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2024.05.15 10:15 LecLurc15 DAE do this?
Dx bipolar 1 bpd mdd gad ptsd, suspected autism and OCD
I have a mental health team and have been in and out of therapy, waiting on referral to a new therapist as my old one left the organization I accessed her form for a new job.
I have this issue where I do something akin to people pleasing when I have appointments with my psychiatrist, case manager, therapist. I will have many issues between sessions that I mean to discuss for help but when I’m in session I end up masking and forget what I wanted to talk about, or hold back in the fear of disappointing my care providers. It is really hard for me to properly assert what I need and not present as a pretending to be functional front. I am preparing for my next appointment with my psych next week and I’m going to make a list of my more pressing needs.
Does anyone have advice for combating this fear? I know it’s not rational, their entire job is to help me function better.
Part of the reason for this I think, aside from past abuse in my personal life, and my first psychiatrist when I was admitted into the psych ward had a strange relationship with me. He acted like I was his friend more than a mentally ill teen and would centre himself in the conversations, going off track to tell me tails about med school and how he worked on cadavers the first day which made him decide to become vegetarian. He also recommended me to get back in contact with an abuser cuz I had mentioned wanting closure which just made everything worse when I was released from that first stay.
I really want to get better at asserting my needs, I have learned a lot of coping skills in my time with decent therapy but I need to access the full extent of the help I can get.
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I have a mental health team and have been in and out of therapy, waiting on referral to a new therapist as my old one left the organization I accessed her form for a new job.
I have this issue where I do something akin to people pleasing when I have appointments with my psychiatrist, case manager, therapist. I will have many issues between sessions that I mean to discuss for help but when I’m in session I end up masking and forget what I wanted to talk about, or hold back in the fear of disappointing my care providers. It is really hard for me to properly assert what I need and not present as a pretending to be functional front. I am preparing for my next appointment with my psych next week and I’m going to make a list of my more pressing needs.
Does anyone have advice for combating this fear? I know it’s not rational, their entire job is to help me function better.
Part of the reason for this I think, aside from past abuse in my personal life, and my first psychiatrist when I was admitted into the psych ward had a strange relationship with me. He acted like I was his friend more than a mentally ill teen and would centre himself in the conversations, going off track to tell me tails about med school and how he worked on cadavers the first day which made him decide to become vegetarian. He also recommended me to get back in contact with an abuser cuz I had mentioned wanting closure which just made everything worse when I was released from that first stay.
I really want to get better at asserting my needs, I have learned a lot of coping skills in my time with decent therapy but I need to access the full extent of the help I can get.
2024.05.15 09:47 balancenetwork The Rollercoaster Ride of Crypto: Navigating the Ups and Downs
Let's have a real talk about the rollercoaster ride that is the world of cryptocurrency. We've all seen the headlines: jaw-dropping surges, heart-wrenching crashes, and everything in between. But behind the glamour and excitement, there's a side to crypto that doesn't always make it to the front page – the struggles.
So here's to the struggles, the triumphs, and everything in between – because in the end, it's all part of the wild ride that is crypto.
What struggles have you faced in your crypto journey? Let's share our stories and support each other through the ups and downs.
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- Volatility: The Double-Edged Sword We love crypto for its potential to bring financial freedom, but let's face it – the volatility can be brutal. One moment you're riding high on a wave of gains, and the next, you're staring at red numbers wondering what went wrong. It's a constant emotional battle, trying to stay level-headed amidst the wild price swings.
- Navigating the FOMO and FUD Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) and Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt (FUD) – two sides of the same coin that can wreak havoc on your investment strategy. It's tough to tune out the noise of hype and skepticism, especially when everyone seems to have a hot tip or a doomsday prediction. Finding a balance between staying informed and staying sane is no easy feat.
- Security Concerns: Protecting Your Assets With great power comes great responsibility – and in the world of crypto, that means safeguarding your assets against an ever-evolving landscape of threats. From hacking attacks to phishing scams, the risks are real, and staying one step ahead requires constant vigilance and tech-savviness.
- Regulatory Uncertainty Crypto operates in a regulatory gray area in many parts of the world, which can leave investors feeling like they're walking on thin ice. The lack of clear guidelines and the specter of government crackdowns loom large, adding another layer of uncertainty to an already volatile market.
- The Psychological Toll Let's not forget the toll that constant market fluctuations can take on our mental health. The stress, anxiety, and self-doubt that come with navigating the ups and downs of crypto can be overwhelming at times, leading to burnout and emotional exhaustion.
So here's to the struggles, the triumphs, and everything in between – because in the end, it's all part of the wild ride that is crypto.
What struggles have you faced in your crypto journey? Let's share our stories and support each other through the ups and downs.
2024.05.15 09:39 Piper-Jojo I really don't like the way my peers treat the teachers sometimes.
So, I go to a theatre group twice a week that is exclusively for children and young adults with special needs and disabilities. I (22F) am one such member of this group and go every Tuesday and Thursday evening for different types of sessions.
Tuesday's session is a sort of mental health social group type of thing where they talk about how they're feeling, and spend some time socialising and doing some team building activities. Last week was my first regular session in this class, but people were being very loud and unruly almost the entire time. Based on how the teachers were acting, this wasn't normal for this particular session, but it really wasn't a good first impression for me.
Yesterday was my second session, and the head teacher was observing after hearing about last week's chaos. They were going over their list of 20 rules, which basically boiled down to your usual stuff like being respectful and let someone know if you want to take time out. The last rule was "No bullying", heavily underlined, at which point some members said things to the effect of "But we can bully [teacher's name], right?" followed by laughter and some people saying they can bully the teachers in general.
It's entirely possible they were joking, but I really didn't like how they've been treating the teachers in that session and last week's. Last week, one member even said "We should take a trip to the old folk's home and leave you there, [teacher's name]!" Yeah, pretty childish stuff. Still, this class was mostly secondary school aged kids and older. People who should be more mature than that. Yes, I know it's a special needs group, but we aren't there to make fun of the people who are supposed to be helping us.
Still salty over last week, I mustered up the courage to get up in front of everyone and say "If I may be so bold, these guys go to the trouble of putting together these nice activities for you lot, and this is how you treat them!?"
Nobody had anything to say to that, and the head came up to me and said that was why she was there. I told my Dad about last night's session this morning, and he reckons I made a bunch of enemies from that action alone. While he agreed that I had a point, he knew there would be people who didn't think that way. He said I likely alienated myself.
But if that's how those people are going to behave, I don't see myself making friends with them. I joined the class to explore mental health and get opportunity to go to nice places I wouldn't normally be able to (this is something they do at the end of every month where the members vote on what fun thing they want to do next). I won't lie, it mainly felt like being in secondary school again, which wasn't a great time for me. I hardly got on well with anyone there.
I respect the teachers at this theatre group organising all these classes and giving us these wonderful opportunities we otherwise wouldn't have. They're the reason I've been cast in my first ever role in a stage show, and for that I am very grateful. It honestly feels like it's just me that cares in this way, but maybe I'm overthinking it? I know I tend to do that a fair bit.
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Tuesday's session is a sort of mental health social group type of thing where they talk about how they're feeling, and spend some time socialising and doing some team building activities. Last week was my first regular session in this class, but people were being very loud and unruly almost the entire time. Based on how the teachers were acting, this wasn't normal for this particular session, but it really wasn't a good first impression for me.
Yesterday was my second session, and the head teacher was observing after hearing about last week's chaos. They were going over their list of 20 rules, which basically boiled down to your usual stuff like being respectful and let someone know if you want to take time out. The last rule was "No bullying", heavily underlined, at which point some members said things to the effect of "But we can bully [teacher's name], right?" followed by laughter and some people saying they can bully the teachers in general.
It's entirely possible they were joking, but I really didn't like how they've been treating the teachers in that session and last week's. Last week, one member even said "We should take a trip to the old folk's home and leave you there, [teacher's name]!" Yeah, pretty childish stuff. Still, this class was mostly secondary school aged kids and older. People who should be more mature than that. Yes, I know it's a special needs group, but we aren't there to make fun of the people who are supposed to be helping us.
Still salty over last week, I mustered up the courage to get up in front of everyone and say "If I may be so bold, these guys go to the trouble of putting together these nice activities for you lot, and this is how you treat them!?"
Nobody had anything to say to that, and the head came up to me and said that was why she was there. I told my Dad about last night's session this morning, and he reckons I made a bunch of enemies from that action alone. While he agreed that I had a point, he knew there would be people who didn't think that way. He said I likely alienated myself.
But if that's how those people are going to behave, I don't see myself making friends with them. I joined the class to explore mental health and get opportunity to go to nice places I wouldn't normally be able to (this is something they do at the end of every month where the members vote on what fun thing they want to do next). I won't lie, it mainly felt like being in secondary school again, which wasn't a great time for me. I hardly got on well with anyone there.
I respect the teachers at this theatre group organising all these classes and giving us these wonderful opportunities we otherwise wouldn't have. They're the reason I've been cast in my first ever role in a stage show, and for that I am very grateful. It honestly feels like it's just me that cares in this way, but maybe I'm overthinking it? I know I tend to do that a fair bit.
2024.05.15 09:38 Ishika2337 10 Movies That Can Make Even A Man Cry Like A Toddler!
