else as a way to get attention and validation specially during a time in which my relationship was being a bit fragile.
Long story short— my partner found out and he asked to see my phone texts. We broke up. However, after a tragic and radical situation in my life we reconnected as he’s been there for me supporting me. We both see the bigger picture now.
I see it more clearer than ever. How wrong I was and How I truly lost sight of how valuable my partner is. I see how much I love him with all my heart and soul, but my own trauma led me to take multiple wrong decisions. He’s been there for me and I want to be better for him. I truly do and I truly believe I can.
And we both want to work out things, there’s a lot of love still but it’s being really difficult. He thinks I’m hiding more stuff about my cheating, And there’s obviously doubt around my truth.
Any tips on how we can recover after this ? The willingness is there, we’ve talked about couples therapy, we’re giving space and time to each other despite living together still. How can we work on rebuilding the trust ? Is it even possible ?

Hello, I am a Single, never been wed, 46yr old man, I have no children, no Baggage in Texas, close to Austin…I was in the Military for a while, always gone, and thought it would be best not to be wed, then other things in life just kept coming up...many years later, now I want that life I missed out on...
I am a laid back Texas Man, easy to talk to...Bonus points if your Local, but open to all of U.S., and probably Canada if you're willing to move to me.
(As for Ages,18+ Minimum and Older) I am looking for a 'Longterm relationship', that will one day lead to a family, and children, this is what I really want…I am a kind man, with a good heart, I am just looking for my other half.... I have a home, and all that’s needed, just need the right woman…I am Willing to go Slow at first, so we get to know each other, date, whatever makes you feel comfortable.
You can either work, or be a housewife who takes care of the home, the food, future children, and me. I prefer white, and Hispanic woman…You will Need to be willing to Show face, and eventually Face Time, so that I know you're real, and no ones time gets waisted, this is a must, pls send a pic or two with your first message, or I might not respond.....Anything else you'd like to know, just ask... Also, if you're just gonna message me, say a few words, and disappear, don't bother messaging me, I'm looking for something real here...No cat fish, and No sellers, Not Interested
Message me with your favorite color, and a pic or two, so I know you read this far...

I am an EA to the CEO of a small business. There are only 4 of us full-time. Since January, there’s been a lot of discussions around reducing operating expenses and she’s let go 2 of our freelancers in the last month. I was managing her inbox and saw an email from her to her lawyer talking about discussing termination logistics coming up at the end of May for a “she” who just signed her agreement last year- I was the only female who got hired and signed an agreement last year. She also mentioned taking another full timer down to part time or contract. This made me sick. I was so stressed and could barely eat. I have been on my toes since January and I’m just so over it.
Fast forward a couple of days later, the COO has a meeting with me. She said starting next week I will need to be on site 5 days a week to package and ship products. I was hired as a hybrid employee and only go into the office 2 days a week… and packaging and shipping product is not an EA to the CEO duty. This made me even more sick. My mental and physical health and overall well being is bad.
I spoke to the CEO about this the next day to clarify what I had been told and she told me that the business is doing really bad and having an EA is a luxury to her and based on business needs my role will need to change to package and ship product from the office. I told her that I applied for a hybrid role and this is not something I signed up to do, I live an hour away and I would have never taken the job if it was full time on site. On top of that, I have an autoimmune disease and I can already foresee myself ending up burnt out and sick. She responded by saying well if you don’t do that, then what are you going to do?
The whole thing was crazy. I feel like they have backed me into a corner and want me to quit so they don’t have to lay me off. I have two interviews lined up this week as a part time server just down the road at a luxury hotel (something I am good at and can easily do) for around the same pay. Any advice? Should I just put my notice in, serve part time, take a break and plan for my next move?

