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2024.05.14 18:43 cireddit Weightlifting and ApHCM

My details:
35M, 5’11, 280lbs, Caucasian, confirmed diagnosis of hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (apical variety) and essential hypertension (controlled), currently taking 2.5mg bisoprolol and 7.5mg ramipril, I do not nor have ever smoked, I do not drink alcohol, I do not nor have ever used recreational or performance enhancing drugs, UK.
Context:
I was diagnosed with apical HCM after several heart tests. My ECG is here if it helps. To manage my hypertension and HCM symptoms, I’m on bisoprolol (2.5mg) and ramipril (7.5mg).
I don’t have syncope. I do not suffer from breathlessness during regular activities (but obviously get out of breath if I'm exercising). I sometimes experience chest tightness (not pain) while exercising, however this does not occur if I train in a fasted state (which I find odd). I occasionally get palpitations but no other known heart rhythm issues.
My cardiologist’s care is slow-moving, and I don't have direct access for queries. I need advice on safe exercise with HCM. Post-diagnosis, the cardiologist advised ‘light to moderate’ exercise, but I’m unclear on specifics.
Although overweight, I was previously very active. I did hiking, sprinting, e-biking, and powerlifting. However, since my diagnosis, I've been seriously put off exercise given the risk of SCD with HCM. It is my understanding that walking, hiking, and biking are fine if I keep an eye on my heart rate (target under 140 BPM). I also understand powerlifting and sprinting is out as these are high intensity. However, I’m unsure about resistance training more broadly and would love some advice.
Questions:

Is it advisable for me to perform any form of resistance training, considering my age (35) and desire to maintain strength and mobility into older age? While I understand that powerlifting (high weight, low rep, with Valsalva manoeuvre) is off-limits, could I participate in high repetition, lower weight resistance exercises without Valsalva manoeuvre?
I’m puzzled about why maintaining an average heart rate of 130bpm during a 30-minute bike ride or walk is deemed safer than a light whole-body weightlifting session that also keeps my heart rate at 130bpm. Am I overlooking a factor other than heart rate that makes certain exercises riskier for someone with HCM? If so, what is it?
I appreciate this forum may not be able to provide me an answer at all. However, if you cannot provide an answer to the above two questions, would you be able to tell me if there specific tests or tools that could clarify whether I can safely continue weightlifting with HCM? I’ve heard of athletes with HCM who still compete, suggesting there are methods to assess this. Knowing about these could facilitate a productive discussion with my cardiologist and allow me to request a referral.

I would be grateful for any help you can offer. Thank you.

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2024.05.14 18:43 Yurii_S_Kh A Parish Priest’s Conversation in the Cemetery on Radonitsa

Before I came to the faith, I didn’t like going to the cemetery. What’s more, the cemetery always reminded me of my mortality, and it made me sad. Since I didn’t see life as eternal, it seemed sad to live on earth.
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What should I live for? In order to die? It’s all pointless. Willy-nilly you arrive at the idea of evolution here. Man appeared on earth as a result of positive mutations and eventually we began to have consciousness, conscience and reason. Sometimes you clutch your head, saying, “Why did I become a human being? Who needed all these mutations if I will just be buried in the ground or turn into a pathetic handful of ashes?” With such ideas, the old saying seemed justified: “Take everything from life before the worms eat you.”
The awareness of the fact that you are a mold from an eternal Image justifies your existence and gives it meaning. And the thought of your inevitable meeting with the Creator makes you take your life seriously. The purpose is revealed to you: He loves you, and you are a child of His love.
And you think: “How good!” It was only after I came to the faith that the cemetery ceased to be an eerie place for me and turned into a “repository of completed narratives.”
Our cemetery beyond the village in the heart of the forest is divided into the smaller, old one, which appeared in the seventeenth century, and the new and larger one. Do you know how our village cemetery differs from urban ones—apart from its size? I served the funeral for almost everyone who is buried in the new cemetery. I made the “last entry” in the destiny of almost every person buried here. I pray for them and remember many of them. Besides, even before my ordination I had lived and worked with these people for many years. And I know that their life in eternity depends on my prayer in some way. Our bond with them was not severed by their demise. Spiritual care does not stop even beyond the grave.
The Church year, with its memorial Ancestors’ Saturdays and especially the Paschal services, does not allow us to forget those who have already departed this life. And visiting people’s graves on Radonitsa always is always a special, joyful event for me. I go to the cemetery as if to visit my friends—those whom I came to love during their earthly lives and with whom I prayed and restored the church—my brothers and sisters.
One day I had a dream just before going to serve on Ancestors’ Saturday. It was as if I had died, my soul had flown away, and I could even see my own body from outside it. And I was so upset and sorry that I could not say goodbye to anyone, hug my children and kiss my wife. And my soul began to cry from anguish.
Suddenly a thought flashed through my mind: “Today is Ancestors’ Saturday! How many people will come to church now, but there will be no service! Where will another priest come from?” And my soul, accustomed to responsibility, immediately returned to my body. I woke up and was relieved that it had all just been a dream. But then I remembered forever how my soul had wept after leaving the body. From that day on I began to feel compassion for the deceased while performing the funeral over them.
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I am greeted first by Alexei at the entrance to the new cemetery. I learned a lot from that man and in many ways, would like to be like him. He knew how to live and had a great desire to live. But for all his buoyancy, illness taught Alexei to be patient and to humble himself. He was dying for several years, but every time after the unction he got better and continued to come to church every Sunday and receive Communion. And he passed away on the feast of the Ascension of the Lord.
The last thing Alexei said to me—and I managed to give him Communion—was:
“Thank you, Father. Thanks for everything!”
Christ is Risen, Alexei!
The well-groomed grave of the child Sashenka [a diminutive form of the name Alexander.—Trans.] is very close. He received Communion almost at every Sunday Liturgy. He drowned in Feodosia the day before he was supposed to start going to the first grade. His father Nikolai, a simple worker, could not save the child. After that, through hard labor he earned a sufficient sum of money for us to pay for the work of icon-painters. Three large icons of the Deesis in the St. Nicholas Chapel of our church are his sacrifice in memory of his son.
One day, after his death, the boy came to his father in a dream and said:
“Papa, I’ve been to many places, but I like St. Alexander Svirsky’s monastery the most.”
Christ is Risen, dear child! Pray for us there.
Irina. Irochka, I still can’t come to terms with the fact that you’ve been here for six years already. You shouldn’t have died, especially at such a young age. You are our beauty! I will never forget it—after I had given you Divine Unction and Communion, you took my hand in yours, already translucent from illness, and, kissing it, said:
“Now I’m not afraid of anything. Thank you.”
I hope you were not offended that I almost forced your husband away from your grave. You know, I started to fear for him. The dead cling to the dead, and the living cling to the living, as it were. Christ is Risen, our joy!
* * *
Sophia, I’ll tell you honestly: no one bakes pancakes the way you baked them. Do you think I’m joking? No, in all seriousness. The schoolchildren who cleaned the church with us and then ate your pancakes with tea have already grown up. Now some of them have their own children, but every time they come, they recall how much they enjoyed your delicious pancakes!
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What hard times we had! Now we have both a refectory and a parish house (with two floors), but back then we didn’t have anything. I still wonder how you always managed to cope with everything. Christ is Risen, our wise woman!
Praskovyushka [a diminutive form of the name Parasceva.—Trans.]! My angel who selflessly helped me in the altar. Today is Radonitsa and the eighth anniversary of your birth into eternity. You read by syllables, but you taught me so much! My friend, I am grateful to God that He brought me together with you.
Pray for me, mother, so that someday I too can reach the measure of your simplicity and learn to hope and trust in God the way you did. Of course, you know that your youngest daughter gave up drinking and came to the church, that she prays and often takes Communion. Today she is almost never out of the church, as was the case with you. So, both your daughters are in the church.
Your prayer does its job, and even after your death it does not lose its power. You cried your eyes out for your daughter. The time came, and she told me herself, “That’s it, Father, there there’s no turning back.” What a wise woman you are! Praskovyushka, Christ is Risen!
And here rests my old acquaintance, Vasily Ivanovich. In his old age a strange thing happened to him: he fell in love like a teenager. He started writing love poetry, but he was ashamed to reveal it to anyone. But he trusted me. He would come to the entrance of my house, sit down on a bench and wait for me to see him and come out. Then he would take out his notebook, and his “sonnets” would start flowing. How many times I invited you to the church, my friend! You kept promising, but... never came. Christ is Risen, Vasily!
Then the tombstones of rich people begin. There are three tombstones here, behind an imposing metal fence. That’s right, it’s a family of three people. Petrovich, an entrepreneur, a good man who drank. He didn’t give sufficient attention to his son who was hooked on drugs. No matter how much they tried to cure him it was all in vain. After the young man’s death, Petrovich’s wife took to drinking too, as if she had decided to die. They lived beside the church. Their house had once been built on church land. It was a big, beautiful “mansion” in which you could live for many years.
One day Petrovich came to our church while I was racking my brains over the problem of where to find money for a new roof. I desperately needed to have our winter church reroofed. A piece broke off from the destroyed bell-tower and pierced the roof in several places. And we had just plastered the walls inside, putting so much effort into it.
There was no one in the church except Petrovich and me. I went up to him and greeted him. I saw that he was having a very hard time. And who would be feeling otherwise after losing his only son? I addressed him:
“Petrovich, do a good deed in memory of Kostya [a diminutive form of the name Konstantin.—Trans.]. Do you see how the roof was broken by bricks from the bell-tower? Help us redo it as long as there is no rain so far. You’re a wealthy man, help me. I will also ask the parishioners—and we will do it all together. I’m afraid we’ll ruin the plaster inside after the rain starts.”
Petrovich was silent for a little while. His face was so kind, he really was a nice chap. Then he said:
“You know, father, I’ve been thinking about how I’m going to live now, after my only son’s death. And I’ve decided that now I will live only for myself. So, please don’t take it amiss, but look for other sponsors.”
And indeed, Petrovich started to live for himself: he bought a new car, had a holiday abroad, and began to dress well. And then Petrovich disappeared—we couldn’t find him for a whole week. One afternoon as I was walking to the church, a boy of about ten caught up with me:
“Father, go and see what it is! I keep looking and I can’t figure it out.”
I went with him, and he brought me to the back of Petrovich’s house, where there was a huge puddle. I looked where the boy was pointing and saw something like a swollen sugar bag floating in the puddle. But it didn’t seem to be a bag—it resembled a man. We called the police, and Petrovich’s daughter-in-law pulled him out of the puddle.
She said she saw a bullet hole in his forehead. But no one investigated it then.
I performed the funeral for him in the courtyard of our church. And three months later his wife passed away. Their “big mansion” stands empty.
Christ is risen, Petrovich! Don’t think that I bear a grudge against you. After you refused, another man came and offered his help—he took the church reroofing on himself. This is how things work with God—if not you, then someone else. You already know that. Poor Petrovich, nobody remembers you, but I don’t forget you.
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How many years have I served at the grave of a young mother’s child on Radonitsa. She crossed a pedestrian crossing in Moscow when the traffic light was green. But a jeep suddenly appeared, knocking the child down. There must have been a tiny news report about you that day. As I understand it, the jeep driver was acquitted. But it doesn’t matter now whether he was acquitted or not. A momentary incident, but the mother’s mental distress has not abated for four years, she is sick at heart, and she still wears black.
How accustomed we are to these news reports: Someone has perished here, someone else has been killed in an explosion there, a plane crashed somewhere, etc. But all this means someone’s pain, tears, broken hearts, and orphaned children.
Mother, Christ is risen, don’t cry and start praying for your girl. Help her, while you have some strength.
There is a large marble slab with a portrait of a young man. Yuri worked at one of his father’s gas stations. About ten years ago, some drug addicts murdered him at work at night. I remember his mother weeping in church. We have a custom: If people make a contribution to the church in memory of their reposed loved one, order an icon, buy a candle stand or something like that, then we add the name of the person in question into our list for permanent commemoration.
I offered the same to Yuri’s close ones. On hearing this, his mother stopped crying. She came up to me and said quietly:
“Father, only don’t tell my husband. I’m afraid he won’t understand you.”
It was only then that it dawned on me: If he left his son alone to work at the gas station at night without security, he really wouldn’t understand me. His family does not set foot in church anymore.
Yuri, your closest ones betrayed you. But forgive them; You know, we don’t choose our parents. But I’m still wondering: How will they look into your eyes when you meet them in eternity?
Nobody comes to your grave on Radonitsa, but I remember you, your placidness, and sometimes pray for you. But forget them all. Christ is Risen, Yuri—you and I will rejoice together.
At the exit I met one of our believers from Moscow, who had buried her mother right around Pascha a year before.
“Earlier I couldn’t go to the cemetery—I felt uneasy here. But now I can sit here next to my mother’s grave, talk to her, and I feel so good—I don’t want to go away,” she said.
And we, Galochka, don’t “go away”. It only seems to us that the departed are somewhere far away from us, but in reality they are close, in our hearts, in our memory and our prayers. After all, and of course, you know it yourself, love (if we have it) does not disappear, even after death.
Archpriest Alexander Dyachenko