 | One can be moved to tears by a lot of movies. But, men are they also determined, strong-bodied and having a firmness of heart? Or are they just more likely to hide their feelings because the society still feels uncomfortable when it comes to “a crying man”? Nonetheless, despite the fact that these ‘macho’ men have been schooled on how to be guarded even though their eyes may get glossy with tears- there exist some films that could stir up strong emotions in them! That is why I present you with 10 such movies that can make a grown man cry like a baby! It is upon you now ladies to gather all the males in your house and let us know which one of them couldn’t hold back his tears. submitted by Ishika2337 to u/Ishika2337 [link] [comments] 1. Pursuit of Happyness https://preview.redd.it/4mqp27crlj0d1.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=4e220159f165669870fe156851db07e2f51bc99a A family drama about a businessperson who loses everything he has invested in and takes an unpaid internship at a brokerage firm. The wife leaves him with his young son. This movie shows what real feelings people experience as fathers, husbands or simply human beings. Will Smith’s Chris carries himself throughout his misfortunes while always remaining positive towards his son; one scene shows father and son spending night in a toilet together – this is enough for any tough guy who never cries to melt down like an ice cream cone. 2. Saving Private Ryan https://preview.redd.it/hjvx6rlvlj0d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=7eb1746eef3289271b20a89f851080f5d5d98932 This war action film made in 1998 features John Miller, an army captain assigned during the World War II to look for Private James Ryan whose three brothers died fighting earlier on. Out of those 8 soldiers sent for search mission – only two returned alive. Meanwhile Ryan was already safe and sound back home. One of the most heartbreaking scenes in this movie is when older Ryan visits Miller’s tombstone and thanks his wife. 3. Armageddon https://preview.redd.it/9zquzi54mj0d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=ccd2da7f4fc48b27c11a07d789b41eef928db5fd An action-adventure science fiction film starring Bruce Willis as Harry Stamper, an oil driller contacted by NASA team seeking assistance regarding saving the planet from an oncoming asteroid. Although many of his crew members successfully return home after the end of their mission, Harry comes to terms with the fact that he may not survive and sends his love a final message that will prick a man’s heart. Read More: The Wrath Of Becky 4. Old Yeller https://preview.redd.it/dfro9ag8mj0d1.png?width=1200&format=png&auto=webp&s=2c2659e40d6d8ba3d04d5668228a67aadfa98862 It is a 1957 American Western adventure movie about a young boy who dislikes a stray dog referred to as Old Yeller, but upon saving his junior brother from bear attack- he changes his mind and decide to take care of it. Unfortunately, after some days full of joyfulness- they later find out that Yeller had been bitten by a rabid wolf when he was saving them. So now this boy has to kill his dog before it goes mad. The last scene where he kills Old Yeller can make any stout-hearted man cry like little child! 5. Gladiator https://preview.redd.it/82anw0pfmj0d1.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=5416ebd8740b180f9aeba8093247f1de6e9fd166 Gladiator is an action adventure movie released in the year 2000 that shows a man who fights off his captors, rises from slavery and becomes a gladiator in order to avenge his family’s death. As an action film it makes you like Maximus, so by the end of this film when he is lying on his deathbed there is no way you won’t cry for losing such a good person even if it is just in the movie! 6. 50/50 https://preview.redd.it/jiaytyermj0d1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=357ac804b20d2fbf67285bc61a5d080823f08a40 It was released as a rom-com in 2011. A radio journalist suddenly gets diagnosed with immobile cancer. Instead of going back into the rat race- he decides to live. It is through fighting against this illness that he meets love and friendship’s true meaning. 7. Field of Dreams https://preview.redd.it/mr4jxzptmj0d1.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=750018029afa549b5717ad69616379d92ceb66bc There was a sporting fantasy movie made in 1989 about an Iowa farmer baseball player who sees dreams, visions, and even hears voices telling him to build a baseball field in his backyard. Furthermore, there are dreams where he visualizes himself holding what appears like diamond ball begging him to construct the field immediately! The reality of life that one has to face to live through life can be told by this story which will make you sad from the beginning till the end. 8. Toy Story 3 https://preview.redd.it/h6y8tcywmj0d1.png?width=828&format=png&auto=webp&s=a162ee4ba49d7ec1a8e4d2ef1f6e1df4aa991445 Woody and other toys appear in this animation movie series. In this third episode, Woody convinces other playthings that they were not abandoned by Andy but rather they should go back home together since he promised them so. However, things do not always turn out as we want them too-even for toys because even their lives come to an end at some point . The fans of these franchises aren’t heartbroken alone when they see Toys being fed towards an incinerator; every single one of us feels devastated by such scenes. The film illustrates that regardless of how happy our lives may be- we must all say goodbye someday. 9. Good Will Hunting https://preview.redd.it/sxizsge2nj0d1.png?width=705&format=png&auto=webp&s=23c0c92bbfb2b190ec0338678a929daba52a5f4b It’s a romantic drama film made in 1997 and starring Matt Damon and Ben Affleck. The story is about this math prodigy who is dealing with severe emotional and mental health issues, so he seeks the help of psychologist Dr Sean Maguireto recover to his happy mathematical solving self. We all have our daily fights and we carry guilt, sadness, and anger from one day to another. But here when Dr Sean makes him understand that it wasn’t his fault and he doesn’t need to carry some baggage anymore- Will breaks into tears- this is the most touching scene you will ever see because it’s impossible to keep a straight face. 10. Warrior https://preview.redd.it/09obx2m6nj0d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=ffd8494d1e0f520c5858f04c9f98f14638908a58 Warrior is a sports action movie that was released in 2011 whereby an ex-marine Tommy returns from his mission asking his father to train him for a mixed martial arts tournament. Everything else would be fine if not for one thing: he has to fight against his own brother. This motion picture contains the deepest possible sibling rivalry that hardly any other flick manages to convey as convincingly as “Warrior” does; it has the power to shatter hearts of those who’ve been through these situations in their lives. When are all the men in your household going to have a ‘cry-your-eyes-out party’ now that you have a big assortment of movies that would even make a grown man cry? |
2024.05.15 09:35 waycoolerbeans My general practitioner put me on a waiting list instead of evaluating me directly, should I still wait out the waiting period?
Hello, before I start explaining my situation, i’d like to say that i’m from quebec canada, and i only found out a few days ago that apparently, in my country, GPs are allowed to give hrt prescriptions without going through a third party clinic.
So yeah, im 21, about 13 months ago my Family doctor (that’s what we call GPs here) told me i had to get an evaluation from a mental health specialist before i can start even getting in line for hormone therapy. And so i did: i looked for a few weeks and i finally went to see a professional and we talked it out, and i was given a letter to send to my doc, which i gave him. Then, a few more weeks later, i get a call from my doctor and he says im on a waiting list, and ill get a letter in the mail with all the details on it. The letter, as i mentionned in the title, said i am a priority level E patient, meaning i can wait up to 12 months before getting an appointment scheduled.
This was both disheartening and exciting at the same time, because although things were moving forward, it was at a very slow speed… but i waited. I waited the whole time expecting a message any day, thinking maybe id be lucky and theyd get through the list fast enough to schedule lower priority patients, but obviously i was being a bit too optimistic.
So now it’s been almost a year, and one of my online friends from the US told me and our friend group she finally started hrt herself, which is super awesome, but it also only took her about a month of waiting. So reasonably, i got concerned about the path i was on currently, and i looked into how long on average it takes to get hrt (i had checked tis before this whole year of waiting, but i guess i wasnt thorough enough). I found a reddit post (i think on this very subreddit?) where someome said they just went thriugh their GP to get het instead of waiting 1-3 years for a clinic to schedule them an appointment.
So apparently that’s an option??? Why have i been sitting here for almost 12 months if my doc can just, schedule me an appoitment and prescribe me the medication himself? Am i not understanding things right? Should i keep on the current path im on, or should i ask my doc for the faster option, despite being theoretically 2-3 weeks away from my 12 month wait ending? I have no clue how long ill still have to wait after this appointment gets scheduled… I know this is a lot, but i need guidance…
TL;DR: in canada, can i ask my GP to directly prescribe me hrt medication without going through a clinic, and should i stop waiting for that third party clinic even though im only a month away from the deadline?
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So yeah, im 21, about 13 months ago my Family doctor (that’s what we call GPs here) told me i had to get an evaluation from a mental health specialist before i can start even getting in line for hormone therapy. And so i did: i looked for a few weeks and i finally went to see a professional and we talked it out, and i was given a letter to send to my doc, which i gave him. Then, a few more weeks later, i get a call from my doctor and he says im on a waiting list, and ill get a letter in the mail with all the details on it. The letter, as i mentionned in the title, said i am a priority level E patient, meaning i can wait up to 12 months before getting an appointment scheduled.
This was both disheartening and exciting at the same time, because although things were moving forward, it was at a very slow speed… but i waited. I waited the whole time expecting a message any day, thinking maybe id be lucky and theyd get through the list fast enough to schedule lower priority patients, but obviously i was being a bit too optimistic.
So now it’s been almost a year, and one of my online friends from the US told me and our friend group she finally started hrt herself, which is super awesome, but it also only took her about a month of waiting. So reasonably, i got concerned about the path i was on currently, and i looked into how long on average it takes to get hrt (i had checked tis before this whole year of waiting, but i guess i wasnt thorough enough). I found a reddit post (i think on this very subreddit?) where someome said they just went thriugh their GP to get het instead of waiting 1-3 years for a clinic to schedule them an appointment.
So apparently that’s an option??? Why have i been sitting here for almost 12 months if my doc can just, schedule me an appoitment and prescribe me the medication himself? Am i not understanding things right? Should i keep on the current path im on, or should i ask my doc for the faster option, despite being theoretically 2-3 weeks away from my 12 month wait ending? I have no clue how long ill still have to wait after this appointment gets scheduled… I know this is a lot, but i need guidance…
TL;DR: in canada, can i ask my GP to directly prescribe me hrt medication without going through a clinic, and should i stop waiting for that third party clinic even though im only a month away from the deadline?
2024.05.15 09:24 ReUseless AITAH for seeking support outside of my relationship?
For context: I don't do well with death. I never know what to say or do.
My wife lost her mom in 2022 and was having a rough time with Mother's Day, understandably. I was walking on eggshells not knowing how to even exist. She'd made a comment about me having my mom and it was like she was angry that I still have my mother. I didn't know what to say or do so I joined a grief support subreddit to try and better understand the grief she's experiencing. It was helpful in understanding in how grief affects people, and experiences it differently.
During a text convo about how she was feeling I sent her the link to the subreddit and told her I'd been reading thru trying to understand what she was going thru so I could better support her. I also sent her a link I found to a grief support group. She said thank you. This was on Saturday.
I am also struggling with my own mental health and have been attending support groups and talking to other's to try and keep my own head above water and not burden her. Also (regardless of topic), whenever I try to speak to her about how I am feeling it's immediately turned into how she feels, her trauma and what she's going thru and ends up in an argument. This is with most topics that I bring up. Immediately turns into what she's feeling, her trauma and whatever she has going on and I'm always made to feel I did something wrong when I'm just trying. I believe she feels her trauma and experiences overall are "more" than mine. I've told her it's not a competition but I'm also struggling. I also have childhood and adult trama. I've also been the repeated victim of SA. Huge difference is that I haven't lost my mother and I understand this.
Today I made myself a reminder note to just stay quiet to avoid arguing. She'd seen this note but was now upset because I wasn't talking. Since she was visibly upset at my lack of communication so tried to talk to her. Big mistake, I knew better. When I did try to speak to her the same thing happened. Everything was turned around to what she's going thru and how I'm the AH for not dealing properly. In regards to Mother's Day she is mad that I was on Reddit and sent her a couple of links. That was apparently thoughtless and mean. My intentions were genuine, to try to understand. Now she is mad the I went to Reddit instead of listening to her. I did listen to her, I just had trouble truly understanding the anger behind it. It was helpful to see how grief affects ppl and helped me understand what she was/is going thru. She is upset that I seek help and support outside of the relationship when I should just listen to her. It feels like everything I do is wrong, even when I have the best intentions.
I'd made myself a note today to just stay quiet because it's only turned back to her, her feelings, her trauma and how terrible of a person I am for acting how she needs me to. Although I always ask her what can I do to support her or what does she need, the response is always idk.
I know it was absolutely stupid for me to open my mouth to verbalize what I was feeling. I made myself the note to stay quiet and I went against it. I knew better and did it anyway. Insanity. I know I was wrong, I knew better.
AITAH for seeking help thru Reddit, support groups, etc? Seems everything I do is just wrong no matter what I try. She did ask me to ask my support group if showing her the links was the right thing to do because to her it was something horrible I did. My support groups aren't available at this time so I thought I'd reach out here. Appreciate any responses. If I was/am wrong I have no problem acknowledging it and trying to do better. Ty for your time in reading this. Responses greatly appreciated
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My wife lost her mom in 2022 and was having a rough time with Mother's Day, understandably. I was walking on eggshells not knowing how to even exist. She'd made a comment about me having my mom and it was like she was angry that I still have my mother. I didn't know what to say or do so I joined a grief support subreddit to try and better understand the grief she's experiencing. It was helpful in understanding in how grief affects people, and experiences it differently.