And they brought to him infants as well, so that He would touch them: but when His disciples saw it, they rebuked them. But Jesus called them to Himself, and said, "Allow little children to come to Me, and do not forbid them: for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I say to you, Whoever will not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will in no case enter into it." Luke 18:15-17

A child raised with care doesn't run to someone else's mother when he's in need. To have faith like a child, there is no question which Savior we run to. Jesus is our comfort, our Hero, our home, When I remember this, I experience the reassurance only Jesus can give. He is teaching me the beauty of trusting Him. (Isaiah 1:2-3)
Can you imagine a time as a child when you'd have been perfectly happy to eat in front of a starving person without sharing? Most children can't bear to stand by at the sight of a needy animal, much less a needy person. (Matthew 18:3, Matthew 10:42) Children haven't yet conditioned their consciences to ignore justice for others. To make oneself have less in order to ensure that someone else is not in need, is childlike humility. This results in real justice. Justice is equality. (Mark 10:14-24, Daniel 4:27) When mankind came to understand that "an eye for an eye," would make the whole world blind, our hearts were ready for the truest form of justice: "love thy neighbor as thyself."
Do you believe there are hungry people in the Kingdom of Heaven? Is anyone still sick, blind, crippled or deaf in the Kingdom of Heaven? (Isaiah 35:6, Psalm 146:8) There is still a deficit here on earth, and a need for true justice. We are the children of the kingdom. (Job 29:15-16, Romans 2:19, Proverbs 31:8) If we don't understand and implement justice, who will? (Luke 16:25-31) We take God's guiding hand when we lend a helping hand to our neighbor.
My heart breaks for a world that cannot understand Mercy and Justice Walk hand-in-hand.
Scripture references:
Rebellion causes separation. It is the temptation of the flesh. Rebellion seems reasonable to those who feel they don't need God.
Matthew 18:3

3 and said, "Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven."

Isaiah 1:2-3

2 Hear, O heavens, and give ear, O earth! For the LORD has spoken: "I have nourished and brought up children, And they have rebelled against Me; 3 The ox knows its owner And the donkey its master's crib; But Israel does not know, My people do not consider."

Mercy promotes unity. It is the desire of the spirit. Mercy seems reasonable to those who know that everything they have comes from God.
Matthew 10:42

42 "And whoever gives one of these little ones only a cup of cold water in the name of a disciple, assuredly, I say to you, he shall by no means lose his reward."

Mark 10:14-24

14 But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God. 15 "Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it." 16 And He took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them. 17 Now as He was going out on the road, one came running, knelt before Him, and asked Him, "Good Teacher, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life?" 18 So Jesus said to him, "Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God. 19 "You know the commandments: 'Do not commit adultery,' 'Do not murder,' 'Do not steal,' 'Do not bear false witness,' 'Do not defraud,' 'Honor your father and your mother.' " 20 And he answered and said to Him, "Teacher, all these things I have kept from my youth." 21 Then Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, "One thing you lack: Go your way, sell whatever you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, take up the cross, and follow Me." 22 But he was sad at this word, and went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions. 23 Then Jesus looked around and said to His disciples, "How hard it is for those who have riches to enter the kingdom of God!" 24 And the disciples were astonished at His words. But Jesus answered again and said to them, "Children, how hard it is for those who trust in riches to enter the kingdom of God!

Daniel 4:27

27 Therefore, O king, let my advice be acceptable to you; break off your sins by being righteous, and your injustices by showing mercy to the poor. Perhaps there may be a lengthening of your prosperity."

There is no more need for spiritual training in heaven. Every injustice will be made right.
Isaiah 35:6

6 Then the lame will leap like a deer, and the tongue of the dumb will sing. For waters shall burst forth in the wilderness, and streams in the desert.

Psalm 146:8

8 The LORD opens the eyes of the blind; The LORD raises those who are bowed down; The LORD loves the righteous.

We can do our part today, to bring heaven's equality to earth.
Job 29:15-16

15 I was eyes to the blind, And I was feet to the lame. 16 I was a father to the poor, And I searched out the case that I did not know.

Romans 2:19

19 and are confident that you yourself are a guide to the blind, a light to those who are in darkness,

Proverbs 31:8 8 Open your mouth for the speechless, In the cause of all who are appointed to die.
If we refuse to promote equality in this life, God will make things fair in the next.
Luke 16:25-31

25 "But Abraham said, 'Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, and likewise Lazarus evil things; but now he is comforted and you are tormented. 26 'And besides all this, between us and you there is a great gulf fixed, so that those who want to pass from here to you cannot, nor can those from there pass to us.' 27 "Then he said, 'I beg you therefore, father, that you would send him to my father's house, 28 'for I have five brothers, that he may testify to them, lest they also come to this place of torment.' 29 "Abraham said to him, 'They have Moses and the prophets; let them hear them.' 30 "And he said, 'No, father Abraham; but if one goes to them from the dead, they will repent.' 31 "But he said to him, 'If they do not hear Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded though one rise from the dead.' "

May our hearts be persuaded to love one another as Jesus our Messiah has loved us!