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2024.05.14 18:42 Alternative_Big5466 Birth Mother Not Eating Properly

I don’t have much information about the birth mother. My sister and brother-in-law will be adopting a newborn in late July. Information I have about the birth mother - 20 years old, Caucasian/Hispanic, 5’3”, 104 pounds, smoker (both cigs and THC), no health problems or meds. No alcohol or other recreational drugs. She will not allow any bloodwork, but has been having regular ultrasounds. The biggest issue is that she is about 30 weeks along, but will not eat very much at all. Drinking plenty of fluids and taking prenatals “when she remembers” according to doctors notes and the adoption agency contact. She’s been trying to hide her pregnancy from family and friends(wants a closed adoption and never wanted or wants children), and has only gained 3 pounds. Obviously, this is out of anyone’s control, as they can’t force feed her, but my sister and I are concerned for the health of the child. What are the chances of health issues at birth? Other than low birth weight, what other problems might she be facing? I know my sister just wants to be prepared. Thanks!

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2024.05.14 18:41 cs90039 Use Tax in Texas

I'm a Los Angeles based restaurant bookkeeper and one of my clients has opened a cocktail lounge in TX. I will be filing their first sales tax returns in the next week (due date 4/20) and want to make sure that I report the use tax correctly.
The basis for the use tax is the cost of the complimentary alcoholic and carbonated drinks, not the retail value, correct? For my CA clients I usually take an average of 30% of the complimentary totals (liquor, beer, wine & n/a beverages) and report that as the basis for the use tax. Would it be okay to do the same for the TX client?

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2024.05.14 18:40 thepurlshq Cisplatin & Radiation Treatment (My Experience)

Update post on my progress and protocols for my treatment with side effects and how I managed it all.
Now that I'm done with treatment, I hope that this can help others who may be starting the same journey and have questions. I attribute my easy time to the premeds and my mental willpower. I focus on the positives and silver linings over the negatives. You can only control one thing -- your reactions. The rest requires you to practice acceptance.
Diagnosis: Stage 2 Endocervical Adenocarcinoma Gastric Type with LVSI
Treatment Plan: Surgery (cervix, uterus, and ovaries) followed by concurrent Chemo with Radiation with a PET Scan scheduled 2 months after treatment to determine if NED or more treatment is required.
I was scheduled for 6 chemo cycles, once a week, and 28 radiation beam therapies. Chemo happened on Monday and Radiation was Monday through Friday. I had to skip Cycle 3 on Chemo only because I was hospitalized with Norovirus and my counts were too low. I still did radiation those days.
Chemo Protocol in order of meds:

Magnesium Sulfate + Potassium Chloride. Cisplatin strips this from your body, supplements.
Emend (Fosaprepitant) - antiemetic. I had to get a port for this, it burned my arm vein and I had to use other arm for Chemo, no fun.
Aloxi (Palonosetron) - antiemetic.
Decadron (Dexamethasone) - steroid. It burns in your nether region, if it burns too much, ask them to push it slower.
Lasix (Furosemide) - diuretic. Cisplatin is hard on kidneys, this is to help purge the chemo faster. Be close to a bathroom and ask nurse if you can just unplug your IV pole and go to bathroom freely vs. pushing call button -- its easier.
Cisplatin (Platinol) 70mg (my dose). Didn't make me feel any different than the other infusions.

Plan for at least 5 hours for the above. I started at 7:30am and ended between 12 and 12:30pm.
Cisplatin Symptoms: This is going to vary person to person and you may get different premeds than me.

Mon (Day 1) - just the cold feeling in your veins from all the fluid infusions. You also gain like 5lbs of water weight that day. I was typically ravenous and ate whatever I wanted, the antiemetics made this possible. Be wary of constipation from chemo, it took me by surprise the first week. The other weeks I ate a few prunes on Sunday and then after chemo on Monday to help. Otherwise you won't poop for a week and be miserable.
Tues (Day 2) - no appetite and I don't eat. Even marijuana does not work to stimulate. I'll force myself if DH forces me, but since I eat everything in sight Day 1 I'm not too hard on myself. Important to have first BM this day, if nothing then you need to start addressing. Of course I BM daily so this may not apply to you.
Wed - Thu (Day 3 - 4) - acid reflux and indigestion. Keep some Tums handy or use pills, it doesn't really help and you get used to it. All in, better than throwing up, so take it as a win if this is the worst for you. Appetite back.
Fri - Sun (Day 5 -7) - less side effects, should be at normal BMs, if you are not you need to address for next cycle. Very important to purge your bowels if you are constipated before your next chemo. I ended up doing Miralax my first week, I had zero BM before Sat and I could feel the pressure. The following weeks I just did a handful of prunes Sunday night after dinner and Monday when I got home from chemo. I happen to like prunes and they worked to keep me regular.

