I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now and we’ve been friends for over 2 years now. Till today I thought I had a pretty good relationship with his family.
For context, he was in a previous relationship for about 5 years where he broke up with her because she kissed another guy at a club. His parents were separated (his dad died recently) so cheating for him and his family was a big no no. Over the course of the 5 years, his mom and older sister got very close to his ex and her entire family to the point where they would all go for day trips together and meet up every other weekend for dinner or lunch. His sister and his ex became best friends and his mom and his ex got very close to the point where she started treating her like her own daughter and the two of them would go on day trips together alone.
His mom , since the breakup, had constantly kept bringing her up to him saying his ex was such a nice girl and that he should consider getting back together with her because her ex’s family also feel the same way and are very upset at the whole situation. His mom and his ex also keep texting each other occasionally and she is still considered part of the family
When I started dating my boyfriend , I wasn’t fully aware about the extent of his family’s relationship with his ex girlfriend. When I found out, I was very scared and insecure. But he comforted me saying that they’ll get used to you don’t worry.
Now my boyfriend lives away from home (about an hour and a half) for med school. I stay in the dorms here so we get to spend a lot of time together. He used to go home every weekend but as he started getting more work and things at home started getting worse (his family is dysfunctional and fights a lot) he doesn’t like going home as much.
Whenever he does, a few times he asks me to come along with him. Now, I’ve always been the one to encourage him to spend time with his family and he tells me to come with him. I ask him to ask his mom if I am ok with it and he does ask and she says “okay sure”
Whenever I go she doesn’t give me the time of day and is busy doing her own thing or acts like I don’t exist.
Today I found out that his ex girlfriend and her parents had sent pictures of his ex’s college graduation ceremony to his mom. She showed them to my boyfriend and then asked why they broke up in the first place and that she is a very nice girl and that he should’ve handled the break up better (when she told him she cheated , he blocked her and he didn’t talk to her parents which any normal person would do)
She also told his sister who told him that she isn’t very fond of me and doesn’t like it when I come home. Everytime I have gone to their house, I have taken something for his mom , his sister or their dogs. And I also found out that he never officially told his mom we are dating. She just found out from his sister
I’m not entirely sure what to do now and I feel very overwhelmed and I don’t think that this is the right relationship for me. My boyfriend has just told me to forget about it and let it be because they are very dysfunctional and if I let it get to me , I’ll only hurt myself because they don’t really care
So does it really matter that she doesn’t like me? I feel like I’ve been doing enough and the effort is not there from her side and my boyfriend won’t say anything to his mom about this.

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TL;DR; my dad tried to set me up with a woman he works with even though I'm in a relationship with a woman he has met several times. I'm getting over his lack of approval for my choices and his inability to own up and apologize for his mistakes.
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I've been in a relationship for two years now. I have not brought my girlfriend (let's call her Beth) much to my dad's house but he is fully aware she exists and we are in a romantic relationship. I have had a feeling for a while he didn't approve of her, not because she is a bad person but because she has been out of a job for a while and works casually (not for lack of trying but for personal reasons) and he is a very money-orientated person.
Fast forward to last week, I get a call from him mentioning he met a lady (don't know her name but I'll call her Narelle) in her 20s at his workplace, this woman in conversation with my dad mentioned she struggled to find a partner due to being so busy with work. My dad starts describing her to the point that I'm worried he's trying to set us up, but I'm thinking surely not because he knows about Beth and has met her several times. He then says he showed her pictures of myself and my brother to Narelle and she apparently commented how 'attractive' we both were. My dad then said 'I don't know what your situation is at the moment but if you're interested I can introduce you'. I was so confused that all I could say was 'I have a girlfriend' - his response 'I know, I just wanted to be polite because it's the right thing to do'. When I told him my answer was no, full stop, he got defensive (he does this in any sort of confrontation/argument where he is in the wrong) and said 'I just thought you'd be happy someone finds you attractive, it's a good thing'. He sounded confused and was completely acting like I was in the wrong for being upset with him. This has been something I've had to deal with for the last twenty years but I thought he'd have the basic decency to respect my relationship. I feel like he very rarely approves of any decisions I make.
I immediately called my brother (we'll call him Jordan) and told him what happened - partially to rant but to warn him he'd probably get a call next. He isn't in a relationship but I knew he'd find the situation weird and would also turn our dad's offer down. Jordan also found it really bizarre and validated my feelings that I was right to be upset but thinks it's more likely that our dad constantly wants to 'help' his family but we usually turn it down because his way of helping typically comes out as a lecture and giving completely unsolicited advice. By meeting Narelle at work and hearing she was having men troubles, my dad thought it was the perfect situation to 'help' - despite knowing both his sons would say no, and that he would inevitably have to tell Narelle we weren't interested. It's also upsetting that his effort to try and help someone he's known for ten minutes is more important to him than respecting his own son's relationship.
I'm particularly devastated on Beth's behalf, there's no way I'm going to tell her about it because I know she'd be upset if she knew, and now I feel like I'm hiding something major from her. Beth's family/friends have been so welcoming to me and happy I'm in her life and I feel like my family doesn't seem to care about her, this is what is making it extra difficult for me. My dad should be happy for me and my mom is dead so she's not here to celebrate Beth.
I've also not spoken to my dad since the phone call, we live in the same house but we've been avoiding each other - he has texted me but over unrelated / day to day things. I'm not sure if this is because he knows he's made a mistake or because he's angry at me or both.

I approached two girls at a bar. I was with my friend and I told them that they should join us in playing pool, which they did. I was into one of the girls and my friend was into the other one. We vibed for hours, and when we stopped playing pool, they invited us to dinner. We continued to hang out until late.
I got my girl's number early. At the end of the night, the other girl asked for my friend's number.
For the next week, I exchanged less than 6-7 texts with her.

1. Texted her to let me know when she makes it home safe. She did that. Told me she had a great time.

I replied the next morning saying that I also had a good time. No response.

1. Two days after, I planned another double date. I sent a text with the place and day. She agreed, said it sounds fun. I replied with basically "sounds good". No reply back.
   
2. Two days after (the date was 2 days away) I asked for an exact time and I said I am looking forward to seeing her. No reply for the whole day.
   
3. She replied the next day saying that she just talked to her friend and they will do a girl's night instead. At the same time, I found out that my friend hasn't been texting the other girl to communicate plans. The text did say "but definitely meet up sometime" at the end.
   

I then sent another text asking if she wants to hang out, just the two of us instead.
No reply. It's been 3 days and the weekend has passed.
We both had a really good time in person. I've been wanting to text her more throughout the week, but I avoided double texting. So when we agreed to a plan, I figured that we'll just talk in person. Now a week has passed, we barely talked, plans fell through (which may or may not be because the other 2 people involved were not hitting it off anymore) and I essentially got ghosted once I suggested an alternative plan. Feels bad.
I want to text her again, even if it's just for small talk and not to necessarily plan something else, but the last text I sent was me basically asking her to hang out just with me and that got no response.
What are your thoughts? Again, we had a really good time in person, but the texting process has been the complete opposite.

TL;DR: ive had a sudden realisation that me and my friends have a binge drinking problem and I want to find new friends
Hi people, while I’m not completely sober right now (as in I still have an occasional glass of wine) I think it’s definitely in my trajectory and something I want for myself. Here’s my longwinded vent but ultimately I have discovered that my closest girlfriends and I definitely have a binge drinking/bendering habit and I don’t want that for myself anymore.
I’m 29F. Over the last few months I’ve been drinking less and less. I was not an everyday drinker but whenever my friends (3-4 of them) and I would get together, we/ I would binge drink and do coke. This would happen about once a month. I now havent done it since April when one of my friends had a 30th birthday. That day/night was so full on that it sent me into the worst hangover of my entire life that lasted almost 2 weeks. I believe that is what traumatised me and gave me this realisation that I do not want that for myself anymore.
Anyway, last weekend one of our friends had a birthday party at a restaurant fairly far away. I opted to not drink so I drove these friends of mine down to the location for the afternoon. They drank all afternoon, champagne and cocktails and even in my car on the way there. I realised they left empty cans in my car too later in the week.
Fast forward to Friday that’s just been and my best friend invited me to an afternoon lunch for today with one of our other close friends. She said “the weather will be good so keen to have a few drinks in the sun”. I said no, because I wanted to spend time with family. I was just texted a photo of them together and they are out at another bar and they’ve been going for about 7 hours now. I’ve also noticed instead of going out and hard once a month it’s become an almost every weekend thing for them.
I’m not sure what I’m trying to get out of this but I guess I feel disappointed that these are my best friends and I’ve realised that all we do is drink together. No one ever has the idea to do something sober and wholesome. I also have a child, so the only time we’re really sober is if I offer for them to come over and see my kid and have dinner and watch movies.
On my path to sobriety I guess I need to find some new friends but I’m not sure how except through work. I’m a serious introvert… any tips and tricks welcome.