This happened 2 weeks ago
I'm a 16-year-old girl and I live with my uncle (38m). We were at a track meet (I do track). My coach(21f) does not like us leaving early for any reason at all. So I get done running 3 miles. (I think) I was feeling hot and my uncle and feels my face with his hand like my cheek and forehead. He's like "Rosie sweetheart you're overheating. We need to leave before you pass out". I look at him and start shaking my head. Trying to tell them that my coach will be pissed. He's walks up to my coach and she I need to leave because I'm overheating (apparently). My uncle takes me to car and Turns on the A.C and starts blasting the A.C. I thought after I cooled off. He would let me go back on the field. Nope. He took me home even though I told him that would be a bad idea. So the next practice, my coach is screaming at me for leaving early. She telling me I'm so lazy and how I was using my uncle as a excuse to leave early. I started crying. I tell my uncle about it and he's like "too bad you needed to leave because you were overheating. She can cry about all she wants". We got into a massive argument about it. Now my uncle wants to pull me out of track.

hi! for context, i’m a 16 year old trans girl who has only somewhat recently come to terms with long-standing feelings about my gender identity.
i’ve technically already come out to my parents, and they weren’t outright transphobic or anything like that, in fact they were much more kinder than i expected them to be! but they were very much skeptical of it all and seemed to believe that i was just “going through a phase” or being “obsessed” with being trans, since i never really communicated or obviously expressed any hatred of my agab to them before that.
eventually i got through to them (by essentially doing the conversational equivalent of hitting your head against a brick wall again and again), and they actually helped me buy some gender-affirming clothes and other stuff! (though recently it feels like since i’ve stopped having those sort of conversations with them, they’ve kind of fallen back into treating me like a boy for the most part.)
on top of that, they’re kind of an anti-medicine sort of people (not like hardline anti-vax or anything, but just slightly skeptical of medicine being a solution to non-physical problems when you could just “push away negative energy from your mind”, things like that), and they said that their conditions for buying me fem clothes and recognizing me as a girl (not by calling me my correct pronouns or letting me wear fem clothing outside my room, bc they don’t want me to freak out my siblings with the discovery that i’m trans at such a crucial point in their educational career) was that i would not take hrt or undergo any gender-affirming medical care, and if i ever considered it, i would not be allowed to take any steps towards medical care without:
a) being financially stable (aka being an adult with a stable job) b) explicitly consulting them and seeking their permission
i agreed at the time bc i just wanted for them to accept me (was honestly kinda at the end of my rope what with constantly trying to explain my feelings to them), but now that i’ve had room to properly explore my gender beyond endless thinking, it’s dawning on me that i actually really want hrt. and seeing the sheer amount of difficulties and insane wait times that other people have had to go through to even be able to take hrt, i don’t know if waiting till i’m an adult and then having to painstakingly convince my already skeptical parents is something that i could handle on top of all of that.
so, what do y’all think would be the best possible way to ask my parents about starting the process of getting hrt and explaining why it won’t be a mistake? i really think that they’ll listen to me if i just articulate my feelings better and can coherently explain to them just how long some of this stuff might take (since they’ve proven that they’re not utterly senseless and aren’t just going to outright reject my identity), so if y’all could give me some pointers on how to approach this sort of thing with them i’d really appreciate it!
tldr: i’m a 16 yr old trans girl, my parents are kind of skeptical to me being trans and to hrt (they somewhat distrust medicine when it relates to ailments that aren’t entirely physical) but will probably listen to me if i explain my feelings and stuff about hrt well. what are some tips to having this kind of discussion with them?