Pelvic Radiation Symptoms: This is going to be different based on what areas are treated. My bladder, vagina, and pelvic nodes were heavily treated. Be sure you understand the side effects before you start treatment - so you can be on top of everything. Below is my experience and I had a fairly easy time of it.

The fatigue sets in slowly. By week 3/4 I needed 12 hours a night to sleep. Don't ignore this important rest. I adjusted my work schedule from day 1 -- from 7a to 1p Tue - Thu. I didn't work Mon due to Chemo and Fri I had to get labs done and radiation so I worked from 7a to 11am. I did this from day 1 to set the tone with my boss and ensure I had the time needed to rest even if I didn't need it. I ended up working Sat and sometimes Sun to make up for things. I am a WFH executive - right hand of CEO and in charge of operations. Helps to have a great boss pick up the slack and an amazing team who supported me every step of the way.
Bowels get softer over time, they do not go from hard to diarrhea overnight. If you have diarrhea fast, don't ignore it or let your doctor's ignore. I thought it was the prunes week 2 that did it, no it was norovirus. They didn't catch it until I had a 102 fever week 3 and had to be hospitalized. The chemo constipation masked it during the week.
AZO is your BEST FRIEND. Take it every day. It is made to as a pain reliever for the bladder. I missed it for a week and paid for it so bad. Do not skip this important drug. I need to keep taking it for a few weeks until the symptoms subside.
When you go in for your initial telemetry setup for the machines, make sure you are comfortable before they start anything. The moment you lay down on the machine bed, you need to make sure you are in a good position. They used a mold on my legs and I was not in a good position so it really hurt my hips every session thereafter.
You have to put your hands on your chest. They give a ring, I hated it. I recommend relaxing your shoulders or you'll have a hard time while they do the treatment.
You get used to the flow. You walk into the treatment room, hop on a bed while two techs adjust you (I had x marks on both hips and belly that they lined up). Then you get a quick CT to ensure your bladder is full and you're in a good position. Adjustments are made as needed. You know when the radiation beam starts because it is the only thing with noise. Don't move until they say you can. Whole thing is 10 mins or less.
Bladder management is the worst part. You need to have a full bladder for this and as the treatment progresses you will have a harder time determining if your bladder is full or not. Your kidneys will also work slower (I attribute to the chemo) as the weeks go on, so you'll need to drink earlier. I recommend drinking what will fill your bladder two hours before your treatment. It is easier to let of some pressure than it is to fill the bladder. Tea is a natural diuretic and is very helpful to giving your kidneys a boost. I usually drank 20+ oz of Powerade two hours before (chugging), then tea when I arrived (they had fancy machines) and this worked 90% of the time.
Be wary of foods you eat. I did great until Week 4 when I had lots of stuff with red sauce and it caused gas. I had to pass this gas before they could do my treatment, it was a riot but you don't want your visits to be like that every day. Stay away from tomato products and anything else that gives you even mild gas outside of treatment. It is nearly impossible to pass gas with an overfull bladder.

Nurses are your best friend. Having cancer and going through treatment sucks, but the nurses are there for you and my experience was all-inclusive resort service. Take advantage of the snacks (yes they have ice cream) when you're getting chemo. Don't be shy about asking them about your meds, they did a good job explaining this to me, but I still had questions now and again. It takes a special person to be an oncology nurse and you feel it. It never felt fake or like they were putting on a show/smile just for me. They truly cared. I never want to see them again either way :)

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2024.05.14 18:33 CynicalResponse I'm struggling to find resources to help with my T2D questions.

I ended up in the hospital at the beginning of the year with an A1C of 11.8% and was diagnosed with T2D. As a result, I did a complete lifestyle change with the goal of getting off of diabetes medication. I went from 15 units of long-lasting insulin with fast acting insulin before meals to no insulin needed after a little under 2 months, but I was also put on metformin around this time. I also lost 40lbs by this point at which my endocrinologist also said we'll try Ozempic once I settle in with metformin. With continued exercise and healthy eating, I lost an additional 30lbs, I am now completely off all diabetes medication from January 4th diagnosis to April 18th being the last time I took any diabetes medication. April 8th, I got my A1C tested again, and it was 5.6%. I'm in the best physical shape of my life and all my heart related measurements put me in "athlete" which I don't consider myself an athlete by any stretch of the imagination. I exercise six times a week, I just started running on top of my lifting program putting me at 9 exercise sessions a week. I hit am really close to having lost 80lbs total.
I have been informed by my PCP that I shouldn't need my CGM anymore, and to be honest it's alerts for low blood sugar during walks while it's cold out causes my anxiety to spike. It's becoming more trouble than it's worth at my current state, but as you can imagine the effort required to get where I am now included a ton of research. I'm hitting a wall in the information I can find; because I am T2D, but I don't take medication which unsurprisingly has little very little articles around how to live with T2D while completely off medication. Are there any others out there who have done something similar with some long-term advice? My PCP and other doctors say I'm in a very small minority of people who have done what I have done. Now I'm in seemingly uncharted territory and worried that I'm going to have to learn the rest on my own.

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2024.05.14 18:32 LastChemistry9280 Dating Again Messed with my Head

I (22f) just got out of my first real, long-term relationship of 3 years in January. I've been trying to "get back out there", but I feel so emotionally raw and confused at the state of dating.
I met a man (37m) on a dating app in April. I usually never respond to messages/make plans on my dating apps; I just kind of have them to make me feel slightly less lonely. For some reason, I responded to his message. He wasn't insanely good looking, funny, etc. There was just something that drew me to him.
I was in his town the night we matched (I live in a town 2 hrs away but travel frequently for work). We went out for drinks, and I had a really fun time. He was really interesting, and took an interest in me. We had a lot of chemistry naturally.
We texted a little bit after, and I agreed to go away for the weekend with him a couple weeks later. We met in a cute resort town in the middle of both our towns. I texted him before, saying that I like to physically take things slow. He said there was "0 expectation for anything physical" and that he just wanted to eat good food and have fun, etc. He said if we were to do anything physical, that could be a conversation.
I had a really fun weekend! I opened up more than I ever do to anyone, and he really opened up about a lot (his family, past relationships). He offered me some really genuine advice about a couple things. We went on a hike, had dinner, hot tubbed, and drank.
On our first night together, we ended up "fooling around" but not having full-on sex. The second night, we had sex twice. After the first time, we went to the gas station together for snacks and he must've put his hand on my leg while driving over. I didn't mean to push his hand off, I was just really tired and might've done it accidentally. Later that night, I thought we were both staying another night. He told me that he was planning on leaving, since I didn't seem that into him since I pushed his hand off my leg. I explained that I was really into him, and it was accidental. We had sex again after that, and he stayed the night instead of leaving.
I had this really weird feeling after we had sex for the first time that he had "gotten what he wanted." It made things almost awkward afterwards; he asked me if something was wrong. I couldn't explain it, it was just a gut feeling.
He didn't really seem that into sex. He told me he likes to be dominant, but he wasn't super aggressive or anything about having sex during or before.
Fast forward to the week after that weekend, he texted me right after to make sure I got home safe and send me the pics he took of me. We texted a little bit on/off for like 2 days, and I went and said some dumb shit like "you mesmerized me over the weekend" to test the waters. I was hoping he'd give me some validaion that he felt sparks, too, tbh.
He left that on read, so I called him 2 days after I sent that and he didn't answer. At that point, I felt as if i were ghosted after we had sex (not the first time this has happened to me, probably why my mind went there and started to freak out). I sent him a paragraph about how if "sex was all he was looking for, thats fine, but he should lead with that."
He texted back, apologizing for making me feel ghosted/uneasy, and said he had just been really busy camping. I said that I felt crazy for overreacting, and I apologized. The whole thing made me look/seem really crazy and I was pretty embarrassed. He asked to call me on Monday, and I said sure. He says that he will try to be better about communicating clearly and thoughtfully.
Monday came, and I told him some times that worked for me. He responded later that night, saying work had gotten busy but we could call today. At this point, I'm kind of over him. I like guys who call when they say they will. I texted him and told him I'm sorry for being clingy/desperate, but I'm not in a place to date, after I just feel so sad after my last break up.
This whole thing has really messed with my head. I've never met a man who has made me feel so confused about his intentions. He doesn't seem super motivated by sex...he doesn't seem super into dating me since his communication can be sporadic....?? I am so lost, and this whole experience has made me feel insane LOL. I can't tell if he's the nicest, busy guy ever or a seasoned player.