For a bit of background, I (21m) have been with my boyfriend (19m) for over a year now. He moved in with me last July, and we have been nothing but content with one another since. It started kind of slow, with us talking to each other December 2022, and our relationship went crazy from there. I love this man with my whole heart, and he loves me. But we are totally different, he is the sweetest, kindest guy who will try to do anything to appease anyone. I am the opposite (I'm not mean by any means, but I'm blunt). I don't sugarcoat anything, I am straight to the point, and I try not to beat around the bush. Since he has moved in with me, his mom has made snarky, harsh comments on my livelihood, my personality and who I am as a person. Lately, this has been getting much worse since his mom just met someone back in November and literally married her Friday. The first interaction I had with his mom was her calling at 3pm (at the time, my boyfriend was working night shift, not getting home til 4am), so naturally he chose to sleep in. I was woken up to her screaming and cussing him out on the phone for sleeping in... And this was a slight argument between her and me because she woke me up too, and she had no right to call her son screaming and cursing him out for sleeping in. Moving on to a month after that interaction, she started showing up out of nowhere (his family lives 2 hours away from us, so she was making an appoint to come up on his days off without notice to see him - wrecking any plans we had). Eventually, him and I got tired of it and when we confronted her about at least giving us a notice, she started threatening to kill herself... Fast-forward to January, my boyfriend and I went on a trip with my family to Florida. It was completely paid for by my grandmother and my aunt, and his mom had nothing good to say about it. She insisted that I'm spoiled rotten and I get everything I want (I don't, this was literally a treat). We went to Florida because my aunt and grandfather passed away just a little bit before and left her and my aunt everything they owned, so in remembrance of them - we took a trip which I invited my boyfriend. When we got back from our trip, I decided to take off from work since I have saved up a lot of money to pay my way through school to get my accounting degree.... And oh boy did his mom not like this.. Ever since I chose not to work to instead take on 5-6 classes, she has been nothing but nasty to me and about me. For the past few months she has said that I have been using her son for money, I'm a mooch, I'm lazy, I don't work worth of shit, I'm terrible, I'm abusive, etc. You name it, any insult under the sun she's said about me to him. I've tried to keep my cool about it, venting to him about how much his mom hates me and what she says isn't right. Did she forget he is living under my roof?! I door dash on the side for extra income, but I've said money since high school so I could go to college. It's always been my dream to focus on my education and studies and not worry about working a crappy dead end job.... I've told him to tell her numerous times that I don't use him for money, if anything he still owes me over a grand for me covering his expenses when he moved in with me! Last month, she and her new fiance decided to invite him, and only him, out to lunch. I ended up getting so upset over this because I wasn't invited to an event that should've included me, and I have been with my boyfriend much longer than she's even known this woman. I ended up asking her if she has a problem with me because I wasn't invited, and she just assumed I knew I was invited (I think she deliberately didn't invite me because she doesn't like me...) It's not just the lunch invite that says this, it's the fact she's only says negative things about me, she tells him I am abusive, if she contacts me it's because she wants something from me. God forbid she texts him wanting something, she's told her son that she would kill herself if he didn't send her money.... What kind of mother.... Anyways, onto yesterday. It got bad yesterday. I decided to try to call, and I was responded with voicemail. I wasn't mad at this point, her wife (they got married the day after I mentioned I am going to propose to my boyfriend, it's like she was trying to one up me?!) said to me that I need to work and focus on school, and I told her, "what I need to do is do what I want to do and what's best for me, not what you and his mom keep saying for me to do!" I ended up telling her if they don't fk finance or feed me than they need to stop trying to have a vote in my life because I have done nothing but support and help their son, and they have done nothing but talk crap about me... Oh this went so bad. After saying that (which, no I did not cuss her out. The only curse word I said was that saying of fk feed finance), she went ballistic. She started cursing me out, going off on me. I have never ever read so many curse words, but after she said they don't say "shit" about me this is when I got mad. After all the cursing and name calling she did, I said "say it with your fking chest." It ended up with her going off on me even more, and I told her wife to go fk herself, I don't have to put up with this. Blocked her. His mom started calling him, screaming and cursing at him that I cursed her wife out and that I'm abusive, he needs to break up with me and get out of this "toxic" relationship. I tried to call his mom once I cooled down, and I sent my boyfriend the messages because that isn't what happened whatsoever!! I texted his mom saying she needs to get her facts right, and if she's going to talk shit about me she needs to have something other than lies to stand behind. It didn't go over to well with her, and no I didn't curse her out either (because why would I? I have more self respect than to drop to their level of petty and hurtfulness!!) I have been trying so hard to be good to his mom, but I have absolutely had it with the bashing and name calling and everything else she has been putting me through.... Tonight, when he got off of work, we talked about what was happening. He agrees with me, and is going to be distancing her out of his life for a little bit... I told him that she is only hurting herself and her relationship with her son.... And that I have the final say in what she gets to be apart of, hell she won't be invited to our wedding if she doesn't apologize and make this right. And I have every right to exclude her from any events with her son because it's him and me, and she isn't going to treat me like a 2nd class citizen.... I don't know what's going to happen, but I have tried so hard to be sweet and kind to his mom. After a certain point, I can't take it anymore. I am just glad I had the texts of her and her wife cussing me out and calling me all those terrible names! And after all they told him I better apologize. This is such a mess, but if he loves me he'll stand by my side. And if he doesn't, I'll help him back his bags to go home. But I'm not going to be treated like garbage, and I shouldn't have to put up with the insults, the harassment, the petty comments, all the bs she has been dishing out at me this past year.... I'm done.

im making this post on a throwaway account to avoid any family input or what have you. i want to start off by saying the dog i mention in this post has been close to me and my partner since my mother brought him home about 2 years ago and the reason for this is simply because we have been taking care of and raising him like he was ours since she got him because all she wanted him for was so that she could look cute with him on social media (where she basically lives digitally). about a year after she got him problems had arised in the household mainly because of me, i had just got back to her house after spending 2021 back in my hometown three hours from where we lived after she kicked me out of her house for questioning her on account of a current gf i had at the time (who did start the issue and waited until my mom kicked me out to come clean). it was fine with me i took that on the chin because at the end of the day i was wrong for coming at my mom for assuming she didnt like my partner bc she was white. fast forward a year later about early 2022. and we talk about our bond and she says i can come back and get myself together because she knew i was in a fucked up situation financially where i was staying. i come back to her house in 2022 and she had told me before i even came back that she just wanted me to focus on myself and not worry about her bills. i wasnt eager to go with this decision but it was smart considering i was basically starting from scratch with life in general. got a job not too long after i got back and met my current partner (we'll call her beck). beck is white while me and my family are black and trust me this information is important. beck comes into the picture and we hang out more and she starts coming over some days hanging out in my room and i went to her house twice because her mother kept the place in shitty conditions and basically tried to downplay her own daughter right in front of me both times. i could tell beck had issues with being home and she too was in the process of getting her life together without even saying any of this. so i knew being with me in my room at my moms house was her only escape. mom for random reasons started having issues with beck cleaning the house for her while she was at work or taking care of the dog in a way my mother didnt approve. then it graduated to beck "stealing" money from her but her never having the proof or the funds to back it up to begin with. my mothers partner at the time of like 8 or 9 years who we'll call randy was cool as hell but somehow never managed to avoid fighting with her verbally. this went on the whole time i was there and randy ended up leaving and they broke up. problem was randy left right around the time i started fumbling with my jobs and needing to look around. now i wanna say im no saint, i spent my time searching for jobs AND gaming bc im a gamer. problem was i was taking too long this time around and theres no excuse. she started turning the heat on me and my partner once randy left and i started getting fed up because she was now asking for rent money while belittling me and my partner for being "laid up in her house". again, fair point. so my next step was realizing whether i had a job or not this woman was a firestarter no matter what you had going on. getting up early morning to say little slick comments in the morning because she wanted to get a reaction. by this point me and my partner are looking for a new place to live while we figure things out. my mother catches wind of this and starts asking when we'll take the dog after we get the place. now me knowing that she wont take proper care of him, i agree to take him with us and her response is "well hes not going anywhere until i see the house that yall move to. i wanna see everything to make sure its good for my baby"(the dog). i immediately got pissed and told her its not going down like that and that she needs to start considering how she speaks to people mainly me because im not gonna keep dealng with it. she got offended and kicked me and my partner AND THE DOG out of the room mid convo bc she didnt like what i said. me and my partner go back to my room and close the door to which she comes out saying "disrespectful little motherfucker talking to your mother like that" super loud. i let that one get to me and i mistakenly opened my door and started arguing. out of nowhere she hits me with "n***a fuck you" "you wont have to worry about me or the dog because NOW you AINT seeing him how about that" i said "thats fine hes not a bargaining chip". she went back to her room and slammed the door. didnt speak to me for like a week. my birthday comes around after this long week and she working the day of. i didnt expect her to say shit bc i know my mother and shes that petty. what i didnt expect was for her to hop on social media and wish early happy birthdays to two family members that werent me. ok fine thats cool. she gets home that same day and asks my partner if sai(the dog) has been out. my partner says "no we couldnt take him because his leash and collar are in the room and you locked the door. she had been locking the door ever since she started blaming beck for stealing from her. so once she realized the dog hadnt been out because she locked the door, she tells beck to "ask him if he'll take him out" by this point ive been told im not shit and im not needed and the first thing u say to me on my birthday is "can you take him out" i said no. rage ensued as she slammed the bathroom door on her way out of it. this time she kept walking passed my door talking more shit. more of the usual "i gave you life and you treat me like this" i told her to get away from the door with the nonsense and she started a full argument and said we had to go tomorrow. tomorrow rolls around and we wait for her to go to work so we can leave in peace. she normally got home around 9pm but on this day here she comes strolling in at 2pm right in the middle of packing. paces in front of our door talking shit and this time beck responds saying "we're leaving you need to let us be". this woman then told my partner she was going to beat her ass. i immediately shut that down too because i never seen my mother get tough with anybody. and here she is getting tough with the one person who hates confrontation. after i told her she wasnt even that type of person she replies with i'll stab both of yall in yall sleep. said weird stuff like "thats right i forgot i cant throw pussy on you and call you sexy like her im just the mother you dont have to respect". beck calls me sexy every day. its our little corny but cute word between us. anyway after 30 more minutes of bullshit arguing we leave for becks moms house which fucking sucked until my brother offered me a job in California working with him and my dad. throughout the 5 or 6 months of me being there i was making good money and even tho my mom was fucked up to me, i sent her funds when i could. my father found out i was sending funds to my mom AND my sisters (his daughters with other women) and the fuckhead accused me of using him then when i told him save it for after work(we worked the same construction site) the motherfucker sat there next to me and argued with himself bc i started ignoring the "i feel like your playing with me" comments because i told him "im a grown ass man and we are at work. you are not to question me about shit because you wont get an answer you like. i help my family out because its my money. simple" he then grabbed my shirt yelling "who are you talking to" snatched his hand off and he gets in my face saying "DONT FUCKIN TOUCH ME" so i replied calm "dont touch me at all. thats the last free one your gonna get" dude looks around the lot at a crowd and says "you wanna fight or something? yall wouldnt be working here without me" i couldnt help but laugh in his face for trying to cause scene for an audience and went home. packed me and my partner up, came back to new york where im from. stayed with my mom for a month before me and my partner rushed and got into the place we have now. problem was now that we had our own space, my mom pushed sai off on us and dude practically lived with us. barely went home.fast forward to like 2 weeks ago. by this point we have our two cat boys cosmo and dexter. they are babies. 4months and some change to be exact. we tried introducing sai to the boys multiple times a day and he kept jumping at them or scaring them. the only option was to let sai sleep in the living room. we kept my mother in the loop with him because by law, hes "her dog". she started her little comments over text to beck immediately "if yall plan on mistreating my baby he dont have to be there" then told beck "im venting if you mention this to my son im gonna cuss you tf out" we let that one slide because now i was building my evidence so when i bugged tf out, i wasnt wrong. next day some old dude on our block got aggressive with beck for walking sai "on his block" she called me to come handle it and i get there and back him off. by this point im pissed. beck calls my mother to tell her sai gotta go home this week hes been with us since we got our place. mother catches a attitude and i again let it go. two days later beck has a goofy moment and brings sai in the room seconds after her, the boys and i just got up. dexter pops sai on the nose for getting too close. beck moves asai then scrunches dex to put him in time out. i got annoyed when she scrunched my furry boy. told her dont do that shit again even tho it supposedly doesn't hurt them, i dont like seeing it especially when it all happened because she was doing too much too early. she had a moment and told my mom he has to go "because your son is getting annoyed". mother responds "he can come today he'll be fine at home by himself. hes favoring those cats over his brother (sai). i immediately got pissed at both of them. called my mother and told her hes going home and hes not coming back because im tired of the comments of neglect when i actively tried to introduce him to the boys with no progress. i mean FUCK i kept the boys stuck in the room in their own home so your dog can fuck our living room and kitchen up. i then got on beck for being a firestarter to which she argued me on. then i told her the relationship was on the verge of being done because your not gonna be sitting around me starting shit. i didnt let up until she realized how petty she was being and how at risk we were because of it. my mother then argued me down telling me im dumb. and then she basically skipped over the fact she didnt reach out to her son to see what happened before coming at me in a side convo with beck. beck brought the convo to my attention which was wat initially set me off but i made sure to get on her ass instigating an issue where there was none. mom then called beck a white trash stealing dirty bitch. we told her to come get her dog. i cut contact soon as she left. a day later i find out she called the women on her side of the family and fabricated the whole story i didnt bother clearing it up or giving her that satisfaction of a response. then 2 days ago she called my phone and i let it ring. haven't spoken since. AITAH here? genuine question