Reddit (repost with additional details in spots, trying this sub too)
I’m really unsure how to move forward.
My WS, B(f41) and I(m36) are currently taking it day by day. Know each other for 14 years, together and dating for 9, 8 years married. 12 years since we had our first kid.
Some back story, obviously there were issues in the marriage. Some I thought I was working on or making progress on. Others I was stagnant on.
We had 1 separation prior to this. It was the culmination of trying to have an open marriage and B falling for her partner, and me being me.
We got back together about a year and a half later, and have been together since(2021).
I thought we were moving forward until an ex gf of hers came back into her life. The ex turns into the AP.
So now I’m 2024 I think we’re doing okay. Rocky in some areas but okay. I was wrong. AP texted B in early Feb saying AP’s sister had died, someone who B had once been close too. AP and B would go out and I would be irritated or annoyed because AP also has a partner. I didn’t understand why APs partner couldn’t support her, why it needed to be my wife, when she’s(AP) an ex. It just made me uncomfortable and I let that boil over and accused her of stuff. She says nothing happened before 3/24 but I’ve found things that contradict that. That she may have actually cheated before they slept together after she asked to leave.
Long story short, APs sister had died but they were also talking about getting back together and how horrible and controlling I am etc. while also being physical. Kissing. Staying out late. Sexting. With AP and trying to tell me nothing was going on.
Now I won’t deny and say I haven’t been a shitty husband. I have been. Even currently up to Feb, I was slacking. I was okay pretending I was making an effort. Doing 1 small step to her 10.
Likewise I was dismissive over the years and never really “heard her” until this whole situation happened.
So they start hanging out more and more and suddenly she wants a divorce and wants to go out with AP every other day. Planning a life. Looking at apartments. Etc.
There’s a few things wrong with this: AP has openly stated she doesn’t like kids. We have 3. AP has openly stated she doesn’t like most pets. We have several. AP is a drug addict. Her drug of choice are narcotics, Vicodin and Oxy. She says it’s for her chronic pain on which, her prescription of Tramadol does nothing. So she “supplements” by buying illegally (supposedly only from family friend).
Anyways, 3/29 I found a photo of the drug use(a text from AP to B that was a tin of pills. There were 8/9 Vicodin and 3 Oxycodone), sent to B, saying she has one to give her too. B is a recovering addict. 13 years clean. Almost accepted. Said “You’re so good to me.”
B and AP try to play off the drug use as pain and pain management clinics not being helpful. Which I can’t speak to. I don’t have chronic pain. So I spoke with Law Enforcement, showed them what I was worried about and asked about an Order for Protection/Investigation. I did this before confronting her or before asking her about it. I wanted to be sure that if things went sideways I had a plan in place to protect myself. So I couldn’t be blamed for the drug use. Etc.
Confront her. Ask her. She flies off the handle and turns it around on me. Saying that it’s my fault and that I went through her iPad. (She changed her passcode well before this so I don’t have it. She left it unlocked and it was one of the first messages I saw that evening.) and that I should’ve come to her first.
Fast forward and we’re planning the divorce (income split, kind of an idea what we need to do moving forward, etc) and I’m saying that because of what I found, I’m not willing to let AP be around the kids until she can pass a UA and is sober for at least a year. I’d like that in the divorce decree. At this point we had been working together and I hadn’t moved on the OFP. I had been transparent.
Which leads us to the issue. She wasn’t. She was telling AP basically that we’d be divorced and she’d be good. Once I told B, that this was going to happen, either through the courts or through us agreeing on something, but it wasn’t something I was going to move on.
She said I was threatening her and forcing her to do what I say. I said only in this regard. Move. Leave. Here’s a list of items you’ll have to pay for, Etc. but I’m trying to keep my kids safe, and that means not being around someone currently abusing narcotics.
Then she says I shouldn’t worry about the kids because she’s their mom and she’ll take care of them. And that I’m an asshole for even suggesting she would jeopardize them.
She called the cops. Told them I was controlling and threatening and intimidating. They came. I showed them everything I had, told them my concerns, expressed what I said to her. They said it seemed like I was doing everything right. Tho they advised I file the OFP and turn over names and dates etc.
They told B, at the end, that because of her job and the kids that she “needed to stop fucking around with this shit.”
Well I guess that may have struck something in her because she said she’s done with AP. Tho she has still been talking to AP, AP found out what happened and has been going pretty low contact. Often leaving B on read. I know this because B has shown me their messages because she wants me to know I can trust her. Including through today.