During a text convo about how she was feeling I sent her the link to the subreddit and told her I'd been reading thru trying to understand what she was going thru so I could better support her. I also sent her a link I found to a grief support group. She said thank you. This was on Saturday.
I am also struggling with my own mental health and have been attending support groups and talking to other's to try and keep my own head above water and not burden her. Also (regardless of topic), whenever I try to speak to her about how I am feeling it's immediately turned into how she feels, her trauma and what she's going thru and ends up in an argument. This is with most topics that I bring up. Immediately turns into what she's feeling, her trauma and whatever she has going on and I'm always made to feel I did something wrong when I'm just trying. I believe she feels her trauma and experiences overall are "more" than mine. I've told her it's not a competition but I'm also struggling. I also have childhood and adult trama. I've also been the repeated victim of SA. Huge difference is that I haven't lost my mother and I understand this.
Today I made myself a reminder note to just stay quiet to avoid arguing. She'd seen this note but was now upset because I wasn't talking. Since she was visibly upset at my lack of communication so tried to talk to her. Big mistake, I knew better. When I did try to speak to her the same thing happened. Everything was turned around to what she's going thru and how I'm the AH for not dealing properly. In regards to Mother's Day she is mad that I was on Reddit and sent her a couple of links. That was apparently thoughtless and mean. My intentions were genuine, to try to understand. Now she is mad the I went to Reddit instead of listening to her. I did listen to her, I just had trouble truly understanding the anger behind it. It was helpful to see how grief affects ppl and helped me understand what she was/is going thru. She is upset that I seek help and support outside of the relationship when I should just listen to her. It feels like everything I do is wrong, even when I have the best intentions.
I'd made myself a note today to just stay quiet because it's only turned back to her, her feelings, her trauma and how terrible of a person I am for acting how she needs me to. Although I always ask her what can I do to support her or what does she need, the response is always idk.
I know it was absolutely stupid for me to open my mouth to verbalize what I was feeling. I made myself the note to stay quiet and I went against it. I knew better and did it anyway. Insanity. I know I was wrong, I knew better.
AITAH for seeking help thru Reddit, support groups, etc? Seems everything I do is just wrong no matter what I try. She did ask me to ask my support group if showing her the links was the right thing to do because to her it was something horrible I did. My support groups aren't available at this time so I thought I'd reach out here. Appreciate any responses. If I was/am wrong I have no problem acknowledging it and trying to do better. Ty for your time in reading this. Responses greatly appreciated
2024.05.15 08:28 exsapphi Labour Describes National's Suicide Prevention Office as a "Clayton's Office"
“Minister for Mental Health Matt Doocey scrambled together some big promises to fix the muddle that was made of the Suicide Prevention Office, but has failed to secure any full time employees to do the work that the office is set up to do,” Ingrid Leary said
“On the one hand the Minister has said the Suicide Prevention Office will stay open and on the other hand there will be no staff at all working full time on preventing suicide. Sadly, this looks like a Clayton’s office — an office that exists in name only, so the Minister can save face after closure announcements were bungled at the Beehive.
“Not only does the Minister not have the influence required to maintain focus on suicide prevention, Police assistance with mental health 111 call outs are also about to slip through his fingers according to indications this week from the Minister of Police.
“We were expecting a Cabinet report in March on the progress this co-response model, but apparently it is missing in action, which speaks volumes about this Government’s priorities.
“So far, Dooey’s solutions appear to suggest text messaging and Telehealth referrals for mental health calls and that’s woefully inadequate when someone could be about to harm themselves or others.
“Labour worked hard towards integrating mental health treatment and support to our public health system. National should be committing to continuing the Access and Choice programme which has delivered over one million support sessions to the public, rather than cutting front line services.
“Just last week we saw a proposed cut to ACC’s Prevention of Sexual Violence programme. Minister Doocey has also shown no concern that the Family and Sexual Violence work of the previous government is being diminished — yet the evidence shows very strong links between preventing family harm and preventing suicide, especially for women.
“Matt Doocey is a Minister for Mental Health who might mean well but he clearly doesn’t understand the links of the issues and has no influence when it comes to prioritising funding and resources for what is recognised as a crisis in New Zealand,” Ingrid Leary said.
From Scoop
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“On the one hand the Minister has said the Suicide Prevention Office will stay open and on the other hand there will be no staff at all working full time on preventing suicide. Sadly, this looks like a Clayton’s office — an office that exists in name only, so the Minister can save face after closure announcements were bungled at the Beehive.
“Not only does the Minister not have the influence required to maintain focus on suicide prevention, Police assistance with mental health 111 call outs are also about to slip through his fingers according to indications this week from the Minister of Police.
“We were expecting a Cabinet report in March on the progress this co-response model, but apparently it is missing in action, which speaks volumes about this Government’s priorities.
“So far, Dooey’s solutions appear to suggest text messaging and Telehealth referrals for mental health calls and that’s woefully inadequate when someone could be about to harm themselves or others.
“Labour worked hard towards integrating mental health treatment and support to our public health system. National should be committing to continuing the Access and Choice programme which has delivered over one million support sessions to the public, rather than cutting front line services.
“Just last week we saw a proposed cut to ACC’s Prevention of Sexual Violence programme. Minister Doocey has also shown no concern that the Family and Sexual Violence work of the previous government is being diminished — yet the evidence shows very strong links between preventing family harm and preventing suicide, especially for women.
“Matt Doocey is a Minister for Mental Health who might mean well but he clearly doesn’t understand the links of the issues and has no influence when it comes to prioritising funding and resources for what is recognised as a crisis in New Zealand,” Ingrid Leary said.
From Scoop
2024.05.15 08:26 honeycolorkook Mental health decline is giving me chest pains, a high bpm rest rate and I'm growing more Grey hair than normal. Help??
Hello again, you might've seen my post a while ago about a really bad ear infection I had. I went back to the doctor and it's slowly clearing up thank god, but now I'm starting to see signs of a more serious health problem that could've possibly played a role in me getting a really bad ear infection out of no where.
I (f21) have struggled with mental illness my entire life. I'm not gonna type out my whole sob story, but to keep it short and sweet I have bipolar 1, OCD, BPD, an ED, and just overall very very bad anxiety. This is all written in my chart and every doctor I go to knows this. With that being said my OCD and ED have been rearing thier ugly heads for the past week making me very anxious and miserable, to the point that it's making my insomnia worse from worrying and so much other stuff.
I've been losing weight pretty rapidly because I simply refuse to eat when I feel this way as a sense of control I do not possess right now and my OCD has been giving me disturbing and downright terrifying intrusive thoughts (like that I'm going to die of a heart attack or that my newfound ear infection is going to spread to my brain and kill me; as well as more harm ocd thoughts like me getting near any high surface and my brain screaming at me to jump off or to simply just self-harm again to stop the thoughts completely.)
I've been so stressed out because of my mental health that I've been noticing more than just a random stray hair that is kinda grey every once and a while to seeing multiple fully grown out bright white strands (which isn't normal in the slightest for me) and I have my samsung smart watch that I use to track my heart rate and it will tell me when something seems off and I have been getting constant alerts that even if I'm simply sitting and trying to relax my resting BPM are at a shocking 121 (which also isn't normal for me in the slightest), I'm a bigger girl, but my blood work has always been normal and I never once had anyone tell me that I am unhealthy once they see my most recent panel that I got 1 month ago. So all of these things that have been happening over these past few weeks have been worrying me tremendously.
My chest has been feeling tight and aching which shouldn't be happening to a 21 year old that has no heart conditions and I've generally just been feeling spent and tired over the course of this (my depression has gotten worse which plays a heavy role in this as well) my body has been feeling feverish with no actual fever, I've had some light tremors, I've been extremely fatigued and my gut health has been not so great as well (having diarrhea every day, multiple times a day, for almost 20-30 minutes each session).
I've been brushing this off until I just broke down today (I've been crying nonstop for about 3 hours straight now) and now I can't even get out of bed. I feel like my body gave me an ear infection to actually make me slow down and take care of myself, which I'm grateful for, but also very annoyed by.
My question is will and should I grow more concerned if these symptoms persist and are they more serious than I think? Thanks for the replies in advance!
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I (f21) have struggled with mental illness my entire life. I'm not gonna type out my whole sob story, but to keep it short and sweet I have bipolar 1, OCD, BPD, an ED, and just overall very very bad anxiety. This is all written in my chart and every doctor I go to knows this. With that being said my OCD and ED have been rearing thier ugly heads for the past week making me very anxious and miserable, to the point that it's making my insomnia worse from worrying and so much other stuff.
I've been losing weight pretty rapidly because I simply refuse to eat when I feel this way as a sense of control I do not possess right now and my OCD has been giving me disturbing and downright terrifying intrusive thoughts (like that I'm going to die of a heart attack or that my newfound ear infection is going to spread to my brain and kill me; as well as more harm ocd thoughts like me getting near any high surface and my brain screaming at me to jump off or to simply just self-harm again to stop the thoughts completely.)
I've been so stressed out because of my mental health that I've been noticing more than just a random stray hair that is kinda grey every once and a while to seeing multiple fully grown out bright white strands (which isn't normal in the slightest for me) and I have my samsung smart watch that I use to track my heart rate and it will tell me when something seems off and I have been getting constant alerts that even if I'm simply sitting and trying to relax my resting BPM are at a shocking 121 (which also isn't normal for me in the slightest), I'm a bigger girl, but my blood work has always been normal and I never once had anyone tell me that I am unhealthy once they see my most recent panel that I got 1 month ago. So all of these things that have been happening over these past few weeks have been worrying me tremendously.
My chest has been feeling tight and aching which shouldn't be happening to a 21 year old that has no heart conditions and I've generally just been feeling spent and tired over the course of this (my depression has gotten worse which plays a heavy role in this as well) my body has been feeling feverish with no actual fever, I've had some light tremors, I've been extremely fatigued and my gut health has been not so great as well (having diarrhea every day, multiple times a day, for almost 20-30 minutes each session).
I've been brushing this off until I just broke down today (I've been crying nonstop for about 3 hours straight now) and now I can't even get out of bed. I feel like my body gave me an ear infection to actually make me slow down and take care of myself, which I'm grateful for, but also very annoyed by.
My question is will and should I grow more concerned if these symptoms persist and are they more serious than I think? Thanks for the replies in advance!