For a bit of background, I (21m) have been with my boyfriend (19m) for over a year now. He moved in with me last July, and we have been nothing but content with one another since. It started kind of slow, with us talking to each other December 2022, and our relationship went crazy from there. I love this man with my whole heart, and he loves me. But we are totally different, he is the sweetest, kindest guy who will try to do anything to appease anyone. I am the opposite (I'm not mean by any means, but I'm blunt). I don't sugarcoat anything, I am straight to the point, and I try not to beat around the bush. Since he has moved in with me, his mom has made snarky, harsh comments on my livelihood, my personality and who I am as a person. Lately, this has been getting much worse since his mom just met someone back in November and literally married her Friday. The first interaction I had with his mom was her calling at 3pm (at the time, my boyfriend was working night shift, not getting home til 4am), so naturally he chose to sleep in. I was woken up to her screaming and cussing him out on the phone for sleeping in... And this was a slight argument between her and me because she woke me up too, and she had no right to call her son screaming and cursing him out for sleeping in. Moving on to a month after that interaction, she started showing up out of nowhere (his family lives 2 hours away from us, so she was making an appoint to come up on his days off without notice to see him - wrecking any plans we had). Eventually, him and I got tired of it and when we confronted her about at least giving us a notice, she started threatening to kill herself... Fast-forward to January, my boyfriend and I went on a trip with my family to Florida. It was completely paid for by my grandmother and my aunt, and his mom had nothing good to say about it. She insisted that I'm spoiled rotten and I get everything I want (I don't, this was literally a treat). We went to Florida because my aunt and grandfather passed away just a little bit before and left her and my aunt everything they owned, so in remembrance of them - we took a trip which I invited my boyfriend. When we got back from our trip, I decided to take off from work since I have saved up a lot of money to pay my way through school to get my accounting degree.... And oh boy did his mom not like this.. Ever since I chose not to work to instead take on 5-6 classes, she has been nothing but nasty to me and about me. For the past few months she has said that I have been using her son for money, I'm a mooch, I'm lazy, I don't work worth of shit, I'm terrible, I'm abusive, etc. You name it, any insult under the sun she's said about me to him. I've tried to keep my cool about it, venting to him about how much his mom hates me and what she says isn't right. Did she forget he is living under my roof?! I door dash on the side for extra income, but I've said money since high school so I could go to college. It's always been my dream to focus on my education and studies and not worry about working a crappy dead end job.... I've told him to tell her numerous times that I don't use him for money, if anything he still owes me over a grand for me covering his expenses when he moved in with me! Last month, she and her new fiance decided to invite him, and only him, out to lunch. I ended up getting so upset over this because I wasn't invited to an event that should've included me, and I have been with my boyfriend much longer than she's even known this woman. I ended up asking her if she has a problem with me because I wasn't invited, and she just assumed I knew I was invited (I think she deliberately didn't invite me because she doesn't like me...) It's not just the lunch invite that says this, it's the fact she's only says negative things about me, she tells him I am abusive, if she contacts me it's because she wants something from me. God forbid she texts him wanting something, she's told her son that she would kill herself if he didn't send her money.... What kind of mother.... Anyways, onto yesterday. It got bad yesterday. I decided to try to call, and I was responded with voicemail. I wasn't mad at this point, her wife (they got married the day after I mentioned I am going to propose to my boyfriend, it's like she was trying to one up me?!) said to me that I need to work and focus on school, and I told her, "what I need to do is do what I want to do and what's best for me, not what you and his mom keep saying for me to do!" I ended up telling her if they don't fk finance or feed me than they need to stop trying to have a vote in my life because I have done nothing but support and help their son, and they have done nothing but talk crap about me... Oh this went so bad. After saying that (which, no I did not cuss her out. The only curse word I said was that saying of fk feed finance), she went ballistic. She started cursing me out, going off on me. I have never ever read so many curse words, but after she said they don't say "shit" about me this is when I got mad. After all the cursing and name calling she did, I said "say it with your fking chest." It ended up with her going off on me even more, and I told her wife to go fk herself, I don't have to put up with this. Blocked her. His mom started calling him, screaming and cursing at him that I cursed her wife out and that I'm abusive, he needs to break up with me and get out of this "toxic" relationship. I tried to call his mom once I cooled down, and I sent my boyfriend the messages because that isn't what happened whatsoever!! I texted his mom saying she needs to get her facts right, and if she's going to talk shit about me she needs to have something other than lies to stand behind. It didn't go over to well with her, and no I didn't curse her out either (because why would I? I have more self respect than to drop to their level of petty and hurtfulness!!) I have been trying so hard to be good to his mom, but I have absolutely had it with the bashing and name calling and everything else she has been putting me through.... Tonight, when he got off of work, we talked about what was happening. He agrees with me, and is going to be distancing her out of his life for a little bit... I told him that she is only hurting herself and her relationship with her son.... And that I have the final say in what she gets to be apart of, hell she won't be invited to our wedding if she doesn't apologize and make this right. And I have every right to exclude her from any events with her son because it's him and me, and she isn't going to treat me like a 2nd class citizen.... I don't know what's going to happen, but I have tried so hard to be sweet and kind to his mom. After a certain point, I can't take it anymore. I am just glad I had the texts of her and her wife cussing me out and calling me all those terrible names! And after all they told him I better apologize. This is such a mess, but if he loves me he'll stand by my side. And if he doesn't, I'll help him back his bags to go home. But I'm not going to be treated like garbage, and I shouldn't have to put up with the insults, the harassment, the petty comments, all the bs she has been dishing out at me this past year.... I'm done.