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2024.05.14 18:26 iieplus I’ve been drunk for 4 days

I’ve been a member of reddit for over a decade, but this is my first post, so I’m sorry if I’m missing something. I’ve not got a particularly interesting story; I started drinking in college, ~6 or 7 years ago, and never let up pace. I’ve never gotten in trouble for it, somehow, other than it absolutely affecting my relationship eligibility. In the past year or so, however, I’ve definitely started feeling pain/discomfort in the right side of my abdomen (diagnosed as a stomach ulcer). Up to this point, I didn’t think it was affecting my work “that much”, but I’ve realized that affecting it at all should be a cause for concern.
So yeah, in that regard, I’ve been drunk for 4 days. I have a great job that naturally has its stressors, but that’s no excuse for my actions. I drank on Thursday when I hosted a board game night for friends, and so I was incapacitated on Friday. I had friends over all weekend and I snuck away to take pulls. I worked from home Monday, and my boss asked me if everything was okay because I’d been working from home so much recently. I didn’t know what to tell him, but like an idiot I drank about it that night (I do work from home when I say I will, but my output is definitely reduced).
I guess, before I ramble too much, this is my declaration. I’m an alcoholic, and I need help. Something needs to change before I lose everything or irreversibly hurt myself.
I’ve gone to a handful of AA meetings but something about them feels so rote. I read This Naked Mind but I guess the line that said something to the effect of “it’s okay if you’re still drinking while reading this” affected my subconscious more than I realized. Perhaps my conviction has been lacking up until this point; I’ve wanted to kick this for a long time now, but every time I’ve told myself and somebody else that I’m going to I always end up letting both of us down.
But at least, for today, IWNDWYT. I’m going to be saying that a lot in the coming days, so I hope that’s okay.

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2024.05.14 18:22 Throwawayingaccount Would you give up drinking if it meant having a male birth control pill with similar side effects to female birth control pills?

Hello,
I've been doing some research on the current situation with birth control restrictions being promoted, and found some things out that I haven't seen people talk about.
The first male birth control pill was discovered in the 1970s. It's major downside is potentially fatal interactions with alcohol. And while this IS a major downside, it is one that can be avoided.
Aside from the alcohol interactions, it has similar severity side effects to female birth control from that era. [1]
Yet despite the similar severity side effects if taken properly, WIN-18446 is not approved by the FDA. I do not believe it is approved by equivalent agencies in other nations.
And so after discovering this, I want to gain some understanding of how willing people would be to stop drinking alcohol in exchange for having male birth control pills.
I've also been thinking, and I believe that if WIN-18446 were legal to prescribe, it would have some unusual effects on the dating scene. A woman would know for certain that any man who drinks is NOT on WIN-18446. This might cause dating scenes to move away from places where alcohol is served. I'm not sure what that would change, but it would change things.
[1] Inhibition of Retinoic Acid Biosynthesis by WIN 18,446

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2024.05.14 18:15 ondobi98 Conflicting emotions: doubts about a colegue (32M) and me (29M). Do I have reasons to be excited?

Before I start, this story is long, and I'll repeat myself a lot; my first goal is to get what's inside me out and vent, so please be patient and if you respond be respectful, please.
I (29M) came out of the closet about two years ago, but living in the environment I live in, I couldn't be as open as I would have liked until recently. During that time, I lost a lot of weight and gained confidence in myself, which made it easier for me to open up to the world that interested me. I'm not someone with much experience when it comes to sex, but I've had my adventures, mostly with women, but once I accepted who I am, my experiences shifted towards men. In recent years, I've had fleeting relationships and two relationships that lasted more than four months, but in recent months, I've been puzzled by a situation I've had to live through, and that's why I'm writing this here, to see if the perspective of strangers helps me clarify my thoughts a bit.
I don't consider myself ugly; I can even be attractive, both physically and in personality, but insecurities have affected me since I was very young. This story begins in September of last year when I started working at a new company. The workgroup consists of about 30 colleagues, some of whom I knew from before. But the story focuses on a guy (32M), let's call him Stephen. I must mention that he didn't attract me at first; he's not my physical type. But around November, as I got to know him, I was attracted to his personality, which surprised me because I'm usually a very superficial person (I know I need to work on that), and it's not very common for me to be attracted to someone because of their personality.
Over time, I formed a very close group of friends, who told each other everything that happened in our daily lives, so it was only a matter of time before I mentioned to them that I was attracted to Stephen. The three colleagues, Anna (37F), Violet (36F), and Lily (20F), were happy for me and told me that the interest seemed mutual because they thought the guy was getting very close to me. I liked that because I had already noticed that the jokes or comments I made to him received the same response, or at least he played along.
We reached December, we organized a dinner with some colleagues, and both he and I attended. By then, my colleagues had been pressuring me a lot to tell him something, but since we only had a relationship at work, I didn't dare to take the step; it didn't seem right to me. I also mentioned my situation to my friends, who could give me another point of view, but they all told me that not seeing the relationship we had made it difficult for them to evaluate it. I must mention that all this was happening while I was seeing another guy, John (27M), in a stable relationship for 6 months.
At the dinner and at the after-party, Stephen didn't leave my side. If I went out to smoke, he came out with me even though he doesn't smoke; if I had a drink, he accompanied me to the bar. My colleagues were ecstatic because they saw that this was the night something was going to happen. Well, it didn't. Between my relationship with John and the nerves of the moment, I didn't dare to do anything. But I already saw clearly that with those ideas in my head, the relationship with John was unfeasible; he was no longer my priority. We broke up during the following week.
I was already going all out for Stephen; I was attracted to his personality, to what he could offer me in a relationship. The week before Christmas arrived. We had a one-week break from work, and I didn't want to leave with doubts on vacation. On Tuesday of that week, I went to talk to him about the subject, determined, but when I started talking, I saw that we weren't alone, and I didn't dare to continue. I didn't dare again until Friday; he insisted that I finish saying what I had to tell him, which excited me even more because in my head, what I wanted to tell him seemed obvious.
Friday came, the last day for me to tell him something. When there was an hour left to finish the workday, I saw that we were alone, and I approached him. I was very nervous, I even stuttered, but I practically told him that I found him a very interesting guy and that I would like to get to know him outside of work, to which he responded that he was flattered but that he was not homosexual. It crushed me. I tried to disguise it by saying that he had become a very important support at work and that I wouldn't want this to ruin that relationship; he accepted it.
I left there as quickly as possible, holding back tears as best I could (yes, very teenage everything). I met up with my colleagues and told them what had happened. They supported me, but they kept saying that they didn't believe Stephen, that the relationship we had wasn't just friendship. I didn't give importance to that; at that moment I just wanted to forget what had happened. It was one of the toughest Christmases I've ever had. My family didn't know anything, my friends outside of work didn't understand it, and my work colleagues kept insisting that I needed to clarify things even more with him. My head was spinning.
I decided that I was going to fulfill what I said to Stephen, that the work relationship would continue as it had until that moment. The first week was weird and tough, I won't deny it, but I handled it quite well. I insisted that my colleagues avoid the subject, but it was impossible not to see the looks every time Stephen and I talked. Over time, we've returned to jokes, and although there's attraction on my part, I've come to understand that nothing will ever happen between us. Or so I thought. The last month I've had abrupt changes in my life. My grandmother died, I started dating Parker (33M), I got promoted at work, and I moved out on my own. It's important to mention, I think, that Stephen was my superior, and now, with the promotion, he's my immediate superior, I have to answer to him. So we spend much more time together, and we've come to know each other more intimately. I know about his problems with family, his friends, his plans for the weekend... But he never talks to me about relationships. We have a colleague who lives in the same city as Stephen, who has known him for years, and my colleagues, being the gossips they are, interrogated her about Stephen, and she managed to find out that he has never had a known relationship, nor has he had relationships with anyone, which surprised us all because, even though he's not my type, he's an athletic and quite attractive man.
Meanwhile, physical contact has emerged; he touches my shoulder when speaking, he hugs me when greeting me in the mornings... That was what I was missing. Just when I was rebuilding my life after the Christmas fiasco, to doubt again because of physical contact, once more when I was in a relationship that seemed perfect on the surface. More doubts on the subject. I had been with Parker for three months; I met him at a party with friends, in early February, falling back into the same old mistakes, focusing on the physical and then on the personality, luckily we were compatible, until feelings for Stephen surfaced again. The relationship faded, literally, no sex, no affection, no compatibility. My work colleagues didn't accept Parker, they were still insisting on Stephen. We come to yesterday, I broke up with Parker last week, and I really felt bad because it seemed to me that I was making the same mistakes as with John, obsessing over a relationship that didn't exist, that I had already received rejection for. But I moved to my new house, perfect for me, and liked by everyone, even Stephen. Today I received the comment that led me to speak here. I have organized a dinner next weekend at my house, Stephen is coming, he has asked to stay the night, I only have one bed, he has said we will share with a wink. I got excited, but I don't want to. I couldn't bear another fiasco. My work colleagues are already on cloud nine.
So I ask, do I have reasons to be excited?