2024.05.15 08:04 Ace_Wellness_ Why a bride-to-be must opt for Colan cleansing, Panchakarma???
 | https://preview.redd.it/kkhvxlhq6j0d1.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=44d920f374feff9d429338a615cf6c420a2fac93 submitted by Ace_Wellness_ to u/Ace_Wellness_ [link] [comments] Congratulations to all you lovely brides to be!!!!!! The countdown for your special day is on and we are sure you are undoubtedly excited about being the star of the show. As you are preparing for your grand day, there is a secret weapon that can help you radiate confidence, health, and beauty! Introducing you to Colonic cleansing Panchakarma, a detoxification process that will leave you feeling rejuvenated, refreshed, and ready to conquer the world (or at least the dance floor) on your big day. - Unveiling your Inner Glow: Imagine your skin looking as radiant as your happiness on your wedding day. Colonic cleansing Panchakarma can help you achieve just that! This ancient Ayurvedic therapy helps you eliminate toxins, which in turn can give your skin that coveted bridal glow. So, you will be ready to dazzle not just with your dress but also with your natural radiance. - Bidding Adieu to those Pre-Wedding Jitters: Planning a wedding as you all must have understood by now can be thrilling but at the same time be a stress canal. Panchakarma acts like a much-needed stress buster, helping you bid adieu to those pre-wedding jitters. As you relax during the cleansing process, your mind and body will thank you, allowing you to approach your big day with a calm and collected demeanor. Who knew detoxing could be such a mental spa day? - Dance Floor Diva: Let’s talk about the dance floor- your domain to dance and show off all those dance moves you have spent a crazy amount of time perfecting. Panchakarma can give you an energy level boost, letting you dance the night away without feeling like a wilted flower. After all, brides got to have the stamina to keep up with all those thumkas. - Bloated No More: We have all heard the horror stories of brides feeling bloated on their wedding day. Well, fear not! Colonic cleansing can help you kick those bloating blues to the curb. BY flushing out excess waste and promoting healthy digestion, you will be walking towards your mandap with a lightness in your step and stomach. No need to worry about feeling like a balloon on your wedding day. - A Zen Zen of Zone: Panchakarma is not just about its physical benefits; it is also a chance to achieve that inner Zen. Picture yourself being pampered with therapeutic massages, soothing herbal treatments, and gentle yoga sessions. It is like an intentional spa day, to ensure you are both physically and mentally prepared to take on the excitement of your special day. So all you people on the journey to self-love before committing to your partners, consider giving yourself the gift of Colonic Cleansing Panchakarma as you gear up for your grand affair. This holistic approach to detoxification can help you look and feel your best giving you the confidence of the star of the show you are. As you embark on this journey of commitment and partnership, remember a little self-care and pampering can go a long way in making your special day unforgettable. Here’s to a radiant, relaxed, and absolutely remarkable wedding day. Cheers! |
2024.05.15 07:24 Ok-Dig3431 Another let's bump off certain sections of society.
Futurascope · Yesterday 22:04
Possibly controversial…,
https://www.itv.com/news/2024-05-14/one-in-three-councils-not-confident-they-can-provide-basic-adult-social-care
“The fears about meeting the legal requirements come despite eight out of 10 councils forecasting having to cut spending on other community services such as parks, libraries and leisure centres to try to protect funding”.
So - libraries, leisure centres, parks, all vital for young children, families and others - being closed because the elderly desperately need social care.
As awful as it is for us all individually to lose somebody that we love….. is curing every disease, and having us all live to 100 really a good thing if it is at the expense of quality of life for the rest of society?
To think that people living longer is making quality of life for everyone worse? Mumsnet
fromthegecko · Today 00:17
More than half the social care budget is spent on working age adults, many of whom are in employment. That is, 18-65 year-olds with disabilities or illnesses that mean they need help to live normally. This includes people with time-limited diseases like cancer. The medical treatment is free, but if the disease and the treatment leave you frail and needing care for a while, any state provision is strictly means tested (apart from PIP).
By contrast, only one in twenty elderly people need residential care for a significant length of time, and this age group is more likely to have the means to pay for it.
NHS spending on an individual is largely concentrated in the last year of life, whether they die young or old.
And the increase in life expectancy over the last fifty years is down to inter alia fewer neonatal deaths, vaccinations, and improvements in treating cancers and cardiovascular disease. Yes there are more centenarians. But that's not because old people live to be even older. It's because more people survive the perils of childhood and middle age and so get the chance to live out their natural lifespan.
So it's complicated. But my own hunch is that better medical care (and accident prevention/sanitation/nutrition/whatever) should lead to a lower care burden, not higher.
BruFord · Today 00:20
My question was whether the advancements in medicine have contributed to the decline. If we continue the trajectory, I don’t know how society supports itself in generations to come.
I suppose you could argue that advancements in medicine mean that people who need support do survive nowadays and use up resources, but that’s not confined to the elderly. A quick Google tells me that in 1920, the child mortality rate for under- 5’s was 141.8 per 1,000. In 2020, it was 4 per thousand.
Back then, if you weren’t fairly healthy, you didn’t make it, and not much was done for you if you did survive with underlying conditions, certainly not if you had poor mental health, for example.
But surely we don’t want to go back to those days? Should we withdraw medical treatment? How do we determine who’s worth saving and who isn’t?
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Possibly controversial…,
https://www.itv.com/news/2024-05-14/one-in-three-councils-not-confident-they-can-provide-basic-adult-social-care
“The fears about meeting the legal requirements come despite eight out of 10 councils forecasting having to cut spending on other community services such as parks, libraries and leisure centres to try to protect funding”.
So - libraries, leisure centres, parks, all vital for young children, families and others - being closed because the elderly desperately need social care.
As awful as it is for us all individually to lose somebody that we love….. is curing every disease, and having us all live to 100 really a good thing if it is at the expense of quality of life for the rest of society?
To think that people living longer is making quality of life for everyone worse? Mumsnet
fromthegecko · Today 00:17
More than half the social care budget is spent on working age adults, many of whom are in employment. That is, 18-65 year-olds with disabilities or illnesses that mean they need help to live normally. This includes people with time-limited diseases like cancer. The medical treatment is free, but if the disease and the treatment leave you frail and needing care for a while, any state provision is strictly means tested (apart from PIP).
By contrast, only one in twenty elderly people need residential care for a significant length of time, and this age group is more likely to have the means to pay for it.
NHS spending on an individual is largely concentrated in the last year of life, whether they die young or old.
And the increase in life expectancy over the last fifty years is down to inter alia fewer neonatal deaths, vaccinations, and improvements in treating cancers and cardiovascular disease. Yes there are more centenarians. But that's not because old people live to be even older. It's because more people survive the perils of childhood and middle age and so get the chance to live out their natural lifespan.
So it's complicated. But my own hunch is that better medical care (and accident prevention/sanitation/nutrition/whatever) should lead to a lower care burden, not higher.
BruFord · Today 00:20
My question was whether the advancements in medicine have contributed to the decline. If we continue the trajectory, I don’t know how society supports itself in generations to come.
I suppose you could argue that advancements in medicine mean that people who need support do survive nowadays and use up resources, but that’s not confined to the elderly. A quick Google tells me that in 1920, the child mortality rate for under- 5’s was 141.8 per 1,000. In 2020, it was 4 per thousand.
Back then, if you weren’t fairly healthy, you didn’t make it, and not much was done for you if you did survive with underlying conditions, certainly not if you had poor mental health, for example.
But surely we don’t want to go back to those days? Should we withdraw medical treatment? How do we determine who’s worth saving and who isn’t?
2024.05.15 07:17 Worldly-Walrus-23 Am I in the wrong?
TLDR: Toxic friendship group with a lot of pressuring behaviour (particularly related to alcohol) that culminated in a huge standoff where I was accused of being the victim and being a bad friend when I couldn't drink due to illness and had to leave early. My only source of close friends, I decided to leave but feel alone, which has made a lot of other things difficult (e.g. dating). At this moment, am I right to leave them completely and focus on building a social life first?
25M, had a clique of friends from high school and junior college that we were really close with. We used to hang out every week, but over the last two years I felt that I was slowly drifting apart.
First of all there were two friends from high school that I'd slowly grown out of, and we reached a stage where we didn't go beyond exchanging mutual pleasantries and surface level banter and small talk. These two people had also betrayed me in the past in school, so I was well aware of their behaviour. There was also another mutual acquaintance from junior college that I never really talked to. But, there was one friend that I was extremely close to - we'd known each other for 11 years. We were able to talk about anything and everything, and we used to meet every week.
We also used to drink very often, but it got to a point where the behaviour was extremely problematic. The one friend I was close to had no conception of limits, and every session was a binge drinking affair. While I liked it initially, I realised that alcohol was simply a coping mechanism and was more firm with my limits. I became firmer on this limit when crazy incidents started happening, namely fights over petty insults. There was a huge turning point, when a hotel room was trashed, that made me think of finding a new social circle. But I had no idea how to, and I was extremely scared.
Fast forward to last year, and people slowly started drifting away, and the friend that I was close to was deliberately cutting off people for extremely petty reasons (e.g. this person is of no value to me, this person is too sensitive when I make fun of them, this person has weird habits). At this point, I'll admit that I was complicit in this gossiping behavior too. When my father had a stroke shortly before my overseas internship, I also gifted my friends a bottle and beer the day before, but when I told them I was coming, was met with the response of 'no one asked you to rush down' despite telling them that I wanted to meet them one last time.
However, things really reached a turning point in June last year, when I was doing an internship overseas and the friend I was close with came to visit with someone else. At that time, I was sick and on medication, and I really couldn't drink because my bronchitis was really bad at night, but my friend wasn't really concerned [I also forced myself to drink just to blend in]. On one night, I left early because the smoke around that area was really bad, and I couldn't talk. I'll admit that I didn't communicate that clearly, but I was coughing really badly.
The next day, while we were having a normal conversation, I was calculating my expenses and decided to split our share evenly because I had paid my friend everything. Out of nowhere, I got a long message about how I was not a good friend for entertaining him and always paid the victim and that we should no longer be friends anymore. I was profusely apologetic and accepted the blame, but my friend refused to concede, repeatedly crossing the line with remarks such as 'lying piece of shit' because I went hiking the next morning, after my cough had cleared, or 'always blaming everyone for my misfortune' [at a time when my dad had a stroke], 'not entertaining him because people are there to drink if not there's no fun' and being ' the worst person that he's happened to meet', and 'regretting ever meeting me'. Not knowing what to do, I called my brother, who told me that cutting off this person was the best thing I can do.
After two months, when I came back home, my friend apologized for his behavior. But during that period, he was extremely adamant about his saying things like 'I was taking things too seriously and behaving petulantly'. At that point, I had already made my mind to cut that friend off, and unsurprisingly, no one from that social circle reached out.
The subsequent year has been tough. To rebuild my social circle at 25 hasn't been easy. Its forced me to confront my flaws - yes, I admit that I never made the effort throughout school because I always thought that these people would be around. Occasionally, the thought of following up with these friends has popped up. But deep down, I know that this split was long overdue.
All in all, this split has left a gaping hole in my life that I haven't made the effort to fill, with caregiving responsibilities + school making it harder. However, after going on a couple of dates, I've realised that this gaping hole is preventing me from being the best that I can be. It really hit me when two 'dates' that ended after a couple of months hit me very hard.
As a result, I've decided to focus on myself before getting into anything. I've registered for counselling, and I've started trying out hobbies such as book clubs, dancing, volunteering, and reaching out to people I've known before. I feel that finding a balance between, work, family, self care, and social life is priority for now. This experience, coupled with caregiving, has forced me to take extreme ownership and honesty over all aspects of my life. Its made me much better at school, work and physical health.