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 this is js code for play.html i am creating a tictactoe webapp, so please help 

import os from channels.routing import ProtocolTypeRouter , URLRouter from channels.auth import AuthMiddlewareStack from tictac.consumers import GameRoom from django.core.asgi import get_asgi_application from django.urls import path os.environ.setdefault('DJANGO_SETTINGS_MODULE', 'TICTACTOE.settings') application = get_asgi_application() ws_pattern =[ path('ws/game/', GameRoom) ] application= ProtocolTypeRouter( { 'websocket':AuthMiddlewareStack(URLRouter( ws_pattern )) } ) from channels.generic.websocket import WebsocketConsumer from asgiref.sync import async_to_sync import json class GameRoom(WebsocketConsumer): def connect(self): self.room_name = self.scope['url_route']['kwargs']['code'] self.room_group_name = 'room_%s' % self.room_name print(self.room_group_name) async_to_sync(self.channel_layer.group_add)( self.room_group_name, self.channel_name ) self.accept() def disconnect(self): async_to_sync(self.channel_layer.group_discard)( self.room_group_name, self.channel_name ) def receive(self , text_data): print(text_data) async_to_sync(self.channel_layer.group_send)( self.room_group_name,{ 'type' : 'run_game', 'payload' : text_data } ) def run_game(self , event): data = event['payload'] data = json.loads(data) self.send(text_data= json.dumps({ 'payload' : data['data'] }))  

the first file is asgi.py file and the second is consumers.py and the third is js code for play.html please, help

I've revised that most esims do not include any mobile phone plan and are only data. Will this be okay for travelling Thailand or would It be good to also get a phone number and texts with my plan?

I 23F got blindsided by my 23M boyfriend of three years and I need to know was it my fault, is there anything I could’ve done differently? For context we were in a relationship for approximately 3 years and everything seemed great we were a good fit, understood and loved each other deeply, besides some disagreements that in my mind I thought they were normal because every couple has them. The disagreements started two months ago when he out of the blue told me that he decided to leave to another state for 4 months to work to save some money for his family, for me it was okay that he decided to do that but the only issue was that in all that time he never said he planned that he told me one day before he made everything ready the plane tickets and resigning from his job in our country, his response for that was that he believes in bad eye. Thinking that we had three years that we were together I wished i was included in this decision and that made me mad, the month prior to his departure was the one that we had the most arguments, him saying i wish you were more supportive and understanding and me saying that if you keep things from me now in the future you will do that again for more important things. We never got to understand each other perspective, but still we made it work, before his departure both of us were crying and sad he also left me some of his things that he would get them when he came back. So i never thought we would break up because of these disagreements. When he went abroad the first week was okay him sending me reels how i make his life better, video calling and texting constantly, just one day he became cold when texting and we argued the whole night because he was saying life cannot be spent with someone so emotional so dramatic and not understanding, and that i made his life a living hell the month before the departure. This came as a shock to me, I’ve never thought the situations was that bad we argued and talked and for a moment it seemed that everything was okay since he said im just overworked a little bit stressed and im not sure what im feeling so we talk about this another time. We talked the upcoming days but he was being colder and more distant, I was mad that this happened like that so i kept pushing him to make a decision in what to do and his answers were only “I dont know” which made me more frustrated. He suggested we keep talking and see were things would go, I did agree but he still was distant so we had an argument about it and in the heat of the moment he said let end everything right here. Since i felt bad I started the argument and that I was really pushy for an answer I suggested to have some time alone and he agreed. Didn’t hear from him in some days so I decided to text him I also did miss him and I wanted to talk. He was cold and said that he thinks were better off alone and he made his decision clear, not happy of how it happened i texted that to him that this way was not fair it was selfish of him but over text you cannot say much, we just agreed that when he comes back after 3 more months he will take his stuff and me mine. After removing him from my socials we did talk once more when he accidentally sent an message and unsent it but i was able to see it and i texted him to at least get an explanation. He said that he didn’t want to repeat himself the month prior to his departure was a living hell because of me he has been thinking about this for some time and that the distance made him understand that is better not to be together. Its been two weeks I haven’t heard anything anymore, looks like his decision clear, I’m still in shock, confused and mad. I’ve never saw it coming since overall he’s been great and this was the first time it happened, also there were no signs prior to this. For the moment I still keep blaming myself, maybe I was pushy maybe I shoulve been more supportive of him, Is it my fault that this happened? How can I improve myself for my future relationship?

So this is my first ever Reddit post and I thought I’d share my ex story and maybe seek advice or some wisdom on the whole situation…
So to how we met it was actually at my job she at the time got a job there ( I know I broke the first rule …) but I’m usually not good with meeting new people so when she started to work there I kept my distance maybe a hello here and there she would even have this running joke cuz she thought I didn’t like here she would come in and say “did u miss me ?” And I would just say no or just laugh. A month goes by with that and one day I decided to talk to her and even offer to get delivery on some food and during that day she ended up finding my Instagram and my Snapchat and we started to talk there after our shifts we talked in snap chat for a couple day and ended up getting our phone numbers exchanged and started to text and FaceTime each other. At this pinky she became the only person I started to talk to talking late into the night on face time even falling asleep on the phone. She told me about her past and her up bringing (which wasn’t good but out of respect I won’t go into details ) . After a week or so of talking she invites to her place to hang out I accepted and went over I was nervous of course but I went anyways we ended up talking like we normally do and we played the board game mancala ( switch I never played in my life ) and I told her about some fidget sword toy I got in the tik tok store and she ended up scratching her initials into it but overall it was probably the best experience I had with someone for a long time especially since it took me 2 years to heal and move on from my ex before her. So after a couple weeks of talking hanging out etc she ended up making the first move and told me she loved me . I was in shock I didn’t know how to process it but all I could do was smile (I eventually said I love you back after the none stop smiling lol) so we started dating…. And at the start things were amazing FaceTiming all night talking all day every day etc etc then one of my triggers from my last ex before her came up ….. I was a jealous person and she was spending a bunch of time with a different coworker at the time and it would cause fights …. To the point where it was every day but when I would try and communicate how I would feel it was always responded with stuff like “I’m not ur mother it’s not my job to sort thru your feelings “ which she was right i should of had a better handle of my emotions at the time …. So after 3-4 months of constant fighting and name calling and arguments we ended up splitting up ….. and she ghosted me …..me being the person I am cuz I really liked this person I constantly would call her text her leave voice messages begging her to at least here me out or to At least send a message back all she would do is call me crazy or leave me on read …. So after a week of doing that I ended up giving up I didn’t text her I didn’t call her nothing during this time we still worked with each other ther so I tried to be civil at work but it was also hard because we weren’t talking also during this time I found out she started to see someone new a guy she met on a dating app and started to date him one day I confronted her at work and asked who he was etc etc and she told me who he was and that she wanted to be with him and “ that’s it’s not her fault I couldn’t get my shit together “ and that she wanted to be friends with me so I just let it be after a while we continued not talking and I gave her her space then one day she called me early in the morning like 4am she left his house and wanted to talk just like we used to at first I was hurt saying how can u call me right after leaving ur boyfriends house ? She then told me that they aren’t dating they were just friends and that she was using him for sex …. Even then I was still shocked I would say things like isn’t that not fair to him what if he actually likes you ? She would then say that he is probably doing the same thing to her and that she didn’t care after that conversation I just hung up and put my phone on DND and went to bed…. Well those 4 am calls started to become more and more frequent as and I started to be ok with just talking to her and that’s all it was for a while just talking ….. but we started getting close again and started to spend time with each other hanging out etc then started relationship type of stuff started to happen again and things were great again ….. till I found out she was still seeing that dating app guy saying the same thing that they aren’t together and that me and her weren’t together and that she can’t wait forever for me to get my shit together …. After I found this out my mental went down hill I started checking her phone for messages when I went to her house started more arguments cuz one night she would see me and the next she would seee him but she like tell me things like she loves me and wanted to be with me and say they are friends but would say the same thing to him slowly I felt like I was losing my self never knowing what to believe and what not to ….and for a while that’s how things were …. We would fight she would ghost me for a day have him come over and the next day talk to me like nothing happened then would see if I wanted to hang out for the day …. And during this time I was providing for her I would give her money buy her whatever she wanted I would build things she would buy on Amazon I would fix her car etc the list goes on and on and after a while I told her I was done cuz it just seems like she was using me and of course she would tell she wasn’t and that the money and everything didn’t matter and I couldn’t believe her so we didn’t talk for a week or 2 during this time this guy called me from a random number and told me things like she slept with our boss that she told him that she’s only talking to me cuz of the money and things and I was extremely hurt by this so I confronted her about this and at first she denied it but when I told her I was done and to never speak to me again she then came clean about the boss thing saying it was only one time she was alone and stuff he gave her the right attention and she took it . I didn’t know what to say so I hung up and just continued with my day she continued to text and call me but at first I would just read it or decline the calls then eventually I gave in and started to talk to her again and hang out with her even after everything and even knowing that she’s still seeing the guy still providing for her and doing a bunch of stuff for her ….. but the same problems always came up we would fight cuz she was spending time with the guy felt like she was using me etc etc and after a couple months of that we stopped hanging out all together she told me it was cuz her grandma and her kids moved in (which they did she didn’t lie about that) but what I later found out was that the guy from the dating app was seeing her almost every day while she would tell me things like “the house was too full and messy for me to come over “ once I found this out I was done I told her that and then she dropped a bomb on me which was that she was getting abused that he would show up banging on the door going in and fighting with her even hitting her and she even showed me proof of it like photos and conversations with family members about the abuse …. She said her family wouldn’t help her and she was scared so because I cared and loved her I stayed I offered to keep her company and keep her safe which she declined she said she needed to figure it out on her own which I understood and I just tried to be there for her the best way I could while still providing for her helping her with bills food money etc but it got to a point her all she would talk about is him saying he’s crazy his this he’s that and after weeks of that I got so mad that I did some name callin and said some hurtful things that to this day I still regret but I know I can’t take them back and she said I’m just like him and we didn’t speak for a couple weeks or if we did it just be a fight then little over a month ago we started talking again and u know started up again providing for her being there for her helping her with random problems and we started to move forward until recently … she’s been going on a lot of vacations which I never complained about I’m always down for enjoying life especially after what she’s been thru so I just told her have fun text me whenever u get there stuff of that nature then of course I don’t hear from her or if I did it was just short messages which I didn’t think to much of it at the time just thought she was having fun and was busy then a day or 2 before was suppose to be back someone old me whose was the guy that she posted on her Instagram story I said idk and they showed me once again I was hurt so I contacted her about it and she told me it was a friend that she reconnected with from her hometown that she grew up in and that she’s not gonna stop living her life and wait for me to get my life together so later that day we been talking still and I looked at her Facebook story to see a bunch of pictures of them being together hugging kissy faces etc even one with them at a house together being “super close” and I was back at square one with me being hurt …. So eventually she comes back and we start talking again things are a bit awkward but I still try and prove to her that I love her and that I want to provide for her … so her car had a problem and of course I’m the guy that always worked on her car so I offer to take it and she says yes we set up a time to meet for the next day and continued to talk the next day come I get there early gave her some money and she told me that her aunt found someone to look at it for cheap which I was ok with so I got her Starbucks and got in my car when I was about to leave I saw the guy from the vacation which at this point I wasn’t able to control my emotions and I stormed inside and told her how could she lie to me and I asked for the money back and left the next day she told me who the guy was it was the ex she was with before she was with me (mind u this is the guy she told me was a manipulator controlling psychological abuser )and she told me she wants to take the relationship seriously that she sees her self marrying him in a year or at the very least engaged and asked if we could still be friends and cool but I couldn’t accept that cuz I was still in love with her and it wouldn’t be fair to me or her new relationship and I took a step back now she says she’s happy and he makes her happy etc which part of me would be ok with that if I didn’t find out he was gonna work at our job lol so not only do I have to keep my distance from her out of respect for her new relationship I now have to work with her boyfriend while hearing how happy she is and that she wants me to leave her alone lol ironic ….. well the reason I’m posting this here and not some other relationship Reddit is cuz we are kinda in a no contact we only text about work no calls no personal text just work and that’s it
If u took the time to read this I appreciate it and any advice or thoughts on the situation is welcomed !