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2024.05.14 18:12 Temporary_Novel_5212 Severe upper left abdominal pain, test results received but no idea what’s next

Could this be kidney stones?
Female, 40s - In pain while waiting to hear next steps from PCP. I received test results last night (see end of post), but PCP has not actually viewed them yet. Feel like I should be doing something but no idea what.
Summary of pain: Friday night felt achey gnawing pain under left ribs that radiated to left shoulder and down left arm. Assumed it was trapped gas after very heavy meal.
The pain was unchanged in the morning so took Gas-X. Eventually maxed out the recommend daily dose. Did lots of burping, but never experienced any relief of pain.
By Saturday afternoon pain was more focused under left rib cage, with flank pain and some tenderness to left of belly button. Periods of INTENSE spasms in upper left abdomen began. Felt like a squeezing and releasing in intestine but no idea what was actually happening. Painful spasms overwhelmed me with every attempt to get a good breath. The pain was SEVERE, the worst I’ve ever felt. I was screaming and begging for help during these episodes, which lasted about 5 minutes each.
This happened three times over a few hours, and each time I seriously considered calling an ambulance but didn’t because of fear of cost and that it would be determined to be “just gas.”
The underlying pain through all of this was constant. By Sunday morning I could no longer take a deep breath due to the severity of constant pain under left ribs, but the spasms didn’t return.
No appetite since Friday, but tried eating a bland meal Sunday evening. Drinking water after meal produced sudden intense pain and feeling of food moving in upper left abdomen. Thought maybe there was a blockage that was clearing. Wondering now if something was just inflamed. Pain only lasted a few seconds and was enough to make me gasp.
Bowel movements small and poorly formed throughout all this. Frequent urgent watery diarrhea started 3am Monday. I went to the doctor on Monday.
It’s now Tuesday, and I am still in terrible pain under my left ribs and into my left side. Cramping sensation with every shallow breath. Sneezing feels like something is tearing. I can’t even complete the sneeze without shouting from the pain. I can’t get a deep breath or cough without triggering sharp pain.
Experiencing occasional involuntary gasps, much like when you take shaky breaths while crying.
Blood oxygen is normal.
Possibly relevant: Two days before this began, I felt intense pulling and cramping in bladder. This came and went along with frequent urination (which exacerbated pain) for a few hours and then it was gone.
No fever. No vomiting. No history of health anxiety or emetephobia, but if I were to need to vomit at this point, I don’t know how I could with current pain level and the way it intensifies with deep breath or exertion. I am frightened.
Summary of doctor’s visit and tests:
Saw primary care doctor yesterday for physical exam. They ordered a urine test, upper left abdominal x-ray, and left lung x-ray.
Results:
ABDOMEN RADIOGRAPHY CLINICAL HISTORY: Acute onset LUQ pain 5/10, still persistant with loose stools, but no fever or vomiting. TECHNIQUE: 1 view. FINDINGS: Bowel Gas Pattern: Within normal limits. No dilated loops.
CHEST RADIOGRAPHY CLINICAL HISTORY: LUQ pain and decreased breath sounds at L lung base Left upper quadrant pain Other abnormalities of breathing. TECHNIQUE: 2 views. FINDINGS: Lungs/Pleura: Minimal left basilar parenchymal opacity. No pneumothorax or significant effusion. Mediastinum: Heart and mediastinal contours are unremarkable.
Urine (Urine, Clean Catch)
Color value: orange Clarity value: turbid pH: 5.5 Specific gravity: 1.019 Protein value: trace Blood value: 2+ Red blood cells value: 3-5 Bacteria value: few Mucus value: 2+ Amorphous crystals value: 2

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2024.05.14 18:10 Silly-Ideal-5153 How do alcholics spot other alchoholics so well?

I know this can't be a unique experience. When I was drinking a lot, alcholics were always drawn to me and very trusting of me even when I wasn't drinking.
Some examples:

(I was only 20 at the time but had no issues with getting alchohol) I was sitting by a gas station and a homeless man asked me some money to buy some wine. I was like sure ig thanks for the honesty, and bought him some wine. I wasn't drunk at the time, but he asked me if I was an alcoholic, I said no. He was like really?? So you really don't want me to go in there and get something for you too? And I ended up getting me some seltzers while I was there.
I was sitting outside of Walmart (where I was staying at the time was unsafe so I just sat outside random places a lot) some guy came up to me and asked me to return something for him and he'll share the money with me, he couldn't do it himself because they asked him to leave. I told him that I would, but I'm not supposed to be there. He said "it's okay, I don't judge you, I'm an alcoholic too." Again, I wasn't drunk and didn't mention anything about drinking. I said "no I'm actually not supposed to be here I have trespass papers I'll go to jail" and he laughed
I was at work, pretty drunk but not obvious about it or acting like a fool. A drunk guy came in fucking wasted and making crazy jokes that wernt really funny but he was laughing his ass off. I laughed at him while also still trying to help him, I was acting perfectly normal and didn't make any mistakes while helping him. I can't remember what exactly he said but he made a joke to the whole resturant about how I'm drunk too? No one took him seriously but I was like damn how'd he know?

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2024.05.14 18:10 HappinessWantsYou Asked a coworker out. 19m and 19f

Asked a coworker out.
P.S. both of us are interns and not permanent employees, we will be leaving the organization within 2 months.
We are both 19, in the same college, and interning in the same company. She had once mentioned that she'd like to go out for drinks with me, in a group setting. I said yes, and then she joked, "Easy to convince" Then I said, "who said I drink alcohol?" Playful banter.
^ this is just the back drop, the above convo happened on another day.
Whenever we look at each other, she smiles. I also find her laughing at times at silly things, sometimes not so funny things that I say.
Today, we were chatting in the office and I noticed her flipping hair and smiling while we were talking as I was saying something. She asked me if i want to take photos next to the company banner, and I said yes. I took her photos, and then she took mine. She said I looked smart and good.
Sometime later she even playfully hit me on my arm joking about something.
Anyways, as she was out of the office, we were speaking over call and she had closed a deal. I said, "wonderful, now you have a coffee" She said, "done"
Sometime later I texted her and said, '2nd round is on me if you buy me the first cup of coffee this Saturday😌'
Its been almost 7 hours, and she has not responded. This is unusual.
Update: This is what she replied just now(7 hours later) " HAHAHAH COOOL COOOL!!🥴 "
What do I make of this?

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2024.05.14 18:09 BloomArticle Travelling to Mexico

Hi mamas,
My partner and I just got back from Puerto Vallarta with our daughter a week ago (she’s 1 today, happy birthday baby!!)
She was super fussy and would projectile vomit almost every food we would give her. She’s been drinking cows milk at home and it didn’t agree with her there at all. For the remainder of the week all she ate was white bread, fruit pouches/snacks from home and a combo of breastmilk and formula. It hurt my mama heart so much, I just wanted to give her a meal and felt like I couldn’t.
My ILs are taking the whole family back to Puerto Vallarta in early 2025 and while I’m excited, I’m also super nervous.
Does anyone have experience with this or have suggestions on avenues I can explore? I’m booking an appointment with her doctor closer to so we can discuss options.
So far, all I can think is to pack a can of toddler formula, and really load up on snacks. She will be ~21 months at the time of the trip
Thank you for your help!

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2024.05.14 18:09 BloomArticle Travelling to Mexico

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2024.05.14 18:07 Jankis2000 Scared avout liver issues

20 year old male.
So this week i was eating foods high in fat /oily food and on monday my stool was solid and had 2 shades of brown. Lighter and darker. Now apparently this is normal and ot can be old stool mixed with new fresh stool. Well yesterday and today i had mushy stool taht was light brown but when i wipe it is kinda yellow. Now apparently, that also is normal and it is like when you smear mud amd ot becomes yellow.
But curiosity was stronger so i had to google about yellow stool and sticky stool (accidentaly got some and after washing with water it felt sticky until i washed with soap immediantely. Now this might be fat? Fatty stool?). I have health anxiety and i thought it is my liver.
7 months ago i had an abdominal uktrasound unrelated to liver or anything and tehy found out i have non alcoholic fatty liver (i mean, i guess because i dont drink alcohol). Apparently it is normal since i am overweight. I weight 80kg and am 171 cm tall. Now in those 7 months i didnt do much. I didnt get fit honestly because of constant work. Now apparently, in order for fatty liver to cause bile issues or other scary things it takes more than 7 months. We are talking years, correct me if i am wrong.
I dont believe it is bile duct obstruction or anything like that because wouldnt i feel pain then?
I do not have any other symptoms like pain or skin/eye yellowing... Could these stools be related to fatty foods? Ik this isnt the first time it happened but health anxiety is a bitch

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2024.05.14 18:04 ScholarOk1692 Forever a misfit. 19f and I will never have a friend

We had univ ball today and it ended at 9. Everyone's gone out, while I have come back to the room, all by myself with no one to go to clubbing or dinner with. All my life I have been incredibly lonely and I'll forever be just lonely. I'll never have a friend circle or be happy life, it's so hard to not hate myself. I don't know why I end up like this, both in school and in college. I don't know what exactly is so fundamentally and intrinsically wrong with me. Sure I have few friends but I don't have anything solid or a friend circle. It's so hard to imagine next 4 years of my life like this. I hate myself so much, so so much. I am gonna get some alcohol and puke and drink myself to sleep because nothing better waits in life for me. I hate myself so so much. I don't know what is wrong with me. I'll never be happy and not lonely and I can't seem to accept it no matter how hard I try- when I have no one to drink with, no one to accompany me to a hospital or just no one to sit with. I hate myself so so much. I will never be not okay or not lonely. This is worst come to worst. Before this I would at least gonout with my ex-partner's friend circle. I have no one in my life and I'll never be okay. I am so so lonely, I hate living this life. So much. I hate myself and my life so freaking much. So so much. I'll never have a friend, never have anyone. i'll be crying and drinking myself to sleep. I hate this life so much. So much emptiness inside my chest. So much pain. So much emptiness.