Long post I know, but the questions I have are: (1) Am I right to not keep in contact with these people, knowing that it was a decision long time coming? (2) Am I right to focus on myself for now, carving a social life? Its a lonely journey, but I feel that its the most important step.
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25M, had a clique of friends from high school and junior college that we were really close with. We used to hang out every week, but over the last two years I felt that I was slowly drifting apart.
First of all there were two friends from high school that I'd slowly grown out of, and we reached a stage where we didn't go beyond exchanging mutual pleasantries and surface level banter and small talk. These two people had also betrayed me in the past in school, so I was well aware of their behaviour. There was also another mutual acquaintance from junior college that I never really talked to. But, there was one friend that I was extremely close to - we'd known each other for 11 years. We were able to talk about anything and everything, and we used to meet every week.
We also used to drink very often, but it got to a point where the behaviour was extremely problematic. The one friend I was close to had no conception of limits, and every session was a binge drinking affair. While I liked it initially, I realised that alcohol was simply a coping mechanism and was more firm with my limits. I became firmer on this limit when crazy incidents started happening, namely fights over petty insults. There was a huge turning point, when a hotel room was trashed, that made me think of finding a new social circle. But I had no idea how to, and I was extremely scared.
Fast forward to last year, and people slowly started drifting away, and the friend that I was close to was deliberately cutting off people for extremely petty reasons (e.g. this person is of no value to me, this person is too sensitive when I make fun of them, this person has weird habits). At this point, I'll admit that I was complicit in this gossiping behavior too. When my father had a stroke shortly before my overseas internship, I also gifted my friends a bottle and beer the day before, but when I told them I was coming, was met with the response of 'no one asked you to rush down' despite telling them that I wanted to meet them one last time.
However, things really reached a turning point in June last year, when I was doing an internship overseas and the friend I was close with came to visit with someone else. At that time, I was sick and on medication, and I really couldn't drink because my bronchitis was really bad at night, but my friend wasn't really concerned [I also forced myself to drink just to blend in]. On one night, I left early because the smoke around that area was really bad, and I couldn't talk. I'll admit that I didn't communicate that clearly, but I was coughing really badly.
The next day, while we were having a normal conversation, I was calculating my expenses and decided to split our share evenly because I had paid my friend everything. Out of nowhere, I got a long message about how I was not a good friend for entertaining him and always paid the victim and that we should no longer be friends anymore. I was profusely apologetic and accepted the blame, but my friend refused to concede, repeatedly crossing the line with remarks such as 'lying piece of shit' because I went hiking the next morning, after my cough had cleared, or 'always blaming everyone for my misfortune' [at a time when my dad had a stroke], 'not entertaining him because people are there to drink if not there's no fun' and being ' the worst person that he's happened to meet', and 'regretting ever meeting me'. Not knowing what to do, I called my brother, who told me that cutting off this person was the best thing I can do.
After two months, when I came back home, my friend apologized for his behavior. But during that period, he was extremely adamant about his saying things like 'I was taking things too seriously and behaving petulantly'. At that point, I had already made my mind to cut that friend off, and unsurprisingly, no one from that social circle reached out.
The subsequent year has been tough. To rebuild my social circle at 25 hasn't been easy. Its forced me to confront my flaws - yes, I admit that I never made the effort throughout school because I always thought that these people would be around. Occasionally, the thought of following up with these friends has popped up. But deep down, I know that this split was long overdue.
All in all, this split has left a gaping hole in my life that I haven't made the effort to fill, with caregiving responsibilities + school making it harder. However, after going on a couple of dates, I've realised that this gaping hole is preventing me from being the best that I can be. It really hit me when two 'dates' that ended after a couple of months hit me very hard.
As a result, I've decided to focus on myself before getting into anything. I've registered for counselling, and I've started trying out hobbies such as book clubs, dancing, volunteering, and reaching out to people I've known before. I feel that finding a balance between, work, family, self care, and social life is priority for now. This experience, coupled with caregiving, has forced me to take extreme ownership and honesty over all aspects of my life. Its made me much better at school, work and physical health.
Long post I know, but the questions I have are: (1) Am I right to not keep in contact with these people, knowing that it was a decision long time coming? (2) Am I right to focus on myself for now, carving a social life? Its a lonely journey, but I feel that its the most important step.
2024.05.15 07:01 eflow12 Advice Needed
Hello! My dad tore two tendons as follows. Full thickness tears of the supraspinatus and infraspinatus tendons are present with up to 3.6 cm retraction to the level of the AC joint.
He has to have surgery that won't happen for at least a month. His doctor has prescribed him Soma, Naprosyn, and Tylenol to help manage the pain. It has helped some but not much. He is also using herbal compresses, ice, some heat, arnica gel, comfrey cream, and CBD cream. His pain has decreased but it's still very present. He cannot lay flat and has been on the couch for the last 9 days. The Soma has helped with sleep a lot but he is rather depressed. I know the soma is likely playing a role in this to some degree but it's also because he can't work and he is just at home. Despite some pain relief 3-4 times a day min he will be in agonizing screaming pain from the throbbing, shooting pains, and pressure.
He is a guy who works a lot and does physical labor. He loves to work. Sitting on the couch these last 9 days has taken a huge tole on his mental health. He says this is the worst physical pain he has ever been in his life and is truly miserable. We are trying to figure out how to get him comfortable for the next 30 days mentally and physically.
Any advice for getting him through this? My mom and I are both home full time helping him.
Also worth noting the first 5 days he tried Norco and it just made things worse. He was really agitated and in more pain it seemed.
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He has to have surgery that won't happen for at least a month. His doctor has prescribed him Soma, Naprosyn, and Tylenol to help manage the pain. It has helped some but not much. He is also using herbal compresses, ice, some heat, arnica gel, comfrey cream, and CBD cream. His pain has decreased but it's still very present. He cannot lay flat and has been on the couch for the last 9 days. The Soma has helped with sleep a lot but he is rather depressed. I know the soma is likely playing a role in this to some degree but it's also because he can't work and he is just at home. Despite some pain relief 3-4 times a day min he will be in agonizing screaming pain from the throbbing, shooting pains, and pressure.
He is a guy who works a lot and does physical labor. He loves to work. Sitting on the couch these last 9 days has taken a huge tole on his mental health. He says this is the worst physical pain he has ever been in his life and is truly miserable. We are trying to figure out how to get him comfortable for the next 30 days mentally and physically.
Any advice for getting him through this? My mom and I are both home full time helping him.
Also worth noting the first 5 days he tried Norco and it just made things worse. He was really agitated and in more pain it seemed.
2024.05.15 06:41 Sea_Chipmunk_9379 Am I doing something wrong?
Sorry for this but this is a long one. I don’t understand something that happened recently and need help understanding this. For the past 3 years, I’ve been playing a game pretty regularly. I’m not mentioning it here because it’s not important. Just know it’s a pvpve open world sandbox style thing with nothing except money being saved between sessions and artificial and natural PvP modes. It does not matter what happens since you come back as you started the next time you log in. In the last year, someone (15m but same grade) from the school I go to found out I play that game and started playing it with me. We have done a lot in that time including getting some pretty rare cosmetics that take a long time to get. These cosmetics are specifically pvp focused meaning I’ve gotten pretty good at it these past 5-7 months. Once we did that, he wanted to keep doing the artificial pvp mode whereas I wanted to get back into the natural mode of it. It started an argument and we both took a long break from it. Around a week ago, we started playing the game again. He recently invited me to a discord server with other classmates who he knows since some were buying the game. I joined and was having fun talking with those people just trying to be likeable. A running joke in the server involves one person being banned for pointless reasons such as no saying a certain word or humming in the vc. I was having an okay time when I looked back in one of the channels and saw the discussion that involved whether I should be invited or not. The initial question was asked by my “friend” saying I was “chill now”. This was countered by two people saying how they had nothing against me but thought I was weird. I brought it up in a playful manner and the people who responded said they were sorry and didn’t know I was no longer friends with another weird person (we had hung out together since 1st grade and fell apart at the end of 7th grade). Looking back I should have been more concerned but I didn’t want to cause an altercation and get banned. I don’t think of myself as weird, maybe socially awkward at times but I think this interaction shows how I generally try and be nice to people at most times. Just today, me, my friend, and the two other people who got the game all got on together. We spotted a group of enemy players and went to go fight them since our group was double their size. We stayed there for a bit, me and my friend being more experienced spawn camping them a bit, before we sent them back to ground zero. We both died on accident when they got the upper hand on us and eventually my friend wanted to team up with them. I didn’t want to do this as teaming up with other groups like this is incredibly boring. He made fun of me to the other people in the call saying I was trying to be like a streamer he introduced me to. This wasn’t true although that streamer could have influenced some of my actions towards other players. We kept gong when I said a cringe thing and got kicked from the vc. I rejoined but was immediately met with a perma ban to which I responded by sabotaging my group as a joke. This wouldn’t have cost them anything since they were going to get off before any progress was made anyways and I thought it would be a funny thing to do. When I did that, they locked me in a jail cell before team killing me a couple times which ended in my “friend” stating, “you have no friends, this is the last time you will see us in a group together”. This really hurt me as after seeing the other comments, I felt I had to fit in as much as I could with these people. I never perceived as though I did something really horribly wrong so I messaged him later asking why he banned me, again, light heartedly. He said I was being an a** and trying to pin the blame on me. According to him, he kicked me, then I sabotaged, to which he banned and jailed me. I don’t think it happened in this sequence at all. I was still trying to be friendly with him and apologized to which he said we could play together again but I wasn’t going to be unbanned from the server. I don’t understand why he and the other people in this group share the same animosity towards me and this seems to be a large consensus towards my personality. I can’t understand if I’m the problem and I am weird or if I’m being manipulated by these people. This group is less of the issue moreover is the fact that they felt this way and if there’s something I can do to fix my image. I’m fairly average in everything physical and excel mentally and I try to be friendly and helpful to everyone. I can’t understand why people feel this way. Can someone help me out?
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2024.05.15 06:00 Ornery_Historian_759 I don't know what I am doing with my life anymore, my relationships are falling apart and I think I am on the verge of having a huge mental breakdown.
tl;tr what is my life (Leaving note at the top of my post cause post is too long lol) Note 1: Didn't expect for the post to be that long. I apologize for any grammatical errors or incoherences, don't have the energy to read proof everything, took me almost 4 hours to write.
Note 2: Before you guys suggest therapy. I do believe in mental health and always wanted to go see a therapist but you hear a lot of horror stories about therapists where I live. Like a friend of mine went to see one at one point and he literally told her "you are too dramatic and you are lying. There is no way you feel the way you say you do". Plus even if I manage to find a good one they are expensive as fuck.
Note 3: Moving out isn't a solution either at the moment cause can't afford it. Plus it is hard to find somewhere to rent as a fairly young bachelor in a conservative country plus if they do rent to young people the apartments are usually falling apart, they over charge and you would end up with like 7 other roommates in a 3 bedrooms apartment.
I don't really know where to start since it is 1 am where I live and I am exhausted. But yeah, basically I think that I might not be a good person? that I might be a bit of an asshole and also a loser? I am not sure.