Hi! I have a bf of 4 years+ relationship, everything went well all good. We communicate, talk things out and went thru alot tgt. We actually settle things already but i still have this mix feelings of scared? Insecure? Long story short, he went for reservist for a few weeks, as usual we text and video call. He wants to end the call cause he wants to play games awhile after that sleep. After a few minutes i suddenly receive a ws with alot of photos from my bf, a picture of him video call with a girl that turns out to be his colleagues. But then he delete after tht, i ask him who is this girl, why are you video calling her late at night and why are you both giving tht "bf gf" kind of expressions. He then said ouh its nothing, i send you the photo cause she was "disturbing" me and decides to tease me watever shit. We argured alot and i decides to end things with him. He then apologise continuously. Soo i give him a second chance. Abit of sneak peak few years back i did cheated on my boyfriend with my colleagues. BUT BUT BUT, i confess and told him the truth. And you know wat! Till now HE DIDNT TELL ME WHY HE CHEATED ON ME and he kind of avoid the qns or didnt wnt to tell me cause he cares about my feelings. So i just close one eyes and give him a second chance. Cause i believe people can change. Thank you 🥺💪🏼

The back story is long but gives some context.
Back story: I (17 or 18, I have a late bday so it’s hard to remember how old ) was deep asleep while living with Mia at the time (we’ve been together for 2 years about the hit 3), and she went through my phone to take pictures as she normally did, but then she went through my text messages so Snapchat (very important) about found a week old text message from a bot (she didn’t know this at the time), and she took pictures of it on her phone along with screenshots she sent to herself, and just went back to sleep till the morning in witch I find her staring into my soul with her phone and the pictures she took last night, so I just take a second to looking for me glasses before I can even do that she ask me to explain the text I’m having with a another girl, me still waking up and having morning blindness and being heavily confused, I ask what she’s even talking about and I get hit with the “YOU KNOW WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT!!” so me being me I go back to looking for my glasses while telling her to explain as I look for my glasses, and immediately get hit with “I don’t have to explain anything” and “your the one who should be explaining here” so I get even more confused (and when I get confused I have a hard time thinking) and just give up on looking for my glasses and ask for the phone to have a look, and I read over the text (which was under 50 words or so, there wasn’t much to look at other then the pictures) and start laughing at the text, witch she didn’t find funny at all but she pulls herself together and asks “what’s funny at this” and that when I notice that those where my text and that it wasn’t my phone on top of that she looking like she wanted to end me on the spot, so I just speaking with out thinking to much about why or how she got them, so I just tell her it’s just a bot and that it’s normal to get them once in a while (I would get about 3 to 4 a month cause I was extremely active on Snapchat), and she didn’t like that answer and told me to try again, so I just told her that it’s not what she thinks it is and that I’m not cheating or anything remotely close to that, but she wasn’t buying it, so I took out my phone and explained it to her by showing the other bots I have blocked (but since it’s Snapchat and text get deleted when someone’s block) and showing lot of of proof that I wasn’t cheating on her, she then go to asking about why I was asking for more pictures form the so called bot EVEN THOUGH I clearly didn’t send anything and that I wasn’t nice to said bot, and the last picture was of a night sky and the following text was just “more of that” witch in my head is me asking for more of the night sky, but to her is me asking for more nudes witch didn’t end well for me, but I did try my best to explain but she thought I was just lying (at the time I wasn’t good with words and could only explain myself though actions witch didn’t work out to well) and because I couldn’t explain myself properly I just asked for some time and left, but she broke up with me the next day after talking with her therapist, and the following month she moved far away and cut everyone off along with dropping off of all social media.
Story: (I was 19 and she was 6 months older) After my break up with my ex, after about 5-6 months we started talking again and the following 2-3 months we would get back together after she got drunk and lonely for about a week or less, and it would happen about 3-4 times but we both knew that it wasn’t a good idea by the end of the week (mostly cause I didn’t trust her after how things ended and she went about it), and on the final week we got together it was different and it was nice we talked about everything that happened and I got to properly explain myself, but one thing led to another and we started talking about our future together and baby stuff so we ended up passionately hugging, so when the week came to an end I went back home and started to get more serious about things, but like clockwork she called me at the same time like any other day and tells me we can’t see each other anymore and that it would be best if we don’t connect each other anymore, and when I asked her why she tells me that she been thinking about abortion but she had miscarriage so we can’t be together anymore, and the whole time I didn’t say a word, more like I couldn’t cause I was processing the whole situation and the information about the abortion, but before I could get my thoughts together she said bye and ended the call and that’s the last I heard of her since.
I’m 20 now and to this day I don’t know what caused all that and why I didn’t try and fix things with my ex, or if it’s too late to do so now, but what worries me most is the possibility of having a child out there that I was told doesn’t exist, and I constantly feel cheated out of a family and that I could have done more.

Absolute pain.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/3zL4mc4RmF0CjRYLmSxZvrs/are-free-range-chickens-the-best-choice-for-the-environment
I don't understand how one can type the sentence "chickens on his farm are slaughtered at 4 or 5 weeks old" and go straight into how it's good for the environment instead of, you know, tackling all the horrific ethical issues?
"For now, those consumers will continue to face the ethical dilemma – eat the happiest birds, or those kindest to the planet?"
Or, you know. Don't eat them in the first place. And don't you dare try to use the word 'kindest' when referencing factory farming of all things.
This just screams industry propaganda to me.

So I've been dating my boyfriend, let's call him Dave, for about 8 months. I have a friend from an old job named James (we worked together for about 4 years until i left for a new job in 2022), and we talk a few times a week but not every day. James is 28 and married. Pretty sure this is important but I could be wrong.
Recently Dave has been getting a bit nosey and wanting to know what James and I talk about. Really there isn't much. We exchange memes, talk about our jobs and sometimes our significant others. He vents about his marriage, but tells me the good and the bad, and I pretty much just tell him the cool stuff Dave and I do. So I agreed to show him all my texts so he would know there isn't anything going on.
He spent probably ten minutes going through all our texts. I know, I know, red flag. But he's been cheated on in the past and I wanted him to feel secure. He pointed to a few things that made him uncomfortable where a few months back, James made a joke about getting nudes from friends and how I could do that. I shut that down in the conversation. That was the only time in our entire text thread. He also said some of the memes we exchanged were really sexual in nature and I explained that's just the sense of humor we have (I've sent Dave the same memes). Dave asked if we ever flirted in the past and I said yes before I met Dave and before James was married.
Since then, even with the explanation, he keeps insinuating that I'm being flirty with James. Which I'm not. I don't compliment his looks or cross any boundaries like that because he's married and I'm with Dave. I don't know how to get him to trust me that I'm not doing what he says I'm doing. Any advice on how I can get him to see that he really is just a friend?
TLDR: My boyfriend thinks I'm being flirty with a former coworker who is my friend even after reading our texts and not finding anything. Any chance I can get him to believe the truth that there's nothing going on?