She admitted the night the cops came that she had actively been lying to me. That she had orchestrated a text message convo to look like I was going to be getting what I wanted (something previously both she and AP had been against, a drug test).
So she admitted to lying about that. To deleting shit. To gas lighting me. This isn’t something she’s ever done before. Admitted to lying to me. Even when she’s been caught mid-lie. It’s always been dismissed or played off. This is the first time she’s actually been honest with me. And since then she and AP have had low contact.
She’s told me she doesn’t know now if we’re separated or going to divorce. That she wants to take it day by day. She says that if in the coming months, the changes I’m making to myself stick, and things get better, that she may stay. I’m unsure how to feel about this. We have 3 kids. I love her more than anything. But? I don’t think she would be so cold that she’d use me until she and her AP could be together.
On that note. She and AP are talking still, but everything has been platonic. She’s shown me her messages and I know she hasn’t deleted anything. We even spoke today and she admitted that sometimes she slips up and says “I love you” or whatever. But that’s because of how quickly she let her walls down. Let AP back into her life. That hurts. You know. Because I feel even now taking it day by day, I’m not being chosen. I’m an option. Yet the fact she’s still here, being engaged, etc. It can’t be an act right? I mean it could but I don’t imagine she would with how serious I am about the kids and having things documented.
I’m in therapy now. I’m on new meds for my anxiety. I’m seeing another Dr. to hopefully get a diagnosis of ASD or something so I can learn to interact more appropriately with her and my peers. I’m listening to her. Actively. Keeping in mind that words are not always words and I should look at the context and possible emotional context in the words. That’s been difficult but I’m learning that sometimes when she says that she’s broken, it’s because she wants a hug or physical comfort. I shouldn’t need to ask if she wants one or what I can do to comfort her. I am trying to listen more and act versus asking questions and then acting on the answers.
She felt she was always needing to tell me what to do or say. it’s been a sticking point in our marriage at times. Even though I am truly unsure at times what the appropriate course of action is. Hence being in therapy now.
We’ve slept together 3 times this month. Which is crazy because before it was once every few months. If at all. I think that’s a good sign?
I’m trying to help more around the house. Did a deep clean and threw a bunch of shit away. I’m committed to this change. To being better for her but also for me.
But I also don’t know if she’s doing this just to appease me. She’s said thank you. She’s slept with me. She’s more talkative and engaged with me. More fun like we used to have. But on the flip side she had no where else to go. No backup plan. She just started working FT but she doesn’t think she’ll be able to afford anything on her own.
I’m not sure where I stand. Or if I should take it day by day. I know I say I want to be with her and I think, I know that’s true. Even if I don’t want to admit I may lose her, act like I’m okay taking it day by day, the thought of her not being in my life as my partner, is terrifying and sad. So I know, if she asks to reconcile, I will. Because I love her. Because I know that while I’m not responsible for her cheating or lying etc, I’m responsible for the way I behaved and acted.
Idk if we can’t survive this. I love her more than anything. Even now I love her. I don’t want to lose her. Still I don’t think I should have to be a choice. I understand how it came about, and I understand she was or maybe is even now, ready to walk, and I’m just being delusional.
Yet she’s trying. Or appears to be. (This is what’s so hard for me).
I guess on paper it looks like we should divorce. My mother says so. My therapist says I should consider it.
Yet it seems like there may be something here worth trying for. The things I’m doing around the home and for the kids seem to make her happier. To see I’m trying to be consistent. She says it’s helped taken the pressure off her. That in our talks she’s happy I finally acknowledged things. Apologized for things. Actually listened and agreed with her. She’s appreciated that.
My therapist says whatever I do I should do for me. My counter was a lot of the stuff we’re doing now (splitting income by % earned, me actively cleaning every night with her, laundry, etc) is not something I’ve done or we’ve done before. Nor have I made any moves on therapy until recently, or to control my MH more.
So if I/we try this and still fail? Sure. It’s doomed, but at least I can say I took all the steps I, me, the Betrayed, to fix myself for myself but also for my marriage and my family. But this seems like it’ll have a shot. Like it could work. If you’ve made it this far thank you. ANY advice would be welcome.
It’s a fluffin’ mess. I know that. But any advice. Thanks.
~Ish