The situation that I am facing right now is that I am 29, jobless, 5 years into my PhD that i wanted to quit for a while now, live with my mom and aunt (I live in a place when it is normal for someone to live with their parents or family in their 20s or 30s, people usually only move out if they either get married or their job isn't close to where their parents live). I am really unhappy with my life, with how I usually handle things and with how I turned out.
I graduated university at 23, got my first job as a phone repair technician few months after graduating, got pressured into doing a PhD but at the same time I was like "why not?". Wasn't a fan of my job anyway and I haven't heard from the couple of interviews I have been to. I was excited to start doing academic research actually, but as soon as I got accepted things started going downhill. Our lab director passed away before we got assigned out subjects and supervisors, then COVID lock down, my dad passed away from COVID, my supervisor retired and I got assigned a new one that is clueless, they wouldn't let me stay at the dorms during my third year cause "of the volume of new students they received that year" according to them, decided to teach a class during the first semester of last year so I would have to stay close to our lab that entire time. I didn't make much progress. Nowadays I feel burnt out and I stopped trying. When people ask me about my PhD I lie and tell them that I am almost done. I have been to quite a few job interview during the past few years but they never called back. Had some projects in mind that were good business ideas imo but whenever I started I would never go through with them cause of the stress PhD is causing me. Never been good under pressure.
As for my relationships, I will start with my parents. We have had my fair-chair of big and small arguments in my teen and adult years, but I have always had a good relationship with them and I loved them. Now, since my dad passed away my mom, sister and I became really close (or closer than we already were). Then my aunt moved in with us a little while after that (due to some personal stuff), everything was good and well at first but the thing is I live in a conservative country, in a very conservative city and my aunt is super old school and she got an influence over my mom who has become super controlling which caused some friction between us for the past few years but especially during the past year and it has gotten worse during the past couple of days (well I wouldn't put the issue entirely on her cause my mom has always nosy and controlling but she would stop if you talked to her). Now when I say controlling and nosy I mean she is trying to control everything even what I wear, and whenever I am talking to the phone she always comes into my room to know who I am talking to. Sometimes she acts like she is disciplining a 15 yo and not talking to a grown man. I have always given up a small part of my independence since my parents were sheltering me, I have had a couple of friends telling me I shouldn't when we were younger and I was always like "nah, it's fine". Well now that I am trying to get 100% of my independence and autonomy back and receiving a big push back I am starting to understand what they meant.
Now to my friends. Well, I should start by saying that during my teen years I did have friends but I had a lot of difficulties connecting with people or knowing how to react during social situations which also lead to me being bullied quite a lot up until I was around 19/20. During my uni years and early 20s things have gotten better all of a sudden, I was less shy, it was easier to talk to people and to know how to react to different situations, it was easier to make new friend and my relationships with the couple of friends I made during middle school and high school was great. Even my old bullies became respectful and would stop for a chat whenever they saw me. It got me thinking "maybe that's how it is like to turn into an adult" at some point. Now I have made quite a few friends from a couple of groups I hang out with, and I like to think that I am pretty close to most of them or at least was. The thing is that over the years some of them either criticize my quirks or tease me which I always thought was fine, I would either answer them back jokingly, take their criticism seriously and try to work on myself depending on what the quirk is or just ignore them. The problem is that over the year some of my friends have started to either take themselves or their teasing too far. Sometimes it just feels like they are walking over me. Like that one friend who always lectures me "about being a grown ass man" (and in a mean way might I add, he literally screams at me) just because I haven't seen him while outside, because I only drive inside our town (because I am not that good of a driver, I used to get extreme anxiety just being behind a wheel)(he lectured me 3 times during the same day last month and 2 of them was in front of mutual friends) or that one time he berated me about something that I thought so stupid that I made a joke and his literal answer was "shut the fuck up and listen to me when I am talking to you, I am older than you (by 2 months), I have more experience than you (cause he moved abroad) and I know better than you". Or when that group of friends that tried to catfish me at one point (they did a very bad job btw). Or that other friend that does fucked up shit or says hurtful things and his out of jail card is literally "it was just a prank bro". Like whenever I tell him the smoke from his cigarettes his bothering me he literally blows smoke on my face, or that time he threw a lit cigarette butt on me and it ruined my pants, or when we were complaining about or PhDs (he used to be a PhD student) and he told me "you stagnating so you wish for people to go backwards so it would feel like you are making progress" or that time were he told a mutual acquaintance that "I was a simp"(which I am lol) and that "I stuck to girls like glue". And sure enough whenever I stop talking to him his response would be "it was just a joke", or when I loaned him money cause he had money issues few years back he has promised me several times that he would pay me back after he gets paid for jobs he is doing but then when I ask him again he is like "Why didn't you ask me 2 days ago I used it to pay back few debts. You are the only debt I have left.". He has done the same thing over the past few years and given me the exact same answer each time. Until, I told him last year that it was okay if he didn't pay me back cause he had to loan a big amount to pay for his parents' rent .
Now I am not sure the way I respond to those situations is the healthiest. My go to strategy is to just go home and not talk to them for a while. The most recent example is from last weeks. I have a friend that always asks me to download softwares for him, to install them and set them up. Honestly I didn't mind it at first but he does it so often that it has become annoying and it feels like I can't refuse cause he always says "if I am bothering you that is okay", plus whenever he sits next to me while I work on his PC he goes on rants I don't want to hear about. Anyway, he is a PhD student and he asked me to help him with a paper he is working on cause it is overlapping with my field, I didn't mind. Then, he called me the other day and asked if I could meet him immediately, I accepted (to be fair to him he did ask me if I was going to take a lot of time to arrive, I answered with "no" then it did take me 25 minutes more than it should have) and when I called him to tell him I was almost there he answered with "are you kidding me? I don't have time", I just hang up before he could finish his sentence and went back home. Or two voice messages I impulsively sent yesterday cause I was really upset and needed to let my anger out one way or another. The first one was to the "it was just a prank, bro" dude, I lent him some more money few months ago that he promised he would pay back by the end of 2023 and still hasn't. The message went like this "give me back my money or I will kick you in the balls and break your nose" (it sounded cooler in my language lol. And I want to add that he would definitely win in a fight. ). It wasn't about the money I was just tired of him and would get upset every-time I would think about the way he is treating me. Then I followed up with another message calling him a parasite. The second one was to the dude who always berates me. Despite the way he treats he considers me as a best friend, so I have been thinking about sending him a message for the past 2 weeks explaining to him that I didn't like the way he treated me. But because I was angry the message went like this "Go fuck yourself, and fuck your so called advice. You are just trying to enforce some random criteria you have made up on me. Let me give you the same advice you give me, you are a 30 yo man so it would be about time you came back to reality and to close your asshole (which is a rude way of saying you have got a big head in my language). Also shut the fuck up.". Needless to say that he was confused and tried to call me and left me like 2 voice messages that I ignored (cause I wasn't feeling like hearing from anyone) and a screenshot from his note app saying that he was sorry that I felt that way and that he considered me like a good friend and that I was a good guy (I haven't read everything). He probably tried to contact me today, but I can't be sure cause I spent the entire day messing with my phone and installing different ROMS (OS). But yeah, I received an SMS from him few hours ago saying that he was going to press charge for "defamation and mental distress " (I think that is the correct translation), which I thought was ridiculous plus he is not the kind to press charges. But then, he has people in his life that he respects a lot and if they advised him to he would definitely do it. Plus he used the number he uses when he comes to our country to text me, on the other hand the country he is at is close enough that he could just text me from that number. I mean I think it would be ridiculous to press charges for that voice mail lol, but again some stupid law got voted few months ago that if you were caught cussing that could cause you up to 6 months of jail, and I definitely cussed. Oh and he also followed with "we obviously don't deal with conflicts the same way. There is the dirty way then there is the smart way" (Again not sure about the translation so I am using the literal one). When I saw it I was like "there is no way I am not ignoring you now"
If you managed to read the whole thing I thank you, I feel a lot better, I mean it still feels like the earth is about to swallow me whole but I still weirdly feel calm about it lol.
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Note 2: Before you guys suggest therapy. I do believe in mental health and always wanted to go see a therapist but you hear a lot of horror stories about therapists where I live. Like a friend of mine went to see one at one point and he literally told her "you are too dramatic and you are lying. There is no way you feel the way you say you do". Plus even if I manage to find a good one they are expensive as fuck.
Note 3: Moving out isn't a solution either at the moment cause can't afford it. Plus it is hard to find somewhere to rent as a fairly young bachelor in a conservative country plus if they do rent to young people the apartments are usually falling apart, they over charge and you would end up with like 7 other roommates in a 3 bedrooms apartment.
I don't really know where to start since it is 1 am where I live and I am exhausted. But yeah, basically I think that I might not be a good person? that I might be a bit of an asshole and also a loser? I am not sure.
The situation that I am facing right now is that I am 29, jobless, 5 years into my PhD that i wanted to quit for a while now, live with my mom and aunt (I live in a place when it is normal for someone to live with their parents or family in their 20s or 30s, people usually only move out if they either get married or their job isn't close to where their parents live). I am really unhappy with my life, with how I usually handle things and with how I turned out.
I graduated university at 23, got my first job as a phone repair technician few months after graduating, got pressured into doing a PhD but at the same time I was like "why not?". Wasn't a fan of my job anyway and I haven't heard from the couple of interviews I have been to. I was excited to start doing academic research actually, but as soon as I got accepted things started going downhill. Our lab director passed away before we got assigned out subjects and supervisors, then COVID lock down, my dad passed away from COVID, my supervisor retired and I got assigned a new one that is clueless, they wouldn't let me stay at the dorms during my third year cause "of the volume of new students they received that year" according to them, decided to teach a class during the first semester of last year so I would have to stay close to our lab that entire time. I didn't make much progress. Nowadays I feel burnt out and I stopped trying. When people ask me about my PhD I lie and tell them that I am almost done. I have been to quite a few job interview during the past few years but they never called back. Had some projects in mind that were good business ideas imo but whenever I started I would never go through with them cause of the stress PhD is causing me. Never been good under pressure.
As for my relationships, I will start with my parents. We have had my fair-chair of big and small arguments in my teen and adult years, but I have always had a good relationship with them and I loved them. Now, since my dad passed away my mom, sister and I became really close (or closer than we already were). Then my aunt moved in with us a little while after that (due to some personal stuff), everything was good and well at first but the thing is I live in a conservative country, in a very conservative city and my aunt is super old school and she got an influence over my mom who has become super controlling which caused some friction between us for the past few years but especially during the past year and it has gotten worse during the past couple of days (well I wouldn't put the issue entirely on her cause my mom has always nosy and controlling but she would stop if you talked to her). Now when I say controlling and nosy I mean she is trying to control everything even what I wear, and whenever I am talking to the phone she always comes into my room to know who I am talking to. Sometimes she acts like she is disciplining a 15 yo and not talking to a grown man. I have always given up a small part of my independence since my parents were sheltering me, I have had a couple of friends telling me I shouldn't when we were younger and I was always like "nah, it's fine". Well now that I am trying to get 100% of my independence and autonomy back and receiving a big push back I am starting to understand what they meant.