3 years ago I met my bf (A) when we were seated next to each other in a class. From the jump, A would initiate conversation with me and say things that were pretty reminiscent of the whole "boy pulling girls hair because he wants her attention" shtick except in verbal form. For most of our interactions I was unsure whether he was making fun of me, hitting on me or if that was just how he talked to everyone.
A couple of days of this and I tell my friend (B) about A's behaviour, and as it turns out, B and A have actually grown up together and know each other quite well. Despite this, they aren't close since A is kind of douche. B tells me that she's sure that A is hitting on me. She also tells me that she's friends with A's ex, C, who finally dumped him for good after their some-months long on again/off again relationship because A was just a bad bf. This is also how I learned that B sits on A's other side in our shared class.
It kind of clicked for me then that the reason why A was always so eager to talk to me was because B would always be on his other side to hear it. This was confirmed for me some months later when our class ended and A would only ever approach me in the halls if B was there to see it and even that stopped after B took him back. After that, A and I didn't interact at all until last year when we happened to both attend the same college.
A starts talking me up again, going on about how he didn't see me at all the last few years (as if he wouldn't ignore me unless I could help make B jealous?) and how it's so crazy that we happened to be going to the same school and have some lectures together. He tells me that B went to a school a few cities away so they decided to call it quits for good. During our first conversation after a good two years, he makes sure I know that he's single for the foreseeable future and is excited about the larger dating pool college provides.
For a few weeks, our conversations are just like how they were the first time we had class together except now we're seeing each other more frequently, hanging out outside of class, and texting throughout the day. He starts getting more bold, (sitting/standing next to me until there's no space between us, leaning in too close when we're talking, keeping a hand on my knee or shoulder, etc). At this point we're dating without the title so I just straight up ask him "Are we dating?" and he goes "For real? Can we?" As if my question was unexpected and all of his actions weren't a build-up to this point? It's a pretty lame start for our relationship and I fear it set a precedent because I cannot name one solid aspect of our relationship.
To start, just based on A's personality and his relationship with B, I know that he's not your ideal bf. All my friends (and me as well) know him to be kind of a douche, he has so many female friends, is casually flirty, and I can never tell when he's honest, what he's thinking, or how much he actually likes me. At the same time, I feel like he has a lot of good qualities. He's insanely smart and always helps me study (we're in the same program), he's also attractive and I know he's out of my league, and as confusing as he can be, I enjoy the time we spend together.
My big issue is that I don't know how committed I can actually be to this relationship. If I'm being honest, A's character makes him hard for me to trust, and I also know that A could do a lot better than me. Both B and A are more attractive than me and I hardly share any personality traits with B so I'm not sure what he likes about me. I know A and B were sexually active while they were dating but me and A are not due to reluctance on my part. A's also pretty popular and I know he has other relationship prospects.
We've been dating for four months now and I've been trying not to be too vulnerable around him emotionally or otherwise because it feels like I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. As it stands now, if he stops talking to me tomorrow or tells me he wants to see someone else, I wouldn't be broken up about it because I expected so anyway. At the same time, I know if I did the same to him he'd be mad, but not heartbroken. I like what we have now, keeping it casual because neither of us feel like we're in love or anything, but I feel like a fool for thinking that's sustainable. I know he'll eventually get tired of our relationship being stagnant and either want more or to break up and I don't know which one upsets me more.
I like to think that we both have a mutual understanding that we're not too invested in our relationship and are only together to mess around but if that were true why would choose me of all people? I don't think he's romantically invested in me but I don't want to be the reason why we don't work out if I'm wrong. At the same time, I'm scared of advancing our relationship and finding out I'm just expendable to him. What should I do?
TLDR: My bf is known to be kind of a douche and I have no idea how much he likes me or why he's been wanting to date me. We've been keeping our relationship casual and I'm not sure if my next steps should be to maintain my distance or close it.

• May 13th the flood happened at 12:40 PM; the toilet was overflowing nonstop, maintenance gets to our apartment sometime between 1:33-1:45 so about an hour later; the water stopped overflowing from the toilet at 1:33 PM and maintenance was still not there yet so definitely after 1:33 PM; the flood was so bad it had leaked underneath the floorboards and into the kitchen, and had soaked a good majority of the carpet; during the hour, we had called at least 4 times to get someone to come and that it was an emergency; when maintenance finally shows up, he arrives with only a plunger then realized it was an actual flood and went to get an airvac; maintenance then airvacs the carpet for a bit, definitely less than an hour i would say like maybe 30 minutes at most? and leaves a dehumidifier, he tells us that the dehumidifier will beep when its full and that the carpet should be dry after 12 hours. No one comes back to our apartment
• May 16, it has now been 3 days since the flood, we had assumed that someone would come back and pick up the dehumidifier and when doing so, check on the carpet and make sure it was good and dry, we realized that no one was coming, the carpet was still completely soaking wet and was mildewing and the smell was awful, so on May 16 we submitted a work order stating that the carpet was still wet and we were nervous that mold had started to grow, we got no response and no one showed up so that night at 10:12 PM we called the office number to leave a voicemail on the emergency line stating that we understand no one will be able to come at this hour but this is an emergency if anyone could come in the morning or as soon as possible, we were worried for our health as well as the health of our cat breathing in the mildew all day; we get no response, no call, no check in at our apartment or anything the whole day of May 17; May 18th rolls around and we call the office at 11:37 AM stating that we need someone to come to our apartment and check out our carpet, they reply with the maintenance team is doing their own thing right now, and they tell us that they have to get in contact with a 3rd party vendor to come to our apartment, but they hadnt contacted one yet, we say okay and let them know that if possible we would love for someone to come as soon as possible and hopefully when we are home, we let them know that none of us will be home from May 21-26 because we will be on vacation, the woman i was on the phone with takes note of it and we end the call. The office is closed on Sundays, so we dont hear anything; also keep in mind that the call we had on the 18th was the first time since the flood that we were able to talk to anyone, no one had reached out to us or came to our apartment to tell us anything.
• on May 20th my roommate called the office in the morning and they had said they had not yet gotten in contact with a vendor. This is the 7th day. later in the day the roommates dad calls the office, who then now says they have gotten in contact with a vendor. no one comes for that day.
• May 21st, the day we leave for vacation; we have a few hours of driving so we get an early start on the day. at 11:35 AM we are almost to our destination a few hours away and we get a call from the office. they tell us that they have a vendor there, but the master key that they have for our apartment does not work and they were wondering if any of us are around to be able to let them in. we say no we told yall a few days ago that we would be gone this week it is all 3 of us and we are hours away we have no way to get a key for them; they let us know that they will keep trying and they will keep us updated on if they get in or not. we dont hear anything from them for a few minutes so we call back for an update and they let us know that they still have not been able to get in, we ask if there is any way they could get a locksmith or something and they say no its against their protocol, first they have to contact the residents and see if they have a key to let them in and then after that they have to try to get a different way to get in and would maybe have to drill through the lock, we say thats all good if yall have to drill through just keep us updated and let us know if yall get in and if yall needed to drill through (we also let them know that sometimes our door jams a bit and you have to kind of wiggle the key to get it to work). they say they will keep us updated. we didnt hear anything from them again for the rest of the day; all we see is that our maintenance request that was put in on the 16th was marked as completed at 2:19PM
• May 22nd i wake up to see I have a missed call and text, the missed call was at 9:33 AM and the text was at 9:37 AM. the text reads “Good morning this is ray with maintenance i was trying to see if anyone was around so that we may enter your unit because we don’t have a key ?” i call back at 9:42 AM and i explain the situation from yesterday that we told them we werent going to be there, sometimes it works to wiggle the key, and they said that they might have to drill through; he says okay ill make sure that we get in today. we hear nothing from anyone for the rest of the trip.
• On May 26th, a sunday so keep in mind the office is closed, me and one of my roommates arrive home from our trip, we have groceries, our bags, and our cat (who we were bringing home from being watched by someone else while we were on vacation). we go up to our door to unlock it to find that our keys no longer work with the door. no one let us know that they ended up entering our apartment, no one let us know that they ended up needing to drill through the lock, and no one let us know that the keys were changed for our apartment and that we needed to get new ones. keep in mind that we have told the people working in the office multiple times that we would be gone until the 26th. which is a sunday. when their office is closed. they gave us no instructions for a key pick up, did not leave a key anywhere for us to get into our apartment. its not like we could just walk down to the office when we got home because the were CLOSED. we called the emergency line that they have for after office hours and left a voicemail saying that we needed someone to get to our apartment and give us keys to enter (i think we called at least 2 times maybe 3 and left a voicemail every time). it took a while for anyone to call us back, during this time we even jumped our patio to try to get in through the back, i dont think this lock was changed, but the keys that we had did not work for the back door regardless. we go back in our car to sit and wait for someone to call us back or show up, we finally get a call back from one of the maintenance men (who was rude over the phone to us) and said that ray (the maintenance manager) was driving down nicholson and would be able to bring us our keys. somewhere between 5-10 minutes pass and finally we see ray walk up (ray was very kind to us and very empathetic with our situation) he gives us our keys and we ask him to stay while we unlock the door to make sure the keys work, he was kind enough to do so, (even though i dont think he was on call, and he was driving somewhere with his wife when he got the call that we needed keys) we explain to him that no one let us know that anyone ended up getting in to the apartment at all in the first place, let alone that we needed new keys and he told us that he let them know that he had cut new keys for us and he left them at the office and he said that he told them to let us know that we needed to come pick them up which we very much did not get any notice of (i checked my phone for any text, or voicemail, or email that i could have possibly gotten and maybe missed or was sent to junk but there was none)
• we were told that the carpet was now fixed and was clean and they ran tests and everything came out clear, which we believed because many things were taken out of the room and put into the living room, the carpet was no longer wet or hardened in areas from the places that had finally started to dry the day before we left for vacation, and it seemed in areas that the carpet was cut to see underneath, but Monday June 3rd, at around 3:48 PM, someone knocked on our door and they were there to clean the carpet and so i asked basically why they were cleaning it they told us everything was good with the carpet now and he said that they just dried up the infected area and he was there to clean it now
• as of now i guess the original problem was fixed but they were very neglegent throughout the entire process and i feel like we shouldnt just let them move on like everything is fine after all of that. any advice???