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2024.05.14 18:03 Electronic_Value_995 Crippling anxiety 9 days after drinking

So for context, I've had on-and-off anxiety for years. From 2018-early 2021, my anxiety was immense. Basically caused me to be a hermit and gain over 100lbs. In 2021, though, things changed as I started Buspar and went strict keto. Literally after a few days my anxiety was completely gone. I literally felt reborn. This basically went on until 2 weeks ago.
Now, I know there have been some causes. I stopped taking the Buspar in 2022 as I simply didn't need it anymore and still felt amazing. The bad news is I started casually drinking. I stuck with only drinking on weekends (not every weekend) but Nov 2022 I discovered bourbon. I was drinking very little of this until summer of 2023 where I started having about 5-6 oz 3-4 times a week.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago. I went to ATL for a concert and had half a bottle of bourbon. That night I could not sleep at all but I also had some of the worst anxiety I've had in years. I ended up not sleeping for around 36 hours and it was hell. But after 3 days, my anxiety was pretty much gone and I was back to normal.
The next Sunday, I had been 7 days without alcohol which was my longest streak in almost 2 years. I decided to have about 8 beers that day. The next week was hell on earth. Anxiety so bad I almost just wanted to cry all day long. It was something I've never experienced. I could tell it was getting better throughout the week but never fully gone.
Yesterday (Monday) I felt great. Honestly I felt better than great because I was so motivated to cut out alcohol forever and get back to being healthy, basically no anxiety. But here we are Tuesday, 0 alcohol for 9 days and I'm incredibly anxious today. Pins and needles in my head, telling myself this is going to last forever, pure existential dread, etc.
Has anyone been through this? This is very new to me and I'm not sure what to do other than COMPLETELY remove alcohol and caffeine from my life. Any words of encouragement is very welcomed

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2024.05.14 18:02 ScholarOk1692 Forever a misfit, I have always been lonely and it will never change

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2024.05.14 17:58 Pussybones420 Is my doctor right that I need a catheter? Is not urinating for twelve hours truly an emergency?

TL;DR normally pee 20-40 times a day, can barely get anything out now. Have bladder wall thickening and bladder cyst consistent with urachal remnant.
Hi
25F 130lbs 5’10” no tobacco, MMJ user, Dx bladder partially cystic mural nodularity on the anterior midline, Dx 3mm kidney stone, history of cervical precancer (CIN 3), Rx’d cyclonenzaprine, oxycodone as needed, and protonix.
A few days ago I urinated between 30 and 40 times. This is pretty normal for me. I normally have trouble urinating for about 5-10 minutes and then a normal length (but weak) stream comes out, and I spend a while getting the last drops out. Maybe a 25 minute total bathroom visit at most. I spend a lot of time on the toilet.
Yesterday morning around 9am until noon I sat on the toilet without getting a single drop out, then managed to get out a small stream and took a nap because I’d been up all night feeling like my bladder is gonna burst. Throughout the day I had a few very short streams, and was drinking water (at least half a gallon, maybe more). I stopped peeing around 10 and laid flat in bed trying to take shallow breaths to not put pressure on my bladder and had a few more unsuccessful or two-drop visits to the toilet. Fell asleep around 5am and woke up at 7, continued to really struggle with pain and finally gave into a hydrocodone I had from a while back and that didn’t work. I had already tried pyridium at this point and given it a while, but it didn’t help. I gave the hydro two hours, still no relief and no urine. Finally caved to 5mg of oxycodone because I’m broke and can’t afford copays and desperate to get to work. That didn’t work either. Still only a couple drops or complete inability to urinate. It’s like my brain stopped talking to my bladder.
So I finally called my urologist office saying this isn’t normal for me to have this happen for this long and they were shocked as to why I wasn’t at the hospital with a catheter already. I feel fine other than my insane bladder pressure and sharp pain. My urologist is out of the office but previously told me only to present to the hospital if I test positive on a drugstore UTI test strip. I don’t have money for that so I can’t check. I have $0 to my name and I’m thousands in debt from only being able to work less than 50 days this year due to my bladder. Is the urology office right that this is an emergency and I need a catheter? Or could this just be from the bladder wall thickening?
Every time I go to the hospital they tell me they have no idea how to help me and have never seen bladder wall thickening like this before and the last doc who was the top ER doctor there literally said he’s never seen what I show on CT and I’m discharged within an hour and referred back to my urologist, so I have little hope of anything going right.
I have a cystoscopy scheduled next week. I really can’t wait it out with a higher dose of pain meds? I’m constantly treated like I’m overreacting when I go to the ER and I will be humiliated if it happens again.
Thank you soooo much if you read this far. Any advice appreciated.

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2024.05.14 17:48 water_elaborate 23M Bulgaria, looking for a weird one