Think about it.
The issue with the AMR is that it's a DAMN good DMR, but it's in the support slot, so you're giving up a lot in order to have higher range and some limited anti-heavy capability. There are so many support weapons that you can use that are just generally better, more versatile, or just stronger overall.
DMR's do need a buff, but the one and only problem with buffing them is that they are most certainly going to step on the toes of the AMR.
So, I propose:
Buff DMR's overall
Buff AMR to do more Critical Damage so that skillful usage of the weapon is more rewarded
This way, the AMR can still feel like a high powered semi automatic rifle while also carving out its own niche via precision damage against heavy armor. Also fix the scope bug obviously.
It should still take two eyeshots to kill a Hulk as I believe this is fair and balanced (because why use something like the Spear or Recoilless if you can just oneshot a hulk's eye with some precise aim?) but I still feel like there is some room to buff the AMR's critical damage without oneshotting a Hulk's eye. Alternatively, if there's not enough room to buff its critical damage, we can buff its armor piercing potential instead, so in a pinch you can shoot important components off of heavier enemies using precision that other support weapons just cannot be executed with.
I fully feel that this will help carve out a stronger, more well-defined niche for the AMR not only in comparison to other support weapons, but DMR's as well.

Think about it.
The issue with the AMR is that it's a DAMN good DMR, but it's in the support slot, so you're giving up a lot in order to have higher range and some limited anti-heavy capability. There are so many support weapons that you can use that are just generally better, more versatile, or just stronger overall.
DMR's do need a buff, but the one and only problem with buffing them is that they are most certainly going to step on the toes of the AMR.
So, I propose:
Buff DMR's overall
Buff AMR to do more Critical Damage so that skillful usage of the weapon is more rewarded
This way, the AMR can still feel like a high powered semi automatic rifle while also carving out its own niche via precision damage against heavy armor. Also fix the scope bug obviously.
It should still take two eyeshots to kill a Hulk as I believe this is fair and balanced (because why use something like the Spear or Recoilless if you can just oneshot a hulk's eye with some precise aim?) but I still feel like there is some room to buff the AMR's critical damage without oneshotting a Hulk's eye. Alternatively, if there's not enough room to buff its critical damage, we can buff its armor piercing potential instead, so in a pinch you can shoot important components off of heavier enemies using precision that other support weapons just cannot be executed with.
I fully feel that this will help carve out a stronger, more well-defined niche for the AMR not only in comparison to other support weapons, but DMR's as well.

We're planning on probably taking a month or so and just driving around the US, hopefully meeting new people, seeing new shit, beautiful nature, cities, and all that. Just wanna get a good grasp of the country since I've never really been to the western side of the continent other than BC and Alberta, which was awesome.
I want know a few things beforehand though.
We're probably gonna have a relativley limited buget, definietly trying to spend less than ~$5,000-$7000 USD. That obviously means paying for essentials like gas, food, water, etc. and keeping frivolous spending to a minimum. Luckily I drive a Camry, which is one of the best cars ever made, so car troubles and gas shouldn't be too much of a problem. But that most likely means sleeping in the car or camping most nights, possibly bumming off people or friends we can find online or meet, and maybe some hotel stays. Which is all well and good, but what are some tips y'all have for that? What kind of supplies should we bring beforehand? What should we do to keep our spending low?
Where do we take showers, piss, shit, shave, etc..? I've heard some people say getting a planet fitness membership isn't a bad plan, because you can just use the showers, and they are everywhere.
I'm not too worried about saftey, we're both relatively able-bodied young men, and look broke as hell, so I doubt too many people will mess with us, we may bring some defensive weapons/devices, like some kind of mace or pepper spray just incase.
Another thing I'm mildly worried about too is cops, we don't plan on doing illegal shit of course, but I have heard of cops being dicks about people parking and sleeping in cars, things like that and neither of us really wanna deal with that. Do y'all have an experiences with cops on a trip like this?
Also want to know some cool places, routes, cities, to hit up, like I said before I've never really been out west, In the US, so I'm not really sure whats out there.
All in all we're basically planning on being homeless people for a month, but with a car. Just want a few things to know, what to bring, where to go and what to do, Thanks!