1. Time commitment. People who have succeeded on the SHRM certification exam report investing between 120 to 160 hours in their preparation. (That's a solid month: four weeks at 40 hours a week.) You might spend as little as 60 hours or as much as 180 hours—adjust as needed. But remember that hours alone aren't a guarantee of success; the time needs to be well-spent. Keep this in mind as you build your study plan. Look for moments you can steal—use your lunch break to work online in the SHRM Learning System, go out to your car and read a little, and never be without your flashcards (more on that below). It all adds up.
   
2. Practice questions. The more practice questions you answer, the better prepared you'll be. Some of my students have found non-SHRM resources like study apps Quizlet and Kahoot to be helpful in this area.
   
3. Explanations of answers. The online SHRM Learning System has many practice questions for both the SHRM-CP and SHRM-SCP practice module exams and finals. After you answer the questions, you'll see explanations for why the correct answers are correct and why the others are wrong. This will help you refine your thinking.
   
4. No shortcuts. A word of warning: While practice exams are helpful, they're not a replacement for studying and learning. Some students become overconfident when they repeatedly take practice exams and see their scores improving—but they aren't learning the content, they're just memorizing those exams! Don't mislead yourself. You've got to do the reading, attend the classes, take notes and study them. On this exam (as in life!), there are no shortcuts to success.
   
5. Flashcards. Become best friends with your flashcards. Whether you choose to print them out and cut them up or download them to an e-reader, always have them with you. That way, you can make good use of small bits of unexpected available time—waiting for a meeting to begin, standing in line at the store, etc. Flashcards help you remember concepts and definitions. If you understand a concept and know a definition, you've got a shot at answering an exam question correctly. (Flashcards are not enough on their own. But if you don't know a concept or definition when you're taking the exam, your chances of answering a question correctly are low.)
   
6. Learning through stories. Throughout history, humanity has always learned through stories, whether sharing ancient lore around a fire or tales from a pulpit. People retain lessons when they can connect to them. Knowing the story behind SHRM exam content can be helpful as well. For example, there are stories behind key employment laws and court cases. What happened to Willie Griggs that made Griggs v. Duke Power a landmark decision? Why is what happened to the namesake of the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act relevant today? While the SHRM certification exams won't test you on such stories per se, you might encounter related questions. If knowing the stories helps you retain the knowledge, search online and read all about them.
   
7. Discussions and study groups.SHRM Connect is an online community for SHRM members to discuss all kinds of HR topics. Search for the "SHRM Certification Prep Group." For those of you who like to work in a study group, you might be able to find or start one in your area using this platform. Plus, it's a good networking opportunity—a double payoff.
   
8. Now that you've read some tips on test preparation, here are a few tips for test taking: Trial run. A tutorial available on Prometric's website allows you to try out the test-taking platform before you take the actual test. Do a generic mini-test to use the highlight, strikethrough and flag functions and more. Becoming familiar with the system before the day of the exam will improve your confidence greatly.
   
9. Long questions. It's easy to get distracted by all the information in situational judgment test items or long narrative questions on the exam. Stop to identify what the question truly is. Be sure to pick out the exact question you're being asked to answer.
   
10. Multipart questions. If you encounter a block of text on the exam followed by multiple questions relating to it, different parts of that text will be useful for answering different questions. Use the highlight function to mark what stands out to you—what is relevant to each question—one by one. Erase the highlight when you've answered the question, then highlight the new material that relates to the next question and so on.
    
    1. HR means action!In the modern era of HR, we are expected to get things done and make things happen, to be proactive partners and leaders in our organizations—not sit and wait to be told what to do. The exam reflects this. Look for answers in which you are expected to act.
    2. Use the strikethrough function and other tools that help you focus. Strike through "distractors," which are answers you believe to be incorrect. Eliminating incorrect options improves your focus on the remaining options, which may increase your chances of selecting the correct answer. Learn how to use strikethrough with the tutorial available on Prometric's website (requires Adobe Flash Player version 10.2.0 or later) and practice using the test-taking system before your exam date.
    3. Use the flag function. Not sure what the answer is? Mark the question with a flag so you can return to it later. As you warm up through the exam, you may pick up hints from other questions and answers, or some piece of critical knowledge may get knocked loose from your memory, and you'll be able to come back to the flagged item. (How to use flags is something else you'll learn on the Prometric tutorial.)
    4. Use the calculator. You don't have to do math in your head. There's a built-in calculator, so use it. (Practice using the calculator, too, on the Prometric tutorial.)
    5. Use scratch paper. Scratch paper is provided by the testing center, so use it. Capture things while they are still in your short-term memory. Writing things down helps you see what you're doing, so scratch paper can also be useful for completing math calculations even if you use the calculator.
    6. Know HR math processes. While we're discussing calculations, keep in mind that the four multiple-choice answers offered for a math question will often reflect how the numbers in the question itself are used. For example, if the question involves the numbers 4 and 3, the answers to choose from might be: 7 (4 plus 3); 1 (4 minus 3); 12 (4 multipliedby3); or 1.3 (4 dividedby 3). Learn the processes required for HR math.
    7. Look for differentiator words in the questions. When you see differentiators—"least," "best," "quickest," "most important" and so on—use them to guide your analysis. These words require you to distinguish between a pretty good answer and the best answer.
    8. Approach absolutes in the answers with caution. When you see absolutes—"all," "always," "only," "never" and the like—beware! Absolutes in HR are unlikely and are just as unlikely to be correct answers on the exam. After all, how many things have you encountered in your career that are always or never true?
    9. Answer every question. Not answering is a bad idea: Don't leave questions unanswered. There's no penalty if you answer incorrectly—points are not taken away—so take a guess. It can't hurt, and you might guess correctly. (Of course, if you think you can guess your way through the whole exam, guess again! Refer to the very first test tip in Part 1, which discusses how many hours of preparation time you should plan for.)
    10. Watch your time. Keep your eye on the timer at the top of your screen. Don't dwell on one question for too long; in doing so, you might run out of time, sacrificing your chances of answering other questions correctly later.