Looking for a (weird?) wife, and I’m not sure if I’m supposed to have multiple wives or not I am saying this for your due consideration.
I have dark hair white skin, am underweight 5’6 with acne scars
NSFW questions in DMs bc Idk if its allowed to talk about on this sub. details in DMs for this reason unless i get confirmation that it's ok.
I have autism, OCD, ADHD, synesthesia and others (all self diganosed but i have obvious things idk if i should get into that)
I don’t mind piercings, I enjoy them, but someone is not more or less attractive for not having them. I don’t like gauges and some of those extreme circles and cuts. I don’t have any body modifications nor had planned to make any.
I don’t mind tattoos at any place either besides health concerns n I doint have any either.
I don’t like when ppl have big round lumps of flesh that stick out, I do mean big, small/medium maybe ok or even attractive
Need to find her attractive without make up – yes I do mean without make up and there are women who I find attractive without and I do mean without make up of any age. I don’t think I care if she wears make up or not, but I have concerns it’s toxic and the other one if I turn out to be hypersensitive or irritated by it because I am autistic.
I don’t care about race or ethnicity or nationality or anything or location.
I don’t mind how she decides to cut or dye her hair, besides that im concerned about toxins and damage, but I am not imposing on her.
I like appreciate and enjoy alternative fashion (and before it was cool), ive also liked fashion that some alt people have called “too basic" (which may partially be their own insecurity), i just like what looks good. There is fashion I find too basic and kind of anti fashion in that sense too maybe bc I feel like is what people who don’t want to be judged for being anything thats not basic would wear. I don’t like it when people are mean to others based on what they wear or other pointless hierarchical stuff like that.
I don’t recall ever saying “cover up” (regarding clothing), especially wouldnt say it in an imposing way I don’t like to talk in impositions that kill a person’s invidivuality or there’s smth like you know that feels like it kills you when someone commands you. I don’t like to impose on people in that way.
If she cheats, Im not gonna attack, physically emeotionally or otherwise abuse , im not looking to hurt someone I love (besides BDSM and that stuff you know). Men have been allowed to have many wives but wives only 1 husband. I didn’t become christian bc I wanted to opress or restrict women but I believe bad things happen when you sin.
Is reflective and tries to not mistreat others
body count? Isn’t it irrelevant if she’s the right one, I never cared if she’d be a virgin until I understood more about christianity and the spirit world.
I need to be properly emotionally supported, and I want and hope to be good in her life too. I can also have irrational emotions where ik now something is not so but I am procsesing those emotions a certain way you know.
I am interested in very dark and mature topics and things, even if there are times where I may not be able to handle them properly.
Ive been interested in esoterics, occult and c0n5p1r4c135 and I do believe the c0n5p1r4c135 are real and this is important to me.
I don’t care if she talks to others to men or has male friends, idk if I even carei if she’s flirting, there’s no intention to cheat so why would I care??
I can flirt with others too but I haven’t done it much out of concern of leading them on + it doesn’t by itself have any intentions to do anything further. i can be possessive but it will be in the cute way and it can be fun to tease or be teased like that maybe idk but i dont want ot be abusive posessive.
i have female friends she can have male friends that doesn't mean anything and i find the discussions regarding that ridiculous, maybe very low vibrational or of low conscience. i havent done anything with any of them ever except with 1 who is kinda like a relationship but there's painful and difficult topic and even then not physically tho we never met physically.
If its God’s will for her to be with me and she messes up then I will just forgive her. I don’t care to check her phone besides out of curiosity, I think all those games are very below me and maybe obviously should be below anyone who claims to be in a christian marriage, granted im careful regarding eating my words.
I have to eat mostly carnivore diet with vegetables, some fruits and carbs sometimes for my health, but I have nothing against vegans if they are actaully healthy, also I know a lot of ppl can not be healthy on a vegan diet based on long story also some even on the carnivore maybe, im open to sharing details at some point but maybe not worth it here.
ethically wild, I can handle dark humor, I have enjoyed it and used it a lot myself, im not legalistic christian (if you know what that is) but im still trying to be right than wrong so I want discernment on the issue and how to handle it, if smth is actually wrong then I will try to just not do it.
I don’t care if she shaves or not.
I don’t like it when ppl make the same kind of jokes or have the same locked in interests that don’t evolve or aren’t inherently somehow stimulating and genuine. For example ofc I understand enjoying the same food or listening to the same music (except ofc that can get old at some point). I understand what feels samey to a person can vary between people and across time, but I don’t think I mean that. If a bunch of ppl make the same kind of jokes and turn it into something hierarchical and baisc, like they think everything else is dumb cuz theyh aren’t open to perspectives, ideas, growth and improvement hence they fixate on doing the same thing thats too bland over and over.
A lot of ppl have very juvenile if thats even the right word mentality to look down on others for vapid reasons including interests, when you don’t even understand them. while ive had those intrusions I figured its wrong and foolish to just give into such a lowly hostile urge, whilst I understand being overwhelmed and misreacting/just getting mad at smth for no raeson but u can figure out u shouldn’t be mad or its not that deep.
Ive looked donw on ppl for thing I saw as them being lowly about it like getting high off of the same joke instead of improving ur brain cuz I think u can even feel like when u are stupidifying urself and ingoring improvements just to do the same thing over and over again, like u can prolly feel like smth inside telling u maybe u should look elsewhere now or this could be betteur losing cognition bc ur stupidifying urself. I understand again being overwhelmed and looking for some stability but I don’t think that susually it. Al ot of those ppl may be doing the same stupid things to be liked by others and t hus disingenuous to their real self, bc as soon as u start growing improving going in different directions ppl start getting weirded out and ostracizing u. I look down on that.
I don’t need her to shave. Idk if I wont find some body hair too extreme, but so far I haven’t
! respect boundaries. If one of us doesn’t want something or anyhthing at all be it months or years even that should be respected. This is for love first not exploitation. Not any exploitation from either side and look for each other’s well being.
I want to have her walk around the place flashing me, trying to tease me and show off her body in various and subtle ways. She can be naked too if she wants or wear anything she wants
I think how someone moves can be very attractive and also developed, this goes for me too
I want to learn to dance so we can have fun and I can arouse her
I think women have qualities and do things in a way I value, enjoy and admire
I think men and women have different patterns in positive and negative ways (with individual differences of course too) and analysing them and acknowledging them with honest attempt to understand is not wrong, while exploitation abuse and denial is wrong.
if im smarter than her I recognize she can have important and valuable things to say, similarly if she’s smarter than me she also doesn’t know everything and isn’t abusive about it
about money, I have wanted money to help myself and others, not out of greed I think.
I have thought of if I need or have to or if its better to to live in the right kind of community. Takes a village to raise a child but maybe even to function, maybe the people who function not in it are the abnormal ones. I don’t think of a cold community or one that forces warmth and makes you sick, there’s a kind of higher understanding or spirituality.
I don’t mind if she’s richer smarter or more competent than me. I however want to be richer smarter and more competent regarding improving myself and growing, not to feel less insecure than her, and of course I want those things so ican be able to support her and others too anyway.
I don’t mind if she’s a girlboss or not or whatever I think its irrelevant and If she has gifts and drive and doing God’s will why would that be bad? Of course I don’t want her to be stressed out
I don’t wear deodorant or fake odors, maybe if they were natural or non toxic. I also don’t like perfume and would prolly prefer if she doesn’t use it but idk.
I think children are a very serious matter, over time in my life I was thinking about how I’d do things differently and how I’d treat children and communicate and teach them, and I’d feel like I’d see how other ppl are failing children and also children are not attempting to learn how to treat their future children or other children or ppl better like it’s weird but I think someone is going to get what I mean. Bc of my physical and mental issues I am concerned how well I wil lbe able to take care of children of course I hope to improve and God to heal me.
I don’t want my weird movements adjustments or whatever to be judged.
I don’t mind pets or maybe even can enjoy them but again am a bit concerned about my health issues. I don’t have allergies to animals that I know of. I don’t like making their health worse I don’t like selective breeding for that reason unless you’re selecting for improving health maybe.
I am usually not afraid of bugs but I don’t like killing them. If its pests like bed bugs or some kind of infestation it can make sense, but I don’t like killing random harmless spiders or others. Maybe if harmful even I’d prefer to take them away. No im not afraid of bees or wasps esp if they are alone or very small numbers, tho I may prefer to not be around a hive.
emotionally sophisticated and doesn’t criticize my whining, while my whining isn’t attempting to get her attention, pull or control her. If I need some sort of emotional support I can ask and if she is able to provide it then she is, and if she has to prioritize something else I understand and I mean I genuinely understand. Emotional support should be mutual and not leeching. I understand it may not be completely equal or if its not possible to be, but we should both care as much as we can in our respective situations.
needs to care about her health, I don’t mean exercise and exercises can be damaging and forced too, thus again neesd to care to even know of that/unless she’s managing to be really fine anyway. I am not against smokers or alcoholics, but I’d prefer it if she stops. I want her to be happy and healthy.
If she’s over or underweight bc of health issues I understand
I don’t drive part related to health issues and concern it may be too dangerous for me to drive.
God first. I don’t believe anything works without him.
I won’t k1ll her if she cheats nor 4bus3 her. I am saying bc I thought some men hide things and reveal them after they are deep. I don’t want ot be like that.
Ive had emotional and rage issues about perceived injustices (towards me and others, even when im not lcose to them or don’t know them. I have thought and speculated maybe I care more with strong emotions about ppl that I’ve never met or are very far away than most people directly that I have observed and felt out of place for it.) and I know sometimes I wasn’t actually right other times I wanted to know what is the right thing to do say and experss cuz I had thoughts like if I hurt them they wont get better, they may even get worse, I don’t even enjoy hurting ppl especially in the brain or if its smth permanent (even if I believe God can heal, ive even had angry thoughts ofc like if He can heal why don’t I beat these wrong doers up cuz they have no qualms about doing it to others unfairly He can just heal them, I also thought if I had the right words and perception I could lead them away from their wicked ways) , and sometimes I wasn’t able to, ive physically hurt people out of being pushed too much and rage and with that I think I have let people off and not confronted them a lot in part bc I wasnt sure if I was even right to confront them other parts bc ofc of fear they will mistreat me if I reveal I think what they did or said was wrong instead of discussing it and thinking about it/ they already expressed they didn’t care or justified it in twisted ways that im not sure I could argue with or if thats even human.
I have to live and I think everyone in a spacious place. Too narrow will cause muscle issues and variety of issues that will worsen over time you are not sick becaues you are old you are sick because you ignroe and distort your body. I didn’t last long at all, some ppl last longer than me just to make excuses that im lazy + their brain melts and they don’t use it much anyway so superficially they last.
Im anti v4xx I think a lot of health info is a scam and ive experienced it and saw others experience it, I think some things can be true or not have better ways at a moment to deal with some issues but it doesn’t mean its not inherently flawed or manipulated information to make u a lil bit less sick or make u sick in a different veiled way even if it makes it “better” in some kind of way, I don’t mean its ok to let someone die or suffer more bc of too much skepticism, my point is I believe in honesty and integirty cuz u cant heal soemone with lies,
and medicine like other sciences is corrupted . be careful and discerning unfortunately u cant leave ur health in the hands of conventional doctors u have to research and fight for urself.
I have experienced various synchonicities. I think God has helped me and guided me.
Throw things away and tidy when we’re ready to. Tired or health issues is not the same as lazy. No tartorship or tyranny about it. Im not growing black mold either ofc
if a woman gets SA’d, and she doesn’t want to tell exactly what happenned, but she wants help, is it right for her to be upset at you and hide information, provided you live in the 20^th century without internet and much media information, and if you don’t have personal experiences with SA or almost anyone has ever talked about it to you in your life, and you are just confused at why this person is refusing to communicate, and u have to take care of this and that issue, yet u don’t know if they are mad at u even for something that’s not even your fault or related to you if that happens a lot, then then u pressure her too much and now she’s hurt, you didn’t even think to make the situation accessible bc u’ve never even heard about that. If someone has an issue and they don’t tell your previous experiences and imagination so far suggest that they have stolen smth or messed up smth and don’t want to talk out of selfishness, not even bc they are scared of you.
I think I have went through humiliation, and doing things I didn’t want to, and failure to do what I wanted and weakness, to the point of not being able to process things and I think losing braincells and personality bc of it, trying to recover it and my functioning and health. I think most ppl are too fake and superficial, not learning anything maybe. Not reflecting, not trying, if they have gone throuhg something like that I think some people amy be just letting themselves go insane and hurt others while in denial instead of processing it, while I understad how difficult is to process it especially when people around you shame you and oppress you for it. I think I need someone who has at least the cognitive understanding for that. I don’t want to put others down for enjoying things.
Ive liked variety of media and art over time, vareity of criticising it and ideas of improving it too, and lately after understanding more about the world and Jesus Christ some of it was interestingly seen in different light. Also over the years I may have seen media nad the world in different light. I have synesthesia autism, adhd and maybe some form of OCD, besides maybe others. I’ve beebn able to induce things in my mind and some information that seemed so obvious to me others had said they realized from psychedelics, you have probably already heard some people’s minds can work like that too. Well some of the media is ofc immature since it doesn’t align with christian principels that seem true after trying to understand more and and a lot of the media is for brainwashing
ive wanted to do art music dancing and others but have struggled with health issues that I hope to resolve. If she wants to do any I am generally worried about toxicity from paint so I wouldn’t use it and wouldn’t recommend using it.
Semi ex astrologer. Bc im not sure if its all considered divination since I’ve had synchonicities related to it that I’ve felt like or wondered if God sent them to me. I do think He communicates with us somehow in various ways.
I think its importan tto be able to explain to a child why something is or isnt a certain way, bc I felt alienated from a lot of christians who just seemed to “know” things and judge things as evil or whatever with no explanation and cringe when I ask for one. I als orealize it can be hard to talk about, both bc of the content, how traumatising can be to think about again and again from an adult’s perspective + being too busy or struggle too much, not able to expalin anyinthg and everything one thinks.
I have health issues that can make it hard to think or process emotions bc of maladjustment in my cranial bones related to the whole body and pinched nerves and wiring issues, that I hope to resolve , and may need miracle healing for some of the damage, this is also why i write this way in the state i am its difficult and straining to write and use the exact corrects words and format everything in perfect order
I don’t want to hold her back from God in any way.
I sought for spiritual answers if spirituality was real until I started figuring out more and then about witchcraft, but I observed patterns in my life regarding a sin I was commiting and other reasons that made me think that it can’t be a coincidence any more + someone claiming he stopped m4g1c p0rt4l by saying “Christ is King” (but I will say Jesus Christ) and that the bible was telling the truth. The bible had upset me before in part due to things taken out of context and difficulty understanding, and of course Jesus does things a bit differently than the old testament, even if the law is still important, He teaches forgiveness.
I care a lot about the gifts of the spirit and the presence of God in my life but also in everyone else’s.
I think awareness or pcoessing of emotional nuance and self control are attractive as well as being free spirited but not exploitative
I don’t smoke or drink or do drugs I don’t even take medicine nor intend to for the most part, I don’t judge anyone who does but I’d discourage them. If my wife does I’d discourage her, I wont pester her about it unless I get discernment that I should and that it will be helpful, but I won’t judge her and I never judged anyone who did, except when they were hypocrites. I have never ingested more than a small cup iirc, if even that from alcohol and only on occassions, and then barely on any occassions. I have never smoked a cig or a joint or anything besides 2^nd hand air. I stopped taking medication for illnesses years ago and I only took sweet drugs as a child bc they were sweet after being told not to.
I have however engaged in various parts and ways of PMO for various reasons
I think everything we have is given to us by God, or if we eorked for it opportunities or what was needed to achieve it was also given, so no one can be proud.
I have done weird things for health, personal amusement and other reasons includingi finding people who may relate and enjoy them but have been accused of attention seeking and I find that deeply repulsive because im sorry for trying to find people to connect with? I didn’t push things that others arent intersted in on them, I was jst trying to exist, some ppl don’t make the difference bc they have a really small world and don’t even think about others much and why they do what they do thus make the wrong assumtpions and attempt to harass and antagonize you. I find that very repulsive simultaneously ive known what other people’s intentions and results of actions and thoughts would be, and they would be confused and hostile towards me for acting like I know them, but I DID. And what I thought would happen happenned so I was just used and hurt and bc they are soo deep in to their own mess they don’t realize what they are doing wrong and a lot of the time don’t even remember that I said what would happen. Ive spent too much time and effort on ppl hoping they would change. I am not looking to be used up by a partner nonetheless. I don’t pretend to know everyhting or be perfecct but I think some ppl are so lost, esp after ive been also judged for my mistakes and not explained like I deserve respect so many times.
Narcissist abuse mention below line warning. Hoenstly you shouldn’te ven read it because I am concerned it may just upset you. I am posting it because I think its important to show that I am aware. Specifiaclly mentions narcissistic “whatever” podcast men who project it on the women.
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Ive had a habit over the years of engaging with media that infuriates me bc I overthink how to react in those situations bc I don’t understand how that in front of me can be a human being with a brain who cares about others and if I showed distress or anger I’d be judged and harassed for it again, despite them being harassers and controllers I nthe first place, and I am afraid of forgetting about it and walking into such situation and being unable to control it. For example the “whatever” podcast the narcissist men were saying in an imposing way how a woman only thinks for herslf bc she wanted to be aborted bc her mother didn’t have neough money to raise her. Obviously u need money to raise someone properly for various reasons, and if he himself odenst understand that a lot of ppl like that are controlling demanding and imposing, while bitter about the sacrifices their toxic environmetns forced them to make (or they made out of their own inferiority hopelessness and lack of faith) or weere actually spoiled, but bc of that they imposed themselves on other people bc I know such ppl and how they grow up and how they treat other children, and are “thankful for being alive”, but obviously don’t have enough empathy for someone who is emotionally intelligent and has struggled to not be exactly like them, bnc those ppl also harass and abuse minorities and vulnerable groups and I have storie about that dotn wanna get into, and they pretend they don’t know what im saying when I do. No I shouldn’t have to remember everything u did and ddi wrong with ur life to expali nto you how you are mistreating me and beg for you to stop. This is a narcissist. I don’t like abortion after understanding that it’s actually alive very early own and has a soul already I think or smth, but before I didn’t know that when I was more justifying it, but I can explain to someone, instead of abusing them into making them lose any ounce of respect for themselves, bc growing up in harsh environment can also often invite other people to mistreat you, even if not always the case.
Bc of ppl like that cotnrolling my own life Ive also had a lot of bitterness and thoughts of revenge and this is part realted to my health issues, and there’s evil that I don’t know if ppl do it just bc they don’t understand genuinely, bc its demons or bc they have to be done something actually important for. I knew better as a child than 30 something year old men, and I have all these issues and I am still better, how can they justify it now? So I have wanted discernment regarding what should be done about various issues. No I will not talk to you or bother you with the dark stuff over and over again I even try to avoid it or build self control bc it can make you go insane im just putting it here to show that I am at least aware and thoughtful of that.