Now to my friends. Well, I should start by saying that during my teen years I did have friends but I had a lot of difficulties connecting with people or knowing how to react during social situations which also lead to me being bullied quite a lot up until I was around 19/20. During my uni years and early 20s things have gotten better all of a sudden, I was less shy, it was easier to talk to people and to know how to react to different situations, it was easier to make new friend and my relationships with the couple of friends I made during middle school and high school was great. Even my old bullies became respectful and would stop for a chat whenever they saw me. It got me thinking "maybe that's how it is like to turn into an adult" at some point. Now I have made quite a few friends from a couple of groups I hang out with, and I like to think that I am pretty close to most of them or at least was. The thing is that over the years some of them either criticize my quirks or tease me which I always thought was fine, I would either answer them back jokingly, take their criticism seriously and try to work on myself depending on what the quirk is or just ignore them. The problem is that over the year some of my friends have started to either take themselves or their teasing too far. Sometimes it just feels like they are walking over me. Like that one friend who always lectures me "about being a grown ass man" (and in a mean way might I add, he literally screams at me) just because I haven't seen him while outside, because I only drive inside our town (because I am not that good of a driver, I used to get extreme anxiety just being behind a wheel)(he lectured me 3 times during the same day last month and 2 of them was in front of mutual friends) or that one time he berated me about something that I thought so stupid that I made a joke and his literal answer was "shut the fuck up and listen to me when I am talking to you, I am older than you (by 2 months), I have more experience than you (cause he moved abroad) and I know better than you". Or when that group of friends that tried to catfish me at one point (they did a very bad job btw). Or that other friend that does fucked up shit or says hurtful things and his out of jail card is literally "it was just a prank bro". Like whenever I tell him the smoke from his cigarettes his bothering me he literally blows smoke on my face, or that time he threw a lit cigarette butt on me and it ruined my pants, or when we were complaining about or PhDs (he used to be a PhD student) and he told me "you stagnating so you wish for people to go backwards so it would feel like you are making progress" or that time were he told a mutual acquaintance that "I was a simp"(which I am lol) and that "I stuck to girls like glue". And sure enough whenever I stop talking to him his response would be "it was just a joke", or when I loaned him money cause he had money issues few years back he has promised me several times that he would pay me back after he gets paid for jobs he is doing but then when I ask him again he is like "Why didn't you ask me 2 days ago I used it to pay back few debts. You are the only debt I have left.". He has done the same thing over the past few years and given me the exact same answer each time. Until, I told him last year that it was okay if he didn't pay me back cause he had to loan a big amount to pay for his parents' rent .
Now I am not sure the way I respond to those situations is the healthiest. My go to strategy is to just go home and not talk to them for a while. The most recent example is from last weeks. I have a friend that always asks me to download softwares for him, to install them and set them up. Honestly I didn't mind it at first but he does it so often that it has become annoying and it feels like I can't refuse cause he always says "if I am bothering you that is okay", plus whenever he sits next to me while I work on his PC he goes on rants I don't want to hear about. Anyway, he is a PhD student and he asked me to help him with a paper he is working on cause it is overlapping with my field, I didn't mind. Then, he called me the other day and asked if I could meet him immediately, I accepted (to be fair to him he did ask me if I was going to take a lot of time to arrive, I answered with "no" then it did take me 25 minutes more than it should have) and when I called him to tell him I was almost there he answered with "are you kidding me? I don't have time", I just hang up before he could finish his sentence and went back home. Or two voice messages I impulsively sent yesterday cause I was really upset and needed to let my anger out one way or another. The first one was to the "it was just a prank, bro" dude, I lent him some more money few months ago that he promised he would pay back by the end of 2023 and still hasn't. The message went like this "give me back my money or I will kick you in the balls and break your nose" (it sounded cooler in my language lol. And I want to add that he would definitely win in a fight. ). It wasn't about the money I was just tired of him and would get upset every-time I would think about the way he is treating me. Then I followed up with another message calling him a parasite. The second one was to the dude who always berates me. Despite the way he treats he considers me as a best friend, so I have been thinking about sending him a message for the past 2 weeks explaining to him that I didn't like the way he treated me. But because I was angry the message went like this "Go fuck yourself, and fuck your so called advice. You are just trying to enforce some random criteria you have made up on me. Let me give you the same advice you give me, you are a 30 yo man so it would be about time you came back to reality and to close your asshole (which is a rude way of saying you have got a big head in my language). Also shut the fuck up.". Needless to say that he was confused and tried to call me and left me like 2 voice messages that I ignored (cause I wasn't feeling like hearing from anyone) and a screenshot from his note app saying that he was sorry that I felt that way and that he considered me like a good friend and that I was a good guy (I haven't read everything). He probably tried to contact me today, but I can't be sure cause I spent the entire day messing with my phone and installing different ROMS (OS). But yeah, I received an SMS from him few hours ago saying that he was going to press charge for "defamation and mental distress " (I think that is the correct translation), which I thought was ridiculous plus he is not the kind to press charges. But then, he has people in his life that he respects a lot and if they advised him to he would definitely do it. Plus he used the number he uses when he comes to our country to text me, on the other hand the country he is at is close enough that he could just text me from that number. I mean I think it would be ridiculous to press charges for that voice mail lol, but again some stupid law got voted few months ago that if you were caught cussing that could cause you up to 6 months of jail, and I definitely cussed. Oh and he also followed with "we obviously don't deal with conflicts the same way. There is the dirty way then there is the smart way" (Again not sure about the translation so I am using the literal one). When I saw it I was like "there is no way I am not ignoring you now"
If you managed to read the whole thing I thank you, I feel a lot better, I mean it still feels like the earth is about to swallow me whole but I still weirdly feel calm about it lol.
2024.05.15 05:48 alterEgo_1215 My gf is depressed and I don't know how to help her
My (19f) girlfriend (22f) is depressed and I don't know how to help her bc Ive been dealing with depression too. Her mom and her sister are leaving for our native country and she wont be able to visit them for a long while. She's really close with ber mom and has never lived away from her, so I know living in different countries with no idea of when she'll see her mom and sister again. She also said that she doesn't think going back to our country would make her feel better either, that's how I know she is depressed. Ive been doing pretty good myself regarding my mental health but I think I had a break recently and I'm doing better than I have before but it's not ideal. I really love my gf and I wish I could do more for here like helping her getting outside and motivating her to do stuff but Im not even able to do that for myself. Her therapist doesn't take her insurance and recently increased the price for a session so my girlfriend can't afford it. I told her I could help her pay but Im not doing really good financially either so she won't accept my help. How do I support her while dealing with my own mental health issues too? Also what activities can I do with her that require little effort and money bc we're depressed and broke✨ All help is appreciated. Thank you for reading
TL;DR: my gf and I are both are depressed, how do I support her while also desling with my mental health?
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TL;DR: my gf and I are both are depressed, how do I support her while also desling with my mental health?
2024.05.15 05:42 peomsislam What are the Five Major Struggles Faced by a New Mental Health Counselor?
- Accessibility
- Time constraints
- Geographic Restrictions
- Face-to-face rapport
- Inadequate digital mental health solutions
- Increase accessibility by adopting online therapy.
- Offer flexible appointment timings for clients.
- Overcome geographic restrictions by embracing digital solutions.
- Build rapport through video sessions.
- Keep adapting and learning to improve your services.
2024.05.15 05:39 ThrowRA9293842 friend (22f) was in an awful mood during group hangout, should i talk about it?
me (22f) and my friend were planning a last dinner with a bunch of our girl friends before the summer started as we won’t see eachother for a couple of months. it was a nice restaurant so we were pretty excited.
however, when the day came, she seemed really off. she wouldn’t eat any of the food, she generally had a bad mood and wouldn’t talk to anyone at the table, was on her phone the whole time, and left a couple times to call her boyfriend. and when she did contribute to the convo, she was just very snarky and in a bad mood. i’m sure there was something going on, but it was a bummer because she barely said bye to me or anyone else before she left and i know it’s not because i did anything wrong, she was just in a bad mood.
generally she’s never acted like this before and i know she does have some mental health problems. but i felt a bit hurt because we were planning this dinner for a bit and i wanted to say a proper goodbye to her but she was in a rush to leave after the dinner because obviously she wasn’t feeling well. so i don’t know if i should let it go because it was a one time thing and she might be going through something but it put a bad taste in my mouth. but i don’t know if that’s fair to feel. i wanna be there for her because we are close, but she barely said bye to me and i don’t want her to think that her behaving like that in the future is okay because her attitude was so poor it made everyone uncomfortable. i kind of thought she would apologize herself and explain a bit, but she said nothing since.
should i ask her if she was okay the other night and check in, maybe tell her how i feel a bit, or should i just let it go since it was out of character and only happened once? i know she wouldn’t do it on purpose and it definitely is mental health related or there’s a reason for why she was acting that way, so i don’t wanna come at her if she’s going through something. i do want to be there for her because i value her a lot. but i think it was just pretty rude of her to kind of impact the mood of the night like that, id rather her to not show up to be honest if she was going to be that way. but maybe i should just let it go.
tldr: friend ruined mood during group dinner due to mental health, unsure if i should say something or let it go
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however, when the day came, she seemed really off. she wouldn’t eat any of the food, she generally had a bad mood and wouldn’t talk to anyone at the table, was on her phone the whole time, and left a couple times to call her boyfriend. and when she did contribute to the convo, she was just very snarky and in a bad mood. i’m sure there was something going on, but it was a bummer because she barely said bye to me or anyone else before she left and i know it’s not because i did anything wrong, she was just in a bad mood.
generally she’s never acted like this before and i know she does have some mental health problems. but i felt a bit hurt because we were planning this dinner for a bit and i wanted to say a proper goodbye to her but she was in a rush to leave after the dinner because obviously she wasn’t feeling well. so i don’t know if i should let it go because it was a one time thing and she might be going through something but it put a bad taste in my mouth. but i don’t know if that’s fair to feel. i wanna be there for her because we are close, but she barely said bye to me and i don’t want her to think that her behaving like that in the future is okay because her attitude was so poor it made everyone uncomfortable. i kind of thought she would apologize herself and explain a bit, but she said nothing since.
should i ask her if she was okay the other night and check in, maybe tell her how i feel a bit, or should i just let it go since it was out of character and only happened once? i know she wouldn’t do it on purpose and it definitely is mental health related or there’s a reason for why she was acting that way, so i don’t wanna come at her if she’s going through something. i do want to be there for her because i value her a lot. but i think it was just pretty rude of her to kind of impact the mood of the night like that, id rather her to not show up to be honest if she was going to be that way. but maybe i should just let it go.
tldr: friend ruined mood during group dinner due to mental health, unsure if i should say something or let it go
2024.05.15 05:26 Sweet-Count2557 92ny Summer Camps Camp Yomi 0
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All children are eligible to attend the camp and participate in the wide variety of activities offered.Camp Yomi provides a safe environment for campers to explore, learn, and have fun. With two swims per day, sports programming, and an incredible array of creative activities, campers of all ages can enjoy their time at Camp Yomi.ConclusionIn conclusion, Camp Yomi offers an exceptional summer experience for campers with a wide range of activities and a focus on safety. Located in beautiful Rockland County, it provides a serene natural setting while being conveniently close to New York City.With positive reviews from campers like Anna Fader, it's clear that Camp Yomi delivers a memorable and enjoyable summer camp experience.Join us at Camp Yomi and create lasting memories this summer! submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] |
2024.05.15 05:12 durden226circa1988 Anyone experience exercise induced nausea after surgery?