I’m 19 5’2 and have been fluctuating between about 123 to 130 (127 currently) for the past year. I’m deeply self conscious and unhappy with my body especially with the fluctuations. Since I’m short the 7 pounds is pretty noticeable at least to me. Even with that my body composition has changed so much as I have lost all my muscle due to struggles with my health (which luckily I have figured out was caused my celiac disease this past month) and being to sick/fatigued to work out. I have gained so much fat I don’t even recognize my body.
I want to take my diagnosis/starting gluten free diet as an opportunity to be more healthy and try to at least become less “soft” in my stomach arms and legs. All I want is to just fell comfortable in my own skin and wear the clothes other people can so confidently wear.
This week I started back working at my old job 4 days where I do a good amount of physical work including getting 10k-20k steps a day l, while the 3 I get about 2-5k. I’m guessing this is lightly active since I don’t work out much. I track my calories here and there but really I’m not consistent and either am not eating enough or to much.
Basically I’m asking if anyone has been in a similar situation and what has worked for them. How many calories to get to a goal weight of about 115 and any advice on working out?

Long, but comprehensive & caring.
Helping a veteran friend who’s like my Auntie unfuck her house for a few weeks now, so she can finally move away from the heat of AZ (that’s bad for her health), and I’m almost done! The end of the miscellaneous boxes is almost near!
Here’s the circumstances & how I approached them:

• house full of boxes and furniture in complete disarray because they quickly packed and moved everything out of the way to pull out the floors, and have all the walls painted to sell the house
  
• some boxes logically filled with like things of all kitchen stuff, or family photos; but some boxes are complete random wtf family heirlooms with kitchen and office and literal junk (packed by auntie’s friend who means well, and has helped tremendously since auntie isn’t able, but she isn’t the most organized person, and had limited time before construction, so she did the best she could and is totally forgiven)
  
• boxes from when auntie lived in lots of fun different places around the world (active military & after), boxes from her late mother, and her late husband, and sister, and the old lady who lived here before.
  
• organizing is my best skill, which I was a little sad about when I was younger because it’s not an exciting skill like singing or astrophysics, but I’ve learned different fun uses of my organization, like producing films, and event planning; and I’m always happy to help with a worthy mission; plus I’ve never been to this part of the country before, so I thought of it as a fun adventure of organizing a whole house in a far off mysterious land.
  