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2024.05.14 17:46 majinv3g3ta Help with Homocysteine

Hey all, I am hetero c677t and suffer from panic and ocd. I tested my b12, folate, and homocysteine levels and they came back as: B12 671 pg/ml Folate 19.4 ng/ml Homocysteine 12.5 umol/L
I take a methylated b complex, fish oil, magnesium, trace minerals, d3 and k2 daily. I also add 10g of collagen peptides to my coffee in the morning for glycine. I am also on 100mg zoloft. My diet is extremely clean, I barely drink alcohol, maybe once a month, eat lean proteins, whole grains, kefir, greek yogurt, fruits, vegetables, healthy fats (evoo, nuts, alot of avocado), lots of fruits and vegetables, eggs a few days a week, and zero processed sugars, foods, sodas. I drink coconut water, electrolytes and water.
I take walks 1-2 times a day, do zone 2 cardio 3 days a week, zone 5 cardio 1 day a week, and light strength training 2 days a week.
Any idea why my folate is high, b12 in normal range but my homocysteine would be as high as it is? The methyl b-complex I take has 200mcg of methylfolate, 250mcg methyl b12, 25mg b6 p5p and 25mg riboflavin r5p. Ideally, I want to get it under 10, preferably 9. My D3 levels are 61.5 ng/ml. A1C and cholesterol both have no issues.
Most all people I see on here have LOW folate and/or B12...but why would my folate be high and b12 normal and still have homocysteine issues? Is the methylfolate not being absorbed?
Below is some info on my various SNPs:

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