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John's Revelation can be divided into several parts in which the periods of the past, present and future are described:
The past is described in the first chapter and there we have a description of the glorified Christ, the present is described from the second to the fifth and that is the period of the Church, and in this part there is one part that is also the future for us because it has not yet happened and it refers to the Church that is in heaven and the events described from the sixth chapter onwards are future.
For a better understanding of God's plan and program until the end of time, we will study Daniel's prophecy, which will facilitate our understanding of the events that were revealed to John.
"Seventy weeks have been determined for your people and your holy city to finish transgression and to disappear sin and to cleanse iniquity and to bring eternal justice, and to seal apparitions and prophecy, and to anoint the Holy of Holies. Therefore, know and understand: From the time the word goes out that Jerusalem will be rebuilt until the anointed duke will be seven weeks, and sixty-two weeks for the streets and walls to be built again, and that in a difficult time. And after those sixty-two weeks, the anointed will be executed and nothing will remain to him; the voivode's people will come and destroy the city and the sanctuary; and its end will be with a flood, and certain desolation will be until the end of the war. And he will establish a covenant with many for a week, and in the middle of the week he will abolish the sacrifice and the offering; and with hateful wings, which make desolation, until the appointed end, it will be poured out on the desolation"
Daniel 9:24-27
Danilo was a prophet, a Jew, and he was a slave in Babylon with the rest of the people, but in addition to the torments he had in slavery, he was also interested in the fate of his people Israel and the holy city of Jerusalem. That's how Danilo read Jeremiah's prophecy about his people.
"And all that land will be desolation and wonder, and those nations will serve the king of Babylon for seventy years.
And when seventy years are completed, then I will visit the king of Babylon and that nation, says the Lord, for their iniquities, and the land of the Chaldeans, and I will turn it into an eternal desolation."
Jeremiah 25:11-12
and he saw that God had appointed Judah to be in captivity for seventy years and then he counted the time spent in Babylonian captivity and concluded that the end of this time is near. It is written:
,,. In the first year of Darius, the son of Ahasuerus of the tribe of Midian, who reigned over the kingdom of the Chaldeans,
In the first year of his reign, I, Danilo, understood from the books the number of years, which the Lord had told Jeremiah the prophet that would end with the ruins of Jerusalem, seventy years.
Daniel 9:1-3
And God sends an angel to the prophet Daniel with an announcement
"And while I was still speaking and praying and confessing my sin and the sin of my people Israel, and I fell down praying before the Lord my God for the holy mountain of my God. they flew quickly and touched me about the evening sacrifice. And he taught me and spoke with me and said: Danilo, now I came out to reason with you. At the beginning of your prayer, the word came out, and I came to tell you, because you are kind; therefore listen to the word, and understand the apparition. Seventy weeks are appointed for your people and for your holy city..."
Daniel 9:20-24
At the end of this quote, we see that it says "ordained to your people", which means that what God says (in this case, determined) no one can change. So this refers to Daniel's people and the holy city, which are the people of Israel and the city Jerusalem and this is not designated either for the Gentiles or for the Church of Christ.
,,Seventy weeks are determined for your people and your holy city" and in the new translation it says,,,Seventy weeks are determined for your people and your holy city"
Since this is about the Jews, let's see how they divided time. The Jews divided time into seven intervals, so they had a week of days (week of days).
"Work for six days, and finish all your work. And the seventh day is a rest for the Lord your God; then do no work, neither you, nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your manservant, nor your maidservant, nor your livestock, nor the stranger who is within your gates."
Exod.20:9-10
The next thing they used was a week of years and they also called it Saturday years or a week (week).
"Six years sow your field, and six years cut your vineyard and gather the harvest. And let the seventh year be a sabbath for rest for the earth, the sabbath of the Lord; do not sow in your field or prune your vineyard."
Levit. 25:3-4
and in the end they had a week for seven years
"And count seven sevenths of years, seven times seven years, so that seven sevenths of your years will be forty-nine years"
Levit. 25:8
We saw how the Jews used time intervals, and now let's see what happened to Daniel
"Seventy weeks are determined for your people and your holy city..." God announces to Daniel that there are still seventy determined weeks to fulfill God's plan with Israel and Jerusalem and the promises that God made since Abraham.
This is certainly not about a week of days, because that would be four hundred and ninety days, but about seventy weeks of years, that is, about four hundred and ninety years.
The next thing Daniel needed to understand was the details that would be fulfilled in these seventy specific weeks and also what would be at the end when these seventy weeks were over.
We read in Daniel:
"Seventy weeks have been determined for your people and your holy city to finish transgression and to disappear sin and to cleanse iniquity and to bring eternal justice, and to seal apparitions and prophecy, and to anoint the Holy of Holies"
"Seventy weeks have been determined for your people and your holy city to end the transgression"
We have seen that the prophecy refers to Israel, and the greatest transgression that Israel has ever committed is the rejection of the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior. This transgression was committed by the Israelites when the "sixty-nine weeks" were over, and in the prophecy we read about it: "he will be executed" anointed "
The anointed one is Messiah in Jewish and Christ in Greek. From this transgression, the Jews who believe in Christ will be saved in the last week, which lasts seven years, and that is seven years of great tribulation. According to the prophecy, during the great tribulation, there will be a great awakening and then a hundred forty-four thousand Jewish missionaries to preach the word of God (revelation of the seventh chapter). In Romans we read about it:
"And thus will all Israel be saved, as it is written: A Deliverer will come from Zion and turn away wickedness from Jacob"
Rom. 11:26
and only at the end of the great tribulation will the rest be converted and only when Christ comes will the transgression of Israel be completed and
other details that Danilo should have understood, he writes, "and for the sin to disappear"
Only when Israel receives Christ through faith in Christ will their sins be cleansed, and we can read about that:
"And this is my promise to them when I take away their sins."
Rom. 11:27
and the third detail is "and to cleanse iniquity" and that will happen when Christ comes and we read about it in the Gospel according to Matthew:
"The Son of Man will send his angels, and will gather out of his kingdom all those who stumble and do lawlessness"
Matt. 13:41
And when these negative things are removed in the text, we also read positive changes and relationships that will be established.
"and to bring eternal justice," this is what the whole world longs for, but that will not happen until Christ comes. And when Christ comes, the problem of transgression, sin, infidelity, iniquity and scandal will be solved, and only then will it be established eternal justice in Christ's kingdom. In Luke's Gospel, it is written that God announced the following to Mary;
,,. He will be great, and will be called the Son of the Most High, and the Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David; And he will reign in the house of Jacob forever, and there will be no end to his kingdom."
Luke 1:32-33
"and to seal the apparition and the prophecy," we know from the Bible that many visions and prophecies are related to Israel and many of these prophecies have been fulfilled, but not all of them and will finally be fulfilled when Christ comes because it says,, and to be sealed " means it will be fully fulfilled and there will be no more need for prophets and prophecies.
And the last detail that Daniel should have understood in a positive context is: "to help the Holy of Holies". to the saints" (it is written about this in the book of the prophet Ezekiel from chapters 40 to 48) and when the seventy weeks are over and Christ comes to earth, there will be a consecration of this temple (anointing means consecration)
"Seventy weeks are determined for your people and your holy city" we could write this differently, "four hundred and ninety years are determined for your people and your holy city" and from when these four hundred and ninety years are counted, it says:
"Therefore know and understand: From the time the word goes out that Jerusalem will be rebuilt until the anointed duke will be seven weeks, and sixty-two weeks for the streets and walls to be built again, and that in a difficult time." but a better and clearer translation is in the edition Realities, Zagreb:
"Know and understand: From the time when the word "Let them return and let them rebuild Jerusalem" goes out until the Prince of the Anointed: seven weeks, and then sixty-two weeks, and the square and the moat will be built again, and that in a difficult time ." and the English translation reads
"from the issuing of the command to rebuild Jerusalem until the Anointed Duke, there will be seven weeks and sixty-two weeks: the streets will be built again, and the walls, and that in a difficult time."
according to this, this simplicity is divided into three parts: seven weeks, sixty-two weeks and one week, so a total of seventy.
The counting begins,, Since the word came out that Jerusalem is being built again "There are disagreements and various interpretations regarding the beginning of the counting, but what the Bible indicates is that the "decree on the building of Jerusalem" is counted from when Artaxerxes issued the command and permission to Nehemiah to builds the walls of Jerusalem. We read about it in the book of Nehemiah.
"And in the month of Nisan, in the twentieth year of Artaxerxes the king, there was wine before him, and I took the wine and gave it to the king. And before I was not cheerful in front of him. And the king said to me: Why are you looking cheerful when you are not sick? It is nothing but sadness in the heart. And I was very scared. And I said to the king: May the king live forever! How could I not have a cheerful face, when the city where the graves of my fathers are laid waste and its gates burned with fire? And the king said to me: What do you want? Then I prayed to God in heaven, and I said to the king: If it pleases the king and if your servant is dear to you, send me to Judea to the city where the graves of my fathers are, so that I can build it. And the king said to me, and his wife was sitting next to him: How long will you need for the journey, and when will you return? And it pleased the king, and he let me go when I told him the time. Then I said to the king: If it pleases the king, let me be given a book on the princes across the river to accompany me until I come to Judea,
And a book on Asaph, the keeper of the king's forest, to give me wood for the logs for the door of the court next to the house of God and for the city wall and for the house I will enter. And the king gave me, because the good hand of my God was upon me.
And so I came with the princes across the river, and gave them the books of the emperor. And the king sent princes and horsemen with me. And when Sanavalat the Oronian and Tobias the servant of Ammonite heard this, they hated it very much that a man had come to take care of the children of Israel. Then I came to Jerusalem, and I stayed there for three days. So I got up at night. with a few people, and I told no one what my God had put in my heart to do in Jerusalem; and I have no horse with me except the one on which I am riding. And I went out at night to the gate of the valley, to the dragon's spring, and to the festering gate, and I looked at the walls of Jerusalem, how they were broken down and how the gates were burned with fire. From there I passed to the spring gate and to the imperial lake, and there was no place for yarn to slip under me. So I rode along the stream at night and looked around the wall, then I returned to the gate of the valley, and so I came back."
Nehemiah 2:1-15
and in the sixth chapter we read:
"And so the wall was completed on the twenty-fifth day of the month of Elul in fifty-two days."
Nehemiah 6:15
and in the sixth chapter we read:
"And so the wall was completed on the twenty-fifth day of the month of Elul in fifty-two days."
Nehemiah 6:15
Artaxerxes gave this permission, which means that "Danilo's weeks" are counted from then.
The first part of this prophecy is "seven weeks" or forty-nine gidins, and during this time the Jews completed the construction of the Jerusalem wall, and the second part is "sixty-two weeks" and that is four hundred and thirty-four years, a total of four hundred and eighty-three year and after this, something should happen. This period in Jewish history is also called the "difficult time" because God did not appear from Malachi until John the Baptist, and in the time of John the Baptist, the Jews were under the occupation of the Romans,
"And after those sixty-two weeks, the Anointed One will be executed," so God foretold to Daniel the crucifixion of Christ on the cross in this way.
John the Baptist, the apostles and Christ spoke
"And they said: Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near"
Matt. 3:2
"From that time Jesus began to teach and say: Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand."
Matt. 4:17
"And Peter said to them: Repent, and be baptized each of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of sins; and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit;"
Acts 2:38
"Repent, therefore, and turn to be cleansed of your sins, so that the times of rest from the face of the Lord may come."
Acts 3:19
If the Jews had listened to what they were saying, another week would have passed and seven years would have passed and eternal justice would have come as it was prophesied.
"Whom, then, is heaven worthy to receive until the time when everything is restored, which God has spoken through the mouth of all his holy prophets since the creation of the world."
Acts 3:21

Hello there,
First of all, I want to say I understand that being dev (code, art, etc.) is hard work, and everything never go always according to the plan. So, thanks for your work and take care. I love this game, it has a really good vibe and solid ideas. Even with all that's listed below, I have fun with Coral Island.
However, when I bought Coral island I thought I would get a finished product. With contents coming in future updates, yes, but with finished basic content. Like My Time at Sandrock, which was really good at it after Early Access. Today, I finally unlocked the 4th altar, excited by the idea of unlocking a new area (Savannah) and... nothing. Then I learn that it's 1.1 content.
So far, these are the issues I faced while playing:

• Giants' storyline: in the base game, not finished.
• Merfolks' Storyline: in the base game, not finished.
• Savannah announced as unlockable in the base game: not unlockable.
• Unpolished dialogues (NPCs speaking with the lines of another, really bad translation sometimes...)
• Unpolished events (bug in harvest festival, no transition at the end of certain games...)

And maybe I forgot some other issues. To be honest, it's not a 1.0, it's a late Early Access. I really hope 1.1 will add some finishes in addition to the content. When you sell this as 1.0, I'm sorry but I consider it lies. And it's not good for the trust between devs and players.
Again, take care of yourselves. I don't want you to crunch, that's not the point. But I think it's important to add this little rant of mine to the pile. I love your work and am grateful for what's done, but at the same time, I'm very disappointed by the cut content, it's frustrating in term of user experience. If I knew all of that, I would have waited a little longer before buying.
Thanks for reading.
(and sorry for the approximative english. Just in case I wasn't able to convey the good tone in the text: It's not a hateful rant)