Here’s how I unfucked it all:
First things first, clear out one corner or closet, or already mostly empty space in one room to make your special keepers spot. Preferably a room or closet close to where you’ll load / move from, but out of sight, so potential buyers of the “for sale” items don’t see / want / be obnoxious about things that are not for sale, because they are special keepers. Maybe it starts with a small closet or corner, and as you get through more of the house it moves to larger spot, don’t fret about moving the keepers spot more than once, just be happy that it’s all sorted & ready to go.
Next clean out a spot that’s easily accessible for guests to make the “for sale” spot, I designated the garage, and cleaned off the good keep metal shelves that were in different spots of the house to put down the one wall of the garage instead, to put all the garage sale stuff on, and moved all the keep or miscellaneous stuff out of the garage to sort later. You don’t have to go this far yet of moving all non-sale out yet, or moving shelves, that’s just what I was able to do with the space and things I was given. If all you can do for now is make a lil 4x4 spot designated “for sale” boxes, start there and that’s still a huge win to know that it has a spot. Don’t fret! You’ll get there!
The next step is the hardest, but you’ll feel so much better when it’s done. Trash, Laundry, and Dishes. Apologies to your power bill, water bill, and garbage professionals, but you just gotta keep those appliances (hoping you have my favorite invention ever: a dishwasher) running until it’s all done; because it HAS to be washed before getting packed or sold/donated, and it makes a world of difference to not have those 3 things all over the house as you begin to sort more fun things like collectibles or something you love.
As you go through each room clean up & take pics of the big ticket or larger for sale furniture items to put online. Those items go to the sale spot in the house & immediately listed for sale online to get a head start on getting things out of there to make more room, and everything else gets sorted into categories.
To make sorting into categories easier, put boxes around a big table or comfy chair for things of common categories like “keep sewing” or “keep office supplies” or “keep kitchen” or “sale” etc. so when you do get a super random box of everything, it’s easier to sort into the nearby categories. Some keeper delicate things will need to be repacked later before you tape the boxes closed, but at least you know they’re all keepers of a certain type. & Have a big garbage nearby and extra (preferably crappy non-shippable) boxes to put the garage sale stuff in. & I like to sharpie marker the inside of the box flaps of the top so it’s easier for everyone to see what’s in it.
Also recommend sorting everything by general categories before sorting keep / sell / donate. Example: get ALL the shoes together before you sort which ones are to keep, so you know you keep enough formal or casual or which colors or whatever. Same applies to kitchen, and crafts, and everything else like the 5 vacuums. So yes, generally sort into types before you sort what’s to keep, UNLESS you have an emotional reaction to something in one way or the other love/hate, and then immediately put that item in keep or trash.
& yeah it’ll be emotional!!!! She keeps thanking me for helping because I’m impartial to the emotional attachments to the things, and I keep asking her if it’s worth the truck space?, and could we thrift a similar one where she’s moving?, or is it sentimental?, and it’s helping her to let go of a lot of things, or as she puts it “give it’s a lil kiss and thank it for its time and memories before it finds a new home”. And also there’s a lot of emotions of things that she hasn’t seen in years, like her mom’s photo albums, or a painting by Koko the Gorilla that she hasn’t seen in years and thought was lost, nope, I found it in a cupboard in the garage behind a box. I can’t blame her for crying when she saw it again. It was a lot of emotions of knowing that it’s not lost forever, and WTF?! why was it in the garage when I last saw it in the dining room where I was gonna hang it? So yeah, I try to space out emotional boxes for her to sort because I know they need a lil extra time, love, and an easy one like fun shoes or something happy to lighten the mood after, or a break.
& breaks are great! Take them. Play an app game or watch silly videos for 30min & chill before you go back to your brain trying to organize everything & moving around furniture and boxes, your brain and back and knees will thank you for the time out.
If you’re getting a moving van / cube / car topper, measure out a spot somewhere of that square footage & start a pile there to see how much you’re actually moving so you can easily see if it’s too much. & I recommend labeling all the keep boxes color coded rainbow heavy (books) purple at the bottom and red (fragile / do not smush) for the top. Crayons on all the corners, purple at the bottom & work your color way up the rainbow to red at the top corners of the boxes so you don’t smush something important, and it’s easy to load.
Sell big furniture & collectibles online. Facebook marketplace local for furniture and big stuff, but collectibles to a trusted source elsewhere depending on the niche, or maybe eBay and offer shipping to get more money, which might take lots of time.
Garage sale. Don’t expect much. Everyone is downsizing so what it would have got at a similar sale 10-20 years ago is not what it’ll sell for today. Honestly consider anything sold at a garage sale as a bonus extra, and whatever doesn’t sell after two weeks should get donated, or listed for $1-5 online so someone gets a deal & they’ll actually use it. So don’t stress too much about dragging everything outside; keep it simple and accessible, and advertise free on Facebook local sell groups and craigslist.
When you get overwhelmed, which will totally happen when going through a whole house, stop and take a look at the two clean corners of keepers and sale stuff, and how much bigger they’re getting, and be happy with the progress, and know that the rest can get they way too if you just keep moving.
& speaking of keep moving, this past month we’ve had the fun background noise of fun new albums playing in the garage, and Star Trek Deep Space 9 rewatch on the tv in the house, since it’s our comfort show that we don’t have to pay attention to since we’ve seen it so many times, and is fun to chat about to lighten the mood of the frustration of the misc boxes of: why is the huge heavy mortar and pestle in a box of electronics?!? Helps to laugh it off, or bust out singing like you’re in a musical. Being pissed about it is only going to ruin part of your day, and laughing it off of belting out a musical which makes you laugh, it’s a great peaceful release that is scientifically proven to make most brains happier.
Hopefully a little of this helped you find a way to approach your unique situation.
Best of luck to you all, and if you need a second opinion or more specific organizing advice, message me, I’m happy to help.
If you’ve read this far, Digital Hugs from the one and only - Liz Copic

Hi, The marriage has been wreck. Its less than two years but has taken a great amount of mental toll on my health. Husband behaves nastily when he is angry. I tried talking to his family, friends, taking him to counselling. But as per him, I am the problem not him. I want to to leave his house and go back to my family. He does say he will give mutual divorce when he is angry. But I won’t be shocked if he back outs later. Can someone suggest me how can I leave his home? Will it harm my case when I apply for divorce ? Do I need to consult lawyer right now? I understand mutual divorce is given when you have 6 months of separation. Do I need to apply for legal separation?