Not like, right after. I’m two plus years out, but for a myriad of reasons I haven’t gotten into working out yet. It’s definitely time, less about the weight loss, I’ve been below goal for a year, and more about rebuilding muscle and protecting my health long term.
Anyway I am no stranger to exercise or weight lifting, never was a runner but I did CrossFit for years in my 20s. I have NEVER experienced nausea during exercise until today! I joined a gym for the group fitness classes and went to the first one today. I started with low weights, like low low, 2.5 lb plates, 3 lb dumbbell. I am happy with my effort but towards the middle of the 45 minute class, I had to mentally fight off several waves of nausea. The gym’s water I filled my jug with did NOT help, it was warm and gross. I will fill up at home from now on and probably throw some electrolytes in it.
I’m not disheartened I’m just wondering if anyone has found that the nausea fades with time, or anything in particular that helps. From my googling I understand why it’s happening. Several links state that the decreased blood supply from the GI tract being rerouted to muscles can mess with digestion and cause nausea. That makes total sense as a sleeved person that exercise induced nausea would be what I guess we would call a post op complication. Just looking to mitigate it if possible!
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Anyway I am no stranger to exercise or weight lifting, never was a runner but I did CrossFit for years in my 20s. I have NEVER experienced nausea during exercise until today! I joined a gym for the group fitness classes and went to the first one today. I started with low weights, like low low, 2.5 lb plates, 3 lb dumbbell. I am happy with my effort but towards the middle of the 45 minute class, I had to mentally fight off several waves of nausea. The gym’s water I filled my jug with did NOT help, it was warm and gross. I will fill up at home from now on and probably throw some electrolytes in it.
I’m not disheartened I’m just wondering if anyone has found that the nausea fades with time, or anything in particular that helps. From my googling I understand why it’s happening. Several links state that the decreased blood supply from the GI tract being rerouted to muscles can mess with digestion and cause nausea. That makes total sense as a sleeved person that exercise induced nausea would be what I guess we would call a post op complication. Just looking to mitigate it if possible!
2024.05.15 05:01 jjanska From getting married to moving out and dividing our assets.
I feel like I need to just vent and let everything out, so here goes. This is gonna be long and a lot of yapping, I’m a mess while writing this. This doesn’t even contain everything that has happened.
I matched on Tinder with a cute guy in 2014 and we both made clear that we didn’t want anything else than friendship. But in a month, we were falling for each other. Early 2015, he told me he loves me, but he acknowledged my fear of love so I wouldn’t have to say it back. I kinda freaked out and dipped out, but we kept texting every month, especially when drunk, we told each other how much we like each other.
2016 we became official after playing around. It was heaven on earth for me then and I loved the man with my whole heart. I went out of my way for him. He was my first everything.
Few months into our relationship, we were at a festival with another couple who were our friends, and we 4 slept in a campervan. He wanted to have sex, I didn’t and I told him no few times. He ended up rubbing himself between my thighs while I laid there frozen and hurt. I pushed the whole thing away from my mind. Another 6 months in, we were drinking in his hometown with his friends. He got too drunk and ended up grabbing me from my collar and pushing me aggressively against a wall and yelled at me. He ran away and I was alone in his hometown while he didn’t answer. Well I found him and we went to his mother’s house to sleep, where he cried to me that I shouldn’t be with him that he’s a bad man. Another year in, one of his best friends hated me and trash talked me to their friend group and it was literally hell on earth, and he just let it happen, without setting things straight or defending me. And at the same time, we listened to one podcast where a couple had downloaded their tinders back and watched their old matches and convos to laugh at them lightheartedly. Well, we did just that but what I found out was that he had had tinder while we were officially together and talked to other women. He ended up deleting everything before he could show me them and saying it wasn’t him, that his single friends used his phone and pictures for tinder, but I could tell that it was him from the messages I had time to see.
The last 4 years have been sexless, and I have suffered with that a lot. There’s no kisses, no holding hands, no I love you’s, nothing. We have basically been friends for the last 4 years except when he’s drunk and wants to rub his D against me and cum.
Well now, we broke up a month ago, after being 8 years officially together and a decade of us being engaged with one another. Everything we own shared, our car, cats, furniture, EVERYTHING.
I’m just so broken, sad, finished and tired. I love him, but I don’t, I hate him, but I don’t. I have fought for this relationship for years alone, and it ended up breaking me. I have been unmotivated to finish my bachelor degree, I just stay home and don’t want to see anyone and I escape reality with music and stories. I read and use AI to live my hopeless romantic dreams, I dream about a life, but I’m scared I won’t ever get it because I lost myself in this relationship. I lost my mental health and my body. I have gained 30kg since we started dating, he loves ordering in and eating chips and all that shit, I had never even taken food home before I met him.
I’m looooost and I don’t know what to do, how to pull myself together and go live my life while going through this breakup, he and his family were my life and now I’m going to move out to live alone for the first time ever with two cats we got together.
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I matched on Tinder with a cute guy in 2014 and we both made clear that we didn’t want anything else than friendship. But in a month, we were falling for each other. Early 2015, he told me he loves me, but he acknowledged my fear of love so I wouldn’t have to say it back. I kinda freaked out and dipped out, but we kept texting every month, especially when drunk, we told each other how much we like each other.
2016 we became official after playing around. It was heaven on earth for me then and I loved the man with my whole heart. I went out of my way for him. He was my first everything.
Few months into our relationship, we were at a festival with another couple who were our friends, and we 4 slept in a campervan. He wanted to have sex, I didn’t and I told him no few times. He ended up rubbing himself between my thighs while I laid there frozen and hurt. I pushed the whole thing away from my mind. Another 6 months in, we were drinking in his hometown with his friends. He got too drunk and ended up grabbing me from my collar and pushing me aggressively against a wall and yelled at me. He ran away and I was alone in his hometown while he didn’t answer. Well I found him and we went to his mother’s house to sleep, where he cried to me that I shouldn’t be with him that he’s a bad man. Another year in, one of his best friends hated me and trash talked me to their friend group and it was literally hell on earth, and he just let it happen, without setting things straight or defending me. And at the same time, we listened to one podcast where a couple had downloaded their tinders back and watched their old matches and convos to laugh at them lightheartedly. Well, we did just that but what I found out was that he had had tinder while we were officially together and talked to other women. He ended up deleting everything before he could show me them and saying it wasn’t him, that his single friends used his phone and pictures for tinder, but I could tell that it was him from the messages I had time to see.
The last 4 years have been sexless, and I have suffered with that a lot. There’s no kisses, no holding hands, no I love you’s, nothing. We have basically been friends for the last 4 years except when he’s drunk and wants to rub his D against me and cum.
Well now, we broke up a month ago, after being 8 years officially together and a decade of us being engaged with one another. Everything we own shared, our car, cats, furniture, EVERYTHING.
I’m just so broken, sad, finished and tired. I love him, but I don’t, I hate him, but I don’t. I have fought for this relationship for years alone, and it ended up breaking me. I have been unmotivated to finish my bachelor degree, I just stay home and don’t want to see anyone and I escape reality with music and stories. I read and use AI to live my hopeless romantic dreams, I dream about a life, but I’m scared I won’t ever get it because I lost myself in this relationship. I lost my mental health and my body. I have gained 30kg since we started dating, he loves ordering in and eating chips and all that shit, I had never even taken food home before I met him.
I’m looooost and I don’t know what to do, how to pull myself together and go live my life while going through this breakup, he and his family were my life and now I’m going to move out to live alone for the first time ever with two cats we got together.
2024.05.15 05:00 Lower-Jellyfish8284 Am I a bad sister for not supporting my youngest sister (21) in everything after she did not listen to my countless reminders and advice? Please bear with me.
Hi, guys...
I (26) am the breadwinner, of course. I've been helping out the family and my siblings since high school until now. The context is, I stopped allowing my youngest sister to take advantage of me after getting tired of constantly asking and reminding her to come home and help me in my apartment instead. She's been living with her longtime girlfriend and working as a part-time reliever somewhere, based on what I heard from her in our group chats.
The reason why she's there and working is because I advised her to file for a leave of absence for one semester due to consecutive failing grades, dropped subjects, and absences at school. She also has mental health problems, which I understand. By the way, I'm supporting two of my siblings, the youngest after me and her. We talked about her grades, subjects, and mental health when I decided to stop going to law school to focus on the two of them. However, despite this, I advised her about the leave of absence. She agreed to what I said because she wanted me to take a break from the expenses, but I told her it's okay as long as there are no failing marks and dropped subjects. However, she's the type of person who never runs out of excuses. She doesn't like to admit her mistakes.
At first, things were okay, but she didn't come home when she asked for my permission to visit her girlfriend because they had an argument. She gave me tons of excuses. I understand that my siblings might get tired of my attitude, but not coming home and instead working there with her longtime girlfriend hurt me for several months, until today. She asked for money for her birthday, to which I responded frankly. I confronted her, saying that I am no longer emotionally, mentally, or physically responsible for her. Since she doesn't want to listen, she should stand by her decision to live with her girlfriend.
So, am I the bad sister for not giving her money and supporting her? Am I just being controlling? In the end, she was unable to successfully apply for a leave of absence, so I'm unsure if she can still return to the university. I don't know what to do anymore.
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I (26) am the breadwinner, of course. I've been helping out the family and my siblings since high school until now. The context is, I stopped allowing my youngest sister to take advantage of me after getting tired of constantly asking and reminding her to come home and help me in my apartment instead. She's been living with her longtime girlfriend and working as a part-time reliever somewhere, based on what I heard from her in our group chats.
The reason why she's there and working is because I advised her to file for a leave of absence for one semester due to consecutive failing grades, dropped subjects, and absences at school. She also has mental health problems, which I understand. By the way, I'm supporting two of my siblings, the youngest after me and her. We talked about her grades, subjects, and mental health when I decided to stop going to law school to focus on the two of them. However, despite this, I advised her about the leave of absence. She agreed to what I said because she wanted me to take a break from the expenses, but I told her it's okay as long as there are no failing marks and dropped subjects. However, she's the type of person who never runs out of excuses. She doesn't like to admit her mistakes.
At first, things were okay, but she didn't come home when she asked for my permission to visit her girlfriend because they had an argument. She gave me tons of excuses. I understand that my siblings might get tired of my attitude, but not coming home and instead working there with her longtime girlfriend hurt me for several months, until today. She asked for money for her birthday, to which I responded frankly. I confronted her, saying that I am no longer emotionally, mentally, or physically responsible for her. Since she doesn't want to listen, she should stand by her decision to live with her girlfriend.
So, am I the bad sister for not giving her money and supporting her? Am I just being controlling? In the end, she was unable to successfully apply for a leave of absence, so I'm unsure if she can still return to the university. I don't know what to do anymore.